#TitaTibx

And now, a word from your titas... on the commemoration of International Women's Day. May konting podcast update na rin. So kinig na, mga ka-tibx!

Hello, mga ka-tibx! Heto muna ang isang interim episode, an in-betweener to explain what's up sa mga titas at the start of 2021. Handa na? Kapit! Taralets at alamin! (Psst, may video version ito. Punta na sa facebook.com/titatibx para silipin!)

Gawin nang tita tradisyon ang pagsasara ng pagtatanong na nakatutok sa pokpok at marupok! Chos. We wrap up this season finale ep by leaving you with things to ponder on regarding family vs. partner issues, health issues in light of sex woes, and navigating intercourse hurdles. Thanks to our wonderful askers for trusting us with your stories. We hope we gave you something to think about regarding your situations.

Oh, what a tangled web we weave, women! Or minsan, tayo ang nasasapot sa kaguluhan ng iba. Sticky! Why nga ba? Touch-feely ka ba? Biktima ng feelingera? Minumumu? Na-wrong send ng incriminating info? Hala, tara na't maki-chismax ditech!

Season 2 finale na, mga ka-tibx! And what better way to wrap up this half-year season than addressing your questions and queries na gusto ninyong marinig ang perspectives namin. So here's Volume 5 of our monthly #AskTitaTibx smorgasboard. Take it away!

Kung toxic ang kausap mo at lagi kang binabato ng age-old negatronics dahil lesbiyana ka, ano ang dapat isagot? At kung karelasyon, katrabaho, o kamag-anak mo man ang kausap mo, ano ang middle ground of talk-truce or reaching peace talk agreements? Listen to your titas' talk points regarding the matter at baka may useful kang mapulot for your lyf gora.

May kinalaman ba ang pagiging babae natin sa paraan ng komunikasyon natin, sa tagumpay o pagbagsak nito? Your titas decided to discuss seven usual reasons of communication breakdowns and highlighted how these apply to us titas and tibx. Mindreading much? Explain!

Say it fast! Talks are sick, or talks has (SIC) mistakes. It's time to think of how we talk to each other, mga ka-tibx, at suriin natin kung toxic ba ang mga pamamaraan o hindi naman, mej lang, slight, ish.

Is it too late for titas to have tatts ba? May existing nega notions pa ba sa mga babaeng may tattoo ngayon sa Pinas? Ano ba ang preps saka dos and don'ts of getting one? Your titas will muni-muni about such Tatt 101 For TitaTibx stuff to close this ep. Pencil this in! *** [Tech Alert: This episode has a few lags and gaps in the audio due to the remote recording technicality, so ‘sensya na, mga ka-tibx. Enjoy anyway!]

@Tanginatibs, @_foodforthegays and @GirlNation2.0 tibx Nariese Giangan joins your titas for a fun, wacky, serious sometimes, and enlightening chikahan on getting inked as a lesbian in Metro Manila this day and age. Discover your genre! Char. *** [Disclaimer: The views and opinions of our guests are their own and do not necessarily represent the position of the podcast.] *** [Tech Alert: This episode has a few lags and gaps in the audio due to the remote recording technicality, so ‘sensya na, mga ka-tibx. Enjoy anyway!]

Lahat ba ng tatts may kuwento o dahilan? Lalo na sa mga lesbiyana? Listen in as your inked Tita L also explains to inkless Tita G her very first tatt story. Yes, that's her on the episode cover image. Bongga! *** [Tech Alert: This episode has a few lags and gaps in the audio due to the remote recording technicality, so ‘sensya na, mga ka-tibx. Enjoy anyway!]

Dutdutan dykes represent! Pag-uusapan sa ep na ito ang all things tatts in the global, local, historical, Filipino, and of course the lesbian context. Hindi naman masyasong complicated. Fun fun pa rin. Taralets mga ka-tibx, stencil it in! *** [Tech Alert: This episode has a few lags and gaps in the audio due to the remote recording technicality, so ‘sensya na, mga ka-tibx. Enjoy anyway!]

Tila marami yatang abala sa usapang pagde-date, chikahang ligawan, at mga long-term relationship hang-ups. We really get all kinds, eh? Sige mga kapatibx, susubukan naming mga tita ninyo na muling magbigay ng kaliwanagan sa inyong eklavu, to the best of our abilities, k? Gorabelles!

Again, ang mga askers natin ay kusang-loob na naglalahad ng kanilang mga sitwasyon at hinaing sa aming mga tita, in the hopes of hearing our opinions. We're not guidance counselors, life coaches, psychologists, or whatnot. Pero dahil nagtitiwala sa amin ang mga listeners na makakapagbigay kami ng iba/dagdag/kakaibang pananaw, ito ang inihahayag namin tuwing may Ask ep tayo. Keri? Keri! 

Volume 4 na ng Q&A format dito sa ating happylezzie podcast, mga ka-tibx! Handa na sa isa na namang round ng umaatikabong tanungan? Tara at pakinggan natin kung ano ang latest hang-ups, hanash, hinaing, o harabas ng ating mga askers. Game!

Oversharing? Likes or hearts? Unfriend or block? How do we titas present ourselves on social media these days? How is this domain useful for tibx like us? And how do we behave ba online, in general? Taralets dating bagets, pusuan na 'yan! *** [Tech Alert: This episode has a few lags and gaps in the audio due to the remote recording technicality, so ‘sensya na, mga ka-tibx. Enjoy anyway!]

As early adopters of new things on the planet, how do we Gen X titas update our knowhow and upgrade our temperament with each and every new tech adjustment we have to make -- to communicate? Let's decipher. *** [Tech Alert: This episode has a few lags and gaps in the audio due to the remote recording technicality, so ‘sensya na, mga ka-tibx. Enjoy anyway!]

Let's talk comms, titas! So how's our analog-born brains dealing with life in the digital age? Hulas na ba beauty? Hark back to the days of landlines and pagers muna tayo and let's tinker! *** [Tech Alert: This episode has a few lags and gaps in the audio due to the remote recording technicality, so ‘sensya na, mga ka-tibx. Enjoy anyway!]

Kung walang pinagseselosan, may selosa kaya? O puwede rin bang pareho kang selosa at pinagseselosan? Bakit hindi? Pero tita age ka na eh, may saysay pa ba ang selos sa edad nating ito? O baka pang-bagets lang na preoccupation itey? Nay? Or yay? Aba hey, let's chikababe! 

Is there such a thing as "healthy jealousy" nga ba? At saka bakit laging demonized yata ang mga selosa? Hindi ba kailangan ding tingnan ang pag-uugali ng pinagseselosan niya or something? Tapos may mga notion pa pala ng "emotional infidelity" sa lesbian community, not to mention "anxious attachment style" daw tayo. Sa true, teh? Award! Hala, tara't pakinggan nga natin ang mga chenelyn chuva na itey!

Paggising sa umaga, ano ang iyong makikita? Ang berdeng-berdeng mata ba ng selosa? O siya, it's inevitable, mga ka-tibx, that we eventually talk about that green-eyed monster called JEALOUSY. O siya, kapit anew. It's another aguy-aguy ride! Tita up!

After all of these non-monogamous, non-vanilla, and ano-na-earth discussions, what's a playful lesbian to do with the inequality structure, power play, dirty talks, and all that jazz thingies that categorically "clash" with feminist principles? Find your two titas wandering at the intersection of radical desire and homonormativity while wondering about these nakakakiliti things. Sa mga kailangan ng closure sa ep na ito, press play, bilis! Quickie lang, pramis!

So sa usapang BDSM and all that jazz, may mga protocols in place bang puwedeng dumaan sa monitoring and evaluation? Ano ba ang mission-vision-goals ng bawat eksena, interaksiyon, at kalakaran? Ano ba ang kalalabasan ng mga iteyyyyy?!?!?! Sinamahan pa rin ni special guest Barbie Barbieto ang mga tita niyong mega-updating ng mind software ang nagaganap sa episode na itey! Reboot! Or re-whip? Re-cuff? Charaught! ***  [Disclaimer: The views and opinions of our guests are their own and do not necessarily represent the position of the podcast.] ***  [Tech Alert: This episode has a few lags and gaps in the audio due to the remote recording technicality, so ‘sensya na, mga ka-tibx. Enjoy anyway!]

So maiba naman tayo, mga kinks ang pinag-usapang susunod ng mga tita niyo. Tapos may fetish-fetish pa. May pinagkaiba ba? Hindi ba pareho lang 'yun? Eh makinig para malaman habang nilaladlad sa atin ng special guest na si Barbie Barbieto. Taralets at magpakabagets! We'll rope you in... Basta!   ***  [Disclaimer: The views and opinions of our guests are their own and do not necessarily represent the position of the podcast.] ***  [Tech Alert: This episode has a few lags and gaps in the audio due to the remote recording technicality, so ‘sensya na, mga ka-tibx. Enjoy anyway!]

Ethical non-monogamy? Polyamory? Friends with benefits? NSA? FUBU? So many terms, so little sex! Chos. Marami pa palang uri at porma ng sexual relations plus plus, kaya sinamahan ang mga lost-in-space niyong tita, ish, ng special guest na si Barbie Barbieto to explain all of these alternatives to our alternative. Basta! In the immortal words of Bette Davis: "Fasten your seatbelts; it's going to be a bumpy night!"    ***  [Disclaimer: The views and opinions of our guests are their own and do not necessarily represent the position of the podcast.] ***  [Tech Alert: This episode has a few lags and gaps in the audio due to the remote recording technicality, so ‘sensya na, mga ka-tibx. Enjoy anyway!]

Oi, maiba naman. May peyborit movie daw bang puwedeng panoorin while togetherness mode ang mga tibamchi? How about good dish to serve? Hala, kainan na talaga? #alamna Eh libro daw, ano ang magandang dapat nabasa? All these and a couple more hanash, and we're good to go! Taralets bagets!

May jowang ayaw ipaalam sa ex na may bago na siya. May jowang iniwan ang Pinas para sa pag-ibig abroad pero sikretong malungkot. May sinungaling na ex daw ang isa. Talaga namang mapapainom ang mga tita mo kapag ito ang pulutan hane! O siya, let's see da luk!

Isa na namang koleksiyon ng mga umaatikabong tanong ng sangkatibxan diyan. Mga isyung di lang mga tita ang makaka-relate, pero pati na rin ang ibang edad na biyaning na nagmahal at nasaktan. Iyan ang tututukan natin sa Tilad 1. Kapit!

Whether you're a tita who's in a long-term relationship or a single tita who's hooking up without a hitch, the situations remain the same: Can you assert what you want in bed without offending your partner? Are you a fan of consent or do you just do what you wanna do? Can your body still hack it, though? Or have your sexual practices and proclivities evolved through the decades as you have (or haven't) -- whether you like it or not? Last roll in the hay, hey! Let us! 

Nagmumurang kamatis nga lang ba kung ang mga tita ay mahilig pa rin sa sex? Nag-iiba ba ang sexual temperament kapag tumatanda na? Kasi naman, mga ka-tibx, may expiration date ba talaga ang libog ng tao? Kapag sinasabi nilang "wala ka na sa kalendaryo" ay tapon na rin ba out the window ang sexual desire, automatic? Mahabagin! Pag-usapan natin!

Oh, lumapit ka... sabi nga ng isang kantang nanghahalina. Pero hindi nang-aakit ang mga tita ninyo dahil gusto lang nilang pag-usapan ang minsa'y ikinahihiya pang pag-usapan ng mga lesbiyana, lalo na kapag tita ka na: SEX! Say it loud, say it proud! At alamin natin kung bakit nga ba fascinated ang mundo sa mga kaganapang kama ng mga lesbiyana. Take it away!

Did you know that your Tita Libay was once a Fine Arts major? And Tita Giney also knows her art stuff outside of the kitchen, too. Makinig  as your titas deconstruct the art around them, and speculate where the expressionist lesbian is located within this impressionist sphere, lalo na sa local surrealist scene. May lugar ba tayo diyan? Taralets, mga tita -- occupy!

Is it really crucial, critical, or commonsensical to label yourself as "lesbian" if you're a woman-loving-woman artist? What's the importance, relevance, and comeuppance of tagging your art with your sexuality? Hear your titas chime in, still making chika with lesbian visual artist Irma Lacorte, now based in Dumaguete. Yebah! ***  [Disclaimer: The views and opinions of our guests are their own and do not necessarily represent the position of the podcast.]

Mga ka-tibx, gusto niyo bang makakilala ng lesbian artist na nailagak na sa Cultural Center of the Philippines' Encyclopedia of Philippine Art - Volume 5 Visual Arts? Aba, narito na -- si Irma Lacorte! Meet your tita artist who was -- and still is -- unapologetically out and proud during the time when the concept of "lesbian art" was still being questioned in the local art scene. Hear from a pioneer! ***  [Disclaimer: The views and opinions of our guests are their own and do not necessarily represent the position of the podcast.]

We all have different yesterdays, but we can have similar tomorrows if we decide to journey toward the right path of life. Amirite titas? Let's wrap this mutha up!

So paano nga ba nabuhay ang mga lesbiyana noong panahong hindi pa alam ang pangalang "Ellen" sa lesbian world, at sa Pinas, ang pangalang "Bubbles" lang ang alam. Paano tinatrato ng mga magulang, eskuwelahan, katrabaho at kaibigan ang mga tomboy sa kanilang kapaligiran? Alamin, alamin, sa mahiwagang salamin! Cassette, meet pencil. Do your thing! 

Let's walk down memory lane lang muna for this week, mga ka-tibx! Para reminiscing mode lang, let's rewind and take a look at how your titas na lesbians bucked the system or went with the flow during the '70s, '80s, '90s, and even 2000s. This oughta be good! 

Can you live with an emotional baggage full of "what ifs" or will you be more contented to lug around a backpack of regrets? When you pass by the forex of life, what currency would you like to retrieve in exchange of your load: fear, relief, anger, contentment, or peace of mind? Choose your own adventure, mga ka-tibx.

Ano na ba ang mga tinaya mo sa buhay, sa trabaho, sa pag-ibig, at sa pagkatao mo? Lugi ba o may tinubo ka? May kinalaman ba ang pagiging lesbiyana sa mga pagsusugal o pagsubok na ito? O nagkaroon ng ibang dimensiyon dahil sa kung paano tinatrato ang biyaning sa lipunan? Wuw, lalim. Tara nang maghukay, mga kapatibx! Kapit!

Nanghihinayang... Nagsisisi... Natakot magbakasakali... Nag-alinlangan... In English: Regret! Halina't halukayin kung ano ang ibig sabihin ng konseptong ito sa pagiging tita at pagiging tibx -- at pagiging titatibx. Yes, may ganung factor. Kapit at baka ma-triggerrrrrrr!

Oi, katuwaan lang ha. Hindi dahil tumawa kami ng ten thousand seconds ay pinagtatawanan ka namin, asker. Nakakatawa ang situation, at kami na ang naghahanap ng comedy minsan k. Linawin lang natin.    ***  [Tech Alert: This episode has a few lags and gaps in the audio due to the remote recording technicality, so ‘sensya na, mga ka-tibx. Enjoy anyway!]

May nagtanong na het, na lez na younger, at titang may 25-year crush. Kaya mo 'yon? Kami, muntik nang hindi. Listen in!    ***  [Tech Alert: This episode has a few lags and gaps in the audio due to the remote recording technicality, so ‘sensya na, mga ka-tibx. Enjoy anyway!]

Isa na namang episode na puno ng naratibong mula sa inyo, dear listeners. Tara na't maki-chismax to da max!    ***  [Tech Alert: This episode has a few lags and gaps in the audio due to the remote recording technicality, so ‘sensya na, mga ka-tibx. Enjoy anyway!]

So, can you differentiate between romantic vibes and creepy vibes? Nope? Can you differentiate between panliligaw and stalking? Hindi pa rin? Hay nakuh mga ka-tibx, esep-esep muna tayo, ha, at baka makalaboso tayo sa mga creepy vibes na 'yan, ha. Think before you creep. Ingat! 

May nag-iwan na ba ng potted plant sa doorstep mo... kahit hindi mo naman sinabi kung saan ka nakatira? May secret admirer ka bang bigla na lang sumisipot kung nasaan ka? May ex ka bang  nagpe-pretend na kayo pa? O may kakila ka bang nagpe-pretend na break na kayo.... kahit hindi naman naging kayo? May nagpapadala ba sa iyo ng voice messages mula sa taong di mo alam na crush ka pala? Alin, alin, alin ang creepy diyan? Aba ewan, tingnan natin at alamin!

So I creep, yeah yeah, 'ika nga nina TLC noong '90s. Minsan, ang mga da-moves natin o nila ay hindi na pala maganda o kaaya-aya, kaya nagiging... creepy. 'Kala mo pakyut pa, pero gusto ka na palang sabihan ng pakyuuuuuu or samteeng. Haynakuh. Or may element din ba ito ng leanings sa pagiging sociopath o psychopath? Nakuuuu, tiyak maraming makaka-relate na mga ka-tibx dito sa creepyfactors na itey. Taralets at pulutanin nga natin ito. Alak!

Maganda ba talagang tahakin ang landas ng pagiging guro sa Pilipinas, lalo na't lesbiyana ka? Ano nga ba ang mga kasalukuyang hinaharap ng mga tita titser na tibx din sa panahong ito? Malaki na ba ang ipinagbago o marami pa ring bobo sa paligid nila -- kahit naturuan na? Samahan ang mga tita ninyong may PhD in Pagmumuni-Muni sa kursong BS Deconstruction major in Lesbian Issues. Bell na!  

According to Prof. Bubbles, "overcompensation theory" ang nagaganap sa mga lesbiyana, mapa-estudyante man o guro, para makapag-survive sa loob ng paaralang di pa pinaparaan ang mapayapang pagtanggap sa SOGIE ng isang tao. Naramdaman niyo rin ba ito, mga ka-tibx? Jot down notes na tayo habang nilalahad ni Ma'am Bubbles ang mga kaganapang itey.  ***  [Tech Alert: This episode has a few lags and gaps in the audio due to the remote recording technicality, so ‘sensya na, mga ka-tibx. Enjoy anyway!]

May quiz tayo ngayon dahil sasamahan ang mga tita ninyo ng kanilang kapatibx sa adbokasiya, si Prof. Eva Callueng o Bubbles! Pag-uusapan nila ang landas na tinahak niya bilang lesbiyanang estudyante na miyembro ng UP Babaylan at bilang guro sa iba't ibang eskuwelahang iba-iba rin ang paniniwala (o kawalan ng tiwala) sa pagiging LGBTQ. Open notes ito, go! ***  [Tech Alert: This episode has a few lags and gaps in the audio due to the remote recording technicality, so ‘sensya na, mga ka-tibx. Enjoy anyway!]

How did titas cope during their younger years while practicing their professions, just because they are tibx? Malaki na ba ang pinagbago ng work life during the '80s, '90s o '00s sa ngayon? How did we survive? How is the workforce treating us today? Your titas ponder on these thoughts as they try to suggest self-care practices, too. Work it! ***  [Tech Alert: This episode has a few lags and gaps in the audio due to the remote recording technicality, so ‘sensya na, mga ka-tibx. Enjoy anyway!]

Sometimes, we lesbians try to keep the peace or shut our mouths na lang to keep our jobs. But is that okay to do? Baka normalized na rin ang discriminatory practices as "permitted" work-related behavior na hindi natin naiisip na uy, teka, di puwedeng ganun ha! Alamin ang mga ito. ***  [Tech Alert: This episode has a few lags and gaps in the audio due to the remote recording technicality, so ‘sensya na, mga ka-tibx. Enjoy anyway!]