TIME-OUT for Transformation with Tracy di Cecca

Where do you feel valued and under-valued? How many friends do you have that are true friends? Do you have any? Do you find that it's easier to be superficial with your friends and family members out of duty than to create a true, definite love, a deep caring and authentic expression of who you are?

When you look back over the landscape of your life, do you see and feel love or difficulty? I was the difficult one because I questioned authority, but it rolled forward as normal. What's normal when it's nonsense?

"This story went well because of my connection to you."

Harm.

Is it possible to be angry or frustrated and still be kind and respectful to those we are angry with or frustrated by? And if we practice kindness and respect, how long will our emotional sobriety last?

What roles do you play? How selectively do you spend your energy and how often are you depleted? What have you received that builds you up and is it a balanced exchange?

Challenge, compensation and balance in relationship.

Talking with a friend or asking for guidance from your Higher Power, do you listen, or do you just keep talking?

How do we balance vigilance with control, safety with enjoyment, security with freedom? Must we define chaos and reason a path through it, or can we keep it simple?

What can you safely ignore? If there are no more excuses and the time for action is now, will it be uncomfortable or healing?

When does responsibility end and resentment begin? It's time to cut the cord between guilt and well-being.

Does God exist? How do you know?

How can we feel comfort in our discomfort, calm instead of urgency in an emergency? Do you call upon that quiet, calm, still space within when you need to? Are you able to connect with your higher power?

What is healthy connection and what is dysfunction? Can we connect and also ask permission to do it?

Are you willing to explore and where do you look for guidance when you move into uncharted territory?

Are there times when you feel like you cannot go on? Where does the light come from?

When do we ever get around to that?

What sort of self do you bring to your relationships? Are you self-less? Perhaps it's time to be self-more. More life, more love, more esteem.

What doors need to be opened and what doors closed and walked away from?

Are you guilty of loving too much, trying too hard? It's not our place to insert ourselves between the other and their path. Does our ego have the answers? Who do you see yourself supporting when you could actually be robbing the other of the reward and consequence of their higher power? Whose business do you need to get out of and what mirror do you need to look into?

Rage is ugly.

Where do you demand perfection of yourself and those around you? None of us is perfect. We can only do our best.

Both reward and consequences can bring freedom.

Use your voice or remain silent? Allow yourself the joy and freedom of finding your voice and speaking.

Where is the space between an unmanageable life and understanding the place where our power lies?

When does the problem-free day occur and is that a descriptor for what life, realized, should be? If, through conflict, we realize the joys of our lives, how do we redefine problem?

What brings the most truthful expressions of self? What is it about us that keeps our own joy at arm's length? In what activity does your purpose lie and are you exercising it today?

Point your finger at someone who has caused you to suffer. Is it true?

How often do we say and hear, "I'm fine." What if we're not fine? Is it time for a reckoning?

Even in the most heated argument a calm space is available. Require it of yourself and, by example, require it of others.

How prepared are we for the things that put us over the edge and how familiar are we WITH the edge? How do we receive gifts of instability that cause us to become unhinged?

As long as I use external sources as my primary source of information and direction I am always slightly missing the point: Only I know what is truly best for me. What if we have an inner source of wisdom at all times? When we need internal guidance can we make the connection?

What about this have I created myself and I am refusing to let go? We must move in ways that develop our unique internal harmony.

What are we here for? What are we when we leave here? What do we understand about our expression of self while we are here?

Allow love and demand it of yourself.

Look at your life. What problems do you have that you could simply move away from or move into and solve? Look at yourself, are you the solution or the problem?

Describe a time when you felt attacked and you didn't get the help that you needed. The support wasn't there. Or a time when you were dragged down by another who needed you. When was the last time you felt supported? When was the last time you were needed and did you fail at giving support? How can we change the narrative?

How comfortable are you?

Is sadness a way of being and is it possible to change?

What if I were to allow the pleasant, peaceful focus of release of control?

Are we willing to be self-aware, to ask difficult questions? Do we choose to distract ourselves from the most meaningful aspects of our lives and what is the cumulative effect?

Respect the cycle.

If compatibility was the number one goal in your life for a 24 hour period, what would you have to change?

Is it time for your next creative adventure? What keeps you from it?

If anger and resolution are gifts I give myself, which do I choose to accept?