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Joining us is Dan Jurek, LPC-S, LMFT and Roy Petitfils, LPC with Pax Renewal Center.
Dan Jurek, Licensed Professional Counselor and Marriage and Family Specialist, joined Discover Lafayette to discuss how the COVID shutdown has impacted individuals, couples, and families. Dan specializes in couples counseling. Dan has more than 35 years of experience in adult counseling, and marriage and couples counseling, having studied at Franciscan University in Steubenville OH and earning a Masters in Catholic theology. His practice is guided by his Franciscan spirituality, following Christ in the footsteps of St. Francis of Assisi. He has utilized his experience to help all age groups in our community, having first moved here in 1990 at the urging of St. Thomas More High School's Mike Keith who recruited him to work as Campus Minister. He also worked with Father Hampton Davis with the campus ministry on UL - Lafayette's campus. He received a second master's at Holy Cross in New Orleans and was licensed as a professional counselor in 2003. Dan started Pax Renewal Center in Lafayette almost two decades ago, as he realized that counseling services were just as vital to a person’s health as exercise and nutrition. Cognizant that some people can't afford to counsel, Pax offers graduate students' services who work under Dan's tutelage, thereby offering counseling at a greatly reduced rate. The COVID shutdown hit Pax Renewal Center and other area counselors just as it did other sectors. Things slowed down dramatically at first and then picked up again last September. Dan learned quickly that Zoom calls are just not as good as in-person sessions. "Overwhelm" has been what we have all felt according to Dan, and when you stack stresses on top of each other, "The strongest person can only carry so much weight!" Families were impacted from all angles; the respite that parents had enjoyed when their children were in school or day care evaporated overnight. The fear of COVID, Mom and Dad working from home or looking for work, and the pressing need to buy computer equipment and become IT experts so as to manage online work and school stressed even the healthiest families. For couples who were already strained, who were confined at home together with no where to go, it all amped up energy in an unhealthy way. "It broke my heart to work with families that experienced abusive situations as it all escalated. Things can quickly move from emotional abuse to physical abuse. Kids who weren't able to attend school, getting that one square meal a day that school provided and having the opportunity to get out of their house to a safe place, their refuge was taken from them. Parents couldn't protect their kids from abuse." As September 2020 rolled around and the world opened up a bit, couples therapy began anew online. Dan noted while Zoom "works," you had couples who weren't getting along having to sit shoulder to shoulder in an uncomfortable situation. It is also difficult for the therapist to pick up on important body language that is occurring from the chest down that is not visible on a Zoom call, such as shaking legs, clenched fists. Use of substances rose, as have other addictive behaviors such as over/under eating, process addictions such as overuse of internet and pornography, and of course binge watching of shows on Netflix and other outlets. Rather than dealing with family or problems, people would numb out in front of the computer or television. So the pain remained. Calling a counselor is one of the most courageous things a person can do. Calling someone and trusting them to help you feel better is typically a result of "inspiration or desperation," according to Dan. But as they present, people are typically honest about the pain they feel and share universal symptoms of trauma, such as feeling out of control, insomnia, can't eat or can't stop eating. It's a false narrative to think you should be able to handle your problems. Dan says, people will tell him, "Why can't I handle my problems?
Roy Petitfils is an internationally recognized expert in understanding and raising teenagers. He is a therapist at Pax Renewal Center in Lafayette, Louisiana and holds a Masters in Mental Health and School Counseling from the University of Louisiana, Lafayette. This week, he joins the guys to discuss the importance of mental help for ministry leaders and how we can better provide for the mental health of those we have been entrusted with. Roy PetitfilsWebsite-https://roypetitfils.comBook-https://roypetitfils.com/books/Podcast-https://roypetitfils.com/understanding-teenagers-podcast/Twitter-https://twitter.com/roypetitfilsFacebook-https://www.facebook.com/roypetitfils Thanks to ALOB (http://a-lob.com/) for letting us use his song, Strong God (https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/strong-god/1291068295?i=1291068305), from the album No Match for Love (https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/no-match-for-love/1291068295)! Email us your thoughts! mlapodcast@ablaze.us (mailto:mlapodcast@ablaze.us) Support MLA on Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/mlapodcast/) Follow MLA on Twitter (https://twitter.com/nxtlvlmin) Join the Discussion on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlapodcast/) Ministry Leaders Anonymous is a production of Ablaze Ministries (ablaze.us) Hosts: Chris Bartlett and Matt Rice Producer/Editor: Taylor Schroll(ForteCatholic.com)
Roy Petifils is a licensed counselor at Pax Renewal Center in Lafayette Louisiana. Roy studied ministry and spirituality at the Pontifical University of St. Thomas Aquinas and holds a masters in mental health counseling from the University of Louisiana. Roy has worked with youth and young adults for more than 20 years as minster, as teacher, school administrator, school counselor, and now as a counselor in private practice. Roy speaks all over the country and he hosts a popular podcast called Today's Teenager. His most recent book "Helping Teens with Stress, Anxiety, and Depression" is available from Ave Maria Press and today he joins us on Church Life Today. Helping Teens With Stress, Anxiety, and Depression - https://www.avemariapress.com/search/?q=roy+petitfils ------ Live: www.redeemerradio.com Follow Redeemer Radio on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram: @RedeemerRadio Follow McGrath Institute for Church Life on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram: @McGrathND Subscribe to the Podcast: iTunes | Google Play | SoundCloud
In this episode, Roy explores the dynamics of blended families with Mrs. Melissa Lowery, a colleague of Roy's at Pax Renewal Center in Lafayette, LA. Roy and Melissa delve into the struggles and joys unique to blended families. Melissa offers insight and advice to those who are in the midst of navigating the process of creating new families in light of divorce, separation, or the loss of a spouse. Melissa encourages adults in blended families to recognize they don't have all the answers and to admit this vulnerability to their children. She also encourages adults who minister to or work with children in blended families to provide stability, consistency, and understanding. Click here to read more about Melissa and the services she offers as a therapist at Pax Renewal Center. Today's Teenager podcast is produced for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to nor should it be used as a replacement for professional counseling Roy has established Today's Teenager as a non-profit organization dedicated to covering the expenses of therapy sessions and other mental health services for teens and families that would otherwise be unable to afford them. Visit todaysteenager dot com for more information.
In this episode, Dan will help you understand how you and your partner can be on the lookout for troubling signs and eliminate or keep to a minimum some key negative patterns so that the positive things in your relationship can blossom and grow. Welcome to Pax Renewal Center’s Podcast, “Life’s Journey” with host Dan Jurek. Dan will encourage you along your life’s journey by sharing insight, wisdom and abundant hope for your relationship with God, others and even yourself. Dan’s mission in life is inspired by the words of St. Francis of Assisi: “We have been called to heal wounds, to unite what has fallen apart and to bring home any who have lost their way.”. Each podcast will focus on a topic such as creating healthy relationships, spiritual growth and renewal, communication, parenting, family, healing and forgiveness, mental health and wellness. Dan invites you to subscribe in iTunes to Life’s Journey Podcast. You can simply (click here) and be taken directly to iTunes. Click “view in iTunes” beneath the Life’s Journey image and it will bring you to a screen where can click “subscribe”. This is also where you will rate (1-5 stars) the podcast and leave a review. Your favorable ratings and positive reviews rank and promote podcasts within iTunes and let us know you appreciate the information shared. We know your time is valuable and therefore we thank you in advance for taking the time to listen, rate and review our podcast. If you do any of the above (listen, rate or review our podcast), please email Dan at dan@paxrenewalcenter.com so he can personally thank you. To get more tips and resources from Dan and his associates and to learn how the Pax Renewal Center can help you or your important relationships, go to our website: www.paxrenewalcenter.com. There you can sign up for webinars, workshops as well as read blog posts and find resources that will bring abundant hope to your life’s journey.
In the first episode of Life's Journey, Dan discusses the Five Elements Every Marriage Needs to Grow and Succeed. This is also a great tool for couples to assess how strong their marriage is.To get more tips and resources from Dan and to learn how the Pax Renewal Center can help you or your important relationships, go to the website: www.paxrenewalcenter.com. There, you can sign up for webinars and workshops as well as read blog posts and find information that will bring abundant hope to your Life's Journey.
In this episode, Roy sits down with Dan Jurek, the founder and director of Pax Renewal Center for Individual, Couple and Family Therapy, to discuss what he's found to be effective in working with today's teens. From many years of experience working with teens as a teacher, minister, administrator, collegiate dean, spiritual director and counselor and his own experience overcoming challenges as a teen, Dan shares how we can most effectively reach teens. Roy and Dan discuss the anxiety and stress epidemic that affects many of today's teens and families and practical suggestions for educators, parents, clergy and ministers to address anxiety in various settings. To get Roy's newest ebook "Little Book of Questions that Really Get Teens Talking" go to todaysteenager.com and sign up or email Roy at roy@todaysteenager.com. Today's Teenager podcast is produced for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to nor should it be used as a replacement for professional counseling.