Podcast appearances and mentions of kristy arbon

Episode 326: Healthy Self-Inquiry vs. Rumination What is the difference between healthy self-inquiry and unhealthy self-inquiry? Have you ever found your mind stuck on the same thought or a negative situation repeatedly replayed in your mind where you can't even problem solve? And feeling like acting out instead of dialing in? Learn what healthy self-inquiry is and how to stop ruminating.Rumination is the unhealthy side of self-inquiry because wallowing in persistent negativity creates unhealthy patterns in our minds. When we ruminate, we get fixated on our problems. But, instead of coming up with solutions or examining with curiosity, we tend to dwell on the negative and focus on difficulties.Rather than being constructive or regenerative, we replay conversations in our heads so often those thoughts bleed into every aspect of our day, taking away our ability to feel joy. We find it almost impossible to shift tracks and start a different train of thought. I talk about a house painting example that reinforces my point.The universal law of attraction states that what we focus on expands. The more we ruminate on negativity, the more it expands. Writing a racist 180-page manifesto laying out a planned attack as the accused Buffalo shooter did before killing 10 people showcased a severely diseased mind. An unstable, erratic, and distorted mind at dis-ease; ruminating in hate.Self-inquiry is part of genuinely exploring the human condition. Research has shown that the more we grow and heal, the fewer defensive parts we have and the more we are in a state of equilibrium. You can allow rigid and chaotic thoughts to pass through your mind without attaching to them. Allowing space between our thoughts and feelings gives us time to respond with more compassion, curiosity, and calm. Self-inquiry helps us explore the connection to ourselves and others in meaningful ways and feel an interconnection with the world around us. We feel grounded, connected, and whole.Meditation gives you the benefit of practicing self-inquiry and inspires curiosity about how our minds work. Bringing curiosity to our inner experiences increases our well-being by helping us find space between our thoughts and feelings, helping us respond to those feelings or sensations in our bodies instead of reacting to them. “Thoughts and emotions are made of words and images in the mind, and feelings are made of sensations in the body. Both are important in self-inquiry,” says Dr. Cortland Dahl, the Co-Founder and Chairman of Tergar International, a massive network of meditation groups and centers, and my inspiration for today's topic on healthy self-inquiry vs. rumination.Observing ourselves in a natural state of being is how self-inquiry starts. You can notice your natural state of being right now. Let us take a moment to check in with your inner self. How am I at this moment? Breathe gently and allow your thoughts to flow without attaching to them. If you find your thoughts getting stuck repeating something negative, become aware that you are shifting into rumination. With rumination, thoughts tend to be repetitive and often involve negative thinking, self-talk, and self-blame. According to psychotherapist Kristy Arbon, this repetitive thinking can be a form of resistance. “Many of us experience this kind of thinking from time to time or for short periods of time. But when it happens too often or too long, it can interfere with everyday life and put us at risk for anxiety and depression.” The purpose of meditation is to help us reach a healthy mind state that is clear, stable, and calm. The average person has 6,200 thoughts per day. These thoughts trigger emotions, and those emotions are felt through the sensations in our bodies. We need to interpret those sensations, name our emotions, and use those experiences to modify and monitor our behavior.Meditation helps us learn about this internal safe place that only we can access.

In this episode, Kristy Arbon discusses her experiences with self-compassion and her work developing somatic self-compassion to integrate body awareness more fully into these practices. Listen in for Kristy's insights on the connections between Buddhism and self-compassion and how to reconnect with your internal experience and build stress resilience. Kristy Arbon is Founder and CEO of HeartWorks, a training platform designed to teach the skills of trauma-informed mindfulness and self-compassion. Kristy worked with Chris Germer and Kristin Neff to start the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion, and she is the creator of somatic self-compassion.

A hypervigilant limbic system looks for danger around every corner. When fear drives our awareness, we experience physical sensations more intensely and worry that it is the beginning of a symptom flare. Balanced awareness helps us differentiate between harmless physical sensations and symptoms. Kristy Arbon, BA, BSW, Cert. MSC is founder and CEO of HeartWorks Training LLC, teaching from a trauma-informed and strengths perspective approach. She supports people in developing self-compassion, mindfulness, embodiment, shame resilience and intuition through training, mentoring, researching and writing. Kristy's offerings have deep roots in the traditions of mindfulness, sensory modulation, interoceptive awareness, embodiment, Polyvagal theory, neuroscience, Buddhist philosophy, Mindful Self-Compassion, internal parts work, and exploration of archetypes. She is the developer of the Somatic Self-Compassion curriculum, a Certified Mindful Self-Compassion teacher, and a qualified Social Worker.   Reach Kristy through - kristy@heartworks.training, kristyarbon.com, Facebook - @KristyArbon, Instagram - kristyarbon

After recording our initial self-compassion podcast, I realized that my inner dialogue was not as kind as I thought, and I asked Kristy for a follow-up episode. She shares her wisdom about softening resistance and connecting compassionately with ourselves when the present moment is challenging. Kristy Arbon is founder and CEO of HeartWorks Training LLC, teaching from a trauma-informed and strengths perspective approach. She supports people in developing self-compassion, mindfulness, embodiment, shame resilience and intuition through training, mentoring, researching and writing. Kristy's offerings have deep roots in the traditions of mindfulness, sensory modulation, interoceptive awareness, embodiment, Polyvagal theory, neuroscience, Buddhist philosophy, Mindful Self-Compassion, internal parts work, and exploration of archetypes. She is the developer of the Somatic Self-Compassion curriculum, a Certified Mindful Self-Compassion teacher, and a qualified Social Worker. Reach Kristy through - kristy@heartworks.training, kristyarbon.com, Facebook - @KristyArbon, Instagram - kristyarbon

Kristy talks about the importance of self-compassion when struggling with medically unexplained symptoms – especially when we feel frustrated and uncertain. We often look outside ourselves for nurturing in times of distress, but our inner champion is our greatest source of comfort. Kristy Arbon, BA, BSW, Cert. MSC is founder and CEO of HeartWorks Training LLC, teaching from a trauma-informed and strengths perspective approach. She supports people in developing self-compassion, mindfulness, embodiment, shame resilience and intuition through training, mentoring, researching and writing. Kristy's offerings have deep roots in the traditions of mindfulness, sensory modulation, interoceptive awareness, embodiment, Polyvagal theory, neuroscience, Buddhist philosophy, Mindful Self-Compassion, internal parts work, and exploration of archetypes. She is the developer of the Somatic Self-Compassion curriculum, a Certified Mindful Self-Compassion teacher, and a qualified Social Worker. Reach Kristy through - kristy@heartworks.training, kristyarbon.com, Facebook - @KristyArbon, Instagram - kristyarbon

Somatic Self-Compassion: checking in with the interoceptive experience, buckets of choice to create safeness, and individualised approaches to soothing. Kristy Arbon is an experienced mindfulness and mindful self-compassion teacher and trainer. She has had a long association with Drs Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer, and was administrator for the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion. She has worked extensively with mindful self-compassion, teaching and training all around the world. And she has many other strings to her bow, not least developing over recent years her trauma informed and sensitive Somatic Self-Compassion program, which has been evaluated in a recent paper published just this year. Time Stamps: 3.01 Tell us a bit about yourself, your work, your life. 5.24 Being introduced to Mindful Self-Compassion. 12.33 What do you notice about people's experience of "backdraft" when they first engage with self-compassion? 14.06 Individual differences in the experience of self-compassion. 30.07 Tell us more about Somatic Self-Compassion. 37.36 Checking in with interoceptive experiences in Somatic Self-Compassion is a learned skill. 42.48 The importance of choice in Somatic Self-Compassion to help create a sense of safeness. 45.34 The third phase of Somatic Self-Compassion is the soothing. 51.33 How can people engage with you and your work? 53.29 What are three tips you would offer others who are making their way on their own compassionate journey? Websites: https://kristyarbon.com/ https://centerformsc.org/ Publications: Somatic Self-Compassion Training Reduces Perceived Stress, Internalized Shame, and Bodily Shame while Increasing Coping Self-efficacy and Self-compassion. http://www.lidsen.com/journals/icm/icm-06-01-011

My guest today is Kristy Arbon, the Founder and CEO of HeartWorks Training. Her work revolves around supporting people in their practice of self-compassion, mindfulness, somatic awareness, and shame resilience. Among her many other talents, she is an excellent mindful Self compassion coach and teacher. On today’s episode, she’ll introduce us to the concept of somatic Self compassion.

Self-compassion expert Kristy Arbon talks about mindfulness, body image, and how self-compassion can help queer people live better lives.

Kristy Arbon is the Founder and CEO of HeartWorks Training LLC, a business that supports people in their practice of mindfulness, self-compassion, shame resilience and tapping into emergent self-wisdom using the practices of Mindful Self-Compassion, Internal Family Systems, Brene Brown’s shame resilience model, Buddhist philosophy and exploration of archetypes. Kristy is a qualified social worker, a certified Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher and has completed Internal Family Systems Level 1 training. She is passionate about supporting people in taking care of themselves so that they can go out into the world and courageously do the important work they are called for.

In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include: How to calm your partner's or your own fierce inner critic. The tools to help your partner, or yourself, practice more self-compassion. Why it's important to simply 'be with' your partner sometimes and not try to fix every situation. The 3 steps to practicing more self-compassion. How practicing more self-compassion can help your relationship. And much more! Kristy Arbon is the founder and CEO of HeartWorks Training LLC, a business set up to support women in their practice of mindfulness, self-compassion and shame resilience using the practices of mindful self-compassion, Internal Family Systems, Brene Brown's shame resilience model, Buddhist philosophy and exploration of archetypes. Kristy is a qualified social worker, a certified Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher and has completed Internal Family Systems Level 1 training. She is passionate about supporting women in taking care of themselves so that they can go out into the world and courageously do the important work they are called for. We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : ) When you contribute you will also get awesome exclusive benefits for our patrons. You can sign up to donate as little as $2 per month to support the podcast.  Any little bit helps! Sign up to support the podcast today.  I Do Podcast is also supported by:   Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information ,but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast   If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah

Today I interviewed the wondrous Kristy Arbon – Founder of Heartworks Training, scholar of all things mindfulness, self compassion, shame resilience and teacher/teacher trainer on Mindful Self.

Kristy Arbon talks about Mindful Self Compassion. Thank you to the University Center for Rural Health for inviting Kristy Arbon to the North Coast.