Ask Tiara

What does it mean to really be yourself in a relationship and how people handle that?

Sometimes we start writing a love story in our mind with people that will never fit the part. Write a love story that you can really fall in love with!

1 + 1 = 3 doesn't make sense right? It doesn't have to when it comes to love, as long you you're creating something greater than yourself. When you become a true unit with someone you can do more than just add to each other to you can multiply!

You know those moments when you're just about to walk away or accept that things aren't going to move forward with someone? Then they reach out and do or say something to keep you hanging on...that's a life jacket. Let me explain. 

One of my clients pulled up from Cali and I hit the record button! Everyone has a story...here's a little bit of hers. 

Sometimes we let people stay in our life longer than we should because we date their potential instead of their patterns. It's great to find the best in people but don't forget you're not dating who someone could be you are dating who they are!

There's a lesson in every struggle if you can learn it. However, if you find yourself going through the same cycle of lessons than you're forcing yourself to EARN what you already know! 

I absolutely loved what I learned during this episode talking with Djara - the owner of Kundlini Pearls Yoni Steaming Spa! She is a wealth of information when it comes to beautifully connecting your woman parts:)  Yoni steaming is a vaginal steaming process by the use of herb-infused water. Please listen in ladies there was a lot to learn about us! https://kundalini-pearls.com/ Taunton, MA 

Self awareness is a process of asking yourself hard questions and giving yourself honest answers. We often don't know ourselves as well as we think we do. 

Just knowing your triggers isn't enough! Knowing WHY it's a trigger will help you handle and eliminate it. 

Take a deep breath and have the conversations that you avoid - especially if it's with someone you love or care about. CLEAR The AIR! The conversations we never have sit on our hearts or in our minds and begin to take on a life of their own. Remove that doubt. 

I wanted to share a quick conversation about my Mother's Day tradition. 

I stopped trying to Prove My Point and be right in "arguments" a long time ago. I really just wanted someone to listen, acknowledge how I felt and find a solution together so we don't have to go through it again. So I had to change my mindset and approach to achieve that! 

Have you ever been in a disagreement or argument with someone and said things you wish you didn't? It's not easy to step back in a heated moment. However, when you can learn how to that - being able to Pause becomes Power!

Have you ever poured a bowl of cereal and the first bite didn't taste right? The first thing you would check it the expiration date on the milk. Some relationships in our lives reached a point that they're no longer good for us anymore either. The purpose they once served has now expired. 

Have you ever said  - I" would never do that to you"? That's comparing how you and your partner treat each other. Even if it's true, no one likes to be compared, it makes it feel like a competition. There are other ways to explain that feeling. 

Your personal energy bank is not unlimited! If we do all the things we "should" do for others and leave ourselves last we end up depleted. Eliminate those habits and bring yourself into focus! 

We've thrown the term "Red Flags" around a million times, but do we really know what to do with them and take heed to them? We should. 

No one likes maybes! Mixed signals will keep you in a space of trying to figure out what is happening. Start taking mixed signals as a NO so that you can find your own clarity. 

THE biggest lesson I learned when it comes to dating or getting to know someone is - if they want you they will find you. Don't work so hard at making yourself available for people who treat you like an option. 

Be ready to receive what you ask for! If you want something in your life, you have to prepare and make space for it! End of story. 

Being resilient doesn't mean you got though it. It means you came out of it in a healed form. 

Tap into what is meant for you. Your thoughts influence your actions and your actions lead to your position. Focus on your gifts so that the Universe knows how to speak your language. 

New Year's is the best time to learn how to hit that change button. Learn how to hit that button at will not just in the New Year. 

Respecting and enforcing your boundaries sets the tone for the emotional house that you live in. 

It's not always about you! Learn to identify when people are projecting onto you and recognize when you are doing the same.

Pause, don't take things personal and don't give anyone permission to disrupt your peace! Let's talk about it.

Sometimes you have to take things to the next level and lead in the love you want. 

Decide the life you really want and say NO to everything that isn't that. Saying yes is easy - there is a power that comes with saying no. 

Take a look at why your triggers are your triggers. Honest self-awareness is how we master all the relationships in our lives. 

So often we think of scenarios in relationships from "a perfect world" expectation - meaning, what we think should happen for things to turn out perfectly. Truth is, there is no perfect world from only one's person perspective.