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Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 355 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm talking about social boundaries and what it means to stay connected to yourself while being connected to other people.For much of my life, social situations were exhausting because I constantly overrode my own needs, limits, and preferences in order to make other people comfortable. I thought I was being accommodating and easygoing, but what I was really doing was abandoning myself—and it eventually led to resentment, frustration, and relationships that didn't feel good to me.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why clarity is often kinder than vagueness when it comes to social boundariesHow overexplaining can be an attempt to create safety through other people's approval and understandingThe importance of creating environments that support your recovery, well-being, and self-careHow social boundaries can reduce resentment before it startsThe difference between being needed and being loved in friendships and relationshipsI also share personal examples from recovery, including lessons about food boundaries, friendship dynamics, over-functioning, and learning to stop carrying relationships on my back.This episode is a reminder that social boundaries are not about becoming rigid, antisocial, or controlling. They're about creating relationships and social experiences where you don't have to leave yourself behind in order to participate.Because when you stop abandoning yourself socially, you stop building relationships out of exhaustion, resentment, over-functioning, and performance—and start building relationships where you can actually feel safe being yourself.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole PodcastFeeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: Boundaries Drain QuizCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 355 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm talking about social boundaries and what it means to stay connected to yourself while being connected to other people.For much of my life, social situations were exhausting because I constantly overrode my own needs, limits, and preferences in order to make other people comfortable. I thought I was being accommodating and easygoing, but what I was really doing was abandoning myself—and it eventually led to resentment, frustration, and relationships that didn't feel good to me.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why clarity is often kinder than vagueness when it comes to social boundariesHow overexplaining can be an attempt to create safety through other people's approval and understandingThe importance of creating environments that support your recovery, well-being, and self-careHow social boundaries can reduce resentment before it startsThe difference between being needed and being loved in friendships and relationshipsI also share personal examples from recovery, including lessons about food boundaries, friendship dynamics, over-functioning, and learning to stop carrying relationships on my back.This episode is a reminder that social boundaries are not about becoming rigid, antisocial, or controlling. They're about creating relationships and social experiences where you don't have to leave yourself behind in order to participate.Because when you stop abandoning yourself socially, you stop building relationships out of exhaustion, resentment, over-functioning, and performance—and start building relationships where you can actually feel safe being yourself.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole PodcastFeeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: Boundaries Drain QuizCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 354 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm talking about social boundaries, over-functioning in friendships, and what happens when relationships quietly become dependent on your emotional labor, effort, and self-abandonment.When I first entered recovery, I thought my relationship struggles were mostly about romantic relationships. What I eventually realized was that many of the same codependent patterns were showing up in my friendships and colleague relationships too.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:How resentment can act as a diagnostic tool when it comes to boundariesWhat happens when you stop over-functioning and carrying relationships on your backThe difference between being valued as a person versus being valued for the emotional labor you provideWhy healthy relationships require mutuality, reciprocity, and movement toward each other from both peopleThe powerful realization that connection built on self-abandonment is not true connectionI also share personal experiences around always being the one initiating contact, maintaining relationships through anxiety and over-giving, and learning how to have more honest conversations instead of silently carrying resentment.This episode is a reminder that healthy connection is not about maintaining relationships at all costs. It's about learning how to stay connected to yourself while also allowing other people to show up, invest, and choose you too.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole PodcastFeeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: Boundaries Drain QuizCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
On this episode of the Awaken Your Wise Woman podcast, host Elizabeth Cush welcomes Annaliese Oatman, a multi-disciplinary artist and psychedelic somatic therapist, for a conversation about psychedelic-assisted therapy.“I like the idea that self-regulation is not one little practice that we engage in the moment that we're dysregulated, but it's a lifestyle.” — Annalise OatmanYou're doing the work. You're moving forward, but you feel like something is standing in the way of your progress. You're reaching for something but feel like it's out of your grasp. Your energy feels stuck. Maybe you could benefit by shaking up your nervous system. Throughout the ages, in cultures around the world, spiritual seekers have used psychedelics to enhance their exploration and attain new insights. In this episode of Awaken Your Wise Woman, host Elizabeth “Biz” Cush, LCPC, a licensed professional therapist, founder of Progression Counseling in Maryland and Delaware, and a soul support for highly sensitive women, welcomes Annalise Oatman, LCSW, a multi-disciplinary artist and a psychedelic-somatic therapist, for a discussion of amplifying the therapeutic process through the use of psychedelics. They talk about psychedelic-assisted therapy and how it is best used, and how highly sensitive women might find it to be a useful tool. You can find the full show notes and resources for all the episodes here.Support the showI hope you enjoyed the show!You can also follow me here:InstagramYouTubeFacebook
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 354 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm talking about social boundaries, over-functioning in friendships, and what happens when relationships quietly become dependent on your emotional labor, effort, and self-abandonment.When I first entered recovery, I thought my relationship struggles were mostly about romantic relationships. What I eventually realized was that many of the same codependent patterns were showing up in my friendships and colleague relationships too.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:How resentment can act as a diagnostic tool when it comes to boundariesWhat happens when you stop over-functioning and carrying relationships on your backThe difference between being valued as a person versus being valued for the emotional labor you provideWhy healthy relationships require mutuality, reciprocity, and movement toward each other from both peopleThe powerful realization that connection built on self-abandonment is not true connectionI also share personal experiences around always being the one initiating contact, maintaining relationships through anxiety and over-giving, and learning how to have more honest conversations instead of silently carrying resentment.This episode is a reminder that healthy connection is not about maintaining relationships at all costs. It's about learning how to stay connected to yourself while also allowing other people to show up, invest, and choose you too.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole PodcastFeeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: Boundaries Drain QuizCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
What if you didn't have to please everyone? Good news is... you don't. High achieving moms often fall into the people pleaser trap, but carrying the mental load of everyone else's expectations creates a "gross energy" of resentment that actually repels abundance. So we are diving into the power of mindful boundaries and how to transition from depletion to reciprocal energy. Push play to learn how to speak your truth and create the grounded, solid energy that money loves to be around! PS. Ready to see the "forest in the trees" and create a bigger vision for your life? BOOK YOUR CALL
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 353 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm sharing some of the biggest insights that emerged after analyzing 12 different coaching sessions with clients struggling with boundaries, self-care, guilt, resentment, and emotional overwhelm.What became clear is that most people do not actually need more information about boundaries. Many already know what healthy boundaries are intellectually. The deeper struggle is what happens internally when boundaries become emotionally real.I also share an important recovery resource called Survivors of Incest Anonymous (SIA) and why it's so important that more people know this fellowship exists.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why the real issue is often not boundary-setting, but staying connected to yourself during emotional discomfortHow people override their own needs, limits, and truth the moment guilt, anxiety, or tension appearThe difference between discomfort and actual dangerWhy over-giving and people-pleasing are often attempts to create emotional safetyWhat internal safety really means and why it's one of the deepest forms of self-careThis episode explores how many people are not reacting to actual events, but to anticipated guilt, rejection, disappointment, or conflict. And how learning to tolerate emotional discomfort without abandoning yourself changes everything.Because real self-care is not about perfection, productivity, or keeping everyone happy. It's about learning how to stay emotionally anchored in yourself when discomfort appears instead of automatically overriding your own feelings, needs, and limits.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole PodcastFeeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: Boundaries Drain QuizCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
In today's episode of Psych Talk I chat with Monica Tanner, relationship and intimacy coach, Certified Relational Life Therapy Practitioner, host of The Secrets of Happily Ever After Podcast, and author about harmful marriage advice and what to do instead. We start the discussion by Monica sharing her story of how she came into this field, as well as discussing her bookBad Marriage Advice: Debunking Myths That Will Make You Miserable and What To Do Instead. Monica shares some common harmful marriage myths and discusses how these myths negatively impact a couple's relationship and each individual's mental health. We discuss effective communication strategies that couples can implement to aid in their relationship, as well as mindset shifts couples can adopt for happier partnership. Monica also shares how couples can repair resentment and rebuild intimacy after a stressful period and how couples can model strong and healthy relationships for future generations.Information shared by guests on Psych Talk are reflective of their own values, perspectives, and life experiences. Psych Talk values platforming various perspectives and experiences even if those views are not necessarily reflective of Psych Talk's values and perspectives. Connect with Monica:Website: www.monicatanner.comPodcast: The Secrets of Happily Ever AfterBook: Bad Marriage AdviceIG: @monitalksmarriageConnect with Me:Follow me on IG @jessicaleighphdFollow the podcast on IG @psych.talk.podcastFollow me on TikTok @jessicaleighphdFollow me on Youtube Follow me on Threads @jessicaleighphdWelcome to Group Therapy PodcastWays to Work With Me:Mind Over MatterLGBTQ+ Affirming MasterclassBe a guest on my podcastResources:Anti-Racism ResourcesLGBTQ+ Affirming ResourcesThe Helping Professional's Guide to Boundary SettingIntro/Outro MusicLife of Riley by Kevin MacLeodMusic License
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 353 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm sharing some of the biggest insights that emerged after analyzing 12 different coaching sessions with clients struggling with boundaries, self-care, guilt, resentment, and emotional overwhelm.What became clear is that most people do not actually need more information about boundaries. Many already know what healthy boundaries are intellectually. The deeper struggle is what happens internally when boundaries become emotionally real.I also share an important recovery resource called Survivors of Incest Anonymous (SIA) and why it's so important that more people know this fellowship exists.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why the real issue is often not boundary-setting, but staying connected to yourself during emotional discomfortHow people override their own needs, limits, and truth the moment guilt, anxiety, or tension appearThe difference between discomfort and actual dangerWhy over-giving and people-pleasing are often attempts to create emotional safetyWhat internal safety really means and why it's one of the deepest forms of self-careThis episode explores how many people are not reacting to actual events, but to anticipated guilt, rejection, disappointment, or conflict. And how learning to tolerate emotional discomfort without abandoning yourself changes everything.Because real self-care is not about perfection, productivity, or keeping everyone happy. It's about learning how to stay emotionally anchored in yourself when discomfort appears instead of automatically overriding your own feelings, needs, and limits.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole PodcastFeeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: Boundaries Drain QuizCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Send us Fan MailIn this episode of the Magick Kitchen Podcast, Leandra Witchwood and Elyse Welles dive deeper into protection magic and the ethical nuance of baneful magick. This is not a fear-driven conversation about cursing for revenge. It is a grounded discussion about boundaries, spiritual self-protection, and what it means to keep yourself safe in difficult times.Together, they explore why protection magic is really a form of boundary-setting, why boundaries can feel painful even when they are necessary, and how mirror spells, bindings, cord cutting, and energetic cleansing can be used without creating harmful ties. They also unpack the difference between banishing and cursing, why intention matters, and how to think about protection in relationships, creative work, and everyday life.If you have ever wondered when stronger magical boundaries are appropriate, how to protect your energy without losing your integrity, or how to cut cords while still holding love, this episode offers a thoughtful, practical place to begin.Join monthly coven classes and experiences. LeandraWitchwood.com The Healing Our Feminine Wounding Immersive is a sacred retreat devoted to untangling inherited shame, silence, and survival patterns carried in the feminine body. Through ritual, reflection, and land based temple arts, we work gently and honestly with what has been passed down so that a truer, steadier way of being can emerge. Sacred Wild Wednesdays is a live weekly gathering with Elyse Welles featuring tarot readings for participants, magickal musings, and grounded spiritual teaching. Held in real time, this space offers guidance, perspective, and connection for those walking the Path of the Sacred Wild.Support the Podcast!
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Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 352 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm talking about burnout, compassion fatigue, and the deeper reason so many people struggle to consistently care for themselves—even when they know how important self-care is.This episode was inspired by a conversation I saw online about self-care in the helping professions, but the truth is, this applies far beyond therapists, coaches, or healthcare workers. If you're responsible for other people in any capacity, your internal state matters. Your nervous system matters. And your ability to stay connected to yourself matters.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why self-care is not optional, but a professional responsibilityThe difference between burnout and compassion fatigueHow burnout can be intensified by weak boundaries and chronic over-functioningWhy many people know self-care matters but still struggle to follow through on itThe role internal boundaries play in staying present with others without absorbing their painI also share personal experiences from my early internship work before recovery and compare that to the way I'm able to hold space for people today through the lens of recovery and boundaries work.This episode is a reminder that the issue is not simply knowing what to do. The deeper work is learning how to stay with yourself when guilt, anxiety, urgency, or discomfort show up the moment you try to take care of yourself.Because that's what ultimately protects you from burnout, compassion fatigue, and the ongoing pattern of overriding yourself.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole PodcastFeeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: Boundaries Drain QuizCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
In today's episode of Psych Talk I chat with Elizabeth Abbruzza, licensed therapist, about artificial intimacy. Liz defines for listeners what artificial intimacy is and how she has seen it show up in her clinical practice. We discussed why people are turning to AI for intimacy and connection, the benefits of having an AI companion, as well as the negative consequences of artificial intimacy. Liz shares how these relationships can become confusing or destabilizing for individuals with a trauma history, insecure attachment, or compulsive sexual behaviors. Liz then discusses the Artificial Intimacy Recovery Model, which her practice The Bellevue Trauma Recovery Center has created. We end the discussion by identifying some practical steps individuals can take to start healing from artificial intimate relationships that have caused harm.Information shared by guests on Psych Talk are reflective of their own values, perspectives, and life experiences. Psych Talk values platforming various perspectives and experiences even if those views are not necessarily reflective of Psych Talk's values and perspectives. Connect with Liz:Website: www.thebtrc.comWebsite: www.theairm.comIG: @the.btrcIG: @the.airmEmail: airm@thebtrc.comConnect with Me:Follow me on IG @jessicaleighphdFollow the podcast on IG @psych.talk.podcastFollow me on TikTok @jessicaleighphdFollow me on Youtube Follow me on Threads @jessicaleighphdWelcome to Group Therapy PodcastJoin my Facebook community: Grow Through What You Go ThroughWays to Work With Me:Mind Over MatterLGBTQ+ Affirming MasterclassBe a guest on my podcastResources:Anti-Racism ResourcesLGBTQ+ Affirming ResourcesThe Helping Professional's Guide to Boundary SettingIntro/Outro MusicLife of Riley by Kevin MacLeodMusic License
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 352 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm talking about burnout, compassion fatigue, and the deeper reason so many people struggle to consistently care for themselves—even when they know how important self-care is.This episode was inspired by a conversation I saw online about self-care in the helping professions, but the truth is, this applies far beyond therapists, coaches, or healthcare workers. If you're responsible for other people in any capacity, your internal state matters. Your nervous system matters. And your ability to stay connected to yourself matters.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why self-care is not optional, but a professional responsibilityThe difference between burnout and compassion fatigueHow burnout can be intensified by weak boundaries and chronic over-functioningWhy many people know self-care matters but still struggle to follow through on itThe role internal boundaries play in staying present with others without absorbing their painI also share personal experiences from my early internship work before recovery and compare that to the way I'm able to hold space for people today through the lens of recovery and boundaries work.This episode is a reminder that the issue is not simply knowing what to do. The deeper work is learning how to stay with yourself when guilt, anxiety, urgency, or discomfort show up the moment you try to take care of yourself.Because that's what ultimately protects you from burnout, compassion fatigue, and the ongoing pattern of overriding yourself.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole PodcastFeeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: Boundaries Drain QuizCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 351 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm talking about a form of self-abandonment that many high-achieving people don't recognize because it's often disguised as ambition, productivity, or “doing it for yourself.”This episode explores the difference between genuinely caring for yourself and organizing your entire life around a future version of you while neglecting the person you are right now. I share a conversation with someone pursuing a long-held dream and the important realization that even meaningful goals can become harmful when they're built on constant urgency, exhaustion, and disconnection from yourself.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why a future goal is not self-care if it's built on present-day self-abandonmentThe hidden ways self-abandonment shows up through urgency, over-functioning, and postponing your needsWhy “I'll take care of myself later” keeps people disconnected from themselves in the presentHow internal boundaries help you stay connected to yourself during stressful or messy seasons of lifeA simple daily question that helps you begin including yourself again: “What do I need right now?”This episode is a reminder that self-care is not just about the outcome you're working toward. It's about the way you treat yourself along the way. Because you cannot build a life that feels good later if you are abandoning yourself now.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole PodcastFeeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: Boundaries Drain QuizCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
In today's episode of Psych Talk I chat with Jenny Chan, co-founder of Pacific Atrocities Education. We start the episode with Jenny discussing what Pacific Atrocities Education is and the inspiration behind the organization. We talk about how western narratives overlook and silence stories from World War II in the Asia-Pacific region and the impact of these stories being overlooked and silenced. We discuss the human cost of collective traumas and how historical trauma informs present day mental health. Jenny discusses why it is important to remember difficult histories and how doing such can aid in our self-growth and resilience. Further we discuss how individuals can heal from historical wounds and what steps we need to take to ensure these tragedies do not happen again.Information shared by guests on Psych Talk are reflective of their own values, perspectives, and life experiences. Psych Talk values platforming various perspectives and experiences even if those views are not necessarily reflective of Psych Talk's values and perspectives. Connect with JennyWebsite: www.pacificatrocities.orgYoutube: Pacific Front UntoldIG: @pacificatrocitieseduConnect with Me:Follow me on IG @jessicaleighphdFollow the podcast on IG @psych.talk.podcastFollow me on TikTok @jessicaleighphdFollow me on Youtube Follow me on Threads @jessicaleighphdWelcome to Group Therapy PodcastJoin my Facebook community: Grow Through What You Go ThroughWays to Work With Me:Mind Over MatterLGBTQ+ Affirming MasterclassBe a guest on my podcastResources:Anti-Racism ResourcesLGBTQ+ Affirming ResourcesThe Helping Professional's Guide to Boundary SettingIntro/Outro MusicLife of Riley by Kevin MacLeodMusic License
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 351 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm talking about a form of self-abandonment that many high-achieving people don't recognize because it's often disguised as ambition, productivity, or “doing it for yourself.”This episode explores the difference between genuinely caring for yourself and organizing your entire life around a future version of you while neglecting the person you are right now. I share a conversation with someone pursuing a long-held dream and the important realization that even meaningful goals can become harmful when they're built on constant urgency, exhaustion, and disconnection from yourself.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why a future goal is not self-care if it's built on present-day self-abandonmentThe hidden ways self-abandonment shows up through urgency, over-functioning, and postponing your needsWhy “I'll take care of myself later” keeps people disconnected from themselves in the presentHow internal boundaries help you stay connected to yourself during stressful or messy seasons of lifeA simple daily question that helps you begin including yourself again: “What do I need right now?”This episode is a reminder that self-care is not just about the outcome you're working toward. It's about the way you treat yourself along the way. Because you cannot build a life that feels good later if you are abandoning yourself now.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole PodcastFeeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: Boundaries Drain QuizCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 350 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm joined by guest Art Blanchford to explore the journey from workaholism and people-pleasing into recovery, purpose, and spiritual alignment.Art shares his experience as a high-achieving corporate executive who spent decades in constant motion—running multi-billion dollar companies and staying in a cycle of overwork. When the pandemic forced everything to stop, it exposed what was really going on underneath. Through Workaholics Anonymous, he began learning how to let go of control and reconnect with himself.Some of the talking points we go over in this episode include:How workaholism can be socially rewarded while quietly disconnecting you from yourselfWhat happens when constant busyness stops and you're left with what's underneathWhat recovery in Workaholics Anonymous looks like and why many people don't recognize this patternThe shift from people-pleasing into a life guided by purpose and spiritualityWhat it really means to “let go and let God” in a practical wayThis conversation is a reminder that recovery isn't just about changing behavior—it's about reconnecting to yourself and creating a life that feels aligned instead of driven.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Happy Mental Health Awareness Month and 6 year anniversary of Psych Talk. In today's solo episode of Psych Talk I discuss media literacy and the impacts on mental health. I start the episode by defining what media literacy is and discuss media literacy education and why it is so important. I discuss the impact of AI on media literacy and the challenges it brings to deciphering real from misleading information. I discuss the impact of media literacy on youth, as well as the relationship between media literacy and mental health. I end the discussion by identifying ways that we can increase our media literacy skills. Resources:https://medialiteracynow.org/https://namle.org/resources/media-literacy-defined/https://www.projectlooksharp.org/our-approach.php#https://newslit.org/tips-tools/expand-your-view-with-lateral-reading/https://www.library.cornell.edu/about/news/getting-your-facts-straight-tips-on-media-literacy/Sources:https://arxiv.org/pdf/2401.05749https://www.europol.europa.eu/cms/sites/default/files/documents/Europol_Innovation_Lab_Facing_Reality_Law_Enforcement_And_The_Challenge_Of_Deepfakes.pdfhttps://www.apa.org/monitor/2024/04/teen-social-use-mental-healthhttps://www.commonsensemedia.org/sites/default/files/research/report/teens-trust-and-technology-in-the-age-of-ai_v2_web.pdfhttps://circle.tufts.edu/latest-research/youth-rely-digital-platforms-need-media-literacy-access-political-informationhttps://www.closeup.org/media-literacy-is-crucial-for-young-citizens/https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1747938X25000685https://medialiteracynow.org/why-media-literacy-now-supports-digital-wellness-and-media-literacy-in-health-education/Connect with Me:Follow me on IG @jessicaleighphdFollow the podcast on IG @psych.talk.podcastFollow me on TikTok @jessicaleighphdFollow me on Youtube Follow me on Threads @jessicaleighphdWelcome to Group Therapy PodcastWays to Work With Me:Mind Over MatterLGBTQ+ Affirming MasterclassBe a guest on my podcastResources:Anti-Racism ResourcesLGBTQ+ Affirming ResourcesThe Helping Professional's Guide to Boundary SettingIntro/Outro MusicLife of Riley by Kevin MacLeodMusic License
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 350 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm joined by guest Art Blanchford to explore the journey from workaholism and people-pleasing into recovery, purpose, and spiritual alignment.Art shares his experience as a high-achieving corporate executive who spent decades in constant motion—running multi-billion dollar companies and staying in a cycle of overwork. When the pandemic forced everything to stop, it exposed what was really going on underneath. Through Workaholics Anonymous, he began learning how to let go of control and reconnect with himself.Some of the talking points we go over in this episode include:How workaholism can be socially rewarded while quietly disconnecting you from yourselfWhat happens when constant busyness stops and you're left with what's underneathWhat recovery in Workaholics Anonymous looks like and why many people don't recognize this patternThe shift from people-pleasing into a life guided by purpose and spiritualityWhat it really means to “let go and let God” in a practical wayThis conversation is a reminder that recovery isn't just about changing behavior—it's about reconnecting to yourself and creating a life that feels aligned instead of driven.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Ask Rachel anything“My husband is highly critical of the teenagers, gets angry over little things and yells, so I'm having to make up for his behavior, and I often avoid involving him in parenting decisions."This message came into my Substack. It was a plaintiff request for support and a plea to know how others deal with the problem. When I posted it (with her permission), a flood of parents said, “This is my life too.”If you're dealing with high conflict in your home, whether with your teens or your partner, then this is the episode for you. Conflict navigation specialist, mediator, and divorce coach Masha Rusanov helps us to unpack what really sits behind high‑conflict dynamics at home—especially when one parent is emotionally dysregulated, highly critical, or reactive.She says: 'We don't choose our conflicts.We repeat them.Until we change the pattern."Link to my write-up on the topicIn our conversation we explore:Why we repeat the same painful conflict patterns (and how to start changing them)Masha's simple but powerful Exhale–Explore–Engage framework you can use in the heat of the momentPractical scripts and tools (EAR and BIFF) for navigating a high‑conflict partnerHow to protect your children emotionally, set boundaries, and avoid parentifying themWays to talk to your kids honestly about what's happening—without overburdening themIf you've ever found yourself “making up” for a partner's behaviour, or trying to keep things calm so your teens feel safe, this conversation is for you.Masha RusanovRepatterned BookREMINDER: Please don't stay in a situation that is potentially dangerous. This is the national domestic abuse helpline for the UK, but you will likely have one in your country if you're listening somewhere else.Spotting the signsIs your partner jealous and possessive?Is he charming one minute and abusive the next?Does he tell you what to wear, where to go, who to see?Does he constantly put you down?Does he play mind games and make you doubt your judgment?Does he control your money, or make sure you are dependent on him for everyday things?Does he pressure you to have sex when you don't want to?Are you starting to walk on eggshells to avoid making him angry?Does he control your access to medicine, devicSupport the showPlease hit the follow button if you like the podcast, and share it with anyone who might benefit. You can review us on Apple podcasts by going to the show page, scrolling down to the bottom where you can click on a star then you can leave your message. Please don't hesitate to seek the advice of a specialist if you're not coping. There's no shame in reaching out for support. When you look after yourself your entire family benefits.My email is teenagersuntangled@gmail.com My website has a blog, searchable episodes, and ways to contact me:www.teenagersuntangled.comFind me on Substack: https://teenagersuntangled.substack.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/teenagersuntangled/Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/teenagersuntangled/You can reach Susie at www.amindful-life.co.uk
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 349 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm zooming out on everything we've covered about time and energy boundaries to talk about the hardest part of all: the guilt you feel and the reactions you get when you start changing your patterns.Because boundaries aren't really about managing your life—they're about whether you stay with yourself or abandon yourself. In this episode, I walk you through what actually happens before, during, and after you set a boundary, and how to support yourself through the discomfort that comes with it.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why the hardest part of boundaries isn't setting them—it's managing the emotional discomfort before and after.How guilt doesn't mean you've done something wrong, but that you're breaking an old pattern.Why anchoring your boundaries in your values makes it easier to stay firm without second-guessing yourself.How to understand pushback from others without taking it as evidence that you did something wrong.The shift from trying to control others to focusing on what you will and won't do.One of the most important shifts in this episode is this:Other people's reactions are not evidence that you've done something wrong—they're simply evidence that something has changed.As you begin to stay with yourself through discomfort, guilt, and pushback, something powerful starts to happen. You build trust with yourself. And over time, boundaries stop being something you have to think about—and become something you live.Boundaries don't create problems. They reveal them. And that clarity is what allows real change to happen.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
You said yes again, even though you knew it was a bad idea. Now you're overextended, resentful, and wondering why you keep doing this to yourself. In this episode, Sam and Katy get real about people pleasing in a hospitality-driven industry, why setting boundaries feels so hard, and how to say no without the guilt spiral that usually follows.You'll learn:Why wedding pros are especially prone to codependent people pleasing patternsHow to say yes with conditions instead of just caving completelyThe bigger, better offer strategy that helps you focus on what you gain
In today's episode of Psych Talk I chat with Kendall Concini-Moore about talking to kids about mental health. Kendall shares some of her own journey with mental health struggles and discusses her book Mom's Cloud and the Beach Adventure and what inspired her to write it. We speak about parenting with mental illness and why it is important to talk to kids about mental health. Kendall shares ways in which we can talk to kids about mental health in a way they understand, as well as how we can lessen the stigma and shame many parents feel about having a mental illness while showing up as a parent. We finish off the discussion with Kendall sharing words of advice and encouragement for parents who are currently struggling with mental illness.Information shared by guests on Psych Talk are reflective of their own values, perspectives, and life experiences. Psych Talk values platforming various perspectives and experiences even if those views are not necessarily reflective of Psych Talk's values and perspectives. Connect with Kendall:IG: @cloudydaychronicles Website: www.cloudydaychronicles.orgBook: Mom's Cloud and the Beach AdventureGet a discount on the book using code PODCASTLOVEConnect with Me:Follow me on IG @jessicaleighphdFollow the podcast on IG @psych.talk.podcastFollow me on TikTok @jessicaleighphdFollow me on Youtube Follow me on Threads @jessicaleighphdWelcome to Group Therapy PodcastWays to Work With Me:Mind Over MatterLGBTQ+ Affirming MasterclassBe a guest on my podcastResources:Anti-Racism ResourcesLGBTQ+ Affirming ResourcesThe Helping Professional's Guide to Boundary SettingIntro/Outro MusicLife of Riley by Kevin MacLeodMusic License
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 349 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm zooming out on everything we've covered about time and energy boundaries to talk about the hardest part of all: the guilt you feel and the reactions you get when you start changing your patterns.Because boundaries aren't really about managing your life—they're about whether you stay with yourself or abandon yourself. In this episode, I walk you through what actually happens before, during, and after you set a boundary, and how to support yourself through the discomfort that comes with it.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why the hardest part of boundaries isn't setting them—it's managing the emotional discomfort before and after.How guilt doesn't mean you've done something wrong, but that you're breaking an old pattern.Why anchoring your boundaries in your values makes it easier to stay firm without second-guessing yourself.How to understand pushback from others without taking it as evidence that you did something wrong.The shift from trying to control others to focusing on what you will and won't do.One of the most important shifts in this episode is this:Other people's reactions are not evidence that you've done something wrong—they're simply evidence that something has changed.As you begin to stay with yourself through discomfort, guilt, and pushback, something powerful starts to happen. You build trust with yourself. And over time, boundaries stop being something you have to think about—and become something you live.Boundaries don't create problems. They reveal them. And that clarity is what allows real change to happen.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 348 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm talking about one of the biggest hidden drains on your time and energy—and something most people don't even realize is happening.It's not over-scheduling. It's not poor time management. It's what you're tolerating.In this episode, I walk you through how the small things you ignore, justify, or “put up with” are quietly draining your energy—and how shifting out of that pattern changes everything.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:• Why resentment is a powerful signal that something in your life needs a boundary. • How tolerating things that don't feel right creates a constant, invisible drain on your energy. • The stories we tell ourselves to justify staying in situations that don't serve us. • Why tolerating something is actually a form of self-abandonment, not “being nice.” • How asking “What am I tolerating?” can be more powerful than trying to manage your time better.One of the most important truths in this episode is this: If something is consistently draining you and it's still happening, you are participating in it—and that's where your power is.When you shift from overriding yourself to being in relationship with yourself, you stop tolerating what doesn't align with you. And that's when boundaries stop being something you set—and become something you have.You don't have to overhaul your entire life. Start with one thing. Get honest about what you're tolerating, the story you're telling yourself, and what's actually true.Because when you stop tolerating what drains you, you don't just get your time back—you get your energy, your presence, and yourself back.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
In today's episode of Psych Talk I chat with Dr. Susan Pierce Thompson, PhD, Professor of Brain and Cognitive Sciences, NYT Best Selling Author, and Founder and CEO of Bright Line Eating about maintaining weight loss when having a food addiction. Dr. Pierce Thompson shares her own journey with addiction and food addiction and the tools she has used to maintain her own weight loss and overcome her food addiction. We discuss what Bright Line Eating is and what inspired her to create it, as well as her fifth book Maintain: The Three Identity Shifts that Turn Temporary Weight Loss into Lasting Freedom, that comes out in April 2026. We discuss some common misconceptions when it comes to lasting weight loss, as well as mistakes or missteps individuals take when it comes to weight loss. Dr. Pierce Thompson discusses the role mindset plays in lasting weightless and why emotion regulation skills are essential for lasting weight loss in those who struggle with food addiction. Dr. Pierce Thompson directs listeners to the Food Addiction Quiz to help guide them in determining what level of support they may need when it comes to weight loss. We also discuss how weight loss is not a one size fits all approach and people are going to need various levels of support or various strategies to help them based on their individual needs.Information shared by guests on Psych Talk are reflective of their own values, perspectives, and life experiences. Psych Talk values platforming various perspectives and experiences even if those views are not necessarily reflective of Psych Talk's values and perspectives. Connect with Dr. Pierce ThompsonWebsite: www.brightlineeating.comFacebook: Susan Pierce Thompson, PhDInstagram: @brightlineeatingYouTube: Bright Line EatingLinkedIn: Susan Pierce Thompson, PhDFood Addiction Quiz: www.foodaddictionquiz.comConnect with Me:Follow me on IG @jessicaleighphdFollow the podcast on IG @psych.talk.podcastFollow me on TikTok @jessicaleighphdFollow me on Youtube Follow me on Threads @jessicaleighphdWelcome to Group Therapy PodcastJoin my Facebook community: Grow Through What You Go ThroughWays to Work With Me:Mind Over MatterLGBTQ+ Affirming MasterclassBe a guest on my podcastResources:Anti-Racism ResourcesLGBTQ+ Affirming ResourcesThe Helping Professional's Guide to Boundary SettingIntro/Outro MusicLife of Riley by Kevin MacLeodMusic License
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 348 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm talking about one of the biggest hidden drains on your time and energy—and something most people don't even realize is happening.It's not over-scheduling. It's not poor time management. It's what you're tolerating.In this episode, I walk you through how the small things you ignore, justify, or “put up with” are quietly draining your energy—and how shifting out of that pattern changes everything.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:• Why resentment is a powerful signal that something in your life needs a boundary. • How tolerating things that don't feel right creates a constant, invisible drain on your energy. • The stories we tell ourselves to justify staying in situations that don't serve us. • Why tolerating something is actually a form of self-abandonment, not “being nice.” • How asking “What am I tolerating?” can be more powerful than trying to manage your time better.One of the most important truths in this episode is this: If something is consistently draining you and it's still happening, you are participating in it—and that's where your power is.When you shift from overriding yourself to being in relationship with yourself, you stop tolerating what doesn't align with you. And that's when boundaries stop being something you set—and become something you have.You don't have to overhaul your entire life. Start with one thing. Get honest about what you're tolerating, the story you're telling yourself, and what's actually true.Because when you stop tolerating what drains you, you don't just get your time back—you get your energy, your presence, and yourself back.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 347 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm sharing a very real and practical look at time boundaries, what they actually look like in daily life, and how they changed everything for me.Before recovery, I thought my issue was time management. But the truth was much deeper: I didn't have boundaries around my time. That meant my time was constantly available to others, and I was unintentionally abandoning myself. In this episode, I walk you through the specific shifts I made to stop giving my time away and start living more intentionally.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:• Why time management isn't the real issue—lack of boundaries is what leaves your time open for others to take.• How small changes like turning off notifications and choosing when to respond helped reclaim control over time and energy.• The shift from reactive living to intentional scheduling through time blocking and focused work.• How training your brain to stay present (instead of constantly switching tasks) creates more productivity and less overwhelm.• Why protecting time for relationships, rest, and leisure is essential—and not something you need to earn.One of the biggest shifts I share in this episode is this:When you stop treating other people's access to you as more important than your relationship with yourself, everything changes.You begin to assign your time on purpose instead of reacting to whatever comes your way. And over time, that creates more clarity, more peace, and a deeper sense of ownership over your life.If you're constantly feeling like there's never enough time, it may not actually be a time problem. It may be that your time isn't protected.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 347 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm sharing a very real and practical look at time boundaries, what they actually look like in daily life, and how they changed everything for me.Before recovery, I thought my issue was time management. But the truth was much deeper: I didn't have boundaries around my time. That meant my time was constantly available to others, and I was unintentionally abandoning myself. In this episode, I walk you through the specific shifts I made to stop giving my time away and start living more intentionally.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:• Why time management isn't the real issue—lack of boundaries is what leaves your time open for others to take.• How small changes like turning off notifications and choosing when to respond helped reclaim control over time and energy.• The shift from reactive living to intentional scheduling through time blocking and focused work.• How training your brain to stay present (instead of constantly switching tasks) creates more productivity and less overwhelm.• Why protecting time for relationships, rest, and leisure is essential—and not something you need to earn.One of the biggest shifts I share in this episode is this:When you stop treating other people's access to you as more important than your relationship with yourself, everything changes.You begin to assign your time on purpose instead of reacting to whatever comes your way. And over time, that creates more clarity, more peace, and a deeper sense of ownership over your life.If you're constantly feeling like there's never enough time, it may not actually be a time problem. It may be that your time isn't protected.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 346 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm sharing a deeply personal experience that reshaped how I think about time and energy boundaries.After a period of illness, I noticed something unexpected: my capacity had changed, but my expectations hadn't. In this episode, I explore how misaligned expectations can quietly create resistance, frustration, and self-judgment—and how boundaries with your own time and energy help you reconnect with where you actually are.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:• Why time and energy boundaries are deeply connected, and how they impact what drains or fuels you.• How outdated expectations can create internal pressure when your capacity has shifted.• Why resistance is often your system protecting you, not a sign of laziness or lack of discipline.• How your body adapts after illness, burnout, or depletion by conserving energy and avoiding overload.• The shift from intensity to consistency as a way to rebuild trust with yourself.A key takeaway from this episode is learning to respect your current capacity instead of demanding your past capacity from yourself. When you align your expectations with where you actually are, you create internal safety and make sustainable progress possible.You don't have to force yourself back into an old version of who you were. You can build a new relationship with your time, your energy, and your life—starting exactly where you are today.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 346 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm sharing a deeply personal experience that reshaped how I think about time and energy boundaries.After a period of illness, I noticed something unexpected: my capacity had changed, but my expectations hadn't. In this episode, I explore how misaligned expectations can quietly create resistance, frustration, and self-judgment—and how boundaries with your own time and energy help you reconnect with where you actually are.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:• Why time and energy boundaries are deeply connected, and how they impact what drains or fuels you.• How outdated expectations can create internal pressure when your capacity has shifted.• Why resistance is often your system protecting you, not a sign of laziness or lack of discipline.• How your body adapts after illness, burnout, or depletion by conserving energy and avoiding overload.• The shift from intensity to consistency as a way to rebuild trust with yourself.A key takeaway from this episode is learning to respect your current capacity instead of demanding your past capacity from yourself. When you align your expectations with where you actually are, you create internal safety and make sustainable progress possible.You don't have to force yourself back into an old version of who you were. You can build a new relationship with your time, your energy, and your life—starting exactly where you are today.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 345 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm bringing together the core ideas we've been exploring in this recent series on internal boundaries and explaining how they actually get built in real life.Many people think boundaries are about what you say to other people. But internal boundaries begin inside you—when you stop abandoning yourself by rushing to rescue others or by attacking yourself internally. In this episode, I break down the practical steps that help your nervous system shift out of urgency and into steadiness.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:What internal boundaries really mean: Staying connected to yourself instead of rushing to rescue others or beating yourself up internally.The "False Urgency" trap: Why the urge to fix others activates your nervous system and makes someone else's struggle feel like your personal emergency.The power of internal scripts: How simple reminders like “Their problem is not my emergency” help interrupt old, automatic patterns of over-responsibility.Feelings as data: Why guilt, anxiety, or shame often appear when you stop rescuing—and why those feelings are information, not instructions.Compassion without self-abandonment: How grounding your nervous system helps you stay present and kind toward others without losing yourself in the process.Internal boundaries are not about becoming cold, distant, or disconnected. In fact, they do the opposite. They allow you to stay compassionate and connected to others without abandoning yourself in the process. Over time, as your internal boundaries strengthen, your external boundaries become easier to hold because you are no longer reacting from urgency or emotional activation.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole athttps://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here:https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 345 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm bringing together the core ideas we've been exploring in this recent series on internal boundaries and explaining how they actually get built in real life.Many people think boundaries are about what you say to other people. But internal boundaries begin inside you—when you stop abandoning yourself by rushing to rescue others or by attacking yourself internally. In this episode, I break down the practical steps that help your nervous system shift out of urgency and into steadiness.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:What internal boundaries really mean: Staying connected to yourself instead of rushing to rescue others or beating yourself up internally.The "False Urgency" trap: Why the urge to fix others activates your nervous system and makes someone else's struggle feel like your personal emergency.The power of internal scripts: How simple reminders like “Their problem is not my emergency” help interrupt old, automatic patterns of over-responsibility.Feelings as data: Why guilt, anxiety, or shame often appear when you stop rescuing—and why those feelings are information, not instructions.Compassion without self-abandonment: How grounding your nervous system helps you stay present and kind toward others without losing yourself in the process.Internal boundaries are not about becoming cold, distant, or disconnected. In fact, they do the opposite. They allow you to stay compassionate and connected to others without abandoning yourself in the process. Over time, as your internal boundaries strengthen, your external boundaries become easier to hold because you are no longer reacting from urgency or emotional activation.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole athttps://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here:https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Why mastering unspoken workplace communication is essential to long-term career success.Succeeding at work doesn't just depend on how hard you work or how smart you are. According to Erin McGoff, it often comes down to whether you understand the “secret language” everyone else seems to be speaking.McGoff is a career creator, Forbes 30 Under 30 honoree, and author of The Secret Language of Work: Hyper Helpful Scripts for Every Situation. Known for her wildly popular AdviceWithErin platform, she helps millions of professionals phrase things more effectively — without sounding stiff or robotic. “It's this hidden curriculum to the workforce,” she explains, describing the unwritten rules of interviews, negotiations, and professional etiquette. “It's not written down anywhere. It's not equally distributed.” Her mission is to make those invisible rules visible — and usable.In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, McGoff and host Matt Abrahams explore how to communicate with confidence, advocate for yourself strategically, and build a professional brand with intention. Confidence, she says, isn't fixed: “Confidence isn't binary. Confidence is a spectrum.” It starts internally, with how we speak to ourselves, and strengthens when we “get really good at what you do.”Episode Reference Links:Erin McGoffErin's Book: The Secret Language of Work202. Own Your Brand: How to Communicate with Presence and Impact Connect:Premium Signup >>>> Think Fast Talk Smart PremiumEmail Questions & Feedback >>> hello@fastersmarter.ioEpisode Transcripts >>> Think Fast Talk Smart WebsiteNewsletter Signup + English Language Learning >>> FasterSmarter.ioThink Fast Talk Smart >>> LinkedIn, Instagram, YouTubeMatt Abrahams >>> LinkedInChapters:(00:00) - Introduction (04:56) - The Secret Language of Work (06:32) - Building Confidence (08:39) - Creating Your Professional Brand (10:00) - Setting Expectations at Work (12:31) - Advocate Strategically (14:34) - Mastering First Impressions (15:50) - Professional vs. Personal (18:19) - Interview Before, During, After (22:55) - Nonverbal Presence (23:19) - The Final Three Questions (27:18) - Conclusion ********Thank you to our sponsors. These partnerships support the ongoing production of the podcast, allowing us to bring it to you at no cost.This episode is brought to you by Babbel. Think Fast Talk Smart listeners can get started on your language learning journey today- visit Babbel.com/Thinkfast and get up to 55% off your Babbel subscription.Join our Think Fast Talk Smart Learning Community and become the communicator you want to be.
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 344 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm sharing how internal boundaries help you stop the exhausting cycle of emotional over-responsibility and the urge to fix everyone around you.This episode was inspired by powerful feedback from a listener and a member of my coaching community. Both stories point to a common pattern many people experience: when someone around them is struggling, their nervous system instantly jumps into fixing mode. But true boundary work isn't just about what you say to others. It's about what changes inside you.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:• Why many people feel an urgent need to fix other people's emotional struggles, especially if they grew up in chaotic or unpredictable environments.• How the simple skill of pausing helps interrupt automatic reactions and creates space for healthier responses.• Why learning that other people's chaos is not danger is a foundational shift for your nervous system.• How internal boundaries strengthen your emotional “container” so other people's feelings don't spill into your inner world.• A powerful question that helps you recognize when you've slipped into rescue mode: Who is more invested in solving this situation?When your internal boundaries grow stronger, something important changes. You can stay present and compassionate without absorbing responsibility for someone else's emotions or problems. You learn that caring about someone doesn't require rescuing them.You can remain connected to others while staying anchored in yourself.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode 344 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm sharing how internal boundaries help you stop the exhausting cycle of emotional over-responsibility and the urge to fix everyone around you.This episode was inspired by powerful feedback from a listener and a member of my coaching community. Both stories point to a common pattern many people experience: when someone around them is struggling, their nervous system instantly jumps into fixing mode. But true boundary work isn't just about what you say to others. It's about what changes inside you.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:• Why many people feel an urgent need to fix other people's emotional struggles, especially if they grew up in chaotic or unpredictable environments.• How the simple skill of pausing helps interrupt automatic reactions and creates space for healthier responses.• Why learning that other people's chaos is not danger is a foundational shift for your nervous system.• How internal boundaries strengthen your emotional “container” so other people's feelings don't spill into your inner world.• A powerful question that helps you recognize when you've slipped into rescue mode: Who is more invested in solving this situation?When your internal boundaries grow stronger, something important changes. You can stay present and compassionate without absorbing responsibility for someone else's emotions or problems. You learn that caring about someone doesn't require rescuing them.You can remain connected to others while staying anchored in yourself.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Send a textIn this week's episode 343 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm sharing a powerful shift that changes the way we relate to other people's crises. When you grow up feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions, someone else's chaos doesn't feel like inconvenience. It feels like danger.In this episode, I explain how internal boundaries allow you to care deeply without collapsing into rescue mode.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:• Why people who were parentified or over-responsible growing up often experience other people's problems as an emergency their nervous system must fix.• The difference between setting boundaries and having boundaries internally, where you remain steady even when others are in chaos.• Why compassion and responsibility are not the same thing, and how learning to separate them changes your emotional life.• How rescuing often comes from anxiety, not true responsibility.• Why internal boundaries create internal safety, allowing you to stay whole even when others are struggling.How to Build Internal Boundaries1. Notice the activationYour body may react first: your chest tightens, your mind races, and you start planning how to fix the situation. This is your old wiring interpreting someone else's chaos as danger.2. Interrupt the automatic meaningInstead of thinking “If I don't fix this, I'm a bad person,” insert a new thought:“I can care without intervening.”“Their chaos is not my emergency.”3. Separate compassion from responsibilityYou can feel compassion for someone without taking responsibility for solving their problem.4. Tolerate the discomfort of not interveningYour nervous system may protest and tell you that you're being selfish or abandoning them. Stay present and allow the discomfort to pass without jumping in to fix it.5. Allow consequences to unfoldWhen you stop intercepting reality, people experience the natural consequences of their choices. Over time, your nervous system learns something powerful: other people's chaos is not danger.You don't have to stay stuck in the cycle of rescuing, fixing, and managing other people's lives in order to feel safe. Internal boundaries create internal safety and allow you to remain grounded even in the presence of someone else's crisis.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole athttps://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here:https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Grenzen setzen als Karrierebooster: 6 Boundary Shifts für mehr Einfluss & ErfolgGrenzen setzen ist keine Schwäche – es ist Karrierearbeit. In dieser Folge des Female Leadership Podcasts teilt Vera Strauch, warum klare Grenzen der unterschätzte Schlüssel zu mehr Einfluss, mehr Respekt und langfristigem Karriereerfolg sind.Vera reflektiert offen über ein persönlich sehr anstrengendes Karrierejahr, in dem fehlende Grenzziehung zu Reaktivität, Erschöpfung und Frust geführt hat – und was sich verändert hat, seitdem sie Grenzen bewusst als Führungsinstrument einsetzt.Die ultimativen 6 Leitfragen, die dir dabei helfen können, findest du hier.Was dich in dieser Folge erwartet:Warum Grenzen setzen direkten Einfluss auf deine Karriereentwicklung, Sichtbarkeit und Positionierung hatWie weibliche Sozialisation das Nein-Sagen erschwert – und wie du dieses Muster durchbrichstDie 6 konkreten Boundary Shifts für deinen BerufsalltagKonkrete Formulierungen für ein klares, professionelles Nein – die du direkt im nächsten Meeting einsetzen kannstWarum Überverantwortlichkeit für die Gefühle anderer dich bremst – und was du stattdessen tun kannstWie Grenzen dein professionelles Profil und deine Reputation aktiv stärkenDie 6 Boundary Shifts im Überblick:Radikale Ehrlichkeit mit dir selbst: Verstehe dein Ja-ProblemSelbstakzeptanz & Selbstpriorität: Du musst dich selbst zur Priorität machenAbstand von Überverantwortlichkeit: Du bist nicht für die Gefühle anderer verantwortlichLösungsorientierte Kommunikation: Ein gut formuliertes Nein fördert KooperationGrenzen als Positionierung: Grenzen im Job schärfen dein Profil und deine ReputationPräsenz & Reflexionsroutine: Bleib bei dir – und hol dir das Ruder zurückKeywords: Grenzen setzen, Führungskräfte Frauen, Female Leadership, Karriere Frauen, Boundary Setting, Work-Life-Balance Führung, Nein sagen Beruf, People Pleasing überwinden, Selbstpositionierung, Non-Promotable Tasks, Führungsstärke, Karriereplanung Frauen, Empowerment, Leadership Podcast Deutsch+++Die vollständige Episode findest du hier.Deine Leitfragen für bessere Grenzen kannst du dir hier herunterladen.Du willst 2026 deine Karriere selbst erzählen? Dann melde dich jetzt bei der Female Leadership Academy 2026 an und gestalte deine Leadership Karriere mit uns.Du brauchst mehr Infos? Melde dich hier zum Newsletter an.+++ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Send a textIn this week's episode 343 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm sharing a powerful shift that changes the way we relate to other people's crises. When you grow up feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions, someone else's chaos doesn't feel like inconvenience. It feels like danger.In this episode, I explain how internal boundaries allow you to care deeply without collapsing into rescue mode.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:• Why people who were parentified or over-responsible growing up often experience other people's problems as an emergency their nervous system must fix.• The difference between setting boundaries and having boundaries internally, where you remain steady even when others are in chaos.• Why compassion and responsibility are not the same thing, and how learning to separate them changes your emotional life.• How rescuing often comes from anxiety, not true responsibility.• Why internal boundaries create internal safety, allowing you to stay whole even when others are struggling.How to Build Internal Boundaries1. Notice the activationYour body may react first: your chest tightens, your mind races, and you start planning how to fix the situation. This is your old wiring interpreting someone else's chaos as danger.2. Interrupt the automatic meaningInstead of thinking “If I don't fix this, I'm a bad person,” insert a new thought:“I can care without intervening.”“Their chaos is not my emergency.”3. Separate compassion from responsibilityYou can feel compassion for someone without taking responsibility for solving their problem.4. Tolerate the discomfort of not interveningYour nervous system may protest and tell you that you're being selfish or abandoning them. Stay present and allow the discomfort to pass without jumping in to fix it.5. Allow consequences to unfoldWhen you stop intercepting reality, people experience the natural consequences of their choices. Over time, your nervous system learns something powerful: other people's chaos is not danger.You don't have to stay stuck in the cycle of rescuing, fixing, and managing other people's lives in order to feel safe. Internal boundaries create internal safety and allow you to remain grounded even in the presence of someone else's crisis.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole athttps://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here:https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Send a textIn this week's episode 342 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm exploring why adult friendships can sometimes feel surprisingly similar to middle school dynamics.Many people stay in friendships where they feel like they have to stay quiet, avoid conflict, or shrink themselves just to remain included. In this episode, I talk about the deeper reasons we tolerate these patterns and how developing internal boundaries changes the way we show up in friendships.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why adults sometimes recreate the same social dynamics they experienced growing up.How the belief that connection requires self-abandonment keeps people stuck in unhealthy friendships.The difference between external boundaries (what you say to others) and internal boundaries (what you stop doing to yourself).How over-functioning in friendships leads to resentment and emotional exhaustion.Why real belonging never requires you to betray yourself.3 Steps to Strengthen Internal BoundariesStep 1: Name the price you're payingAsk yourself what it costs you to stay connected in a particular relationship. For example: I have to stay quiet even when something bothers me.Step 2: Tell the truth about the tradeNotice how you abandon yourself when you pay that price. For example: When I stay quiet, I ignore my own needs to keep the peace.Step 3: Set the internal boundary firstDecide what you will no longer do to yourself. When that internal boundary becomes clear, the external boundary becomes much simpler.You don't have to keep “paying” for connection with your dignity. Healthy friendships allow you to show up honestly without shrinking yourself to belong.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Send a textIn this week's episode 342 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm exploring why adult friendships can sometimes feel surprisingly similar to middle school dynamics.Many people stay in friendships where they feel like they have to stay quiet, avoid conflict, or shrink themselves just to remain included. In this episode, I talk about the deeper reasons we tolerate these patterns and how developing internal boundaries changes the way we show up in friendships.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why adults sometimes recreate the same social dynamics they experienced growing up.How the belief that connection requires self-abandonment keeps people stuck in unhealthy friendships.The difference between external boundaries (what you say to others) and internal boundaries (what you stop doing to yourself).How over-functioning in friendships leads to resentment and emotional exhaustion.Why real belonging never requires you to betray yourself.3 Steps to Strengthen Internal BoundariesStep 1: Name the price you're payingAsk yourself what it costs you to stay connected in a particular relationship. For example: I have to stay quiet even when something bothers me.Step 2: Tell the truth about the tradeNotice how you abandon yourself when you pay that price. For example: When I stay quiet, I ignore my own needs to keep the peace.Step 3: Set the internal boundary firstDecide what you will no longer do to yourself. When that internal boundary becomes clear, the external boundary becomes much simpler.You don't have to keep “paying” for connection with your dignity. Healthy friendships allow you to show up honestly without shrinking yourself to belong.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Send a textIn this week's episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm sharing the origin story of my Inner Safety Skill Building Method and why most boundary work fails without internal containment.I didn't learn boundaries from books. I learned them as a byproduct of recovery. And what I eventually discovered is this: external boundaries only hold when internal boundaries exist first. If you've ever thought, “I know how to say no, but I still feel awful afterward,” this episode explains why.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:• The difference between self-protection and self-containment• Why rumination, catastrophizing, and self-attack violate your internal boundaries• Why knowing what to say is not the same as being able to stand behind it• The five skills for building internal safety• How unshakability is steadiness, not perfectionYou don't need more scripts.You need more internal containment.Wholeness is not perfection.It's the absence of self-abandonment in the presence of emotion.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tools on building emotional safety from the inside out and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways.Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Send a textIn this week's episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm joined by guest Spencer T, Al-Anon member and host of The Recovery Show, for a deeply grounding conversation about what it looks like to practice recovery when life gets hard.We talk about loving detachment, acceptance, grief, and how the principles of recovery continue to guide us through parenting, dementia, loss, and everyday uncertainty. This is a conversation about building emotional resilience that lasts long after the original crisis has passed.Some of the talking points we go over in this episode include:Spencer's turning point with the Three C's: You didn't Cause it, you can't Control it, and you can't Cure itThe difference between supporting someone and enabling them, especially in parenting adult childrenWhat loving detachment looks like in real life, not just in theoryHow acceptance means recognizing that what is, is, and meeting reality without resistanceWhy grief doesn't follow a schedule, and how gratitude can coexist even on the hardest daysRecovery isn't something you master once. It's something you practice daily. Life still gets lifey. But when you build emotional boundaries, community, and perspective, you move through it with more steadiness and less isolation.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes for grounded conversations on recovery, emotional maturity, and living a more whole life.Thank you for listening. If this episode resonated, take a screenshot and share it in your stories. Tag me and let me know your biggest takeaway. And don't forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast.Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at:https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it:https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
In today's episode of Psych Talk I speak with Destiny Davis, LPC, CRC about chronic illness and medical trauma. Destiny shares about her journey into specializing in chronic illness as a therapist and her personal experiences with chronic illness. Throughout the discussion, Destiny defines for listeners what chronic illness is, as well as what medical trauma is. We discuss some examples of types of medical traumas, as well as common symptoms that may indicate someone has experienced medical trauma. We discuss the intersection of chronic illness and mental health and the bidirectional nature of these things. Destiny shares how both somatic experience and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can be beneficial for those who have experienced medical trauma or live with a chronic illness. Connect with Destiny:IG: @thechronicillnesstherapistsPodcast: The Chronic Illness TherapistsWebsite: www.thechronicillnesstherapist.comMonthly Consultation GroupAtlanta Conference (CEs provided)Additional resources for therapists and allied health professionalsConnect with Me:Follow me on IG @jessicaleighphdFollow the podcast on IG @psych.talk.podcastFollow me on TikTok @jessicaleighphdFollow me on Youtube Follow me on Threads @jessicaleighphdWelcome to Group Therapy PodcastJoin my Facebook community: Grow Through What You Go ThroughWays to Work With Me:Mind Over MatterLGBTQ+ Affirming MasterclassBe a guest on my podcastResources:Anti-Racism ResourcesLGBTQ+ Affirming ResourcesThe Helping Professional's Guide to Boundary SettingIntro/Outro MusicLife of Riley by Kevin MacLeodMusic License
Send a textIn this week's episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm exploring what it really means to be whole and how emotional boundaries are what make that wholeness possible.Inspired by the image of a plant that is always changing yet never fragmented, we look at the difference between being unfinished and being fractured. Wholeness is not about being calm all the time or having everything figured out. It's about integration. It's about not abandoning yourself as you evolve.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why wholeness does not mean finished, but integratedThe difference between fragmentation and changeHow emotional boundaries allow feelings to move through you without taking you overWhy outgrowing identities like “the responsible one” or “the peacemaker” can feel like dyingHow internal safety allows you to stay with yourself through anger, grief, fear, and growthWholeness is not the absence of emotion. It's the absence of self-abandonment in the presence of emotion.You don't need to be finished to be whole. You don't need to be stable in every moment to be unshakable. You are allowed to evolve without losing yourself.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes for grounded insight on emotional maturity, boundaries, and building a life that feels integrated instead of fragmented.Thank you for listening. If this episode resonated, take a screenshot and share it in your stories, tag me, and let me know what stood out. And don't forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast.Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at:https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it:https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
Stop apologizing for your boundaries and start protecting your peace. Are you feeling drained by the "external noise" of a chaotic world? In this 10-minute guided meditation, we explore the essential practice of mental shielding and energy protection. Designed specifically for empaths and those struggling with anxiety, this session provides a "somatic anchor" to help you detach from stress and reclaim your inner pilot light. In This Episode, You Will Explore:The Protective Sphere: A powerful visualization to build a "bubble of warmth" around your body, acting as a shield where chaotic energy simply bounces off. Somatic Release: Breathwork techniques (Inhale for 4, Exhale for 6) to signal your nervous system to "relax and unwind." Boundary Affirmations: Reframe your mindset with powerful intentions: "I am the guardian of my own energy" and "I can say no without guilt." The Log Cabin Visualization: Learn to observe the "winter storms" of life—job stress and expectations—through a window of detachment rather than being swept away by them. 3 Caring Tips for Daily Boundary Setting: The One-Minute Wait: Before committing to new requests, take 60 seconds to check your actual energy capacity. Visual Unplugging: Physically turn your phone face down or cover standby lights to give your brain a rest from "visual noise." The Warm Drink Anchor: Use the physical sensation of heat on your palms to ground yourself instantly in the present moment. About the Winter Radiance SeriesThis episode is Part 2 of our special Winter Radiance mini-series. While Part 1 focused on rekindling the spark, today we build the sanctuary. Join us tomorrow for Part 3, where we learn how to use this newly protected energy to bloom and grow. Subscribe & Review: If this meditation helped you find your center, please subscribe to Calming Anxiety on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your reviews help other empaths find the mental shielding they need to thrive.Remember: To your beautiful soul, be kind.
Send us a textIn this week's episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm unpacking a topic that sits at the core of emotional healing and change: discomfort. Not all discomfort is the same, and confusing them is one of the main reasons people stay stuck far longer than they need to. One form of discomfort is the kind that keeps us trapped, the other is the kind that helps us grow.This episode is about learning how to tell the difference between chronic, soul-draining discomfort and the finite discomfort that leads to real healing, and how internal safety and support make all the difference.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:The difference between the endless discomfort of staying stuck and the temporary discomfort that comes with growth and changeWhy experiential avoidance numbs not only pain, but also joy, meaning, and alivenessHow manageable discomfort creates learning, flow, and forward movement instead of shutdownWhy a “safe base,” internally and externally, is essential for sustainable growthHow boundaries, emotional regulation, and support systems create the safety needed to tolerate changeDiscomfort isn't the enemy. But unsupported, overwhelming discomfort keeps us frozen. When you choose the finite discomfort of growth and pair it with enough safety, healing becomes possible and sustainable.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes for grounded insights, emotional tools, and practical guidance on living a more whole and connected life.Thank you for listening. If this episode resonated, take a screenshot and share it in your stories, tag me, and let me know what stood out. And don't forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast.Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at:https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained or stuck? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it:https://higherpowercc.com/drain/Katja Cahoon's websiteCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
This week we're discussing Love as a Boundary Setting boundaries can feel especially difficult when you are a solo parent. You are carrying more, managing more emotions, and often trying to protect your children from further pain. In this conversation, Robert Beeson, Founder & CEO of Solo Parent, and Elizabeth Cole, single parent, are joined by Dr. Henry Cloud, clinical psychologist, leadership expert, and bestselling author of Boundaries, to talk about how healthy limits actually strengthen relationships, protect your peace, and help your children grow. Many solo parents wrestle with the same tensions. Saying yes out of guilt. Overcompensating for what their kids have been through. Feeling exhausted but unsure how to change long-standing patterns. These struggles matter because without boundaries, burnout, resentment, and chaos slowly replace the calm and stability every family needs. Today, we cover three main points: Why boundaries are not selfish Boundaries define where you end and someone else begins. When you protect your time, energy, and emotional health, you are not choosing yourself over others. You are creating the capacity to love well and consistently. Why love requires limits Love without structure often leads to resentment or enabling. Healthy limits protect relationships and allow generosity and connection to flourish in a sustainable way. Why boundaries help children grow Children need loving limits to develop responsibility, emotional regulation, and respect for others. What feels hard in the moment often prepares them for a healthier future. Healthy boundaries are not about controlling others. They are about taking responsibility for what is yours and building a home where both you and your children can thrive. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Dr. Henry Cloud Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend Necessary Endings by Dr. Henry Cloud Stay Connected + Get Support: Download our Solo Parent App Join a Solo Parent Online Group Learn more about Solo Parent Follow us on Instagram
Send Dr. Li a text here. Please leave your email address if you would like a reply, thanks.In this episode, Dr. Christine Li talks with mental health therapist and coach Allison Ly about how to set healthy boundaries—especially for adults with immigrant parents. Drawing from personal and professional experience, Allison Ly explains why boundary-setting is often challenging in immigrant families.The episode features practical advice for tuning into your own needs, navigating family pushback, and handling guilt, highlighting that boundary-setting is a gradual process that strengthens relationships rather than weakens them. By sharing strategies and resources—including her "Say No" cheat sheet—Allison Ly offers listeners a pathway to healthier, more peaceful family dynamics.Timestamps00:00:00 – 00:02:44: Dr. Christine Li introduces the episode, guest, and upcoming event.00:02:49 – 00:04:14: Formal welcome and start of discussion on boundaries.00:04:15 – 00:08:34: Allison Ly on boundary challenges in immigrant families.00:08:44 – 00:12:49: Examples and personal experiences with boundaries.00:12:50 – 00:16:22: Handling pushback and emotional awareness.00:16:59 – 00:29:08: Gradual boundary change and effects on relationships.To get the free download that accompanies this episode, go to: https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/saynoJoin Allison's live workshop on February 26th at 11 am PST Adults with Immigrant Parents: The Key to Stop People Pleasing and Spiraling in Guilt: https://heyallisonly.com/secretTo sign up for the Waitlist for the Simply Productive Program, go to https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/SPFor more information on the Make Time for Success podcast, visit: https://www.maketimeforsuccesspodcast.comGain Access to Dr. Christine Li's Free Resource Library -- 12 downloadable tools and templates to help you bypass the impulse to procrastinate: https://procrastinationcoach.mykajabi.com/freelibraryTo work with Dr. Li on a weekly basis in her coaching and accountability program, register for The Success Lab here: https://www.procrastinationcoach.com/labConnect with Us!Dr. Christine LiWebsite: https://www.procrastinationcoach.comFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/procrastinationcoachInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/procrastinationcoach/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@procrastinationcoachThe Success Lab: https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/lab Simply Productive: https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/SPAllison LyWebsite: https://www.heyallisonly.comPodcast: https://www.heyallisonly.com/podcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/heyallisonlyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@heyallisonly