Podcasts about respecting

What does it mean to manufacture "do or die" intensity in a world that's built for comfort? How do you improve your position always — not just tactically, but physically, mentally, and spiritually? In this episode, we dig into conditioning as a way of life, why wind is everything, why over-specialization weakens men, and how to build true work capacity through skill, strength, and nervous system development. We talk about leading from the front, refusing to put men on pedestals, removing the mask, and confronting the quiet war of self-deception and self-worth that so many men fight in silence. To unpack it, I'm joined by Rudy Reyes — Force Recon Marine, warrior-athlete, conservationist, and a man who has lived these principles from jungle warfare to rebuilding coral reefs with Force Blue. Rudy brings a rare blend of intensity and benevolence, tactical precision and spiritual depth. This conversation is about becoming dangerous in the right way — stronger for your family, clearer in your identity, and grounded in the truth that you may never be "enough"… and why that's liberating. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction 01:26 - Improve Your Position Always 05:56 - Conditioning vs. Strength 14:20 - The Importance of Wind (Endurance) 20:43 - Position in Space & Neurological Health 22:05 - Rudy's 3-Part Training Philosophy 30:50 - The True Meaning of "Fitness" 32:28 - The Danger of Over-Specialization 38:40 - Sergeant Reyes vs. The Real Rudy 42:53 - Respecting the Recruits on Special Forces 51:38 - How to Lead Men Effectively 56:14 - Taking Off the Armor After Service 01:00:03 - Dropping the Mask & Rebuilding Life 01:04:02 - Shame, Identity & Never Being Enough 01:07:22 - Changing How We Talk to Ourselves 01:11:15 - Building Impact Over Income 01:13:34 - The Man in the Mirror Standard Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

This week on Southern Charm, Craig yells at two women, Salley hooks up with Austen in the bathroom, Charley's kiss is revealed and more!Follow me on social media, find links to merch, Patreon and more here! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Live at Lagerfest 2025, Ben Schreiner of Mosinee Brewing Company steps away from their booth to talk taproom, best brews, and creating community.Visit Mosinee Brewing Co: https://www.mosineebrewing.com/PATREON SUPPORTpatreon.com/respectingthebeerpodcastUncut episodes with bonus contentAccess to exclusive beersAccess to 50-minute video tour of McFleshman'sFACEBOOK GROUPhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/respectingthebeerQUESTIONS?Email us at respectingthebeer@gmail.com--CHAPTERS00:00 Welcome to Respecting the Beer!00:29 Meet Ben Shreiner of Mosinee Brewing00:45 From Homebrew to Pro02:00 Brewery Launch & Pandemic Surivval03:22 Hometown Brewery Reach04:30 Packaging and Food Plan05:54 Traditional vs Trendy07:01 Wisconsin Beer Stats08:40 Brew System and Beer Styles12:17 Decoction and Water Chemistry15:56 Mosinee's Taproom & Best Sellers19:18 Best vs Favorite Beer20:16 Most Technical Beer?23:22 Sourcing Local Hops26:03 Visit Mosinee Brewing Co!27:39 Support us on Patreon!--CREDITSHosts:Bobby Fleshman - https://www.mcfleshmans.com/Allison Fleshman -https://www.instagram.com/mcfleshmans/Joel HermansenGary Ardnt - https://everything-everywhere.com/everything-everywhere-daily-podcast/Music by Sarah Lynn Huss - https://www.facebook.com/kevin.huss.52/Recorded & Produced by David Kalsow - https://davidkalsow.com/Brought to you by McFleshman's Brewing Co

After diving deep into Nebbiolo in Episode 248, Janina knew it was time to go further into Piemonte - but this time beyond Barolo and Barbaresco. In this episode, she's joined by Baltic wine expert and educator Agnese Gintere to explore the lesser-known indigenous grapes of the Langhe. From the so-called “white Barolo” Nascetta to Pelaverga, Freisa, Dolcetto, Barbera, Arneis and Favorita, this is a love letter to the region's unsung heroes. Expect producer recommendations, travel tips, value alternatives to Barolo - and yes, a little Nebbiolo obsession too.   04:04 Why Langhe? The recent rise of Barolo & Barbaresco and why the region feels magical. 06:04 Falling in love with Langhe - the wines first, then the fog, hills and landscape. 08:33 If not Nebbiolo, then what? The real unsung hero grapes of Langhe. 10:31 Nascetta explained - the so-called “white Barolo” and its revival from near extinction. 12:45 What Agnese learned about Nascetta's history and ageing potential. 15:05 Pelaverga - the sommelier's insider grape with earthy, herbal character. 17:17 Pelaverga experimentation - sparkling styles and white versions. 18:53 Freisa - Nebbiolo's close relative and its quiet revival. 23:27 Dolcetto - “little sweet one” or gentle hills? Style, structure and best areas to explore. 26:45 Dogliani DOCG, ageing potential and value bottles. 28:47 Barbera - plush fruit, high alcohol and the future of north-facing slopes. 31:49 Link to Janina's previous podcast episode (Ep 166) featuring Braida (Barbera specialists). 33:12 Respecting terroir - why Barbera and Nebbiolo shouldn't compete for the same vineyard sites. 33:46 White grapes of Langhe - Arneis vs Favorita (aka Vermentino). 37:05 Agnese's must-visit place - Serralunga d'Alba and the magic of the hills. 39:51 Best-value Nebbiolo outside Barolo & Barbaresco - Roero, Gattinara and Ghemme. 41:08 A magical winery visit - Enrico Rivetto and other iconic estates. 41:33 Estates mentioned - Rivetto, Gaja and Aldo Conterno. 44:06 Best time to visit Langhe - truffle season vs early autumn. 46:17 If you could only drink one non-Nebbiolo Langhe wine - Grignolino (“baby Nebbiolo”). 49:42 Next week - Switzerland, Chasselas, Petit Arvine and DNA expert José Vouillamoz.   Watch Agnese's YouTube Channel No Sediment HERE.

5 Things: Good Vibes in DEI is now Good Vibes Leadership What's that? I talk about the transition and what that means for the show going forward.  I recently sat in a room full of ERG leaders who were hitting a wall of fatigue. When I asked how they actually started their leadership journey, the answer was universal: They were invited. In this micro-lesson, I'm breaking down why "voluntelling" someone isn't a burden—it's a vote of confidence. We explore the fear of career stalling, the privilege of having the bandwidth to say "yes," and how to handle it when someone chooses to protect their peace. Good Vibes to Go The Power of the Ask: Why personal invitations bridge the gap that job postings can't. The Safety Factor: Understanding why folks are hesitant to step up in the current corporate climate. Respecting the "No": How to view a decline as an act of self-preservation, not a lack of commitment. Your Challenge: Who is one person in your orbit that needs to hear, "I see your potential"? Connect with Me The Newsletter: Want the 5 Things good vibes stories mentioned in this episode? Subscribe to the 5 Things Newsletter here.  Work with Me: Let's talk. Watch 5 Things on YouTube. Join thousands of readers by subscribing to the 5 Things newsletter. Enjoy some good vibes every Saturday morning. https://5thingsdei.com/

In this powerful interview, Amanda Ellis joins Emilio Ortiz on the Just Tap In Podcast to explore what 2026 is revealing and why this cycle marks a profound shift in human consciousness. Guided by Archangel Metatron, Amanda shares insights on accelerated timelines, solar and lunar light codes, color frequencies, Christ consciousness, and the collective initiation unfolding now. Together, they unpack why chaos, disclosure, and emotional intensity are not signs of collapse, but catalysts for sovereignty, remembrance, and the emergence of a new human template rooted in heart-led awareness and unity.✦ Learn more about The Deep Dive Membership | https://iamemilioortiz.com/the-deep-dive/This conversation bridges grounded integration with higher-dimensional insight, touching on ego death, planetary shifts, solar activity, and the role of color, sound, and geometry in supporting the nervous system during rapid awakening. Amanda delivers a Metatron transmission on the New Humanity, reminding us that the future is not something we wait for, but something we embody through courage, compassion, and conscious choice. If you sense that 2026–2030 marks a turning point, this episode offers clarity and a steady anchor for navigating change with wisdom rather than fear.___________________PODCAST CHAPTERS00:00 – Amanda Ellis Intro3:45 – How Humanity Responds to Global Chaos4:55 – Conscious Evolution & Becoming Aware of Technological Shifts6:42 – Metatron, AI & the Initial Resistance to New Frequencies9:32 – Disclosure, Earth Changes & Staying Open to the Unknown10:39 – Amanda's First Conscious Connection With Archangel Metatron (2005)12:02 – Why Metatron Appears During Major Life Transitions16:52 – Is Metatron False Light? 19:22 – Birth of a New World & Accelerated Timeline Shifts20:18 – 2026–2030: The Tsunami Wave of Consciousness22:02 – Earth Changes, Patriarchal Collapse & Collective Fear24:08 – Mental Health, Chaos & Anchoring in the Heart25:48 – Trusting the Younger Generations & Humanity's Resilience27:08 – Reading Current Events Through a Spiritual Lens30:00 – Freedom of Speech & Energy Sovereignty34:14 – Christ Consciousness Beyond Religion35:00 – Light Codes, Solar Activity & Planetary Support38:25 – Solar Flares & Color as Healing Medicine41:18 – Solar Light Integration & Nervous System Regulation42:56 – Sun, Moon & Light as Conscious Healers45:11 – Why 2026 Is the Year of Yellow47:42 – Energy Boundaries, Fear & Self-Mastery52:27 – Dark Night of the Soul & Initiation Cycles56:10 – Respecting the Darkness as a Teacher58:22 – Compassion, Self-Sabotage & Remembering the Tools1:03:08 – Guides, Presence & Spiritual Support in Low Points1:08:09 – Alchemy, Trauma & Transforming Pain Into Purpose1:08:52 – Metatron on the New Humanity (Channeled Message)1:12:17 – Birthing the New Earth Through Love1:20:42 – Oracle Card Pull: Earth, Fire & Moon Energies1:24:24 – How to Know an Initiation Is Complete___________________Guests: Amanda Ellis ✦ Website | https://www.amandaellis.co.uk/✦ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/angeliccelestialcolours/✦ YouTube |  @AmandaEllis  ✦ Angelic Celestial Colours | https://angeliccelestialcolours.co.uk/✦ Archangel Metatron's Self Mastery Oracle Deck | https://angeliccelestialcolours.co.uk/products/archangel-metatron-self-mastery-oracle-cardsHost: Emilio Ortiz✦ IG | https://www.instagram.com/iamemilioortiz/✦ Subscribe to Channel | https://www.youtube.com/EmilioOrtiz___________________© 2026 Emilio Ortiz. All rights reserved. Content from Just Tap In Podcast is protected under copyright law.Legal Disclaimer: The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed by guests on Just Tap In are solely those of the guest and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of Emilio Ortiz or the Just Tap In Podcast. All content is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

We finally get the rest of the Appleton Beer Factory team on mic! Gary and Bobby host Jeff Fogle, Ben Fogle, and Carl Pierce to trace Appleton Beer Factory's origins. From Jeff's 1982 homebrew build and sanitary welding to ABF's DIY 22-tank system. They cover early ingredient hunts, business planning, recession-era funding, the ABF–McFleshman's collaboration, contract brewing, expansion and a proposed alley pipe?Visit ABF: https://appletonbeerfactory.com/PATREON SUPPORTpatreon.com/respectingthebeerpodcastUncut episodes with bonus contentAccess to exclusive beersAccess to 50-minute video tour of McFleshman'sFACEBOOK GROUPhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/respectingthebeerQUESTIONS?Email us at respectingthebeer@gmail.com--CHAPTERS00:00 Welcome to Respecting the Beer!01:12 Jeff Fogle's Origin Story03:11 Brewing Before the Internet04:19 Sourcing Ingredients the Hard Way05:56 Sanitary Welding 10108:21 Carl Pierce, ABF Partner11:53 Building the Appleton Beer Factory18:06 The DIY Brewery Build-Out19:51 Partnering with McFleshman's22:23 What's Next for ABF?25:34 A Pipe Over the Alley??26:32 What to Order at ABF28:07 Mount Rushmore of Brewing31:21 Support us on Patreon!--CREDITSHosts:Bobby Fleshman - https://www.mcfleshmans.com/Allison Fleshman -https://www.instagram.com/mcfleshmans/Joel HermansenGary Ardnt - https://everything-everywhere.com/everything-everywhere-daily-podcast/Music by Sarah Lynn Huss - https://www.facebook.com/kevin.huss.52/Recorded & Produced by David Kalsow - https://davidkalsow.com/Brought to you by McFleshman's Brewing Co

1,097 applications in three days for a single VP-level role. Today's hiring strategy is overwhelmed by volume, automation, and noise. AI-powered recruiting tools are filtering resumes while candidates use AI to optimize applications, creating a talent acquisition process that feels increasingly impersonal and inefficient. In this episode, Sean Barnes breaks down why the modern recruiting and interview process is broken and what executive leaders, HR professionals, and hiring managers must do to fix it. You'll learn practical hiring best practices for building high-performance teams, improving candidate experience, and strengthening your talent pipeline through trust, referrals, and strategic networking. If you are responsible for talent acquisition, executive hiring, or leadership recruitment, this episode offers a smarter framework for attracting top talent and reducing friction in your hiring process.   Key Moments 00:00 - 1,097 applications in three days: what that says about the hiring market 01:00 - AI on both sides: resume parsing vs AI-tailored applications 02:15 - Principle #1: Trust is king in hiring 04:00 - Principle #2: Everyone's network counts, not just HR 06:00 - Principle #3: Why you should reward employee referrals 08:00 - Principle #4: Remove friction from your hiring process 10:30 - Principle #5: Know when to stop interviewing 12:00 - Closing thoughts: building an experience that attracts top talent   Key Takeaways The volume of applications does not equal quality hiring. AI has made hiring more efficient but also more impersonal and noisy. Warm introductions dramatically increase trust and probability of fit. Every leader's network should serve the organization, not just themselves. Referral programs save time, money, and recruiting friction. Overly long interview processes repel high performers. After three to four strong interviews, additional rounds create diminishing returns. Respecting candidate time builds the foundation for long-term trust.   Host: Sean Barnes Website: https://www.wolfexecutives.com   https://www.seanbarnes.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/seanbarnes/ https://www.linkedin.com/company/wolfexecutives https://www.linkedin.com/company/thewayofthewolf/ LinkedIn Newsletter: https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/7284600567593684993/ The Wolf Leadership Series: https://wolfexecutives.com/wolf-leadership-series/ YouTube: youtube.thewayofthewolf.com Twitter: https://x.com/seanbarnes https://x.com/wolfexecutives Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_seanbarnes https://www.instagram.com/wolfexecutives https://www.instagram.com/the_wayofthewolf TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_seanbarnes Email: Sean@thewayofthewolf.com Audible: https://www.audible.com/pd/The-Way-of-the-Wolf-Podcast/B08JJNXJ6C Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2BTGdO25Vop3GTpGCY8Y8E?si=ea91c1ef6dd14f15    

Send a textSilence can be fertile ground. After five months off the mic, we come back with a plan that finally matches our conviction: design a life skills curriculum for teens, launch a youth nonprofit with Aaron, and weave daily encouragement into the lives of 13–24-year-olds through positive affirmation texts. The path from idea to action wasn't about finding extra time; it was about telling fear to get out of the driver's seat.We walk you through the real work behind building something useful for young people: interview prep that feels natural, resumes that tell a story, financial basics that reduce anxiety, simple tasks like addressing envelopes or writing checks, and mindset training that helps students bounce back. Then we share why we chose a nonprofit model, how we plan to partner with schools and community groups, and what consistent, compassionate messaging can do for a teen on a tough morning. If you've been sitting on a vision because someone else already “does that,” this conversation reframes uniqueness as your competitive edge.There's also a candid look at boundaries. We talk about quitting the habit of overexplaining, ending people-pleasing, and calling adult bullying what it is. Respecting a clear no protects our energy for the commitments that matter—like mentorship. With two new mentors from a campus leadership program and an upcoming associate's degree in business management and leadership, we're aligning structure with spirit, and hustle with health.Underneath every update is faith: God made only one you. That's not a slogan; it's strategy. We hope this story pushes you to make the first brave move—send the email, draft the lesson, book the therapy session, or call the friend you've been thinking about. If this resonated, subscribe, share with someone who needs courage today, and leave a review telling us the one step you'll take this week.Support the show Standing In Your Truth Podcast with Yanni Thomas https://www.facebook.com/share/1Kcug7eVXX/?mibextid=wwXIfr

This week's throwback guest is Kyle Vamvouris from Episode 95,. Kyle is CEO of Vouris where he provides strategic sales advisory for early stage startups. Adding Kyle to your team allows you to have a sales expert without also having the cost and commitment of a full-time hire. In this week's episode, we covered a wide variety of topics, including:Sales Lessons from Stand-Up Comedy Learning Your Limits Respecting RestSigns of Burnout Knowing Your Numbers Picking A Great Spouse Much More! Please enjoy this week's episode with Kyle Vamvouris.____________________________________________________________________________I am now in the early stages of writing my first book! In this book, I will be telling my story of getting into sales and the lessons I have learned so far, and intertwine stories, tips, and advice from the Top Sales Professionals In The World! As a first time author, I want to share these interviews with you all, and take you on this book writing journey with me! Like the show? Subscribe to the email: https://mailchi.mp/a71e58dacffb/welcome-to-the-20-podcast-communityI want your feedback!Reach out to 20percentpodcastquestions@gmail.com, or find me on LinkedIn.If you know anyone who would benefit from this show, share it along! If you know of anyone who would be great to interview, please drop me a line!Enjoy the show!

British Etiquette and good manners. Queuing properly in shops respecting elders. Have those days gone? Opening a door for a lady. Offering a lady a seat on a bus or train. Do you still do that? 

Series: N/AService: Sunday 11:00 a.m.Type: SermonSpeaker: Lee Moore

Study the daily lesson of Sefer HaMitzvos for day 12 with Rabbi Mendel Kaplan, where he teaches the mitzvah in-depth with added insight and detail.

Study the daily lesson of Sefer HaMitzvos for day 12 with Rabbi Mendel Kaplan, where he teaches the mitzvah in-depth with added insight and detail.

This week on the Walk-In Talk Podcast, Chef Ryan Yost joins us in studio after traveling from Western North Carolina to Lakeland for a full production day. Ryan is a chef-manager with Operation Blessing, an international humanitarian organization providing disaster relief through food, clean water, medical care, and rebuilding efforts. His path has taken him from fine dining kitchens to feeding communities in crisis across the U.S., Jamaica, and Ukraine. In this episode, we explore what it means to cook for people who need food, not just want it. We talk about discipline under pressure, humility in service, and how chef-level technique still matters, even when you are cooking with limited resources in disaster zones. Ryan also steps into the studio kitchen to prepare two dishes, bringing the same respect for ingredients and precision he applies in the field. Because for him, whether it is a donated ingredient or a premium protein, it deserves care. This episode continues Walk-In Talk Media's global storytelling expansion. Recently, Frederic Casagrande conducted his first live fire interview in Dubai with Chef Andrew Dickens, further extending the show's reach into international culinary conversations. From disaster zones to global live-fire stages, the mission remains the same — elevate chefs and the impact they create.  This conversation is about purpose, responsibility, and how chefs can use their craft for something bigger than themselves.

People tell me all the time that I'm “the most disciplined person they know” - and they always want to know how I stay organized, productive, and focused without burning out. In this episode, I want to clear something up: most people aren't lazy. They're burnt out, overstimulated, emotionally dysregulated, and trying to rely on motivation instead of systems. We're reframing discipline as self-respect in action. I walk through why laziness is usually a misdiagnosis, how overstimulation and decision fatigue kill follow-through, and the exact skills that helped me move from “lazy-adjacent” to consistent, focused, and disciplined. If you want 2026 to be the year you actually follow through on your goals - without hating your life - this episode is for you.Subscribe to Beyond Your Budget:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit: https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:

In this episode of LIGHT TALK, The Lumen Brothers and Sister continue their interview with Legend of Light, Bob Dickinson. Join Bob, Ellen, Dennis, Steve and David as they discuss: The future of AI in broadcast lighting; The development of broadcast lighting following camera technology; Lighting Elizabeth Taylor; Using multiple angles to build in flexibility; Considering color temperature in lighting for live and broadcast; Working with content creators; Lighting in front of video walls; Issues with virtual lighting content; Being disciplined with color and cues; The Athens Olympics; The future of Full Flood; Noah Mitz; and Wise words for students of lighting design.  Nothing is Taboo, Nothing is Sacred, and Very Little Makes Sense.

Fluent Fiction - Korean: Seollal Revelations: Tradition & Dreams at Gyeongbokgung Find the full episode transcript, vocabulary words, and more:fluentfiction.com/ko/episode/2026-02-07-23-34-02-ko Story Transcript:Ko: 경복궁의 겨울은 마치 그림 같았습니다.En: The winter at Gyeongbokgung was like a painting.Ko: 새하얀 눈이 궁전체를 감싸고, 맑고 푸른 하늘 아래 장엄한 건물들이 우뚝 서 있었습니다.En: The pure white snow enveloped the entire palace, and the majestic buildings stood tall under the clear blue sky.Ko: 가족들은 두꺼운 외투를 입고 따뜻한 숨결을 하얗게 내뿜으며 추위를 이겨내고 있었습니다.En: Families donned thick coats, exhaling warm breaths that turned white as they endured the cold.Ko: 설날을 맞아 지호, 수민, 그리고 하나는 몇 년 만에 다시 모였습니다.En: To celebrate Seollal, Jiho, Sumin, and Hana gathered together for the first time in years.Ko: 지호는 가족의 장남으로서 조상님께 예를 갖추고 전통을 이어가야 한다는 책임감을 느끼고 있었습니다.En: Jiho, as the eldest son of the family, felt the responsibility to honor the ancestors and continue the traditions.Ko: 그러나 마음 한편에는 자신의 꿈을 이루고자 하는 욕망이 꿈틀거렸습니다.En: However, there lingered a desire within him to pursue his own dreams.Ko: 수민은 가족 안에서 자신의 위치를 찾고 싶었고, 하나는 해외에서 온 유혹적인 일자리 제안으로 머리가 복잡했습니다.En: Sumin wanted to find her place within the family, and Hana was in a mental tug-of-war due to a tempting job offer from overseas.Ko: 차가운 겨울 바람이 불어도 가족들이 모인 경복궁은 따뜻한 마음을 주는 장소였습니다.En: Even in the cold winter wind, Gyeongbokgung was a place that warmed the heart when the family was gathered.Ko: 지호는 조상들께 절을 하며 깊은 생각에 잠겼습니다.En: Jiho bowed to the ancestors and fell into deep thought.Ko: 가족은 서로 조금씩 멀어져 있는 것처럼 느껴졌지만, 설날 만큼은 함께 해야 한다고 결심했습니다.En: Although it felt like the family was drifting apart, they resolved to be together on Seollal.Ko: 경복궁의 조상 신사에 들어서자 지호는 가슴 속에 담아 둔 말을 꺼냈습니다.En: Upon entering the ancestral shrine at Gyeongbokgung, Jiho spoke the words he had kept in his heart.Ko: "나도 내 길을 가야 할 것 같아," 그는 조심스레 말했습니다.En: "I think I need to follow my own path," he said cautiously.Ko: 그 말은 마치 얼어붙은 마음을 녹이는 따뜻한 바람 같았습니다.En: His words were like a warm breeze melting their frozen hearts.Ko: 하나는 지호의 말에서 용기를 얻었습니다.En: Hana found courage in Jiho's words.Ko: "나도 하고 싶은 일이 있어. 해외로 가보고 싶어," 하나가 말했습니다.En: "I also have something I want to do. I want to go overseas," said Hana.Ko: 수민은 오빠와 사촌의 솔직함에 자극받았습니다.En: Sumin was inspired by her brother and cousin's honesty.Ko: "나도 가족 안에서 내 자리를 찾고 싶어," 그녀가 덧붙였습니다.En: "I want to find my place within the family, too," she added.Ko: 눈 내린 궁궐 안에서 그들은 서로의 마음을 조심스럽게 나누었습니다.En: Inside the snow-covered palace, they carefully shared their feelings with one another.Ko: 조상님 앞에서 모든 걱정과 부담이 조금은 덜어진 듯했습니다.En: In front of the ancestors, their worries and burdens seemed to lighten a bit.Ko: 지호는 깨달았습니다. "우리가 조상님을 존경하는 방법은 꼭 전통을 따르는 것만은 아니야. 각자 자신의 길을 가는 것도 그 방법이 될 수 있어."En: Jiho realized, "Respecting our ancestors doesn't mean we have to strictly follow tradition. Each following their own path can also be a way to honor them."Ko: 그들이 함께한 시간은 가족 모두에게 큰 의미였습니다.En: The time they spent together held great meaning for the entire family.Ko: 지호는 전통과 개인의 꿈이 함께 갈 수 있음을 이해했습니다.En: Jiho understood that tradition and personal dreams could coexist.Ko: 수민은 가족 안에서 자신감을 찾았고, 하나는 용기를 얻어 새로운 선택을 할 준비가 되었습니다.En: Sumin found confidence within the family, and Hana gained the courage to make a new choice.Ko: 경복궁의 나무들은 하얀 눈 아래에도 흔들리며 그들을 축복하는 듯했습니다.En: The trees of Gyeongbokgung seemed to sway under the white snow, as if blessing them.Ko: 차가운 겨울 바람이 불어와도 가족들 사이에는 따뜻한 이해와 사랑이 감돌고 있었습니다.En: Though the cold winter wind blew, there was warm understanding and love circulating among the family.Ko: 그들은 각자의 길을 가는 동시에 서로에게 힘을 주기로 약속했습니다.En: They promised to support each other while each pursued their own paths.Ko: 그렇게 설날의 의미 있는 날은 저물어갔습니다.En: And so, this meaningful day of Seollal drew to a close. Vocabulary Words:enveloped: 감싸다majestic: 장엄한donning: 입고exhaling: 내뿜으며endure: 이겨내다responsibility: 책임감ancestors: 조상tug-of-war: 머리가 복잡하다tempting: 유혹적인overseas: 해외bowed: 절을 하다shrine: 신사pursue: 추구하다melt: 녹이다cautiously: 조심스레swore: 맹세하다coexist: 함께 가다confidence: 자신감couragement: 용기blessing: 축복contemplated: 깊은 생각에 잠기다drifting: 멀어지다meaningful: 의미 있는undulating: 흔들리다circulating: 감돌다resolve: 결심하다reveal: 꺼내다burden: 부담dreams: 꿈warmed: 따뜻한 마음을 주다

You can listen wherever you get your podcasts or check out the fully edited transcript of our interview at the bottom of this post.In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Corey and I talk about modeling the person you want your child to be—instead of trying to force them into having good character or good values. We discussed the difference between being a gardener or a carpenter parent, raising kind and helpful children, and how to trust the modeling process. We give lots of examples of what this has looked like for parents in our community as well as in our own homes.**If you'd like an ad-free version of the podcast, consider becoming a supporter on Substack! > > If you already ARE a supporter, the ad-free version is waiting for you in the Substack app or you can enter the private feed URL in the podcast player of your choice.Know someone who might appreciate this episode? Share it with them!We talk about:* 00:00 — Intro + main idea: be the person you want your child to be* 00:02 — How kids naturally model what we do (funny real-life stories)* 00:04 — When modeling goes wrong (rabbit poop + shovel story)* 00:06 — Not everything kids do is learned from us (fight/flight/freeze)* 00:08 — Gardener vs. carpenter parenting metaphor* 00:10 — Why “don't do anything for your child” is flawed advice* 00:12 — Helping builds independence (adult example + kids stepping up)* 00:17 — Hunt, Gather, Parent: let kids help when they're little* 00:19 — How to encourage helping without power struggles* 00:23 — Family team vs. rigid chores* 00:26 — Trust, faith, and “I'm sure you'll do it next time”* 00:29 — Respecting kids like people (adultism)* 00:31 — Living values without preaching* 00:36 — It's the small moments that shape kids* 00:38 — Don't be a martyr: let some things go* 00:40 — When this works (and when it doesn't)* 00:42 — Closing reflections on trust and nurturingResources mentioned in this episode:* Yoto Screen Free Audio Book Player * The Peaceful Parenting Membership * Hunt, Gather, Parent podcast episode* Evelyn & Bobbie brasConnect with Sarah Rosensweet:* Instagram* Facebook Group* YouTube* Website* Join us on Substack* Newsletter* Book a short consult or coaching session callxx Sarah and CoreyYour peaceful parenting team-click here for a free short consult or a coaching sessionVisit our website for free resources, podcast, coaching, membership and more!>> Please support us!!! 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Hi, Corey.Corey: Hey, Sarah.Sarah: I'm so happy to be talking about what we're going to be talking about today because it's something that comes up a lot—both with our coaching clients and in our membership.Today we're talking about modeling the person you want your child to be—being the person you want your child to be—instead of trying to force them into having good character or good values.Corey: This is one of my favorite topics because people don't really think about it. There's that phrase that's so rampant: “Do as I say, not as I do.” And we're actually saying: do the exact opposite of that.Sarah: Yeah. And I think if people did this, that phrase wouldn't have to exist. Because if you're being the person you want your child to be, then you really can just say, “Do as I do.”I guess that “Do what I say, not what I do” comes up when you're not being the person you want your child to be. And it shows how powerful it is that kids naturally follow what we do, right?Corey: Yes.Sarah: Yeah. We both have some funny stories about this in action—times we didn't necessarily think about it until we remembered or saw it reflected back. Do you want to share yours first? It's so cute.Corey: Yeah. When I was a little girl, my favorite game to play was asking my mom if we could play “Mummy and her friend.” We did this all the time. My mom said she had to do it over and over and over with me.We'd both get a little coffee cup. I'd fill mine with water, and we'd pretend we were drinking tea or coffee. Then we would just sit and have a conversation—like I heard her having with her friend.And I'd always be like, “So, how are your kids?”—and ask the exact things I would hear my mom asking her friend.Sarah: That's so cute. So you were pretending to be her?Corey: Yes.Sarah: That is so cute.I remember once when Lee was little—he was probably around three—he had a block, like a play block, a colored wooden block. And he had it pinched between his shoulder and his ear, and he was doing circles around the kitchen.I said, “What are you doing?” And he said, “I'm talking on the phone.”And I realized: oh my gosh. I walk around with the cordless phone pinched between my shoulder and my ear, and I walk around while I'm talking on the phone. So for him, that was like: this is how you talk on the phone.Corey: That's such a funny reference, too. Now our kids would never—my kids would never do that, right?Sarah: No, because they never saw you with a phone like that.Corey: Right.Sarah: That is so funny. It's definitely a dated reference.You also have a funny story, too, that's sort of the opposite—less harmless things our kids copy us doing. Do you want to share your… I think it's a rabbit poop story.Corey: It is. We're just going to put it out there: it's a rabbit poop story. This is how we accidentally model things we probably don't want our kids doing.So, if you were listening this time last year, I got a new dog. She's a lab, and her favorite thing is to eat everything—especially things she's not supposed to eat, which I'm sure a lot of people can relate to.Our area is rampant with rabbits, so we have this problem with rabbit droppings. And my vet has informed me that despite the fact that dogs love it, you need to not let them eat it.So I'm always in the backyard—if you're hearing this, it's really silly—having to try and shovel these up so the dog's not eating them.Listeners, we're looking into a longer-term solution so rabbits aren't getting into our backyard, but this is where we're at right now.Whenever I noticed I'd be shoveling them up and I'd see her trying to eat something else I hadn't shoveled yet, I'd say, “Leave it,” and then give her a treat to reward her.One day, my little guy—little C—who loves taking part in dog training and is so great with animals, he saw our dog eating something she shouldn't. He ran and got his little sand shovel and went up to her holding it—kind of waving it at her—like, “Leave it.”And I was like, why are you shaking a shovel at the dog? Totally confused about what he was doing.And he's like, “Well, this is how you do it, Mommy.”And I was like… oh. I shake a shovel at the dog. You just say, “Leave it,” and then you give her the treat—not the shovel.Not an hour later, I'm shoveling again, she's trying to eat something she shouldn't, and I'm like, “Leave it, leave it.” I look at my hand and I'm holding the shovel up while saying it to her.Sarah: Right?Corey: And I was like, “Oh, this is why he thinks that.” Because every time I'm saying this to her, I'm holding a shovel mid-scoop—trying to get on top of the problem.Sarah: That's so funny. And when you told me that the first time, I got the impression you maybe weren't being as gentle as you thought you were. Like you were frustrated with the dog, and little C was copying that.Corey: Yeah. Probably that too, right? Because it's a frustrating problem. Anyone who's tried to shovel rabbit droppings knows it's an impossible, ridiculous task.So I definitely was a bit frustrated. He was picking up both on the frustration and on what I was physically doing.And I also think this is a good example to show parents: don't beat yourself up. Sometimes we're not even aware of the things we're doing until we see it reflected back at us.Sarah: Totally.And now that you mentioned beating yourself up: I have a lot of parents I work with who will say, “I heard my kid yelling and shouting, and I know they pick that up from me—my bad habits of yelling and shouting.”I just want to say: there are some things kids do out of fight, flight, or freeze—like their nervous system has gotten activated—that they would do whether you shouted at them or not.It's not that everything—every hard thing—can be traced back to us.Kids will get aggressive, and I've seen this: kids who are aggressive, who have not ever seen aggression. They've never seen anyone hitting; they've never been hit. But they will hit and kick and spit and scream because that's the “fight” of fight, flight, or freeze.So it's not that they learned it somewhere.And often parents will worry, “What are they being exposed to at school?” But that can just be a natural instinct to protect oneself when we get dysregulated.Also, kids will think of the worst thing they can say—and it's not necessarily that they've heard it.I remember one time Asa got really mad at Lee. They were like three and six. And Asa said, “I'm going to chop your head off and bury you in the backyard.”Oh my goodness—if I hadn't known it wasn't necessarily something he learned, I would've been really worried. But it was just a reflection of that fight, flight, or freeze instinct that he had.So I guess it's: yes, kids can learn things from us, and I'm not saying they can't. Your example—with the dog, the rabbit poop, and the shovel—of course kids can pick up unsavory behavior from us.But that doesn't mean that every single hard thing they do, they learned from us. And also, they have good natures. There are things that come from them that are good as well, that they didn't learn from us.Corey: That's right.Sarah: I want to ground this conversation in a great metaphor from a book by Allison Gopnik. I think the title is The Gardener and the Carpenter: What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us About the Relationship Between Parents and Children.To really embrace what we're talking about—being the person you want your child to be—you have to believe in the gardener metaphor of parenting.The gardener metaphor is: your child is like a seed that has within it everything it needs to grow into a beautiful plant. You provide the water, sunlight, proper soil, and then the plant does the work of growing on its own.The carpenter metaphor is: you have to build your child—make your child into who they're going to be.This idea we're talking about—be the person you want your child to be—that's the soil and the light and the water your child needs to grow into a beautiful plant, or a beautiful human being.It's not that we're doing things to them to turn them into good humans.And honestly, most parents, when you ask them what they wish for their child, they want their kid to be a good person when they grow up.I want to say to parents: it's easier than you think. The most influential thing you can do to help your child grow up to be a good person is to be the person you want them to be.This goes up against a lot of common parenting advice.One phrase I wish did not exist—and I don't know where it came from, but if anyone knows, let me know—is: “You should never do anything for your child that they can do for themselves.”Such a terrible way to think about relationships.Can you imagine if I said to your partner, “You should never do anything for Corey that she can do for herself”? It's terrible.I make my husband coffee in the morning—not because he can't make it himself, but as an act of love. For him to come downstairs, getting ready for work, and have a nice hot coffee ready. Of course he can make his own coffee. But human relationships are built on doing things for each other.Corey: Yes. I think that's so profound.I think about how I was just telling you before we started recording how we've been spending our weekends skiing. When I first started skiing with my husband—even though I'd grown up skiing—I'd never done it as much as him. He helped me so much. He did so much of the process for me so I didn't have too much to think about.Now that we do it all the time, he said to me the other day, “Look at how independent you've gotten with this. You can do so much of this yourself. You're managing so much more on the hill.”He was so proud of me, and I was thinking: imagine if he hadn't done that for me. If he had been like, “Just figure it out. We're on the ski hill. You're an adult.”I probably wouldn't have enjoyed it very much. But he did lots of things for me that I could have done for myself, and that love and support helped nurture the shared love we had.Sarah: Yeah.And I think it's tough because our culture is so individualistic. Hyper-individualistic—everyone should stand on their own two feet and do things without help and make it on their own. And that has really leaked into our parenting.One of the major fears I hear from parents is that their kid won't be independent.So a lot of parents push kids to be independent—and what that ends up looking like is the opposite of what we're talking about.Part of the reason there's pressure for individualism is because we see it as a way for kids to turn into “good people.”But so many qualities of being a good person are about human interconnectedness: caring about other people, being kind, being helpful, being conscientious, thinking about what's the right thing to do.All of that comes from how we're modeling it—the gardener metaphor.But there's always this tension: wanting your kid to be helpful, caring, kind, and thinking you have to make them be those things instead of letting that gardener process develop.I'm on the other side of this because my kids are grownups, so I've seen it develop. One of the things I realized a couple years ago is this progression I saw with Maxine.One time we were on our way out the door. My husband happened to be leaving for work at the same time we were leaving for the school bus. Maxine was probably around seven, and I was carrying her backpack for her.My husband—who also has that individualism thing—said, “Why are you carrying her backpack? She's seven. She can carry her own backpack.”And I was like, “I know, but she likes me to carry it, and I don't mind.”And I really knew that someday she would want to carry her own backpack.Sure enough, a couple years later, she's carrying her own backpack, doesn't ask me anymore. I didn't think about it for a while.Then one day we were coming from the grocery store and had to walk a little ways with heavy groceries. She insisted on carrying all the groceries and wouldn't let me carry anything.I was like, “I can carry some groceries, honey.” And she's like, “No, Mom. I've got it.”She's carrying all the heavy groceries by herself. This full-circle moment: not only was she helping, she wanted to do it for me. She didn't want me to have to carry the heavy groceries.I just love that.Corey: Yeah. And I love when we have these conversations because sometimes it feels like a leap of faith—you don't see this modeled in society very much. It's a leap of faith to be like, “I can do these things for my children, and one day they will…”But it's not as long as people think. I'm already seeing some of that blooming with my 10-year-old.Sarah: Yeah.And Sophie in our membership shared something on our Wednesday Wins. Her kids are around 10, eight or nine, and seven. She's always followed this principle—modeling who you want your kid to be.She said she always worried, “They're never going to help.” And whenever you hear “never” and “always,” there's anxiety coming in.But she shared she had been sick and had to self-isolate. Her kids were making her food and bringing it to her. She would drive to the store, and they would go in and get the things needed.She was amazed at how they stepped up and helped her without her having to make them. They just saw that their mom needed help and were like, “We're there, Mom. What do you need?”Corey: Oh—“What do you need?” That's so sweet.Sarah: I love that.One more story: this fall, my kids are 20—Lee's going to be 25 next week—21, and 18.My husband and I were going away for the weekend, leaving Maxine home by herself. It was fall, and we have a lot of really big trees around our house, so there was major eavestroughs—gutters—cleaning to do, getting leaves off the roof and bagging all the leaves in the yard. A full-day job.My husband had been like, “I have so much work to do. I don't want to deal with that when I come home.”So I asked the boys if they could come over and the three of them could do the leaf-and-gutter job. And they were like, “Absolutely.”They surprised their dad. When we came home, they had done the entire thing. They spent a day doing all the leaves and gutter cleaning. None of them were like, “I don't want to,” or “I'm busy.” They didn't ask me to pay them—we didn't pay them. They just were like, “Sure, we'll help Dad. We know he has a lot of work right now.”I just love that.Corey: Oh, I love that. When they're so little, they can't really help take the burden off you. But knowing that one day they will—it's such a nice thing to know.Although this brings us to that good point about Hunt, Gather, Parent.Sarah: Yeah. If people haven't listened to that episode, we'll link to it in the show notes.Let's talk about some things you can do to actively practice what we're talking about—modeling who we want our kids to be.One idea is really encapsulated by Michaeleen Doucleff, who wrote Hunt, Gather, Parent. She traveled in Mexico, spent time with Mayan people, and saw kids doing household stuff without being asked—helpful, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, taking care of younger siblings in this beautiful way that was pretty unrecognizable by North American standards.She went down and lived with them and studied what they did. She found it started with letting kids help when they were little.The two- or three-year-old who wanted to help a parent make food or do things in the garden—rather than the parents doing it without the kid around, or giving them something fake to help with, or not letting them do it—those parents let kids do it.Even if it took longer, even if the parent had to redo it later (not in front of them). They let their kids be imperfect helpers and enthusiastic helpers.That's an impulse we've all seen: kids want to help. And we often don't let them because we say they're too little or it takes too much time. And we end up thwarting that helping impulse.Then when we really want them to help—when they're actually capable—they've learned, “Helping isn't my role,” because it got shut down earlier.Corey: Exactly. And I really feel that for parents because schedules are so busy and we're so rushed.But you don't have to do this all the time. It's okay if there are sometimes where there's a crunch. Pick times when it's a little more relaxed—maybe on weekends or when you have a bit more space.Sarah: Totally.And while we're talking about helping: this comes up a lot with parents I work with and in our membership. Parents will say, “I asked my kid to set the table and they said, ‘Why do I always have to do it?'”This happened the other day with a client. I asked, “What was your child doing when you asked?” And she said, “He was snuggled up on the couch reading a book.”And I was like: I can see how that's frustrating—you could use help getting the table ready. But let's zoom out.Modeling might look like: “Okay, you're tired. You've had a long day at school. You're snuggled up reading. I'll set the table right now.”Being gracious. Even if they refuse sometimes, it's okay to do it. But also, in that specific helping piece, we can look at the times when they help without being asked.When I give parents the assignment to look for that, every parent says, “Oh, I won't find any.” And then they come back and say, “Oh, I did find times.”So when they do help—carry groceries, help a sibling—how can you make them feel good about it?“Thank you. That saved so much time.” “I was going to help your brother but my hands were full—thank you.”Pro-social behavior is reinforced when it feels good.If you want them to help more, ask: “What would you like to do to help the family team?”Not, “This is your job forever.” More like, “I've noticed setting the table isn't a great time for you. What are some other things you could take on?” And if they don't have ideas, brainstorm what's developmentally appropriate.Often there are things kids would like to do that you've just never thought of.Corey: It's true. It's kind of like how adults divide jobs at home—often according to who likes what. But with kids we think, “I should just tell them what to do, and they should just do it.”It makes sense to work with what they like.Sarah: And also the flow of the family and schedule.That's why we never had chores in the strict sense. My kids helped out, but it was never “one person's job” to do the dishwasher or take out the garbage.Because inevitably I'd need the dishwasher emptied and that person wasn't home, or they were doing homework. And if I said, “Can you do the dishwasher?” someone could say, “That's not my job—that's my brother's job.”So instead, if I needed something done, whoever was around: “Hey, can you take the garbage out?” I tried to keep it relatively equal, but it wasn't a rigid assignment. And I think that helped create the family team idea.Corey: Yes.Sarah: And that “it's someone's job” thing is that individualism again.You hear this: “Can you clean that up?” and if you haven't been modeling cleaning up messes that aren't your own, you might hear, “Well, I didn't make that mess.”But if you model: if they make a mess and you say, “Can you pick up your crayons?” and they're like, “No,” then you can say, “Okay, sure, I'll pick up the crayons for you,” and they have the experience of seeing someone clean up a mess that isn't theirs.They're more likely to absorb: “Oh, yeah, I can help with messes that aren't mine.”Corey: I've really seen this play out in my house this winter. One child loves shoveling. The second there's any snow, he's like, “Time for me to shovel.” It doesn't matter if it's early morning or dark out—he's out there shoveling.And I've been blown away, because first of all, I do not like shoveling. It's genuinely helpful.But he'll also be looking out for when the plow comes by—this doesn't happen where you live on the island, but for lots of people: the plow makes a wall at the end of the driveway. Even if you already shoveled, you have a new wall.He'll keep looking: “Just watching out for the plow.” Like a little old man. The second it happens, he's out there so everyone can leave the house as needed.And he's even admitted, “There are lots of jobs I don't like, but I really love doing this. This is something I can do for everybody.”Sarah: That's so great. That's a perfect example of letting them choose something that helps the family.In terms of flexibility—doing things for them—how have you seen that play out? Because for me, when my kids were small, they did very little. We'd do “Let's all tidy up,” but maybe they'd pick up three things and I'd pick up most of the things. We'd do a 10-minute tidy.Mostly I did dishes, setting and clearing the table, all of that. But then I found that as they got older, they just started doing it.And I never got into power struggles because, honestly, it was often easier to do it myself. Maybe that worked out because I didn't have a grand vision—I just lived it, and then I saw them grow into doing a lot as they got older.What about you? How are you seeing that balance between what you do for them and how you see them growing?Corey: I'd say this is where you really have to have faith. Something that maybe wasn't modeled for us.This comes up with clients all the time: they get anxious—“They're never going to clean up, they're never going to be helpful, they'll be entitled.” They get stuck in “never” because it's not happening right away.So when I tell people: invite them, and if they don't want to do it, say something like, “You don't want to do it this time. I'm sure you'll do it next time.”But mean it—not passive-aggressive. Not “I'm sure you'll do it next time” as a threat. Actually mean: “I'm sure you'll do it next time,” and then go about it with trust that they will eventually do it.You're holding space. You're not being anxious about it.Sarah: Yes—holding space, having faith.Corey: And I think it's giving ourselves—and the parents we work with—a permission slip.You can tidy up for them without being angry about it. If you're doing this like, “No one helps me,” that's not going to work.You have to truly trust the goodness of your children—that they'll want to be like this.Sarah: Yeah.And I think some of it comes down to how we treat other adults.If your partner normally does the dishes and says, “I'm exhausted from work,” hopefully there's give-and-take. You pick up slack when they're tired.A lot of this is: how do you want to be treated? How do you treat other adults? And how can you work on treating kids the same way?So often we don't treat kids the way we treat adults. And sometimes that's appropriate. But often it's just a lack of respect.I saw a comedy skit once where these moms were sitting around drinking wine, and at first it was normal, and then one goes to reach for the bottle and another slaps her hand: “You haven't finished what you have in your glass. Finish what you have first.”Someone interrupts, and the other says, “I was still speaking. Wait until I'm done speaking.”And you're like: oh my gosh, that's what people do to kids all the time. If you see an adult do it to another adult, it's funny—but it's also jarring because it's considered normal when people do it to kids.Kids aren't always seen as having the same rights or deserving the same respect as adults.Corey: Yes. And I think Iris Chen talks about this. You did a podcast with her back in season one—adultism.Sarah: Yes, adultism—like racism or sexism, but adultism: prioritizing adults' needs and rights over children's.Corey: And that really stood out to me. If we treat them like the beautiful little people they are—not “just children,” but people—that goes a long way in what we're talking about today.Sarah: Yeah.And the last big point is how this works with values.Corey: We hear this a lot: parents get worried about values. They really value the environment and worry their kids aren't living those values.Like a parent who was upset their kids were buying candy made with palm oil because of how it's harvested. “Why don't my kids care?”If we get preachy—“We can't buy candy with palm oil,” “We only buy thrifted clothes”—it can turn into, “You're trying to control me,” and then kids push the other way.Versus if we live those values and give them room to play with them and figure out where they land, they tend to be more open—and more interested in the why.A strange example from this weekend: I don't really like those disposable hand warmers because you can only use them once. I prefer things we can use multiple times.It was supposed to be really cold, so I was like, “Okay, I guess I'll buy them.” I didn't say anything weird about it. We used them.At the end of the day, he had to throw them out, and he goes, “I don't feel great about this. It was helpful, but I don't know if it was helpful enough that we have to throw this in the garbage now.”And I was like: that's exactly how I feel. But I didn't get preachy. He was able to think about it himself.So even with values, we live them. If kids aren't agreeing with our values, sometimes we have to give space and pull back. When someone's pushing something on you, you often feel like not complying.Sarah: Yeah. It becomes a power struggle.And I do think there's a difference between pushing and educating. You can give them information in an age-appropriate way, and you can say, “You can buy that with your own money, but I don't want to support that, so I'm not going to.”Not in a way that makes them feel terrible. Just: “These are my values.”I've said this to my kids. Maxine was maybe 14 and said, “My phone's broken. I need a new phone.”I said, “What's wrong?” She said, “My music library keeps going away and I have to download it.”I started laughing and said, “That's not enough to get a new phone.” I said, “My values are we use electronics until they're broken. We don't get a new phone because of a little glitch.”You should see our minivan—it's scraped up and old-looking. Maxine actually said we're going somewhere with her boyfriend and his mom, and she said, “Can you please ask my boyfriend's mother to drive?”I said, “Why?” And she said, “Our car is so embarrassing.”And I'm like, “It works great. We drive our cars into the ground.” That's our family value.And then last year, Maxine's phone screen actually broke. She wanted a new phone, and I said, “My values—because of e-waste—are that I'd get it fixed if I were you. But I promise I won't judge you if you want a new phone. Do what feels right for you.”No guilt-tripping. And she chose to fix the screen instead of buying a new phone.So these are examples—like your hand warmers—where we can give the information without being heavy. And they usually absorb our values over time.Corey: Because it's not just that moment—it's hundreds of interactions.And that's actually empowering: you don't need one big conversation. You get to show them these little things throughout life.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Corey: I mean, if we're talking about phones, goodness gracious—how long have I needed a new phone?Sarah: I know. I've been wanting you to get a new phone so you can post Reels for me.Corey: They're like, “Corey, maybe you've taken this too far.” But I don't know—the modeling I've given my children is that you can make a dead phone last for two extra years.Sarah: And I like your point: it's all of these interactions over and over again.The opposite of what we're talking about is you can't tell your kids not to be materialistic if you go out and buy things you don't need. You can't tell them people are more important than phones if you're on your phone all the time.You really have to think about it. That's why that “Do as I say, not as I do” sometimes gets used—because it's hard. It's hard to be the person you want your kids to be.And it keeps us honest: who do we want to be? Who do we want them to be?Corey: I mean, it's that moment when I stood there holding the shovel and I was like, “Ah. I see.”So we can see this as a beautiful thing for our own growth, too, because we're going to keep realizing how much it matters.Caveat, though: I don't want parents to listen and feel pressure—like every moment they're being watched and they must be perfect.Because this is also a chance to model messing up and making repairs. So don't take this as: you have to be perfect.Sarah: And the other thing: if you're listening and you're like, “Why do I have to do everything around here? Sarah and Corey are saying clean up your kids' messes, carry things for them, do the chores…”I'm not saying every parent should be a martyr and never get help.Remember what I said: where can your kids help? What are they already doing? What could they choose?And I think I also let a lot of stuff go. My parents once came to visit and said, “Sarah, we really admire how you choose to spend time with your kids instead of cleaning up your house.”I was like, I think that was a backhanded compliment. And also them noticing it was kind of a mess.It wasn't terrible or dirty. It was just: I didn't have a perfect house, and I did everything myself.I did a lot myself, but I didn't do all the things some people think they need to do.Corey: That totally makes sense. You're basically saying: what can you let go of, too?Sarah: Yeah. For the sake of the relationship.And I think the last thing I wanted us to talk about is: does this ever not work?You and I were thinking about objections.If you're living this way—gracious, helpful, flexible, modeling who you want them to be—you're putting deposits in the Goodwill Bank. Your connection increases. They care what you think because that Goodwill Bank is nice and beefy.The only time you could say it wouldn't work is if you didn't have a good relationship. But if you're doing all this, it builds relationship—so I don't even think you can say, “This doesn't work.”Nobody's perfect. There were plenty of times I asked my kids to do things and they were grumpy, or I had to ask 10 times. It wasn't like, “Of course, Mom, let me empty the dishwasher.” They were normal kids. But in general, if you trust the process and maturation, your kids move in that direction.Corey: I'd add one other thing: it wouldn't work if this is all you're doing, with nothing else.Sometimes people think peaceful parenting is passive, and what we're saying can sound passive: “Just be who you want them to be.”But there are also times you need to do something. Like we said: if you're being the person you want to be and they're never helping, there's also a conversation: “What do you like to do?” There are collaborative steps.This is the big philosophy—embodying who you want them to be—but there are also practical supports and conversations that help them be successful.Sarah: Totally.And the last thing is: remember this happens over time. Trust the growth process and maturation and brain development.Remember that when they're little, their agenda is not your agenda. And as they get older, they start to see the benefits: “Oh yeah, it is nice when the living room's tidied up.”When they're little, they don't have the same agenda as you. That's a lot of why you get, “No, you do it.”And I actually can't believe I didn't say this earlier, but a lot of times when we're doing things for kids, they feel it as nurturing.So sometimes when they don't want to help, it's their way of saying, “I want to make sure you're taking care of me.” Sometimes that can look like refusal or not wanting to do things themselves.Corey: Yeah, absolutely.Sarah: Thanks, Corey.Corey: Thank you. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe

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Italian cuisine and Italian American cuisine share the same roots—but they are not the same thing.In this episode, I explore how Italian American cuisine was born from immigration, adaptation, and abundance, and how it became a cultural ambassador that introduced millions of Americans to Italian flavors. I also explain why it's important to distinguish Italian cuisine from Italian American cuisine, so we can respect both traditions without confusing their history or identity.A short reflection on food, migration, and why understanding the difference matters.

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Supply chain transformation isn't easy. Statistics suggest that 70 percent of all transformations fail and 88 percent stop short of achieving their original objectives. Compare that to another kind of challenge - like climbing to Everest Base Camp, where 60-70 percent of all people who start the journey make it to the top. Could this possibly mean that climbing Mount Everest is easier than transformation?  No, says this episode's guest - but we can take a lot of lessons from why the Mount Everest success rate is higher. For one thing, climbers respect the challenge from their first moment of planning to reach the summit. In this episode of The Sourcing Hero podcast, Host Kelly Barner welcomes Ketul Patel. Ketul is the President of OMIIA Consulting, where he leverages his 30+ years in supply chain to help companies balance strategic intent and operational execution in pursuit of sustainable business success. Ketul is also the author of a newly published book, A Journey of Elevation: Lessons for Business Transformation from Everest Base Camp. Ketul compares the challenges of extreme climbing and supply chain transformation to offer advice about: Accepting that progress is not a straight line, and everyone has to agree on a shared definition of success How to overcome the inevitable obstacles that sit between, “Let's do this,” and “We did it!” Why the decision to turn back or change plans should never be seen as failure - or as a matter of ego Links: Ketul Patel on LinkedIn

Why We Talk But Don't Communicate (And How to Fix It)We've all heard that communication is the key to a healthy relationship, but few of us actually know how to use it. Kent and Caanan move past the tired cliches to discuss the logistics of how we speak, listen, and stay connected. This episode is an invitation to stop just talking and start focusing on the quality and mechanics of your interactions.From a surprising lesson at a doctor's office to a breakdown of what happens when the brain becomes "flooded," this conversation explores why so many of us communicate poorly even when we mean well. Whether you are navigating a 28-year marriage or a complex team dynamic at work, learn how to trade assumptions for inquiry and "talking at" for "listening with." CHAPTERS:(00:00) Why are we still doing that?(01:08) Mind Share: Why Kent's doctor doesn't have news on her phone(03:12) Why are we still communicating poorly?(10:42) The assumption trap: Checking in vs. assuming(14:00) Arguing in good faith: Are you communicating to win?(15:30) Understanding "The Flood": Communicating through overwhelm(21:39) The secret distinguisher: Listening vs. talking(24:02) Worth the Time: Helen Harper series review KEY TAKEAWAYS:Quality over Quantity: Communication isn't just about the volume of words; it's about clarity, directness, and ensuring your message is actually received.The Good Faith Test: Healthy dialogue requires an intention to understand rather than a desire to "win" the argument or bully a partner into submission.Respecting the "Flood": Recognizing when someone is scientifically unable to process information due to emotional overwhelm is vital for preventing unproductive conflict. RESOURCES MENTIONED:Strengths and Personality Assessments: https://novacationrequired.com/services SUPPORT NO VACATION REQUIRED:If this episode helped you improve a conversation today, please leave a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts! It is the best way to help our message reach more people.Subscribe: Never miss an episode by hitting the follow button on Spotify or Apple PodcastsCheck out our website: https://novacationrequired.com/servicesRead our book: https://novacationrequired.com/bookFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/novacationrequired/

What happens when someone who's spent decades inside the lighting industry's machinery gets straight to it?In this episode of LytePOD, host Sam Koerbel sits down with Geoff Marlow, a veteran consultant and industry strategist who has witnessed firsthand the seismic shifts reshaping architectural lighting—from the rise of LED technology to the relentless wave of consolidation, private equity takeovers, and the erosion of relationships that once held this industry together.Geoff walks through what he calls TTO—the convergence of talent scarcity, technical complexity, and the shift from products to outcomes—and explains why the industry's failure to address these forces is creating chaos across every layer of the supply chain. He reveals why manufacturers, reps, distributors, and designers are all pointing fingers at each other's margins while missing the bigger picture: the process itself is broken. Projects are treated as linear when they're actually iterative. Relationships are treated as poetry when they need to be built on definitive, measurable trust. And consolidation—whether it's reps buying reps, manufacturers buying manufacturers, or private equity rolling up portfolios—keeps failing because purpose is missing.But this isn't just a diagnosis. It's a call to action. Geoff argues that the industry needs to move from inductive chaos to deductive clarity—starting with outcomes, not guesswork. Those margin dollars aren't owed, they're earned. That partnership isn't owed, it's earned. That enthusiasm isn't owed, it's earned. And that if the industry can't create a shared language, a shared purpose, and a shared commitment to solving problems together, it will continue to eat itself from the inside out.

Kolaiah "Fuzzy" Jardine, co-founder of HUI Mastermind, joins Brian Hamrick to share how he overcame adversity and built a multimillion-dollar real estate portfolio across Hawaii—developing over 100 affordable homes for local families. From growing up in a multi-generational household on leased agricultural land and serving time in federal prison to becoming a real estate developer and mentor, Fuzzy's story is one of redemption, resilience, and purpose. In this episode, he reveals how he builds homes in Hawaii's lava zones, why he focuses on affordable housing, and how his "Pono Way" approach honors both the people and the land. You'll learn: How Hawaii's unique land and housing challenges create opportunities for developers What it takes to build in "lava zones" and why local lending still supports these projects The philosophy behind people before profits and respecting the land How Fuzzy scaled from $0 to over 150 completed homes How the HUI Mastermind is empowering Native Hawaiians and locals to build generational wealth

Welcome to the Slap Shot Podcast! In episode 102, host Christopher Morais (@fuzzychris91) discusses the latest NHL news, including the trade of Rasmus Andersson to the Vegas Golden Knights and the Buffalo Sabres re-signing Josh Doan.   The Montreal Canadiens are gradually getting healthier, but while this may seem positive, it brings its own set of challenges. With an influx of forwards, some players may need to sit on the sidelines and watch the games. There has been a lot of speculation regarding Brendan Gallagher potentially being excluded from the lineup. Christopher delves into this topic, explaining why it would be a mistake and discussing which players should actually be left out of the lineup or even sent down to the AHL.   If you like the podcast and want to support it directly, you can do so via PayPal

Welcome to Akshar Se Avsar Tak, a podcast by The Good Sight, where we explore critical questions around Foundational Literacy and Numeracy (FLN).In this episode, we focus on “Assessing Learning Right and Respecting Children's Pace.” Our guest, Sanjay Tiwari, State Manager (Uttar Pradesh) at Language Learning Foundation (LLF), shares insights from his work with government primary schools to strengthen FLN at the foundational level.The conversation challenges our reliance on exam results to judge children's learning and examines whether current assessment practices truly capture how children learn. We also discuss the vision of NEP 2020, especially its emphasis on allowing children to learn at their own pace, and how much space today's school systems give to this approach.Drawing from on-ground experience, the episode highlights how strong foundational learning shapes children's thinking, curiosity, and independence, while also reflecting on the strengths and challenges of NEP 2020 in the context of FLN.At its core, this episode reinforces a simple idea: meaningful learning begins when we assess children thoughtfully and respect their pace.CreditsGuest: Sanjay TiwariHost: Shreya MResearch: Alisha CProduced by: The Good SightConcept: The Good SightFor feedback or to participate, write to us at contact@thegoodsight.org#FLN #AksharSeAvsarTak #FoundationalLearning #NEP2020 #EarlyLearning #LanguageLearningFoundation

John continues his conversation with Dr. Nelva Lee. In this episode they talk about the importance of pain and purpose in life, why avoiding hard moments can keep you stuck, learning from mistakes, and much more! In Part 1, they discussed the traditional model of public education and the need for new approaches to prepare the kids for real life or careers. Listen to this episode to learn more: [00:00] - Why pain is not something to fear [05:29] - The two most important days of your life [06:50] - How faith guides Dr. Nelva's decisions in leadership roles [11:32] - Respecting your audience while staying true to your beliefs [14:11] - Dr. Nelva's definition of success [14:57] - #1 daily habit [15:56] - Traits of a great leader [17:49] - Every person you meet can teach you something [21:00] - Value of learning from mistakes and failing fast [24:47] - Legacy Dr. Nelva wants to leave behind [25:32] - How she invests in her growth and marriage [27:26] - A message for husbands and wives [29:43] - Clear communication in marriage [30:32] - Best way to reach out to Dr. Nelva [31:04] - Supporting Dr. Nelva's candidacy [33:49] - Book recommendations [34:51] - Wrap-up NOTABLE QUOTES: "I have learned over the years that pain is not something I should be afraid of. I should be afraid when I don't experience pain." "If you do it right, you don't learn anything. So you have to fail, which means you tried something new, didn't do it right, and now you have the opportunity to learn. It's not a guarantee that you will, it just means the opportunity is there." "Embrace the fact that you will have failures. You will make mistakes. You just need to learn from them, turn them into learning opportunities, and pivot. If you're able to do that, you're going to be ahead of so many others." "First, lead yourself. Then you can lead others." "Our habits determine our behavior, and our behavior determines the level of influence that we will have." "We were all born as individuals. We were all born originals. We shouldn't die copies." "If you're not experiencing enough adversity, it's probably because you're just following a pre-decided path that may or may not be your path." "Gentlemen, date night is yours. You own it. You're in charge of it. Her job is to show up and look beautiful." "Ladies, if your husband is not the romantic type, it's okay to give him tips, and it's okay to help him plan it." BOOKS MENTIONED: Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For? by Rick Warren (https://a.co/d/hseine4) The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by R. Stephen Covey (https://a.co/d/eChA52b) Left Behind Series by Tim LaHaye and Jerry B. Jenkins (https://a.co/d/a3jw43B) The Bible (https://a.co/d/59f7I7q) USEFUL RESOURCES: https://www.drnelvalee.com/ https://www.instagram.com/dr.nelvalee/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nelva-lee-a4a885314/ https://www.facebook.com/TBWGTR https://www.youtube.com/@DrNelvaLee/videos Stay and Fight: The Wise Woman Builds Her House (https://a.co/d/aE70YCB) Be the Superhero of Your Story (https://a.co/d/bzutXhk) A Hope and a Future: The Case for Fostering to Adopt (https://a.co/d/j87kVT8) CONNECT WITH JOHN Website - https://iamjohnhulen.com    LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnhulen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/johnhulen    Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnhulen    X - https://x.com/johnhulen    YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLX_NchE8lisC4NL2GciIWA    EPISODE CREDITS Intro and Outro music provided by Jeff Scheetz - https://jeffscheetz.com/ 

VIEW FOR LATER TODAY: VENEZUELA'S FAILED DEMOCRATIC TRANSITION Guest: Mary Anastasia O'Grady O'Grady reports the US hope for Venezuelan democracy is failing because Delcy Rodriguez built no institutions respecting President-elect Edmundo Gonzalez. The Interior Minister controls police and prisons holding 800 political prisoners while accumulating weapons and power, serving as the major obstacle to restoring democracy.1954 CARACAS

Welcome back to Snafu with Robin P. Zander. In this episode, I'm doing something a little different: I step into the guest seat for a conversation with one of my good friends, Andrew Bartlow, recorded for the People Leader Accelerator podcast alongside Jessica Yuen. We dive into storytelling, identity, and leadership — exploring how personal experiences shape professional influence. The conversation begins with a reflection on family and culture, from the Moroccan textiles behind me, made by my mother, to the influence of my father's environmental consulting work. These threads of personal history frame my lifelong fascination with storytelling, persuasion, and coalition-building. Andrew and Jessica guide the discussion through how storytelling intersects with professional growth. We cover how early experiences — like watching Lawrence of Arabia at a birthday sleepover — sparked curiosity about adventure, influence, and human connection, and how these interests evolved into a career focused on organizational storytelling and leadership. We explore practical frameworks, including my four-part story model (Setup → Change → Turning → Resolution) and the power of "twists" to create momentum and memorability. The episode also touches on authentic messaging, the role of vulnerability in leadership, and why practicing storytelling in everyday life—outside high-stakes moments—builds confidence and executive presence over time. Listeners will hear lessons from a lifetime of diverse experiences: running a café in the Mission District, collaborating with BJ Fogg on behavioral change, building Zander Media, and applying storytelling to align teams and organizations. We also discuss how authenticity and personal perspective remain a competitive advantage in an age of AI-generated content. If you're curious about how storytelling, practice, and presence intersect with leadership, persuasion, and influence, this episode is for you. And for more insights on human connection, organizational alignment, and the future of work, check out Snafu, my weekly newsletter on sales, persuasion, and storytelling here, and Responsive Conference, where we explore leadership, work, and organizational design here. Start (0:00) Storytelling & Identity Robin introduces Moroccan textiles behind him Made by his mother, longtime practicing artist Connects to Moroccan fiancée → double meaning of personal and cultural Reflection on family influence Father: environmental consulting firm Mother: artist Robin sees himself between their careers Early Fascination with Storytelling Childhood obsession with Morocco and Lawrence of Arabia Watched 4-hour movie at age 6–7 Fascinated by adventure, camels, storytelling, persuasion Early exposure shaped appreciation for coalition-building and influence Identity & Names Jess shares preference for "Jess" → casual familiarity Robin shares professional identity as "Xander" Highlights fluidity between personal and professional selves Childhood Experiences & Social Context Watching Lawrence of Arabia at birthday sleepover Friends uninterested → early social friction Andrew parallels with daughters and screen preferences Childhood experiences influence perception and engagement Professional Background & Storytelling Application Robin's long involvement with PeopleTech and People Leader Accelerator Created PLA website, branding, documented events Mixed pursuits: dance, media, café entrepreneurship Demonstrates applying skills across domains Collaboration with BJ Fogg → behavioral change expertise Storytelling as Connection and Alignment Robin: Storytelling pulls from personal domains and makes it relevant to others Purpose: foster connection → move together in same direction Executive relevance: coalition building, generating momentum, making the case for alignment Andrew: HR focus on connection, relationships, alignment, clarity Helps organizations move faster, "grease the wheels" for collaboration Robin's Credibility and Experience in Storytelling Key principle: practice storytelling more than listening Full-time entrepreneur for 15 years First business at age 5: selling pumpkins Organized neighborhood kids in scarecrow costumes to help sell Earned $500 → early lessons in coalition building and persuasion Gymnastics and acrobatics: love of movement → performance, discipline Café entrepreneurship: Robin's Cafe in Mission District, SF Started with 3 weeks' notice to feed conference attendees Housed within a dance studio → intersection of dance and behavioral change First experience managing full-time employees Learned the importance of storytelling for community building and growth Realized post-sale missed opportunity: storytelling could have amplified success Transition to Professional Storytelling (Zander Media) Lessons from cafe → focus on storytelling, messaging, content creation Founded Zander Media (2018) Distributed small team, specializes in narrative strategy and video production Works with venture-backed companies and HR teams to tell stories internally and externally Provides reps and depth in organizational storytelling Why Storytelling Matters for Organizations Connects people, fosters alignment Enables faster movement toward shared goals Storytelling as a "powerful form of connection" What Makes a Good Story Robin: frameworks exist, but ultimately humans want: Education, entertainment, attention Sustained attention (avoid drift to TikTok, distractions) Framework examples: Hero's Journey (Joseph Campbell) → 17 steps Dan Harmon's 8-part structure → simplified version of Hero's Journey Robin's preferred model: 4-part story structure (details/examples forthcoming) The Power of the Twist, and Organizational Storytelling Robin's Four-Part Story Model Core idea: stories work best when they follow a simple arc Setup → Change → Turning (twist/reveal) → Resolution Goal: not rigid frameworks, but momentum, surprise, payoff The "Turning" (Twist) as the Sticky Moment Pixar example via Steve Jobs and the iPod Nano Setup: Apple's dominance, market context, long build-up Choice point: Option A: just reveal the product Option B (chosen): pause + curiosity Turning: the "tiny jeans pocket" question Reveal: iPod Nano pulled from the pocket Effect: entertainment, disruption, memorability Key insight: The twist creates pause, delight, and attention This moment often determines whether a story is remembered Why Flat Stories Fail Example (uninspiring): "I ran a cafe → wanted more marketing → now I run Xander Media" Improved arc with turning: Ran a cafe → wanted to do more marketing → sold it on Craigslist → built Xander Media Lesson: A reveal or risk creates narrative energy The Four Parts in Practice Setup The world as it is (Bilbo in the Shire) Change Something disrupts the norm (Gandalf arrives) Turning Twist, reveal, or surprise (the One Ring) Resolution Payoff and return (Bilbo back to the Shire) How to Use This as a Leader Don't force stories into frameworks Look at stories you already tell Identify where a disruption, surprise, or reveal could live Coalition-building lens Stories should move people into shared momentum Excitement → flow → aligned action Storytelling Mediums for HR & Organizations Employer brand ≠ separate from company brand Should be co-owned by HR and marketing Brand clarity attracts the right people, repels the wrong ones Strong brands are defined by: Who they are Who they are not Who they're for and not for HR vs Marketing: The Nuance Collaboration works only if: HR leads on audience and truth Marketing supports execution, not control Risk: Marketing optimizes for customers, not employees HR understands attraction, retention, culture fit Storytelling at the Individual Level No one is "naturally" good or bad at storytelling It's reps, not talent Practical advice: Know your ~15 core stories (career, company, turning points) Practice pauses like a comedian Notice when people lean in Opinionated Messaging = Effective Messaging Internal storytelling should: Be clear and opinionated Repel as much as it attracts Avoid: Corporate vanilla Saying a lot without saying anything Truth + Aspirational Truth Marketing and storytelling are a mix of: What is actually true What the organization is becoming Being "30% more honest" builds trust Including flaws and tradeoffs Example: budget brands, Southwest, Apple's office-first culture Why This Works Opinions create personality Personality creates stickiness Stickiness creates memory, alignment, and momentum Authenticity as the last real advantage We're flooded with AI-generated content (video, writing, everything) Humans are extremely good at sensing what feels fake Inauthenticity is easier to spot than ever One of the few remaining advantages: Be true to the real story of the person or organization Not polished truth — actual truth What makes content feel "AI-ish" AI can generate volume fast Books, posts, stories in minutes What it can't replicate: Personal specificity Why a story matters to you What an experience felt like from the inside Lived moments Running a café Growing into leadership What lasts: Personal story lesson learned relevance to this reader relevance to this relationship What content will win long-term Vulnerability Not oversharing, but real experience Personal perspective Why this matters to me Relevance Why it should matter to you Outcome Entertainment Insight Shared direction The risk of vulnerability (it can backfire) Being personal doesn't guarantee buy-in Example: inspirational talk → employee openly disagrees Emotional deflation Self-doubt Early leadership lesson: You can do your best People will still push back Leadership at higher levels gets harder, not easier Bigger teams → higher stakes Better pay Benefits Real expectations First "real" leadership pain points: Bad hires Mismatched expectations Disgruntled exits Realization: Conflict isn't failure It's a sign you've leveled up "Mountains beyond mountains" Every new level comes with new challenges Entrepreneurship Executive leadership Organizational scale Reframe setbacks: Not proof you're failing Proof you're progressing Authenticity at the executive table Especially hard for HR leaders Often younger Often earlier in career Often underrepresented Anxiety is normal The table doesn't feel welcoming Strategy: Name it "This is new for me" "I'm still finding my voice" Own it Ask for feedback Speak anyway Authenticity ≠ no consequences Being honest can carry risk Not every organization wants change Hard truth: You can't change people who don't want to change Sometimes the right move is leaving Guiding advice: Find people who already want what you offer Help them move faster Vulnerability as a competitive advantage Almost any perceived weakness can be reframed New Nervous Different When named clearly: It builds trust It creates permission It signals confidence Getting better at storytelling (practical) It's not talent — it's reps Shyness → confidence through practice Start small Don't test stories when stakes are highest Practice specifics Your core stories Your pitch Energy matters Enthusiasm is underrated Tempo matters Pauses Slowing down Letting moments land Executive presence is built Incrementally Intentionally Practice, Progress, and Learning That Actually Sticks Measure growth against yourself, not "the best" The real comparison isn't to others It's who you were yesterday MrBeast idea: If you're not a little uncomfortable looking at your past work You're probably not improving fast enough Important distinction: Discomfort ≠ shame Shame isn't a useful motivator Progress shows up in hindsight Looking back at past work "I'd write that differently now" Not embarrassment — evidence of growth Example: Weekly newsletter Over time, clearer thinking Better writing Stronger perspective Executive presence is a practice, not a trait Storytelling Selling Persuasion Presence Core question: Are you deliberately practicing? Or just repeating the same behaviors? Practice doesn't have to happen at work Low-stakes environments count Family Friends Everyday conversations Example: Practicing a new language with a dog Safe Repetitive No pressure Life skills = leadership skills One of the hardest lessons: Stop trying to get people to do what they don't want to do Daily practice ground: Family dynamics Respecting boundaries Accepting reality These skills transfer directly to work Influence Communication Leadership Why practice outside of high-stakes moments When pressure is high You default to habits Practicing in everyday life: Builds muscle memory Makes high-stakes moments feel familiar How to learn (without overengineering it) Follow curiosity Pick a thread A name A book An idea Pull on it See where it leads Let it branch Learning isn't linear It's exploratory Learning through unexpected sources Example: Reading a biography Leads to understanding an era Context creates insight The subject matters less than: Genuine interest Sustained attention Career acceleration (simple, not flashy) Always keep learning Find what pulls you in Go deeper Press the gas Where to find Robin Ongoing work lives in: Snafu (weekly newsletter on sales, persuasion, and storytelling) https://joinsnafu.com  Responsive Conference (future of work, leadership, and org design) https://responsiveconference.com   

Guest: Professor Richard Carwardine. Carwardine explains that President-elect Lincoln did not view Republicans as overly aggressive, positioning himself as a constitution-respecting centrist rather than a radical. Lincoln opposed slavery's expansion but acknowledged its constitutional protection where it already existed, believing the South was misled by elites and would eventually return to the Union. Ironically, Lincoln and Buchanan, though political opposites, worshiped at the same Washington church, sharing an old-school Presbyterian background.1861 ST. MICHAEL'S, CHARLESTON SOUTH CAROLINA

I can't tell you how many people assume the Philippines has the same holidays we do. Thanksgiving? Nope. New Year's Eve? Yep, that's a holiday for them. Meanwhile, we're over here thinking the whole world shuts down on the 4th of July. It's funny how we assume our culture is the default. Once you realize their holiday calendar is completely different, a lot of things suddenly make sense—why your VA didn't work yesterday, why December feels busy for totally different reasons, why they're hesitant to start a new job right before Christmas. Their holidays are important, their families are important, and it's just a very different set of priorities than we have in the US.The good news? You can absolutely make this work. Your VA can work during the holidays. They usually want to help—you just need to set expectations early, talk through the days they really need off, maybe swap shifts, offer half days, or plan for time off in January. There's no standard. You figure it out together. And once you do, everything gets easier.Here are a few things I've learned that make holiday season work smoothly with Filipino VAs:

A 26-year-old practitioner from Bali shares her cultivation journey, highlighting the importance of cherishing the cultivation environment and overcoming xinxing tests. She recounts her experiences in Mexico, including witnessing Shen Yun for the first time and facing a significant test with her father's illness and passing. Through these experiences, she emphasizes the importance of letting go of attachments, maintaining diligence, and following Master's teachings. This and other experience-sharing from the Minghui website.Original Articles:1. Respecting the Cultivation Environment2. Overcoming Difficulties with Righteous Thoughts and Actions3. A Wake-Up Call from a Dream4. Looking Inward to Get Rid of Resentment To provide feedback on this podcast, please email us at feedback@minghuiradio.org

This episode features Mattie Jo Cowsert, author of "God, Sex and Rich People: Recovering the Evangelical Testimony," in a deeply personal conversation about growing up in evangelical purity culture, deconstructing faith, and finding autonomy.Mattie Jo shares her journey from being raised in a multi-generational Baptist ministry family in Branson, Missouri, through her transformative move to New York City at 22 to pursue acting, where her insular religious worldview collided with diverse cultures and experiences. The conversation explores the damaging effects of purity culture on self-esteem and autonomy, the process of questioning long-held beliefs through academic study of scripture, and the unexpected role that working for wealthy New Yorkers played in her identity crisis.Both Leslie and Mattie Jo discuss the importance of respecting others' belief systems while maintaining personal boundaries, the stages of grief in deconstruction, and how their parents' responses shaped their journeys.To pick up her book, click here!Mattie Jo's website: www.mattiejocowsert.comKey Points of Interest:• Multi-generational evangelical heritage - Mattie Jo's great-great-grandfather through both grandfathers were Baptist preachers, making evangelicalism "literally in her DNA"• Purity culture's core damage - The primary harm wasn't about sex itself, but the complete lack of self-trust and autonomy it created, leading to poor self-esteem and inability to make decisions in one's own best interest• The "what do I want?" question - How evangelical teaching explicitly discourages asking yourself what you want, framing personal desires as sinful idolatry• New York City as catalyst - Moving from rural Missouri to Manhattan's Upper West Side provided the culture shock that made her insular belief system "unravel real quickly"• Academic approach to deconstruction - Mattie Jo's recommendation to read actual divinity school textbooks and non-theological biblical scholarship, discovering that concepts like "original sin" aren't actually biblical teachings• Parents' surprising support - Unlike many deconstruction stories, Mattie Jo's father (a pastor) publicly defended her blog critiques of church hypocrisy and underwent his own deconstruction alongside her• The "rich people" element - Working as a nanny for uber-wealthy New Yorkers provided an unexpected container for her identity crisis and exposed another layer of cultural complexity• Reward and punishment theology - How evangelical teaching removes personal autonomy by framing everything as God's reward or punishment rather than consequences of one's own choices• The anger phase - Both speakers discuss moving through anger in deconstruction and learning that grace and listening are more effective than righteous indignation• Respecting belief systems as tender - The recognition that people's belief systems are fragile and existentially important, requiring gentleness rather than aggressive evangelizing for deconstruction Honoring the Journey is hosted, produced and edited by Leslie Nease and the artwork for the show is also created by Leslie Nease.Want to get updates/announcements and a FREE Deconstruction Journaling Prompt PDF? Sign up for Leslie's Monthly Newsletter! You can do that HERE.Pick up Leslie's new book, Honoring the Journey: The Deconstruction of Sister Christian here.Interested in working with Leslie as your Life/Faith Transitions Coach? Check out her website and learn more about what she offers! https://www.leslieneasecoaching.comIf you'd like to be a part of the Honoring the Journey Team on Substack, click here! You can find her work and also support her financially if you desire.Would you like to leave a voicemail for Leslie? Click here!If you are looking for community as you deconstruct or just a place to go and enjoy the company of people who are seekers, learners and who are looking to connect with the Divine without religious baggage, please join the Private Facebook Community! Leslie is very passionate about connection and community, so if that sounds like you, please come join us! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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In this episode, I'm joined by Virginie Raphael — investor, entrepreneur, and philosopher of work — for a wide-ranging conversation about incentives, technology, and how we build systems that scale without losing their humanity. We talk about her background growing up around her family's flower business, and how those early experiences shaped the way she thinks about labor, value, and operating in the real economy. That foundation carries through to her work as an investor, where she brings an operator's lens to evaluating businesses and ideas. We explore how incentives quietly shape outcomes across industries, especially in healthcare. Virginie shares why telehealth was a meaningful shift and what needs to change to move beyond one-to-one, supply-constrained models of care. We also dig into AI, venture capital, and the mistakes founders commonly make today — from hiring sales teams too early to raising too much money too fast. Virginie offers candid advice on pitching investors, why thoughtful cold outreach still works, and how doing real research signals respect and fit. The conversation closes with a contrarian take on selling: why it's not a numbers game, how focus and pre-qualification drive better outcomes, and why knowing who not to target is just as valuable as finding the right people. If you're thinking about the future of work, building with intention, or navigating entrepreneurship in an AI-accelerated world, this episode is for you. And for more conversations like this, join us at Snafu Conference 2026 on March 5th, where we'll keep exploring incentives, human skills, and what it really takes to build things that last. Start (0:00) Reflections on Work, Geography, and AI Adoption Virginie shares what she's noticing as trends in work and tech adoption: Geographic focus: she's excited to explore AI adoption outside traditional tech hubs. Examples: Atlanta, Nashville, Durham, Utah, Colorado, Georgia, North Carolina, parts of the Midwest. Rationale: businesses in these regions may adopt AI faster due to budgets, urgency, and impatience for tech that doesn't perform. "There are big corporates, there are middle and small businesses in those geos that have budget that will need the tech… and/or have less patience, I should say, for over-hub technologies that don't work." She notes that transitions to transformational technology never happen overnight, which creates opportunities: "We always underestimate how much time a transition to making anything that's so transformational… truly ubiquitous… just tends to think that it will happen overnight and it never does." Robin adds context from her own experience with Robin's Cafe and San Francisco's Mission District: Observed cultural and business momentum tied to geography Mentions Hollywood decline and rise of alternative media hubs (Atlanta, Morocco, New Jersey) Virginie reflects on COVID's impact on workforce behaviors: Opened a "window" to new modes of work and accelerated change: "There were many preexisting trends… but I do think that COVID gave a bit of a window into what was possible." Emphasis on structural change: workforce shifts require multi-year perspective and infrastructure, not just trends. Investor, Mission, and Capital Philosophy Virginie clarifies she is an investor, not a venture capitalist, resisting labels and prestige metrics. "I don't call myself a venture capitalist… I just say investor." Focuses on outcomes over categories, investing in solutions that advance the world she wants to see rather than chasing trendy tech sectors. "The outcome we want to see is everyone having the mode of work that suits them best throughout their lives." Portfolio themes: Access: helping people discover jobs they wouldn't otherwise know about. Retention / support: preventing workforce dropouts, providing appropriate healthcare, childcare, and caregiving support. "Anyone anywhere building towards that vision is investible by us." Critiques traditional venture capital practices: Raising VC money is not inherently a sign of success. "Raising from a VC is just not a sign of success. It's a milestone, not the goal." Concerned about concentration of capital into a few funds, leaving many founders unsupported. "There's a sense… that the work we do commands a lot less power in the world, a lot less effectiveness than holding the capital to hire that labor." Emphasizes structural, mission-driven investing over chasing categories: Invests in companies that prevent workforce dropouts, expand opportunity, and create equitable access to meaningful work. Portfolio strategy is diversified, focusing on infrastructure and long-term impact rather than quick wins. "We've tracked over time what type of founders and what type of solutions we attract and it's exactly the type of deal that we want to see." Reflects on COVID and societal trends as a lens for her investment thesis: "COVID gave a bit of a window into what was possible," highlighting alternative modes of work and talent distribution that are often overlooked. Labor, Ownership, and Durable Skills Virginie reframes the concept of labor, wages, and ownership: "The word labor in and of itself… is something we need to change." Interested in agency and ownership as investment opportunities, especially for small businesses transitioning to employee ownership. "For a very long time… there's been a shift towards knowledge work and how those people are compensated. If you go on the blue-collar side… it's about wages still and labor." Emphasizes proper capitalization and alignment of funds to support meaningful exits for smaller businesses, rather than chasing massive exits that drive the VC zeitgeist. AI fits into this discussion as part of broader investment considerations. Childhood experience in family flower business shaped her entrepreneurial and labor perspective: Selling flowers, handling cash, and interacting with customers taught "durable skills" that persisted into adulthood. "When I think of labor, I think of literally planting pumpkin plants… pulling espresso shots… bringing a customer behind the counter." Observing her father start a business from scratch instilled risk-taking and entrepreneurial spirit. "Seeing my dad do this when I was seven… definitely part of that." Skills like sales acumen, handling money, and talking to adults were early lessons that translated into professional confidence. Non-linear career paths and expanding exposure to opportunity: Concerned that students often see only a narrow range of job options: "Kids go out of high school, they can think of three jobs, two of which are their parents' jobs… Surely because we do a poor job exposing them to other things." Advocates for creating more flexible and exploratory career pathways for young people and adults alike. Durable skills and language shaping work: Introduction of the term "durable skills" reframes how competencies are understood: "I use it all the time now… as a proof point for why we need to change language." Highlights the stigma and limitations of words like "soft skills" or "fractional work": Fractional roles are high-impact and intentional, not temporary or inferior. "Brilliant people who wanna work on a fractional basis… they truly wanna work differently… on a portfolio of things they're particularly good at solving." Work in Progress uses language intentionally to shift perceptions and empower people around work. Cultural significance of language in understanding work and people: Virginie notes that language carries stigma and meaning that shapes opportunities and perception. References Louis Thomas's essays as inspiration for attention to the nuance and power of words: He'll take the word discipline and distill it into its root, tie it back into the natural world." Robin shares a personal anecdote about language and culture: "You can always use Google Translate… but also it's somebody learning DIA or trying to learn dharia, which is Moroccan Arabic… because my fiance is Moroccan." Human-Positive AI, Process, and Apprenticeship Virginie emphasizes the value of process over pure efficiency, especially in investing and work: "It's not about the outcome often, it's about the process… there is truly an apprenticeship quality to venture and investing." Using AI to accelerate tasks like investment memos is possible, but the human learning and iterative discussion is critical: "There's some beauty in that inefficiency, that I think we ought not to lose." AI should augment human work rather than replace the nuanced judgment, particularly in roles requiring creativity, judgment, and relationship-building: "No individual should be in a job that's either unsafe or totally boring or a hundred percent automatable." Introduces the term "human-positive AI" to highlight tools that enhance human potential rather than simply automate tasks: "How do we use it to truly augment the work that we do and augment the people?" Project selection and learning as a metric of value: Virginie evaluates opportunities not just on outcome, but what she will learn and who she becomes by doing the work: "If this project were to fail, what would I still learn? What would I still get out of it?" Cites examples like running a one-day SNAFU conference to engage people in human-centered selling principles: "Who do I become as a result of doing that is always been much more important to me than the concrete outcomes of this thing going well." AI Bubble, Transition, and Opportunity Discusses the current AI landscape and the comparison to past tech bubbles: "I think we're in an AI bubble… 1999 was a tech bubble and Amazon grew out of it." Differentiates between speculative hype and foundational technological transformation: "It is fundamental. It is foundational. It is transformative. There's no question about that." Highlights the lag between technological introduction and widespread adoption: "There's always a pendulum swing… it takes time for massively transformative technology to fully integrate." AI as an enabler, not a replacement: Transition periods create opportunity for investment and human-positive augmentation. Examples from healthcare illustrate AI's potential when applied correctly: "We need other people to care for other people. Should we leverage AI so the doctor doesn't have to face away from the patient taking notes? Yes, ambient scribing is wonderful." Emphasizes building AI around real human use cases and avoiding over-automation: "What are the true use cases for it that make a ton of sense versus the ones we need to stay away from?" History and parallels with autonomous vehicles illustrate the delay between hype and full implementation: Lyft/Uber example: companies predicted autonomous vehicles as cost drivers; the transition opened up gig work: "I was a gig worker long before that was a term… the conversation around benefits and portability is still ongoing." AI will similarly require time to stabilize and integrate into workflows while creating new jobs. Bias, Structural Challenges, and Real-World AI Experiments Discusses the importance of addressing systemic bias in AI and tech: Shares the LinkedIn "#WearThePants" experiment: women altered gender identifiers to measure algorithmic reach: "They changed their picture, in some cases changed their names… and got much more massive reach." Demonstrates that AI can perpetuate structural biases baked into systems and historical behavior: "It's not just about building AI that's unbiased; it's about understanding what the algorithm might learn from centuries of entrenched behavior." Highlights the ongoing challenge of designing AI to avoid reinforcing existing inequities: "Now you understand the deeply structural ingrained issues we need to solve to not continue to compound what is already massively problematic." Parenting, Durable Skills, and Resilience Focus on instilling adaptability and problem-solving in children: "I refuse to problem solve for them. If they forget their homework, they figure it out, they email the teacher, they apologize the next day. I don't care. I don't help them." Emphasizes allowing children to navigate consequences themselves to build independence: "If he forgets his flute, he forgets his flute. I am not making the extra trip to school to bring him his flute." Everyday activities are opportunities to cultivate soft skills and confidence: "I let them order themselves at the restaurant… they need to look the waiter in the eye and order themselves… you need to speak more clearly or speak loudly." Cultural context and exposure shape learning: Practices like family meals without devices help children appreciate attention, respect, and communication: "No iPad or iPhone on our table… we sit properly, enjoy a meal together, and talk about things." Travel and cultural exposure are part of teaching adaptability and perspective: "We spent some time in France over the summer… the mindset they get from that is that meals matter, and people operate differently." Respecting individuality while fostering independence: "They are their own people and you need to respect that and step away… give them the ability to figure out who they are and what they like to do." Parenting as a balance of guidance and autonomy: "Feel like that was a handbook that you just offered for parenting or for management? Either one. Nobody prepares you for that… part of figuring out." Future of Work and Technology Horizons Timeframes for predicting trends: Focus on a 5-year horizon as a middle ground between short-term unpredictability and long-term uncertainty: "Five years feels like this middle zone that I'm kind of guessing in the haze, but I can kind of see some odd shapes." Short-term (6–18 months) is more precise; long-term (10–15 years) is harder to anticipate: "I'm a breezy investor. Six months at a time max… deal making between two people still matters in 18 months." Identifying emerging technologies with latent potential: Invests in technologies that are ready for massive impact but haven't yet had a "moment": "I like to look at technologies that have yet to have a moment… the combo of VR and AI is prime." Example: Skill Maker, a VR+AI training platform for auto technicians, addressing both a labor shortage and outdated certification processes: "We are short 650,000 auto technicians… if you can train a technician closer to a month or two versus two years, I promise you the auto shops are all over you." Focuses on alignment of incentives, business model innovation, and meaningful outcomes: "You train people faster, even expert technicians can benefit… earn more money… right, not as meaningful to them and not as profitable otherwise." Principles guiding technology and investment choices: Solving enduring problems rather than temporary fads: "What is a problem that is still not going to go away within the next 10–15 years?" Ensuring impact at scale while creating economic and personal value for participants: "Can make a huge difference in the lives of 650,000 people who would then have good paying jobs." Scaling, Incentives, and Opportunity Re-examining traditional practices and identifying opportunities for change: "If you've done a very specific thing the exact same way, at some point, that's prime to change." Telehealth is an example: while helpful for remote access, it hasn't fundamentally created capacity: "You're still in that one-to-one patient's relationship and an hour of your time with a provider is still an hour at a time." Next version of telehealth should aim to scale care beyond individual constraints: "Where do we take telehealth next… what is the next version of that that enables you to truly scale and change?" Incentives shape outcomes: "Thinking through that and all the incentives… if I were to change the incentives, then people would behave differently? The answer very often is yes, indeed." Paraphrasing Charlie Munger: "Look for the incentives and I can tell you the outcome." Founders, Pitching, and Common Mistakes Pet peeves in founder pitches: Lack of research and generic outreach is a major turn-off: "I can really quickly tell if you have indeed spent a fraction of a minute on my site… dear sir, automatic junk. I won't even read the thing." Well-crafted, thoughtful cold inbound pitches get attention: "Take some time. A well crafted cold inbound will get my attention… you don't need to figure out an intro." Big mistakes entrepreneurs make: Hiring too early, especially in sales: "Until you have a playbook, like don't hire a sales team… if you don't have about a million in revenue, you're probably not ready." Raising too much capital too quickly: "You get into that, you're just gonna spend a lot more time fundraising than you are building a company." Comparing oneself to others: "You don't know if it's true… there's always a backstory… that overnight success was 15 years in the making." Sales Strategy and Non-Sales Selling Approach is contrarian: focus on conversion, not volume: "It is not a numbers game. I think it's a conversion game… I would much rather spend more time with a narrower set of targets and drive better conversion." Understanding fit is key: "You gotta find your people… and just finding who is not or should not be on your list is equally valuable." Recognizes that each fund and business is unique, so a tailored approach is essential: "The pitch is better when I'm talking to the quote unquote right people in the right place about the right things." Where to Find Virginie and Her Work Resources for listeners: Full Circle Fund: fullcirclefund.io  Work in Progress: workinprogress.io  LinkedIn: Virginie Raphael  Where to Access Snafu Go to joinsnafu.com and sign up for free.  

Episode 170: Modi and Leo discuss everything from Taylor Swift and Paul Anka...and of course, the importance of respecting your audience. Send us Modi Mail!118A Orchard St.PMB #208New York, NY 10002Modi's special "Know Your Audience" is available on YouTube now!For all upcoming shows visit www.modilive.com.Follow Modi on Instagram at @modi_live.Follow the AHM podcast on Instagram at @AHM_Podcast.Leave us a voicemail!Send us a textSupport the show

In this explosive and deeply personal episode of the 3-time award-winning Devon & The Duke podcast, WWE Hall of Famer Devon Dudley and Duke Loves Rasslin pull back the curtain on the reality of life in the wrestling business. From heartwarming family bonds to firing back at internet rumors, this is Devon like you've never heard him before.What's Inside This Episode:The Bliss-Cabrera Connection: Devon opens up about his genuine, close-knit friendship with Alexa Bliss and her husband, musician Ryan Cabrera. Hear the stories of their bond outside the ring and why they are considered family.Calling Out the Dirtsheets: Devon doesn't hold back as he addresses the "keyboard warriors" and gossip sites. He sets the record straight regarding disrespectful accusations about his relationships with female peers, emphasizing the importance of family values and professional respect.A Blast from the Past with Big Vito: Laughter ensues as Devon recounts a surprise visit from Big Vito to his wrestling school. The duo reminisces about their "rookie" days in the early 90s, training under the legendary WWE Hall of Famer Johnny Rodz.Respecting the Craft: A look at what it takes to transition from the "Gleason's Gym" era to running a modern-day wrestling academy.And Much More: Insights into the current state of the industry, locker room etiquette, and the usual unfiltered banter you can only get from Devon and Duke!Why You Can't Miss This:Whether you're a die-hard ECW original fan or a follower of the modern WWE landscape, this episode bridges the gap between eras. Devon Dudley proves that while he may be "testifying," his priority has always been his family, his integrity, and the brothers and sisters he's made along the way.Stop listening to the rumors and hear the truth from the man who lived it.#WWE #DevonDudley #AlexaBliss #RyanCabrera #ProWrestling #DukeLovesRasslin #TheDudleyBoyz #WrestlingPodcast #JohnnyRodz #BigVito #WrestlingNews #HallOfFame** Shop better hydration today. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LiquidIV.Com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & use the promo code DukeLovesRasslin to save on your next order! ****All views expressed are that of those expressing them. Pull Up Your Skinny Jeans if you don't like it! **

Send us an email @ info@parentcoachesunleashed.com SummaryIn this episode of Parent Coaches Unleashed, Jessica Anger and Carrie Wiesenfeld delve into the topic of boundaries in parenting. They discuss the generational differences in understanding and setting boundaries, the challenges of grandparenting, and the importance of respecting the boundaries of adult children. The conversation emphasizes the need for parents to model healthy boundaries for their children and to prioritize self-care as their kids grow into independence. The hosts also explore how to communicate effectively with college-aged kids and the significance of allowing them to navigate their own journeys.TakeawaysIt's important to respect the boundaries set by adult children.Parents often feel uncomfortable when their children assert boundaries.Modeling healthy boundaries can benefit future generations.Self-care is crucial for parents as their children become independent.Communication with college-aged kids should be respectful of their autonomy.Parents should not overstep when offering help to adult children.Setting boundaries can lead to stronger family relationships.It's never too late for parents to start setting their own boundaries.

Topics: Meaning of Antinomianism, New Covenant, Respecting the Law, Role of the Holy Spirit, Gentiles and the Law (Ephesians 2:12), Jesus Sent to Israel, Canaanite Woman Faith (Matthew 15), Old Covenant Audience, 613 Commandments not Just Ten, Born Under the Law (Galatians 4:4-5), Deuteronomy Warning (Deuteronomy 4:2), Blessings and Curses (Deuteronomy 8), End of the Law (Romans 10:4), Rightly Dividing Scripture, Led by the Spirit (Galatians 5:18), Grace not a License to Sin but the Power to Overcome Sin, Law Increases Sin (Romans 5:20), Not Under Law (Romans 6:14), Ministry of Death (2 Corinthians 3), Covetousness and Sin (Romans 7), Grace Teaches Holiness (Titus 2:11-12), Insulting Spirit of Grace (Hebrews 10), Strengthened by Grace (Hebrews 13:9), Excel in Grace (2 Corinthians 8:7), No Condemnation (Romans 8:1), Progressive Sanctification Myth, Commandments in the Law Cannot Perfect Anyone (Hebrews 10:1), Perfected for All Time (Hebrews 10:14), Washed and Sanctified (1 Corinthians 6:11), Law Through Moses (John 1:17), Commandments of Jesus (1 John 3:23), His Commandments are Not Burdensome (1 John 5:3), Transfiguration Meaning (Matthew 17), Strength of Sin (1 Corinthians 15:56), Free Grace is Not a Theology (Romans 11:6)Support the showSign up for Matt's free daily devotional! https://mattmcmillen.com/newsletter

Ep. 215 (Part 1 of 2) | The first of Deep Transformation's What is Real Greatness Series, this conversation with world-renowned meditation teacher Jack Kornfield is filled with beautiful teachings touching into the sacred at the heart of our lives and the point of our whole spiritual journey: to remember and embody our innate capacity to awaken and experience the reality of our own innate dignity and nobility. Respecting ourselves at the deepest level is what transforms us and transforms society too, Jack explains. “Do you hold yourself with nobility and respect?” he asks. “Can you remember your own beauty and dignity? Can you see it in others?”The topic of greatness—real greatness—is woven throughout the dialogue, as Jack recounts the seed events of his own spiritual journey and ruminates on Roger's question, what is the sacred question at the center of your life? This is a question Jack often asks his own students, and we are inspired to ponder it for ourselves, along with, if you were to write your own bodhisattva vow, what would it be? Jack is a master at inspiring us to live our ideals, to broaden the possibilities of our lives, and to remember the miracle of our existence. A warmly personal, deeply profound discussion. Recorded October 2, 2025.“The beautiful thing about the bodhisattva ideal is that it becomes your intention… it becomes the setting of the compass of your heart.”Topics & Time Stamps – Part 1Introducing the first of Deep Transformation's What is Real Greatness? series (00:38)Introducing renowned meditation teacher, prolific author, and clinical psychologist Jack Kornfield (03:09)In discussing real greatness, Jack advises not to throw out money & power as being unworthy (04:47)The story of Emperor Ashoka, who shifted from seeking outer greatness to seeking inner greatness: peace of mind and heart (07:49)How the Buddha turned the Hindu caste system on its head, honoring young monks for their innate nobility (13:17)Can you remember your own beauty & dignity? Can you see it in others? (16:19)Each of us has a sacred question at the center of our lives, what's been Jack's? (17:30)Jack's first draw to Buddhism: suffering and the relief from suffering (21:08)The seeds of our sacred journeys: the path doesn't go from here to there but from there to here (24:15)It's completely weird that we exist! (25:40)King Ashoka & other historical figures, good candidates for the What is Real Greatness Series (27:13)Do we ask ourselves, “How do I live?” (28:28)The beautiful thing about the bodhisattva ideal is that it becomes the setting of...

In this six-part series, we are joined by family therapist and author Meg Flynn, who brings us a wealth of knowledge from her work with families and kids for over three decades. In this era of high-pressure parenting and busy family life, Meg reminds us of how we can slow down, find the joy in each stage, and focus on what really matters–safety, connection, and growth. Part 2-Toddlers: Respecting Their Learning and Their Play (30 mins) December 31, 2025 This podcast is eligible for a Certificate of Completion if you complete a Post Podcast Test Test The post Growing Together at Every Stage Part 2-Toddlers: Respecting Their Learning and Their Play appeared first on Foster Adopt Minnesota.

Resolutions feel great for a week, but momentum comes from something quieter: simple systems you can repeat even when life gets messy. I'm closing the year with a candid look at how to turn big goals into small, non-negotiable actions, why time audits beat motivation hacks, and how to set timelines that match real human progress instead of social media promises.We start by reframing the whole New Year energy. Instead of chasing a perfect 30-day streak, I walk through the habit-stacking approach that actually sticks: pick one behavior you can win every week, protect it on your calendar, then layer the next. You'll hear practical examples—three training days you truly keep, a weekly prep window, a simple breakfast plan—that create sustainable fitness, better recovery, and less mental churn. I also break down how class signups and capacity caps protect safety and coaching quality. When a session includes barbells and gymnastics, planning matters. Respecting the system isn't red tape; it's how everyone gets a solid, safe workout.I share my own goals for the new year too: making myself more available to our community through a streamlined calendar and WhatsApp, building consistent media and newsletter systems, and investing deeper in coaching development now that we're all under one roof. On the training front, we map the next block: a five-to-six week focus on the clean and jerk and the bar muscle-up, with progressions that meet you where you are—mobility, stability, strength, and skill practice baked into smart conditioning. Expect approachable GPP now, Sweat sessions returning January 5, and a push toward meaningful skill milestones without sacrificing joint health.If you're ready to trade willpower spikes for winning systems, this one's your playbook. Subscribe, share it with a friend who needs a reset that lasts, and leave a quick review to help more people find the show. Then tell me: what's the first non-negotiable you're putting on your calendar?Follow us on Instagram here! https://www.instagram.com/doubleedgefitness/

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Welcome to the Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy, hosted by Drs. James Hawkins, Ph.D., LPC, and Ryan Rana, Ph.D., LMFT, LPC—Renowned ICEEFT Therapists, Supervisors, and Trainers. We're thrilled to have you with us. We believe this podcast, a valuable resource, will empower you to push the boundaries in your work, helping individuals and couples connect more deeply with themselves and each other. In this powerful conversation, Dr. James Hawkins sits down with Dr. Leanne Campbell to explore the heart of EFT and trauma and to honor the legacy of Dr. Sue Johnson. Leanne pulls back the curtain on writing the new EFT and Trauma text with Sue—sharing what it was like to co-create Sue's final formal publication, how their moment‑by‑moment clinical commentary came to life, and why clarity in the model matters now more than ever.  Together, James and Leanne dive into the caregiving system, window of tolerance, and how EFT therapists can help clients move through trauma without retraumatizing, using themselves as temporary attachment figures. You'll hear vivid clinical language and examples around: trusting the caregiving system, working with highly reactive couples, tracking your own nervous system as a therapist, and using transparency to give traumatized clients back their agency and hope.  This episode is a blend of theory, practical process, and deep emotion—a tribute to Sue's legacy and an inspiring guide for any therapist working at the leading edge of EFT and trauma.  Main Points / Episode Highlights Leanne's “Leading Edge” in EFT    - Getting radically clear about the model: moment‑by‑moment commentary on what therapists are doing and why.     - Making EFT more accessible and teachable through precision and process clarity. Trusting the Caregiving System    - “Trust the process” = “trust the caregiving system” when emotion and connection are alive in the room.     - Importance of responding in the same channel as the emotional bid (emotion with emotion, not facts or data).  Working on the EFT and Trauma Text with Sue Johnson    - The process was inspiring, clarifying, exhilarating, and at times sidelined by other EFiT projects.     - The book was well underway before Sue's death and now stands as her last formal publication—a “parting gift” of stories of hope and resilience. Using the Therapist as a Temporary Attachment Figure    - Central answer to “How do I help clients move through trauma without retraumatizing them?”     - Therapist “sings the song and dances the dance of attunement,” keeping clients at their leading edge without overshooting the window of tolerance. “It Begins With Us” – The Therapist's Nervous System    - Leanne tracks her own felt sense—especially with reactive couples—and uses it to guide interventions.     - She slows things down, names process elements (tone, eyes, posture) to:       - Validate the receiving partner.       - Grow awareness in the reactive partner whose nervous system is firing outside awareness. Window of Tolerance: Respect and Stretch    - Respecting the window of tolerance while stretching it—within sessions and in the client's broader socio‑cultural context.     - Normalizing that trauma work often happens in cycles (do a piece, step back, integrate). Validation as Psychoeducation    - Validation reframes trauma responses as survival strategies, not character flaws.     - Helps the traumatized partner feel understood and the other partner release blame and grow compassion. Transparency Gives Agency    - Being explicit about what the therapist is doing and why (“the best surgeon explains the procedure”).     - Therapist's transparency and emotional honesty give traumatized clients predictability and agency, reversing their history of non‑transparent harm. Parts / Versions and Rewriting Identity    - Leanne's language of “versions” of self helps distinguish old survival strategies from the current, wiser self.     - Core EFT aim: “You are not your trauma.” Clients move from “This is who I am” to “This is a fear and a history I carry.” Hope and Resilience as the Core Message    - If listeners remember one thing: hope and belief in the power of human connection and healing.     - The book is intentionally a story of hope and resilience for clinicians and clients, continuing Sue's attachment legacy. We aim to equip therapists with practical tools and encouragement for addressing relational distress. We're also excited to be part of the team behind Success in Vulnerability (SV)—your premier online education platform. SV offers innovative instruction to enhance your therapeutic effectiveness through exclusive modules and in-depth clinical examples.  Stay connected with us: Facebook: Follow our page @pushtheleadingedge Ryan: Follow @ryanranaprofessionaltraining on Facebook and visit his website James: Follow @dochawklpc on Facebook and Instagram, or visit his website at dochawklpc.com George Faller: Visit georgefaller.com If you like the concepts discussed on this podcast you can explore our online training program, Success in Vulnerability (SV). Thank you for being part of our community. Let's push the leading edge together!

My wife Joy is a creature of habit. She has a rule. After Thanksgiving, nobody goes to a restaurant for breakfast, lunch, or dinner until every single piece of Thanksgiving food is gone. Magically, it always lasts right through Sunday evening. One year we went to someone else's house for Thanksgiving. Joy brought leftovers home. The next day she went to the store, came back, and started cooking. I'm thinking you've been cooking for days. You brought leftovers home. What are you cooking? She said she's cooking leftovers. She purchased a small turkey and all the ingredients to keep her routine for the weekend. Featured Story I wanted a dog that looked good in my Jeep. Got an Australian Shepherd named Levi because Border Collies are crazy and Aussies are just stubborn. Turns out I should've gotten the crazy dog because the stubborn one is exactly like his dad. I made rookie mistakes training Levi. One day my trainer said something that changed everything. For a dog, one time means all the time. Every time you let them do something new, they're just going to keep doing it. That applies to more than dogs. Joi schedules everything. I literally schedule a spontaneous Saturday date for her. I tell my wife to put in her predictable routine that we're going to be spontaneous on Saturday so she's okay with it. Don't surprise her. A couple years ago we went elsewhere for Thanksgiving and Joy had a real problem. She has a routine. When a certain time of year comes, she gets the recipes out and does the thing. Now she's not doing the thing. The look on her face when I figured out what she was doing. Cheating leftovers. She was lying to me about leftovers. Important Points For a dog, one time means all the time, and that principle applies to building habits and routines in your own life too. What makes you happy might seem crazy to someone else, but if it brings you joy, just do what you do. Respecting other people's routines and quirks is easier when you understand they need those patterns to be happy. Memorable Quotes "For a dog, one time means all the time. Every time you let him do something new, they're just going to keep doing it." "I literally schedule a spontaneous Saturday date for her. She has to know we're going to be spontaneous on Saturday." "Do leftovers make you happy? What makes you happy? Do what you do. Just do what you do." Scott's Three-Step Approach Understand that consistency creates happiness for some people, even if their routines seem excessive to you. Figure out what actually makes you happy and build those patterns into your life without apology. If you're married to someone with strong routines, just go with it and maybe hide half the Thanksgiving food so everyone gets leftovers. Chapter Notes 1:15 - Holiday season stress and choosing to be happy 2:18 - Getting Levi: wanted a dog for my Jeep 3:17 - Dog training wisdom that applies to everything 3:50 - Joi is a creature of habit and routine 4:51 - The serious nature of the leftover problem 5:53 - She was cooking leftovers that weren't leftovers 7:05 - This year's solution: double the food, hide half Connect With Me Search for the Daily Boost on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify Email: support@motivationtomove.com Main Website: https://motivationtomove.com YouTube: https://youtube.com/dailyboostpodcast Instagram: @heyscottsmith Facebook Page: https://facebook.com/motivationtomove Facebook Group: https://DailyBoostPodcast.com/facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of the Nine Finger Chronicles podcast, host Dan Johnson engages in a deep conversation with Bryan about their hunting experiences in Michigan. They discuss the challenges of hunting on public land, the importance of mindset and community, and the dynamics of neighborly relationships in hunting. Bryan shares his journey of hunting specific bucks, including the infamous Medusa and a double drop-tine buck, reflecting on the strategies and mindset that led to his success. The conversation also touches on the competitive nature of hunting and whether it should be considered a sport, culminating in a rich discussion about the joys and challenges of the hunting season. Takeaways: Hunting in Michigan requires year-round dedication. Public land hunting presents unique challenges. Mindset plays a crucial role in hunting success. Community support enhances the hunting experience. Respecting neighborly relationships can lead to better hunting outcomes. Competition among hunters can be counterproductive. Hunting is as much a sport as any other. The journey of hunting a specific buck can be rewarding. Gun season changes the dynamics of hunting. Success in hunting often comes from strategic planning. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You can't negotiate the necessary. GOD don't cut deals on Discipline, and HE ain't lowering the price of elevation because you tired. If you want Wealth, Freedom, and Ownership, you gotta pay full cost—sacrifice, consistency, and execution on Days when nobody's clapping. This business game is spiritual first: your mindset is the altar, your habits are the offering, and your results are the testimony. Generational wealth ain't something you hope for,... it's something you become worthy of. When you accept that the Necessary is Non-Negotiable, you stop running from the process and start Respecting the Path. Every seed you plant in obedience becomes a harvest your family will inherit. This is covenant work. This is legacy work. And once you embrace the grind GOD aligned for you, you walk like someone who knows their abundance was already written. You Can't Negotiate The Necessary | Wallstreet Trapper (Episode 169) Trappin Tuesdays