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///// SORRY ABOUT THE ECHO!!!! ///////   Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE! > https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E    Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page > www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky   Just Bakji this week. I talk about 3D printing, if it’s worth getting one to make kinky bits as well as the things I’ve made.   Links: 3D Printer: http://tiny.cc/7kfuez Plastic Filament: http://tiny.cc/2lfuez Fusion360: http://tiny.cc/kqfuez Cura: http://tiny.cc/1rfuez    PLEASE NOTE: We were having problems with our email address but it DOES STILL WORK! (If you contacted us between July and August 2019 then I’m sorry to say we were not able to see your email. Please send it again)   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. 

Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE! > https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E    Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page > www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky   We talk about cunilingus! After Bakji read ‘She Comes First’ to learn more about give oral sex, we discuss what it’s really like from Floss’ perspective.    ‘She Comes First’ on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/She-Comes-First-Thinking-Pleasuring-ebook/dp/B000FC1PRK    PLEASE NOTE: We were having problems with our email address but it DOES STILL WORK! (If you contacted us between July and August 2019 then I’m sorry to say we were not able to see your email. Please send it again)   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. 

Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE! > https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E    Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page > www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky   We chat about the films, TV shows and websites that we saw when we were younger that helped shape our kinks.    PLEASE NOTE: We are having problems with our email address but it DOES STILL WORK!   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE! > https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E    Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page > www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky   WE'RE BACK! This week we talk about New and Old Relationship Energy... what is that? Well have a little listen and find out.   Here are some of the links we mentioned: More Than Two: https://www.amazon.com/More-Than-Two-Practical-Polyamory/dp/0991399706/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8 The article from Poly.Land: https://poly.land/2017/02/21/7-ways-keep-love-alive-make-old-relationship-feel-new/     PLEASE NOTE: We were unable to receive any emails to hello@proudtobekinky.com between 2nd July 2019 and 9th September 2019, really sorry. The email address is now working fine, please email again if you didn't get a reply.   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. 

Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE! > https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E    Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page > www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky   We talk about dynamics and BDSM, kind of like the roles between two people… it’s hard to explain really so just give it a little listen!   PLEASE NOTE: We are having problems with our email address but it DOES STILL WORK!   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE and say hello! > https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E    Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page > www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky   We continue with those questions that are designed to make someone fall in love. I think it worked!   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE! > https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E    Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page > www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky We talk to Max Long & Kitty Delish again! Max brings his floggers, whips and paddles along and we talk all about impact play.     If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE... and say 'Hello'! > https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E   Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page > www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky This week Floss asks me (Bakji) 36 questions designed to make ‘someone fall in love’. Listen to see if it worked!   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE! > https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E   Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page > www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky I ask Floss the famous Proust Questions but don’t worry… we make them sexy and kinky. (And strip out the depressing ones!)     Here are the questions: https://www.vanityfair.com/magazine/2000/01/proust-questionnaire   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE! > https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E   Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page > www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky In this mini-episode I Bakji discuss three kinky things I recently found out about. Those things are:   Secret102 - A UK based kinky radio station - www.secret102.com Deviant Designs - Brilliant kinky contraptions - https://www.pornhub.com/model/deviant-designs SexToyCollective.com -  Design your own sex toys!   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE! > https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E   Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page > www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky   I, Bakji, well and truly dominated Floss' botty last week for the first time in a long while. We discuss what it's like to be the bottom after a very long time without doing it.   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE! > https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E   Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page > www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky   Want to see our Kinky fun? You can visit our OnlyFans page > www.onlyfans.com/ptbkinky   This week’s sponsor > www.thesissykit.com   We talk about how kinky scenes and sessions can go wrong but how you shouldn’t let it ruin your overall kinky fun.   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE! > https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E   Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page > www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky   Want to see our Kinky fun? You can visit our OnlyFans page > www.onlyfans.com/ptbkinky   This week’s sponsor > www.thesissykit.com   We talk to Dick Wound and his partner Lexie all about their various kinks and what they’ve been up to since the last time we spoke to them.   You can find out more about them here: https://www.offthecuffs.org   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

  Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE! > https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E   Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page > www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky   Want to see our Kinky fun? You can visit our OnlyFans page > www.onlyfans.com/ptbkinky   This week’s sponsor > www.thesissykit.com   We discuss if happiness really is the goal worth pursuing in a relationship and how it’s a nebulous term that doesn’t exact tell you how to be happy.   We talk about ways we make each other ‘happy’ by doing things we find genuinely exciting.     If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE!     Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page.   Want to see our Kinky fun? You can visit our OnlyFans page   This week’s sponsor - The Sissy Kit   In this week's episode we explore a topic we discussed way back in episode 6, going to a Fetish Club. Since then we’ve been to quite a few more and we believe that if you’re into kink and you’ve never been then you’d have a great time a fetish club… but they seem a little scary if you’ve not been before.   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.  

Chat to other kinky people? Join our Discord Server but BE NICE! Want more Podcasts from us? Visit our Patreon page Want to see our Kinky fun? You can visit our OnlyFans page This week’s sponsor: The Sissy Kit   We discuss what we like about bondage and the various ways of restraning your sexy partners. It’s a common kink but it’s one we all enjoy!   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   PTBK Website Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost, The Queers Next Door, Disability After Dark and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Our Discord Server: https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E   If monogamy and ‘happily ever after’ doesn’t work for you, then this week’s episode is something you may want to listen to.   We talk about the various other relationship models that may suit you if you're not into the idea of a standard relationship.   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

Our Discord Server: https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E   Episode 100! We decided to celebrate and have a few drinks and talk about the original ethos of the podcast, which was all about the more social and interpersonal side of kink.   We also look back on our favorite moments on the podcast and a surprise guest pops up by the name of ‘iWiLLtIEUhARd’   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.   You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

Our Discord Server: https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E   A listener emailed us recently to ask out advice on a long distance relationship. Whilst we live quite close to each other, we thought it would be a good subject to cover. Floss asked her Twitter followers what they do and we got some pretty good responses.   If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** WANNA CHAT? HERE’S THAT DISCORD LINK WE FORGOT TO MENTION!, >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Back in November 2017, we did a whole episode on Red Flags, what negative traits to look out for in a prospective play partner early on. Well this is the opposite, Green Flags are the positive things to look out for. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** CHAT MY WILLY! OH AND HERE’S DISCORD, >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Life got the better of us and we ended up going seven weeks without doing any kink! This week we talk about getting back into it and the several sessions we’ve had recently. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** I WANT MY, I WANT MY, I WANT MY DISORD CHAT... https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we talk about a recent article in The Metro about people's kinky bucket lists... only to find that all is not as it seems. Then we discuss the things we'd like to do too. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** DISCORD, YOU SAY??? WHAT’S STOPPING YOU???>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Last weekend we went to Eroticon, we discuss all the talks we went to, all the vendors who were there and all the lovely people we met. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***WANT TO JOIN DISCORD??? HERE’S THAT LINK >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we have a two and half hour chat with Max Long & Kitty Delish about medical play, being a house Dom and being a decent and ethical person in the fetish scene. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***DON'T FORGET THE DISCORD! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Last week we asked our listeners if they have any questions and we got quite a few responses…. So this whole episode is answering those questions. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss

*** DISCORD ME HARD ! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** We start with a review of these ankle and wrist cuffs we got from Honour.co.uk Wrist Cuffs: https://www.honour.co.uk/rubber-deluxe-padlock-wrist-cuffs.php#product-tabs Ankle Cuffs: https://www.honour.co.uk/rubber-deluxe-padlock-ankle-cuffs.php We also talk about our five favourite kinky places to shop, here are all the links to companies. Bakji and Floss' Choices: 1) Libidex - www.libidex.com 2) Top To Bottom Leathers - www.top-to-bottom-leathers.co.uk 3) Meo - www.meo.de 4) MedFetUK - www.medfetuk.com 5) Bondra - www.bondara.co.uk If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.  

*** HERE IS THAT LINK TO DISCORD ! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Since it was Valentine's Day this week, we thought we’d talk about love. We discuss the love languages and how we try to have the best relationship we can. We also ask which fictional character would you most like to do kinky things with! If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** WHAT IS THAT DISCORD YOU SPEAK OF??? HERE IT IS>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Yet another femdom session! This week there's lots of talk of teasing and edging, as well as our favourate sexual urban myths. (Funny ones not depressing ones) If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.  

*** WANT MORE CHAT? JOIN OUR DISCORDZ?>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we go back to femdom! Floss gets all sexy with latex and we try out the Hot Octopuss Stroker. We also discuss where our listeners keep their kinky gubbins. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** FANCY SOME HOT DISCORD ACTION?! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** We talk about practicing kink in an ethical manner and advocate being nice and not being dick. We also talk about smells and scents that turn you on as well as another game of 'Guest What's Spanking Flossity'. You can get in touch with us via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS CLICK THIS LINK TO JOIN OUR SEXXY-ASSED DISCORD GROUP! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we talk about adapting you kinks to the person you are playing with. We also discuss sexy music to play during a scene and we talk at the end about keeping your kinks in perspective. (I, Bakji Ben would love to insert the link to the YouTube playlist as mentioned on the show but naughty Floss didn't send it to me in time!) If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** DISCORD IS THE SEXY>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we go back to femdom, back to handjobs and back to cumin! If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** DISCORD ME UP THE WILLY>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we talk about the kinky things we’d like to try in the year ahead. This is a bonus second episode this week as the first one went on too long! If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.  

***SUCK MY DISCORD! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we talk about three kinky things we both enjoyed back in 2018, we were going to talk what we want to try in 2019 but we talked so much that we've had to make it in to two episodes! So look out for a bonus episode later this week. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** HAVE WE EVER MENTIONED DISCORD?! JOIN HERE>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we talk about low-budget restraint, edging and Floss wearing sexy fishnets. (Hence the title!) If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

*** EDMONSON LOVES DISCORD! CLICK HERE TO JOIN>>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week, I Bakji, well and truly dominate Floss with a Doxy! Also listen out for a live spanking with an XLR cable. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***DISCORD US UP! CLICK RIGHT HERE >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we discuss doing kinky, sexy fun when you’re knackered and low on energy. We discuss how to still make it fun In ‘Voice of the Listener’ we discuss your favourite foods to eat as After Care. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***DON'T FORGET THE DISCORD! ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS CLICK RIGHT HERE >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we discuss all the kinky bits we'd take to a desert island, should we ever get stuck on one! And we discuss your answers to our previous weeks questions about accidental sex toy discovery and kink in a post-apocalyptic future. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast ‘Kinkosity’ and the archive of FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***DISCORD, DISCORD, DISCORD! JOIN UP HERE FOR KINKY CHATZ!! >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** In this episode we talk about having a foursome! As well as how to ensure that everyone has good time and no one feels left out. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast Kinkosity. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***JOIN OUR DISCORD GROUP HERE >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** This week we talk about trying male chastity for the very term and how it did and didn’t work out. We continue with our ‘Question of Week’ where we talk about sex toys accidentally going off and make sure you listen out for the story of a dildo being thrown on a roof! If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

***JOIN OUR DISCORD GROUP HERE >>>> https://discordapp.com/invite/SAmS42E ***** Our supporters over on Patreon have been listening to tales of our kinky fun for a while during our FemDom and Fetish Fun spin-off podcast. Now we are bringing that FemDom fun to our regular podcast. In this episode we discuss our latest kink session. Who got tied up? Who got teased? And who got rewarded with a sexy orgasm? We also have answers to our last After Bit question which was; What are your favourite toys for travelling? Our new question is … Have you ever been caught out by a vibrator going off by accident? You can give us your answer via email, or Twitter/Instagram (including DM if you’d prefer). All answers will be featured on our next episode but you are welcome to remain anonymous if you would like to. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

We are joined by Naughtia Black this week, to discuss her new podcast Deviants, as well as a whole host of other sexy topics. We discuss her current core dynamic, which is Master/slave and how that aligns itself with her being a Relationship Anarchist. Kink gets a thorough talking about too of course and we give Naughtia a good dose of Quick Fire Questions. As Floss suspected from being an avid online follower of Naughtia she was a delight to chat to and we think you are going to love this episode. You can find Naughtia on Twitter and Instagram and you can of course listen to her podcast. We also have answers to our last After Bit question which was; What is you all time favourite sex toy or piece of kinky equipment? Our new question is … What are your favourite kinky/sexy things to take travelling? This might include top travelling tips for people take sexy/kinky kit with them, or hilarious stories about travelling with said items.  You can give us your answer via email, or Twitter/Instagram (including DM if you’d prefer). All answers will be featured on our next episode but you are welcome to remain anonymous if you would like to. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

Sexy products! That’s right this episode is all about the recent sexy and kinky products we’ve been using from Meo.de. If you are new to Meo then their site is definitely worth a visit. They have some awesome products and the ones we are testing out are only a few they have to offer. The items covered in this episode are: Meo Lubricant Alpha Male 2 Stimulator Big Johnny Prostate Stimulator HurtMe Leather Paddle HurtMe Deluxe LOVE-HATE Paddle HurtMe Deluxe Riding Crop Wrist to Ankle Restraint Black Berlin Wrist Restraints We loved reviewing these products so we could share our experiences with you and we hope you find the feedback useful. If there are any other products you would like our thoughts on, or products you would like us to feature in the future, then please do get in touch and we can see what we can do. We have also asked a new After Bit question, which follows on nice from the topics of this episode; What is you all time favourite sex toy or piece of kinky equipment. You can give us your answer via email, or Twitter/Instagram (including DM if you’d prefer). All answers will be featured on our next episode but you are welcome to remain anonymous if you would like to. If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms:   Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss.

Little Rara is our guest this episode. We have been following her for a little while on Twitter and she has previously responded to our pleas for answers to our After Bit questions so it was an absolute delight to talk to her. We discuss how she found herself involved in the kink community and what kinds of kinky shenanigans she gets up to, as well as discussing what new kinks might be in her future and of course what her favourite kinky things are. Little Rara, or should I say Princess Rara due to a recent name change,  also arranges kink events and discussion groups, so that is a large part of our conversation as we get her to encourage all of your to find your way into your local kink scene. If you would like to follow Little Rara on Twitter you can do so via @ThePrincessRara If you would to follow us on Twitter or  get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God, No Love Lost and The Goth Librarian. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss. You can also access this through Floss’ BuyMeACoffee account for a one off donation of $3.  

Dick pics! That’s right we are doing a whole episode on dick pics. So get comfy and hold on tight because Floss does not hold back! Dick pic rage is real! On a more serious note we want everyone to be communicating with more kinky people and getting their kink on and we know that dick pics is the worst introduction ever. We discuss exactly why dick pics are such a problem and why they enrage many of us and why just ignoring them isn’t always our go to move. If we stop just one person sending a dick pic then I will be overjoyed. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and No Love Lost. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. You can also support us through Patreon which gives you access to our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as ‘349 Kinky, Filthy, Dirty Questions’ compiled by and answered by Bakji and Floss. You can also access this through Floss’ BuyMeACoffee account for a one off donation of $3.

Breath play is the focus of this episode. We haven’t done many episode on specific kink activities but this is a kink we both enjoy and that you must be well informed about before giving it a try. Our aim in this episode is to share with you what we enjoy about breath play, the methods we use to indulge in it and most importantly how we do it safely. We are aware that for many people this is an extreme kink, and would be referred to as edge play. If you decide to engage in breath play please do your research and please, please, please play with someone you trust. Done right and with the right person though breath play can be all the fun and we hope that this episode gives a good insight into why it is one of the kinks we engage in most during our scenes. The After Bit returns with answers from last week’s question ‘What is your best bit of vanilla repurposing?’ and we pose our new question, inspired by one of our listeners, ‘Have you ever mentioned kink in an inappropriate setting?’ Funny stories are our aim, so if you can laugh about it then we’d love to as well. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and No Love Lost. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

‘Kinky Kit?’ We hear you ask! ‘Haven’t they already done that episode?’ Well yes, we have. And it’s a big sexy but, we have enjoyed some awesome new products lately and we just had to share our experiences with you all. We pick 3 of our top products each, two joint products and a bonus ‘on the spot’ decision for another item to include. Floss gets told off for telling her Doxy story AGAIN. But cares very little because the Doxy is great and Bakji gets told of because, well he’s Bakji and is always being naughty one way or another. The After Bit returns with answers from last weeks question ‘Have you ever cum accidentally?’ and we pose our new question ‘What has been you best bit of vanilla repurposing?’ Those unassuming things definitely not made for kink that we take and pervert to great effect. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and No Love Lost. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.  

Aftercare is our focus for this episode. We talk a lot about what happens during kinky sessions and what you can do to make the kinky fun happen for you, but what happens afterwards then the cuffs are off and reality sets in. As with all aspects of kink everyone is different when it comes to the aftercare they need. We discuss what works for us, what we have heard of others doing, as well as sharing some listener comments in our After Bit section of the show. We also discuss how our views on aftercare have changed, who we thinks benefits from aftercare within a BDSM dynamic and what we knew about aftercare before joining the kink scene. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via hello@proudtobekinky.com or via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and No Love Lost. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

We got on a plane and travelled to New York City to bring you this episode. We met up with Dick and Max from Off the Cuffs for a joint episode featuring of of their listeners NerdyKinkster. We discuss NerdyKinksters journey in kink and how she has been discovering some of the things she enjoys. She was invited onto the show after responding to an episode of Off the Cuffs where the subject of consensual kink versus sexual violence came up. It was a pleasure to share our thoughts on this and a variety of other subjects, and meeting Dick and Max was definitely a highlight of the holiday. We also got to meet the lovely Pikachump who crops up regularly on Off the Cuffs. The response to last weeks After Bit questions was awesome, so stay tuned until the very end to hear what our listeners had to say about kinks that made their brain so no way but their genitals say yes please. Our next questions is; ‘What obscure things do you do for aftercare?’ and we absolutely can’t wait to hear your thoughts on this. Get in touch with us to share you After Bit answer, or with any other comments or questions. You can find us on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and No Love Lost. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.  

Even in established dynamics like ours, we still have ongoing conversations around negotiating scenes and consenting to activities we are happy to engage in. In new dynamics this is crucial to creating a feeling of safety and trust with your partner, without which there is not much of a foundation to build on. We discuss what consent looks like for us, what makes us decide consent is not being enthusiastically given and how you can ask for consent in a sexy way. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via hello@proudtobekinky.com or via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and No Love Lost. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them. This episode also see the return of our bonus section, now officially called ‘The After Bit’, please check out the full post ‘Boobs Behaving Badly’ we mention submitted by PixieHeart and thank you very much to Darn for his contribution too. If you have any stories for us, then get in touch, this week we talk about kinks that I totally made you say ‘No Way!’ But soon had you say ‘Yes! Yes! Yes!’.  

Floss and Bakji are no strangers to talking about kink, but this week we are getting down and dirty with a discussion about sexual technique. What is it? Do we have it? And how does one improve it? Some of the things we discuss in this episode are:   Have you ever had a sexual technique used on you that was surprisingly good? How do you encourage your partner to learn new things without offending them? Do you think there ways to increase sexual pleasure that people often overlook? Do you have a favourite technique you like to use? Are there any good resources on sexual technique? A lot of this episode is about our personal preferences and we encourage everyone to discover their own likes and dislikes. If you’ve got a go to move though that always seems to get sexy results then we’d love to hear about it. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via hello@proudtobekinky.com or via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast and Drinks with God. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Non-Monogamy came second in our recent Twitter poll about topics you’d like to hear us discuss. In this episode we discuss: In general terms what do we mean when we refer to non-monogamy? What does non-monogamy mean to us personally? Has your view on what non-monogamy means for you changed with your experiences? What resources have been beneficial in your non-monogamy journey? What new terms did we learn when we started to embrace non-monogamy? Can you ‘choose’ to be non-mono or does it need to be your natural inclination? Do you have a thing you love most about non-monogamy? And a thing you struggle with most? This week also introduces our new segment ‘Unnamed Bonus Section’. Which we hope will encourage listener participations for those of you who are so inclined. If you would like to get in touch with us you can do so via hello@proudtobekinky.com or via any of our social media platforms: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Floss’ Blog We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Being There, the Will Sean Podcast and Drinks with God. We are all available and most podcast apps, and as always love to read you reviews if your chosen app allows for them.

Confidence is our focus for this episode. More specifically is lack of confidence affecting your kink. If so, this episode is for you. Inspired by a blog post by Floss on her personal blog flossdoeslife.com. We attempt to give you some solutions to boost your kinky confidence, even if that just means faking it till you make it. We would also like to say a huge thank you for your patience while we took a break from our regularly scheduled shows. The time of to freshen up and think of some awesome new podcast ideas was amazingly beneficial, and your ongoing support while we rested was very much appreciated. Our top tips for increasing your kinky confidence are: Start small Hone your skills Sensory deprivation for the win They want your attention   It’s not what you do it’s that you’re doing it Trust that they fancy you (and your body) Communicate about kinks It’s okay to wear what feel sexy TO YOU Be kind to each other when things don’t work When things do work, celebrate them. We discuss all these point in more depth and were applicable we also talk about how they have worked for us, and how we continually apply some of them to our own dynamic. If you would like to hear more about how our dynamic unfolds within our own session then you can head over to our Patreon page where for $2 a month you can get access to all past and future FemDom and Fetish Fun episodes, where we share details of all our kinky sessions. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Drinks with God, Off the Cuffs, The Will Sean Podcast and Dick Wounds new show Being There. You can find all of us on most available podcast apps, and as always we love to receive your reviews and feedback. You can get in touch with us on any of our social media platforms or you can email us via hello@proudtobekinky.com. Links: Is Confidence Affecting Your Kink? - The post that inspired the episode ProudToBeKinky on Patreon ProudToBeKinky on Twitter ProudToBeKinky on Instagram  

Inspired by their own recent experiences and conversations Bakji and Floss discuss the fluidity of kink. We all know there are many kinks and fetishes to be discovered, but what happens when our favourites go out of favour and new passions evolve into something deeper? Floss has been thinking on this a lot lately, as it was her change feelings about a particular kink that started the conversation. Despite how often we talk about open and honest communication, and how we encourage people to be accepting and kind to themselves, it was still a tricky moment for Floss and hopes that in sharing it will help some of our listeners. While a lot of our discussion is based around the fluidity between switching roles, we also discuss the ebb and flow of kinks with a specific role and how as a couple or as play partners, the activities you enjoy most together can also change. We discuss how this has been for us and what our approach to it has been. We also reflect upon the kinks that have taken us by surprise, going from no interest in them, to curiosity or in some cases absolutely loving them. We are big believers is keeping ourselves open to new discoveries and experiences, and we hope this episode helps show why we think that’s important and how that approach has been extremely beneficial to us as individuals. We hope you enjoy this episode and as always if you have any feedback or questions please get in touch via hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also follow us on: Twitter Instagram Fetlife Facebook You can also find us on Patreon where you can find our second podcast, FemDom and Fetish Fun, where we discuss the scenes we do, how we feel about all things FemDom and what we have coming up in terms of kinky fun. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network, along with Off The Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, the Will Sean Podcast and Drinks with God. We are all available on most podcast apps, and would love a great review and star rating from you if your chosen app supports this.

Eyal Matsliah is a sexual empowerment coach, and the author of ‘Orgasm Unleashed’ - a guide to pleasure, healing and power. So we left kink behind for an episode to focus on the wonder of orgasms and the joy they can bring. While the book is aimed at women, it is also suitable for anyone who is looking to enhance their orgasmic experience and better learn about the pleasure their body can bring them. We speak to Eyal about what inspires him to do the work he does, what kind of work he does within his coaching and mentoring sessions and the benefits we can gain from engaging in some of Eyal’s approaches. Floss not being one to shy away from sharing her own personal orgasm tales, asks Eyal some questions based on her own experiences, that listeners have previously related to when discussed in other episodes. If you have struggled to orgasm, find masturbation uninspiring or wonder where in the day you meant to schedule time for self-indulgence, we asked Eyal about all these things in the hope the answers will be informative. We also discuss some of the areas in which we may feel disconnected from our sexuality, or our sexual empowerment and what we can do to overcome this to connect, explore and delve deeper within ourselves, hopefully leading to not only a more fulfilling sex life, but a more fulfilling life in general. You can find out more about Eyal and the work he does via his website Intimate Power. You can also find links to his book and other resources there too. http://www.intimatepower.com/ https://www.amazon.co.uk/Orgasm-Unleashed-guide-pleasure-healing-ebook/dp/B015L4D8M6 To contact us about this episode, or about anything else, you can do so via hello@proudtobekinky.com, or through our Instagram, Twitter and Fetlife Pages. If you would like more of us, you can access our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, through our Patreon page. In FemDom and Fetish Fun Floss and Bakji discuss their mutual love of FemDom and all the sexy details of the scenes they en joy. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, Drinks with God and the Will Sean Podcast. We can all be found on most podcast apps, and we’d be lying if we said we don’t love awesome ratings and reviews. So please do send them our way if your app allows for them.

Rain DeGrey is an author, BDSM and sex educator and someone who has been fully immersed in kink lifestyle for the last decade. She has done shoots for kink.com and has experienced many, many kinks and is wonderfully open about discussing and sharing her information and experiences with others. We discuss why Rain is so passionate about embracing a kink lifestyle and why she encourages other people to do the same and explore what it is about kink that they enjoy. Which given the ethos of our podcast is a perfect conversation for us to share with our listeners. Rain shares with us another passion of hers, which is education. We talk about some of the classes she teaches, and how they have evolved over the years and what it is about doing her classes that is so rewarding. We also talk about the wonderful exchange that exists between Tops and bottoms, and what we each bring to our interactions and how if each person involved isn’t fully present and invested in the exchange it may not be as successful as we’d like it to be. If you’re listening to this episode and you still haven’t been to your local munch, but would like to go, get ready for some serious encouragement for why you should go, it’s nice that it’s not us saying it for a change but someone else. As always you can get in touch about this episode or any previous episodes, by using our email hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also send us any questions you might have about the podcast or about kink in general. We are also on Twitter, Instagram, Fetlife and Facebook and you are welcome to connect with us there too. As well as swinging by our Patreon for exclusive FemDom and Fetish Fun podcast episodes.   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network, along with Off the Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, the Will Sean Podcast and Drinks with God. You can find all of us on iTunes and most other podcast apps, and if your chosen app allows for reviews and 5 star ratings then we are always very excited to receive those.

Bakji and Floss have been busy this year, not only with the podcast, but also with outings to Fetish events and indulging in sexy scenes at home. In this episode we discuss some of the things we’ve done this year. Regular listeners of our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, will be familiar with some of the scenes we have enjoyed throughout 2017. Which ones have been our favourites though? We have each picked out Tops kink moments and discuss why they stand out for us. As well as a little bit of reminiscing we also look to future kinky fun as we talk about what our kinky resolutions are for 2018. While we both pick very sexy things, we definitely have very different ideas of what we’d like to do next. So we should have an interesting year ahead. As always we would love to hear from you, whether it is about this episode or with a questions for us, you can do that via hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also find us on Twitter, instagram, Facebook and Fetlife. If you would like to listen to the previously mentioned FemDom and Fetish Fun, you can do so through our Patreon Page. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off The Cuffs, The Will Sean Podcast and Drinks with God. Reviews are always appreciate from both us and the other shows on the network.

Safewords are this episodes topic of conversation. After Floss saw a few posts in a short space of time all about the same subject on Reddit, it seemed like the time was right for safewords to have their own episode. What are they? When you should you use them? Why should you use them? And should you ever feel bad or awkward about using them? We are definitely in the group of people who feel like having a safeword is good thing, no matter who you are playing with, however when researching the topic online to make sure we were presenting the right information we did come across lots of people who don’t feel the need to use them, and we are certainly not saying one way is right and one is wrong, just that there are options to consider. As well as general approaches to safewords we do discuss the ones we use personally and our own personal thoughts on them. We also discuss what we might do if someone used an unfamiliar safeword and what we would do if a safeword ended a scene. For those people who are fans of clear communication and do not see a safeword as something they need, we talk about some situations where even people who can read each other well and communicate during scenes might find a safeword of use. We also touch upon nonverbal safewords and how you can check in on a partner who might be particularly sub-spacey and unable to communicate well. While we appreciate that not all kinksters will want to use a safeword, it is definitely something that we should all be making an informed and considered decision on. Yet it still seems to be a topic that has people incredibly divided and has people new to the scene asking what teople new to the scene asking what the ‘right way’ is. As with all episodes of you have any feedback for us you can email us via hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also get in touch on any of our social media platforms: Instagram Twitter Facebook Fetlife We also have a Patreon site, where you can access our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. Which is all about the sexy and kinky scene Bakji and I get up to behind closed doors. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God and the Will Sean Podcast.

Princess Kali is our guest for this episode and we could not have been more excited to speak to her. Her book Enough To Make You Blush was one of Floss’ early and favourite resources when she was beginning her journey into FemDom. Getting to talk to people whose work we genuinely enjoy is one of the awesome bonuses of doing the podcast. Princess Kali has been on many podcasts discussing not only her book, but also sharing her approach to Domination and her work with Kink Academy. Which is another great resource for kink education. This however did mean that thinking up new and interesting questions for her was a tricky task. That said though we are really excited to bring you this episode and feel like we’ve got some great information to share with you. Humiliation can sometimes be a kink that many people will respond to with ‘Oh yeah, I’m not into that’, with a little bit of exploration though there can often be many fun and erotic entry points for us to explore the vast variety of erotic humiliation. From mild embarrassment to hardcore degradation. While we had Princess Kali with us we tried to get you the best information we could on why people might engage in erotic humiliation and what potential elements of it you might find pleasure in, whether that is as a Top or as a bottom. We also discuss how to get the conversation started if you feel like you’d like to explore erotic humiliation but have no idea where to begin. If you would like to find out more about Princess Kali and Enough To Make You Blush you can do so by using the following links:  enoughtomakeyoublush.com twitter.com/Princess_Kali instagram.com/enoughtomakeyoublush kinkacademy.com  As always if you have any feedback on this episode you can contact us via hello@proudtobekinky.com or you can reach out using any of our social media platforms:  twitter.com/proudtobekinky instagram.com/proudtobekinky facebook.com/proudtobekinky fetlife.com/proudtobekinky patreon.com/proudtobekinky We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off The Cuffs, Drinks with God and the Will Sean Podcast. We are all available on most podcast apps and if you listen on a platform that allows reviews then please do leave a wonderful 5 star review.

While red flags usually refers to those behaviors that would signal  relationship is unsafe or unhealthy, in this episode we are discussing those things that are incompatibility red flags. Things that have in the past, or would in the future signal to us that a relationship isn’t as well suited to us as we had hoped it might be. Over the years we have both been in these relationships ourselves, as well as having many friends put up with varying levels of incompatibility, when we’ve looked at our reasons for staying or enquired with friends why they themselves stayed the answer is always a variation on the same thing ‘what if I don’t find anyone else who’s kinky/does the things I like sexually’. We are are big believers that no-one should be stuck in an unhappy relationship for fear of not finding someone else to indulge in their kinks with. We also know though that it’s definitely easier said than done, especially if you’re new to exploring your kink and suddenly finding someone who is into them too feels like it’s too good to be true. We are really passionate about people investing in the right people for them, and having not only a good kink dynamic but also a good friendship and relationship beyond that too. We discuss some of the things that would be incompatibility red flags for us personally, and alternatively the green flags that make us delighted to spend time with someone. These are likely to be different for everyone, so we’re not saying take ours to heart and follow them religiously. We do however hope people are mindful of their own situations and surround themselves with good people and nourishing relationships, be they romantic or platonic. As always if you have any feedback on this episode or on the podcast in general you can email us on hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Fetlife. We are also on Patreon, which you can find by using the following link www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky. Where you can find or spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, where we discuss our own kinky scenes. #ProudToBeKinky is also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off The Cuffs, Drinks with God, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean Podcast.

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Kinky scenes for us can be anything from an impromptu handjob to a more elaborate and lengthier session. Either way we always enjoy them and we’ve had a fair bit of scene variety in our time playing together. When we record FemDom and Fetish Fun, the spin-off podcast we release for our Patrons, we discuss our scenes in quite a lot of detail. Off the back of that we have had a couple of people ask where we get our ideas, and wondering how they can better plan and make the most of their own kinky fun. We have both approached taking control of a scene as relatively newbies to Topping, and we know it can feel really daunting, so we try to cover how you can take charge of the acre and make it fun without feeling overwhelmed and worried about whether or not it’s fun. Floss especially took great pleasure in researching a variety of approaches to FemDom to give her a bit more confidence when it came to scene inspiration. Kinky porn was a treasure trove of inspiration and had led to many new discoveries and fab ideas. As always you can send feedback on this episode to hello@proudtobekinky.com, or through any of our social media platforms. We’re also happy to answer any kink related questions you might have if you feel we can help in anyway. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean Podcast. You can find us all on most podcast apps and if you listen through your Apple podcast app you can also leave us a lovely review.

Aurora Glory joins us for this episode. Yes that is right, we have a guest with us again. We were delighted to have the chance to chat to Aurora, about everything from sex toys, to lube and of course blogging.   We start off this episode with a very important question. That you won’t want to miss. A long and earth shattering debate is finally put to rest. Want to know more, then you will have to listen in. Once that is cleared up though we move onto the juicy stuff .. sex toys. We ask Aurora how she got started with reviewing sex toys, and how that led to her starting a blog.   Floss has got her own fair share of sex toys nestled away in the bedroom, and wondered if she was alone in her favourite not being the high-quality toys people usually mentions a favourites. Turns out she is alone in this. Aurora’s favourite toy is definitely one of the higher quality and well recommended toys. One that Floss doesn’t have but is keen to get.   While we all know sex toys are more popular than ever, and rightly so. There do seem to be some other things that still aren’t the norm to use when it comes to masturbating and for sexual encounters with a partner, and one of those things is lube. We talk to Aurora about what it is she loves about reviewing lube, and discuss why it is that so many people still aren’t regular users.   The day before we spoke to Aurora her blog turned one! So we obviously couldn’t let the conversation pass without having a chat about her blog too. We discussed what inspired her to start a blog, whether or not it has been what she imagined and what her plans for the future of her blog are. We also ask what her top tips would be for anyone out there who is looking to start a blog.   You can find Aurora in the following places:   Blog - byauroraglory.com/ Instagram - instagram.com/auroragloryblog/ Twitter - twitter.com/AuroraGloryBlog   You can of course find us in those same places to, our website is also now up and running so you can go to www.proudtobekinky.com and read our blog posts there as well as in our show notes. To find us on other social media platforms simply search for proudtobekinky, all one word, no spaces. However if you would like to find us on Patreon, you will need to click on the following link, www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky, Due to us being an NSFW account you cannot search for our content.   As regular listeners will know we are part of the Podcast Jukebox Network, along with our friends from Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean Podcast. We are all available on most podcast apps, and only two of us are kink related shows, so if your interests vary do check the other shows out too.

Happy Birthday to us. That’s right, we have now been releasing episodes for you for one whole year and what a year it has been. We went back and forth with lots of ideas for this episode, but we decided to get back to basics a little bit and discuss the things that we are constantly repeating and go into detail about why we say them and how you can go about acting on the advice should you wish to.   In episode one, Bakji and friend of the show BlueBen discussed how to make kinky friends. Floss recently gave this episode another listen, and was impressed overall that for a first episode it was pretty darn good, but also felt that we could tweak some of the advice after a year of not only podcasting, but also of getting more involved with the community ourselves as well.   In a good chunk of our episodes we say ‘go to a munch’, so we revisit this and discuss why we say that and what benefits we see to munches. We also address the fact that your first munch isn’t always going to be life changing and what to do if the munch you attend isn’t what you hoped for.   We also tackle Fetish events. Which in episode were discussed on the basis of go with friends only. However in the time we have been doing the podcast I have learnt that many larger events are doing meet and greets before the event kicks off, and we’ve also discovered that many smaller events do allow for more of a chance to socialise and meet new people.   Fetlife gets a mention as do our friends over at TheCage.co, as we talk about how best to navigate online platforms and what their uses are. This leads us to a bit of a discussion, where Floss might be a bit ranty about how certain people conduct themselves when sending messages online.   There is also some fun and frivolity, we both talk about some of our favourite episodes, things we love about doing the podcast and what, if anything we’ve learnt in the past year.   This podcast has become a huge part of our lives, and it’s been an unbelievable amount of hard work, but it has been worth every minute of it. Through the podcast we have connected with amazing people all across the world, some of those people have been guests, some listeners and we are so happy to say that many of them have turned into wonderful friends.   For anyone who has missed Floss’ social media posts about us turning one, we just want to say a big thank you to everyone who has listened, given feedback, supported and encouraged us. Each and every one of you has made this experience even better and we can’t wait to see what the next year of podcasting brings.   As always you can contact us via hello@proudtobekinky.com, you can also contact us on Twitter, instagram, Fetlife and Facebook. You can also swing by our Patreon page, and check out our spinoff podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. As well as our new feature that is coming soon Aftercare Sandwich.   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network, with Off The Cuffs, Drinks with God, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean Podcast. You can find us all on most podcast apps, and if you listen on the Apple Podcast app you can leave us all an awesome 5 star review.

Pain play and sensation play are our focus this week. We discuss what we mean when we talk about Sadism and masochism, and how pain can be sexy and what you can do if you’d like to try some new sensations but don’t think pain is for you.   We have mini debate over what classes as sexy pain, stingy, thuddy or something else entirely. This leads to us having a bit of a run through of what the difference between the two is, and why they lead to different sensations.   While many us might identify as a Sadist or a masochist, or perhaps like Floss you’re a bit of both and like to claim the Sadomasochist label, that doesn’t we all enjoy pain in the same way though. Both Bakji and Floss enjoy pain in very different ways, and their approach to pain play also differs greatly. We discuss our own personal takes on pain, what we enjoy and why we enjoy it.   As we always say we’re not experts when it comes to the kinks we discuss, but we do try to share what safety and instructional information we do have. We do highly recommend though that if you are looking to engage in some of the things discussed for the first time that you do your research and due diligence before diving straight into the action. If you need any further information and you’re not sure where to find it, do please get in touch.   The focus of this episode does fall a lot toward the pain play side of things, however we are aware that some people really aren’t into pain at all, but may enjoy different sensations during a scene, so we try to cover some of those too.   You can as always send feedback for this episode via our email hello@proudtobekinky.com, or our social media platforms; Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Fetlife. You can also visit us at our Patreon page, www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky, where you can find our spin-off podcast, FemDom and Fetish Fun.   We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God, the Will Sean Podcast and Parking Lot Radio. We are all available on Apple podcast and most other podcast apps, if you chose player allows for reviews please do leave one for us as it really is helpful in letting other people know we are worth a listen.

Bisexuality is our topic for today, inspired by the recent bi-visibility week and ally week, Floss asked Bakji if she could hijack an episode to discuss being bisexual. This is a bit of a one sided episode as Bakji as a straight man doesn’t have his own experience of being bisexual. He is however a great ally and was happy for Floss to get on her soapbox for episode to air her views. [caption id="attachment_1889" align="aligncenter" width="300"] Bisexuality Flag[/caption]   Floss gives her own definition of being bisexual, which is definitely at odds with the dictionary definition. As we say in the episode though, we think it’s really important not to invalidate someone else’s identity and experience by saying their bisexuality isn’t the same as yours and therefore it doesn’t count. We also briefly reflect on comparisons and difference between pansexuality and bisexuality. Again the dictionary definition seems to greatly differ from what people in the LGBTQIA+ community are saying, so Floss gives her best attempt at explaining each based on definitions she has been given by people who identify in those ways, with us all being different though these means there isn’t always a one fits all explanation. Bisexual erasure is one of the reasons we decided to this episode. Bisexual people are often ignored, removed, re-explained and falsified, both in the media and within everyday society. This is why many bisexual people have experienced the feeling that their sexuality isn't valid or ‘real’. The continued perpetuating of bisexual erasure means that many of us have experienced and continue to experience being subjected to comments surrounding the various myths of being bisexual. From the myth that we don’t exist, to tales of promiscuity and lack of commitment. The bisexual myths are rife. As we recorded, and when we have discussed this in the past, Bakji has often explained ‘no-one has ever really said that?’ The fact of the matter is that nearly every bisexual person I’ve ever spoken to has had the majority of bisexual myths aimed in their direction. Which make the comment of ‘your just doing it for attention’ hilarious, because the attention we get as an openly bisexual person is usually negative. That said however, this episode is predominantly about Floss’ experience, so your bisexual journey will look different, and we are definitely not saying one size fits all. If you have a different experience that you would like to share with us then please do get in touch. As always you can contact us on hello [at] proudtobekinky.com. You can also reach out via Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook. You can also find us on Patreon, www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky where for $2 a month you can get access to our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, where Bakji and Floss discuss their kinky scene in great and sexy detail. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network, along with Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean Podcast. If you podcast app allows for reviews and rating, we are always grateful for anyone who takes the time to give us an awesome review.

Bakji and Floss return without a guest this weeks to discuss the internal conflicts some of our kinks might cause us to have. Inspired by a post Floss saw on Reddit, where the poster wanted to be submissive and also humiliated and degraded yet felt this was at odds with her feminist views. We decided that this was a great topic of discussion because there are many kinks that often highlight this issue, in some way shape or form. Probably a lot more than we could cover in one short episode. So many of our views on our kinks seem to be shaped by the environment we grew up, and how previous partners have reacted, so what seems like a perfectly acceptable kink to one person, might cause all kinds of conflicts in another. As well as discussing some of the kinks that most often seem to crop up in this line of thought, we also talk about whether these feelings are part of the reason some of us take our time to find our way to the kink community. While we have both had a fair while to adjust to our own kinks and on the whole feel very comfortable and excited by them, however we have to make our own adjustments when it comes to exploring new kinks and also in enjoying long standing kinks a little less, so we talk about those a little too and how we’ve approached those situations personally. This topic of conversation also bring us round to the subject of how we think our kinks developes. While it could probably be a whole episode in and of itself we do discuss it a little bit. Both Bakji and Floss are now playing with similar kinks, how long we have been kinky and how we discovered them are very different journeys. We have had loads of lovely messages the past couple of weeks, please keep them coming if you have anything you’d like to share with us. Whether is comments on the show, questions or advice on kink or a topic you’d like us to cover. You can get in touch with us on any of the following platforms: hello [at] proudtobekinky.com Instagram Twitter Facebook Fetlife We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network, so you can check out our sister shows Off The Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and Parking Lot Radio.

Eva from TheCage.co is our guest today. The cage is a social networking site and online community for people interested in kink, BDSM and Fetish. It has been going for just over a year and now and we invited Eva along to tell us a little bit more about it. [caption id="attachment_1112" align="aligncenter" width="300"] www.thecage.co[/caption] As well as talking about TheCage.co, we also wanted to talk to Eva a little bit about online D/s. When it came up in a thread on Twitter Floss realised it wasn’t something we had ever really discussed on the podcast and as it is popular within the kink community we felt it was something we should be talking about.   When Floss started to do some research for this episode to gather some questions together for Eva, she discover that the world of online D/s is not easy to find good and supportive information on. In any forum where a question on online D/s was asked there were two automatic responses 1. An assumption you'll eventually move into in person D/s and 2. Disparaging comments about the discussion to opt for online D/s.   We discuss whether the huge divide between online and offline D/s is really necessary and whether or not we shouldn’t just be supporting everyone who wants to explore their kinks regardless of that being online or locally at munch.   Eva gives us some tips and advice for those people who are looking to explore their kinks with an online friend or partner. There are unfortunately a lot of scammers out there and we do want everyone to play safe, this means looking after yourself in both face to face encounters but also there are lots of things to consider when playing online too.   We also discuss some general kinks topics and we obviously introduce Eva to the wonderful world of Quick Fire Questions. It was a delight to chat to Eva, so please do go along and give TheCage.co a little visit and see what you can find there to entertain you.   As always if you have any feedback you can email us on hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also follow us and message us on social media.We are on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook. You can also find us on Patreon by searching for ‘proudtobekinky’, you can find our Patron only podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun there, where Bakji and I spare no details when discussing our kinky scenes.   We are also Part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off The Cuffs, the Will Sean Podcast, Parking Lot Radio and Drinks with God. If you listen on Apple Podcast you can leave any of us a wonderful review should be feeling generous.

Shibari is something we might have mentioned once or twice before on the podcast and because there are so many different voices to hear on it we are revisiting it again. This time with the lovely Evie Vane, a rope bottom who has written two books The Little Guide to Getting Tied Up and Better Bondage for Every Body. Evie has been into rope for about 7 years and in that time has gathered lots of experience and information that she is now sharing with other people. It can be easy to talk yourself out of giving rope a try, it can seem very technical and often the images we see of rope bottoms in rope do not always feel relatable for some people. Evie’s latest book definitely supports the notion that rope can be for everyone. Shibari does have many ties that you can learn step by step, there’s knots and frictions and wraps, and unfamiliar names for many things, essentially though what many of us are learning and seeking is a connection with our rope partner. That partner might be someone we will only tie once, or it might be our romantic or sexual partner, either way the connection and feelings we can explore through rope are vast. We ask Evie what her advice would be for anyone looking to explore rope, so if you’re sat at home and you still haven’t found the encouragement you need to get out there and try rope in some way, then perhaps Evie’s episode can be the push you need. We also discuss what you can do if you’re already a bottom but feel like there are areas you would like to work on, for example flexibility or stamina. If there any aspect of rope we haven’t covered yet that you would like to hear us discuss then please email us via hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also get in touch on any of our social media platforms, Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife or Facebook. You can also find Evie on social media too, her links are as follows: Evie's Website - ropebottoming.com Evie Vane on Facebook Evie Vane on Fetlife Evie’s Books on Amazon We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network, if you’d like to listen to our fellow network shows they are Off the Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, Drinks with God, the Will Sean Podcast and Parking Lot Radio.

The Queen of Fetish Cabaret, Marnie Scarlet joins us for this episode and we couldn’t be more excited to chat with her. We have had the pleasure of seeing a couple of Marnie’s performances and they do not disappoint. Please do check them out. Links will be provided at the end of this post. Latex is possibly one of the first things we noticed about Marnie, because as we may have mentioned once or twice we have both got the hots for the lovely shiny rubbery stuff. Which means we obviously asked Marnie all about making her outfits. If you haven’t seen her outfits yet, once you do you will be utterly amazed by her creations. They are gorgeous, fun, inventive and beautifully crafted. There is a huge variety of themes across all Marnie’s acts, so we discuss where she gets her inspiration from and how her ideas go from that to a full performance piece. We also go right back to the beginning and find out how Marnie came to start performing, both within the kink scene and out of it. The type of events and countries she often travels to come up as well, so if you’re an international listener and think you might miss out on seeing Marnie live, you may be in luck, one day she might be performing at an event near you. Marnie was recently featured in some mainstream newspapers in her outfit for London Pride. I cannot blame them for this, it was a brilliant outfit. #prideoutfitgoals for sure. With this is mind, and in light of the fact Marnie also takes her performances in non-fetish settings, we ask about the reception she receives from the non-kinky folk. As well as checking out Marnie on social media, which once again I will recommend you definitely do, you can also come and find us on social media if you haven’t already. We are on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Fetlife. You are welcome to connect with us across all those platforms and you can also email us on hello@proudtobekinky. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network, so please do pop along to our sister podcasts Off The Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and Parking Lot Radio. If you like any of those guys please do leave them a little review and of course us too if you haven’t done so already.   Links: https://www.youtube.com/user/MarnieScarletDiva https://www.instagram.com/marniescarlet/ https://www.facebook.com/Marnie-Scarlet-115777641825019

Anatomie Studios are the focus of this week's episode as we talk to Anna Bones, who opened and runs Anatomie, the U.K’s only full time rope studio. Open since June 2015, Anatomie has gone from strength to strength and provides a safe and welcoming environment for people to learn and practice their Shibari skills. We ask Anna how she started her own journey into discovering Shibari, and how that led to the opening of Anatomie. We have spoken about Anatomie before in previous episodes but it was wonderful to hear about it in Anna’s own words, from initial vision to eventual reality. There are a variety of sessions available at Anatomie, some are geared towards learning, some towards practice and some are neither of the two. I will let you listen in to hear Anna discuss the various things you can discover at Anatomie. We discuss the value in joining your local rope community, and what you can gain from learning from both people like Anna and her partner Fred Hatt who offer tuition at Anatomie and also from peers. There are also a myriad of wonderful Riggers out there who offer rope tutorial workshops, many of which can be found at Anatomie. Nearly everyone has some preconceptions about rope before they try it, we talk through what some of these are and the pleasant surprises you get once you actually join the rope community. Some of these include the tactile and wonderful nature of the rope itself, and also the reasons behind why many of us do rope. Anatomie Studio have been accepted into the Peckham Festival, happening 14th - 17th September 2017, which gives us a chance to discuss how Anna and Fred are received when they take Shibari into the world of non-kinky folk. They have also done rope for music videos and art projects. There is so much more in our discussion with Anna, and so much to discover at Anatomie Studio if you are able to visit. If however you’re not able to visit Anatomie please do get in touch with you local rope community if you are keen to get into Shibari and meet friend who are also rope fans. You can find Anatomie Studio in the following places: https://anatomiestudio.com/ https://twitter.com/AnatomieStudio https://www.instagram.com/anatomiestudiolondon/ https://www.peckhamfestival.org/ https://fetlife.com/users/4595864 If you would like to find us on social media you can do so via Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook. You can also follow the link on Fetlife to our personal profiles and add us there too should you wish to. As always you are also welcome to email us too on hello@proudtobekinky.com and if you go to flossdoeslife.com you can get in touch with us via the contact page, even if it is about the podcast and not the blog. We are also still after your reviews, so if you are listening on Apple Podcasts please do leave us a star rating and a review, preferably a lovely one, if you think we’ve earned it of course. You can also do the same for our fellow Podcast Jukebox Network shows should you be enjoying them too. They are Off the Cuffs, Parking Lot Radio, Drinks with God and the Will Sean Podcast.

Twisted Lingerie was mentioned by TheWickedJade back in episode 28. Which brought them to our attention, we then started following them on Instagram and Twitter because quite honestly it all looked super sexy and I have my eye on it for future purchases. What actually transpired though was some mutual exchanges on Twitter, and I started to get a really good vibe from the Twisted brand and decided that they would make a great podcast guest. Thankfully Sophie who founded and owns the twisted lingerie brand decided that she would like to give this podcasting malarkey a go and here we are. Twisted Lingerie is a fetish inspired brand, which can be seen throughout their collections. It’s provocative and seductive, but also affordable. We ask Sophie what inspired her to start Twisted, and how it moved from a thought to an active business. One of the things that prompted me to invite Sophie onto the podcast was the community spirit of the Twisted Lingerie Twitter feed. Not only is it body positive, it’s also kink positive, two things we feel really passionate about. There are lots of tweets supporting and encouraging people and that is something we are keen to advocate. We ask Sophie about her recent appearance at the Diamonds and Deals Conference for women in business where she gave a talk. Which leads us onto talking about supporting women in business, sexual empowerment and how sometimes women can feel the need to be apologetic for things they want out of life, and that actually we all feel that should not be the case. Body positivity and body shaming get an airing again, because let’s be honest we probably can’t talk about these things enough, not just as a podcast but as a community. We discuss how things like lingerie, and shibari can sometimes pave the way to us feeling a little bit more love for our bodies and how important that is. I shall let you discover the rest of the show for yourself, but if you have any comments on this episode or previous episodes please do get in touch via hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also send us any general kink questions, or suggestions for episodes or guests you might like us to cover. You can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook. If Patreon is your thing you can also visit us there too https://www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky where you will find our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network with Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean Podcast. Please do give them a listen and leave us all lovely reviews if you think we have earned them. Which we definitely have. We’re all awesome. Links from the show: Twisted Lingerie's Website Twisted Lingerie on Twitter Twisted Lingerie on Instagram Sh! Womens Erotic Emporium Sex at the Museum by Sarah Forbes.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone, hosts of the Loving BDSM Podcast, are our guests this week. Not only do they host a podcast, but they each have their own blog, and Loving BDSM has it’s own site with a great community feel to it, helped by the forum and other additions such as their monthly book club.   We discuss how Kayla and John met and how their dynamic works for them, with Kayla identifying as a Babygirl and John being a Daddy Dom. They also identify as having a 24/7 dynamic, but how they manage and maintain that may not be the same as how other people do. We are big fans of sharing experiences and inviting other people to take from that what is useful to them, and Kayla and John do a wonderful job of sharing their thoughts in an open, honest and inviting manner.   Reading someone’s blog can be a great insight into who they are and what they are interested in. As their blogs played a key part in how they got together, it leads us to talk about both John and Bakji did their research before wooing their respective partners. Lots of friendships have been built through blogs and social media too, and we ponder how we are meant to make friends with someone who isn’t baring their soul on the internet on a daily basis. When you are a proud and self confessed social media whore.   Evolution of kinks and kink identities is a huge part of being a kinky person. Almost everyone within the kink community has a got a story of how they have changed since joining the scene. This usually means more fun and a better understanding of both ourselves and kink as a whole. Kayla and John share how their relationship has evolved, their online presence has evolved and also how their kinks have evolved, both individually and as a couple.   Part of what makes Loving BDSM a must listen podcast is the fact John and Kayla allow fun and silliness not only into their lives but also into their D/s. While there is a lot of serious conversations that need to be had when you are engaging in BDSM, it is also meant to be fun. This comes up in the podcast through the various points raised, including what our various approaches to aftercare look like, and it isn’t necessarily how you’d imagine it look, especially if you are new to kink.   There is so much more that we cover in this episode, but I think I shall let you discover the rest for yourself, or the blog post will be a mammoth essay rather than a little round-up. You can find all the links to Loving BDSM below, as well as links to other resources mentioned within this episode.   As well as Loving BDSM, you can also listen to the other fab podcast that our part of our little Podcast Jukebox Network. Off the Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and Parking Lot Radio. We are all on iTunes and we will love you forever if you leave us a star rating and review. You can also wing by our Patreon site and see what is going on their for our Patrons. The most exciting of which is access to our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish fun, to check that out use this link https://www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky. You can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook, just use the seqarch term ‘proudtobekinky’.

Lee Harrington is our guest this week, and if for some reason this is your first time listening to Lee speak you are in for a treat. Not only is he a friendly and extremely likeable person, he is also knowledgeable about so many topics it's hard to know what to ask him about first.   Having perused some of the wealth of resources Lee has to offer, 10 books to date, educational classes, podcasts (both his own and guest spots on other people’s), a blog, plus a presence on various social media platforms. We asked Lee what inspires him to carry out the work he does and the answer in itself is inspiring.   As you know myself and Bakji are relatively new to the kink scene, hence why we don’t class ourselves as educators when it comes to the podcast, we are just two people who are keen to share our experiences in the hope they might resonate with other people and give them support and encouragement where needed in terms of embracing either their local scene, their kinks or perhaps both. Less however has got two decades worth of experience of the kink scene under his belt. So we ask him how he came to discover his kinky side and what brought him into the kink community.   Our previous episode that addressed the topic of gender, ‘Episode 30 - Cross-Dressing and Being GenderFluid’ was a huge success. So we wanted to take some time to talk to Lee about this. As someone who openly discusses his own journey with gender, his insight and thoughts on gender identity are both educational and thought provoking. I challenge anyone who thinks they know about gender, or the issues some people face in relation to their gender to listen to Lee and not learn something.   We also talk about the crazy rude questions people often ask, relating to both gender and sexuality and how those questions are best navigated. This also leads us to discuss what constitutes sex, how opinions on this can vary and that knowing your partners view on this can be of great importance.   Floss gets herself flustered again when we talk about the bathroom bill that is being proposed in Lee’s current home state of Alaska. In which people will be required to use the bathroom of the gendered assigned on their birth certificate, regardless of how they are currently presenting. Lee was actually heading straight to protest for this right after we spoke with him.   It would be remiss of us to have Lee on without asking him about rope. As someone who has been tying long before there were online tutorials and a rope gathering in every city. We are thoroughly spoilt now with the amount of information we can obtain when it comes to Shibari, and it’s people like Lee that we have to thank for that. People who painstakingly reverse engineered ties and made connections with other people across the world who could impart their wisdom also.   If you would like to know more about Lee you can find him at passionandsoul.com, through there you can read his blog posts and check out what other podcasts you can listen to him on. His chat with our sister podcast Off The Cuffs turned into a two parter and is well worth a listen.   As well as Off The Cuffs, we are also joined in the Podcast Jukebox Network by the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and Parking Lot Radio. You can find all of us on most podcast apps. You can also find us all on a variety of social media platforms, including our new Podcast Jukebox Facebook group. If you have any comments on this episode or the podcast in general you can email us via hello@proudtobekinky.com, or get in touch on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife or Facebook. You can also check us out on Patreon, www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky, home of our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun.

Kinky nostalgia is this weeks topic as Bakji and I take a walk down memory lane and discuss some of our favourite kinky scenes. Though we each suffer from what we call ‘kink amnesia’, so remembering the exact details seems to be a little tricky. Key moments seem to stick with us though, so those are the topic of discussion.   We discuss our varying experiences with early adventures into obtaining and exploring pornography. While one of us was content with movies and tv that had sexy scenes in, the other person rooted through bins and skips to obtain such things. There’s also talk of floppy disks containing jpegs and dial up internet. I really don’t think the youth of today realise how lucky wireless internet makes them.   First sex toys make an appearance too. Well an appearance in the conversation, not a physical appearance. Due to the fact that the first sex toy I ever bought ended up being a recalled item that had some very dubious issues, I no longer have that in my possession. Bakji tells a very sad story about the very first sex toy he ordered, the words sucks, strokes and masturbate are said a lot.   This is a little bit of an indulgent episode, mostly to celebrate the birthday of Bakji, also it is a good chance to give our listeners a little bit of an insight into what it is that we love to do together that encourages us to do the podcast. For us this podcast is about getting other people connected with like minded friends and/or partner/s to enjoy their own kinky times with.   We focus on the physical side of things a fair bit in this episode, and also in the episodes of FemDom and Fetish Fun that we do. We wouldn’t enjoy any of those things half as much though without the foundation of friendship and the emotional connection that strengthened with lots of getting to know each other. Which is why we encourage people to make friends of all kinds, sexy friends, platonic friends, rope friends and one of our favourites podcasting friends. Those podcasting people are awesome.   Speaking of podcasting friends. Please do head over to the Podcast Jukebox Network, we have accounts on Twitter and Facebook, so you can follow what #ProudToBeKinky has going on without publicly liking a kink page/account. Other podcast included in the network are Off The Cuffs, the Will Sean Podcast, Parking Lot Radio and Drinks with God. They are all awesome podcasts so do swing by and give them a listen.   If you have no issues with liking a kink account, then follow us on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Fetlife. There are links on all the #ProudToBeKinky pages for our personal accounts you are also more than welcome to follow us there too. Feel free to give us a tweet/comment to let us know you are listener following and we will give you a big virtual hug. You can also head over to our Patreon site www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky, and check out what kind of rewards our Patrons are getting. Currently the most exciting of which is our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. Currently three episodes are available with many more to come. Floss also does weekly Patron only blog posts that give a round-up of our weekends and information on what guests we have coming up

Sex is our topic of discussing this week. As we are joined by Tanya and Megan from the ‘Take Back Your Sex’ podcast. While we talk a lot about kink and sexy things in general, it isn’t very often we actually talk about sex. So it was great to have these ladies on to fuel a positive discussion surrounding this subject. Tanya has been blogging about sex in various guises for many years, so we asked how she and Megan came together to form the takebackyoursex.com blog and what prompted them to then move into podcasting.  We also discuss a few of our own learning curves of starting the pod.  We delve back into the topic of swinging again, and ask Tanya how she has found her adventures in non-monogamy. A topic that is currently a popular conversation with team #ProudToBeKinky as Bakji and I take our tentative first steps towards swinging adventures. More on that in future podcasts.  Slut shaming is a big conversation, and a topic that Tanya and Megan tackle often on their blog, podcast and social media platforms. Here at #ProudToBeKinky we definitely agree that slut shaming needs to end. So while we are not self identified sluts ourselves, we are 100% in support of those that are and are more than happy to be an ally in the fight against slut shaming.   We also discuss how things can change when you start exploring things that are new to you, in this instance those things are kink and non-monogamy. Many of us join the kink scene, or get into relationships with firm expectations of what we will and won’t do, and tend to expect our partners to fit into that same model. Often though once you start exploring new things your desires and boundaries can shift dramatically and you can find yourself interested in trying so many new things. As we have said before many times on the podcast, embracing this and being open to new things is one of our top tips for enjoying the kink community.  Sex education also comes under some scrutiny as we comment on how neither the U.S or U.K seems to quite have it right. It’s definitely something we need to be talking about more in terms of educating ourselves about everything from consent to contraception. But also how do those of us who are sex positive and also parents educate our children so that future generations are also sex positive.  Part of the sex education conversation takes us onto the topic of self love and body positivity and it’s some Floss was particularly keen to talk about. Despite her prolific use of Instagram including many, many shameless bum selfies, her body confidence was not always as high and taking those steps towards body positivity can be hard for many people.  There is much more to hear in this episode too. You can also tune in to Megan and Tanya on their own podcast ‘Take Back Your Sex’ to hear more from them. If you have any questions or comments on this episode you can email us on hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also follow us on instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Fetlife. You can also check out our Patreon site www.pateon.com/proudtobekinky, which is now the home of our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, which all Patrons gain access to.  As always a shout to our friends on the Podcast Jukebox Network, Off The Cuffs, Parking Lot Radio, Will Sean Podcast and Drinks with God. Please do give them a listen and anyone who is listening on iTunes can leave a wonderful 5 star review for all of us.

When you join the kink community there are very few hard and fast rules that we are expected to conform with, however approaching the community and the people in it with consideration and common sense definitely goes a long way to helping make new friends.   A lot of us learn the hard way when it comes to certain aspects of the scene, and we look back thinking, ‘wow, I wish I’d known that sooner’, so we are attempting to cover some of the things we wish we’d been told before we got involved in the scene, and we also cover a few things we wish other people would learn, yes we mean the guy's still sending the dick pics! We’re not out to preach, and we have definitely made a few of these mistakes ourselves, and as always we don’t want to come across as negative, so while we are saying ‘don’t do this’ we are counteracting with what we think might be a better course of action to help make you more friends and make you experience on the scene even more awesome.   While we cover mostly ideas on improving your social interactions, we also throw in a few practical items and we also repeat some things we may have said once or twice before, but they are worth repeating. Dicks pics, consent, scene etiquette etc! I don’t think we can ever talk about these things enough.As always if you have any feedback on this episode, on the podcast in general or a kink related question, then please do email us on hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Fetlife. We also love hearing from listeners on all these platforms, so if you’re following us do say a little hello and let us know you’re a listener.   You can also check out our sister podcasts from the Podcast Jukebox Network. This includes Off The Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, Parking Lot Radio, the Will Sean Podcast and Drinks With God. You can also leave us all a lovely 5 star review if you're listening via iTunes (apple podcast app). You can also visit us on our Patreon page www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky. This is now the only place you will find new releases of our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, we have recorded a second episode and it should be with our Patron’s very soon.

Shibari is back! We know we may have mentioned it once or twice before, however we have got a wonderful guest in the lovely Sophia.Shibari who is an all round rope enthusiast. We have been long time followers of her Instagram account, and when we saw her perform a self suspension at the SlapStick Club (listen to episode 23 for more on that) we decided to reach out and see if she would like to come and chat with us, and to our delight she said yes. Sophia is not only a rope model, but also a rigger, she also teaches and facilitates rope jams at Anatomie Studio in London. Which if you ever get a chance to go to is well worth a visit. Anatomie Studio is a dedicated rope space, that not only offer tuition in rope, but also a wide range of other classes and opportunities. We do discuss this lots more within this episode. We talk to Sophia about what led her to joining the rope community, and as is often the case we end up discussing why we love it here at #ProudToBeKinky. We make a great case for how awesome the rope scene is and why anyone who is curious about rope should definitely give it a try. Floss marvels at how effortless Sophia makes self-suspension look and she tells us a little bit about her self-suspension performances, and how she finds the experience of tying herself. We also delve into how she got into the rigging side of rope, and how she developed the skills she has honed so beautifully. On the practical side of things we ask Sophia the following things: What is her advice for anyone wanting to get into Shibari? What conversations should people be having before they tie together? What are her favourites ties as a rope model? As always you can reach us on hello [at] proudtobekinky.com if you have any comments on this episode, or any queries about the podcast or kink in general. Don’t forget you can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Fetlife. We love hearing from people who are listening so please do reach out if you are a listener following us on any of these platforms. You can also check us out on Patreon, www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky. As if is an NSFW account you will need to follow the link to find us, we won’t show up in a Patreon search. Our new spin-off podcast ‘FemDom and Fetish Fun’ is going to be a Patron only reward as of episode 2, Floss is now sharing weekly Patron only posts and we are currently conspiring to come up with lots more awesome rewards. Don’t forget to check out our sister podcasts from the Podcast Jukebox Network, Off The Cuffs, Parking Lot Radio, the Will Sean Podcast and our new addition Drinks With God. You’re probably sick of me saying but if you're listening on iTunes (Apple Podcast App) please do leave a review, they make a huge difference to whether or not some people will be willing to take a punt on a new podcast. You can find Sophia on Instagram under sophia.shibari and you can find out more about Anatomie via their website anatomiestudio.com.

Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy is this weeks focus, as Bakji and Floss are joined by the wonderful Page Turner from the website Poly.Land and also author of a new book Poly Land: My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory. We stumbled across Page via Fetlife, when Floss came across her post Homing Pigeon Primary:Good Things Are Hard To Screw Up which was cross-posted from the Poly.Land blog. Since then Floss has been an avid reader of Poly.Land, and was very keen to give Page’s book a read once it was released. Polyamory is hard to miss as a lifestyle choice and subject matter when you join the kink scene, there is a fairly sizeable amount of kinky people who are either polyamorous, or have some kind of ethical non-monogamous activity within their relationships. With that in mind it has been important to cover polyamory at some point, finding the right people to discuss certain topics is important though, so we were delighted when Page said she would be happy to come and chat with us for an episode.   We cover some general things with Page like what inspired her to start her blog and how that progressed into her book. Also on a more personal level we discuss how she got into polyamory in the beginning and how she has navigated to the point she is at now.   Other topics we cover are some poly top-tips, and some useful resources, (other than Page’s own blog and book), which are recommended for people who are interested in exploring polyamory, or even just starting a conversation about potentially opening up. Some of the resources we mention are:   Polyamory Weekly - blog and podcast More Than Two - blog and book The Ethical Slut - book Poly In The News - blog Ferret Steinmetz - blog Daring Greatly - the book mentioned by Page that isn’t specifically about Poly   We also touch upon the controversial question of can you learn to be poly or must it be our natural leanings, parting ways gracefully. the beauty of compersion and meeting Stephen King. Bakji also tries to make quick fire questions poly related, which doesn’t really work, but we try and roll with it anyway.   Our email is hello@proudtobekinky.com, and you are welcome to use that for podcast comments or questions, or even just general kink related questions if you think we can be of assistance. You can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook.   If you have listened to all of the #ProudToBeKinky episodes and are looking for new podcasts to check out, then please tune in to some of the other podcasts in the Podcast Jukebox Network; Off the Cuffs, Parking Lot Radio, the Will Sean Podcast and Drinks With God. We all appreciate lovely reviews being left for us too if you listen on iTunes.

Kinky paraphernalia is the topic of this week’s episode. As Bakji and Floss go it alone without a guest, to discuss all their favourite and most used items for their BDSM shenanigans.   Before I go on though, make sure you listen until the very end of the episode because we make a new and exciting announcement, which you will not want to miss.   Onto the content of the episode. We cover money savings tips and how to find good deals and discounts. Floss pimps Lovehoney so much that it’s probably impossible to convince you that she doesn’t work them, unfortunately we do not get any commission from you guys going their. Just the satisfaction of knowing you got a great deal and some sexy fun.   However, if you’re on a budget, or just fancy being creative, we also tackle ‘Make Your Own’ and ‘Vanilla Repurposing’. We had to take to Whatsapp to pick our friends brains for this one, because a) neither of us are that crafty and b) we use all our imagination on this podcast. So big shout out to our lovely friends for their awesome ideas.   It’s fair to say most people love a bargain, and not many of us want to pay more than is necessary for a product. Which is why we at #ProudToBeKinky are big fans of ‘Cheap but Good’, things we bought for a great price but do a great job, and even in some cases outshine their more expensive counterpart. Unfortunately the flip side to that is ‘Cheap but Shite’, classy name we know, but we go down that road too. Positivity is our main aim though, so we also let you know what is expensive and worth every penny. Hint, it’s Latex.   Some companies we give shoutouts too, and always recommend are:   For sexy toys, lubes, lingerie & bondage - https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/ For Latex - https://www.westwardbound.com/ For Latex - https://libidex.com/ For Rope - https://www.etsy.com/uk/shop/MMHJute?ref=search_shop_redirect   If we didn’t cover something in this episode, but you are curious where you can buy something, or wonder if we have any recommendations then please do send us a message and we can do what we can to assist you. Our email as ever is hello@proudtobekinky.com, and we love getting your emails so do not hesitate if you are thinking of writing in. If email isn't your thing, but you do want to get a bit involved with the podcast you can follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook.   Big shoutout as ever to our sister podcasts within the Podcast Jukebox Network. Off The Cuffs, the Will Sean Podcast and Parking Lot Radio. All worth a listen and all available on most podcast apps, and don’t forget if you listen to any of us on iTunes (Apple Podcast App) please do leave a review, they make all the difference in letting new listeners know whether or not to take a chance on listening to an as yet unheard podcast.

Cross-dresser. Transvestite. Gender-Fluid. Transgender. BiGender. Just a few of the words that come up in this episode. They may not mean to you what they mean to our guest, and every approach is valid when someone identifies with any or all of those words. The words we have at our disposal to describe ourselves can be key in our acceptance of who we are. Being able to successfully put across  to others, where we fall on the spectrum of gender can sometimes also be key to their understanding of who we are. Allowing for more open and beneficial conversations. [caption id="attachment_1377" align="aligncenter" width="300"] Crossdressing and Being Gender Fluid[/caption]   Our guest for this episode presents as both male and female. George when presenting as male, and Georgie when presenting as female. When we met it was a day for she and her pronouns, despite Bakji’s accidental faux pas of ‘we are joined with a chap named George’ right at the beginning of our interview. Luckily we were talking to a very open, lovely and level-headed individual who understands these things happen. If you would like to follow George on Twitter you can do so via @georgemitton. Part of why we were keen to invite George onto the podcast is that he is completely open with everyone in his life about his Gender-Fluid orientation. Including family, friends and colleagues. With many aspects of BDSM and alternative lifestyles of all types the decision about whether or not to be open is a really big one. So speaking to someone who has been through it was an interesting experience. We asked Georgie how and when she discover this side of herself, and how it integrated into her life in both the earlier days, and up to and including the present day. This includes some success stories of sharing with others, and periods of time where George was pushed to the forefront, and the fluidity of gender was not as present. Overall though this is an immensely positive episode, we discuss how we can best approach telling people about the aspect of yourself you have yet to share with them, in this case being Gender-Fluid, but it could equally apply to other situations. We also cover women (and of course men) who not only support men who identify in these ways, but are also actively attracted to them. Make-up, clothes, prosthetic boobs and wigs also come up in conversation, as we ask Georgie where some good places to shop are, and what key pieces she finds most useful. Likewise we enquire as to what kind of events are available, for once you are all dressed up and want to get together with some like minded folk. Obviously as always you can hit Fetlife and the usual Fetish events and munches that we recommend, but we actually do discover some new events through talking to Georgie.  If any of what we talk about in this episode resonates with you, but you still have questions or any comments then please do get in touch. You can email us via hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also get in touch through any one of our social media accounts, we are on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook. All messages are welcome.  We are also proud to be part of the Podcast Jukebox Network. If you haven’t already please check out, Off The Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean Podcast. If you listen to any of us on iTunes/Apple podcast app, please do leave us a review, they really are invaluable for helping other find the podcasts you enjoy. You can also support us on Patreon, any support will go towards growing the podcast so we can reach more people, speak to more guests and generally make #ProudToBeKinky the best damn podcast it can be.

Swinging is our focus this week, as we are joined by Author Cooper S. Beckett. He has written three books ‘A Life Less Monogamous’, ‘Life on the Swingset’ and ‘Approaching the Swingularity’. When we have an author on the show we always attempt to read as much of their work as possible, once again we were blown away by how much we enjoyed Cooper’s writing. [caption id="attachment_1344" align="aligncenter" width="300"] My Life on the Swingset[/caption] There is often a lot of me, us, them amongst the varying subsets of alternative lifestyles. BDSM lifestylers aren’t always swingers, swingers aren’t always polyamorous and polyamorous folk may neither swing or be kinky. Some people however might be all three. Part of why I loved chatting with Cooper is that he wants us all to pull together. People outside of all three of those groups are likely to be judging us, and not kindly. The last thing we need is to be turning on each other as well.   Myself and Bakji are not swingers. We are non-monogamous kinksters who have been fascinated only by each other for a fair while now. Swinging wasn’t really something either of us had ever really considered ‘our thing’. However after reading Cooper’s books and chatting to him, we are actually talking about the fact that this could be fun for us. At the end of the day we love making new friends, we enjoy being sexy and perhaps we could learn more about a lifestyle that could be great for some of our listeners.   In this episode we talk about who might benefit from opening their relationship and what things you should be considering before, during and after opening up. We also talk about jealousy and what it can mean for us when that feeling is present and what we can do to work through that with our partner/s.   If you’re new to non-monogamy as a concept it can be easy to box up each subsection of it and see them as completely different entities, however as we talk to Cooper we discuss they notion of it being more a spectrum that you can move back and forth along depending on the types of people you meet and relationships you engage in.   As the social and interpersonal podcast we are always wondering what is it about each episode that might encourage or help people get themselves out and about and making like minded friends, and/or partner/s. While we don’t yet have all the advice on swinging we will do our best to help you find the answers should you be interested in getting your swing on.   You can also check out Cooper’s Podcast ‘Life on the Swingset’ for more information. On the subject of other podcasts, we are now part of the podcast network Podcast Jukebox, with our sister podcasts ‘Off The Cuffs: a kink and BDSM Podcast’, the ‘Will Sean Podcast’ and ‘Parking Lot Radio’. Please do give them all a listen. After you’ve listened to us though, we want to be your favourite.   All feedback is welcomed, as are questions relating to the podcast or about kink in general. You can email us via hello@proudtobekinky.com, or you can get in touch through any of our social media accounts, Instagram, Twitter and Fetlife. You can also support us on Patreon, which will enable us to grow the podcast and reach more curious kinksters and help them get their kink on.  

Avital Ash (@avitalash) is a writer, actress, director, and straight up awesome person. She’s the perfect guest to have on our first show AFTER A MONTH! I know, I know…but you can all relax now, your long national nightmare is finally over. I mean, Trump (@POTUS) is still President, but at least you have that sweet, sweet Will Sean Podcast to salve your wounded psyche. Whitewashing in Hollywood - we fix it! Trainspotting 2 is a mediocre movie perfectly designed to remind you how mediocre you are as well. Adult Education is a wonderful thing/Adult Education is a terrible thing - Will Link breaks it down. We’re sorry that we went away, but we’re back now…or something like that.

This week, Dick Wound and minimus maximus are joined by Mistress Tetra, to talk about amputee fetish, enemas, and a bit of objectification.  We also talk about the Los Angeles Pro Domme kink scene, and get the kinky-low-down on Will Link of the Will Sean Podcast?. PLEASE RATE, REVIEW, and SUBSCRIBE to the show! Keep us ad free!  Give us a buck or two: https://www.patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com or - www.offthecuffs.org Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimus_maximus www.fetlife.com/Domina_Tetra Follow us on Twitter: @ocpkink @DickWound @MinimusMaxim @Mistress_Tetra We're also on www.thecage.co  Don't forget to check out our friend's podcasts: Will Sean Podcast? RISK! (friend of the show Kevin Allison's podcast) & S'LAUGHTER: True Crime Podcast Kink, BDSM, Sex Positive, Fetlife, Fetish, Sexuality, Dick Wound, minimum maximus, Punk, Nerd, Pro Domme, Amputee, Enema, Objectification, Los Angeles, LA, CA, Long Island, NY, Domina Tetra

Will Link is a screenwriter and co-hosts of the Will Sean Podcast? where each week he comically dissects what's going on in pop culture. He's also a film critic for the blog You Won Cannes and for the radio show The PM Show with Larry Manetti. He has recently gotten involved in the world of writing and performing personal comedic essays and can be seen reading at shows around Los Angeles."