Theo, Maggie, and Bridget are three lesbians with some questions about G-d. Coming from Protestant and Jewish backgrounds, with some Catholicism and Tibetan Buddhism thrown in, they’ve been taught varying lessons about what religion looks like. On My Ex a
Bridget Fox, Maggie Haralson, Theo Unger
This week, we are going on a short hiatus! Bridget is moving across the country, and we want to bring you the best content we can, so we will see you in a few weeks with exciting new episodes!
Disclaimer: if you are related to anyone on this podcast, probably don't listen to this episode.Episode Transcript available here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1HshBi5BVWXD816iGXUdgIgBkbr8oytBX/view?usp=sharingJewish Virtual LibraryUnion for Traditional JudaismMy Jewish LearningJewish Women's ArchiveDeuteronomy 24:5Exodus 21:10Eruvin 100bPesachim 72Nedarim 20bCarnal IsraelAll of us being sex geniuses
We had so much to say, we had to make a part 2! Come join us on this week of My Ex and My Future Wife as we continue to discuss the complexities behind abortion. And thanks again to Liz Behlke for suggesting this topic!Episode Transcript Available Here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1L9PXgS2mTh39Mc14DnunKwIAvV4bORJ7/view?usp=sharingReferences-Last week's sources-Nuance and Dialectics-“A Defense of Abortion” by Judith Jarvis Thomson -"Same Love" by Macklemore
In this episode, your lovely hosts tackle the topic of abortion. They start out by discussing the latest Texas abortion ban and then circle back to the beginning of human history to track the legacy of abortions through time. Once the history of abortion has been sufficiently addressed, they delve into what religious institutions have thought about it throughout time, the precise year that the Catholic Church decided to care, and what the actual scripture even says about it. Maggie's favourite phrase "woman box" makes an appearance, Theo gets to find out what the quickening is, and Bridget references a project she did for a class she flunked in high school. Episode Transcript Available Here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1wvo6H4S0p_gVvGrhzNBhxDN1gKH3ElI4/view?usp=sharingThis episode's references:-Roe vs. Wade Supreme Court Case-Color of Compromise by Jamar Tisby-Women's America 9th Edition edited by Kerber et. al. -New Orleans Pharmacy Museum-Terror in the Mind of God by M. Juergensmeyer-Spring Awakening book and lyrics by Steven Sater, music by Duncan Sheik-Portrait of a Lady on Fire directed b Céline Sciamma-“Abortion Has Never Been Just About Abortion” New York Times article by Thomas B. Edsall-Sawbones-Shout Your Abortion-Friend of the Podcast Liz Behlke-As always, Bridget's love of Reproductive Health
We are taking a break this week on My Ex and My Future Wife! Practice some Sabbath along with us, and we'll see you next week for a very fun two-part episode!
In this episode, your fabulous hosts discuss the two genders, no wait The Two Towers (2002), no wait, the two types of women, Virgin and Whore. Accompany Maggie, Theo, and Bridget, as they figure out if liking milves is subversive, if being hungry is the same as being horny, and if Freud was right?? As always, Gay John and Sara Bareilles come up as they navigate virginity, the difference between Eve and Mary, and whether sex positivity can become a perpetuation of the same false dichotomy used to shame people for their sexualities. Episode Transcript Available Here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1bnP62ine_M0jN7TdFUv-4TKb-R2X3eGm/view?usp=sharingReferences:-Down Girl by Kate Manne-Overcoming Objectification: A Carnal Ethics by A. J. Cahill-Take and Eat: Eve, Mary, and Feminist Christianity by M. K. Diede-Hail Mary? The Struggle for Ultimate Womanhood in Catholicism -Milfs-Maggie's Feminist Philosophy Class -Bridget's work in Reproductive Rights-Linn Haralson
In this “minisode” we discuss the term supersessionism. What does it mean? Where does it come from? How can Christians challenge this anti-Semitism that is deeply rooted within their religious tradition? Join us as we continue to explore all the complexities of “bridging the gap” between Christianity and Judaism. Episode Transcript: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1oVVxJ47R3PPQiO9LiRFAq3I7nkzKfald/view?usp=sharingThis Episode's sourcesGod is Not One by Stephen Prothero“Why the Jews: History of Antisemitism” by the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum“Ideas & Trends: ‘Supersessionism' Reconsidered; a leap toward closing the basic gap between Christians and Jews” by the New York TimesC.S. Lewis Maggie's Pastor DadTheo's favorite quoteMaggie's DeconstructionTheo's DBT knowledge
So, we've talked about Loving our Neighbor, but how do we take that a step further and also try to love our enemy? How do we love people who perpetuate systems of oppression? What would Jesus say about restorative justice and prison abolition? What can we learn from the Dalai Lama? Join us as we discuss all these questions—and more—on this episode of My Ex and My Future WifeCW: This episode contains discussions of childhood sexual abuse and domestic abuseEpisode Transcript: https://drive.google.com/file/d/12oiaOJuVuLwz_ytYi2l_3vNkdgBPE3NG/view?usp=sharingThis episode's sources:Stokely CarmichaelAre Prisons Obsolete by Angela Davis 13th documentary directed by Ava DuVernayMaggie's dad's sermon on the New JerusalemRestorativejustice.org@tashmica__ on TikTok@5hahhem on TikTokMia Mingus and the Living Bridges ProjectSujatha Balig and the Restorative Justice ProjectStrong Oak and Walking in Balance with All Our Relations curriculumTheo's love of DBTMaggie's girlfriend
We're all about loving our neighbor here on My Ex and My Future Wife, but what does that mean exactly? What does the Bible say about it? How is it related to liberation theology and mutual aid? What random history lesson will Bridget teach us in this episode? Join us as we discuss all these questions--and more!--on this week's episode of My Ex and My Future Wife! Episode Transcript Available here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1iPvcAi1PqjAAZm6tIvY000p2ea-Ddj2G/view?usp=sharing ReferencesCare Work: Dreaming Disability Justice by Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha“Mutual Aid vs Charity” on fiftygifts.com“Liberation Theology” an essay by John M. Frame on thegospelcoalition.orgA Theology of Liberation by Gustavo Gutierrez@elledowdministry on tiktok@nerdypreist on tiktok“Radical social change: Searching for a New Foundation” by Adjoa Florência Jones de Almedia inThe Revolution Will Not Be Funded: Beyond the Non-Profit Industrial ComplexWomen's America: Refocusing the Past edited by Linda Kerber et. al. Bridget's random history knowledgeTheo's Buddhist backgroundMaggie's tears of joy MUTUAL AID!
In this episode, Bridget speaks uninterrupted about midrashic figure Lilith for a truly shocking amount of time. Eventually Theo and Maggie weigh in on whether Lilith is a scary demon who will eat your babies, a girlboss to end all girlbosses, or something else entirely. If you've ever wondered "was Adam's first wife a lesbian demon?" or "is Theo just thinking about Jennifer's Body every time someone brings up she-demons?" then you're going to want to give this episode a listen. CW: Discussion of sexual violence/abuse, and miscarriageEpisode Transcript Available Here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Tq0Tswoq4sW6vn0OVaCOuSmRMnyDPDCe/view?usp=sharingSources Cited:James Joyce's UlyssesIsaiah 34:14"The Coming of Lilith" by Judith PlaskowThe Wikipedia Page for Lilith FairSome tik tok one of us sent into the group chat and then fact-checked
Last week we learned about the history of purity culture, and this week Theo, Maggie, and Bridget dive in and discuss how Purity Culture effects people today. They discuss how Purity Culture leads to internalized sexual shame, how it promotes rape, rape culture, and child abuse, and they also discuss how unsuccessful abstinence-only sex education really is. CW/TW: This episode contains discussions of sexual abuse, rape, rape culture, child abuse, misogyny, sexual shame, and racism**Thank you to Tiktoker Rachel Cain (@iblamebill) for the metaphor about the vertical vs. horizontal view of sin**Peggy Reeves Sandy is the researcher mentioned who researched the characteristics of rape prone cultures Episode Transcript Available here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/11vsX6TPwQwaG5PYfLibPOTgSV_e1IHS6/view?usp=sharingSources for this episode“Rape-Prone Versus Rape-Free Campus Cultures” by Peggy Reeves SandyRachel Cain, @iblamebill on TikTok“I Have the Power in My Body to Make People Sin': The Trauma of Purity Culture and the Concept of 'Body Theodicy” by Katie Cross in Feminist Trauma Theologies: Body, Scripture & Church in Critical Perspective.“Daddy's Little Girls” by Breanne Fahs“Producing High Priests and Princesses: The Father-Daughter Relationship in the Christian Sexual Purity Movement” by Elizabeth Gish“‘ARE YOU A ‘TRASHABLE' STYROFOAM CUP?': Harm and Damage Rhetoric in the Contemporary American Sexual Purity Movement” by Elizabeth Gish“Suffer the Children: National Crisis, Affective Collectivity, and the Sexualized Child” by Susan KnabeDeveloping a measure of Purity culture: Sexual messages in evangelical Christian culture, an unpublished doctoral dissertation by Amanda Ortiz“Broken Promises: Abstinence Pledging and Sexual and Reproductive Health” by Anthony Paik, Kenneth J Sanchagrin, and Karen Heimer“What is the Prosperity Gospel” by Dr. Anderew SpencerThe Impact of Patriarchal Religions on the Creation of Oppressive Cultures of Female Purity and the Contribution to Rape Culture, and unpublished doctoral dissertation by Haley SteppThe purity myth: How America's obsession with virginity is hurting young women by Jessica Valenti
What is Purity Culture? How did it emerge and evolve in the United States? How is it related to American Christianity's history of racism and misogyny? How did it become politically terrifying? How is it related to the Lavender Scare and the unsolved murder of JonBenet Ramsey? Join us for this episode of My Ex and My Future Wife as we discuss the history of Evangelical Purity Culture in the United States.**Episode Correction: Nat Turner—not Nat Taylor—lead the 1831 slave revolt mentioned in this episode.CW/TW: This episode contains discussions of racism, abusive theology, misogyny, sexual abuse, rape, rape culture, and child abuse Sources:“I Have the Power in My Body to Make People Sin” by Katie Cross, found in the book Feminist Trauma Theologies“Daddy's Little Girls: on the perils of chastity clubs, purity balls, and ritualized abstinence” by Breanne Fahs “Producing High Priests and Princesses: The Father-Daughter Relationship in the Christian Sexual Purity Movement” by Elizabeth Gish“Suffer the Children: National Crisis, Affective Collectivity, and the Sexualized Child” by Susan Knabe“It's like Playing with a Nuclear Bomb” by Sara MoslenerDeveloping a measure of Purity culture: Sexual messages in evangelical Christian culture by Amanda OrtizThe Impact of Patriarchal Religions on the Creation of Oppressive Cultures of Female Purity and the Contribution to Rape Culture by Haley Stepp“‘Some Could Suckle over Their Shoulder': Male Travelers, Female Bodies” by Jennifer Morgan from Women's America Refocusing the Past Ninth EditionBeyond Loving: Intimate Racework in Lesbian, Gay, and Straight Interracial Relationships by Amy C. SteinbuglerMaggie's True Crime Obsession
This week, Bridget, Theo, and Maggie dig into what scripture really says about intermarriage, try to stay up to date on current Christian and Jewish takes on intermarriage, and discuss the vibes of people who worship the Devil. They also engage in some slightly tangential discourse about if Jesus is a divine top or not. Sources: Deuteronomy 7Corinthians 6The websites of every American rabbinical schoolA diagram of Jesus as an umbrella in a heterosexual christian marriageTranscript available here: https://mxmfwpod.buzzsprout.com/1759327/8921156-mxmfw-3-interfaith-marriage
Theo, Maggie, and Bridget ponder about what G-d's gender is, what Genesis tells us about gender and sex, whether or not Jesus was intersex, what kind of genetics God would have if God was a biological entity, and so much more in this Episode of My Ex and My Future Wife.Sources Referenced:She Who Is by Elizabeth A. JohnsonBeyond God the Father by Mary Daly*Torah Queeries edited by Drinkwater et. al.Radical Love by Patrick S. ChengBridget's childhood camp songsMaggie's Pastor DadTheo's medical special interestBridget's armchair genetics degree from watching Orphan Black*Listen to our disclaimer about Mary Daly's transphobia in the episode!Transcript available here: https://mxmfwpod.buzzsprout.com/1759327/8511150-mxmfw-2-genesis-1-27
Maggie, Bridget, and Theo introduce themselves and give a debrief of who they are and what the heck this podcast is supposed to be about. (Ideally religion, gender, and sexuality, but diversions are to be expected.)They tease some questions they'll be asking as the show goes on, and pledge to make fun of The Church as much as possible.No Citations on this one because no statements were made, but DNA proof of Ashkenazi ancestry can be provided for both Bridget and Theo. Transcript available here:https://drive.google.com/file/d/1FRLihMqZtNibhY5A467CoRJyQjV7Ef8W/view?usp=sharing
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