Grit & Grace

ADULTING: The practice of behaving in a way characteristic of a responsible adult, especially the accomplishment of mundane but necessary tasks. Urban Dictionary gives this as one definition: Post adolescence when the light in your eyes fade away and dies.A term made popular by and about millennials.This is a topic that could really go all kinds of ways so we picked one and that was so go over 20 things not taught in school. In this episode we talked about whether any of these should be taught in school or whether it's something parents should have been responsible for. We figured not quite half would probably be beneficial to have in the school system because of the huge important throughout life.So even though it's a list of things not taught in school, doesn't mean we think they should be and in some cases, the ones listed are in fact taught in school. So many are starting life with no idea about very basic things and without getting too serious in life, you don't want to be completely clueless either.So what would you add to this list? What do you think is essential adulting?You can join us on our Facebook page and if you enjoyed it please share and of course, continue the conversation...with your kids because you don't want them to have to go to one of those adulting schools do you? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

On October 17, 2018 recreational marijuana use will be legal in Canada. In the US, 9 states have made recreational marijuana legal. Medical marijuana is different. That's not what we're talking about in this episode.We talked about the PROS and CONS of legalizing it and it's a hot topic but no matter what side of the coin you fall on, it's a big issue that gets clouded by so many things and in this episode we make it clear that we're talking about the average user that uses it recreationally.Something we love to do is CREATE A POLL asking people whether or not they were in favor of legalization. We asked on our Facebook page and here's a screen shot of the results. So whether you agree or not with it being legalized we just ask you to continue the conversation...ask questions because you'll most likely learn something new about the topic or the people you're talking too.We'd love to hear from you too and remember NEW EPISODES DROP ON WEDNESDAYS! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We took a break over the Summer...we needed it. We'd been going hard for over a year and it was time to step away...This short trailer was really about dipping our toes in, catching up with each other as well as our audience. Big things happened like CJ quitting his day job and me taking a long-ass road trip and a month in NY/NJ.We decided to make some changes...for now...and we shared that in this trailer as well. Let us know what you think because we really do listen to our audience because without you, there wouldn't be a show.All new episodes will be released here on Wednesday mornings so be sure to come back here each week. Oh and check out our website...we freshened it up a bit. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

There have been lots of studies done, including one from Harvard, that shows that kids of working moms fair much better in their careers and especially life. We took all the info we found with a grain of salt but they make some good points. The key is to find the balance between work and family.Listen and let us know what you think and experience. Was your mom a working mom? Are you? You can always reach us through our website under the QUESTION OR COMMENT tab www.gritandgracetv.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Life has a way of derailing us and getting in the way...for some...sometimes, but we would bet that life looks different than you imagined when you were younger. What did you think you'd be doing? Where did you imagine living? Are you the person you thought you'd be?Join us as we share stories of where we thought life would take us and the careers we imagined for ourselves. Laughs included! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

It seems everyone knows someone that has or is struggling with addiction. It's so pervasive and destructive but it is a symptom of what's really going on within a person. Line & CJ share their own stories of addiction and scratch the surface of what's behind addiction, ways to help and what we can do.We just started the conversation...please continue it. It may save someone's life. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Have you heard about the latest fetish? We hadn't heard of it either so we had to investigate and of course....talk about it. We started the show talking about it.Then we moved on to some of the oldies that many people engage in. For some people it's a psychological NEED when it comes to fetish play. This show is really just the tip of the iceberg of what floats people's boats. But it's all good, right?Listen and let us know if there's a new one we haven't heard about by visiting our website and submitting a comment, suggestion or question anonymously.Thank you for listening! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

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There are 10 emotions, that carry a lot of weight and leveraged effectively can help you make powerful changes and achievements in every area of your life. Watch to learn what they are, how to master them and how they can work in your life. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Contribution is sort of the partner to Growth. These two needs are connected to the spiritual aspect of ourselves. Contributing beyond ourselves to our communities and the world at large. When we feel disconnected from others, giving and contributing goes a long way to feeling like we matter (which we do) and others win. Giving always makes us feel good right? Take a listen and see how you can contribute and connect to yourself. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

If you’re not growing, you’re dying. There is no such thing as a plateau, or a comfortable, even place. If you're relationship is not growing, it is dying. If your business is not growing, it’s dying. Where do you stand? Take an honest assessment of your life and ask yourself where you are growing and how that makes you feel? What area in your life is dying? And how does that make you suffer?Take a listen as we share more about growth and as always we share our own stories and examples that relate to the topic. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The need for love and connection is something we ALL need in some form whether it's friends, family or a partner. Losing focus and meeting the need in a negative way can have us staying in relationships too long, accepting bad behavior and compromising our values...that's just some of the side effects of having that need met negatively.Learn more about this need and how you can make it a win/win/win in getting this need met.Go to our website and take the 6 Human Needs test for yourself located on the Show Resources tab at www.gritandgracetv.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Significance is the 3rd of the 6 human needs in our series.This is the need that makes us feel like we matter and what we do matters. When we meet this need in a negative way it is difficult to form strong friendships and find love. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Continuing on with #2 in our series on the 6 human needs we talk about UNCERTAINTY/VARIETY. The need for excitement and new experiences.If this is one of your top 2 needs it's possible to easily lose focus and be seen as unreliable in relationships as well as becoming easily bored. There is a way to meet this need in a more positive way and add some balance in relation to the other needs.If you haven't taken the 6 Human Needs test, you can do that by clicking the following link http://www.gritandgracetv.com/show-resources/6-human-needs-test See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The 6HN test was created by Cloe Madanes, a world-renowned innovator and teacher of family and strategic therapy and one of the originators of the strategic approach to family therapy. She has authored seven books that are classics in the field: Strategic Family Therapy; Behind the One-Way Mirror; Sex, Love and Violence; The Violence of Men; The Secret Meaning of Money; The Therapist as Humanist, Social Activist and Systemic Thinker; and Relationship Breakthrough.She has presented her work at professional conferences all over the world and has given keynote addresses for the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, the National Association of Social Workers, the Evolution of Psychotherapy Conference, the Erickson Foundation, the California Psychological Association, and many other national and international organizations.Madanes has won several awards for distinguished contribution to psychology and has counseled outstanding individuals from all walks of life. She has been featured in Newsweek, the Washington Post, and the Boston Globe. Her books have been translated to more than twenty languages.http://www.gritandgracetv.com/show-resources/6-human-needs-test See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Marriage/Relationships evolve. We don't stay in that lustfull state forever which is good because we'd never accomplish anything being so focused on that new love. Sometimes people get caught in the trap of thinking that THAT feeling should last forever. Well...get over it. It doesn't but it can grow into something amazing and not without it's ups and downs.We covered the results of a recent study that revealed the BEST and WORST year of marriage and it's not the often referred to '7 year itch' year.Also we shared things to avoid to keep a relationship strong. Needless to say we strongly disagreed with 2 out of the 7. Watch and weigh in with your opinions. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In the wake of the Las Vegas shooting and because we like to tackle the tough topics, we decided to have an honest discussion about gun laws. We knew this episode wasn't going to contribute to changing laws or minds for that matter, but when it comes to the latter, you just never know.So, we started with a little history on the 2nd Amendment and court decisions from the 1800s that most likely helped to solidify the gun laws of the US. One thing that we realized that was quite eye-opening is how vague the language of the 2nd Amendment is. Look it up, you may be surprised.We moved into the arguments that always surface when something of this magnitude happens and the state of affairs in other countries such as Canada, Australia and China.CJ touched on something called killology and of course we touched on the baby steps of solutions to a seemingly epidemic way for individuals to take themselves out via mass shootings.People are tired of 'thoughts and prayers' which no longer carry the intention they once did.We'd love for you to add your voice to this controversial topic here or on our website at www.gritandgracetv.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What's your number? Whether you think it's an incredibly telling indicator of a person's character and values or you consider it about as significant as their favorite color, chances are you've been asked your "number"—that is, the number of people with whom you've been sexually intimate—more than a few times.In fact, discussing your sexual history is an almost inevitable part of a new relationship. But is your number really "normal"? And how does divulging it affect other people's opinions of you?We share the highlights of a recent survey of over 2000 men and women in Europe and the US and you may be surprised at the results.You can also grab your favorite audio version of our shows on our website at www.gritandgracetv.com and on www.milehiradio.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We had a blast running through the 80s sharing some major events and some of our own stories....pretty funny actually.This was a decade of extremes - hair, shoulder pads, consumerism, inventions and more.Watch and remember! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

An unlikely episode but since everyone's starting to get football fever we thought we'd take a closer look at sports in general with the man/women perspective and have a little fun with it.We share their own experiences in the world of sports and the growing female fan base.Get more info on us and all the places you can find us on our website. You can suggest topics and ask questions too! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The online world is a crazy one and it's easy to get caught up in it, lose track of time and for some ending up feeling less than.Line talked about what her day was like as an example of how life, the good and bad (some of it) should be shared so that people can relate to you as a person and business owner.Watch for lots of examples as to why always being positive online isn't always a good thing.Visit our website to find out all of the places you can watch or just listen if taking us with you is more your style. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Our kids face a lot of pressures when they get into high school...homework, peer pressure, societal pressure all while trying to figure out who they are. This is a critical time and as parents we need to work WITH them, not against them with unrealistic expectations.Join us as we talk about how we parent our high schoolers and share our own stories. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

NOTE: we had some sound quality tech issues during this episode in terms of fade out. You will still be able to hear us clearly..We tackled the 'Act as If' contradiction of modern belief and discuss why we all should take a community acting workshop.1. Find the emotional root of your desire.Identifying the emotion you want to feel is an important to the process of acting as if. Once you have identified the emotion you want to feel, move on to step two.2. Be aware of the root emotion in all areas of your life.Once you have identified the root emotion of what you really want, you can move on to the next step which is finding evidence that you already feel this emotion in your life.So start feeling your root emotion now. As you project more of this emotion, your desire will draw closer to you as you start to feel the way you will feel when you have it.Feeling the way you will feel when you get your desire is a powerful way to “act as if.”3. Watch your reactivityThe first two items are “front end” things you can do to act as if, but this is what you can do on the “back end.”Start to react to situations as if you are someone who already has what you want when the subject comes up.Consider the following examples:Would a person who has lots of money say “I can’t afford that?” when she saw something pricey she wanted? No, she would probably say something like “I’d love to get that!” – so you should too. Even if you can’t afford it, act as if you could.Would a person who has a great relationship be jealous when her best friend gets engaged? No, instead she would probably be happy for her friend-so you should be too. Even if it feels a little weird, you can smile and say “good for you!”Would a guy who had a great career complain about his job when he was asked about it? No, instead he would probably share all of the good things that were going on at his job-so you should too. Even if the bad outweighs the good, you can still choose to focus on the few things going right.While these reactions might be unnatural at first ,with practice, they will become easier and in time, habitual. As they say, fake it ’till you make it.Each time the subject comes up and you feel yourself reacting, ask yourself: “How would someone who has what I want react to this issue?”So as you move forward, start to “act as if.” Instead of focusing directly on what you want and getting lost in the wanting, use these three steps to project the vibe of someone who already has what you want.Remember, identify the root emotion you are trying to bring into your life. Then, feel this root emotion in the present to project more of it. At the same time, be aware of your reactions, and always be asking yourself how someone who has what you want would react. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We all get stuck in life from time to time but how do you get unstuck? Well we've got 5 simple ways to help you get out of that funk and get back on track. This isn't a one and done deal though. It's something we need to keep using to lessen the stinkin' thinkin' so we can keep on truckin' towards those goals.You may think this is all BS but if you knew you were gonna die next week, would you be happy with you life?You can get the PDF that goes with this show and ask and answer the questions that go with each of the 5 steps yourself. It may just get you charging ahead with a renewed vision and purpose. Get it on the Show Resources page at www.gritandgracetv.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Some are clueless and some could use a refresher so we thought we'd cover the topic of social media etiquette. There are way too many to cover in one show so we covered about 10 with the help of our viewers.For a complete list visit our website and click on the Resources tab for instant download at www.gritandgracetv.comAs always, the audios only of our shows to take with you are available at http://bit.ly/gritgracepippa See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We all face times in our lives when we question whether we should quit or commit. Whether it's personal or professional sometimes we have to make the tough calls or someone else will. Either way if you want to be able to move ahead we share some tips to help you decide whether you should call it quits, how to deal with it and how to accept it and move on.GRIT & GRACE WILL BE COMING TO YOU 3 DAYS A WEEK STARTING IN SEPTEMBER! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Continuing on our conversation from last week - feminism - we dove into double standards. We've all participated and we've all experienced them, but are we responsible for our part and what do we do about the ones that have a profound effect on society?Watch and more importantly, listen so that you can take the conversation further. We're just here to start them.You can leave comments or ask questions on our website at www.gritandgracetv.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Always upping the ante on relevant and informative conversation, this episode was our most impactful. Why? Because we learned that people are very misinformed as to what feminism and being a feminist really is.Grit & Grace took an informal poll, asking 60 women and a handful of men 2 questions and the results will astound you...it did us!You can watch the video here -----> http://bit.ly/gritgraceyoutube See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We've all heard the expression, 'making a comeback' but we're challenging that and sharing why you shouldn't call it a comeback and how to look at it instead.We share our own stories of defeat and how much better life was afterwards. How do you deal with it? We share our own ideas and invite you to join the conversation on our Facebook page at www.facebook.com/gritandgracetv and you can catch the audio only version of our show on http://bit.ly/gritgracepippa as well as Monday nights at 9pm PST on www.milehiradio.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We're wrapping up the month of relationship episodes with a topic that isn't often talked about and that's long distance relationships. There are two kinds: distance in established relationships and new ones.Distance can make or break a couple and since we're all about solutions we shared our tips for getting through it and making it stronger.Take a look at our other relationship episodes in June:What Should You Talk About at the Start of a Relationship?Communication in RelationshipsHas Your Sex Life Become Comfortably Numb?Alternative Relationship StylesAs always, you can find us on:Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Play, TuneIn and MileHIradio See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Monogamy isn't the only relationship style and maybe you're curious about exploring what society deems taboo. Love and relationships exist in different ways.Are we meant to spend our lives with only one person?Is it possible to deeply love more than one at a time?Does a 'plus one' add more heat to your relationship fire?50+ millions people can't all be wrong, can they?We talk about all of this and share some history on swinging that goes back to 1915...who knew?!You can now listen to us on TuneIn and these places:http://bit.ly/gritgracetuneinhttp://bit.ly/gritgracegoogleplayhttp://bit.ly/gritgracestitcherhttp://bit.ly/gritgraceapplehttp://www.milehiradio.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

It's easy for our sex life to take a back seat when life happens and in this episode we wanted to remind people why it's so important to put the focus back on it. According to a very informal Grit & Grace poll, we shared the top reasons couples have put the breaks on their sex life.All relationships have...dry spells...just don't let it stay that way. We give you some tips to get things going again and CJ shares his cues to look out for to know when your lady is in the mood!WE CHALLENGE YOU TO DO ONE NEW THING and see how it can make a huge difference in your relationship.Grit & Grace will now be broadcast Monday nights at 8:30pm PST/11:30pm EST on www.milehiradio.comYOU CAN ALSO FIND US ON:APPLE PODCASTS: http://bit.ly/gritgraceappleSTITCHER: http://bit.ly/gritgracestitcherGOOGLE PLAY: http://bit.ly/gritgracegoogleplay See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Continuing with the focus on relationships we dove into the one thing that affects EVERYTHING in a relationship and that's communication. How do you do it? What's your style? Why is it important?In this episode we talked about the 5 Love Languages to help you determine the communication style that works for you and your partner. A tip on communicating when it's hard to talk and how to get the conversation started.Visit our Facebook page for more info and resources from this episode.Find us on Apple Podcasts (iTunes) http://apple.co/2rIZJVO See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

CJ sings THE PENIS SONG which leads to a declaration by Line about an article she read about men and their own issues with body shame and insights about that.Then the topic of MONEY AND SEX and how it's important to discuss these 2 things at the start of a relationship. There are other important topics but money and sex seem to be the two biggest issues couples struggle with in their relationship.What do you think couples should discuss at the beginning of a relationship?Then a viewer question about career over relationship. Watch to see what Line and CJ had to share on the subject.Join the conversation on the Facebook page at www.facebook.com/gritandgracetv See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

SEX - RELIGION - POLITICS - MONEY - AGEThese are topics that have been labeled 'off the table' as far as discussion so of course WE had to get the conversation started.We like to keep things real and shared our opinions and more importantly WHY we think we should talk about these topics...even a little.Did we miss one? Want to share you opinion? Have a question about ANYTHING? We'd love to hear from you. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

There's a reason there are 2 sexes in this world. We balance each other and we can learn a lot from each other.Although there's lots, we shared just 4 things men and women can learn from each other.In our BRING IT! segment we answered a viewer's question about inter-racial couples.Ask us anything anonymously on our website! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In our second episode we thought it only right to cover the topic of grace - what it is and 3 ways to embrace and show it.BRING IT! segment we covered a very interesting viewer question and shared the answers to a poll on the topic. Worth watching for this segment alone!DOWNLOAD: We have a great download to go with this episode called the Daily Gratitude Diary which is a lot more fun than the regular ho hum gratitude diary. Any downloads/resources are on our website under the Show Resources tab.http://www.gritandgracetv.com/show-re... See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Celebrating our first episode with the final Grit Scale Test question. We talked about our own results, how to use the test as a foundation to grow, 5 ways to grow your grit and how it can predict future success.Visit our website regularly to download and/or access resources mentioned during our show. Download the 2 mentioned at http://www.gritandgracetv.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Coming into the home stretch with the last pre-launch show sharing questions 10 and 11 before sharing the final question on our premier episode on May 4.Download the whole test of 12 questions on our website at www.gritandgracetv.comTO DOWNLOAD THIS EPISODE CLICK THE SHARE ICON TO THE VERY RIGHT OF THE PLAYER & ICON WILL APPEAR See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We're coming at you fast and furious with questions 8 and 9 challenging you always.Go to our website and download the whole test under Show Resources tab at www.gritandgracetv.comTO DOWNLOAD CLICK THE SHARE ICON TO THE VERY RIGHT OF THE PLAYER & ICON WILL APPEAR See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Are you keeping up with us? We dove into questions 6 and 7 in this episode. These ones will make you think!Remember, you can download the whole test on our website under the Show Resources tab at www.gritandgracetv.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Coming at you hard and fast with questions 3, 4 and 5 of the grit scale test. Remember you can download it on our website under the Show Resources Tab at www.gritandgracetv.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Continuing on our countdown to launch we shared Question 2 of the Grit Scale Test which you can download from our website under the Show Resources tab at www.gritandgracetv.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We thought it would be fun to countdown to the launch of our show on May 4 by sharing questions from the Grit Scale Test created by Angela Duckworth.This episode we shared question 1 and discussed how it fit into our own lives. You can download the whole test on our website under Show Resources and find out how much grit you have!www.gritandgracetv.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

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