Podcasts about behaviour

How do human choices, biases, and behaviours shape our economy? This week Amol speaks to Nobel Prize winning behavioural economist Professor Richard Thaler about his theories that dive into the patterns behind our decision-making and reveal why humans aren't always as rational as we like to think. From overconfidence and the lure of winning at any cost, to the hidden costs of risk-taking and the psychology of incentives, his research shows why individuals and markets sometimes make surprising — or even seemingly irrational — choices. By unpacking the experiments described in his book The Winner's Curse we get an insight into his work and he applies these behavioural insights to the issues facing the UK today. They discuss how to get young people off welfare and into work, government debt and why Richard believes the winter fuel allowance needs a rethink. (00:04:10) Why he thinks traditional economic theory is flawed (00:07:44) The pros and cons of behavioural economics (00:17:40) The story behind The Winner's Curse (00:19:00) The Endowment Effect (00:21:16) The Ultimatum Game (00:23:28) Confirmation Bias and Overconfidence (00:25:54) Mental Accounting (00:29:42) Young people, welfare and work (00:33:35) Tackling government debt (00:38:32) The housing crisis (00:40:06) The rise of AI and dangers of social media (00:43:00) How he found out that he'd won the Nobel Prize for Economics (00:45:26) Richard Thaler's legacy (00:47:43) Amol's reflections (00:51:20) Listener Messages GET IN TOUCH * WhatsApp: 0330 123 9480 * Email: radical@bbc.co.uk Episodes of Radical with Amol Rajan are released every Thursday and you can also watch them on BBC iPlayer: https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episodes/m002f1d0/radical-with-amol-rajan Amol Rajan is a presenter of the Today programme on BBC Radio 4. He is also the host of University Challenge on BBC One. Before that, Amol was media editor at the BBC and editor at The Independent. Radical with Amol Rajan is a Today Podcast. It was made by Lewis Vickers with Anna Budd. Digital production was by Gabriel Purcell-Davis. Technical production was by Dave O'Neill. The editor is Sam Bonham. The executive producer is Owenna Griffiths.

Where we sit down with veterinary behaviour resident Dr Nita Hynes to talk about veterinary behaviourist/trainer/behaviour consultant collabs, challenges and ethical considerations in the shelter world, and 'drugging' dogs as a panacea.Also, cat owners as MVP clients, losing your podcast virginity, and absolutely zero talk about AI dog training apps. Dr Nita's websiteDr Nita's Instagram⁠⁠⁠Topic or guest suggestions? Fan mail? Hate mail? We love to hear from you all! Email ⁠notanotherdogandponyshow@gmail.com⁠

In this enlightening episode of the We Are Women Podcast, I speak with Adele Spraggon — an award-winning author, thought leader, and internationally recognized behavioral change expert who is transforming the way we think about the brain and personal empowerment. Adele knows firsthand what it feels like to be stuck in patterns that don't serve us. After experiencing panic attacks and realizing she was running on autopilot, she began a journey to understand how the brain creates, repeats, and holds us in patterns of behavior. What she discovered changed her life — and has since changed the lives of thousands of people around the world. Through her bestselling book, Shift: 4 Steps to Personal Empowerment, and her unique four-step method rooted in neuroplasticity, Adele helps individuals deconstruct old patterns, rewire their brains, and create new, empowering ways of thinking and acting. Her framework — Action, Behaviour, Belief — guides people to: Identify their patterns Own them Deconstruct them Create new ones that support growth and success Our conversation dives into why willpower alone doesn't work, the importance of subtracting rather than adding to overcome challenges, and how we can learn to embrace uncertainty without fear. Adele also unpacks some of the most common behavioral patterns she sees in women — including people pleasing, conflict avoidance, and rescuing — and how to break free from them. Listeners will take away powerful insights, including: why addressing brain patterns is the key to solving life's toughest problems, how to build emotional strength in an uncertain world, and the science behind increasing your confidence levels. This episode is a must-listen for anyone who has ever felt stuck in self-sabotage, frustrated by repeating old habits, or ready to unlock their fullest potential. Adele's blend of neuroscience, compassion, and practical tools will leave you feeling empowered to shift your patterns and step into lasting transformation.

If you've ever found yourself reaching for snacks even when you're not hungry, or wondering why you can't just stay consistent, this episode is going to be a game changer.This weeks episode is a live reply from a Lean with Plants community talk all about dopamine — the brain chemical that teaches you what's rewarding — and how it influences everything from your cravings to your habits. The crazy thing is, dopamine isn't just about pleasure… it's about motivation. It's what drives you to repeat certain behaviors, even the ones that don't serve you.In this episode, you'll learn how to understand dopamine so you can start working with your brain instead of constantly battling against it. We'll talk about why processed food feels so hard to give up, how to make consistency easier, and what it really takes to build habits that last.If you've been struggling with motivation, or feeling like you “fall off” every time life gets stressful, this one's for you.If you're ready to do whatever is required to succeed for your health goals, then book a free consult with our team to talk about making that a reality.⁠https://fitwithplants.com/schedule-your-call-6⁠✅ Want to learn the 5 step formula for successful fat loss for less than $1 a day?⁠https://www.skool.com/leancommunity/about⁠

Jacqui Felgate has doubled down on Labor MP Tim Richardson's "inappropriate behaviour", two days after calling him out for "gaslighting" Victorians.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Listeners respond to Relebogile Mabotja's open line question about mean behaviour in children. 702 Afternoons with Relebogile Mabotja is broadcast live on Johannesburg based talk radio station 702 every weekday afternoon. Relebogile brings a lighter touch to some of the issues of the day as well as a mix of lifestyle topics and a peak into the worlds of entertainment and leisure. Thank you for listening to a 702 Afternoons with Relebogile Mabotja podcast. Listen live on Primedia+ weekdays from 13:00 to 15:00 (SA Time) to Afternoons with Relebogile Mabotja broadcast on 702 https://buff.ly/gk3y0Kj For more from the show go to https://buff.ly/2qKsEfu or find all the catch-up podcasts here https://buff.ly/DTykncj Subscribe to the 702 Daily and Weekly Newsletters https://buff.ly/v5mfetc Follow us on social media: 702 on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TalkRadio702 702 on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@talkradio702 702 on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talkradio702/ 702 on X: https://x.com/Radio702 702 on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@radio702 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Has your dog's behaviour suddenly changed for no clear reason? One week they're doing great, the next week they're barking, snapping, or refusing walks, and you're left wondering what happened. In this episode, we break down how to make sense of those “out of nowhere” shifts, making this seemingly complex behaviour struggle make sense. You'll learn a simple framework the Behavet team uses every day when assessing sudden behaviour changes in dogs, helping you spot what's really going on beneath the surface. Whether your dog's been more reactive, anxious, or just “off”, this episode gives you the insight you need to get them back on track.................Whether your dog is unpredictable with other dogs or predictably bad…Whether it looks like freezing, barking, lunging or running away…Whether you are just starting out on your dog-owning journey or your dog has been labelled as having a “behaviour problem”…… this episode is for you and is going to give you huge insights!Want to join the Help! My Dog Online HUB? Here's the link: www.helpmydog.com/hubDr Tom Mitchell is a world-renowned veterinarian, behaviourist and dog trainer and director of the Behavet behaviour clinic (rated Excellent on Trustpilot), which sees over 400 pet behaviour consultations each and every month no matter where you are in the world. In 2023, he founded Help! My Dog, an online dog behaviour learning platform to help even more owners all over the world and show that dog behaviour transformation is not only possible but it's FUN, with the right know-how!Make sure to subscribe/follow the podcast for the free weekly episodes!Useful Links:Follow Help! My Dog on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/helpmydogofficial/Schedule a Consultation with Behavet: https://www.beha.vet/Follow Behavet on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/behavet

There’s never a dull moment in investing, and right now, gold and rare earths are in the spotlight. Then there’s the longer-term trend towards ETFs and overseas investing, too. Scott is joined by Gemma Dale, nabtrade’s Director of SMSF and Investor Behaviour to unpack just what’s happening, and why.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We got a voice note from a mom who’s at her wits’ end. Her daughter’s turning 16 soon — and the big Sweet Sixteen party has been months in the making. But lately, the birthday girl has been a nightmare. Full of drama, attitude, and zero gratitude. Now mom’s asking: after all the effort, all the planning, all the money… would it be wrong to pull the plug on the party altogether? Because honestly — should we celebrate someone who’s been acting out? Hang out with Anele and The Club on 947 every weekday morning. Popular radio hosts Anele Mdoda, Frankie du Toit, Thembekile Mrototo, and Cindy Poluta take fun to the next level with the biggest guests, hottest conversations, feel-good vibes, and the best music to get you going! Kick-start your day with the most enjoyable way to wake up in Joburg. Connect with Anele and The Club on 947 via WhatsApp at 084 000 0947 or call the studio on 011 88 38 947Thank you for listening to the Anele and the Club podcast..Listen live on Primedia+ weekdays from 06:00 to 09:00 to Anele and the Club broadcast on 947 https://buff.ly/y34dh8Y For more from the show go to https://buff.ly/gyWKIkl or find all the catch-up podcasts here https://buff.ly/K59GRzu Subscribe to the 947s Weekly Newsletter https://buff.ly/hf9IuR9 Follow us on social media:947 on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/947Joburg/ 947 on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@947joburg947 on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/947joburg947 on X: www.x.com/947 947 on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@947JoburgSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is the final episode in a two-part series where host Alicia Randford is joined by developmental pediatrician and cohost of the popular parenting podcast Pop Culture Parenting, Dr Billy Garvey. In part twoBilly talks about prioritising building connection with our children over ‘perfect parenting', how setting boundaries collaboratively and consistently with our children is most effective, and recognising when your family may need to seek extra support.

Today, we're popping the confetti, lighting the birthday candles, and getting real about our personal truths behind teaching and education. To celebrate our second podcast birthday, we're bringing you an extra special format: 2 teachers, 2 things we've learned, 2 things we've changed our minds about.From rethinking teaching strategies to embracing a more relaxed classroom culture, we're sharing the moments (and guest episodes!) that shifted our perspectives, reignited our passion, and made us better educators, and humans.We're also giving some love to the guests who've left a lasting impact on our journey, including episodes on the Science of Reading, outdoor learning, and building school community.In This Episode You Will Discover:The power of adapting (not overhauling) your teaching practiceWhy slowing down in the classroom can be your secret weaponLetting go of the hustle and embracing joy in the everydayHow your local community can enrich student learningWhat we've learned from some of our most-loved episodesIf you've been with us from the start or just found us this term, thank YOU for being part of this growing teacher community. There are rainbows ahead, and together we're unstoppable!Alisha and AshleighResources mentioned in this episode:Episode 29 with Malia about the Science of ReadingEpisode 52 with Kylie Atlier about your Teaching VillageEpisode 88 with Victoria about Outdoor LearningEpisode 57 with Ash Curmi about Behaviour and ConnectionAPPLE PODCAST | SPOTIFY  | AMAZONLet's hear from you! Text us!

The pursuit of thinness and body perfection is raging as strongly as ever. With popular podcasts, YouTube, and TikTok influencers delivering extreme food regimes daily; countless people using the skinny jab; AI making online beauty standards even more unachievable; it's no wonder that the average human spends many minutes of each day obsessing over food choices and body proportions. You may not have a full-blown eating disorder fitting neatly into a diagnostic box. But, if you are experiencing high levels of body distress and intense preoccupation around food, then this needs to be taken seriously, as it will be impacting your mood, body image and life. This podcast explores 20 disordered eating behaviours that have become normalised in 2025 daily living. I hope that you find it helpful. To find out more about my work:- Harriet's Substack: https://substack.com/@theeatingdisordertherapist   Go to my Website Online courses Online 10 Steps to Intuitive Eating - a course to help you heal your relationship with food. Online Breaking Free from Bulimia - a course to help you break free from bulimia nervosa. Eating Disorders Training for Professionals - training for therapists in working with clients with eating disorders. Body Image Training for Professionals - training for therapists in working with clients with body image issues.  

In this extraordinary episode of Property-Porn Stars, David Lindley sits down with Andrew “Diesel” Bennett, a former police officer whose life was turned upside down when he suddenly lost his entire memory at the age of 30.Andrew shares the unimaginable story of rebuilding his identity from scratch, relearning who he was, rediscovering his family, and rebuilding his life through sheer determination. From there, he found purpose in the world of performance psychology, going on to work with Olympians, Paralympians, business leaders, and Formula 1 champions, including Fernando Alonso.Together, David and Andrew explore what “high performance” really means, the psychology of resilience, and how understanding yourself and your human wiring can transform both life and business. They also dive into practical strategies for estate agents and entrepreneurs: how to recover quickly from setbacks, build resilience, and understand clients on a deeper human level.It is one of the most powerful and moving conversations yet, raw, inspiring and packed with lessons for anyone who wants to perform at their best.In this conversation, we cover:  • Extraordinary Life Story: Andrew recounts his time in the police, exposure to trauma, and the sudden onset of dissociative amnesia that wiped his entire memory at age 30. • Rebuilding from Zero: How he relearned everyday life, from making coffee to re-meeting his wife and family, while living with a 24-hour memory span for two years. • Finding Purpose: Transition from police work to Porsche driver, to VIP chauffeur at Heathrow, to stroke survivor, and ultimately to high-performance coach. • Turning Trauma into Strength: How personal tragedy, including his brother's suicide, became the catalyst for understanding mental health and resilience. • Defining High Performance: “Anyone who wants to be better than they were yesterday is a high performer.” • Practical Mindset Tools: • There is no failure, only feedback. Learn, adapt, and move forward. • Resilience is “how quickly you return to standard performance after a setback.” • Language, Attitude, Behaviour: the core framework for personal and team success. • Understanding People: How to read communication cues — visual, auditory, and kinesthetic — to better connect with others (perfect for agents understanding clients). • Spotting a Liar: Insights from his police training on reading body language and eye-movement cues. • Performance in Sport & Business: Lessons from coaching Formula 1 drivers and Olympians, and why mindset and data awareness separate good from great. • Human Connection: Why success begins with self-understanding and empathy. “Know your human being.”

Halloween is here and that means it's time for your annual dose of monstrous workplace behaviour! Joining Tom to give us the ghoulish details is Moira Grassick, Chief Operating Officer at Peninsula Ireland.

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You can listen wherever you get your podcasts, OR— BRAND NEW: we've included a fully edited transcript of our interview at the bottom of this post.In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I am giving you another sneak peek inside my Peaceful Parenting Membership! Listen in as I interview Tosha Schore as part of our membership's monthly theme of “Aggression”. We discuss why kids get aggressive, how to handle it no matter how many kids you have, and dealing with the aggressive behaviour from many angles.**If you'd like an ad-free version of the podcast, consider becoming a supporter on Substack! > > If you already ARE a supporter, the ad-free version is waiting for you in the Substack app or you can enter the private feed URL in the podcast player of your choice.Know someone who might appreciate this post? Share it with them!We talk about:* 6:35 Is a child's aggression OUR fault as the parent?* 13:00 Why are some kids aggressive?* 15:00 How do you handle aggression when you have multiple kids?* 22:00 A new sibling being born is often a trigger for aggression in the older child* 29:00 When you feel like you are “walking on eggshells” around your child* 35:00 How naming feelings can be a trigger for kids* 37:00 When aggression is name calling between siblings* 42:00 Friends- roughhousing play or aggression?* 49:00 Coming from aggression at all angles* 50:35 Using limits when there are safety issuesResources mentioned in this episode:* Yoto Player-Screen Free Audio Book Player* The Peaceful Parenting Membership* Tosha's Websitexx Sarah and CoreyYour peaceful parenting team- click here for a free short consult or a coaching sessionVisit our website for free resources, podcast, coaching, membership and more!>> Please support us!!! Please consider becoming a supporter to help support our free content, including The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, our free parenting support Facebook group, and our weekly parenting emails, “Weekend Reflections” and “Weekend Support” - plus our Flourish With Your Complex Child Summit (coming back in the spring for the 3rd year!) All of this free support for you takes a lot of time and energy from me and my team. If it has been helpful or meaningful for you, your support would help us to continue to provide support for free, for you and for others.In addition to knowing you are supporting our mission to support parents and children, you get the podcast ad free and access to a monthly ‘ask me anything' session.Our sponsors:YOTO is a screen free audio book player that lets your kids listen to audiobooks, music, podcasts and more without screens, and without being connected to the internet. No one listening or watching and they can't go where you don't want them to go and they aren't watching screens. BUT they are being entertained or kept company with audio that you can buy from YOTO or create yourself on one of their blank cards. Check them out HERETranscript: Sarah: Hey everyone. Welcome back to another episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast. Today's guest is Tosha Shore, a peaceful parenting expert on aggression. I invited her into the Peaceful Parenting Membership a few months ago to talk to us about aggression and to answer our members' aggression-specific questions.So many fantastic questions were asked. I know they'll help you if you're at all having any issues with aggression. And remember, aggression isn't just hitting. It's any expression of the fight, flight, or freeze response—including yelling, spitting, throwing things, and swearing.Tosha is such a valuable resource on this issue. I really, really admire how she speaks about aggression and the compassion that she brings to both kids and parents who are experiencing aggression.One note: one of the members was okay with her question being used in the podcast, but she didn't want her voice used. So in the podcast today, I paraphrased her question and follow-up comments to preserve the flow of the conversation.As I mentioned, this is a sneak peek inside the Peaceful Parenting Membership. If you would like to join us, we would love to have you. It is such a wonderful space filled with human touch and support. There are so many benefits, and it's my favorite part of my work as a parenting coach.We'll put the link to join us in the show notes, or you can visit reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/membership. If you know anyone who could use this podcast, please share it with them. And as always, we would appreciate your five-star ratings and reviews on your favorite podcast app.Let's meet Tosha.Hello, Tosha, welcome to the membership. I'm so excited that you're going to be here talking to us about aggression today. So maybe you could start out by just giving a brief introduction of who you are and what you do.Tosha: Absolutely. So my name is Tosha Shore and I am the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully, where we are on a mission to create a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time.I'm also the co-author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. And I work with a lot of families with young kids who are struggling with hard behaviors like aggression, and my goal is to give you all hope and inspiration—to keep on keeping on with peaceful parenting practices because they do absolutely work. Even, or maybe even especially, for really hard behaviors.Sarah: I love that you added that—especially for hard behaviors—because I think there's this fallacy out there that, yeah, peaceful parenting's nice if you have easy kids, but, you know, my kid needs more “discipline” or whatever. So I love that you called that out, 'cause I think it's absolutely true also.So maybe—just—we have some questions from our members that people sent in, and I'm not sure, some people on the call might have questions as well. But maybe we could just get started by you sort of centering us in what causes aggression.I was just on a call with some clients whose child was having some issues at school, which, if we have time, I might ask you about. The mom was saying, “Oh, you know, he's being aggressive at school because I sometimes shout or lose my temper.” And I said to her, you know, of course that plays a part in it, but there are lots of kids whose parents never shout or lose their temper who still are aggressive.So why is that? What causes aggression?Tosha: I mean, I think there are a few things that can cause aggression. I often will say that aggression is fear in disguise, because I've found that a lot of kids who are getting in trouble at school—they're yelling, they may be hurting siblings or hurting their parents—they are scared inside.Sometimes it's an obvious fear to us. Like maybe they're playing with a peer and the peer does something that feels threatening—goes like that in their face or something—and instead of just, you know, play-fighting back, they clock the kid or whatever.And sometimes the fears are a little bit more hidden and maybe could fall even into the category of lagging skills. I don't even like to say “lagging skills,” but, like, skills that maybe they haven't developed yet. School's a perfect example. I think a lot of kids often will be acting out in school—even aggressively—because they're being asked to do something that they don't yet have the skills to do.And that's pretty frustrating, right? It's frustrating to be asked, and then demanded, to perform in a certain way or accomplish something specific when you don't either feel the confidence to do it, or you don't yet have the skills. Which sort of spills into another reason that kids can get aggressive, and that's shame.We can feel really ashamed if everybody else in the class, for example, or a lot of kids, are able to just answer the questions straight out when the teacher asks—and maybe we get stage fright, or maybe we didn't quite understand the example, or whatever it is.So I definitely want to pull that parent away from blaming themselves. I think we always tend—we have a negative bias, right? Our brain has a negative bias. All of us. And I think we tend to go towards taking it on ourselves: It's our fault. If we had just done X, Y, or Z, or if we hadn't done X, Y, or Z, my child wouldn't be acting out this way.But I always say to parents, well, that's a choice. There's like a 50/50, right? We could choose to say, you know what, it could be that I did something, but I don't think so. That's the other 50%. But we always go with the “it's my fault” 50.So part of my job, I think, is to encourage parents to lean into the “It's not my fault.” Not in the sense of nothing I do has an impression on my child, but in the sense of: it's important that we as parents all acknowledge—and I truly believe this—that we are doing our best all the time.There is no parent I've ever met who purposefully doesn't behave in a way they feel good about, or purposefully holds back their love, or purposefully yells, or anything like that. If we could do differently, we absolutely would as parents.Sarah: Mm-hmm. So more like, “I didn't cause this. There's maybe something I could do, but I didn't cause this.” Right.Tosha: I mean, like, look, let's just be honest. Maybe she did cause it, okay? I mean, I've done things—maybe I've caused things—but so what, right? There's nothing I can do at this point.I can either sort of wallow in, “Oh gosh, did I cause this?” Or I could say, probably I didn't, because there are so many other factors. Or I could say, you know, maybe I did, but one, I'm confident that I did the best that I could in that moment.And two—and this is an important part—is that I am doing whatever work I need. I'm getting the support I need, right? I'm showing up to Sarah's membership or this call or whatever, to take steps to do better in the future.So if we're just making a mistake and not doing anything to try to behave better next time, that's not worth much either. Like, I remember once when my kids were little—I don't even remember what I was doing, I don't remember what the situation was—but I do remember very clearly that I apologized. I said, “I'm sorry, I won't do that again.”And my kid goes, “You always say that and then you do it again.”And that was true. But if that were true because I was just saying “I'm sorry” and going about my next thing and not paying attention to the why or getting to the crux of what was causing me to behave that way, then that would be disingenuous.But in fact, I was doing my own emotional work to be able to show up more often in ways that I felt good about. So I could genuinely feel good about that apology, and I could not take it personally. I could say, “You know what, you're absolutely right. I do keep making this mistake. And I want you to know that I am working hard to try to change that behavior.” And that was true.Sarah: Yeah. Makes sense. So you mentioned before that you want parents to see aggression as fear in disguise. And you mentioned that the fear can be something obvious, like someone's gotten in your face and you're scared. Or it can be fear of not being able to meet the expectations of your teacher or your parent. Or shame that can come from maybe even having made a mistake.You didn't say this, but I'm thinking of something common that often happens—like a kid makes a mistake or does something they didn't mean to do, and then they lash out. Right?So how do we get from those feelings of fear and shame to aggression? Because that doesn't happen for every kid, right? Some kids will just cry or say something, but then some kids really lash out and hit, throw things, shout, scream. So how does that happen? How do we get from A to B?Tosha: Well, I think all kids are different, just like all adults are different. And when we encounter fear—any of us—we go into fight, flight, or freeze. And kids who are aggressive go into fight.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Tosha: So some kids do and some kids don't. And you know, I don't have any scientific research to back this up, but I would say part of this is DNA, part of this is the nature of the kid.Sarah: Right.Tosha: And I think that's also going back to the self-blame. I've got three kids, they're all very different, right? Same house, same parents, same everything. They're different. They came into this world different, and they're still different.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Tosha: And I can help guide them, but I can't change the core of who they are. So I think that aggression is those kids who go from “I'm scared, I'm having to protect myself” to that attack mode.Sarah: Right. Makes sense. And just—I mean, I know this—but is it in the child's control?Tosha: No, it's not in the child's control. It is absolutely a reaction. And I think that's why I feel like having that concept of aggression being fear in disguise can be so helpful from a mindset perspective for parents. Because it's so much easier to have empathy for a child who we see as being scared, right? Than one who we see as being a jerk, picking on his brother, or disrespectful, rude—all of those terms we use when we're struggling.Sarah: Right. Well, there may be a few other points that I want you to make, but they might come out in the context of some questions from our members.So I know at least two people on the call right now had sent me a question in case they couldn't make it. But I'm going to ask Sonya—are you willing, Sonya, to unmute yourself and ask your question?Sarah: Hi.Sonia: Sure. Hi.Sarah: Hi, Sonya.(Sarah narrating): Sonia wonders how to handle aggression when you have multiple kids. She has three kids—a 7-year-old, a 4-year-old, and a baby—and it's often her 7-year-old who reacts in fight mode. She's trying to figure out how to keep her cool and also how to handle it and take care of the other kids and manage him.Tosha: Yeah. So one thing that I noticed is how Sonia kind of glossed over the keeping her own cool. And I want to bring that to everybody's attention, because we all do that. But actually, when we're dealing with aggression, we have to come at it from a lot of different angles.There's no one magic pill I can give her, but it has to actually start—Sarah: Mm-hmm.Tosha: So it doesn't mean we have to reach Nirvana or become the Buddha or never yell before we can make any progress. But we can't put that aside and just go, “Okay, what do I do to get my kid to stop doing this?”Because our energy has a huge effect on our kids' aggression. And usually—well, let me just say—it makes sense to ask yourself questions like: how am I feeling about this? Because most people are feeling scared—either scared of their child (“they're going to hurt me” or “they're going to hurt a sibling, hurt the baby”), or scared for their child (“he's going to end up in juvenile hall, he's going to end up the next school shooter”).We project forward. So if we're having fear for our child or fear of our child, that child is soaking up that feeling. And I don't know about you, but I've never met anybody who could actually change their behaviors—who was inspired, motivated, or able to change their behaviors—when everyone around them was scared of them or scared for them.Maybe occasionally there's somebody who's like, “I'm going to prove the point because the world is against me,” right? And this is like a Hollywood film. But most of us don't work that way.So I want to come at it from all the angles. There's the “take care of yourself” piece. But at the same time, we have to keep our kids safe.One thing that I think really helps is to pay attention to the pattern of when the aggression is happening, so she's not surprised. Because if we're surprised, then we act in surprising ways to ourselves. We don't show up as our best.So pay attention. Does this happen at a certain time of day? When there's a certain constellation of kids playing together? When one particular child is present? When you're doing something specific? If there's another parent—when they're present or absent? Pay attention to these things so that you can show up ready.Because if you can change your story in your head from, “I have no idea when this happens, it happens all the time, it happens out of the blue”—which is really disempowering—to “I've noticed that every afternoon when I pick my 7-year-old up from school and bring him home, then I go in the kitchen to make a snack… and then he lays on top of the baby,” or whatever—then it is much more manageable.Then you can say, “Okay, well, I remember this call that I was on and they talked about maybe there being some fear in there. Well, I don't know what the fear is, I don't know what's going on, but I'm going to be ready. I'm not going to let it happen.”So rather than make that snack, I'm going to make it before he comes home, or I'm going to just pull out some frozen pizza. But I'm going to stay present with that child during that time and expect that the upset will happen.Because then, when that child goes to lay on the baby—or whatever the aggression is—you can actually physically get in the way. You can prevent it from happening. And then what happens is, because that child—the 7-year-old—has something to push against, something preventing them from acting on their fear response, from fighting—what happens then is like a magic reaction.He's able to erupt like a volcano and release the tension, those fears, the upsets. Maybe it's 12 things that happened to him at school today. Maybe there was shame around not knowing the answer when he was called on. Whatever it was.But there's suddenly space with an attentive adult who remembers that the child is scared. So they have empathy. They're not worried, they're not caught by surprise. So we're not going to jump at them. And that child has the opportunity then to heal.That release of the feeling is what heals the child. It's like pulling up weeds in your garden by the roots, as opposed to just pulling and having them break off, and then the next day you've got the whole thing back again.So this tool—which in our book we talk about as Stay Listening, where we're staying and allowing space for the child to feel—is what, over time, will change that fight response. That's actually the gold nugget that, over time, will both change the intensity of the outbursts and also change the frequency.Is any of that landing for you?Sarah (narrating): Sonia responded that it was very helpful. She's told me before that her baby's almost one, and this started happening a lot right after she had the baby. She also says that she's done my Transform Your Family Life course, and she's still working on it. She's done more of the welcoming feelings, and she has put together that it's usually in the afternoons—so Tosha is right about that—and it's happening after school.She's also connected that there are things happening at school that aren't in line with how she and her husband want their child treated, and she thinks that's related.Tosha: Yeah. So in light of this new information, I would also say—and I'm sure Sarah's talked to you about this as well—but pouring in as much connection to that child as possible.And it can feel, especially when you have multiple kids, that it's unfair, right? One kid is getting more… Are you familiar with the concept of special times, Sarah? Is that something that you teach?Sarah: Yeah.Tosha: Okay. You know, if you're doing special time—oftentimes we talk about, or I talk about at least—I'm not a “fair” kind of a person. I'm a “life's not fair” kind of a person. My kids will tell you that.But when it comes to special time, I always encourage parents to think about a week and to try to give your kids about the same amount of special time over a week. But—and here's the caveat—when we have a kid who is struggling, they are demanding more of us. They are demanding more attention. And our time didn't increase.Tosha: So that means we are going to need to devote more time. It's going to be uneven. But that child—and especially, like, this is probably the number one reason that I hear for aggression to start, and we didn't talk about this at the beginning—is when a younger sibling is born. I mean, it is so often the trigger, I can't tell you.And if I could go back to all of those parents and say, “Don't worry about being fair. Just pour as much extra love and connection and yumminess into that child who's struggling as you can. It will pay off later. You can make it up to the other kids later.” In fact, you're giving them a gift by helping their older brother, because then his behavior isn't going to have that negative effect on them.So I think that we get stuck in the fairness sometimes. I'm not saying you do this, Sonya—this is just from my experience. And then we hold back from giving that child what they need. So special time isn't the only thing. I would say: make a list of things that you do with that 7-year-old that creates laughter between you, that you both feel really good—where you have that yumminess, like, oh, you're loving on him and he's loving on you. Maybe that's shooting hoops in the front yard, or maybe it's drawing a picture together, or jumping on the trampoline, or reading a book. I mean, it could be anything at all.You can do those things, and you can do them with the other three kids around. Also, keep doing all of that stuff. And you're going to have to, I think, carve out some time for one-on-one special time—named, timed—where he gets to lead and he gets to be the boss.Sarah: That's awesome. And we always talk about equity versus equality with the sibling relationships, and I think that's—Tosha: Oh yeah. I love that.Sarah: Okay, awesome. Thank you so much. Priya, do you want me to ask your question, or do you want to ask the question since you're on the call? Maybe she's stepped away or can't unmute herself. Uh, she wants me to ask. Okay. So I'm going to find Priya's question and ask it.Uh, Priya says: “My five-year-old gets angry at anything and everything. He has zero tolerance for any kind of dislike or disagreement. We acknowledge his feelings with empathy, doing our best to stay calm and give him time to process his emotions. The only limit we consistently set is holding him from hurting people or property while he yells, screams, says hurtful things, and tries with full rage to attack us.“We're consciously making time for roughhousing, special time, connection, laughter, and tears—though he rarely cries—and we talk about asking for help before things escalate. I've been trying to track patterns by logging some incidents, but sometimes it feels completely unpredictable. We often have no idea why he's screaming. If I push a chair slightly, he gets angry. If someone else presses the elevator button, he gets upset. If he has a plan in his mind and we don't pick up on it, he becomes extremely frustrated. He gets irritated and grumpy very easily. It's gotten to the point where we feel like we have to expect an outburst at any moment. It looks like it's becoming a habit for him, and I feel like I'm starting to walk on eggshells—always watchful for what might happen when I say or do something.”Tosha: Yeah, so this is a really—believe it or not—common situation. Did she say he was five? Is that five?Sarah: Yeah.Tosha: Yeah, yeah, yeah. So I cannot tell you the number of parents who come to me and this is what they say: “I'm walking on eggshells.” Right? If we get to the point where we're walking on eggshells, generally what that says to me is that we are not either setting enough limits or we're not setting limits effectively.And one thing that I would suggest to Priya is to take a minute to think about whether or not there are places where she's feeling resentment. That's always a good sign for me—like, if I'm feeling resentment about something, then that's probably a place I need to hold a limit. If I'm not, then there's more wiggle room.So when this is happening all the time about everything, I would say: get really clear on what limits are important to you and what limits are not. Right? So if you're in public, in the elevator, and you don't want to deal with a big meltdown about the elevator button, can you plan for that? If you know that that's an issue, when you go in, you can say to people, “Hey, my son would really like to press the buttons—what floor would you like?”Sarah: Mm-hmm. Right.Tosha: “Here's our elevator operator—exactly. What floor, please?” Or, if somebody presses the button—or if she's pressing the button—to just go in knowing, “I'm not going to press the button. I'm going to let my child do this.” And if somebody else has already pressed it, you can say, “You know what? Hey, let's take the next elevator and then we'll press it. You can press it.”So there are places where we can be flexible. But we don't want to do that all the time, because essentially what this child is showing me is that he has a real intense lack of flexibility. And ultimately, the goal that I would have for him would be—slowly, slowly and lovingly—to help him increase that flexibility. So that, yeah, maybe he's not going to say, “Oh, shoot, I'm feeling really disappointed because I didn't get to press the elevator button and I really like to do that.” But maybe instead of having a huge tantrum, he just gets a sourpuss face and crosses his arms. Okay, I'll take that. That's better. We're moving in the right direction.So it sounds like you're doing a lot of things right, but I would hone in on limit-setting. Really: are you taking the time to think about what kind of limits you want to set? Are you letting go of limits when you know that you don't have the wherewithal to stay calm in the face of the upset?So, oftentimes—I'm hearing Priya say she does a lot of Stay Listening—I would be curious to know: what does that Stay Listening look like? Because I was working with a dad this week, a client of mine, and we were talking about a situation that was going on with his kid, who was coming home really frustrated with homework. And what ended up coming out of his mouth was, “I thought I was Stay Listening, but I think I actually wasn't Stay Listening.”Right—because Stay Listening isn't about trying to calm the child, or trying to get them to stop what they're doing. It can't be with the goal of, “Let me get this kid to quiet down,” kind of a thing. Stay Listening is really holding space lovingly for whatever needs to come out, which means—yeah—all the words, all—like, we don't take them personally.Sarah: Can I just interject something? For my community, what they would recognize Stay Listening as is “welcoming feelings.” Mm-hmm. Just because that'll be a familiar phrase to them. So I just wanna—Tosha: Yeah, absolutely. Right. But “welcoming feelings”—I feel like we need to also talk about: what does that look like? Mm-hmm. What does that look like when we welcome feelings? Because, you know, you could be upset and I could just be like—Sarah: Yeah.Tosha: —like waiting for you to be done. Right? I could be like, “Okay, I'm not gonna shut you down, but, you know, hey, whatever you do, what you need to do, I'm gonna go answer my email.” That's—you know—I can “welcome” the feelings like that. But again, coming back to our energy: what energy are we bringing to that? Are we really staying present with the energy of “We are gonna get through this,” with the energy of “You are safe,” with the energy of “I'm here with you.”Mm-hmm. Right? Like, can that child sense that they're not alone—that you're on their team? And that's maybe a good litmus test. If you were to ask yourself: do you feel like your child would feel like you're on their team, or that you're butting heads? Mm-hmm. And if the answer is “butting heads,” then the question is: what can you shift so that your child will feel like, “Hey, we're in this together”?Sarah: Sounds good. Priya, I don't know if you have anything to add. It sounds like maybe she can't unmute herself, but—oh, she says he screams really loud, so we usually stay quiet and don't say anything because it's really loud. We wait for the moment to pass before we can say anything, at the same time being present. So she's saying they're trying to be present, sometimes trying to say, “I see you're really upset.”Tosha: Yeah. And so when she says—I'm sorry, it's a little bit via you here—but before, when you say, “Priya, before I say something,” what is it that you're saying? Because another thing about Stay Listening—or welcoming feelings, from my perspective—is that saying something actually doesn't really have a place. So if we need to say something, it should—I think—uh, or let me just rephrase that: I find it most effective when it's something that essentially allows that child to feel safe, to realize that they're not alone.Right—to realize that we're on their team, and to realize that it's not gonna last forever. So that they're loved—these types of things. So I wouldn't—if you're naming feelings, and I don't know that she is or isn't, but if you're naming feelings—which is something that a lot of professionals, for example, will recommend—I would play around with stopping that and seeing if that makes a difference, because sometimes that's a huge trigger for kids. And maybe even, “I see you're upset,” or whatever it is that she said—that also might be a trigger.Yeah. Don't be afraid to really not say anything at all, and just think about each of these things as an experiment. Take a day and don't say anything at all and see if it makes a difference. Other things to try—'cause it sounds like he's quite sensitive—is distance, right? How close are you to that child? Some kids don't want you all up in their face. Some kids want to be on your lap and hugged. Some kids want to be a room's distance away. So play with distance; play with tone.Sarah: Love that. Thank you so much, Tosha. Does anybody else who's on the call have a question? And if not, I have questions that were sent in, but I want to give priority to people who are here. Uh, and—and Priya says, “Thank you, Tosha.”Tosha: Yeah, my pleasure. I'm trying to work without the direct back and forth.Sarah: Yeah.Tosha: No—so I hope that was helpful.Sarah: Yeah, that was great, Lindsay.Tosha: And I want to acknowledge that it is really hard. It is hard.Sarah: Yeah. Yeah, definitely. It's one of the most—Tosha: It won't last forever either. Like, it's absolutely—move through. I can assure you of that.Sarah: Lindsay, do you have a question?Member B: Yes. I have a question about my son, actually. He's 10 years old, and I have a 10-year-old boy and then a 7-year-old girl. And a lot of times—there's kind of two different questions—but between the siblings, a lot of times my daughter will be, like, have verbal aggression towards him, and then he—he is my—he is a little more sensitive, and he will hold it in, and he won't spit out things back at her, but then he eventually will just hit her. And, like, he comes with the physical aggression. So kind of, as the parent, proactively trying to step in there—like, how do I handle both of those when one is verbal—maybe aggression—and one is physical? I know it can escalate there. Where do I step in?Tosha: Yeah. First of all, I just want to appreciate that you can see that there's a dynamic there. Because oftentimes we get into this place as parents where we're like, “This person is the aggressor and this person is the victim.” Because oftentimes there is a pattern like that, but it's—it's beautiful that you can see this dance that they're doing.Member B: Yeah.Tosha: And so if you see it kind of as a dance, you can interplay around and experiment with interrupting it in different ways. Okay. I would say that, in terms of the verbal aggression, what I have found works best—and again, I was talking to a client yesterday and he was saying to me that this is what works. Mm-hmm. I'm like, “Okay, so let's do more of that. You came out of your mouth; you said it works when you do it—let's do more.” And that is being playful in the face of the verbal aggression.And so it can look like a lot of different things. You could say ahead of time to your daughter something like, “Hey, I've noticed that, you know, sometimes these nasty words come out of your mouth towards your brother, and I know you don't mean them. So I'm gonna—I'm gonna pay attention and just try to help you with that, 'cause I know you don't want to hurt his feelings.”Member B: Yeah.Tosha: And just, you know, outside the moment, just kind of toss that out there. And then in the heat of the moment—I mean, you can just get as goofy as you can think. You could get a paper bag and just pull it over her head, right? Or you could get those indoor snowballs and just start pelting her with snowballs. You could do what we call the “vigorous snuggle,” which we write about in the book, which is something like, “Do you know what happens to little girls who call their brothers, you know, ‘stupid buttheads'” or whatever it is—Sarah: Uh-huh.Tosha: —and then you—rather than push away, which is what we tend to want to do—you do something goofy, right? “They get their elbows licked!” And then you're, like, chasing after her elbow and trying to lick it. What you're going for is laughter. You're trying to elicit laughter, because she's stuck in a hard spot where she can't feel compassion for him and she can't feel your love or anybody's. And so laughter will loosen that up.So I would say: interrupt the verbal aggression with play.Member B: Okay.Tosha: Some of those things will maybe annoy her; some of them will lead to laughter. And then sometimes you'll do an experiment and it'll annoy her—mm-hmm—and she'll explode. And what I want to say about that is—that's okay. Because, like we talked about with the school incident, it's an opportunity for her to do that healing and release the tensions and the hurts and the upsets and the gripes and all the stuff that she's holding in there. So when that happens, if you can welcome those feelings and not try to shut them down or judge her—or what many of us, sort of in the peaceful parenting world, will do is just talk, talk, talk, talk to her about it—if you can let all of that go—Member B: Yeah.Tosha: —you'll see the behaviors lessen. Okay? You know, that would be—I mean, we talked a little bit about the physical stuff before, so I thought for this question I would focus more on the verbal.Member B: Yeah.Tosha: But in the sibling dynamic, just kind of rotate who you go to, so they don't feel like there's one “bad guy” and one “woe-is-me” sibling.Member B: Yeah. Right.Tosha: Because ultimately, our goal as parents is to nurture that sibling relationship. Right. I don't—I don't know—like, I just had a birthday. I'm like, “This is my best birthday ever.” And people are like, “Really? How is it your best birthday ever?” I'm like, because, like, a lot of people couldn't come to my party but all three of my boys were home, and we sang karaoke, and the three of them sang me a song and sang all this. It was like—there is nothing I think we want more than to see our kids loving each other, enjoying each other—mm-hmm—having a strong relationship down the road.And let me tell you, these kids were at each other. I mean, now they're 18, 20, and 22. But I have been in your shoes where my mom would call me and be like, “I'm afraid they're gonna kill each other. I'm worried.” I'd be like, “It's okay. I got this, Mom. You know, things will change.” Yeah. But we do want to experiment—interrupt the behaviors.Member B: Yeah, I appreciate the trying different interventions and then also being prepared for her to, like, not enjoy some of them as well. 'Cause I think that happens a lot more than, like, the positive, you know, playful things. Right. So I appreciate that space to, like, let that happen too—and that's okay.Tosha: Yeah. It's—even more than okay. Like, that's kind of what needs to happen—mm-hmm—in order for her to shift—yeah—in order for her to be able to show up differently. She's stuck. Just think of her as being stuck.Member B: Yeah. And maybe it's not gonna fix that moment, but later on it'll be less and less, right?Tosha: Yeah. And it happens much more quickly than we think, oftentimes.Member B: Yeah. Yeah. Well, thank you. Yeah. The other quick question—do I have time, Sarah, to ask the second—Sarah: Sure.Member B: Okay. The second one is more—it's my 10-year-old. So recently, like, he was at a playdate. He's getting to play with a lot more of his friends. They're all playing football and sports and things, and he's just a bigger kid—my husband's 6'5”, so he's just naturally bigger than a lot of the kids. And he is super playful, but he gets, like, playful aggression. And, like, one of the moms was saying, like, “Oh my—” I've seen the dynamic of how all the boys are playing, and I noticed Calvin sometimes gets a little too aggressive. And her son Luke is pretty small. And Luke is like, “Yeah, I get trampled sometimes.” And so the mom was like, “I just try and tell Calvin, like, how big he is and, you know, his awareness.” But I know it happens with his sister, and I think it probably happens at school sometimes too—that he doesn't realize his size, and that maybe it comes out to be as, like—I don't know if he has internal aggression or if it's just playful and he's not aware of how big he is.Tosha: Yeah, I mean, I'd say two things about this. One is: I always have to ask the question in these situations—Is it the kids who are having the problem, or is it the parents who are having a problem?Member B: Yeah.Tosha: And I don't know the answer in this situation, but oftentimes our kids play a lot rougher than we feel comfortable with—but they're all actually having a good time. Yeah. I mean, the way that you said that kid reported didn't sound like it was a problem. I could be wrong and it could be a problem, but I think it's worth asking: whether or not it's a problem—Is that mom worried, or is the kid not having fun?Member B: Yeah.Tosha: So just to keep that in mind. Because there's often a par between what we are feeling comfortable with and the way our kids are going at each other. Right. And I think in that situation, we do want to stay close if we're not sure. And just ask—like, if you notice that energy going up—just say, “Hey, are you all having fun?” If everyone says yes—okay. If one person says no, then we know we need to intervene. Okay. So that's one piece.And then I think it's about body awareness for him. Mm-hmm. And maybe one thing that you could do at home would be some practice—sort of—physical wrestling matches or something of the sort, where you could just pretend like you're in a ring—Sarah: Mm-hmm.Tosha: —with a timer, and do, like, 15-second, 30-second sessions—or whatever you call it. I'm not a boxing person or whatever, but I don't—Sarah: Rounds.Tosha: Rounds. Maybe it's rounds, right? Yeah. So where somebody's actually the ref and saying, “Okay, go at it,” and then when the whistle blows—when the ref blows the whistle—everyone has to run back to their corners. And so we're increasing the awareness of stop-start, stop-start.And then also I think it's oftentimes a good idea to have kind of a—what do you call it—an emergency word, secret word, whatever it's called—Sarah: Oh yeah.Tosha: —the word—Sarah: Safe word.Tosha: What's the word? Safe word. Safe word.Sarah: Safe word.Tosha: Yeah. Safe word. And so you all could figure that out at the beginning of this game. And, in fact, that's something that he could transfer over to his play with his friends. Like, “Yeah, once he learns—he's like, ‘I know I'm big; I'm just having a good time. I know I don't want to hurt you, but if things are getting too rough, say banana and I'll know I gotta pull back.'”Yeah. But “banana” is going to work a lot better than, “Hey, stop doing that,” or a parent coming in and saying, “Hey, be careful, you need to be careful, you're a lot bigger than him, you need to pull back.” That's not going to work as well. But you have to practice those things at home. So—come at it from two different angles.Member B: Yeah. I like how that is—he and his sister have a thing where if they're being too much, they yell “T.” Yeah. Okay. And so if they're like “T, T,” then they know like, oh, that's a timeout—like, I need to pause for a second.Sarah: Perfect.Member B: So yeah, maybe just—yeah—telling him, like, set it up with your friends so they can say it.Tosha: Yeah. If he already has that skill with his sister, that's amazing. Mm-hmm. And then, yeah—could we just transfer it over to a friend?Member B: Yeah, and I agree—it could be a little more parent than kid, because the kid's inviting Calvin over all the time and wants him to come back. So I'm like, I think they're having fun. You know, and it just may be the parent's perception of—or protection of—her child.Tosha: Right. And I think it's—I think it's fair to just ask.Member B: Mm-hmm.Tosha: You know, ask the child. I mean, you can ask the child if the child's at your house. Yeah. You can just say, like, “Hey, you know, if you guys need me, I'm in the other room,” or whatever. Like, you don't have to— I just—I don't like to assume that there's a problem.Member B: Mm-hmm. Yeah, because he's—he—it's very sweet. I just think he—he just plays rough sometimes and—Tosha: Yeah. Well, some kids like to play rough. And the other thing is, if we interrupt too much, we're interrupting the development of important emotional intelligence. Because one of the ways that kids learn—or build—emotional intelligence is through playing with one another. Right? If they play too rough, they're going to lose their playmate. Right. If they don't play rough enough, they're also going to lose their playmate. Right. This kid might like to play rough. I mean, this little kid might like to play rough—mm-hmm—because he doesn't have that opportunity with other kids. And, like, it's an opportunity to sort of be bigger and use strength and feel—I mean, I don't know.Sarah: Yeah.Tosha: But there's something about the dance that they do when they play. I remember reading research about this in the animal kingdom. It was like a—it was a—I forget what his name was. This was like a million years ago at a conference when I was—back when I was a linguist—who was talking about this. And it was super, super interesting. I thought, “Wow, okay.” And so I think we need to let our kids also do that dance and just be present—so if there is a problem, we can step in—let them know that we're there. But don't assume there's a problem when nobody's complaining.Member B: Right. Okay. Yeah. Thank you. Thanks, Lindsay. That's helpful.Sarah: So I'm conscious that we only have about, uh, eight minutes left with you. And I don't think anyone else on the call has a question, so I will go to a question that was sent in. And actually two questions that were sent in, and I'm not sure how different they are, so I'm going to tell you both of them.Okay. And if you can answer them both together, or if you think they're separate—if that works. Okay. So one of them is a person, a member who has a child—a girl—who is just about to turn eight. And when she gets upset, she hits and throws things at her mom. And they haven't been able to—and she's been following peaceful parenting—but still hasn't been able to curb this. She doesn't have any issues anywhere else, except for—Tosha: Okay.Sarah: —her mom. The second person has a 12-year-old daughter that is hitting, kicking, pinching, saying mean words, etc., to her younger siblings when they're not doing what she wants them to do. She's the oldest of five; has younger siblings who are 10, 8, 4, and 2. And she didn't mention this, but I know she also—when she gets upset—she will do that to her mom too.Tosha: Yeah. Yeah. So for me, these are really both limit-setting issues, right? Like I've said earlier, we have to come at aggression from all the different angles, right? So we talked—we started out at the beginning with the first question about, like, hey, let's—we gotta focus in on our own healing and our own triggers, and make sure that we're not sort of trying to skate over that and pretend that we're gonna be able to be better without addressing anything.We also have to focus on connection. Like—somebody said they're tracking. Yeah, we need to pay attention—like, when does this stuff happen? We need to pour in connection, like we talked about. Make a list of all the things that are yummy when you do them together—just do more, do more, do more. Use play in the ways that we've talked about.But limits aren't necessarily the place to start—but if there are safety issues, then we have to go right there. So if the problem—well, there are lots of problems—but one thing that I've seen is that if we let a child, quote-unquote, succeed—or if a child succeeds in hurting us—let's just say throwing—like, let's say we get a stapler thrown at us and we end up with a black eye, or a cut on our face, or whatever it is—that child feels more fear than they felt before. Because there's a huge amount of fear associated with having that much power when you're so small, and feeling like the adults in your life can't keep everybody safe.Right? Because our number one job, in my opinion, is to keep everybody safe and alive. Let's just start there. Mm-hmm. So this is just basic. So that means that in a situation like this, you're gonna want to pay attention. You're gonna really want to track when this happens. It's good—it only happens with you, I think. That's telling in the sense that she feels safe enough with you to be able to show you that she's kind of holding things together out in the world, but actually feeling yucky inside, and these feelings need to come out somehow.And the next step is you figuring out: well, how do I want to show her that, yes, I can keep her safe? And that is likely gonna look like you physically anticipating—for her throwing something—or you see that she reaches for the stapler, and you're gonna rush in and you're gonna put your hand on her hand on that stapler: “I don't want that stapler to get thrown.”And I'm not gonna lie—it's gonna look messy, and it's gonna be a struggle, and all of the things. That's fine—as long as you're calm. If you feel triggered by the throwing, and you don't feel like you can stay calm, and you can feel like—to talk about, you know, the sweet child underneath the yucky feeling. So let's—got the throwing or the hitting or the cussing out or the whatever up here, and there's just always this sweet child underneath.If you lose sight of that child, then in a situation like this, I would rather you walked out of the room and the—you know—the stapler hit the door. You know, it breaks the window or it dents the door or whatever it is. I don't want that to happen, but I would rather that happen than it hit you and then you hit her, or you held her harder than you want, or you screamed horrible things at her that you wished afterwards you could take back.Right. And I say these things not because I think you're doing this, but just because in my 20 years of working in this world and raising three kids—I know what those feelings feel like, and they're real, and they happen to all of us. So if you feel out of control, remove yourself.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Tosha: Even at the cost of the window. But—which is why we have to start with our own—getting ourselves in what I call “good enough emotional shape.” Because ultimately, you need to be able to move in, put your hand on that hand with the stapler, and just say something like, “I can't—I can't let you throw that, sweet girl. I can't let you throw that.” And that's it.And then she's gonna have a huge upset. She's gonna fight, and she's gonna try and—“Let go of me,” and “I can't breathe,” and whatever. And unless she breathes through her hand—like, she's breathing okay, right? But that upset, again, is the gold nugget. Like—then you welcome the feelings and you allow them to pour out. Because something happened. Something is going on. And it might not be that one thing happened during that day at school, or wherever, but it might be that there was a little nick and a little nick and a little nick. And every time—whatever—she didn't get what she wanted, or a sibling got something and she didn't, or you answered a sibling before you answered her, or whatever it is—they're just all little things.They happen. They're not your fault or anybody's fault. It's just that if, every time they happen, she doesn't release the yucky feelings that arise in her as a result, then what's happening is they're building up. And so I like to think of it as the sand—or the sedimentary rock—on the beach. You can see those striations in it, right? So it's like—sand is really soft; you can kind of brush it off, but when it sits and it hardens, then you have to take, like, a chisel to it.Sarah: Yeah. For our people, we call that “getting a full emotional backpack,” when you're talking about the nicks that build up over time. So that'll resonate for people.Tosha: Exactly. Exactly.Sarah: Thank you so much, Tosha.Tosha: Yeah.Sarah: I hope—that was—Tosha: Helpful. But you have to physically get in there.Sarah: Yeah, physically get in there. And if it happens too fast to catch the first one, you just kind of do your best and try for the second one.Tosha: Yes.Sarah: Yeah.Tosha: Yes. And then you expect the upset, and you stay with it if you can.Sarah: Yeah.Tosha: Remembering that that's just a scared little girl in there.Sarah: Yeah.Tosha: Right. You don't know what this is about. Just trust that her body knows that it needs to do this healing, and she's picked you because she knows you can handle it—that you won't lose sight of her goodness, that your love is strong. And that's an honor. I know it feels hard, but it's actually a real honor when we're the one who gets chosen for that emotional work.Sarah: I love that, and I want to highlight that a lot of what you talked about today was our own inner work on keeping ourselves calm and keeping our mindset of keeping track of that sweet child—as you say, the sweet child inside that's just afraid and needs us in those moments. 'Cause it can feel—I think a lot of parents can feel—like, quote, victimized, and that's probably going to get them deeper into the aggression than get them out of it.Tosha: Exactly. Exactly. And so we want to feel—I hope that after this call you feel empowered. I mean, I hope there's just one thing that you can take away and experiment with doing differently. Just think of these things as experiments. You don't have to get it perfect—right? Whatever the word is that you have in your head. Right. Just try something.Sarah: Just—Tosha: Pick one idea that you heard and try it. Try it for a day. See how it goes. And remember that if it leads to big upset on the part of your child, that doesn't mean you did it wrong. It probably means you're actually doing something right.Sarah: That's so key. I love that. Thank you so much, Tosha. We really appreciate you and your work, and everyone, be sure to let us know how it goes for you when you try some of these things. Let us know in the Facebook group. And thank you, Tosha—thanks for getting up early and meeting with us today.Tosha: Yeah, my pleasure. Thank you for inviting me back, Sarah.Sarah: Thanks, everyone. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe

We did a deep dive into phobias and some of these are mad that they exist!Would you eat an entire apple!? As in core and all? We go through some odd behaviours Did you see the unusual light in the sky last night!? We find out what it is!Kyle was todays player of FM104's Ins2grand Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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In this episode of the Work It Like a Mum Podcast, we sit down with Paula Brockwell, founder and director of the Employee Experience Project, to unpack the real power of workplace culture. Paula explains why culture isn't just about “Sunday night vibes” but is a system that drives employee behaviour, performance, and business success.What We Cover:What business culture really is and why it mattersWhy there's no universal “perfect culture” and how alignment with business goals is keyThe role of leadership in connecting employees to the missionHow KPIs can support or harm cultureResetting psychological contracts to create empowered, high-performing teamsPreparing for the future of work with AI and evolving skill requirementsKey Takeaways:Culture is more than vibes: It shapes how people act, what's acceptable, and how success happens.No one-size-fits-all: The best culture fits your business context, goals, and mission.Leadership matters: Great leaders connect people to the mission and help them thrive.Behaviour over motivation: Culture drives the actions that achieve results—not just good feelings.Psychological contracts: Clear, adult-to-adult agreements keep expectations realistic and engagement high.KPIs that align: Metrics work when they reinforce the right behaviours, not conflicting ones.AI and the future of work: Rethink talent, skills, and human-machine partnerships to stay ahead.Why You Should Listen: If you are a business leader, HR professional, or team manager, this episode offers practical guidance on building a culture that empowers employees, boosts performance, and helps your organisation thrive in any market. Paula's insights take you beyond surface-level “culture vibes” to strategies that really make a difference. Show Links:Connect With Our Host, Elizabeth Willetts HereConnect With Paula on LinkedIn Here Visit Paula's Website HereSupport the showSign up for our newsletter and never miss an episode!Follow us on Instagram. Join over 1 million customers and counting who are saving money on their household bills with Utility Warehouse. Discover how much you can save here. And here's your invite to our supportive and empowering Facebook Group, Work It Like a Mum - a supportive and safe networking community for professional working mothers. Our community is full of like-minded female professionals willing to offer support, advice or a friendly ear. See you there!

Announcement Related to the Rest of the 2022 - Irregular Publishing Schedule Dear listeners, So it happened that both of the podcast hosts became parents on the very same day! Recordings have been swapped to diaper changing and lullaby singing. This means that the Meaningful Sport Series will be paused until about the end of the year. Regular episodes and Practitioner`s Viewpoint Series will be running but with less episodes. Some of the popular episodes will be republished from earlier days of the podcast. Thanks for your understanding and we hope that the over 400 episodes so far will provide something to listen to meanwhile. We are enthusiastic about the podcast and grateful for all the positive feedback and support, it really makes our day. While we scale back we would still appreciate all your feedback and suggestions on who and what you would like to hear in the podcast as it will be returning to full swing next year. Have a great autumn all, Noora and Olli --- Dr Bruno da Costa has a bachelor's degree in Physical Education at the Federal University of Santa Catarina (2009-2013). While as an undergraduate, he worked as a tutor for exercise physiology, taught swimming lessons, and participated in several research and study groups, with a longer period at the Laboratory of Behavioral Nutrition/UFSC. He was also trained as a Master in Physical Education at the same University (2015-2017), under the supervision of professor Kelly Silva, where his work focused on the promotion of an active and healthy lifestyle among adolescents. He currently has a PhD (2017-2020), with a focus on understanding changes and determinants of sleep, sedentary behaviors, and physical activity of adolescents which was supervised by Dr. Kelly Silva and Dr. Jean-Philippe. --- This podcast episode is sponsored by Fibion Inc. | The New Gold Standard for Sedentary Behaviour and Physical Activity Monitoring Learn more about Fibion: fibion.com/research --- Collect, store and manage SB and PA data easily and remotely - Discover new Fibion SENS Motion: https://sens.fibion.com/

The trolling online has reached new lows, and some of these people have just completely lost touch with reality!! Also, everyone told Abbie she was overreacting about Trump's re-election, and now he's threatening to invoke the insurrection act... LINKS This American Life ep that Abbie referenced: https://www.thisamericanlife.org/868/the-hand-that-rocks-the-gavel Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review Follow LiSTNR Entertainment on IG @listnrentertainment Follow LiSTNR Entertainment on TikTok @listnrentertainment Get instructions on how to access transcripts on Apple podcasts https://bit.ly/3VQbKXY CREDITS Host: Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimballDigital and Social and Video Producer: Oscar Gordon @oscargordon Social and Video Producer: Justin Hill @jus_hillIt's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia ToomeyManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Announcement Related to the Rest of the 2022 - Irregular Publishing Schedule Dear listeners, So it happened that both of the podcast hosts became parents on the very same day! Recordings have been swapped to diaper changing and lullaby singing. This means that the Meaningful Sport Series will be paused until about the end of the year. Regular episodes and Practitioner`s Viewpoint Series will be running but with less episodes. Some of the popular episodes will be republished from earlier days of the podcast. Thanks for your understanding and we hope that the over 400 episodes so far will provide something to listen to meanwhile. We are enthusiastic about the podcast and grateful for all the positive feedback and support, it really makes our day. While we scale back we would still appreciate all your feedback and suggestions on who and what you would like to hear in the podcast as it will be returning to full swing next year. Have a great autumn all, Noora and Olli --- Dr Bruno da Costa has a bachelor's degree in Physical Education at the Federal University of Santa Catarina (2009-2013). While as an undergraduate, he worked as a tutor for exercise physiology, taught swimming lessons, and participated in several research and study groups, with a longer period at the Laboratory of Behavioral Nutrition/UFSC. He was also trained as a Master in Physical Education at the same University (2015-2017), under the supervision of professor Kelly Silva, where his work focused on the promotion of an active and healthy lifestyle among adolescents. He currently has a PhD (2017-2020), with a focus on understanding changes and determinants of sleep, sedentary behaviors, and physical activity of adolescents which was supervised by Dr. Kelly Silva and Dr. Jean-Philippe. --- This podcast episode is sponsored by Fibion Inc. | The New Gold Standard for Sedentary Behaviour and Physical Activity Monitoring Learn more about Fibion: fibion.com/research --- Collect, store and manage SB and PA data easily and remotely - Discover new Fibion SENS Motion: https://sens.fibion.com/

Send us a textFirst off *Apologies for the sound quality on this episode!* You were programmed long before you ever realised it.Every belief you hold about success, money, love, your body, your worth, was formed in childhood. Those old subconscious programs are still running your life today… unless you consciously rewrite them.In this episode, we're diving deep into rewiring the subconscious mind — how your identity is just a collection of beliefs, how those beliefs control 95% of your daily actions, and why manifestation isn't just about wishing — it's about becoming.You'll learn:

In this conversation, Ingy Alireza shares her journey as a behaviour analyst in Bahrain, discussing the challenges and evolution of autism support services in the region. She highlights the cultural influences on education, the role of parents in advocating for their children, and the need for more practitioners and training in behaviour analysis. Ingy emphasizes the importance of mental health in autism support and the potential of technology to enhance services. The discussion also touches on the current projects she is involved in, including the development of NUMUW, a new platform providing multidisciplinary services for families. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Pn0cGKKBA2w Continuing Education Credits (https://www.cbiconsultants.com/shop) BACB: 1.0 Ethics IBAO:  1.0  Cultural QABA: 1.0  General CBA:    1.0  Cultural Diversity  Follow us! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/behaviourspeak/ LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/behaviourspeak/ Contact: NUMUW   https://numuw.com/?lang=en Ingy Alireza https://www.linkedin.com/in/ingyalireza/ https://thinkinc.me/meet-the-team-2/   Articles Mentioned: Kelly, M.P., Alireza, I., Azzaam, S. et al. Applied Behavior Analysis and Autism Spectrum Disorder in the Gulf Region in the Middle East. J Dev Phys Disabil 36, 591–614 (2024). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10882-023-09931-7 Related Behaviour Speak Episodes Episode 228 The Nubian Egyptian Behaviour Analyst with Nehal Siam https://www.behaviourspeak.com/e/episode-228-the-nubian-egyptian-behaviour-analyst-with-nehal-siam-mped-bcba-rba-ont/ Episode 149 Behaviour Analysis in Saudi Arabia with Dr. Shahad Alsharif https://www.behaviourspeak.com/e/episode-149-behaviouranalysis-in-saudi-arabia-with-dr-shahad-alsharif/ Episode 94: Behaviour Analysis in Lebanon and Qatar with Rola El-Annan https://www.behaviourspeak.com/e/ep-94-behaviour-analysis-in-lebanon-and-qatar-with-rola-el-annan-med-bcba/  

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Across the animal kingdom sexual behaviours have evolved which increase the chances of individuals finding a mate and successfully reproducing. However, some are more of a challenge to explain than others. Masturbation has historically been considered a behaviour which hasn't evolved to directly improve reproductive success, but recent research has shown that its important in optimising sperm quality, and even allowing females to choose which males fertilise them.

The Points of View panel discuss a new Channel 4 report that claims Scotland has Britain's highest rate of violent injuries to school staff, based on reports to the safety watchdog. They include fractures, dislocations and even loss of consciousness, with the number of incidents logged at Scottish schools trebling in a decade. Teachers, many speaking for the first time, told Channel 4 News' FactCheck team how assaults had left them with bleeding legs or broken toes. Panel: Rae Whitehouse, Lucy Trimnell, Yasmin Omar, Liz Webb. 

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Send us a textThe sky went dark at midday, the temperature dipped, and a continent held its breath. We chased the total solar eclipse to Texas and came back with more than a memory—fresh science on how birds react when day vanishes and returns a few minutes later. Leveraging a blend of community observations, autonomous recorders, and BirdNET machine learning, researchers tracked behavior from Mexico to Canada and found a clear pattern: movement slowed during totality while vocalizations spiked, followed by a pseudo-dawn burst when the light returned. Some species, like American Robins and Barred Owls, showed dramatic shifts; others didn't budge, pointing to species-specific sensitivity to light.That sudden flip from light to dark is more than a spectacle—it's a powerful biological cue. We connect the dots to artificial light at night, from migration disruptions to window strikes, and explore how city lighting policies and dark-sky practices can protect wildlife without sacrificing safety. When the whole sky changes at once, you see how deeply behavior is tuned to brightness. It's a rare, elegant experiment you can't reproduce in a lab, and it gives us practical guidance for urban design and conservation.Back on the home front, we turn to a concern every family with pets and kids faces: children often misread dog body language. New data show that four- to seven-year-olds frequently mistake angry dog faces for happy ones, with high error rates even at seven. Most bites happen at home, during child-initiated contact, and without supervision. We share simple, actionable steps—teach a few key cues, keep greetings calm, supervise play, and give dogs guaranteed safe spaces—to preserve the empathy and comfort dogs bring while lowering risk.If you love science, animals, and practical insights that make life better, this one's for you. Our links!Support the showFor Science, Empathy, and Cuteness!Being Kind is a Superpower. All our social links are here!

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What if the biggest AI risk isn't bias or data, but human behaviour itself? How might AI impact the people using it and what does that mean for how we design solutions and deploy the technology?Episode SummaryOn this episode, I'm joined by a returning guest.  Richard Chataway is a behavioural science expert and strategist who joins me to explore how we can design AI systems that truly work for humans. Richard brings a unique lens to the conversation, combining insights from advertising, government policy, and behavioural science to unpack the human drivers that shape how we build and interact with AI. We discuss everything from cognitive biases and persuasive tech to the ethics of design and how these hidden forces influence our relationship with intelligent machines.During our conversation, Richard explains the importance of context and behavioural frameworks in making AI more ethical, effective, and human-centric. We explore real-world examples of effective and ineffective design, examining where intentions diverge from outcomes and what can be done to address these discrepancies. Richard shares fascinating insights from his book "The Behaviour Business" and his experience in both the public and private sectors, offering a practical yet thought-provoking look at what it really means to design for behaviour in the age of AI.Whether you're an AI sceptic, enthusiast, or simply curious about how technology intersects with human behaviour, this episode offers a compelling exploration of the invisible levers shaping our digital lives. From nudging with intent to avoiding manipulation, Richard helps us understand how behavioural science can make the future of AI more aligned with our values and less prone to unintended consequences.Guest BiographyRichard is a Behavioural Scientist, Author and Podcaster who heads up the Behaviour Change Team at Concentrix, a Fortune 500 global technology and transformation company, working with around 2000 brands globally in over 70 different countries. He is also the founder of Communication Science Group and a former board member of the Association for Business Psychology. His book The Behaviour Business is a bestselling guide to deploying Behavioural Science within organisations to solve a wide range of problems. vAI-Generated Timestamped Summary00:00 – Intro: Designing AI for humans01:25 – Welcome back Richard Chataway03:15 – Behavioural science meets AI05:20 – Why we lie more to bots07:05 – Judgement, distance & dishonesty09:10 – When design invites bad behaviour11:30 – Fraud as a design problem13:40 – The “Computer says no” effect15:25 – When neutrality helps disclosure17:15 – The empathy paradox19:05 – Data bias & unequal outcomes21:30 – When to keep humans in the loop23:40 – Behavioural science as AI insurance26:00 – When efficiency erodes trust28:20 – Friction, fairness & feedback30:05 – AI and the frontline worker33:00 – Redefining jobs, not removing them36:10 – New skills for an AI world39:00 – Beyond efficiency: meaningful work41:45 – Leadership: ask “should we automate?”44:10 – Practical design principles47:30 – The myth of full automation50:20 – Augment, don't replace53:00 – Case studies from Concentrix56:40 – Making AI ethics actionable59:20 – The next five years of human-centred AI1:02:00 – Closing reflections1:04:30 – Where to find Richard1:06:00 – Outro & related episodesLinksRichard on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/richard-chataway/Richard's book The Behaviour Business - https://behaviourbusiness.com/Richard's previous appearance on the show - https://www.humanriskpodcast.com/richard-chataway-on-the-behaviour/Concentrix - https://www.concentrix.com/Richard at Concentrix - https://www.concentrix.com/contributor/richard-chataway/

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This conversation delves into the complexities of aging, cognitive decline, and the role of behaviour analysts in gerontology. Nehal Siam and Jacqueline Pachis discuss the importance of adapting care to the evolving needs of older adults, the significance of quality of life assessments, and the impact of cultural responsiveness. They also explore the challenges posed by ageism, the necessity of using appropriate assessment tools, and the barriers to utilizing assistive devices. The discussion emphasizes the need for ongoing education, networking, and advocacy within the field of behavioural gerontology. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/eZ0GHUaWPpo Continuing Education Credits (https://www.cbiconsultants.com/shop) BACB: 1.5 Learning IBAO:  1.5  ABA Topics QABA: 1.5 General CBA:    1.5 Learning  Follow us! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/behaviourspeak/ LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/behaviourspeak/ Contact: Jacqueline Pachis https://www.linkedin.com/in/jacqueline-pachis-54b945a5/ https://www.emich.edu/psychology/labs/cbs-lab/lab-team.php Nehal Siam https://www.linkedin.com/in/nehal-siam-22b64663/ nehal.siam@durhamcollege.ca Links:  Behavioral Gerontology Special Interest Group https://bgsig.abainternational.org/ https://www.facebook.com/behavioralgerontology/ Enrich Behavior Gerontology  Continuing Education Courses https://www.behavioralgerontology.com/ceu-courses CAMH https://www.camh.ca/ Behavioural Supports Ontario https://www.behaviouralsupportsontario.ca/ Dr. Claudia Drossel https://www.emich.edu/psychology/faculty/c-drossel.php Articles Mentioned: Rosalie A. Kane, Kristen C. Kling, Boris Bershadsky, Robert L. Kane, Katherine Giles, Howard B. Degenholtz, Jiexin Liu, Lois J. Cutler, Quality of Life Measures for Nursing Home Residents, The Journals of Gerontology: Series A, Volume 58, Issue 3, March 2003, Pages M240–M248, https://doi.org/10.1093/gerona/58.3.M240 Ogden Lindsley's 1964 chapter on Geriatric prosthetics Lindsley, O.R. (1964). Geriatric behavioral prosthetics. In: Kastenbaum, R. (eds) New Thoughts on Old Age. Springer, Berlin, Heidelberg. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-662-38534-0_3 Related Behaviour Speak Episodes Episode 228 The Nubian Egyptian Behaviour Analyst with Nehal Siam https://www.behaviourspeak.com/e/episode-228-the-nubian-egyptian-behaviour-analyst-with-nehal-siam-mped-bcba-rba-ont/ Episode 17 Behavioural Gerontology with Dr. Rebecca Sharp https://www.behaviourspeak.com/e/episode-17-behavioural-gerontology-with-dr-rebecca-sharp-phd-bcba-d/

You can't build great products on gut instinct, and yet, according to IBM's global study of 1,000 enterprises, 77% of organisations using generative AI aren't seeing any financial benefit. In this episode on The Product Experience podcast, Lily Smith sits down with Matthew Certner, Digital Product Engineering and Design Partner at IBM, to unpack the four key traits that drive ROI in AI-powered product teams: flexibility, incremental and targeted delivery, data-led decisions, and cross-functional collaboration. Recorded live at the Industry conference, this conversation offers practical lessons for any product leader navigating the hype and reality of AI adoption. Chapters00:00 – The danger of building on gut instinct00:37 – IBM's global study on generative and agentic AI adoption01:00 – Meet Matthew Certner, Digital Product Engineering Partner at IBM02:00 – Why most enterprises aren't realising ROI from AI04:50 – What the top-performing 20% of companies do differently05:10 – The four key behaviours driving success07:00 – Flexibility: adapting quickly to market feedback08:10 – Incremental and targeted delivery — the “golden thread” principle10:30 – Data-led decision-making versus the HIPPO effect11:45 – Cross-functional collaboration and robust adoption13:10 – Behavioural factors that make or break AI adoption14:20 – Inside IBM's “value orchestration” framework15:10 – The Golden Thread in practice — a sticky-note story from Dallas17:10 – Transparency and traceability in product development18:00 – How IBM helps teams that aren't seeing value from AI21:00 – The paradox of moving too fast or too slow with AI24:00 – Making the Golden Thread a living document25:20 – Inside IBM Garage: speed of a startup, scale of an enterprise27:40 – Why productivity savings, not hype, drive AI ROI29:00 – How large organisations structure innovation teams30:00 – The future: 800 million new products by 202631:00 – Why 95% will fail — and what the 5% will get right33:10 – Final reflections: value, purpose and the human elementFeatured Links: Follow Matthew on LinkedIn | IBM Garage | Industry Conference Cleveland 2025 recap at Mind The ProductWe want to hear from you! Help make The Product Experience podcast even better. Share your feedback in a quick form: Share your thoughts here! It takes 2 minutes, and your input will help shape future episodes.

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Is Human Design a shortcut to finding your purpose and becoming your authentic self? Josh Trent welcomes Emma Dunwoody, Human Design Expert, to the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast, episode 776, to reveal how Human Design helps you break free from conditioning, trust your intuition, reconnect with the subtle energy guiding your purpose, and empower you to live in full alignment with who God designed you to be. Join The Decode Your Design Masterclass You don't need another strategy or another plan: you need the truth, a breakthrough, a moment where it all clicks, and you finally understand why success has felt so hard. And that breakthrough you've been looking for? It's not outside of you. It's in your Human Design. This masterclass will shift you from burnout to alignment, from doubt to deep self-trust, and from strategy addiction to inner authority, in under 90 minutes. Because when you stop fighting against who you are and start working with your design, everything changes. Join Emma's Masterclass Today + Get 20% off with Code "JOSH20" In This Episode, Emma Dunwoody Uncovers: [01:10] Use Human Design to Become More Authentic Why Human Design serves as a permission slip to be ourselves. How Human Design bypasses the mind that tells us who we think we are. The role of neutrinos in imprinting ourselves in the moment. Why Emma used to be skeptical of Human Design. How Human Design was invented. Resources: Emma Dunwoody Human Design Made Simple by Emma Dunwoody Decode Your Design Masterclass - 20% off with Code "JOSH20" [07:50] How to Integrate What You've Learned Why transformation is not easy. How Emma's healing her childhood trauma with the help of Human Design. Why we need to integrate the information we learn about ourselves in order to transform our lives. [12:35] How to Find Your Purpose How a chart has more than 2 billion expressions. Why we don't have to change anything based on our chart reading. How Emma's son's energy helped her improve her mental health. Why our purpose is to be ourselves. [17:20] Human Design + Plant Medicine How Josh and Emma's Human Design revealed their design is to go through difficult challenges. Why manifesting generators can be seen as too much by others. What is a personal Human Design profile. The gift of gate 64. [26:10] What's Blocking Your Transformation Why only our ego can stop our transformation. How Human Design and Gene Keys show us our shadows. Why Emma never wanted to stick to one career path. How we can turn our shadows into indicators. [30:20] Learn to Listen to The Subtle Energies Why we're meant to become our own guide. How it's become very difficult to differentiate between right and wrong. Why some people are not designed to make quick decisions. How we're disconnected from the subtle energies and signals of our bodies. Why Emma can't use muscle testing on herself. [37:20] How to Trust Yourself Why we need to rise above the male and female archetypes. How Human Design taught Emma to trust herself. Why she didn't realize she was talking to God until she was in her 30s. How she struggled to find one thing to focus on. [41:40] The 5 Human Design Archetypes How we only need to understand the surface information about ourselves. Why manifestors are not designed to finish what they've started. How generators are here to build a new world. The role of manifesting generators. Why projectors are the guides that make others better. How only 1% of the population is reflectors. [49:30] The Purpose of Human Design Where the Human Design truly came from. How we're entering the gate of intimacy and abundance. Why the purpose and meaning of intimacy have been changing. How Human Design can help us evolve. [53:20] Heal Your Trauma with Human Design The issue with genetic determinism. How each Gene Key is associated with a part of the body, which is translated as "gates" in Human Design. What it was like for Emma to grow up with parents who were alcoholic and anorectic. How Human Design can help us start healing our trauma. The difference between Gene Keys and Human Design gates. Why Emma used to live in the masculine role. [01:01:50] Human Design Helps Raise Empowered Children The importance of raising our children according to their Human Design. How we're conditioned and taught to change ourselves. Why we're too attached to right and wrong. [01:07:00] Evolution of Humanity Why Emma's mission is to make Human Design mainstream. How we're moving from thinking doers to feeling be-ers. Why getting into our body is the most important thing we can do right now. How indigenous Australians pass down their knowledge through stories. What Emma does to empower her son. [01:13:50] Alignment Creates Flow Why projectors can have a bad reputation. How successful people are in alignment with who they truly are. What helped Emma to finish writing her book. How the process of writing and publishing her book was in alignment with her design. Leave Wellness + Wisdom a Review on Apple Podcasts All Resources From This Episode Emma Dunwoody Human Design Made Simple by Emma Dunwoody Decode Your Design Masterclass - 20% off with Code "JOSH20" Power Quotes From Emma Dunwoody "Human design bypasses the mind. It goes straight to the energetic blueprint that's coded in your DNA. This energetic blueprint happened at your birth, as subatomic particles moved through your body and imprinted your DNA. It's the map that's going to lead you back to the most authentic version of you." — Emma Dunwoody "We think we know who we're meant to be and what we're meant to do and we really don't. We can't see that big picture. When you start living more in alignment with your Human Design, you learn to tap into the body, and you're constantly told in every moment what is right for you and what isn't." — Emma Dunwoody "Our purpose is bigger than the job that we do. Our purpose is our energy. Our greatest purpose is just to be our most authentic self, because then we are fulfilling the puzzle piece we need to fulfill to move to this new world." — Emma Dunwoody

Join the Own Your Power Series - October 25th, 2025   Connect with Leanne on Social Media:   Instagram: www.instagram.com/awakeningwomenofficial/  Facebook: www.facebook.com/awakeningwomenofficial/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/theevolvedfeminine and https://www.youtube.com/@awakeningwomenofficial Website: leanneoaten.com    Leanne Oaten is a former Registered Professional Counsellor with a background in Counselling Psychology and has over 13 years of experience counselling and coaching women. This podcast is for high-achieving CEO, entrepreneurial women who refuse to settle in a life that looks successful on the outside but feels empty on the inside. If you're juggling business, career, family, and a relationship that doesn't light you up while secretly craving more freedom, more abundance, and more joy - this is the podcast for you. I help women reclaim their power, build unshakable self-trust, and create the kind of life they no longer want to escape from. We're not here to hustle harder or burn it all down, we're reinventing ourselves and our lives from power. We're no longer focused on changing men, or fixing ourselves for men,  we are building for ourselves so that we never settle again. We're here to make power moves with ease, and feminine energy that attracts everything you want without losing yourself in the process. So if you're ready to stop waiting for him to change, stop negotiating your worth, and start embodying the woman you want to be, welcome home. Let's dive in.  

Hey There Lovely BookshelversToday we are thrilled to be joined by the amazing Becki Gude. Becki is a not only a full PACT Member but also a good friend of ours. Becki is affiliated with several outstanding training organisations and charities and specialises in training and assessing assistance dogs for people with various disabilities. Becki also serves on the board of Trustees for the Assistance Dog Assessment Association (ADAA). In this conversation we get an insight into the world of owner trained assistance dogs and what part the ADAA can play in setting standards and giving people the peace of mind that, not only is their dogs welfare covered, but they can perform the tasks needed to help mitigate disabilities in the real world. We also get to talk about Becki's love for day care and wonderful appearance on the telebox for Alan Titchmarsh's Underdog to Superdog. A fascinating conversation that had both Steve and Corrin riveted throughout... We know you're going to love it, feel inspired and know more about this fascinating world. Links:The Assistance Dog Assessment Association (ADAA)Becki's WebsiteBecki's Daycare Page (where if you scroll down to the bottom you'll find the painting party video we discussed)Becki's blog on DaycareWhere to watch Underdog to Superdog

A former Speaker of the House is confident attempts to tighten parliamentary standards will be successful. Current speaker Gerry Brownlee's cracking down on behaviour following what he sees as multiple disruptive incidents. The latest saw Te Pati Māori MP Oriini Kaipara's maiden speech go well over time. David Carter told Mike Hosking Brownlee will definitely get the majority support from Parliament to do this. Carter says Brownlee just needs to show the will to enforce stricter standards. LISTEN ABOVE See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

'They've started to have the attitude women should go back to the kitchen and shouldn't work.' That from a 13 year old student who says she left school due to a rise in misogynistic and extremist behaviour by some boys in her class. Checkpoint recently spoke to the author of a report about the concerning rise of this sort of toxic masculinity in schools. Since then we've been contacted by teachers and students who've told us first-hand what it's actually like to fall victim to it. A warning, some of the details in Louise Ternouth's report are confronting.

Episode 104 – Why Behaviour and Pain are Intertwined   I had an incredible time at the WSAVA Congress in Rio and one of the things that I really took away as a musing from the Congress is the question as to whether or how we can differentiate pain from emotional states such as anxiety. We know that pain has an emotional component – often fear or anxiety – so do we therefore need to be more comprehensive in treating our painful patients by treating both pain and anxiety?   I'm not sure we have all the answers yet and we definitely don't have any research looking at this, however, my suspicion is that we probably should be treating both!   In this episode I give you my 3 top explanations of why pain and emotional state are so interwoven and intertwined and how I think about treating my Behaviour Patients that are also in pain!   If you'd like to learn more about the medications that can treat both pain and emotional state, then have a look at my AMAZING PSYCHOACTIVE course: https://katrin-jahn.mykajabi.com/psychoactive   And if you'd like some help or input on a Behaviour Patient that is also painful then you can book a 30-minute Vet-Vet or Vet-Pet Care Professional Consultation with me right here: https://calendly.com/trinityvet/teams-and-professionals If you can't find an appointment time to suit you, please email us at info@trinityvetbehaviour.com to find a time that suits us both!   If you liked this episode of the show, Veterinary Behaviour Chat, please LEAVE A 5-STAR REVIEW, like, share, and subscribe!   Facebook Group: Join The Veterinary Behaviour Community on Facebook   You can CONNECT with me: Website: Visit my website Trinity Veterinary Behaviour Instagram: Follow Trinity Veterinary Behaviour on Instagram Trinity Veterinary Behaviour Facebook: Join us on Trinity Veterinary Behaviour's Facebook page Trinity Veterinary Behaviour YouTube: Subscribe to Trinity Veterinary Behaviour on YouTube LinkedIn Profile: Connect with me on LinkedIn   Thank you for tuning in!

I've heard leaders at all levels say something like, “Marty, I have a staff member who's a high performer, but their behaviour is just awful!”If you relate to this, then in all likelihood you're not actually dealing with a high performer: what you have, is a talented jerk!If that talented jerk is in a leadership role, you should err on the side of intolerance, rather than allowing their bad attitude to permeate through the team.If you want to go deeper on how to lead these difficult personalities, have a listen to Ep.240: The Talented Jerk.————————FREE QUIZ: I've developed a 3-question quiz that'll give you a free personalised podcast playlist tailored to where you are right now in your leadership career!Click here to take the 30-second quiz now to get your on-the-go playlist————————You can connect with me at:Website: https://www.yourceomentor.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourceomentorInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourceomentorLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/martin-moore-075b001/————————Our mission here at Your CEO Mentor is to improve the quality of leaders, globally.

Whether you’re a ‘new year new me’ aficionado, a 5-year planner, or get sweaty at the thought of setting goals, this episode is for you.

Paris Fashion Week drew an especially impressive celebrity crowd this year, but what happened outside the shows was more exciting than what was shown on the runway. From Anne Hathaway's best friend's reveal to Charlize Theron allegedly snubbing Johnny Depp and Meghan Markle’s headline-making entrances and behaviour, here’s a recap of everything you need to know.And Sean "Diddy" Combs has been sentenced to more than four years in prison after being convicted on prostitution-related charges involving his two ex-girlfriends. Now his famous ex-girlfriend has made a chilling public statement about her safety.Plus, the Kardashians have been lying low lately, but it’s all part of their master plan when it comes to launching the upcoming season of their reality show. From a lawsuit involving Kim’s infamous sex tape (and an alleged hit put out on her life) to a family feud they’ve been keeping out of the headlines, here’s everything they didn’t want you to know. LISTENEvery Hidden Detail, Scandal, And Love Story From Taylor Swift's New AlbumREADCheck out the resignation letter Laura wrote for Kylie Jenner here. THE END BITS Our new podcast Watch Party is out now, listen on Apple or Spotify. Support independent women's media Follow us on TikTok, Instagram and Facebook. And subscribe to our brand new Youtube channel. Read all the latest entertainment news on Mamamia... here. Discover more Mamamia Podcasts here. Do you have feedback or a topic you want us to discuss on The Spill? Send us a voice message, or send us an email thespill@mamamia.com.au and we'll come back to you ASAP! CREDITS Hosts: Laura Brodnik and Ksenija Lukich Executive Producer: Monisha Iswaran Audio Producer: Scott StronachBecome a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

NBC and Golf Channel Commentator Steve Sands on the behaviour from American fans, if Bradley should have any regrets, and if Woods will captain the Americans in ‘27.