Talks with En

Motivational talkYou are enough - Self-love is not selfish.“There comes a point in our life, where we feel inadequate, worthless, and exhausted and most of the time we are exhausted because we have invested our time to people or a certain individual all of our time, effort, and love to only be taken advantage of. They teach to treat people the same way we want to be treated but never emphasised the importance that not everyone will treat you the same way you treat them, even individuals you love and care about and that is where it becomes exhausting and you lose sight of your self-worth.But today that needs to change. Because You matter, you deserve to be happy, you are strong, you are confident and just like everyone, you have strengths and weaknesses but most importantly – you, you are enough!” – Talks with En

S2 EP1Topic: Being the other womanTrigger warning!! Sensitive topic.Backstory: He never said he was married, until recently. However, you have caught feelings and do not want to leave him and he has said he will eventually leave his wife.We do not condone any form of infidelity or breaking up of families, but these issues happen and the emotional and mental damage it causes for everyone involved is tragic.This is our own opinion and experiences shared, we are not professionals. This is also not a representation of our families or any third party.Please seek professional help if this episode is a trigger.

S01 EP20Topic – Infertility within men and womenBack story: A young woman sent in her personal struggle of being infertile and her husband of 15 years leaving her because of the hurt and pain of not being able to conceive a child.We need to normalise infertility within our community and become aware of these health issues and seek help and assurance of different options of being and becoming parents.This is our own opinion and experiences in this episode and it is not a representation of our families or any third party.Seek professional help if this episode is a trigger or if you'd like more information please contact your GP or visit https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/infertility

S01 EP19Topic: Should I speak up to my mother in law when I am being belittled.Back story from a listener: my mother in law has an issue with me, and I do not know why as she states she doesn't but continues to put me down and my husband has addressed this issue, but she refuses to make amends so should I speak up or let him deal with it because I view it as being respected to my husband and is family if I keep quiet.This is our own opinion and experiences shared and not a reflection of our family or any third party.If you feel unwell due to traumatic experiences of domestic violence please seek professional help or contact police if in danger.Lifeline Australia 13 11 14

S01 EP18TRIGGER WARNING - THIS EPISODE CONTAINS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CONTENT.Topic: The effects on the victim/s once you leave.Part 2 of episode 16: A listener suggested we share our opinions and experiences on domestic violence and how it effects the victim and their children once they leave.We are not a professionals, and these are our own thoughts, opinions and experiences and not a representation of our family or any third party. Any information taken from the podcast is at your own risk. However, if you continue to feel distressed please seek professional help or contact your local police.1800 respect (Domestic Violence helpline)1800 737 732Link2home (Homelessness)1800 152 152Kids helpline1800 551 800

S01 EP17Topic: The struggles of being a Pacific Islander in the closet, and the expectations of family, culture & religion.A listener sent a suggested topic to share our opinions on this topic as she has witnessed the effects of mental health on a close friend.These are our own opinions and experiences and not a representation of our family or any third party. Any information taken from this podcast is at your own risk.

S01 EP16TRIGGER WARNING - THIS EPISODE CONTAINS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CONTENT.Topic: Domestic Violence within a relationshipA listener suggested we share our opinions and experiences on domestic violence and how it has become culturally accepted and the effects it has on the victims and their families.We are not a professionals, and these are our own thoughts, opinions and experiences and not a representation of our family or any third party. Any information taken from the podcast is at your own risk. However, if you continue to feel distressed please seek professional help or contact your local police.White Ribbon Australia (Domestic Violence helpline)1800 737 732

S01 Ep15Topic: "Being in a relationship with an over-stayer"We acknowledge not all illegal immigrants or visitors from overseas find relationships for their citizenship, but our listener has suggested we share our own thoughts and opinions on the pressures and struggles when in a relationship with an over-stayer.This is our own experiences and opinions and not a representation of our families or any third party. We are not liable for any information taken from the podcast,

S01 EP 14Topic: "I know he is cheating, but i cant leave him".Background story from a listener, she shared her story that her baby daddy is being unfaithful, but she cant leave him because of the children. and has asked us to share our thoughts and opinions on infidelity.However, we are not professionals, and these are our own opinions and experiences and whatever information taken from this podcast is at your own risk.

S01 EP13!!Trigger Warning!! Episode contains sexual abuse and sexual assault content.Topic: Sexual abuse among childrenA listener sent the following reply from the previous episode (12) about sexual assault and asked us to share our thoughts and opinions on sexual abuse among child/children and how we can recognize the signs of our children or a child being sexually abused.We are not professionals, and these are our own opinions and experiences and are not liable for what information you take from the podcast. However if you do continue to feel discomfort please seek professional help.

S01 EP12Topic: “What if you do say no, but he forces himself on you- and at that moment you just freeze” - listener reply to EP 07Trigger warning!! Contains sexual assault and sexual abuse content. Sharing our own opinions and experience, and solely our own and not a representation of any third party or our families. We are also not professionals within this field, and any information taken from this episode is at your own risk. However, if you do continue to feel discomfort, please seek professional help.This episode is a topic that was suggested multiple times regarding the hidden truth behind the victims whom have suffered and continue to suffer from being sexually abused and sexually assaulted.This issue happens more often than we know nor want to address because of the fear of the unknown - this is something within the cycle that needs to be broken.

S01 EP11Topic: Marrying between different Pasifika nationsSent in by a listener, whom wanted to hear our opinions on our view within a relationship from different cultures.We understand the importance of culture and tradition - and hope this episode can be used as a learning tool.

S01 EP10TRIGGER WARNING - contains bullying context - this is our own opinions and experiences shared in this episode.Topic: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CPoqPF6HDxQ/?utmmedium=sharesheetHurt people, hurt people. This link ^^ was sent to one of us, and also tagged on tik tok, regarding the horrible incident of a young girl of Pasifika background being bullied at school and having the courage to speak up.However, we are fully aware that bullying happens in every part of the world.

S01 EP09Topic: "what are the negative stereotypes of Pacific Islanders".

S01 EP08Topic: "What are the roles of the fahu,and why do some fahu take advantage of it in a negative way"Within the Tongan culture, the role of your Aunties vary depending on which side of the family they are from.You fathers sisters are called your mehikitanga, and usually the eldest sister is the fahu, and she is the matriarch of the family. The fahu is most respected and praised within the Tongan culture, but it is very unfortunate that some negativily take advantage of their role and mistreat their family members.According to our very own opinion the following role of the fahu is considered below:She is the Matriach of the family.The fahu usually sits at the front table of a wedding and birthday, they're considered VIP and are given money, gifts and cakes or whatever the family has planned but at these occasions she is highly recognized and uplifted, At a funeral the fahu, will sit by the head of the deceased and will also receive gifts and usually provided meals separate from the others and after the funeral, she cuts the hair of those she is entitled to - hair represents wealth in Tonga so when it is being cut its part of the traditional grieving process within the culture

S01 EP07Topic: "Ignorant guys who cannot respect the concept of women waiting til marriage to have sexual intercourse".This topic was sent via IG from an anonymous listener. This episode is a TRIGGER WARNING as it contains sexual abuse context.

S01 EP06Topic: "Not supporting our own people within the business filed"Great topic sent through for a discussion, as we share our own opinions and experiences within this topic. Although we are not business owners, but for those planning to - we wish you the best of luck. In order to break the cycle, we need to learn to uplift one another.

S01 EP05Topic" Why do we struggle to express our emotions".It is very common for Pacific Island people to struggle how to express and cope with our emotions. Tough love is not part of our culture, although it has become a part of it.Talks with En - This episode we are sharing our own opinions and our personal view on the why behind the struggles of expressing our emotions and the negative influence it has from childhood to adulthood. This is our own view and not a representation of our family or any third party.

S01 EP04 Topic: "The pressures of getting married because you're pregnant”Sharing our own opinions as this happens often within the Pacific Island community - where it's expected for you to marry the mother or father of your child even if you both don't want to. And it is one of those things that no one really wants to talk about because it's a taboo topic and so called shameful so rather than doing what's best for the child, many pressures are focused on the opinions of others which is solely based on religious and cultural views.SHOW LESS

S01 EP03Topic: "Early warning signs or red flags within a relationship"We shared our own opinions, and understand every person and every relationship is different however, you have the choice to what you deserve and accept.We are not a relationship counselor, these are our own opinions and any information taken from the podcast is at your own risk.

S01 EP02Topic: Why is a woman's worth dependent on visible blood on a sheetTRIGGER warning - contains sensitive topic but not limited to sexual assault, and also offensive language.The topic was sent through as "Why in the Tongan culture, are the woman expected to be a virgin before marriage".

S01 EP01Topic: Easter show brawlAlmost every year on the last day of the Easter show, there is always a brawl among our young pacific island community.Many, or some get hurt, hospitalized and even arrested because of such violent acts all in the name of representing the suburb they reside in. After all that was done, I would like to ask - was it worth it?

S01 EP0 (zero)Introduction to our podcast - Talks with EN