Following an enormously successful mini-series from Aray & Jray Today on Trauma Bonding, Jennifer and Aray launch a new podcast where they will dive deep into whatever the f*ck they want. From religion to relationships, the enneagram to educational information about the brain, there is nothing we WON'T talk about. Take a listen to our intro episode and shoot us a message on Instagram @cussing_like_a_sailor or shoot us an email at clasaosttm@gmail.com and tell us what you want to hear! New episodes drop next week!!
In this weeks episode Jennifer breaks down the difference between accountability and responsibility! Play,share, and review.
It seems like everyone has an opinion on the things we do, no matter how small or insignificant those things might seem to us.
Even as others praise your talents, you write off your successes to timing and good luck. You don't believe you earned them on your own merits, and you fear others will eventually realize the same thing.Consequently, you pressure yourself to work harder...if this is you push play.
In today's episode, we talk about facing our fears to overcome them. Push play to learn more.
The fawn response is the brain's attempt to escape an unsafe position by engaging in behavior that may please the abuser or the source of conflict or ease tension in an unsafe situation.
What is the freeze response? Push play and find out! Please share with a friend and leave a review! Thank you so much for rocking with us!
the flight response is the brain's attempt to escape an unsafe position by removing oneself from it. Check out this weeks episode to find out more! Don't forget to subscribe and share with a friend!
Let's find out what Truma is. Enjoy the show
Find out what Jennifer was like growing up in this weeks episode!
Daniel opens up about his first date with Jennifer and what the most challenging thing about being with Jennifer is. Push play and share with a friend!
Love is a feeling and a choice it is an investment!
In a trauma-informed connection, we are looking to establish the existence of the relationship as a separate entity. Push play to learn more!
Collaboration is essential to ANY relationship and too many couples loose sight of the reality that no matter what they encounter, no matter what they are fighting against you stand a better chance if you are fight together against the problem rather than fight each other over the problem.
When we're moving into a trauma-informed connection, the opposite of gaslight is going to be perspective sharing and perspective-taking. Push play to learn more.
Criticism implies the need for correction, but like it or not just because you don't like something your partner does or doesn't do doesn't mean they have to change it. Constructive feedback requires accountability on the part of the complainant rather than responsibility on the part of the accused.Push play!
The trust and dependency stage of trauma bonding occurs when the initiator begins shaping the target to rely increasingly and eventually almost exclusively on them for mental and emotional support.
Check out this bonus episode about the five love languages and five apology languages.
Trauma-informed connection is an approach to establishing and exploring intimate connections in a way that honors each person's past traumas.
What keeps couples from being able to connect emotionally?
Let's explore a few scenes in the movie and identify where the couple could implement boundaries to avoid arguments escalating to emotional abuse. please share, review, and rate
Is your trauma bonded relationship over? Check out this week's episode to find out more. Make sure you Play, Subscribe, Share, and review!
Welcome to the third episode of Cussing Like A Sailor And Other Shit Trauma Taught Me. In this episode, Jennifer has a conversation with one of her close friends, Shameeka, about supporting someone in a Trauma Bonded Relationship. Play, Rate, and Share this episode with all of your friends and family. You never know what anyone is facing behind closed doors.
Trauma bonding is a series of behaviors that people engage in an attempt to meet an unmet attachment need or heal an attachment wound that often stems from their childhood.
Welcome to Cussing like a sailor and other shit trauma taught me! Let's dig in!
Jennifer gives us a recap of Trauma bonding! We also make a huge announcement!! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
The motivation behind the addiction stage is instinctual, and is driven by the brain's desire to experience the same high it experienced the first time it was exposed to a substance or experience. Push play to learn more. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Phase 6 is the loss of self. Today you will learn What loss of self looks like and What loss of self feel like. Play. Share. Review. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
From a clinical perspective the resigning and control stage is where we finally start to see some tangible indications of the effects of all of the shaping behavior that the initiator has placed on the target. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Traditionally gaslighting is defined as a form of emotional manipulation that causes the person on the receiving end to doubt their version of reality. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Criticism can be inherently uncomfortable but in the context of a trauma bonding relationship, it initially appears to be a little more subtle which actually makes it more confusing. If you find yourself in this stage, you might notice that your partner often makes small critiques by way of subtle or off-handed remarks rather than direct communication of what they are bothered by. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
The trust and dependency stage builds directly on to the love bombing stage. Once an initiator feels like they have successfully convinced their target of their worthiness they will begin shaping the target to rely almost exclusively on them for mental and emotional support.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Jennifer breaks down stage 1 of the Trauma Bonding cycle. Push play to learn more.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
First observed in October 1981 as a national “Day of Unity,” Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM) is held each October as a way to unite advocates across the nation in their efforts to end domestic violence.Communities and advocacy organizations across the country connect with the public and one another throughout the month to raise awareness about the signs of abuse and ways to stop it, and to uplift survivor stories and provide additional resources to leaders and policymakers. Today Jennifer Shafer opens up about her experience with domestic violence. Play, and share with everyone you know.Blessings,A&J--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Today Jennifer shares her Enneagram number with us! Click play to find out what the enneagram is. https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/ Remember to subscribe, rate, and review! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Navy veteran and certified Yoga instructor Jennifer Shafer shares with us how she uses yoga to spend time with God. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
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