Podcasts about Rumination

Melisa and Alli explain why your brain naturally ruminates after a breakup. It's not because you're "stuck," but because your mind is trying to make sense of what happened and solve an unresolved problem.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.

Forgiveness is one of the most necessary parts of the Christian life, but it is also one of the most misunderstood. In this episode, Brandon and Sandy sit down with Dr. Everett Worthington to talk about what forgiveness actually is, what it is not, and why reconciliation is something different altogether. Dr. Worthington shares the tragic story of his mother's murder and how that moment forced him to live out the very forgiveness he had spent years studying and teaching. The conversation explores decisional forgiveness, emotional forgiveness, rumination, resentment, justice, boundaries, and what happens inside us when unforgiveness takes root. Dr. Worthington also walks through his REACH model and offers practical help for those who feel stuck in pain, anger, or grief. This is a powerful, honest, and hope-filled conversation for anyone wrestling with what it means to forgive without pretending the wound never happened.Ev's Book https://a.co/d/01UMgKXoEv's Website -https://www.evworthington-forgiveness.com/

Have you ever pushed on a door that was supposed to be pulled—or pulled when you should have pushed? It feels embarrassing, but don't blame yourself. It turns out the problem usually isn't you. It's the door. https://uxdesign.cc/intro-to-ux-the-norman-door-61f8120b6086 Everyone has an accent—even if they don't think they do. The way you speak tells a story about where you've been, who influenced you, and sometimes even how other people perceive you before you've said more than a few words. Why do accents develop? Why are they so difficult to lose? And do people with accents realize they have one, or do they think everyone else sounds different? Erik Singer, one of Hollywood's leading dialect coaches, explains the fascinating science, history, and psychology behind the way we speak. He has analyzed accents from around the world for millions of viewers online (https://www.eriksinger.com/) and is author of the forthcoming book The Case of the Disappearing R. We all replay conversations in our heads. We rethink decisions, relive embarrassing moments, and imagine what we should have said or done differently. It feels productive—as if we're solving a problem. But more often than not, we're simply trapped in a mental loop called rumination. Far from helping, rumination can fuel anxiety, depression, stress, and self-doubt while making it harder to move forward. Science journalist Donna Jackson Nakazawa explains why our brains get caught in these loops, why they're so difficult to break, and what actually works to quiet an overactive mind. She is author of Mind Drama: The Science of Rumination and How to Outwit Your Inner Defeatist (https://amzn.to/4vKWiNs). You've probably heard the advice that couples who want happier relationships should simply have sex more often. It sounds logical—but research suggests the relationship between sex and happiness may work very differently than most people assume. https://www.cmu.edu/news/stories/archives/2015/may/more-sex-does-not-lead-to-happiness.html PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS WAYFAIR: Ready to upgrade your home for way less? Head to ⁠⁠https://Wayfair.com⁠⁠ right now to shop all things home and get your space ready for less.  RULA: Thousands of people are already using Rula to get affordable, high-quality therapy that's actually covered by insurance. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Rula.com/sysk⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to get started. QUINCE: Elevate your summer wardrobe. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Quince.com/sysk⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too! SHOPIFY: It's time to turn those "what ifs" into CHA CHING with Shopify Today! Sign up for your $1 per month trail and start selling today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Shopify.com/sysk⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ INDEED: Get a $75 Sponsored Job credit to help get your job the premium status it deserves at ⁠https://Indeed.com/PODCAST⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Most people are functioning but very few are thriving and we all deserve to thrive more days than not. In ten minutes, Marc walks you through the 7 pillars of the Mental Fitness Assessment — Clarity, Adaptability, Emotional Agility, Focus, Sleep & Recovery, Rumination, and Stress Load — and shows you how to self-score honestly across all seven. More importantly: what the relationship between your highest and lowest pillar actually reveals. Not a weakness to fix but your single biggest opportunity for the season ahead. This is episode one of a 7-part series teaching you how to build your own 90-Day Mental Fitness Blueprint by hand. Or — if you'd rather have yours built for you based on your actual answers — that option takes about 15 minutes. Have your plan built for you in 15 minutes → blueprint.mchampagne.com Use code POD50 for 50% off while this series airs. Special props

Most of what competes for your attention today isn't winning on the strength of its ideas — it's winning on the strength of its engineering. Apps built on variable reward, infinite scroll, and algorithmic feeds are designed to keep you holding them, not to serve you and let you put them down. In this solo episode, Brett Ingram traces how that design shapes a life one unnoticed moment at a time, and offers a way back to it that isn't another productivity system: noticing where your attention actually goes, and choosing more often than not. What You'll Learn in This Episode The real difference between a tool you pick up and a system built to keep you holding it — and why that distinction is a business model, not a conspiracy theory How "variable reward" (the psychology behind slot machines and the pull-to-refresh gesture) keeps you scrolling even when you don't expect to find anything Why a life is never stolen all at once — it's surrendered in increments too small to notice, remember, or regret What "attention residue" is, and why switching tasks leaves part of your mind working on the thing you left behind Why clock time and lived time aren't the same thing, and what the research says about how often minds wander — and what that costs in happiness The difference between rumination and genuine reflection, and why they can look identical from the outside A single 24-hour practice for starting to reclaim attention, with no apps deleted and no digital detox required Episode Timestamps [00:00] Cold open — the question almost no one can answer [01:00] What the attention economy actually sells [02:30] Variable reward — the psychology behind the pull-to-refresh [04:30] The small fragments that quietly become a life [07:30] Attention residue and what constant capture does to your inner life [11:00] Attention as the real unit of time [14:30] Reclaiming attention without turning it into another performance [18:00] Closing synthesis and the one practice to try today Episode Summary There's a difference between a tool you pick up and a system built to keep you holding it. A hammer doesn't care whether you put it down. A lot of the platforms on your phone are designed, quite deliberately, to care very much — and that's not a conspiracy theory, it's a business model. For a huge share of the digital products people use every day, the actual customer isn't the user, it's the advertiser. What's being sold isn't a product or a service — it's attention, harvested, measured, and resold. That framing, drawn from Tim Wu's book The Attention Merchants, is the starting point for this episode: not a takedown of any single company, but an honest look at what happens to a life when other people and other systems get to keep deciding, moment after moment, what enters your awareness. The mechanism at the center of it is called variable reward. Decades ago, psychologist B.F. Skinner found that a reward arriving on an unpredictable schedule is far more compelling than one arriving on a predictable one — an animal or a person pulling a lever for an uncertain payout will pull it more, and stop less, than one working for a reward it can count on. That's the same mechanism behind a slot machine, and it's the same mechanism behind pull-to-refresh: you don't know if the next scroll holds something interesting, and that's exactly why you keep scrolling. Brett draws a parallel to something a dog trainer once told him — the "jackpot mechanism," where varying the size of a reward (one treat, one treat, then suddenly a handful) keeps a dog working harder than a consistent reward ever would. Feeds run on the same principle, minus the treats. None of this makes the design automatically sinister — plenty of genuinely useful tools use similar hooks, and companies vary widely in how aggressively they lean on it. But the deeper issue isn't that these tools exist; it's that very few people ever agreed, out loud, to the terms. And the cost shows up in pieces too small to register as losses: checking a phone without deciding to, reaching for stimulation before a thought can finish forming, being physically present somewhere while mentally somewhere else entirely. "A life is not stolen all at once," Brett says. "It's surrendered in tiny, forgettable increments — and forgettable is the operative word, because you can't grieve what you don't remember losing." He points to The Truman Show, where Christof's line — "We accept the reality of the world with which we're presented, it's as simple as that" — captures the idea exactly, and to Idiocracy as an exaggerated but uncomfortably familiar picture of what happens when everything is delivered and nothing requires effort. The episode's second half turns inward, connecting attention to what your inner life actually needs to function. Researcher Sophie Leroy's concept of "attention residue" shows that switching away from an unfinished task leaves part of the mind working on it in the background, so the next task gets a smaller, more distracted version of your attention than it otherwise would. Separate research on workplace interruptions found that refocusing after a disruption can take considerably longer than the disruption itself. And a widely cited real-time study by Killingsworth and Gilbert found that people's minds wander nearly half of the time — and that mind-wandering, regardless of the activity, was associated with lower happiness than simply being present with whatever was actually in front of them. That's the reframe at the center of the episode: clock time and lived time aren't the same thing. You can technically possess an hour and never inhabit it. Attention management asks a different question than time management — not "how do I fit more in," but "where am I, actually, when I'm here?" Rather than prescribing a digital detox or a five-step system, Brett offers a different orientation: notice before restricting, learn to name the difference between chosen and captured attention, protect small transitions in the day, and treat boredom as something to tolerate rather than immediately fill. The practice he leaves listeners with is deliberately small — pick one ordinary moment of waiting in the next 24 hours and let it be boring, just to prove you can survive an unfilled minute. As he puts it near the close: "Your attention is the only material your life is actually made of. Everything else is just what you built with it." Resources Mentioned The Attention Merchants: The Epic Scramble to Get Inside Our Heads — Tim Wu's history of the attention-economy business model, from 19th-century newspapers through modern platforms — Publisher page Schedules of Reinforcement — Charles B. Ferster and B.F. Skinner's foundational research on variable-ratio reinforcement and behavior — Background reading "Why is it so hard to do my work? The challenge of attention residue when switching between work tasks" — Sophie Leroy, Organizational Behavior and Human Decision Processes, 2009 — ScienceDirect "The Cost of Interrupted Work: More Speed and Stress" — Gloria Mark, Daniela Gudith, and Ulrich Klocke, UC Irvine, CHI '08 — Full paper (PDF) "A Wandering Mind Is an Unhappy Mind" — Matthew A. Killingsworth and Daniel T. Gilbert, Science, 2010 — Study The Truman Show (1998) — Referenced for Christof's line on accepting a manufactured reality Idiocracy (2006) — Referenced as an exaggerated picture of a world where everything is delivered and nothing requires effort Frequently Asked Questions What is the attention economy? The attention economy is the business model behind most free digital products: rather than the user being the customer, the user's attention is the product, harvested and sold to advertisers. It explains why so many apps are engineered to maximize time-on-platform rather than simply being useful and letting you move on. What is "variable reward" and why does it make apps so hard to put down? Variable reward is a psychological principle, first documented by B.F. Skinner, showing that rewards on an unpredictable schedule drive far more persistent behavior than rewards on a predictable one. It's the same mechanism behind a slot machine, and it's built into features like pull-to-refresh and algorithmic feeds — you keep scrolling because you don't know if the next scroll holds something interesting. What is attention residue? Attention residue, a concept from researcher Sophie Leroy, describes how part of your focus stays behind on a task you've switched away from, especially if it was left unfinished. That means the next task gets a smaller, more distracted share of your attention than it would have otherwise — and the effect compounds every time attention gets pulled and pulled back throughout a day. Does mind-wandering actually make people less happy? Research by Killingsworth and Gilbert, tracking people in real time throughout their days, found minds wandered in nearly half of sampled moments — and that mind-wandering was associated with lower reported happiness than staying present with whatever activity was actually happening, even when that activity was mundane. It's a correlational finding, but it's a strong one. Do I need to do a digital detox to fix this? No. The episode explicitly pushes back on delete-the-apps, get-a-flip-phone solutions, arguing that a structural, cultural problem can't be solved through sheer personal discipline alone. The approach offered instead is about noticing where attention defaults to, naming the difference between chosen and captured attention, and making small environmental changes — not achieving perfect, monk-like focus. What's the difference between rumination and genuine reflection? They can look identical from the outside, but they function very differently. Rumination is a stuck loop of worry that replays without resolving anything. Genuine reflection is structured, curious attention toward your own experience aimed at actually processing something and reaching a conclusion. What's one thing I can do today to start reclaiming my attention? Pick one ordinary moment of waiting in the next 24 hours — a red light, a line, the kettle boiling — and let it be boring. Don't reach for anything to fill it. The exercise is deliberately small: it's not about fixing your entire relationship with attention at once, just proving to yourself that you can survive an unfilled minute. Keep Exploring If this episode resonated, these are worth your time: Mind & Inner Life — Goes deeper into self-knowledge, emotional intelligence, and the difference between rumination and genuine reflection touched on in this episode → optyoumize.com/mind-inner-life Time, Rhythm & Rest — Where "attention as the real unit of time" gets its fullest treatment, along with a framework for rest and rhythm → optyoumize.com/time-rhythm-rest Life Architecture — For designing a life around what actually matters, rather than defaulting to whatever captures your attention first → optyoumize.com/life-architecture Enjoyed This Episode? The best way to support optYOUmize is to subscribe and leave a review — it takes about two minutes and makes a real difference in helping more people find the show. 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Have you ever felt like one small thing turned into ten different emotions before you even knew what happened?In this episode, Xannie, Solène, Madhurima and Dan continue their conversation on emotional lability and go deep into what has actually helped them regulate their emotions instead of getting swept away by them. They talk through the skills, mindsets, and reframes that took years to build, including a metaphor for emotions as delivery drivers that keep showing up until you actually open the package.This one gets into checking the facts versus running with interpretations, why distraction is only useful short term, what “not caring” actually means in practice, and why grief doesn't always show up on schedule.Topics include:* BPD and emotional regulation* Emotional lability in BPD* Wise mind and DBT skills* Checking the facts* Rumination and BPD* Fear of abandonment* Sitting with uncomfortable emotions* BPD recovery and healthier reactionsIf you've ever felt like your emotions were driving your life instead of the other way around, this episode is for you.This season, we're discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___

We are more self-aware than ever, and yet many people feel more stuck, anxious, and exhausted than before. Therapy culture has helped us name pain, but it often leaves us circling it. Insight increases, language expands, but healing stalls. What if the very frameworks meant to help us are quietly blocking our ability to change? This week on Win Today, Dr. Lee Warren joins me for a conversation that bridges neuroscience, faith, and lived experience. As a practicing neurosurgeon and trauma survivor, Dr. Warren explains why the brain resists healing, how survival mode hijacks our thinking, and why compulsive rumination feels productive while actually reinforcing pain. We explore the science behind neuroplasticity and the spiritual responsibility we carry to participate in our own renewal. This episode doesn't dismiss therapy, but it challenges passivity. Healing requires more than awareness. It requires agency, discipline, and the courage to rewire patterns that no longer serve life. Guest Bio Dr. W. Lee Warren is a practicing neurosurgeon, author, and speaker known for integrating neuroscience, faith, and personal experience to help people heal from trauma and transform their lives. A survivor of profound personal loss, he has spent decades studying how thoughts shape the brain and how intentional mental practices can lead to lasting emotional and spiritual renewal. He is the author of multiple books, including The Life-Changing Art of Self-Brain Surgery. Show Partners SafeSleeve designs a phone case that blocks up to 99% of harmful EMF radiation—so I'm not carrying that kind of exposure next to my body all day. It's sleek, durable, and most importantly, lab-tested by third parties. The results aren't hidden—they're published right on their site. And that matters because many so-called EMF blockers on the market either don't work or can't prove they do. We protect our hearts and minds—why wouldn't we protect our bodies too? Head to safesleevecases.com and use the code WINTODAY10 for 10% off your order. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my book "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

The CE experience for this Podcast is powered by CMEfy - click here to reflect and earn credits.How much time do you spend trapped in "what if" thoughts?Rumination, blame, shame, worry, and fear can keep us stuck in the past feeling heavy, overwhelmed, and like a helpless passenger in the back seat of our own lives. In this episode, Dr. Robyn Tiger shares her simple yet powerful four-step framework to break free from the "What If" cycle and move forward with greater clarity, resilience, and purpose.Learn how to shift stress into action, regret into growth, and fear into possibility and take the next meaningful step toward the life you want to create!Information for Dr. Robyn Tiger & StressFreeMD:Check out StressFreeMDGet the book: Feeling Stressed Is OptionalGet your 4 FREE stress relieving videosPhysicians: join our free private physicians-only Facebook groupRetreatsREVIVE! Lifestyle Medicine Well-Being Group CoachingPrograms on Demand Private 1:1 Coaching Schedule your FREE 30-Minute Stress Relief Strategy CallFollow me on Social Media: InstagramLinkedInFacebookTwitterPodcast websitePlease rate & Review the Show!Contactinfo@stressfreemd.net Edit This Episode

Most people know that compulsions keep OCD going. What many don't realize is that some of the behaviors feeding OCD are much harder to recognize. Rumination, avoidance, reassurance-seeking, distraction, shame, guilt, and even trying to "fix" your thoughts can all become subtle safety behaviors that strengthen the OCD cycle. In this video, Dr. Patrick McGrath explains why these hidden habits keep OCD alive and how to spot them in your own life.At NOCD, we specialize in exposure and response prevention (ERP) therapy, the most effective treatment for OCD—a treatment that can help you live a fulfilling life. If you're ready to take your first step, book a free 15-minute call with us at https://learn.nocd.com/YTFollow us on social media:https://www.instagram.com/treatmyocd/https://twitter.com/treatmyocdhttps://www.tiktok.com/@treatmyocd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Rumination is a powerful form of deluded thinking. You think about the past obsessively despite the fact that you cannot change what happened. Begin to detach yourself from the power of the not-so-good things that you experienced in the past. This mindfulness practice can help. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/find-your-daily-calm/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Join me for my Free Live Workshop - Breaking the OCD Loop : https://robert-james-coaching-ocd.circle.so/join?invitation_token=ba16b63d5ade372807e489000486b39c9b8de17b-478ebf87-dd32-47d9-bc5f-28da501c10d5 Ready for real help with OCD or anxiety? Book a free discovery call with me — no pressure, no obligation: robertjamescoaching.com/book-discovery-call Prefer to work at your own pace? My 12-week programs are available self-guided: Break Free from OCD: robertjamescoaching.com/self-guided Sensorimotor OCD: robertjamescoaching.com/sensorimotor-self-guided New here? Start with my free course: robertjamescoaching.com/free Robert James shares a personal story of locking himself in a bathroom on his 21st birthday after getting trapped in OCD rumination, and explains how staying stuck made the anxiety worse. He outlines practical lessons he later learned — accepting uncertainty, returning to the present, and living by values — and invites listeners to a live workshop on breaking the OCD loop Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.        

Have you ever felt like one unanswered text, one cancelled plan, or one disagreement meant your entire relationship was falling apart?For many people living with BPD, emotional pain doesn't feel “bigger than it should.” It feels completely real. In this episode, Xannie, Madhurima, Dan, and Solène share what emotional lability actually felt like from the inside: the panic, the shame, the explosive reactions, the endless rumination, and the belief that every emotion was telling the truth.Together they talk openly about relationship spirals, favorite people, emotional whiplash, shame after emotional outbursts, fear of abandonment, and the long process of learning that emotions don't have to control your actions. The conversation is brutally honest, deeply validating, and full of moments that many people have experienced but rarely say out loud.In this episode:*BPD and emotional dysregulation*Emotional instability*Fear of abandonment*Favorite person relationships*Rumination and overthinking*Emotional permanence*Relationship triggers*Recovery from BPD emotional dysregulationIf you've ever felt like your emotions were running your life, or that losing one person would destroy you, this conversation is for you.This season, we're discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___

Rumination is a common experience for many people, but it can be harmful if it becomes excessive or uncontrollable. Rumination involves repetitive thinking about negative events or feelings, often leading to feelings of anxiety, depression, and stress. Through this meditation, we will focus on releasing worries and negative thoughts, allowing you to find peace in the present moment. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/find-your-daily-calm/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Join me for my Free Live Workshop - Breaking the OCD Loop : https://robert-james-coaching-ocd.circle.so/join?invitation_token=ba16b63d5ade372807e489000486b39c9b8de17b-478ebf87-dd32-47d9-bc5f-28da501c10d5   Ready for real help with OCD or anxiety? Book a free discovery call with me — no pressure, no obligation: robertjamescoaching.com/book-discovery-call Prefer to work at your own pace? My 12-week programs are available self-guided: Break Free from OCD: robertjamescoaching.com/self-guided Sensorimotor OCD: robertjamescoaching.com/sensorimotor-self-guided New here? Start with my free course: robertjamescoaching.com/free In this episode Robert James exposes one of OCD's most powerful tricks: a false, convincing sense of urgency that pushes you to analyse, check, or seek reassurance. He explains how that urgency fuels the cycle of compulsions, shrinks your life, and how pausing to notice the pattern can let you choose a different, value-driven response. Robert also shares practical steps—spotting triggers, letting sensations be, and refocusing on meaningful activities—and invites listeners to a free live workshop, "Breaking the OCD Loop," to learn first steps out of the cycle Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.      

This podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

In this Think Thursday episode, Molly explores reminiscing as more than nostalgia. After returning from a family reunion, she reflects on how shared stories can reconnect us with earlier versions of ourselves and remind us of the courage, humor, resilience, and connection that are still part of who we are. Key Points Reminiscing is not just remembering events; it is reconnecting with identity, meaning, and emotion.  Autobiographical memories help us understand our personal life story and the versions of ourselves we have been.  Family stories can preserve shared identity by reminding us what we value, what we survived, and how we belong to one another.  Healthy reminiscing can support behavior change by reminding us that our current emotional state is not the whole story.  Reminiscing is different from rumination. Rumination loops in shame or regret, while reminiscing helps us integrate the past with curiosity and compassion.  The past can be a courtroom or a library: rumination puts us on trial, but reminiscing helps us retrieve something useful. Science Mentioned The hippocampus helps organize memory and context.  The medial prefrontal cortex is involved in self-reflection and personal meaning.  The default mode network becomes active when we think about ourselves, our past, our future, and the stories that shape our lives.  Erik Erikson's stage of integrity versus despair describes the process of looking back over life and making meaning from both joys and losses. Think Thursday Invitation Take ten minutes to intentionally reminisce.  Look through old photos, listen to a meaningful song, ask a family member to tell a story, or think about a place you used to love.  Ask yourself:  What version of me was present in that memory?  What mattered to me then?  What does this memory remind me is still part of me?  What is one small way I could bring that version of myself into today? Closing ThoughtLooking back is not always about wanting to go backward. Sometimes reminiscing helps us gather pieces of ourselves we forgot we could bring forward. ★ Support this podcast ★

Humility is one of the most quietly powerful practices for positive psychology and mental health. It's also one of the most misunderstood. Here's the heart of it: humility is not a weakness. It's not about making yourself small or performing modesty for social approval. It's an accurate, grounded sense of self, what Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren calls "right-sizing." You own your strengths and weaknesses. And you hold your worth steady through all of it. We explored four types of humility this month: relational, intellectual, cultural, and existential. And we worked through three core ingredients to build humility up: Know Yourself. This is where self-compassion becomes essential. Self-knowledge without self-compassion tends to slide into rumination — that harsh, looping self-focus that keeps us stuck. Dr. Kristin Neff's research reminds us that genuine self-reflection requires feeling safe enough to look clearly, without bracing for an attack. When self-compassion is in place, honest self-awareness becomes possible. So does recognizing things like the better-than-average effect, which is our tendency to unconsciously and inaccurately position ourselves as a little more right, and others a little more wrong. Humility gently corrects that drift. Check Yourself. This is ego territory. When we feel threatened, the ego rises up. We deflect, deny, shut down, intellectualize. It's a very human, very normal response. But it doesn't have to run the show. One of the most practical tools from this series: when you feel defensive, pause. Breathe. Then ask yourself, "What would I think if I weren't feeling defensive?" That question can create some space for the ego to stand down and lets emotional regulation take over instead of reactivity. Go Beyond Yourself. This is where the magic of humility really shows itself as we build a genuine curiosity about other people and life's bigger questions. The self-forgetfulness that C.S. Lewis describes as essential to humility puts it all into action. When we're not so consumed by ourselves, the world opens up. And that's where connection, meaning, and joy actually show up in more noticeable, lasting ways. If you've worked through this series and feel less certain than when you started, that's not a problem. That's the practice of humility in action. Sitting with uncertainty, tolerating what's unresolved, resisting the cultural pressure toward easy answers and performed confidence is peak courage. It's often uncomfortable and it's always worth it. If this work has stirred something that feels bigger than you want to carry alone, please reach out to a therapist, a trusted friend, or a support community. Seeking support isn't weakness. It's an act of humility and one of the most courageous things you can do. And for Joy Lab Program members: your Episode Experiment includes a guided meditation and journal prompts to help you harvest and integrate the work you've done this month.  We close with Rilke (we know, we close with Rilke a lot!): "Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves." Keep tending to your humility. It grows good things.   About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek. The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab Program (get your 7-day free trial!). Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).       Sources and Notes for our Element of Humility: Joy Lab Program: Take the next leap in your wellbeing journey with step-by-step practices to help you build and maintain the elements of joy in your life. Start your 7-day free trial now. Episodes in this Humility series: Humility Can Be Stressful... But Worth it for Mental Health [ep. 268] Know Yourself: The Humility Practice That Quiets Rumination and Builds Emotional Resilience [ep. 269] Check Yourself: Ego Threat, Stress Relief, & Needing to Prove Yourself [270] Book: Humble by Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD Tara Brach's website Find more about Neff's work on Self-compassion at Self-Compassion.org More on C.S. Lewis from the C.S. Lewis Foundation.  Hagá & Olson. 'If I only had a little humility, I would be perfect': Children's and adults' perceptions of intellectually arrogant, humble, and diffident people. Access here. Nielsen & Marrone. Humility: Our current understanding of the construct and its role in organizations. Access here. Porter et al. Predictors and consequences of intellectual humility. Access here. Van Tongeren et al. Humility. Access here.  Weidman et al. The psychological structure of humility. Access here. Wright et al. The psychological significance of humility. Access here. Wendell Berry's book Standing by Words   Common Questions: Q: How do I stop being so hard on myself without losing self-awareness? A: Self-compassion and self-knowledge are partners. As researcher Dr. Kristin Neff puts it, "You can look clearly at yourself when you're not afraid of what you'll find." Self-compassion creates the psychological safety for honest, accurate self-appraisal, replacing harsh rumination with compassionate self-reflection. Humility is the result: an accurate, grounded sense of self that's neither inflated nor deflated. Q: Why does being humble feel so uncomfortable and countercultural? A: Because in many ways, it is. We live in a world that often rewards certainty, self-promotion, and being right, even when those things don't actually nourish us. Building humility means opening up to uncertainty and the unknown, which takes real courage. The good news is that discomfort is also building something called uncertainty-tolerance, a form of emotional resilience that reaches across every area of your life in really nourishing ways.   Key moments: [00:00] Welcome & orientation — Aimee frames the three-part humility arc (Know Yourself → Check Yourself → Go Beyond Yourself) [01:30] Henry's realization: humility, like every Joy Lab Element, is ultimately about learning to love well and connect more deeply [03:00] Why humility is the antidote to loneliness — the difference between being surrounded by people and being genuinely seen; how isolation is really a form of alienation [05:00] What it feels like to be with a truly humble person — and why humility makes us safer, more trustworthy, and more magnetic in relationships and communities [06:30] The traffic circle of defensiveness — Aimee on why the risk of being burned by someone is still better than a lifetime of self-protective looping [07:30] Epistemic humility explained — the idea that your understanding of reality is always partial, always filtered, always a vantage point. And so is everyone else's. (Plus: a pronunciation debate.) [08:45] Why disagreement doesn't mean someone is wrong, and how truth is larger than any one person's grasp of it [10:30] William James on the deepest craving in human nature: to be appreciated and seen [11:00] Two practical strategies for going beyond yourself: (1) deep, active listening as a humility practice — not formulating your response, but truly receiving another person; (2) seeing the innocence of others [12:30] Thich Nhat Hanh: "Listen until they empty their hearts." Henry shares this as a guide for showing up and listening [13:30] Seeing the innocence in others — Henry's 30+ years of clinical wisdom distilled: most people are doing the best they can with what they have, right now. How holding that awareness softens judgment without eliminating boundaries [15:30] Aimee reflects: "That's the wisdom I'd want somebody to hold when they see me messing up." [16:00] Experiment preview for Joy Lab Program members + closing Rumi quote: "You are not a drop in the ocean, you are the entire ocean in a drop."    Like and follow Joy Lab on Socials:  Instagram Linkedin Facebook YouTube   Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.

If you've ever replayed a conversation in the shower—or staged an entire debate in your head on the way to the grocery store—you already know the brain can be a noisy place. Today, we're learning how self-talk shapes what you feel, what you do next, and whether you get stuck in a loop. Writer Donna Jackson Nakazawa unpacks why rumination is so sticky—and how to interrupt it—in Mind Drama: The Science of Rumination and How to Outwit Your Inner Defeatist. And in the second half of the show, psychologist Ethan Kross joins us to share the big ideas from ⁠Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It⁠.

Send us Fan MailYou're not just losing a person, you're losing the reality you thought you were living in. One day everything feels stable, and the next, you're questioning what was real, what wasn't, and how you didn't see it. In this episode of The Dimple Bindra Show, we dive deep into the psychology of betrayal and breakups with Hong Kong-based psychologist Peter Chan from Treehole HK.Check out Peter Chan's YoutTube Channel Here! Together, we unpack: Why betrayal feels more devastating than a normal breakup  The role of shock, anger, and emotional collapse Why your mind keeps replaying everything (rumination loops)  Why you still miss someone who hurt you  How betrayal impacts your ability to trust again  The concept of “secure attachment” breaking overnight Practical tools like “worry time” to regain control We also explore how to begin rebuilding your sense of self, even when everything feels broken.If you're in the first days or even months after betrayal, this conversation will help you understand what's happening inside your mind and how to move forward with clarity.Follow:✨ Not sure why you keep choosing pain over peace? Take the free WHY YOU GOT BETRAYED QUIZ and uncover the pattern you didn't even know was holding you back.If you can't eat, can't sleep, and keep replaying the betrayal in your head, this book was written for this exact moment. Get Betrayal ER™ on Amazon.

➡️ Search OCD HELP app on App Store and Google PlayThis podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

➡️ Search OCD HELP app on App Store and Google PlayThis podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

In today's episode of Next Level University, hosts Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros unpack why most people do not need more ideas. They need better filters, stronger focus, and the self-awareness to know what actually deserves action. Kevin reflects on nine years in business and the bad ideas he was smart enough not to chase. Alan brings in coaching patterns, performance principles, and the real cost of wasted attention to separate fantasy, imagination, visualization, action, and rumination.This conversation is about decision-making, productivity, mindset, and the discipline to use your consciousness well. What you focus on does not just shape your day. It shapes your standards, your choices, and your future. Listen in to get better at knowing what to implement, what to ignore, and what has been quietly draining your mental battery._______________________Book Alan's Business Breakthrough Session. Your first 30-minute coaching call is FREE. Learn how to prioritize success and let your quality of life become the byproduct. - https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-breakthrough-sessionJoin the "Next Level Fitness Accountability Group" – Reach out to Kevin or Alan on Instagram:Kevin: https://www.instagram.com/neverquitkid/Alan: https://www.instagram.com/alazaros88/_______________________NLU is not just a podcast; it's a gateway to a wealth of resources designed to help you achieve your goals and dreams. From our Next Level Dreamliner to our Group Coaching, we offer a variety of tools and communities to support your personal development journey.For more information, check out our website and socials using the links below.

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For Week 2 of the Live Happy Summer Reading Program, award‑winning journalist and author Donna Jackson Nakazawa sits down with host Paula Felps to discuss her groundbreaking new book, Mind Drama: The Science of Rumination and How to Outwit Your Inner Defeatist. Donna explains that rumination is an evolution‑wired survival response that has gone rogue in modern life, trapping us in negative “mental movie reels” fueled by the brain's default mode network. Using neuroscience, personal insight, and research‑backed tools, she shares how we can transform rumination into clarity, creativity, and a renewed sense of belonging. In this episode, you'll learn: Why rumination happens and how the brain creates vivid “movie reels” of old stories, future fears, and intense emotional and physical reactions. How the MIST framework works — and how to use it to interrupt rumination and reduce stress chemistry. How to turn rumination into insight, using neuroscience‑based strategies that help you rewrite outdated beliefs, reclaim your voice, and use your mental energy for more meaningful, joyful pursuits.

➡️ Search OCD HELP app on App Store and Google PlayThis podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

This podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

➡️ Search OCD HELP app on App Store and Google PlayThis podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

Today I'm talking about how to move on after you have been hurt. Whether it is heartbreak, betrayal, disappointment, family pain, friendship breakups, or someone not showing up the way you hoped they would, hurt is part of the human experience. But moving on is not always as simple as forgiving, forgetting, or pretending it did not matter. When we are hurt, the pain can linger, and if we do not know how to work with it, we can start living from the wound instead of from our healthy adult self. In this episode, I break down why we get stuck in pain, how the ego mind tries to loop, ruminate, and figure everything out, and why old wounds can make present-day hurt feel even more intense. I also walk you through how to move through hurt in a whole-body way by feeling your emotions, stopping the wait for an apology, getting honest about what the experience is teaching you, and letting the pain transform you instead of define you. Key Takeaways Moving on after hurt does not mean pretending it did not happen Hurt can change us, our relationships, and the way we see ourselves if we do not process it The mind often revisits what the heart has not yet resolved Rumination is the ego's attempt to figure out, fix, or control emotional pain Present-day hurt can activate older wounds, including childhood abandonment, betrayal, or shame If the pain feels disproportionate to what happened, there may be a deeper taproot wound underneath it Waiting for an apology can keep us stuck in pain, anger, and victim energy Feeling emotions fully allows the energy of the emotion to move through the body Healing requires getting radically honest about what the experience is teaching us Pain can transform us when we use it for growth instead of allowing it to define us Resources from this Episode: Get your copy of The Adult Chair® Book here!   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Adult Chair® Collective https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

#250. In today's ASK P, we are discussing mostly relationship-related topics, with a little glow-up note to lighten the mood. Listeners sent in sensitive topics, like “am I dating his potential or supporting him through a period of growth?,” non-existent sex lives, and sacrifices in closing the distance gap in a relationship.The source content: Reality Disruption: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8S6oa/Dealing with Uncertainty without Rumination: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8UrtQ/Chasing Failure: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8A2HK/ 5 No's a Week: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p89WNb/Joe Dispenza Meditation Review: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8XPeG/Play The Game By Your Rules: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8qQ8Q/ FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Sponsors:Let yourself run, lift, fail, try and go. Explore Peloton Cross Training Tread+ at onepeloton.com Quince.com/payton for free shipping and 365 day returns. Now available in Canada too!Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Bestselling science journalist Donna Jackson Nakazawa returns to NeuroNoodle for the first time since 2021 to break down her new book MIND DRAMA — the science of rumination, and why the human brain is excellent at getting INTO mind drama but was never taught how to get out. Jay Gunkelman, the man who has read well over 500,000 brain scans, and Dr. Mari Swingle (author of i-Minds) join host Pete Jansons to connect Donna's reporting to what they see in the EEG every week — locked rumination circuits, the default mode network, PTSD and dissociation, and why a fear of not belonging is the trigger hiding under almost all of it.✅ Key Topics Covered• Mind Drama — why your brain has great skills for entering rumination and none for exiting it• Donna's own brain map: the "locked circuit" that inspired the book• Rumination and adolescent girls — self-derogation, social media's "firehose of comparison," and rising teen mental health concerns• The real trigger: fear of belonging — performative childhoods and external evaluation from every adult• How chronic rumination affects the immune system and long-term physical health• PTSD, dissociation, and the default mode network — when the movie reel stops spinning• Where neurofeedback fits — and why Donna says "please go get neurofeedback"• Donna's book arc: Childhood Disrupted → The Angel and the Assassin → Girls on the Brink → Mind Drama

What if the scariest thoughts in your head mean nothing at all? William Schultz spent ten years trapped inside obsessive compulsive disorder. It got so bad he became afraid of his own shadow, checking it every time he flipped a light switch. Then he made one brave decision that put him in remission within two months. No drugs. No endless analysis. Today he's a psychotherapist in St. Paul, president of OCD Twin Cities, and the expert who pushed the International OCD Foundation to revise its own treatment guidelines in 2025.In this conversation, Dr. Roger McFillin and William expose why standard mental health care makes OCD worse. They reveal what actually frees people in an in depth conversation.  If you've ever been attacked by a thought you couldn't turn off, this episode is your way out.

➡️ Search OCD HELP app on App Store and Google PlayThis podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

It's been months. Maybe years. And yet somehow, you're still thinking about the affair every single day. You wake up and it's there. You go to bed and it's there. A song, a date, a place, a passing thought, and suddenly you're back inside the story again. Replaying. Analysing. Questioning. Trying to understand. Trying to make sense of something that still feels impossible to fully explain. If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. In this episode of After the Affair, Luke explores why your mind keeps returning to the affair long after discovery and why the constant replaying may not mean what you think it means. You'll learn why the brain mistakes understanding for safety, how rumination quietly becomes a habit, the hidden reasons people continue replaying painful events, and why trying to force yourself to stop thinking about the affair often makes the problem worse. Most importantly, you'll discover the difference between remembering and replaying, and how changing your relationship with your thoughts can become one of the most important turning points in your healing journey. If you've ever found yourself asking: "Why am I still thinking about this?" This episode may give you an entirely different answer than the one you've been looking for. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why your brain keeps returning to the affair The difference between understanding and certainty How the mind tries to use thinking as a form of protection Why many people aren't actually trying to understand the affair anymore The hidden relationship between rumination and control How replaying the affair can become an unconscious attempt to change the past The surprising ways betrayal can become part of your identity Why forcing yourself not to think about the affair usually backfires The difference between remembering and replaying What actually helps you move forward when you're feeling stuck A Powerful Question From This Episode "What am I hoping my thinking will give me?" Not what your partner did. Not what should have happened. Not what you've lost. But what are you hoping all of this thinking will eventually produce? Safety? Certainty? Control? Validation? Justice? A different past? Because the answer to that question may reveal far more about what's keeping you stuck than the affair itself. Key Takeaways ✅ Thinking about the affair every day doesn't mean you're broken. ✅ Your brain often mistakes understanding for safety. ✅ Rumination feels productive but rarely creates resolution. ✅ Many people are no longer trying to understand the affair, they're trying to undo it. ✅ The hidden goal beneath most replaying is certainty, and certainty is impossible. ✅ Healing is not about never thinking about the affair again. ✅ Freedom comes from changing your relationship with the thoughts, not eliminating them. ✅ Remembering is normal. Replaying is optional. ✅ You don't have to believe every thought your mind offers. ✅ Recovery begins to accelerate when your future becomes more compelling than your past. Why This Episode Matters One of the biggest misconceptions in betrayal recovery is that if you're still thinking about the affair, you're not healing. The truth is often far more nuanced. Many people become trapped not by the affair itself, but by their ongoing attempt to find certainty, control, or safety through endless mental replay. This episode explores what happens when thinking becomes a habit, when healing becomes an identity, and when the search for answers quietly turns into resistance to reality. Because the goal isn't to forget. The goal is to stop living inside the event. Resources & Support If you're struggling with the aftermath of betrayal and would like support navigating the emotional, psychological, and relational impact of infidelity, Luke offers both private coaching and community support.

➡️ Search OCD HELP app on App Store and Google PlayThis podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

#249. If you've ever felt like you lost yourself in a season of constant change, this one's for you. I'm sharing a few things that are actually keeping me grounded right now — from the simplest possible routine to why having a responsibility (even a four-legged one) might be the most stabilizing thing in your life. Consider this your permission slip to stop waiting for things to calm down before you start feeling like yourself again.The source content: Reality Disruption: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8S6oa/Dealing with Uncertainty without Rumination: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8UrtQ/Chasing Failure: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8A2HK/ 5 No's a Week: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p89WNb/Joe Dispenza Meditation Review: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8XPeG/Play The Game By Your Rules: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8qQ8Q/ FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Rula: Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get startedPeloton: Go to onepeloton.comLola Blankets: For a limited time, our listeners can get 40% OFF select Lola Blankets products with code NOTETOSELF at checkoutOlive & June: Visit OliveandJune.com/NOTETOSELF for 20% off your first System!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this solo episode, I discuss the topic of Real Event OCD, a subtype of OCD that can involve rumination around something that actually happened in the past. This can come with feelings of guilt, shame, and doubt.Real Event OCD can leave one feeling trapped in a cycle of analyzing, replaying, and trying to "figure out" what their past says about them.I share a few examples of how Real Event OCD can show up, including some lighter experiences while also normalizing heavier themes such as past regrets, relationship dynamics, and fears of being a "bad" person. In addition, I touch on how Real Event OCD can crate doubt around one's memory, leadong to distress and a strong urge to revisit, review, and make sense of past events.As always, this episode is not a replacement for professional support and does not reflect every OCD experience.STAY CONNECTED:INSTA: @trustandthriveTIKOK: @trustandthriveEMAIL: trustandthrive@gmail.com

Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com Join the Free Robert James Coaching Community & Get Access to the Free Starter Course - Follow the Link Below: https://robert-james-coaching-ocd.circle.so/join?invitation_token=4051add931af92458ee166eda25ccdad45545107-24505897-ed26-43d7-84a2-0ebd8b269363 In this episode Robert James explains how rumination — thinking about your thinking — traps people with OCD and prevents lasting certainty. He offers practical strategies to break the cycle by returning to the body and action: movement, conversation, flow activities, and taking small steps even when you don't feel ready Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.  

Humility is a powerful (and mostly misunderstood) mental health skill that's grounded by self-knowledge and self-compassion. Humility is also a powerful antidote to rumination and harsh self-criticism and a tool to support mood and emotional resilience. We'll build up humility through this series by taking a positive psychology approach along with Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren's framework to build humility (know yourself, check yourself, go beyond yourself.) This episode is all about Step 1 (know yourself) and it turns out it's both the most uncomfortable and the most freeing place to start. About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek. The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab Program. Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).    Like and follow Joy Lab on Socials:  Instagram Linkedin Watch this episode on YouTube   Sources and Notes for our Element of Humility: Joy Lab Program: Take the next leap in your wellbeing journey with step-by-step practices to help you build and maintain the elements of joy in your life.  Episodes in this Humility series: Humility Can Be Stressful... But Worth it for Mental Health [ep. 268] Book: Humble by Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD Find more about Neff's work on Self-compassion at Self-Compassion.org More on C.S. Lewis from the C.S. Lewis Foundation.  Hagá & Olson. 'If I only had a little humility, I would be perfect': Children's and adults' perceptions of intellectually arrogant, humble, and diffident people. Access here. Nielsen & Marrone. Humility: Our current understanding of the construct and its role in organizations. Access here. Porter et al. Predictors and consequences of intellectual humility. Access here. Van Tongeren et al. Humility. Access here.  Weidman et al. The psychological structure of humility. Access here. Wright et al. The psychological significance of humility. Access here. Wendell Berry's book Standing by Words   Key moments: [00:00] Why self-knowledge comes first in the humility framework — and why skipping it makes the rest of the work harder. [02:00] The humility paradox: who scores highest on self-reported humility? People with narcissistic traits. What this reveals about why self-knowledge matters. [04:30] Reflection vs. rumination: same self-focused action, completely different energy — and very different effects on anxiety and depression. [07:30] Clark Griswold on the roundabout: Aimee's perfect visual for rumination, plus Van Tongeren's concept of "right-sizing yourself." [09:30] Obstacle #1: The idealized self. When the gap between who you are and who you think you should be stops motivating and starts deflating. [12:00] Obstacle #2: The better-than-average effect. Most of us rank ourselves above average — and that's statistically impossible. How this positivity bias quietly inflates us. [14:30] Obstacle #3: The harsh inner critic disguised as self-awareness. Why beating yourself up isn't humility — it's ego turned inward. [17:00] Dr. Kristin Neff's insight: self-compassion is the foundation of honest self-awareness. You can look clearly when you're not afraid of what you'll find. [19:30] Rumination as an internal courtroom — and Aimee's personal story about chronic lateness, hard feedback from a friend, and what it took to actually receive it. [23:30] Henry's simple journaling practice: notice what you observed about yourself this week. No analysis, no judgment — just patterns, held gently. [25:30] Preview of next week's "Check Yourself" episode, and a closing note from Aristotle.   Full transcript here   Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.

This podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

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Drawing from Asaph’s transparent confession in Psalm 73:2-3, this reflection explores how unresolved hurt and constant focus on injustice can slowly lead us toward disillusionment. Like Asaph, many believers struggle when they see harmful people thriving while their own wounds deepen. Yet the turning point in the psalm comes when Asaph intentionally enters God’s sanctuary and regains an eternal perspective. In God’s presence, he remembers that earthly success is temporary, but God’s love, justice, and guidance are eternal. This devotional encourages Christians to stop carrying pain alone and instead seek refuge in the Lord. God does not dismiss our hurt or ignore injustice. He sees every wound, strengthens weary hearts, and offers healing to those who draw near to Him. Even when circumstances remain difficult, His presence steadies us and renews our faith. Highlights Psalm 73 honestly addresses discouragement over injustice and evil. Comparing our suffering to others’ success can lead to bitterness and despair. Rumination and isolation often pull us further away from God’s peace. Asaph found clarity only after intentionally entering God’s presence. God offers refuge, healing, and perspective in seasons of pain. Justice may seem delayed, but God remains faithful and sovereign. Drawing near to God strengthens faith and quiets fear. Do you want to listen ad-free? When you join Crosswalk Plus, you gain access to exclusive, in-depth Bible study guides, devotionals, sound biblical advice, and daily encouragement from trusted pastors and authors—resources designed to strengthen your faith and equip you to live it out boldly. PLUS ad free podcasts! Sign Up Today! Full Transcript Below: When We Feel Discouraged by the Evil in Our WorldBy: Jennifer Slattery Bible Reading:But as for me, my feet had almost slipped;I had nearly lost my foothold.For I envied the arrogantwhen I saw the prosperity of the wicked. - Psalm 73:2-3 (NIV) Some time ago, I met with a sweet woman trying to heal from some deep emotional wounds. Because of past harm, she struggled to trust others and feel safe in relationships. Relatively new in her faith and transformation journey, she was just beginning to make sense of her emotions and inner world. As her understanding grew, so did her anger. This multiplied when she learned the person who’d most harmed her had slandered her to others, causing some to misjudge her and others to withdraw completely. She felt like she would never break free from her pain and bitterness. Worse, her offender didn’t seem to suffer any consequences for her actions. The person actually seemed to be thriving. Have you been there? Watching someone else treat others with ruthless cruelty, and not only get away with it, but benefit from your pain and the wreckage they caused? We can all probably think of situations in which injustice left us deeply wounded, wondering why God allowed us to experience such pain. We’ve also probably watched others seem to get away with horrendous behavior, while our suffering only increases. This was precisely how Asaph, the royal musician who penned Psalm 73, felt. We don’t know when he wrote this passage. But if this is the same Asaph who served during the time of King David, he may have been watching the betrayal David experienced at the hands of his son. Or perhaps the wickedness he refers to hits closer to home. His words might also stem from a more existential reflection on considering the world at large. At times, it does seem like the wealthy, powerful, and unscrupulous thrive, with little worries or pain, while we fall into one crisis after another. And in those seasons when someone else’s success seems to mock our pain, it’s easy to question the heart, promises, and plans of God. Unfortunately, if we cease tending to our souls, our sorrow can turn to disillusionment and eventually bitterness. Our inner angst can turn us from, rather than to, the One who knows us fully, loves us deeply, and is always working on our behalf. When we sense ourselves tiptoeing toward disillusionment and despair, we can follow Asaph’s example, as revealed in verses 16-17. Initially, he attempted to make sense of his circumstances on his own (v. 16). This only increased his inner angst. But then, in the next verse, we read: “… till I entered the sanctuary of God; then I understood their final destiny” (NIV). He intentionally turned to God. I don’t know how far he needed to travel to reach the Temple. But this required effort and determination. It also meant setting aside whatever other tasks he wanted to complete that day. When we’re hurting, frightened, or struggling with doubt, it’s easy to get stuck in our heads as we rehearse all the evils we’ve experienced or seen. The more we ruminate on what feels hard and uncertain, the more powerless and discouraged, and potentially, even abandoned, we feel. And our mind rarely remains focused on the inciting incident. Often, one negative thought leads to another, then another, until we’re overwhelmed. And like I said earlier, unmitigated introspection can pull us further from God, which only increases our fear or despair. But the converse occurs, as well. When we turn to God, seek His presence, and authentically engage with Him, He meets us in the intensity of our emotions and speaks clarity to our confusion, truth to our doubts, and surrounds us with His love. Did you catch how the Lord did this for Asaph? In God’s sanctuary, the place in which His presence dwelt, He gained faith-building understanding. Yes, the wicked seemed to thrive without any concerns or consequences. But justice would come, and Asaph would experience God’s goodness. Notice how he ended his poetic prayer. In verses 23-26, we read: Yet I am always with you;you hold me by my right hand.You guide me with your counsel,and afterward you will take me into glory.Whom have I in heaven but you?And earth has nothing I desire besides you.My flesh and my heart may fail,but God is the strength of my heartand my portion forever. And then, in verse 28: But as for me, it is good to be near God. I have made the Sovereign Lord my refuge; Intersecting Life & Faith: I don’t know what you’re going through currently, what feels heavy and unfair and unjust. But I do know God sees you, loves you, and is for you. He won’t abandon you in your pain, nor will He allow the wicked to thrive forever. He brings justice, healing, hope, and refuge. If you’re feeling disillusioned by someone else’s sinful behavior, bring your emotions, unfiltered, to God and trust Him to meet and to heal you there. To shield and uphold you in His love. Before you sign off, if this episode hit a tender place in your soul and you’re struggling to make sense of some relational patterns that are leading to more anxiety than joy, visit the Faith Over Fear podcast to listen to my conversation with Jennifer Renee Watson on the threads of people pleasing and how to gain the confidence to tend to your soul—when others try to beat you down. That episode is titled "When People Take Advantage of Your Kindness: Biblical Help for People Pleasing." Further Reading: Psalm 37:1-7 Romans 12:19 Psalm 94:1-3 Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

#248. Solo travel doesn't have to mean a flight, a passport, or a packed itinerary — it just has to be yours. I'm breaking down exactly how to craft the perfect solo weekend “away,” whether that's a staycation, a short drive, or anywhere in between, plus the must-haves that make it worth it on any budget. This is your sign to book a solo weekend sabbatical asap. The source content: Reality Disruption: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8S6oa/Dealing with Uncertainty without Rumination: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8UrtQ/Chasing Failure: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8A2HK/ 5 No's a Week: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p89WNb/Joe Dispenza Meditation Review: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8XPeG/Play The Game By Your Rules: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8qQ8Q/ FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

➡️ Search OCD HELP app on App Store and Google PlayThis podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

Hi, hello, howdy Coven! Happy happy Friday! Today we get knee deep in all of your crazy Heauxmetown Hero tales, and dive into the nitty gritty for WWDD. In need of something cute and stylish for the summer? Get yourself or whoever's on your daddy list a beanie, hoodie, or daddy hat from our store! Please support our show and show off your love for Disrespectfully by repping our official gear :) K Love ya bye! Buy our merch!  https://disrespectfullypod.com/   Thank you to our sponsors! EarnIn: Download EarnIn on the App Store or Google Play. Type in Disrespectfully under PODCAST when you sign up, it'll really help the show. Zenni: If your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to https://Zenni.com/PODCAST and use code PODCAST15 for 15% off your first order. The styles sell out, so don't sit on it. Ogee: If you're ready to raise your beauty standards, Ogee's got you covered. Go to https://ogee.com/DISRESPECTFULLY and use code DISRESPECTFULLY for 20% off. Willie's Remedy: Willie's ships directly to your doorstep in 40+ states. Order now at https://drinkwillies.com and use code DISRESPECTFULLY for 20% off of your first order + free shipping on orders over $95, and enjoy life in the high country. Need Advice? We are here to help! Send your questions to disrespectfullypod@gmail.com  and we may answer your questions on the show!   Connect with the Coven! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1930451457469874 Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/disrespectfullypod/ Listen to us on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/disrespectfully/id1516710301 Listen to us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0J6DW1KeDX6SpoVEuQpl7z?si=c35995a56b8d4038   Follow us on Social! Disrespectfully Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/disrespectfullypod Disrespectfully Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@disrespectfullypod Katie Maloney Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/musickillskate Dayna Kathan Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daynakathan Cassie Galonsky Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cassieg2011/ Disrespectfully is an Envy Media Production.

It's 2am, you've checked their Instagram three times, and your body still aches for the person you know wasn't right. In this episode, Sabrina unpacks the anxious attachment breakup: why anxiously attached people chase, ruminate, and spiral after a relationship ends, what new research reveals about the nervous system pull toward an ex, and the one move keeping most anxious people stuck in the loop. This is part one of a four-part breakup series covering anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure attachment styles. Expect honest talk on post-breakup rumination, no contact, withdrawal symptoms, self-abandonment, and how to stop chasing emotionally unavailable partners, plus a 30-second reframe to interrupt the spiral the next time your brain starts to loop. Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠ Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book If you're ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠ If you're serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠ Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠  Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video. Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠  Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠  Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠ Please support our sponsors! Start your new morning ritual & get up to 43% off your @MUDWTR with code SABRINAZOHAR at mudwtr.com/SABRINAZOHAR! #mudwtrpod This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina Go to ⁠IM8HEALTH.com/SABRINA⁠ and use code SABRINA for a Free Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets plus ten percent off your order ============================= Chapters: 00:00 - The 2am anxious breakup spiral 04:54 - Why you feel withdrawal from your ex 07:08 - Rumination and the pull toward your ex 11:43 - Both sides of an anxious breakup 15:48 - Why your 2am thoughts feel true 17:21 - Self punishment after a breakup 20:23 - How to actually get over a breakup 24:45 - Why anxious people grow most 27:47 - Tool of the week: the reframe swap 31:12 - Grief vs self punishment Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

#247. Social media gets a bad reputation — and usually earns it. But this week, I make the case for the other side: what happens when you curate your feed like a curriculum and actually pay attention. Five ideas worth stealing, from the people worth following. The source content: Reality Disruption: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8S6oa/Dealing with Uncertainty without Rumination: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8UrtQ/Chasing Failure: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8A2HK/ 5 No's a Week: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p89WNb/Joe Dispenza Meditation Review: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8XPeG/Play The Game By Your Rules: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8qQ8Q/ FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping and365-day returnsPeloton: Go to onepeloton.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why do we replay cryptic emails, small workplace slights, and past business decisions over and over in our heads? Science journalist Donna Jackson Nakazawa has looked deep into the research and discovered the hidden brain mechanisms that get us into these loops. She explains why a need for achievement, as well as modern work culture, make the problem worse. And she shares practical techniques for recognizing when reflection has crossed into rumination, interrupting destructive thought patterns, and helping teams create more psychological clarity and safety. Nakazawa is author of “Mind Drama: The Science of Rumination and How to Outwit Your Inner Defeatist”.