transparency & transformation in the trap. culturally-inspired, insight and advice remixed with live conversations and counseling sessions recorded by holistic counselor & “trap therapist” afu okosun.
first off, fuck all this shit. had to say that first. free Palestine and all oppressed peoples of the world. furthermore, niggas need to cry. niggas need to be held, hugged and heard. so sit still wit a nigga and do just that. if nobody told you today, i love you. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/howsyourheartdoing/message
"JEROME'S IN THE HOUSEEEE!!!" everybody's favorite elephant is back in the room. part two gon be a doozy. need some feedback on dis one. if nobody told you today, i love you. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/howsyourheartdoing/message
two episodes in a week...well damn. back doing some more emoting and giving yall more shit to think about as it pertains to black men. cuz what we not gon do is talk about all the things, and yall don't really get why I do what I do. naw. sit with this hard shit, then we can get to the sexy ass shit. if nobody told you today, i love you. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/howsyourheartdoing/message
how's your heart been family? "i'm back and i'm better..." *Bryson Tiller voice* nawfr. here to update you wit the last 18 months (in a nutshell) and get myself back in the swing of things. a nigga been gone too long. oh yeah...my birthday in 3 days. leo gang biznie. talking core wounds and all the clarity that comes when you realize the nut aint nuttin like it used to. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/howsyourheartdoing/message
What's good family?! It's ya favorite, getting your week started with an episode of your favorite safe space. DO YOU KNOW, WHAT YO SEED IS FO? how are you nurturing the seed, and harvest, in your life? can you see the harvest, amongst the loss? if nobody told you today, i love you. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howsyourheartdoing/message
In this to-the-point episode, Afu discusses the one thing "they" never told us about manhood and why the things we run towards, are actually causing us to run from, our best selves. Dis a good one. If nobody told you today, I love you. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howsyourheartdoing/message
All I know is radical honesty. Forgive me for keeping it too P. If you've been rocking since 2018, this one is for you. there's blessings, and lessons, for us, in the valley. if nobody told you today, i love you. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howsyourheartdoing/message
Wainwul hops on to discuss his journey interrogating his very black, very intersectional experiences as a child, that's culminated into his role as a "nurturing dominant" figure in the community. What does it look like to integrate spirit in the exploration of one's sexuality and erotic experience? Enjoy. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howsyourheartdoing/message
peace family! it's ya favorite trap therapist, Hood Baba, and your favorite safe space is back! this year, we had to let out the old energy and call in some fresh tings wit a new name, new stories, and the same flava y'all used to! for all my new followers, welcome to one of the safest spaces on the interwebs. if nobody told you, i love you! enjoy! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howsyourheartdoing/message
What it do family?! It’s ya favorite trap therapist Wainwul checking in from sunny California (I know it’s been a minute y’all) to let y’all KWTFBGO with me and what the mood is after a hellacious 2020. Tap in and let me let y’all know how Clubhouse got y’all ego trippin and why understanding doesn’t have to mean acceptance for my healers. If nobody told you today, I love you family. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
What would happen if able-bodied black folks started talking less, and doing more to create solutions? Can we create systems that develop the brains that will change our world? Wainwul gives y’all a sneak peek into a conversation with young Casper, about the need for new academic schools of thought and why it’s our responsibility to create them. Tap in.
In this episode, Wainwul tries something new and taps into his Instagram family for an interactive conversation around what happens when we are forced to deal with what’s in our closets...cuz our asses are in the house! How do you deal with the reflection in the mirror when you’re forced to see it up close and personal? Corona ain’t gon win. Together inside. Tap in family.
*PSA: THIS EPISODE IS SPECIFICALLY FOR BLACK MEN* What it do family?! Yeahhhhh I ain’t dead, a nigga just been dealing and healing. And I have a message for my brethren who really aren’t depressed, just sad as fuck, all the time. I see you. I am you. We here. And as long as we have life, we CAN BE. More. Better. Ourselves. If nobody told you today, I love you. Game on.
how’s your heart doing? Wainwul has been holding space for himself during this mercury in roller blades and came to share some of that with the family. this healing shit is realer than real.
Wainwul is making moves, yet again. He checks in from St. Louis to discuss the ways in which he’s continually healing, confronting demons, negative (yet necessary) coping habits, all while rebuilding a life the ancestors will be proud of. We missed you family! Come on in. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
What’s good family?! So this episode is more of a check-in. Wainwul comes on and gives an emotional update regarding his current state of mind, how life is transforming and the impacts of Nipsey Hussle’s legacy once again. This is our safe space. Come on in. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Mercury Retrograde came and gave us an impromptu break for a few weeks but we are finally back with a new episode! Wainwul shares his sentiments over the passing of Nipsey Hussle as well as what happens when we “lose” things in life and how it changes us for the better. We missed you family.
Do you catch yourself in “your feelings” reminiscing on past love and how things “used to be” frequently? Well, you are definitely not alone. Wainwul shares how his feelings on past love is helping him realize exactly what those relationships did for his growth and healing. It ain’t the person you really miss, as much as it is the person you were when you were with them. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
You ever been told some shit that pissed you off, yet had some actual truth to it you needed to hear? Wainwul drops in to share how he’s having to separate the message from the messenger, and why the ugly, painful truth, is still just that. What are you not digesting that may taste bad, but is actually the best thing for you? Tune in and get fed. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
In celebration of his mama’s born day, Wainwul gives us his experience with the divine feminine presence in his life. Specifically, he details the ways in which much of his healing has come directly as a result of him learning and understanding the woman who gave him birth. What happens when start to view our parents as people? You don’t wanna miss this one. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Wainwul drops another late night message touching on “the work” and the necessity to focus on mindset over material. And thank you for riding with us on this journey. Which one you working? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Yeah...this one is pretty self-explanatory. Wainwul FINALLY touches on romantic love and gives you all the basis and backstory to why he’s single...as f*ck. Are you the safe space you’re looking for? This one’s a doozy. Enjoy.
In intimate relationship, sometimes “love” hurts because it’s reminding us that when we love ourselves fully, it includes the spaces we were told were unlovable. Wainwul decides to keep it 1K for this episode and vent on what love really is for him in this moment and how moving from the heart space sometimes means moving alone. Peace & Love.
You know those calls you get from friends, when they really don’t want nothing, just feel the need to check in? Well this is that call. Wainwul comes to check in with y’all, and ends up discussing why focusing on making your light brighter is more important than where it shines. Y’all alright? Let us know. Peace.
Wainwul welcomes the new (Gregorian) year with a word on what it means to go on “the journey”. How many of us aren’t moving towards that new place because we’re holding on to our old self? Should you be grinding more than aligning? Press play and get what you need to take those baby steps. Happy New Year family. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Wainwul gives an impromptu word during this winter solstice urging many of us who find our power in our inner man, to completely dive into that place and lead from our hearts, while building a life that fills your cup as well as others. If nobody’s told you today, we love you. Enjoy. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
In this episode, Wainwul discusses the reality and dangers of cisgender, heterosexual men being indeed, straight & narrow. Breaking down the nature of his own toxic masculinity, he discusses why the future will rely on our abilities to not buy what we’ve been sold, do more following than “leading”, and actually be as secure as our bank accounts convince us we are. *shakes the mf table*
In this episode, Wainwul dives into the art of storytelling as he shares his family story (see: KWAC) and upbringing which lead to his life in the city of Huntsville, AL, a place that created much of what people know about him today. Follow him as he details his “heartbreak” and how it has helped him continue on his path of freedom and liberation for himself, and ultimately the culture. Talk that talk, ‘Fu. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
This episode kicks off with a conversation between Wainwul and one of his closest potnas on the reality that we give to others wayyyyyy more than we do ourselves. Which leads to his focus for the show, an introspective soul cry for us to love our (inner) selves, in spite of the layers of trauma and conditioning of our (outer) selves. WHY YOU DONT LOVE ME MAN?! Let’s change that up going into 2019. Peace.
So this was a tough one to post. In a realization of how half-truths cannot be placed in front of actual ones, Wainwul comes on to discuss just how we tell ourselves things in order to sit with ourselves, not other people. How can you tell the truth to everybody but yourself? Is that even a thing? Join us as he painfully shares the root for why we can’t be honest with ourselves and ultimately those we love. Keep it coming ‘Fu. You won’t regret this in the end I swear.
Wainwul checks in on Epsiode #5 (we really doing this shit), to talk about how we can better support ourselves versus pretending that we are. How many of us care more about the pictures we paint versus the bricks we lay? Come on in for this session on supporting oneself so you can ACTUALLY support others. This a good one! (Happy Birthday lil bro! Scorpio season hoe! Ok bye.) --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Wainwul comes through with a message encouraging you to turn up for yourself in the middle of your mess. At the same time, becoming your own best friend while leaving shawty alone if you can’t love her frfr. Scorpio season ain’t fucking around with y’all. Heal, then get back in ya bag my boy. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Wainwul checks in on a Sunday evening to y’all know why you have to REALLY let go of this shit in order to fly.....or die. It’s that simple. Not really, but trusting the process means letting go of the picture. You gon fly or die my boy? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
In Episode #2, Afu breaks down why the globalization of hip-hop culture is giving black men the green light to actually heal and operate in our divine masculine light, thanks (of course) to lightworkers like Gucci and Migos. Yeah it sounds crazy, but don’t knock it ‘till you try it. How are you hiding from yourself black man? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
For Episode 1, Afu takes you to the southside of Atlanta for a conversation with one of his lil brothers (Mike) where he breaks down where his own process went left, how he left home and found purpose as a counselor and what it takes to right the ship when it’s off track. #FocusOnTheWork #TheTrapTherapistPodcast