BROdysseus

Be as frugal as possible, make more money, and save it all to fast track retirement. This is popularly known as the FIRE Method. And while my end goal is to achieve financial independence, I'm also strongly driven by location independence. I want to be a digital nomad and travel the world. In many ways it's counter to the ultra frugal FIRE method. But I believe my financial independence is coming regardless, so I might as well enjoy the journey if the end goal is inevitable.

Why do people shun wanting money? When you apply to a job you have to say that you have a passion for the company or that you align with their values... You know those same five values every company puts. Yet the honest truth is that while we might genuinely align with a company's values typically are main driving force is to make a lot of money to better our lives. I just started going to a Coding Bootcamp and when they asked me why I was there I told simply "I'm here to make money."

With the rise of social media it's become easier than ever to find mentors. However many of us get stuck in consuming content instead of applying what they learn. Even worse many of these so called "online-coaches" are fakes not even living what they preach.

The more I learn about investing, whether about business, real estate, stocks, etc, all the Gary Vees and Grant Cardones of these fields preach about Return On Investment aka ROI. And I have found that you apply this same principle to all areas of life, even none traditional business ones such as relationships.

It's January 1st, 2020 and it's crazy to reflect on how much my life has changed over the last ten years. I never want to go back to being that person I was at 22. But I'm so thankful I remember how it felt to not believe in myself and how feeling sorry for myself didn't make an ounce of difference. I think a lot of my ambition and success over the years stems for the struggles leading up to 2010. 

Opening car doors for girls is so outdated. It's uncomfortable and annoying for both parties having to wait to get in and out of the car to keep this idea of "chivalry" alive. I think the concept of chivalry needs to be redefined to mean Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson. 

Officially put my downpayment for registration to Austin Coding Academy! I've been talking with the counselors all week and after doing a campus tour I was sold. The next 9 months are going to be brutal working full time, staying fit, being a good partner, going to school & doing an additional 15-20hrs of coding work outside the class room. But what else am I going to do, be lazy?! IG @batkane

Tim Ferris Four Hour Workweek has an assignment in the book to take a week long social media fast. The first time I read it I couldn't believe what life would be like without my apps. And that was depressing. I jumped on the fast and after a week I realized how truly addicting apps were. Now I make sure to due a social fast at least once a year.  IG @batkane

This has always been the least sexy thing about me in my opinion is not having a valuable skill set. I left college scared of becoming an adult and working a "career" for the next 40yrs so I bounced around from job to job and never moved up higher than the customer service level. And that's not a sexy thing to be stagnant. In this episode I talk about the journey and how I decided 2020 is the year I become a software developer.

Getting back with your ex. Going into deeper debt. Working 40+ hours a week at jobs you hate and steadily gaining weight year after year. This list goes on, and it's crazy to see how we all self sabotage in one way or most cases multiple ways. Become actively aware of every decision you're making and stop back stepping in life. 

This one is a bit all over but I found myself podcasting a lot of the random nonsense people share on social me. You know those couples who throw up a happy caption when you know they aren't having sex. My favorite is going on my girlfriend's women only facebook groups. These are straight fire with drama! IG @batkane

Last two and a half years I've committed myself to the very tedious, frugal and unsexy financial task of first getting myself out of debt and then building up my six month emergency fund. These steps are taken straight from Dave Ramsey. I love his baby steps but ignore his crazy religion talk. Don't marry someone's debt but definitely move in with your partner to save money.  IG @batkane

It's that time of year where we celebrate the most American holiday... Black Friday. And now also Cyber Monday. I think I genuinely started hating this sales event once they creeped into Thanksgiving Day. Consumer culture at it's finest. And it's tough to resist. I've been working at being a minimalist for two years and those tv deals still tempt me! IG @batkane

The prime example of someone who should have gotten aborted was my girlfriend Sav. Her mom's life would have been so much better. I also discuss how the Animal Planet basically taught me that in the wild the only type of sex is the raping kind. Plus, one of my coworkers is a 40yr old virgin and his best friend is his dad.  IG @batkane

Just stop. Phones and the cloud seem to work extremely well. If you send a text give the other person the courtesy to respond back or leave you on read. People who double text are so insecure and needy that I use it as a filter when building relationships. Send your message, put your phone down and go enjoy your life. 

My biggest phobia with relationships is settling. Becoming comfortable and no longer trying. This is often easily seen with the way people look after getting into a relationship. For most, their peak looks are in the beginning and it's a steady downhill decline. In this episode I discuss how my girlfriend Sav and I just celebrated 3yrs of dating and how we've both managed to get even hotter.  IG @batkane

It's funny how talking bad on CrossFit is such a normal acceptable thing but most treat yoga as though it's the second coming. Yet if you look closing it's just another sport that has set movement patterns that are completely made up and in no way designed to "heal" the body as the cultish community likes to take credit for. Namaste.  @batkane

While I don't miss the paychecks I do miss the F You attitude you could have being paid minimum wage. It never ceased to amaze me how fear based my colleagues were when we made crap money. For me I always thought, "if they fire me there'll always be more sucky minimum wage jobs." I learned early on that people take their work way too seriously and that being a hard worker counts for little if you're unpopular. 

I already hate Thanksgiving, with the dry turkeys, the traffic and the awkward small talk with family members you wouldn't see any other time of the year. Then throw on top a toxic relationship and making your girlfriend cry in front of her family. Good times.  IG @ batkane

It's hard to enjoy my apartment patio or outdoor areas when it's filled with unhealthy sedentary people taking their crippled cancerous pets out to take constipated poops on wobbly legs with crooked spines. Constantly seeing pups falling apart due to the poor health habits of owners has really made me rethink my own decision of owning a dog, and how I want to ensure I can provide them a life that's better than what I see most living. 

I have a lot of gripes about the mentality behind marriage from the rules, perceived expectations, to the influence of church and government. But I do love a good wedding proposal. I share some tips on what to do and what not to do if you decide to pull that trigger and drop to one knee. 

Most have us have done it. And most have us have said a silent prayer that no cops will be on the road & nothing bad will happen. I use to drive drunk all the time & luckily nothing happened & thankfully I out grew that idiotic phase. But not all of us are that lucky to be able to learn from our mistakes with out something terrible like a prison sentence looming over them. 

I've been into fitness ever since high school, had abs at 14 and have never wanted to be without them. But life happens, you gain weight and you're told it's normal. Then as you get older you don't move as good and you're also told that's normal. And all of a sudden I'm staring at the end of my 20s feeling broken and fat, fearing that it was all downhill from here. This episode I talk about changing all that around and how at 32 I'm back to my graduation weight and the healthiest version of myself. 

JK Rowling's Harry Potter books could have gone down as the best series ever, but her messed up real life relationships stained her magical world with the very dull reality that most people settle just like Hermoine did when she chose Ron. 

Online dating is one of the greatest technological achievements of our times. If Sav and I break up you best believe I'll be swiping on that Tinder app I still haven't deleted off my phone. Online dating is a gift of abundance of sexual opportunity, just don't fall for the first 6 that slides into your DMs. Be better than that.  IG@ batkane

I've done a variety of long distance relationships from 50miles, to 500miles to 2000miles. All of them have presented their own unique challenges and all shared the same common theme that they suck for sex life. 

We often think we're in love and use that to justify stupidity, but the reality is that insecurity of not finding ourselves leads most of us to cling to another. When I was 26 I was desperately insecure and needed someone to fill this incomplete void in me. The person who answered was a married woman, with two kids half way across the country that I randomly met on Instagram. IG @batkane

There seems to be a lot of closet gay men, and even the men who know they're straight are scared they could one day "turn" gay. BRO culture is often stiff among men, and I don't mean in the pants, but in the way they lack being able to properly share feelings with one another. Maybe rearing boys to be hard and not to cry has left us all a bit emotionally retarded and confused.

Once virtual reality gets here nobody is going to be having in person sex anymore. We're all going to spend our days wasting away inside simulators cheating on our partners with our wildest and darkest fantasies. So best to enjoy the real thing with another human being while it lasts. 

Alcohol has played many roles in my life and one of the most important ones was using it as a dating tactic to both meet girls and get the courage to have sloppy drunken sex with them.  IG @batkane

Almost every relationship I've ever seen has been a bad one, filled with cheating, settling and massive amounts of regret. And somehow through all the toxic examples around me, I'm suppose to create a healthy/happy relationship. IG @batkane

Got into how I came to the conclusion that Christianity wasn't for me and what it was like telling my family and the struggles with dating wanna be christian women.  IG @batkane

Year two into my thirties and safe to say I haven't become a completely lame adult. Reflecting on my stupidity in my 20s, young love turned to cancer, how picking up sex books changed my life, and how time has not been kind to my high school class.  IG: @batkane