Podcasts about grateful flow

FAN MAIL--We would love YOUR feedback--Send us a Text MessageWe've all heard the advice: "Just change your attitude!" But what if that's not enough? In this eye-opening exploration of Phil Stutz and Barry Michels' groundbreaking book "The Tools," we discover why attitude adjustments often fail where specific behavioral tools succeed.The frustration cycle is familiar—we commit to change, but our behaviors remain stubbornly the same. As Stutz and Michels powerfully state, "A new attitude means nothing unless followed by a change in behavior." This episode unpacks their revolutionary approach to personal transformation through five distinct psychological tools designed to combat specific challenges: the Reversal of Desire for confronting pain and avoidance, Active Love for releasing anger, Inner Authority for building confidence, Grateful Flow for shifting to gratitude, and Jeopardy for maintaining motivation through consequences.What makes this wisdom particularly fascinating is how these modern psychological techniques quietly echo traditional Judeo-Christian virtues—a connection we explore while examining the practical applications of each tool. Whether you're struggling with procrastination, fear, anger, or lack of confidence, these tools offer concrete procedures to implement at the exact moment you need intervention. This isn't about passive enlightenment; it's about active engagement with your challenges. As we emphasize at the Mojo Academy, the goal isn't just to collect wisdom but to move from theory to action, creating real and lasting changes in our lives. Ready to build your psychological toolkit and transform those good intentions into meaningful behavior change?Key Points from the Episode:• Attitudes alone cannot control behavior—specific procedures are required for specific problems• The Tools presents five practical psychological techniques developed by psychotherapists• Reversal of Desire helps confront pain and avoidance to take action• Active Love releases anger through cultivating forgiveness • Inner Authority builds self-confidence by connecting with inner strength• Grateful Flow shifts from negativity to gratitude• Jeopardy encourages sustained effort by visualizing consequences of inaction• These tools parallel traditional Judeo-Christian virtues despite secular presentation• Consistent application of these tools transforms theory into actionBe sure to check out our show page at teammojoacademy.com, where we have everything we discussed in this podcast, as well as other great resources.Other resources: Want to leave a review? Click here, and if we earned a five-star review from you **high five and knuckle bumps**, we appreciate it greatly, thank you so much!

In this enlightening episode of the Moonshots Podcast, hosts Mike and Mark dive deep into the groundbreaking self-help method developed by therapists Phil Stutz and Barry Michels in their best-selling book, The Tools. This method offers practical, actionable techniques that help individuals break through limitations, overcome challenges, and unlock personal potential.The episode begins with Barry Michels exploring the concept of self-restraint and how mastering self-control can set you free. Rather than feeling limited, embracing self-discipline creates personal liberation and opens the door to living with a greater purpose.Mike and Mark then present a book summary of The Tools, sharing key takeaways on how to welcome adversity and transform difficult situations into opportunities for growth. This mindset shift allows you to face challenges head-on and leverage them for personal development and success.Listeners are introduced to three essential practices from The Tools that can be applied in daily life:Grateful FlowThis practice encourages you to list things you are grateful for, immerse yourself in gratitude, and connect to a more significant source of positivity. Gratitude helps shift your mindset from negativity to one of abundance and peace.Clip: Grateful Flow (1m37)Active LoveActive love is a method for releasing resentment and anger. It transforms negative emotions into love, helping you free yourself from emotional turmoil.Clip: Active Love (54s)Vortex VisualizationWhen feeling overwhelmed or exhausted, the Vortex tool allows you to tap into energy by visualizing twelve radiant suns, which provide strength and momentum to push through challenging situations.Clip: Vortex (1m02)This episode is packed with actionable insights and real-world tools to help you shift your mindset, face adversity, and cultivate emotional resilience, ultimately allowing you to achieve more personal growth.Listen to the full episode: Phil Stutz and Barry Michels - The Tools.For a more detailed dive into the book's techniques, visit this book summary of The Tools.Watch the full episode on YouTube: Phil Stutz and Barry Michels - The Tools.Critical Concepts in This Episode:Self-restraint as a tool for personal freedomHow to welcome adversity and use it as an opportunity for growthDaily practices such as Grateful Flow, Active Love, and Vortex Visualization boost emotional resilience and personal power.Please join the Moonshots Podcast and access exclusive content: Join us on Patreon. Thanks to our monthly supporters Dick Edward Rehfeldt III 孤鸿 月影 Fabian Jasper Verkaart Margy Diana Bastianelli Andy Pilara ola Fred Fox Austin Hammatt Zachary Phillips Antonio Candia Mike Leigh Cooper Daniela Wedemeier Corey LaMonica Smitty Laura KE Denise findlay Krzysztof Diana Bastianelli Roar Nikolay Ytre-Eide Stef Roger von Holdt Jette Haswell Marco Silva venkata reddy Dirk Breitsameter Ingram Casey Nicoara Talpes rahul grover Evert van de Plassche Ravi Govender Craig Lindsay Steve Woollard Lasse Brurok Deborah Spahr Barbara Samoela Christian Jo Hatchard Kalman Cseh Berg De Bleecker Paul Acquaah MrBonjour Sid Liza Goetz Konnor Ah kuoi Marjan Modara Dietmar Baur Nils Weigelt Bob Nolley ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

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Stutz Dr Theo I would be fine if I knew what direction to go in I would fly instead I become lazy . We also discussed the first step in therapy which is connecting with your internal energy You do that in 3 steps: 1: Diet exercise and sleep  2: Connecting with others as we are tribal 3: Connecting with yourself your underlying feelings which is self awareness most effectively done by self journaling. The Part X is  that part of you stopping forward progress which could include the Shadow self or the Maze or the Snap Shot or simply the judgmental antisocial part of you. Eg you'll never be good at that, or who wants to do that , or you are wasting your time trying this. Radical acceptance is a tool to help you get over something bad. Grateful Flow helps deal with negative thoughts and Loss processing deals with loss The key is to understand that for forward progress  and overcome Part X you need to go through a life time of: Uncertainty pain and constant work. It is this process you need to enjoy ie the journey rather than the destination.It is overcoming Part X that leads to growth. Failure pain embarrassment connects you to the universe you are saying I need your help I cannot do this without you. Stutz says confidence is an appetite for uncertainty . I say this is not true because confidence is knowing how to do something which by definition is being certain. Rather self esteem is an appetite for uncertainty because  self esteem is the degree of positivity with which you view yourself and therefore an expectation of positive outcome . If things do not go well self esteem protects you from the negative effects and instead helps you learn and move on and  apply those lessons in your next steps. I am the one who gets to decide and take the next step. It will almost certainly be imperfect but progress is made by taking the steps  aka string of pearls each with a turd in them Indeed research shows that dopamine hits come from achievement and reward in general but it is much greater if the reward is unexpected. Hence watching sport has an element of unpredictability which is why so many people enjoy it.  . Indeed when Formula 1 became too predictable the audience ratings fell so they changed the rules to make it more unpredictable. It is a positive expectation of an outcome that raises dopamine rather than the known outcome itself. The positive outcome will raise dopamine only if is unexpected. This explains how you can enjoy the journey of uncertainty pain and constant work. Your self esteem gives you an expectation of a positive outcome. It is the positive anticipation raising dopamine that makes this process enjoyable. This is especially important because it helps with sense of achievement and growth. The greater the effort the more meaningful the achievement. This then enables the parallel step of balance : Effort and reward must be balanced. Since more of life is effort rather than the result then the mechanism of being able to tolerate the effort is a  positive expectation of success. Once you put in the effort the sense of achievement is fulfilling and makes you grow. Positive self esteem also helps us use failure as a growing opportunity and simply includes  lessons learnt as part of the effort to  the next step all under the umbrella of positive expectation of overall outcome. Snap Shot relates to setting of a goal  eg the perfect wife, the perfect success , the perfect amount of money in the bank which is static concept and has  no depth and does not allow for ongoing progress with pain uncertainty and constant work. There is no perfect nirvana. Goals are illusionary needs and living life like this is one of the worst inventions of the Western World.  When the snap shot does not give you nirvana and cure your inner unhappiness you get much more depressed. The Shadow is the part of yourself you are ashamed of.: This is how I see myself and I felt so much shame that I was denying myself and  and others would no longer see this if i got more successful Visualist a time in your life you felt inferior embarrassed ,rejected, despondent ashamed its a part of yourself that you that you wish you were not and you cannot get rid of How does he feel about you, how you have dealt with him how you have treated him and see what he says Denying and being ashamed of it THe shadow feels hurt angry and upset The shadow wants attention not from the world -does not need an academy award-  but from you The shadow wants to be acknowledged and included and celebrated as a beautiful part of you So in high pressure high stakes situations the goal is not create a faultless performance but to include the shadow self and tolerate whatever happens. Because if I cam content with my true self then other peoples opinions affect him less Ignore the shadow self and he will make you do destructive things. Connecting with your shadow self and having a sense of wholeness means you are happy the way you are, you don't need to anything else to make you feel better.itis very freeing Maze refers to when someone does an injustice to you and you remain angry seeking or hoping for restitution which usually never comes. Stutz says instead take the love you wanted from the world around you  Active Love - you are unlikely to be paid back by the person so you may as well take it from the universe around you.  by closing your eyes and imagining this is happening then concentrating it in your heart and then sending it and physically feeling it go into the other person so that you become one with love. This is not for their good it is for your own good to free you from the maze. In terms of my coaching this reflects forgiveness but is not as powerful as understanding. For instance you can understand why something happens because it is in someone's nature. That does not need forgiveness.  It requires understanding of reality and what is possible and what you can then do about it. You understand their nature and have expectations according to their nature and act accordingly. For instance you dont put your hand in the mouth of a tiger. You now it will probably bite and you certainly dont get angry. Ask yourself do you want to be right or do you want to create something. Radical acceptance: when something bad happens you don't just think that you will sooner or later recover from it, or stay stuck in a cycle of self pity ,you have to squeeze the juice out of it. Learn your lessons in whatever happens First: dont tell yourself anything negative Second: find something that is positive about it So squeezing the juice out of it suggests that not only do you have the will but also the faith that there is something valuable there If you see all events as having value you are in the zone of tremendous opportunity The Grateful Flow wants to choose the positives. Every thought will affect your mood whether positive or negative.  Part X wants you to have the negative thoughts to just see clouds even though sun is behind the clouds and coming. The grateful flow is not the grateful thoughts but the process. You name 4 things that you are grateful for, the smaller the better as you can connect better then continue in your head. After a while you feel you will create another grateful thought but you dont you block it  so all you feel is the force that would create a grateful thought and as it gets stronger and stronger you  feel taken over by it. You don't just repeat the same grateful thoughts you look for new ones and that process of creating grateful thoughts will change your mood. Gratefulness is a state you want to be in as much as possible. It helps you break through the cloud, What you don't do is argue with negative thoughts. You cant reason with emotion. Loss Processing: The potency of Non attachment . You want to pursue it  and pursue it hard but you are willing not to have it, you are willing to lose Think of something you don't want to lose and imagine grasping it like you are hanging onto the branch of a tree. Then visualise letting go but its not a bad sensation.Its slow and gentle to your surprise. Then you say silently I am willing to lose everything but really feel the intent behind that. Then you imagine you fall into the sun and burn up losing your body (so you lose everything) and instead become part of the suns rays radiating out a very loving giving outflowing sensation and that sun is surrounded by other sons doing the same thing as part of the sun world all saying we are everywhere. All you can do is give you cant take. You cant grasp onto anything. If you have difficulty with that then think of yourself as moving towards non attached. In fact as a human it would not be good if you were totally non attached. If you are moving towards non attachment then no one thing or person leaving you can take away your sense of wholeness. Happiness depends on how you accept that  you cannot completely figure things out and what you do about it.  RAGL The Active Love, Grateful Flow , Loss Acceptance,Radical Acceptance

Gratitude is connected to better health, more optimism, and an increased in resiliency. This week you could start using a scientifically proven tool to increase your gratitude. Three tools we discussed are starting your day with gratitude, using gratitude language, or trying the Grateful Flow exercise.    This Week's Power Phrase: “I choose to intentionally practice gratitude daily. I focus on what I am grateful for to stay fueled and excited for my life.”    This Week's Quote of the Week: “Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” Eckhart Tolle   

In this episode, Bryan and Jessie discuss a tool to break through the negative black clouds that can sometimes overwhelm us. The Grateful Flow Tool, taps into small moments of gratitude in an effort to create a big impact. With the Holiday among us we are often reflecting on the big things that we are thankful for but this tool inspires us to look for the many small things that occur during our day and allow that flow of items to create some serious momentum to support us.https://www.3x5life.com/collections/all/products/copy-of-3x5-life-system-note-card-versionEmail us at:  bryan.jessie@3x5life.com and we'll be happy to discuss how we might make a positive impact with your company teams through our 3x5 Life Workplace Wellness System. Enjoy this episode!With Gratitude,❤ Bryan & Jessiewww.3x5life.combryan.jessie@3x5life.comNot sure the best way to get started or how to connect with us and the 3x5 Life Community?  Follow these simple steps to hit the ground running!STEP #1 - Join Our Private Facebook Group "The 3x5 Life Community":  https://www.facebook.com/groups/3x5life.privateSTEP #2 - Connect with Us and The 3x5 Life Community on All Our Social Media Pages:Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/3x5life/Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/3x5_life/Pinterest:  https://www.pinterest.ca/3x5life/_shop/STEP #3 - Take a Picture of You Using Your Product, Tag Us on Social Media and We'll Send You a Free Coupon Code to Use Towards Your Next Order!STEP #4 - Share and Refer Your Friends, Family & Co-Workers!Intro Music Credits:“Looking For Adventure”: Composed by Tim McMorrisProduced by King's Crown Productions

In this episode, Joel and Antonia talk about the book "The Tools" and discuss the fourth tool: The Grateful Flow. http://personalityhacker.com

Jerome & Laura recorded this episode on March 29, 2020, as COVID-19 continues to spread rampantly across the country, changing our lives now—and potentially for years to come. To help your kids navigate the worry (often unspoken) of this unprecedented era, we take a look at one of Laura's favorite self-help books of all time, The Tools by psychiatrist Phil Stutz and psychotherapist Barry Michels. The specific Tool we explore is called Grateful Flow, which takes the gratitude practice we've discussed a million times and gives it a powerful tweak that can help us all. RESOURCESThe Tools, by Phil Stutz and Barry MichelsMore in-depth explanation of Grateful Flow6 Daily Quarantine Questions by The Greater Good InstituteYOUR HOSTSJerome's psychology practice in Nashville (and beyond!)Laura's copywriting business and her website-in-a-day business

In this first installment of our periodic Ask the Shrinks! episode, Barry and Phil get together to discuss some of your questions. They cover a lot of territory, including:  How Phil discovered and named Part X The value of uncertainty and flow and how to use the turnaround to get there The importance of mental hygiene What to do when the higher states and Part X are fighting over your state of mind Peace of mind as an active state The part of Grateful Flow that people often skip How the Law of Aggression can help you know if your anger is constructive or not The role of the Evil Shadow (more to come on this in the future) The secret to using the Tools with children Why it’s important to your family to do your own work Why images of the Shadow are associated with adolescence How to deal with people in your life who are stuck in a victim state Want to submit your question to Barry and Phil for future episodes? Contact us.

In our last +1, we chatted about the scientifically-proven power of gratitude: Simply writing down 5 things you're grateful for can boost your happiness up to 25%. (Wow.)    Here’s another way to practice the magic of gratitude right in the moment when you need it most.   The Tools guys call it “Grateful Flow” and it’s one of their ways to deal with any negative feelings you might be experiencing—overwhelm, depression, that sort of ick sauce.   Here’s the quick take on how to put the tool into practice: The moment you’re aware that a cloud of ick is floating into your day, step back, take a deep breath and simply look around you and notice things you can be grateful for.   For example, right now I’m grateful for the computer I’m working on, the bottle of water I just drank from, my wife and kids, the beautiful mountain out my window, my health, you, and so much more.   That’s Grateful Flow.   Tiny little things in our life that we can either take for granted or appreciate.    Note: It’s impossible (!) to be in a state of gratitude AND be in a state of misery at the same time. (Don’t believe me? Try it.)   So…   The next time you’re starting to feel a little stressed: Take a deep breath and turn on the Grateful Flow!   How about some practice right now?   What tiny things can you appreciate?   (Let’s live from that place!)

In our last +1, we chatted about the scientifically-proven power of gratitude: Simply writing down 5 things you're grateful for can boost your happiness up to 25%. (Wow.)    Here’s another way to practice the magic of gratitude right in the moment when you need it most.   The Tools guys call it “Grateful Flow” and it’s one of their ways to deal with any negative feelings you might be experiencing—overwhelm, depression, that sort of ick sauce.   Here’s the quick take on how to put the tool into practice: The moment you’re aware that a cloud of ick is floating into your day, step back, take a deep breath and simply look around you and notice things you can be grateful for.   For example, right now I’m grateful for the computer I’m working on, the bottle of water I just drank from, my wife and kids, the beautiful mountain out my window, my health, you, and so much more.   That’s Grateful Flow.   Tiny little things in our life that we can either take for granted or appreciate.    Note: It’s impossible (!) to be in a state of gratitude AND be in a state of misery at the same time. (Don’t believe me? Try it.)   So…   The next time you’re starting to feel a little stressed: Take a deep breath and turn on the Grateful Flow!   How about some practice right now?   What tiny things can you appreciate?   (Let’s live from that place!)

Join us for Part 3 in The Tools interview series as Phil Stutz and Barry Michels walk us through the two Tools we didn't touch on in the prior chats: Grateful Flow (the way to deal with anxiety) and Active Love (powerful tool to deal with anger). Super inspiring, practical wisdom. Hope you love it! (Learn more about Phil + Barry + The Tools at thetoolsbook.com)

Join us for Part 3 in The Tools interview series as Phil Stutz and Barry Michels walk us through the two Tools we didn't touch on in the prior chats: Grateful Flow (the way to deal with anxiety) and Active Love (powerful tool to deal with anger). Super inspiring, practical wisdom. Hope you love it! (Learn more about Phil + Barry + The Tools at thetoolsbook.com)