Podcasts about tone policing

Welcome to Episode 1 of the Fix SLP Summer School series—where we're schooling the system all summer long. Preston Lewis, MS/SLP, and private practice owner Elizabeth Nielsen, MA/SLP, tackle a key question: Do you really need the CCC in private practice? Elizabeth shares how dropping the CCC had zero impact on billing, referrals, or her waitlist—even with major payers like Blue Cross Blue Shield.They also break down ASHA's livestream response to the CMS rule changes, discuss tone policing in advocacy, and introduce Fix SLP's action plan: a letter to CMS Administrator Dr. Oz requesting a two-year delay. This episode is for private practitioners, Clinical Fellows, and anyone rethinking the CCC. Download your letter and take action at fixslp.com.Want to earn some PDHs or CEUs with a discount? Find our most up-to-date promo codes and discounts here.Want to lead or join your state team? Email your name and state to states@fixslp.com.Become a sustaining partner to support our work.Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTokFind all our information at fixslp.com, and sign up for our email list to be alerted to new episodes and content.Email us at team@fixslp.com.Leave a message on our Minivan Meltdown line! ★ Support this podcast ★

SummaryIn this engaging conversation, Chi Chi, a holistic practitioner, shares her journey into herbal medicine and the importance of connecting with one's inner self. The discussion evolves into the complexities of tone policing in relationships, emphasizing the need for understanding communication styles and the impact of environment on behavior. The panelists explore the significance of respect and accountability in interactions, navigating passionate conversations, and finding common ground in relationships. They reflect on personal growth and the role of tone in communication, concluding with insights on how to foster healthier interactions in both personal and professional settings. In this conversation, the speakers delve into various pressing social issues, including media manipulation, the privatization of security, the complexities surrounding homelessness, and the implications of diversity, equity, and inclusion initiatives. They also discuss the stark contrast in how veterans and pedophiles are treated by society and the government, as well as the role of churches in communities, particularly in relation to financial education and support. In this conversation, the participants delve into various themes surrounding the role of churches in community support, the moral standards in society, personal belief systems, and the impact of the pandemic on businesses. They discuss the challenges faced by churches in providing genuine support to their communities, the need for moral standards in society, and the evolution of personal values in the context of spirituality. The conversation also touches on the dynamics of the workforce post-pandemic and concludes with reflections on personal growth and community engagement.TakeawaysChapters00:00 Introduction to Chi Chi and Her Journey04:56 Tone Policing in Relationships10:08 Understanding Communication Styles14:58 Navigating Accountability and Respect19:56 Cultural Dynamics in Business23:40 High Prices and Customer Service25:07 Tone Policing and Cultural Perspectives26:36 Handling Conflict in Relationships31:10 Passion and Communication Dynamics37:33 Understanding Actions Over Words39:59 Navigating Relationships in the Bar Business46:47 Media Manipulation and Political Leaks49:54 The Role of Dress Code in Politics50:18 Privatization of Government Services51:20 The Impact of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion55:25 Resilience and Self-Reliance in the Face of Adversity58:59 Understanding Homelessness and Government Responsibility01:05:05 Addressing Homelessness: A Tailored Approach01:06:28 The Stigma of Homelessness and Systemic Issues01:07:19 Veterans and the System: A Disheartening Reality01:08:09 The Disparity in Support: Veterans vs. Offenders01:09:21 The Struggles of Homeless Veterans01:11:14 The Role of Churches in Community Support01:16:19 Financial Education and Community Disparities01:18:33 The Role of Money in Church01:21:09 Morality and Standards in Religion01:23:33 Self-Discovery and Personal Beliefs01:28:44 Cultural Reflections on Religion and Society01:34:10 Surviving the Pandemic: Personal Stories01:38:50 Impact of the Pandemic on Businesses01:41:08 Changing Workforce Dynamics Post-Pandemic01:42:08 Rising Costs and Minimum Wage Challenges01:44:09 Navigating the Service Industry's New Normal01:47:41 Opportunities and Challenges in Community Support01:49:00 Distractions in Society and Personal Accountability01:50:38 Closing Thoughts and Reflections Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm just gonna leave this right here. It's an encore presentation of an episode I dropped almost two years ago. Ep.59 is ripe for a reboot because fascism has come for America, and much of what I speak to here has become an everyday norm. I've re-recorded the intro to reflect our current reality, and I hope you listen to the end, where I take a closer look at tone policing and why it works to silence us. (Spoiler: knowledge can help us to beat them at their own game.)Ep.59 (original release date July 5, 2023)— Candice is back with another solo episode, asking some big questions: What is gaslighting? Why are so many people allergic to the word victim? And is spiritual dogma eroding accountability?  The episode opens with an exploration of spiritual supremacy and how/why social stigmas around victimhood have become so prevalent. Candice shares personally about her long and messy history with gaslighting and how devotion to new ageism only added to her confusion. She challenges the notion that all suffering is meant, then breaks down the cognitive biases that fuel a victim-blaming/shaming culture. Victimhood isn't something we choose, and it's shame-inducing because it is very often culturally conflated with learned helplessness. Examples are offered, as well as a critical look at the impossible standards that victims (and/or advocates who speak out on their behalf) are held to. Tone policing is defined and examined as a deflection of accountability, as well as other tools in the arsenal of those who are truly "playing the victim"… aka co-opt the language of the oppressed to justify retaliation in the face of restorative resistance.  Referenced in this episode:Conspirituality: How New Age Conspiracy Theories Became a Health Threat, by Derek Beres, Matthew Remski, & Julian WalkerConspirituality podcast episode #148: Marianne Williamson & Asshole JesusNicki Clyne Leaves Keith Raniere - her statementConflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair, by Sarah SchulmanShiny Happy People (documentary) on Amazon PrimePunishment Is Not Accountability, article by Kate McCord with the Virginia Sexual & Domestic Violence Action AllianceSupport the showThe stories and opinions shared in this episode are based on personal experience and are not intended to malign any individual, group, or organization.Join The Deeper Pulse at Patreon for weekly bonus episodes + other exclusive bonus content. Follow The Deeper Pulse on IG @thedeeperpulse + @candiceschutter for more regular updates.

Jonathan Howard and Wendy Orent explore the harmful effects of tone policing within the medical community, particularly during the COVID-19 pandemic. They argue that tone policing is being used to protect prominent figures who have spread misleading information, such as Dr. John Ioannidis and Emily Oster, while silencing legitimate criticism.  The hosts emphasize the importance of maintaining open debate and challenge the hypocrisy of those who prioritize politeness over truth, even as the pandemic continues to claim lives. The discussion underscores the need for transparency and accountability in public health discourse.   Connect with us further on https://sciencebasedmedicine.org/author/jonathanhoward/    The Fine Print The content presented in the "We Want Them Infected" Podcast and associated book is intended for informational and educational purposes only.    The views and opinions expressed by the speakers, hosts, and guests on the podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the creators, producers, or distributors. The information provided in this podcast should not be considered as a substitute for professional medical, scientific, or legal advice. Listeners and readers are encouraged to consult with relevant experts and authorities for specific guidance and information.   The creators of the podcast and book have made reasonable efforts to ensure that the information provided is accurate and up to date. However, as the field of medical science and the understanding of the COVID-19 pandemic continue to evolve, there may be new developments and insights that are not covered in this content.   The creators are not responsible for any errors or omissions in the content or for any actions taken based on the information provided. They disclaim any liability for any loss, injury, or damage incurred by individuals who rely on the content.   Listeners and readers are urged to use their judgment and conduct their own research when interpreting the information presented in the "We Want Them Infected" podcast and book. It is essential to stay informed about the latest updates, guidelines, and recommendations related to COVID-19 and vaccination from reputable sources, such as government health agencies and medical professionals. By accessing and using the content, you acknowledge and accept the terms of this disclaimer.   Please consult with appropriate experts and authorities for specific guidance on matters related to health, science, and the COVID-19 pandemic.  

In this episode, we continue our exploration of tone policing versus emotional intelligence, focusing on practical strategies to enhance your communication skills and leadership presence. In Part 2, we dive into the final steps of the TONE Technique and provide real-world examples to help you apply these concepts in your professional life. Key Takeaways: - Notice and Evaluate: How to acknowledge your emotions and evaluate your communication approach. - Real-World Applications: Practical examples of using the TONE Technique in meetings, performance reviews, and conflict resolution. - Strategic Communication: Tips for adapting your style without compromising authenticity. Listen now to master the TONE Technique and navigate professional environments with confidence and clarity. Website: https://www.confidentwomenlead.com  

Have you ever been told to adjust your tone, leaving you wondering if it's a valid critique or just bias at play? This episode is for you. In Part 1 of this two-part series, we break down the concept of tone policing and explore its impact on professional women of color. We'll discuss how to differentiate between constructive feedback and biased criticism. Plus, I'll introduce you to the TONE Technique, a powerful tool designed to help you navigate these situations with confidence and clarity. Here's what you'll learn in this episode: ●      The basics of tone policing and its implications in the workplace. ●      How to identify whether feedback is about improving your emotional intelligence or if it's a form of bias. ●      The first two steps of the TONE Technique: Think for a moment and Observe where you are. Tune in to gain valuable insights and practical tips that will empower you to handle feedback with poise and self-awareness. Don't forget to join us for Part 2, where we'll complete the TONE Technique and discuss real-world applications and key takeaways.  

Last week, the news broke that Tesla had terminated most of its supercharging team (along with summer interns) as part of a broader mass dismissal. Even with all the frantic efforts to bolster profits, this came as a surprise. Perhaps less of a surprise? White supremacist Nick Fuentes being allowed back on Musk's X, where he promptly held a Sunday night Spaces broadcast with, as of Tuesday afternoon, 2.1 million viewers. The biggest surprise this week in Elon-world though had to be his new role as social media etiquette adviser, as he attempted to school J.K. Rowling on the best ways to post (remember the positive!). David, Dana and Max are joined by Bloomberg tech reporter Kurt Wagner to unpack all of this, and then some.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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What actually counts as tone policing? You might not really know - it's a terribly misunderstood concept. That's why we need to set the record straight. In this episode, you'll learn what tone policing is, what it isn't, why it matters, and why it's so controversial. Related episodes:Tone Policing on Apple & SpotifyMicroaggressions in 15 Minutes on Apple and SpotifyTo support Marie and get exclusive resources, head to patreon.com/mariebeech. To learn more about Marie's DEI services, head to mariebeecham.com.

La foto di Giorgia Meloni che alla Camera si mette la giacca in testa dopo le parole di Angelo Bonelli ha fatto il giro del mondo.Ma perché è successo? Lo analizzo in questo episodio, unitamente alla tecnica del "Tone policing", con una citazione di Gianfranco Fini durante una puntata di Dimartedì del 2015.

Michael Foster joins me to discuss tone policing. Buy Michael's Book Follow Michael on X ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe to the YouTube Channel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@GreatAwokening --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/great-awokening/support

"Du wirst direkt so emotional!" - So einen (ähnlichen) Satz bekommen öfters Personen vorgeworfen, die über ein Thema sprechen, das ihnen nahegeht. Vor allem, wenn es um Diskriminierung geht. Kölncampus-Reporterin Elena hat den Begriff "Tone Policing" für euch kurzgefasst.

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Welcome to 7 Hidden Occurrences that Deplete the self-belief series of Black Women and Men, the Mind Your Thoughts spin series. Episode 2 is on Tone Policing. I've had many instances of tone policing played out in various work situations throughout my life so far. Still, I didn't know that it was 'tone policing' as I wasn't familiar with the term until I started doing research for my 7 Hidden Occurrences pdf and this podcast. In this episode we will look at what effects tone policing has on black people such as changing their approach because of being told they need to calm down or come across as aggressive. Tone policing takes away the importance of our message, diverting from the real issue of another discriminatory behaviour. Click download the ⁠7 Hidden Everyday Occurrences pdf⁠ Meet Your Host: Rose Boddie: The founder of Be Some Boddie (Life Coaching) Ltd, Rose Boddie is a Self-Belief Coach, Certified Belief Clearing Practitioner and creator of the Mindset First™ model. Rose works with individuals to create ultimate self-belief so that they can eliminate self-doubt, fear and overwhelm releasing them to discover their full potential and start building the life they have always dreamed of. Rose specialises in Mindset Mastery and using the Mindset First™ methodologies blended with psychological theory and spiritual principles in a holistic approach to achieving solid solutions and sustainable life-changing results with her clients. Rose's mission is to help individuals awaken to who they are and have an awareness of self and ultimate self-belief to face their challenges confidently and courageously. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mindyourthoughtspodcast/message

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Candice is back with another solo episode, this time asking some big questions: What is gaslighting & why is it such a thing? Why are so many people allergic to the word victim? And is spiritual dogma getting in the way of relational accountability?  The episode opens with a peek into Conspirituality - and a new book by the same name - leading into an exploration of spiritual supremacy and how/why social stigmas around victimhood have become so prevalent. Candice shares personally about her long and messy history with gaslighting, and how devotion to new ageism only added to her confusion. She challenges the notion that all suffering is meant, then breaks down the cognitive biases that fuel a victim blaming/shaming culture. True victimhood isn't something we choose, and it's very often shame-inducing because of how it is culturally conflated with unlovability and learned helplessness; examples of this are offered, as well as a critical look at the impossible standards that victims (and/or advocates who speak out on their behalf) are held to. Tone policing is defined and examined as a deflection of accountability, as well as other tools in the arsenal of those who are truly ‘playing the victim'… aka co-opt the language of the oppressed in order to justify retaliation in the face of restorative resistance. This is a jam-packed episode as a lead-in to the final few conversations in the ‘cult'ure series - which will roll out from now through August. Referenced in this episode:Conspirituality: How New Age Conspiracy Theories Became a Health Threat, by Derek Beres, Matthew Remski, & Julian WalkerConspirituality podcast episode #148: Marianne Williamson & Asshole JesusNicki Clyne Leaves Keith Raniere - her statementConflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair, by Sarah SchulmanShiny Happy People (documentary) on Amazon PrimeClip of Tony Robbins & Nanine McCool - Unleash The Power Within - March 2018Punishment Is Not Accountability, article by Kate McCord with the Virginia Sexual & Domestic Violence Action AllianceSupport the showThe stories and opinions shared in this episode are based on personal experience and are not intended to malign any individual, group, or organization.Join The Deeper Pulse at Patreon for weekly bonus episodes + other exclusive bonus content. Follow The Deeper Pulse on IG @thedeeperpulse + @candiceschutter for more regular updates.

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"I really didn't like his tone." "She just seems so angry." "I can't listen to her when she's heated like that."We're breaking down tone policing, setting out to answer this question: In conversations about race, does tone matter? Should it matter? In this episode, I run through all of the best perspectives so you can figure out where you stand.Referenced: APA, Prospective Teachers Misperceive Black Children as AngryYour listen next list:Should White People Do Diversity Work? on Apple & SpotifyWhat People of Color Need From Their White Friends Apple & SpotifyTo support Marie and get exclusive resources, head to patreon.com/mariebeech. To learn more about Marie's DEI services, head to mariebeecham.com.

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Tone policing is a way of invalidating what someone is saying because of how they're saying it. It goes beyond literal tone–too loud, too brash, too animated–and extends to using slang or African American Vernacular English and beyond. It often assumes that the speaker is uneducated, rendering their opinions or experiences as null and void. EK Powell joins Erica to discuss tone policing and respectability politics, how content creators are pushing back and influencing media, and why you can't address everybody. In this discussion: How respectability politics and tone policing create an obligation to assimilate How content creators are pushing back against respectability politics How calling words slang or jargon applies different implied value to language Why showing up authentically means you can't address everybody Connect with Our EK Powell:  Instagram: @whatsgoodenglish  TikTok: @whatsgoodenglish YouTube: What's Good English Support EK Powell on Patreon Contact EK Powell Ready to dive deeper? Pause on the Play® The Community has the resources that support you and other values focused individuals in creating change and impact in our world together. Join us for conversations that address the questions and challenges that come up as you're navigating visibility and values, Imperfect Allyship®, and the impact you want to create. Membership gets you access to live office hours, Q&A sessions with Erica and India, workshops, and our entire library of evergreen replays and resources. Learn more at  pauseontheplay.com/community Resources: Listen to EK Powell on African American Vernacular English The origin of the term “Sea-Lioning”

Kennt ihr Aussagen wie "Ich rede erst mit dir darüber, wenn du dich beruhigt hast" oder in einer Diskussion sagt ihr oder bekommt gesagt "Du bist gerade zu emotional."? Wenn ja: Herzlichen willkommen Tone Policing. Aber was für einen Platz haben Emotionen in Diskussionen überhaupt? Gehören sie dazu? Sollten sie in Diskussionen eher rausgehalten werden? Was passiert mit unserer Diskussionsart wenn wir diskutieren und emotional werden? Diese Fragen und noch mehr besprechen wir in dieser Folge. In diesem Sinne: diskutiert gerne mit ;). Thema geht los ab Minute 12:23

Warrior women, this is an important and timely episode of the Advancing Women Podcast. Our speech, our “tone”, and even the octave of our voice is under attack! Scrutiny of women's speaking patterns is the latest frontier in an endless barrage of judgment and undermining women face. It is yet another way to blame women. An attempt to shift the emphasis to fixing women versus doing the hard work of fixing structural, and organizational inequities. We must see tone policing and commentary about upspeak and vocal fry for what it is. It's not a peeve that needs to be professionally developed away. It's not really even about our tone of voice. It's about power and status, and who is allowed to have it. Research shows that it is FEMALE vocal fry or up speak that is noticed and criticized. It contributes to negative perceptions of women's BUT NOT MEN'S competence and confidence. We don't have to accept the nonsensical ideology that constantly expects women to change. As criticisms mount and gain momentum, we must acknowledge and call out how the workforce keeps adding ridiculous standards for women, finding new ways to suggest deficits and breathe new life into the fix-the-women narrative. We are neither broken nor defective. We don't need to be fixed. As always, it's not your fault, but it is your problem, so don't miss this episode to learn more about tone policing, upspeak, and vocal fry. As Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg said "Women belong in all places where decisions are being made”, and all the gendered, inequitable judgment of our character traits and even of our voices and tone won't change that fact if WE continue to believe – to KNOW - that we belong! For more about Dr. DeSimone and the Advancing Women Podcast Email: drdesimone@advancingwomenpodcast.com Website: https://advancingwomenpodcast.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ References: Business Inside Men Use Upspeak and Vocal Fry Too (businessinsider.com) Harvard Annals of Surgery: Women as Deficit: Re-evaluating Interventions to Establish Gender Equity women-as-deficit-re-evaluating-interventions-to.pdf (massgeneral.org) Mashable (Rachel Thompson) Stop telling women how they should talk | Mashable NPR From Upspeak To Vocal Fry: Are We 'Policing' Young Women's Voices? : NPR The Conversation https://theconversation.com/keep-an-eye-on-vocal-fry-its-all-about-power-status-and-gender-45883#:~:text=Vocal%20fry%20is%20a%20distinct,of%20belonging%20in%20that%20tribe Time https://time.com/5006345/what-is-vocal-fry/ Upworthy https://www.upworthy.com/what-is-vocal-fry-and-why-doesnt-anyone-care-when-men-talk-like-that Examples of male vocal fry https://the-toast.net/2015/07/22/examples-of-male-vocal-fry/

Sometimes when white women are at the start of their feminist journey they can get tunnel vision and make choices that ultimately harm Women of Color. Today on First Name Basis I'm joined by Channing Parker & Elise Poll who break down the pitfalls of white feminism and give practical tips for people who are looking to move into a space of anti-racist intersectionality!    Tune in to learn: Channing & Elise's go-to definition of feminism  Common myths about feminism and why they're wrong The difference between white feminism and intersectional feminism  The role that men play in the feminist movement  Examples of what feminism can look like in yoru everyday life    Our guests today are brilliant! Together, Channing and Elise make The Faithful Feminists, an online community and weekly podcast dedicated to providing feminist interpretations of sacred texts, specifically aspects of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints' “Come Follow Me” Sunday school manual.   Channing lives in Utah and is an essayist and poet who focuses on spirituality, nature and self-love. She enjoys reading, gardening and spending time with her husband, two children and poodle. Elise lives in Arizona, where she teaches communication courses at Arizona State University. She loves asking questions, discussing eminent and liberation theology, reading and music. “We are the girls who save a seat for you on the soft chairs and back up your comments in class, because that is what faith and feminism both do: love one another and make room for everyone.”   Ally Elementary   Parents have been asking for a practical, interactive way to implement the anti-racist strategies that I lay out in the First Name Basis Podcast. So on March 29th Ally Elementary registration opens up again! And we're also excited to announce that we will be launching our new program, Ally Elementary Jr., for kids in preschool through second grade at the same time.   During this five-week program parents will work together with their children to create a culture of anti-racism in their home, and I will be there to guide them every step of the way. We will use hands-on activities to teach our children about everything from the untold story of how race was created to how they can disrupt racism in their everyday lives. I am so excited to watch the families in our community make a meaningful transformation and improve their communities through anti-racist action. To join our waitlist and be notified when registration is open, visit firstnamebasis.org/allyelementary Articles, Studies, & Podcasts Referenced in the Episode Channing & Elyse's Reading List Listen to The Faithful Feminists Podcast   Listen to Jasmine on the Faithful Feminists Podcast    The First Name Basis Podcast “What is Privilege & What Do I Do With It?”   The First Name Basis Podcast “Cancel Culture Pt 1. Calling In, Calling Out, & Tone Policing”   The First Name Basis Podcast “The Danger of Spiritual Bypassing”   The First Name Basis Podcast “Service, Not Saviorism”  Song Credit: “Sleeper” by Steve Adams” and “Dive Down” by VYEN

In this solo episode with Ilana, she explains her frustrations with people tone policing others. Ilana is no stranger to being tone policed in her life and has had her feelings and emotions be invalidated because she gave an opinion that was mistaken for "having a tone" or being "rude and angry." Main topics covered in this episode: -Defining tone policing -Why does tone policing hurt people, especially women? -Examples of when Ilana was tone policed -How tone policing is common in the workplace -Ilana losing her job due to being tone policed --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shamelesslyunapologetic/support

Dr. Suraj Yengde comes on The Pakistan Experience for a deep dive on Caste in India; how Dalits are discriminated against systematically in India. On this week's episode, we get into Identity politics, Modi's India, "Hinduphobia", Neoliberalism, the Dalit genocide, politics and activism. Dr. Suraj Yengde is one of India's leading scholars and public intellectuals. Named as one of the "25 Most Influential Young Indian" by GQ magazine and the "Most influential Young Dalit" by Zee, Suraj is an author of the bestseller Caste Matters and co-editor of award winning anthology The Radical in Ambedkar. Caste Matters was recently featured in the prestigious "Best Nonfiction Books of the Decade" list by The Hindu. Caste Matters is being translated in seven languages. Suraj holds a research associate position with the department of African and African American Studies. Suraj's recent appointment was Senior Fellow at the Harvard Kennedy School, a non-resident fellow at the Hutchins Center for African and African American Research, and was part of the founding team of Initiative for Institutional Anti-Racism and Accountability (IARA) at Harvard University. The Pakistan Experience is an independently produced podcast looking to tell stories about Pakistan through conversations. Please consider supporting us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thepakistanexperience And Please stay in touch: https://twitter.com/ThePakistanExp1 https://www.facebook.com/thepakistanexperience https://instagram.com/thepakistanexpeperience The podcast is hosted by comedian and writer, Shehzad Ghias Shaikh. Shehzad is a Fulbright scholar with a Masters in Theatre from Brooklyn College. He is also one of the foremost Stand-up comedians in Pakistan and frequently writes for numerous publications. Instagram.com/shehzadghiasshaikh Facebook.com/Shehzadghias/ Twitter.com/shehzad89 Chapters: 0:00 How did Dr Suraj get to Harvard 5:00 Dalit Representation 25:00 Caste, Class and Identity Politics 33:00 History, Fascism and the Reassertion of Identity 49:20 Hinduphobic and Dehumanization of Dalits 1:00:00 Neoliberalism and Identity wars 1:15:00 Tone Policing 1:19:00 Peoples Q&A

In this Podcast, I talk about the toxicity of tone policing in the Workplace and it's link to White Fragility. The burden it places on people of color to self police how they speak out when they are being harmed. I also discuss the additional burden that is placed on Black people to assure White liberals that they don't think they are racist. Because White liberals often equate racism with extremist racist people. I make a point that it is natural for any white people to have racial prejudice against black people because of white supremist/colonial conditioning. I make reference to the fact that I myself am homophobic and fat phobic not because I hate queer people or fat people of which I fall in the scale but because I am a product of a society that taught me that. See below for more information on the services we offer: Link to the 5 day Live Your Soul-Crushing Job Challenge https://blackwomenintheworkplace.com/events/ Sign-up Online Coaching Programme https://blackwomenintheworkplace.com/online-coaching/ Join Private Coaching Program: Pushing Your Career Journey Further https://blackwomenintheworkplace.com/coaching/ For all my services: https://linktr.ee/Blackwomenintheworkplace Join The Community of Black Women in The Workplace: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2295871547186080/ #job#jobs#careeradvice #careercoach #careers #career #blackwoman #black #blackwomenatwork #coaches #coaching #blackexcellence #blackedition #personaldevelopment #career

This month, we discuss tone policing — what it is, how it shows up in church, the discriminatory ways it's deployed, the things it suppresses that are beneficial to Christian community, and a lot more. Also… Suzie's back!!! Shake the Dust is a podcast of KTF Press. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Find transcripts of this show at KTFPress.com. Hosts  Jonathan Walton – follow him on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.  Suzie Lahoud – follow her on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.  Sy Hoekstra – follow him on Twitter.  Our theme song is “Citizens” by Jon Guerra – listen to the whole song on Spotify. Our podcast art is by Jacqueline Tam – follow her and see her other work on Instagram.  Production and editing by Sy Hoekstra. Transcript by Joyce Ambale and Sy Hoekstra. Questions about anything you heard on the show? Write to shakethedust@ktfpress.com and we may answer your question on a future episode. TranscriptSuzie Lahoud: Your problem is not my anger. Your problem is that it triggers guilt in you. Why? Because of your — I'll put it in Christian terms — because of your lack of repentance. It has to be repentance rooted in action, because ultimately she's saying I'm not even interested in your feelings, your guilt doesn't do me any good. I'm interested in change. I want this thing that is hurting me, that's hurting my kids, is hurting the people that I love, I want it to change, and that is why I'm angry. [The song “Citizens” by Jon Guerra fades in. Lyrics: “I need to know there is justice/That it will roll in abundance/ And that you're building a city/ Where we arrive as immigrants/ And you call us citizens/ And you welcome us as children home.” The song fades out.] Sy Hoekstra: Welcome to Shake the Dust: Leaving colonized faith for the Kingdom of God. A podcast of KTF Press. My name is Sy Hoekstra. I'm here with Jonathan Walton AND! Say hi, Suzie.  Suzie Lahoud: Hello everyone.  Sy Hoekstra: Suzie's back!  Jonathan Walton: Yes! Sy Hoekstra: And Jonathan sounds like Grover, for some reason. [laughter] We are so excited to have Suzie back. This is the first one since she left to take care of a tiny little baby for a few months. We are very happy that we get to have her back on the mic before we start season two, for all of you lovely subscribers. Thank you so much for subscribing, this is a subscriber only bonus episode. So I'm not going to go through the whole, what our subscription is to KTFPress.com and all that. But please do remember to follow us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter, at KTF Press if you don't. Leave a rating and review this show in your podcast player of choice, and just thank you for doing all that. It's very helpful, if you have a couple of minutes, we really, really appreciate it.  Now we're going to get started with our topic today, which is Tone Policing. We're going to talk about several different aspects of how tone policing fits into a church in a broader social context. But first let's just begin with the simplest thing, the definition. For people who do not know, what is tone policing? Jonathan Walton: The definition of tone policing, it's when dominant culture responds to the critiques of marginalized folks by addressing the matter in a way that critiques the delivery, as opposed to the actual argument. So it's dismissed, it's ignored. It'd be me stating that I am frustrated, angry, upset about the verdicts today in the shooting of Daunte Wright. And because I say it in an angry way, someone will say, “Ugh, that would be received so much better if you weren't such an angry Black person.” And they address me, as opposed to addressing the actual substance, which is, people should get sentenced for things in the United States in the same way that other people are. So the ad hominem argument, as I just learned, is when someone addresses me, minimize, dismiss, attack the person, as opposed to dealing fairly with the thing that's actually brought up, the issue at hand.  Suzie Lahoud: Yeah. So essentially, your argument, the point that you're making, is viewed as illegitimate and irrelevant, just because of the way that you delivered the argument. Because you showed emotion, people no longer have to listen to you and address what you're actually saying.  Sy Hoekstra: Right. And I think, so tone policing is a form of an ad hominem argument, meaning, an ad hominem argument is like any attack on a person instead of the substance, and tone policing is specifically when you're arguing against the way that something was spoken, or the way that you were addressed when the person made the argument. So what does that actually look like, both in a broader social context and in church specifically, how do we see tone policing happening? Jonathan Walton: Yeah. So the way I think the classical senses we hear these arguments made, is around like infidelity and abuse in church. So someone, usually a woman, will bring up like, “Oh, someone was sexually assaulted or there was a violation of some kind.” And they'll be like, “Oh, why is she so upset? Why does she have to say it in front of everybody? Why this, why this, why that.” Has nothing to do with the actual reality that there's a person who's been victimized, and we are not going to deal with the person who victimized her or the situation or help. We're just going to attack the way that she brought it up, because it disturbs some dominant cultural reality that we want to keep as the status quo. So I think inside and outside the church, I think this is an exceptionally unhelpful tactic and technique for… yeah. Well, the result of it is exceptionally unhelpful, because inside and outside the church, we just end up with entire groups of people, usually victims of sexual violence or some sort of abuse, being wholly dismissed, online or in real time. Sy Hoekstra: Can I emphasize one of those things that you said, which was, why do you bring this up in front of everyone? The specific Bible passage that gets thrown around a lot there is Matthew 18. People saying, you should have come to the individual person first, and addressed them and expected them to repent, which does not… or ask them to repent. Then you follow this step-by-step thing, where you bring in a couple other people, and then maybe you bring in the church leadership and then you bring it in front of the public, which does not make any sense in the context of abuse, because the whole relationship has been so distorted at that point. And the power dynamics are so clear, and the abuser is not, like, has probably repeatedly justified what they're doing to you already.  Like the whole, it indicates an incredible lack of understanding of what happens in abusive relationships. But that's in one specific context, the context of abuse. It could be criticism at anything. It could be criticism about how your institution runs. It could be criticism about just someone's leadership style. And a constant thing that you hear is about grace, and whether or not the person who is doing the criticizing is showing the proper amount of grace, is not being too accusatory, and isn't being too emotional about what they're saying.  So the reason that that is hypocrisy, is because the person who's being criticized is almost never required to show any grace when you're tone policing. You're not required to sit there and say, okay, even if this person is too angry, even if this person is not showing me the grace they deserve, you can get to the substance of what they're saying, even if they don't say it in the way that you think is correct. You should be able to show that grace to them, as somebody who is probably in pain or mourning somehow. But that level of grace is not expected of the person being criticized, it's only being expected of the person who is doing the criticizing. That's usually because of power dynamics.  This usually comes up when somebody in power is being criticized. And I just think we often lose sight of that. This happened recently, there was a whole spat because this Anglican priest wrote in the New York Times about how we need to get rid of online worship services, because people need to get back to church, which is, aside from just being dangerous because the pandemic's not over, is ridiculous for, as we've talked about before, like people with disabilities who can come to church, who suddenly during the pandemic had so much access to ministry and you're just going to cut that all off because she was afraid, being Anglican and being very concerned with embodied, embodied worship, embodied communion taking, that people were just going to stay home if you gave them the option to stay home. So people got really mad at her online, and then a lot of people wrote back like, “Gosh, this is just such vitriolic, ungracious...” So many people responded that way to her, and it just really bothered me that nobody was thinking like, why doesn't she have to show grace to people that she has angered, for quite legitimate reasons? Then think about the critiques and actually deal with those arguments and why the grace never goes the other way, is just frustrating to me.  Jonathan Walton: Yeah. Also, another example would be, like Brett Kavanaugh when he was doing the confirmation hearings, and the way that he and Lindsey Graham were allowed to yell, to spit, to seethe in contempt and disgust for the reality that they were even being questioned about something. Sy Hoekstra: To shout, “I like beer,” at the top of his lungs [laughs]. Jonathan Walton: Right. To push back against the questioner and be like, “Are you addicted to alcohol?” The way that he spoke, if that was a woman, if that was any minority, it would have… I re-watched it recently and was just shocked at the level of indignation and freedom that is totally fine because of the position he holds in society as a wealthy, white, educated male. It's yeah. There is no tone police for that. Suzie Lahoud: Yeah, and that actually sort of transitions to some of my thoughts on this, which are… well, first of all, I'll say in the context of the church, I feel like the Christianese that gets thrown around this a lot, is “the fruit of the spirit is self-control,” but then it ends up being a very gendered critique. So the first piece of it is, Dr. Willie Jennings in his book, After Whiteness, talks about this concept of the self-sufficient white male, and that that's the mold that everyone else is expected to adhere to. Particularly in professional settings, which I would include the church as an institution when you're sitting in a church meeting. Even when you're sitting in a Bible study this comes out, that the appropriate way to express yourself is almost as if you were a white man.  And to be honest, I feel like women feel this particularly. That if you show undue emotion, if you get too weepy, if, you know, your voice starts to quaver a little too much in the wrong way, not in the, “I'm filled with the Holy Spirit” kind of way [laughter], people are going to just write off what you're saying. Certainly in academic settings I've seen this happen, that you just lose the audience as soon as you step out of the armor of this ideal of a WASP-y way of expressing yourself. So that's the first piece of it. But the second piece of it that you were getting at Jonathan, is that it's really a double standard. Because white men do show emotion, and they show anger, but somehow it's not labeled as anger when they express it. It's labeled as strength. It's labeled as a show of authority.  Sy Hoekstra: Passion. Suzie Lahoud: Yes, it's showed as passion. It's showed as leadership, strong leadership. Because let's face it, white male rage provides the guard rails that patriarchy in a white supremacist society operates on. That's what keeps us in line, is the anger of white men, and we don't call it that. There's actually a great quote that's kind of been making its way around Twitter by this novelist and playwright and it's kind of tongue in cheek. But it's Claire Willett. She writes, “Honestly, the best marketing scheme in history is men…” and I would qualify this as white men, “successfully getting away with calling women, the ‘more emotional' gender for like, EONS, because they've successfully rebranded anger as,” all caps, “Not An Emotion.”  So again, when these men do it, as you were saying, Jonathan, when you look at that confirmation hearing, we don't say, “Oh my gosh, they got so angry. That disqualifies them.” No, it's appropriate somehow. We don't even see it. It's become invisible to us because that's the norm. That has been expressed as acceptable, that we've been socialized to accept as acceptable. But if a woman did that, if a minority did that, it would be a completely different response. They would be disqualified from holding a position of leadership and authority because of their expression of emotion. So again, it's this double standard, and it doesn't help men either. It makes me think of that great quote by CS Lewis, where he says, “I sat with my anger long enough until she told me her name was grief.”  So we don't provide proper outlets for grief for men, for expressing that they feel overwhelmed. It can only be expressed as anger in those cases for these white men. So that's also a problem. It doesn't… I guess what I'm trying to get at, is this double standard doesn't help anybody out. It's not healthy for anyone. It's not building a healthy society. It's not creating healthy homes and healthy institutions. That's part of why it needs to be called out.  But I'll return to the point of this often being a gendered critique. And I want to acknowledge straight-up that I'm not the most qualified person to make this argument, but I think there is no debate that it is Black women who bear the brunt of tone policing. And it is because it is at the intersection of patriarchal power and racial oppression. So if a Black woman shows emotion, even about injustice that she has personally experienced, we say that she's angry. That seems to discredit her and disqualify her and make her appear dangerous, like she's a threat to society. And that is a huge problem, and it's been used and wielded to silence so many women. And really, I just feel like it's a battle, not only for the ability to express certain things, but a battle for the ability to express things in a genuine, authentic way. That you shouldn't have to take on that armor of the self-sufficient white man to be able to speak your truth. You should be able to speak your truth in the way that you need to speak it, in the way that it comes out. So those are my initial thoughts. I'm going to get off my soap box [laughs]. You guys jump back in. Sy Hoekstra: Wait, sorry, those are your initial thoughts [laughs]? Suzie Lahoud: I know, I realized that I was going to go do the whole thing, and then I was like, “Let me step back. Sy has some good questions.” Jonathan Walton: No, listen. Suzie is back. Suzie is back, just so you know. In case you forgot. [Laughter] Sy Hoekstra: Exactly. And I think it's worth pointing out, that some of these points are similar to something we talked about last month, when we talked about how the hierarchy of sins just plays differently along lines of race and gender and whatever else. Because that's just how anything like this shakes out as being more negative for people who are less empowered. It's just a similar dynamic that we were talking about. Jonathan Walton: Right. Quick thing that I'll add is, at that intersection of race and gender, for at least, I think, from what I've observed and read, the critique against white women is not anger, but hysteria. Like why are you being so ridiculous? Like this isn't a problem. And for Chinese, Korean and Asian, it's like, what do you mean this is a problem? They expect submission. They're like, what do you mean this is an issue? I thought this would be fine, that they would just roll over and it'd be, and take whatever is coming. And I think for, and Sy, I think I've actually talked with you about this. For folks with disabilities, it's like the expectation is that y'all will be nice and grateful at all times for people who engage and talk with you and are willing so much to sacrifice our time to be in a relationship with someone like you. Sy Hoekstra: That's actually an interesting one because there's this great… she's a professor of something or other. I don't know, because I just read her Twitter, which is mostly about the fact that she's blind [laughs]. She's an English woman named Amy Kavanagh. Another Kavanagh, but one who's not as frustrating. And she… Suzie Lahoud: We don't discriminate against Kavanaghs.  Sy Hoekstra: No, no, absolutely not. She just had this whole thread recently, specifically about the fear that a lot of blind and other disabled women face for speaking up at all about what they want, because it so frequently can result in lots of unwanted attention from men. If you're angry, unwanted attention from men. If you speak up at this dynamic of like, I'm talking to you, and I just grab your arm or your hand to help you, guide you across. We've talked about this before too, Jonathan. How blind people in general, like you have to at least ask, and you should probably just let them ask, if you want someone to, if you want to offer help. And she's just like, if we at all say, “I don't need that help,” even if it's no tone at all, just the notion that you would say, “I don't need the help,” you're liable to face a ton of anger, and even groping or in some cases, sexual assault. This happens at much higher rates to disabled women. It's just like a terrifying situation to be in, where the slightest, the smallest tone, even no tone, just the suggestion that you don't need the help that someone's offering, makes you ungrateful. So that word in particular that you used, is I think very accurate, and I don't know, it can be met with like, it's like tone…  Jonathan Walton: Tone punishment? No, but like it's a punishment, right? Like we violated a social norm. So for, and for me, getting too angry about police brutality, it might be that I'm dismissed from my position because I'm too emotional. Like Jonathan's too close to the issue, so my thoughts and my feelings, my leadership is invalidated. And then maybe my leadership is invalid in other places. So then I won't be able to write on that blog anymore or speak at that place anymore.  For this woman, and that, I had never thought about that before. That is tragic. For a woman who is willing to speak up and advocate for herself that is disabled, to be assaulted or berated in, it's almost like there's a… it's actually what Suzie already brought up. You run into the guard rails of white rage. There's like, that keeps you in your place. So she doesn't say anything because she fears running into that third rail. Guard rail, sorry to mix metaphors. Suzie Lahoud: Third rail is good too. Yeah. Well, and gosh, this reminds me of why I miss having these conversations with you guys. Because you're helping me nuance even my own thinking, because I'll be honest, I came into this conversation thinking that part of the problem is that it's expected that there's a single tone that we're all allowed to take, but really, I think maybe to nuance that idea more, it's that there are tones that are dictated to each of us within our boxes. But like you said, there are norms around how we are allowed to express ourselves based on who we are, and bringing it back to, we were already touching on this concept of intersectionality and overlapping layers of oppression that each of us experience based on our identities, and tone falls into that. That there's only a certain way you're allowed to express yourself.  Jonathan Walton: Right. And one other thing, not Jenning's book, After Whiteness, but the book before that, Christian Imagination. He talks about, I think it's page 34, because I wrote about it a lot. Is that he says, there's this image of maturity. Suzie Lahoud: Yes. Jonathan Walton: Yeah. Like that the paterfamilias is like the white male form, will bring all other things into maturity. Suzie Lahoud: Yes. And that gets expressed in the church. Sorry to cut you off, but yes.  Jonathan Walton: So the idea of a mature woman, is this. The idea of a mature disabled person, is this. A mature Black person is this. Like mature creation. The thought that native people were not using the land in the way that it should be used, therefore Europeans can take it and bring it to maturity. Children being separated from their parents, whether it be native people or immigrants today. Like we quote, “we can raise that child to maturity better than this person.” Sy's talked about that with children and the foster care system being taken. So anyway, there's lots of intersections. Suzie Lahoud: Jonathan actually touches too on something I was looking at again recently. In The Fire Next Time, James Baldwin talks about that, kind of the same concepts from Dr. Willie Jennings. That white people, particularly white men, think that everyone needs to become like them in order to better themselves and become mature and for society to progress. And the fact that they're not willing to let go of that idea and understand that no, the point is not for everyone to assimilate to your way of being. Again, this comes out in tone. It comes out in the way that you are allowed to express yourself. Because the problem is not that the person speaking to you is angry. The problem is the problem that upset them in the first place.  And I have to, sorry, I just have to jump in on this too. But one of the things that, and I mean, obviously I have emotions about this. So one of the things that's so upsetting about this, is that you're essentially asking, a lot of times when tone policing happens, you're asking… And this came up with the examples you were giving about abuse in the church. You're asking the victim or the one who is oppressed to not show emotion about their oppression, and actually, it's the oppressor who's asking them to not show emotion about it. This is also one of the things I loved about, I recently recommended in our newsletter, that, the Trojan Horse Affair and it's all about Islamophobia, but one of the things that ended up being most… Sy Hoekstra: So good. I listened to the whole thing in like three days after you recommended it. It's amazing.  Suzie Lahoud: It is definitely binge material. Yeah. So, so good. So well done. But what really ended up getting me the most, was the story of these two journalists who were working on this, and one of them is a British Muslim. He comes out of these meetings enraged oftentimes. And this white male journalist who's working with him from the New York Times, he's not having the same emotion. So they have these conversations about it on the side, and a lot of it ends up weaving around, how do you relate to your profession, what's your job as a journalist? Those kinds of questions.  But what struck me, and what they kind of get out, but I wish they'd almost dug into more, is that the Muslim journalist is having a stronger response because this is his lived experience. He doesn't exist apart from this. So when they're making Islamophobic statements, when he's listening to British officials make bold Islamic claims, that's personal for him. Of course, he's going to get emotional about it, but somehow he's not allowed to do that. And not recognizing the importance of his positionality in the story, that's what we do. We shut people down. We don't allow them to be human and we don't allow ourselves to see the power structures that create these moments of injustice, these experiences of injustice that lead to the emotion. But to us, the problem is the emotion, not the structures. Sy Hoekstra: The other sort of ironic point about it I think, is that the person who's doing the tone policing, is telling someone to be quieter, less emotionally involved in things that have happened to them that are really painful. Is that in almost every case, those things have never happened to the person who's doing the tone policing. The person who's doing the tone policing has no experiential basis with which to evaluate the reaction of the person who is getting quote unquote, “too emotional”. So there's all the other kind of hypocrisies wrapped up in it that we've talked about, but on top of that, it's also just, usually the person doing the tone policing is the least likely person to be able to accurately evaluate whether or not the tone of the person speaking is actually appropriate. Jonathan Walton: Right. And I think something that I hope people listening, we can separate is anyone is capable of doing tone policing.  Sy Hoekstra: Oh yeah. Suzie Lahoud: That's a good point, yeah. Jonathan Walton: And the willingness and ability to do it testifies, I think, to our unwillingness to engage with our own discomfort. Because when somebody else gets angry, for me to be able to validate their anger, I have to think anger is good in and of itself. And then I have to enter into my own feelings to be able to empathize with them. And if I have a problem being emotional, whatever the emotion is, sadness, joy or anything along the spectrum, I won't be able to do it. And that, all in the name of control is, just radically unhelpful and not Christ-like at all. Sy Hoekstra: Which is why I think of so much of that sort of control as just a trauma response to discomfort. Like the people that are tone policing, the trauma response being, instead of dealing with the thing that is making you uncomfortable or anxious or whatever, your solution is to try and just get rid of it. That's almost always a trauma response. Is like, just get rid of this problem instead of dealing with this problem. That is the, a kind of classic sign of somebody who is overwhelmed with anxiety or discomfort or something like that.  Suzie Lahoud: Yeah. I feel like that's what Brené Brown is kind of getting at when she talks about how you are the least capable of being empathetic towards something that triggers your own shame. Sy Hoekstra: Oh yeah. Jonathan Walton: Yes.  Sy Hoekstra: So we've talked a lot now about how this operates and all the kind of negative things that tone policing does, but Jonathan, I think you were starting to hint at the actually positive things that come from the emotional expression of the person being criticized. Like there are legitimately positive things that tone policing is shutting down. Aside from just naming somebody's suffering, there are lots of other things that are being shut down that are actually good, that come from the emotion in particular. So can you talk a little bit more about that, Jonathan?  Jonathan Walton: Yeah, absolutely. I mean, me and Priscilla have conversations about this a lot, where like, how do we raise Maia to trust her gut? That her feelings are good, that they actually signal what she values. They actually, they are things worth contemplating, because they say something about who she is as a person. They say something about what she believes about herself, about the world. So our feelings are signals. They may not necessarily be truth or things that identify us or that we wrap our identities in, but they are essential to who we are as people, because they communicate values, they communicate beliefs. They reflect something deep inside of us. So one of the ways that we have actively tried not to tone police, is actually doing what Jesus did.  And something that Jesus did when people had strong feelings or strong beliefs that were different from his, that would normally make us quote unquote “uncomfortable” is the difference between teaching someone and judging someone. So Jesus taught, but he didn't judge. Which is a very, I think, subtle distinction, where someone can come to me and have strong feelings, and I can allow them to have those strong feelings and not condemn them for those said feelings, you know what I mean?  Suzie Lahoud: I feel like one of the… Yeah, I mean, first of all, that's so wise. Thank you, Jonathan. And I think that's an important place for me to kind of make the clarification, that the point should be that we can all, all of us, understand and express our emotions in a healthy way. In the way that God intends. Because emotion is a part of our faith and obviously that's clear in the Bible. So again, just to clarify, the point is that this isn't healthy for anybody. Another thing that we were talking about earlier when we were prepping for this conversation, is just this idea that, I think, anger itself can be an important expression of injustice or of speaking out. An important way of speaking out against injustice and speaking out against something that is wrong. That is not as it should be. That is not in keeping with the Shalom that God desires. That is not representative of human flourishing in all of its fullness. So anger can actually be an important emotion to recognize, to understand how to deal with.  Honestly, I feel like, so one of the people that has a lot of insight on this is, reading Audre Lorde. She talks about anger as a fuel for the work that she does, and she makes an important distinction between anger and hate. So we're not talking about hatred. And I appreciate that you guys touched on anger in your previous bonus episode, because I think it's important to recognize that we have to… gosh, there needs to be a lot of nuance there in how we talk about anger, how we deal with anger. Obviously, it holds a lot of power in, so it can be very destructive and that's how a lot of us have experienced it and continue to experience it.  But she specifically talks about the power of anger to kind of fuel your engine to work towards change, because ultimately what she wants to see is change. There's this quote that I was reading recently from this powerful speech that she gives, called “The Uses of Anger: Women Responding to Racism.” She says, “Anger is an appropriate reaction to racist attitudes, as is fury when the actions arising from those attitudes do not change... I cannot hide my anger to spare your guilt, nor hurt feelings, nor answering anger; for to do so insults and trivializes all our efforts. Guilt is not a response to anger; it is a response to one's own actions or lack of action. If it leads to change then it can be useful, since it is then no longer guilt but the beginning of knowledge. Yet all too often, guilt is just another name for impotence, for defensiveness destructive of communication; it becomes a device to protect ignorance and the continuation of things the way they are, the ultimate protection for changelessness.”  So essentially she's saying, anger is an appropriate response to racism. I mean, that's what she says straight-up. And your problem is not my anger. Your problem is that it triggers guilt in you. Why? Because of your, I'll put it in Christian terms, like Christianese, because of your lack of repentance. But she's saying, I'm not even… It has to be repentance rooted in action, because ultimately, she's saying, I'm not even interested in your feelings, your guilt doesn't do me any good. I'm interested in change. I want this thing that is hurting me, is hurting my kids, is hurting the people that I love, I want it to change. That is why I'm angry. And the problem is not my anger, it is the thing that needs to change. Help me change it.  Sy Hoekstra: Yeah. And I think in addition to all that powerful stuff… just if you haven't read any of Lorde, go do that because a lot of it is like what Suzie just read. It's all very good. Suzie Lahoud: Yeah. It gets you right in the gut. It's powerful stuff. Sy Hoekstra: Yeah, for sure. Right. And I think part of, like another aspect of that whole quote, is just that if you're somebody who is in a position of power and somebody comes to you with a criticism and they're angry about it, that anger is actually a useful tool for you as a leader to understand what is important to somebody else. Like you can have emotions that are a tool of measurement about importance to someone who you're trying to lead. And you can look at it that way, instead of responding with defensiveness and impotence and guilt. If you're in a church leadership context, it also helps you see where people are passionate, where they might be gifted, where you could put them in positions of leadership. All those things, if you're getting past your own emotional reaction to their tone. So I think she was getting at a different angle of what Jonathan was saying before. That tone policing is sort of your own unprocessed emotional problems. Not usually the problems of the people who are speaking to you. I think one other point that you brought up Suzie, that I wanted to touch on. You brought up before we were having this conversation, was just, tone policing is also shutting down just diverse forms of communication. Some of these things are cultural, some of them are, they're not positive or negative. It's just somebody else's way of communicating, that again by the standards of white people is interpreted as something that is overly emotional for a million different reasons.  Then when you said that, that made me think of, well, there's also, there's a lot of people who have different kinds of disabilities or neurodivergence or whatever, whose means of communication comes off as emotional as well just because it's different. Like you might have somebody who just the way they process thoughts or feelings or experiences, comes out of their mouth, comes out of their facial expression in a way that you're not used to, simply because their brain operates differently than yours does. Or you might have somebody who has a disability that leads to literally just a different way of speaking.  A louder way of speaking, a way where their speech, they might have like a bit of a slur or a stutter and to get over their stutter, they have to do certain things with the way that they speak that to you, you can interpret in a million different ways. I just think there are, I don't know, there's a lot of room to explore there. Just different modes of communication and how if you just let people have their mode of communication, then you're going to have a better church. You're going to have a better organization, a better community of people who are living, and kind of experiencing God and sharing in community together in a more effective way.  Do we have any more thoughts before we wrap up?  Jonathan Walton: Yeah. I just want to affirm, Suzie, your quote's amazing. Our podcast is better with you on it.  [laughter] Suzie Lahoud: When I read other people [laughs]. Thank you. Jonathan Walton: No, but I mean like, well, quotes by themselves are not powerful. Like your application of them in this conversation. Suzie Lahoud: Thank you. No, I appreciate that. Thank you. I guess my point was, I can't take credit for the quote, but I appreciate that, Jonathan. Thank you. Sy Hoekstra: [in a formal tone] Your strategic placement and integration of quotes into our podcast improves the overall content. Suzie Lahoud: [matching Sy's formality] Oh, why thank you, Sybren. Jonathan Walton: The reason that I think that's important, is because I often don't point people to the places where I got the good water. Suzie Lahoud: That's a good point. Jonathan Walton: So I think it's important to do that, and so I appreciate that you did that. It's just exceptionally helpful. I will say just one more thing about Jesus. Anger is just as a part of God's divinity as it is his humanity. Often, in the same way that anger gets framed as sin, I think we actually do need to reframe it as like, oh, anger is because of some of the product of emotion, and God's anger is because of his love. God's anger is because of his care. God's anger is because of the sense of injustice and indignity towards people made in his image. So that the anger, and then in Isaiah, the act of sanctification that comes like, be angry but sin not, for when you don't sin, you heap coals of fire upon the other person's head. It's like we can sanctify people through our anger when it's shared in ways that are transformative to help and we communicate just why that anger is happening.  Suzie Lahoud: Yeah. Thank you for bringing it back to, yeah, this process of wanting to know God more and become like him. I mean, what we want to be at the heart of all of these conversations. Yeah, it's interesting that even as you say that, even as you talk about anger and how it relates to the divine being, to divinity, it's so hard because we, I wonder if it's almost because we live in a dominant culture that doesn't know how to deal with anger in a healthy way, that allows it to be explosive when it shouldn't be, that shuts it down when it should be allowed to come out. We don't know how to talk about anger and God in ways that don't lead to abuse. So even as you make that argument, and I'm like, “Yes, amen.” And yet at the back of my mind, it's all the ways that anger has been used, taken from scripture, and then used in abusive, manipulative situations. Sy Hoekstra: As fire and brimstone. Suzie Lahoud: Yes, and it makes me so sad because we don't want to throw the baby out with the bath water. I'll be specific that this is an area that I need to understand more. I don't understand the anger of God. I don't understand it, and I have understood it in ways that have been unhealthy. I want to understand it in healthy ways. I've understood it in ways that are destructive, I want to understand it in holy ways. There's just so much work that needs to be done, and I think we're just at the beginning of diving into the mystery of that. Yeah, and that's an area that I want to grow in wisdom and understanding. Sy Hoekstra: So I think our final closing thought here is, stop tone policing God. [laughter] Jonathan Walton: Fair.  Suzie Lahoud: And stop using God to tone police others.  Sy Hoekstra: Yes, right. Jonathan Walton: That would definitely be a thing. Suzie Lahoud: Particularly Black women. Just don't do that. Sy Hoekstra: The end. Thank you all so much for listening [laughs]. This is a great conversation. Suzie, we are so happy to have you back.   Jonathan Walton: Yes. Suzie Lahoud: Thanks guys, it's good to be back. Sy Hoekstra: Everybody, please remember to follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter @KTF Press. Leave us a rating and review on your podcast player of choice if it allows that. You know what? If your podcast player doesn't allow that, just open up Apple Podcasts or Spotify on your phone. Give us a rating there. You don't have to listen. Why do I keep saying you should do it on the app where you listen? Do it on every app. Open every podcast app you can find. Download new apps, just to rate and review us. [laughter] Suzie Lahoud: Be generous with your rates and reviews. Sy Hoekstra: Exactly. Suzie Lahoud: Spread them widely.  Sy Hoekstra: Spread them widely. Our theme song as always, “Citizens” by Jon Guerra. Our podcast art is by Jacqueline Tam, and we will see you all in March. Thank you so much for listening. [The song “Citizens” by Jon Guerra fades in. Lyrics: “And that you're building a city/ Where we arrive as immigrants/ And you call us citizens/ And you welcome us as children home/ Where we arrive as immigrants/ And you call us citizens/ And you welcome us as children home.” The song fades out.] Jonathan Walton: No. Oh, wait, hold on. Everest is awake. Sorry, hold on. Hold on. I got to go get her. Sorry. [Laughter] Suzie Lahoud: On that note… [Loud crashing noises from Jonathan's mic] Sy Hoekstra: Whoa! Whoa, what was that? Suzie Lahoud: Oh, Jonathan just ate it! Are you okay, Jonathan? [No response from Jonathan; just two more small sounds of things falling] Sy Hoekstra: Jonathan, did you fall?  Jonathan Walton: [weakly] Yeah. Definitely did.  Sy Hoekstra: Are you okay?  Jonathan Walton: Yeah, I'm alright [laughs]. Sy Hoekstra: Okay. Jonathan Walton: I didn't realize my foot was wrapped in the cords.  [laughter] Suzie Lahoud: Oh, no. Did you actually hurt yourself though?  Jonathan Walton: Oh, no no no no no. I caught myself on the ground, but I'm okay. I'm alright.  This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.ktfpress.com

Moving to a new platform. Dealing with person to person attempted censorship. Fighting woke cancel culture. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/louiebee/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/louiebee/support

The holiday season can be a beautiful time of celebration, but if we're being honest, it can also be extremely stressful — especially when it comes to spending time with family members you disagree with.   I get asked all the time questions like “What should I do about family members who say things that uphold white supremacy?” or “What should I do when family members say racist things?”   My dear friend Jalynne Geddes gave me some advice about how to approach these situations that entirely changed my perspective, and I want to share that advice with you, too: If you can't change their heart, your presence might change their behavior.   In this episode, I unpack that advice as well as discuss: What you can do in these situations if you are BIPOC. What you should do if you hold white privilege or have close proximity to white privilege. Suggestions for keeping yourself safe and maintaining boundaries.   I hope this holiday season can be a joyful time for you and your family, as well as one where you can feel safe. Thanks for being part of the First Name Basis fam. We're sending you our love.   Want to help your kids center Indigenous Peoples this Thanksgiving?   Thanksgiving is coming up, and it's our chance to teach our kids the true history of Thanksgiving. Visit firstnamebasis.org/thanksgivingresources and drop your email to get some ideas of how to center Indigenous Peoples sent straight to your inbox.   Articles, Studies, & Podcasts Referenced In The Episode   First Name Basis Podcast: Season 2, Episode 14: “What Is Privilege And What Do I Do With It?”   First Name Basis Podcast: Season 4, Episode 8: “Can We Talk About White Privilege?”   First Name Basis Podcast: Season 3, Episode 9: “Racism 101”   First Name Basis Podcast: Season 2, Episode 22: “Cancel Culture Pt. 1: Calling Out, Calling In, & Tone Policing”  

Shaleah speaks about the idea of tone policing and it's relation to actress, Gabrielle Union recently revealing regrets of "muting" her former movie character's valid anger. Shaleah gives an account of a time she invalidated her own feelings of anger at work. Tone Policing Article: https://laist.com/news/racism-101-lets-talk-about-tone-policing Gabrielle Union article: https://madamenoire.com/1296760/gabrielle-union-letter-isis-bring-it-on/ Introverted Black Moms Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/introvertedblackmom/

Today we explore White Supremacy in all it's forms of White Silence, White Exceptionalism, White Superiority, Tone Policing, the prey and predator of the Spiritual White Woman and more ways it exposes itself in our actions, thoughts, behaviors and communication within the context of 3HO and the World. Book referenced and played: ME AND WHITE SUPREMACY: Combat Racism, Change the World and Become a Good Ancestor by Layla F. Saad Link to purchase: https://www.meandwhitesupremacybook.com/   Song Credit: White Lies by Death You can DONATE to this broadcast at: http://www.gurunischan.com/uncomfortableconversations Uncomfortable Conversations Spotify Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2lEfcoaDgbCCmztPZ4XIuN?si=vH-cH7HzRs-qFxzEuogOqg

In this episode I talk about a new trend that is sweeping the internet, White Privilege Help Videos. I explain how they are dangerous to the progression of race relations in America because they misrepresent what racism looks like. They construct scenarios that are over the top leading to a misrepresentation of a real-life problem. Racism is not a problem that can be solved overnight or even with my one podcast, so I have developed 5 key steps to improving communication between cultures. At the end of the day, recognizing that we are different cultures with some commonalities is the best way forward. www.hopelesslytatiana.com https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/episodes/The-Impact-of-Words-2-e16crk8 Time codes: White Privilege help videos: 2:24 Communication Styles Intro: 13:00 5 Steps: 1. Tone Policing: 19: 39 2. Life isn't black and white: 24:34 3. Take a step back: 27:19 4. Keep conversations between individuals: 32:10 5. Dismissing other people's perspectives:36:10 Additional Resources: https://www.census.gov/data/developers/data-sets/acs-5year.html --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tatiana-mclaurin/message

Microaggression may have “micro” in its name, but that doesn't mean these assaults are small. Two women I admire so much for their anti-racism work explain it like this: “There's nothing micro about micro aggressions” — Britt Hawthorne, anti-racist educator  “Microaggression, macro effect.” — Alex Scott, creator of Ditto Kids Magazine  According to a paper by researchers at the Teachers College at Columbia University and published in American Psychologist, “Racial microaggressions are brief and commonplace daily verbal, behavioral, or environmental indignities, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative racial slights and insults toward people of color. Perpetrators of microaggressions are often unaware that they engage in such communications when they interact with racial/ethnic minorities.”   See? “There's nothing micro about microaggressions” because “microaggression, macro effect.”    In this episode of the First Name Basis podcast you will learn: The three different types of microaggressions — microassault, microinsult, microinvalidation. Specific examples of what these racial assaults look like. What affect microaggressions have. What you can do — whether you are a white person or a BIPOC — to respond to microaggressions.    Season 4 Song Credit: “Sleeper” by Steve Adams” and “Dive Down” by VYEN    Patreon Learning Community  Join the First Name Basis Patreon Community Make sure to join our Patreon Community to take part in our monthly Q&A sessions and download the detailed notes from this episode!   Connect With Us  First Name Basis Website Join us on Instagram    FNB Bite-sized Black History Program Bite-sized Black History is a program that empowers you to teach the little ones you love about 12 brilliant Black Americans that have been largely overlooked by our history books. These 12 bite-sized podcast episodes, coloring pages, and reflection questions are your key to a meaningful Black History celebration in your home or classroom! Purchase Bite-sized Black History    Articles, Studies, & Podcasts Referenced In The Episode  First Name Basis Podcast, Season 3, Episode 22: “The Danger of Gaslighting”   First Name Basis Podcast, Season 2, Episode 16: “How to Avoid Cultural Appropriation”   First Name Basis Podcast, Season 3, Episode 29: “Critical Race Theory In Schools”   First Name Basis Podcast, Season 2, Episode 22: “Cancel Culture Part 1: Calling Out, Calling In, and Tone Policing”   First Name Basis Podcast, Season 3, Episode 9: “Racism 101”   “Racial Microaggressions In Everyday Life,” by researchers at the Teachers College at Columbia University, published in American Psychologist   “Conflicted: How Black Women Negotiate Their Responses to Racial Microaggressions At A Historically White Institution,” by Dr. Angel Jones   “Daily Positive Affirmations For When Black Lives Forget That They Matter”   “How Slavery Made Its Way West," by Tiya Miles, 1619 Project Magazine   Embracing Equity

What kind of energy do you give off? Do you find yourself expressing more masculine attributes or feminine? This concept of masculine and feminine has been around a lot, and we are beginning to see it take hold in the entrepreneurial and small business fields. Someone who is more focused and driven is seen to have stronger masculine traits, while more caring and creative is seen as having more feminine traits. Discussing masculine and feminine energies is based on a continuum, yin and yang. People are made up of different traits, and when we say "masculine energy" or "feminine energy" in this context, it does not mean male and female, yet these attributes and expressions are often used in a male/female way.   In this episode of Difficult Happens, we tackle the concept of masculine and feminine energy and how that impacts your interpersonal and professional relationships. What you'll hear on today's episode: What is Masculine and Feminine The Squad membership Yin and Yang Masculine traits Feminine traits Where the concepts break down Tone policing Communication         Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   Squad           © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

Podcast: Dominantes Redeverhalten, Silencing Praktiken, Mansplaining, Derailing, Tone Policing, Victim Blaming, Whataboutism, Gaslighting, Sealioning... Der Beitrag Männliche Rededominanz und Silencing Praktiken erschien zuerst auf Kritische Männlichkeit.

I think we can all agree that gaslighting is the wooooorst. When you share a vulnerable or tough experience with someone and they respond in a way that makes you feel like you’re being dramatic and overreacting it really hurts. In this episode I cover the many ways that people gaslight one another, where the term comes from, why people engage in gaslighting, how to respond when someone is gaslighting you, and of course what to do if you realize that you’ve gaslighted someone else. I also share a few examples of times that I have been racially gaslighted, oof. If you need a little validation you’ll find it here. Don’t worry you’re not losing your mind, you’re being gaslighted.    Apply for the First Name Basis Communications Director position   Solidarity for Palestine Action Items: Email your reps and tell them to end U.S. complicity in Israel’s abuses of Palestinians. Donate to provide emergency aid to Palestinians  Tell someone you love what you’ve learned about Palestine and the extreme power imbalance, created directly by U.S. aid, that has displaced and killed hundreds of Palestinians this week. The Israeli government is spreading misinformation about their aggressions, we have to act now. Join the First Name Basis Patreon Community Make sure to join our Patreon Community to take part in our monthly Q&A sessions and download the detailed notes from this episode!   First Name Basis Website   Join us on Instagram    The Hidden Victims of Gaslighting (BBC Article)   This Book is Anti-racist by Tiffany Jewell    So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo   Racial Gaslighting with Dr. Rose Ernst and Angelique M. Davis   Season 2 Ep 22: Cancel Culture Pt. 1: Calling In, Calling Out, & Tone Policing   Season 2 Ep 19: The Danger of Spiritual Bypassing    “Sleeper” by Steve Adams” and “Dive Down” by VYEN 

"Tone policing is one of many ways that dominant culture 'polices' people of color. It is often used – whether subconsciously or intentionally – to put this person 'back in their place.' It doesn’t just attempt to discredit what the person is saying. It implies that they are not worthy of the time and attention until they play by the rules of the oppressor. And these rules are rooted in sexist and racist ideals of how marginalized people are 'supposed to act' in society today. " - Nicole Cardoza, Anti-Racism Daily, October 22, 2020. Like what you hear? Support the show on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/letstalknative

Kate Davis talks to Mimi Fox Melton, acting CEO of Code 2040, about how white privilege manifests in the work place and tone policing. Subscribe to The New Way We Work on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen.

A rant on neurotypicals being uncomfortable with us calling ourselves mentally ill or disabled. It's not my job to make you feel comfortable about my disability.

Malcom X sagte folgendes "The black woman [...] is the most disrespected person. The most unprotected person [...] is the black woman. The most neglected person [...] is the black woman.", and he didn't stutter one bit. Audre Lorde erklärte, dass es wichtig sei zu erkennen warum Schwarze Frauen wütend seien und diese Wut als legitim anerkannt werden muss. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie beschreibt eine Einsamkeit in ihrem Kampf gegen Sexismus, den sie im Kampf gegen Rassismus nicht verspürt ("I feel lonely in my fight against sexism, in a way that I don't feel in my fight against racism.")Schwarze Frauen kämpfen an etliche Fronten und werden darüber hinaus besonders von Schwarzen Männern disrespected, welche ähnliche Defensivreaktionen aufzeigen wie weiße Menschen, die mit ihren Rassismen konfrontiert werden: Gaslighting, Tone-Policing, Derailing etc. Carel teilt seine Gedanken mit euch und schildert euch seine Perspektive aus der Sicht eines Schwarzen Mannes. Ihr findet unsere Social Media Kanäle hier: https://bio.fm/redlektion Wir sind auch auf Instagram (@red_lektion), Youtube (Redlektion), Apple Podcast und mehr...

This episode, we're joined by our friend Andee to talk about our different experiences with Respectability Politics and Tone Policing. You can find Andee by just... googling "anagramofbrat". That's her, no question.Please take a couple minutes to fill out this survey... it would help us IMMENSLY as we try and improve the quality of the show - bit.ly/saythissurveyStory Music: "From Mt. Itoi With Love [EarthBound]" by The OneUps from their album Part Seven Ta-Nehisi Coates has an incredibly clear explanation for why white people shouldn’t use the n-word - https://bit.ly/3ngSCzZHow To Tell Someone They Sound Racist - https://youtu.be/b0Ti-gkJiXcAs a "man hating Feminist" I feel like I care more about men than literally every conservative or MRA I have ever spoken to. - Tweet by Nicole - https://bit.ly/34jX5taHades by Supergiant Games - https://bit.ly/30tr28UBorgen - https://www.netflix.com/title/70302482Borgen is back: here's why you should catch up before its Netflix return - https://bit.ly/3jrMOla Follow I Shouldn't Have To Say This at @SayThisCastEmail us at SayThisCast@gmail.comEpisodes come out twice a month! You can subscribe to I Shouldn't Have to Say This on Apple Podcasts, Googly Play, Spotify, Stitcher, and more!If you'd like to support the show, you can become a Patron at Patreon.com/saythiscast where you can suggest topics for shows, and listen to each episode a day early! We'll even thank you on air for your generosity.  You could also buy us a Ko-fi at ko-fi.com/saythiscast!All our music, including our theme song "Mario Bay Breeze (Super Mario 64)", performed by Anthony Lofton & Mustin, is from the album More Than Mario, which you can purchase here: http://smarturl.it/dnmmarioFind more of Mustin's work at store.mustinenterprises.com]Follow Nicole on Twitter: @Jackof3TradesJanra's Twitter is @PressStartLock. You can join him every Tuesday at 10pm and Friday at 3pm (both EST) on his twitch channel for political chats! twitch.tv/pressstartmorlockThis podcast is a member of the Planetside Podcast Network. Visit Planetsidepodcasts.com to find other Planetside Productions!Find out more at http://saythiscast.com Send us your feedback online: https://pinecast.com/feedback/saythiscast/7ec10f73-a68e-43dc-91a8-d5badbcaf909

In which Pastor Nick joins Ethan to talk about how liberals are our own worst enemy and how The Lord of the Rings might be improved. Have thoughts about what we said or want to send us a suggestion for a minisode topic? Email us at wtheckisapastor@gmail.com. Like Twitter? We do too, we guess. Find us under the handle @wthisapastor. And follow us and our larger network, Disruptive Disciples, on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DisruptiveDisciples/.

Welcome to the first episode of our new podcast! This week we talk about the toxicity of white feminism and how it exists in direct opposition to intersectional feminism (the only valid feminism).We discuss ways white feminism excludes and attacks WOC (hello tone-policing), and if white women have a place in intersectional spaces. Instagram: @soalihaofficialEmail: heresthethingthopodcast@gmail.comPaypal: paypal.me/soaliha Hosted by Soaliha and produced by Mitch Price.

About this Episode In this episode we talk about tone policing and gaslighting. These are two things that seems to be everywhere these days and we discussed specific examples and a couple ideas on how we think they can be dealt with individually. Follow Us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diversityonfire/ Website: https://diversityonfire.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Diversityfire Heather: https://www.instagram.com/hppivots/ Ninah: https://www.instagram.com/hollywoodhobo/ Ashley: https://www.instagram.com/ashley_melville16/ Episode links: https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/12/tone-policing-and-privilege/?fbclid=IwAR0oYYWtpq9Ru5Bg4AEwVU61fvev4JlBrZXlzG0o2t7TFYcT8bVnkh_4Shg Podcast: Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/diversityonfire - All Platforms Voicenote: https://anchor.fm/diversityonfire/message --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diversityonfire/message

In our second episode of our “Black Women In…” series, Chei, Jasmin, Stephanie, and Neveah are back to discuss white privilege. Plus, we’re addressing “The Toxic White Woman Playbook.” Get ready for a raw conversation among friends and quick disclaimer—adult language is used in this episode. Show Notes: Weekly Newsletter Sign-Up: http://bit.ly/37hqtQW Follow Career Contessa: http://bit.ly/2TMH2QP Career Coaching Service: http://bit.ly/38FbDof Chei Burris Career Coach: https://bit.ly/2VYRPb7 Rachel Cargle Article: https://bit.ly/3kUUlK7 How to Be Actively Anti-Racist Episode: https://apple.co/3g6UzdN 5 Actions to Create a More Inclusive Workplace Episode: https://apple.co/2FongpJ  Experts:Chei Burris LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/31VYerc Chei Burris Instagram: https://bit.ly/2ZaudlJ  Jasmine Anderson LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/2AJBaAZ Stephanie Kimou LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/3eeqmZh Stephanie Kimou Instagram: https://bit.ly/2Zdy01F Neveah Bradshaw LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/3gEr1E Neveah Bradshaw Instagram: https://bit.ly/2ZcoH25   Sponsor: You Need a Budget’s free 34-day trial: https://bit.ly/2CgGWL0 Produced by Dear Media

Ava and Marcela spend some time exploring tone policing and what it truly means, their experiences with it, and share their thoughts and feelings about what it looks like to actively listen to one another. Plus, the ladies share some very time-relevant things in entertainment that have been feeding their souls.

Welcome to episode 3 of #UpYourConfidence. In this episode, we are continuing the conversation about topics that help us UpYourConfidence every day. We are going to unpack what is tone policing. I am going to talk about this subject because I have personally experienced tone policing in all areas of my life all my adult life. Here are the main points I discuss in this episode: Definition of tone policing My personal experiences around tone policing Impact of tone policing on our life How do fight tone policing Tone policing is a conversational tactic that dismisses the ideas being communicated when they are perceived to be delivered in an angry, frustrated, sad, fearful, or otherwise emotionally charged manner, according to Dictionary.com I close the episode with a quote by the late Rep John Lewis “Ordinary people with extraordinary vision can redeem the soul of America by getting in what I call good trouble, necessary trouble….. Though I may not be here with you, I urge you to answer the highest calling of your heart and stand up for what you truly believe.” Thank you for listening, join our Facebook page to continue the conversation and I really want to hear your feedback and especially your experiences around tone policing. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/upyourconfidence/support

Have you ever been told that how you say what you're saying it too much? This episode is all about tone policing at work and the associated emotional tax. Links to articles: https://www.catalyst.org/research/day-to-day-experiences-of-emotional-tax-among-women-and-men-of-color-in-the-workplace/ https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/hana-shafi/tone-police_b_6226078.html https://www.fastcompany.com/3031101/the-new-subtle-sexism-toward-women-in-the-workplace https://www.fastcompany.com/90241506/women-do-more-emotional-labor-than-men-at-work Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thechiefhustlher/ Email: hello@amberlhall.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thechiefhustlherpodcast/message

In this first episode of our 3 part cancel culture series we lay a foundation for the conversation by getting clear about the difference between calling someone out and calling someone in. We get down to the brass tacks of when it is your responsibility to call someone in/out and how to do it. The episode concludes with helpful guidelines about what to do if you get called out for a mistake you’ve made.    This Book is Anti-Racist By Tiffany Jewell    Season 2 Episode 21: How You Can Support Anti-racist Educators   Firstnamebasis.org    Song Credit: “Away” by Geographer and “Beach Disco” by Dougie Wood    Make sure to tune in next week for the second episode of the series where we break down cancel culture and the effect that it is having on our community and the movement.    Interested in a collaboration? Please email hello@firstnamebasis.org 

The hosts discuss the recent Twitter and diss track battle over the work that should be done to help uplift black people

The hosts discuss the recent Twitter and diss track battle over the work that should be done to help uplift black people

In this episode I discuss J.Cole's new track and how problematic it is. I also talk about how it is not okay to tone police black women when they are talking about fighting for liberation, respect and to seen & heard in society. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/nae31/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/nae31/support

Wir sprechen darüber, was vor allem marginalisierte Personen erleben, wenn sie sich im Internet äußern und erklären typische Strategien von Cyber Bullying. Dann nehmen wir ausgewählte Taktiken und setzen sie in Rollenspielideen um, von Szenarien über Speziesbeschreibungen bis hin zu Minispielen. Und weil uns dazu so viel eingefallen ist, gibt es statt eines Medienthemas noch eine Spielidee zum Thema Mental Load und ein paar Tipps zum Umgang mit Belästigung im Internet.

This week's episode looks at how people derail discussions with tone policing and how microaggressions are oppressive in nature. Communication is important when it comes to racial and social issues, and allowing space for black people, brown people, and other marginalized groups is crucial. I give examples of both tone policing and microaggressions, and explain how they are branches on the white supremacy culture tree. I also mention Dr. King's Letter from a Birmingham Jail and make an interesting connection for you to consider.

How can we leave this world better than we found it? What is our role + responsibility in dismantling racism and white supremacy in our society--and most importantly, in ourselves?   Layla Saad is a powerhouse anti-racism teacher who is calling many white folks out and IN to do the deeper work of looking at how we are complicit in systems of patriarchal white supremacy (often, unintentionally).   What You’ll Soon Learn:   Layla’s journey to viral popularity through calling out racism and White Supremacy in the spiritual community How doing the real inner work can help heal systems of racism + oppression What is #MeAndWhiteSupremacy? An exploration of what it means to be a good ancestor Terms like Tone Policing, White Saviorism, Ally Cookies, and more.   Learn more about Layla and her work at www.shannonalgeo.com/podcast/layla-saad

We recap our evening with James Baldwin's "Giovanni's Room," talk about tone policing, the Great Migration, and what 'home' really means to people. "I Didn't Know This Was a Thing" segment: https://unboundbabes.com/products/unbound-squish More information on the Great Migration: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Migration_(African_American) Once Upon A Time Burlesque tickets: https://onceuponatimeburlesque.brownpapertickets.com (Use discount code "kink" for your discounted ticket price!!! While supplies last.)

In einer neuen Folge von "Lauer und Wehner" geht es vor allem um Bevormundung, doch, viel wichtiger, endlich haben Ulrich und Christopher eine Frau zu Gast, nämlich Annika Brockschmidt, die zukünftig häufiger bei "Lauer und Wehner" zu Gast sein wird. Nachdem sich Annika vorstellt geht es kurz um Nazis bei der Bundeswehr. Denn wie jetzt bekannt wurde, enttarnte der Militärische Abschirmdienst mehr Nazis in der Bundeswehr, als bisher bekannt. In diesem Zusammenhang erwähnt Christopher einen Twitter-Thread des taz-Journalisten Martin Kaul, den ihr hier findet. Danach erklärt Ulrich, was wir bei "Lauer und Wehner" eigentlich machen. Die Zahl der Woche sind die fünf Millionen Euro, die Jens Spahn für eine Studie ausgeben möchte, um herauszufinden, ob Frauen von Abtreibungen traumatisiert werden (Spoiler: Es gilt durch Studien als wissenschaftlich erwiesen, dass dem nicht so ist). Annika berichtet vom Sachverhalt und darüber, wie es sich anfühlt, wenn (vor allem ältere) Männer über die Körper aller Frauen verfügen. In diesem Zusammenhang nicht auszuklammern ist die anhaltende Debatte über den sogenannten Kompromiss zum Paragraphen 219a Strafgesetzbuch, der es Ärzt*innen, die Schwangerschaftsabbrüche durchführen weiterhin verbieten wird, darüber zu informieren, mit welchen Methoden sie diese Abbrüche durchführen. Danach berichtet Christopher davon, dass die Klimaaktivistin Greta Thunberg von der schwedischen Zeitung "Aftonbladet" zur Frau des Jahres gekürt wurde. Es entspannt eine Diskussion zwischen Annika, Ulrich und Christopher über das Für und Wider einer solchen Auszeichnung zu beginn des Jahres. Auch diskutiert in diesem Zusammenhang wird, dass es strukturelle Ähnlichkeiten zwischen der Art gibt, wie man sowohl Frauen als auch Klimaktivsit*innen aufgrund der Form ihres Protestes das Recht abspricht, protestieren zu dürfen. Auch als "Tone-Policing" oder "Silencing" bekannt. Danach widmen sich Annika, Ulrich und Christopher dem Thema Weltfrauentag und wie Annika als Frau es findet, dass der Tag in Berlin zum Feiertag gemacht wurde. Wenig mit dem Weltfrauentag hatte das zu tun, was Annegret Kramp-Karrenbauer, die Vorsitzende der CDU, im Karneval ablieferte. Zuerst machte sie bei einer Büttenrede Minderheitenfeindliche Aussagen, die in der Berichterstattung trotzdem leider als "Witz" bezeichnet wurden. Dann zeigte sie sich am politischen Aschermittwoch uneinsichtig und wiederholte und erweiterte im Grunde genommen ihre Attacken. Annika, Ulrich und Christopher versuchen mit der gewohnten "Erst die Fakten, dann die Meinung"-Methode den ganzen Sachverhalt etwas auseinanderzunehmen.Wie immer freuen wir uns über Feedback und Anregungen.Wer den Podcast unterstützen möchte, kann dies gerne mit einem Dauerauftrag auf das folgende Konto tun:IBAN: DE25700222000020192089BIC: FDDODEMMXXX

Drink of the day: Rose wine Colin Anderson and Candice Chetta are in the studio and we're talking about what happens when a president dies. George HW Bush died this week on World AIDS Day and there were many, many hot takes. Tone policing is a problem and we shouldn't white wash problematic and racist … Continue reading "120: George HW Bush Has Died And Tone Policing, Baby It's Cold Outside, New Mexico, And A Bunch Of Bravo!"

This week Paul and Andy's blood is boiling as they dive into a discussion about tone policing. Using an ill-conceived public statement from a prominent vegan figure, they'll dive into […]

CIVILITY AND TONE POLICING A Conversation With Teresa Bejan by Toby Buckle

Returning to the show today is Ashton P. Woods. He is the co-founder of Black Lives Matter, Houston, and is the co-chair of the Black Humanists Alliance, which we talked about the last time he was on the show. Today we’re going to talk about some recent stuff going on with tone policing, free speech, and racism.Links:•Ashton’s website: http://www.ashtonpwoods.com/ •Ashton’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/apwactivist/ •Ashton’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/AshtonPWoods •The Gaytheist Manifesto: http://gaytheistmanifesto.secularmediagroup.com/ •Godless Rebelution: https://godlessrebelution.podbean.com/ •The Podunk Polymath Podcast: https://thepodunkpolymath.com/ •Freedom from Religion Foundation: http://ffrf.org •The Token Skeptic: http://tokenskeptic.org/ •The Biskeptical Podcast: http://www.spreaker.com/show/the-biskeptical-podcast•The Spin Off: http://www.spreaker.com/show/the-spin-off •Dream Youth: http://dreamyouth.bandcamp.com •Asher Silberman: http://www.ashersilberman.com/ •My Twitter: http://twitter.com/tmamone •Bi Any Means on Twitter: http://twitter.com/bianymeanspod •Bi Any Means on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/bianymeanspodcast •The Bi Any Means/Biskeptical Podcast/Spin Off Fans Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/179617892470906/ •Email: bianymeanspodcast@gmail.com •Listener line: 410-690-3558 •My Patreon page: http://www.patreon.com/tmamone •Bi Any Means Blog: http://freethoughtblogs.com/bianymeans/

Returning to the show today is Ashton P. Woods. He is the co-founder of Black Lives Matter, Houston, and is the co-chair of the Black Humanists Alliance, which we talked about the last time he was on the show. Today we’re going to talk about some recent stuff going on with tone policing, free speech, and racism.Links:•Ashton’s website: http://www.ashtonpwoods.com/ •Ashton’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/apwactivist/ •Ashton’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/AshtonPWoods •The Gaytheist Manifesto: http://gaytheistmanifesto.secularmediagroup.com/ •Godless Rebelution: https://godlessrebelution.podbean.com/ •The Podunk Polymath Podcast: https://thepodunkpolymath.com/ •Freedom from Religion Foundation: http://ffrf.org •The Token Skeptic: http://tokenskeptic.org/ •The Biskeptical Podcast: http://www.spreaker.com/show/the-biskeptical-podcast•The Spin Off: http://www.spreaker.com/show/the-spin-off •Dream Youth: http://dreamyouth.bandcamp.com •Asher Silberman: http://www.ashersilberman.com/ •My Twitter: http://twitter.com/tmamone •Bi Any Means on Twitter: http://twitter.com/bianymeanspod •Bi Any Means on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/bianymeanspodcast •The Bi Any Means/Biskeptical Podcast/Spin Off Fans Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/179617892470906/ •Email: bianymeanspodcast@gmail.com •Listener line: 410-690-3558 •My Patreon page: http://www.patreon.com/tmamone •Bi Any Means Blog: http://freethoughtblogs.com/bianymeans/

@LeslieMac & Ricky from @AUADOTORG are joined by @AbsurdistWords to discuss the concept of Tone Policing in the time of Black Lives Matter including Fox News labeling the movement as a “hate group”, the white reaction to #BlackFair and Miley v Nicki. Plus updates on the case against the Baltimore police officers who killed #FreddieGray and the … Continue reading Ferguson Response Network Podcast Ep 23 – Tone Policing aka We have no more f*%ks to give →

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Please join us Sunday 10AM CST as we discuss respectability politics, gender politics, tone policing, oppressive & respressive politics and much more.  We will also discuss CPAC atheists and political grandstanding. You can also set a reminder up and Skype into the show. 310-982-4273 and press 1 to talk.

Please join us Sunday as we discuss a variety of topics.  Culture of Silence Culture of Victimization Tone Policing Stigmatization Please dial 310-982-4273 and press 1 to join in the conversation.