Podcasts about internal family systems

This week, Thomas sits down with Dharma teacher and author Kaira Jewel Lingo to explore how we can heal our deeply fractured relationship with the Earth and break out of the modern digital trance.Kaira shares her unique experience of transitioning out of monastic life as a nun and back into a fast-paced digital world. This experience gave her a unique perspective on how technology consumes our attention, and what's needed to reconnect to our relationships, ourselves, our spirituality, and the earth.She and Thomas discuss how face-to-face connection can help us reclaim our presence, why our global crises stem from our disconnection with nature, and what's needed for a collective re-awakening into an interconnected and embodied life that's defined by care and curiosity instead of an isolated existence fueled by exploitation and inattention.✨ Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube:

Writing an impact letter can feel overwhelming, emotional, and even re-traumatizing.So why do it?Amie and Alana unpack the purpose behind this powerful recovery tool, explain how it fits into therapeutic disclosure, and discuss why the greatest healing often comes from validating your own experience—not trying to convince your partner to understand.Chapters02:17 Where It Fits in Disclosure03:41 Timing and Personalization07:19 Grief and Ongoing Healing09:03 Your Story and Shared Grief16:44 Writing Makes It Real18:10 Stop Minimizing20:55 Write For You, Not ThemWe'd love to hear from you!Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast!Register Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men's Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT. Housing accommodations available here.

This week, Thomas shares a teaching on creating conscious inner spaciousness to process life's challenges and use them as engines for personal and spiritual growth.By opening up space for a larger “cup” to hold our wounds and traumas, we can address and understand them without being defined by them. Having this space also allows us to shift from a state of habitual, past-focused attention to one of conscious presence.Thomas shares how integrating the past in this way brings in new light and new possibilities, enables us to mature and grow (both personally and collectively), and disrupts patterns of intergenerational trauma.✨ Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube:

It's one of the most common—and heartbreaking—questions after betrayal trauma.This week Amie and Alana discuss what healing actually looks like after betrayal trauma, why recovery often feels painfully slow, and the practices that truly help. They explore support groups, self-compassion, psychoeducation, nervous system healing, somatic work, family-of-origin healing, and the obstacles that can quietly keep us stuck.Most importantly, this episode offers hope. Even if you can't see it today, healing is possible. If you're in the middle of the darkness, keep listening.Chapters01:14 Will I Ever Heal?2:00 Personal Story05:01 Darkness to Sunrise Metaphor07:47 Early Stage Healing Tools11:03 Real Self-Care Explained16:51 Psychoeducation and Roadmap21:24 What Hinders Healing25:14 Advanced Somatic Work32:15 There is HopeRegister Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men's Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.

When you've been brought up in a culture of right versus wrong polarity, how do you navigate your way out of that maze as it's falling apart all around you? Gazit Chaya is here to share wisdom gained from leaving fundamentally evangelical Christianity, and building a life truly worth living that honors their core values. Join us to find out more! Gazit Chaya has survived several traumatic brain injuries and decades of anxiety, neurodivergence and depressing thoughts of self harm. Gazit has experienced the challenges of divorce, lived with postpartum depression, gotten through a stay in a psych hospital and survived a suicide attempt. For over 15 years, Gazit Chaya was a speech language pathologist in public schools trained specifically to work with children with autism. Gazit is also a mental health Coach, a YouTuber, a Public Speaker, and an Educator, teaching workshops about trauma recovery and nervous system regulation. They are the founder of The Luria Center, a resource for personal development as well as the Author of Holy Shit. Gazit Chaya helps clients by using a combination of the following protocols; Certified Somatic Parts Work, Safe and Sound Protocol, Values Based Integration Process, The work of Byron Katie, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, and Internal Family Systems. Watch or listen to the show to learn how you can build a life truly worth living. You’re Invited! GAZIT CHAYA BIO Gazit Chaya Nkosi (they/m) is guided by the Rumi line, “Out beyond right doing and wrongdoing there is a field—I'll meet you there.” Their first 35 years were spent trying to be good while navigating chronic anxiety, suicidality, sensory sensitivity, and social communication mismatches. Postpartum depression brought them to a rock bottom that became a portal to a place where “good” was no longer the goal. This led to a new paradigm in which they began creating a life truly worth living, one filled with special interests, plenty of free and unstructured time, and work that is truly aligned. Gazit Chaya now sojourns with other souls interested in letting go of culture and coming back to Self, meeting one another in the field beyond right and wrong through somatic parts work, The Work of Byron Katie, the Values Based Integration Process, and the Safe and Sound Protocol. LINKS Web: www.therootedcoop.com YouTube: www.youtube.com/@therootedcoop LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gazitchayankosi/   YOUR GUIDE TO SOUL NECTAR: KERRI HUMMINGBIRD Kerri Hummingbird, Medicine Woman, Mother and Mentor, is the Founder of Inner Medicine Training, a Mystery School that shares potent ancient traditions from the Andes and Himalayas for owning your wisdom and living your purpose. 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Parts Work, Self Energy & Healing in Difficult Environments: Q&A with Mike, Part TwoMe and Mike are back, and this one goes deep.We received so many beautiful, brave questions from listeners after our first conversation about parts work and Internal Family Systems. So we sat down together and worked through four of them in real time, the way we always do, naturally, honestly and without a script. This is one of those conversations that kept surprising me as it unfolded.This episode is for you if:You understand parts work intellectually but struggle to actually access self energy when you need itYou find it easy to feel compassion for others but the moment you turn it inward, a critical or shaming part takes overYou are trying to heal while still living in the environment where the wounds happenedYou experience compulsive movement and feel stuck between knowing what you need and being unable to act on itYou want to understand how to use your own anger, determination and drive as fuel for healing, not just obstacles to overcomeIn this episode, we cover:✨ How to access the compassionate parent part when a critical protector keeps taking over✨ Why the part that reminds you of your dad showing up in self-work makes complete and understandable sense✨ The difference between being caught up in a part and being in self, and why it is often far more subtle than we expect✨ Why the one asking the questions and noticing what is happening is already self✨ Healing while living with emotionally unavailable parents: is it possible, and what does it actually look like✨ Grief and acceptance as the real foundation of healing in a triggering environment✨ How to use triggers as invitations to turn towards the parts that need you, rather than evidence that you are failing✨ The question to ask every single part that wants to do something harmful: what are you afraid would happen if you didn't?✨ Compulsive movement, the biological migration response and the parts work layer underneath✨ Why self never tells a part what it should or should not do, and why the voice saying "stop this behaviour" is probably another part✨ Using anger, resentment and the overachiever energy to fuel recovery, and why that is not anti-parts work at all✨ Why parts never really want to do the harmful things they do, they just do not yet know there is another way✨ What it looks like when a part finally trusts self enough to stop the behaviour it has been using to stay safePowerful quotes from the episode:

In this episode, Becky sits down with award-winning writer, filmmaker, and solo performer Skylar Lyralen Kaye (fae/they). We dive deep into the complex creative process behind their recently released non-binary memoir, Bachelorx. The audiobook is a feat of vocal storytelling, featuring 47 distinct characters—including 18 of Skylar's own inner voices. Skylar shares fascinating insights into the technical and emotional challenges of narration, including: Mastering Accents: How they utilized mimicry and digital tools to tackle everything from Puerto Rican to Russian-British accents. The Recording Journey: Moving from a DIY apartment setup to professional studios in Portugal and the importance of vocal pacing. Acting Techniques: Applying the Meisner technique and "Internal Family Systems" to bring authenticity to personal, often painful, memories. The Power of Humor: Using comedy as a survival muscle to navigate the heavy themes of a 35-year marriage and the vulnerability of dating in mid-life. Whether you are an author considering narrating your own memoir or a listener interested in the artistry of voice performance, this episode offers a profound look at how we use art to process trauma, find compassion, and reconnect with ourselves. Lyralen Kaye: https://lyralenkaye.com/ AMPlify Audiobooks: https://www.amplifyaudiobooks.com Pro Audio Voices: https://www.proaudiovoices.com Audiobook Connection: https://audiobookconnection.com Watch this interview on YouTube #AudiobookConnection #Bachelorx #Memoir #AudiobookProduction #NonBinaryVoices #Storytelling #VoiceActing #MeisnerTechnique #AuthorLife #IndieAuthors #AudiobookNarration   

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Have you ever felt like you've done all the inner work... yet one fear refuses to leave? In this compassionate and eye-opening coaching session, Christine works with Ilaria, who has spent years in therapy, practicing breathwork, nervous system regulation, and inner child healing. Yet one fear continues to consume her: the overwhelming fear of losing her parents. As she approaches her mid-thirties and begins thinking about creating a life of her own—finding a partner, becoming more independent, and stepping into her future—the fear grows even stronger. Why? Because underneath the anxiety isn't simply a fear of loss. It's a younger part of her that believes worrying is the only way to protect the people she loves. Christine introduces Ilaria to the powerful framework of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Parts Work, helping her recognize that this fear isn't all of who she is—it's one protective part that's been trying to keep her safe since childhood. Together they explore acceptance, self-compassion, nervous system healing, and why sometimes the greatest breakthrough comes not from trying harder to fix ourselves, but from changing how we relate to the parts of us that are hurting. If you've ever felt trapped by anxiety, worried constantly about the people you love, or wondered why years of healing haven't made a particular fear disappear, this episode offers a deeply hopeful new perspective. Press play to discover how accepting your fear—rather than fighting it—may be the very thing that finally brings you peace. Consider / Ask Yourself Is there a fear you've been trying to eliminate for years without success? Do you constantly worry about losing the people you love? Have you confused your anxiety with your identity? Could one protective part of you be trying to keep you safe in the only way it knows how? Key Insights and A-Ha's Anxiety doesn't define you—it may simply be one protective part of your inner world. Healing isn't always about eliminating fear; sometimes it's about changing your relationship to it. Love and fear often become intertwined, making it difficult to experience one without the other. Parts Work (IFS) helps create compassion for protective patterns instead of fighting against them. Nothing truly heals through judgment—acceptance creates space for transformation. How to Deepen the Work Notice when fear shows up, and gently ask yourself, "Which part of me is speaking right now?" Practice separating your identity from your anxious thoughts: "This is a part of me, not all of me." Explore Parts Work or Internal Family Systems with a trained practitioner if this approach resonates. Allow yourself to fully experience love without assuming fear must always accompany it. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes Christine shares why she loves Peluva, a minimalist five-toe shoe designed to strengthen the feet, encourage natural movement, and improve overall foot health. Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair. Visit: peluva.com Internal Family Systems (IFS) Christine recommends learning more about Parts Work (Internal Family Systems) and references her previous podcast conversation with Richard Schwartz, the founder of IFS, along with his book: No Bad Parts These resources offer a deeper understanding of how protective parts shape our emotional lives and how compassion can create lasting healing. Social Media + Resources:  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

If you've ever wondered why insight alone hasn't been enough to heal your trauma, this episode is your answer. We're going all the way back to fundamentals with a real somatic therapy 101, covering what somatic therapy actually is, how the nervous system holds onto trauma, and why healing from CPTSD requires more than just understanding your story.In this episode, we cover:Why trauma is a biological response, not just a psychological one (and what that means for your healing)The actual definition of somatic therapy, and the myths the internet keeps getting wrongA quick look at nervous system states: ventral vagal, sympathetic, and dorsal vagal, and why they matter for complex trauma specificallyWhat your window of tolerance is, and why it can narrow over timeTitration and pendulation: how somatic therapists help your body approach painful material safelyHow parts work (Internal Family Systems) connects directly to your nervous system statesWhy EMDR is a somatic therapy, not just "the eye movement thing"A nuanced conversation about The Body Keeps the Score and where current research agrees and pushes backWhether you're a trauma survivor trying to understand your own healing, or a fellow therapist looking for a clear, clinically grounded refresher, this episode is built to meet you where you are.Mentioned in this episode: Fawning as a Trauma Response episode Inner Child Healing and Reparenting episodeThanks for listening to The Complex Trauma Podcast!Be sure to follow, share and give us a review on your favorite podcast platform.Follow on Instagram: @sarahherstichlcsw Follow on TikTok: @sarahherstichlcswLearn more about EMDR & trauma therapy in Pennsylvania with Reclaim TherapyThis podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or nutritional advice, diagnosis, or treatment.Remember, I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. Nothing in this podcast is meant to replace actual therapy or treatment. If you're in crisis or things feel really unsafe right now, please reach out to someone. You can call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, text them, or head to your nearest ER.The views expressed by the host and guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organizations or institutions. Reliance on any information provided by this podcast is solely at your own risk.

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This week, Thomas sits down with the CEO of the Grameen Foundation, Zubaida Bai, for an inspiring conversation about amplifying oppressed voices, economically empowering women, and creating cultural and systemic changes to end poverty.Zubaida has spent decades working within impoverished communities across the globe to create adaptive, localized strategies to change outdated attitudes, make childbirth safer, and get women much-needed access to capital to ensure their long-term financial viability. Her holistic approach to poverty alleviation combines empathetic, culturally sensitive relationship building with a deep understanding of climate change, technology, and financial access. She and Thomas discuss how to create sustainable interventions and innovations for those in impoverished areas, and why it's so important to uplift the voices and struggles of women and mothers in the fight against poverty.✨ Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube:

Why does accountability feel so difficult after betrayal?For many betrayed partners, the answer seems obvious: if someone truly understood the pain they caused, they would simply own it.But healing is often more complicated.This week Alana explores why accountability can feel emotionally threatening for those who have betrayed a partner—not as an excuse, but as a pathway toward understanding the barriers that prevent true repair.You'll learn:The role shame plays in defensivenessHow nervous system responses can block empathyWhy self-hatred isn't accountabilityWhat betrayed partners should watch for when accountability never comesIf you're navigating betrayal trauma, compulsive sexual behavior recovery, or rebuilding trust after infidelity, this episode offers practical insights grounded in trauma-informed care.Chapters01:40 Why Accountability Feels Threatening03:22 Identity Death and Safety11:11 Grieving the False Self13:20 Mistakes Mean Rejection18:44 Emotional Capacity for Repair25:07 When Accountability is Missing28:25 How Betrayers Build AccountabilityRegister Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men's Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.

You can understand why your child is struggling and still be completely triggered by it. In this episode, I'm joined by Jacqi Trombley, a licensed clinical social worker, trauma specialist, and Level 2 trained IFS therapist, for a conversation about Internal Family Systems. Internal Family Systems, or IFS, is a therapy model that helps us understand the different parts inside us. Not in a "there is something wrong with you" way. More in a "of course you have more than one reaction happening at the same time" way. There may be a part of you that understands why your child is struggling. There may also be a part of you that is scared, embarrassed, angry, overwhelmed, or thinking, "Absolutely not. This cannot be what we are doing right now." That is where this conversation gets so useful for parents. Jacqi walks us through some of the parts language in IFS, including managers, exiles, and firefighters. We talk about why the goal is not to get rid of the anxious part, the angry part, the critical part, or the part that wants everyone to stop making noise immediately. The goal is to understand what those parts are trying to protect. Because so many parents can understand, intellectually, why their child is having a hard time and still feel completely activated by what is happening. We can know our child is neurodivergent, anxious, sensory overloaded, exhausted, or developmentally not where other kids are, and still have something inside us light up. That does not mean we are failing. It means something in us may need attention too. Jacqui and I talk about what happens when a child's dysregulation activates a parent's dysregulation. A child comes home tired, hungry, overwhelmed, or upset, and instead of saying, "I had a hard day and I need help," they poke their sibling, throw something, get loud, refuse the thing, or push every available button. And then, of course, something in us responds. IFS gives us another way to understand that moment. It helps us notice what might be happening inside the child and inside ourselves before everything becomes one big reaction. It gives us language for the part that wants to yell, the part that wants to disappear, the part that wants to fix everything, and the part that is quietly scared underneath it all. We also talk about trauma, inner child work, neurodivergence, and the power of witnessing the parts of ourselves that did not get what they needed at the time. And yes, IFS can sound a little hokey from the outside. Also, it can be deeply moving. This conversation is not about becoming a perfectly calm parent who never gets triggered. Please. We live here on Earth. It is about having another way to understand what is happening when your child's struggle touches something tender, scared, angry, or overwhelmed inside you. And sometimes that little bit of space is where things can begin to change. Key Takeaways Internal Family Systems, or IFS, is a therapy model that helps us understand the different parts inside us. Parts are not treated as bad in IFS. They are usually trying to protect something. A parent can understand why their child is struggling and still feel completely triggered by what is happening. Managers are the parts that try to keep things under control, prevent pain, and help us avoid rejection, shame, or failure. Exiles are often younger parts carrying pain, fear, shame, grief, or unmet needs. Firefighters are reactive parts that jump in quickly when something feels too overwhelming to tolerate. Trying to banish a part usually does not work because that part believes it has an important job. A child's dysregulation can quickly activate a parent's protective parts too. Neurodivergent kids may have repeated experiences of being misunderstood, misread, corrected, or left without help processing what happened. Parts work can help parents create enough space to notice what is happening inside themselves before responding from the most activated place. About Jacqi Trombley Jacqi Trombley is a licensed clinical social worker with more than 15 years of experience. She was trained as a trauma specialist by the Ferentz Institute in Baltimore and is a Level 2 trained IFS therapist. Her clinical background includes trauma, grief, depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, neurodiversity-affirming psychotherapy, and work across multiple settings including treatment foster care, homeless shelters, outpatient mental health clinics, and private practice. Jacqi has also administered psychosocial assessments for the Office of the Public Defender, led wellness groups for human service providers, hosted mental health seminars for private companies, and taught at the University of Maryland School of Social Work on oppression, privilege, cultural humility, and anti-oppression practice. About Your Host, Gabriele Nicolet I'm Gabriele Nicolet, toddler whisperer, speech therapist, parenting life coach, and host of Complicated Kids. Each week, I share practical, relationship-based strategies for raising kids with big feelings, big needs, and beautifully different brains. My goal is to help families move from surviving to thriving by building connection, confidence, and clarity at home. Complicated Kids Resources and Links:

One of our most-loved conversations is back! In this powerful episode, somatic practitioner Sarah Baldwin joins Jessica for a masterclass in understanding the invisible walls that hold us back, building the capacity to receive more goodness, and becoming the loving protector our younger selves needed. They explore the often-missed connection between manifestation, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, and self-worth, unpacking the invisible patterns that keep us stuck in procrastination, self-sabotage, and fear—even when we know exactly what we want. Through personal stories, vulnerability, and practical insight, Sarah and Jessica reveal why so many of us struggle to take aligned action toward love, purpose, abundance, visibility, and fulfillment—and what it takes to finally move forward. If you've ever wondered why you can envision your future but struggle to embody it, why success can feel overwhelming, or why your deepest desires trigger your deepest fears, this episode offers a compassionate roadmap forward. This conversation shines a light on the subconscious and nervous system blocks we're actively working through in the Be Seen Challenge. Take the kickoff quiz in the TBM app and take the first step toward becoming your most visible, authentic, and magnetic self. Find the complete show notes here → https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast   Resources: The Be Seen Challenge Stop playing small in your career, relationships, and life and step into your magnetic, expressed power. Now LIVE inside The Pathway.   Summer Sale: $23/Month Start your manifestation journey at our lowest price of the season: $23/month! Join now and step into the Be Seen Challenge with us before this offer ends.   Free Masterclass: Step Into Your F*ck It Energy If you missed our live masterclass with Lacy and Jessica — don't worry, you can still watch the replay! Learn how to step into your f*ck it energy and feel genuinely safe being seen.   Join the Pathway Membership Use code EXPANDED for 20% off your first month! The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential. LEARN MORE HERE   Get the latest from TBM Join the Pathway now - Return to Magic Challenge, Money Challenge, and Nervous System Reset available now!   New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You Started Learn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire  Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial Library Ready to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise   Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation Story Submit to Be a Process Guest What did you manifest during the Return to Magic Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode!   This Episode Is Brought to You By:  Bon Charge - 15% off with code MAGNETIC  Infrared PEMF Mat The BON CHARGE Infrared PEMF Mat is my absolute go-to product! I use it almost daily to ground my nervous system, drop in deeper into my meditations & help my body recover after big hikes. The highest quality and most biohacking stacked mat I've seen on the market! 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(Including the Fight or Flight DI, Inner Child DI, Safe to Be Seen DI)   Connect with Sarah Baldwin! @sarahbcoaching on IG https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/ You Make Sense on Apple Podcasts You Make Sense - Sarah's somatic healing program - join the waitlist HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill)Available now! The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.At TBM, we've redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you'll learn how to: – Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth – Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work – Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth – Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true selfWith over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you're meant to live.Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

I don't know about you, but even though I use AI almost every single day, there is still a part of me that gets nervous about it. I love nothing more than sitting across from a friend with a cup of coffee, driving in the car with my kids and husband to Seattle to see a World Cup Game (yep, I went), or being out in nature with nothing but my own thoughts, no machine, no screen, just me. I am deeply passionate about human connection. So passionate that I did a TED talk on The Power of Human Connection. So when I think about what AI might mean for how we relate to each other, it concerns me. And yet here I am, using AI daily, and if I am honest, loving it. That conflict lives inside of me, and it is exactly what led me to this conversation with today's guest, Jack Swift.I met Jack about two years ago. I was up in the hills outside of Los Angeles, spending the day at a conference on human performance, and at dinner that night I ended up sitting next to Jack. Within minutes we were talking about Jungian psychology, Internal Family Systems, and the nature of the soul. That is just who Jack is. He goes deep fast, and with such warmth that you don't realize how far you have gone until you come up for air. Something about him immediately put me at ease about what it means to be human in this moment.Jack grew up in Hope, Arkansas (yes, the same town as the Clintons), where something was planted in him early around service and possibility. That thread carried him to West Point as a DI athlete, to the Army as an Airborne Ranger, into institutional finance, and eventually to co-found and lead TIFIN. On this AI-native fintech platform, he grew the team from 30 to over 300 people and oversaw JPMorgan's acquisition of 55ip. When Jack talks about AI, he is not theorizing. He has lived it from the inside.And yet what strikes me most about Jack is not his resume. It is that alongside all of that, he co-founded Sangha, a community I am lucky enough to be part of. A collective of heart-centered leaders, small circles of people who meet regularly, grow together, and integrate their inner work into every part of life. It tells you everything you need to know about who Jack really is.What makes his story so human is that through his success, he was also quietly struggling. Leaning on alcohol to numb emotions he didn't have words for, stuck in fight-or-flight, measuring his worth by what the world reflected back to him. He shares all of this openly, including the one moment with his daughter that finally changed everything. That part of our conversation stopped me in my tracks.Here is a taste of what we get into:✨Leading from the inside out and why knowing your own truth is the most important leadership skill right now✨The “resentment trap” and what a story about music in a car taught me about relationships✨Why “I don't know” and “I made a mistake” are the two most powerful things a leader can say✨How Jack uses AI agents as thought partners, including helping his own son figure out his next career chapterIf you have ever worried about jobs, wondered what to tell your kids to study, or felt like this technology is moving faster than you can keep up with, this episode is for you. Jack does not dismiss that fear. He meets it with honesty and reframes it in a way that gave me hope. As someone who carries caution around what AI means for human connection, I can tell you this conversation with Jack left me feeling more hopeful about AI, about people, and about life itself.xoMollyJack's Resources and LinksLevel 7 Leadership: The Blueprint for the Human+Machine Era by Jack Swift, and L7 AI agent at l7leadership.comLinkedIn Website Sangha  

Did you know that you are one human made up of multiple personalities, or parts, that interact internally, much like people interact in the external world? This is what Internal Family Systems (IFS) teaches us. These parts are responsible for the bulk of your habits, so when you understand these parts or personalities better, you have the secret to understanding your habits.   This week, discover how your habits can be explained as thoughts, feelings, and actions that originate from distinct parts of yourself. I'm giving you an overview of IFS, and sharing a practical exercise that will help you notice and name the parts of yourself that contribute to your specific habits.   Get the full show notes and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/75   Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

This week, Thomas explores how to connect with your deepest purpose and uncover your ‘karmic blueprint' through embodied presence and contemplative practices.He shares how purpose is not an external object to be found, but an internal truth that's revealed by working through life's challenges, healing your individual wounds, and integrating the wounds of those who came before you.When we learn to see challenges not as obstacles, but as opportunities to encounter our core creativity and break unhealthy patterns, our path forward becomes much clearer. Thomas also explores the importance of finding community on this journey, and how our personal transformations have ecosystemic impact.There's still time to join Thomas this month for a new 7-Day Journey: ✨ Unlocking Your Purpose: Deepen Your Connection to your Innermost Calling ✨Through 7 days of teachings, meditations, and practices led by Thomas, you'll discover your life's purpose as a mystical, emergent, and ongoing dialogue between your inner creative spark and the needs of the world.It all takes place in our membership community, The Mystic Café. Join now, and you'll get your first month of membership for just $1! Learn more and start your journey here

Many people spend years reading books, listening to podcasts, attending therapy, and understanding addiction. Yet they still feel stuck.This week Luke and Alana explain why information alone never creates transformation—and what actually does.You'll learn:Why insight feels good but doesn't change behaviorThe uncomfortable “growth zone”How emotional awareness rewires recoveryWhy habits matter more than motivationHow integration creates lasting healingChapters01:35 The Recovery Expert Trap02:25 Swimming Lessons05:37 Insight vs Practice07:24 Repetition11:15 Integration15:13 Systems18:46 Compassion As You Try to ChangeRegister Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men's Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.

Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst is a licensed psychologist serving Maryland and Washington, D.C., with more than 50 years ofexperience helping individuals, couples, and families navigate trauma, anxiety,relationship challenges, and life transitions through evidence-based onlinetherapy. Her work is grounded in neuroscience, attachment theory, and a deepunderstanding of emotional development. She has served as Director of Child andAdolescent Services at the Chesapeake ADHD Center of Maryland, was a tenuredAssistant Professor of Developmental Psychology at Towson University,and founded Vanderhorst & Associates. Dr. Vanderhorst isthe bestselling author of Read, Reflect, Respond: The 3 R's of Growth andChange and the upcoming How Not to F$%! Up Being a Father. Withspecialized expertise in Internal Family Systems, Emotion Focused Therapy,neuro-cognitive therapy, ADHD, executive functioning, and collaborative disputeresolution, she is a sought-after speaker on psychology, personal growth, andemotional wellness.Linkto episode can be found here:  #drdanamzallag, #drdanpodcast, #Happinessjourneywithdrdan,#ddanmotivation, #inspiringinterviews, #drdancbt, #drdantherapy,#drdancoaching, #drdanhappiness,  

For years we've been told that healing trauma means talking about it. But what if talking isn't enough?In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Harvard-trained psychiatrist and world-renowned trauma expert Dr. Frank Anderson to explore why trauma isn't simply stored in your memories. It's stored in your body.We discuss why so many women find old wounds resurfacing during perimenopause and menopause, why food often becomes a coping mechanism for unresolved trauma, and why traditional talk therapy doesn't always create lasting healing.Dr. Anderson shares the science behind trauma, nervous system regulation, EMDR, Internal Family Systems, psychedelics, and the small daily experiences that help your brain and body finally feel safe again.If you've ever wondered why you keep reacting the same way despite years of personal growth, this conversation will help you understand what your body has been trying to tell you all along.In this episode you'll learn:• Why talking about trauma doesn't always heal it• How trauma becomes stored inside the body• The surprising reason menopause often brings unresolved trauma to the surface• Why emotional eating is often a protective response• How fasting reveals hidden emotional patterns around food• Why triggers are valuable clues instead of something to fear• The role of EMDR, Internal Family Systems, somatic therapies, and psychedelics in trauma recovery• Simple daily practices that begin creating lasting healingResources MentionedThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der KolkTranscending Trauma by Dr. Frank AndersonTo Be Loved by Dr. Frank AndersonInternal Family Systems (IFS)More on Dr. Frank AndersonDr. Frank Anderson is a Harvard-trained psychiatrist, internationally recognized trauma expert, and author of Transcending Trauma and To Be Loved. He trained alongside trauma pioneer Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, serves on the board of the Trauma Research Foundation, and has spent decades helping people heal through an integrative approach that combines neuroscience, Internal Family Systems, attachment theory, and body-based therapies.Website: frankandersonmd.comInstagram: @frank_andersonmdDr. Frank Anderson's BooksFor more resources related to today's episode, visit the podcast episode page: https://www.drmindypelz.com/ep33XConnect with Dr. Mindy:Join Reset AcademyWatch the episodes on YouTubeFollow Dr. Mindy on InstagramSubscribe to Dr. Mindy's newsletterDisclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Always consult a qualified healthcare professional before making changes to your diet, fasting routine, or lifestyle.

In this episode of The Vibe With Ky Podcast, trauma-informed therapist Kirsten Davidson breaks down why your ambition might actually be a trauma response.If you have ever hit every goal on paper and still felt completely empty inside, this conversation was made for you.Kirsten Davidson is a Registered Psychotherapist and the founder of Mind The Gaps Psychotherapy, where she works with adults, couples, and families navigating disconnection, emotional overwhelm, and the patterns that keep pulling them back into the same cycles. Her approach is rooted in Internal Family Systems, relational therapy, and trauma-informed care, and she writes regularly for Psychology Today on identity, relationships, and what real growth actually looks like. What sets Kirsten apart is that she does not just treat the symptom. She goes looking for what created it.In this conversation, Kirsten and Ky get into the neurology of autopilot living, how high achievement can be a well-disguised trauma response, and what it biologically takes to break an intergenerational cycle. You will walk away with a completely different way of looking at the parts of yourself you have been fighting for years.High achievers are often running on protection, not passion, and there is a biological reason for that.Internal Family Systems reframes your emotions as parts of you, not all of you, which changes how you heal.Hiding who you really are is not a personality trait. It is a trauma response.Breaking a generational cycle has a physical sensation, and most people do not expect what it actually feels like.Find Kirsten Davidson, book a session, and explore her work here:https://mindthegaps.coFind Kirsten on Psychology Today by searching her name directly on the Psychology Today website.Follow Kirsten on Instagram: instagram.com/kirsten.davidsonMore from Ky:Website, blog, ADHD store, and email list: https://thevibewithky.comPatreon, subscribe for five dollars a month for the exclusive ADHD Deep Dive Library, behind-the-scenes content, and the Reverse The Mic segment with this guest that is not available anywhere else online: https://www.patreon.com/thevibewithkyFacebook Subscriptions, same exclusive content and Reverse The Mic access for five dollars a month: https://www.facebook.com/thevibewithky/subscribe/Instagram: https://instagram.com/thevibewithkyTikTok: https://tiktok.com/@thevibewithkyADHD Vibers Store: https://thevibewithky.podia.com/This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified professional.

In this reflective solo episode, Krista explores the hidden ways self-development and spiritual work can sometimes become rooted in the belief that we need “fixing.” She shares how healing isn't about becoming someone new—it's about learning to love yourself more deeply. Through conversations on manifestation, Internal Family Systems, and self-worth, Krista reflects on the “hungry ghost” that drives so many people to constantly seek more. This episode is a reminder that healing begins when we fully accept who we are. Morning Microdose is a podcast curated by Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik, the hosts and founders of Almost 30, a global community, brand, and top-rated podcast. With curated clips from the Almost 30 podcast, Morning Microdose will set the tone for your day, so you can feel inspired through thought-provoking conversations…all in digestible 10-minute episodes.  Wake up with Krista and Lindsey, both literally and spiritually, Monday-Friday. If you enjoyed this conversation, listen to the full episode on Spotify ⁠here⁠ and on Apple ⁠here⁠.  Sponsors: AirDoctor | Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code MICRODOSE to get $250 off select AirDoctor air purifiers, including the 3500, 4000, and 5500 models.

Kanan is a holistic coach for neurodivergent, gifted and 2e adults and families - those who are highly sensitive, intense, complex and often misunderstood. She specialises in transforming their wellbeing and sense of agency so they can reach their full potential in all areas of life.She has a lifetime of lived experience of intersectionality as a late diagnosed autistic and gifted, asian woman. 30 plus years in a neurodiverse relationship.17 plus years as a parent to an ADHD, autistic and gifted teen and over 8 years working closely with the neurodivergent population from children aged 3 to adults in their 60s. Comfortable navigating neuroscience and psychology to ancient wisdom, somatic practices and energy work meaning she can quickly connect and dive deep with clients to get to the root of the problem. With a focus on emotional and existential intelligence she intuitively facilitates healing allowing individuals to feel lighter and live meaningful, fulfilling lives. Her work is influenced by trauma healing approaches such as Internal Family Systems, Somatic Experiencing, Compassionate Inquiry, buddhist philosophy, shamanic and yogic practices. Clients feel safe to be completely vulnerable and therefore able to see how they are holding themselves back. By raising their level of consciousness they can express their full authentic selves and self-actualise.website linkhttps://www.kanancoaching.com/Sign up link for Letters from the Space Between - reflections and gentle provocations for the neurodivergent, gifted, sensitive and soul searching https://www.kanancoaching.com/letters Kanan Tekchandani,Empowering exceptional individuals to create a life of love, meaning and success.www.kanancoaching.comsubscribe to Letters From The Space Between - reflections for the gifted, neurodivergent, sensitive and soul searching.This podcast is for you if you're looking to:Join a community for creatives, entrepreneurs, and anyone who thinks ‘out of the box.'Find conversations on Neurodivergence and difference.Learn how to use your unique wiring for a purposeful life.Visit Middle Earth Medicine to learn more and connect with Caroline.The views expressed by guests on this podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect my perspectives. My aim is to create a space for open enquiry, diverse experiences, and thoughtful conversation. As always, I invite you to reflect on what resonates, question what doesn't, and trust your own wisdom.Your donations directly fuel the growth of this podcast! They allow Caroline to bring in even more wonderful and inspiring guests, expanding her reach to uplift even more listeners. Please show your support and become part of the magic! Donations of any amount are deeply appreciated. You can make a secure donation through PayPal using the link below.Every contribution, big or small, makes a difference! paypal.me/carolinecarey60 Thank you for your support in spreading the light of soul journeys. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tammy Sollenberger, LCMHC, is a licensed clinical mental health counselor and a certified IFS consultant. She is also the author of the book "The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self” and host of The One Inside Podcast.For more information about Tammy Sollenberger's book, podcast, and resources related to Internal Family Systems, visit https://tammysollenberger.com/FB: https://www.facebook.com/theoneinsideIFSIG: https://www.instagram.com/ifs.tammy/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-trauma-therapist--5739761/support.---Thank you for listening!If you want to support the show, I've got three options and every bit helps.$5.00 PayPalhttps://www.paypal.com/ncp/payment/NPKS32G8KVSN2$10.00 PayPalhttps://www.paypal.com/ncp/payment/495AMDFXQFC3L$15.00 PayPalhttps://www.paypal.com/ncp/payment/M7V5RREUKVD8JThank you to our Sponsors: Jane App - use code GUY1MO at https://janesoftware.partnerlinks.io/ngvcwcxqt2jx-4afv8i (https://jane.app/book_a_demo)Novo Psych - novopsych.com/traumapodcastRebound - https://hellorebound.com/tt

OCD isn’t just about managing symptoms—it’s about understanding the parts beneath them In the third and final part of our OCD series, expert Melissa Mose explores the complexities of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), discussing evidence-based treatments like Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) and how Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy can complement traditional approaches. Drawing from both professional expertise and personal experience, Melissa shares practical strategies for navigating OCD, while highlighting the roles of self-leadership, compassion, and understanding the different “parts” that influence thoughts, fears, and behaviors. “ERP has been shown to be the most effective treatment. Exposures help the brain rewire and learn resilience.” – Melissa Mose  Time Stamps for The Hidden Parts of OCD: ERP, IFS, and Self-Leadership with Melissa Mose (303) 00:12 Introduction to OCD and treatment 02:58 Understanding exposure and response prevention (ERP) 08:13 The role of the therapist in ERP 10:45 Integrating internal family systems (IFS) with ERP 13:30 The impact of shame in OCD 16:09 Differentiating reassurance from compulsions 36:25 Understanding exiled parts in therapy 40:58 Obsessive and compulsive parts: A closer look 43:38 Navigating the helicopter parent dynamic 47:40 Differentiating between anxiety and OCD 55:45 The connection between attachment and OCD About our Guest – Melissa Mose, LMFT Melissa Mose is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in Los Angeles since 1995. She has specialized in the treatment of OCD and anxiety since 2011 and currently trains and supervises associates in her group practice. Melissa is also an Internal Family Systems therapist. She is Level 3 trained and Certified and an IFSI-approved clinical consultant. She has served on staff as a PA for multiple Level 1 and Level 2 experiential IFS trainings through the IFS Institute. Melissa's experience as the parent of a child with OCD led her to specialize in the treatment of individuals with anxiety and OCD as well as their families. She is a graduate of the IOCDF's general, pediatric and advanced Behavior Therapy Training Institutes (BTTI) as well as the Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions (SPACE) program and Cognitive-behavioral Intervention for Tics training (CBIT). Her fifteen years of experience prior to that specialization provided a broad foundation of skills and approaches that infuse her integrative approach. With a background in family systems and mindfulness practices, she became driven to find more compassionate and accessible treatment for OCD. Melissa has developed an integrative approach that utilizes an IFS framework to provide evidence-based exposure therapy for OCD. She is an international speaker and educator on obsessive compulsive disorder and its treatment, and she is currently the president of the board of directors of OCD Southern California, an affiliate of the International OCD Foundation. In her role on the board of OCD SoCal advocates for individuals with OCD, hosts speakers' series, trainings, and one of largest virtual OCD conferences worldwide. It is her mission to raise awareness, improve early identification and greater treatment accessibility for individuals with OCD and their families. Resources for The Hidden Parts of OCD: ERP, IFS, and Self-Leadership with Melissa Mose (303) Melissa’s website – Resources & information IFS for OCD Clinician’s Guide – Melissa’s book – Internal Family Systems for OCD: A Clinician’s Guide  www.OCDSoCal.org – Melissa is president of OCD Southern California Beyond Attachment Styles course is available NOW!   Learn how your nervous system, your mind, and your relationships work together in a fascinating dance, shaping who you are and how you connect with others. Online, Self-Paced, Asynchronous Learning with Quarterly Live Q&A’s! Earn 6 Continuing Education Credits – Available at Checkout As a listener of this podcast, use code BAS15 for a limited-time discount.       You are invited!  Join our exclusive community to get early access and discounts to things we produce, plus an ad-free, private feed. In addition, receive exclusive episodes recorded just for you. Sign up for our premium Neuronerd plan!! Click here!!    Get your copy of Secure Relating here!! Please support our sponsors – they keep our podcast free and accessible to all!  A coffee alternative with 4 adaptogenic mushrooms and ayurvedic herbs. With only a fraction of caffeine as a cup of coffee, you get energy without the anxiety, jitters, or crash of coffee Go to mudwtr.com/tu to support the show and use code TU for 15% off

This week, we're releasing our 200TH EPISODE! To celebrate this milestone, we're sharing a compilation of some of our favorite segments from previous episodes on spirituality and mysticism.You'll hear from Thomas and acclaimed guests with backgrounds in meditation, Buddhism, neuroscience, philosophy, poetry, and Indigenous African spirituality, including: Andrea Gibson, Bayo Akomolafe, Dr. Lisa Miller, and Jack Kornfield.Tune in for embodied wisdom, deep expertise, and powerful personal insights on the spiritual experience of mortality, the mystical traditions of the Igbo and Yoruba people, how spirituality functions in the brain, and the transformative power of collective experiences and rituals.01:24 - Andrea Gibson on Befriending Mortality 06:53 - Jack Kornfield on Finding Your Self on the Spiritual Path 19:20 - Thomas on Embodying Our Soul's Capacity 25:47 - Bayo Akomolafe on Bold Frontiers of Spiritual Healing 38:41 - Dr. Lisa Miller on The Science of Spiritual Awakening✨ Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube:

Why does an emotionally shut down man struggle to change—even when he genuinely wants to?In this follow-up episode, Luke and Alana respond to listener questions about emotional shutdown, nervous system healing, and what recovery actually looks like for men who have spent years disconnecting from their emotions.***Listen to Part 1 HERE.***Together they explore:Why insight alone doesn't create changeWhat emotional shutdown is really protectingHow attachment wounds shape adult relationshipsWhy some men become more emotional after starting recoveryWhat somatic work actually isHow nervous system healing creates lasting transformationWhat emotional reconnection looks like in real lifeChapters01:23 Why Insight Isn't Enough07:40 What Shutdown Protects11:50 Control and Safety16:20 Predictability Over Vulnerability20:10 Reconnecting Emotionally28:53 Somatic Work Explained30:14 Healing Takes TimeRegister Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men's Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.

In this episode of The Psychedelic Podcast, Paul F. Austin sits down with Dr. Stefanie Kleine, psychospiritual coach, author of BE THE WORK, and co-founder of The Sacred House of Eden, to explore the hidden wound that often drives achievement and why lasting transformation happens on the level of being rather than doing. Find full show notes and links here: https://thethirdwave.co/podcast/episode-361/?ref=278  Drawing on more than two decades of experience coaching executives, founders, athletes, physicians, and other high performers, Stefanie shares how her first psychedelic experience revealed the pattern beneath a lifetime of accomplishment and opened a path toward deeper self-acceptance. She explains her framework of grasping versus generative desire, the Be-Do-Have inversion, and why many personal growth and wellness practices can unintentionally reinforce the same striving they aim to heal. The conversation also explores psychedelic integration, Internal Family Systems-informed coaching, conscious leadership, nervous system regulation, AI and human connection, and what it means to move from proving your worth to inhabiting it. Throughout, Stefanie offers a grounded perspective on why ceremony is only the beginning and how true transformation unfolds through the choices we make afterward. Dr. Stefanie Kleine is a psychospiritual coach, guide, and author who has spent more than 23 years coaching executives, founders, attorneys, physicians, athletes, and other high performers. She holds a master's degree and PhD in psychology and is the co-founder of The Sacred House of Eden, one of the leading psychedelic retreat centers in the United States. Since 2018, she has guided more than 1,600 ceremonies and integration processes. Her work centers on what she calls the Be-Do-Have Inversion: the shift from human doing to human being. She is the author of BE THE WORK: The Shift from Human Doing to Human Being and has been featured in Bloomberg, The Wall Street Journal, and Forbes. Highlights: The wound beneath high achievement Stefanie's first psychedelic awakening Grasping versus generative desire Why transformation happens on the being level The Be-Do-Have inversion Psychedelic integration beyond ceremony Internal Family Systems and coaching Conscious leadership after psychedelic work AI, humanity, and authentic connection Moving from striving to wholeness Episode Links: Dr. Stefanie's website The Sacred House of Eden "BE THE WORK" book Free Guided Meditation by Dr. Stefanie Episode Sponsors: The Practitioner Certification Program by Third Wave's Psychedelic Coaching Institute. The Microdosing Practitioner Certification at Psychedelic Coaching Institute. Golden Rule - Get a lifetime discount of 10% with code THIRDWAVE at checkout Disclaimer: This content is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. We do not promote or encourage the illegal use of any controlled substances. Nothing said here is medical or legal advice. Always consult a qualified medical or mental health professional before making decisions related to your health. The views expressed herein belong to the speaker alone, and do not reflect the views of any other person, company, or organization. Third Wave occasionally partners with or shares information about other people, companies, and/or providers. While we work hard to only share information about ethical and responsible third parties, we can't and don't control the behavior of, products and services offered by, or the statements made by people, companies, or providers other than Third Wave. Accordingly, we encourage you to research for yourself, and consult a medical, legal, or financial professional before making decisions in those areas. Third Wave isn't responsible for the statements, conduct, services, or products of third parties. If we share a coupon code, we may receive a commission from sales arising from customers who use our coupon code. No one is required to use our coupon codes.

Welcome back to the podcast. Today, we are diving into a topic that affects millions of people yet is often misunderstood: Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or CPTSD.Joining me is Jay Saxe, also known as The Trauma Coach, an IFS-informed healing practitioner helping high-functioning trauma survivors who look fine on the outside but don't feel fine on the inside.In this conversation, Jay breaks down what CPTSD really is and why so many people struggle with patterns of shame, self-criticism, emotional dysregulation, and relationship challenges without realizing that trauma may be at the root.We'll also explore Internal Family Systems, or IFS, a powerful therapeutic approach that helps people connect with and heal the different parts of themselves that developed in response to difficult life experiences. Jay explains how IFS can support recovery from trauma, repair attachment wounds, and help people move toward greater self-compassion, resilience, and inner peace.Whether you're on your own healing journey, supporting someone you care about, or simply curious about how trauma impacts the mind and body, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical wisdom.Please join me in welcoming Jay Saxe to the podcast.Connect with Jay Saxe - The Trauma CoachInstagram: @iamjaysaxeTik Tok: @iamjaysaxeGrab his free abandonment audioConnect with me:Instagram: @Pam_RoccaTik Tok: @Pam_RoccaWebsite: www.pamrocca.comWork with me:Book a Free 15-minute Clarity Call:https://calendly.com/divinehealth/15minBook an Initial Consultation: https://calendly.com/divinehealth/90minIntuitive Oracle Reading: https://calendly.com/divinehealth/60-minute-intuitive-oracle-card-readingIntuitive Reiki Session or Distance Reiki Session:https://calendly.com/divinehealth/in-person-intuitive-reiki-healing-session-60-minsEnergy Work Sessions - Energy Healing: https://calendly.com/divinehealth/energy-healing-sessionSoul and Transformation Coaching: https://calendly.com/divinehealth/3-month-coaching-packageIf you enjoyed this episode, please let me know so I can create more of the content you love. Also, please share the podcast with anyone you know who would love this community, these tools, information, and free resources. Have the most love-filled week and shine on, my friends.

You're not just a people pleaser. You're running a survival response your nervous system learned to keep you safe. Most of us were taught that being agreeable, flexible, and endlessly giving was a virtue. Meg Josephson, a licensed psychotherapist and author of the New York Times bestselling book Are You Mad At Me?, says that pattern is actually a trauma response, and it's running your relationships, your sense of self, and your inner world without you even realizing it. The fawn response is the fourth threat response, alongside fight, flight, and freeze. It's the one we never get punished for. We get applauded. And that applause is exactly what makes it so hard to break. Meg breaks down the six archetypes it can take: the peacekeeper, the performer, the perfectionist, the chameleon, the caretaker, and the lone wolf. What it costs you isn't just your time or your boundaries. It's your identity. When you spend years morphing yourself to be liked in every room, you stop knowing what you actually want, feel, or believe. Meg went to a store after college and realized she didn't know her own favorite color. That's the depth of self-erasure people pleasing creates. The path out starts with one counterintuitive skill: learning to tolerate discomfort. Not fixing, not performing, not self-optimizing. Just pausing long enough to notice what's happening beneath the fawn response, and choosing something different. Are You Mad At Me? Amazon Ebook Audiobook Meg's Instagram Meg's TikTok Meg's Substack Meg's Website In this episode you will: Understand how complex trauma and generational patterns keep the approval-seeking cycle alive across lifetimes Build the tolerance for discomfort that breaks the people pleasing pattern and lets you show up as your full self Discover the fawn response and why it is the one threat response society actively rewards instead of corrects Identify which of the six people pleaser archetypes is quietly running your behavior in relationships and at work Learn the critical difference between reassurance seeking and genuine validation, and why only one of them actually heals the root For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1942 For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960 Follow The Daily Motivation for essential highlights from The School of Greatness More SOG episodes we think you'll love: Lewis Howes Solo [Stop Helping Everyone But Yourself] Emily McDonald Dr. K TOPICS Meg Josephson, people pleasing, fawn response, internal family systems, complex trauma, reassurance vs. validation, people pleaser archetypes, shame and self-blame, nervous system healing, generational trauma, Are You Mad At Me Get More From Lewis! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This week, Thomas sits down with journalist Matthew Green to explore the hidden effects of “shadow trauma” and what it takes to heal and repair after acting against your own ethics.From personal missteps to moral injury to ancestral and historical trauma, we all carry the weight of transgression. But often, the shame that accompanies this holds us back from integration and healing.Thomas and Matthew discuss how to move beyond isolation and repression to bring our vulnerabilities into safe, healing environments where we can reintegrate these fragmented shadow parts, repair relationships, and restore our connection to our true selves.✨ Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube:

What does an emotionally shut down man actually look like?Spoiler:Usually not what people think.In this powerful conversation, Luke and Alana explore the hidden reality of emotional shutdown in men—especially the high-performing, successful men who appear “fine” on the outside but are deeply disconnected on the inside.From avoidant attachment to compulsive behavior, emotional numbness, and relational loneliness, this episode helps both men and betrayed partners understand what's really happening beneath the surface.Healing is possible. Deeper connection is possible.But first—you have to feel.Chapters01:48 What Being Emotionally Shut Down Looks Like04:01 High Performing Shut down09:13 Inside the Shutdown12:39 Signs and Logic16:54 Learning Emotional Safety19:35 Tears and the Body22:27 Busy vs Stillness24:14 Chasing Intensity30:00 Numbness and Dissociation38:35 Individuation and ReconnectionRegister Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men's Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.

We sit down with psychotherapist Kirsten Davidson to unpack why couples drift into disconnection and how Internal Family Systems therapy can help us lead ourselves with more clarity, compassion, and courage. We challenge the stories we tell ourselves in conflict, practice speaking from “parts” instead of blame, and lay out simple shifts that rebuild real connection. • assumptions driving communication breakdowns and unnecessary hurt • avoiding hard talks out of fear of the truth and discomfort • using IFS “parts” language to create space and reduce shame • defining self-energy and what “self-led” looks like at home • turning fights into dialogue instead of debate • choosing radical honesty about our limits and patterns • why couples counseling works better when we go earlier • tips for newlyweds and engaged couples to benchmark what works • resources to learn IFS, including Richard Schwartz's No Bad Parts • how we build hope when couples feel exhausted and stuck Coming June 23: Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life.Available now for Kindle Pre-Order for 99¢Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce stress, and create a more meaningful life—one small habit at a time.Available June 23 wherever books are sold.The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission.Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org  Podcast.stongermarriage.orgYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLifeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelifeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.comhttp://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/ 

In this episode, I'm joined by J. Ashley T. Booth for a fascinating conversation about her unconventional journey from studying oceanography to becoming deeply immersed in the worlds of Internal Family Systems, psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy, and consciousness exploration. We also explore her beautiful book, Quieting the Storm Within — a visually engaging and accessible introduction to IFS for both teens and adults. Together, we discuss the power of visual learning in healing, why curiosity and compassion are central to inner work, and how Ashley is helping make parts work more approachable through creativity, metaphor, and a fresh language for understanding our internal system.   In this episode, we discuss: • Ashley's life transition from oceanography to the healing world of IFS and psychedelics • How Burning Man catalyzed a profound shift in her personal and spiritual path • Psychedelics as a bridge from the material world into the mystical • Quieting the Storm Within as an illustrated guide to understanding IFS for teens and adults • The metaphor of Self as the sun and parts as the clouds passing by • Why visual learning can be transformative, especially for individuals with dyslexia • Interactive activities woven throughout the book to deepen self-exploration • Helping readers cultivate curiosity and compassion toward their internal world • How principles of Nonviolent Communication are integrated throughout the book • Ashley's decision to reframe protector parts as helpers, including proactive helpers and reactive helpers   About Ashley Booth J. Ashley T. Booth, LCSW, MS, MA is an IFS therapist, educator, and former MAPS therapist specializing in psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy. With a background in mental health, integration work, and self-inquiry practices, she brings a unique and compassionate perspective to parts work. Ashley's mission is to make IFS approachable and engaging through visual storytelling, playful metaphors, and practical tools.   Connect with Ashley Website: ashleybooth.net Book Website: ifsandbeyond.com Instagram: @ifsandbeyond TikTok: @ifsandbeyond   ________________________________ Want to work with Natalie? Contact her below Website: https://www.ndwellnessservices.com/ Contact: https://www.ndwellnessservices.com/contact  Instagram: @nataliedeering _____________________________   Help Support the Podcast by Donating Here!    You can also support the podcast by following, rating, and leaving a review! 

Have you ever felt like you are carrying something heavy that you cannot quite explain, something that does not even feel like it started with you? A few years ago I traced my own anxious drive back to grandparents I never met, people who were, in a real sense, being chased by wolves. It turns out a lot of what we call “my issues” was handed to us. And that makes it far more workable than it feels. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Thomas Hübl, the teacher and trauma-integration facilitator who co-wrote the new book Releasing Our Burdens with Dr. Richard Schwartz, the creator of Internal Family Systems. Thomas studies healing as one continuum that runs from the individual to the ancestral to the collective, and he joined me to explain why the thing you keep trying to fix about yourself may not have started with you, and what becomes possible when you stop fighting it and start to thaw it. In This Episode Why the thing you keep trying to fix about yourself may not have started with you, and what that changes The freezer metaphor that explains what trauma quietly costs you every single day Why Thomas calls trauma “a loan from the future,” and how the bill comes due What is really happening when your partner says one thing and your whole body locks up How intergenerational trauma gets passed down, in your nervous system and even in your cells The difference between the resilience you inherited and the burden you inherited Why a whole country can feel stuck and reactive, and what that has to do with your own healing A different definition of healing: not fixing what is broken, but releasing what is frozen This episode is for anyone who has ever looked at their own anxiety, or their drivenness, or that low hum of feeling empty for no reason they can name, and thought, where is this even coming from? If you have done the personal work and still feel like there is a layer underneath you cannot reach, this conversation opens a door. Some of what you carry is not a personal failing. It is inherited. And it can be set down. Episode Breakdown 00:00 Trauma That Didn't Start With You 10:42 Why You're Driven by People You Never Met 13:24 When a Whole Country Can't Calm Down 18:52 The Tension She Carried for Decades 31:41 Trauma Is a Loan From the Future 35:21 Who Pays the Electricity Bill? 39:30 Your Partner Doesn't Have the Remote Control for Your Heart 53:31 Cleaning Up the Living Room We Were Born Into Resources Full episode page (everything in one place, including Thomas's books and where to find him) Free “What's Holding You Back?” Quiz Personal growth coaching and therapy at Growing Self Talk to someone (free consultation) If you take one thing from today, let it be this: some of what you are carrying did not start with you, and it can be released. If something in here landed, the What's Holding You Back quiz is a quick, free place to begin, and if you want to talk it through with a real person, a free consultation with one of our coaches or therapists is just a conversation, no pressure. We work with people across a whole range of experience levels and price points, including newer coaches in our practicum, so there is usually a fit for almost any budget. Come find all of it at GrowingSelf.com. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast: Upwork — When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA — Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order. LNutra Prolon — A science-backed, plant-based nutrition program that supports fat loss, metabolism, cellular rejuvenation, and overall longevity. Head to ProlonLife.com/LHS for 15% off your first order + a bonus gift.

Gabby Bernstein, #1 New York Times bestselling author and spiritual teacher, spent years in perimenopause without ever naming it, until menopause hit at 44 and she came out the other side in what she calls a kind of resurrection. In this episode, she and Jeff trace that path: the unraveling, the hormones, the strength training, and the spiritual reckoning underneath all of it. They get specific about the physical and the spiritual at once: hormones, muscle, and the inner work that made the rest possible. Perimenopause symptoms that often go unrecognized in your 30s and 40s Hormone optimization, HRT, and microdosing testosterone for women Strength training, protein, and protecting muscle as you age Internal Family Systems and healing core wounds through transition This episode is for anyone navigating menopause, rethinking women's hormone health, or looking for a grounded spiritual practice to move through a hard season. This episode was made possible by: LMNT: Get a free 8-count Sample Pack of LMNT's most popular drink mix flavors with any purchase at drinklmnt.com/commune.
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This week, Thomas explores how the phenomenon of emergence occurs when we stop trying to escape into a "better" future and instead drop deeply into the present moment.He posits that growth occurs when we stop treating the world as an external object and instead recognize our inherent oneness with the global ecosystem… and that this perception shift is fundamental to all forms of healing.As Thomas says, “You are not in nature, you ARE nature.”This teaching also touches on the trap of “spiritual superiority,” focusing on how true wisdom arises not by shunning anyone who seems less in tune, but by maturing beyond ego-driven divisions and leading, with empathy, by example.✨ Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube:

This episode (336) explores the painful and complicated reality of a young betrayed partner who is trying to recover from betrayal trauma while also carrying childhood trauma and her own history with porn/sex addiction. We begin by validating the sheer complexity of her situation and making clear that she is not crazy, cursed, or hopelessly broken. When betrayal trauma, early trauma, and addiction collide, each one can intensify the others, making the internal experience feel overwhelming and chaotic. At the same time, we explain that these are not necessarily three unrelated problems requiring three separate full-time recoveries. Instead, they are often connected parts of one larger system that needs an integrated healing plan.A central message of the article is that trauma and addiction cannot be treated only at the level of symptoms. Betrayal trauma responses are often attempts to find safety, truth, and protection from further harm. Childhood trauma responses may be old survival strategies that once helped a person endure neglect, abuse, or instability. Addiction often develops as a way to numb, escape, regulate, or cope with overwhelming emotional pain. Using the lens of Internal Family Systems, we describe how wounded parts and protective parts can drive behaviors that may look irrational, destructive, or confusing on the surface, but actually have a deeper protective logic underneath. Reasons are never excuses, but understanding those reasons gives individuals and couples a better map for healing.The article also emphasizes that this partner's own addiction does not cancel out her betrayal pain, and her betrayal trauma does not excuse her own addictive behaviors. Both realities must be held together with honesty, compassion, accountability, and boundaries. We encourage her to begin not by trying to fix everything at once, but by stabilizing her nervous system, building support outside the relationship, stopping ongoing harm, and creating a paced recovery plan. If the relationship itself is constantly destabilizing, a structured break or carefully defined boundaries may be helpful, but only with clear purpose, goals, support, and re-evaluation. Ultimately, the message is one of hope: this situation is complex, but not hopeless; layered, but not impossible; and genuine healing can begin one courageous, supported step at a time.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:   Betrayal Trauma, Childhood Trauma & My Own Addiction—Where Do I Even Start?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

In this episode, I talk with psychologist, mystic, breathwork facilitator and author Dr. Colleen Quinn to explore her powerful new book, Essence Merging.Through her deeply personal story, Colleen takes us on an extraordinary journey through trauma, healing, near-death experiences, spiritual awakening and the rediscovery of joy. Blending psychological insight with mystical experience, she shares how surrendering to a higher intelligence helped her unravel deeply rooted pain and reconnect with the sacred essence beneath the surface of everyday life.A major part of our conversation centers around conscious breathwork and its ability to bring us out of the analytical mind and back into the wisdom of the body. Colleen explains how the breath can become a bridge between the physical and spiritual worlds, allowing stored emotions to surface, the nervous system to soften and expanded states of consciousness to emerge. We also discuss embodiment, divine connection, synchronicity, devotion and what it means to stop merely surviving life and begin fully merging with it.At its heart, Essence Merging is more than a memoir. It is a multidimensional love story and an invitation to awaken to the deeper intelligence moving through our lives. This was a beautiful and expansive conversation about healing, presence and the possibility that our longing for something more may actually be the voice of the soul calling us home. Drop in!www.essencemerging.comColleen Quinn Bio:Dr. Colleen Quinn is a transpersonal psychologist, child specialist, breathwork practitioner, researcher, and author of Essence Merging.Rooted in the original meaning of psychology as “the study of the soul,” Colleen's work explores healing as a return to direct relationship with the deeper self. Through decades of teaching, research, and private practice, she has integrated Somatic Experiencing, Internal Family Systems, and conscious breathwork to help people access and heal stored trauma in the body.After her second near-death experience in 2018, Colleen uttered the prayer, “Let me be love in every moment,” which became the catalyst for her spiritual awakening. Essence Merging chronicles that raw and intimate transformation, weaving psychology, mystical synchronicity, ancient wisdom, breathwork, shame shedding, and an unconventional love story into an invitation to return home to the sacred self. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Send Us a Message!The most disorienting seasons of life often aren't the endings or the beginnings. They're the in between. That's where liminal space lives, and it's where so many of us either break open into a truer life or try to force ourselves back into the old one.In this episode, we'll explore:• defining liminal spaces as the in between where time slows and growth accelerates• using curiosity and metacognition to track reactions and rewrite old stories• working with archetypes, parts, and soul contracts to integrate the self• building energetic boundaries and differentiation to stay connected without shrinking• naming dissociation patterns and returning to presence in the physical realm• creating shared reality through collaboration instead of scarcityChristine Renee sits down with Lacee Gengenbacher to name what liminal spaces actually feel like: time standing still, identity shifting, and the Tower moment where what “worked” stops working. We talk honestly about how expansion can get tangled with a chronically activated nervous system, why calm can feel unsafe after chaos, and how to reframe growth so it doesn't require pain and suffering to be valid. Along the way, we dig into embodiment, nervous system safety, dissociation, and the practical power of curiosity and metacognition to track what's really happening when you feel triggered.We also connect the dots between parts work and spiritual practice, including archetypes, soul contracts, and Internal Family Systems style language. When the ground moves under you, the inner voices get louder, and we share ways to meet those parts with intention instead of judgment. A thread we keep coming back to is connection: you're only as connected to others as you are to yourself, and energetic boundaries help you stay in your truth without shutting down your light.We close by sharing what we're building in community: the Gathering of the Mystics summit in Bozeman, Montana, a three day container designed for safe exploration, real integration, and shared medicine through speakers, workshops, and intentional ritual. If anything in your body perks up while you listen, trust that signal. Subscribe, share this with a friend who's in a threshold season, and leave a review so more people can find the support they've been looking for.Upcoming opportunities mentioned in this episode: Soul Contracts & Alchemizing Archetypes Online Masterclass starts June 23rd: https://moonrisinginstitute.circle.so/c/soul-contracts-archetypes/Gathering of the Mystics, Sept 11-13th, 2026 in Bozeman Montana: https://www.gatheringofmystics.com/Soul Rising Shamanic Reiki Training, Sept, 2026: https://moonrisinginstitute.com/soul-rising/Moon Rising Shamanic Institute Links:Website: https://moonrisinginstitute.com/Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/moonrisinginstituteFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/moonrisingmysticsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/moonrising.instituteYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@moonrisinginstituteSubscribe to the Newsletter: https://moonrisinginstitute.kit.com/spiritguideBook a session with Christine: https://calendly.com/christinerenee/90-minutes-intensiveBook a FREE 10 minute connect call with Christine: https://calendly.com/christinerenee/10-minute-connect-call-srpt

Today’s episode is a special rebroadcast of one of my all-time favorite conversations on the B.rad Podcast! Every so often, I like to revisit episodes that made a profound impact on me personally and delivered tremendous value to listeners, and this conversation with Thais Gibson is absolutely one of those episodes. I am so pleased to introduce a fantastically awesome show with Thais Gibson, creator of the Personal Development School! When Thais first sent me an overview of what she wanted to discuss, I thought, "Sure, let's talk about it." But I have to tell you, I was completely blown away. This became one of my favorite shows I have ever recorded. Listeners, I truly believe this episode has the potential to be life-changing. I know it was for me. It probably helped that I unknowingly became the guinea pig for much of the conversation. What you'll hear is essentially a live coaching session where Thais demonstrates her expertise and methods using real-life examples from my own experiences—particularly the disconnect between my stated goals and some of my behavior patterns. We focused on the pursuit of wealth and financial security, an area where I occasionally feel frustrated or deficient, perhaps because of subconscious patterns operating beneath the surface. Thais explains the causes of self-sabotage and how to reprogram limiting thought patterns. One of the most fascinating parts of the discussion is when she explains that we're operating from our conscious mind only about three to five percent of the time. If you're someone who listens to podcasts, reads books, and continually educates yourself, your conscious mind may be doing a great job acquiring the knowledge and skills needed to succeed. But your subconscious needs and programming can still interfere and pull you off course. So in this episode, it's time for Brad to get processed, dig deep, and explore what's really happening when self-sabotage kicks in. Thais Gibson is a counselor, bestselling author of Learning Love, and co-founder of the Personal Development School. She holds a Ph.D. and more than 13 certifications in modalities including CBT, NLP, somatic experiencing, Internal Family Systems, shadow work, and hypnosis. After nearly a decade running a successful private practice, she founded The Personal Development School—an online learning platform designed to provide a more accessible and authentic way for people to transform their lives. In fact, after we finished this recording, I enrolled immediately. I encourage you to visit her website and explore what she offers. She offers a test run where you can see what it’s all about—check it out at personaldevelopmentschool.com. Enjoy this special rebroadcast with Thais Gibson! TIMESTAMPS: People may not always be aware that they are self-sabotaging because it usually occurs at a subconscious level. [00:53] Your conscious mind is responsible for roughly 3 to 5 percent of all of your beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and actions or decisions. Your subconscious is responsible for 95 to 97 percent. [04:48] We all have subconscious personality needs. [07:54] Thais uses Brad as an example to unpack what needs it relates to. She asks first, what does he do in his spare time? [09:34] Where does he spend his money? What does he like to learn about? [12:10] Our subconscious mind is also the host of all of our limiting beliefs. [19:46] There is a tool for how to pull up what your limiting beliefs are. [21:42] We're scared of something that's hidden in the periphery at a subconscious level of mind [24:29] Reconditioning is a tool for reprogramming. [26:25] Thais identifies characteristics of people who have been in a relationship with a narcissist. [30:41] Look for the things that trigger you. Plan your limiting belief and use its opposite. [33:02] Step one: What is your core belief and its opposite? Step two: what are 10 memories to support? They can be recent memories, really old memories, doesn't matter. 10 memories to support this new idea about yourself. I am, in fact, good enough. Step three: listen back for 21 days. [34:17] When thinking about financial security, many people struggle with their subconscious as in feeling they don’t deserve it or some parts of society that have a distaste for the inequitable distribution of wealth. [43:10] There are seven areas of life that need attention. Career, financial, mental, emotional, spiritual, physical and relationship. To ignore one area, we will pay for it later. [52:45] What specific things or set of things are you going to do on a daily basis to reprogram? [59:13] So much futile energy and effort toward change without addressing these core issues is going to be tough. 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This week, Thomas sits down with historical trauma specialist Iya Affo for a deep conversation on how to navigate a dysregulated world and the cyclical nature of trauma healing.They share wisdom on how to tread the non-linear path of both individual and collective healing, exploring how to peel back the layers in the healing process, how to find healing modalities that work for you, and the nuances of nervous system regulation in a divisive and propaganda-heavy political climate.Iya also shares how grief and hardship can expand our capacity to love and offers profound hope for transforming our wounds into sources of empathy and service for others.✨ Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube:

Send us a text message if you have a question you want answered on the podcast.As an LDS therapist, one of the most common things I hear from women is, "I feel torn inside." There' is a part of you that wants to be calm and faithful, and another part that's anxious, or exhausted, or just done. Both can be true on the same day. That's not hypocrisy. That's being human.In this episode, I sit down with JoAnna Bethea, an Associate Clinical Mental Health Counselor and the very first therapist to join me at Aligned Counseling. JoAnna walks us through Internal Family Systems, the modality she uses with her clients, and shows how it weaves beautifully with the gospel and with the Mind Body Bridging work I already teach. She shares her own story of a four day anxiety attack the week her youngest son finished his last high school sport, and how that hard season led her into the most freeing work she's ever done.If you've ever felt torn in two, this one is for you._______________________________Get to know our guest:JoAnna Bethea is an Associate Clinical Mental Health Counselor at Aligned Counseling Utah. She specializes in Internal Family Systems (IFS) and weaves it together with Mind Body Bridging and the gospel of Jesus Christ to help LDS women heal from anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, and the quiet identity loss that often shows up in motherhood and empty nesting. She is also the heart behind a brand new Instagram account, Teaching Them To Fly, for moms walking their kids (and themselves) into the next chapter.If you're in Utah and what JoAnna shared today felt like a light bulb moment for you, she's currently taking new clients at Aligned Counseling Utah. Website: AlignedCounselingUtah.comInstagram: @teachingthemtofly_______________________________Stick around for more Mental Health support & resources: 

Build An Unstoppable Trading Mindset In episode 562 of the Desire To Trade Podcast, you will be listening to an interview with elite trading psychologist Mandi Pour Rafsendjani as she discusses how to build an unstoppable trading mindset. She breaks down why smart traders still struggle to follow their own rules and shares real examples of traders who kept repeating the same mistakes. They uncovered what was really driving their decisions. The conversation dives into trading psychology, self-trust, and why consistency often has less to do with strategy than most traders think. The video is also available for you to watch on YouTube. >> Watch the video recording! Topics Covered In This Episode 00:00 Introduction 01:08 What's new with Mandi Pour Rafsendjani 04:08 The role of AI in trading psychology 06:57 Understanding trader behavior and mindset 08:56 The impact of childhood experiences on trading 10:13 Transforming trader mindsets 16:27 How to deal with hesitation in trading 19:15 Overcoming self-doubt using "Internal Family Systems" 23:55 Continuous learning in trading psychology 30:01 Connecting with traders and building relationships 33:55 Where to find Mandi Pour Rafsendjani What did you like best in this podcast episode? Let's talk in the comments below, or join me in the Facebook group! Desire To Trade's Top Resources DesireToTRADE Forex Trader Community (free group!) Complete Price Action Strategy Checklist One-Page Trading Plan (free template) Recommended brokers: EightCap (preferred Crypto and FX Broker) AxiTrader (use our link to get a special bonus) Desire To TRADE Academy Get a copy of Prop Trading Secrets (Author: Kathy Lien & Etienne Crete) About The Desire To Trade Podcast Subscribe via iTunes (take 2 seconds and leave the podcast a review!) Subscribe via Stitcher Subscribe via TuneIn Subscribe via Google Play See all podcast episodes How to find Mandi Pour Rafsendjani highperformancetrading.com.au X/Twitter: @mpx_trader What one thing will you implement after listening to this podcast episode? Leave a comment below, or join me in the Facebook group!

What if the very thing driving your success is quietly breaking you? Brooke Taylor, Enneagram Three, career coach, and author of Healing the Success Wound,  joins me for a searingly honest conversation about achievement, identity, and spiritual hunger.. Brooke grew up in Silicon Valley where worth was measured in gold stars, landed at Google by her early twenties, and found herself drowning in a success she couldn't feel. We talk about the success wound which, as Brooke describes it, is the pain that comes from mistaking productivity and achievement for self-worth — the deeply installed belief that the more you produce and achieve, the more worthy of love and belonging you become. This wound isn't just for Enneagram Threes. It's a human condition — and it shows up differently depending on your type, your culture, your family system, and what "success" looks like in your particular world.  We talk through Brooke's five types of unfulfilled achievers — the grinder, the hider, the seeker, the work-hard-play-hard, and the pleaser — and I couldn't help mapping those to the Enneagram types in real time. We also get into the distinction between the true self, the wounded self, and the socialized (or protector) self — a framework rooted in Internal Family Systems and gestalt psychology that I think will resonate deeply with longtime Typology listeners. Whether you're a Three or you love one, this episode is for you.     Guest Bio: Brooke Taylor is a certified career coach, speaker, and the author of Healing the Success Wound. A self-identified Enneagram Three, Brooke built her coaching practice specifically for women navigating the intersection of ambition, identity, and fulfillment — though her framework applies broadly across genders. Her research includes a survey of more than 5,000 high-achieving professionals who identified as unfulfilled, which forms the empirical backbone of her five-type model of the unfulfilled achiever. A veteran of Google and a long-term member of recovery communities, Brooke brings both lived experience and rigorous research to her work. She is the founder of the Lined Ambition framework and writes and coaches at the crossroads of psychology, spirituality, and career development. Learn more at brooketaylor.co. Healing the Success Wound is available now wherever books are sold. Find Brooke at https://brooketaylorcoaching.com.  

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 4022: Ingrid Y. Helander explores how fear of returning depression can quietly intensify anxiety and emotional shutdown, especially during the summer when sadness feels harder to hide. Drawing from Polyvagal Theory and Internal Family Systems, she offers simple ways to shift your nervous system toward safety, connection, and emotional balance so you can move through difficult feelings with more confidence and self-compassion. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://ingridyhelanderlmft.com/hack-your-nervous-system-to-prevent-summer-blues/ Quotes to ponder: “Any energy (even fear) is actually a great way to move out of symptoms that feel depressing.” “When you get overly anxious about becoming depressed and push those old feelings away, you are actually more likely to fall back into a depression.” “Breathe and recognize that you shift up and down between these portions of your nervous system all the time every day.” Episode references: Internal Family Systems: https://ifs-institute.com/ Polyvagal Theory: https://www.polyvagalinstitute.org/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the anxiety, overthinking, people pleasing, emotional shutdown, hypervigilance, burnout, and relationship struggles you experience today… were never actually "you" to begin with? In this deeply personal and profoundly eye-opening solo episode, Darin Olien dives into the hidden nervous system programming formed between the ages of 0 and 8 that silently shapes our adult lives. Drawing from neuroscience, trauma research, attachment theory, epigenetics, somatic healing, and his own emotional breakthroughs, Darin explores how childhood experiences become subconscious operating systems that influence everything from relationships and stress responses to chronic disease and self-worth. This episode is a powerful roadmap toward healing. Darin breaks down the science behind trauma, the ACE study, nervous system dysregulation, emotional patterning, and neuroplasticity, while also sharing practical tools like somatic experiencing, expressive writing, EMDR, and Internal Family Systems to help listeners begin rewiring their emotional lives from the inside out. What You'll Learn How childhood experiences program the nervous system Why most adult emotional reactions are subconscious survival patterns The connection between trauma, stress hormones, and chronic disease How the nervous system stores emotional experiences in the body Why people pleasing, hypervigilance, burnout, and emotional shutdown develop The science behind neuroplasticity and rewiring the brain What the ACE Study revealed about childhood trauma and adult health How trauma impacts the amygdala, hippocampus, and stress-response systems Why emotional patterns are adaptations, not character flaws How epigenetics can pass trauma responses across generations The role of somatic experiencing in trauma healing Practical tools for emotional regulation and nervous system repair Chapters 00:00:03 – Welcome to SuperLife 00:00:32 – Sponsor: Bite Toothpaste and eliminating toxic plastic exposure 00:02:47 – Darin introduces emotional reactions and nervous system triggers 00:03:15 – A personal story about reacting vs responding in conflict 00:03:50 – Emotional shutdowns, rage, withdrawal, people pleasing, and overcorrection 00:04:19 – Darin's physical pain journey and emotional discoveries in 2025 00:04:42 – Birth trauma, childhood conditioning, and nervous system programming 00:05:04 – Why the ages of 0–8 are the most neurologically influential years 00:05:18 – Theta and delta brainwave states during childhood 00:05:55 – How children absorb emotional patterns without filters 00:06:22 – Childhood experiences becoming subconscious operating systems 00:06:44 – Adults unknowingly living through a 5-year-old nervous system 00:07:12 – Why this episode became deeply personal for Darin 00:07:35 – The neuroscience behind stress responses and emotional conditioning 00:08:17 – Brain development, neuroplasticity, and subconscious programming 00:09:13 – How the HPA axis, amygdala, and prefrontal cortex are shaped early in life 00:09:45 – Core childhood questions that program the nervous system 00:10:29 – Why adult stress responses originate in childhood environments 00:11:05 – Research showing childhood adversity alters brain structure and chemistry 00:11:18 – The ACE Study explained 00:11:49 – Why patients losing weight became emotionally overwhelmed 00:12:18 – The ten categories of adverse childhood experiences 00:13:02 – "The health crisis of America begins in childhood" 00:13:36 – How adverse childhood experiences increase disease risk 00:14:03 – Suicide, alcoholism, autoimmune disease, depression, and trauma correlations 00:14:37 – Chronic disease as a nervous system issue 00:15:04 – Survival mode, inflammation, hormonal dysregulation, and emotional scarcity 00:15:42 – Self-sabotage and emotional coping patterns explained 00:16:02 – Why your emotional patterns are not character flaws 00:16:22 – Childhood survival adaptations and nervous system intelligence 00:16:52 – Hypervigilance, people pleasing, rage, emotional shutdown, and fear 00:17:05 – Sponsor: Manna Vitality and frequency-based wellness 00:18:59 – Epigenetics and inherited trauma responses 00:19:22 – Cortisol regulation genes and hyperactive stress responses 00:19:51 – Holocaust survivors, inherited trauma, and generational nervous systems 00:20:19 – Why healing requires nervous system awareness—not just intellectual understanding 00:20:45 – "You were never supposed to get over it—you were supposed to heal from it" 00:21:01 – Real-life examples of subconscious nervous system programming 00:21:16 – Why receiving compliments can feel unsafe 00:21:30 – Darin's personal struggle with overachievement and scarcity programming 00:22:03 – Emotional neglect, chronic striving, and feeling "not enough" 00:22:16 – The nervous system roots of burnout and exhaustion 00:22:23 – Hair-trigger emotional reactions and hyperactive amygdala responses 00:22:38 – Chronic self-abandonment and losing personal boundaries 00:22:52 – Fear of intimacy, trust issues, and emotional safety 00:23:02 – "The body keeps the score" explained 00:23:22 – Trauma stored in posture, breath, digestion, immunity, and emotional regulation 00:23:43 – Harvard research on trauma-related brain changes 00:24:19 – The radical power of neuroplasticity and nervous system rewiring 00:24:48 – Why healing requires conscious participation 00:25:01 – Darin shares how healing changed decades of emotional pain 00:25:33 – Somatic Experiencing and Peter Levine's trauma work 00:25:57 – How animals discharge stress naturally 00:26:23 – Trauma as incomplete physiological responses frozen in the body 00:26:42 – Why humans suppress emotional discharge 00:27:16 – PTSD research and the effectiveness of somatic experiencing 00:27:41 – A step-by-step somatic grounding practice 00:28:14 – Why healing is more powerful with a regulated person beside you 00:28:38 – EMDR and reprocessing traumatic experiences 00:28:55 – Internal Family Systems and the "parts" inside the psyche 00:29:13 – Inner critics, overachievers, and nervous system adaptations 00:29:39 – Compassionately listening to emotional parts instead of suppressing them 00:29:51 – Expressive writing as a trauma healing practice 00:30:22 – The neuroscience behind emotional journaling 00:30:48 – A four-day expressive writing protocol for healing 00:31:05 – "You are not broken" 00:31:16 – Reprogramming the nervous system through love and safety 00:31:37 – Why deep healing happens in the presence of another regulated person 00:31:52 – Darin considers creating a future healing workshop 00:32:04 – Final reflections: "You are not what happened to you" 00:32:12 – Peace. Love. SuperLife. Thank You to Our Sponsors Bite Toothpaste: Go to trybite.com/DARIN20 or use code DARIN20 for 20% off your first order Manna Vitality: Go to mannavitality.com/ and use code DARIN12 for 12% off your order. Join the SuperLife Patreon: This is where Darin now shares the deeper work: - weekly voice notes - ingredient trackers - wellness challenges - extended conversations - community accountability - sovereignty practices Join now for only $7.49/month at https://patreon.com/darinolien     Connect with Darin Olien: Website: darinolien.com Instagram: @darinolien Book: Fatal Conveniences Platform & Products: superlife.com New Show: Roadmap to Happiness Key Takeaway "The emotional patterns, fears, reactions, and coping mechanisms that run your adult life are often survival adaptations created by your nervous system during childhood. They are not your identity. They are not permanent. 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