The Wise Millennial

How can taking care of your body and knowing your strengths & weaknesses help build your confidence? Let's talk about it! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

Being friends with the opposite sex when you're in a relationship/ married So this is a question I think you have to answer for yourself and with your partner both before and after you get into a relationship. It spans from basically being a non issue to being the reason people split up. What are your boundaries or lack thereof with the opposite sex currently and how/would they change if you got into a relationship? Once you got into a relationship would you expect your partner to change? For example, if you're a woman and you start dating a guy who has a lot of female friends whom he hangs out with on a regular basis? Would you be comfortable with that? Should you be expected to be comfortable with that? Say, they tell you they're uncomfortable with that, how much should you be expected to pull back? Let's get into this --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

Want to be more effective? Listen as I put my own spin on Stephan R. Covey's 7 habits of highly effective people. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

I know for most of us, at the very least this last year was annoying as heck and completely crippling at worst. I know we all have been affected by the events of this last year and in a lot of ways are going to be dealing with the after math for a long time. What I want to say today has a higher than normal chance to hurt some feelings. I want to preface that this is for a specific audience. I will try to be as compassionate as possible, but I also must speak truth as I see it. And even beyond that, know that not every battle is yours. Not every message is meant for you. You don't have to pick up everything that comes across your path. Sometimes the best weapon is not that of a slashing sword but one of peace and joy. I know it sounds like a hallmark card, but I find this lesson to be true more than not. On that note, I hope that you can hear my heart. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

So I grew up in church. I've been a Christian since I was like 7, I went to Bible college for 3 years, so I've heard a lot of teachings about the bible over my short life. I certainly am no where close to knowing everything but I've certainly learned a few things. I'm starting a series where I talk about topics in the bible that I think are widely misunderstood or misinterpreted by either christians or non christians. Let's start with a fun one. So growing up in the church I heard all the time that God hates divorce and that you should never get divorced….. Except if someone has an extra marital affair. Also, by no means at all am I trying to judge or condemn you if you're divorced. I come from a divorced household and I've experienced firsthand how painful it is and I don't wish it on anyone and I would not be so cruel as to throw that in your face. That being said, my heart here is simply to shine some light on how the bible talks about divorce. Seems right. I think anyone who has gone through a divorce would tell you, they don't recommend it. But specifically, most of the church, at least that I've seen, only condones divorce in the case of sexual immorality but they really just mean in the case of an affair. And you know, Having an affair is terrible and painful situation. So when I heard this I just accepted this for a long time.and the message just got driven into my head, don't get divorced, unless there's an affair in which case you should get a divorce. But the older I got, and especially after I got into a serious relationship, the more this didn't make sense to me. So does that mean all other sin in marriage is meant to be tolerated? What if your spouse abuses you? Your children? Is lazy is arrogant, all that flies but sexual immorality doesn't? Since there are so many things that seemed to be equally terrible why was just this one thing listed? That's not something that would be overlooked. So to me, it seemed like you should either, with gods blessing, be able to get divorced under an entire list of things or over not really anything at all. So let's get into the scriptures. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

We all have a style and here they are. Pursuers, distances, underfunctioners, overfunctioners, and blamers. Which one are you? https://joemcfadden.blog/2016/08/24/five-anger-management-styles/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

What is mental health social media teaching us? Is it creating a more toxic and PC culture? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

You can't help what cards the world hands you, but you can control how you respond to it. You can control your own thoughts and behaviors. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

So when you look at your work life, your friendships, your family, are you happy whne they get that propmotion, when they get into a relationship, when they're seeing progress in an area you've been working towards. The thing is they also become an incredible resource to you, for knowledge, for connections, and when you're jealous you cut them up, metaphorically, you are telling your subconscious that you don't want to be like them, you know how hard it is to become like what you don't like? Imagine if you told yourself things like, I knew it was possible. Look, someone I know has done it, I can do it too, I should ask them what their secrets are, I'm going to priase the pants off them for all the work they've done and send a message to myself that I will get there too, it's just a matter of time. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

Don't let your worst weeks be the standard for your life. Let it be a moment that passes and start new. Let your best week be the new standard and grow from there. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

Actions speak louder than words. Your actions follow your value system. You can only fake for so long what you really feel inside. This is why the saying goes, if you give someone enough rope, they'll hang themselves. We try to make excuses for people, they're busy, they just forgot. And maybe a once in a while thing, but if this is their chronic behavior, you are being way too easy on them. You shouldn't have to work so hard to keep someone in your life who doesn't care if they're there or not. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

See we think that forgiveness is for the other person, and don't get me wrong, I'm married, I understand the power of the question, will you forgive me. That being said, it's 10,000 times more for you. Forgiveness isn't saying that what that person did was okay, it's not saying that you have to trust them, or even ever talk to them again, but it says, I will not longer tie myself to you or this situation, because that's what unforgiveness does, it's chains that hold you to that moment in time and you can't move on. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

This will change your life! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

You're never to old to start learning something new --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

Listen and find out! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

When someone gives hate it's because that's all they have to give. How do we not get held back from the people in our lives who talk trash and don't have our best interests? Let's talk about it. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

We know that when it comes to what we eat, there's no way around it, your habits will show. But what if you apply this concept to the other areas of your life? What if you thought about the media and influences you consume in your life as the fuel for your brain? Look at your life. Are you producing positivity, inspiration, and productivity? If not, start with taking a look at what you're feeding yourself. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

We are all the protagonists of our own lives, but could be the antagonists of someone else's. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

People need water, exercise, sunlight, and friends to name a few. Often times we're doing bad and we don't even know it. Or we know we're doing bad and don't know why. In this podcast I take a dive into the fundamentals of self care to make it approachable and accessible. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

When you're building your self-esteem you need a good foundation. In this podcast I go over some practical tips on how to build your self-esteem from the ground up. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

The worth of something is determined by how much someone is willing to pay for that item. What's the most that has been paid to you? Who paid it? The definition of self esteem is the self evaluation of ones own worth. So how do you build self esteem? There's a price that has to be paid. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

There are two sides to every coin. If making a boundary keeps you from loving people, than it's not a boundary, it's a wall. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

Setting boundaries can be the biggest act of self care you give yourself. Whatever price you're paying to let people walk all over you, it's too high. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

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We have to stop just modifying behaviors and actually get to the root of things. Good news! You have needs, but it's totally in your control and even your responsibility to handle that. It's up to you to know what your needs are, what needs to be done to get them met, how to communicate effectively with the people around you to make that happen, and controlling your reaction if others don't respond the way you want. Let's talk about it. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

We all have a rang out different kinds of relationships in our lives, from family, friends, lovers, and strangers. A lot of pain comes from these distinctions not being clear and having unmet expectations. Let's unpack it. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

Have a relationship that's gone stagnant? You're just not as close as you used to be. In this podcast I go over vulnerability, intimacy, and some helpful tools to get the most out of your relationships. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

Every wonder why certain people click and others, despite how much time you spend with them, don't? You're not going crazy. There is a reason for this. I'm going to give you a tool that will hopefully get your some answers. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

What are the dangers of not being yourself? How can fully being yourself truly change your life? And how do you do it? I address these very questions in this podcast! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

What do you feel like leaving a disagreement with someone? Do you feel more loved? More known and safe? In this podcast I dive into what role trust plays in relationships, how to build it, things to avoid when in a disagreement, and how to repair after a fight. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

Listen in on a conversation between me and one of the kindest people in the world. Allyson brings us an amazing message on hope, being a powerful person, and how to overcome difficulties in our lives. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

The last episode on the subject of the week. I summarize what I've talked about and leave you with my final thoughts. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

We all have been triggered before. Are there things that cause a rise out of you that you don't like? In this episode I recap how I define triggers and two ways we can begin to over come them. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

Instagram: @therealwisemillennial I've talked a lot about triggers in the last couple videos and I just wanted to go more in-depth on what exactly a trigger even is. Do these symptoms sound familiar? Overreacting, strained relationships, feeling misunderstood, and people around you say you can never be wrong? You may be experiencing more triggers than you think! Come along with me and we'll talk about it! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

Imagine never getting offended, feeling secure in every room you walk into, and having relationships that thrive. Triggers can be an erosion to these important dynamics in our lives, not to mention our own personal mental health. I want to have an honest discussion on what triggers are, how you can begin to heal, and begin living a life of complete freedom. Beginning, our emotions are incredibly important! They make us human; however, when they're in the drivers seat of our lives they send us on a never ending rollercoaster. Our emotions and our triggers are inseparably linked. We need to get our emotions out of the drivers seat and put into their designated positions in our lives. Our emotions should be arrows pointing us to the real problem. If we try to deal with our emotions and cover up the real issue, things will never truly heal from the core. We have 100% total control of ourselves and you have the capability to heal and live a life that you want. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

It doesn't matter where you're at in life, we all do this from time to time. We can try to wallpaper our internal issues with external solutions commonly known as vices. For some people it looks like drinking, working, money, school, and even other people. The world we create around ourselves is the perpetuation of our internal world. If your life is full of chaos, it's most likely coming from the inside. You can't give away what you don't have. Hurt people, hurt people. A lot of times it's not personal, it's the fact that their pain was running over and you were the closest target. You can never fix what you don't address. So how do you know if you're using vices? Are there negatives cycles in your life? What triggers you? What makes you the most upset? What worries you the most? Start there. Often times we think that the vice is the issue and we villianize ourselves and our issues. The truth is, it's your psyche trying to go over your head because there's a genuine need that's not getting met. If you can meet that need, ie, get to the root cause, the vice will either take care of itself or be a lot easier to deal with. Bad news is that your life is your fault. If it's not going great, it's your responsibility. If you're waiting for someone to come along and take care of you it's called a toxic, codependent relationship and you don't want that. Changing your life is completely, 100% in your control. This is why I do this podcast. I want to give people tools to lead a fulfilled like. A life of wholeness. Notice, I didn't say happy. I think this is why sometimes my advice can come across as tough love. If my goal was to get you happy, I'd only tell you what you want to hear and say that you don't need to change a thing. But it takes work and intentionality to get whole but happiness is a byproduct of being whole. I can't say that it's the other way around. Hope you enjoy this episode --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

We're all special! Congratulations! But what sets apart the special from the extraordinary? Sometimes the difference between greatness and mediocrity is moments. Let this be your take away. What's one thing you can do today that will set you apart? What's one thing you can do to go the extra mile on your own journey towards greatness? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support

Hello! I'm your host, Hannah. Welcome to The Wise Millennial! I just wanted to introduce myself and give 2 seconds of my backstory and what led me to this. I'm a 23 year old millennial and all the time I'm given tons of advice on what I should do with these years. Honestly, I think most of that advice is ill founded. I unwrap why these pieces of advice can be so toxic and what I think we should be telling young people instead. Enjoy! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannah-fernald/support