Podcasts about fetish fun

Our Discord Server: https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E   If monogamy and ‘happily ever after’ doesn’t work for you, then this week’s episode is something you may want to listen to.   We talk about the various other relationship models that may suit you if you're not into the idea of a standard relationship.   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

Our Discord Server: https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E   Episode 100! We decided to celebrate and have a few drinks and talk about the original ethos of the podcast, which was all about the more social and interpersonal side of kink.   We also look back on our favorite moments on the podcast and a surprise guest pops up by the name of ‘iWiLLtIEUhARd’   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.   You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

Our Discord Server: https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E   A listener emailed us recently to ask out advice on a long distance relationship. Whilst we live quite close to each other, we thought it would be a good subject to cover. Floss asked her Twitter followers what they do and we got some pretty good responses.   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** WANNA CHAT? HERE’S THAT DISCORD LINK WE FORGOT TO MENTION!, >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Back in November 2017, we did a whole episode on Red Flags, what negative traits to look out for in a prospective play partner early on. Well this is the opposite, Green Flags are the positive things to look out for. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** CHAT MY WILLY! OH AND HERE’S DISCORD, >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Life got the better of us and we ended up going seven weeks without doing any kink! This week we talk about getting back into it and the several sessions we’ve had recently. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** I WANT MY, I WANT MY, I WANT MY DISORD CHAT... https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we talk about a recent article in The Metro about people's kinky bucket lists... only to find that all is not as it seems. Then we discuss the things we'd like to do too. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** DISCORD, YOU SAY??? WHAT’S STOPPING YOU???>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Last weekend we went to Eroticon, we discuss all the talks we went to, all the vendors who were there and all the lovely people we met. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***WANT TO JOIN DISCORD??? HERE’S THAT LINK >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we have a two and half hour chat with Max Long & Kitty Delish about medical play, being a house Dom and being a decent and ethical person in the fetish scene. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***DON'T FORGET THE DISCORD! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Last week we asked our listeners if they have any questions and we got quite a few responses…. So this whole episode is answering those questions. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss

*** DISCORD ME HARD ! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** We start with a review of these ankle and wrist cuffs we got from Honour.co.uk Wrist Cuffs: https://www.honour.co.uk/rubber-deluxe-padlock-wrist-cuffs.php#product-tabs Ankle Cuffs: https://www.honour.co.uk/rubber-deluxe-padlock-ankle-cuffs.php We also talk about our five favourite kinky places to shop, here are all the links to companies. Bakji and Floss' Choices: 1) Libidex - www.libidex.com 2) Top To Bottom Leathers - www.top-to-bottom-leathers.co.uk 3) Meo - www.meo.de 4) MedFetUK - www.medfetuk.com 5) Bondra - www.bondara.co.uk If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.  

*** HERE IS THAT LINK TO DISCORD ! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Since it was Valentine's Day this week, we thought we’d talk about love. We discuss the love languages and how we try to have the best relationship we can. We also ask which fictional character would you most like to do kinky things with! If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** WHAT IS THAT DISCORD YOU SPEAK OF??? HERE IT IS>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Yet another femdom session! This week there's lots of talk of teasing and edging, as well as our favourate sexual urban myths. (Funny ones not depressing ones) If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.  

*** WANT MORE CHAT? JOIN OUR DISCORDZ?>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we go back to femdom! Floss gets all sexy with latex and we try out the Hot Octopuss Stroker. We also discuss where our listeners keep their kinky gubbins. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** FANCY SOME HOT DISCORD ACTION?! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** We talk about practicing kink in an ethical manner and advocate being nice and not being dick. We also talk about smells and scents that turn you on as well as another game of 'Guest What's Spanking Flossity'. You can get in touch with us via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS CLICK THIS LINK TO JOIN OUR SEXXY-ASSED DISCORD GROUP! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we talk about adapting you kinks to the person you are playing with. We also discuss sexy music to play during a scene and we talk at the end about keeping your kinks in perspective. (I, Bakji Ben would love to insert the link to the YouTube playlist as mentioned on the show but naughty Floss didn't send it to me in time!) If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** DISCORD IS THE SEXY>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we go back to femdom, back to handjobs and back to cumin! If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** DISCORD ME UP THE WILLY>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we talk about the kinky things we’d like to try in the year ahead. This is a bonus second episode this week as the first one went on too long! If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.  

***SUCK MY DISCORD! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we talk about three kinky things we both enjoyed back in 2018, we were going to talk what we want to try in 2019 but we talked so much that we've had to make it in to two episodes! So look out for a bonus episode later this week. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** HAVE WE EVER MENTIONED DISCORD?! JOIN HERE>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we talk about low-budget restraint, edging and Floss wearing sexy fishnets. (Hence the title!) If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** EDMONSON LOVES DISCORD! CLICK HERE TO JOIN>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week, I Bakji, well and truly dominate Floss with a Doxy! Also listen out for a live spanking with an XLR cable. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***DISCORD US UP! CLICK RIGHT HERE >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we discuss doing kinky, sexy fun when you’re knackered and low on energy. We discuss how to still make it fun In ‘Voice of the Listener’ we discuss your favourite foods to eat as After Care. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***DON'T FORGET THE DISCORD! ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS CLICK RIGHT HERE >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we discuss all the kinky bits we'd take to a desert island, should we ever get stuck on one! And we discuss your answers to our previous weeks questions about accidental sex toy discovery and kink in a post-apocalyptic future. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***JOIN OUR DISCORD GROUP HERE >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we talk about trying male chastity for the very term and how it did and didn’t work out. We continue with our ‘Question of Week’ where we talk about sex toys accidentally going off and make sure you listen out for the story of a dildo being thrown on a roof! If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***JOIN OUR DISCORD GROUP HERE >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Our supporters over on Patreon have been listening to tales of our kinky fun for a while during our FemDom and Fetish Fun spin-off podcast. Now we are bringing that FemDom fun to our regular podcast. In this episode we discuss our latest kink session. Who got tied up? Who got teased? And who got rewarded with a sexy orgasm? We also have answers to our last After Bit question which was; What are your favourite toys for travelling? Our new question is … Have you ever been caught out by a vibrator going off by accident? You can give us your answer via email, or Twitter/Instagram (including DM if you’d prefer). All answers will be featured on our next episode but you are welcome to remain anonymous if you would like to. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

We are joined by Naughtia Black this week, to discuss her new podcast Deviants, as well as a whole host of other sexy topics. We discuss her current core dynamic, which is Master/slave and how that aligns itself with her being a Relationship Anarchist. Kink gets a thorough talking about too of course and we give Naughtia a good dose of Quick Fire Questions. As Floss suspected from being an avid online follower of Naughtia she was a delight to chat to and we think you are going to love this episode. You can find Naughtia on Twitter and Instagram and you can of course listen to her podcast. We also have answers to our last After Bit question which was; What is you all time favourite sex toy or piece of kinky equipment? Our new question is … What are your favourite kinky/sexy things to take travelling? This might include top travelling tips for people take sexy/kinky kit with them, or hilarious stories about travelling with said items.  You can give us your answer via email, or Twitter/Instagram (including DM if you’d prefer). All answers will be featured on our next episode but you are welcome to remain anonymous if you would like to. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

Sexy products! That’s right this episode is all about the recent sexy and kinky products we’ve been using from Meo.de. If you are new to Meo then their site is definitely worth a visit. They have some awesome products and the ones we are testing out are only a few they have to offer. The items covered in this episode are: Meo Lubricant Alpha Male 2 Stimulator Big Johnny Prostate Stimulator HurtMe Leather Paddle HurtMe Deluxe LOVE-HATE Paddle HurtMe Deluxe Riding Crop Wrist to Ankle Restraint Black Berlin Wrist Restraints We loved reviewing these products so we could share our experiences with you and we hope you find the feedback useful. If there are any other products you would like our thoughts on, or products you would like us to feature in the future, then please do get in touch and we can see what we can do. We have also asked a new After Bit question, which follows on nice from the topics of this episode; What is you all time favourite sex toy or piece of kinky equipment. You can give us your answer via email, or Twitter/Instagram (including DM if you’d prefer). All answers will be featured on our next episode but you are welcome to remain anonymous if you would like to. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

Little Rara is our guest this episode. We have been following her for a little while on Twitter and she has previously responded to our pleas for answers to our After Bit questions so it was an absolute delight to talk to her. We discuss how she found herself involved in the kink community and what kinds of kinky shenanigans she gets up to, as well as discussing what new kinks might be in her future and of course what her favourite kinky things are. Little Rara, or should I say Princess Rara due to a recent name change,  also arranges kink events and discussion groups, so that is a large part of our conversation as we get her to encourage all of your to find your way into your local kink scene. If you would like to follow Little Rara on Twitter you can do so via @ThePrincessRara If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss. You can also access this through Floss’ BuyMeACoffee account for a one off donation of $3.  

Dick pics! That’s right we are doing a whole episode on dick pics. So get comfy and hold on tight because Floss does not hold back! Dick pic rage is real! On a more serious note we want everyone to be communicating with more kinky people and getting their kink on and we know that dick pics is the worst introduction ever. We discuss exactly why dick pics are such a problem and why they enrage many of us and why just ignoring them isn’t always our go to move. If we stop just one person sending a dick pic then I will be overjoyed. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and No Love Lost. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss. You can also access this through Floss’ BuyMeACoffee account for a one off donation of $3.

Confidence is our focus for this episode. More specifically is lack of confidence affecting your kink. If so, this episode is for you. Inspired by a blog post by Floss on her personal blog flossdoeslife.com. We attempt to give you some solutions to boost your kinky confidence, even if that just means faking it till you make it. We would also like to say a huge thank you for your patience while we took a break from our regularly scheduled shows. The time of to freshen up and think of some awesome new podcast ideas was amazingly beneficial, and your ongoing support while we rested was very much appreciated. Our top tips for increasing your kinky confidence are: Start small Hone your skills Sensory deprivation for the win They want your attention   It’s not what you do it’s that you’re doing it Trust that they fancy you (and your body) Communicate about kinks It’s okay to wear what feel sexy TO YOU Be kind to each other when things don’t work When things do work, celebrate them. We discuss all these point in more depth and were applicable we also talk about how they have worked for us, and how we continually apply some of them to our own dynamic. If you would like to hear more about how our dynamic unfolds within our own session then you can head over to our Patreon page where for $2 a month you can get access to all past and future FemDom and Fetish Fun episodes, where we share details of all our kinky sessions. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Drinks with God, Off the Cuffs, The Will Sean Podcast and Dick Wounds new show Being There. You can find all of us on most available podcast apps, and as always we love to receive your reviews and feedback. You can get in touch with us on any of our social media platforms or you can email us via hello@proudtobekinky.com. Links: Is Confidence Affecting Your Kink? - The post that inspired the episode ProudToBeKinky on Patreon ProudToBeKinky on Twitter ProudToBeKinky on Instagram  

Room 101 is our inspiration this week as Bakji and Floss return with what we hope to be a fun episode. While originating in George Orwell’s 1984, Room 101 is said to be named after a conference room at the BBC where he attended incredibly boring meetings. In the novel 1984 it is a room where people are taken to face their worst fears. On a lighter note, it is also the name of a BBC comedy show, where guests are invited to put their pet peeves or worst fears into ‘Room 101’. The host of the show then decides whether or not their particular suggestions are worthy of being banished. In our take on this, we each got to pick four things we would send to Room 101 if we got the chance. In keeping with the theme of our podcast the things we have chosen are relationship or sex based from our days before we met each other. We also chose a wildcard each, which we were to present as a genuine suggestion and the other person had to guess which the wildcard was as we went along. One of us tried their best to disguise the wildcard and one of us picked a glaringly obvious wildcard. You will have to listen to find out which was which. We also try to counteract our annoyance with these particular relationship habits, by offering up our solutions to what better alternatives are, and how we avoid those particular things in our time together. If you have any comments on this episode, previous episodes or simply want to get in touch to say hello, then please do so on any of our social media platforms, Twitter, Instagram, Fetlife and Facebook, or via hello [at] proudtobekinky.com. If you would like more episodes from us then please head over to Patreon.com/proudtobekinky and for $2 a month you can have access to our Patron exclusive FemDom and Fetish Fun, where we discuss all out kinky scenes. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, the Will Sean podcast, Drinks with God, and Dick Wounds new podcast Being There. You can find us all on most available podcast apps, and should your chosen app allow for reviews then we always love to receive those.

"Fetish Fun" is the hot topic on this week's episode of Love and Laughter with Beth. FETISH: a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to a particular object, situation, item of clothing, part of the body, etc. Sound interesting? We thought so! Settle in with us as we explore the usually hidden world of fetishes. Throughout history, people have been turned on by things beyond just other peoples' junk. Whether they turn you on or not, there's little more intriguing than what turns somebody else on. Whether it's feet, smells, armpits, bondage, or having sex in front of mirrors, BDSM, kinky play, leather, cross dressing, fetishes range from the obvious to the bizarre, and Beth talks about as many as she can in this hour. Laugh with her and her guest, show intern, Geoff Wentzel as they explore the wonderfully wacky world of fetishes.

FemDom is our topic of discussion this week. Both Bakji and Floss are big, big fans of FemDom which you may have noticed if you are a regular listener. If you are a new listening then you about to join us in our little world of FemDom for the first time. As a FemDom enthusiast Floss frequents quite a few forums related to the topic, including the FemDom sub-reddits. One of the recurring questions is ‘What do women get out of FemDom?’, the back and forth of these discussion made it clear that a lot of people were a bit uncertain as to why we enjoy it. One of the reasons that seems to make people question a woman’s reasons for enjoying female dominance is the misconception that is doesn’t involve sex for the woman. In most of these cases I think the sex that is being referred to is PIV, where as we tend to mean the entire spectrum of sexual activities when we discuss how we incorporate sex into our FemDom scenes. With these points in mind we discuss what FemDom looks like for us, and how it is satisfying and extremely enjoyable both with and with sexual pleasure, for both partners involved. Our perspective comes from our personal dynamic, where FemDom is included in our kinky dynamic. All experiences vary, part of this discussion though is hopefully highlighting a side of FemDom we may not always see portrayed publicly. We always love to hear feedback from you on recent or previous episodes, you can contact us via hello@proudtobekinky.com, or through any of our social media accounts, Twitter, Instagram, Fetlife and Facebook. If you’d like to hear more details about our kinky fun, you can do so by visiting our Patreon site and signing up for our Patrons only podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, where we discuss our personal scenes in detail and talk about what we have planned for the future. We also love your reviews on iTunes, or other podcast apps where available. You can also review our fellow Podcast Jukebox members, Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God and the Will Sean podcast.

Inspired by their own recent experiences and conversations Bakji and Floss discuss the fluidity of kink. We all know there are many kinks and fetishes to be discovered, but what happens when our favourites go out of favour and new passions evolve into something deeper? Floss has been thinking on this a lot lately, as it was her change feelings about a particular kink that started the conversation. Despite how often we talk about open and honest communication, and how we encourage people to be accepting and kind to themselves, it was still a tricky moment for Floss and hopes that in sharing it will help some of our listeners. While a lot of our discussion is based around the fluidity between switching roles, we also discuss the ebb and flow of kinks with a specific role and how as a couple or as play partners, the activities you enjoy most together can also change. We discuss how this has been for us and what our approach to it has been. We also reflect upon the kinks that have taken us by surprise, going from no interest in them, to curiosity or in some cases absolutely loving them. We are big believers is keeping ourselves open to new discoveries and experiences, and we hope this episode helps show why we think that’s important and how that approach has been extremely beneficial to us as individuals. We hope you enjoy this episode and as always if you have any feedback or questions please get in touch via hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also follow us on: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Facebook You can also find us on Patreon where you can find our second podcast, FemDom and Fetish Fun, where we discuss the scenes we do, how we feel about all things FemDom and what we have coming up in terms of kinky fun. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network, along with Off The Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, the Will Sean Podcast and Drinks with God. We are all available on most podcast apps, and would love a great review and star rating from you if your chosen app supports this.

Eyal Matsliah is a sexual empowerment coach, and the author of ‘Orgasm Unleashed’ - a guide to pleasure, healing and power. So we left kink behind for an episode to focus on the wonder of orgasms and the joy they can bring. While the book is aimed at women, it is also suitable for anyone who is looking to enhance their orgasmic experience and better learn about the pleasure their body can bring them. We speak to Eyal about what inspires him to do the work he does, what kind of work he does within his coaching and mentoring sessions and the benefits we can gain from engaging in some of Eyal’s approaches. Floss not being one to shy away from sharing her own personal orgasm tales, asks Eyal some questions based on her own experiences, that listeners have previously related to when discussed in other episodes. If you have struggled to orgasm, find masturbation uninspiring or wonder where in the day you meant to schedule time for self-indulgence, we asked Eyal about all these things in the hope the answers will be informative. We also discuss some of the areas in which we may feel disconnected from our sexuality, or our sexual empowerment and what we can do to overcome this to connect, explore and delve deeper within ourselves, hopefully leading to not only a more fulfilling sex life, but a more fulfilling life in general. You can find out more about Eyal and the work he does via his website Intimate Power. You can also find links to his book and other resources there too. http://www.intimatepower.com/ https://www.amazon.co.uk/Orgasm-Unleashed-guide-pleasure-healing-ebook/dp/B015L4D8M6 To contact us about this episode, or about anything else, you can do so via hello@proudtobekinky.com, or through our Instagram, Twitter and Fetlife Pages. If you would like more of us, you can access our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, through our Patreon page. In FemDom and Fetish Fun Floss and Bakji discuss their mutual love of FemDom and all the sexy details of the scenes they en joy. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, Drinks with God and the Will Sean Podcast. We can all be found on most podcast apps, and we’d be lying if we said we don’t love awesome ratings and reviews. So please do send them our way if your app allows for them.

Rain DeGrey is an author, BDSM and sex educator and someone who has been fully immersed in kink lifestyle for the last decade. She has done shoots for kink.com and has experienced many, many kinks and is wonderfully open about discussing and sharing her information and experiences with others. We discuss why Rain is so passionate about embracing a kink lifestyle and why she encourages other people to do the same and explore what it is about kink that they enjoy. Which given the ethos of our podcast is a perfect conversation for us to share with our listeners. Rain shares with us another passion of hers, which is education. We talk about some of the classes she teaches, and how they have evolved over the years and what it is about doing her classes that is so rewarding. We also talk about the wonderful exchange that exists between Tops and bottoms, and what we each bring to our interactions and how if each person involved isn’t fully present and invested in the exchange it may not be as successful as we’d like it to be. If you’re listening to this episode and you still haven’t been to your local munch, but would like to go, get ready for some serious encouragement for why you should go, it’s nice that it’s not us saying it for a change but someone else. As always you can get in touch about this episode or any previous episodes, by using our email hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also send us any questions you might have about the podcast or about kink in general. We are also on Twitter, Instagram, Fetlife and Facebook and you are welcome to connect with us there too. As well as swinging by our Patreon for exclusive FemDom and Fetish Fun podcast episodes.   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network, along with Off the Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, the Will Sean Podcast and Drinks with God. You can find all of us on iTunes and most other podcast apps, and if your chosen app allows for reviews and 5 star ratings then we are always very excited to receive those.

Bakji and Floss have been busy this year, not only with the podcast, but also with outings to Fetish events and indulging in sexy scenes at home. In this episode we discuss some of the things we’ve done this year. Regular listeners of our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, will be familiar with some of the scenes we have enjoyed throughout 2017. Which ones have been our favourites though? We have each picked out Tops kink moments and discuss why they stand out for us. As well as a little bit of reminiscing we also look to future kinky fun as we talk about what our kinky resolutions are for 2018. While we both pick very sexy things, we definitely have very different ideas of what we’d like to do next. So we should have an interesting year ahead. As always we would love to hear from you, whether it is about this episode or with a questions for us, you can do that via hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also find us on Twitter, instagram, Facebook and Fetlife. If you would like to listen to the previously mentioned FemDom and Fetish Fun, you can do so through our Patreon Page. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off The Cuffs, The Will Sean Podcast and Drinks with God. Reviews are always appreciate from both us and the other shows on the network.

Safewords are this episodes topic of conversation. After Floss saw a few posts in a short space of time all about the same subject on Reddit, it seemed like the time was right for safewords to have their own episode. What are they? When you should you use them? Why should you use them? And should you ever feel bad or awkward about using them? We are definitely in the group of people who feel like having a safeword is good thing, no matter who you are playing with, however when researching the topic online to make sure we were presenting the right information we did come across lots of people who don’t feel the need to use them, and we are certainly not saying one way is right and one is wrong, just that there are options to consider. As well as general approaches to safewords we do discuss the ones we use personally and our own personal thoughts on them. We also discuss what we might do if someone used an unfamiliar safeword and what we would do if a safeword ended a scene. For those people who are fans of clear communication and do not see a safeword as something they need, we talk about some situations where even people who can read each other well and communicate during scenes might find a safeword of use. We also touch upon nonverbal safewords and how you can check in on a partner who might be particularly sub-spacey and unable to communicate well. While we appreciate that not all kinksters will want to use a safeword, it is definitely something that we should all be making an informed and considered decision on. Yet it still seems to be a topic that has people incredibly divided and has people new to the scene asking what teople new to the scene asking what the ‘right way’ is. As with all episodes of you have any feedback for us you can email us via hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also get in touch on any of our social media platforms: Instagram Twitter Facebook Fetlife We also have a Patreon site, where you can access our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. Which is all about the sexy and kinky scene Bakji and I get up to behind closed doors. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God and the Will Sean Podcast.

Shut The WOOF Up is a new podcast that is all about puppy play and the community and activities that it encompasses. The host Volka was kind enough to join us for an episode so that we could ask him all the questions we’ve had for ages about puppy play. First things first, Volka has a sound effects board. I am sorry I failed to control Bakji, he far less pliable and a lot more defiant when fully clothed. You will hear a lot of sound effect, and I mean a lot. The good news is, we haven’t got a sound board. The bad news is, Bakji wants one. So watch this space. Anyway, back to puppy play. Once you start bimbling around the kink community you start to comes across a variety of pet play, ponies, kittens and puppies are probably the most popular and puppy play is a community alongside but also separate from the kink community. There are pup munches, pup events and pup websites to help you meet other like minded pups and/or handlers. Volka was extremely open, and wonderful about answering all our questions. Which means we were able to talk about exactly what being a pup might entail. Is it sexual? Is it platonic? Are there lady pups? What the devil do you do if you go to a pup event? We also ask Volka all about his podcast, all about his personal dynamics, because we’re nosey like that and generally we had a blast and if you think puppy play might be for you, then you need this episode. If you don’t think it’s for you I’m pretty sure you will still find much hilarity within this conversation. Links discussed during the show are as follows: Shut The WOOF Up Puppy Pride RubberDawg Custom Hoods As we always say because it is 100% true, please get in touch, we love hearing from you, whether it’s feedback, questions, or just something daft. You can find us and reach out to us on any of the following: Twitter/proudtobekinky Instagram/proudtobekinky Fetlife/proudtobekinky Facebook/proudtobekinky You can also swing by our Patreon site where you can hear more from us in our episodes of FemDom and Fetish Fun, our spin-off podcast all about our kinky scenes that we enjoy together. If you’re looking for new podcasts to enjoy you can listen to our fellow Podcast Jukebox Network shows, Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God and the Will Sean podcast. We will have new shows joining us soon too. We all love reviews and 5 star ratings, if you haven’t done that yet but would like to do so, then thank you in advance

While red flags usually refers to those behaviors that would signal  relationship is unsafe or unhealthy, in this episode we are discussing those things that are incompatibility red flags. Things that have in the past, or would in the future signal to us that a relationship isn’t as well suited to us as we had hoped it might be. Over the years we have both been in these relationships ourselves, as well as having many friends put up with varying levels of incompatibility, when we’ve looked at our reasons for staying or enquired with friends why they themselves stayed the answer is always a variation on the same thing ‘what if I don’t find anyone else who’s kinky/does the things I like sexually’. We are are big believers that no-one should be stuck in an unhappy relationship for fear of not finding someone else to indulge in their kinks with. We also know though that it’s definitely easier said than done, especially if you’re new to exploring your kink and suddenly finding someone who is into them too feels like it’s too good to be true. We are really passionate about people investing in the right people for them, and having not only a good kink dynamic but also a good friendship and relationship beyond that too. We discuss some of the things that would be incompatibility red flags for us personally, and alternatively the green flags that make us delighted to spend time with someone. These are likely to be different for everyone, so we’re not saying take ours to heart and follow them religiously. We do however hope people are mindful of their own situations and surround themselves with good people and nourishing relationships, be they romantic or platonic. As always if you have any feedback on this episode or on the podcast in general you can email us on hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Fetlife. We are also on Patreon, which you can find by using the following link www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky. Where you can find or spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, where we discuss our own kinky scenes. #ProudToBeKinky is also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off The Cuffs, Drinks with God, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean Podcast.

DaveCat is our guest for this week's episode and we were delighted to have him on the show, having heard him on a couple of other podcasts. Part of doing the podcast was to not only talk about Kinks, Fetishes and elements of BDSM, but also to talk to people who have alternative lifestyles, alternative relationships models or just generally express themselves in a way some people may not be familiar with.  DaveCat joined us with his wife Sidore, they also have two other partners living with them, Elena and Miss Winter. Sidore, Elena and Miss Winter are all synthetic women, or real dolls. DaveCat shares how he came to welcome Sidore into his life, 17 years ago, and how Elena and Miss Winter joined them in more recent years. As big fans of finding a community that you feel comfortable in, and one in which you can hopefully find like minded people, we ask DaveCat about the idollator community, and what kinds of online and offline support and advice is available, especially to those people who are just beginning their journey, either with a synthetic partner or with a view to finding one. We also talk about some of the documentaries DaveCat has featured on, all of which are listed on the media portion of his website which is listed below. While TV often does it’s best to sensationalise any given topic,  it feels like shows like ours, Off the Cuffs and many other awesome shows are hopefully a less biased platform for people to learn about new things, whether they are into it themselves or not. There is so much more we talk to DaveCat about, far too much to squeeze into one blog post without spoiling the episode for you. We hope you enjoy this episode though and  if you have any feedback you can contact us on our email hello@proudtobekinky.com, or find us on Twitter, Instagram, Fetlife or Facebook.   You can also find support us on Patreon, https://www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky, where you can find our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. You can also leave us an awesome 5 star reviews if you listen on iTunes/Apple Podcast App. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network with Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God, Parking Lot Radio and the Will sean Podcast, who you might also enjoy tuning into.   Links: DaveCat’s Blog - www.kuroneko-chan.com/echoes/ DaveCat on Twitter  - https://twitter.com/Davecat Sidore on Twitter - https://twitter.com/leahtype Anatomical Doll - http://www.anatomicaldoll.com/start_en.php Love and Sex with Robots by David Levy Ourdollcommunity.com

Kinky scenes for us can be anything from an impromptu handjob to a more elaborate and lengthier session. Either way we always enjoy them and we’ve had a fair bit of scene variety in our time playing together. When we record FemDom and Fetish Fun, the spin-off podcast we release for our Patrons, we discuss our scenes in quite a lot of detail. Off the back of that we have had a couple of people ask where we get our ideas, and wondering how they can better plan and make the most of their own kinky fun. We have both approached taking control of a scene as relatively newbies to Topping, and we know it can feel really daunting, so we try to cover how you can take charge of the acre and make it fun without feeling overwhelmed and worried about whether or not it’s fun. Floss especially took great pleasure in researching a variety of approaches to FemDom to give her a bit more confidence when it came to scene inspiration. Kinky porn was a treasure trove of inspiration and had led to many new discoveries and fab ideas. As always you can send feedback on this episode to hello@proudtobekinky.com, or through any of our social media platforms. We’re also happy to answer any kink related questions you might have if you feel we can help in anyway. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean Podcast. You can find us all on most podcast apps and if you listen through your Apple podcast app you can also leave us a lovely review.

Happy Birthday to us. That’s right, we have now been releasing episodes for you for one whole year and what a year it has been. We went back and forth with lots of ideas for this episode, but we decided to get back to basics a little bit and discuss the things that we are constantly repeating and go into detail about why we say them and how you can go about acting on the advice should you wish to.   In episode one, Bakji and friend of the show BlueBen discussed how to make kinky friends. Floss recently gave this episode another listen, and was impressed overall that for a first episode it was pretty darn good, but also felt that we could tweak some of the advice after a year of not only podcasting, but also of getting more involved with the community ourselves as well.   In a good chunk of our episodes we say ‘go to a munch’, so we revisit this and discuss why we say that and what benefits we see to munches. We also address the fact that your first munch isn’t always going to be life changing and what to do if the munch you attend isn’t what you hoped for.   We also tackle Fetish events. Which in episode were discussed on the basis of go with friends only. However in the time we have been doing the podcast I have learnt that many larger events are doing meet and greets before the event kicks off, and we’ve also discovered that many smaller events do allow for more of a chance to socialise and meet new people.   Fetlife gets a mention as do our friends over at TheCage.co, as we talk about how best to navigate online platforms and what their uses are. This leads us to a bit of a discussion, where Floss might be a bit ranty about how certain people conduct themselves when sending messages online.   There is also some fun and frivolity, we both talk about some of our favourite episodes, things we love about doing the podcast and what, if anything we’ve learnt in the past year.   This podcast has become a huge part of our lives, and it’s been an unbelievable amount of hard work, but it has been worth every minute of it. Through the podcast we have connected with amazing people all across the world, some of those people have been guests, some listeners and we are so happy to say that many of them have turned into wonderful friends.   For anyone who has missed Floss’ social media posts about us turning one, we just want to say a big thank you to everyone who has listened, given feedback, supported and encouraged us. Each and every one of you has made this experience even better and we can’t wait to see what the next year of podcasting brings.   As always you can contact us via hello@proudtobekinky.com, you can also contact us on Twitter, instagram, Fetlife and Facebook. You can also swing by our Patreon page, and check out our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as our new feature that is coming soon Aftercare Sandwich.   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network, with Off The Cuffs, Drinks with God, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean Podcast. You can find us all on most podcast apps, and if you listen on the Apple Podcast app you can leave us all an awesome 5 star review.

Pain play and sensation play are our focus this week. We discuss what we mean when we talk about Sadism and masochism, and how pain can be sexy and what you can do if you’d like to try some new sensations but don’t think pain is for you.   We have mini debate over what classes as sexy pain, stingy, thuddy or something else entirely. This leads to us having a bit of a run through of what the difference between the two is, and why they lead to different sensations.   While many us might identify as a Sadist or a masochist, or perhaps like Floss you’re a bit of both and like to claim the Sadomasochist label, that doesn’t we all enjoy pain in the same way though. Both Bakji and Floss enjoy pain in very different ways, and their approach to pain play also differs greatly. We discuss our own personal takes on pain, what we enjoy and why we enjoy it.   As we always say we’re not experts when it comes to the kinks we discuss, but we do try to share what safety and instructional information we do have. We do highly recommend though that if you are looking to engage in some of the things discussed for the first time that you do your research and due diligence before diving straight into the action. If you need any further information and you’re not sure where to find it, do please get in touch.   The focus of this episode does fall a lot toward the pain play side of things, however we are aware that some people really aren’t into pain at all, but may enjoy different sensations during a scene, so we try to cover some of those too.   You can as always send feedback for this episode via our email hello@proudtobekinky.com, or our social media platforms; Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Fetlife. You can also visit us at our Patreon page, www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky, where you can find our spin-off podcast, FemDom and Fetish Fun.   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God, the Will Sean Podcast and Parking Lot Radio. We are all available on Apple podcast and most other podcast apps, if you chose player allows for reviews please do leave one for us as it really is helpful in letting other people know we are worth a listen.

Bisexuality is our topic for today, inspired by the recent bi-visibility week and ally week, Floss asked Bakji if she could hijack an episode to discuss being bisexual. This is a bit of a one sided episode as Bakji as a straight man doesn’t have his own experience of being bisexual. He is however a great ally and was happy for Floss to get on her soapbox for episode to air her views. [caption id="attachment_1889" align="aligncenter" width="300"] Bisexuality Flag[/caption]   Floss gives her own definition of being bisexual, which is definitely at odds with the dictionary definition. As we say in the episode though, we think it’s really important not to invalidate someone else’s identity and experience by saying their bisexuality isn’t the same as yours and therefore it doesn’t count. We also briefly reflect on comparisons and difference between pansexuality and bisexuality. Again the dictionary definition seems to greatly differ from what people in the LGBTQIA+ community are saying, so Floss gives her best attempt at explaining each based on definitions she has been given by people who identify in those ways, with us all being different though these means there isn’t always a one fits all explanation. Bisexual erasure is one of the reasons we decided to this episode. Bisexual people are often ignored, removed, re-explained and falsified, both in the media and within everyday society. This is why many bisexual people have experienced the feeling that their sexuality isn't valid or ‘real’. The continued perpetuating of bisexual erasure means that many of us have experienced and continue to experience being subjected to comments surrounding the various myths of being bisexual. From the myth that we don’t exist, to tales of promiscuity and lack of commitment. The bisexual myths are rife. As we recorded, and when we have discussed this in the past, Bakji has often explained ‘no-one has ever really said that?’ The fact of the matter is that nearly every bisexual person I’ve ever spoken to has had the majority of bisexual myths aimed in their direction. Which make the comment of ‘your just doing it for attention’ hilarious, because the attention we get as an openly bisexual person is usually negative. That said however, this episode is predominantly about Floss’ experience, so your bisexual journey will look different, and we are definitely not saying one size fits all. If you have a different experience that you would like to share with us then please do get in touch. As always you can contact us on hello [at] proudtobekinky.com. You can also reach out via Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook. You can also find us on Patreon, www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky where for $2 a month you can get access to our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, where Bakji and Floss discuss their kinky scene in great and sexy detail. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network, along with Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean Podcast. If you podcast app allows for reviews and rating, we are always grateful for anyone who takes the time to give us an awesome review.

Switching is the topic of this episode. When we are on our travels to events and meeting new friends people are often full of questions regarding our Switch dynamic. We were so excited a while back that this could be a great episode that we eagerly sat down to record it, only to discover it was not good. So this is our second attempt, inspired by a comment from one of our Patrons. We start right from the beginning and cover what switching is, and how we both came to identify as a switch. We also discuss whether or not switches even exist! Which is unfortunately an ongoing conversation amongst some people. Spoiler alert … We absolutely do exist. One of the other question we asked a lot is how we manage our switch dynamic and find the balance for us both getting our fix on either side of the slash. For us it’s probably less about balance and more about communicating what we are currently in the mood for. Which means there often isn’t much of a balance at all, but our approach is that if we are both happy and enjoying ourselves that is more important than an equal 50/50 split of activities. While we are both switches we came to that realisation at very different points of our kink journeys, so we talk about what switching is for us personally and how we perceive that role in our own personal way and what it is we enjoy about switching.   It would be almost impossible to talk about switching without addressing some of the myths about switches, and some of the reasons it might have a slight stigma attached to it. This also includes why some people might run into problems when playing with another switch. Even though we think it is crazy awesome, we do understand some of the issues people might face. As always if you have any feedback on this episode or any others, you can get in touch via hello [at] proudtobekinky.com, or via any of our social media platforms; Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook. We love all your comments and continuing our episode conversations with you once we’ve released them out into the world. If you feel like you need extra episode in your life you can swing by our Patreon account and for $2 a month you can get access to our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. Which was meant to be 10 minute episode here and there, but has now turned into full blown episodes on a weekly basis. Where Bakji and I discuss the ins and outs of our sexy and kinky shenanigans. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off The Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, the Will Sean podcast, Drinks with God and Parking Lot Radio. So please do check them out if you haven’t and head to itune to give them and us awesome 5 star reviews.

Eva from TheCage.co is our guest today. The cage is a social networking site and online community for people interested in kink, BDSM and Fetish. It has been going for just over a year and now and we invited Eva along to tell us a little bit more about it. [caption id="attachment_1112" align="aligncenter" width="300"] www.thecage.co[/caption] As well as talking about TheCage.co, we also wanted to talk to Eva a little bit about online D/s. When it came up in a thread on Twitter Floss realised it wasn’t something we had ever really discussed on the podcast and as it is popular within the kink community we felt it was something we should be talking about.   When Floss started to do some research for this episode to gather some questions together for Eva, she discover that the world of online D/s is not easy to find good and supportive information on. In any forum where a question on online D/s was asked there were two automatic responses 1. An assumption you'll eventually move into in person D/s and 2. Disparaging comments about the discussion to opt for online D/s.   We discuss whether the huge divide between online and offline D/s is really necessary and whether or not we shouldn’t just be supporting everyone who wants to explore their kinks regardless of that being online or locally at munch.   Eva gives us some tips and advice for those people who are looking to explore their kinks with an online friend or partner. There are unfortunately a lot of scammers out there and we do want everyone to play safe, this means looking after yourself in both face to face encounters but also there are lots of things to consider when playing online too.   We also discuss some general kinks topics and we obviously introduce Eva to the wonderful world of Quick Fire Questions. It was a delight to chat to Eva, so please do go along and give TheCage.co a little visit and see what you can find there to entertain you.   As always if you have any feedback you can email us on hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also follow us and message us on social media.We are on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook. You can also find us on Patreon by searching for ‘proudtobekinky’, you can find our Patron only podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun there, where Bakji and I spare no details when discussing our kinky scenes.   We are also Part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off The Cuffs, the Will Sean Podcast, Parking Lot Radio and Drinks with God. If you listen on Apple Podcast you can leave any of us a wonderful review should be feeling generous.

Twisted Lingerie was mentioned by TheWickedJade back in episode 28. Which brought them to our attention, we then started following them on Instagram and Twitter because quite honestly it all looked super sexy and I have my eye on it for future purchases. What actually transpired though was some mutual exchanges on Twitter, and I started to get a really good vibe from the Twisted brand and decided that they would make a great podcast guest. Thankfully Sophie who founded and owns the twisted lingerie brand decided that she would like to give this podcasting malarkey a go and here we are. Twisted Lingerie is a fetish inspired brand, which can be seen throughout their collections. It’s provocative and seductive, but also affordable. We ask Sophie what inspired her to start Twisted, and how it moved from a thought to an active business. One of the things that prompted me to invite Sophie onto the podcast was the community spirit of the Twisted Lingerie Twitter feed. Not only is it body positive, it’s also kink positive, two things we feel really passionate about. There are lots of tweets supporting and encouraging people and that is something we are keen to advocate. We ask Sophie about her recent appearance at the Diamonds and Deals Conference for women in business where she gave a talk. Which leads us onto talking about supporting women in business, sexual empowerment and how sometimes women can feel the need to be apologetic for things they want out of life, and that actually we all feel that should not be the case. Body positivity and body shaming get an airing again, because let’s be honest we probably can’t talk about these things enough, not just as a podcast but as a community. We discuss how things like lingerie, and shibari can sometimes pave the way to us feeling a little bit more love for our bodies and how important that is. I shall let you discover the rest of the show for yourself, but if you have any comments on this episode or previous episodes please do get in touch via hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also send us any general kink questions, or suggestions for episodes or guests you might like us to cover. You can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook. If Patreon is your thing you can also visit us there too https://www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky where you will find our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network with Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean Podcast. Please do give them a listen and leave us all lovely reviews if you think we have earned them. Which we definitely have. We’re all awesome. Links from the show: Twisted Lingerie's Website Twisted Lingerie on Twitter Twisted Lingerie on Instagram Sh! Womens Erotic Emporium Sex at the Museum by Sarah Forbes.

Lee Harrington is our guest this week, and if for some reason this is your first time listening to Lee speak you are in for a treat. Not only is he a friendly and extremely likeable person, he is also knowledgeable about so many topics it's hard to know what to ask him about first.   Having perused some of the wealth of resources Lee has to offer, 10 books to date, educational classes, podcasts (both his own and guest spots on other people’s), a blog, plus a presence on various social media platforms. We asked Lee what inspires him to carry out the work he does and the answer in itself is inspiring.   As you know myself and Bakji are relatively new to the kink scene, hence why we don’t class ourselves as educators when it comes to the podcast, we are just two people who are keen to share our experiences in the hope they might resonate with other people and give them support and encouragement where needed in terms of embracing either their local scene, their kinks or perhaps both. Less however has got two decades worth of experience of the kink scene under his belt. So we ask him how he came to discover his kinky side and what brought him into the kink community.   Our previous episode that addressed the topic of gender, ‘Episode 30 - Cross-Dressing and Being GenderFluid’ was a huge success. So we wanted to take some time to talk to Lee about this. As someone who openly discusses his own journey with gender, his insight and thoughts on gender identity are both educational and thought provoking. I challenge anyone who thinks they know about gender, or the issues some people face in relation to their gender to listen to Lee and not learn something.   We also talk about the crazy rude questions people often ask, relating to both gender and sexuality and how those questions are best navigated. This also leads us to discuss what constitutes sex, how opinions on this can vary and that knowing your partners view on this can be of great importance.   Floss gets herself flustered again when we talk about the bathroom bill that is being proposed in Lee’s current home state of Alaska. In which people will be required to use the bathroom of the gendered assigned on their birth certificate, regardless of how they are currently presenting. Lee was actually heading straight to protest for this right after we spoke with him.   It would be remiss of us to have Lee on without asking him about rope. As someone who has been tying long before there were online tutorials and a rope gathering in every city. We are thoroughly spoilt now with the amount of information we can obtain when it comes to Shibari, and it’s people like Lee that we have to thank for that. People who painstakingly reverse engineered ties and made connections with other people across the world who could impart their wisdom also.   If you would like to know more about Lee you can find him at passionandsoul.com, through there you can read his blog posts and check out what other podcasts you can listen to him on. His chat with our sister podcast Off The Cuffs turned into a two parter and is well worth a listen.   As well as Off The Cuffs, we are also joined in the Podcast Jukebox Network by the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and Parking Lot Radio. You can find all of us on most podcast apps. You can also find us all on a variety of social media platforms, including our new Podcast Jukebox Facebook group. If you have any comments on this episode or the podcast in general you can email us via hello@proudtobekinky.com, or get in touch on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife or Facebook. You can also check us out on Patreon, www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky, home of our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun.

Kinky nostalgia is this weeks topic as Bakji and I take a walk down memory lane and discuss some of our favourite kinky scenes. Though we each suffer from what we call ‘kink amnesia’, so remembering the exact details seems to be a little tricky. Key moments seem to stick with us though, so those are the topic of discussion.   We discuss our varying experiences with early adventures into obtaining and exploring pornography. While one of us was content with movies and tv that had sexy scenes in, the other person rooted through bins and skips to obtain such things. There’s also talk of floppy disks containing jpegs and dial up internet. I really don’t think the youth of today realise how lucky wireless internet makes them.   First sex toys make an appearance too. Well an appearance in the conversation, not a physical appearance. Due to the fact that the first sex toy I ever bought ended up being a recalled item that had some very dubious issues, I no longer have that in my possession. Bakji tells a very sad story about the very first sex toy he ordered, the words sucks, strokes and masturbate are said a lot.   This is a little bit of an indulgent episode, mostly to celebrate the birthday of Bakji, also it is a good chance to give our listeners a little bit of an insight into what it is that we love to do together that encourages us to do the podcast. For us this podcast is about getting other people connected with like minded friends and/or partner/s to enjoy their own kinky times with.   We focus on the physical side of things a fair bit in this episode, and also in the episodes of FemDom and Fetish Fun that we do. We wouldn’t enjoy any of those things half as much though without the foundation of friendship and the emotional connection that strengthened with lots of getting to know each other. Which is why we encourage people to make friends of all kinds, sexy friends, platonic friends, rope friends and one of our favourites podcasting friends. Those podcasting people are awesome.   Speaking of podcasting friends. Please do head over to the Podcast Jukebox Network, we have accounts on Twitter and Facebook, so you can follow what #ProudToBeKinky has going on without publicly liking a kink page/account. Other podcast included in the network are Off The Cuffs, the Will Sean Podcast, Parking Lot Radio and Drinks with God. They are all awesome podcasts so do swing by and give them a listen.   If you have no issues with liking a kink account, then follow us on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Fetlife. There are links on all the #ProudToBeKinky pages for our personal accounts you are also more than welcome to follow us there too. Feel free to give us a tweet/comment to let us know you are listener following and we will give you a big virtual hug. You can also head over to our Patreon site www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky, and check out what kind of rewards our Patrons are getting. Currently the most exciting of which is our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. Currently three episodes are available with many more to come. Floss also does weekly Patron only blog posts that give a round-up of our weekends and information on what guests we have coming up

Sex is our topic of discussing this week. As we are joined by Tanya and Megan from the ‘Take Back Your Sex’ podcast. While we talk a lot about kink and sexy things in general, it isn’t very often we actually talk about sex. So it was great to have these ladies on to fuel a positive discussion surrounding this subject. Tanya has been blogging about sex in various guises for many years, so we asked how she and Megan came together to form the takebackyoursex.com blog and what prompted them to then move into podcasting.  We also discuss a few of our own learning curves of starting the pod.  We delve back into the topic of swinging again, and ask Tanya how she has found her adventures in non-monogamy. A topic that is currently a popular conversation with team #ProudToBeKinky as Bakji and I take our tentative first steps towards swinging adventures. More on that in future podcasts.  Slut shaming is a big conversation, and a topic that Tanya and Megan tackle often on their blog, podcast and social media platforms. Here at #ProudToBeKinky we definitely agree that slut shaming needs to end. So while we are not self identified sluts ourselves, we are 100% in support of those that are and are more than happy to be an ally in the fight against slut shaming.   We also discuss how things can change when you start exploring things that are new to you, in this instance those things are kink and non-monogamy. Many of us join the kink scene, or get into relationships with firm expectations of what we will and won’t do, and tend to expect our partners to fit into that same model. Often though once you start exploring new things your desires and boundaries can shift dramatically and you can find yourself interested in trying so many new things. As we have said before many times on the podcast, embracing this and being open to new things is one of our top tips for enjoying the kink community.  Sex education also comes under some scrutiny as we comment on how neither the U.S or U.K seems to quite have it right. It’s definitely something we need to be talking about more in terms of educating ourselves about everything from consent to contraception. But also how do those of us who are sex positive and also parents educate our children so that future generations are also sex positive.  Part of the sex education conversation takes us onto the topic of self love and body positivity and it’s some Floss was particularly keen to talk about. Despite her prolific use of Instagram including many, many shameless bum selfies, her body confidence was not always as high and taking those steps towards body positivity can be hard for many people.  There is much more to hear in this episode too. You can also tune in to Megan and Tanya on their own podcast ‘Take Back Your Sex’ to hear more from them. If you have any questions or comments on this episode you can email us on hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also follow us on instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Fetlife. You can also check out our Patreon site www.pateon.com/proudtobekinky, which is now the home of our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, which all Patrons gain access to.  As always a shout to our friends on the Podcast Jukebox Network, Off The Cuffs, Parking Lot Radio, Will Sean Podcast and Drinks with God. Please do give them a listen and anyone who is listening on iTunes can leave a wonderful 5 star review for all of us.

When you join the kink community there are very few hard and fast rules that we are expected to conform with, however approaching the community and the people in it with consideration and common sense definitely goes a long way to helping make new friends.   A lot of us learn the hard way when it comes to certain aspects of the scene, and we look back thinking, ‘wow, I wish I’d known that sooner’, so we are attempting to cover some of the things we wish we’d been told before we got involved in the scene, and we also cover a few things we wish other people would learn, yes we mean the guy's still sending the dick pics! We’re not out to preach, and we have definitely made a few of these mistakes ourselves, and as always we don’t want to come across as negative, so while we are saying ‘don’t do this’ we are counteracting with what we think might be a better course of action to help make you more friends and make you experience on the scene even more awesome.   While we cover mostly ideas on improving your social interactions, we also throw in a few practical items and we also repeat some things we may have said once or twice before, but they are worth repeating. Dicks pics, consent, scene etiquette etc! I don’t think we can ever talk about these things enough.As always if you have any feedback on this episode, on the podcast in general or a kink related question, then please do email us on hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Fetlife. We also love hearing from listeners on all these platforms, so if you’re following us do say a little hello and let us know you’re a listener.   You can also check out our sister podcasts from the Podcast Jukebox Network. This includes Off The Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, Parking Lot Radio, the Will Sean Podcast and Drinks With God. You can also leave us all a lovely 5 star review if you're listening via iTunes (apple podcast app). You can also visit us on our Patreon page www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky. This is now the only place you will find new releases of our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, we have recorded a second episode and it should be with our Patron’s very soon.

Shibari is back! We know we may have mentioned it once or twice before, however we have got a wonderful guest in the lovely Sophia.Shibari who is an all round rope enthusiast. We have been long time followers of her Instagram account, and when we saw her perform a self suspension at the SlapStick Club (listen to episode 23 for more on that) we decided to reach out and see if she would like to come and chat with us, and to our delight she said yes. Sophia is not only a rope model, but also a rigger, she also teaches and facilitates rope jams at Anatomie Studio in London. Which if you ever get a chance to go to is well worth a visit. Anatomie Studio is a dedicated rope space, that not only offer tuition in rope, but also a wide range of other classes and opportunities. We do discuss this lots more within this episode. We talk to Sophia about what led her to joining the rope community, and as is often the case we end up discussing why we love it here at #ProudToBeKinky. We make a great case for how awesome the rope scene is and why anyone who is curious about rope should definitely give it a try. Floss marvels at how effortless Sophia makes self-suspension look and she tells us a little bit about her self-suspension performances, and how she finds the experience of tying herself. We also delve into how she got into the rigging side of rope, and how she developed the skills she has honed so beautifully. On the practical side of things we ask Sophia the following things: What is her advice for anyone wanting to get into Shibari? What conversations should people be having before they tie together? What are her favourites ties as a rope model? As always you can reach us on hello [at] proudtobekinky.com if you have any comments on this episode, or any queries about the podcast or kink in general. Don’t forget you can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Fetlife. We love hearing from people who are listening so please do reach out if you are a listener following us on any of these platforms. You can also check us out on Patreon, www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky. As if is an NSFW account you will need to follow the link to find us, we won’t show up in a Patreon search. Our new spin-off podcast ‘FemDom and Fetish Fun’ is going to be a Patron only reward as of episode 2, Floss is now sharing weekly Patron only posts and we are currently conspiring to come up with lots more awesome rewards. Don’t forget to check out our sister podcasts from the Podcast Jukebox Network, Off The Cuffs, Parking Lot Radio, the Will Sean Podcast and our new addition Drinks With God. You’re probably sick of me saying but if you're listening on iTunes (Apple Podcast App) please do leave a review, they make a huge difference to whether or not some people will be willing to take a punt on a new podcast. You can find Sophia on Instagram under sophia.shibari and you can find out more about Anatomie via their website anatomiestudio.com.