Podcasts about bakji

Hello! Bakji here! Time to tell you about my new(ish) blog! I've not really got the time to do the podcast these days but I can find the time to write about kink. So ProudToBeKinky will live on... but as my person blog. Come and have a little read!

Korea24 – 2021.07.15. (Thursday) - News Briefing: South Korea reported one-thousand-600 new COVID-19 cases on Thursday, a day after it registered a new daily record of one-thousand-615 cases. It marks the second highest daily count and the ninth consecutive day the daily figure exceeded the one-thousand mark. (Koo Heejin) - In-Depth News Analysis: Prominent members of the main opposition People Power Party voiced their opinions of abolishing the Gender Equality Ministry and the Unification Ministry. Law Professor Cho Hee-kyung from Hong-ik University and Affiliate Professor Kim Byung-joo from Hankuk University of Foreign Studies delve into and debate over the issue. - Going for Gold with Mark Wilson-Choi: Mark talks about South Korea’s high hopes in grabbing gold in the golf events, specifically women’s golf, as Team Korea has four top-ranking athletes teeing off in Tokyo. - Korea Trending with Lee Ju-young: Some NC Dinos players face an investigation for breaking social distancing measures(NC, 방역 수칙 위반에 허위 진술 논란), human remains roughly 1,500 years old are uncovered in Gyeongju(경주서 1,500년 전 180㎝ 인골 출현..."현존 삼국시대 최장신"), and a gun maker sparks controversy over its firearm made to look like a toy(모양은 레고 장난감이지만 실제 ‘총’…총기사고 우려에 질타 이어져). - Explore Korea: Hannah Roberts of the travel, culture, and history blog Moon Bear Travel talks about the so-called “Purple Islands” of Bakji-do and Banwol-do located in Sinan County. She shares how they changed their islands to become more photogenic with the help of a native flower and what visitors can do at the islands.

Hello again! Bakji here. This is something COMPLETELY DIFFERENT! I know a way you can go travelling for very little money. Obviously there are travel restrictions at the minute. But if you've lost your job and have the time and want to get away... then you could try WWOOF-ing. This is where you work on a farm in exchange for food and board. The best thing is that you can do it in any country in the world. In this episode, I explain exactly how I went WWOOF-ing in Spain in 2008. It was one of the best experiences of my life. Enjoy! (It's got nothing to do with kink! But if you want to talk kink then please email me: hello@proudtobekinky.com)    

Hello! Bakji here again. Reading out my most recent blog post all about stopping digital indifference from kicking in. You can read the post here: http://proudtobekinky.com/how-not-to-get-bored-of-online-kink/ My inbox is open! Say hello at hello@proudtobekinky.com Enjoy!

Hello again! Bakji here for another audio blog post. This is all about how I got minted off Etsy in 2019. (Well I say minted... I actually made nothing out of it but it was fun trying!) This is the audio version of this post: http://proudtobekinky.com/making-kinky-silicone-paddles/ Enjoy! And if you want to email me, please do so at hello@proudtobekinky.com

Hello everyone! Bakji here, this is an audio narration of this blog post: http://proudtobekinky.com/how-to-really-meet-somone-into-fetish-and-kink/ Hope it helps you meet a kinky partner! Want to say hello or ask me anything? Please email me at hello@proudtobekinky.com Ta!

Hello everyone, Bakji here. This time last year we stopped doing the ProudToBeKinky podcast. Now, a year on I'm going to bring it back as an audio-blog/podcast, please visit www.proudtobekinky.com Please listen to the episode for more information and if you'd like to say hello then please do so at 'hello@proudtobekinky.com Cheers! Bakji

Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE and say hello! > https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E    Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page > www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky   We continue with those questions that are designed to make someone fall in love. I think it worked!   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE... and say 'Hello'! > https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E   Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page > www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky This week Floss asks me (Bakji) 36 questions designed to make ‘someone fall in love’. Listen to see if it worked!   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE! > https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E   Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page > www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky   I, Bakji, well and truly dominated Floss' botty last week for the first time in a long while. We discuss what it's like to be the bottom after a very long time without doing it.   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Our Discord Server: https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E   If monogamy and ‘happily ever after’ doesn’t work for you, then this week’s episode is something you may want to listen to.   We talk about the various other relationship models that may suit you if you're not into the idea of a standard relationship.   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

Our Discord Server: https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E   Episode 100! We decided to celebrate and have a few drinks and talk about the original ethos of the podcast, which was all about the more social and interpersonal side of kink.   We also look back on our favorite moments on the podcast and a surprise guest pops up by the name of ‘iWiLLtIEUhARd’   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.   You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

Our Discord Server: https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E   A listener emailed us recently to ask out advice on a long distance relationship. Whilst we live quite close to each other, we thought it would be a good subject to cover. Floss asked her Twitter followers what they do and we got some pretty good responses.   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** WANNA CHAT? HERE’S THAT DISCORD LINK WE FORGOT TO MENTION!, >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Back in November 2017, we did a whole episode on Red Flags, what negative traits to look out for in a prospective play partner early on. Well this is the opposite, Green Flags are the positive things to look out for. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** CHAT MY WILLY! OH AND HERE’S DISCORD, >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Life got the better of us and we ended up going seven weeks without doing any kink! This week we talk about getting back into it and the several sessions we’ve had recently. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** I WANT MY, I WANT MY, I WANT MY DISORD CHAT... https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we talk about a recent article in The Metro about people's kinky bucket lists... only to find that all is not as it seems. Then we discuss the things we'd like to do too. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** DISCORD, YOU SAY??? WHAT’S STOPPING YOU???>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Last weekend we went to Eroticon, we discuss all the talks we went to, all the vendors who were there and all the lovely people we met. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***WANT TO JOIN DISCORD??? HERE’S THAT LINK >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we have a two and half hour chat with Max Long & Kitty Delish about medical play, being a house Dom and being a decent and ethical person in the fetish scene. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***DON'T FORGET THE DISCORD! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Last week we asked our listeners if they have any questions and we got quite a few responses…. So this whole episode is answering those questions. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss

*** DISCORD ME HARD ! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** We start with a review of these ankle and wrist cuffs we got from Honour.co.uk Wrist Cuffs: https://www.honour.co.uk/rubber-deluxe-padlock-wrist-cuffs.php#product-tabs Ankle Cuffs: https://www.honour.co.uk/rubber-deluxe-padlock-ankle-cuffs.php We also talk about our five favourite kinky places to shop, here are all the links to companies. Bakji and Floss' Choices: 1) Libidex - www.libidex.com 2) Top To Bottom Leathers - www.top-to-bottom-leathers.co.uk 3) Meo - www.meo.de 4) MedFetUK - www.medfetuk.com 5) Bondra - www.bondara.co.uk If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.  

*** HERE IS THAT LINK TO DISCORD ! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Since it was Valentine's Day this week, we thought we’d talk about love. We discuss the love languages and how we try to have the best relationship we can. We also ask which fictional character would you most like to do kinky things with! If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** WHAT IS THAT DISCORD YOU SPEAK OF??? HERE IT IS>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Yet another femdom session! This week there's lots of talk of teasing and edging, as well as our favourate sexual urban myths. (Funny ones not depressing ones) If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.  

*** WANT MORE CHAT? JOIN OUR DISCORDZ?>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we go back to femdom! Floss gets all sexy with latex and we try out the Hot Octopuss Stroker. We also discuss where our listeners keep their kinky gubbins. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** FANCY SOME HOT DISCORD ACTION?! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** We talk about practicing kink in an ethical manner and advocate being nice and not being dick. We also talk about smells and scents that turn you on as well as another game of 'Guest What's Spanking Flossity'. You can get in touch with us via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS CLICK THIS LINK TO JOIN OUR SEXXY-ASSED DISCORD GROUP! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we talk about adapting you kinks to the person you are playing with. We also discuss sexy music to play during a scene and we talk at the end about keeping your kinks in perspective. (I, Bakji Ben would love to insert the link to the YouTube playlist as mentioned on the show but naughty Floss didn't send it to me in time!) If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** DISCORD IS THE SEXY>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we go back to femdom, back to handjobs and back to cumin! If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** DISCORD ME UP THE WILLY>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we talk about the kinky things we’d like to try in the year ahead. This is a bonus second episode this week as the first one went on too long! If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.  

***SUCK MY DISCORD! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we talk about three kinky things we both enjoyed back in 2018, we were going to talk what we want to try in 2019 but we talked so much that we've had to make it in to two episodes! So look out for a bonus episode later this week. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** HAVE WE EVER MENTIONED DISCORD?! JOIN HERE>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we talk about low-budget restraint, edging and Floss wearing sexy fishnets. (Hence the title!) If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** EDMONSON LOVES DISCORD! CLICK HERE TO JOIN>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week, I Bakji, well and truly dominate Floss with a Doxy! Also listen out for a live spanking with an XLR cable. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***DISCORD US UP! CLICK RIGHT HERE >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we discuss doing kinky, sexy fun when you’re knackered and low on energy. We discuss how to still make it fun In ‘Voice of the Listener’ we discuss your favourite foods to eat as After Care. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***DON'T FORGET THE DISCORD! ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS CLICK RIGHT HERE >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we discuss all the kinky bits we'd take to a desert island, should we ever get stuck on one! And we discuss your answers to our previous weeks questions about accidental sex toy discovery and kink in a post-apocalyptic future. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***DISCORD, DISCORD, DISCORD! JOIN UP HERE FOR KINKY CHATZ!! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** In this episode we talk about having a foursome! As well as how to ensure that everyone has good time and no one feels left out. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast Kinkosity. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***JOIN OUR DISCORD GROUP HERE >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we talk about trying male chastity for the very term and how it did and didn’t work out. We continue with our ‘Question of Week’ where we talk about sex toys accidentally going off and make sure you listen out for the story of a dildo being thrown on a roof! If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***JOIN OUR DISCORD GROUP HERE >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Our supporters over on Patreon have been listening to tales of our kinky fun for a while during our FemDom and Fetish Fun spin-off podcast. Now we are bringing that FemDom fun to our regular podcast. In this episode we discuss our latest kink session. Who got tied up? Who got teased? And who got rewarded with a sexy orgasm? We also have answers to our last After Bit question which was; What are your favourite toys for travelling? Our new question is … Have you ever been caught out by a vibrator going off by accident? You can give us your answer via email, or Twitter/Instagram (including DM if you’d prefer). All answers will be featured on our next episode but you are welcome to remain anonymous if you would like to. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

We are joined by Naughtia Black this week, to discuss her new podcast Deviants, as well as a whole host of other sexy topics. We discuss her current core dynamic, which is Master/slave and how that aligns itself with her being a Relationship Anarchist. Kink gets a thorough talking about too of course and we give Naughtia a good dose of Quick Fire Questions. As Floss suspected from being an avid online follower of Naughtia she was a delight to chat to and we think you are going to love this episode. You can find Naughtia on Twitter and Instagram and you can of course listen to her podcast. We also have answers to our last After Bit question which was; What is you all time favourite sex toy or piece of kinky equipment? Our new question is … What are your favourite kinky/sexy things to take travelling? This might include top travelling tips for people take sexy/kinky kit with them, or hilarious stories about travelling with said items.  You can give us your answer via email, or Twitter/Instagram (including DM if you’d prefer). All answers will be featured on our next episode but you are welcome to remain anonymous if you would like to. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

Sexy products! That’s right this episode is all about the recent sexy and kinky products we’ve been using from Meo.de. If you are new to Meo then their site is definitely worth a visit. They have some awesome products and the ones we are testing out are only a few they have to offer. The items covered in this episode are: Meo Lubricant Alpha Male 2 Stimulator Big Johnny Prostate Stimulator HurtMe Leather Paddle HurtMe Deluxe LOVE-HATE Paddle HurtMe Deluxe Riding Crop Wrist to Ankle Restraint Black Berlin Wrist Restraints We loved reviewing these products so we could share our experiences with you and we hope you find the feedback useful. If there are any other products you would like our thoughts on, or products you would like us to feature in the future, then please do get in touch and we can see what we can do. We have also asked a new After Bit question, which follows on nice from the topics of this episode; What is you all time favourite sex toy or piece of kinky equipment. You can give us your answer via email, or Twitter/Instagram (including DM if you’d prefer). All answers will be featured on our next episode but you are welcome to remain anonymous if you would like to. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

Little Rara is our guest this episode. We have been following her for a little while on Twitter and she has previously responded to our pleas for answers to our After Bit questions so it was an absolute delight to talk to her. We discuss how she found herself involved in the kink community and what kinds of kinky shenanigans she gets up to, as well as discussing what new kinks might be in her future and of course what her favourite kinky things are. Little Rara, or should I say Princess Rara due to a recent name change,  also arranges kink events and discussion groups, so that is a large part of our conversation as we get her to encourage all of your to find your way into your local kink scene. If you would like to follow Little Rara on Twitter you can do so via @ThePrincessRara If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss. You can also access this through Floss’ BuyMeACoffee account for a one off donation of $3.  

Dick pics! That’s right we are doing a whole episode on dick pics. So get comfy and hold on tight because Floss does not hold back! Dick pic rage is real! On a more serious note we want everyone to be communicating with more kinky people and getting their kink on and we know that dick pics is the worst introduction ever. We discuss exactly why dick pics are such a problem and why they enrage many of us and why just ignoring them isn’t always our go to move. If we stop just one person sending a dick pic then I will be overjoyed. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and No Love Lost. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss. You can also access this through Floss’ BuyMeACoffee account for a one off donation of $3.

‘Kinky Kit?’ We hear you ask! ‘Haven’t they already done that episode?’ Well yes, we have. And it’s a big sexy but, we have enjoyed some awesome new products lately and we just had to share our experiences with you all. We pick 3 of our top products each, two joint products and a bonus ‘on the spot’ decision for another item to include. Floss gets told off for telling her Doxy story AGAIN. But cares very little because the Doxy is great and Bakji gets told of because, well he’s Bakji and is always being naughty one way or another. The After Bit returns with answers from last weeks question ‘Have you ever cum accidentally?’ and we pose our new question ‘What has been you best bit of vanilla repurposing?’ Those unassuming things definitely not made for kink that we take and pervert to great effect. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and No Love Lost. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.  

This week, Dick and max team up with the ProudToBeKinky podcast, to talk with, NerdyKinkster, about her journey into kink thus far, and the distinction between consensual kink and actual sexual violence. Support the show by paying for max's pain! patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast Drinks with God NO LOVE LOST & Being There Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & This Is Actually Happening Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

Floss and Bakji are no strangers to talking about kink, but this week we are getting down and dirty with a discussion about sexual technique. What is it? Do we have it? And how does one improve it? Some of the things we discuss in this episode are:   Have you ever had a sexual technique used on you that was surprisingly good? How do you encourage your partner to learn new things without offending them? Do you think there ways to increase sexual pleasure that people often overlook? Do you have a favourite technique you like to use? Are there any good resources on sexual technique? A lot of this episode is about our personal preferences and we encourage everyone to discover their own likes and dislikes. If you’ve got a go to move though that always seems to get sexy results then we’d love to hear about it. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via hello@proudtobekinky.com or via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast and Drinks with God. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Room 101 is our inspiration this week as Bakji and Floss return with what we hope to be a fun episode. While originating in George Orwell’s 1984, Room 101 is said to be named after a conference room at the BBC where he attended incredibly boring meetings. In the novel 1984 it is a room where people are taken to face their worst fears. On a lighter note, it is also the name of a BBC comedy show, where guests are invited to put their pet peeves or worst fears into ‘Room 101’. The host of the show then decides whether or not their particular suggestions are worthy of being banished. In our take on this, we each got to pick four things we would send to Room 101 if we got the chance. In keeping with the theme of our podcast the things we have chosen are relationship or sex based from our days before we met each other. We also chose a wildcard each, which we were to present as a genuine suggestion and the other person had to guess which the wildcard was as we went along. One of us tried their best to disguise the wildcard and one of us picked a glaringly obvious wildcard. You will have to listen to find out which was which. We also try to counteract our annoyance with these particular relationship habits, by offering up our solutions to what better alternatives are, and how we avoid those particular things in our time together. If you have any comments on this episode, previous episodes or simply want to get in touch to say hello, then please do so on any of our social media platforms, Twitter, Instagram, Fetlife and Facebook, or via hello [at] proudtobekinky.com. If you would like more episodes from us then please head over to Patreon.com/proudtobekinky and for $2 a month you can have access to our Patron exclusive FemDom and Fetish Fun, where we discuss all out kinky scenes. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, the Will Sean podcast, Drinks with God, and Dick Wounds new podcast Being There. You can find us all on most available podcast apps, and should your chosen app allow for reviews then we always love to receive those.

Inspired by their own recent experiences and conversations Bakji and Floss discuss the fluidity of kink. We all know there are many kinks and fetishes to be discovered, but what happens when our favourites go out of favour and new passions evolve into something deeper? Floss has been thinking on this a lot lately, as it was her change feelings about a particular kink that started the conversation. Despite how often we talk about open and honest communication, and how we encourage people to be accepting and kind to themselves, it was still a tricky moment for Floss and hopes that in sharing it will help some of our listeners. While a lot of our discussion is based around the fluidity between switching roles, we also discuss the ebb and flow of kinks with a specific role and how as a couple or as play partners, the activities you enjoy most together can also change. We discuss how this has been for us and what our approach to it has been. We also reflect upon the kinks that have taken us by surprise, going from no interest in them, to curiosity or in some cases absolutely loving them. We are big believers is keeping ourselves open to new discoveries and experiences, and we hope this episode helps show why we think that’s important and how that approach has been extremely beneficial to us as individuals. We hope you enjoy this episode and as always if you have any feedback or questions please get in touch via hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also follow us on: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Facebook You can also find us on Patreon where you can find our second podcast, FemDom and Fetish Fun, where we discuss the scenes we do, how we feel about all things FemDom and what we have coming up in terms of kinky fun. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network, along with Off The Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, the Will Sean Podcast and Drinks with God. We are all available on most podcast apps, and would love a great review and star rating from you if your chosen app supports this.

Eyal Matsliah is a sexual empowerment coach, and the author of ‘Orgasm Unleashed’ - a guide to pleasure, healing and power. So we left kink behind for an episode to focus on the wonder of orgasms and the joy they can bring. While the book is aimed at women, it is also suitable for anyone who is looking to enhance their orgasmic experience and better learn about the pleasure their body can bring them. We speak to Eyal about what inspires him to do the work he does, what kind of work he does within his coaching and mentoring sessions and the benefits we can gain from engaging in some of Eyal’s approaches. Floss not being one to shy away from sharing her own personal orgasm tales, asks Eyal some questions based on her own experiences, that listeners have previously related to when discussed in other episodes. If you have struggled to orgasm, find masturbation uninspiring or wonder where in the day you meant to schedule time for self-indulgence, we asked Eyal about all these things in the hope the answers will be informative. We also discuss some of the areas in which we may feel disconnected from our sexuality, or our sexual empowerment and what we can do to overcome this to connect, explore and delve deeper within ourselves, hopefully leading to not only a more fulfilling sex life, but a more fulfilling life in general. You can find out more about Eyal and the work he does via his website Intimate Power. You can also find links to his book and other resources there too. http://www.intimatepower.com/ https://www.amazon.co.uk/Orgasm-Unleashed-guide-pleasure-healing-ebook/dp/B015L4D8M6 To contact us about this episode, or about anything else, you can do so via hello@proudtobekinky.com, or through our Instagram, Twitter and Fetlife Pages. If you would like more of us, you can access our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, through our Patreon page. In FemDom and Fetish Fun Floss and Bakji discuss their mutual love of FemDom and all the sexy details of the scenes they en joy. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, Drinks with God and the Will Sean Podcast. We can all be found on most podcast apps, and we’d be lying if we said we don’t love awesome ratings and reviews. So please do send them our way if your app allows for them.

Bakji and Floss have been busy this year, not only with the podcast, but also with outings to Fetish events and indulging in sexy scenes at home. In this episode we discuss some of the things we’ve done this year. Regular listeners of our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, will be familiar with some of the scenes we have enjoyed throughout 2017. Which ones have been our favourites though? We have each picked out Tops kink moments and discuss why they stand out for us. As well as a little bit of reminiscing we also look to future kinky fun as we talk about what our kinky resolutions are for 2018. While we both pick very sexy things, we definitely have very different ideas of what we’d like to do next. So we should have an interesting year ahead. As always we would love to hear from you, whether it is about this episode or with a questions for us, you can do that via hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also find us on Twitter, instagram, Facebook and Fetlife. If you would like to listen to the previously mentioned FemDom and Fetish Fun, you can do so through our Patreon Page. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off The Cuffs, The Will Sean Podcast and Drinks with God. Reviews are always appreciate from both us and the other shows on the network.

Safewords are this episodes topic of conversation. After Floss saw a few posts in a short space of time all about the same subject on Reddit, it seemed like the time was right for safewords to have their own episode. What are they? When you should you use them? Why should you use them? And should you ever feel bad or awkward about using them? We are definitely in the group of people who feel like having a safeword is good thing, no matter who you are playing with, however when researching the topic online to make sure we were presenting the right information we did come across lots of people who don’t feel the need to use them, and we are certainly not saying one way is right and one is wrong, just that there are options to consider. As well as general approaches to safewords we do discuss the ones we use personally and our own personal thoughts on them. We also discuss what we might do if someone used an unfamiliar safeword and what we would do if a safeword ended a scene. For those people who are fans of clear communication and do not see a safeword as something they need, we talk about some situations where even people who can read each other well and communicate during scenes might find a safeword of use. We also touch upon nonverbal safewords and how you can check in on a partner who might be particularly sub-spacey and unable to communicate well. While we appreciate that not all kinksters will want to use a safeword, it is definitely something that we should all be making an informed and considered decision on. Yet it still seems to be a topic that has people incredibly divided and has people new to the scene asking what teople new to the scene asking what the ‘right way’ is. As with all episodes of you have any feedback for us you can email us via hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also get in touch on any of our social media platforms: Instagram Twitter Facebook Fetlife We also have a Patreon site, where you can access our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. Which is all about the sexy and kinky scene Bakji and I get up to behind closed doors. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God and the Will Sean Podcast.

Shut The WOOF Up is a new podcast that is all about puppy play and the community and activities that it encompasses. The host Volka was kind enough to join us for an episode so that we could ask him all the questions we’ve had for ages about puppy play. First things first, Volka has a sound effects board. I am sorry I failed to control Bakji, he far less pliable and a lot more defiant when fully clothed. You will hear a lot of sound effect, and I mean a lot. The good news is, we haven’t got a sound board. The bad news is, Bakji wants one. So watch this space. Anyway, back to puppy play. Once you start bimbling around the kink community you start to comes across a variety of pet play, ponies, kittens and puppies are probably the most popular and puppy play is a community alongside but also separate from the kink community. There are pup munches, pup events and pup websites to help you meet other like minded pups and/or handlers. Volka was extremely open, and wonderful about answering all our questions. Which means we were able to talk about exactly what being a pup might entail. Is it sexual? Is it platonic? Are there lady pups? What the devil do you do if you go to a pup event? We also ask Volka all about his podcast, all about his personal dynamics, because we’re nosey like that and generally we had a blast and if you think puppy play might be for you, then you need this episode. If you don’t think it’s for you I’m pretty sure you will still find much hilarity within this conversation. Links discussed during the show are as follows: Shut The WOOF Up Puppy Pride RubberDawg Custom Hoods As we always say because it is 100% true, please get in touch, we love hearing from you, whether it’s feedback, questions, or just something daft. You can find us and reach out to us on any of the following: Twitter/proudtobekinky Instagram/proudtobekinky Fetlife/proudtobekinky Facebook/proudtobekinky You can also swing by our Patreon site where you can hear more from us in our episodes of FemDom and Fetish Fun, our spin-off podcast all about our kinky scenes that we enjoy together. If you’re looking for new podcasts to enjoy you can listen to our fellow Podcast Jukebox Network shows, Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God and the Will Sean podcast. We will have new shows joining us soon too. We all love reviews and 5 star ratings, if you haven’t done that yet but would like to do so, then thank you in advance

Happy Birthday to us. That’s right, we have now been releasing episodes for you for one whole year and what a year it has been. We went back and forth with lots of ideas for this episode, but we decided to get back to basics a little bit and discuss the things that we are constantly repeating and go into detail about why we say them and how you can go about acting on the advice should you wish to.   In episode one, Bakji and friend of the show BlueBen discussed how to make kinky friends. Floss recently gave this episode another listen, and was impressed overall that for a first episode it was pretty darn good, but also felt that we could tweak some of the advice after a year of not only podcasting, but also of getting more involved with the community ourselves as well.   In a good chunk of our episodes we say ‘go to a munch’, so we revisit this and discuss why we say that and what benefits we see to munches. We also address the fact that your first munch isn’t always going to be life changing and what to do if the munch you attend isn’t what you hoped for.   We also tackle Fetish events. Which in episode were discussed on the basis of go with friends only. However in the time we have been doing the podcast I have learnt that many larger events are doing meet and greets before the event kicks off, and we’ve also discovered that many smaller events do allow for more of a chance to socialise and meet new people.   Fetlife gets a mention as do our friends over at TheCage.co, as we talk about how best to navigate online platforms and what their uses are. This leads us to a bit of a discussion, where Floss might be a bit ranty about how certain people conduct themselves when sending messages online.   There is also some fun and frivolity, we both talk about some of our favourite episodes, things we love about doing the podcast and what, if anything we’ve learnt in the past year.   This podcast has become a huge part of our lives, and it’s been an unbelievable amount of hard work, but it has been worth every minute of it. Through the podcast we have connected with amazing people all across the world, some of those people have been guests, some listeners and we are so happy to say that many of them have turned into wonderful friends.   For anyone who has missed Floss’ social media posts about us turning one, we just want to say a big thank you to everyone who has listened, given feedback, supported and encouraged us. Each and every one of you has made this experience even better and we can’t wait to see what the next year of podcasting brings.   As always you can contact us via hello@proudtobekinky.com, you can also contact us on Twitter, instagram, Fetlife and Facebook. You can also swing by our Patreon page, and check out our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as our new feature that is coming soon Aftercare Sandwich.   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network, with Off The Cuffs, Drinks with God, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean Podcast. You can find us all on most podcast apps, and if you listen on the Apple Podcast app you can leave us all an awesome 5 star review.

Bisexuality is our topic for today, inspired by the recent bi-visibility week and ally week, Floss asked Bakji if she could hijack an episode to discuss being bisexual. This is a bit of a one sided episode as Bakji as a straight man doesn’t have his own experience of being bisexual. He is however a great ally and was happy for Floss to get on her soapbox for episode to air her views. [caption id="attachment_1889" align="aligncenter" width="300"] Bisexuality Flag[/caption]   Floss gives her own definition of being bisexual, which is definitely at odds with the dictionary definition. As we say in the episode though, we think it’s really important not to invalidate someone else’s identity and experience by saying their bisexuality isn’t the same as yours and therefore it doesn’t count. We also briefly reflect on comparisons and difference between pansexuality and bisexuality. Again the dictionary definition seems to greatly differ from what people in the LGBTQIA+ community are saying, so Floss gives her best attempt at explaining each based on definitions she has been given by people who identify in those ways, with us all being different though these means there isn’t always a one fits all explanation. Bisexual erasure is one of the reasons we decided to this episode. Bisexual people are often ignored, removed, re-explained and falsified, both in the media and within everyday society. This is why many bisexual people have experienced the feeling that their sexuality isn't valid or ‘real’. The continued perpetuating of bisexual erasure means that many of us have experienced and continue to experience being subjected to comments surrounding the various myths of being bisexual. From the myth that we don’t exist, to tales of promiscuity and lack of commitment. The bisexual myths are rife. As we recorded, and when we have discussed this in the past, Bakji has often explained ‘no-one has ever really said that?’ The fact of the matter is that nearly every bisexual person I’ve ever spoken to has had the majority of bisexual myths aimed in their direction. Which make the comment of ‘your just doing it for attention’ hilarious, because the attention we get as an openly bisexual person is usually negative. That said however, this episode is predominantly about Floss’ experience, so your bisexual journey will look different, and we are definitely not saying one size fits all. If you have a different experience that you would like to share with us then please do get in touch. As always you can contact us on hello [at] proudtobekinky.com. You can also reach out via Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook. You can also find us on Patreon, www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky where for $2 a month you can get access to our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, where Bakji and Floss discuss their kinky scene in great and sexy detail. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network, along with Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean Podcast. If you podcast app allows for reviews and rating, we are always grateful for anyone who takes the time to give us an awesome review.

Bakji and Floss return without a guest this weeks to discuss the internal conflicts some of our kinks might cause us to have. Inspired by a post Floss saw on Reddit, where the poster wanted to be submissive and also humiliated and degraded yet felt this was at odds with her feminist views. We decided that this was a great topic of discussion because there are many kinks that often highlight this issue, in some way shape or form. Probably a lot more than we could cover in one short episode. So many of our views on our kinks seem to be shaped by the environment we grew up, and how previous partners have reacted, so what seems like a perfectly acceptable kink to one person, might cause all kinds of conflicts in another. As well as discussing some of the kinks that most often seem to crop up in this line of thought, we also talk about whether these feelings are part of the reason some of us take our time to find our way to the kink community. While we have both had a fair while to adjust to our own kinks and on the whole feel very comfortable and excited by them, however we have to make our own adjustments when it comes to exploring new kinks and also in enjoying long standing kinks a little less, so we talk about those a little too and how we’ve approached those situations personally. This topic of conversation also bring us round to the subject of how we think our kinks developes. While it could probably be a whole episode in and of itself we do discuss it a little bit. Both Bakji and Floss are now playing with similar kinks, how long we have been kinky and how we discovered them are very different journeys. We have had loads of lovely messages the past couple of weeks, please keep them coming if you have anything you’d like to share with us. Whether is comments on the show, questions or advice on kink or a topic you’d like us to cover. You can get in touch with us on any of the following platforms: hello [at] proudtobekinky.com Instagram Twitter Facebook Fetlife We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network, so you can check out our sister shows Off The Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and Parking Lot Radio.

Eva from TheCage.co is our guest today. The cage is a social networking site and online community for people interested in kink, BDSM and Fetish. It has been going for just over a year and now and we invited Eva along to tell us a little bit more about it. [caption id="attachment_1112" align="aligncenter" width="300"] www.thecage.co[/caption] As well as talking about TheCage.co, we also wanted to talk to Eva a little bit about online D/s. When it came up in a thread on Twitter Floss realised it wasn’t something we had ever really discussed on the podcast and as it is popular within the kink community we felt it was something we should be talking about.   When Floss started to do some research for this episode to gather some questions together for Eva, she discover that the world of online D/s is not easy to find good and supportive information on. In any forum where a question on online D/s was asked there were two automatic responses 1. An assumption you'll eventually move into in person D/s and 2. Disparaging comments about the discussion to opt for online D/s.   We discuss whether the huge divide between online and offline D/s is really necessary and whether or not we shouldn’t just be supporting everyone who wants to explore their kinks regardless of that being online or locally at munch.   Eva gives us some tips and advice for those people who are looking to explore their kinks with an online friend or partner. There are unfortunately a lot of scammers out there and we do want everyone to play safe, this means looking after yourself in both face to face encounters but also there are lots of things to consider when playing online too.   We also discuss some general kinks topics and we obviously introduce Eva to the wonderful world of Quick Fire Questions. It was a delight to chat to Eva, so please do go along and give TheCage.co a little visit and see what you can find there to entertain you.   As always if you have any feedback you can email us on hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also follow us and message us on social media.We are on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook. You can also find us on Patreon by searching for ‘proudtobekinky’, you can find our Patron only podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun there, where Bakji and I spare no details when discussing our kinky scenes.   We are also Part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off The Cuffs, the Will Sean Podcast, Parking Lot Radio and Drinks with God. If you listen on Apple Podcast you can leave any of us a wonderful review should be feeling generous.

Communication is our topic this week, as Bakji and I (Floss) go it alone to share their thoughts on the importance of communicating with your partner. Our private conversations over the last few weeks have come back round to communication on many occasions. Both reflecting on how communicating with previous partners has been more difficult than we felt it should be, and why we thought that might be. We discuss why communication is so important especially within the kink community, be that with a casual play partner or within an established dynamic. Whether you are wanting to talk about sexual desires, kinky desires or your relationship as a whole, we cover how there is often a time and place for these discussions and how sensitivity and empathy is a must. Face to face, over the phone, Whatsapp, Trello and Instagram are all methods of communicating Bakji and I have used in our time together. I always feel that as adults we are meant to be totally down with face to face communication, but I’m here to say, sod that. Sort of. I think if something is making you feel anxious when it comes to discussing it, and you can find a more comfortable way to express yourself that will move things forward, then why not do it. That said myself and Bakji have both become a lot better at actually using our words and communicating with each other both the good, the not so good, and of the course the kinky, sexy awesomeness. We discuss how this has helped our relationship, and what we think made communicating with each other different to previous relationships. We reflect on how our experiences of talking about sex and physical desires in our younger years are very different. We wonder if this is a gender divide, or a throwback to when women were actively discouraged from embracing and enjoying their sexuality and having their sexual needs and want wasn’t seen as the done thing. The Top/bottom dynamic also extends outside of kink dynamics and into non-kink sexual interactions, we do feel though that isn’t explored outside of the kink community and therefore it can sometimes be hard to express your needs without those terms at your disposal to help explain the nuances of what it is you're looking for. Things get mildly controversial as we discuss the importance of sexual attraction and desire in life, and how romantic love sometimes gets prioritised when it isn’t necessarily the most important thing for everyone. We talk about how knowing what is important to you is what matters most and being able to express that without feeling guilty is essential. If you have any thoughts yourself on this week's episode, or any others please do get in touch with us. You can contact us via hello@proudtobekinky, or you can hit social media and find us on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook. We have had some truly wonderful messages recently and they have made us smile from ear to ear, and one may have brought a tear to my eye. When you’ve caught up on all the episodes of #ProudToBeKinky and you’re looking for somethign else to listen to check out our friends in the Podcast Jukebox Network. Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean podcast. They are all fabulous for different reasons, but well worth a listen.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone, hosts of the Loving BDSM Podcast, are our guests this week. Not only do they host a podcast, but they each have their own blog, and Loving BDSM has it’s own site with a great community feel to it, helped by the forum and other additions such as their monthly book club.   We discuss how Kayla and John met and how their dynamic works for them, with Kayla identifying as a Babygirl and John being a Daddy Dom. They also identify as having a 24/7 dynamic, but how they manage and maintain that may not be the same as how other people do. We are big fans of sharing experiences and inviting other people to take from that what is useful to them, and Kayla and John do a wonderful job of sharing their thoughts in an open, honest and inviting manner.   Reading someone’s blog can be a great insight into who they are and what they are interested in. As their blogs played a key part in how they got together, it leads us to talk about both John and Bakji did their research before wooing their respective partners. Lots of friendships have been built through blogs and social media too, and we ponder how we are meant to make friends with someone who isn’t baring their soul on the internet on a daily basis. When you are a proud and self confessed social media whore.   Evolution of kinks and kink identities is a huge part of being a kinky person. Almost everyone within the kink community has a got a story of how they have changed since joining the scene. This usually means more fun and a better understanding of both ourselves and kink as a whole. Kayla and John share how their relationship has evolved, their online presence has evolved and also how their kinks have evolved, both individually and as a couple.   Part of what makes Loving BDSM a must listen podcast is the fact John and Kayla allow fun and silliness not only into their lives but also into their D/s. While there is a lot of serious conversations that need to be had when you are engaging in BDSM, it is also meant to be fun. This comes up in the podcast through the various points raised, including what our various approaches to aftercare look like, and it isn’t necessarily how you’d imagine it look, especially if you are new to kink.   There is so much more that we cover in this episode, but I think I shall let you discover the rest for yourself, or the blog post will be a mammoth essay rather than a little round-up. You can find all the links to Loving BDSM below, as well as links to other resources mentioned within this episode.   As well as Loving BDSM, you can also listen to the other fab podcast that our part of our little Podcast Jukebox Network. Off the Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and Parking Lot Radio. We are all on iTunes and we will love you forever if you leave us a star rating and review. You can also wing by our Patreon site and see what is going on their for our Patrons. The most exciting of which is access to our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish fun, to check that out use this link https://www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky. You can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook, just use the seqarch term ‘proudtobekinky’.

Lee Harrington is our guest this week, and if for some reason this is your first time listening to Lee speak you are in for a treat. Not only is he a friendly and extremely likeable person, he is also knowledgeable about so many topics it's hard to know what to ask him about first.   Having perused some of the wealth of resources Lee has to offer, 10 books to date, educational classes, podcasts (both his own and guest spots on other people’s), a blog, plus a presence on various social media platforms. We asked Lee what inspires him to carry out the work he does and the answer in itself is inspiring.   As you know myself and Bakji are relatively new to the kink scene, hence why we don’t class ourselves as educators when it comes to the podcast, we are just two people who are keen to share our experiences in the hope they might resonate with other people and give them support and encouragement where needed in terms of embracing either their local scene, their kinks or perhaps both. Less however has got two decades worth of experience of the kink scene under his belt. So we ask him how he came to discover his kinky side and what brought him into the kink community.   Our previous episode that addressed the topic of gender, ‘Episode 30 - Cross-Dressing and Being GenderFluid’ was a huge success. So we wanted to take some time to talk to Lee about this. As someone who openly discusses his own journey with gender, his insight and thoughts on gender identity are both educational and thought provoking. I challenge anyone who thinks they know about gender, or the issues some people face in relation to their gender to listen to Lee and not learn something.   We also talk about the crazy rude questions people often ask, relating to both gender and sexuality and how those questions are best navigated. This also leads us to discuss what constitutes sex, how opinions on this can vary and that knowing your partners view on this can be of great importance.   Floss gets herself flustered again when we talk about the bathroom bill that is being proposed in Lee’s current home state of Alaska. In which people will be required to use the bathroom of the gendered assigned on their birth certificate, regardless of how they are currently presenting. Lee was actually heading straight to protest for this right after we spoke with him.   It would be remiss of us to have Lee on without asking him about rope. As someone who has been tying long before there were online tutorials and a rope gathering in every city. We are thoroughly spoilt now with the amount of information we can obtain when it comes to Shibari, and it’s people like Lee that we have to thank for that. People who painstakingly reverse engineered ties and made connections with other people across the world who could impart their wisdom also.   If you would like to know more about Lee you can find him at passionandsoul.com, through there you can read his blog posts and check out what other podcasts you can listen to him on. His chat with our sister podcast Off The Cuffs turned into a two parter and is well worth a listen.   As well as Off The Cuffs, we are also joined in the Podcast Jukebox Network by the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and Parking Lot Radio. You can find all of us on most podcast apps. You can also find us all on a variety of social media platforms, including our new Podcast Jukebox Facebook group. If you have any comments on this episode or the podcast in general you can email us via hello@proudtobekinky.com, or get in touch on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife or Facebook. You can also check us out on Patreon, www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky, home of our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun.

Kinky nostalgia is this weeks topic as Bakji and I take a walk down memory lane and discuss some of our favourite kinky scenes. Though we each suffer from what we call ‘kink amnesia’, so remembering the exact details seems to be a little tricky. Key moments seem to stick with us though, so those are the topic of discussion.   We discuss our varying experiences with early adventures into obtaining and exploring pornography. While one of us was content with movies and tv that had sexy scenes in, the other person rooted through bins and skips to obtain such things. There’s also talk of floppy disks containing jpegs and dial up internet. I really don’t think the youth of today realise how lucky wireless internet makes them.   First sex toys make an appearance too. Well an appearance in the conversation, not a physical appearance. Due to the fact that the first sex toy I ever bought ended up being a recalled item that had some very dubious issues, I no longer have that in my possession. Bakji tells a very sad story about the very first sex toy he ordered, the words sucks, strokes and masturbate are said a lot.   This is a little bit of an indulgent episode, mostly to celebrate the birthday of Bakji, also it is a good chance to give our listeners a little bit of an insight into what it is that we love to do together that encourages us to do the podcast. For us this podcast is about getting other people connected with like minded friends and/or partner/s to enjoy their own kinky times with.   We focus on the physical side of things a fair bit in this episode, and also in the episodes of FemDom and Fetish Fun that we do. We wouldn’t enjoy any of those things half as much though without the foundation of friendship and the emotional connection that strengthened with lots of getting to know each other. Which is why we encourage people to make friends of all kinds, sexy friends, platonic friends, rope friends and one of our favourites podcasting friends. Those podcasting people are awesome.   Speaking of podcasting friends. Please do head over to the Podcast Jukebox Network, we have accounts on Twitter and Facebook, so you can follow what #ProudToBeKinky has going on without publicly liking a kink page/account. Other podcast included in the network are Off The Cuffs, the Will Sean Podcast, Parking Lot Radio and Drinks with God. They are all awesome podcasts so do swing by and give them a listen.   If you have no issues with liking a kink account, then follow us on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Fetlife. There are links on all the #ProudToBeKinky pages for our personal accounts you are also more than welcome to follow us there too. Feel free to give us a tweet/comment to let us know you are listener following and we will give you a big virtual hug. You can also head over to our Patreon site www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky, and check out what kind of rewards our Patrons are getting. Currently the most exciting of which is our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. Currently three episodes are available with many more to come. Floss also does weekly Patron only blog posts that give a round-up of our weekends and information on what guests we have coming up

Sex is our topic of discussing this week. As we are joined by Tanya and Megan from the ‘Take Back Your Sex’ podcast. While we talk a lot about kink and sexy things in general, it isn’t very often we actually talk about sex. So it was great to have these ladies on to fuel a positive discussion surrounding this subject. Tanya has been blogging about sex in various guises for many years, so we asked how she and Megan came together to form the takebackyoursex.com blog and what prompted them to then move into podcasting.  We also discuss a few of our own learning curves of starting the pod.  We delve back into the topic of swinging again, and ask Tanya how she has found her adventures in non-monogamy. A topic that is currently a popular conversation with team #ProudToBeKinky as Bakji and I take our tentative first steps towards swinging adventures. More on that in future podcasts.  Slut shaming is a big conversation, and a topic that Tanya and Megan tackle often on their blog, podcast and social media platforms. Here at #ProudToBeKinky we definitely agree that slut shaming needs to end. So while we are not self identified sluts ourselves, we are 100% in support of those that are and are more than happy to be an ally in the fight against slut shaming.   We also discuss how things can change when you start exploring things that are new to you, in this instance those things are kink and non-monogamy. Many of us join the kink scene, or get into relationships with firm expectations of what we will and won’t do, and tend to expect our partners to fit into that same model. Often though once you start exploring new things your desires and boundaries can shift dramatically and you can find yourself interested in trying so many new things. As we have said before many times on the podcast, embracing this and being open to new things is one of our top tips for enjoying the kink community.  Sex education also comes under some scrutiny as we comment on how neither the U.S or U.K seems to quite have it right. It’s definitely something we need to be talking about more in terms of educating ourselves about everything from consent to contraception. But also how do those of us who are sex positive and also parents educate our children so that future generations are also sex positive.  Part of the sex education conversation takes us onto the topic of self love and body positivity and it’s some Floss was particularly keen to talk about. Despite her prolific use of Instagram including many, many shameless bum selfies, her body confidence was not always as high and taking those steps towards body positivity can be hard for many people.  There is much more to hear in this episode too. You can also tune in to Megan and Tanya on their own podcast ‘Take Back Your Sex’ to hear more from them. If you have any questions or comments on this episode you can email us on hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also follow us on instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Fetlife. You can also check out our Patreon site www.pateon.com/proudtobekinky, which is now the home of our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, which all Patrons gain access to.  As always a shout to our friends on the Podcast Jukebox Network, Off The Cuffs, Parking Lot Radio, Will Sean Podcast and Drinks with God. Please do give them a listen and anyone who is listening on iTunes can leave a wonderful 5 star review for all of us.

Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy is this weeks focus, as Bakji and Floss are joined by the wonderful Page Turner from the website Poly.Land and also author of a new book Poly Land: My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory. We stumbled across Page via Fetlife, when Floss came across her post Homing Pigeon Primary:Good Things Are Hard To Screw Up which was cross-posted from the Poly.Land blog. Since then Floss has been an avid reader of Poly.Land, and was very keen to give Page’s book a read once it was released. Polyamory is hard to miss as a lifestyle choice and subject matter when you join the kink scene, there is a fairly sizeable amount of kinky people who are either polyamorous, or have some kind of ethical non-monogamous activity within their relationships. With that in mind it has been important to cover polyamory at some point, finding the right people to discuss certain topics is important though, so we were delighted when Page said she would be happy to come and chat with us for an episode.   We cover some general things with Page like what inspired her to start her blog and how that progressed into her book. Also on a more personal level we discuss how she got into polyamory in the beginning and how she has navigated to the point she is at now.   Other topics we cover are some poly top-tips, and some useful resources, (other than Page’s own blog and book), which are recommended for people who are interested in exploring polyamory, or even just starting a conversation about potentially opening up. Some of the resources we mention are:   Polyamory Weekly - blog and podcast More Than Two - blog and book The Ethical Slut - book Poly In The News - blog Ferret Steinmetz - blog Daring Greatly - the book mentioned by Page that isn’t specifically about Poly   We also touch upon the controversial question of can you learn to be poly or must it be our natural leanings, parting ways gracefully. the beauty of compersion and meeting Stephen King. Bakji also tries to make quick fire questions poly related, which doesn’t really work, but we try and roll with it anyway.   Our email is hello@proudtobekinky.com, and you are welcome to use that for podcast comments or questions, or even just general kink related questions if you think we can be of assistance. You can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook.   If you have listened to all of the #ProudToBeKinky episodes and are looking for new podcasts to check out, then please tune in to some of the other podcasts in the Podcast Jukebox Network; Off the Cuffs, Parking Lot Radio, the Will Sean Podcast and Drinks With God. We all appreciate lovely reviews being left for us too if you listen on iTunes.

Cross-dresser. Transvestite. Gender-Fluid. Transgender. BiGender. Just a few of the words that come up in this episode. They may not mean to you what they mean to our guest, and every approach is valid when someone identifies with any or all of those words. The words we have at our disposal to describe ourselves can be key in our acceptance of who we are. Being able to successfully put across  to others, where we fall on the spectrum of gender can sometimes also be key to their understanding of who we are. Allowing for more open and beneficial conversations. [caption id="attachment_1377" align="aligncenter" width="300"] Crossdressing and Being Gender Fluid[/caption]   Our guest for this episode presents as both male and female. George when presenting as male, and Georgie when presenting as female. When we met it was a day for she and her pronouns, despite Bakji’s accidental faux pas of ‘we are joined with a chap named George’ right at the beginning of our interview. Luckily we were talking to a very open, lovely and level-headed individual who understands these things happen. If you would like to follow George on Twitter you can do so via @georgemitton. Part of why we were keen to invite George onto the podcast is that he is completely open with everyone in his life about his Gender-Fluid orientation. Including family, friends and colleagues. With many aspects of BDSM and alternative lifestyles of all types the decision about whether or not to be open is a really big one. So speaking to someone who has been through it was an interesting experience. We asked Georgie how and when she discover this side of herself, and how it integrated into her life in both the earlier days, and up to and including the present day. This includes some success stories of sharing with others, and periods of time where George was pushed to the forefront, and the fluidity of gender was not as present. Overall though this is an immensely positive episode, we discuss how we can best approach telling people about the aspect of yourself you have yet to share with them, in this case being Gender-Fluid, but it could equally apply to other situations. We also cover women (and of course men) who not only support men who identify in these ways, but are also actively attracted to them. Make-up, clothes, prosthetic boobs and wigs also come up in conversation, as we ask Georgie where some good places to shop are, and what key pieces she finds most useful. Likewise we enquire as to what kind of events are available, for once you are all dressed up and want to get together with some like minded folk. Obviously as always you can hit Fetlife and the usual Fetish events and munches that we recommend, but we actually do discover some new events through talking to Georgie.  If any of what we talk about in this episode resonates with you, but you still have questions or any comments then please do get in touch. You can email us via hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also get in touch through any one of our social media accounts, we are on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook. All messages are welcome.  We are also proud to be part of the Podcast Jukebox Network. If you haven’t already please check out, Off The Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean Podcast. If you listen to any of us on iTunes/Apple podcast app, please do leave us a review, they really are invaluable for helping other find the podcasts you enjoy. You can also support us on Patreon, any support will go towards growing the podcast so we can reach more people, speak to more guests and generally make #ProudToBeKinky the best damn podcast it can be.

Kinkster and Author Nookie Notes joins Bakji and Floss in this episode to discuss Female Led Relationships and her new website datingkinky.com. Part of what makes the kink community great is people with good insights on relationships and people who are will to present the community with new ideas and opportunities. Having followed Nookie Notes on Fetlife for some times and finding myself continuously loving lots of her writing, I thought why not invite her on the podcast. There were quite a few technical issues to overcome with this episode, the first time a Skype session has ever given is this much trouble, so please do bear with the episode even if there is the odd drop in sound.   Once we got chatting though we had a brilliant discussion chatting with Nookie Notes. We asked her about her writing, which you can find via her Fetlife account, she has also written a fair few books which you can find on amazon. Her books are predominantly about Female Led Relationships, with her erotica containing a good dose of cuckolding. While her Fetlife writings cover a wide range of subjects including consent, feelings, orgasms and much more.   We were very interested to discuss Nookie’s take on FLR’s and what they involve and how they relate to Kink, or if indeed they need to be related at all. Here at ProudToBeKinky we are big FemDom fans, not sure if anyone has ever noticed that, but FLR’s are different in and of themselves, so it was interested to hear where the similarities and differences lay.   As the podcast that likes to discuss the social side of kink we couldn’t have Nookie on without asking about the dating website she has created, datingkinky.com. She told us all about how she came to the decision to start a dating website, and how it has been developing over the last  6 months. We are really excited to see how this pans out in the future, and hopefully hear lots of great success stories of people finding great matches through it.   Quick fire questions return, as does out nosiness about what our guest is doing at the weekend, and as always there a fair few tangents that uncover some interesting topics of conversation, bidets and toilet roll included.   Regular listeners will have noticed our introduction now has a new addition, from our friends over at Off The Cuffs who kindly invited us into the Podcast Jukebox Network, please do listen to the great podcasts included in that, and leave them and us a great review if you are listening on iTunes/Apple Podcasts. If you have any comments, or questions for us, about the podcast or kink in general, you can get in touch on anyone of our social media accounts; Fetlife, Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Just search for ‘proudtobekinky’ and there we will be. You can also swing by our Patreon page and support us there too, you can also get in touch with ideas for what rewards you would like to see on the Patreon page, all suggestions welcome.

Swinging is our focus this week, as we are joined by Author Cooper S. Beckett. He has written three books ‘A Life Less Monogamous’, ‘Life on the Swingset’ and ‘Approaching the Swingularity’. When we have an author on the show we always attempt to read as much of their work as possible, once again we were blown away by how much we enjoyed Cooper’s writing. [caption id="attachment_1344" align="aligncenter" width="300"] My Life on the Swingset[/caption] There is often a lot of me, us, them amongst the varying subsets of alternative lifestyles. BDSM lifestylers aren’t always swingers, swingers aren’t always polyamorous and polyamorous folk may neither swing or be kinky. Some people however might be all three. Part of why I loved chatting with Cooper is that he wants us all to pull together. People outside of all three of those groups are likely to be judging us, and not kindly. The last thing we need is to be turning on each other as well.   Myself and Bakji are not swingers. We are non-monogamous kinksters who have been fascinated only by each other for a fair while now. Swinging wasn’t really something either of us had ever really considered ‘our thing’. However after reading Cooper’s books and chatting to him, we are actually talking about the fact that this could be fun for us. At the end of the day we love making new friends, we enjoy being sexy and perhaps we could learn more about a lifestyle that could be great for some of our listeners.   In this episode we talk about who might benefit from opening their relationship and what things you should be considering before, during and after opening up. We also talk about jealousy and what it can mean for us when that feeling is present and what we can do to work through that with our partner/s.   If you’re new to non-monogamy as a concept it can be easy to box up each subsection of it and see them as completely different entities, however as we talk to Cooper we discuss they notion of it being more a spectrum that you can move back and forth along depending on the types of people you meet and relationships you engage in.   As the social and interpersonal podcast we are always wondering what is it about each episode that might encourage or help people get themselves out and about and making like minded friends, and/or partner/s. While we don’t yet have all the advice on swinging we will do our best to help you find the answers should you be interested in getting your swing on.   You can also check out Cooper’s Podcast ‘Life on the Swingset’ for more information. On the subject of other podcasts, we are now part of the podcast network Podcast Jukebox, with our sister podcasts ‘Off The Cuffs: a kink and BDSM Podcast’, the ‘Will Sean Podcast’ and ‘Parking Lot Radio’. Please do give them all a listen. After you’ve listened to us though, we want to be your favourite.   All feedback is welcomed, as are questions relating to the podcast or about kink in general. You can email us via hello@proudtobekinky.com, or you can get in touch through any of our social media accounts, Instagram, Twitter and Fetlife. You can also support us on Patreon, which will enable us to grow the podcast and reach more curious kinksters and help them get their kink on.  

Relationship Engineering is this weeks topic, as Bakji and Floss return to get personal as they discuss how they manage their own relationship, within both a kink context and a romantic context.   It’s fair to say that both Bakji and Floss have quite distinct thoughts on how they like to approach relationships. Many of which have been formed by past experiences, some have been formed since joining the kink scene and a few are based on personal situations. Whatever the reason for each individual belief though, they can only really work because they are supported by both partners.   We are big believers in having the relationship that makes all involved in it happy. So this could be two people in a monogamous relationship, or it could be five people in a polycule. For us it doesn’t matter how your relationship looks, so long as it is making you happy.   A huge part of making any relationship work is communication, we are honest in saying this has been something we have definitely had to work on. It hasn’t come easily for us. However, the desire to continue having and building intimacy has propelled us forward in terms of how effective our communication is. In the podcast we talk about some methods we’ve found to help us communicate better and also the reasons why we perhaps neglected communication in the early days of our relationship.   While we don’t delve deeply into non-monogamy it is mentioned, a lot of the thoughts Floss mentions on this subject have been shaped by some other great resources. It would be a very long list for a blog post, but do get in touch if you would like more information on this.   We also talk around conventional relationship expectations and labels, and how you can become more comfortable using alternative explanations for how you present your relationship model to the outside world, who more often than not will have an opinion that you probably won’t ask for, but will hear anyway. Relationship goals and milestones also pop up to, and we discuss want you can do if you still want to include these things but without the usual formatting.   As always we would love to hear your feedback on this episode and all our previous episodes. Ideas for future episodes or general kink questions are also welcome. Our email is hello@proudtobekinky.com, or you can find us on Instagram, Twitter and Fetlife. You can also support us on Patreon, so we can continue to grow the podcast, reach even more people and help them get their kink on. Please have a listen to our friends Podcast ‘Off The Cuffs’ for more on kink, fetish and BDSM.

Download here Staying safe is the focus of this week's episode. As I (Floss) perused the BDSM subreddit she stumbled across a post that made her stop and think. We spend a lot of time encouraging people to make friends and meet like minded people, and while we are great advocates of munches and fetish events, we do understand that sometimes those avenues aren’t everyone’s first venture into kink.   Like the writer of the Reddit post, many people get chatting to someone online and choose to move their interactions into a real life meeting. While for some people this can lead to great experiences, and wonderful friendships and relationships. For many people, it is less successful. The particular post I read was an uncomfortable one to see, and it also caused some reflection on my own past decisions.   With that in mind, I proposed the idea of this episode to Bakji. I wanted to talk about how we can best keep ourselves safe, should we choose to arrange one on one meetings with people we meet online, or perhaps have had less time to get to know. We also take about the things that may well be red flags, and should perhaps make us think twice about moving forward with such interactions.   Topics discussed in this episode are:   Social proof and why it’s important Ideas for staying safe when meeting someone new What behaviour should we be questioning Suggestions for where to meet new people   We want people to know they’re not alone in navigating those early days of finding a suitable partner, or making their way onto the fetish scene to find friends, and we definitely want you to know we have made our own mistakes along our journey, and that is partly what drives us to keep doing the podcast. BDSM is such a great and wonderful thing to explore and it is made even more glorious when you find the right people to enjoy it with and that is what we want for all our listeners. We have had some great feedback since the the last episode, please keep all your emails and comments coming. Our email as always is hello@proudtobekinky.com, or you can get in touch via any of social media accounts, Instagram, Twitter or Fetlife.

SlapStick Fetish Club has been running for a year, Bakji and Floss made their first visit back in March and were instantly seduced and it’s definitely up there as one of their top Fetish nights out. So when the lovely Pierre and Hannah who run the event agreed to come onto the podcast we were overjoyed. [caption id="attachment_1269" align="aligncenter" width="245"] SlapStick Club[/caption] We can promote other people's events as much as we like, but hearing about events from the people that organise them is even better. One of the reasons people have said they enjoy the podcast is because it shows them that there are nice, regular people on the scene, the same goes for the people arranging events. They’re nice people who want to put on awesome events for like minded kinksters. I hope that by us talking to people who run Fetish nights, it will encouraging those of you who have yet to make it to your first Fetish event, to do just that.   Topics covered in this episode:   What are their top tips for a first visit to a Fetish event What made them decide to set up a Fetish event What did they want to do a little bit different to other events Is it difficult finding suitable locations for events   At one point we digress a little bit into a discussion about swinging clubs. While they aren’t something any of us who host the podcast have experienced, and despite the fact there isn’t a huge swinging/BDSM crossover, we appreciate that some of our listeners might have interest in this aspect of sexual exploration, if so we hope some of what we discuss today will be of some use.   Hannah and Pierre were also kind enough to share a little bit more about themselves, and the relationships they are in and the types of kink activities they enjoy. We also asked how they initially discovered kink and what made them join the fetish scene.   You can find out more about SlapStick Club on their website www.slapstickclub.com, they are also on Instagram, slaptick.club, on Twitter @Slap_Stick_Club and Facebook, https://www.facebook.com/slapstickclub/. Their next event is on May 20th in London, so check that out if you think this sounds like your kind of night out. As always questions and comments on this episode and any of our previous episodes can be sent via hello@proudtobekinky, or via any of our social media accounts. You can find us on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook. We also have our Patreon account for anyone who would like to support the podcast and help us make it even better and reach more people.

Bootblacking came up in conversation back in episodes 12 and 13, when Bakji and Floss discussed the various roles you encounter on the Fetlife dropdown menu. At the time it was a new one for Bakji, and Floss had limited information but did feel it would be a fun one to discuss in the future should we meet anyone who could share their experiences of being a bootblack. [caption id="attachment_1237" align="aligncenter" width="300"] Boot Blacking[/caption] As luck would have it that is exactly what has happened. Via the wonders of internet friends, email and Skype, we are able bring to you a chat with the lovely Aiden, who came onto the podcast to discuss his experiences of being a bootblack, as well as a host of other things.   Aiden has been on the scene for around 10 years, so once again it’s nice to chat to someone with a fair amount of experience under their kinky belt. While bootblacking isn’t his primary kink, it is the one that piqued our interest and it was definitely a conversation that gave us more understanding of the how’s and why’s of this kink.   Some of the things we discuss surround bootblacking are:   Is it just shining boots? Or can other things be shined? Is it purely service oriented? Or is there a sexual element for some people? What products can you use? Where can you go if you’re interested in bootblacking?   We also chat to Aiden about the type of dynamics he’s currently involved in, some of his other kinks and what his thoughts are on getting social and making your way to a munch. The curious side of also wonders what the weekend brings for other kinksters, so we get the inside track on Aiden’s weekend plans and upcoming events.   Quick fire questions returns as well, because it is our new favourite thing. Guests always answer so differently and usually to great success. So expect more of this in the future, including more talks of sushi. If you have any ideas for some quick fire question please do email them to us via hello@proudtobekinky, as well as any other comments or questions you may have about the podcast. You can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter and Fetlife, and our Patreon page is now up and running so please do check us out there.

This week, Dick Wound and minimus maximus are joined by, Floss and Bakji, of the ProudToBeKinky podcast, to talk about kinky podcasting of course.  We had a wonderful time getting to know them.  Be sure to check out their podcast as well, as they have a couple of handsome devils coming on their show next week. PLEASE RATE, REVIEW, and SUBSCRIBE to the show! Keep us ad free! Give us a buck or two: https://www.patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com www.offthecuffs.org 1 (631) 881-KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimus_maximus www.fetlife.com/ProudToBeKinky www.fetlife.com/_Floss_www.fetlife.com/Bakji Follow us on Twitter: @ocpkink @DickWound @MinimusMaxim @ProudToBeKinky Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Our public kik group is #ocpkik We're also on www.thecage.co Don't forget to check out our friend's podcasts: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast & RISK!

Welcome to Episode 19 of #ProudToBeKinky, where Bakji and Floss talk through their experiences and thoughts on the various headspaces you may encounter when you start exploring Kink, Fetish and BDSM. [caption id="attachment_1312" align="aligncenter" width="300"] SubSpace and TopSpace[/caption] When you first join the scene there are lots of new phrases you start to hear, one of the most common being 'subspace'. If you’ve played a little but never heard the term before, it can be hard to know if you've experienced it. It can also for some people become a bit of a goal to reach, and disappointment can occur for those people who struggle to get the experience of subspace they’d like.   However we don’t want anyone to feel disappointed in any aspect of their kink lifestyle. So in this episode we also cover the fact that this is something that can happen, but not experiencing it doesn’t detract from how much fun kinky play can be. In fact there may be situations in which people actively avoid subspace, so we touch on those too.   For those people who do like the idea of getting a bit ‘spacey’, we discuss what actions might get you there, and what you can expect when you have that experience. While subspace is probably the most talked about headspace on the scene, 'Top space' and 'rope space' are also ones we have come across on a fairly regular basis, so we have a little chat about those too.   When we experience subspace/Topspace, whether it’s for the first time, or if you’re seasoned player. The after effects of the intensity it brings can have an effect. This is what people will refer to as drop. We discuss how drop may feel for various people, and how aftercare can make drop less likely to occur, or at least bring comfort during it.   Topics covered in this episode:   The different types of headspaces you may encounter How to get into that ‘spacey’ zone Why you might want avoid going ‘spacey’ How to transition from spacey play back into reality The after effect of subspace/Topspace How to alleviate drop   As always if you have any comments on this episode, previous episodes or the podcast in general please do get in touch via hello@proudtobekinky.com. We also are also happy to respond to any comment on Instagram, Twitter or Fetlife. So do give us a follow and say a little hello.