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In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, I interviewed Rachel George. An expat therapist here in Beijing, China. She is the owner of Heart in Mind Coaching. Originally from Houston, Texas, Rachel George is a therapist and life coach. Although fairly new to the expat life, she has found China to be that place where her heart truly feels at home. A firm believer in speaking her truth, no matter if her voice shakes, Rachel is committed to working with others to not only find their passions but live and relish in them fully. A lover of all things carbs, she spends her days empowering students to realize their limitless potential in her role as a school counselor, and her nights silently planning to change the world, one heart at time. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

This week, we are going to discuss Week 1 of the Women's History Month Calendar. This calendar is a bit different from last months. I added a category and removed one. This month, I want to focus on showing appreciation to others as well as education. Time Stamps Day 1: Rest and Recharge: 1:00 Day 2: Write yourself a Love Letter: 2:01 Day 3: Start A Convo: Body Image: 5:35 Day 4: Frida Kahlo: 21:20 Day 5: Portrait of Lady on Fire: 24:18 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

In this episode, I discuss the topics from the fourth and fifth weeks of the calendar. We talked about movies, books, black codes, and discrimination. And I give my final thoughts on how I feel the calendar went. I hope you enjoy the show. Time Stamps Week 4 Day 20: Black Codes: 0:55 Day 21: Alice Coachman: 4:13 Day 22: The Ways of White Folks by Langston Hughes: 6:16 https://www.britannica.com/biography/Langston-Hughes https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poets/langston-hughes https://poets.org/poet/langston-hughes https://www.amazon.com/Ways-White-Folks-Stories-Classics/dp/0679728171 Day 23: How Gender and Race discrimination are different: 8:06 Day 24: Rest and Recharge: 18:35 Day 25: Missouri Compromise: 21:10 Day 26: Love and Basketball: 22:43 Week 5 Day 27: Henrietta Lacks: 26:51 Day 28: Spoken Word: 30:25 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

In this episode, I discuss the topics from the third week of the calendar. We talked about movies, books, reconstruction, and cultural appropriation. I hope you enjoy the show. Time Stamps Day 13: Cultural Appropriation: 0:45 Day 14: Take a Social Media Break: 13:16 Day 15: Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates: 13:56 Day 16: Benjamin Davis Sr.: 21:58 Day 17: Reconstruction: 24:06 Day 18: Selma: 28:40 Day 19: Black Hosted: 40:11 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

In this episode, I discuss the topics from the second week of the calendar. We talked about movies, books, supreme court cases, and microaggressions. I hope you enjoy the show. Time Stamps Day 1: Waiting to Exhale: 0:45 Day 2: Gwendolyn Brooks: 3:30 Day 3: "The Other Black Girl" by Zakiya Dalila Harris: 5:17 Day 4: What are microaggressions: 8:07 Day 5: Self Care 27:13 Day 6: Loving vs. Virginia: 28:18 Day 7: When the Levees Broke by Spike Lee: 34:15 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

In this episode, I discuss the topics from the first week of the calendar. When I was deciding what books, movies, and people to list for the month, I wanted to focus on how black people see the world. I wanted to show that we aren't monoliths. That while some of our experiences are shared, some are different, so I wanted to paint the picture of educated, informed, and successful people. Often when we see movies that win Oscars or get the most screen time, they're about the struggle of people within the community that paints our lives as one way. This then impacts the way we are seen globally because those movies become what people who may never meet black Americans reference when they think of us. The number of people I have met that have told me that Gone with the Wind is their favorite movie and that they don't understand why black people are complaining about slavery because the characters in the movie are happy is entirely too high for my comfort level. No, it's not black America's job to go out and correct these misconceptions, but we can offer an assist by highlighting movies, books, and people that better explain our situation in its totality. That focuses on our accomplishments as well as the struggles. In all things, balance. Time Stamps Day 1: "How We Fight For Our Lives" by Saeed Jones: 2:35 Day 2: Plessy Vs. Ferguson: 5:00 Day 3: How to be an Ally: 13:08 Tip 1- Know your privilege: 17:30 Tip 2- Actively Listen: 17: 44 Tip 3- Speak up not over: 19:02 Tip 4- Let us speak: 20:00 Tip 5- Apologize when you mess up: 21:00 Tip 6- Ally is a verb: 21:30 Tip 7- Respect Safe Spaces: 26: 15 Tip 8- Remember issues are always present: 27:45 How to ask Questions: 29:18 Day 4: Know your boundaries: 33: *Check the episode "What Boundaries" Day 5: Emmett Till: 34:50 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

It's Black History Month!!! This week I give you a rundown of what to expect this upcoming month. The calendar will cover important people, historical events, difficult conversations, self-care tips, Black directed movies, and events hosted by Black expats in Beijing. I also explain why Black History is American history, and what my goals are for this month. Time Stamp What to expect this month: 0:50 Why Black History Month: 7:39 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

In today's episode, we discuss the main types of boundaries. The importance of knowing where your boundaries fall. And why it is so important to know what your boundaries are. https://open.spotify.com/episode/70sr4kEZHofYGPQi5iYkct?si=DbyV8bTORGuMfFSK5S7_Hw Time Stamps Property Boundaries- 3:48 Time Boundary- 5:20 Personal Boundaries- 6:45 Degrees of boundaries- 21:44 Unpopular Opinion- 25:05 Why boundaries are important- 27:20 Caveat- 29:03 Rejection- 30:53 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

In this episode, I talk about the ups and downs of this year. My accomplishments and my failings. I also talk about my plans for the upcoming year, and projects I have in the works. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

I had the privilege of interviewing my new friend Cam. He is an American who is currently living and working in Harbin, China. He has a new business called Cammymade where he bakes up confectionary masterpieces. But today's conversation wasn't just for those with a sweet tooth. Today we talked about life in China, what brought him here, and some of the lessons he's learned along the way. I hope you enjoy the episode. To learn more about Cam and Cammymade reach out to him on Wechat or Instagram: @Camstun187 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

Today I was lucky enough to be able to interview Shamim Zakaria an Indian reporter at China's state newswire Xinhua News Agency. He answers questions on several topics: the differences between reporting in China and other countries, stories that deeply influenced him, and debunked some common misconceptions about reporting in China. Check out Shamim's website: www.shamimzakaria.com to follow his work and see his perspective of life here and abroad. Look out for his upcoming Vlog China Quest! https://open.spotify.com/show/4RS90iADQQNY3VQ522oyun --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

In this episode, I talk about how I feel about people's responses to “The Closer.” It is my opinion that people who are upset with the special didn't like the special don't like Chappelle in general. I talk about how people have missed the point of the special because he was trying to explain racism through the lens of several different movements. I also discuss how I feel about Daphne Dorman's story, and why it shouldn't be ignored. *This episode does contain explicit content and is not suitable for children. Listener discretion advised. Time codes: Part 1: 1:40 Part 2: 19:11 https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/episodes/The-Closer-Aftermath-e19t2t4 Additional Resources: https://www.theverge.com/2021/10/15/22728337/netflix-fires-organizer-trans-employee-walkout-dave-chappelle https://www.npr.org/2021/10/05/1043435919/dave-chappelle-new-netflix-special-the-closer-review --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

In this episode, Kay and I talk about their life growing up pagan. We discuss some of the differences between raised pagan and Christian. How they view magic. And of course, why Halloween means so much to them. I hope you all enjoy this episode.  --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

What is self-care? In this episode, I explain what self-care is using Very Well Mind's 5 categories of Self-care and give my top 10 self-care tips. Self-care gets a bad rep because it's constantly tied to consumerism and indulgences. Many people view self-care as a luxury they and afford to ignore. While others see it as an excuse to do whatever makes them feel good in the moment. But neither of those is actual self-care. Self-care is about making sure that you take care of yourself mind, body, and soul. Tune in and learn the different categories of self-care and the tips to use to keep yourself sane. https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/episodes/Self-Care-e1982p2 Time codes: 5 categories: 9:30 Top 10 tips: 19:43 Bonus tip: 43:08 Additional Resources: https://www.verywellmind.com/self-care-strategies-overall-stress-reduction-3144729 The More of Less Definitive Guide to Self-Care by Anna Borges: https://read.amazon.cn/kp/embed?asin=B07NMPL56D&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_JBAXV2H3H9XMGZH5M490 Coping Skills: Tools & Techniques for Every Stressful Situation by Faith G. Harper PhD https://www.amazon.com/Coping-Skills-audiobook/dp/B07RF88XSY/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=coping+skills+by+faith+harper&qid=1635144981&sr=8-1 Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff https://www.amazon.com/Self-Compassion-Kristin-Neff-audiobook/dp/B005SA69UM/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2YJPYHWD2WUHV&dchild=1&keywords=self+compassion+kristin+neff&qid=1635145091&sprefix=self+compassion+%2Caps%2C411&sr=8-1 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

In honor of the 20th anniversary of September 11th. I have decided to provide a few perspectives of that day and its aftermath. In this episode, you will hear a foreign perspective, mine, and someone who was there. Gabriele: 00:53 Tatiana: 13:05 James: 26:17 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

In this episode I talk about a new trend that is sweeping the internet, White Privilege Help Videos. I explain how they are dangerous to the progression of race relations in America because they misrepresent what racism looks like. They construct scenarios that are over the top leading to a misrepresentation of a real-life problem. Racism is not a problem that can be solved overnight or even with my one podcast, so I have developed 5 key steps to improving communication between cultures. At the end of the day, recognizing that we are different cultures with some commonalities is the best way forward. www.hopelesslytatiana.com https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/episodes/The-Impact-of-Words-2-e16crk8 Time codes: White Privilege help videos: 2:24 Communication Styles Intro: 13:00 5 Steps: 1. Tone Policing: 19: 39 2. Life isn't black and white: 24:34 3. Take a step back: 27:19 4. Keep conversations between individuals: 32:10 5. Dismissing other people's perspectives:36:10 Additional Resources: https://www.census.gov/data/developers/data-sets/acs-5year.html --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

In this episode, we discuss the history of Pride and how even now we are still working towards equality. We also talk about the difference between allyship and advocates. If you want to learn more about Stonewall https://www.youtube.c om/watch?v=S7jnzOMxb14&t=519s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cCqcvqkWQhc --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

It's Mental Health Awareness Month!! If you feel like you need someone to listen. Better health has counselors that are available for you. And If you're ever feeling hopeless remember you're not alone. And there is a 24 hour hotline 18002738255 you can call. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

Today, I talked about Policing in America, not just by police officers but by citizens as well. My goal is to explain that our lack of empathy has caused us to become more divided and created more problems than we have tried to solve. From justifying heinous actions to just refusing to listen to other people's points of view. We can do better, and you can help. Thank you all so much for listening. ****Also I misspoke Mrs. Waters is a Representative, not a Senator.**** I have attached some links to topics I discussed in the podcast. Shout out to Emily Watson and her team at http://thetechflames.com/ George Floyd Act: https://www.congress.gov/bill/116th-congress/house-bill/7120 5 things white people can do before calling the police: https://mashable.com/article/permitpatty-white-people-call-police-on-black-person/ Policing in America: https://now.tufts.edu/articles/how-racial-segregation-and-policing-intersect-america; https://sociology.columbian.gwu.edu/sites/g/files/zaxdzs1986/f/downloads/Weitzer%20%26%20Brunson%202015%20.pdf; Murder v. Manslaughter charges: https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/homicide-murder-manslaughter-32637-2.html; https://www.sinarezlaw.com/third-degree-murder/#:~:text=Third%2Ddegree%20murder%20falls%20between,to%20kill%20anyone%2C%20for%20example. Utah Nurse incident: https://www.advisory.com/en/daily-briefing/2019/10/15/scapegoat#:~:text=Alex%20Wubbels%2C%20a%20nurse%20who,she%20was%20following%20the%20law.&text=After%20video%20of%20Wubbels'%20arrest,City%20Police%20Department%20fired%20Payne. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

Like I always say, if you wanna learn; read, so I'm including the links to the resources from today's episode. As well as some additional ones that I think are very informative. Voting Rights are something that we should all work together to protect. https://www.legis.ga.gov/api/legislation/document/20212022/201121- Georgia's Voting Rights Bill https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t2Xw8SFmUoI- a clip outlining some of the changes in the bill (there were others I didn't mention) https://www.brennancenter.org/our-work/court-cases/shelby-county-v-holder- Shelby v. Holder https://elm.umaryland.edu/voices-and-opinions/Voices--Opinions-Content/The-History-of-Voting-in-the-United-States.php- History of Voting Rights Eligibility in America https://www.history.com/topics/black-history/voting-rights-act- information about the Voting Rights Act of 1965 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

Today we talked about what it's like to have anxiety. How it affects relationships, work productivity, and life. How I use to cope and what that taught me. This episode is about my personal journey. I am not a doctor or therapist. I can only tell my truth. And I hope it helps people feel less alone. https://www.healthline.com/health/anxiety/social-phobia --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

This week I wrapped up the calendar. I talked about the final days of the Month, lessons learned, and my takeaways. It has been one educational month!  Shout out to my girl Dr. Baby on her Brown Girl in Beijing Podcast/Vlog- check it out! She talks about her life in Beijing as a brown woman. It's fabs. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcUXTSR0_jleZKkg3Kr8dng Women in History: Alice Ball; https://scientificwomen.net/women/ball-alice-121 Books about Women: I am Malala by Malala Yousafzai; https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/17851885-i-am-malala Wish burning; https://medium.com/@jessbarrett/17-things-i-learned-from-burning-my-wishes-for-17-days-9447c2204444 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

This week we talked about the importance of ERA! As promised here are the links to the information I discussed in the episode. Women's equality is a marathon, and we can't give up in the middle. Susan La Flesch Picotte- https://www.smithsonianmag.com/history/incredible-legacy-susan-la-flesche-first-native-american-earn-medical-degree-180962332/ Only Woman in the Room by Marie Benedict- https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/39971465-the-only-woman-in-the-room On the Basis of Sex- https://www.imdb.com/title/tt4669788/ Eliminate the ERA Deadline Supporting Equality Now- https://www.equalitynow.org/era https://www.equalrightsamendment.org/why#:~:text=The%20Equal%20Rights%20Amendment%20is%20needed%20in%20order%20to%20prevent,as%20well%20as%20men's%2C%20experiences.&text=Title%20VII%20and%20Title%20IX%20of%20the%20Civil%20Rights%20Act%20(1964) https://www.law.cornell.edu/wex/supremacy_clause https://edition.cnn.com/2021/03/17/politics/congress-era-deadline-joint-resolutions/index.html https://www.americanprogress.org/issues/women/reports/2020/08/27/489786/state-actions-undermining-abortion-rights-2020/ https://www.brennancenter.org/our-work/research-reports/equal-rights-amendment-explained --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

This week we talked about week 3 of the Choose to Challenge Women's History Month calendar. We discussed Women who should inspire us all, how tone policing ties to gender stereotypes and Period Poverty. Luuna news interview: https://youtu.be/7oxEOK0J6ZY?t=561 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

This week we discussed week 2 of my Women's History Month calendar. We talked about the women who have paved the way for us and the issues that still plague us. Have a listen because as the Chinese Proverb says, "Women hold up half the sky." --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

In this episode, we discuss the Women's History Month Calendar that is on my blog! I break down why I made it, what each category is for, and how Week 1 went.  There is also a special announcement at the end!  --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

Words are our most powerful resource, therefore, we should all consider the impact they have on each other's lives. Today I'm going to talk about different phrases that are common and worth examining why we use them. And how they make people feel. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

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