Podcasts about Rumination

Today I'm talking about how to move on after you have been hurt. Whether it is heartbreak, betrayal, disappointment, family pain, friendship breakups, or someone not showing up the way you hoped they would, hurt is part of the human experience. But moving on is not always as simple as forgiving, forgetting, or pretending it did not matter. When we are hurt, the pain can linger, and if we do not know how to work with it, we can start living from the wound instead of from our healthy adult self. In this episode, I break down why we get stuck in pain, how the ego mind tries to loop, ruminate, and figure everything out, and why old wounds can make present-day hurt feel even more intense. I also walk you through how to move through hurt in a whole-body way by feeling your emotions, stopping the wait for an apology, getting honest about what the experience is teaching you, and letting the pain transform you instead of define you. Key Takeaways Moving on after hurt does not mean pretending it did not happen Hurt can change us, our relationships, and the way we see ourselves if we do not process it The mind often revisits what the heart has not yet resolved Rumination is the ego's attempt to figure out, fix, or control emotional pain Present-day hurt can activate older wounds, including childhood abandonment, betrayal, or shame If the pain feels disproportionate to what happened, there may be a deeper taproot wound underneath it Waiting for an apology can keep us stuck in pain, anger, and victim energy Feeling emotions fully allows the energy of the emotion to move through the body Healing requires getting radically honest about what the experience is teaching us Pain can transform us when we use it for growth instead of allowing it to define us Resources from this Episode: Get your copy of The Adult Chair® Book here!   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Adult Chair® Collective https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

#250. In today's ASK P, we are discussing mostly relationship-related topics, with a little glow-up note to lighten the mood. Listeners sent in sensitive topics, like “am I dating his potential or supporting him through a period of growth?,” non-existent sex lives, and sacrifices in closing the distance gap in a relationship.The source content: Reality Disruption: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8S6oa/Dealing with Uncertainty without Rumination: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8UrtQ/Chasing Failure: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8A2HK/ 5 No's a Week: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p89WNb/Joe Dispenza Meditation Review: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8XPeG/Play The Game By Your Rules: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8qQ8Q/ FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Sponsors:Let yourself run, lift, fail, try and go. Explore Peloton Cross Training Tread+ at onepeloton.com Quince.com/payton for free shipping and 365 day returns. Now available in Canada too!Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Bestselling science journalist Donna Jackson Nakazawa returns to NeuroNoodle for the first time since 2021 to break down her new book MIND DRAMA — the science of rumination, and why the human brain is excellent at getting INTO mind drama but was never taught how to get out. Jay Gunkelman, the man who has read well over 500,000 brain scans, and Dr. Mari Swingle (author of i-Minds) join host Pete Jansons to connect Donna's reporting to what they see in the EEG every week — locked rumination circuits, the default mode network, PTSD and dissociation, and why a fear of not belonging is the trigger hiding under almost all of it.✅ Key Topics Covered• Mind Drama — why your brain has great skills for entering rumination and none for exiting it• Donna's own brain map: the "locked circuit" that inspired the book• Rumination and adolescent girls — self-derogation, social media's "firehose of comparison," and rising teen mental health concerns• The real trigger: fear of belonging — performative childhoods and external evaluation from every adult• How chronic rumination affects the immune system and long-term physical health• PTSD, dissociation, and the default mode network — when the movie reel stops spinning• Where neurofeedback fits — and why Donna says "please go get neurofeedback"• Donna's book arc: Childhood Disrupted → The Angel and the Assassin → Girls on the Brink → Mind Drama

What if the scariest thoughts in your head mean nothing at all? William Schultz spent ten years trapped inside obsessive compulsive disorder. It got so bad he became afraid of his own shadow, checking it every time he flipped a light switch. Then he made one brave decision that put him in remission within two months. No drugs. No endless analysis. Today he's a psychotherapist in St. Paul, president of OCD Twin Cities, and the expert who pushed the International OCD Foundation to revise its own treatment guidelines in 2025.In this conversation, Dr. Roger McFillin and William expose why standard mental health care makes OCD worse. They reveal what actually frees people in an in depth conversation.  If you've ever been attacked by a thought you couldn't turn off, this episode is your way out.

It's been months. Maybe years. And yet somehow, you're still thinking about the affair every single day. You wake up and it's there. You go to bed and it's there. A song, a date, a place, a passing thought, and suddenly you're back inside the story again. Replaying. Analysing. Questioning. Trying to understand. Trying to make sense of something that still feels impossible to fully explain. If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. In this episode of After the Affair, Luke explores why your mind keeps returning to the affair long after discovery and why the constant replaying may not mean what you think it means. You'll learn why the brain mistakes understanding for safety, how rumination quietly becomes a habit, the hidden reasons people continue replaying painful events, and why trying to force yourself to stop thinking about the affair often makes the problem worse. Most importantly, you'll discover the difference between remembering and replaying, and how changing your relationship with your thoughts can become one of the most important turning points in your healing journey. If you've ever found yourself asking: "Why am I still thinking about this?" This episode may give you an entirely different answer than the one you've been looking for. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why your brain keeps returning to the affair The difference between understanding and certainty How the mind tries to use thinking as a form of protection Why many people aren't actually trying to understand the affair anymore The hidden relationship between rumination and control How replaying the affair can become an unconscious attempt to change the past The surprising ways betrayal can become part of your identity Why forcing yourself not to think about the affair usually backfires The difference between remembering and replaying What actually helps you move forward when you're feeling stuck A Powerful Question From This Episode "What am I hoping my thinking will give me?" Not what your partner did. Not what should have happened. Not what you've lost. But what are you hoping all of this thinking will eventually produce? Safety? Certainty? Control? Validation? Justice? A different past? Because the answer to that question may reveal far more about what's keeping you stuck than the affair itself. Key Takeaways ✅ Thinking about the affair every day doesn't mean you're broken. ✅ Your brain often mistakes understanding for safety. ✅ Rumination feels productive but rarely creates resolution. ✅ Many people are no longer trying to understand the affair, they're trying to undo it. ✅ The hidden goal beneath most replaying is certainty, and certainty is impossible. ✅ Healing is not about never thinking about the affair again. ✅ Freedom comes from changing your relationship with the thoughts, not eliminating them. ✅ Remembering is normal. Replaying is optional. ✅ You don't have to believe every thought your mind offers. ✅ Recovery begins to accelerate when your future becomes more compelling than your past. Why This Episode Matters One of the biggest misconceptions in betrayal recovery is that if you're still thinking about the affair, you're not healing. The truth is often far more nuanced. Many people become trapped not by the affair itself, but by their ongoing attempt to find certainty, control, or safety through endless mental replay. This episode explores what happens when thinking becomes a habit, when healing becomes an identity, and when the search for answers quietly turns into resistance to reality. Because the goal isn't to forget. The goal is to stop living inside the event. Resources & Support If you're struggling with the aftermath of betrayal and would like support navigating the emotional, psychological, and relational impact of infidelity, Luke offers both private coaching and community support.

The weeks around calving can have a big influence on cow health, production and reproductive performance. In this episode, DairyNZ scientist Dr Stacey Hendriks and dairy cattle vet Ryan Luckman discuss the latest advice on transition cow care, including DairyNZ's updated feeding guidance for springers at target body condition score. They also look at the role of rumination data and wearables — what they can show you, where their limits are, and how they can support better decisions when used alongside good feed management, stockmanship and knowledge of your own herd. Read more: Transition cows | DairyNZHave feedback or ideas for future episodes? Email us at talkingdairy@dairynz.co.nzConnect with DairyNZStay up to date with advice, latest research, tools and resources. Read, browse, scroll, listen, or be there in person. Visit dairynz.co.nz/get-connected 

Clinical Neuropsychologist Dr Harvey Jones interviews Clinical Psychologist Dr Damon Ashworth on helping people to improve their rumination. Together, they discuss:* the difference between rumination and reflection* the difference between worrying and planning* the difference between rumination and worrying* what people can do if they feel that they are overthinking* how to best support someone who is ruminatingand much more

#249. If you've ever felt like you lost yourself in a season of constant change, this one's for you. I'm sharing a few things that are actually keeping me grounded right now — from the simplest possible routine to why having a responsibility (even a four-legged one) might be the most stabilizing thing in your life. Consider this your permission slip to stop waiting for things to calm down before you start feeling like yourself again.The source content: Reality Disruption: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8S6oa/Dealing with Uncertainty without Rumination: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8UrtQ/Chasing Failure: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8A2HK/ 5 No's a Week: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p89WNb/Joe Dispenza Meditation Review: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8XPeG/Play The Game By Your Rules: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8qQ8Q/ FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Rula: Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get startedPeloton: Go to onepeloton.comLola Blankets: For a limited time, our listeners can get 40% OFF select Lola Blankets products with code NOTETOSELF at checkoutOlive & June: Visit OliveandJune.com/NOTETOSELF for 20% off your first System!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this solo episode, I discuss the topic of Real Event OCD, a subtype of OCD that can involve rumination around something that actually happened in the past. This can come with feelings of guilt, shame, and doubt.Real Event OCD can leave one feeling trapped in a cycle of analyzing, replaying, and trying to "figure out" what their past says about them.I share a few examples of how Real Event OCD can show up, including some lighter experiences while also normalizing heavier themes such as past regrets, relationship dynamics, and fears of being a "bad" person. In addition, I touch on how Real Event OCD can crate doubt around one's memory, leadong to distress and a strong urge to revisit, review, and make sense of past events.As always, this episode is not a replacement for professional support and does not reflect every OCD experience.STAY CONNECTED:INSTA: @trustandthriveTIKOK: @trustandthriveEMAIL: trustandthrive@gmail.com

Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com Join the Free Robert James Coaching Community & Get Access to the Free Starter Course - Follow the Link Below: https://robert-james-coaching-ocd.circle.so/join?invitation_token=4051add931af92458ee166eda25ccdad45545107-24505897-ed26-43d7-84a2-0ebd8b269363 In this episode Robert James explains how rumination — thinking about your thinking — traps people with OCD and prevents lasting certainty. He offers practical strategies to break the cycle by returning to the body and action: movement, conversation, flow activities, and taking small steps even when you don't feel ready Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.  

Humility is a powerful (and mostly misunderstood) mental health skill that's grounded by self-knowledge and self-compassion. Humility is also a powerful antidote to rumination and harsh self-criticism and a tool to support mood and emotional resilience. We'll build up humility through this series by taking a positive psychology approach along with Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren's framework to build humility (know yourself, check yourself, go beyond yourself.) This episode is all about Step 1 (know yourself) and it turns out it's both the most uncomfortable and the most freeing place to start. About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek. The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab Program. Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).    Like and follow Joy Lab on Socials:  Instagram Linkedin Watch this episode on YouTube   Sources and Notes for our Element of Humility: Joy Lab Program: Take the next leap in your wellbeing journey with step-by-step practices to help you build and maintain the elements of joy in your life.  Episodes in this Humility series: Humility Can Be Stressful... But Worth it for Mental Health [ep. 268] Book: Humble by Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD Find more about Neff's work on Self-compassion at Self-Compassion.org More on C.S. Lewis from the C.S. Lewis Foundation.  Hagá & Olson. 'If I only had a little humility, I would be perfect': Children's and adults' perceptions of intellectually arrogant, humble, and diffident people. Access here. Nielsen & Marrone. Humility: Our current understanding of the construct and its role in organizations. Access here. Porter et al. Predictors and consequences of intellectual humility. Access here. Van Tongeren et al. Humility. Access here.  Weidman et al. The psychological structure of humility. Access here. Wright et al. The psychological significance of humility. Access here. Wendell Berry's book Standing by Words   Key moments: [00:00] Why self-knowledge comes first in the humility framework — and why skipping it makes the rest of the work harder. [02:00] The humility paradox: who scores highest on self-reported humility? People with narcissistic traits. What this reveals about why self-knowledge matters. [04:30] Reflection vs. rumination: same self-focused action, completely different energy — and very different effects on anxiety and depression. [07:30] Clark Griswold on the roundabout: Aimee's perfect visual for rumination, plus Van Tongeren's concept of "right-sizing yourself." [09:30] Obstacle #1: The idealized self. When the gap between who you are and who you think you should be stops motivating and starts deflating. [12:00] Obstacle #2: The better-than-average effect. Most of us rank ourselves above average — and that's statistically impossible. How this positivity bias quietly inflates us. [14:30] Obstacle #3: The harsh inner critic disguised as self-awareness. Why beating yourself up isn't humility — it's ego turned inward. [17:00] Dr. Kristin Neff's insight: self-compassion is the foundation of honest self-awareness. You can look clearly when you're not afraid of what you'll find. [19:30] Rumination as an internal courtroom — and Aimee's personal story about chronic lateness, hard feedback from a friend, and what it took to actually receive it. [23:30] Henry's simple journaling practice: notice what you observed about yourself this week. No analysis, no judgment — just patterns, held gently. [25:30] Preview of next week's "Check Yourself" episode, and a closing note from Aristotle.   Full transcript here   Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.

This podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

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This episode introduces a six-step framework for structured personal reflection called M.I.R.R.O.R., designed to help high-achieving professionals distinguish between genuine growth and the illusion of progress through motion. Host Singh positions reflection as "the practice underneath every practice" and provides a complete system listeners can implement in a single twenty-minute session.  M.I.R.R.O.R. M — Mindful Pause creates deliberate stillness before reflective work begins. Singh argues reflection cannot occur "at the speed of your inbox." The practice involves sitting for ten minutes with no device, notebook, or agenda. I — Inquire Honestly moves beyond comfortable, self-soothing questions toward inquiries that produce genuine discomfort. The "flinch" response indicates proximity to meaningful territory. The practice involves identifying three questions about one's current life that would cause discomfort if asked by a trusted mentor. R — Recognize the Patterns elevates single incidents into systemic understanding. Pattern recognition reveals the common variable across repeated difficulties, which is almost always the individual rather than external circumstances. The practice requires mapping a current situation against historical parallels to identify recurring dynamics. R — Reframe the Story addresses the narrative layer determining whether a pattern becomes usable. Individuals typically inherit stories from family, culture, or formative experiences rather than consciously choosing them. The practice involves testing the existing story (Is it true? Is it useful? Is it mine?) and writing a replacement sentence. O — Own Your Part requires locating one's specific contribution to any dynamic, separate from factors outside one's control. Singh argues that insight without ownership produces no change. The practice requires distilling the insight into a single sentence describing one's actionable piece. R — Realign with What Matters translates reflective work into scheduled behavior. Reflection without a concrete next action is "decoration, not reflection." The practice demands selecting exactly one small act for the coming seven days and placing it on the calendar. The episode establishes a critical distinction between rumination and reflection. Rumination is a loop that ends where it started, produces heavier feelings, and replays old footage with increased volume. Reflection is a spiral that ends one floor higher, produces clarity, and generates actionable insight. The diagnostic: finishing closer to a decision indicates reflection; finishing further from a decision indicates rumination. Singh illustrates the framework through anonymized clients including Devin, a senior partner who couldn't distinguish growth from aging within routines; Aisha, who discovered a three-month unnamed feeling after her first genuine pause; Marcus, whose fourteen pages of journaling amounted to self-defense rather than inquiry; and Renata, whose "bad luck with bosses" pattern revealed her own withheld feedback across three jobs. The weekly challenge includes sitting in a chair for ten minutes with nothing, completing a full twenty-minute M.I.R.R.O.R. session ending with one scheduled act, and returning after one week to assess whether the act produced change. Listeners can direct message "Mindful Mirror" to Singh on LinkedIn to receive the Purpose Factor Assessment, a ten-minute tool for clarifying personal purpose and direction.

Drawing from Asaph’s transparent confession in Psalm 73:2-3, this reflection explores how unresolved hurt and constant focus on injustice can slowly lead us toward disillusionment. Like Asaph, many believers struggle when they see harmful people thriving while their own wounds deepen. Yet the turning point in the psalm comes when Asaph intentionally enters God’s sanctuary and regains an eternal perspective. In God’s presence, he remembers that earthly success is temporary, but God’s love, justice, and guidance are eternal. This devotional encourages Christians to stop carrying pain alone and instead seek refuge in the Lord. God does not dismiss our hurt or ignore injustice. He sees every wound, strengthens weary hearts, and offers healing to those who draw near to Him. Even when circumstances remain difficult, His presence steadies us and renews our faith. Highlights Psalm 73 honestly addresses discouragement over injustice and evil. Comparing our suffering to others’ success can lead to bitterness and despair. Rumination and isolation often pull us further away from God’s peace. Asaph found clarity only after intentionally entering God’s presence. God offers refuge, healing, and perspective in seasons of pain. Justice may seem delayed, but God remains faithful and sovereign. Drawing near to God strengthens faith and quiets fear. Do you want to listen ad-free? When you join Crosswalk Plus, you gain access to exclusive, in-depth Bible study guides, devotionals, sound biblical advice, and daily encouragement from trusted pastors and authors—resources designed to strengthen your faith and equip you to live it out boldly. PLUS ad free podcasts! Sign Up Today! Full Transcript Below: When We Feel Discouraged by the Evil in Our WorldBy: Jennifer Slattery Bible Reading:But as for me, my feet had almost slipped;I had nearly lost my foothold.For I envied the arrogantwhen I saw the prosperity of the wicked. - Psalm 73:2-3 (NIV) Some time ago, I met with a sweet woman trying to heal from some deep emotional wounds. Because of past harm, she struggled to trust others and feel safe in relationships. Relatively new in her faith and transformation journey, she was just beginning to make sense of her emotions and inner world. As her understanding grew, so did her anger. This multiplied when she learned the person who’d most harmed her had slandered her to others, causing some to misjudge her and others to withdraw completely. She felt like she would never break free from her pain and bitterness. Worse, her offender didn’t seem to suffer any consequences for her actions. The person actually seemed to be thriving. Have you been there? Watching someone else treat others with ruthless cruelty, and not only get away with it, but benefit from your pain and the wreckage they caused? We can all probably think of situations in which injustice left us deeply wounded, wondering why God allowed us to experience such pain. We’ve also probably watched others seem to get away with horrendous behavior, while our suffering only increases. This was precisely how Asaph, the royal musician who penned Psalm 73, felt. We don’t know when he wrote this passage. But if this is the same Asaph who served during the time of King David, he may have been watching the betrayal David experienced at the hands of his son. Or perhaps the wickedness he refers to hits closer to home. His words might also stem from a more existential reflection on considering the world at large. At times, it does seem like the wealthy, powerful, and unscrupulous thrive, with little worries or pain, while we fall into one crisis after another. And in those seasons when someone else’s success seems to mock our pain, it’s easy to question the heart, promises, and plans of God. Unfortunately, if we cease tending to our souls, our sorrow can turn to disillusionment and eventually bitterness. Our inner angst can turn us from, rather than to, the One who knows us fully, loves us deeply, and is always working on our behalf. When we sense ourselves tiptoeing toward disillusionment and despair, we can follow Asaph’s example, as revealed in verses 16-17. Initially, he attempted to make sense of his circumstances on his own (v. 16). This only increased his inner angst. But then, in the next verse, we read: “… till I entered the sanctuary of God; then I understood their final destiny” (NIV). He intentionally turned to God. I don’t know how far he needed to travel to reach the Temple. But this required effort and determination. It also meant setting aside whatever other tasks he wanted to complete that day. When we’re hurting, frightened, or struggling with doubt, it’s easy to get stuck in our heads as we rehearse all the evils we’ve experienced or seen. The more we ruminate on what feels hard and uncertain, the more powerless and discouraged, and potentially, even abandoned, we feel. And our mind rarely remains focused on the inciting incident. Often, one negative thought leads to another, then another, until we’re overwhelmed. And like I said earlier, unmitigated introspection can pull us further from God, which only increases our fear or despair. But the converse occurs, as well. When we turn to God, seek His presence, and authentically engage with Him, He meets us in the intensity of our emotions and speaks clarity to our confusion, truth to our doubts, and surrounds us with His love. Did you catch how the Lord did this for Asaph? In God’s sanctuary, the place in which His presence dwelt, He gained faith-building understanding. Yes, the wicked seemed to thrive without any concerns or consequences. But justice would come, and Asaph would experience God’s goodness. Notice how he ended his poetic prayer. In verses 23-26, we read: Yet I am always with you;you hold me by my right hand.You guide me with your counsel,and afterward you will take me into glory.Whom have I in heaven but you?And earth has nothing I desire besides you.My flesh and my heart may fail,but God is the strength of my heartand my portion forever. And then, in verse 28: But as for me, it is good to be near God. I have made the Sovereign Lord my refuge; Intersecting Life & Faith: I don’t know what you’re going through currently, what feels heavy and unfair and unjust. But I do know God sees you, loves you, and is for you. He won’t abandon you in your pain, nor will He allow the wicked to thrive forever. He brings justice, healing, hope, and refuge. If you’re feeling disillusioned by someone else’s sinful behavior, bring your emotions, unfiltered, to God and trust Him to meet and to heal you there. To shield and uphold you in His love. Before you sign off, if this episode hit a tender place in your soul and you’re struggling to make sense of some relational patterns that are leading to more anxiety than joy, visit the Faith Over Fear podcast to listen to my conversation with Jennifer Renee Watson on the threads of people pleasing and how to gain the confidence to tend to your soul—when others try to beat you down. That episode is titled "When People Take Advantage of Your Kindness: Biblical Help for People Pleasing." Further Reading: Psalm 37:1-7 Romans 12:19 Psalm 94:1-3 Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

#248. Solo travel doesn't have to mean a flight, a passport, or a packed itinerary — it just has to be yours. I'm breaking down exactly how to craft the perfect solo weekend “away,” whether that's a staycation, a short drive, or anywhere in between, plus the must-haves that make it worth it on any budget. This is your sign to book a solo weekend sabbatical asap. The source content: Reality Disruption: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8S6oa/Dealing with Uncertainty without Rumination: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8UrtQ/Chasing Failure: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8A2HK/ 5 No's a Week: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p89WNb/Joe Dispenza Meditation Review: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8XPeG/Play The Game By Your Rules: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8qQ8Q/ FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

➡️ Search OCD HELP app on App Store and Google PlayThis podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

In this episode of Be Unmessablewith the podcast, Josselyne Herman-Saccio discusses the detrimental effects of rumination on mental health and productivity, particularly for high achievers. They introduce a simple tool to interrupt negative thought patterns and emphasize the importance of grounding oneself in reality to enhance decision-making and leadership capabilities. The conversation highlights the need to recognize rumination as a deceptive form of productivity that can sabotage success.Biggest takeaways in this episode:Your mind is lying to you right now.Rumination feels productive but it's a trap.Reality has no loops; only your brain creates narratives.The five second interrupt can shut down mental spirals.Rumination attacks identity, not just thoughts.Being present is where your power is.Download My Free Daily Motivation Guidehttps://beunmessablewith.com/moving-beyond-motivation/Connect With JosselyneWebsite: beunmessablewith.comInstagram: @beunmessablewithFacebook: UnmessablewithnessLinkedIn: josselyneherman-saccioYouTube: @beunmessablewith

Cette semaine sur le podcast, on reçoit Sonia Lupien pour une troisième fois! À l'occasion du lancement de son nouveau balado Nos histoires de stress, elle invite les gens à raconter leurs stress du quotidien pour mieux les comprendre et les déconstruire. Avec PH et Doum, elle analyse des exemples très concrets : le stress du Canadien en séries, les transitions de vie, la surcharge de travail, les décisions d'affaires difficiles et le fameux hamster qui part dans notre tête la nuit.  Au programme:  - Pourquoi le stress n'est pas l'ennemi, mais une arme de survie  - Comment déconstruire son stress avec la méthode SPIN ! - Pourquoi le stress chronique peut affecter le sommeil, la prise de décision et les relations  - Comment les transitions de vie, le travail et l'incertitude activent notre cerveau  - Pourquoi reconnaître ses signes de stress peut aider à mieux s'adapter   

How Resentment Quietly Builds In this episode of The Liberated Life Podcast, Robin Keehn opens a new conversation about what happens underneath our relationships — especially when something needed to be said, but wasn't. Resentment does not usually arrive all at once. It accumulates. A tone. A look. A changed plan. A moment of being overlooked. A “yes” that should have been a “no.” None of these may seem dramatic on its own, but together they begin to form a story. Robin shares how resentment often grows in the space between what happened and what was never spoken. She introduces the idea of an Open Loop — something unfinished, incomplete, or outdated that continues draining your time, energy, and peace — and an Unspoken Broken, a relational loop that stays open because it was never named. You'll hear why resentment is not always proof that the other person is bad. Sometimes it is a signal that something remains unfinished. In this episode, Robin talks about:  How resentment quietly accumulates over time Why small moments can carry a surprising amount of weight The difference between truly releasing something and simply not bringing it up How “always” and “never” stories begin to form in relationships Why unspoken moments become Open Loops What an Unspoken Broken is and why it matters How to begin with “Here's what I've noticed” instead of an accusation The two questions to ask before having a hard conversation: Why am I sharing this?What do I actually want here? Why closing one loop can begin to restore your time, energy, and peace “Resentment is interest on a debt nobody named.” Where have you gone quiet — and what has that silence been costing you? Want a place to start? Download Robin's free tool, Close One Loop, and walk through one open loop from start to finish in just a few minutes. Go to: closetheloopsnow.com/tool You'll also be the first to hear about Robin's upcoming five-day challenge at the end of June. If this episode resonated with you, you might enjoy our free People Skillz community — a structured space to practice steadier, more intentional communication. We also created a short Communication Patterns Quiz to help you identify how you respond under pressure. You'll find both here.

➡️ Search OCD HELP app on App Store and Google PlayThis podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

Rumination can feel productive at first. It can feel like problem-solving, self-awareness, or “figuring things out.” But for people with OCD, there's a point where thinking stops being helpful and turns into a trap. The same question gets replayed over and over, every answer creates another “what if,” and no amount of analyzing ever brings real relief. In this short video, Dr. Patrick McGrath breaks down how OCD turns thinking into a compulsion, why rumination feels so convincing in the moment, and the key difference between healthy problem-solving and mentally spiraling. At NOCD, we specialize in exposure and response prevention (ERP) therapy, the most effective treatment for OCD—a treatment that can help you live a fulfilling life. If you're ready to take your first step, book a free 15-minute call with us at https://learn.nocd.com/YTFollow us on social media:https://www.instagram.com/treatmyocd/https://twitter.com/treatmyocdhttps://www.tiktok.com/@treatmyocd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

➡️ Search OCD HELP app on App Store and Google PlayThis podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

Hi, hello, howdy Coven! Happy happy Friday! Today we get knee deep in all of your crazy Heauxmetown Hero tales, and dive into the nitty gritty for WWDD. In need of something cute and stylish for the summer? Get yourself or whoever's on your daddy list a beanie, hoodie, or daddy hat from our store! Please support our show and show off your love for Disrespectfully by repping our official gear :) K Love ya bye! Buy our merch!  https://disrespectfullypod.com/   Thank you to our sponsors! EarnIn: Download EarnIn on the App Store or Google Play. Type in Disrespectfully under PODCAST when you sign up, it'll really help the show. Zenni: If your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to https://Zenni.com/PODCAST and use code PODCAST15 for 15% off your first order. The styles sell out, so don't sit on it. Ogee: If you're ready to raise your beauty standards, Ogee's got you covered. Go to https://ogee.com/DISRESPECTFULLY and use code DISRESPECTFULLY for 20% off. Willie's Remedy: Willie's ships directly to your doorstep in 40+ states. Order now at https://drinkwillies.com and use code DISRESPECTFULLY for 20% off of your first order + free shipping on orders over $95, and enjoy life in the high country. Need Advice? We are here to help! Send your questions to disrespectfullypod@gmail.com  and we may answer your questions on the show!   Connect with the Coven! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1930451457469874 Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/disrespectfullypod/ Listen to us on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/disrespectfully/id1516710301 Listen to us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0J6DW1KeDX6SpoVEuQpl7z?si=c35995a56b8d4038   Follow us on Social! Disrespectfully Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/disrespectfullypod Disrespectfully Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@disrespectfullypod Katie Maloney Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/musickillskate Dayna Kathan Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daynakathan Cassie Galonsky Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cassieg2011/ Disrespectfully is an Envy Media Production.

It's 2am, you've checked their Instagram three times, and your body still aches for the person you know wasn't right. In this episode, Sabrina unpacks the anxious attachment breakup: why anxiously attached people chase, ruminate, and spiral after a relationship ends, what new research reveals about the nervous system pull toward an ex, and the one move keeping most anxious people stuck in the loop. This is part one of a four-part breakup series covering anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure attachment styles. Expect honest talk on post-breakup rumination, no contact, withdrawal symptoms, self-abandonment, and how to stop chasing emotionally unavailable partners, plus a 30-second reframe to interrupt the spiral the next time your brain starts to loop. Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠ Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book If you're ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠ If you're serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠ Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠  Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video. Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠  Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠  Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠ Please support our sponsors! Start your new morning ritual & get up to 43% off your @MUDWTR with code SABRINAZOHAR at mudwtr.com/SABRINAZOHAR! #mudwtrpod This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina Go to ⁠IM8HEALTH.com/SABRINA⁠ and use code SABRINA for a Free Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets plus ten percent off your order ============================= Chapters: 00:00 - The 2am anxious breakup spiral 04:54 - Why you feel withdrawal from your ex 07:08 - Rumination and the pull toward your ex 11:43 - Both sides of an anxious breakup 15:48 - Why your 2am thoughts feel true 17:21 - Self punishment after a breakup 20:23 - How to actually get over a breakup 24:45 - Why anxious people grow most 27:47 - Tool of the week: the reframe swap 31:12 - Grief vs self punishment Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

#247. Social media gets a bad reputation — and usually earns it. But this week, I make the case for the other side: what happens when you curate your feed like a curriculum and actually pay attention. Five ideas worth stealing, from the people worth following. The source content: Reality Disruption: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8S6oa/Dealing with Uncertainty without Rumination: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8UrtQ/Chasing Failure: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8A2HK/ 5 No's a Week: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p89WNb/Joe Dispenza Meditation Review: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8XPeG/Play The Game By Your Rules: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8qQ8Q/ FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping and365-day returnsPeloton: Go to onepeloton.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When's the last time you got caught up in a mental spiral, going over and over a past event or constantly reimagining a future one? Research shows we're more prone to this habit than ever. That cycle that peaks your anxiety and distracts you from what's happening at the moment is called rumination, and my guest wrote a book all about it. Donna Jackson Nakazawa is an acclaimed science journalist whose new book, “Mind Drama: The Science of Rumination and How to Outwit Your Inner Defeatist,” explores the neuroscience behind why we fall into these repetitive patterns. Her knowledge of the topic is informed by all the latest research, and she has even developed her own framework for dealing with it; I experience that approach first-hand, right in the middle of our conversation.  This episode is essential listening for anyone who wants the tools to break out of those stressful spirals once and for all. Stop spiraling and ramp up your power over your own mind: The role your childhood plays in shaping the stories you tell yourself; Find your voice by naming and relinquishing your negative thought patterns; Why rumination isn't just overthinking; The radical reparenting approach to rewiring your mind. Related Links: Learn more about Donna's work - https://donnajacksonnakazawa.com/ Subscribe to Healing Together on Substack - https://donnajacksonnakazawa.substack.com/ Mind Drama: The Science of Rumination and How to Outwit Your Inner Defeatist, by Donna Jackson Nakazawa - https://donnajacksonnakazawa.com/books/mind-drama-science-of-rumination/   Girls on the Brink by Donna Jackson Nakazawa - https://donnajacksonnakazawa.com/books/girls-on-the-brink/ Bossed Up: A Grown Woman's Guide to Getting Your Sh*t Together by Emilie Aries - https://www.bossedup.org/book Episode 548, Why Adding to My Plate Eased My Burnout - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode548 SPEAK UP: A Live Assertive Communication Course for Women in the Workplace - https://www.bossedup.org/speakup Bossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/ Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Why do we replay cryptic emails, small workplace slights, and past business decisions over and over in our heads? Science journalist Donna Jackson Nakazawa has looked deep into the research and discovered the hidden brain mechanisms that get us into these loops. She explains why a need for achievement, as well as modern work culture, make the problem worse. And she shares practical techniques for recognizing when reflection has crossed into rumination, interrupting destructive thought patterns, and helping teams create more psychological clarity and safety. Nakazawa is author of “Mind Drama: The Science of Rumination and How to Outwit Your Inner Defeatist”.

What is rumination really costing you?In this episode, I speak with Donna Jackson Nakazawa, an award-winning science journalist and Oprah-picked author of Mind Drama.We explore why getting stuck in your head can quietly steal years of your life, and why rumination is not just overthinking... it is a survival response that can keep you trapped in old stories, shame, guilt, and self-criticism.We also look at the hidden cost of living in your head: losing focus, presence, relationships, and time you can never get back.This episode is for anyone who feels stuck in their own mind and wants to stop rumination from running their life.Donna Jackson Nakazawa is an award-winning science journalist and author of Mind Drama: The Science of Rumination and How to Outwit Your Inner Defeatist.Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction: Rumination Steals Life(02:43) Research And Brain Roots(06:03) When Rumination Turns Chronic(09:46) Why We Ruminate More Now(12:58) Childhood Wiring And Belonging(15:11) MIST Framework Explained(17:53) Guided MIST Exercise(22:12) Naming It Brings Relief(24:05) Building A Personal Code(26:33) Personal Stories And Breakthroughs(30:23) Rewriting The Inner Story(33:10) Finding Voice And Freedom(35:44) Healing Through Self Work(37:18) Rumination Versus Processing(39:22) Focus Lost In Thought Loops(41:48) Parenting And Trauma Cycles(43:53) Good Parents Still Miss Needs(50:46) Ambition Or Old Story(56:53) First Step, No Shame(58:39) Modern Stress And Biology(01:02:06) Final ThoughtsConnect with Nick:Instagram: https://instagram.com/nickbracksWebsite: http://nickbracks.comEmail: contact@nickbracks.comConnect with Donna:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/donnajacksonnakazawa/Website: https://donnajacksonnakazawa.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of The Anchored by the Sword Podcast. Today's conversation is one that honestly hit me in a lot of places because we're talking about something I think so many women quietly carry:The pressure to be strong.The pressure to move on quickly.The pressure to bounce back.And what happens when you're tired.Today I'm joined by Charaia Rush, author of The Myth of Bouncing Back, and you guys… this conversation is raw, honest, and one I think a lot of women need.Because the truth is:Sometimes healing doesn't look like getting back up quickly.Sometimes resilience costs us something.Sometimes we rise again… but we don't rise as the same person.And maybe that isn't failure.Maybe that's healing.In this episode we talk about:✨ Walking away from an abusive marriage and rebuilding from nothing✨ Shame after divorce and church hurt✨ Why “bounce back culture” can actually do more harm than good✨ The anger women often feel but don't think they're allowed to admit✨ Learning to sit in the ashes instead of rushing redemption✨ The gift of rock bottom—and how God sometimes meets us there✨ Rumination, shame, resilience, and learning to let God rebuild what brokeOne thing Charaia said that stayed with me:“You don't have to bounce back. You can rise as a completely different woman.”And honestly…I think a lot of us needed permission to hear that.Because healing after grief, trauma, infertility, divorce, loss, betrayal, mental health struggles, or disappointment rarely makes us look the same.And that doesn't mean we failed.It means we survived.Friend, if you're sitting in the ashes right now…This episode is for you.If you're angry…This episode is for you.If you're exhausted from trying to be “strong”…This episode is for you too.

In this episode of The Dairy Podcast Show, Dr. Jess McArt from Cornell University College of Veterinary Medicine discusses calcium balance in fresh cows, subclinical hypocalcemia, rumination monitoring, and prevention strategies for improving transition cow health. She explains how dairy professionals can more effectively identify high-risk cows and apply practical management tools to improve production and reproductive outcomes. Listen now on all major platforms!“Rumination time can serve as a proxy for intake, and help set standards for intervention when fresh cows fail to recover quickly.”Meet the guest: Dr. Jess McArt is a Professor at Cornell University College of Veterinary Medicine and Chair of Population Medicine and Diagnostic Sciences. Her research focuses on transition cow health, calcium metabolism, dairy production medicine, and herd-level management strategies that improve dairy cattle performance and health outcomes. Learn more from Dr. Jess McArt on The Dairy Podcast Show, available on all major platforms.Liked this one? Don't stop now — Here's what we think you'll love!What you'll learn:(00:00) Highlight(01:34) Introduction(04:34) Prevention strategies(08:34) Intake patterns(10:54) Supplementation insights(19:10) Hypocalcemia prevention(20:57) Monitoring fresh cow calcium(23:19) Final questionsThe Dairy Podcast Show is trusted and supported by innovative companies like:- Chemlock* Priority IAC* CowManager* Agri-Comfort* Adisseo* Afimilk* Evonik- Protekta- BoviSync- dsm-firmenich- AHV- Natural Biologics- DietForge- Agrarian Solutions

Before we can forgive anything, we have to be honest about what actually happened without minimizing, over-spiritualizing, or skipping to a resolution. This week we slow down to affirm this first step in the process: naming the hurt with precision. As it turns out, telling the truth about your wound is the first act of healing.   LINKS:  Current Conversations | Connect | YouTube |  Coming Up TRANSCRIPT: The Word We've Been Mishandling Forgiveness might be the most talked-about and least practiced idea in all of spiritual life. Not because some people are hypocrites (I mean aren't we all a little bit?) but because if we're honest, we've been given almost no real tools for it. Tension point: most of us are carrying something. And most of us have been told– by religion, culture, entertainment, even well-meaning people– to just... let it go. But letting go of something you haven't fully held yet isn't forgiveness. It's just suppression with fancy vocabulary. Brief series preview: over the next six weeks, we're going to do this differently. We're drawing from Archbishop Desmond Tutu and his daughter Mpho's book The Book of Forgiving– one of the most honest, rigorous, and compassionate treatments of this subject that I'm aware of. We'll talk about what forgiveness actually is, what it isn't, why it gets weaponized, and what it might mean to actually get free. The Tutus give us a four-step framework for genuine forgiveness. If you're curious about each one of the steps in more detail and want to take the time it takes to really wrestle with that, I'd love to invite you into the Tuesday night book club and Discord server… talk to me after the gathering if you're interested! There's an underlying premise that when hurt happens, there's a cycle of revenge we often get stuck in (marked by the hurt/harm/loss, experiencing pain, choosing to harm, rejecting shared humanity, getting revenge/retaliation/payback, that ultimately leads to some form of violence that creates new or additional harm. What they've provided for us– based on their own experiences of injustice and violence (apartheid, violent deaths, etc.) is what they call The Fourfold Path, that similarly starts with hurt/harm/loss, followed by an intentional choice to heal. And if healing is the choice, then the fourfold path can be traveled:  Telling the Story (today) Naming the Hurt Granting Forgiveness (Recognizing Shared Humanity) Renewing or Releasing the Relationship. You don't have to be at every week to get something meaningful from this. But if you can, come back. This is worth doing slowly. The task we're in today– telling the story– is both simple and challenging: before we can forgive anything, we have to give ourselves space to be honest about what actually happened. Because there are a lot of real, identifiable reasons why we rush past pain and jump straight to resolution. Why We Skip the Hard Part Some of our work today, as we launch this series, is to be honest about why we skip the hard part, and end up missing out on actual forgiveness… For many: religious pressure |  "Jesus said forgive, so I should feel forgiving." The command becomes a performance. We say the words because we're supposed to, not because anything has actually shifted. (Note: forgiveness as a practice you choose vs. a feeling you perform — that distinction matters and we'll return to it.) Toxic positivity/"move on" culture |  American culture is deeply allergic to sitting with pain. We pathologize grief. We celebrate resilience in ways that quietly shame people for still hurting. "Good vibes only" is a spiritual bypass wearing a bumper sticker. Protecting ourselves from further abuse / Not wanting to further upset the person or system that hurt us |  This one deserves weight. Often the pressure to "just forgive" comes from the person or institution that caused harm. The church tells the abuse survivor to forgive the abuser. The family tells the wounded child not to make a scene. This is forgiveness weaponized — and we'll name that plainly throughout this series. The cultural myth of "forgive and forget" |  The Tutus address this directly. You cannot actually forget. And you shouldn't have to. Mpho Tutu writes that the idea of forgetting is not only impossible, it's actually counterproductive — memory is part of how we protect ourselves and stay honest. What happens when we skip to the “end”?? We don't actually move past the hurt. We move it underground. Resentment. Shame. Something that sits in us and ferments. The Tutus describe this as the "fourfold path" — and the first step is not resolution. It's telling the story. You cannot skip to the end. Telling the Story: The First Act of Healing The Tutus write: "The first and most important step in the Fourfold Path is to tell your story." Notice: they didn't say to resolve it… but to tell it. Why does this matter psychologically? There's substantial research behind this. Narrative therapy and trauma-informed psychology both support the idea that giving language to an experience is not just cathartic — it's neurologically significant. When we name something, we move it from the body's alarm system into the part of the brain that can actually process it. (Reference: Bessel van der Kolk, "The Body Keeps the Score" — the body holds what the mind won't name.) But there's a crucial distinction the Tutus make — and it's worth sitting with: RUMINATING on a story and TELLING it are not the same thing. Rumination is the loop. It's replaying the scene, re-feeling the wound, rehearsing what you should have said. It keeps us stuck in a cycle that actually reinforces the pain rather than processing it. Ruminating is like the broken record “That's an old tape, time to take it out of the VCR” Telling the story is different. It has a shape. A beginning, middle, and at least a provisional end. It has a witness. It moves outward rather than circling inward. Research on expressive writing (James Pennebaker, University of Texas) shows that people who write about difficult experiences in a structured way— not just venting, but actually narrating— show measurable improvements in psychological and even physical health. The Tutus frame this in deeply human terms: "When we tell our stories, we reclaim our humanity." The act of speaking what was done to us — rather than simply absorbing it — is how we refuse to let the wound become our whole identity. What Kind of Story Are We Telling? As we think perhaps about our own experiences of hurt, harm, or loss, it's worth asking: what kind of story are we telling? There's a spectrum of harm that's worth naming honestly: Some of what we carry is hurt — disappointment, unmet expectations, misunderstanding, relational friction. Real, worth naming, but perhaps not requiring the full weight of the forgiveness process. Some of what we carry is a genuine wrong — a betrayal, an act of violence, a sustained pattern of harm, an abuse of power. This is different. And treating it the same as ordinary hurt can minimize something that deserves to be named for what it is. The Tutus do not minimize harm. Mpho Tutu lost her husband to violent crime. Desmond Tutu spent his life in proximity to atrocity. This framework was forged in the context of apartheid, genocide, and profound injustice. It is not a self-help framework for minor inconveniences. It takes the weight of real wrong seriously. Part of telling your story is being honest about what actually happened — not inflating it, not minimizing it. Precision in our storytelling is an ACT OF DIGNITY. The Role of a Witness Here's something important: the Tutus don't imagine this as a solo process. Telling the story almost always requires someone to tell it to. What makes a good witness? Not someone who fixes it. Not someone who jumps to advice, or silver linings, or "well, have you thought about their perspective?" A witness is someone who receives your story with enough steadiness that you feel safe to tell it fully. In men's group: THREE people. The witness to receive the story, and also somebody with permission to ask questions about what they noticed in body language, follow up with questions about what's happening in the story teller's body, etc.  This is actually one of the most underrated spiritual gifts a person can offer another: the ministry of staying in the room without flinching. There's a reason confession has existed across almost every spiritual tradition in human history— not as a transaction for the pardon of wrongs, but as the practice of being heard by someone who doesn't run from the truth of what you've lived. Community implication: this is part of why we do this together. Not because church is a place to perform having it together, but because church can be— when we let it— a community of witnesses. People who are trained and willing to hold each other's real stories. (CARE IQ) What Forgiveness is NOT Before we wrap for today, let's clear some ground. The Tutus are direct about this: Forgiveness is not condoning what happened. Forgiveness is not forgetting. Forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation. (You can forgive someone and never have a relationship with them again. These are separate acts.) Forgiveness is not necessarily something you do for the other person. And forgiveness is not something you have to feel before you can choose it. Forgiveness is a practice you choose. Not an internal feeling you perform outwardly. We'll build on all of this in the weeks ahead. But naming what it isn't is part of how we clear space for what it actually is. Invitation/PAW Guided prompts: I want to invite you into a few minutes of quiet with a series of prompts. Optional: write it, draw it, sit with it. Hold a stone to represent it…  Think of something you're carrying. You don't have to name it out loud. Just let it come to mind. What actually happened? Try to name it with some precision — not to relive it, but to see it clearly. What did it cost you? Not what it "taught you," not what good came from it — what did it actually cost? Is there a word for what was done? Betrayal. Abandonment. Injustice. Violence. Neglect. Name it if you can. When and if you're ready in the coming days or weeks, think about if you're ready to tell it… to invite a witness in. Today I'm not asking you to forgive anything. I'm just asking you to be honest about what you're carrying. That's it. That's enough for today. Wrapping it Up Desmond Tutu said, "There is no future without forgiveness”... and I tend to agree with him. But we're not there yet. That's where we're going. Today we're just naming the yuck of it all, and naming that telling our story is in itself a critical first step in healing. That takes good courage! Next week, we'll be at Venn Coffee and Brewing to spend some slow, social time in conversation as community…   

Hello, Protagonists!Welcome to another episode of the Creative, Inspired, ALIVE podcast—where we go behind the scenes with the storytellers shaping our culture.Our next guest, Donna Jackson Nakazawa, is an award-winning science journalist and an internationally-recognized speaker whose work explores the intersection of neurobiology and human emotion. Her book, Girls on the Brink: Helping Our Daughters Thrive in an Era of Increased Anxiety, Depression, and Social Media, was named a best book of 2022 by The Washington Post. Her latest book, Mind Drama: The Science of Rumination and How to Outwit Your Inner Defeatist, is out now.Today, we talk about:* rumination - what to do about the negative looping stories in our heads,* protecting space in our brain for creative insights,* the creative process of non-fiction writing,* among other delights!xo, Joanna

➡️ Search OCD HELP app on App Store and Google PlayThis podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

➡️ Search OCD HELP app on App Store and Google PlayThis podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

If the Nuggets do this offseason correctly there are going to be some pissed off fans. That is ok. The Nuggets need a playstyle and roster re-set to get to the next Nikola Jokic era. In the second half Jeff talks about his brief conversation with Jason Collins in 2014 and how what he did was brave for many factors including locker room dynamics. Enjoy the show! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

How do you do more without burning out? People often ask me how (and why) I do so many things. From running multiple businesses to raising two young children, from the outside I understand how my life can seem chaotic and primed for collapse. But what if my latest “side hustle” isn't the final nail in the exhaustion coffin? What if it's the very thing keeping me from burnout? In today's episode, I get real about the how and why behind my newest business endeavor. Are you one of those people who finds your daily grind exhausting, not because of the physical or mental toll but because some intangible piece is still missing for contentment? Then this hot take might resonate: sometimes adding to your plate - not subtracting - is the key to increasing your engagement. Let's break down how realigning your priorities may be key to contentment - no matter what era you're in now: Build a busy schedule that's actually restorative; Get real about time management and tradeoffs; Why motherhood isn't a reason to step out of a full life; The science behind getting physical when your job is mostly intellectual. Related Links: Episode 538, Rebalance Your Career Portfolio - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode538 Episode 539, Managing Through the Millennial Career Crisis - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode539 “Mind Drama: The Science of Rumination and How to Outwit Your Inner Defeatist” by Donna Jackson Nakazawa - https://donnajacksonnakazawa.com/books/mind-drama-science-of-rumination/    LinkedIn Learning Course, “Get Unstuck: Make a Plan to Move Your Career Forward” - https://www.linkedin.com/learning/get-unstuck-make-a-plan-to-move-your-career-forward Bossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/ Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Why Can't I Stop Thinking About the Affair? Understanding Rumination, Triggers, and Healing After Betrayal In this important episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore one of the most common and painful questions after betrayal: “Why can't I stop thinking about it?” Together, they unpack the neuroscience and emotional reality behind rumination, intrusive thoughts, PTSD responses, triggers, and nervous system dysregulation after sexual betrayal and affairs. The conversation helps both betrayed and betraying partners understand why the mind and body struggle to “move on,” even when logic says the relationship may be improving. Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn discuss how betrayal disrupts safety, attachment, and reality itself, often leaving the betrayed partner feeling emotionally flooded, hypervigilant, and stuck in repetitive thoughts. They also explain how healing requires more than simply stopping behaviors—it involves nervous system regulation, emotional attunement, compassion, consistency, and deeper relational repair. Listeners will also learn practical tools for responding to triggers, including grounding exercises, journaling, movement-based trauma release, self-attunement, parts work, emotional regulation, and therapeutic approaches such as EMDR and ART. This episode offers hope, validation, and practical guidance for anyone struggling with intrusive thoughts after betrayal trauma. Key Topics Covered Why betrayed partners experience rumination and intrusive thoughts PTSD and betrayal trauma responses The difference between logical understanding and nervous system safety Why triggers continue even after behavior stops Emotional flooding and nervous system dysregulation How betraying partners can respond in healing ways Self-compassion and trauma recovery Tools for emotional regulation and trauma release Parts work and self-attunement EMDR, ART, and trauma-informed healing approaches Recovery capital and building support systems Resources Mentioned The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Brené Brown – research on exhaustion and uncertainty Jill Bolte Taylor – emotional processing concepts Calming the Emotional Storm by Sheri Van Dijk EMDR Therapy (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) ART (Accelerated Resolution Therapy) Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges Internal Parts Work / Self-Attunement Approaches Recovery Capital framework Human Intimacy Podcast episode on Empathy vs. Compassion Upcoming Course Intimacy Repair Method (IRM) — 12 Week Course Join Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis for the upcoming Intimacy Repair Method (IRM) course beginning May 7th. The course is designed to help couples heal from betrayal trauma through a structured process focused on: Safety Emotional regulation Accountability How to measure and create relational repair Compassion Rebuilding intimacy Learn More & Register: The Intimacy Repair Method (12-Week Online Course)  

➡️ Search OCD HELP app on App Store and Google PlayThis podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

➡️ Search OCD HELP app on App Store and Google PlayThis podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

If you've ever lain awake at 2am replaying conversations with your narcissistic partner or ex — rehearsing the perfect response, asking yourself why you can't just let it go — this episode is for you. Rumination after narcissistic abuse is one of the most common and most misunderstood experiences in covert narcissist recovery. It feels compulsive. It feels impossible to stop. And most people in narcissistic relationships believe it means something is wrong with them. It doesn't. And in this episode, Renee Swanson — certified life coach, survivor of 21 years of covert narcissistic abuse, and host of the Covert Narcissism Podcast — breaks down exactly what is happening in your mind, why it won't stop, and what your rumination is actually chasing beneath the surface. What you will learn in this episode: Why rumination after narcissistic abuse is not a sign of weakness — it is your mind's trauma response doing exactly what it was designed to do The three-layer framework for understanding why your thought loops are so relentless and so hard to break What intermittent reinforcement is and why covert narcissistic relationships condition your nervous system like a slot machine The feeling beneath the loop — what your rumination is really chasing, and why you've been looking for it in the wrong place Why understanding the thought loop alone is not enough to stop it — and what actually creates lasting change Two practical tools to use immediately — one for deep reflection and one for the moment the spiral starts If this episode resonated with you and you're ready to go deeper than understanding — if you're ready to have real support in applying what you know and moving forward — Renee invites you to explore coaching at www.covertnarcissism.com Coaching is not about learning more. It is about having the support to finally apply what you already know and begin moving forward. Your story matters, and you deserve to be heard without judgment. The information provided by Renee Swanson, Covert Narcissism Podcast, and CNG Life Coaching is for educational purposes only and is not to be used for diagnosis purposes and not intended to be a substitute for clinical care. Please consult a health care provider for guidance specific to your case. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

➡️ Search OCD HELP app on App Store and Google PlayThis podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

➡️ Search OCD HELP app on App Store and Google PlayThis podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

➡️ Search OCD HELP app on App Store and Google PlayThis podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

This podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

Learn 4 skills to stop overthinking, rumination, worrying and over-analyzing. Overthinking can make you super anxious, but there are practical ways to stop it.   Here is a link to my "How to Process Your Emotions" course:  https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing   Learn the skills to regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership   Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell FREE Mental Health Resources: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/free-resources Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Why does knowing we overthink not help us stop? Dr. Rick and Forrest discuss why rumination becomes a self-reinforcing habit,  and why insight alone rarely helps. They distinguish between rumination and reflection, and talk about how balancing acceptance and agency can help us go from one to the other. Forrest talks about the relationship between overthinking and feelings of disappointment and failure, and Rick shares practical ways to interrupt the cycle, shift into more concrete forms of problem-solving, and finally stop ruminating. Rick's Rumination Course: If rumination is a persistent issue for you, check out Rick's five-week online course focused on practical tools for letting go of these negative thought loops. Learn more at RickHanson.com/ruminating, and use coupon code BeingWell25 to receive a 25% discount. Previous episodes on rumination and overthinking: Breaking the Self-Awareness Trap: How to Stop Overthinking | Being Well Rumination: How to Disrupt Obsessive Thoughts Key Topics:  0:00: Intro: what is rumination 5:35: Why we ruminate 21:06: Why rumination doesn't help us 25:24: Moving from rumination to reflection 31:35: Rumination as a habit 38:40: Interrupting the rumination habit 46:44: Radical helplessness and radical resourcefulness 53:43: More ways to move from abstract to concrete thinking  1:07:23: The role of mindfulness 1:13:32: Recap Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell.  Level up your bedding with Quince. Go to Quince.com/BEINGWELL for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The way you talk to other people (and yourself) can reduce dysregulation and distraction--and lead to better decisions. Maryellen MacDonald is the Donald P. Hayes Professor (emerit) of Psychology and Language Sciences at the University of Wisconsin−Madison. She is a cognitive scientist with a focus on psycholinguistics, the study of how we comprehend, produce, and learn languages. Her latest book is More Than Words: How Talking Sharpens the Mind and Shapes Our World. In this episode we talk about: The hidden benefits of talking, including self-talk and writing How talking helps focus attention and clarify your thinking Why talking can help regulate emotions and improve decision-making Why talking is actually harder than listening Why we shouldn't rush to finish other people's sentences How deliberate talking can help protect against dementia Why understanding something doesn't necessarily mean you've learned it How talking about new information helps your brain remember it Why explaining things to other people deepens your own learning Why kids need chances to talk and not just watch screens Why you shouldn't judge people by how they talk Related Episodes: The Science Of Journaling: How Writing Reduces Overthinking, Rumination, And Anxiety | Dr. James Pennebaker (Co-Interviewed By Dr. Bianca Harris) Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Join Dan and Emmy Award-winning journalist Allison Gilbert at 92NY on May 17th for a live conversation about how mindfulness can deepen connection and combat loneliness, available in person and via streaming. Register here. Join Dan, Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18, 2026. Register here.  To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris