Podcasts about ethical non monogamy

Some conversations are just too good to stay buried in the archives.This week I'm bringing back one of my absolute favorite episodes with Jessica Fern, author of Polysecure, and David Cooley, co-author of Polywise. Even three years later, this conversation feels just as relevant, thoughtful, and practical as it did the first time we recorded it.If you've ever struggled with jealousy, conflict, emotional triggers, or wondered how to build relationships that actually grow stronger through hard conversations, you're going to want to listen to this one.What I love most about this conversation is that Jessica and David don't just teach relationship theory. They share the messy, beautiful reality of living it. They talk openly about opening their relationship, divorce, becoming life partners again, raising a child together, repairing after conflict, and the emotional work it took to get there.We explore what emotional intelligence actually looks like in everyday relationships, why slowing down often creates more freedom than rushing ahead, and how conflict can become one of the greatest pathways to intimacy instead of something to avoid.One of my favorite moments comes near the end of the episode, when Jessica and David turn the tables and interview me about my own journey through jealousy. Looking back now, it's fascinating to hear that conversation knowing how much my work has continued to evolve around helping people move through jealousy with compassion instead of shame.If you're newer to non-monogamy, this episode will give you practical tools for navigating the inevitable challenges that come with growth.If you've been practicing for years, I think you'll still find yourself nodding along and maybe hearing something in a completely new way.In this episode, we talk about:Why relationships don't have to fit an all-or-nothing modelWhat emotional intelligence actually looks like in healthy relationshipsHow to recognize when repair is needed before resentment buildsThe role conflict plays in creating deeper intimacyWorking with nervous system regulation during difficult conversationsWhy curiosity is one of the greatest relationship skills you can developThe power of slowing down while opening a relationshipHealing attachment wounds and building lasting securityWhether polyamory is an identity, an orientation, or a relationship choiceMy personal journey from overwhelming jealousy to emotional freedomWhether you're just opening your relationship or you've been practicing non-monogamy for years, this conversation is full of the kind of wisdom that only comes from people who've done the work themselves.I'd love to hear what stands out to you after listening. Come find me on Instagram and let me know what resonated most.If this episode supports you, please share it with someone who could use a little more compassion, clarity, and hope on their own relationship journey.Thanks for being here, and enjoy this Rewind episode.Send us Fan MailSupport the show

Fox Emerson moves to Milan with his husband for a fresh start, then lets a charismatic man he met in Atlanta follow him there. The man settles into the apartment, grows colder and stranger by the day, and one late-night argument escalates until Fox is the one in handcuffs, alone in an Italian jail cell with no idea why. Patrick Holbert convinces himself his marriage is quietly open, books an appointment with a dominatrix in Queens, and spends the next six weeks deciding whether to tell his wife. His confession lands nothing like he pictured. Funny, filthy, and more honest about marriage than he probably planned. Both men skipped the conversation that might have changed everything. Leave your comments on the stories and find episode details and music credits at risk-show.Be Part of RISK!

In this episode we bring back Dr Jane Guyn to discuss ENM (ethical non-monogamy). Dr Jane Guyn Terra Blanca

What is it actually like to grow up in a polyamorous family?There are plenty of opinions about how non-monogamy affects children, but very few of those opinions come from people who actually lived it.In this re-released episode of Nope, We're Not Monogamous, I sit down with educator, author, and activist Koe Creation, who grew up in a polyamorous family and now helps people navigate conversations around relationships, gender, sexuality, and chosen family.Together we explore what childhood was really like, how parents can create emotionally safe homes, and why honesty, trust, and communication matter so much more than whether your relationships fit traditional expectations.We also talk about navigating judgment from the outside world, introducing partners to children, "meta parents," and the importance of giving kids age-appropriate information without making relationships feel secret or shameful.Whether you're already raising children in a non-monogamous family, considering opening your relationship, or simply curious about what healthy alternative family structures can look like, this conversation offers a thoughtful perspective that challenges many of the assumptions our culture still holds.In this episode we discuss:What it was like growing up in a polyamorous familyHow children experience non-monogamy differently than adults often assumeTalking with kids about relationships in age-appropriate waysCreating emotional safety through honesty instead of secrecyNavigating schools, extended family, and social stigmaThe role of chosen family and "meta parents"Why communication matters more than family structureThe Platinum Rule: treating people the way they want to be treatedWhat today's media still gets wrong about polyamoryTimestamps00:00 Why people misunderstand polyamorous families01:25 Meet Koe Creation06:00 Choosing non-monogamy for yourself12:30 Growing up outside traditional family structures21:50 Privacy, secrecy, and navigating the outside world28:50 Talking to children about non-monogamy40:00 The Platinum Rule and healthier relationships51:00 Representation, media, and the future of polyamorous familiesConnect with Koe CreationWebsite: https://www.koecreation.comX/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/koecreationBooks MentionedThis Heart Holds Many: My Life as the Non-Binary Millennial of a Polyamorous Family by Koe CreationSex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá❤️ If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, or share it with someone who could use a little reassurance that there are many ways to build a loving family.If you're navigating jealousy, opening a relationship, or trying to create healthier, more secure connections, you can book a free Clarity Chat with me at elleciapaine.com/chat.About the PodcastNope, We're Not Monogamous explores the real lives of people creating love outside traditional relationship structures. Every week we have honest conversations about ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, open relationships, attachment, communication, sexuality, and building relationships that feel authentic instead of automatic.Hosted by relationship coach Ellecia Paine.Send us Fan MailSupport the show

This week The President of The United States of America and Tech Stuff Guy discuss Iran, Elon Musk, Correspondents Dinner, World Cup Halftime Show, Lebron James, and more. If you enjoy the show leave a rating and review on spotify or iTunes. Join the Patreon for hours of bonus content ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.Patreon.com/MPGA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For months,we've received messages asking the same question..."Whydid you leave the lifestyle?""What really happened between you and Autumn?"Until now,we've only shared small pieces of the story.In thisemotional and honest episode of The Swingers Couch Podcast, Carlos opensup about a conversation with a close friend that made him realize it wasfinally time to tell the complete story. We discuss the real reasons behind ourseparation, the challenges we faced, why we stepped away from the swingerlifestyle (LS), and the lessons we learned through one of the toughest periodsof our lives.This isn'tabout drama or pointing fingers—it's about sharing the truth, talking about therealities that many couples face, and hopefully helping others who may be goingthrough similar struggles.Whetheryou're new to swinging, curious about ethical non-monogamy (ENM), or alreadypart of the lifestyle, this episode offers an honest look at relationships,communication, heartbreak, personal growth, and what happens when life doesn'tgo as planned.If you'veever wondered what really happened behind the scenes, this is the episodeyou've been waiting for.

This week, I chat with Temptress Pixie, erotic writer, kink educator, dominatrix, and open relationship expert, to explore a world that's often misunderstood. We talked about BDSM, power exchange, pegging, tantra, conscious domination, submission, nervous system regulation, and how kink can become a profound path toward healing.Whether you're deeply immersed in kink or curious about why so many people find freedom through conscious power dynamics, this conversation goes way beyond whips and chains.We also get into...• how she accidentally discovered BDSM through Rihanna's S&M song• the surprising journey from lifelong submissive to dominatrix• why communication is the sexiest foreplay• how fantasy conversations can strengthen relationships• what tantra and BDSM actually have in common• why pegging carries so much unnecessary shame• how play helps us reconnect with parts of ourselves we've forgotten• and why pleasure, healing, and spirituality might all be speaking the same language.As always...take what resonates, leave the rest, and stay curious.Watch the episode on YouTube. Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and guest introduction01:21 How Timtress Pixie discovered BDSM03:32 Defining BDSM and kink04:25 Range of interests in BDSM and kink05:58 Submissive and dominant roles explained07:07 Pain, confidence, and power exchange09:17 The story of the switch to dominance11:53 Creative role play and trust14:56 Evolving into full dominance17:55 The importance of play and imagination22:40 Daddy and Mommy Dom roles26:01 BDSM as therapy and emotional healing27:38 Tantra and energy work in BDSM32:58 Journey into different BDSM styles and tools36:55 Pegging: Tips, conversations, and overcoming shame44:53 Prostate play, anal exploration, and tantraConnect with Temptress Pixie:IG: @temptress.pixie & @enm_diariesSupport the showConnect with Kristin:WebsiteInstagramYouTubeKristin's Best-Selling Book:Sex, Drugs, & Soul (Amazon)Spotify AudiobookSubscribe to the Pod:YouTubeSpotifyApplePeptides:https://elliemd.com/kristinbirdwellMicrodose

Some conversations are simply too good to leave in the archives.This week I'm re-releasing one of my favorite early episodes with my dear friend, Wilder. Even years later, this conversation feels just as relevant. We dive into what it actually looks like to build a life outside of traditional relationship norms, from joining an already-married couple to creating a thriving polyamorous family together.Wilder shares her experience of living in a closed triad, navigating the assumptions people make about triads, unpacking monogamous conditioning, and raising children in a loving, intentional polyamorous household.Whether you're curious about polyamory, already practicing ethical non-monogamy, or simply interested in questioning the relationship scripts we've all inherited, this conversation is full of honesty, vulnerability, and hope.Wilder lives in Olalla with her partners, their children, and an ever-growing collection of chickens, ducks, adventures, and beautiful chaos.In This Episode What a closed triad actually is - and what people often misunderstand about them  Why labels can be helpful...and where they can become limiting  The emotional journey of transitioning from monogamy to polyamory  Authenticity, self-love, and creating relationships that fit who you really are  Unlearning monogamous programming  Navigating jealousy with curiosity instead of fear  Raising children in a polyamorous family  Imagining new possibilities for love, family, and partnership  The difference between control and trust  Choosing authenticity over societal expectations Timestamps2:19 – What is a closed triad?4:20 – Labels and identity8:24 – Transitioning into polyamory15:03 – Authenticity and self-love18:59 – Monogamous programming and triad dynamics33:24 – Jealousy44:49 – Raising kids in a polyamorous family52:44 – The possibilities of the future54:41 – Control versus trust1:00:08 – Living authenticallyIf you enjoyed this conversation, I'd love for you to share it with someone who's questioning the relationship "rules" they've always been taught. Every time we hear real stories from real people, it becomes a little easier to imagine that there are many ways to build a loving, connected life.❤️ Thanks for listening to Nope, We're Not Monogamous.Send us Fan MailSupport the show

This week onJust the Tip Thursday, we're answering a listener email that dives intosome topics that don't get talked about nearly enough in the lifestyle.Have youever wondered how to explore a new fantasy but didn't know where to start?In thisepisode of the Swingers Couch Podcast, we answer a listener's email from a manwho wants to explore his bi-curious side and is looking for advice on findingthe right guy for his first experience. We also dive into a common issue manymen face—getting stuck in your head and losing your erection during play.We discuss:How to safely explore bisexual curiosity in the swinging lifestyleTips for beginners entering the lifestyleFinding trustworthy lifestyle couples and single menPerformance anxiety and how to overcome itBuilding confidence in the bedroomCommunication, consent, and setting boundariesCommon mistakes new swingers makeReal, honest advice from experienced swingersWhetheryou're brand new to the lifestyle, curious about swinging, interested inethical non-monogamy, or simply looking for relationship and sexual confidencetips, this episode is packed with practical advice and real conversations.

Episode 214 (Don and Syn) Entitlement in the Lifestyle = In this episode of the Kinky Frame of Mind podcast Don and Syn are back in the studio. Don talks about Pride month and then they talk about their 4th. then this weeks topic is about people being entitled in the lifestyle. We discuss ways we feel people are entitled and how people have tried to ask us to do things cause of our name or they feel they know us and want special privilege 

Most conversations about non-monogamy focus on opening a relationship, navigating jealousy, or finding new partners.But what happens after that?How do you navigate a polycule where relationships are constantly evolving? How do you manage different expectations, conflicting needs, shifting priorities, and the very human reality that not everyone connects in the same way?In this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous, I'm joined by Red DeRooy and Stacey Smith?, co-authors of Nonmonogamy and Group Dynamics, to explore what it really takes to build healthy relationship communities.We talk about why polycules function more like communities than relationship structures, how many of the skills you already use in friendships can help you navigate non-monogamy, and why curiosity is often more valuable than certainty.Whether you're part of a large polycule, have close metamour relationships, or are simply trying to build stronger connections with the people you love, this conversation is packed with practical insights.In this episode, we discuss:Why romantic groups function differently than one-on-one relationshipsHow to manage different expectations without unnecessary conflictThe difference between fairness and equality in non-monogamyWhy communication starts with knowing what to talk aboutManaging conflict without destabilizing an entire polyculeWhy every relationship is still built one connection at a timeThe importance of one-on-one connection, even within group relationshipsDifferent approaches to metamour relationships and why there isn't one "right" wayBuilding found family and community through non-monogamyNavigating breakups with compassion and preserving meaningful connectionsThe surprising relationship skills you probably already haveOne of my favorite moments from this conversation was the reminder that most of us already know more than we think we do.You've probably navigated friendship groups, family conflict, difficult conversations, changing relationships, and competing needs long before practicing non-monogamy. Those same skills are often the foundation for creating thriving polycules.Connect with Stacey and Red - Grab a copy of Nonmonogamy and Group Dynamics wherever books are sold, including audiobook format.

Episode 213 - Brat edition - Lady Kroft rant about a Tik Tok - In this episode of the Kinky Frame of Mind podcast, Don and Lady Kroft hit the studio. They discuss Oklahoma Leather fest and the things they did. Then they discuss a Tik Tok that Lady Koft saw about consent violation and touching with our permission 

In Part 2 of this bold and unfiltered conversation, Eve welcomes back Cidney Green for a deep dive into kink exploration, fetish psychology, ethical non-monogamy, BDSM, fantasy versus reality, communication, consent, and sexuality. Cidney Green, creator of the viral “Pussy Over Pain” movement and author of All 3 In Me, shares raw insights on phone sex, fetish stigma, healing through BDSM, open relationships, jealousy, threesomes, and the role of honest communication in creating healthy, fulfilling intimate relationships. One of the most powerful moments in this episode is a role-play in which Eve and Cidney demonstrate how a couple might navigate a conversation about ethical non-monogamy and the possibility of inviting a third person into their relationship or bedroom. Through this realistic example, they model healthy communication, curiosity, boundary-setting, consent, emotional safety, and how to discuss fantasies without judgment. Rather than promoting any particular relationship structure, the conversation highlights that consensual non-monogamy, open relationships, and threesomes can be approached ethically when all parties communicate openly and enthusiastically consent. In this episode, you'll learn about: • BDSM and fetish exploration• Fetish psychology and kink stigma• Ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, and polyamory• How to talk to your partner about a threesome• Introducing a third partner into a relationship• Relationship communication and emotional safety• Consent, boundaries, and negotiation skills• Sexual empowerment and pleasure• Women's pleasure and orgasm equality• Fantasy versus reality in sexuality• Healing, growth, and self-discovery through intimacy If you're interested in sex education, ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, threesomes, kink, BDSM, relationship communication, sexual wellness, consent, body positivity, and authentic conversations about pleasure, this episode is for you. Connect with Guest:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thecidneygInstagram: @thecidneyg website: all3inme | Discover Liberation Today — Explore, Embrace, Empower ASN Lifestyle Magazine Awards – Best EducatorVote for Eve Website: Please Me! Podcast WebsiteSubstack: Please Me! SubstackPatreon: Please Me! Patreon The code for cakes now for 10% off is Cakes-PLEASEME 30-Day Self Pleasure & Body Reconnection PracticesDownload the Free Practices Sexual Longevity ProtocolSexual Longevity Protocol Affiliate Deals & Partners:Sexual Wellness Deals & Resources Shameless Care Parlor Games SDC.com Lady Pump Share your story or expertise on relationships, sexual health, and personal growth:Be a Guest on Please Me! Podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the thing you're craving most isn't another dating app, another relationship book, or another set of rules?What if it's community?In this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous, Ellecia sits down with Jamie Love, Executive Director of Sex Positive World, to talk about the power of finding spaces where you can show up authentically, explore with curiosity, and realize you're not as alone as you thought.They dive into what sex positivity actually means beyond the stereotypes, why community is essential for people navigating non-monogamy, kink, and alternative relationships, and how play can become a pathway to deeper intimacy and self-discovery.Whether you're brand new to this world or you've been practicing non-monogamy for years, this conversation is a reminder that you don't have to have it all figured out before you find your people.In This Episode, We Discuss:What Sex Positive World is and the work they're doing to make sexuality education more accessibleWhy community matters so much when exploring non-monogamy and kinkThe courage it takes to attend your first event aloneHow shame keeps us disconnected and what happens when we let ourselves be seenWhy observation is participation and why you never have to do more than feels right for youBoundaries, consent, and learning what your wants, needs, and desires actually areThe role of play in intimacy, pleasure, and connectionPet play, primal play, cuddle spaces, and expanding your definition of what intimacy can look likeHow sex positivity intersects with advocacy, belonging, and creating cultural changeWhy finding your people matters now more than everResources MentionedSex Positive World: https://www.sexpositiveworld.orgLearn more about Sex Positive World's online classes, community events, and educational offeringsPolytopia Conference in Portland, OregonJessica Fern and PolysecureConnect with Jamie LoveJamie Love (she/they) is the Executive Director of Sex Positive World and an educator, facilitator, and community builder passionate about creating spaces where people can explore sexuality, relationships, consent, and connection without shame.Send us Fan MailSupport the show

Episode 212- Synful Ladies - Break Time - In this installment of The Synful Ladies on Kinky Frame of Mind, the Ladies discuss how to handle things when one of your partners needs to take a break from participating in the LS or kink world. Whether it's due to medical issues or needing a break, Scarlett, Ms. Syn, and Lady Kroft break it all down.

Send us a text & leave your email address if you want a reply!Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown open up the mailbox in this candid listener Q&A episode, tackling the real questions you've been too nervous to ask out loud. From healing sexual trauma in a relationship and rebuilding emotional intimacy after a rough patch, to navigating the polyamory conversation and letting go of body image shame in the bedroom. This episode goes deep, fast, and leaves nothing on the table. If you've ever felt alone with a question about your sex life or relationship, this one is for you.KEY TAKEAWAYS→ Healing sexual trauma in relationships is possible — somatic practices like Tantra and IFS can be more effective than cognitive-only therapy, and your partner can be one of your most powerful healers→ Rebuilding emotional intimacy after a rough patch starts small: consistent micro-rituals, gratitude, 20-second hugs, and intentional touch rebuild oxytocin and trust faster than big gestures→ If you're curious about ethical non-monogamy or polyamory, lead with curiosity before desire — ask your partner what they think and feel before making it a request, and get any agreements in writing→ Sexual boundaries are self-care, not selfishness — knowing whether yours are a request or a requirement helps you communicate them clearly and without guilt→ Feeling sexy is an inside job: drop the mirror, close your eyes, breathe into your body, and let sensation lead — pleasure has nothing to do with size, shape, or age→ The four pillars of deep intimacy — vulnerability, presence, trust, and attunement — apply whether you're healing, reconnecting, or just trying to feel more alive in your relationshipGot a question for Leah and Willow? Submit it for a future listener Q&A episode at: support@sexreimagined.com LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE CAN BE FOUND ON THE WEBSITE: https://www.sexreimagined.com/blog/how-to-heal-sexual-trauma-in-relationships LAST 10x LONGER. If you suffer from premature ejaculation, you are not alone, master 5 techniques to cure this stressful & embarrassing issue once and for all. Save 20% Coupon: PODCAST20.  THE MALE GSPOT & PROSTATE MASTERCLASS. This is for you if… You've heard of epic anal orgasms, & you wonder if it's possible for you too. Save 20% Coupon PODCAST20.  AWAKEN AROUSAL OIL LUBRICANT | Reach new levels of intimacy with our arousal oil, formulated for the female body. Once applied, this topical oil works with your body to enhance sensation and "o's," helping you reach states of euphoric pleasure.Support the showFREEBIE- Introduction to Tantric Kissing Video and WorkbookSxR WebsiteDr. Willow's WebsiteLeah's Website 

Episode 211 - Male POV - The Cringy talk - In this episode of the Kinky Frame of Mind podcast the guys are back in the studio. We catch up with the guys about things that have been going on. Then we hit this weeks topic, words or phrases in the lifestyle that make you cringe. So the guys list a few and talk about why they make them cringe

Steve Harvey Morning Show Online: http://www.steveharveyfm.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Steve Harvey Morning Show Online: http://www.steveharveyfm.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you ever feel like everyone else in polyamory got the compersion memo except you?Like you're supposed to be thrilled when your partner is excited about someone else... and if you're not, maybe you're doing non-monogamy wrong?In this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous, we're talking about compersion, what it actually is, what it isn't, and why forcing yourself to feel it often creates more harm than healing.Because here's the truth: You don't have to be ecstatic. You don't have to pretend you're okay when you're not. And neutrality is a huge win.Inside this episode, we explore:→ why compersion isn't mandatory→ the pressure to be the "cool" polyamorous person→ how comparison and scarcity keep us stuck→ the social fairy tale training that taught us love equals exclusivity→ why your partner's joy doesn't erase your value→ how emotional safety creates space for genuine compersion→ why forcing compersion is often self-abandonment wearing glitter [laugh]Because real compersion doesn't grow from pressure. It grows from trust. From self-worth. From emotional security. From knowing that somebody else's happiness doesn't automatically threaten your place in their life.If you've ever wondered why compersion feels hard, or felt like you were failing because you weren't happy enough for your partner, this episode is for you.

Episode 210 - Don and Syn - Chem sex and consent - In this episode of Kinky Frame of Mind Podcast Don and Syn are in the studio vand talk about all their crazy things going on in life. The topic this week is chem sex and how its different in different communities and how consent ties into that. This question was asked to Don when he ran at Scissortail last year and we finally dive into it. 

This is a replay to get the video version of the episode onto podcast apps that previously only had the audio version. Season 6, Episode 746: From Threesomes to Non-Monogamy: One Man's Journey Beyond Jealousy and Shame with author Adam Darrow about his edgy, honest, and raw memoir "Seek the Risk" (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/3KrboVR This was an enlightening conversation and one many should listen to. Expanding our boundaries may seem difficult, and it doesn't pan out for everyone, but either way, valuble lessons are learned about oneself, one's limitations become clearer when faced with new challenges, and what we are willing to do for love becomes obvious. A question to ask yourself, well, more than one, what cultural shame is holding you back? Why should we allow culture to decide what is acceptable and what isn't? Would you ever stare normalcy in the face and give it the finger and do what you want? Even if it cost you relationships? Can you withstand the heat of a cultural assault from a judgmental mob of societal norm enforcers? (even if they are your friends and family?) Or would you just stand up tall, point your chin up, and say FU and just do it? When Adam Darrow met Jane at forty, he thought he was the adventurous one. After all, he'd spent his twenties competing in extreme sports and had explored threesomes—that made him pretty edgy, right? Then Jane, a PhD psychologist who spoke five languages, told him she didn't do boyfriends (and she meant it). Drawing from his background in extreme sports, Darrow spent two and a half years transitioning into non-monogamy, followed by three challenging years of emotional work before finding equilibrium. The journey wasn't easy. He didn't think he could do it. When his partner Jane publicly announced their arrangement on Facebook in 2009, Darrow watched his life wildly transform. His best friend called him derogatory names. But over time, he discovered something unexpected: jealousy could be channeled into motivation to become a better partner. What initially felt emasculating became an opportunity to overcome deep-seated insecurities like imposter syndrome and validation-seeking. His memoir chronicles this transformative experience through vulnerable storytelling that includes explicit extreme sexual details and uncomfortable emotional truths, as well as healing and growth. How did keeping emotions bottled up nearly break him? The book explores that question while advocating for moving beyond societal shame around sexuality, relationship conformity, and focusing on personal authenticity rather than rigid beliefs about relationships. Estimated Timeline:  Adam Darrow's Journey Into Non-Monogamy 00:03:40 - PhD Psychologist with Unconventional Past 00:06:43 - Extreme Sports Skills Applied to Non-Monogamy 00:09:13 - Separating Sex from Emotion in Relationships 00:19:57 - Managing Jealousy Through Don't Ask, Don't Tell 00:22:26 - From Jealousy to Compersion in Open Relationships 00:25:11 - Breaking Through Shame and Choosing Each Other 00:28:42 - Walking the Beach: Questioning My Limits, book excerpt 00:33:17 - Understanding Nesting Couples and Non-Monogamy 00:39:43 - Letting Go of Control in Relationships 00:46:22 - Vulnerability and Authenticity in Memoir Writing 00:51:51 - Writing the Book and Her Reaction 00:58:17 - Identity Beyond Sexual Acts, sexuality 01:06:44 - Overcoming Jealousy Through Personal Growth 01:11:27 - Healthy vs Unhealthy Jealousy in Relationships Connect with Adam Darrow:  Link to the books website  www.seektherisk.net Substack seektherisk.substack.com Email for folks to contact Adam at adam@seektherisk.net insta:   @seektherisk Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow  

Episode 209 - The Brat Edition - Lets talk about Bi baby! = OK lets try this again, posted the wrong audio the first time, sorry lol. In this Episode of the Kink Frame of Mind podcast Don ad Lady Kroft are in the studio, They discuss Rope Jam and all the happenings in their lives. Then in this episode we take a dive into the Bi side, We discuss all the different terms people use to explain their Bi activity. We talk about how we feel these terms fit and don't fit. We also talk a little about how the lifestyle and Bi play mesh and don't mesh. 

Jealousy can feel overwhelming, shame-filled, and honestly… kind of brutal.A delayed text, a shift in energy, hearing your partner mention someone else, and suddenly your body is spiraling before your brain can catch up.If you've ever felt jealous and then judged yourself for it, this episode is for you.In this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous, I'm breaking down why jealousy feels so intense, especially in non-monogamy, and what's often really happening underneath it.We talk about:→ why jealousy is a normal human emotion→ the fear, comparison, and old wounds underneath it→ why shame makes jealousy feel even bigger→ how to start understanding what jealousy is trying to tell youIf jealousy has been running the show, this is exactly why I created Beyond Jealousy, to help you feel more secure in yourself and your relationships.

What if the relationship you are in is not fundamentally broken, yet lacks transparency? This episode delves into the complexities of navigating feelings, desires, and questions that often remain unspoken within partnerships. We explore the aftermath of infidelity and the emotional turbulence that ensues, discussing the importance of honesty and communication in fostering genuine connection. Joined by Dr. Joli Hamilton, a distinguished relationship coach, we dissect what constitutes effective relational dynamics, what leads to disarray, and the critical self-awareness required before embarking on a journey of ethical non-monogamy. This conversation is particularly pertinent for those currently dating or contemplating their own relationship structures, as we seek to illuminate the path to authenticity and fulfillment in love.⏱️ TIMESTAMPS00:00 Picking Up Where We Left Off00:42 The Reality of Non-Monogamy03:15 What People Get Wrong06:28 Boundaries and Where It Breaks10:12 Jealousy and Emotional Triggers14:05 Building Trust and Doing the Work18:22 The Hard Truth Most People Avoid22:40 When It Starts to Fall Apart27:18 What She Would Do Differently31:55 Advice Before You Try This

Is This Freedom or Just Chaos - Could Ethical Non-Monogamy Be for You? Get ready to dive into the world of ethical non-monogamy as James Preece welcomes the brilliant Daniella Guimaraes, founder of Velvet Ties - the world's first ethical non-monogamy matchmaking service. This episode is packed with playful curiosity and real answers on why more people than ever are exploring ethical non-monogamy. Wondering about jealousy, boundaries, or the infamous "kitchen table polyamory"? Daniella Guimaraes reveals how Velvet Ties is serving up a new kind of relationship adventure - from globe-trotting, heart-opening events to matchmaking that's all about consent, honesty, and meaningful connection. You'll hear stories of real couples, throuples, and curious singles finding their way in a judgement-free community. Whether you're ENM-curious or simply want to up your relationship game, tune in for loads of insight and some candid talk on sex, intimacy, and why honesty matters more than any Hollywood fantasy. Curious? So are we. Press play and find out if ethical non-monogamy could change your view on love forever. About Daniella  www.velvetties.com  WHATSAPP GROUP https://www.instagram.com/velvetties_/ About James James Preece is the UK's top Dating Coach with over 21 years experience helping singles all over the world. He is the host of the Love Machine Podcast. Get his free book when you join his newsletter : https://www.jamespreece.com/dating-newsletter/ Website: https://www.jamespreece.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamespreececoaching/

I've said it a thousand times and I'll say it again, the number one thing standing between you and the sex life you actually want is probably one conversation you haven't had yet. Not a new position. Not a new toy. A conversation. And I know that sounds simple, but if it were easy, you wouldn't be talking yourself out of it every single time. Today, I'm taking live listener calls on some of the most awkward, most avoided, most necessary conversations in sex and relationships, and giving you the exact words to have them. In this episode, you'll learn:  • What to do when everything in your relationship is great except the sex — and how to bring it up without making your partner feel like the last nine months were a waste  • How to give feedback about a smell, a skill, or a habit that's getting in the way of your pleasure — without shame, without cruelty, and without killing the mood  • Why if you're freezing up every time you want to initiate, the problem probably isn't your partner's response — it's the story you're telling yourself before you even open your mouth This episode is sponsored by... Try Promescent Delay Spray today and get 15% off your first order. Just go to www.promescent.com/swe More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily's favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you'll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let's get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let's text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 1:44 - Caller #1: Sex Is Lackluster After 9 Months — Is It a Dealbreaker? 11:27 - How to Tell Someone They're Bad at Hand Jobs 13:06 - Caller #2: She's Monogamous, He Wants Non-Monogamy 18:55 - Dr. Emily on Ethical Non-Monogamy & Why Timing Matters 19:58 - Caller #3: Should He Tell His Culinary School Crush He Has Feelings? 27:25 - Caller #4: Hemorrhoid Surgery, Skin Tags & Talking About It With Partners 33:39 - Anonymous Question: She Smells — How Do You Bring It Up? 36:06 - Caller #5: She Wants Sex But Freezes Up Before Initiating 42:03 - Dr. Emily's Final Word: If No One Initiates, There's Zero Sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you stuck, focusing on what's wrong in your relationship? Deeply embedded in the work of intimacy, desire and relationships, psychotherapist and best-selling author Esther Perel, ask us to take a look at ourselves first, rather than listing the short comings of our partner.

There's a very specific kind of loneliness that can happen when you're dating someone who's already partnered.The connection can be real. The feelings can be real. And still… something feels off.If you're navigating non-monogamy as a solo person, especially when you're dating someone who already has an established partner, this episode is for you.Because this dynamic can be beautiful… and also confusing, activating, and quietly painful if you don't have language for what's happening.In this episode, we're talking about: → Why you can feel deeply connected and still feel lonely → The difference between choosing this dynamic vs. settling for it → How your needs can change as you get more emotionally invested → Why early dating is still early dating (even in polyamory) → The impact of couple's privilege (and how to recognize it) → How to advocate for your needs without overcompensating → Why you have to date what's actually available… not potential → What it looks like when this dynamic is actually healthyAnd most importantly… How to stop centering couplehood as the only way to feel loved, supported, and fully met.This episode is about staying anchored in yourself, even when the connection is strong.Because you don't have to become the “cool, low-maintenance partner” to make this work.And you don't have to convince yourself that less is enough.Send us Fan MailSupport the show

Have you ever found yourself holding feelings about a relationship… that technically isn't even yours?Like your partner shares something about their other partner…and suddenly you f eel protective… or tense… or a little off around someone you didn't have an issue with before?Yeah… that's usually a communication triangle.In this episode, I'm breaking down how triangulation actually shows up in non-monogamy, why it's so easy to fall into, and how it can quietly create tension and distortion in your relationships.We talk about the difference between venting and processing, the “emotional telephone” effect, and how to stop carrying emotional weight that was never yours to hold.And I share one of my favorite grounding practices for this: ✨ stay in your lane, stay in your truth ✨Because when communication gets cleaner, your relationships get lighter, clearer, and way more sustainable.

What if the thing you thought made you “too much”… was actually the doorway to deeper connection, more honest relationships, and a whole lot more pleasure?In this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous, I'm joined by writer and poet Kate Heskett, whose story appears in the new anthology Pillow Talk, a collection of real, raw, awkward, and hilarious experiences of sex, intimacy, and desire.Kate shares what it was like to show up alone to their very first swingers hotel takeover, the anxiety, the curiosity, and the unexpected validation of finding people who see the world the way they do.We talk about what happens when monogamy never quite made sense, the messy transition into non-monogamy, and what it actually looks like to build “love-first” relationships without rigid rules.In This Episode, We Cover:→ What a swingers hotel takeover is really like (beyond the fantasy)→ The anxiety and courage of showing up alone to your first lifestyle event→ Kate's story “Pineapples in the Snow” and what it represents → Growing up feeling “wrong” and trying to fit into monogamy → The transition from monogamy to non-monogamy (and why it can be messy)→ What “love-first” non-monogamy looks like in real life→ Navigating triad dynamics, distance, and communication → Compersion, voyeurism, and different turn-ons in open relationships→ Why real, honest stories about sex and relationships matterAbout Kate HeskettKate Heskett (they/them) is an award-winning poet, writer, and canoe guide based in Whistler, BC. Their work has been published in Pique and The Lupine Review, and they are a contributing author in the anthology Pillow Talk: Real People. Real Stories. Real Awkward.Their story, Pineapples in the Snow, shares their first experience at a swingers hotel takeover, exploring risk, desire, and the powerful validation of finding community.Pillow Talk: Real People. Real Stories. Real Awkward. is an anthology featuring 18 writers sharing frank, funny, and deeply human stories about intimacy, desire, and the moments we don't usually talk about.From awkward encounters to moments of joy and self-discovery, this book helps normalize the full spectrum of human experience.

Outlouders, enjoy this free taster of Mia Freedman on today's subscriber episode. Listen to the full conversation — 'Three Very Different Opinions On Lindy West’s Throuple' — at 5 pm TODAY. What do you mean, you're not a subscriber yet? Solve that problem HERE.The death of millennial feminism. A bad marriage. Absolutely none of our business. These are just some of the Internet’s takes on the memoir Adult Braces by millennial icon Lindy West. And of course Mia — who has met and interviewed Lindy and found her delightful and blisteringly smart — has a few opinions of her own. Joined on this subscriber episode by Clare Stephens and Holly Wainwright, Mia asks and answers some questions about the most talked-about memoir of the moment. Questions like: If you spill all the details of your polyamorous throuple in a series of personal essays, can you actually argue that your relationship is not 'for public audit'? And: Do we just find it impossible to believe a woman can be happy in a non-monogamous relationship? And: When someone tells you they really, really don’t want to be monogamous, shouldn’t you just believe them? Remember, this is your free sample of today's subs episode. The full debrief drops for subscribers at 5pm. Get 25% off Nala with your Mamamia subscription. Click here to get your code ends April 1st. What To Listen To Next: Listen to Lindy West on No Filter: Lindy West Isn't Afraid to Take Up Space Listen to our latest episode: Polyamory, Cheating & The Marriage No One Wants To Believe Listen: An Unhinged List Of Rules No One Asked For Listen: Mia's Diary Note: Burnout & Bras & Books, Oh My! Listen: A Dangerous Influencer Trend & Scurrilous Lip-Reading Gossip Listen: 'Are Flaps In Or Out?' Mia's Rogue Oscars Fashion Feedback Listen: A Very Awkward Oscars & That Manosphere Doco Listen: What We Did Before 9am Listen: A Lil' Treat: Jessie’s Very Surprising, Very Wonderful Twins Update Connect your subscription to Apple Podcasts Discover more Mamamia Podcasts here including the very latest episode of Parenting Out Loud, the parenting podcast for people who don't listen to... parenting podcasts. SUBSCRIBE here: Support independent women's media Watch Australia's #1 podcast, Mamamia Out Loud: Mamamia Out Loud on YouTube What to read: Author Lindy West thought she had a 'perfect' marriage. Then her husband asked to open it. Lindy West: "I was in a relationship with a guy who was embarrassed to be seen with me in public." Lindy West: "My abortion was simple with no pain. We need to hear these stories." He set up a fake profile of her deceased father, just to mess with her. THE END BITS: Check out our merch at MamamiaOutLoud.com GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening. Send us an email at outloud@mamamia.com.au Share your story, feedback, or dilemma! Send us a voice message. Join our Facebook group Mamamia Outlouders to talk about the show. Follow us on Instagram @mamamiaoutloud and on Tiktok @mamamiaoutloud Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land on which we have recorded this podcast.Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we review our trip to 'The Resort' which was first introduced by George in episode 137. The Resort is a new opportunity to step into ethical non-monogamy in a new format and market. This property is set on the cliffs of western Jamaica and is absolutely stunning! The views, the service, the food, the entertainment, the sensual vibe and of course the sexy people were all amazing! Spoiler alert: you won't be disappointed.... Mentioned in this episode: The Resort website Music by Pornoson (used with permission) Devious Dragonfly Events The Free We Gotta Thing Info Hub Contact Mr Jones for a WGT community promo code

What are metamour relationships supposed to look like in non-monogamy? Do you have to be instant best friends… or even chosen family… with your partner's partner?In this episode, relationship coach Ellecia Paine explores the real emotional pacing of metamour connections. From the pressure to create “kitchen table polyamory” right away, to the importance of chemistry, play, and nervous system safety, this conversation offers grounded insight for anyone navigating polyamory, open relationships, or complex love dynamics.You'll learn why authentic metamour relationships grow through shared experiences over time, not performance or obligation, and how to build connection in ways that feel sustainable for your real life.Whether you're new to non-monogamy or deep in your journey, this episode will help you release unrealistic expectations and create more compassionate, conscious relationship dynamics. In this episode we explore:• What kitchen table polyamory really means (and common misconceptions)• Why expecting instant closeness with metamours can create pressure• How friendship chemistry and pacing impact polyamorous relationships• The role of play and shared experiences in building trust• How to allow metamour relationships to develop naturally• Emotional safety, authenticity, and sustainable connection in non-monogamySend us Fan MailSupport the show

  In this episode of The Swingers Couch Podcast, Carlosand Autumn break down the Word of the Week: Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)and explain what it really means in the lifestyle (LS). Is ENM the same asswinging? How do couples practice it while maintaining trust, honesty, andrespect?We also highlight something amazing happening in our Discordcommunity—listeners continuing the conversation after the episode drops.Members are sharing advice, supporting newcomers, and helping couples navigatetheir LS journey.Then in Swingers News, we discuss the shockingheadline about former reality TV personality Tony McCollister pleadingnot guilty by reason of insanity in a case that has people talking across thelifestyle community.Finally, we close the episode with a Sexy Story thatwill leave your imagination running wild.If you're curious about ethical non-monogamy, swinging,open relationships, and lifestyle advice, this is an episode you don't wantto miss.

Welcome to another sultry episode of Nikky After Dark, where we dive deep into the raw, unfiltered desires of our listeners. I'm your host, Nikky, ready to share some steamy confessions that will have you rethinking worship, praise, and everything in between. Tonight's theme? Body worship and praise—those moments when touch turns into devotion, and words become the ultimate aphrodisiac. Buckle up, because we've got stories that range from sleepy surrenders to full-on adoration sessions.Imagine waking up in the dead of night to a whispered plea, only to surrender your body completely—used, desired, and left craving more years later.A fantasy of being an altar for a starving man, his hands and mouth reverent, his gratitude spilling over in every slow, savoring touch.From the bathhouse to the bedroom, a hotwife checks off her bucket list with a crowd of admirers, but it's the one man's trembling worship that makes it sacred.Join us over on Discord. https://discord.gg/uqqxsCSDfwContent Warning: This episode contains explicit sexual content, including graphic descriptions of nudity, public sex, infidelity, and boundary-pushing consensual fantasies.Stories are fictional and depict enthusiastic consent. Listener discretion advised; 18+ only. Submissions involving bestiality, incest, underage role-play, rape, non-consensual content, or racial slurs are not aired. Get Involved:Submit Your Story: Got a secret fantasy or steamy confession? Write to Nikky at Nikky@dearnikky.com or submit anonymously at DearNikky.com/confessions. By submitting, you certify:You're the sole creator of the submission.You're 18+ and legally able to submit erotic material.No prohibited themes (bestiality, incest, underage, rape, non-consensual content, racial slurs).Names/identifiable info may be changed.You release all rights to the submission.Say Hello: Have a burning fantasy or just want to chat? Email Nikky@dearnikky.com or connect on Twitter (@DNikky162), Instagram (@DNikky162) , or Facebook (@DearNikky). Nikky wants to hear your naughtiest thoughts!Support the Show: Love these private peeks into filthy lives? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify,  Spreaker or your favorite platform to help new listeners discover the heat. Your support keeps the conversation sizzling!Support Nikky:Patreon: Unlock exclusive confessions, bonus thoughts, and steamy Q&As at Patreon.com/DearNikky. Join the inner circle for extra spice!Nectar.ai: Explore your wildest fantasies with immersive AI experiences at Nectar.ai. Perfect for Frisky Friday fans craving more.Featured Release: Dear Nikky: Sex Confessions From People Just Like You is out now! Dive deeper into the raw, unfiltered stories you love. Contact:Email: Nikky@dearnikky.comWebsite: DearNikky.com/confessionsSocials: Twitter (@DNikky162), Instagram (@DNikky162), Facebook (@DearNikky)Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dear-nikky-hidden-desires--6316414/support.

Non-monogamy isn't just more love. It's more feelings, more conversations, and sometimes… a lot more processing.In this episode, I'm sitting down with Candace Sogren, lawyer, former CEO, emotional intelligence facilitator, mom, and author of Poly Agony. She's been ethically non-monogamous for over 20 years, raising a child in community, building non-traditional family structures, and living this life fully out loud.And we're not talking about the cute, Instagram version of polyamory.We're talking about the mistakes. The broken agreements. The repair conversations. The parenting realities. And what it actually takes to make this sustainable.We get into:→ The most common mistakes couples make when opening→ Why repair matters more than perfection→ Raising kids in open relationships without shame→ Transparency vs. disclosure (especially with children)→ Introducing partners in healthy, grounded ways→ The emotional labor of loving more than one personCandace also shares a powerful story about advocating for non-traditional families after being denied custody of children because of her polyamorous identity.This episode is for you if you're opening a relationship, parenting while poly, or just trying to build something that actually fits your heart.Send a textFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We're confident FLOW will reignite your spark! Support the show

Hey loves, it's Nikky — and Valentine's gave us the full delicious mess this time. I'm still buzzing (and occasionally cringing) from these listener confessions that swing wildly between laugh-out-loud disasters, scorching triumphs, and the kind of hard lessons that stick.We've got capsaicin betrayal that turned a spicy dinner into screaming “fire down below” panic — milk baths, ice cream, and pure regret. Then there's the perfectly executed hotwife fantasy: shimmering stockings, red stilettos staying locked on, double-team action with rimming and that sweet cleanup glow. One wife slipped into blue lace Honey Birdette — mesh teasing, stay-ups gripping, no panties — and begged me to hear how she asked to be “used like your whore,” unlocking filthy new depths with her husband. And the gut-punch: red lace, thigh-highs, rough play that felt electric until post-orgasm tears revealed unprocessed emotions, leaving regret in the afterglow.I unpack it all — the highs that leave you throbbing for days, the epic fails that make us laugh until we cry, and the reminders that consent, deep check-ins, and aftercare aren't optional; they're everything. Lingerie obsessives, you're welcome — those stockings + heels staying on details? They amplify every single sensation.What's your Valentine's high or low? Drop your anonymous confessions in the comments, DMs, — the juiciest might get a soft, sexy read on the next episode.Explicit adult content — 18+ only. If these stories have you aching, come join me on Patreon for ad-free drops (Wed & Fri), exclusive erotic audios every Thursday, private channels where we get even dirtier, and live shows ad-free the next day. Link in bio.Sweet, sinful, and a little wiser together…

This week Elle and Vee have a deep, free-flowing and wide-ranging chat with JC Wilde, writer and director of the film Wild Fire. They speak about emotional affairs and the radical honesty that nearly burned her marriage down, and then what happens when you stop performing “perfect partner” and start saying the thing that scares you most. Inspired by real-life truth-or-dare confessions, Wild Fire sparks a raw conversation about open relationships, people-pleasing, projection, and the freedom of a no-more-bullsh*t kind of love. This is a conversation that will stick with you long after it's finished, from how you approach relationships to noticing how ENM and queer relationships are depicted in film and TV.Evolving Sexuality & Identity Labels: how sexual orientation labels can help us discover ourselves, and how sexuality evolves over time. (1:55)Wild Fire: an ensemble film about seven acquaintances exposing frightening truths, lies, secrets, and emotional affairs in their intimate relationships. (7:55)Truth or Dare & Sexual Desire: What do you want in bed that you're afraid to ask for? (12:20)The “No More Bullshit” Relationship Approach: radical honesty, direct communication, and deeper intimacy. (15:15)Ethical Non-Monogamy in Film & TV: how Friends and Sex and the City got open relationships wrong 20 years ago. (22:25)Realistic Portrayals of Queer Relationships & Non-Traditional Love: The L Word, Easy, The Overnight. (27:58)“Intimate Friends” vs. Romantic Partners: why emotionally intimate friendships matter. (36:52)Traditional vs. Nontraditional Relationship Dynamics: why ENM and polyamory spaces spark deeper conversations. (40:32)What Drives Emotional Intimacy? Why we crave deeper, more vulnerable conversations. (42:29)Projection & Judgment in Relationships: how criticism reveals more about you than your partner. (46:00)Challenging Monogamy: “Why limit love?” Rethinking traditional relationship models. (48:56)Radical Honesty & Radical Truth-Telling: burning away illusions to live authentically in love. (53:01)Sex/God Documentary: JC's upcoming film on sex, God, and spirituality. (56:55)______________________________

EPISODE 284: Interview with C.L. Aaron. C.L. Aaron is co-author of "The No-Bullshit Guide to Ethical Non-Monogamy" (2025), a practical toolkit for ENM from a married couple's lived experience. With backgrounds in law, psychology, and education, C.L. shares unflinching tools for jealousy, boundaries, and ethical traps. If you get value out of the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, then consider becoming one of our patrons! Not only will you enjoy exclusive content made just for you, your support will also help us continue creating educational content while helping more people have a deeper understanding of consensual non-monogamy and healthy, sex positive relationships in general. https://www.patreon.com/lovingwithoutboundaries

Opening a relationship can feel empowering… and activating.A lot of people expect ethical non-monogamy or polyamory to feel freeing right away. Instead, it often brings up jealousy, comparison, attachment wounds, and questions about self-worth.If you've ever thought: “Why am I confident everywhere else but spiraling in my relationship?” “Why does non-monogamy trigger my insecurities?” “How do I feel secure and desirable while practicing ENM?”This episode is for you.Relationship coach Ellecia Paine talks with clinical sexologist and therapist Dr. Joy Berkheimer about confidence, desire, body image, attachment, and emotional regulation in ethical non-monogamy.Together they explore how ENM can become a path toward deeper self-trust, sexual empowerment, and real self-love.This conversation blends therapy, lived experience, and practical wisdom for women navigating open relationships, polyamory, and personal growth.

What if non-monogamy wasn't something you planned… but something you found your way into?In this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous, I'm joined by Natalie Davis, editor of Polyamory Today and author of the memoir Saying Yes: My Adventures in Non-monogamy.Natalie shares her deeply human journey from a traditional, long-term monogamous marriage through infidelity, swinging, and polyamory, and how that path eventually led to building a chosen family that includes her partner and her metamour, all living together under one roof.This conversation is honest, nuanced, and especially validating if you didn't start non-monogamy feeling confident, enlightened, or “built for this.”We talk about how safety is created over time, why early rules aren't a failure, and what actually helps relationships evolve without burning everything down.In This Episode, We Explore:How Natalie moved from monogamy to swinging to polyamoryWhy boundaries and rules at the beginning of non-monogamy are about nervous system safetyLetting go of control as trust and security growWhat it really takes to live with a metamour (and why compatibility matters beyond love)Navigating age-gap relationships with intention and consentHow infidelity can become a turning point rather than the end of a relationshipWhy non-monogamy isn't about having less commitment, but more honestyHow chosen family can expand your life in unexpected waysWhere to Find NatalieWebsite: https://nataliedavisadventures.com/Threads: https://www.threads.com/@nataliedavisadventuresBook: Saying Yes: My Adventures in Non-monogamy (available wherever books are sold)Send us a textFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We're confident FLOW will reignite your spark! Support the show

In this episode of Ask a Matchmaker, Matchmaker Maria dives into the world of ethical non-monogamy with guests Victoria Joseph and her husband Ryan, professional ENM matchmakers who are married and also swing. Together, they break down what ENM actually means, including the differences between open relationships, swinging, and polyamory, and explain how ethical non-monogamy differs from consensual non-monogamy. Victoria and Ryan share how they entered the lifestyle, common misconceptions about the swinger community, and why communication, consent, and respect are essential. The conversation also explores jealousy, safety, dating norms, and how matchmaking works within non-monogamous communities. Victoria runs Birds of a Feather Matchmaking, an exclusive concierge-style service for individuals seeking ENM, polyamorous, and lifestyle-focused relationships, where authentic connection and transparency aren't just welcomed, they're celebrated check out more

Opening a relationship can feel exciting and urgent, especially once the idea of non-monogamy is on the table. A lot of couples hear advice like “date separately” and assume that's the next step they're supposed to take.In this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous, I slow that moment way down.Dating separately can be incredibly powerful, but only when your relationship has the foundation to support it. When there's unresolved hurt, shaky communication, nervous system overwhelm, or fear being managed through control, opening up tends to magnify those issues instead of solving them.I walk you through five signs it might be worth pausing before opening, not because you're doing anything wrong, but because building capacity first can save a lot of pain later.This episode is about honesty, safety, and learning how to go deep before you go wide. Healthy non-monogamy isn't built by rushing. It's built by trust, self-awareness, and emotional skill.

Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon discusses ethical non-monogamy, addressing common fears, misconceptions, and the various forms it can take. She emphasizes the importance of timing, communication, and setting boundaries in non-monogamous relationships. The conversation also explores the emotional complexities involved, including jealousy and compersion, and how non-monogamy can serve as a means for individuals to explore their sexuality and identity.Book a free consultation with a coach or therapist from the Ask A Sex Therapist team --> https://form.jotform.com/253156356665060 Chapters00:00 Introduction to Ethical Non-Monogamy02:38 Common Fears and Misconceptions05:26 Understanding Different Types of Non-Monogamy07:53 Timing and Relationship Readiness10:46 Setting Boundaries and Parameters13:31 Navigating Jealousy and Compersion15:46 The Emotional Work of Non-Monogamy18:38 Exploring Sexuality and Identity21:25 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsKeywordsethical non-monogamy, polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, boundaries, compersion, relationship advice, sexuality, emotional work, communicationThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

A pastor preaching virtue. A mistress promised “truth.” A wife who knew nothing. And a murder that ripped the mask off a so-called “ethical non-monogamy.” In 2019, Executive Pastor Brodes Perry of Mississippi Boulevard Christian Church was shot to death inside his Tennessee apartment by Latoshia Daniels, a woman who believed she was part of a consensual “open” relationship — one the pastor insisted his wife had approved. Except… she hadn't. Now, years later, Daniels is on trial for first-degree murder and attempted murder of Perry's wife Tabatha, who survived the attack and took the stand to tell a very different story. Jurors have seen videos of Perry himself describing “ethical non-monogamy” — claiming transparency, honesty, and divine understanding — while prosecutors say those same words expose the lies that fueled the killing. In this episode, Tony Brueski breaks down how a pastor's moral branding turned into manipulation, how a so-called modern “ethic” became a weapon of deceit, and why this trial isn't just about one shooting — it's about the danger of self-righteous hypocrisy hiding behind the language of enlightenment. This is not about alternative lifestyles. This is about control, delusion, and the rot that grows when a man of God decides the rules no longer apply to him.

Seems like more people are trying it.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

There was more to talk about here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Could it be for you?See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.