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How often do you walk away from an argument feeling exhausted and misunderstood? Most of us go into an argument wanting to win. But trying to convince someone that you are right and they are wrong will leave you feeling drained. It will likely damage your relationship. Fortunately, you can turn a battle into a productive conversation with just a few phrases. Today, I'm sharing three simple sentences that can stop a conflict in its tracks. Whether you're arguing with your spouse, or you're sensing the tension at work, these three sentences can de-escalate things while also preserving your relationship. Some of the things I talk about are: What "emotional flooding" is and why it shuts down the logical part of your brain How your brain's "angry memories" can derail a conversation The first sentence that forces you to pause and truly listen Why validating someone's feelings doesn't mean you agree with them The science behind how feeling understood calms the nervous system One courageous sentence that breaks the blame game and invites accountability How to use these three sentences together to turn conflict into resolution Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Mentally Stronger Premium⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for exclusive content like weekly bonus episodes, mental strength challenges, and office hours with me. Related Episodes 195 — Stop Avoiding Conflict: The Secret to Building Stronger Relationships and a Stronger You with Dr. John Eliot ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠67 — Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner and Focus on Yourself Links & Resources Buy a copy of⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Amy on Instagram —⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AmyMorinAuthor⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit my website —⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AmyMorinLCSW.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sponsors Quince — Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/stronger⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns! Shopify — Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shopify.com/mentallystronger⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Lola Blankets — Get 35% off your entire order at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Lolablankets.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ by using code STRONGER at checkout. Experience the world's #1 blanket with Lola Blankets. AirDoctor — Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AirDoctorPro.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and use promo code STRONGER to get UP TO $300 off today! Function Health — Go to ⁠⁠FunctionHealth.com/stronger⁠⁠ or or use gift code STRONGER25 for a $25 credit toward your membership Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Most people lose control because they fuse their emotions with the moment, and in this episode, I break down why that's a problem. Detachment does not mean avoidance or suppression, it means stepping back internally while staying fully present. When I can separate how I feel from what's happening, I gain perspective without losing engagement. This skill lets you think clearly under pressure and act without emotional spillover. It's how you stay calm, sharp, and in control when things get intense. Show Notes: [02:03]#1 Separate observation from participation. [05:52]#2 Treat the moment as data, not a verdict.  [10:56]#3 Anchor to your principles, not to your feelings. [15:17] Recap Episodes Mentioned: 3384: A Message To The "Old Heads" 2167: Being "Right" Vs Being Accurate [They're NOT The Same] 1690: A Dirty Secret That Social Media Platforms Don't Want You To Know 734: Keep All Your Opinions Flexible Next Steps: --- Power Presence is not taught. It is enforced. If you are operating in environments where hesitation costs money, authority, or leverage, the Power Presence Mastermind exists as a controlled setting for discipline, execution, and consequence-based decision-making. Details live here: http://PowerPresenceProtocol.com/Mastermind  This Masterclass is the public record of standards. Private enforcement happens elsewhere. All episodes and the complete archive: → WorkOnYourGamePodcast.com 

You know that moment where you keep telling yourself you're “trying”… and somehow months go by and nothing actually changes?Today we're calling out the sneakiest productivity trap of all: the word try.I'm joined by Carla Ondrasik, author of Stop Trying, who breaks down why “trying” keeps you stuck in your head — and why doing is a totally different energy (and outcome).In this episode, we're diving into:Trying vs. doing: why trying is mental, doing is physical, and your brain hates vague instructionsThe Tri Test: Carla's simple experiment that instantly exposes why “try” creates confusionThe hidden cost of “I'll try”: how it bakes in failure, kills accountability, and fuels excuses + people-pleasingHow to build your doer muscle: small, practical shifts (including saying a clean “no”) that create momentum fastThis conversation is for you if you've been living with a low-grade “I should've done this by now” pressure — and you're ready to trade it for clarity, follow-through, and a nervous system that isn't dragging around a thousand open loops.Connect with Carla:Purchase Stop Trying

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Ondrasik reveals the compelling science behind our behaviors and beliefs when it comes to the notion of trying. Pulling from positive psychology, the science of habit formation, research studies, and more, motivational speaker Carla Ondrasik guides us to proven-effective strategies for better doing—and ultimately to goal achievement and a more fulfilling life. Achievement is just one “do or do not” decision away, and it starts with eliminating “try” from our vocabulary. STOP TRYING! shows us how to do that.

Principal Security Consultant and community favorite Jake Hildreth returns to The PowerShell Podcast to talk about building smarter automation, leveling up through community, and creating tools that solve real problems. Andrew shares his “stop trying so hard” theme for the year, how working smarter applies directly to scripting and security, and why getting involved with others is one of the fastest ways to grow in your career. The conversation dives into Jake's recent projects including Deck, a Markdown-to-terminal presentation tool built on Spectre.Console, and Stepper, a resumable scripting framework designed for long-running workflows that can't be fully automated end-to-end. They also explore presentation skills, avoiding “death by PowerPoint,” and why security work requires constantly re-checking assumptions as threats evolve.   Key Takeaways: • Work smarter, not harder — Whether you're scripting or building a career, small sustainable improvements beat grinding yourself into a corner. • Resumable automation is a game changer — Stepper helps scripts safely pause and resume, making real-world workflows more reliable when humans or flaky APIs are part of the loop. • Community turns into real momentum — Contributing, asking questions, and sharing feedback builds skills, friendships, and opportunities faster than trying to learn alone.   Guest Bio: Jake Hildreth is a Principal Security Consultant at Semperis, Microsoft MVP, and longtime builder of tools that make identity security suck a little less. With nearly 25 years in IT (and the battle scars to prove it), he specializes in helping orgs secure Active Directory and survive the baroque disaster that is Active Directory Certificate Services. He's the creator of Locksmith, Stepper, Deck, BlueTuxedo, and PowerPUG!, open-source tools built to make life easier for overworked identity admins. When he's not untangling Kerberos or wrangling DNS, he's usually hanging out with his favorite people and most grounding reality check: his wife and daughter.   Resource Links: • Jake Hildreth's Website – https://jakehildreth.com • Jake's GitHub - https://github.com/jakehildreth Andrew's Links - https://andrewpla.tech/links • PowerShell Spectre Console – https://pwshspectreconsole.com/ • PDQ Discord – https://discord.gg/PDQ • PowerShell Conference Europe – https://psconf.eu • PowerShell + DevOps Global Summit – https://powershellsummit.org • Jake's PowerShell Wednesday – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YdV6Qecn9v0 The PowerShell Podcast on YouTube: https://youtu.be/rFeoTKLerkA  

What if the key to finding meaningful, inspiring, purposeful work could be found in what you loved as a child?That's exactly what today's podcast guest, photographer Ingrid Berrios discovered for herself!After spending decades in careers that bored her and left her deeply unfulfilled, she followed the treasure map her inner child guided her towards and gave herself permission to pursue her photography dreams. If you too are ready to believe it's possible to love your work and finally give yourself permission to explore what that could be… this podcast episode is for you!IN THIS EPISODE WE TALK ABOUT:How learning what you don't want in a career is just as valuable as learning what you do. Having the courage to change careers even after pouring time, money and years into other paths. ADHD and the importance of choosing a career that supports your lifestyle, passions, brain and values. Why a photoshoot goes so far beyond the photos. The transformation that comes from celebrating yourself and your essence. A special opportunity for Baltimore locals ready to embrace their journey and let themselves be seen in all their radiant glory!Ready to learn from your past and create your future with confidence, clarity and courage?Own your Becoming was designed for you.

Ever felt like you're doing great work, but you're stuck in a sea of sameness?

Sermon Title: Stop Trying to Make God Love You Series: Romans Passage: Romans 9:1-29 Speaker: Michael Chinchilla   Full Service: https://youtu.be/g0HO7icVCAo    Apple Podcast: http://thisisvillage.church/podcast/apple Spotify Podcast: http://thisisvillage.church/podcast/spotify   Your Next Steps: http://thisisvillagechurch.com/nextsteps Village Kids Online: http://villagekids.online Give: https://thisisvillagechurch.com/give   Website: https://thisisvillagechurch.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VillageChurch/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisisvillagechurch/ X (Formerly Twitter): https://twitter.com/thisisvillage TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thisisvillagechurch.com  

What if God isn't asking you to try harder—but to trust Him more? Joshua 3 shows how Israel crossed the Jordan River not through their own effort, but by faith. Discover how surrendering to God ends self-reliance and opens the door to a Spirit-empowered life.

Have you ever watched someone walk into a room and it's like everything they touch turns to gold—promotions, opportunities, influence, connection, and wondered how it's even possible? In this episode, we break down the real reason some people seem to "win" socially without effort: they're not trying harder… they're operating from a different identity. Social success isn't created through willpower or forcing yourself to perform—it's created through subconscious programming, beliefs, and an internal "thermostat" that determines what feels automatic and normal for you. You'll learn why trying is the fast track to social exhaustion, why your brain resists behavior that conflicts with identity, and how to reprogram your social operating system so confidence, connection, and presence become effortless. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why people who succeed socially aren't "trying" to succeed (and why that matters) The identity-based reason social skills can feel exhausting and inconsistent How your subconscious runs your interpersonal habits on autopilot Why small talk isn't the problem—your beliefs about it are How to model socially successful people without pretending to be them The "thermostat" concept: how to raise your default level of confidence and ease If you're smart, capable, and successful in your work—but still feel like you're "hit or miss" with people—this episode will help you understand why… and how to change it permanently. **  Don't even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Confidence on Cue: a powerful 5-minute audio that resets your mind before any meeting, presentation, or social interaction. Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at Hello@SocialConfidencePro.com  LinkedIn Instagram TikTok

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In this episode of Quah (Q & A), Sal, Adam & Justin coach four Pump Heads via Zoom. Mind Pump Fit Tip: Why Cholesterol Often Goes Up in Midlife (And the Lifestyle Fixes That Work). (2:03) The BIG differences with the updated food pyramid dietary recommendations. (22:09) The problems with Fitness Pharisees. (26:27) Your trainer sucks! (32:43) The crazy/scary technology we don't know about. (36:03) Get your squatter removed today! (39:49) AI wars. (42:03) The amazing health benefits of probiotics. (45:26) The value of a parasite cleanse. (47:16) Get the Build Your Butt Masterclass today, and learn about the problem with competition coaches. (51:45) #ListenerCoaching call #1 – Does the amount of weight I am lifting truly matter if the current level feels good to me? (1:01:39) #ListenerCoaching call #2 – Can testosterone be fixed in women the same way it is in men? (1:10:02) #ListenerCoaching call #3 – How best to raise two boys who are built differently and maximize puberty? (1:22:14) #ListenerCoaching call #4 – Following up on why more volume isn't always better and where to go from here. (1:37:00) Related Links/Products Mentioned Get Coached by Mind Pump, live! Visit https://www.mplivecaller.com Visit Butcher Box for this month's exclusive Mind Pump offer!  ** New users receive their choice of NY Strip, Ribeye, or Filet Mignon in every box for a year. ** Visit Seed for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! ** Code 20MINDPUMP for 20% off your first month of Seed's DS-01® Daily Synbiotic. ** January Promotion: Code NEWYEAR50 at checkout for 50% off the following programs: MAPS Starter, Transform, Anabolic, and Performance! Mind Pump Store 123810: NMR LipoProfile® With Lipids (With Graph) | Labcorp Mind Pump # 2761: 5 Ways to Predict Mortality (NO BLOOD TEST REQUIRED) Clinical application of bergamot (Citrus bergamia) for reducing high cholesterol and cardiovascular disease markers Red Yeast Rice for the Improvement of Lipid Profiles in Mild-to-Moderate Hypercholesterolemia: A Narrative Review Red Yeast Rice benefits, dosage, and side effects - Examine RFK Jr.'s new food pyramid emphasizes protein, healthy fats Mind Pump Media IG – Ranking Best Exercises for Women US used sonic weapon on Venezuelan troops, report shared by Leavitt claims ASAP Squatter Removal Build Your Butt Masterclass Visit Manukora for the exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! ** Use code MINDPUMP and save up to 31% plus $25 worth of free gifts with the Starter Kit, which comes with an MGO 850+ Manuka Honey jar, 5 honey travel sticks, a wooden spoon, and a guidebook! ** Mind Pump # 2382: The 5 Biggest Challenges With Cutting & Bulking Mind Pump Concierge Coaching Mind Pump # 2547: Stop Trying to Get Your Kids in Shape! Do This Instead! Mind Pump # 2572: Only 15 Minutes a Day to Build Muscle & Burn Fat Mind Pump Podcast – YouTube Mind Pump Free Resources People Mentioned Dr. Gabrielle Lyon (@drgabriellelyon) Instagram Ben Bruno (@benbrunotraining) Instagram Joe DeFranco (@defrancosgym) Instagram v

“Fix it, change it, stop it, solve it” is a phrase I use often in my coaching. When you say it out loud, it captures that feeling we have as parents when our kids behave in a way that leaves us feeling overwhelmed, angry or worried. In this episode,you'll learn:How to view your kid's big feelings as an opportunity instead of a threatThe question to ask yourself as you move your child through their dayHow to validate feelings in the midst of out-of-bounds behavior5 ways to help your kid manage their big feelings What I hope you take away from this episode is it's actually good for kids to feel upset and have you be okay with their feelings. You do not need to fix your kid's feelings. You only need to acknowledge them.----------------------------------------"Fix it, change it, stop it, solve it" is an emotional and physical response to what our kids are doing, and our brain jumps in and tries to fix, change, stop or solve the situation. Your Kid's Big FeelingsThe most common time I see parents experience this reaction is during a Big Feeling Cycle. When your kid has big feelings, they might express them in ways that are overwhelming to you. The tendency is often to try to shut down their behavior. But because that behavior is a reaction to how they're feeling, we end up shutting down their feelings, too.The problem with jumping in to fix/change/stop/solve is that you miss an opportunity to connect with your kids and to help them connect with themselves and learn how to process their own negative emotion. What “Fix it, change it, stop it, solve it” Looks LikeHere are some things I see parents do when they don't like the way their child is expressing their emotion. Minimizing. When our kids are upset, we want to say, “Oh honey, it's not that big of a deal. It'll work out.” This sounds like a nice thing to say, but your child is left feeling like you don't understand. It feels like a really big deal to them. We want to validate the emotion and acknowledge the intensity of their feelings instead of minimizing it. Comparing. This looks like, “This sort of thing happens all the time,” or, “Other kids don't complain about this,” or “This wasn't a big deal to your brother.” It happens when you think their feelings aren't warranted or justified. We're trying to get them to think and feel differently but, again, we're doing it by shutting down their feelings. Ignoring. There might be times when you need to take a break to calm yourself before dealing with a situation. Ignoring is different. This is another way of shutting your kid down, and it makes them feel unheard, unfelt, unseen and unvaluable. Your child might think, “Mom only wants to talk to me when I'm happy.”Talking about their feelings is how they'll learn to deal with them. Weaponizing gratitude. Gratitude is an incredible emotion. I love it. Weaponizing gratitude is when we use it to bypass negative emotion. You cannot get rid of sadness by thinking grateful thoughts. We have to feel the sadness (or anger or worry) and acknowledge it before we allow the brain to find another perspective. Indulging. Sometimes, you might try to change the circumstance to make your kid feel better. Maybe you tell them they can skip practice or promise to go get ice cream afterwards. Instead of letting them feel upset, indulging tries to give them a positive feeling so they forget about the uncomfortable feeling. Logic-ing. This looks like...

What if the greatest obstacle to love, presence, and spiritual growth is sitting in your pocket?In this episode of Afterthoughts, we're joined by Joey Odom, who co-founded a company helping people use their phones more intentionally. We talk about phone compulsion, proximity, and how small daily choices can reshape our faith, families, and relationships.

Every leader hits this moment. You're in a great conversation with a recruit, and then they say it: "I'm also talking to another leader… someone with a big name." If you've ever felt like you were up against someone else's brand, you're not alone, and you're not powerless. In this episode of Recruiting Conversations, I walk you through how to stop playing defense and start leading with the one thing no other brand can replicate: your unique value. Episode Breakdown [00:00] Introduction – When you're up against a leader with more visibility, more experience, or a stronger reputation [01:00] Don't Let Comparison Kill Your Confidence – Your value isn't in your resume or following, it's in how you lead and what you believe [01:45] Branding Creates Awareness. Alignment Creates Movement – Just because someone is well known doesn't mean they're the right fit [02:30] You Don't Need to Be the Loudest. You Need to Be the Clearest – Recruits follow leaders who know where they're going [03:00] Start With Your Leadership DNA – What makes you different? How do people grow under your leadership? What do you care deeply about? [04:00] Brand Is the Public Expression of Your Private Values – When your content, conversations, and follow-up reflect the real you, you create trust [04:30] Ask a Better Question – Instead of "How do I compete?" ask "What kind of leader am I uniquely qualified to be, and how can I make that visible?" [05:00] Show Up With Integrity, Not Imitation – Tell your story, share your team culture, and let your vision be seen [06:00] Recruits Aren't Comparing Jobs. They're Comparing Futures – Paint a clear picture of where you're going and why it matters [06:45] Your Brand Isn't Flashy. It's Familiar – When the version of you people see online matches who they meet in real life, trust multiplies [07:10] Final Word – You don't need to chase someone else's reputation. Build your leadership presence. That's what truly attracts the right people Key Takeaways Your Leadership Style Is the Asset – Own it, articulate it, and build your brand around it You Don't Need More Volume. You Need More Clarity – Recruits follow leaders who know who they are and where they're going Brand Integrity > Brand Visibility – What builds trust is consistency between your message and your actions You Can't Fake Alignment – The right people will be drawn to your real voice, not someone else's strategy Stop Trying to Win by Comparison. Win Through Conviction – A clear, consistent brand that reflects who you are will outperform reputation alone In a crowded market, the loudest leader doesn't win. The clearest one does. Stop trying to compete with someone else's voice, start amplifying your own.

I break down 10 things men must stop doing in 2026 if they want their strongest year yet. I talk about why being busy is not the same as making progress, how avoidance quietly erodes integrity, and why a regulated nervous system is becoming a competitive advantage. If you want more clarity, direction, and self-leadership this year, this episode will challenge you to cut what is weakening you and focus on what actually matters.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Why 2026 Requires Elimination, Not More Motivation01:31 - Stop Confusing Motion With Progress03:07 - Stop Avoiding Hard Conversations04:47 - Stop Letting Dopamine Run Your Life06:50 - Stop Treating Your Body as Separate From Your Mind08:52 - Stop Blaming Your Past for Your Present10:29 - Stop Trying to Be Like Everyone Else11:42 - Stop Living With an Unregulated Nervous System13:58 - Stop Outsourcing Meaning and Validation15:32 - Stop Doing Everything Alone17:47 - Stop Waiting for “Someday”***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Moving back in with family can awaken old wounds faster than years of personal growth can prepare us for. In this first coaching episode of 2026, Christine supports Sarah, who recently returned to the United States after six years abroad and is temporarily living with her parents. What she expected to be a short transition has turned into a deep emotional reckoning with childhood patterns, triggers, and the urge to "fix" family dynamics. Christine helps Sarah understand how protector parts, formed in childhood, take over when old environments reactivate unresolved trauma. Together, they explore how to release long-held anger safely, set boundaries that are actually enforceable, and begin reparenting the inner child with compassion rather than control. If family interactions leave you feeling dysregulated, angry, or guilty, this episode will help you see those reactions through a new lens and give you tools to stop trying to change your parents and start changing how you care for yourself.   Consider / Ask Yourself: Do you feel like all your growth disappears the moment you go home? Are you the family fixer, peacekeeper, or emotional mediator? Do you struggle with guilt or rage after spending time with your parents? Are you trying to set "boundaries" that you cannot actually control?   Key Insights and A-HAs: The urge to fix family dynamics often comes from a childhood protector part trying to create safety. What feels like "I can't help it" is usually a trauma-based habit, not a true lack of choice. Asking someone to change is a request, not a boundary. Boundaries are about what you will do. Rage is often stored grief from unmet childhood needs and must be safely released. Your inner child learns to trust you only through consistency, not intention.   How to Deepen the Work: When you feel the impulse to fix, pause and thank that part for trying to protect you. Create a release valve for anger such as screaming into a pillow, shaking your body, or release writing. Practice leaving triggering situations instead of confronting them in the moment. Reparent your inner child through consistent safety rather than promises of change. Ask yourself: "What can I do right now that I actually control?"   Coaching with Christine Christine currently has just two remaining openings in her private one-on-one coaching practice. She has been coaching individuals since 2004 and only works with a small number of clients at a time to provide deep, personalized support. If you feel called to work with Christine, email jill@christinehassler.com to inquire.   Social Media + Resources:  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

If you’re getting sober in 2026, make it your only focus—everything else can wait. Here we are, in that weird part of early January where everyone’s trying to overhaul their entire life at once. New year, new you, right? Quit drinking AND hit the gym AND change your diet AND meditate AND deal with your trauma… all at the same time. But…  when you try to transform everything simultaneously, you’re not being ambitious—you’re sabotaging the one thing that actually matters. Today is my 20th sobriety birthday, and I’m sharing something that helped me get from one day to the next in early recovery: making sobriety my ONE thing. This simple approach allowed me to start accumulating time, finding relief, and building belief in myself—one day at a time. Because sobriety isn’t 10% of your energy. It’s 100%. In this episode, we dive into: >> The hard truth about alcohol: it worked as your relief system, and you have to replace that relief >> Why early sobriety is a full-time job disguised as “just not drinking” >> How to do an inventory of your pain points and build a new survival toolkit >> The ONE question to guide every decision: Is this getting me closer to sobriety or closer to a drink? Early sobriety means managing cravings, sitting with unbearable feelings, rewiring every social situation, and learning to survive without your only coping mechanism. That’s not a side project. That’s the entire project. If you’re getting sober in 2026, or recommitting to sobriety, make it your sole focus. Do this one thing well. Master it. And when it becomes stable, you can add something else. But right now? Just stay sober. Everything else comes from that. Listen in, and remember: sobriety IS the transformation. Links mentioned in this episode:  Is Angela the right Coach for you? Book A Call Here to find out : addictionunlimited.com/call Join the Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

Click here to learn about taking the Inspired Love Journey in 2026   Most women don't enter a new year hoping to become someone else. They enter it quietly wondering what's still wrong with them.   Why love hasn't landed yet. Why you still feel anxious, attached, or unsettled. Why all the work you've done hasn't delivered the thing you want most.   Somewhere underneath it all is the belief that there's still something you need to heal… something you need to fix…   And you're not wrong. There is something that needs to change.   But it's probably not what you think.   Once you see what it actually is — and stop relating to yourself the way you always have — the entire pattern begins to unwind.   In this episode, we'll explore that shift together, so you can step into this year differently than you ever have before.   Not with another resolution. Not with more effort. But with a kind of clarity that changes everything.   Welcome back to the show. Let's dive in.

Join The Amys and their extraordinary guest, Lily Hargis, a dog trainer whose work spans both animal behavior consulting and a human medical teaching hospital, where they teach young doctors to lead with empathy in clinical practice. The skills used to support animals and their caregivers—listening, emotional awareness, clear communication, and compassion—translate directly into human medicine. Discover how Lily's degree in Theater led them down this uniquely important path. Is empathy a clinical skill? Or a personality trait? How does empathy play a critical role in patient outcomes, team dynamics, and burnout prevention? Can we learn to lead more effectively, communicate more thoughtfully, and care more deeply—without losing ourselves in the process? Grab a  cocktail and a snuggle buddy, and get up to speed on the latest buzzzzzz, courtesy of your favorite VBees

What if every time you said "I'll try," you were actually announcing you just weren't going to do it?Carla Ondrasik breaks down why "trying" sabotages your goals and why your brain literally can't process the word. This conversation goes beyond surface-level motivation into the neuroscience of language and accountability.What you'll discover:- Why children under two never say "try" until shame enters- What happens in your brain when you attempt the try test- How "I'll try" creates a grab bag of excuses with zero accountabilityCarla Ondrasik spent 25 years in music publishing before writing "Stop Trying," challenging one of the most ingrained patterns in modern culture.This week's challenge: Become hyper-aware of every time you say "try"—count how many times before 10 a.m.Resources:- Carla's book "Stop Trying": https://www.amazon.com/Stop-Trying-Discover-Lifelong-Greatness/dp/1637744129- Carla's website: https://stop-trying.com- Follow Carla on Instagram: @carlaondrasikReady to go deeper? Join the Mind Love Collective for monthly themed calls where we work through exactly this kind of transformation. Details at https://mindlove.com/joinSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your team thinks they’re selling braces. They’re wrong. What patients actually buy is certainty. Certainty about cost, timing, next steps, and whether they’re making the right call for their kid or themselves. When you don’t create that certainty fast, you get the same complaints every practice has: they ghosted us, bad lead, they said they needed to think about it, they price-shopped, they no-showed. Here’s what hurts: your leads aren’t bad. Your process leaks certainty. Fix that, and your team won’t need to push harder. They’ll just need to get clear, confident, and better at leading conversations. The kind of leadership that feels like service instead of sales. Get your copy of the Practice Paradox and the Personality Assessment: https://ion.agency/practice-paradox-book The Core Truth — People Don’t Buy Orthodontics. They Buy Certainty. Whether someone is choosing braces, clear aligners, or even deodorant, the psychology stays the same: people move when they feel safe taking the next step. That’s why calls fall apart even when your team says all the right things. If the prospect feels confused, guarded, uneasy, or overwhelmed, you can keep talking. You’ve already lost. Not because they hate you. Because their brain is protecting them from a decision that feels risky. So the question becomes: How do you manufacture certainty, fast, without sounding salesy? Let’s break it into five levers: mindset, voice, speed, follow-up, and simplification. Redefine “Sales” So Your Team Stops Sabotaging It A lot of practices hate the word “sales.” They picture a used-car lot: fake smile, pressure, manipulation, take the money and run. That’s exactly why they struggle. Here’s the reframe: sales isn’t taking. Sales is giving. If your team believes sales is something you do to people, they’ll avoid it, rush it, or apologize for it. If they believe sales is something you do for people (clarifying, guiding, simplifying), they show up differently. Two guardrails matter: integrity and a true desire to help paired with belief that the service will positively impact the patient’s life. Violate those, and you’re back in the version of sales everyone hates. Hold those two guardrails, and closing isn’t predatory. It’s service. Why this matters to certainty: Certainty doesn’t come from convincing. It comes from leadership. People relax when they feel guided by someone who knows what they’re doing and genuinely has their interests in mind. If your team doesn’t buy that idea, every tactic in this article turns into a script. Scripts don’t create certainty. Free Growth Session Certainty Starts With How You Sound — Tone and Tempo Beat Perfect Wording The fastest way to kill a call isn’t the wrong sentence. It’s the wrong cadence. Two things matter most: tonality and tempo. Tone and tempo communicate what words can’t: calm confidence, leadership, empathy, impatience, uncertainty, awkwardness. The Real Phone Skill Is Emotional Control When your scheduler or treatment coordinator sounds rushed, unsure, or overly chirpy, the prospect doesn’t feel guided. They feel processed. And if the prospect doesn’t feel guided, they don’t feel safe. Use Anchoring Questions to Uncover What Creates Certainty for This Person Three questions shift the call from “schedule this” to “understand why this matters.” “How long have you been thinking about straightening your teeth or bringing Johnny in?” This tells you whether they’re a “yesterday” person or a “two years” person. Very different energy, very different barriers. “Why did you feel like now was a good time to address this?” This reveals the trigger: pain, bullying, a dentist referral, a life event, a deadline, a job, a wedding. The trigger is often where certainty lives. “Why did you decide to come see us?” This exposes perceived differentiation or lack of it. It also surfaces competitive context without you sounding defensive. These questions aren’t cute. They build certainty because they make the prospect feel understood. And they give your team leverage to connect the consult to what the person actually cares about. If You Sense Uncertainty, Address It Immediately If someone sounds uneasy, uncertain, confused, or guarded, you can’t just continue your flow and hope it resolves itself. You need to pivot and handle that emotion right now. Or you won’t have their attention for the rest of the call, and you’ll often earn a no-show. Use something playful as a pattern interrupt (something they don’t expect) to regain attention. The point isn’t the exact line. The point is: certainty requires attention, and attention disappears when emotion turns skeptical. The Underrated Skill — Being Comfortable With Silence Most teams panic during silence and start filling space with nervous checking: “Hello?” “Did you get that?” “Can you hear me?” Don’t do that. Embrace the silence. The person just answered an unexpected call. You don’t know what they’re doing. If you can sit through a few seconds, you keep authority and flow. Why this matters to certainty: When you talk like a leader (steady, calm, unhurried), you lend your certainty to the other person. When you sound nervous, you amplify theirs. Speed Is Strategy: Desire Decays Faster Than You Think If you’re treating online leads like they’re 2012 leads, you’re getting cooked. Amazon has trained consumers. If something doesn’t have the two-day delivery vibe, what do people start thinking? “Do I really need this?” “Maybe I’ll find something similar I can get tomorrow.” That same consumer expectation bleeds into choosing an orthodontist. If you don’t respond fast, if it’s hard to schedule, if it takes forever to get clarity, people don’t wait patiently. They move on or talk themselves out of it. The Five-Minute Rule Isn’t Aggressive. It’s Reality. Studies show that if you don’t follow up within five minutes, there’s a 400 percent decrease in ever getting in touch. Calling back within 60 seconds can boost conversions by 391 percent. Whether you obsess over exact numbers or not, the operational takeaway is undeniable: your speed determines whether you’re still top of mind. Here’s what should sting a little: five minutes should be your worst day. Because in a digital world, five minutes can feel like an hour. Nobody submits a form and then sits there doing nothing, waiting for your office to call. They go right back to scrolling, eating dinner, getting pulled into life. And when you finally call, you’re no longer “the answer.” You’re “some unknown number.” Certainty Collapses When You’re Not Top of Mind When your callback is slow, you trigger confusion: “Who is this?” “Where are you calling from?” “Why are you calling me?” That confusion isn’t neutral. Confusion is uncertainty. Uncertainty is delay. Delay becomes ghosting. If you want more conversions, stop treating speed like an operational detail. Speed is part of your sales system. “Bad Leads” Are Often Just Cold Opportunities, and Your Follow-Up Must Match Human Behavior Most practices overuse the term “bad lead” as emotional protection. It feels better to say “they were a bad lead” than “we didn’t create enough certainty fast enough.” Here’s the reframe: a bad lead is someone you truly can’t serve. Someone without teeth, no pulse, extreme mismatch. Everything else? That’s not a bad lead. That’s an opportunity that either isn’t ready yet, lost excitement, didn’t feel safe, or didn’t get enough follow-up to stay warm. It’s not always that the leads are bad. It’s that the opportunities have gone cold. The Simplest Reason Follow-Up Fails — Nobody Answers Unknown Numbers (Including You) Most of us do not pick up calls from numbers we don’t know. So why is your team shocked when prospects don’t answer? This is why you need a specific cadence: call, voicemail, text, email, repeat. That multi-touch pattern creates recognition: “Oh right, I did request that.” It builds association. And it reduces the emotional friction of picking up. Micro-Impressions Before the Consult Decide Whether They Show Up This might be the most overlooked certainty killer in orthodontics: the little irritations that happen before the patient ever meets the doctor. Being put on hold for minutes (feels like forever). The office not answering. Getting disconnected and not being asked for a callback number. Having to call back and re-enter the queue. These micro-impressions create a subtle story in the patient’s mind: “This is going to be a pain.” That story produces uncertainty. Bottom line: If your front-end experience feels clunky, you can’t treatment-coordinate your way out of it in the consult. Free Growth Session Create Certainty in the Consult by Simplifying the Process and the Money Conversation If you want more same-day starts, stop turning the consult into a college lecture. Here’s a real-world example of a practice that aggressively simplified the consult process: 30 minutes total per new patient exam, records done fast (an eight-minute window), doctor in the room for one to two minutes, treatment coordinator does most of the explanation and fee conversation, they deliberately trained and timed the team to move faster, and fee presentation is simple and consistent. The insight isn’t “everyone must do 30-minute exams.” The insight is: complexity creates hesitation. When the doctor spends 20 minutes explaining the science of orthodontics, the patient walks out thinking, “Wow, this is a big deal. I need to go home and digest this.” In other words: you made it feel heavy, risky, and uncertain. Simplification doesn’t mean low quality. It means low friction. Fees — Answer the Real Question Without Overwhelming Them The patient’s number one question at the consult is: “How much is it?” When offices avoid this, they don’t create certainty. They create suspense. And suspense is not your friend in a high-consideration purchase. One practice’s approach: Lead with one simple plan ($300 down and a monthly that stays under $200). Don’t lead with four options. Options create overwhelm. If they ask about pay-in-full, then you introduce that. If $300 today is a barrier, step it down: $150 today and draft the other $150 in one to two weeks. This strategy isn’t about discounting. It’s about making the decision feel manageable. On the Phone — If You Won’t Quote Fees, You Still Must Remove Financing Fear When people hear “payment plans” and “financing,” they often assume interest, credit checks, banks, and paying more over time. So if your team says, “We have great payment plans,” that’s not certainty. That’s vague reassurance. And vague reassurance reads like sales fluff. Instead, proactively clarify: zero percent interest, no credit checks, in-house financing, no banks involved. That removes uncertainty. And when uncertainty drops, people move forward. Stop Trying to Differentiate With Tech Patients Don’t Understand Some practices try to win by talking about technology (CBCT, bonding techniques, fancy bracket systems) as the primary differentiator. The general public has low dental IQ. Most people don’t know what those things are, and they aren’t buying them up front. What are disruptors winning on? Speed, convenience, little resistance, affordability, and a cool brand. You can wow them clinically once they’re in and committed. But at the decision point, patients buy what reduces friction and uncertainty. Practical Takeaways — A Certainty-First Playbook You Can Implement Now You don’t need a new script. You need a new operating system. Here’s a practical checklist, organized by where certainty is won or lost. Phone: Create Certainty in the First 60 Seconds Train the two T’s: tonality and tempo. Start coaching cadence, not just words. Add the three anchoring questions: How long have you been thinking about it? Why now? Why us? The moment you hear uncertainty, pivot and address it. Don’t keep going like nothing happened. Get comfortable with silence. Nervous filler kills authority. Scheduling —Stop the Endless Loop With Wide Net Statements Replace open-ended scheduling chaos with two-option narrowing. “Specific date or day or first available?” “Morning or afternoon?” “1 p.m. or 3 p.m.?” This approach prevents the call from dragging and keeps you leading. Speed — Protect Momentum Like It’s Revenue (Because It Is) Treat five minutes as unacceptable in normal conditions. Aim to call back before they exit the browser whenever possible. Build operational systems that make fast response normal, not heroic. Follow-Up — Assume They Won’t Answer and Build Recognition Anyway Use the cadence: call, voicemail, text, email, repeat. Stop labeling unresponsive people as “bad.” Most are just cold. Clean up micro-impressions: reduce holds, avoid disconnects without callback capture, and tighten the front desk experience. Consult — Simplify Until Decisions Feel Easy Reduce information overload. Don’t make treatment feel like a complicated life event. Standardize a simple fee presentation. Lead with one clear path. Introduce alternatives only if asked. Remove financing uncertainty with clear language (zero percent interest, in-house, no banks, no credit checks). If You Fix Certainty, You Fix Conversion Your practice isn’t competing only on clinical outcomes anymore. You’re competing on how fast you respond, how easy it is to schedule, how confident your team sounds, how predictable your process feels, and whether the patient understands the money without anxiety. People don’t buy braces. They buy certainty. If you want more starts without feeling salesy, stop trying to close harder. Start building a system that makes the next step feel obvious, safe, and simple. That’s what your market is actually demanding now. Free Growth Session The post Patients Keep Saying No? Here’s What You’re Missing appeared first on HIP Creative.

This week concentrates powerful Capricorn energy, activating themes of commitment, responsibility, desire, and relational truth—all tested through tension with Jupiter in Cancer and Chiron in Aries. The question underneath it all: What are you truly willing to tend, protect, and build?Tuesday, Jan 6 — Venus conjunct Sun in CapricornArchetypal Dialogue: The Lover meets the Sovereign A renewal of values and relational orientation. What you love seeks alignment with what you are responsible for. Beauty, worth, and devotion ask to be taken seriously.Reflection Question: Where am I clarifying what truly matters—and what I'm willing to commit to?Wednesday, Jan 7 — Venus conjunct Mars in CapricornArchetypal Dialogue: Desire joins Discipline Attraction meets will. Passion becomes purposeful when guided by integrity and long-term vision. This is a moment to act in alignment with your values.Reflection Question: How can my desire move with maturity rather than impulse?Friday, Jan 9 — Sun conjunct Venus in Capricorn and Venus in Capricorn opposes Jupiter in CancerArchetypal Dialogue: Devotion faces Expansion A peak moment for relationship and value themes. The tension asks you to balance duty with emotional nourishment—ambition with care.Reflection Question: Where might growth require both boundaries and tenderness?Saturday, Jan 10 — Sun & Mars in Capricorn oppose Jupiter in CancerArchetypal Dialogue: Authority meets Protection Drive and responsibility meet the need for safety and belonging. Overreach or defensiveness may surface if inner needs are ignored.Reflection Question: Am I acting from grounded authority—or compensating for unmet emotional needs?Sunday, Jan 11 — Venus in Capricorn square Chiron in AriesArchetypal Dialogue: The Lover meets the Wounded Self Old relational wounds or identity sensitivities may be activated. This is an invitation to mature self-worth through compassion rather than self-judgment.Reflection Question: What would honoring my worth look like without needing to prove myself?Podcast poem: Alteration by Rosemerry Wahtola TrommerSupport the showGo to Sheila's website for information for transformational resources: https://www.ontheedgesofchange.com/home-page This episode was co-created with generative AI, engaged as a soul-aligned ally in service of transformation. At the edge where technology meets myth, I choose insight over noise, and alchemy over automation. Thank you for dreaming the future with me.

In this message, Eric explored one of Jesus' most challenging teachings from John 12:20–26, where Jesus describes life, growth, and glory as something that comes through death, not success. As Eric explained, what Jesus calls “glory” often looks like failure by our culture's standards. Just as a seed must fall into the ground and die to bear fruit, followers of Jesus are invited to stop trying harder and instead surrender their desires, control, and self-reliance to God. Eric challenged listeners to ask an honest question—What am I depending on when I am not depending on God?—and showed how real spiritual growth happens when we trust God with what we cannot control and follow Jesus in the way of surrender.

In this message, Eric explored one of Jesus' most challenging teachings from John 12:20–26, where Jesus describes life, growth, and glory as something that comes through death, not success. As Eric explained, what Jesus calls “glory” often looks like failure by our culture's standards. Just as a seed must fall into the ground and die to bear fruit, followers of Jesus are invited to stop trying harder and instead surrender their desires, control, and self-reliance to God. Eric challenged listeners to ask an honest question—What am I depending on when I am not depending on God?—and showed how real spiritual growth happens when we trust God with what we cannot control and follow Jesus in the way of surrender.

Nikola Jokic goes down with a knee injury — and suddenly the volume spikes to kill the NBA's 65-game minimum for MVP and All-NBA eligibility. Coincidence? Or the latest example of the league (and its loudest voices) trying to rewrite the definition of greatness in real time?In the first On The Ball episode of 2026, Ric Bucher explains why the 65-game rule shouldn't be rescinded just because a superstar might miss out. Awards aren't about who we think should win based on peak moments, reputation, or “what he'd do if healthy.” They're about who actually delivered over a full season — and availability has always been part of the job.Ric revisits why the rule was created (hello, load management), why voters needed a clear benchmark, and why removing it would encourage exactly what fans hate: rewarding partial seasons while pretending it's the same as dominance over 82 games. He also calls out the shifting standards in NBA media, the growing subjectivity of awards voting, and the obsession with making everything “perfect” — even when perfection creates new injustices.Plus: Ric makes the case that we should be expanding eligibility rules, creating one to deem who is eligible to be an All-Star.Timestamps 00:00 — Intro: “Cooking with gas” / welcome to On The Ball 00:31 — Ric's platforms + book tease: the value of being coachable 01:32 — First pod of 2026: thank you + what's changing the show today 02:03 — The new flashpoint: NBA's 65-game rule + Jokic injury fallout 02:55 — Jokic vs SGA: how the MVP race shifts 03:16 — Why Ric disagrees with eliminating the rule 04:12 — Why the NBA instituted 65 games: load management + voter clarity 05:07 — The voting problem: who has ballots now (and why it matters) 06:35 — Why 65 games is “etched in stone” 07:23 — The old standard: playing 82 used to be the flex 08:03 — “Perfect” officiating vs reality: the replay obsession analogy 09:20 — The hard truth: injustice happens — that's sports (and life) 10:08 — Injuries, modern training, and why the real issue isn't awards 11:07 — Why changing awards rules dodges the real problem 12:32 — Supermax + health: should durability matter? 14:02 — Awards aren't for “who we think”: they're for who proved it 14:40 — The Bill Walton precedent: MVP with 58 games (and the controversy) 16:45 — The fear: rewarding stars for half-seasons 17:26 — Standards eroding: media, mentorship, and the “old head” dilemma 20:28 — Social media pedestal culture + rule changes for entertainment 21:25 — Why removing 65 games diminishes awards 22:12 — Ric's counter: eligibility rules for All-Star voting instead 22:52 — LeBron + All-Star weekend: honor him, don't gift him a spot 25:05 — Emotional policy-making is bad policy 25:47 — What's next: boosting competition, addressing tanking 26:54 — Outro#NBA #NikolaJokic #MVP #AllNBA #LoadManagement #NBAMedia #OnTheBall #RicBucher #BasketballPodcast #UnitedWeCastSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/bucher-and-friends. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Send us a textHeyyyyy beautiful souls! So happy to have you here.This episode is all about:Me flying in fake first class on JetBlueMy failed attempts trying to connect with menHow New York tried to steal my soulI just don't have it to give to the men in my life anymore (a tough pill to swallow)Being naturally enthusiastic (perfect for energy vampires)Men are who they are (and they're ok with that)Holding out hope for men (no)What do men even talk about?I don't think I was ever meant to connect with menMaking excuses for the men in my lifeI wanna stop wanting men to see or recognize my painAre men narcissists by default?Want to join my pleasure oasis? CLICK HERE: https://www.loveatiya.com/theetherealpleasureacademyWanna learn how to pleasure yourself to your higher self? CLICK HERE: https://www.patreon.com/TheLoveAtiyaExperience Pleasure Education Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loveatiya/Pleasure Education TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iloveatiya?YouTube: iloveatiya https://www.youtube.com/@iloveatiya/videos Support the show

In this episode of Pursuit of Balance, we break down how to actually guarantee progress in 2026 — and why most New Year's resolutions fail. The truth: motivation isn't the answer. Environment, systems, and identity are. We cover SMART goals, reverse-engineering your plan, accountability systems (partners, investing in yourself, tracking, public accountability), and how to design your environment so the right choices become automatic.

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Today's episode of the sunshine would like to talk about letting go of that heavy load. Jesus tells us to cast every care aside that trips us up in his word. He also tells us that he'll make our burdens light and our yolk easy if we would just trust him, choose Jesus today and share your sunshine

"Stop Trying to Make Lean a Thing!" In this electric conversation with Spitfire Coach Lauren LeMunyan, Santana Inniss shares The Glow Initiative's mission to close the access gap in coaching for women and the nonprofits that serve them. Together they break down The Women in the Workplace 2025 report from McKinsey and Lean In and its problematic language, the myth of the so-called "ambition gap," and the uncomfortable truth about how the coaching industry mirrors broken corporate systems. If you're ready to shift from performative allyship to actual change, this episode is your playbook.

AJ and Johnny sit down with Carla Ondrasik, author of Stop Trying, to unpack why the word try is secretly holding you back from real change. Carla shares how “trying” tricks your brain into feeling productive while keeping you stuck — and why doing, not trying, is the antidote to procrastination, perfectionism, and fear. They explore how language shapes behavior, why “I'll try” destroys trust and momentum, and how replacing it with decisive action transforms confidence, relationships, and follow-through. You'll learn how to silence your inner critic, embrace failure, and finally move from thinking about it to living it. Chapters: 00:00 – Why “try” is the most dangerous word you use04:00 – How “trying” fools your brain into false progress08:00 – The psychology of fear, failure, and perfectionism12:00 – How “try” damages trust and relationships16:00 – Replacing “try” with honest language and action20:00 – How to stop waiting for motivation and start doing24:00 – The Try Test: how your brain reacts to indecision28:00 – The power of “no” and protecting your willpower32:00 – The science of action and accountability36:00 – Rewiring your brain from “try” to “do” A Word From Our Sponsors Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠unlockyourxfactor.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially.  Visit the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠artofcharm.com/intel ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. If you've put off organizing your finances, Monarch is for you. Use code CHARM at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠monarch.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ in your browser for half off your first year.  Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Grow your way - with Headway! Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠makeheadway.com/CHARM ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and use my code CHARM for 25% off. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Sign up for your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Need to hire top talent—fast? Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Indeed.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TODAY to get started  Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/influence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Episode resources: ⁠Stop Trying! Check in with AJ and Johnny! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on TikTok motivation, procrastination, confidence, mindset, fear, accountability, personal growth, communication, self-sabotage, language, psychology, Stop Trying Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're listening to this during the Christmas holiday week and feeling a little on edge, this episode is for you! In today's episode of Boss Bitch Radio, I'm sharing a real coaching call conversation about control - the sneaky kind that looks like being responsible on the outside but feels like anxiety on the inside. Yep, that kind. We talk about why so many women struggle to let go, how trying to control people and situations steals our peace, damages relationships, and keeps us from being present in our own lives. I share personal stories (including my days as a reformed control freak), signs you might be holding onto control without realizing it, and simple mindset shifts to help you release what's not yours to carry! This is a gentle reminder that you don't have to manage everything, fix everyone, or hold it all together to be worthy or safe. Sign up for the Main Character Energy Activation Masterclass on January 13, 2026 - this is where the real shift begins → https://www.bossbitchradio.com/masterclass Join the newsletter for more behind-the-scenes tips, cheat sheets, and practical tools → https://www.bossbitchradio.com/newsletter #mentalstrength #overthinking #anxietyrelief #mindsetforwomen Key Takeaways: 00:24 Holiday Stress + Why We Try to Control Everything 00:55 A Real Coaching Call Conversation 01:59 Quick Reminder: Main Character Energy Masterclass 02:57 Mentally Strong People Don't Obsess Over Control 04:46 Real-Life Control Freak Stories (Yep, Me Too) 06:51 Doing a Control Check-In (Be Honest) 09:45 Why Asking for Help Is Actually Powerful 13:25 How to "Bless and Release" in Real Life 17:41 Locus of Control Explained in Plain English 25:44 How to Influence Without Controlling 27:36 Acceptance, Letting Go, and Finding Peace 30:52 Choosing Calm Over Chaos 34:47 Final Thoughts + Masterclass Invite Links Mentioned:  Join me for the Main Character Energy Activation Masterclass on January 13, 2026 - this is where the real shift begins → https://www.bossbitchradio.com/masterclass Join the Iconic Coaching Academy! Limited 1:1 spots available - https://www.bossbitchradio.com/iconic-coaching  I'm loving this Cathy Heller's program is packed with gems. Check it out here! https://cathyheller.samcart.com/referral/thisabundantlifebycathyheller/kLZu9Gj7RIEtBF2Q Hey! Have you heard of ClassPass? They're giving an exclusive free trial (with 20 bonus credits!) only available to friends of mine. https://classpass.com/refer/U37R31GQ30  

Feeling like you're supposed to be everywhere online? Instagram. TikTok. Facebook. Pinterest. YouTube. Threads. It's exhausting. And for subscription box owners who are already sourcing products, packing boxes, fulfilling orders, and serving customers, it's simply not realistic. In this week's Friday Fuel episode of the Launch Your Box Podcast, we're talking about why trying to “be everywhere” is burning you out and how choosing two primary marketing channels plus email can simplify your strategy, free your time, and help you show up with more clarity and consistency. The Mental Load of “Being Everywhere” Most subscription box owners aren't just creating content, they're juggling every part of their business. When you're told you must be on every platform, it adds guilt, pressure, and overwhelm. Remember: You're building a subscription box, not applying to be a full-time influencer. Trying to chase every social media trend only spreads your energy thin and keeps you from showing up the way your audience needs you to. Start with Momentum Before you add anything new, look at what's already working. Are you consistently active on Instagram? Does your Facebook group get good engagement? Do your Pinterest pins get clicks? Are your Stories getting replies? You don't need to reinvent the wheel. Build on what already has traction.Momentum is one of the most valuable assets in your business. Don't ignore it to chase something shiny and new. The 2 Channels plus Email Formula Here's your simple focus formula: Choose 2 Primary Marketing Channels Add Email Marketing Every Week Pick your channels based on: Where your audience already spends time Where you can show up with consistency What feels natural for you to maintain Your mix might look like: Instagram Reels & Facebook Lives Pinterest & Blog posts TikTok & Instagram Stories But no matter what you choose, email is non-negotiable. Your email list is the only audience you own, and it drives launches, waitlist signups, and sales. If a social post flops, nobody sees it.But when you send an email? It lands in inboxes. That's powerful. Build a Repeatable Routine First Most subscription box owners don't need more platforms. They need more consistency. Before asking “Where else should I be?”, ask: “Am I showing up consistently here?” “Does my audience know when to expect me?” “Have I built my content muscle yet?” Nail your routine on two channels plus email first. Then you can repurpose or expand once it feels easy. Action Steps Audit your energy and results: What's working? What's draining you? Choose your 2 primary channels and commit to them for the next 90 days. Send a weekly email (even a short one). Build the habit. Don't add more until you've built consistency where you already are. You don't need to be everywhere. You just need to be where it matters consistently. Join me for this episode and find out why doing less can actually help you grow more. Two channels. Plus email. That's it. And I'll show you how to make it work. Join me in all the places:     Facebook Instagram Launch Your Box with Sarah Website  Are you ready for Launch Your Box? Our complete training program walks you step by step through how to start, launch, and grow your subscription box business. Join the waitlist today!

The fun part of this chat is watching Jay Schwedelson try to reverse-engineer how one human can juggle a million hats and still keep a sense of humor. Jeremy Byars from United Systems & Software, Inc. gets real about cognitive load, impostor syndrome, and the weirdly powerful career move most people ignore: showing up for your community like an actual person. It goes from practical leadership lessons to an unexpectedly honest story about why he has a room full of Superman collectibles.ㅤConnect with Jeremy Byars on LinkedIn, especially if you're in utilities or comms and want to swap notes.ㅤBest Moments:(04:45) The quiet trap of saying yes to everything, and why letting go feels so hard(08:30) “If you want a village, be a villager,” and the career upside of participating like a human(10:15) Comedy, content, and marketing all have the same truth - you fail way more than you win(16:00) How being a caretaker reshaped Jeremy's ego, priorities, and gratitude(18:25) The real reason behind the Superman collection, and why “hope” is the whole point(22:25) Jeremy's simple ask - connect with him on LinkedIn and start a real conversationㅤCheck out Jay's YOUTUBE Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@schwedelsonCheck out Jay's TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@schwedelsonCheck Out Jay's INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/jayschwedelson/

✨Hey! This week looks a little different around here — on purpose.   Instead of our usual rhythm, I'm airing five episodes in five days.   Think of it as a mini-series designed especially for you — curated, fun, and binge-worthy. Fewer cliffhangers, more “ohhh… that makes sense.”   Every episode this week features a conversation from a show I've been invited onto as a guest — hosted by smart, generous people you'll genuinely enjoy listening to. Each episode stands on its own. Together, they create momentum. So if you've been listening here and there, this is a great week to lean in.   Start wherever you want — or (best option) listen in order and let the through-line reveal itself.    Either way, I'd love to hear what you think. Happiest and Healthiest Holidays to you and your loved ones. ✨   Episode Title: Stop Trying So Hard: “Doing Everything Right” Is Keeping You Stuck Your body can't heal in survival mode — no matter how clean your diet is. What if the reason you don't feel amazing is NOT because you're inconsistent, unmotivated, or doing it wrong? If you've tried “all the right things” and your health still feels off—tired, achy, foggy, or like you're aging too fast—this episode is for you. What if it's because wellness culture keeps handing you high-effort solutions to your health complaints — and your nervous system is quietly waving a white flag?  In this conversation on Charis Chats, I join Charis Santillie for a refreshingly sane take on health: why feeling better doesn't require a total life overhaul, why tiny habits outperform dramatic protocols, and how stress, blood sugar, gut health, hormones, and mindset are far more intertwined than most advice admits. This episode is for you if you want to feel clearer, more grounded, and more energized — without turning your life into a full-time self-improvement project. If you've done the dietary shifts, supplements, yoga classes and still feel off… this one will stop you mid-scroll. Long exhale. What We Cover (with Timestamps) [00:02] — Why most people fail at wellness before they even start Not because they lack discipline — but because they're trying to change everything at once. We talk about why your nervous system hates that plan. [00:08] — My unconventional path into functional medicine The childhood moment that shaped my obsession with prevention — and why waiting for a diagnosis is a terrible health strategy. [00:12] — The easiest health upgrades almost everyone can tolerate Why adding beats restricting, how morning habits set your physiology for the day, and where people overcomplicate this fast. [00:15] — MCT oil, brain fuel, and using it without wrecking your gut What it actually does, who benefits most, and why more is not better (your digestive system agrees). [00:22] — Beets, blood flow, and why circulation matters more than you think Nitric oxide, brain health, aging, and the simple daily support most people overlook. [00:26] — Habit stacking: the science-backed shortcut to consistency Why motivation is unreliable, how your brain actually forms habits, and how tiny wins build momentum without burnout. [00:31] — Your body is always listening (this part isn't woo) How thoughts, identity, and repetition shape physiology — and why your subconscious is far more literal than you think. [00:40] — Gluten, inflammation, and the ‘small' symptoms people ignore Skin issues, fatigue, bloating, brain fog — why these aren't random, and what your body may be asking for. [00:55] — The mindset shift that creates lasting health Why consistency quietly beats intensity every time — and how small daily choices compound into real change. The Big Takeaway You don't need a stricter routine. You don't need more supplements. And you definitely don't need to be harder on yourself. You need simpler inputs, smarter habits, and a nervous system that feels safe enough to heal. This episode is your reminder that sustainable health is built quietly — through small, repeatable choices that actually fit your life. Press play. Your future self will thank you.   Where to Find Me

If your December feels like one long attempt to keep everyone happy, here's the truth: you never will — and it's costing you more than you realise. ​​So many mothers are exhausted before Christmas has even begun—pulled in every direction, saying yes to everything, and trying desperately to keep everyone happy. If that's you, you're absolutely not alone… and this pep talk is for you. In the third of our December Pep talk series, Zoe unpacks the pressure to please everyone at Christmas, why so many of us fall into this pattern, and how to break free so you can actually enjoy the magic you're creating for everyone else In this pep talk, you'll hear: Why it's literally impossible to please everyone (and why we keep trying anyway) How being raised as “good girls” trained us to put ourselves lastThe real cost of people-pleasing — burnout, resentment, disconnection Three powerful questions to help you reclaim your energyOne simple challenge to start shifting the pattern today You can't please everyone—and you don't need to. This Christmas, start by asking yourself: What do I need? What do I really want? What am I doing only because I think I should? Then choose one small change that brings you closer to a calmer, more connected holiday season. You deserve it. Remember to subscribe to Motherkind — it helps more mothers find the show and keeps our community growing. Feeling like you're carrying it all? Download your FREE Mental Load Cheat Sheet and learn how to start feeling lighter, even if nothing in your life changes. Connect with Zoe: Follow Zoe on Instagram  Get Zoe's Sunday Times bestselling book, 'Motherkind: A New Way to Thrive in a World of Endless Expectations' This Motherkind episode is sponsored by: Headline sponsor Wild Nutrition, the brand raising the bar for women's supplements. Want to feel the Food-Grown difference yourself? Get 50% off for three months at wildnutrition.com/motherkind. Ts and Cs apply. For a £100 sponsored job credit, visit Indeed.com/ Motherkind Get 15% off OneSkin with the code MOTHERKIND at https://www.oneskin.co/motherkind Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to Seasoned Sessions, this week we talk about; Variety's latest Sinner's snub, 50 Cent's “Sean Combs: The Reckoning” Netflix documentary, a GROUNDBREAKING tortilla chip revelation, and more. Get in touch with us at @seasonedsessionspod, @adaenechi, and @its_hanifahh. Have a great week!

You've trained your brain to see danger everywhere—and you didn't even realize it. Every notification. Every "suspicious person" post. Every late-night scroll through your neighborhood app. Your brain is learning that the world is unsafe, that strangers are threats, and that vigilance equals virtue. But constant alertness doesn't make you safer. It makes you separate. In this episode, I reveal how modern "safety culture" is secretly destroying your mental health—and teaching you to fear the very people who could become your community. In This Episode, You'll Discover:

Do you bristle when things do not go according to plan? In this episode, we explore how the habit of trying to control everything becomes one of the biggest time wasters and energy drains in your life. When you pour effort into things that are not fully under your control, you lose time, and you exhaust your mental, emotional, and physical resources.   Many of us do this without realizing it. Trying to manage other people's feelings, reactions, or interpretations drains our energy and leaves us feeling ineffective. I explore why the urge to overcontrol develops and what changes when you shift your attention to the small category of what is genuinely yours to manage, rather than the much larger category that is not.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/201   Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.If December turns you into everyone's emotional paramedic, this episode is your intervention.We're unpacking the Holiday Savior Complex, that sneaky trauma-driven pattern where you over-function, over-give, manage everyone's moods, smooth over conflict, and basically try to save the entire holiday season from falling apart.And yes… we're going there with adults and kids.I'm breaking down why survivors of emotional and narcissistic abuse slip into “fixer mode,” how it drains you, and what it's really costing your nervous system. You'll also hear the story of the year I didn't put up a Christmas tree right before a big move — my kids weren't thrilled, my friends had opinions, and I learned one of the biggest lessons of my healing journey: I don't have to rescue anyone from their own emotions. And neither do you.In this episode you'll learn: ✨ Why the holidays activate old survival patterns ✨ How rescuing creates self-betrayal (even when it feels loving) ✨ What it looks like to stop managing everyone else's feelings ✨ How to support your kids without over-functioning ✨ Nervous-system resets you can use at holiday gatherings ✨ Permission to do less — without guilt, shame, or burnoutIf this hits a little too close to home, it's not a coincidence. These patterns come from deep subconscious conditioning — and that's exactly what I help women unravel.Support the showTo learn more about my Programs visit the websitewww.radiatenrise.com Email: Allison@radiatenrise.comFree 30 Min Root Cause Call Join Radiate and Rise Together - Survivor Healing Community for Women To send a DM, visit Allison's profiles on Instagram and Facebookhttps://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/*Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)

Trying to be the super GP who does every procedure might be making your practice harder than it should be. In this episode, Dr. Alex Sharp explains how specializing not only helps you create a model that's easier to market and scale, but also lets you spend more of your time doing the dentistry you actually enjoy. Hear where the GP model still works, how to specialize in an existing practice, and what the future of dentistry looks like!Topics discussed:Alex's journey from associate to practice owner to CEOThe benefits of niching down for dentist and patientWhy your marketing isn't working and what to do instead3 key factors for a successful denture/implant practiceHiring for implants: doctor fit and the dentist's roleWhat's changed and where dentistry is goingLearn more about Shared Practices Group: https://sharedpracticesgroup.com/Listen to The Full Arch Podcast: https://thefullarchpodcast.com/This episode was produced by Podcast Boutique https://www.podcastboutique.comGRAB THE FREE PLAYBOOK HERE - Discover 30 proven strategies top-performing dentists use to increase profits, cut clinical days, and finally enjoy the freedom they originally built their practices for.https://www.dentalpracticeheroes.com/playbook Check out www.relevanceonlinemarketing.com if you want to get the same great marketing results as Dr. Etch.  Mention DPH and get your first month FREE!Take Control of Your Practice and Your Life We help dentists take more time off while making more money through systematization, team empowerment, and creating leadership teams. Ready to build a practice that works for you? Visit www.DentalPracticeHeroes.com to learn more.

Ever wonder why you quit chasing your dreams, or why your goals always seem to stall out? It's not because you lack motivation. It's not because you're incapable, or that you missed your moment. The real reason we stop pursuing the life we want is because we don't want to feel the emotions that come with growth — the uncomfortable, awkward, uncertain emotions. And here's the part most of us don't see: feeling emotions isn't a problem. Avoiding them is. Today, we're going to talk about what it actually looks like to feel any feeling and still move forward. Because when you can handle the emotions that come with pursuing your goals, there is nothing you can't create. WHAT'S NEXT? Choose your next best step

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