Girls in the Garden

After about six months into the pandemic, Ashley has decided to buy cute loungewear and Patrice finally decided to paint her toe nails. For our main topic, after the tragic passing of Chadwick Boseman, Ashley and Patrice talk health and why listening to your body is so important. Treat yourself. Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Website: https://www.girlsinthegarden.co/ Music: "Something on October 16th" Kenny Waller, (2019)

This week Ashley is in the mood for gluten free baked goods and Patrice is having a 30-life crisis. Once that is settled, the ladies discuss why the road to happily ever after is typically paved with drama and tears. Treat yourself. Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Website: https://www.girlsinthegarden.co/ Music: "Something on October 16th" Kenny Waller, (2019)

This week Ashley and Patrice circle back to recap the season 4 Insecure finale and use this to discuss the myth that is unconditional love. Treat yourself. Do you know who your local representatives are? Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Website: https://www.girlsinthegarden.co/ Music: "Something on October 16th" Kenny Waller, (2019)

On this week's episode, Ashley and Patrice discuss intersectionality (12:10) and how black women specifically are effected by it. Treat yourself. Please continue to bring awareness to Breonna Taylor's death. Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Website: https://www.girlsinthegarden.co/ Music: "Something on October 16th" Kenny Waller, (2019)

After an impromptu and much needed break, Ashley and Patrice come back to discuss what's been going on in their lives from work, to teeth extractions to paintings.Treat yourself!     To purchase artwork from Ashley: https://www.creativelynomadic.com/shop   If you live in Baltimore City and need food assistance due to COVID-19:   Adults 60 and older: call (410) 396-2273   Residents 59 and younger: call 2-1-1   For additional food resources, visit: https://coronavirus.baltimorecity.gov/food-distribution-sites Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Website:  https://www.girlsinthegarden.co/     Music: "Something on October 16th" Kenny Waller, (2019)

These past few weeks have been heavy. As our black brothers and sisters continue to be slain, we are all experiencing a range of emotions. With the influx of information, do not forget to check-in with yourself. Cope how you can. Do what you can. Support how you can.  The National Bail Fund Network - https://www.communityjusticeexchange.org/nbfn-directory  Campaign Zero - https://www.joincampaignzero.org/ Unicorn Riot - https://unicornriot.ninja/ ...................................................................... The ladies took a break last week, but it is important to not be silenced and support black voices and black art. Sooo, after catching up with each other, Ashley and Patrice have another Insecure episode deep dive (14:03). Then, the "Why Do Women..." series is rounded out as the women discuss why women tend to forgive their partners before they forgive their friends (35:52). Tune in to find out what Ashley and Patrice's thoughts.     Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Website:  https://www.girlsinthegarden.co/     Music: "Something on October 16th" Kenny Waller, (2019)

This week, the ladies recap on the their week and share what they have been watching lately (7:00) and somehow find themselves in a mild deep dive in Queen and Slim *spoiler alert* (19:15). Then Tyra Banks' insensitive comments on America's Next Top Model resurface, right on time for the third installment in the "Why Do Women...?" series as Ashley and Patrice talk about insecurities (27:07). What are you insecure about? Why do women let their insecurities get the best of them? Tune in to find out what Ashley and Patrice's think. Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Website: https://www.girlsinthegarden.co/ Music: "Something on October 16th" Kenny Waller, (2019)

This week the ladies discuss how they are celebrating their mothers for Mother's Day which leads to an unexpected deep dive into seafood (2:31). Then the HBO show, Insecure (15:20) is used to pivot into the second installment in the "Why Do Women...?" series as they talk about outdated friendships (14:32). Are all of your friendships serving you? Will Molly and Issa's friendship last? Tune in to find out what Ashley and Patrice think.     Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Website:  https://www.girlsinthegarden.co/     Music: "Something on October 16th" Kenny Waller, (2019)

Patrice Clarke May 5, 2020, 9:20 PM (9 hours ago)     to me             This week the ladies briefly update each other on what shows they're both watching (8:08) before diving into today's topic, closure (12:42). This is the first episode of a new series "Why Do Women...?" Do you need closure to move forward? Is closure necessary? Is closure even a thing? Tune in to find out what Ashley and Patrice really think.   Psychology Today article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-angry-therapist/202003/how-get-closure     Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Website:  https://www.girlsinthegarden.co/     Music: "Something on October 16th" Kenny Waller, (2019)

This week, the ladies jump right into the heart of the matter. We’ve learned how to be loved, but can you say, “I’m sorry” or do you prefer restitution? Is an apology all it takes? Tune in now to learn how the ladies like their apologies .    Learn your apology and love languages below.    https://www.5lovelanguages.com/    Time Stamp:   Black AF 3:31 Insecure 12:30 Apology Language 40:60     Music:    “Something on October 16th” Kenny Waller, (2019).   Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com  Associated Hashtag: #yourbestfriendsinyourhead #girlsinthegardenpodcast

This week, the ladies take a stroll down memory lane and reminisce about their childhoods from temper tantrums to burning ants. Could their childhoods be the key to their love languages? Tune in now to learn how they receive love. Learns your love language below. https://www.5lovelanguages.com/ Music: “Something on October 16th” Kenny Waller, (2019). Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Associated Hashtag: #yourbestfriendsinyourhead #girlsinthegardenpodcast

This week, best friends Ashley and Patrice discuss the woes of being a woman while quarantined. Tune into hear all about the latest Tv binges, “wyd texts,” and the go-to girls for beauty maintenance. Honorable Mentions: Bill Withers - https://music.apple.com/us/album/still-bill/989376986 Lo’real for eyebrows: https://instagram.com/lorealdanee?igshid=4f72xddttgfp Esthetician : https://instagram.com/labeautyologist?igshid=1gu7j23ycpgnc Music: “Something on October 16th” Kenny Waller, (2019). Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Associated Hashtag: #yourbestfriendsinyourhead #girlsinthegardenpodcast

After a month off, best friends Ashley and Patrice return to the world and its falling apart. The girls try to return the Coronavirus pandemic back to sender, go over what to watch and keeping sane during the “Quarantine.” Tune in now to see how they’re doing.

This week, best friends Ashley and Patrice wrap your the series with “love and more.” The girls go into detail about the stages of relationships including title or no-title. Which style do you prefer? Music: “Something on October 16th” Kenny Waller, (2019). Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Associated Hashtag: #yourbestfriendsinyourhead #girlsinthegardenpodcast

This week, the ladies sit down and sort through love and history or what some can see as baggage. Listen in as they talk about lifestyles, trauma and everything in between. Question is, have you had the necessary conversations? Music: “Something on October 16th” Kenny Waller, (2019). Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Associated Hashtag: #yourbestfriendsinyourhead #girlsinthegardenpodcast

This week, the ladies sit down with Ashley’s boyfriend, Leo also known as the Black Unicorn and talk about how they maintain their individuality in their relationship. Plus, hear their drama filled first date. Music: “Something on October 16th” Kenny Waller, (2019). Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Associated Hashtag: #yourbestfriendsinyourhead #girlsinthegardenpodcast

As February is the month to celebrate black history and love, what better way to celebrate than together. Your best friends offer a small black history lesson and dive into this months series of love and other things. This week, they’re talking money and now isn’t the time to get your panties in a bunch. History: Mary Ellen Pleasant - https://www.blackpast.org/african-american-history/people-african-american-history/pleasant-mary-ellen-1814-1904/ Bridget “Biddy” Mason - https://www.blackpast.org/african-american-history/mason-bridget-biddy-1818-1891/ Madam C.J. Walker - https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.biography.com/.amp/inventor/madam-cj-walker Music: “Something on October 16th” Kenny Waller, (2019). Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Associated Hashtag: #yourbestfriendsinyourhead #girlsinthegardenpodcast

Best friends Ashley and Patrice sit down to talk about all things social media, the untimely death of Kobe Bryant and how to stay true to you. Tune in now to hear more about it!

This week, the ladies run down their latest Netflix binges, weekend fun and address the heavy hitting question; does girl code exist anymore?! Ashley and Patrice go over their do’s and don’t’s of what is girl code appropriate. Question is, do your friends abide by the code. Music: “Something on October 16th” Kenny Waller, (2019). Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Associated Hashtag: #yourbestfriendsinyourhead #girlsinthegardenpodcast

Your best friends Ashley and Patrice run down the newest binge worthy Netflix shows and latest Real Housewives of Atlanta shenanigans. Tune in now to hear the ladies try to answer the age old question, where the men at?! Will they find the answer? Music: “Something on October 16th” Kenny Waller, (2019). Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Associated Hashtag: #yourbestfriendsinyourhead #girlsinthegardenpodcast

EPISODE 011: Black Hair, You Care! Black Hair, often synthesized, but heavily criticized is like no other hair in the world. It provides the gift of versatility and curse of potentially breaking a comb. Your best friends sit down to debunk the myths, stereotypes and tell a few tales of their own hair woes. References: “A Visual History of Iconic Black Hairstyles” Madison Horne. History, 2018. https://www.history.com/news/black-hairstyles-visual-history-in-photos “A History of Black Hair in America” Kristin Booker. Refinery, 2014. https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/black-hair-history “How Natural Hair Became a Civil Rights Issue” Chanté Griffin. Jstor Daily, 2019. https://daily.jstor.org/how-natural-black-hair-at-work-became-a-civil-rights-issue/ “The Hatred of Black Hair Goes Beyond Ignorance” Areva Martin. Time Magazine, 2017. https://time.com/4909898/black-hair-discrimination-ignorance/ Music: “Something on October 16th” Kenny Waller, (2019). Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Associated Hashtag: #yourbestfriendsinyourhead #girlsinthegardenpodcast

2019 has been a year of many things, some good, some bad and some unfortunately ugly. Your best friends in your head are going to wrap this year up high school style! It’s time for some superlatives! Resources: “Reunion Part 2” Married to Medicine of Atlanta. Season 7, Episode 17. Bravo. 2019. https://www.bravotv.com/married-to-medicine/season-7/reunion-part-2 “A Whine of a Time” The Real Housewives of Atlanta. Season 12, Episode 9. Bravo. 2019. https://www.bravotv.com/the-real-housewives-of-atlanta/season-12/ep-9-a-whine-of-a-time “The Missed Opportunity of Love Is” Hannah Giorgis, The Atlantic 2019. https://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2019/01/revisiting-love-after-salim-akil-allegations/579277/ All The SmokePodcast. Showtime Basketball. Episode 9. Dec.19,2019. Dwyane Wade | Ep 9 | Big 3, Zaire, Retirement | ALL THE SMOKE Full Podcast Books: Hosseini, Khaled. The Kite Runner, Riverhead Books, 2003. Hosseini, Khaled. A Thousand Splendid Suns, Riverhead Books, 2007. Jones, Tayari. An American Marriage. Oneworld Publications, 2018. Jones, Tayari. Silver Sparrow. OneWorld Publications, 2011. Music: “Something on October 16th” Kenny Waller, (2019). Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Associated Hashtag: #yourbestfriendsinyourhead

As 2019 draws to a close, your best friends in your head sit down to discuss all 2020 has to offer, the peaks and valleys of 2019 and a few positive words of affirmation from the good book. Remember, a friend is one who can encourage and challenge you. So, how are you manifesting YOUR greatness in 2020? References: Exodus 14:14 - “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.”” ‭‭Exodus‬ ‭14:14‬ ‭NIV‬‬ https://www.bible.com/bible/111/exo.14.14.niv Luke 1:45 - “Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her!”” ‭‭Luke‬ ‭1:45‬ ‭NIV‬‬ https://www.bible.com/bible/111/luk.1.45.niv Psalm 46:1-11 - “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.” ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭46:1‬ ‭NIV‬‬ https://www.bible.com/bible/111/psa.46.1.niv Books: Jones, Tayari. An American Marriage. Oneworld Publications, 2018. Jones, Tayari. Silver Sparrow. OneWorld Publications, 2011. Music: “Something on October 16th” Kenny Waller, (2019). Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com #yourbestfriendsinyourhead #girlsinthegardenpodcast

This episode, the ladies sit down to tackle the infamous stereotype of the “Angry Black Woman”. They tackle the dissection of the angry Black woman’s history to your favorite reality tv character. Is angry the correct adjective to label a woman? History: Amos & Andy, originally a Radio show (first mentioned in the 1930’s then turned television sitcom early 1950’s) was first introduced and created by two white writers who later acted as the two character in black face. As the show gained more success, black actors were used in their place. Sapphire Stevens played by Ernestine Wade was one of our first introduction to the angry black woman in film. She was sassy, ill tempered and for lack of better words angry. References : “The Float Goes On” The Real Housewives of Atlanta. Season 12, Episode 3. Bravo. 2019. https://www.bravotv.com/the-real-housewives-of-atlanta/season-12/ep-5-the-regift-that-keeps-on-giving Sapphire Stevens - Ernestine Wade (1951): https://www.ferris.edu/HTMLS/news/jimcrow/antiblack/sapphire.htm Serena Williams, U.S. Open: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.com/news/amp/world-us-canada-45476500 “Black Women, Let your Anger Out” Joshua Sanders, 2019.: https://inthesetimes.com/article/21775/black-women-anger-chronic-stress-rage-repression-discrimination-racism “The Angry Black Woman: The Impact of Pejorative Stereotypes on Psychotherapy with Black Women.” Ashley W. Soc Work Public Health 2004.: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/24188294/# “The “Angry Black Woman” Makes Real Women Angry” Ann Marie Kerwin. AdAge 2017. : https://adage.com/article/media/angry-black-woman-makes-real-women-angry/310633 “Prank Wars Part Three: Fat Lady Sings” Bad Girls Club, Season 2, Episode, 2006. https://m.youtube.com/watch?feature=youtu.be&v=EehaFxD7XKY Music: “Something on October 16th” Kenny Waller, (2019). Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Associated Hashtag: #yourbestfriendsinyourhead

Hey Tribe, It’s a random one! The ladies go off on a tangent recapping their Thanksgiving holiday, backtracking T.I., safe sex and hotdogs. References: “Love, Marriage and Sour Peaches” Real Housewives of Atlanta. Season 12, Episode 4. Bravo. 2019. https://www.bravotv.com/the-real-housewives-of-atlanta/season-12/ep-4-love-marriage-and-sour-peaches “The Regift That Keeps on Giving” The Real Housewives of Atlanta. Season 12, Episode 5. Bravo. 2019. https://www.bravotv.com/the-real-housewives-of-atlanta/season-12/ep-5-the-regift-that-keeps-on-giving History.com editors “History of Thanksgiving”, https://www.history.com/topics/thanksgiving/history-of-thanksgiving “Rapper T.I. & His Wife Set The Record Straight” Red Table Talk. Season 2. Episode 20. 2019. https://www.facebook.com/redtabletalk/videos/1803664559768440/ “T.I. & Tony Back From The Brink of Divorce (Part 2)” Red Table Talk. Season 2. Episode 21.2019. https://www.facebook.com/redtabletalk/videos/2795208257198749?vh=e&sfns=mo Red Table Talk via Millennial Married: T.I. & His Wife Tiny Set the Record Straight in Comments & Daughters Virginity https://www.instagram.com/tv/B5TEJtVFD3f/?igshid=16jwjyxqb5tpf Red Table Talk Millennial Married: T.I. & Tiny talk Marriage, Infidelity and Divorce https://www.instagram.com/tv/B5lEXNPFD2S/?igshid=1hka5iiahj155 Baltimore Location Reference: 101 Baltimore, https://www.101baltimore.com Houlihans, https://www.houlihans.com/eats-and-drinks/columbia Music: “Something on October 16th” Kenny Waller, (2019). Official Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com Associated Hashtag: #yourbestfriendsinyourhead

This week, the ladies discuss breaking up; but more specifically, life after the break up. Some say, once a woman cuts her hair, she is ready for a fresh start, while others are on a constant cycle of breaking up to make-up. How do you deal with a break up...or do you? Resources: Mock, J. (Writer) Livingston, J. (Director). 2019. Pose [television series]. USA. FX Productions, LLC. https://www.fxnetworks.com/shows/pose Larson, J. (Writer) Chbosky, S. (Screenplay). Columbus, C. (Director). 2005. Rent. Alameda, California. Columbus Pictures. https://www.hulu.com/movie/rent-59e69a5d-0fb7-407c-86d1-b1ddc2b5884a?content_id=1029607&dl=false Perry, T. (Writer) Perry, T. (Director) 2013. Temptation: Confessions of Marriage Counselor. Washington, D.C. Tyler Perry Studios. https://www.vudu.com/content/movies/details/Temptation-Confessions-of-a-Marriage-Counselor/419710 Oliver, C. (Director/Writer)Oliver, T. (Director/Writer) 2019. Confluential Films & Black Love inc. Black Love,http://www.oprah.com/app/black-love.html Music: “Something on October 16th” Kenny Waller, (2019). Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com #yourbestfriendsinyourhead

It’s a celebration; Ashley turns 30! (Warning, it’s a detailed one!) This week, the ladies sit down to discuss the difference between millennial and traditional relationships; how they’ve evolved over the years and what would be their ideal fit. Which do you prefer? Resources: Black Love, 2019. Confluential Films & Black Love Inc. http://www.oprah.com/app/black-love.html Couples Therapy, 2019 Showtime Network, Inc. https://www.sho.com/couples-therapy Insecure, [television series] Season 2, Episode 7, “Hella Disrespectful” HBO. Issa Rae Productions. https://www.hbo.com/insecure/season-2/hella-disrespectful Instagram: @iamdevale (November 6th, 2019) https://www.instagram.com/p/B4iw9rpDTD1/?igshid=c05tm2vu5r48 Baltimore Location Reference: Clavel Restaurant: http://barclavel.com Music: “Something on October 16th” Kenny Waller, (2019). Instagram: @_girlsinthegarden Email: girlsinthegardenpodcast@gmail.com #yourbestfriendsinyourhead

Ashley & Patrice sit down to discuss pop culture and standing up for themselves. More specifically, whether there is a fine line between being supportive and what the tribe might call "doing too much"! How do you think this episode will end? Resources: Paula Rogo for Essence, "Alicia Keys Post Instagram Rant After Her Son Told Her He Didn't Want To Be Judged For Wearing His Rainbow Manicure" November 10, 2019.  Tina Gilbertson for Psychology Today, "6 Tips for Setting Better Boundaries", July 25, 2014. Carty-Williams, Candace. (2019) Queenie. Ashley Wilder for Creatively Nomadic, "R.E.S.P.E.C.T" September 23, 2019. https://www.creativelynomadic.com/new-blog/q8pqhhlszyd9re3o74vup93czn69mp Janet & Jo, https://www.janetandjo.com/ Music: "Something on October 16th" Kenny Waller, (2019).

This week, the ladies sit down to tackle double standards from sex to taking out the garbage! A question that needs an answer is, would you propose to a man? Which of the ladies do you think will succumb to gender norms. Resources: Arah Iloabugichukwu for Madamenoire, " The Strained Relationships Between Black Mothers & Their Daughters", May 2018. Carty-Williams, Candace (2019). Queenie  Topside Restaurant , https://www.jdvhotels.com/hotels/maryland/baltimore/hotel-revival-baltimore/dining/topside?utm_source=google-local&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=gmb Music: "Something on October" by Kenny Waller

The ladies sit and discuss maternal toxicity and it’s generational effects on black women.

The ladies from Girls in the Garden introduce themselves to you with all their usual shenanigans and help! Listen now.

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