With Love Helly

What I have learned: 1. Be mindful 2. Help when you can 3. Take care of yourself What I want to do: 1. Use the time to get ahead and better myself 2. READ 3. Yoga! Spread love and light! Check out my extra episodes on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/08rmTj929JJqUYq3dl6rJI?si=TMD5tjfTS3idJ2JRTh-mNA #mindful #help #savesomeforothers #takecareofyourself #selflove #selfhelp #bemindful #getbetter #personalgrowth #read #yoga

What I have learned: 1. Our thoughts can be overwhelming 2. Being uncomfortable 3. Learning to follow What I want to do: 1. Manage time 2. READ 3. Yoga! Spread love and light! Check out my extra episodes on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/08rmTj929JJqUYq3dl6rJI?si=TMD5tjfTS3idJ2JRTh-mNA #thoughts #controlyourmind #mind #youareyourthoughts #youbecomeyourthoughts #getcomfortablebeinguncomfortable #learntocommunicate #learntofollow #leaderscanalsofollow #timemanagement #read #yoga

What I have learned: 1. New beginnings… 2. Why I am not a girls girl 3. Forgiveness What I want to do: 1. Get all of my projects done 2. READ 3. Yoga! Spread love and light! Check out my extra episodes on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/08rmTj929JJqUYq3dl6rJI?si=TMD5tjfTS3idJ2JRTh-mNA #outwiththeold #inwiththenew #newbeginnings #help #womenownedbusinesses #Womenowned #girlsgirl #notagrilsgirl #friendships #awkward #hard #selflove #forgivenotforget #forgiveness #spreadlove #love Light #read #yoga #respecttheyouth #speakkindlytokids #speaklife

Great relationships are not EASY you have to work and grow (which is uncomfortable)! What I have learned: 1. Come from a place of love and not ego or pride 2. Be the first to move 3. Ask how you can be better What I want to do: 1. Show up and reach out 2. Do what I say I am going to do 3. Read and go to yoga! Spread love and light! Check out my extra episodes on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/08rmTj929JJqUYq3dl6rJI?si=TMD5tjfTS3idJ2JRTh-mNA #relationship #relationships #relationshit #growth #grow #comfortable #uncomfortable #love #ego #pride #bethefirst #move #howcanyoubebetter #ask #showup #reachout #dowhatyousay #read #yoga

I named it this because I lost my house key this week but also because there are some important things I learned! What I have learned: 1. Communication is Key 2. Core Values have to align 3. Just because you have attraction doesn't mean there is romance What I want to do: 1. Keep my peace- continue to work on peace 2. Go back to working on my goals for the year 3. Read and go to yoga! Spread love and light! Check out my extra episodes on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/08rmTj929JJqUYq3dl6rJI?si=TMD5tjfTS3idJ2JRTh-mNA #keys #key #relationship #relationships #keystoarelationship #communication #values #corevalues #corevalue #attraction #romance #peace #goals #yeargoals #2020goals #read #yoga

Small group and therapy are bring up great relationship thoughts! What I have learned: 1. Just let me love you- 1. Why do we want love from people who don't love us 2. Lean toward the people who show up and love you 3. The miracle is in your mouth 1. If you can't speak faith then stay silent What I want to do: 1. Make some big decisions (ask for Gods guidance) 2. Work to live from the tree of life 1. Speak life into people and situations 2. Come from a place of belief not just faith 3. Read and go to yoga! Spread love and light! Check out my extra episodes on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/08rmTj929JJqUYq3dl6rJI?si=TMD5tjfTS3idJ2JRTh-mNA #love #lust #friends #relationships #miracle #words #speak #faith #belief #treeoflife #God #decisions #dividedroad #speaklife #life #light #yoga #read #podcast #selflove

Small group and therapy are bring up great relationship thoughts! What I have learned: 1. That I feel like a stepping stone in my relationships. 2. I grew up in a critical environment so my default is to be critical 3. Having calmness and peace in a relationship doesn't mean it is boring. What I want to do: 1. Being aware of when I am critical 2. Not doing things out of duty but rather out of love! 3. Read more! Spread love and light! Check out my second guest spot with my friend Joy on her podcast Overthinker! https://open.spotify.com/episode/4FkjSaWzlPCU0HfMNWnEuN #critical #relationships #calm #peace #breathelife #duty #selflove #love #light #god #relationship #read #strengths #usestrengthagainstm

I am learning to let go and let God! What I have learned: 1. Hurt child needs to know she is okay 2. The tree of life 1. Temptation is a test of your relationship not a test of your self control 2. When satan attempts to derail your life it isn't always with evil 3. Do you feel like you have to do more or be better for God to love you? 3. When you stop pushing so hard against things sometimes they can turn out to be the best things What I want to do: 1. Writing everyday 2. Do a pros and cons list for some big decisions in the next month 3. Make it too Yoga! Spread love and light! Check out my first guest spot with my friend Joy on her podcast Overthinker! https://open.spotify.com/episode/0RUEfjsyzg07x4O7BgAEnA?si=kMi3OF4LS_SQe7d2qaVfzw #selflove #selfloveexercise #love #light #temptation #god #treeoflife #relationship #savior #girlfriend #gratitude #write #list #prosandcons #yoga #peace #letgo #letgod #surrender #past #present #future

This week has been interesting… What I have learned: 1. If you are depressed or anxious you are a human with unmet needs. 2. With Love Helly- I am going to have to put in the work 3. Looking at the flame is hard because I don't know what self love feels like What I want to do: 1. Writing everyday 2. Find places to start public speaking 3. Have more obtainable daily goals Spread love and light! Check out my extra episodes on Spotify @ With Love Helly! #selflove #love #self #selfloveishard #depression #anxiety #unmetneeds #human #work #workethic #hardwork #action #fire #light #whatisselflove #writing #publicspeaking #motivation #motivator #speaker #goals #dailygoals #withlovehelly

Two weeks off and so much to talk about! What I have learned: 1. Core Hurts/ Core Values 1. Explanation of Core Value and Core Hurt 2. Family 3. Relationships 4. Communication 2. Coaching: Being able to understand learning styles and motivation styles What I want to do: 1. Websites (With Love Helly and Examine Your Brand) 2. Stare at the flame 3. Eating better/Fasting Spread love and light! Check out my extra episodes on Spotify @ With Love Helly! #corehurts #hurts #corevalues #values #family #relationships #communication #communicationiskey #hurtpeoplehurtpeople #reactive #reaction #Heal #compassion #love #motivation #accountability #learningstyle #keepthepeace #selflove #grow #growth #you #beyou #journey #journeyoflove #God #light

Goals, Goals, Goals! What I have learned: 1. I can pick and choose my battles but we all have limits. 2. I like to be on my own schedule doing my own thing, but I also want my people there along for the journey. 3. Being open after a breakup especially a heartbreak is very hard. Goals for 2020: 1. Continue to work on loving myself and finding peace each day 2. Pay off debt and buy a house 3. Don't force love. Spread love and light! Check out my extra episodes on Spotify @ With Love Helly! #newyear #newyears #goals #newyearsresolutions #newyearnewme #newyearbetterme #peace #selflove #friends #mypeople #myperson #heartbreak #love #debt #payoffdebt #house #buyshouse #dontforcelove #keepthepeace #grow #growth #you #beyou #journey #journeyoflove

This is my letter after yoga to anyone who thinks I am strong and/or feels like they can not be weak around me.

Busy week and lots learned! What I have learned: 1. When you do things that excite you, you become excited 2. We don't all communicate the same so we have to be willing to teach people who to communicate with us but also learn how to communicate with others in their own understanding. - Acknowledgement 3. After listening to a video with @tailopez and @tombilyeu on @impacttheory - I was wondering why there are not more women out in the motivational coaching world. I love @msrachelhollis because she is so real and authentic! What I want to work on: 1. Downtime 2. Putting a plan in place for 2020 3. Spread love Spread love and light! Check out my extra episodes on Spotify @ With Love Helly! #excitement #You #learning #communicate #communication #acknowledgement #empathy #love #kinds #intention #teach #learn #motivationalspeaker #motivationalcoach #women #timeofyear #holidayseason #holidays #spreadlove #authentic #raw #relationships #friends #family

Awareness only gets you so far you must take action! What I have learned: 1. Very tough week! - Gotta find ways to motivate myself in times of depressive states. 2. Just because you are aware doesn't make your faults or flaws any different- you must take action! 3. No one is me and I am not them- I can't expect it to go either way. What I want to work on: 1. Taking time to breathe and relax 2. Allow myself to be open to the newness in a relationship 3. Spend time on website and content Spread love and light! Check out my extra episodes on Spotify @ With Love Helly! #depression #anxiety #love #grace #motivation #action #breathe #relax #IamMe #selflove #selfcare #meditation #yoga #kindness #saddness #down #beopen #authentic #vulnerable #work #relationships #life #friendship #help #speakyourtruth

My thoughts on this quote: Having anxiety and depression is like being scared and tired at the same time. It's the fear of failure but no urge to be productive. It's wanting friends but hate socializing. It's wanting to be alone but not wanting to be lonely! It's caring about everything then caring about nothing. It's feeling everything at once then feeling paralyzingly numb.

Rough few weeks but it is important to keep working at it! What I have learned: 1. My depression and anxiety cause stress which in turn makes my anxiety worse and makes me feel bad about not being as productive as I “should be” 2. It is okay to not do everything and be everything 3. Do the things that keep you at 100% What I want to work on: 1. Pushing through - but not over doing it 2. Spend time in silence 3. Work to embrace the time of darkness Spread love and light! Check out my extra episodes on Spotify @ With Love Helly! #depression #anxiety #love #grace #mercy #pushthrough #itsokaytonotbeokay #100% #selflove #selfcare #meditation #yoga #kindness #saddness #down #upset #timeofyear #holidayseason #holidays #feelbad #shame #authentic #vulnerable #workitout #work #relationships #life #friendship #help #speakyourtruth

When you do what brings you peace you feel a lot lighter! What I learned 1. Shame for not going home- continue to do what is best for you! 2. When I get into relationship/friendship I tend to run my schedule/life around them- I have to stand my ground on the things that are important to me 3. The need to be right- ego (I don't know everything and most things I think is “right” is just opinion! What I am going to work on this week: 1. Continuing my high expectations- hope as it is going to happen not a wishful thinking 2. Spend time working on my podcast and my website 3. Not making any plans Friday night Be sure to listen to the extra episodes on Spotify at WithLoveHelly!

Last week was hard but necessary! This is therapeutic for me! What I learned 1. Do what brings peace to you 2. Make amends (not have to friends but no negativity) and be authentically you 3. Be a peacemaker (communication and talking it out) -Peacebreaker: someone who wants to win the argument -Peacefaker: someone who avoids the argument What I am going to work on this week: 1. Work on doing what brings peace to me 2. Spend my extra time working on my own brand 3. Rest and relax Be sure to listen to the extra episodes on Spotify!

Strategies don't fix the problem they help elevate the symptoms after the situation has arose or right before the situation arises. Be compassionate and ask what you can do, not tell people to breathe or be more positive. Anxiety and depression are real!

I have been sick and busy, but mostly avoiding doing this video! What I learned:
 1. Was mad at myself, her and God -We condition people on how to treat us with what we allow 2. If we don't give people a chance to show us who they are at their best we really won't ever know them 3. I don't like the word Strategies, I would rather say techniques 4. God is in the waiting What I am going to work on this week: 
 1. Allowing people to be them selves and not be wrong about it 2. Talking about the hard stuff 3. Keep working on my peace

No worries strikes a cord in me because I already have anxiety and I am worried that the person is either actually worried or they don't care! So I need to tell my feelings positively but also understand they might not understand what I am trying to tell them. Then I need to go find someone who does understand me!

Busy time of year! What I learned:
 1. Peace does not mean harmony or that there is no conflict 1. Calm emotions during the storm 2. I force interactions 1. If people do not reciprocate the energy you are giving out stop giving them so much 4. Dating 1. It is okay to hang out with multiple people to find the person you want to exclusively date 
What I am going to work on this week:
1. Continue to work on podcast and website
2. Be around people who reciprocate interaction
3. Read books that are about love and myself - If you suffer from anxiety or depression or have anything to say about vulnerability or being authentic please reach out!

Being authentic means being your self with words and actions. If this offends someone it is about them- something they have not dealt with or something they are insecure about. This is true but this is also the time to be compassionate and empathetic! To say you understand that what you said or did upset them or struck a cord in them and then try to walk them through why this happened! This is the foundation to great relationships.

Last week was busy but there was still growth! What I learned: 1. Found people on instagram who resonate with me - Vulnerability (talking about this on my podcast later this week)
2. What it is about you that doesn't work? - Insecurity about myself - Communicate my feelings in a positive way (speaking from a place of love) - Knowing triggers from the past - My triggers: Someone leaving Someone ignoring me Someone who doesn't acknowledge my feelings and hurts - If you really loved me - Expectations - What are the expectations and are they realistic - Self expectations (what can you actually accomplish) - It's hard for me to let someone in and love me or help me - You don't owe anyone anything because they do something nice for you
 What I am going to work on this week: 1. Work on podcast and website
2. Do things that bring me pure joy
3. Read books that are about love and myself - If you suffer from anxiety or depression or have anything to say about vulnerability or being authentic please reach out!

Last week I said I was going to work toward my career- I set up some processes at work that will help me better utilize my time- I revised my resume and updated my LinkedIn What I learned: 1. I have made love an idol (love from family, friends and relational) 2. I need to become the person I seek 1. Know what you want 2. Know The Who's in your life that can help you achieve it and The Who you want to be 3. Know what you are good at 4. Know what it is about you that doesn't work 3. Being authentic and real connects people 4. Dont waste your pain and/or loneliness What I am going to work on this week: 1. Working to align myself with God and then to align myself with people who resonate with me to become who I seek (this will be a long ongoing process) 2. Continue to set time aside to work on pushing towards my dreams 3. Figure out what I want

Purpose of these videos 1. Not to find a person but to find self love 2. But I will not date another person until it is someone who is the right alignment 1. Church yesterday: 1. People you should align with: 1. People who love and accept you 2. People who believe in you 3. People who motivate you 4. People who challenge you 5. People who have your best interest in mind 6. People who still believe the best in you when the worst has been displayed 2. People you should not align with: 1. People who dont love you 2. People who tolerate you and do not accept you 3. People who dont value you the things that matter the most to you 4. People who dishonor you and those you care about 5. People who are negative 6. People who discourage you State Fair 1. It was peaceful and not as scary as I thought it would be 3. I need to learn how to have fun by myself Things I learned last week: 1. When you get out of your comfort zone new things find you 2. Stop chasing the things and people who dont want you and aren't for you 3. When we focus our energy on people or things that are not for us they only distract us from what we should be dong and who we should be doing it with This week I am going to work on focusing my energy into the things I need to get done for work and pushing myself/my career to the next level

What I learned this week: 1. Being alone is hard - but you have to start somewhere! 2. When you start to take time for yourself things start to happen and come easier to you! 3. Energy management and conservation- your time and energy matter!

This is the first time I am doing this and also the first one of this series! I am going to spend the next three months and maybe a year (really however long it takes) to find self love! Follow along if you would like, send me some tips and encouragement! As always spread love and light! Also, I do a morning motivational text if you would like to be added just DM me your number!