The Relationship Minute

Trusting that things will unfold as they should is a tall order and a necessary life skill.

Perception is your reality, but the person you're in conflict with has their perception too.

There are preemptive steps you can take to avoid having to feel nagged.

Exploring the difference between agreement and congruence.

What can you do to bring out the best in your partner?

How we greet our partners can mirror how we get greeted.

Being absorbed in our thoughts can give the saboteur within permission to reinforce false beliefs we may hold about ourselves.

At the end of the day are you depleted to the point where you have little left to share with those you love?

Often we outgrow life's problems by dropping into a new way of being.

Where are your defenses getting in the way of you creating the kind of relationship you want?

In the first part I look at what your defenses may be.

We need friends who we can discuss our relationship with. A good friend will be objective and not be judgmental of your partner.

Understanding the conditions under which you and your partner can enjoy clear communication.

Times of adversity in your life are great opportunities to reveal your true character.

We need to resist the temptation to judge others for the work we believe they need to do. Instead, we must remain focused on our own work.

In a world of billions of people, there are thousands of people for you.

An apology combined with a change in behavior will deepen your relationship

We all need help on life's journey. Who can you reach out to and ask for help?

How respecting privacy will allow us to be more open in relationship.

We have different "styles" of decision-making. It's helpful to understand your decision-making style as well as that or your partner's.

The choice to move away from something difficult or painful will yield very different results than the choice to move to something positive.

By knowing yourself, you can be clear about what your boundaries are.

Sorting out wants from needs.

Is your life slippy away through the time you spend on social media?

In this frantic world it's human nature to be consumed with regretting the past or worrying about the future. It takes intention to be here now.

Are you sacrificing your own self-worth in order to be liked by others?

Guilt can give us clues about how we may want to live our lives differently going forward.

Trusting the process of living.

Are you always wanting more in your life. If you were to take stock of what's going well in your life, would you still feel that you're missing out?

A simple concept that often not easy to execute on. Here I give you another perspective that will get you in motion.

Are you focused on what you get from your relationship, or do you consider what you bring to your relationship?

Falling in and out of love with a person's behavior.

Do you avoid relationships to protect your feelings?

Nothing good comes from bad actions or thinking styles.

What are you missing, mis-hearing, mis-taking, mis-representing, mis-understanding in your relationship?

Do we actually get the ball rolling in terms of what we end up resenting?

In our modern world, seeking balance is laudable but illusive. A better approach is to stay in the moment, pay attention and act on the feedback life is giving us.

One way to win the trust of others is by keeping your word.

The changes you've been waiting for in others may actually lie with changes you need to make.

Confronted with choices can often get us stuck. Here I talk about the importance to move through the decision making process as difficult as it can be.

In a supportive relationship we often bring out the best in the person we're in relationship with. In our relationship with ourselves, that isn't always true. In fact, often the opposite is true. Here are some tips in being more supportive of yourself.

We often get wrapped up in expectations around changes in our partner's behavior. Much more effective to focus on what you can change in your own behavior.

How to share your discoveries around personal and relationship growth with your male partner.

We move on and grow only when we take ownership of our own happiness and pain.

Writing can bring back your objectivity. With that, you're both better equipped to talk constructively.

How self-compassion is an important prerequisite in how you treat the others you care about.

Waiting for the perfect time to act, could end up taking an eternity.

As with most natural processes, relationships have a life cycle.

What cost are you incurring in keeping the peace in your relationship?

Giving the gifts of greatest value.

Life's pain and pleasure is found in the small details.