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Hello beautiful!This episode is a very special one. In 2018 Georgia Harris and her family lost their incredible Dad to suicide. Since then Georgia has become a Mental Health Advocate speaking up about grief, trauma and suicide loss as well as chasing her dreams of becoming part of the Police as a Police Communicator.Find Georgia: @thisisgeorgiie on Instagram A disclaimer: this episode discusses mental health and suicide. Not in graphic detail but it may be distressing for some listeners. I've taken extreme care in producing this conversation. If you or someone you know needs help you can find a list of services in the show notes.In NZ you can free txt and call 1737WHERE TO GET HELPNZFree txt or call 1737 24/7Lifeline 0800 543 354Suicide Crisis Helpline 0508 828 865Youthline 0800 376 633IF IT IS AN EMERGENCY AND YOU OR SOMEONE IS AT RISKNZ: Call 111Australia: Lifeline 13-11-14USA: Suicide Prevention Helpline 1-800-273-8255UK: 1-800 784-2433 and 1-800-273-8255We rely heavily on your support. Thank you so much for supporting The Self-Love Club. Ways you can do that:- Make sure you're subscribed- If you're enjoying listening feel free to leave us a glowing review - Follow us on social media Find The Self-Love Club: Instagram: @selfloveclubpodcast and @belcrawford Facebook: @belcrawford and The Self-Love Club Community Group Website: belcrawford.com
Natasha Müller is a London based Entrepreneur, Philanthropist, Impact Investor and Mental Health Activist. Natasha studied at Harvard, worked for The UN and The Human Rights Commission in Geneva.Natasha lost her father to suicide when she was 17, which has hugely shaped her drive to bring about positive change through financial good and went on to split her assets from the family business in order to do so.We're so lucky to have this incredibly smart and positive woman share her story, advice and hope on The Self-Love Club Podcast.This conversation mentions suicide not in graphic detail but it may be distressing for some listeners.WHERE TO GET HELP in NZ: Free txt or call 1737 24/7Sexual Harm Helpline 0800 044 334Lifeline 0800 543 354Suicide Crisis Helpline 0508 828 865Youthline 0800 376 633Depression Helpline 0800 111 757Rainbow Youth (09) 376 4155 Samaritans 0800 726 666IF IT IS AN EMERGENCY AND YOU OR SOMEONE IS AT RISKNZ: Call 111Australia: Lifeline 13-11-14USA: Suicide Prevention Helpline 1-800-273-8255UK: 1-800 784-2433 and 1-800-273-8255Find Natasha: @natasha_muller_impact on Instagram natashamüller.com Keep up with The Self-Love Club: Follow @selfloveclubpodcast and @belcrawford on Instagram Find The Self-Love Club blogs and resources at belcrawford.com
In the wake of the murders of Hannah Clarke and her three children by a former New Zealander who burnt his family to death and then killed himself with a knife, which takes a lot of doing, there has been much wringing of hands.But some are saying we must do something to prevent this from happening to one more woman, one more child.In Australia, Heather Nancarrow, the chief executive of the Australian National Research Organisation for Women’s Safety, proposed a dramatic policy.She reckons that during the period of separation, every man must be put on a program. Their mental health should be checked and scrutinised for signs of violence. All to make sure he is making the transition safely and does not become a risk to women, children or themselves.Even Heather Nancarrow admits her idea is a radical one and it’s easy to pull it apart on logistics only. And when we concentrate on one gender only in the relationship transition process, we’re ignoring the vast majority of people going through this highly stressful and emotional time.The proof of this was during morning talk back where we instantly had men saying that women were not blameless or just as bad but in different ways or just as capable of killing if they put their mind to it. And then the whole battle of the sexes resumes.Heather Nancarrow has viewed this solely from the point of view of women’s safety and safety from male violence. All of which exists and deserves attention.But in my 30 years of being around relationships, I’ve seen many break ups and some that were hugely traumatic. None of the break ups of people I have known has devolved into interpersonal violence. But that’s not to say there weren’t victims. Amongst my acquaintances, two people have lost their lives after a relationship dissolution.But their death didn’t come at the hands of another but from their own hand. They committed suicide. Both were the wronged party, the one left behind by their partner. Both found it intolerable to live after the betrayal, impossible to carry on without the love of their life who had left them. One was a woman. One was a man.Heather Nancarrow is right that men kill their partners at a worrying rate during separations and we need to be watching out for the men whose switch has flipped. She’s right to be concerned about people’s mental state at a time of separation. She is right that we should be on alert for our family and friends at these times. She’s right that if we’re concerned there should be a pathway or a resource we can access to help steer people away from the dark side.What she got wrong is leaving out women from the monitoring. Separation stress and trauma doesn’t just drive men crazy. It’s not gender specific.Where to get help:If you are worried about your or someone else's mental health, the best place to get help is your GP or local mental health provider. However, if you or someone else is in danger or endangering others, call police immediately on 111.Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor.Or if you need to talk to someone else:Lifeline – 0800 543 354Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO)Youthline – 0800 376 633 or free text 234Kidsline – 0800 54 37 54 (for under 18s)What's Up – 0800 942 8787 (for 5–18 year olds 1pm–10pm weekdays and 3pm–10pm weekends)Depression Helpline – 0800 111 757 or free text 4202Samaritans – 0800 726 666OUTLine NZ – 0800 688 5463Healthline – 0800 611 116How to get helpIf you're in danger now:• Phone the police on 111 or ask neighbours of friends to ring for you.• Run outside and head for where there are other people.• Scream for help so that your neighbours can hear you.• If you are being abused, remember it's not your fault. Violence is never okay.Where to go for help or more information:• NZ Police• The Harbour, for those affected by harmful sexual behaviour • Help Auckland 24/7 helpline 09 623 1700• Rape Prevention Education • Wellin...
A doctor specialising in youth mental health says poverty and a lack of hope are driving forces in youth suicide. Nationwide, suicide rates in those aged 15 to 19 has gone up by 37 percent. 298 Youth Health senior doctor, Sue Bagshaw, told Simon and Phil young people can only apply for jobs and be rejected so many times, before feeling like they're a failure. Where to get help: If you are worried about your or someone else's mental health, the best place to get help is your GP or local mental health provider. However, if you or someone else is in danger or endangering others, call police immediately on 111. Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor. Or if you need to talk to someone else: Lifeline – 0800 543 354Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO)Youthline – 0800 376 633 or free text 234Kidsline – 0800 54 37 54 (for under 18s)What's Up – 0800 942 8787 (for 5–18 year olds 1pm–10pm weekdays and 3pm–10pm weekends)Depression Helpline – 0800 111 757 or free text 4202Samaritans – 0800 726 666OUTLine NZ – 0800 688 5463Healthline – 0800 611 116 LISTEN ABOVE
Better equipped front line staff is being suggested as part of the suicide prevention solution.Statistics show 685 New Zealanders committed suicide in the year to June, the most since records began twelve years ago.The figures show rates of suicide among youth and Maori and Pacific Island people have risen the most dramatically.The Le Va organisation supports Pacifika families.Its chief executive Monique Faleafa told Kate Hawkesby the solution is going to require changes across the board.She says police officers, ambulance staff, and school teachers need to be better equipped to help those in need.LISTEN TO THE INTERVIEW ABOVEWhere to get help:If you are worried about your or someone else's mental health, the best place to get help is your GP or local mental health provider. However, if you or someone else is in danger or endangering others, call police immediately on 111.Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor.Or if you need to talk to someone else:Lifeline – 0800 543 354Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO)Youthline – 0800 376 633 or free text 234Kidsline – 0800 54 37 54 (for under 18s)What's Up – 0800 942 8787 (for 5–18 year olds 1pm–10pm weekdays and 3pm–10pm weekends)Depression Helpline – 0800 111 757 or free text 4202Samaritans – 0800 726 666OUTLine NZ – 0800 688 5463Healthline – 0800 611 116
Genevieve Mora is the co-founder of mental health charity Voices of Hope. Through her own mental health experiences Gen wanted to help others in their fight and provide hope.Genevieve battled an eating disorder in her teens which was close to claiming her life and her story of recovery is inspiring. This conversation discusses mental health and eating disorders which may be distressing and triggering for some listeners. WHERE TO GET HELPFree txt or call 1737 24/7Sexual Harm Helpline 0800 044 334Lifeline 0800 543 354Suicide Crisis Helpline 0508 828 865Youthline 0800 376 633Depression Helpline 0800 111 757Rainbow Youth (09) 376 4155 Samaritans 0800 726 666IF IT IS AN EMERGENCY AND YOU OR SOMEONE IS AT RISKNZ: Call 111Australia: Lifeline 13-11-14USA: Suicide Prevention Helpline 1-800-273-8255UK: 1-800 784-2433 and 1-800-273-8255Find Gen: @_genevieve_mora and @voicesofhope on InstagramFind The Self-Love Club resources and blogs at belcrawford.comFollow @selfloveclubpodcast and @belcrawford on Instagram
The cancellation of the Jeremy Kyle Show is sparking a major debate about reality TV in the UK.British broadcaster ITV has permanently cancelled the tabloid talk show, which had run for 14 years and specialized in emotive, confrontational showdowns. It comes after 63-year-old Steve Dymond was found dead at a home in Portsmouth, southern England, on May 9 shortly after his appearance on the programme. Media reported that he had killed himself. Police said the death was not suspicious, and a post-mortem will be held to determine the cause.On an episode filmed earlier this month, Dymond took a lie-detector test to convince his fiancee that he had not been unfaithful, but was told he had failed.Other stories are now emerging of traumatic events being linked to the show, and deaths stemming from other shows such as Love Island UK. UK correspondent Stuart Hughes told Kerre McIvor that a pattern is beginning to emerge, and TV makers are being accused of failing in their duty of care."That duty of care issue is one that is going to be addressed at a much deeper level by TV executives, and now parliamentarians are wading in."One of those MPs is the Prime Minister herself, with Downing Street releasing a statement calling the case "deeply disturbing". "Broadcasters and production companies have a responsibility for the mental health and well-being of participants and viewers of their programmes," they said."We are clear they must have appropriate levels of support in place."Hughes says that the bad headlines are building up, and MPs are being forced to act. "The issue with these programmes is are they putting people at risk who might be vulnerable, at a point in their lives where they are unable to foresee the consequences for them and their families." TVNZ has announced they too have pulled the show from their schedule. Where to get help:If you are worried about your or someone else's mental health, the best place to get help is your GP or local mental health provider. However, if you or someone else is in danger or endangering others, call police immediately on 111.Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor.Or if you need to talk to someone else:Lifeline – 0800 543 354Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO)Youthline – 0800 376 633 or free text 234Kidsline – 0800 54 37 54 (for under 18s)What's Up – 0800 942 8787 (for 5–18 year olds 1pm–10pm weekdays and 3pm–10pm weekends)Depression Helpline – 0800 111 757 or free text 4202Samaritans – 0800 726 666OUTLine NZ – 0800 688 5463Healthline – 0800 611 116
It's time to wear your gumboots to work!Gumboot Friday is an initiative led by mental health campaigner Mike King, to raise $2 million to help kids get access to the counselling they need. Mike King told Tim Dower the idea's simple. "For people with depression, it's like walking through mud 365 days a year. So for one day, let's all put on our gumboots and walk through mud with them, and signal to people that we do care and we want to do something about it."He said it's about "Kiwi fun" as well as helping to raise money and awareness."How much more Kiwi can you get than putting on your suit and tie and going to work in gumboots?"King said the money will be used to make it easier for kids to access free counselling."The biggest crisis facing our young people at the moment and their parents, is getting them into face to face counselling."He said free care is available but only if you have been diagnosed with a mental health problem by a doctor."This way, you just go along to the counsellor and make the booking yourself and we pay for it."The "staunch" attitude we are teaching our kids has to stop, King said."Our hard and staunch attitude that we have been teaching them is killing them.""Last year 137 young people took their own lives because they didn't feel like they could open up and talk about their issues and something has to be done about that.""We all have problems and we all get up every morning and put on our happy masks and we walk off to work pretending that everything is right with the world and it's a bad example that we are setting for our kids."He said everyone has problems and we need to normalise talking about them.Gumboot Friday events• 9am to noon: Gumboot Friday Dog Walk, Yatton Park, Merivale• Noon to 9pm: Gumboot Golf, Masonic Park, The Strand • Anytime: Donate via the I AM HOPE Givealittle page, in Kiwibank or PostShop branches, at participating stores or direct to account 38 9020 0336055 01.Where to get help:If you are worried about your or someone else's mental health, the best place to get help is your GP or local mental health provider. However, if you or someone else is in danger or endangering others, call police immediately on 111.Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor.Or if you need to talk to someone else:Lifeline – 0800 543 354Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO)Youthline – 0800 376 633 or free text 234Kidsline – 0800 54 37 54 (for under 18s)What's Up – 0800 942 8787 (for 5–18 year olds 1pm–10pm weekdays and 3pm–10pm weekends)Depression Helpline – 0800 111 757 or free text 4202Samaritans – 0800 726 666OUTLine NZ – 0800 688 5463Healthline – 0800 611 116
Jazz Thornton is the Co-founder of mental health charity Voices of Hope.Jazz was sexually abused as a child and tried to take her own life 14 times from the age of 12.Once Jazz was able to overcome this she wanted to create something she needed growing up.With a background in film and TV, Jazz has spent the last 2 years directing a web series called Jessica's Tree, which tells the story of a young girls suicide and is out now.This conversation discusses sexual abuse, mental health and suicide, not in graphic detail but may be distressing to some listeners.WHERE TO GET HELPFree txt or call 1737 24/7Sexual Harm Helpline 0800 044 334Lifeline 0800 543 354Suicide Crisis Helpline 0508 828 865Youthline 0800 376 633Depression Helpline 0800 111 757Rainbow Youth (09) 376 4155 Samaritans 0800 726 666IF IT IS AN EMERGENCY AND YOU OR SOMEONE IS AT RISKNZ: Call 111Australia: Lifeline 13-11-14USA: Suicide Prevention Helpline 1-800-273-8255UK: 1-800 784-2433 and 1-800-273-8255Find Jazz: @jazzthornton and @voicesofhope on InstagramFind The Self-Love Club resources and blogs at belcrawford.comFollow @selfloveclubpodcast and @belcrawford on Instagram
How do you get your life back on track when everything seems set against you?That's the question Tim Roxborogh put to listeners today, after the tragic story of the fatal police pursuit crash in Christchurch.The three victims were all teenagers, two of them just 13. They died after fleeing police in a stolen car, their lives coming to a fiery end after crashing into a tree.An article today suggested that the one of the boys, Brooklyn Taylor, had his life course pre-determined from the age of four.Roxborogh asked listeners if their life had gone down the wrong path at any point, and how they got out of it. Multiple callers shared their stories of how they turned their lives around.Amongst them was Steve told of how he stopped fighting and stealing thanks to a generous man who took many troublesome youth under his wings, while Paul was taken off a similar path after meeting the love of his life. It was motherhood that helped Robyn, even though her child was conceived through sexual assault. She says she gained a lot of strength from her experiences. LISTEN TO THE TALKBACK FEEDBACK ABOVEWhere to get help:If you are worried about your or someone else's mental health, the best place to get help is your GP or local mental health provider. However, if you or someone else is in danger or endangering others, call police immediately on 111.Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor.Or if you need to talk to someone else:Lifeline – 0800 543 354Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO)Youthline – 0800 376 633 or free text 234Kidsline – 0800 54 37 54 (for under 18s)What's Up – 0800 942 8787 (for 5–18 year olds 1pm–10pm weekdays and 3pm–10pm weekends)Depression Helpline – 0800 111 757 or free text 4202Samaritans – 0800 726 666OUTLine NZ – 0800 688 5463Healthline – 0800 611 116
WARNING: SENSITIVE CONTENT Social media and a lack of available help are being blamed for a rise in young Kiwi girls cutting themselves.A Stuff investigation has found a number of 'cutting groups' across social media, where girls between 11 and 14 take photos of their slit wrists and share them online. Statistics show that girls and young women are twice as likely to go down this route than boys, and there has been a 20 per cent increase in self-inflicted injuries nationwide. The disparity is particularly high amongst those under 30.One caller to Andrew Dickens Afternoons, Victoria, says that she engaged in this behaviour when she was young. She says her parents were unsure what to say or how to help her when she opened up to them, but she still appreciated their views.Two parents, Mary and Amanda, revealed that their daughters and their circle of friends have engaged in this behaviour. Amanda says she struggled to know what to say when her daughter spoke about her actions.LISTEN TO THE TALKBACK FEEDBACK ABOVEWhere to get help:If you are worried about your or someone else's mental health, the best place to get help is your GP or local mental health provider. However, if you or someone else is in danger or endangering others, call police immediately on 111.Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor.Or if you need to talk to someone else:Lifeline – 0800 543 354Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO)Youthline – 0800 376 633 or free text 234Kidsline – 0800 54 37 54 (for under 18s)What's Up – 0800 942 8787 (for 5–18 year olds 1pm–10pm weekdays and 3pm–10pm weekends)Depression Helpline – 0800 111 757 or free text 4202Samaritans – 0800 726 666OUTLine NZ – 0800 688 5463Healthline – 0800 611 116
Jack talks about the death of his colleague and friend Greg Boyed this week. He says Greg's death brings life into focus.LISTEN ABOVE Where to get help:If you are worried about your or someone else's mental health, the best place to get help is your GP or local mental health provider. However, if you or someone else is in danger or endangering others, call police immediately on 111.Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor.Or if you need to talk to someone else:Lifeline – 0800 543 354Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO)Youthline – 0800 376 633 or free text 234Kidsline – 0800 54 37 54 (for under 18s)What's Up – 0800 942 8787 (for 5–18 year olds 1pm–10pm weekdays and 3pm–10pm weekends)Depression Helpline – 0800 111 757 or free text 4202Samaritans – 0800 726 666OUTLine NZ – 0800 688 5463Healthline – 0800 611 116