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In this episode, Lesley breaks down self-love beyond surface-level self-care and explains why it's foundational to confidence, boundaries, resilience, and healthy relationships. She explores why self-love is often misunderstood, why it can feel so hard to practice, and how societal expectations shape the way women treat themselves. This conversation sets the foundation for a two-part series, with practical tools and practices coming in the next episode. If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co mailto:beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/#follow-subscribe-free.In this episode you will learn about:What self-love actually means beyond self-care and affirmations.How self-love differs from narcissism and self-interest.The importance of self-love in building confidence and resilience.How self-love strengthens confidence through self-commitment.The impact of societal pressure and past experiences on self-love.Episode References/Links:Episode 153: Tanya Dalton - https://beitpod.com/ep153Learning To Love Yourself by Gay Hendricks - https://a.co/d/9r14YqcEpisode 628: Frances Naudé - https://beitpod.com/ep628Episode 610: Amy Ledin - https://beitpod.com/ep610What Happened to You? by Oprah Winfrey & Bruce D. 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What I interpret that as we can't be it till we see it and just sort of like ourselves, like what I don't want you to do is not have that self-love that's like true self-love. Lesley Logan 0:20  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.  Lesley Logan 1:03  Hey, Be It babe, how are you? Oh my gosh. Okay, so we're doing a two episode series on self-love and a two episode series on burnout, and these kind of came out of doing this series on the habits. And, you know, we've had so many amazing guests on the pod, and it made me think of like they talk about how you have to love yourself, like, I can't even tell you how I probably should have looked it up. How many episodes we have had guests tell us, like, love yourself. Like, you have to have, like, love for yourself. And, like, it got me thinking, like, you know? And you're like, yeah, yeah. Like, you think you know what that means. And then you're like, wait, what does it mean? Like, what? What is self-love, you know? And is it important? And what if we don't do it? And how is it different than burnout, and how is it different than a habit, and how is it different than, like, all these other things. And so I kind of wanted to do just like, a whole episode on, like, what is self-love? Why do we struggle with it? Why do we need it? It's important, right? So we're going to just like, kind of dive in. And if you think I know it already, sure, you can skip this episode and go the next one, which is going to be the tools and the tips and the tricks and the mantras, but I hope we can have, like, a conversation. I mean, obviously you're not here, but like, you can talk in the car together, of like, what, what does this mean? And maybe you have different interpretations, right? Also, in the next episode, I'll share some of the ones that you guys have sent about that with here. I think you guys sent some for self-love and some that kind of go with burnout. And so I'm excited about it. Lesley Logan 2:20  Okay, so first of all, here is the dry like what the professionals psychology, things like that have to say. Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that involves prioritizing your physical, psychological and spiritual wellbeing with the same kindness and compassion you would offer a loved one, I would also say you'd offer anyone, because I see a lot of people offer strangers more of these things than they do themselves. It includes accepting yourself blahs and all setting healthy boundaries, practicing self-care and treating yourself with respect. This is not the same as narcissism, which involves excessive self-interest, but rather a fundamental regard of your own happiness and worth. And I think, like, if we could just, like, leave that right there. You know, like, there's so many things in that it's like, oh, that's what self, like, it's not the same as like, I mean, yes, there are some tools I'll share that like, about loving yourself, like I love myself, but like, actually, these are the ways you can be in self-love. You can be prioritizing your physical, psychological, spiritual well being with the same kindness and passion you would offer a loved one. Another way of saying this that I found on the line was be the adult you always needed to yourself. Tell yourself the words the younger version of you always needed to hear. And that might mean you have to go learn about, like, reparenting right there. And that would be like a therapist, right? So hopefully, like, if any of these things spark your interest, like you are working with a professional therapist of some kind in that way, but like, especially if it involves, like, the reparenting of yourself, and I think a lot of us have to go through that. And by the way, I know a lot of moms are listening, and including mine, like, it's not that you didn't do a great job. You did the best you could, some people, right? And also, there's still things that happen in our lives outside of what our parents did or didn't do that, like are part of what we brought up to ourselves as an adult. And there's stories that we tell ourselves, and those all affect how we treat ourselves, psychologically, physically, spiritually, right? Okay, so just to make sure we are saying things in the same way, same thing in different ways, so that if you have a different way of viewing these words, you get an education around self-love today, here's another thing. So this means self-love can include self-acceptance, so recognizing accepting both your strengths and your weakness without harsh self-criticism. And I think this is the hardest for me, so I'll just give anecdotes to each of these, because I think that at least I like that when people do it. So I think it's easy for us to accept the good parts about ourselves, but then we're really harsh about the not so great parts, and again, not that you like don't try to better what those are. But I think a lot of people who are attracted to the show because I do the same thing, like, we like attract alike is we are then constantly trying to better the things that we don't like about ourselves. Great. Do that, and also don't be harsh, right? There's a difference between a harsh self-criticism and an awareness of things that could be better, but still loving yourself despite of or in spite of that, right? Self-compassion. Self-love is self-compassion. Treating yourself with kindness, especially during difficult times. I definitely struggle with compassion for myself when I kind of do the thing I know I shouldn't have done at the time, and then, you know, you're like, I shouldn't procrastinate right now, and then you do and then, like, everything blows up in your face. I will go into a harsh criticism. I will have a lack of self-compassion. All of that affects the self-love. And when you don't love yourself, it makes it really difficult for you to show up as the highest version of yourself, that's for sure. And it also it makes it really hard for us to accept love and support from others. It's almost hard for us to receive compassion for other people, because we're not giving it to ourselves, and so we don't even recognize compassion when it comes from someone else, right? Self-care is self-love. Actively taking care of your physical, emotional, mental health through actions like eating well, exercising, gain enough rest, and engage in activities you enjoy. And by the way, when it's when I say, whenever you hear me say, eating well or healthy, I think you need to understand like fueling yourself appropriately, right? What allows you to have the best sleep of your life? What allows you to do the movement practice you like, what allows you to do the life you want to live? So there's no such thing as good or bad food or good or bad bodies, right? So, but what are the things that make you feel well? Are you eating foods that you know are going to make you feel like crap? For example, I love Kettle Corn. I really love Kettle Corn, and I can have a handful of Kettle Corn, no problem. But I can't stop with a handful of Kettle Corn most of the time. And so when I am kind of oftentimes being a little too in my head, being a little hard on myself, like having a stressful day, of course, I had to have more Kettle Corn, because why not just really make the already hard day I'm having even harder. And when I have half a bag of Kettle Corn, I feel like my stomach hurts. I have like my skin crawls, and I have the worst night's sleep, right? Well, in doing that, I am not giving myself the self-care that I need, because I'm now affecting tonight's sleep, which means I am not loving myself for the whole day and night, which is going to affect tomorrow, right? So getting enough rest is self-care. That is self-love. And I get really I in researching this, I was really excited, because I find myself, when I lead my retreats, or I lead some of these workshops that I do, like talking to people about, like, why it's so important that they go for a walk in the morning, if that's what they want to do, they want to walk in the morning. Why is it so important? Why is it so important they do Pilates? Because doing activities that help you sleep well, move well, be pain free, are all an act of self-love, and every time I see people not doing it in modernist oftentimes for others, what I'm seeing in the room is like a lack of self-love, and it's limiting how much you can love others. I'm just gonna say it, right? Lesley Logan 8:22  Okay. Boundary setting. So knowing your limits and saying no when necessary to protect your well being like setting boundaries and upholding those boundaries is self-love. We had a great episode about boundaries with Tanya Dalton. I still really love and recommend that episode. It's so, so good. And what I will say is I know that I come across as someone who is like the strictest of boundaries. I'm gonna tell you right now, I still feel bad when I have to uphold those boundaries, but I know I have to uphold the boundaries because I love myself so much. I know I cannot. I cannot go beyond my limits and still be the person I need to be tomorrow for all the people, right? I will let more people down tomorrow if I let go of my boundaries today, right? All right. Self-respect is self-love. Hvonoring your needs and not sacrificing your well being to please others. Self-respect is self-love. And I I think like we can all nod along and then go, ooh, am I respecting myself? And I will say, the older I get, the easier self-respect is for me to do. The younger I was, the harder it was, right? Because there's like, things that you're like, trying to prove, and you don't want to be liked, and there's all these different things. And so I would just say, like, you know, please explore self-respect with yourself, because if you don't have that, that's like your boundary setting, your self-care, your compassion, your acceptance, I think, is all going to fall under, like the actions you take to respect yourself and then positive self-talk, but consciously replacing negative self-talk with more positive and supportive affirmations. And by the way, if you listen to habit series, it's really hard to do. It's really hard to replace the negative self-talk with positive words, because you have to first, then be aware of the negative self-talk, and you have to, like, get quicker at catching it. So it might take you a whole day right now to catch yourself being an ass to yourself. And then as you are like, okay, I want to have a better, positive self-talk, self-respect, self-compassion, self-care. So that's acceptance, blah, blah, blah. So then maybe you take some of the tools that we're doing, and all of a sudden you realize, whoa, I caught myself talking negatively to myself in half a day. Well, most people are gonna get mad at themselves it took half a day. What you have to do is actually celebrate that it only took half a day, and it can get better. Then it's gonna take you three hours, and then it's gonna take you an hour, and this can take you 30 minutes, and take you three minutes, and it's gonna take you three seconds, that can take years. So give yourself the space and grace and have some positive self-talk and find ways to replace negative things, or maybe tell a friend, like, if you hear me talking about it myself, I need you to do something. Lesley Logan 10:43  In Cambodia, we have a lot of girls who are apologizing all the time. So as soon as anyone said, I'm sorry, we'd also scream, not helpful, not helpful. You know, and it was, it became something we laughed about. It was so funny, we actually realized, like, wow, a lot of times when I'm saying I'm sorry, I really mean, excuse me, right? And that's a better way to replace it. Okay, so why does this matter? Like, why is it important to have any self-love? So what the therapists and psychologists and brain people are saying is, it is a foundation for a happy and fulfilled life, right?Lesley Logan 11:14  So what I interpret that is we can't be it till we see it and just sort of like ourselves. Like, what I don't want you to do is not have that self-love, that's like true self-love, and then envision a woman who you think is going to be the thing you should be being it until you see and you go and be it till you see it, but she also doesn't love herself. Like, that'd mean you get all the destination, and you didn't, you didn't make sure it was like, you know what I mean? Like you just become more of something else, but you're not in love with yourself along the way. And so I definitely want to make sure that as you be it till you see it, part of that is loving yourself like how and maybe that's your work this year is like, I'm gonna be it till I see it in self-love, right? Maybe it's not just like a whole person. Maybe it's an area. Lesley Logan 11:57  Self-love increases self-confidence, self-worth and resilience. And I was like, oh, that's so of course, like, yes, I believe that confidence comes from keeping the commitments you said you would to yourself, okay? It's very easy for a lot of you to keep commitments to other people. So I was very specific, keeping the commitments to yourself that you said you would. That is where self-confidence comes from. But to do that, you have to have all these different areas of self-compassion, self-care, self-love, boundaries, right, self-respect. So when you have self-love, it increases your self-confidence, your self-worth and resilience. And I was like, yes, oh my gosh, that is such an easier way of getting towards having self-confidence, right? It's loving yourself. It leads to healthy relationships with others. You know, we often attract people who mirror a lot about how we feel about ourselves. And like, oh my God, isn't it so embarrassing to, like, look back at the boyfriends you have when you're younger? You're like, what were you thinking? But also, if you think about, like, wow, that's the amount of love I was willing to give myself from myself. So of course, that's what I was willing to accept from somebody else you know. And so if you are in some ways trying to be it till you see it in having a loving, wonderful relationship, I would definitely do some inventory and some self-reflection around what is going on with your self-love. And then another thing of why it's so important is a lack of self-love can contribute to feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, depression and burnout. We're gonna have a series on burnout. So of course, this is going to have an overlap with that.Lesley Logan 13:23  But, you know, I have always said, like, burnout happens when, in the Pilates industry, it happens a lot when people are under-charging and over, you know, working and, yeah, they did that because they have a lack of self-love. Because if you had self-love, you would be charging your worth and keeping your boundaries. Right? Like, a lack of self-love can contribute to feeling of inadequacy. And so like, with all the people with self, imposter syndrome, and I know there's people saying imposter syndrome is, like, made up, but also, like, sure, maybe it is. And also, there's a ton of people who feel inadequate, have anxiety, which is basically fear, okay? Gay Hendricks, in his book says anxiety and fear are the same thing. And depression, well, of course, I mean, I think you can love yourself and still have a low day, so I'm not going to say you won't ever be depressed, but it is going to contribute to those feelings. And so I do wonder, like, if the more we have some self-respect, self-compassion, have positive self-talk, how that is going to improve our feelings of around us, like, does it actually mean that your imposter syndrome just becomes less and less and maybe you only feel it when you're brand new at something? I believe that's it. That's why self I think self-love is even more important than I thought when we started doing the series. Like, I was like, oh yeah, of course, we have to have self-love. Let's figure out how to help people do that. And then I'm like, oh my God, this is so the most important fucking thing we can all be doing. Lesley Logan 14:41  Okay. So what can self-love look like? So some of this stuff is going to sound redundant, but again, I'm saying it all because I think we need to hear the same things in different ways. So some of you might be like, oh, got it. I gotta work on my boundaries. I gotta work on my self-talk. Gone, done. You don't need any more. And some of us are like, okay, I need all these things. But what does it look like? And this is where I am always like, okay, tell me the how. I got it. I'm in. I love it all. I co-sign. Tell me how, right. I'm a how girl. So what does self-love mean to you, and what does it look like? So it can mean talking to and about yourself with love. So, like, one of the things you could do is like, notice this week how you talk about yourself. Are you talking about all the things you messed up when you tell a friend about how the day went? Are you talking about how you, like, did something really amazing, right? Talking to and about yourself with love. I walk around this house and I like, do different things, like, oh my God, wow, I just connected that to that I'm so amazing. Like, I get really pleased with myself when, like, I had to move my Reformer the other day without Brad and I took the carriage out, stood inside the frame, squatted down, like I was doing a little like deadlift, and then, like, move the frame and put the thing out. I'm like, so strong. I'm so glad I could be independent. Like that, that is an act of self love, that kind of talk, right? So you, these are, like, there's little things you can do that in every single day, little ways you can do that in every single day. Lesley Logan 16:01  Prioritizing yourself. That self-love looks like prioritizing yourself. Self-love looks like giving yourself a break from self-judgment. So maybe you start to notice you're judging yourself, and you're like, I gotta replace it with positive words. What if you just didn't? What if you just stopped just to go, okay, I'm gonna set a timer for 15 minutes and go do something else, think of something else, like, take a break from the judgment. Okay, maybe it means getting rid of mirrors for a bit. Or, you know, things like, if that, where in your life are you actually judging yourself the most? How can you like? Is there a way you can take a pause from that project? Is there a way that you can set yourself up for success? You're actually like, get like, you can actually give yourself a break from the self-judgment. Self-love can look like trusting yourself, trusting yourself. I think a lot of us get really excited about a decision we make, and then we ask other people how they feel about that, and then we change our decision based on others. And look, I change my decisions a lot based on input from others when I'm like working on a project with the team, whatever. But like, that's not what I'm talking about. Yes, if someone gives you better information, you should bring that in and but also, if you know that you need to sleep for seven hours, and other people are like, oh, I can't believe you only need to sleep for seven hours, trusting yourself is way better than going, hmm, I guess I'm wrong. Maybe. I mean, they said I should sleep for eight hours. If you know, what is it you need. Gotta trust yourself, right? Like, that's some of the best things you can do. I found, like, you know, Brad and I've been like, advocating for our health a lot lately. And one of the things I've noticed that when I talk to my doctors in a way that has I'm advocating myself. I have the paperwork to say, like, when I sleep this many hours a night, I feel like X, Y and Z in the morning. And when I sleep for this many hours a night, I feel like this. And when I do blah, blah, blah, I feel like this. When I do this, when I talk like that, they don't doubt me. They actually go, okay, so what I'm hearing is blank, and what that sounds like is when you do X, Y and Z. So because I'm trusting myself, I'm not going, you know, I mean, when I sleep this many hours, I feel the best when I sleep this many hours, I don't like, I'm not doubting myself, I'm trusting myself. And then, therefore, my doctor and I can work as a team together. And so what I'm saying is, like, oftentimes we don't give off that we trust ourselves. And so other people feel like, Oh, you're asking a question you want me to put in. You want me to like, I'm going to give you some suggestions. And then that doesn't help with the trust, right? Self-love looks like being true to yourself, being true to yourself. And, you know, that goes, that goes hand in hand with one thing we're gonna talk about in a second. So I'll tell that's right when I get to that one. But I just want to say, like, being true to yourself. So if you don't, if you don't know how to be true to yourself, I really need you to take some time. Frances Naudé's episode is around the same one dropping, and she talks a lot about how, like, you have to live at your highest self. And she has some tips on like, how do you be true to yourself? How do you trust yourself? Being nice to yourself is a way to look at self-love. So if you have self-love, you are nice to yourself. You're wondering what self-love looks like, be nice to yourself. What do you if you know you need to get up and go get a glass of water, go do that. That is being nice to yourself, that is listening to yourself, is trusting yourself, right? I used to like, okay, so when I was teaching Pilates, I would go to the bathroom between every single client. Now that I work at a desk most of the time, I have found myself falling into that ADHD thing where I just keep working until like, oh my God, like, I finally have earned the right to go to the bathroom. And someone like voted me and going, ADHD, ladies, you don't need to earn the right to go to the bathroom. Just go to the bathroom. Being nice to yourself is going to the bathroom. It's just like getting up, hitting pause, and that is self-love. That is self-love. Okay, so do you see how, like, all of a sudden, self love becomes so much easier? Yes, some of these things are harder to do, break, taking a break from self-judgment, especially if you've been doing it for your whole life. But you can also just simply be nice to yourself, and that could kick off the self-love ball and domino. Lesley Logan 20:00  All right, setting healthy boundaries. So, at the be true to yourself. One of the things I know about me is I do need time alone. And we had my in-laws came to visit. Was so much fun, but also, like with them here, it meant that I didn't have a lot of time by myself, and so I didn't talk to any of my friends or other family members during that time, not because I didn't want to, but because I knew that I needed the times I could have alone, I needed them alone. Being true to myself was making sure I had time as an introvert to recharge and refuel, and it meant I needed to keep my boundaries up and not give in to oh my God, I feel so bad. I haven't talked to that person. Of course I feel bad. I'm still gonna feel bad, but also I'm not. I can't feel bad and tired and shitty. So loving myself, being true to myself, understanding like, yes, it is. I'm sure some people think it's weird and annoying. I need to have so much time by myself, but I need to do that so I can be there for others, and setting healthy boundaries around that is important. We also, then had a friend who needed to use our guest bedroom 48 hours later. And of course I wanted to help go, yeah, stay as long as you want. No, we just had too many in our, we had two people in our house for 10 days. We have people coming to our house next week. I can't do that, so here's what I can do. And do you want to know something? They're okay with it. They're totally fine with it. They didn't go, oh, what a bitch, like, what a bitch. No, because they, too, have healthy boundaries because they love themselves. So self-love is setting healthy boundaries and keeping them. Lesley Logan 21:24  Forgiving yourself when you aren't being true or nice to yourself. So I love that this is like at the end, because it's like, oh my God, I, like, by time you hear all this, you'd be like, well, here's all the different ways I didn't love myself today. So, forgive yourself, and that is an act of self-love for you today, and you'll just do better the next time, right? So, and I think that this is a really good, like, maybe thing to write down or think about it, just remember that self-love isn't just about loving the easy parts of ourselves. It means loving every single part of ourselves. So even the inner critic, like, in fact, maybe the inner critic just needs to be loved a little bit, right? So, why is it so hard? Why is it so hard to love ourselves? I feel like, oh my God, it's actually just like Lesley just gave out so many different ways I could love myself and it should be so easy. Like, why is it so hard? So this is, well, the patriarchy, we're just gonna say. But seriously, women often struggle with self-love due to societal expectations to prioritize others. Perfectionism is another reason why we have a struggle with self-love and being bombarded with unrealistic beauty and life standards. So it is hard to love ourselves when every single time you look in the magazines and on TV and all this, you're being shown what the standard for beauty and being a wonderful woman is, and you feel like you aren't able to match and meet those so of course, it's hard. You won't. It's like, how you have to like, I mean, if the resiliency you have to have to like, see those people and go, I don't need to look like them, and I'm still amazing. That takes time. So if you are struggling with comparing yourself to what society says is what we're should be living up to, you are not alone. It takes a long time it and what I would say is, like, go back to the things that we did, and what is something easy you can do. Because as you start to build your self love muscle, becomes easier to not fall for the expectations of society, which, by the way, isn't going to be there for you, right? Even if you reach whatever they think the bar is, they're gonna move the bar anyways. So past negative experiences make it hard to love ourselves, right, such as criticism, trauma, feeling undervalued, these things can also deeply impact self-worth. Lesley Logan 23:22  So like, let's be real. Who, the stories that you got from people who were around you in your life at pivotal times, and the experiences you had, those things can affect you, especially if you had a family member or friend who told you you weren't beautiful, you weren't lovable, you weren't pretty. If you heard that and then something like, hey, I feel that, and I really do hope that you are not just doing self-reflection, but actively seeking someone who can help you, because you are so worthy of self-love, and as you've already learned, self-love is so important when it comes to all the other things you want to have in your life, it'd be really hard to have an amazing, wonderful partner who loves you if you don't love yourself, because it's gonna be hard for you to feel and believe that love is true. I'm not saying you can't attract it or that you don't have that. I'm saying like it's just going to be hard for you to believe that it's real and true. Right now I want you to have that, okay? Additionally, cultural conditioning can teach women to be quiet, put others first, and feel guilty for practicing self-care, making self-love seem selfish or out of reach. And I will say that this last part is really important to me. As a woman business owner who serves female mostly, and a few good men clients in our membership, it's online. Women will cancel the membership because of all the demands on them that they feel from others, and they have a hard time putting themselves first because they feel selfish or indulgent or that, you know, I just like, you know, I can't do all of it, so if that's why I do none of it, you know, or I'm only using five minutes at a time, so I should cancel this. The male members never do that. That's not why they quit. They quit because, like, oh, I'm taking three months off for. Surgery, that's when they quit. So I say that because, ladies, we have to take the perfectionism off the table. Love ourselves, be proud of the few minutes we do do and then prioritize those. It is essential. And if you didn't listen to the episode with Amy Ledin, the most recent one we had in December, go listen to that. She's a mom of five with cancer, and she's kicking ass, and she prioritizes her movement. And, you know, I'm not saying that you have to do everything like she does, but I want you to have an example of people can be busy, can have hard lives, and still can love themselves enough to put themselves first, right? Lesley Logan 25:35  All right. So the other things, obviously, we have societal, cultural pressures. So there's prioritizing others. Women are often socialized to be caregivers. Definitely have to be the caregivers. They're often because we are still paid less. They're often the ones that need to leave the workplace, if that's what's needed in a family, someone gets sick. We obviously know we have a lot of women who listen to the show, who are in the sandwich generation, and so it's really, it really does mean that you put other people first, and over time, that means maybe not loving yourself as much as you could be, and that is affecting other areas in your life and your belief in yourself and what you can do and what's possible. So I'm not saying don't take care of others. What I'm saying is you have to prioritize yourself first and then take care of others. Because truly, your ability to care for others isn't a Venn diagram of what you can actually do, and where I see a lot of people struggle with that, we'll talk more about it in burnout series when they give more, right? So love yourself enough. Prioritize yourself over others. Other reasons why it's really hard for us as women is unrealistic expectations. We talked about that with society, the standard of beauty, blah, blah, blah. Oh my God, the motherhood bull crap. Oh my, the Instagram on, on, you know, all this trad wife stuff like, if that's what you want, that's what you want, that's great. But ladies, you do not have to be that as a mom, you can be whatever you want, right? So what are these unrealistic expectations people are putting on us suck? So what are the expectations you want for yourself? I can be true to that. That's self-love, right? And then obviously society has this immense pressure for us to be perfect. The past experience, in personal history, in your childhood experience, so remember, that's the childhood experience you had. Those like early experience with caregivers and emotional neglect or inconsistent caregiving, that can lead to a belief that you're not inherently lovable, which makes it really hard to love yourself. So a great book to explore, this is, What Happened to You? I love this book is with Oprah and Dr. Bruce Perry, and I think it's a really great way to have empathy for yourself, but also empathy for others. So obviously, so many people experience trauma, especially as children, that can affect your ability to love yourself. There could have been a life event. You could have gone self-love all day long, and then a life event happened. And so one, be, have so much compassion for yourself. And then let's figure out where, where that happened, and what are these things that we talked about so far that could help you work on that self-love? Feeling undervalued. So you know, when we're underpaid or under supported, or we're not aware of our worth and demanding that because we don't have our boundaries up, we're gonna feel undervalued. That's going to affect our self-love, right? That's really hard. So, and then there's internalized beliefs, the shoulds the guilt or the need for external validation. So if you are someone who is needing external validation to love yourself, it is going to be hard, right? So we do have to figure out a way around that. That might be you have to do something within therapy to do that, because many women tie their worth to external achievements and validation they receive from others, rather than internal sense of self-acceptance. And so if you don't have an internal sense of self-acceptance. It's hard to have that self-compassion, and if you're always waiting for someone else to love you before you love yourself, it makes it really hard to receive that love, right? Lesley Logan 28:28  So okay, in the next episode, we're going to go around some tools for self-love. There's some great books that I want to give you. There's some mantras I want to give you, but what I'd love for you to do as your homework, as I would just love for you to like reflect upon this, maybe listen to it again. What were the things that stood out in the self-love that surprised you, or maybe good and you're like, oh, that's, that's where I'm struggling right now. I would love to know, I'd love for you to share it. You can share it via beitpod.com/questions. You can bring it as a you know, just share that. You can leave it in a review. You can comment on this video on YouTube or on our Instagram, because I would love to hear like what a part of self-love is easy for you, what part is a challenge for you. And by the way, my ADHD ladies, it is harder for us because internalized negative feedback. Women with ADHD may have a lifetime of being misunderstood or criticized for symptoms leading them to believe that they are inherently flawed, and so a lot of women with ADHD are diagnosed late, if at all, and so they're often like, there's like, oh my God, there's something wrong with me. I don't I don't fit in the way people do, and so they have a hard time with self-love. So hi, my ADHD ladies, this part, I wanted to make sure you knew it. It can be harder for us, right? Blaming oneself for failures like because there's a tendency to attribute failures to internal flaws and successes to luck, personal factors, which damages self-esteem, which makes it hard to have self-love. There's a hightened sensitivity to rejection. So women with ADHD are often more highly sensitive to feedback or rejection, leading them to interpret things more negatively. And personally, I see you, and that means it's harder to have self-compassion, right? So, and then also, women with ADHD, often go through a shame cycle. This sensitivity can lead to a cycle of shame and self-criticism, making it difficult to accept strengths or celebrate achievements, which is why we have a wins day. We win on Friday, like we have a wins day, win, W-I-N-S day on purpose, because I need that for me to keep having the self-love it because it's hard for me, like it's hard for me to go ever, like with the ADHD, with all that stuff, it's like, can be so hard to celebrate things until they're done. So I purposely have this in place so that there is a celebration of wins every single Friday for all of us, so that we can have, maybe we can get rid of that shame cycle just a little bit right, and have more ease and self-love. And then lastly, societal expectations. So on top of what we talked about, societal expectations on women in general, combined with undiagnosed or late diagnosed ADHD symptoms, can lead to feelings of measuring up and harsh self judgment. That harsh self-judgment, as we know, makes it hard to have self-love, self-compassion, kind words. Lesley Logan 30:55  You're all so amazing. I really hope that you guys are liking these little series. If there are other ones, you have topics you want us to bring up, or guest we want to bring in, please let us know. Right now, what part of the self-love comes easy for you, what part is hard, and then stay tuned to our next episode, where we'll go over some tools. Thanks so much until next time, Be It Till You See It. Lesley Logan 31:14  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. If you want to leave us a message or a question that we might read on another episode, you can text us at +1-310-905-5534 or send a DM on Instagram @BeItPod.Brad Crowell 31:57  It's written, filmed, and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan, and me, Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 32:02  It is transcribed, produced and edited by the epic team at Disenyo.co.Brad Crowell 32:06  Our theme music is by Ali at Apex Production Music and our branding by designer and artist, Gianfranco Cioffi.Lesley Logan 32:13  Special thanks to Melissa Solomon for creating our visuals.Brad Crowell 32:16  Also to Angelina Herico for adding all of our content to our website. And finally to Meridith Root for keeping us all on point and on time.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/be-it-till-you-see-it/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

If you're not happy, it means something is wrong ... right?  Dr. Loretta Breuning is a PhD researcher & author. Since becoming unconvinced by prevailing theories on human behavior, she has researched everything from monkeys to the mafia. Now she's not only helping people hack their brain, she's shedding light on how the altruistic outlook may be popular, but ultimately damaging. In this episode, she explains WHY we believe that if we are unhappy something is wrong, how simply “getting back to nature” can backfire, the problem with happiness studies & (this is important) how to start your own happiness plan. This episode originally aired March 7, 2024. If you like this episode, you'll also like episode 275: IS AMBITION ANTI-HAPPINESS? REASONABLE HAPPINESS & FETISHIZING WEALTH Guest:https://innermammalinstitute.org/https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-happy-brain/id1377502232 https://www.instagram.com/inner.mammal.inst/https://innermammalinstitute.org/course/  https://www.facebook.com/LorettaBreuningPhD https://twitter.com/lbreuning   Host:  https://www.meredithforreal.com/  https://www.instagram.com/meredithforreal/ meredith@meredithforreal.comhttps://www.youtube.com/meredithforreal  https://www.facebook.com/meredithforrealthecuriousintrovert  Sponsors: https://www.jordanharbinger.com/starterpacks/ https://www.historicpensacola.org/about-us/  02:05 — Rousseau's “nature is happy” legacy02:48 — Why academia spreads the meme03:36 — The medical model of unhappiness04:18 — Blaming society vs building skills07:24 — Hunter-gatherer reality check09:58 — Culture shapes how we report happiness10:32 — Why Americans hesitate to say “I'm happy”11:32 — Cortisol: when expectations miss13:42 — Childhood culture becomes adult politics14:06 — Status envy in academia15:10 — Moral superiority as serotonin15:48 — The “I did it the right way” trap16:38 — Everyone thinks they're the overlooked underdog18:06 — Popularity: the motivator no one admits19:02 — How biology gets politicized23:18 — Why therapy and religion sell unhappiness24:08 — The media and your happy chemicals25:02 — News as a brain-chemical cocktail31:04 — How not to throw the baby out with the bathwater34:08 — Reward yourself like animal training34:42 — Train your inner mammalRequest to join my private Facebook Group, MFR Curious Insiders https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1BAt3bpwJC/

H.W. Brands explains FDR declares a national emergency while Lindbergh's reputation collapses after a Des Moinesspeech blaming the British, Jews, and the Roosevelt administration for dragging America into war.

In this episode I host a dialogue between Buddhist teacher and doctor of Tibetan Medicine Dr Nida Chenagtsang and adult psychiatrist and family and systemic psychotherapist Dr Caroline Van Damme. Drs Nida and Caroline reflect on a half decade of collaboration in which they have explored the meeting of Western psychology and psychiatry with Tibetan medical and Buddhist models. They discuss the strengths and weaknesses of each others' systems, consider placebo as an explanatory mechanism for traditional health systems, question the benefits of an over-therapised culture, and contrast Tibetan and European approaches to knowledge. Drs Nida and Caroline also discuss the role of traditional ideas of spirit possession in today's clinical contexts, share anecdotes of exorcisms and psychosis, and offer their best insights and techniques to truly nurture the mind. … Link in bio. Also available on Youtube, iTunes, & Spotify – search ‘Guru Viking Podcast'. … Topics include: 00:00 - Intro 01:04 - How did their collaboration begin? 02:38 - Dr Nida's long standing interest in Western Psychology 06:38 - Meeting Dr Caroline 08:30 - Sowa Rigpa Counsellor Course 13:23 - The power of individualised therapy 16:14 - Reflections on Buddhist psychology and Sowa Rigpa 22:23 - Trauma and childhood conditioning 23:52 - Tibetan vs European ways of thinking 28:50 - Industrial revolution, scientism, and mind-body dualism 30:43 - Open-mindedness when working with psychotic patients 33:04 - Family therapy 36:57 - Weaknesses of Tibetan medicine 42:59 - Traditional medicine leans into placebo 45:46 - Do malevolent spirits cause psychological illnesses? 46:54 - African cultural ideas about spirits and black magic 47:40 - Do exorcisms cause further trauma? 53:12- Dr Nida reflects on the strengths of Western Psychology 57:05 - Too much digging for trauma 58:49 - European Garden vs Tibetan Forest 01:03:23 - Psychological illness from a spirit-influence perspective 01:05:04 - Exorcism rituals as a psychological tool 01:08:01 - Machig Labdron and the greatest evil spirit 01:08:40 - Using spirit-beliefs to encourage personal hygiene 01:09:23 - Exposure therapy 01:11:53 - A Canadian account of possession 01:14:32 - Dr Nida's African patients 01:15:33 - A ghost story case study 01:21:04 - Duty of care 01:23:00 - The importance of sleep 01:27:54 - Nurturing the mind 01:33:42 - Blaming parents 01:36:55 - Compassion vs positivity 01:39:30 - Attributing everything to childhood trauma 01:42:09 - “Nurturing the Mind” online course … To find out more about “Nurturing the Mind: A Dialogue between a Psychiatrist & a Yogi“, visit: - https://www.sowarigpainstitute.org/course/nurturing-the-mind … Previous episodes with Dr Nida Chenagtsang: - https://www.guruviking.com/search?q=nida Previous episodes with Dr Caroline van Damme: - https://www.guruviking.com/search?q=caroline … Music ‘Deva Dasi' by Steve James

Sarah Isgur and David French are hosted by the Rockefeller Center for Public Policy and Social Sciences at Dartmouth to discuss the United States at 250 and where the Supreme Court stands today.Pre-order Sarah's book: Last Branch Standing: A Potentially Surprising, Occasionally Witty Journey Inside Today's Supreme CourtThe Agenda:—The Swing Justice era of the court is the exception—Thank you Justice Kagan for free tampons—Legal societies: students vs. professors—Fringe theories and Unitary Executive Power—Trigger words for David French: "coequal branches of government"—Laws of war and Greenland—Process girl in an outcome world—Audience questions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Want to work directly with me to close more deals? Go Here: https://www.titaniumu.comWant the Closer's Formula sales process I've used to close 2,000+ deals (FREE) Go Here: https://www.kingclosersformula.com/closeIf you're new to my channel my name is RJ Bates III. Myself and my partner Cassi DeHaas are the founders of Titanium Investments.We are nationwide virtual wholesalers and on this channel we share EVERYTHING that we do inside our business. So if you're looking to close more deals - at higher assignments - anywhere in the country… You're in the right place.Who is Titanium Investments and What Have We Accomplished?Over 10 years in the real estate investing businessClosed deals in all 50 states​Owned rentals in 12 states​Flipped houses in 11 states​Closed on over 2,000 properties​125 contracts in 50 days (all live on YouTube)​Back to back Closers Olympics ChampionTrained thousands of wholesalers to close more deals_________________________________With over 2,000 Videos, this is the #1 channel on YouTube for all things Virtual Wholesaling. SUBSCRIBE NOW!    https://www.youtube.com/@RJBatesIII_________________________________RESOURCES FOR YOU:If you want my team and I to walk you through how to build or scale your virtual wholesaling business from A to Z, click here to learn more about Titanium University: https://www.titaniumu.com(FREE) If you want to learn how to close deals just like me, The King Closer, then download the free King Closer Formula PDF: https://www.kingclosersformula.com/close(FREE) Click here to grab our Titanium fleet free PDF & training: Our battle tested strategies and tools that we actually use… and are proven to work: https://www.kingclosersformula.com/fleetGrab the King Closer Blueprint: My Step by Step Sales Process for closing over 2,000 deals (Only $37): https://www.kingclosersformula.com/kcblueprintGrab Titanium Profits: Our exact system we use to comp and underwrite deals in only 4 minutes. (Only $99) https://www.kingclosersformula.com/titaniumprofitsSupport the show

Have you ever felt completely stuck trying to make a decision after betrayal — even when you're doing everything “right”? Stay or go. Try again or walk away. Trust your gut… or question it endlessly. After betrayal, even wise, thoughtful decisions can feel impossible to make. Not because you're broken — but because your nervous system is trying to keep you safe. In this episode of FLAUNT!, Lora Cheadle unpacks why decision-making feels so overwhelming after betrayal, how perfectionism and self-blame sneak in when outcomes don't match expectations, and why freeze is a trauma response — not a personal failure. Using a powerful personal story, relatable examples, and trauma-informed insight, Lora reframes what it really means to “choose wisely” and introduces discernment as the missing language betrayed women were never given. You didn't lose your ability to decide. Your system is responding intelligently to uncertainty.   Top 3 Takeaways Decision paralysis after betrayal is a nervous system response, not a flaw When expectations collapse, the brain looks for certainty. Freeze is a survival strategy — not proof you can't trust yourself. New information doesn't turn a wise decision into a mistake A decision made with care and discernment deserves respect, even if the outcome changes later. Self-trust isn't about being right — it's about staying with yourself Real self-trust means knowing you won't abandon yourself when things evolve, unravel, or feel uncertain.   Favorite Quotes “You didn't choose wrong. You exercised discernment — and the story kept unfolding.”   “Self-trust isn't about being right. It's about knowing you won't abandon yourself when things change.”   “New information doesn't retroactively make you wrong.”   “Blaming yourself isn't truth. It's an attempt to feel powerful again after uncertainty.”   About Lora Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign.   Resources & Links Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com Book your $97 Intro Session: https://introductorysession.com Learn more about Rise & Reign: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle   LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing.   Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future

Palliative care physician and certified physician development coach Christie Mulholland discusses her article "5 things health care must stop doing to improve physician well-being." Christie challenges the pervasive narrative that younger physicians lack work ethic and argues that their boundary-setting is a rational response to an untenable system. The conversation explores why well-being initiatives fail when they are treated as volunteer hobbies without budget or authority. Christie explains the double standard where new technology is an investment but physician wellness is expected to prove immediate financial return. She also critiques the rigid employment models that punish part-time work and warns against implementing new tools without considering the downstream impact on doctor workload. Learn how true cultural change requires shifting the focus from individual resilience to institutional accountability. Partner with me on the KevinMD platform. With over three million monthly readers and half a million social media followers, I give you direct access to the doctors and patients who matter most. Whether you need a sponsored article, email campaign, video interview, or a spot right here on the podcast, I offer the trusted space your brand deserves to be heard. Let's work together to tell your story. PARTNER WITH KEVINMD → https://kevinmd.com/influencer SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST → https://www.kevinmd.com/podcast RECOMMENDED BY KEVINMD → https://www.kevinmd.com/recommended

Migraines are a debilitating neurological condition affecting millions—and no one who has experienced one takes them lightly. In the United Kingdom alone, an estimated 10 million adults suffer from migraines, costing millions of lost workdays each year. So when headlines recently declared that scientists have pinpointed a reason migraines are on the rise, it sounded like an important public-health breakthrough. But there was a familiar twist. According to the popular press, the culprit is—of course—climate change. Rising temperatures, turbulent weather patterns, and even anxiety about climate change itself are now being blamed for an alleged migraine “epidemic.” But does the evidence actually support these claims? In this episode of Created to Reign, David R. Legates takes a closer look at what the studies really say, what they don't say, and how correlation is being dressed up as causation. From daily and seasonal migraine patterns to the role of stress, diagnosis, and media framing, this episode asks a simple question: are migraines increasing because of climate change—or because climate change has become the go-to explanation for everything?https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-15422347/Scientists-pinpoint-reason-people-getting-migraines.htmlhttps://www.nationalgeographic.com/health/article/migraines-climate-change-weather-heat-pressure https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9664747/https://link.springer.com/article/10.1186/s10194-021-01276-wVisit our podcast resource page: https://cornwallalliance.org/listen%20to%20our%20podcast%20created%20to%20reign/Our work is entirely supported by donations from people like you. If you benefit from our work and would like to partner with us, please visit www.cornwallalliance.org/donate.

In this talk, we share how blaming works at work. You'll learn the secret reason your manager really hired you and why you get blamed for things you can't fully control. CONQUER SHYNESS

Most fundraising events won't fail in 2026 because donors changed. They'll fall short because the experience didn't.In this “home team” conversation, we call out what organizations are still getting wrong—and what the best teams are already doing differently. From the death of the “hybrid event” as a livestream add-on, to why “simpler” events aren't a trend (they're a correction), this episode is a straight-up standard-setting breakdown of what excellent looks like next year.What Most Organizations Will Get Wrong in 20261) Thinking “hybrid” means “in-person + camera.”The crew makes the case that the COVID-era definition of hybrid is done. If you want a remote audience, you have to build a real, intentional experience for them—not tack on a tripod in the back of the room.2) Blaming donor behavior instead of clunky execution.Donors still want connection. They still want to give. What they won't tolerate anymore is friction—long check-in lines, confusing processes, and experiences that feel outdated compared to the convenience they get everywhere else.3) Treating “simpler events” like a trend.This isn't minimalist chic—it's reality. Too many revenue moments, too many “things,” too many asks… and guests hit a wall. Simplicity is the correction that improves the donor experience and makes it easier to execute well.4) Planning from the inside out.If you start with revenue goals and budget constraints, you'll design a functional event—not a memorable one. The teams that win in 2026 start the other way: outside-in. What should guests feel? What should flow effortlessly? What should disappear?Who This Episode Is ForDevelopment directors, event leads, and nonprofit teams running signature events where “good enough” isn't good enough—especially if your board, major donors, and top sponsors will be in the room and you can't afford a clunky experience.Key TakeawaysIf you want remote participation, design for remote—don't livestream an in-room event and call it a day.Donor expectations aren't the problem—your execution is.More programming doesn't equal more money. It often equals guest fatigue.Start with the guest experience, then build the revenue mechanics around it.Connect with Handbid:https://www.handbid.com https://www.instagram.com/handbidauctions/ https://www.linkedin.com/company/handbid/ 

The Steve Harvey Morning Show for Friday, January 23rd, 2026: Steve Harvey's Morning Inspiration | Show Open | Run That Prank Back- "How Much Is In The Account, Pastor?" | Ask The CLO | Entertainment News | New Looks For 2026 with Macy's | Roscoe Wallace | Nephew Tommy's Prank - "Divorce Papers" | Strawberry Letter - "They Went To See The Place Without Me" Pt. 1-2 | Trending: Little Girl Blames Steve Harvey | Social Media Advice | Ready To Love Update | Would You Rather | Steve Harvey's Closing RemarksSupport the show: https://www.steveharveyfm.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode marks the return of the podcast after a long hiatus since the previous summer. The hosts, Mimi and Wonne, are joined by a special "plus one", Mimi's three-month-old son, Landon. The conversation is loose and unfiltered, covering Mimi's experience on maternity leave, the challenges of breastfeeding, and her plans for future sterilization surgery.The dialogue shifts into a deep dive into "street logic," specifically critiquing the lack of business acumen among neighborhood drug dealers and the realities of the "crack era" versus modern drug markets. They also discuss a viral video from Detroit involving a school fight sparked by racial slurs and debate the fine line between "situational awareness" and "victim blaming" following a controversial tweet by social media personality Janise Hart.Chapter Timestamps00:00 – The Return & Introducing the "Plus One" (Landon)12:30 – Maternity Leave & The Realities of Breastfeeding25:45 – Street Economics: Why Most Drug Dealers Fail45:20 – Viral Breakdown: The Detroit High School Fight1:05:15 – Janiese's Tweet: Situational Awareness vs. Victim Blaming1:40:10 – Medical Updates: Hysterectomy & Periods in your 40s1:58:00 – Closing Thoughts & Next Week's ScheduleTo get more of the Hoecially Awkward experience, join our Facebook group to engage with other fans and get exclusive content. Plus, don't forget to check out our website and social media channels for more updates. If you want to show some love to Mimi and her new baby, you can find a link to the meal train in the Facebook group. Thanks for listening!email to HoeciallyAwkward@gmail.comInstagram to Hoecially_Awkward

Jake & Ben Full Show from January 22, 2026 Hour 1 The Utah Jazz host the San Antonio Spurs tonight, are the Spurs actual contenders?  Top 3 Stories of the Day: Utah Mammoth complete Overtime Comeback, Jazz vs Spurs tonight, USU Head Coach Jerrod Calhoun goes Scorched Earth after loss to UNLV. Why do Rockstars get away with bad behavior that normal people get in trouble for? Hour 2 Utah Mammoth Analyst Nick Olczyk joined Jake & Ben to talk about last night's Utah Mammoth win that was one for the ages.  Buffalo Bills Owner Terry Pegula is blaming a bad draft pick on the coach he just fired, rather than the GM who made the pick.  Ex-Michigan Head Coach Sherrone Moore appeared in court today

Inspired Choices for Business Growth with Christine McIver  In this episode, Christine explores a pattern that quietly keeps many business owners stuck; victim thinking. Blaming the economy, your clients, marketing, or timing can feel justified... yet it often gives your power away. This conversation is not about shame or denying real challenges; it is about noticing where responsibility has been outsourced and how that limits your ability to lead. When blame replaces ownership, growth slows and frustration builds. By bringing responsibility back to yourself, you regain clarity, choice, and momentum. Leadership begins when you stop waiting for circumstances to change and start deciding how you will respond. CEO Without Apology Author Christine McIver   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615045 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615045     ~ More About Inspired Choices for Business Growth with Christine McIver ~  Christine McIver is a Business Optimization Expert, Inspirational Speaker, TV & Radio Personality, and the Founder & Owner of Inspired Choices Network, ICN Summits & ICN Publishing. Christine is highly successful at inspiring individuals and businesses to make choices that will bring them increased success, greater joy, self-confidence and remarkable inspiring change.  All of which increased the abundance in their lives and businesses. Christine lives her life out loud and is a natural cheerleader.  She believes in the abilities of others to change their lives quickly and easily. Christine entices clients to show up more in their life, businesses & relationships than they ever have. She invites them to make all that they once knew was possible, possible. Christine believes that you can be living & loving your life with ease!  Her kind, direct and joy filled approach is both comforting and stretching.  Christine has impacted thousands of individuals with her enthusiastic message of possibilities.  Christine invites all into knowing that all things are possible beyond what is present in your life right now. https://christinemciver.com/ ~  christine@christinemciver.com https://www.facebook.com/InspiredChoicesCA ~  https://www.youtube.com/@InspiredchoicesBusinessGrowth   To get more of Inspired Choices for Business Growth ~ Christine McIver, be sure to visit the podcast page for replays of all her shows here: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/inspired-choices-for-business-growth-christine-mciver/

Matt Davies is joined by Nottingham Forest fan and comedian Matt Forde to discuss his frustration over Forest's season, how it can still be a success and why he wants Sean Dyche to be manager next season after the Ange Postecoglou disaster.#nffc #nottinghamforest

Submit your question and we'll answer it in a future episode!Join our Patreon Community!https://www.patreon.com/badassbreastfeedingpodcastThis week's episode is brought to you by Simple Wishes. Simple Wishes offers hands-free pumping and nursing bras as well as a wide range of nursing clothing. Owned by badass breastfeeding moms in California. Use code BADASS for 50% off at www.simplewishes.com.Get ready to laugh today as Dianne and Abby share more myths they have about breastfeeding.  You don't want to miss this episode!  Do you have any breastfeeding myths that you have heard?  Send them to us!  We would love to use them on the next Myths episode!If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you.  Please consider leaving us a review on iTunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com.  You can also add your email to our list and have episodes sent right to your inbox!Things we talked about:Abby's first myth – 2nd night syndrome [7:35]2nd night syndrome is normal [15:26]Blaming everything on breastfeeding [16:52]Abby needs photos! [22:07]Dianne's myth- taste buds?[ 23:04]Abby's next myth – rickets [25:54]Dianne's myth – baby eyes [29:35]Abby's last myth – all the apps [32:45]Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/myths-about-starting-solids/https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/more-breastfeeding-myths/Set up your consultation with Diannehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/  Check out Dianne's blog here:https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/  Follow our Podcast:https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby:AbbyTheuring ,https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy @diannecassidyibclc,  http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.comMusic we use:Music: Levels of Greatness from We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012) courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/ScottHolmes

Many men believe their dating struggles are caused by women's standards — but that belief is often the very thing keeping them stuck. In this episode, David challenges the growing trend of men blaming women for their lack of dates, relationships, intimacy, or sex — and explains why blame feels empowering while actually making men more bitter, disconnected, and unattractive. Rather than reinforcing red-pill narratives or internet outrage, this conversation cuts through the noise to reveal what's really happening underneath: shame, emotional avoidance, lack of self-awareness, and undeveloped emotional leadership. If you feel frustrated with dating, resentful toward women, stuck in cycles of rejection, or tempted to give up entirely, this episode offers a grounded, responsibility-based perspective on what actually creates attraction, connection, and healthy relationships.

Blake Ruffino shares his thoughts on the recent allegations by Ole Miss media to their former Head Coach Lane Kiffin. Why are they blaming Lane Kiffin and LSU GM Billy Glasscock for messing up established players contracts? Is there any truth behind what Ole Miss Spirit's Ben Garrett is claiming? Lastly, why is Ole Miss scrambling to try to renegotiate with players if they didn't mess up in the first place? #lsu #lsutigers #lsufootball #lsutigersfootball #lsusports #foryou #fyp #foryoupage #ays #ayssports #geauxtigers #lanekiffin #transferportal #lanekiffinlsu #blakeruffino #olemiss #collegefootball Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See https://pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Blake Ruffino shares his thoughts on the recent allegations by Ole Miss media to their former Head Coach Lane Kiffin. Why are they blaming Lane Kiffin and LSU GM Billy Glasscock for messing up established players contracts? Is there any truth behind what Ole Miss Spirit's Ben Garrett is claiming? Lastly, why is Ole Miss scrambling to try to renegotiate with players if they didn't mess up in the first place? #lsu #lsutigers #lsufootball #lsutigersfootball #lsusports #foryou #fyp #foryoupage #ays #ayssports #geauxtigers #lanekiffin #transferportal #lanekiffinlsu #blakeruffino #olemiss #collegefootball Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See https://pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Misunderstanding what Moses was trying to tell us; And Melchizedek and Abraham; "Abimelech"; "Burnt offerings"; Altars of lively stones; Rightly dividing bread from house to house; Tens, hundreds and thousands; Straying from righteousness; "Shemites"; Charity aspect of government?; John's baptism; "Corban" = oblation/offering; "Legal Charity"; Leading society into sin; Blaming world problems on other groups; Blind guides with darkened eyes; Manipulating facts; Leviticus offerings (oblation); "Israel"; "Iranians"; Spirit of sacrifice; Looking for light - whole truth; Saving the bad guys too; Lack of obedience; Lev 3:1 oblation/offering; "Without blemish"; "female" in nature; "Wood"; "Unhewn stones"; Welfare that strengthens?; Bondage of Egypt; Precepts of the LORD; Repentance; Killing the offering; Levites; Harlot riding the beast?; Public Religion; No exercising authority; Kidneys?; "Sweet savor"?; Two sons parable; Giving junk?; Intentional giving; Intent of Christ; Corruption; Hating Christ?; Is Christ your king?; Letting go of covetousness; Public flagellation?; Subtlety of Satan; Sprinkling of blood; Trees are sources; Distributing wealth?; Beginning of repentance; The faith of Abraham - living by it; aleph-hey-resh-vav-nun (Aaron); dwelling: mem+vav-shin-biet+tav+yod+mem; Ancient paths; "New Deal" of Satan; Heb 2:13; Lack of faith; Putting away idolatry; Ministers of government; Trust altars; Statutes and ordinances; Exclusively freewill offerings; Willingness to see the light; "Sin"; Protection draws subjection; Setting sheep on fire; Counterfeit Holy Spirit; Isaiah 1:1; Socialism; Citizens of the United States; Understanding the system you are in; Isa 1:10; "Gomorrah"; People bound together as merchandise; Sodom = socialist state; Creating the wrong system?; Unpayable debt; Required sacrifice; Seeking the kingdom of God and His righteousness; Praying that everybody is saved; Samuel's warnings; Network in love; Right reason; Do something!

Nicholas "Harry" Callas reacts to a report illustrating how Steelers' players felt immediately following the meeting where head coach Mike Tomlin informed the team he'd be stepping down.

Shady McCoy weighs in on the Eagles' offensive struggles, blaming Jalen Hurts rather than Kevin Patullo. He breaks down why he believes the quarterback bears responsibility and what the team needs to address moving forward.

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Next class is Jan 13, join the Angry Man Blueprint here. When he pulls away from the relationship, what happened prior? Was he Angry? Pouting? Blaming? What was your instinct? To fix it or help him?I share a easy to use tool that gives you the best chances to diffuse anger and come back to the problem with a sense of calm, so you can both repair and recover.Join me and four experts in The Angry Man Blueprint: Bill Eddy, Lundy Bancroft, Bob Grant and Matthew McMillan. https://everheartcoaching.com/product/the-angry-man-blueprint#AngryManBlueprint#AngryPartner#WhenHePullsAway#MaleAnger#AngerInRelationships#EmotionallyUnavailableMen#EmotionalWithdrawal#RelationshipConflict#ConflictInRelationships#EmotionalSafety#FeminineEnergy#FeminineBoundaries#WomenAndBoundaries#StopFixingHim#StopRescuing#NervousSystemHealing#EmotionalRegulation#DeescalateConflict#RelationshipRepair#RepairAfterConflict#AngerVsAbuse#IsThisAbuse#WalkingOnEggshells

Tired of the lies playing on repeat in your mind? Feeling like a fraud, rejected, or not good enough—even when you're managing everything? In this vulnerable episode, we're exploring how to speak the truth over yourself and your children, exchanging lies for God's identity and calling for your life.Kerry shares her deeply personal story of walking through rejection and discovering that speaking the truth out loud daily—not just thinking it—is what transforms your mind and breaks the power of lies.What you'll learn in this episode:✅Why we must speak the truth out loud (not just think positive thoughts) to renew our minds✅The white stone with a new name in Revelation 2:17 and what it means for your identity✅The two questions that replace "Why, God?" and actually move you forward✅Kerry's story: learning to speak the truth as a warrior on her knees after 31 years of marriage ended✅How to help your kids speak the truth over the lies they believe about themselvesReady to start your identity exchange? Download the FREE Biblical Truths Printable mentioned in this episode—sample truths Kerry speaks over herself daily plus a blank page for your own. Grab your copy of Jamie Winship's book Living Fearless! Podcast: Stop Negative Thinking for You & Your KidsShow Notes: Hey everyone, Kerry Beck here with Homeschool Coffee Break, where we help you stop the overwhelm so you can actually take a coffee break.We talked last week about lies in our head and lies that our kids believe. This week, we're going to get to the hopeful part. That may have been a little depressing. We're going to get to the hopeful part. We're going to come talk to God about what our identity is in Him, what His calling is for us, and how we can replace those lies.Jamie Winship calls it identity exchange. We are going to exchange those lies for truth.Learning from Living FearlessWhat I'm sharing are things that I have learned from a man named Jamie Winship. He's written a book called Living Fearless. You can get the link to it in the show notes, and I highly recommend it. A few years ago, I bought a copy for every one of my children, and for my parents and my sister as well, because it had such a huge impact on us.We're going to talk today about how God actually gives you a new name, a true identity, and how to listen for it, how to find out what it is. We're going to start with Revelation 2. This is where Jesus is writing to the different churches, and he's written to a church called Pergamum. He says, you have remained true to my name, to God's name. You did not renounce your faith in me. And that was a good thing.But at the end of his letter, he has this to say in Revelation 2:17: Anyone with ears to hear must listen to the Spirit and understand what He is saying to the churches. To everyone who is victorious, I will give some of the manna that has been hidden away up in heaven. I will give to each of you a white stone, and on the stone will be engraved a new name that no one understands, except the one who receives it.You may be going, what is this white stone he's talking about? And how do we get a new name? Because that new name has something to do with your identity. Well, in ancient Greece, the jury members would give a white stone if they were going to acquit the man. They would give a black stone if the defendant was guilty. In ancient Rome, they had a custom of awarding white stones to the winner of athletic events, and their name was written on that stone.We want to talk about that new name, because we walk in newness of life. We walk in a new covenant. We're going to put away our sins. We're going to leave our past in the past, and we are going to walk in newness of life. That's what I want for you, Mom. That's what I want for your children as well.Can You Really Hear from God?If you've ever wondered, can I really hear God about my identity? How do I know? Sometimes we don't truly believe God and what He is saying. We say He can do the impossible, but we don't really think it for us.Let me share a couple stories that Jamie Winship shares. He met a man in Washington, D.C. who had been working with Congress, and this man comes up to him, like a bodybuilder, very well-built, very healthy. And he says, how can I know if I can really hear from God? And he said, well, you can come with me to a mission, because Jamie Winship had worked with the CIA over in the Middle East for decades, and he was now helping Congress with some things about working with conflict.He and this Jason Bourne dude and a Navy guy, they all got dropped off in Northern Africa, pitch dark. They get there, they're staying in tents, their host would fix their meals, and they would fix 4 plates. And the Jason Bourne guy would go, why is there someone else? Why do they keep fixing 4? There's only three of us.Eventually, after a few days, he says, well, go ask them. Since this guy could speak that language, he says, why do you have four plates? Well, it's for your security detail. He's like, what are you talking about? Well, long story short, they're like, the guy that's guarding y'all outside. And he's like, what does he look like? He's the big, bulky guy that's protecting you. And what is he? He has a sword.Come to find out, they could see this angel of God that was protecting Jamie and this Jason Bourne guy and the other guy from enemy attack, and he had a sword. Muslims believe in visions like that. They believe these things. They believe you can hear from the gods. And they could see this angel, even though Jamie and Jason Bourne person couldn't.But when he heard that, Jason Bourne is like, okay, how do I hear God? I want to know. How do I hear God? And basically, Jamie says, what about your situation? He's like, why can't we have kids? And he says, you're asking the wrong question. And for some of you, you're asking the wrong question when it comes to the problems in your life, your identity. You're saying, why, why, why? That is the wrong question.Here are the two questions that Jamie suggests. We need to say, God, what do you want me to know, God? What do you want me to do? And that was a question that I actually wrestled with. This morning, again, on my walk, I was gonna go right into prayer. I'm like, no, I need to listen to God.A lot of believers, we all believe, yes, God's powerful, we've seen Him do miracles, all this stuff, but we don't really believe that we can hear from God. And if we don't believe that, we believe in a weak God. I do believe that I can hear from God. We believe in a God that can do it for everyone else, but not for us. Or that He will do miracles, but I don't know about for us.Well, that is not total faith. Total faith is believing that God can do miracles. And we need to let God tell us what He is doing, instead of our past dictating what we do. Instead of our failures dictating what we do. Instead of our fears. Do you have fears about homeschooling? Or raising kids? You see, this is what leads to bad identity, to the lies that we talked about.But when you live from what God says you are, you are going to become more creative, more resilient, you're going to have more peace, even in the hard circumstances. I am a product of that as well. You see, you may be great at multitasking, teaching, managing your home, but you still feel like a fraud.Identity Exchange is going to God and letting him rename you. Like that white stone with a new name.The Story of HamzaThere was a young man in the Middle East that Jamie ran across. I actually shared this story at Homeschool Superheroes about 3 or 4 years ago, and in the chat, people are like, is this for real? Is this a real story? Is she really telling the truth? And yes, it is real, and you can read about it or listen to it when Jamie tells that story. But there was a man named Hamza.He had found a Bible at a hotel, and somehow he connected with Jamie, and he's like, who is this man? And they go, well, do you want to hear from him? Or do you want us to tell you about him? I want to hear from him, talking about Jesus, because he had read parts of the New Testament.They got together, and they didn't tell him what they knew about Jesus. They were like, we're gonna let God speak. And what they did was they prayed and said, okay, God, Hamza really wants to hear from you. Would you please speak your truth to Him and let him hear that?Would that be a scary prayer? In the United States, we don't pray that. You know why? We're afraid God's not going to show up. We're afraid God's not going to show up for me, for our friends, for our own children. We're afraid he's not going to speak.Well, they weren't afraid, and God has shown up over and over. I've heard many stories that He has shared of Him speaking, and Hamza heard, and he began to grow in his new identity in Jesus Christ. He has walked through so many hardships. His family tried to kill him several times, like, throw him off a cliff, shoot him with a gun, and somehow he's made it through all of this because he walks in his identity of Christ, and what God spoke to him.His hardships and fear began to change as he learned to listen to God's voice and receive that new identity of who He is in Christ Jesus. This has opened doors to things he would never imagine, and it can be the same with you in your homeschool. If God can reach a young man, a Muslim man, being killed by his family because he has faith in Jesus, and even more dangerous situations, he can speak to you, tired homeschool mom, in your minivan, or at the kitchen table.My Story of Identity ExchangeI know from experience that God has spoken to me. I don't know how many of you know my story, but about nine and a half years ago, my husband left. We'd been married for 31 years. I'd be a very rich person if I had money from all my friends that looked at me and went, you and Steve? No, that's not true. Because they'd seen a marriage that seemed to be working.But I felt, when I found out he was leaving, totally rejected. I'd never felt depression before. I felt hopeless. And I could have walked in those lies. I probably did for a while. My friend says, Kerry, you were walking in PTSD for a few years. That's probably true.But I began praying for him all the time. I pray for him every single day. Sometimes it's a quick prayer, sometimes it's prayers of tears, but it is a prayer for his soul. His soul needs to go back to accepting the redemption that He has through Jesus Christ. I also pray for reconciliation for our marriage and our family. And there are people that are like, just get over it and move on, and go find someone else. No.I made a covenant with God, a three-way covenant. Not a contract, where if he does something wrong, it's broken, go off and do whatever. A covenant. God's never broken His covenant with Israel. He's remained faithful, even through discipline. And I decided that is what I'm gonna do. I'm gonna remain faithful to our covenant. God and I are still waiting for Steve's return.The question isn't why, God? Why is this happening? It's, God, what do you want me to know? What do you want me to do about this? And then let God work in and through me through the Holy Spirit. You see, I need to focus on me growing with God, and I'll let God deal with Steve. I believe He is faithful to the promises He's made, Steve and me. God says, I will never leave you or abandon you. I will work on you until the day of Christ Jesus.Over time, I've learned who I am. What is my identity? And it's not the same as for you, but I will share mine. I believe I'm a warrior, a warrior on her knees, a teacher. A teacher of women and kids, both online and in person. An encourager. I never wanted to be a counselor. That's the thing I ever wanted to do. But God has used me to counsel kids and women. And I've pressed into that. And I'm a networker. I'm an organizer networker, trying to pull people together, trying to get things, not programs, but relationships. That's where it's all about, a networker of relationships.You need to know your identity comes first, and then the outcome. I am a prayer warrior for Steve and for our family on my knees pretty every day. Again, sometimes there are quick prayers, but a lot of times, when I go for a walk, that's my prayer time. When I sit at the kitchen table, that's my prayer and Bible time. That is who God made me, a warrior of people's souls. A warrior that fights and contends for people's souls, starting with my own marriage and husband, and family, kids, and grandkids.We haven't seen reconciliation, but I know God is good, I know God loves Steve, and He is still working, and I totally believe that He is reconciling our marriage. In the middle of my pain, it wasn't why God. Well, yeah, I had asked that, honestly. Why is this happening to me? It's not supposed to be like this.But I have learned it's more important for me to keep my eyes upward and my faith in Jesus. Because this world is passing away, and there is nothing that I need to do. I need to change my identity and not believe the lies that I was a terrible wife or a terrible mom. I've been rejected multiple times since Steve left by him, neighbors, church, family members, and it hurts.But I keep going back to God, because He's the one that's going to move me forward. I can't change people. I can just deal with myself. And He will meet me in the messiness of my broken marriage, my sleeping marriage, my destroyed marriage. He will meet you in your homeschool. He will meet you in your family, in your home, in your marriage, and in your heart.Simple Steps to Get UnstuckThere are two key questions you need to be asking yourself. Not why, although you can ask why. I'm not expecting to, well, I do, I'll be honest, the reason why is so I would trust Him, and I would grow closer to Him. I would never wish my life on anyone. But I wouldn't trade it for anything. Because I am closer to God than I have ever been.So, God, what do you want me to do about this situation, your situation? God, what do you want me to know, and then what do you want me to do?Your child melts down over math. The old question is, why is this always happening? What is wrong with us? The new question is, God, what do you want me to know about my child? What do you want me to do? Comfort? Pause, change the approach, stop doing math. I did that for a whole year, actually, when I had a child that wasn't doing well with math, and had a bad attitude about it.Maybe skip it first. You're a gentle shepherd, not a drill sergeant. Then speak that truth out loud. Start acting as a gentle shepherd and not that frazzled failure. Just like I did.What I want you to do is I want you to look at the lies, pick one, and write a truth, hopefully a Bible verse that will go along with that truth. And then once you've wrestled through this, work with each of your children. What is the lie they are believing? I can't do it. I'm not smart enough. I need this, or I need that. I don't want this, I don't want that. Blaming people, whatever the lie is.Do it with your kids as well, and write a truth down, and say it out loud. Here are the simple steps so that you can get unstuck with the lies that you're believing. Number one, name one lie. That was last week's episode. Ask the two questions. What, God, do you want me to know about this? What do you want me to do about this?Then, I want you to find a truth and write it down, and put it somewhere that you're going to see it every single day. Kitchen sink, I have some in the bathroom window, I actually have some in the kitchen sink, I have some in my car. So I have different truths that I will see at different times of my day. And then I want you to say it aloud every single day.Do this with your kids, maybe at the breakfast table. They read out loud that Bible verse or that truth about themselves, maybe at their desk, if they have a desk, and they are going to read that out loud as well, before they get started on their homeschool.Speak the Truth Over Your LifeIf you want more ideas, you can get Jamie's book, Living Fearless, that'll be in the show notes. If you want these free things here that I have, I'm going to read these in a second, then you can get those, the link is in the show notes as well. It's just a printable, and there is a page for you to write your own truth. You don't need mine, but mine can be just sort of a sample.And I'll close with this. Like Jesus, I am chosen by God to be holy. I am chosen by God for great honor. I trust in Jesus, therefore I am not put to shame. God loves me and always takes care of me.I am precious to God, because He bought me with Jesus' blood. I am a daughter of the king, a princess. I live in the light shining for Jesus all day long. I control my thoughts, my words, my food, my drink.I receive God's mercy and grace, so I give grace, mercy, and forgiveness to others. I lead my case in the hands of God, who always judges fairly. I speak with words. I speak with pure and reverent behavior, and with a gentle and quiet spirit. I wait quietly on God.Some things I have to really work on, and when I'm really struggling with a lie at that time, I may just pull that one out and say it every day, sometimes multiple times. I am patient. I am kind. I always forgive. I forget offenses against me. And some of you are like, I can't forget that. Well, you know what? If I have the Holy Spirit inside of me, I have the power that God has inside of me, and I can overcome, and God can take those thoughts away. He takes other thoughts away that I forget. Surely He can take those offenses, and I forget them.The Holy Spirit renews my mind and attitudes every day. God never leaves me, never abandons me, never fails me. I listen well. I trust in God to fight my battles. He wins my battles.Thanks for spending time with me. If any of this hits home, please share this with just one friend, maybe another homeschool mom, that this might encourage. That would mean the world to me. I'm Kerry Beck with Homeschool Coffee Break. We'll talk to you next time.

President Trump says he wants to ban "large institutional investors" from buying single-family homes, taking up another cause long championed by progressives, including Elizabeth Warren. How much housing do such companies own, and does the White House have the power to act, or is this more populist scapegoating? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shannon Sharpe and Chad “Ochocinco” Johnson react to the Miami Hurricanes beating the Ole Miss Rebels to advance to the College Football National Championship to either face Indiana or Oregon, the Miami Dolphins have fired Mike McDaniel, and the Balitmore Ravens have fired John Harbaugh after 18 seasons and much more! Subscribe to Nightcap presented by PrizePicks so you don’t miss out on any new drops! Download the PrizePicks app today and use code SHANNON to get $50 in lineups after you play your first $5 lineup! Visit https://prizepicks.onelink.me/LME0/NI... 04:56 - Miami beat Ole Miss27:29 - Happy Birthday Ocho!37:12 - Dolphins fire Mike McDaniel49:03 - Ravens fire John Harbaugh (Timestamps may vary based on advertisements.) #ClubSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Most men aren't broken.They're soft.And the world is perfectly designed to keep them that way

Sex doesn't usually disappear because people stop loving each other. It disappears because of emotional mistakes no one teaches us to recognize. In this episode, I'm breaking down five patterns that quietly destroy sex — and what to understand insteadWork With Heather Feeling frustrated with your sex life or lack thereof? Book a free consultation with Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon or someone from her team! Click here to start.Episode SummaryHeather discusses the 5 common emotional mistakes that can negatively impact a couple's sex life. She emphasizes the importance of understanding emotional dynamics rather than focusing solely on physical aspects of intimacy. The conversation covers common pitfalls such as taking a partner's lack of desire personally, moralizing around sex, recognizing emotional wounds, and the expectations surrounding sex in relationships. Heather encourages couples to foster empathy, curiosity, and open communication to enhance their emotional and sexual connection.Chapters00:00 Understanding Emotional Mistakes in Sex Life02:05 Taking Desire Personally: A Common Misconception05:35 Blaming and Moralizing: The Impact on Relationships10:46 Lack of Empathy for Sexual Wounds15:11 Expecting Sex as an Obligation20:35 The Honeymoon Phase: Unmasking Real IssuesKeywordsemotional mistakes, sex life, relationship advice, intimacy, sexual desire, communication, emotional wounds, libido, sexual health, couples therapyThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Today we examine four ways blame keeps us from God's best. Further, we see the biblical answer to solving problems rather than blaming others for what's wrong.

In the third hour, Willie P & Fitty debate who is more to blame for the Panthers offensive struggles between Dave Canales and Bryce Young, as they both come to the defense of the QB, they talk about the start of the ACC play on the hardwood, and more See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kevin joins Faith and Family Fellowship to unpack the message behind his book Beyond Blind Blaming: Finding the Real Problems Holding Your Business Back. Drawing from Scripture, leadership experience, and real-world business transformation, Kevin explains why so many leaders stay stuck even while doing everything “right.”This episode challenges Christian business owners and leaders to move past surface level blame, identify blind spots, and practice true stewardship. From systems and leadership to discernment and wisdom, this conversation calls believers to see clearly and act faithfully.GET CONNECTED WITH KEVIN - www.blindblaming.comHosted by Pastor Chris BuscherFaith and Family Fellowship PodcastEpisode 374Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, iHeartRadio, and all major platforms.

Kentucky Sheriff Mickey Stines has admitted in court filings that he shot and killed Judge Kevin Mullins in his chambers on September 19, 2024. Nine bullets. Seven of them fired while the judge was already on the ground. The entire killing was captured on video. But now Stines is claiming he had no control over his actions and his defense team is pointing to a rare neurological disease caused by bug bites as part of their explanation. For over a year, no one could explain why a longtime sheriff walked into a judge's chambers and executed a man he had worked alongside for decades. Stines had served as Mullins' bailiff. They ate lunch together that same day. After a seven-minute private conversation behind closed doors, Stines locked the door and opened fire. Court documents now reveal what was happening in the days before the shooting. Stines had lost forty pounds in two weeks. He was placing phone calls to dead relatives. He told staff that shadowy forces were coming to kill his wife and daughter. He made someone put a bulletproof vest on his wife. His own employees believed he was experiencing psychosis. An attorney warned Judge Mullins directly that Stines was losing it. The local police chief said he had lost his mind. But here is the problem. The day before the shooting, Stines visited a doctor. According to medical records, he denied experiencing any psychosis or homicidal thoughts. The doctor diagnosed acute stress reaction and sent him home. Twenty-four hours later, Kevin Mullins was dead. Now Stines is building an insanity defense that includes claims of California encephalitis, a tick-borne illness that can cause confusion and aggression. Whether this is a legitimate diagnosis or a legal strategy designed to avoid accountability remains to be seen. #MickeyStines #JudgeKevinMullins #LetcherCounty #KentuckySheriff #CourthouseShooting #TrueCrime #InsanityDefense #CaliforniaEncephalitis #TrueCrime2025 #JusticeForMullins #KentuckyCrime #TrueCrimeCommunity #CriminalJustice #MurderTrial #LegalDefense #TrueCrimeNews #CourtroomDrama #SheriffShooting #MentalHealthDefense #BreakingCrime Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872

Kentucky Sheriff Mickey Stines has admitted in court filings that he shot and killed Judge Kevin Mullins in his chambers on September 19, 2024. Nine bullets. Seven of them fired while the judge was already on the ground. The entire killing was captured on video. But now Stines is claiming he had no control over his actions and his defense team is pointing to a rare neurological disease caused by bug bites as part of their explanation. For over a year, no one could explain why a longtime sheriff walked into a judge's chambers and executed a man he had worked alongside for decades. Stines had served as Mullins' bailiff. They ate lunch together that same day. After a seven-minute private conversation behind closed doors, Stines locked the door and opened fire. Court documents now reveal what was happening in the days before the shooting. Stines had lost forty pounds in two weeks. He was placing phone calls to dead relatives. He told staff that shadowy forces were coming to kill his wife and daughter. He made someone put a bulletproof vest on his wife. His own employees believed he was experiencing psychosis. An attorney warned Judge Mullins directly that Stines was losing it. The local police chief said he had lost his mind. But here is the problem. The day before the shooting, Stines visited a doctor. According to medical records, he denied experiencing any psychosis or homicidal thoughts. The doctor diagnosed acute stress reaction and sent him home. Twenty-four hours later, Kevin Mullins was dead. Now Stines is building an insanity defense that includes claims of California encephalitis, a tick-borne illness that can cause confusion and aggression. Whether this is a legitimate diagnosis or a legal strategy designed to avoid accountability remains to be seen. #MickeyStines #JudgeKevinMullins #LetcherCounty #KentuckySheriff #CourthouseShooting #TrueCrime #InsanityDefense #CaliforniaEncephalitis #TrueCrime2025 #JusticeForMullins #KentuckyCrime #TrueCrimeCommunity #CriminalJustice #MurderTrial #LegalDefense #TrueCrimeNews #CourtroomDrama #SheriffShooting #MentalHealthDefense #BreakingCrime Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872

Is Vance the heir apparent to MAGA right now? And we ask what the worst gift you ever GAVE was, in our #NextQuestion segment. Yo soy Fanta.

We've all experienced moments in negotiation where something feels "off"—where tensions rise, misunderstandings grow, or progress stalls for reasons we can't quite name. Too often, we chalk it up to the other person's behavior, circumstances beyond our control, or the simple belief that "it shouldn't be this hard." But what if the real barrier isn't external at all? What if the hidden force sabotaging our success is something we're blind to within ourselves?   In today's episode, Cindy Watson sits down with Kevin St. Clergy for a powerful and eye-opening conversation on Blind Blaming: The Hidden Saboteur in Negotiations. Kevin is a renowned breakthrough specialist, author, podcast host, keynote speaker, and the creator of the Blind Blaming Framework—a transformative approach that reveals how unseen narratives and unconscious patterns can derail even our best negotiation efforts. Together, Cindy and Kevin explore how recognizing and dismantling blind blaming can shift your outcomes, elevate your relationships, and empower you to negotiate with greater clarity and intention.   In this episode, you will discover:   What is blind blaming and how do we come to identify it as a recurring pattern? What is supportive sabotage? How people misdiagnosed the issue of blind blaming Examples of blind blaming Growth vs fix mindset What is the RCD method (reflect, connect, decide) The ACT Formula And many more!   Learn more about Kevin:   Website: https://nps.blindblaming.com/media#intfinal                https://www.blindblaming.com/   Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kevindstclergy LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kevinstclergy/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kevindstclergy/   If you're looking to up-level your negotiation skills, I have everything from online to group to my signature one-on-one mastermind & VIP experiences available to help you better leverage your innate power to get more of what you want and deserve in life. Check out our website at www.artofFeminineNegotiation.com if that sounds interesting to you.   Get Cindy's book here: Amazon   https://www.amazon.com/Art-Feminine-Negotiation-Boardroom-Bedroom-ebook/dp/B0B8KPCYZP?inf_contact_key=94d07c699eea186d2adfbddfef6fb9e2&inf_contact_key=013613337189d4d12be8d2bca3c26821680f8914173f9191b1c0223e68310bb1 EBook   https://www.amazon.com/Art-Feminine-Negotiation-Boardroom-Bedroom-ebook/dp/B0B8KPCYZP?inf_contact_key=94d07c699eea186d2adfbddfef6fb9e2&inf_contact_key=013613337189d4d12be8d2bca3c26821680f8914173f9191b1c0223e68310bb1 Barnes and Noble   https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-art-of-feminine-negotiation-cindy-watson/1141499614?ean=9781631959776 CONNECT WITH CINDY: Website: www.womenonpurpose.ca Website: www.practicingwithpurpose.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/womenonpurposecommunity/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/womenonpurposecoaching/ LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/thecindywatson Show: https://www.womenonpurpose.ca/media/podcast-2/ X(Twitter):  https://twitter.com/womenonpurpose1 YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@hersuasion Email: cindy@womenonpurpose.ca

In hour one, do the Miami Heat have a Tyler Herro problem? Crowder's encounter at Publix between the eggs, dairy and bread aisle. Plus, Gino Torretta wants to reshape the College Football Playoffs to ensure the best 12 teams make the playoffs.

The Chicago Bears and Green Bay Packers each delivered performances that shut down the “pretender” talk. Both teams showed discipline, identity, and execution strong enough to make a playoff appearance. Here's a quick breakdown of the first matchup between the Packers v. BearsDown in Atlanta, the focus shifts to head coach Raheem Morris. Is Raheem Morris blaming the players for the 37-9 loss to the Seahawks? --Voicemail call in: (219) 413-9405Instagram: @TheRunPodcastFacebook: PodcastTheRunYouTube: The Run with Manny WilsonTheRunUSA.com--Use the Promo Code: THERUNPODCAST for $20 OFF your first ticket purchase with SeatGeek. https://seatgeek.onelink.me/RrnK/teamseatgeek Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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On the Aftermath edition of the Falcons Podcast, we take a look back at the Atlanta Falcons embarrassing performance against the Seattle Seahawks. Head coach Raheem Morris admitted after the game that something needed to change, while blaming players for the problems. That's a big red flag. Scott Kennedy gets into it along with your questions on Monday Morning's Falcons Podcast. For More Atlanta Falcons News: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.si.com/nfl/falcons/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Falcons Podcast Live Stream⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Schedule: Monday: 8:35 a.m. EST with Scott and Nick Wednesday: 8:35 a.m. EST with Scott and Nick Thursday: Tuesday: 6:00 p.m. EST with Garrett #Falcons #atlantafalcons #RiseUp Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of "Transform Your Mind to Transform Your Life," Myrna Young is joined by Kevin D. St Clergy to explore the compelling theme of "blind blaming." Through captivating storytelling and professional insights, Kevin delves into how the concept of blind blaming, where individuals fail to see the real issues due to instinctive blame, often keeps them stuck in unproductive cycles. With a poignant story from his youth of going from a star baseball player to a complete slump due to unseen vision issues, Kevin illustrates how we often blame ourselves and others without understanding the true underlying problems.The episode navigates Kevin's RCD Method, which stands as a powerful solution to tackling blind blaming. Kevin unfolds the importance of awareness, connection, and the decisive action of 'making an effing decision.' Listeners will gain insights into moving beyond the superficial blame, accessing hidden obstacles, and unlocking true potential—both in personal and professional realms. This enlightening episode presents a framework for change, urging listeners to discover the real issues behind their stagnation and take bold steps toward transformation.Key Takeaways:Blind Blaming Explored: Kevin introduces the concept of blind blaming, highlighting how instinctive blaming can mask the real problems in our lives.The RCD Method: Kevin's method—Reflect, Connect, and Decide—offers a structured approach to overcoming blind blaming by consulting outside perspectives and taking decisive action.Role of Awareness: Understanding cognitive biases like availability and confirmation bias can help in identifying when we are solving the wrong problems.Practical Application in Business: Kevin gives real-world examples of how uncovering hidden obstacles can lead to substantial breakthroughs in both business growth and personal development.Transformative Outcomes: By addressing root causes through the RCD Method, individuals can trigger ripple effects leading to improved relationships, business success, and fulfilled purpose.Resources:Website: Blind BlamingBook: "Beyond Blind Blaming" available on Amazon and the websitePodcast: Beyond Blind Blaming PodcastTo advertise on our podcast, visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/TransformyourMindor email kriti@youngandprofiting.com See this video on The Transform Your Mind YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/@MyhelpsUs/videosTo see a transcripts of this audio as well as links to all the advertisers on the show page https://myhelps.us/Follow Transform Your Mind on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/myrnamyoung/Follow Transform Your mind on Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063738390977Please leave a rating and review on iTunes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/transform-your-mind/id1144973094 https://podcast.feedspot.com/personal_development_podcasts/

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"The mind is like water. When it's turbulent, it's hard to see. When it's calm, everything becomes clear." — Kobe Bryant  Kobe Bryant was definitely onto something when he spoke those words. If you're not in control of your commitments and have no idea what needs to be done next, you're going to be stressed. And stress, like turbulent water, makes it hard to see where you should be spending your time.  Links: Email Me | Twitter | Facebook | Website | Linkedin Join the Time And Life Mastery Programme here. Use the coupon code: codisgreat to get 50% off. Get Your Copy Of Your Time, Your Way: Time Well Managed, Life Well Lived The Time Sector System 5th Year Anniversary The Working With… Weekly Newsletter Carl Pullein Learning Centre Carl's YouTube Channel Carl Pullein Coaching Programmes Subscribe to my Substack  The Working With… Podcast Previous episodes page Script | 395 Hello, and welcome to episode 395 of the Your Time, Your Way Podcast. A podcast to answer all your questions about productivity, time management, self-development, and goal planning. My name is Carl Pullein, and I am your host of this show.  What's the point of learning how to be more productive and to be better at managing our time? Are we not just shuffling work around—work that will need to be done at some point anyway? Well, yes and no.  Historically, people went to work, often in factories, where they performed repetitive manual labour. When their workday finished, they “downed tools”, clocked out and went home. As there were no TVs or smartphones, people often played cards or board games with their families, read books or went to the pub.  It was easy to leave work at work. It was easy to manage our time. There was personal time and work time, and the two did not mix.  Today, it's very different. Most of you listening to this podcast will likely be working in what is commonly called “knowledge work' jobs. You're not hired for your muscles. You're hired for your brain.  And this causes us a problem. Manual labour meant you did a hard day's work, and when you went home, you could forget about work. In knowledge work, it's not so easy to stop your brain from thinking about a work problem.  I remember when I worked in a law firm, I caught the bus home and often spent most of the journey thinking about an issue with a client and trying to figure out the simplest way to solve the problem. In the past, people would have looked forward to getting home to their families. When you're mentally distracted in that way, it's hard for you to switch off and enjoy that time with your family and friends.  Today, it also means there's no barrier—except our own willpower—to sending an email or a Teams message at any time of the day or night.  In the past, the factory gates were locked, or someone else was doing your job on the night shift. It wasn't possible to work beyond your regular working hours. Time management was much easier. Not so today. And that nicely leads us to this week's question. And that means it's time to hand you over to the Mystery Podcast Voice. This week's question comes from Michael. Michael asks, Hi Carl, I've spent years struggling with time management, and it's got to the point where I think there's no point. As hard as I try, there's always something that needs to be done, and I never get a chance to finish anything and end up with everything being urgent. Is there any point to all this time management and productivity stuff?   Hi Michael, thank you for your question.  In many respects, you might be right that managing time, or at least trying to, is a waste of time. (I think there might be a pun there)  As I alluded to, with knowledge work and the explosion of communication tools over the last few years, things that could have waited a day or two now seem to have to be dealt with immediately.  It's not that the task is suddenly urgent; it's a combination of people's expectations and the delivery system.  The problem here is that no matter how fast the delivery system becomes—or other people's expectations— we are human. We can still only do one thing at a time. That is not going to change in our lifetime.  And that's where to start—understanding that you, as an individual, can only work on one thing at a time.  In other words, if you have ten equally urgent messages to reply to, you're going to have to choose which one to respond to first.  Now, you could come up with a complex, convoluted system for deciding which message to respond to first, or you could adopt a more straightforward first-in-first-out approach. Start with the oldest and work your way through your list of messages.  What are we talking about here—perhaps a ten-minute delay for you to get to a particular message? Does ten minutes really matter? You're not trying to save someone's life in an emergency room, are you?  Messages are often more time-sensitive than emails, and I find that responding to them between work sessions works best.  For instance, if you were to protect 9:30 to 11:30 am for focused work. That's two hours where you are technically not available. Once you finish that session, check your messages and respond to any that require a response.  When I set these barriers of doing undisturbed, focused work for two hours a day, I used to panic every time my phone dinged. I felt I had to respond immediately. Of course, that was not true. It never was, and it's still not true for any of us today.  It took a few weeks to wean myself off panicking every time a message came in, but the results were fantastic. My productivity went through the roof, leading to fewer urgent tasks.  Our brains are not good at handling interruptions to the flow of work. I've seen studies showing that even a minor interruption can take you up to 18 minutes to refocus and get back to where you were before.  Think about that for a moment. Even if you were taking ten minutes to refocus and getting an average of six interruptions per day, you've lost an hour. Or to put it into a better perspective, that's 12 ½ per cent of your work day gone. Wasted. By responding to messages between work sessions, you avoid losing focus and get more work done in less time.  And it's there that you will find fewer urgent tasks to do. Because you are getting more done in less time, you will be able to stay on top of projects and other work without getting too close to the deadline.  Another area that can make us feel that managing our time is a waste of time is focusing on the number of tasks rather than the time we have available. Again, this is linked to the fragility of being human. We are affected by how much sleep we get, our mood, and our diet.  Have a bad night's sleep, then a fight with your kids over the breakfast table and a sugary doughnut as a midmorning snack, and you're not going to get a lot of work done.  You have a sleep debt, you're worked up by the argument, and that doughnut is going to give you a massive energy crash.  This is why estimating how long a task will take is challenging.  I've been writing a 1,000-word blog post every week for around ten years now. You'd think I would be able to estimate reasonably accurately how long writing 1,000 words would take after writing over 500 blog posts. Ha! No chance. Some days I can write the first draft in forty-five minutes, other days it can take me two hours.  The biggest effect on how long it will take me is sleep. If I get my seven hours, I know it'll take me less than an hour. Less than six hours, and I'm struggling to do it in two hours.  A better approach is to allocate time for doing groups of linked tasks. For example, group all your actionable emails and set aside 40 to 60 minutes at the end of the day to deal with them.  This way, it doesn't matter how many emails you have to act on; you do as many as you can in the time you have.  If you're doing this every day, you'll soon find you have no email backlogs. What amazes me is the people who try this for a few days and give up because their huge backlog of actionable emails is not getting significantly smaller. Well, of course not. If you're starting with six hundred actionable emails, it's going to take you a long time to get that under control.  What you could do is set aside a one-off period to get that backlog under control first. Then set a time each day to keep it under control.  Or make sure you have a “net-gain” with your responses. For instance, if you get 20 actionable emails in a day, respond to at least 21. That's a net gain. If you do that consistently over a few weeks, your backlog of actionable emails will reduce significantly.  You're not going to lose the holiday weight you gained in a few days. It might have only taken you a few days to gain that weight, but it's going to take you a few weeks, if not months, to lose it. (Life's tough, isn't it?)  Most of the reasons why so many people quit making necessary changes, whether in their work or personal life, are linked to the initial difficulty of change.  All change is difficult at first. You're changing. But soon that change becomes your norm, and then it becomes easy. It becomes “just what you do”.  There's a time and place for the things you want to or must do. This is where your calendar comes into play.  Scheduling time for play, rest and exercise is just as important as scheduling meetings with your clients or boss. Trouble is, we don't do that. We prioritise work over other essential things in our lives.  As Jim Rohn said, “When you work, work. When you play, play. Don't mix the two” Ask yourself, where's your boundary? If you don't have one, you're not managing time; you're allowing time to manage you.  There are many ways you can take control of your calendar.  You could, for example, limit the number of hours you spend in meetings each week. If you work a typical 40-hour week, you could set the maximum time you spend in meetings at 15 hours. That will leave you with 25 hours dedicated to doing your work tasks.  Most people I talk with have no idea how much time they are spending in meetings each week. They say “yes” to every meeting request. WOW! If you don't have control of that, you're “up the creek without a paddle”.  Managing time is about managing your calendar and doing the hard things, like saying no to additional meetings that won't help you do your work.  This is one reason why the old-fashioned paper planners were so good. Because you had to handwrite your appointments into your diary, there was no way you could double-book yourself. Sadly, that one simple feature does not exist in digital calendars.  I've seen people with four appointments all scheduled at the same time. Come on, you cannot be in two meetings at once, let alone four! You can also protect blocks of time for doing your most important work each day. It's not difficult, and with shared calendars, doing so indicates to other people that you are not available at that time.  And most important of all, you can do a short daily planning session where you look at your calendar to see where your commitments are, then curate your to-do list so that the number of tasks you have for today is realistic, given how much non-meeting time you have.  Yet none of these are tool issues. These are human decisions we need to make, and we need to be strong enough to follow through with them. Blaming our boss, colleagues, customers, or tools won't improve the situation.  Only by being strong enough to say “no, not then, how about this time”, can you ever regain control of your time and see a corresponding increase in your productivity.  So there you go, Michael. Time management and productivity systems can and do work, but they only work if you are willing to make the difficult choices that come with them.  Be consistent in trusting your calendar. Allow it to structure your day between your work and home life.  Don't allow someone else's “urgent” to become your urgent. Respond to messages appropriately, but within your time frames.  I hope that has helped, and thank you for your question. And thank you to you, too, for listening.  It just remains for me now to wish you all a very, very productive week.   

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Erin is dehydrated after her visit to Austin, Bryan befriends his Erewhon-going seatmates on a flight to New York, plus some balm/SPF talk and a celebration of the results from last week’s elections. Erin discusses the NYT Opinion interview with three feminist conservative bootlickers titled “Did Liberal Feminism Ruin the Workplace”. Bryan brings us some cautious optimism with Kim Davis’ defeat with the Supreme Court declining to take up her case against Obergefell v. Hodges and the right to same-sex marriage, but how it doesn’t necessarily set a precedent and could still be brought up again in the future. For hours of bonus content visit www.patreon.com/attitudes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Decline of Democracy: Autocracy and Oligarchy on the Rise. Gaius and Germanicus discuss Michael McFaul's hypothesis that democracy is in recession and autocracy is ascendant. Germanicus concurs, blaming "Blue" (Democrats) for pursuing steps that strip the nation of its Republican character, including efforts to control media and censor, which he terms "creeping authoritarianism." He cites examples like a two-tier justice system and the pursuit of "thought crimes" (e.g., silent praying outside an abortion clinic) in the US and UK. Germanicus believes the US is heading toward a "brutal oligarchy" controlled by a ruling class, rather than a classic autocracy. Gaius asks if autocratic models, such as Chinese capitalism, are appealing to allies. Germanicus confirms that certain nations (like the expanding BRICS) view China and Russia as providing a better model for societal progress, especially given the US's poor global reputation since 2001. Furthermore, neoliberalism benefits only the very wealthy, creating devastating wealth inequality akin to the ancien régime before the French Revolution. Projecting 100 years ahead, Germanicus believes the US will likely be an "oligarchic autocracy" and an empire competing as a trans-Pacific/transatlantic block against a Eurasian block. They agree that modern technology, capable of tracking thoughts and speech, is an "enormously powerful instrument" supporting this autocratic trend. Germanicus notes that moralizing about dictators and "saving democracy" will persist, but merely as a means to keep the population passive and quiet, labeling modern censorship as highly Orwellian. They conclude they are living through a transformation from kingship to democracy, now moving toward autocracy. 80 BCE. SULLA