Podcasts about proudtobekinky

Hello everyone, Bakji here. This time last year we stopped doing the ProudToBeKinky podcast. Now, a year on I'm going to bring it back as an audio-blog/podcast, please visit www.proudtobekinky.com Please listen to the episode for more information and if you'd like to say hello then please do so at 'hello@proudtobekinky.com Cheers! Bakji

This week, Dick and max are joined by BotBugg to discuss his journey to polyamory and it being far removed from his upbringing.   Support the show by paying for max's pain! patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast Drinks with God NO LOVE LOST & Being There Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & This Is Actually Happening Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

This week, Dick and max are joined by Peach to discuss disability in relation to kink. Support the show by paying for max's pain! patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast Drinks with God NO LOVE LOST & Being There Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & This Is Actually Happening Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

This week, Dick and max are joined by Infinity Rising to discuss their gender fluidity. Support the show by paying for max's pain! patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast Drinks with God NO LOVE LOST & Being There Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & This Is Actually Happening Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

This week, Dick and max are joined by Trinity, author of Caly's Game, to discuss her book, and the service oriented classes she teaches. Support the show by paying for max's pain! patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast Drinks with God NO LOVE LOST & Being There Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & This Is Actually Happening Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

This week, Dick and max team up with the ProudToBeKinky podcast, to talk with, NerdyKinkster, about her journey into kink thus far, and the distinction between consensual kink and actual sexual violence. Support the show by paying for max's pain! patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast Drinks with God NO LOVE LOST & Being There Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & This Is Actually Happening Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

This week, Dick and max are joined by, Mistress Justine Cross, to discuss her work as a Pro-Domme, and continue spreading awareness about the dangers of the SESTA/FOSTA bills. SIGN THE PETITION! Support the show by paying for max's pain! patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast Drinks with God & Being There Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & This Is Actually Happening Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

This week, Dick and max are joined by, Susan Wright of the NCSF to discuss the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom's mission, the SESTA/FOSTA bills, and the importance of #metoo in conversations surrounding consent.  NCSF website: www.ncsfreedom.org Support the show by paying for max's pain! patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast Drinks with God & Being There Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & This Is Actually Happening Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

We've been at it for two years now, and what better way to celebrate than to "shoot the shit" about filth play? This week, Dick and max sit down with JohnWatersports to discuss scat and toilet play. Support the show by paying for max's pain!patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast Drinks with God & Being There Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & This Is Actually Happening Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

Confidence is our focus for this episode. More specifically is lack of confidence affecting your kink. If so, this episode is for you. Inspired by a blog post by Floss on her personal blog flossdoeslife.com. We attempt to give you some solutions to boost your kinky confidence, even if that just means faking it till you make it. We would also like to say a huge thank you for your patience while we took a break from our regularly scheduled shows. The time of to freshen up and think of some awesome new podcast ideas was amazingly beneficial, and your ongoing support while we rested was very much appreciated. Our top tips for increasing your kinky confidence are: Start small Hone your skills Sensory deprivation for the win They want your attention   It’s not what you do it’s that you’re doing it Trust that they fancy you (and your body) Communicate about kinks It’s okay to wear what feel sexy TO YOU Be kind to each other when things don’t work When things do work, celebrate them. We discuss all these point in more depth and were applicable we also talk about how they have worked for us, and how we continually apply some of them to our own dynamic. If you would like to hear more about how our dynamic unfolds within our own session then you can head over to our Patreon page where for $2 a month you can get access to all past and future FemDom and Fetish Fun episodes, where we share details of all our kinky sessions. We are also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Drinks with God, Off the Cuffs, The Will Sean Podcast and Dick Wounds new show Being There. You can find all of us on most available podcast apps, and as always we love to receive your reviews and feedback. You can get in touch with us on any of our social media platforms or you can email us via hello@proudtobekinky.com. Links: Is Confidence Affecting Your Kink? - The post that inspired the episode ProudToBeKinky on Patreon ProudToBeKinky on Twitter ProudToBeKinky on Instagram  

  This week, Dick and max answer your questions submitted to our fetlife page, and take some live questions from our discord chatroom. Support the show by paying for max's pain!patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast Drinks with God & Being There Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & This Is Actually Happening Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

Turiag and Gypsy are in the studio this week to discuss Gorean lifestyle with max and Lexual Romance (aka Pikachu) while Dick takes the week off. Find them on Fetlife:@Turiagscienna and @Turiag Support the show by paying for max's pain!patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast Drinks with God & Being There Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & This Is Actually Happening Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

This week we wired up Rancor Studios for sound, and recorded our local BDSM 101 class, presented by Jack-TPK.  We'll be back next week with a regular episode of Off the Cuffs. ... Same Kink-Time, ... Same Kink-Channel. Support the show by paying for max's pain!patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast Drinks with God & Being There Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & This Is Actually Happening Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

This week, Dick and max are joined by, Katharine Gates, to discuss some of the niche fetishes she explored in her book, Deviant Desires.   Find her on Fetlife:@DeviantGates Support the show by paying for max's pain!patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast Drinks with God & Being There Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & This Is Actually Happening Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

This week, Dick and max are joined by, Kahallia, to discuss Cardiophilia, a niche medical fetish that focuses on the heart.  Making it beat faster, slower, palpitate, listening to it during play, controlling its rhythm and much more.  Find her on Fetlife:@Kahallia Support the show by paying for max's pain!patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast Drinks with God & Being There Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & This Is Actually Happening Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

This week, Dick and max are joined by, Angel and Owen, to discuss kink and BDSM in first and second life! Find them on Fetlife: AngelAshdene and owenblaylock Check out their website/podcast: kinkypeas.com Support the show by paying for max's pain!patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast Drinks with God & Being There Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & This Is Actually Happening Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

We had to replace this week's show with and episode of Dick's other podcast, Being There.  OCP repeat guest Jack-TPK was our guest this week, so we felt it was fitting to use. Support the show by paying for max's pain!patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast & Drinks with God Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & This Is Actually Happening Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

This week, Dick and max are joined by, Spike, Alex, and Jack-TPK, three Dominants from our local community.  In a departure from our standard format, we are not part of the discussion this week.  We just recorded the three guests talking about different views of maintaining healthy D/s relationships. Check out the podcast THIS IS ACTUALLY HAPPENING  Ep#105: What if your deepest fear was your greatest pleasure? Where Dick tells an expansive version of his near death experience and radioactive spider-bite into kink. Support the show by paying for max's pain!patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast & Drinks with God Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & This Is Actually Happening Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

This week, Dick and max are joined by, Page Turner, to discuss polyamory and some of the different relationship structures and systems that can help to make it work. Dick takes a detour to talk about bullying disguised as comedy. Check out her writing: https://poly.land Support the show by paying for max's pain!patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast & Drinks with God Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & American Sex Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

This week Dick Wound and minimus maximus are joined by Patedechoux and Miss Violet for a last minute year end recording, to make up for a recent episode we lost.  We discuss this past year in podcasting, and a few of the things we've learned about ourselves along the way.  Support the show by paying for max's pain!patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast &Drinks with God Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Bed Post Podcast  & American Sex Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

This week, Dick Wound and minimus maximus are joined by Devi Irony, co-host of Fetish World podcast to discuss latex, self blowjobs, and kink podcasting. Support the show by paying for max's pain! patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast &Drinks with God Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & Kill by Kill Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

This week, Dick Wound and minimus maximus are joined by Alex and Jean, the founders of Long Island Leather and Roses, to discuss the origin of LILNR as an educational group, as well as fear and rape play. Support the show by paying for max's pain! patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast &Drinks with God Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & Kill by Kill Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

This week, Dick Wound and minimus maximus are joined by TacosAreAmongUs, to discuss her haircutting fetish (trichophilia), alien abduction fantasies, and other dark thoughts we get off to. Check out our SPONSORS this week:The Bed Post Podcast & Nature vs Narcissism Podcast Support the show by paying for max's pain! patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast &Drinks with God Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & Kill by Kill Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

This week, Dick Wound and minimus maximus are joined by SirLadyBear to talk about discreet forms of public play, nonconventional toys, and some darker fantasies. Support the show by paying for max's pain! patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com www.offthecuffs.org 1 (631) 881 KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast &Drinks with God Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & Fetish World Podcast Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

While red flags usually refers to those behaviors that would signal  relationship is unsafe or unhealthy, in this episode we are discussing those things that are incompatibility red flags. Things that have in the past, or would in the future signal to us that a relationship isn’t as well suited to us as we had hoped it might be. Over the years we have both been in these relationships ourselves, as well as having many friends put up with varying levels of incompatibility, when we’ve looked at our reasons for staying or enquired with friends why they themselves stayed the answer is always a variation on the same thing ‘what if I don’t find anyone else who’s kinky/does the things I like sexually’. We are are big believers that no-one should be stuck in an unhappy relationship for fear of not finding someone else to indulge in their kinks with. We also know though that it’s definitely easier said than done, especially if you’re new to exploring your kink and suddenly finding someone who is into them too feels like it’s too good to be true. We are really passionate about people investing in the right people for them, and having not only a good kink dynamic but also a good friendship and relationship beyond that too. We discuss some of the things that would be incompatibility red flags for us personally, and alternatively the green flags that make us delighted to spend time with someone. These are likely to be different for everyone, so we’re not saying take ours to heart and follow them religiously. We do however hope people are mindful of their own situations and surround themselves with good people and nourishing relationships, be they romantic or platonic. As always if you have any feedback on this episode or on the podcast in general you can email us on hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Fetlife. We are also on Patreon, which you can find by using the following link www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky. Where you can find or spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, where we discuss our own kinky scenes. #ProudToBeKinky is also part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off The Cuffs, Drinks with God, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean Podcast.

This week, Dick Wound and minimus maximus are joined by Mistress Couple to discuss La Domaine Esemar, her sessions as Madame Hillary, and finally BALLOON FETISHISM! Mistress Couple's Links fetlife.com/MissCouple www.ladomaine.com Be sure to check out our sponsors for this week: Based on a True Crime podcast & The Dildorks PLEASE RATE, REVIEW, and SUBSCRIBE to the show! Pay for max's pain! patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com www.offthecuffs.org 1 (631) 881-KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter: @ocpkink @DickWound @MinimusMaxim Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Our public kik group is #ocpkik We're also on www.thecage.co Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast Drinks with God & Parking Lot Radio Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & Fetish World Podcast Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

This week, Dick Wound and minimus maximus are joined by meanstreakmilewide to discuss BDSM and the law, this time from the perspective of a kinky lawyer.  Find Mean Streak on Fetlife: fetlife.com/meanstreakmilewide Big thanks to our SPONSOR this week: The Dildorks! Find all their everything here linktr.ee/thedildorks PLEASE RATE, REVIEW, and SUBSCRIBE to the show! Pay for max's pain! patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com www.offthecuffs.org 1 (631) 881-KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimusmaximus Follow us on Twitter: @ocpkink @DickWound @MinimusMaxim Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Our public kik group is #ocpkik We're also on www.thecage.co Check out our sister shows from PODCAST JUKEBOX: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast Drinks with God & Parking Lot Radio Also check out our friend's shows: RISK! The Dildorks & Fetish World Podcast Opening and closing theme music: HOUND DOG RUN by This'll Kill Ya!

Communication is our topic this week, as Bakji and I (Floss) go it alone to share their thoughts on the importance of communicating with your partner. Our private conversations over the last few weeks have come back round to communication on many occasions. Both reflecting on how communicating with previous partners has been more difficult than we felt it should be, and why we thought that might be. We discuss why communication is so important especially within the kink community, be that with a casual play partner or within an established dynamic. Whether you are wanting to talk about sexual desires, kinky desires or your relationship as a whole, we cover how there is often a time and place for these discussions and how sensitivity and empathy is a must. Face to face, over the phone, Whatsapp, Trello and Instagram are all methods of communicating Bakji and I have used in our time together. I always feel that as adults we are meant to be totally down with face to face communication, but I’m here to say, sod that. Sort of. I think if something is making you feel anxious when it comes to discussing it, and you can find a more comfortable way to express yourself that will move things forward, then why not do it. That said myself and Bakji have both become a lot better at actually using our words and communicating with each other both the good, the not so good, and of the course the kinky, sexy awesomeness. We discuss how this has helped our relationship, and what we think made communicating with each other different to previous relationships. We reflect on how our experiences of talking about sex and physical desires in our younger years are very different. We wonder if this is a gender divide, or a throwback to when women were actively discouraged from embracing and enjoying their sexuality and having their sexual needs and want wasn’t seen as the done thing. The Top/bottom dynamic also extends outside of kink dynamics and into non-kink sexual interactions, we do feel though that isn’t explored outside of the kink community and therefore it can sometimes be hard to express your needs without those terms at your disposal to help explain the nuances of what it is you're looking for. Things get mildly controversial as we discuss the importance of sexual attraction and desire in life, and how romantic love sometimes gets prioritised when it isn’t necessarily the most important thing for everyone. We talk about how knowing what is important to you is what matters most and being able to express that without feeling guilty is essential. If you have any thoughts yourself on this week's episode, or any others please do get in touch with us. You can contact us via hello@proudtobekinky, or you can hit social media and find us on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook. We have had some truly wonderful messages recently and they have made us smile from ear to ear, and one may have brought a tear to my eye. When you’ve caught up on all the episodes of #ProudToBeKinky and you’re looking for somethign else to listen to check out our friends in the Podcast Jukebox Network. Off the Cuffs, Drinks with God, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean podcast. They are all fabulous for different reasons, but well worth a listen.

Kinky nostalgia is this weeks topic as Bakji and I take a walk down memory lane and discuss some of our favourite kinky scenes. Though we each suffer from what we call ‘kink amnesia’, so remembering the exact details seems to be a little tricky. Key moments seem to stick with us though, so those are the topic of discussion.   We discuss our varying experiences with early adventures into obtaining and exploring pornography. While one of us was content with movies and tv that had sexy scenes in, the other person rooted through bins and skips to obtain such things. There’s also talk of floppy disks containing jpegs and dial up internet. I really don’t think the youth of today realise how lucky wireless internet makes them.   First sex toys make an appearance too. Well an appearance in the conversation, not a physical appearance. Due to the fact that the first sex toy I ever bought ended up being a recalled item that had some very dubious issues, I no longer have that in my possession. Bakji tells a very sad story about the very first sex toy he ordered, the words sucks, strokes and masturbate are said a lot.   This is a little bit of an indulgent episode, mostly to celebrate the birthday of Bakji, also it is a good chance to give our listeners a little bit of an insight into what it is that we love to do together that encourages us to do the podcast. For us this podcast is about getting other people connected with like minded friends and/or partner/s to enjoy their own kinky times with.   We focus on the physical side of things a fair bit in this episode, and also in the episodes of FemDom and Fetish Fun that we do. We wouldn’t enjoy any of those things half as much though without the foundation of friendship and the emotional connection that strengthened with lots of getting to know each other. Which is why we encourage people to make friends of all kinds, sexy friends, platonic friends, rope friends and one of our favourites podcasting friends. Those podcasting people are awesome.   Speaking of podcasting friends. Please do head over to the Podcast Jukebox Network, we have accounts on Twitter and Facebook, so you can follow what #ProudToBeKinky has going on without publicly liking a kink page/account. Other podcast included in the network are Off The Cuffs, the Will Sean Podcast, Parking Lot Radio and Drinks with God. They are all awesome podcasts so do swing by and give them a listen.   If you have no issues with liking a kink account, then follow us on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Fetlife. There are links on all the #ProudToBeKinky pages for our personal accounts you are also more than welcome to follow us there too. Feel free to give us a tweet/comment to let us know you are listener following and we will give you a big virtual hug. You can also head over to our Patreon site www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky, and check out what kind of rewards our Patrons are getting. Currently the most exciting of which is our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun. Currently three episodes are available with many more to come. Floss also does weekly Patron only blog posts that give a round-up of our weekends and information on what guests we have coming up

Sex is our topic of discussing this week. As we are joined by Tanya and Megan from the ‘Take Back Your Sex’ podcast. While we talk a lot about kink and sexy things in general, it isn’t very often we actually talk about sex. So it was great to have these ladies on to fuel a positive discussion surrounding this subject. Tanya has been blogging about sex in various guises for many years, so we asked how she and Megan came together to form the takebackyoursex.com blog and what prompted them to then move into podcasting.  We also discuss a few of our own learning curves of starting the pod.  We delve back into the topic of swinging again, and ask Tanya how she has found her adventures in non-monogamy. A topic that is currently a popular conversation with team #ProudToBeKinky as Bakji and I take our tentative first steps towards swinging adventures. More on that in future podcasts.  Slut shaming is a big conversation, and a topic that Tanya and Megan tackle often on their blog, podcast and social media platforms. Here at #ProudToBeKinky we definitely agree that slut shaming needs to end. So while we are not self identified sluts ourselves, we are 100% in support of those that are and are more than happy to be an ally in the fight against slut shaming.   We also discuss how things can change when you start exploring things that are new to you, in this instance those things are kink and non-monogamy. Many of us join the kink scene, or get into relationships with firm expectations of what we will and won’t do, and tend to expect our partners to fit into that same model. Often though once you start exploring new things your desires and boundaries can shift dramatically and you can find yourself interested in trying so many new things. As we have said before many times on the podcast, embracing this and being open to new things is one of our top tips for enjoying the kink community.  Sex education also comes under some scrutiny as we comment on how neither the U.S or U.K seems to quite have it right. It’s definitely something we need to be talking about more in terms of educating ourselves about everything from consent to contraception. But also how do those of us who are sex positive and also parents educate our children so that future generations are also sex positive.  Part of the sex education conversation takes us onto the topic of self love and body positivity and it’s some Floss was particularly keen to talk about. Despite her prolific use of Instagram including many, many shameless bum selfies, her body confidence was not always as high and taking those steps towards body positivity can be hard for many people.  There is much more to hear in this episode too. You can also tune in to Megan and Tanya on their own podcast ‘Take Back Your Sex’ to hear more from them. If you have any questions or comments on this episode you can email us on hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also follow us on instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Fetlife. You can also check out our Patreon site www.pateon.com/proudtobekinky, which is now the home of our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun, which all Patrons gain access to.  As always a shout to our friends on the Podcast Jukebox Network, Off The Cuffs, Parking Lot Radio, Will Sean Podcast and Drinks with God. Please do give them a listen and anyone who is listening on iTunes can leave a wonderful 5 star review for all of us.

Shibari is back! We know we may have mentioned it once or twice before, however we have got a wonderful guest in the lovely Sophia.Shibari who is an all round rope enthusiast. We have been long time followers of her Instagram account, and when we saw her perform a self suspension at the SlapStick Club (listen to episode 23 for more on that) we decided to reach out and see if she would like to come and chat with us, and to our delight she said yes. Sophia is not only a rope model, but also a rigger, she also teaches and facilitates rope jams at Anatomie Studio in London. Which if you ever get a chance to go to is well worth a visit. Anatomie Studio is a dedicated rope space, that not only offer tuition in rope, but also a wide range of other classes and opportunities. We do discuss this lots more within this episode. We talk to Sophia about what led her to joining the rope community, and as is often the case we end up discussing why we love it here at #ProudToBeKinky. We make a great case for how awesome the rope scene is and why anyone who is curious about rope should definitely give it a try. Floss marvels at how effortless Sophia makes self-suspension look and she tells us a little bit about her self-suspension performances, and how she finds the experience of tying herself. We also delve into how she got into the rigging side of rope, and how she developed the skills she has honed so beautifully. On the practical side of things we ask Sophia the following things: What is her advice for anyone wanting to get into Shibari? What conversations should people be having before they tie together? What are her favourites ties as a rope model? As always you can reach us on hello [at] proudtobekinky.com if you have any comments on this episode, or any queries about the podcast or kink in general. Don’t forget you can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Fetlife. We love hearing from people who are listening so please do reach out if you are a listener following us on any of these platforms. You can also check us out on Patreon, www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky. As if is an NSFW account you will need to follow the link to find us, we won’t show up in a Patreon search. Our new spin-off podcast ‘FemDom and Fetish Fun’ is going to be a Patron only reward as of episode 2, Floss is now sharing weekly Patron only posts and we are currently conspiring to come up with lots more awesome rewards. Don’t forget to check out our sister podcasts from the Podcast Jukebox Network, Off The Cuffs, Parking Lot Radio, the Will Sean Podcast and our new addition Drinks With God. You’re probably sick of me saying but if you're listening on iTunes (Apple Podcast App) please do leave a review, they make a huge difference to whether or not some people will be willing to take a punt on a new podcast. You can find Sophia on Instagram under sophia.shibari and you can find out more about Anatomie via their website anatomiestudio.com.

Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy is this weeks focus, as Bakji and Floss are joined by the wonderful Page Turner from the website Poly.Land and also author of a new book Poly Land: My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory. We stumbled across Page via Fetlife, when Floss came across her post Homing Pigeon Primary:Good Things Are Hard To Screw Up which was cross-posted from the Poly.Land blog. Since then Floss has been an avid reader of Poly.Land, and was very keen to give Page’s book a read once it was released. Polyamory is hard to miss as a lifestyle choice and subject matter when you join the kink scene, there is a fairly sizeable amount of kinky people who are either polyamorous, or have some kind of ethical non-monogamous activity within their relationships. With that in mind it has been important to cover polyamory at some point, finding the right people to discuss certain topics is important though, so we were delighted when Page said she would be happy to come and chat with us for an episode.   We cover some general things with Page like what inspired her to start her blog and how that progressed into her book. Also on a more personal level we discuss how she got into polyamory in the beginning and how she has navigated to the point she is at now.   Other topics we cover are some poly top-tips, and some useful resources, (other than Page’s own blog and book), which are recommended for people who are interested in exploring polyamory, or even just starting a conversation about potentially opening up. Some of the resources we mention are:   Polyamory Weekly - blog and podcast More Than Two - blog and book The Ethical Slut - book Poly In The News - blog Ferret Steinmetz - blog Daring Greatly - the book mentioned by Page that isn’t specifically about Poly   We also touch upon the controversial question of can you learn to be poly or must it be our natural leanings, parting ways gracefully. the beauty of compersion and meeting Stephen King. Bakji also tries to make quick fire questions poly related, which doesn’t really work, but we try and roll with it anyway.   Our email is hello@proudtobekinky.com, and you are welcome to use that for podcast comments or questions, or even just general kink related questions if you think we can be of assistance. You can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook.   If you have listened to all of the #ProudToBeKinky episodes and are looking for new podcasts to check out, then please tune in to some of the other podcasts in the Podcast Jukebox Network; Off the Cuffs, Parking Lot Radio, the Will Sean Podcast and Drinks With God. We all appreciate lovely reviews being left for us too if you listen on iTunes.

Kinky paraphernalia is the topic of this week’s episode. As Bakji and Floss go it alone without a guest, to discuss all their favourite and most used items for their BDSM shenanigans.   Before I go on though, make sure you listen until the very end of the episode because we make a new and exciting announcement, which you will not want to miss.   Onto the content of the episode. We cover money savings tips and how to find good deals and discounts. Floss pimps Lovehoney so much that it’s probably impossible to convince you that she doesn’t work them, unfortunately we do not get any commission from you guys going their. Just the satisfaction of knowing you got a great deal and some sexy fun.   However, if you’re on a budget, or just fancy being creative, we also tackle ‘Make Your Own’ and ‘Vanilla Repurposing’. We had to take to Whatsapp to pick our friends brains for this one, because a) neither of us are that crafty and b) we use all our imagination on this podcast. So big shout out to our lovely friends for their awesome ideas.   It’s fair to say most people love a bargain, and not many of us want to pay more than is necessary for a product. Which is why we at #ProudToBeKinky are big fans of ‘Cheap but Good’, things we bought for a great price but do a great job, and even in some cases outshine their more expensive counterpart. Unfortunately the flip side to that is ‘Cheap but Shite’, classy name we know, but we go down that road too. Positivity is our main aim though, so we also let you know what is expensive and worth every penny. Hint, it’s Latex.   Some companies we give shoutouts too, and always recommend are:   For sexy toys, lubes, lingerie & bondage - https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/ For Latex - https://www.westwardbound.com/ For Latex - https://libidex.com/ For Rope - https://www.etsy.com/uk/shop/MMHJute?ref=search_shop_redirect   If we didn’t cover something in this episode, but you are curious where you can buy something, or wonder if we have any recommendations then please do send us a message and we can do what we can to assist you. Our email as ever is hello@proudtobekinky.com, and we love getting your emails so do not hesitate if you are thinking of writing in. If email isn't your thing, but you do want to get a bit involved with the podcast you can follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook.   Big shoutout as ever to our sister podcasts within the Podcast Jukebox Network. Off The Cuffs, the Will Sean Podcast and Parking Lot Radio. All worth a listen and all available on most podcast apps, and don’t forget if you listen to any of us on iTunes (Apple Podcast App) please do leave a review, they make all the difference in letting new listeners know whether or not to take a chance on listening to an as yet unheard podcast.

Cross-dresser. Transvestite. Gender-Fluid. Transgender. BiGender. Just a few of the words that come up in this episode. They may not mean to you what they mean to our guest, and every approach is valid when someone identifies with any or all of those words. The words we have at our disposal to describe ourselves can be key in our acceptance of who we are. Being able to successfully put across  to others, where we fall on the spectrum of gender can sometimes also be key to their understanding of who we are. Allowing for more open and beneficial conversations. [caption id="attachment_1377" align="aligncenter" width="300"] Crossdressing and Being Gender Fluid[/caption]   Our guest for this episode presents as both male and female. George when presenting as male, and Georgie when presenting as female. When we met it was a day for she and her pronouns, despite Bakji’s accidental faux pas of ‘we are joined with a chap named George’ right at the beginning of our interview. Luckily we were talking to a very open, lovely and level-headed individual who understands these things happen. If you would like to follow George on Twitter you can do so via @georgemitton. Part of why we were keen to invite George onto the podcast is that he is completely open with everyone in his life about his Gender-Fluid orientation. Including family, friends and colleagues. With many aspects of BDSM and alternative lifestyles of all types the decision about whether or not to be open is a really big one. So speaking to someone who has been through it was an interesting experience. We asked Georgie how and when she discover this side of herself, and how it integrated into her life in both the earlier days, and up to and including the present day. This includes some success stories of sharing with others, and periods of time where George was pushed to the forefront, and the fluidity of gender was not as present. Overall though this is an immensely positive episode, we discuss how we can best approach telling people about the aspect of yourself you have yet to share with them, in this case being Gender-Fluid, but it could equally apply to other situations. We also cover women (and of course men) who not only support men who identify in these ways, but are also actively attracted to them. Make-up, clothes, prosthetic boobs and wigs also come up in conversation, as we ask Georgie where some good places to shop are, and what key pieces she finds most useful. Likewise we enquire as to what kind of events are available, for once you are all dressed up and want to get together with some like minded folk. Obviously as always you can hit Fetlife and the usual Fetish events and munches that we recommend, but we actually do discover some new events through talking to Georgie.  If any of what we talk about in this episode resonates with you, but you still have questions or any comments then please do get in touch. You can email us via hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also get in touch through any one of our social media accounts, we are on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook. All messages are welcome.  We are also proud to be part of the Podcast Jukebox Network. If you haven’t already please check out, Off The Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, Parking Lot Radio and the Will Sean Podcast. If you listen to any of us on iTunes/Apple podcast app, please do leave us a review, they really are invaluable for helping other find the podcasts you enjoy. You can also support us on Patreon, any support will go towards growing the podcast so we can reach more people, speak to more guests and generally make #ProudToBeKinky the best damn podcast it can be.

Kinkster and Author Nookie Notes joins Bakji and Floss in this episode to discuss Female Led Relationships and her new website datingkinky.com. Part of what makes the kink community great is people with good insights on relationships and people who are will to present the community with new ideas and opportunities. Having followed Nookie Notes on Fetlife for some times and finding myself continuously loving lots of her writing, I thought why not invite her on the podcast. There were quite a few technical issues to overcome with this episode, the first time a Skype session has ever given is this much trouble, so please do bear with the episode even if there is the odd drop in sound.   Once we got chatting though we had a brilliant discussion chatting with Nookie Notes. We asked her about her writing, which you can find via her Fetlife account, she has also written a fair few books which you can find on amazon. Her books are predominantly about Female Led Relationships, with her erotica containing a good dose of cuckolding. While her Fetlife writings cover a wide range of subjects including consent, feelings, orgasms and much more.   We were very interested to discuss Nookie’s take on FLR’s and what they involve and how they relate to Kink, or if indeed they need to be related at all. Here at ProudToBeKinky we are big FemDom fans, not sure if anyone has ever noticed that, but FLR’s are different in and of themselves, so it was interested to hear where the similarities and differences lay.   As the podcast that likes to discuss the social side of kink we couldn’t have Nookie on without asking about the dating website she has created, datingkinky.com. She told us all about how she came to the decision to start a dating website, and how it has been developing over the last  6 months. We are really excited to see how this pans out in the future, and hopefully hear lots of great success stories of people finding great matches through it.   Quick fire questions return, as does out nosiness about what our guest is doing at the weekend, and as always there a fair few tangents that uncover some interesting topics of conversation, bidets and toilet roll included.   Regular listeners will have noticed our introduction now has a new addition, from our friends over at Off The Cuffs who kindly invited us into the Podcast Jukebox Network, please do listen to the great podcasts included in that, and leave them and us a great review if you are listening on iTunes/Apple Podcasts. If you have any comments, or questions for us, about the podcast or kink in general, you can get in touch on anyone of our social media accounts; Fetlife, Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Just search for ‘proudtobekinky’ and there we will be. You can also swing by our Patreon page and support us there too, you can also get in touch with ideas for what rewards you would like to see on the Patreon page, all suggestions welcome.

Fellow podcasters Dick_Wound and Minimus Maximus are our guests for this episode. They host Off The Cuffs: A Kink and BDSM Podcast. When we were just a few episodes into #ProudToBeKinky, Dick_Wound reached out to us on Fetlife and offered podcasting camaraderie. We were genuinely touched, even more so when we asked for advice on guest episodes and they not only gave advice, but were active in getting us in contact with people who became future guests. [caption id="attachment_1251" align="aligncenter" width="300"] Off The Cuffs Podcast[/caption] When the conversation turned to possibly doing each other's shows we were very excited. I know we have our own podcast, which is brilliant, but going on someone else's show, well that’s a whole different ball game. So it was decided we would fire up Skype and each do a recording for the other podcast. I am happy to say we were not disappointed. Despite the geographical distance between us, it very much felt like making new friends.   Topics covered in this episodes are:   How Dick and Max got into kink What made them start a podcast together What current dynamics they are enjoying What kind of kinks and fetishes they have   You can hear more from them on their podcast which can be found on iTunes and most other podcast apps. The are also on Fetlife and Twitter. If you’d like to hear the recording of we did for their show you, we were on Episode 49.   If you have any comments about this episode or any previous episodes you can email us via hello@proudtobekinky. Alternatively you follow and message us on Instagram, Twitter and Fetlife. Thank you to everyone who has sent in comments so far. They are fantastic to read.

This week, Dick Wound and minimus maximus are joined by, Floss and Bakji, of the ProudToBeKinky podcast, to talk about kinky podcasting of course.  We had a wonderful time getting to know them.  Be sure to check out their podcast as well, as they have a couple of handsome devils coming on their show next week. PLEASE RATE, REVIEW, and SUBSCRIBE to the show! Keep us ad free! Give us a buck or two: https://www.patreon.com/ocpkink Questions or comments for the show: offthecuffspodcast@gmail.com www.offthecuffs.org 1 (631) 881-KINK Find us on fetlife: www.fetlife.com/OfftheCuffs www.fetlife.com/Dick_Wound www.fetlife.com/minimus_maximus www.fetlife.com/ProudToBeKinky www.fetlife.com/_Floss_www.fetlife.com/Bakji Follow us on Twitter: @ocpkink @DickWound @MinimusMaxim @ProudToBeKinky Follow Dick Wound on Spotify: @ocpkink Our public kik group is #ocpkik We're also on www.thecage.co Don't forget to check out our friend's podcasts: Will Sean Podcast? ProudToBeKinky Podcast & RISK!

Download here Welcome to Episode 20 of #ProudToBeKinky, or should we say Episode d20, because this is another guest episode, in which we welcome a new friend of the show D20Domme and her submissive Lucky Puppy. We were absolutely delighted to have them on the podcast, and we had so much fun recording with them. So we hope you all enjoy listening to it just as much.   There are so many different ways to engage in BDSM, and as we have said in previous episodes the best way for you is the way that makes you and your partner/s happy. Guest episodes like this are brilliant because they give us all an insight into how someone else does BDSM their way.   One of the main things we were keen to chat to D20 and Lucky Puppy about was their long distance relationship. With one of them based in America and the other in the U.K at their time of meeting, we wanted to delve into the things they did to cement their connection and maintain a relationship across the many, many miles. We also discuss how they each got into kink and their journey from that point to where they are now.   Topics covered in this episode:   How their relationship got started Maintaining a LDR The type of kinky activities and scenes they engage in Chastity play Sexy hypnosis The differences/similarities between the scenes in the U.K and U.S More Shibari talk The importance of communication and honesty Quick fire questions, which definitely made for some fun conversations   Due to the fact that both our guests were really friendly and easy to chat to there is a lot of digressing from the topics at hand, so be prepared to hear our views on some slightly more random things. If our ramblings don’t quite give you all the information you’d like on d20 then you can also find her at her blog From Mundane to Mistress, which has lots of fab reads on it. As we always say, because we really do mean it, if you have any questions or thoughts on the podcast, including this and previous episodes please get in touch via hello@proudtobekinky.com, or through our Instagram, Twitter or Fetlife accounts. We also have a patreon account for those people who like to randomly give others money to support their endeavours.

Welcome to Episode 19 of #ProudToBeKinky, where Bakji and Floss talk through their experiences and thoughts on the various headspaces you may encounter when you start exploring Kink, Fetish and BDSM. [caption id="attachment_1312" align="aligncenter" width="300"] SubSpace and TopSpace[/caption] When you first join the scene there are lots of new phrases you start to hear, one of the most common being 'subspace'. If you’ve played a little but never heard the term before, it can be hard to know if you've experienced it. It can also for some people become a bit of a goal to reach, and disappointment can occur for those people who struggle to get the experience of subspace they’d like.   However we don’t want anyone to feel disappointed in any aspect of their kink lifestyle. So in this episode we also cover the fact that this is something that can happen, but not experiencing it doesn’t detract from how much fun kinky play can be. In fact there may be situations in which people actively avoid subspace, so we touch on those too.   For those people who do like the idea of getting a bit ‘spacey’, we discuss what actions might get you there, and what you can expect when you have that experience. While subspace is probably the most talked about headspace on the scene, 'Top space' and 'rope space' are also ones we have come across on a fairly regular basis, so we have a little chat about those too.   When we experience subspace/Topspace, whether it’s for the first time, or if you’re seasoned player. The after effects of the intensity it brings can have an effect. This is what people will refer to as drop. We discuss how drop may feel for various people, and how aftercare can make drop less likely to occur, or at least bring comfort during it.   Topics covered in this episode:   The different types of headspaces you may encounter How to get into that ‘spacey’ zone Why you might want avoid going ‘spacey’ How to transition from spacey play back into reality The after effect of subspace/Topspace How to alleviate drop   As always if you have any comments on this episode, previous episodes or the podcast in general please do get in touch via hello@proudtobekinky.com. We also are also happy to respond to any comment on Instagram, Twitter or Fetlife. So do give us a follow and say a little hello.

Download here Welcome to Episode #18 of #ProudToBeKinky. Join Bakji and Floss as they talk about how to be more dominant... but in sexy way. Please excuse their ever so slightly sleepy demeanour, this is the after effects of a very fun night out with Fetishy friends. We are definitely following our own advice about being social, but sometimes this does leave us burning the candles at both ends. We promise we will be a bit more alert for the next recording. So as you will know from previous episodes, Floss spends a lot of time perusing the internet and frequents places like the LoveHoney forum, FetLife groups and more recently Thecage.co forums. One of the questions that comes up time and time again in these forums is usually along the following lines: ‘My partner would like to be more submissive to me in the bedroom/in scene. How do I go about being more Dominant?’ The things people are often worried about are technical skills; for things like impact play, attitude; do they seem 'Domly' enough, confidence; nerves can absolutely take the edge of sexy times and many other worries come up alongside those few things. In this episode we talk about our own experiences, and what things might help someone who is new to Topping but really wants to give it a go and be confident with it. Topics covered in this episode: The importance of communication How to avoid Topping from the bottom and why that is important. Practical ideas to combat nerves during a scene Types of Domination you can include This episode also introduces our new feature, ‘Writing of the Week’, this week features a writing from The Ochre Muse Blog. We read out the writing in question and we discuss why we enjoyed it, and how it’s message supports the ethos of the podcast. As always we enjoy hearing any feedback you have on the pod, so please do get in touch via, hello[at] proudtobekinky.com. You can also find us on Instagram, Twitter, FetLife and our new page over on Patreon. Please do come and connect with us and say a little hello.