Unconventional Self-Care Diary with Dionne Nicole

Category: Self-Awareness | Similar Episodes: 056, 085, 093 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com“We aren’t born knowing how to be awesome at everything. We have to spend our time learning. And our knowledge grows with one exposure at a time. We can speed up the process if we have examples to follow or get really focused but it still requires effort. No matter how old we become. Self-care is no different. If you’re feeling like you’re doing self-care wrong, you aren’t! It takes time to understand your intangible needs. The needs that are hidden beneath the surface and can’t always be verbalized. ”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Self-Awareness | Similar Episodes: 061, 083, 107 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com“So I have a confession. I've been feeling what Michelle Obama has been feeling. A low grade depression that has become an undercurrent that ends up coloring everything around me. It has manifested outwardly in several ways. Most notably, I haven't been as consistent with posting podcast episodes because at the end of the day I have to ask myself, what will help me to feel 1% better? On most days it hasn't been trying to make sense of my self-care or emotions or actions or thoughts and then recording it for the world to hear. ”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Actions | Similar Episodes: 014, 048, 077| https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.co“You know that feeling you get when you realize that you forgot something when you’re ten minutes down the road and you have to decide, do I stop and go back and get it? Or do I just keep moving forward and improvise? Today I left my phone in my car and by choice, it was 4 hours before I retrieved it again. I didn’t realize I was addicted to it, not really, until this moment.”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Actions | Similar Episodes: 060, 066, 069 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com“For the past week I have been taking a trip down nostalgia lane and it has been so incredibly restorative. I’m Present-Focused by nature so it was different to allow myself to slip into Past-Focused mode and just stay there. If these concepts are foreign to you, never fear, check out previous episodes because I go into more details! I’ve just been in a state where I just haven’t wanted to do real-time reflection. It can actually get a bit exhausting when you’re constantly asking yourself, “What does this meaaaaaaan?” Sometimes it doesn’t mean anything at all.”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset | Similar Episodes: 008, 018, 068 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com“I decided to let my “Mental Health Day” last a week! Why? Because why not? I was processing some pretty heavy emotions and they weren’t the kind that you just snap out of. I think we feel as though we need to “get better quick” because it’s uncomfortable for the people around us or we don’t want to be a burden but I let my emotions be exactly what they were. I didn’t water down what I was feeling. I didn’t feel like I needed to “be a certain way” because here’s one thing I feel confidently in: my “too much”ness is just the right amount. You can handle me at that level or not at all. Part of self-care for me is not apologizing for myself.”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset | Similar Episodes: 020, 037, 051 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com“I decided yesterday evening that I needed a “Mental Health Day” today. I was feeling a lot of emotions and most of it was coming from conversations I was having, and I had just had enough. I know myself. I have a certain threshold and I had reached it. I didn’t want to have to be mindful of the words I was saying. I didn’t want to have to be overly aware of someone else’s emotional baggage and try to compensate for it. I didn’t want to have to care or be nurturing for anyone else because I was the one who needed the nurturing. And only I know what I truly need.”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Actions | Similar Episodes: 012, 044, 092 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com"I recently delivered 40 personal postcards to my neighbors on my apartment floor. Don’t worry. I delivered them with a mask and gloves. I even said so right on the postcard to alleviate all fears. Pre-Covid days I would have actually knocked on doors but I had to get creative because I like knowing who my neighbors are. It’s also been harder to meet new people in general because meetups are happening online and people aren’t as receptive to chatting up a stranger out in the world, even if you’re both wearing masks. So the postcard was my way of saying hello first."P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset | Similar Episodes: 033, 058, 091 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com“It rolled off my tongue so easily. I was in a conversation with someone and they made a pretty bold declaration and my immediate response was YET. Y-E-T. It may not be reality now but it can be in the future. And if you want it to be in the future, you better start adding YET to the end of those declarations. Especially the ones that are focused on what you're currently lacking. I'm not pregnant. YET. I'm not making a million dollars. YET. I'm not married. YET. I'm not a good sleeper. YET. I'm not a good dancer. YET. I'm not feeling better. YET.”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset | Similar Episodes: 021, 040, 084 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.co“Someone reached out today to say that she was having one of those moments where she wanted to do something radical. She was feeling the urge to up and move to a different country. She admitted that whenever she feels this way, there’s a part of her that feels in a slump or empty. I’m sharing this because we’ve all be there. And I felt so very honored that she was sharing her emotions with me in real-time when they are really fresh because that’s when we’re the most honest. When you’re ready for something to be different - anything at all - you can feel so restless that you don’t know where to begin.”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Actions | Similar Episodes: 014, 053, 079 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com“Today was an unsubscribe day! I spent time looking at my email. Really looking at what was coming in and deciding whether it was something I valued enough to actually stop and read RIGHT THEN. Since I’m not really on social media — I try but can never be consistent — email is where my dopamine gets the most hits. It’s why I’m on a gazillion email lists. It’s why I have a graveyard of PDFs that I never actually read but downloaded anyway just to see what people have to say. I love reading interesting things but I started to do an audit and realized that there were only maybe 5 or 6 emails from strangers that I actually looked forward to. The rest were just filler. It felt like noise. If I never received another email I probably wouldn’t miss it. So I decided to raise my standards as an experiment.”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset | Similar Episodes: 023, 056, 077 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare“I went on a quest today. I was determined to find this ONE thing and was willing to drive all around the city and stop at numerous locations until it was found. The item? Not important to the story. Did I find it? At the very first store! What I’m still thinking about is the unexpected gem that I found while on the journey. I decided to shop in a different part of town then I usually do. So I went down streets that I’ve never seen. It was there that I saw it.”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset | Similar Episodes: 003, 045, 081 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com/bodybutter | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com“I think the problem arises when we start to judge our days as good or bad days. They are simply DAYS. What happens, happens. So if you’re in the habit of grading each day based on certain qualities you’re setting yourself up for disappointment when other days aren’t like that. If you’ve made a declaration like, “It can only be a good day if…” you’ve already shortened your list of possibilities.”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Actions | Similar Episodes: 026, 035, 073 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com“You know that feeling you have when you're like, "I just don't want to do this!" and you can't quite put your finger on why not. There's just this low level dread in the pit of your stomach that you can't shake. Something doesn't feel right. And instead of honoring that and listening to that feeling you still go forward because you can remind yourself of all the reasons why it will probably be okay. Nothing bad has happened YET so you decide just to see what does happen. Stop that.”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Actions | Similar Episodes: 009, 044, 070 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com“My fantastical friend Nelly came over recently armed with ingredients to make an amazing stirfry. She brought every last thing she would need because she knows me. The only thing she didn’t bring? Salt. Because everyone has some right? If you wondered how I feel about cooking, the fact that I don’t even have salt and pepper in my house should give you an indicator. Never fear, I said! I will ask one of my friendly neighbors.”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset | Similar Episodes: 017, 062, 081 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com“Since reaching Episode 100 I’ve been on this deep dive of what it means to truly celebrate something, and I’ve decided that the first thing to go is putting a time limit on it. 5 days later and yep, it’s still celebration time, and in some ways it’s more meaningful this way! Celebration is not something that is locked into a certain day or time. There shouldn’t be a 24-hour expiration date. I like to think that it’s beyond. This is why restaurants allow you to claim a birthday dessert the entire month of your birthday. If you didn’t know that, now you know! I’ve been cutting my celebrations too short and that stops now.”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Actions | Similar Episodes: 031, 034, 056 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com“My car is one of my favorite places to be. Why? It just feels cozy. I’m someone that likes tiny spaces. To this day, one of my favorite vacations was enjoying a tiny cabin in the woods. So when I need a change a pace, I find myself gravitating to my car. You don’t realize how many habits and routines are anchored to your car until you experience a prolonged quarantine.”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Self-Awareness | Similar Episodes: 018, 041, 051 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com“Let’s just say that I’ve been in a mood the past few days. The “I only want to do the bare minimum” mood. “Whatever is not mission critical gets put on the back burner” kind of mood. Have I eaten? Yes. Have I showered? Yes. Have I communicated on some level with some people so they know I’m alive? Yes. But other than that, I gave myself permission to just BE.”In the same mood as this episode? Check out the amazing podcast, Terrible, Thanks For Asking with Nora McInerny.P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Actions | Similar Episodes: 032, 053, 093 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare“I recently bought some new washcloths and I only use them for one thing. To wet my face whenever I need a refreshing moment. They are extremely soft. White. And they have made such a huge difference. I find myself wetting one multiple times a day whenever I just need to mentally switch gears. Whenever I want to “wake up” a little more. Whenever I want to pamper myself. Whenever I want to cool down. Whenever I don’t know what else to do. It’s such a simple act but it’s an accessible one. One that doesn’t require a lot of effort so I’m able to enjoy it far more often.”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Self-Awareness | Similar Episodes: 023, 050, 062 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare“I am beyond thrilled that this podcast has reached 100 episodes and so many have been along for the experience. Thank you! It started off as a quest. A challenge to reflect on my time during the pandemic and really prioritize my self-care. When everything else in the world was changing, I knew this was the one area that could really make all the difference. But now that I’m here at this milestone I find myself at a lost for how to celebrate. ”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset | Similar Episodes: 015, 036, 083 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare“I’ve been told that I’m the queen of the reframe and in many ways that’s true. It’s very hard for me to just take something at face value, especially if I don’t like how it’s making me feel. When emotions like worry, anger or sadness wash over me, I have a tendency to not sit with it too long. I’m not saying this is the best way to go through life but it works for me because I do my best to give myself instant perspective. ”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset | Similar Episodes: 013, 046, 080 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare“We’ve all been guilty of it. Having this thought…”I just need to figure out this ONE thing, and then everything else will fall into place.” Whether it be our careers. Our relationships. Our next meal. We have a tendency to pinpoint the hold up in our lives to ONE thing. Why? I haven’t got a clue, but one thing feels more manageable. One thing is often more painful than others in our lives at any given moment so it rises to the top of our minds. But when it comes to self-care we have to be careful of trying to find our self-care unicorn. ”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Relationships | Similar Episodes: 012, 038, and 091 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare“My friend Veronica has been asking me, “What’s your temperature on?” going for a walk, watching a movie, fill in the blank. And I didn’t realize how much I loved the question until the other day. It takes asking someone a Yes or No question, “Do you want to?” and it gives them an opportunity to provide a little more context. You are able to gauge their overall interest, plus it’s just a bit more fun. ”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset| Similar Episodes: 022, 055, 083| https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare“When it comes to anything at all, I start with the assumption that no one will care as much as me. What do I mean by this? There should be no part of me that is expecting someone else to be just as excited, to understand exactly what it means to me, or to help me figure it out. If there’s an area of my life that needs attention, it starts with me first because only I know what I’m hoping for. Sure, other can help but it’s like vacation photos.”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset | Similar Episodes: 023, 042, 092 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare“In Episode 092, I did an audit of my keyring. There was one ring that I just couldn’t account for and I had given myself a time frame of three months to figure out what it went to before just throwing it away. I figured it out in one day. Before I tell you what the key unlocks, I want to talk about the power of intention.”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset | Similar Episodes: 008, 031, 055 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare“I’ve been super picky lately. I’ve been having Goldilocks moments left and right and it has actually increased my self-care so I wanted to bring it up in case others want to experience the same phenomenon.”P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Self-Awareness | Similar Episodes: 001, 047, 085 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@unconventionalselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"Today I wanted to share 13 examples of self-care that you probably aren’t counting. These are small, random things but that’s exactly the point. Self-care doesn’t have to be something that requires 30 minutes or a lot of effort. I want to give you permission to start counting way more things. When you feel like you are taken care of, it’s so much easier to take care of others and the things that are important to you."P.S. You're Doing Great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Self-Awareness | Similar Episodes: 015, 018, 041| https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"There’s a key on my keyring and I have no idea what it’s for. I did a key audit today. All keys were accounted for except for one. No matter how hard I try, I can’t figure it out. Somehow the key has remained with new apartments, new cars and new jobs, and I can’t even remember the last time that I’ve used it. It’s just something I carry with me and even though it MIGHT be useful, it actually isn’t because whatever it opens, I don’t even remember that I have access to it, and it isn’t helping me in my day-to-day life. It doesn’t have a purpose. It’s not opening any doors. It’s just there. It got me thinking about other things I’ve been carrying."P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Actions | Similar Episodes: 023, 032, 056 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"I asked my dad to scan photos of little Dionne during the summer because I was in the reminiscing mood. I was ridiculously cute in case you had any doubts. I can’t stop thinking about one of the photos. It’s of me in a pair of old school roller skates with a crop top holding pink and blue My Little Ponies. I’ll be posting it to my Instagram because it’ll have you smiling for days. What struck me about this photo was how confident I looked wearing these skates."P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Relationships | Similar Episodes: 004, 012, 085 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"I was visiting with friends today, and at some point, one of them asked me if I wanted to look at their collection. It was a new hobby for them. I wasn’t interested so my response was, “No,” and just like that, there was a shift in the air. It was obvious that this friend was not expecting to hear that answer. The typical expected response to a question like that is an enthusiastic yes because our default mode is geared towards solidifying connection and making sure others feel….I don’t know…important? Secure? No, Johnny, I do not want to look at the dead frog that’s been run over in the street. Thanks for asking. We don’t say that though."P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Self-Awareness | Similar Episodes: 026, 034, 053 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"Hello Sugar Anonymous. I’m happy to be here. My addiction to sugar has its own history from my childhood. From warming up pop tarts for breakfast to never saying no to free ice-cream, it’s the one thing I have never been able to give up. And I still don’t want to give it up. It’s just so….delicious! But after literally sleeping 16 hours in one day after coming down from a sugar crash I knew I had to confess on the show today that Houston, we have a problem. "P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Self-Awareness | Similar Episodes: 024, 059, 074 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"I’ve been having lots of interesting conversations lately, and the theme has been around value. The value we place on ourselves. The value we place on our talents. The value we place on our time. The value we place on anything at all. My question for you today is this: How are you deciding what’s valuable? What is it based on? We all have a point of reference that we’re using and I want to challenge all of us to burn it to the ground. I realized that I can be guilty of deciding what something is worth based on what feels realistic instead of how I want things to be. I typically want things to be over the top! And there’s nothing wrong with that but if I’m honest with myself, depending on the thing, my default mode can be to de-value instead of over-value. Anyone else?"P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset | Similar Episodes: 022, 041, 073 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"It’s going to be short and sweet today. Why? I literally set an alarm for 2:30am because I typically release episodes at 3:00am and I was determined not to miss a day. Even though I had no idea what I was going to talk about. All I knew was that today was a day that I really didn’t want to record anything but it wasn’t a good enough reason not to. Sometimes “I just don’t want to” is totally valid. Full stop. You don’t need to explain yourself. You know deep down what is good for you or not good for you and that’s as far as anything needs to go. But in this case, I wanted to test something. I wanted to know what would happen when I just really don’t want to but it’s not an option."P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Relationships | Similar Episodes: 044, 056, 063| https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"It’s been said by Jim Rohn that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Maybe it’s true. Maybe it’s not. But I do believe that self-care is contagious. G-L-A-M-O-R-O-U-S. Just like this song is now contagious. You’ll be singing it for the rest of the day. You’re welcome. It matters what the people closest to you think about self-care. Are you the only one into it? The only one who values it? The only one whose going to try that weird new facemask because apparently it causes your breath to smell like rainbows and will give you back two hours? Self-Care Savings Time."P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Relationships | Similar Episodes: 004, 020, and 041 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"Did you know that you are 100% human? With 100% needs? And that everyone else is also 100% human with 100% needs. There is nothing that you need that someone else doesn’t need too. And that’s incredible news. It means that you are not required to need less. And no one else is either. That fact doesn’t change no matter the role you may be playing. Boss. Parent. Spouse. Friend. Child. In fact, it is not you who is selfish when you understand that you are at 85% and you need to do things to help you gain that 15% back. It is anyone else that sees you are in need and does nothing to help, especially if they actively try to prevent it and end up taking more percentage away. That is selfish behavior. Having needs is not."P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Self-Awareness | Similar Episodes: 003, 058, 070 | https://www.unconventionalselfcare.com | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"I recently watched the movie, Creed, and I’m still thinking about it. For those unfamiliar, it’s a sequel to the Rocky boxing movies, and it features the son of a boxer who died in the ring. The entire movie is filled with epic training sequences and this kid’s quest to make a name for himself. Thrilling stuff. What struck me the most is just how BADLY this kid wanted to train. He would wake up early. He sacrificed his corporate career and security. He kept pestering Rocky to train him, even if all he could get were training drills that he could do on his own. He was focused. He was disciplined. He knew his THING above all things and it has been such a long time since there has been ANYTHING that I have wanted as bad as this kid wanted to box."P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Actions | Similar Episodes: 002, 048, 076 | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare | https://www.dionneandselfcare.com/podcast"Today was a day that I just decided to keep walking. I explored my neighborhood up and down feeling like I was on an expedition. Ooh, what’s down this street? Before I knew it, hours had passed. I even laid down on a bench staring up at the clouds. I didn’t even listen to music or podcasts. I knew the sun was powerful but what is this Vitamin D sorcery? I knew that I immediately wanted to be able to recreate this because I’m a systems person so let’s break it down together."P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset | Similar Episodes: 015, 037, 057 | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare | https://www.dionneandselfcare.com/podcast"I am LOVING my new apartment. What I am NOT loving is the outside tree roach that had found its way through a crack in my front door. If you’re not sure what I’m talking about, it’s one of those really big roaches that usually live outside and typically aren’t a problem. Except I live in Texas, and everything is bigger in Texas, so when I saw it, it’s only natural that I freaked out. That was days ago. To this day, I keep glancing at my front door expecting to see another one. It has gotten to the point that it’s started to affect my heart. I can’t really relax. I’m a bit worked up. Have you ever felt like that? There’s something that’s bothering you that isn’t resolved yet so you just keep thinking about it. Even if there’s nothing else you can really do in the moment? It has made self-care hard for me today."P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Actions | Similar Episodes: 023, 038, 065 | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare | https://www.dionneandselfcare.com/podcast"The next time you get a moment I want you to pull out your phone and look at your Contacts list. Chances are it’s pretty normal. For each person listed, it’s probably by their first and last name. If you’re super organized and meet lots of new people, you might even add how you know them in parenthesis so it’s easy to remember. Me? I take it one step further. In my phone, my mother’s number is saved as Queen Mother. "P.S. You're doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset | Similar Episodes: 004, 020, and 035 | https://www.dionneandselfcare.com/podcast | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"Freedom is my number one value. For better or worse, it’s the lens that I make most of my decisions through. Will this restrict my freedom in any way? Let me tell you. I can always count the ways but I’ve found that I can’t let my thoughts stop there. Things are never that black and white. There is always the ability to change, especially one’s mind, so in a way, there’s never really any threat to my freedom. Not ever. And that speaks directly to how we can approach our self-care. It doesn’t have to be this rigid idea in our lives. It doesn’t have to look one way. It can be whatever it needs to be on any given day because we are humans with human needs."P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Self-Awareness | Similar Episodes: 033, 052 and 056 | https://www.dionneandselfcare.com/podcast | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"I have nothing against Marie Kondo. She’s utterly fabulous, but the question, “Does this bring me joy?” has never really resonated with me. I actually like to ask, “Why does this bring me joy?” which you can hear more about in Episode 033 because it digs a little bit deeper than the surface. On any given day anything can bring me joy. A chocolate chip cookie fits the bill. But if I’m able to figure out why on THIS particular day in THIS particular moment something brings me joy, I’m able to replicate it. There is more than one way to reach joy and just like Pokemon, I want to connect them all. I just moved and I’m in the middle of some fun decluttering, which reminded me of another question I like to ask myself. “Do I love it enough to want to wear it every single day?”"P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Self-Awareness | Similar Episodes: 029, 045, and 055. | https://www.dionneandselfcare.com/podcast | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"I need eight hours of sleep. I can’t fake it anymore. Seriously. If I go one day without 8 hours, the deficit is so great that I am literally a walking zombie. A cute zombie but I don’t want my thoughts to be the equivalent of “Braaainz.” When you are a night owl living in a daylight world, it can be hard out here in these circadian rhythm streets. So enough is enough. Today has been a “hitting snooze every 5 minutes” kind of day on all the random naps I’ve been taking. Getting just enough sleep to help me have just enough juice until the next responsibility. This is no way to live. And the crazy thing is that this is all avoidable."P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset | Similar Episodes: 017, 024, and 050. | https://www.dionneandselfcare.com/podcast | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"When I heard the list of things my friend had accomplished today my jaw hit the floor. The first thought to pop into my head was, “You are superhuman!” because there was no way that I could have completed what she completed within the same amount of hours. I shared my thought immediately and she reminded me that I had packed my apartment, moved items from one place to another, and unpacked all in one day so I was superhuman too. We just have different strengths. This idea hasn’t left my mind all day."P.S. You’re doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Actions | Similar Episodes: 007, 049, and 052. | https://www.dionneandselfcare.com/podcast | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"Today is my moving day! And one of the things I’m MOST excited about is activating what Gretchen Rubin calls “The Clean Slate.” In her book all about habits, Better Than Before, she mentions that a new situation makes it much easier to change habits. If you move to a new city, change jobs or schools, or have a new routine, you no longer have your old cues. The things that trigger certain behaviors."P.S. You're doing great! Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Relationships | Similar Episodes: 012, 028, and 044 | https://www.dionneandselfcare.com/podcast | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"There’s a quote by Bishop TD Jakes that I love. When people can walk away from you: let them walk. It’s another way of saying, “Don’t try and force a relationship. If someone is not willing to stay in it, release them. Those that are meant to stay…will.” I had a recent conversation where the topic of friendship came up and I realized that I was still a bit conflicted over how well I’m maintaining relationships as I age. It seemed to be so much easier when I was younger but now in my late 30s it’s just different. So it requires adjusting your expectations."P.S. You're doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Self-Awareness | Similar Episodes: 033, 046, and 068 | https://www.dionneandselfcare.com/podcast | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"I talked to a very wise woman today, my therapist, who helped me to connect some dots I hadn’t considered before. The reason why some things are working in my life and why some things aren’t. Whether we are aware or not, we all start things off with intentions. Relationships. Businesses. Hobbies. Whatever. We create a fundamental base level of boundaries. This is what being successful in this looks like. These are the things I don’t want. And until we reevaluate those boundaries, we process every experience through that lens. If something is rubbing us the wrong way…it probably isn’t what you originally had in mind."P.S. You're doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Actions | Similar Episodes: 013, 025, and 048 | https://www.dionneandselfcare.com/podcast | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"When I woke up this morning, I already knew the kind of bandwidth day I was going to have. A Deep Work day with lots of mental energy, and because of that, I had to pull out all the tricks to keep my mind focused and engaged as the hours started to tick by. Have you ever felt, “I just don’t want to do this!” Not forever, mind you. But just…not today. Except you can’t push it off. When those moments arrive, I like to pull out the alarm on my phone."P.S. You're doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Self-Awareness | Similar Episodes: 003, 062, and 065 | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare | https://www.dionneandselfcare.com/podcast"We all have a tendency to want to dump our stuff. Our frustrations. Our concerns. Our unmet needs. Onto other people. It might feel good in the moment but we have to be careful of just how much we’re dumping, especially if they aren’t professionals trained to handle it. Be honest. Is it a grocery store bag amount or is it the amount of bags used in the TV Show Hoarders? We can all handle a little bit of other people’s stuff. That’s what being in community is all about. On a good day our bags are never so full of our own stuff that we can’t take a little bit of someone else’s but if you know you’re having a Hoarder level day, it’s time to self-soothe."P.S. You're doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset | Similar Episodes: 009, 033, and 036 | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare | https://www.dionneandselfcare.com/podcast"If you are looking for a check-in tool that will instantly let you know your current relationship to your self-care, it’s this. During your last day, did you pee when you needed to? We’ve all been there. We have to go….so bad. You’re mentally singing, “I gotta go, I gotta go, I gotta go right now,” but you don’t. Because you’re in a meeting. Or you’re in a conversation. Or you’re driving. Or you’re teaching. Or you’re taking care of a little one. Or you are at the dinner table. Peeing when you need to pee is your first defense of making sure that your needs are met. Every time that you don’t, you are unconsciously telling yourself that your needs don’t matter."P.S. You're doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset | Similar Episodes: 006, 036, and 058 | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare | https://www.dionneandselfcare.com/podcast"I was reminded today of one of my favorite sayings. It only takes one day for your life to completely change. This idea might already be familiar to you. There are definitely a lot of variations of this concept but for me, it only took hold of my heart and mind when I was able to remind myself of what it practically looks like."Mentioned In This Episode: https://www.food-la-la.comP.S. You're doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Self-Awareness | Similar Episodes: 010, 060, and 066 | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"I am all about someone leaning into their natural tendencies, and working with them instead of against them. That’s why I created a self-care motivator framework that’s easy to understand and can be a game-changer. It definitely was for me. There are three motivators based on your relationship with time. You can listen to Episode 060 to learn about being future-focused. Episode 066 is all about being present-focused. Today, we go over the final motivator…being Past-Focused."P.S. You're doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)

Category: Mindset | Similar Episodes: 010, 046, 057 and 059 | hello@dionneandselfcare.com or IG@dionneandselfcare"There have been so many times when it felt like my life was over. I was certain that there was no coming back from it. Why oh why didn’t I do this or that? It happened as recently as last week. Listen to Episode 057. I had seriously weakened my self-trust with a decision I had made. But I’m happy to report that I got through it. Cue the confetti! I focused on being strategic about the end result that I ultimately wanted. I just did the very next thing that I could do. And then the next thing. And eventually, it worked out. I’m convinced that it will ALWAYS work out, no matter what our thing is, even in the current world that we are in, because there is always the next thing that you can do."Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dionneandselfcare/Let’s be pen pals at hello@dionneandselfcare.comP.S. You're doing great!Support the show (http://bit.ly/SelfCareDiaryTipJar)