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In a world constantly demanding our attention and energy, have you ever felt trapped between the crucial need to care for yourself and the undeniable urge to care for those around you?  Well, for this conversation, Debbie gets into that very dilemma with Dr. Jordan Quaglia, as he challenges us to move beyond the 'either/or' of self-care and explore his revolutionary 'We Care' approach.  Jordan, who is the author of Self-Care to We Care: The New Science of Mindful Boundaries and Caring From an Undivided Heart, gives his take on the research on balancing self-care with caring for others and emphasizes the importance of holding both self-care and compassion for others simultaneously and offers practical strategies for setting healthy boundaries and integrating self-care into daily life. Come join Debbie and Jordan to redefine what it means to care! Listen and Learn:  Why balancing care for others and self-care isn't an either-or and the hidden choices in between When self-care crosses into avoidance or indulgence, it may signal disconnection rather than renewal Finding balance when caring for others overrides your own needs In moments of tragedy, do you become the superhero or collapse from the hurt? The We Care framework to transform self-care and caring for others into one balanced practice in everyday life Transform overwhelming empathy into sustainable compassion that fuels your action and protects your well-being How care-based boundaries protect your energy while deepening connection, not guilt Balancing self-care and caring for the world work together to fuel your resilience and action Resources:  From Self-Care to We-Care: The New Science of Mindful Boundaries and Caring from an Undivided Heart: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781645473473 Jordan's website: https://www.jordanquaglia.com/ Connect with Jordan on LinkedIn and Instagram:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/jordanquaglia  https://www.instagram.com/mindfulboundaries/?hl=en About Jordan Quaglia Jordan Quaglia, PhD, has spent over a decade researching and teaching on topics such as mindfulness, compassion, and boundaries. He is an associate professor of psychology at Naropa University, where he directs the Cognitive and Affective Science Laboratory and is research director for its Center for the Advancement of Contemplative Education. A recognized expert in the science of compassion, he has been designated as a research fellow by the Mind & Life Institute, a Contemplative Social Justice Scholar for Contemplative Mind in Society, and a panelist for multiple United Nations Day of Vesak conferences. In addition to his research, Jordan co-developed and regularly teaches an eight-week compassion training curriculum for hundreds of individuals. He lives with his wife in Boulder, Colorado. Book: From Self-Care to We-Care: The New Science of Mindful Boundaries and Caring from an Undivided Heart Related episodes:  374. Developing and Deepening Connections with Adam Dorsay  360. The Laws of Connection with David Robson  262. Hope and Values in Dark Times 254. Cultivating Compassion for a Lasting Connection with Michaela Thomas 234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer  201. Fierce Compassion with Kristin Nef 105. The Self-Care Prescription with Robyn Gobin 75. Mindful Self-Compassion with Christopher Germer 65. Self-care, Kindness, and Living Well with Kelly Wilson  46. Altruism and the Flow of Compassion with Yotam Heineberg 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Burnout is on the rise. Two experts show us how to combat it.Dr. Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. She is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, conducting the first empirical studies on self-compassion more than twenty years ago. Christopher Germer is a clinical psychologist and lecturer on psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. He also co-developed a highly impactful program called Mindful Self-Compassion, which has been taught to over 100,000 people across the world.This episode is part of our monthlong Do Life Better series. We talk about:How to know if you are burnt outThe three main symptoms of burnout, their causes, and their health consequencesThe three components of self-compassion and how they can help The inner critic and why we kick our own assesHow to draw appropriate boundaries with your bossThe difference between tender and fierce self-compassionTools for dealing with perfectionism without letting go of high standardsRelated Episodes: Do Life BetterSanely Ambitious Kryptonite for the Inner Critic | Kristin Neff#360 Self-Compassion Ain't Always Soft | Kristin Neff#310 The Scientific Case for Self-Compassion | Chris GermerFor the Burned Out, Fried, and Exhausted | Emily & Amelia NagoskiSign up for Dan's newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://meditatehappier.com/podcast/tph/neff-germer-894Additional Resources:Self-compassion event with Kristin Neff & Dan HarrisThe Self-Compassion TestThe Center for Mindful Self CompassionSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this insightful conversation, Chris Germer talks about his journey in discovering and co-creating mindful self-compassion with Kristen Neff.   Chris shares his personal struggles with anxiety, shame and public speaking, and how practicing loving-kindness meditation transformed his experiences of fear and shame.   He discusses the complementary roles of self-compassion and mindfulness in managing intense emotions, describing the three key components: mindfulness, common humanity, and self-kindness.   We also explore the application of self-compassion in preventing burnout and enhancing caregiving, and discuss strategies for fostering compassion within organizations.   The conversation concludes with a guided self-compassion practice led by Chris, offering a practical tool for integrating these insights into daily life.     00:00 Introduction and Welcome   00:26 Discovering Self-Compassion   01:44 Overcoming Public Speaking Anxiety   06:55 The Role of Self-Compassion in Mindfulness   09:46 Components of Mindful Self-Compassion   13:59 Applying Self-Compassion in Daily Life   18:12 Self-Compassion for Caregivers and Burnout   22:49 Building a Compassionate Organization   29:04 Practical Advice for Difficult Times   36:46 Future Directions and New Projects   44:38 Guided Self-Compassion Practice   58:26 Closing Remarks  

Christopher Germer, PhD, and Kristin Neff, PhD, join Banyen in conversation about their powerful book, Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout: Tools to Help You Heal and Recharge When You're Wrung Out by Stress. Kristin Neff, PhD, is Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin and a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research. She has been recognized as one of the most influential researchers in psychology worldwide. Her books with Christopher Germer include The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook, Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout and Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program. Dr. Neff is also the author of Self-Compassion and Fierce Self-Compassion. Along with Christopher Germer, Dr. Neff developed the empirically supported Mindful Self-Compassion program and founded the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion. Christopher Germer, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and Lecturer on Psychiatry (part-time) at Harvard Medical School. His books with Kristin Neff include The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook and Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout (for the general public) and Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program (for professionals). Dr. Germer is also author of The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion and coeditor of Mindfulness and Psychotherapy and Wisdom and Compassion in Psychotherapy. He lectures and leads workshops internationally, and has a small psychotherapy practice in Massachusetts.

Do you feel disconnected from yourself and your needs? In this episode, I talk with Elizabeth Cush, LCPC about being more gentle with yourself and: • Finding your way to acceptance of your sensitivity through self-compassion  • Practicing simple acts of mindfulness to understand what you need moment to moment • Slowing down to nurture all parts of yourself and your life • Living a balanced life with less overwhelm  Elizabeth is a life coach for highly sensitive women, a licensed clinical professional counselor, and business owner. She's also the host of the Awaken Your Wise Woman podcast.  She incorporates the body, mind, and spirit into her work. As a life coach, she helps sensitive women who feel stressed and overwhelmed find balance, flow, and ease to fully enjoy the beautiful life they've created. When she's not working she's traveling, and hanging outdoors with her husband and dachshund Elvis.Keep in touch with Elizabeth: • Website: https://www.elizabethcushcoaching.com  • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/awakenyourwisewoman • Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@elizabethcushlcpc3220 • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elizabethcushlcpc  • Podcast: https://www.elizabethcushcoaching.com/awaken-your-wise-woman-podcast  Resources Mentioned: • Sacred Support Circles for Sensitive Women: https://www.elizabethcushcoaching.com/hsp-group-coaching-for-women  • A Guide to navigating friendships in Midlife: https://freeguide.elizabethcush.com • The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer: https://bookshop.org/a/63892/9781462526789  Thanks for listening! You can read the full show notes and sign up for my email list to get new episode announcements and other resources at: https://www.sensitivestories.comYou can also follow "SensitiveStrengths" for behind-the-scenes content plus more educational and inspirational HSP resources: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sensitivestrengths TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sensitivestrengths Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@sensitivestrengths If you have a moment, please rate and review the podcast, it helps Sensitive Stories reach more HSPs! This episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment with a mental health or medical professional. Some links are affiliate links. You are under no obligation to purchase any book, product or service. I am not responsible for the quality or satisfaction of any purchase.

Self-Compassion: Cultivating Kindness and Resilience Petrina discussed the concept of self-compassion, emphasizing its importance in treating oneself with the same kindness and respect one would offer to a friend. She suggested strategies to cultivate self-compassion, such as acknowledging and accepting one's feelings without judgment, and using affirmations. Petrina also recommended books by Dr. Kristen Neff and Christopher Germer for further reading. She highlighted that practicing self-compassion can lead to greater emotional resilience and overall well-being, and invited listeners to join her in exploring this topic further in future sessions. For more from Petrina, visit her Amazon Author Page. Do You Have a Couple of Minutes - the Podcast. Inspiring topics to help you Think, Learn, Grow, and Live More Fulfilled. ⁠⁠⁠www.petrinagooch.com⁠⁠⁠ Book Publications: Leading Self, Leading Others – 20 Inspiring Topics for Personal and Team Leadership and Professional Growth – available on Amazon and Kindle LiftOff to Landing – Revealing Stories of Strangers in Flight – Flight 2023 – available on Amazon, Kindle and Audible ⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/author/petrinagooch⁠⁠⁠ #DoYouHaveACoupleOfMinutes #Inspire #Think #Learn #Grow #Fulfilled #LiveFulfilled #Liberate #Illuminate #Amplify #PositiveChange #Leadership #Mentor #Coach #Develop #Lead #Listen #Encourage #Feelings #Intent #Expectations #PetrinaGooch #Petrina #TakeTheGoodTakeTheBad #Perfection #Imperfections #decisionmaking #relevance #approachable #collaboration #understanding #progress #BeNice #BeRespectful #BuildOthersUp #confidence #Courage #help #change #vision #Choice #Change #TakeAction #Burnout #RediscoverYou #AuthenticAlignment

   Compassion teacher Chris joins me to talk public speaking, self-compassion, treating ourselves as friends, self-hatred, the body of self compassion, breath and metta practice, the two self compassion fears, resilience, shame, intention, trauma, “backdraft”, failure, and paradox.     A lovely one for all of us.    Find more about Christopher Germer here: https://chrisgermer.com/  ------------------------------------------------------------------------    Chris Germer, PhD is a clinical psychologist and lecturer on psychiatry (part-time) at Harvard Medical School. He co-developed the Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) program with Kristin Neff in 2010 and MSC has since been taught to over 250,000 people worldwide. They co-authored two books on MSC, The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook and Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program.    Chris spends most of his time lecturing and leading workshops around the world on mindfulness and self-compassion.  He is also the author of The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion; he co-edited two influential volumes on therapy, Mindfulness and Psychotherapy, and Wisdom and Compassion in Psychotherapy; and he maintains a small online practice in Cambridge, Massachusetts, USA. -------------------------------------------------------------------------    Want to become a certified embodiment coach? More details about CEC – https://embodimentunlimited.com/cec/?utm_source=social&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=cec    Join Mark for in-person workshops – https://embodimentunlimited.com/events-calendar/?utm_source=TEP&utm_medium=Description&utm_campaign=Events    Join free coaching demo sessions with Mark – https://embodimentunlimited.com/free-coaching-with-mark/?utm_source=TEP&utm_medium=Description&utm_campaign=Demo    Find Mark Walsh on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/warkmalsh/  

Dr. Kristin Neff is the recognized pioneer in the field of Self Compassion research and the author of the important book, Self-Compassion-The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. As individuals, families and communities we need to find a way to cope with the stress, fear and uncertainty we face. As you listen to Kristen Neff, you will hear something unexpected and important – the reasons and the research that reveal Self-Compassion as a powerful personal resource for coping and maintaining sustainability in difficult times. Kristin Neff will draw upon examples to share why self-compassion is different than self-pity or self-esteem. She will answer the paradox of why embracing our negative feelings with kindness actually empowers us, why self-compassion expands our comfort with mistakes, and fosters self-esteem as a by-product of functioning despite roadblocks. She will exemplify the use of self-compassion and Mindful Self-Compassion. We need Self-Compassion.

como identificar e ressignificar esse sentimento tão presente em diversas fases da nossa vida? você sabia que a auto-compaixão é o principal antídoto? vem saber mais! referências que cito no episódio: - David R. Hawkings: livro Poder vs Força - Christopher Germer: vídeo yt "Self-Compassion An Antidote to Shame"

Imagine being able to walk into a crowded room without feeling your heart pound out of your chest. Envision yourself confidently striking up conversations with strangers or going about your day without being overwhelmed with the fear of being judged by others.  If social anxiety has been holding you back from enjoying life, it's time to take on an exposure challenge and learn how to feel more confident in your skin when you are in public. In this episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit, we will explore one of the most well-known, science-based, and effective strategies for overcoming social anxiety. From gradual exposure to uncomfortable social situations to building a support network, you'll discover practical steps to overcome the grip of social anxiety. Recently, I overheard a therapist (of all people) say that letting our clients experience distress is harmful.  When I heard this, I gasped.  This idea and this narrative concerned me so much.  We have become so fixated on never feeling distressed that we fuel our anxiety and emotions.   Now, I get it. I am not in the business of being a therapist to make people feel terrible. Quite the opposite. However, one of the most powerful messages I give my clients is that we can learn to compassionately and effectively navigate distress because distress is a natural part of being a human.   If we have anxiety and we are committed to not feeling it, it will control every aspect of our lives. If you have social anxiety and you are committed to never being uncomfortable, social anxiety will take everything you love from you, including your future.  Today, we are focusing on pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone and facing your fears.  What you will learn is that you'll gradually build your confidence and become more at ease in social settings.  With each small success, you'll grow more robust and more resilient, expanding your social circle and embracing new opportunities. My hope is that you don't let social anxiety hold you back any longer.  Today, I am going to give you a 30-day Social Anxiety Challenge.  I have seen this work for my clients repeatedly, and I am confident it will change your life, too.  Before we get started, let's first make sure you have a good understanding of social anxiety.  UNDERSTANDING SOCIAL ANXIETY Social anxiety, also known as social phobia, is a common mental health condition characterized by an intense fear and anxiety in social situations. It goes beyond mere shyness and can significantly impact an individual's daily life. People with social anxiety often experience excessive worry about being judged, embarrassed, or humiliated in social settings. This fear can be so overwhelming that it leads to avoidance of social situations altogether. One thing I always share with my students and clients is that while Social anxiety is considered an anxiety disorder, I agree with Christopher Germer, a well-known psychologist who has been on the show (episode 199), that social anxiety is as much a shame disorder as it is an anxiety disorder.   From my experience, people with Social anxiety struggle immensely with shame, and this powerfully painful emotion can disrupt so much of someone's life. It can increase the incidence of depression and even suicidal ideation.  Having social anxiety can leave you feeling like a fool, awkward, and alone.  Commonly, people with social anxiety withdraw and isolate, only making themselves feel more alone, defective, and often more depressed.  Social anxiety can have a profound impact on various aspects of a person's life. It can hinder their ability to form and maintain relationships, limit their career prospects, and diminish their overall quality of life. Simple tasks such as making a phone call, attending social gatherings, or speaking in public can elicit intense anxiety, leading to avoidance behaviors and missed opportunities. The constant fear of being evaluated negatively by others can create a cycle of self-doubt and isolation. But today, we will put our entire attention to turning this around for you.  Today, I am going to give you a 30-day Social Anxiety Exposure challenge where you face your fears and take your life back from social anxiety.   The 30-day Social Anxiety Exposure Challenge: What is it and how does it work The exposure challenge is a science-based therapeutic technique widely used in the treatment of social anxiety. It involves deliberately facing feared social situations in a gradual and controlled manner. The goal is to help you habituate to your anxiety-provoking situations and develop a sense of mastery and confidence.  Exposure can be done in real-life situations or through imaginal exposure, where you vividly imagine yourself in anxiety-inducing scenarios. Today, we are going to focus on real-life situations because I wholeheartedly believe that is where the money is. I have seen it work with hundreds of my clients.  Exposure works by activating the fear response and allowing you to experience the anxiety you feel. Over time, repeated exposure to the feared situations helps retrain your brain, reducing the anxiety response and building resilience and confidence. It is important to note that exposure should always be done at a pace that feels manageable for you, and seeking professional guidance can be beneficial in designing an exposure plan tailored to your specific needs. What are the Benefits of doing a 30-day social anxiety exposure challenge? Facing your social anxiety through exposure can have numerous benefits. Firstly, it allows you to confront and challenge your irrational beliefs about social situations. By repeatedly exposing yourself to feared situations, you'll begin to gather evidence that contradicts your negative thoughts (such as “everyone hates me,” “They will think I am an idiot,” or “I will make a fool out of myself”), gradually reshaping your perception of social interactions. This process can lead to increased self-confidence and a more positive self-image. Exposure also provides an opportunity for skill-building and learning. As you face your fears and navigate social situations, you'll develop new coping strategies and important social skills. These skills will help you manage anxiety and enhance your ability to connect with others and build meaningful relationships in ways that feel authentic to you. The more you expose yourself to different social scenarios, the more adaptable and resilient you become in handling various social challenges. THE 30-DAY SOCIAL ANXIETY EXPOSURE CHALLENGE RULES Okay, before we get started, please know that you can either do these in the exact order or you can put them in the order of easiest to hardest.   My only tip is to make sure you do at least one of these exposures per day. You get extra points if you do them many many times, as this is how you will really learn the most.  Tracking your progress and celebrating small victories is essential for maintaining motivation and building confidence. Keep a record of your exposure activities, noting the level of anxiety experienced and any positive outcomes or insights gained. Reflecting on your progress can help you see how far you've come and provide a sense of accomplishment. Celebrate each small victory, no matter how insignificant it may seem. Recognize that every step forward is a step closer to overcoming social anxiety and living a fulfilling life. Other tips:  Plan ahead.  Some of these exposures will require some planning and arranging.  Do not let fear stop you or make too many excuses.  You will only get out what you put in. Do these exposures with kindness ONLY.  The biggest goal is to not criticize yourself at all. Do the best you can. Catch yourself when you are going down the self-loathing rabbit hole.  Challenge your negative thoughts about yourself and be your biggest cheerleader.  Once the exposure is over, you are not allowed to think about what happened. Try not to ruminate about it.   Celebrate your wins.  Set up a reward for completing the challenge.  Or several rewards throughout hte 30 days.  If you find one of them easy, try to double up and add something challenge to the challenge.    THE 30 DAY SOCIAL ANXIETY CHALLENGE PLAN Day 1: Take a walk in public and give eye contact to 5 people.  Day 2: Take a walk in public and give eye contact and a smile to 5 people.  Day 3: Take a walk in public, make eye contact, smile, and greet five people.  Day 4: Go to the mall or a store and make small talk with a cashier. Day 5: Ask a stranger for directions. Day 6: Order food at a restaurant without rehearsing. Day 7: Compliment 5 strangers. One Week Check-in: What thoughts are you having?  Day 8: Attend a social event without a close friend. Day 9: Speak up in a meeting at work or school. Day 10: Join a club or group related to a hobby. Day 11: Make a phone call instead of sending a text or email. Day 12: Practice introducing yourself to 2 new people. Day 13: Start a conversation with someone in a waiting room. Day 14: Sit in the front row during a presentation or class or at the movies. Day 15: HALF WAY: Join a public speaking group, like Toastmasters. Day 16: Share a personal opinion in a group setting. Day 17: Attend a social gathering and stay for a set amount of time. Day 18: Initiate a conversation with someone you find intimidating. Day 19: Go to a party and introduce yourself to at least three new people. Day 20: Take a class in improv or acting. Day 21: Sing karaoke in front of others or sing as you walk down the street. Day 22: Ask someone for help in a store. Day 23: Participate in a team sport or group exercise class. Day 24: Initiate a conversation with someone sitting alone. Day 25: Practice saying “no” in various social situations. Day 26: Give a compliment to a coworker or classmate. Day 27: Ask someone to coffee or a casual outing. Day 28: Go to a new place and ask a stranger about the best things to do there. Day 29: Introduce yourself to your neighbors. Day 30: Share a positive personal achievement with others. There you go!  There is your 30-day Social Anxiety  Life after the Exposure Challenge. As you continue to face your fears and engage in exposure activities, you'll gradually notice a shift in your confidence and ability to navigate social situations. Embrace this newfound confidence and allow it to propel you forward in life.  Your social world will expand with each successful exposure, and opportunities for personal and professional growth will arise.  Remember that overcoming social anxiety is a journey, and setbacks may occur along the way. Be kind to yourself, celebrate your progress, and continue to challenge yourself to reach new heights of confidence and self-assurance. Don't let social anxiety hold you back any longer. Step out of your comfort zone, face your fears, and embrace the incredible potential that lies within you. I always say, “Today is a beautiful day to do hard thing.” You deserve to live a life free from the shackles of social anxiety.  Get going with this challenge as soon as you can. I promise that you will not regret it.

Self-compassion is the process of turning compassion inward. Its the practice of being kind and understanding with ourselves, rather than dwelling in failure, beating ourselves up for mistakes, and feeling inadequate. Listen to this episode, as Liz shares ways to support and encourage yourself during diffuicult moments, rather than allowing that inner critical voice to be cold or judgemental when difficulties arise. Resources: Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind To Yourself by Kristin Neff, PhD The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion by Christopher Germer, PhD Self-Love Workbook for Women by Megan Logan, MSW, LCSW For self compassion meditations, activities, and even more resources visit www.self-compassion.org. ----more---- If you need help in this area or any of the healing factors please visit www.radicalremission.com/aboutus to connect with Liz or Karla for a free Discovery Session.  To learn more about Liz and Karla's private practice, Health Navigators, A Virtual Cancer Wellness Community, visit www.HealthNavs.com. Follow the Health Navigators on Social Media: Facebook, Instagram, YouTube  Follow Radical Remission on Social Media: Facebook , Instagram, YouTube   

Lynn is back(!) for a fun conversation about holistic ways to improve mental health. From exercise and energy healing to sobriety and sleep hygiene, we discuss practices that can complement ketamine therapy,A companion episode to S1 Ep3 ("Comparing Depression Treatment Options"), this episode can help you feel empowered to choose which of your many treatment options you want engage in, and how. Treat it like a buffet and take what you like :-)If you enjoy Ketamine Insights, please share it with a friend and rate and review it on your favorite podcast platform. That really helps us reach more people!Join our community at https://www.patreon.com/ketamineinsights or at https://mollydunn.substack.com/ Email us at ketamineinsights@gmail.com (we love to hear from you!)Our Instagram is @ketamineinsightsYou can also find all of our episodes on YouTube and on our website ketamineinsights.com  In this episode we reference:Christopher Germer's book The Mindful Path to Self Compassion We Can Do Hard Things podcast Episode 215 with Andrea Gibson SmartRecovery.org for resources and meetings to help with substance overuse issues through a harm reduction modelQigong (we love https://www.youtube.com/c/QigongMeditation)If you or someone you know is experiencing a mental health crisis, please get help. In the US, you can dial 988. You are never all alone.Support the Show.

Medita conmigo: www.patreon.com/danielaguerreroPlática completa de Christopher Germer : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rTFN8t9SXiQ Test de auto compasión: https://www.mindfulnessyautocompasion.com/test-autocompasion En este episodio hablo sobre una plática que me topé aquí en Youtube del Doctor Christopher Germer que habla sobre la vergüenza y cómo atacarla a través de la auto compasión, creo que es un contenido super importante que me encantaría que mi gente latino supiera que existe y que hay otras causas que pudieran estar perpetuando la ansiedad y depresión como la vergüenza a parte de ser un sentimiento del cual no queremos hablar. Espero te guste mucho, Amor, DanielaContacto: danyguerrerog@gmail.com Distribuido por: Genuina Media

Este episodio se hizo esperar, lo sabemos (el último fue hace casi dos años); pero como reza el dicho, está tan bueno que bien ha valido el tiempo de descanso.  Dany y Carla cuentan por qué se tomaron esta pausa, qué están viviendo en esta etapa de sus vidas y todos los planes que esperan llevar adelante junto a sus fieles seguidoras ahora que están de regreso. Entre ellos un Patreon, en donde tendrán un club de lectura exclusivo para quienes se suscriban. Y como el par de amigas no le teme a los temas peliagudos, en este episodio hablan sobre la desigualdad en las labores del hogar y la carga mental de las mujeres con respecto a los hombres, a partir del libro “La mujer helada” de la escritora francesa Annie Ernaux, y con cifras y estudios que demuestran esta injusta realidad.  Libros  “La mujer helada”, Annie Ernaux. “Despojos. Sobre el matrimonio y la separación”, Rachel Cusk. Series “The Americans” (Star + Latinoamérica). “Intimidad” (Netflix). GirlBoss. (Netflix) Estudios Estudios sobre brecha de género de la ganadora al Nobel de Economía de 2023 Claudia Goldin.   “Las mujeres hoy. Cómo son, qué piensan y cómo se sienten”, realizado por la economista Laura Sagnier y María Ángeles Durán. Universidad de Valencia- España. Otras referencias  Humanidad Compartida. Concepto de autocompasión consciente desarrollado por Kristin Neff y Christopher Germer.  Patrion Apóyanos en Patrion patreon.com/Podemosvivirestahistoria Si quieres sugerirnos un tema , contarnos tus historias o simplemente saludarnos puedes hacerlo en podemosvivirestahistoria@gmail.comSuscríbete, déjanos un comentario  y comparte con tus amigas¿Dónde nos puedes encontrar?En nuestra redes sociales:• Carla Candia Casado es @agobiosdemadre• Daniela Kammoun es @danikammoun y @projectglamm

Licensed clinical social worker and ex-Christian Scientist Cara returns for part two of The Mental Health episode. In this episode, Cara does a live grounding demonstration you can do at home, and answers more of your mental health questions. See below for resources. Here are some topics covered: 2:00 - what is the anxiety/CS connection? 6:00 - a 20 minute-ish grounding demonstration (feel free to join in) 31:00 - how is distracting yourself from negative thoughts or feelings different from suppressing them in CS? 42:00 - what is the difference between toxic positivity and good positivity? 52:00 - forgiveness - is it necessary? And how to just let things go 1:02:00 - what is narcissism? Can CS make you a narcissist? 1:13:00 - what is the connection between anhedonia (inability to experience joy) and CS, and how can you get back your "lust for life"? 1:21:00 - if you were raised by people with mental health issues, how do you know that what you're experiencing is your mental health issues or theirs? 1:34:00 - trigger words from CS, and how to take away their power 1:38:00 - how do you process the sickness and/or deaths of loved ones who might have been helped had they not been CS? 1:49:00 - how to explain CS to your therapist 1:58:00 - what is it about CS that makes it difficult or impossible to process something that's wrong? 2:01:00 - 12 Step programs, can they help? 2:08:00 - having you own back - a final self soothing tool Here is Cara's list of resources: An article on the genetic vs. environmental effects on mental health: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/wps.21034 Here's a link to a "feelings wheel" to help you identify those pesky emotions: https://feelingswheel.com/Mental health book list for ex CS by topic: Pete Walker The Tao Of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness Out of BlameUnderstanding shame and moving toward self-compassionBrené Brown, PhD, MSW I Thought it Was Just Me (But it Isn't): Making the Journey from“What Will People Think?” to “I Am Enough”Brené Brown PhD, MSW The Gifts of Imperfection: Your Guide to a Wholehearted LifeKristin Neff, PhD Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to YourselfKristin Neff, PhD & Christopher Germer, PhD The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: AProven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and ThriveAddressing CPTSDArielle Schwartz, PhD The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to RegainingEmotional Control & Becoming WholePete Walker, MA, LMFT Complex PTSD: From Surviving to ThrivingEmotional Intelligence/MaturityBrené Brown, PhD, MSW Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and theLanguage of Human ExperienceLindsay Gibson, PsyD Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal fromDistant, Rejecting, or Self-involved ParentsWorkbooks/Self-HelpArielle Schwartz (see above)Patricia Resick, PhD et al Getting Unstuck from PTSD: Using Cognitive Processing Therapy toGuide Your RecoveryNedra Tawwab Set Boundaries, Find Peace and The Set Boundaries WorkbookSonya Renée Taylor The Body is Not an Apology and Your Body is Not an Apology WorkbookFrancine Shapiro, PhD Getting Past Your Past: Take Control of Your Life with Self-HelpTechniques from EMDR TherapyKaryl McBride, PhD Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of NarcissisticMothersKC Davis, LPC How to Keep House While DrowningAmir Levine, MD and Rachel Heller, MA Attached. The New Science of Adult Attachment andHow it Can Help You Find—And Keep—LoveGary Bishop Unf*ck YourselfMegan Boardman, LCSW The EMDR Workbook for Trauma and PTSDMatthew McKay, PhD et al The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills WorkbookLeaving ReligionMarlene Winnell, PhD Leaving the FoldDaniel Dennett, PhD Breaking the Spell: Religion as a Natural PhenomenonMemoirsStephanie Foo What my Bones KnowJennette McCurdy I'm Glad my Mom DiedAbout Therapy and TherapistsJeffrey Kottler, PhD On Being a TherapistLori Gottlieb, LMFT Maybe You Should Talk to SomeoneCommunication SkillsMarshall Rosenberg Nonviolent CommunicationSharon and Gordon Bower Asserting Yourself: A Practical Guide for Positive Change

Licensed social worker and former guest Cara returns to answer some questions about mental health posted in our ex-CS Facebook group. Here are some topics covered in this part 1: 2:00 - different types of therapists 23:00 - therapists vs coaches 29:00 - the code of ethics that therapists maintain 39:00 - different types of therapy 44:00 - an explanation of EMDR 59:00 - PTSD and CPTSD 1:23:00 - help for attachment issues - internal family systems, somatic therapy, DBT, CBT, CPT and mindfulness 1:41:00 - where to start Here is Cara's list of resources: Mental health book list for ex CS by topic Understanding shame and moving toward self-compassion Brené Brown, PhD, MSW I Thought it Was Just Me (But it Isn't): Making the Journey from “What Will People Think?” to “I Am Enough” Brené Brown PhD, MSW The Gifts of Imperfection: Your Guide to a Wholehearted Life Kristin Neff, PhD Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself Kristin Neff, PhD & Christopher Germer, PhD The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive Addressing CPTSD Arielle Schwartz, PhD The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control & Becoming Whole Pete Walker, MA, LMFT Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving Emotional Intelligence/Maturity Brené Brown, PhD, MSW Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience Lindsay Gibson, PsyD Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-involved Parents Workbooks/Self-Help Arielle Schwartz (see above) Patricia Resick, PhD et al Getting Unstuck from PTSD: Using Cognitive Processing Therapy to Guide Your Recovery Nedra Tawwab Set Boundaries, Find Peace and The Set Boundaries Workbook Sonya Renée Taylor The Body is Not an Apology and Your Body is Not an Apology Workbook Francine Shapiro, PhD Getting Past Your Past: Take Control of Your Life with Self-Help Techniques from EMDR Therapy Karyl McBride, PhD Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers KC Davis, LPC How to Keep House While Drowning Amir Levine, MD and Rachel Heller, MA Attached. The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find—And Keep—Love Gary Bishop Unf*ck Yourself Megan Boardman, LCSW The EMDR Workbook for Trauma and PTSD Matthew McKay, PhD et al The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook Leaving Religion Marlene Winnell, PhD Leaving the Fold Daniel Dennett, PhD Breaking the Spell: Religion as a Natural Phenomenon Memoirs Stephanie Foo What my Bones Know Jennette McCurdy I'm Glad my Mom Died About Therapy and Therapists Jeffrey Kottler, PhD On Being a Therapist Lori Gottlieb, LMFT Maybe You Should Talk to Someone Communication Skills Marshall Rosenberg Nonviolent Communication Sharon and Gordon Bower Asserting Yourself: A Practical Guide for Positive Change

There is a spectrum of decisions between I can and I can't. Part of our healing journey is to understand the concept of acceptance.    A video popped up called "A Panic Attack Ended My Winter Backpacking Trip" from the Miranda Goes Outside!! YouTube channel.    I absolutely wanted to view that video. Spent a chunk of it nodding in agreement. Not to mention that I learned a little bit about not sleeping under a tree if there is snow.   I felt validated in that there is actual video proof of the experience in real life. Sometimes you can move past it. Sometimes you can't.   So I wanted to address that aspect of that experience with a few resources to help folks understand some of the concepts about acceptance and self-care.    I'm not going camping anytime soon. I need plumbing and an assurance of no bear contact.    I like bears.   I respect bears. Don't need to see one in the wild.     If you need support contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988 or 1-800-273-8255, the Trevor Project at 1-866-488-7386 or text “START” to 741-741. Resources Mentioned:  On the Positive Psychology website there is a explainer on What is Self-Acceptance? Please be aware that the site is designed for behavioral health folks, but it is easy for most people to read. There is a lot of text on the page, I'd read it a section at a time. Psychology Today 2018 blog post on how to practice acceptance    If you lean toward a stoic point of view, there is The Philosophy of Everything blog page on the philosophy of acceptance.   The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion, by Christopher Germer, PhD. The publisher is The Guilford Press and you can find the book at almost any off and on-line book vendor. The link is to the vendor's publisher's web site.   Dr. Germer has his own website where he has a page on meditations on self-compassion. You can download the mp3 file to your device or listen to it on the website.   Mindful.org page on self-compassion and writing a love letter to yourself.     Disclaimer:  Links to other sites are provided for information purposes only and do not constitute endorsements.  Always seek the advice of a qualified health provider with questions you may have regarding a medical or mental health disorder. This blog and podcast is intended for informational and educational purposes only. Nothing in this program is intended to be a substitute for professional psychological, psychiatric or medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.  

Is wellness something you would like to bring into your life this year? Then our first POTC episode of 2024, featuring Sharon Salzberg, a pioneer of meditation and world-renowned teacher, is a gold mine! Going deep into Sharon's many years of experience practicing and teaching mindfulness, we unpack principles from her work and latest book, Real Happiness: A 28-Day Program to Realize the Power of Meditation. One of the most empowering lessons from Sharon is that mindfulness is not just a practice but a trainable quality. She affirms many paths to building the quality of mindfulness, which goes way beyond the traditional formal practices. It's so refreshing how she describes the practice and benefits of mindfulness in a realistic way and doesn't promise a magical cure for eternal happiness. Having Sharon's voice on the podcast is an honor; her message and outlook on life will undoubtedly bring you heaps of value.  Listen and Learn:  What does it mean to live your life in a constricted way? How to get out of a constrictive place of living and live more expansively  Can we experience more awe in our day-to-day lives? How can mindfulness be helpful if you feel trapped or are struggling? The realistic challenges of achieving a state of mindfulness Sharon's ‘breath, not breath' technique  Tips for busy people who want to practice mindfulness more or are having trouble making it a regular habit How to sprinkle less formal mindfulness practices into your life The ways mindfulness can support the Buddhist concept of right action Transforming anger into courage Resources:  Visit Sharon's website Sharon's books Real Happiness: A 28-Day Program to Realize the Power of Meditation, Finding Your Way: Meditations, Thoughts, and Wisdom for Living an Authentic Life and Real Life, The Journey from Isolation to Openness and Freedom. Sharon's Just Sit article for O Magazine  For more insight on mindfulness, listen in to Sharon's podcast, The Metta Hour Follow Sharon on LinkedIn, YouTube, X and Instagram  Check out Sharon's posts on Check out Sharon's posts on Medium About Sharon Salzberg Sharon Salzberg is a meditation pioneer, world-renowned teacher, and New York Times bestselling author. She is among the first to bring mindfulness and lovingkindness meditation to mainstream American culture nearly 50 years ago, inspiring generations of meditation teachers and wellness influencers. Sharon is co-founder of the Insight Meditation Society in Barre, MA, and the author of thirteen books, including the New York Times bestseller Real Happiness, now in its second edition, and her seminal work, Lovingkindness. In 2023, Sharon is releasing two new books. The first, Real Life, is now available from Flatiron Books in hardcover, ebook, and audiobook formats. The second, Finding Your Way, is a small gift book now available from Workman Publishing in hardcover and ebook formats. Sharon's podcast, The Metta Hour, has amassed six million downloads and features interviews with thought leaders from the mindfulness movement and beyond. www.sharonsalzberg.com Related Episodes:  80. Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics with Jeff Warren  75. Mindful Self-Compassion with Christopher Germer  122. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson 257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel 174. How to Work and Parent Mindfully with Lori Mihalich-Levin 171. Compassionate Mind Training with Dennis Tirch and Laura Silberstein-Tirch 155. Mindfulness and Recovery with Rebecca Williams 139. Neurodharma with Rick Hanson (Part 1) 140. Neurodharma with Rick Hanson (Part 2) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To become one with all that we are is to turn toward all that we experience in life. Some aspects of our experience are more challenging than others and our human tendency to criticize ourselves when we are struggling is not helpful. A growing body of evidence suggests that learning to replace relentless self-criticism with greater self- compassion and care supports us in meeting the fullness of our experience with greater ease.From a spiritual perspective, we know that we are forever supported in this process by the power and presence of Divine Love that resides within us, in Spirit. Unity has long taught the power our thoughts have on our experience. Prayer and meditation are taught as the most accelerated use of that power as we purposely focus our mind/thoughts on that Divine Presence within and all around us. Spending time in the Silence allows these ideas to permeate all levels of our consciousness. We know that taking time to ground in the depth of Spirit deepens this connection, and  supports greater physical and mental well -being. As a result we experience, greater creativity, peace, presence, and patience.As our awareness that 'we are spiritual beings having a human experience' continues to expand, so do the opportunities to learn how to better integrate our spirituality with our humanity in practical and meaningful ways.Additionally, we are learning  more about how our more primitive brain operates in ways that can make this connection seem illusive and even result in our turning on ourselves when we need care and compassion the most. The good news is that we can learn to cultivate greater self- compassion. The tools offered via the mindful self- compassion approach developed by Drs. Kerstin Neff and Christopher Germer are proving to be very helpful in this endeavor.  Of course, we still have to choose to foster this connection, which in and of itself is an act of self- compassion.

“Self-compassion is a process of self-kindness[clarification needed] and accepting suffering as a quality of being human. It has positive effects on subjective happiness, optimism, wisdom, curiosity, agreeableness, and extroversion.[54] Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer identified three levels of activities that thwart self-compassion: self-criticism, self-isolation, and self-absorption; they equate this to fight, flight, and freeze responses.[55] Parenting practices contribute to the development of self-compassion in children. Maternal support, secure attachment, and harmonious family functioning all create an environment where self-compassion can develop. On the other hand, certain developmental factors (i.e., personal fable[jargon]) can hinder the development of self-compassion in children.[56] Authentic leadership centered on humanism and on nourishing quality interconnectedness increase compassion in the workplace to self and others.[57].” --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/antonio-myers4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/antonio-myers4/support

In this episode, William Green chats with Samantha McLemore, the founder of Patient Capital Management. After graduating magna cum laude from Washington & Lee University, she was hired by investing legend Bill Miller & spent 20 years working with him. They co-managed Miller Opportunity Trust, a top-performing mutual fund, for a decade until Bill recently retired & anointed her as his successor. Here, Samantha shares what she's learned over the last two decades about how to outperform by thinking differently & developing a behavioral edge.IN THIS EPISODE YOU'LL LEARN:00:00 - Intro03:09 - How Samantha McLemore & Bill Miller met while she was an undergraduate.09:53 - How an insurance settlement from a dog bite sparked her interest in investing.16:55 - What it was like being with Bill as the market crashed after 9/11.24:32 - Why Samantha & Bill love to invest during times of fear, pessimism, & panic.27:43 - Why Bill & Samantha are betting on Bitcoin despite Warren Buffett's skepticism.41:52 - What Samantha looks for when investing in early-stage companies.45:48 - Why it's rational to be a long-term bull about US stocks.50:31 - Why it's critical to focus on valuation, regardless of how good a company may be.57:44 - What she's learned from spending time with Amazon founder Jeff Bezos.01:12:19 - How the global financial crisis almost led her to quit the investment business.01:20:14 - What's helped her to handle the stress of being a money manager.01:41:22 - How Samantha invests her own money.01:42:16 - How she manages her time as a fund manager & mother of three young kids.01:45:54 - What Peter Lynch said about the necessity of always being “in overdrive.”01:47:49 - Why Samantha likes to invest in companies run by women.01:56:37 - How Fidelity's female customers outperformed male customers by trading less.Disclaimer: Slight discrepancies in the timestamps may occur due to podcast platform differences.BOOKS AND RESOURCESSamantha McLemore's investment firm, Patient Capital Management.Samantha McLemore's Opportunity Trust mutual fund.Listen to William Green's podcast interview with Daniel Goleman & Tsoknyi Rinpoche or watch the video here.Listen to William Green's podcast interview with Arnold Van Den Berg or watch the video here.Website with information about Neuro Emotional Technique (NET).“Thoughts of a Philosophical Fighter Pilot” by Jim Stockdale.“The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook” by Kristin Neff & Christopher Germer.William Green's book, “Richer, Wiser, Happier” – read the reviews of this book.NEW TO THE SHOW?Check out our We Study Billionaires Starter Packs.Browse through all our episodes (complete with transcripts) here.Try our tool for picking stock winners and managing our portfolios: TIP Finance Tool.Enjoy exclusive perks from our favorite Apps and Services.Stay up-to-date on financial markets and investing strategies through our daily newsletter, We Study Markets.Learn how to better start, manage, and grow your business with the best business podcasts. 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We've been talking about ADHD and self-compassion over the last several weeks. But how do these experiences tie into other difficult emotions like anger, fear, worry, anxiety, and grief? Nikki and Pete continue the series on the show this week.For background, we're working through chapter 16 of The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer, as well as Neff's TEDxTalk, "The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self Compassion.".The journey through difficult emotions starts and ends with acceptance. But finding that emotional release isn't easy, nor does it happen in a straight line. But by labeling our experience, by finding the areas in our body that are manifesting current struggle, we can find a path toward release. Breathing for Pattern Interrupt with James Ochoa Interrupting Negative Patterns with Dr. Dodge Rea Jerry Campbell and the Dynamic Tension Between Love and Fear (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:40) - Support the show: Become a Patron at https://patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (02:42) - Tax Study Hall (04:56) - GPS Enrollment! (06:48) - All the Feelings (14:13) - The Stages of Acceptance (19:59) - Hyperfocus, Amygdala Hijack, and Strategies for Reset (28:37) - Awareness and Soothing ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Kitap Kulübümüzün 27inci buluşmasında Brené Brown'ın “Mükemmel Olmamanın Hediyeleri” adlı kitabını konuştuk. Bu bölümde her zaman olduğu gibi üyelerimizin görüşlerine yer veriyorum.Kendisini araştırmacı ve hikaye anlatıcısı olarak tanımlayan Brené Brown'ı TED konuşmalarından tanıyorsunuzdur. Kırılganlık, utanç ve empati konularında, çalışmalarından edindiği bilgileri kendi hayat deneyimleri üzerinden paylaşıyor. Çok sayıda kitabı var, youtube'da konuşmaları ve Unlocking Us adlı bir de podcasti var.Bu kitabında da başkalarının bizden beklediği veya olmamız gerektiğini düşündüğümüz biri gibi olmaya çalışmaktan çektiğimiz sıkıntılardan, asıl olduğumuz kişiyi hikayesiyle, kusurlarıyla kucaklayarak kurtulabileceğimizi bize söylüyor. Cesaret, şefkat ve bağlantının bütün kalbinizle yaşamak için ihtiyaç duyduğumuz yegane şeyler olduğunu anlatıyor.Bu buluşmanın da sürprizi Sevgili Yasemin Parlak Demir Hoca'dan geldi. Dünyada özşefkat kavramını literatüre sokan Kristin Neff ve Christopher Germer'in kitabından bir “şefkatli temas” adlı kendi hastalarına da uyguladığı bir egzersizi bize yaptırdı, sonra üzerine konuştuk. Bu kısmı podcaste alamadım ama geçen haftaki Linkedin paylaşımımda bu egzersizin aşamalarına yer verdim. Onu da bölüm notlarında bulabilir ve kendinize uygulayabilirsiniz.Bu bölümde söz alan arkadaşlarımız sırasıyla (02:09) Müge İrfanoğlu, (05:09) Dilek Sena Çekin, (07:46) Aycan Acar Şahin, (11:00) Yavuz Abut, (17:46) Cihat Özeray, (19:32) Selma Çelik, (20:56) Yasemin Parlak Demir, (24:17) Müge İrfanoğlu, (25:03) Bengü İlhan Şefkatli temas paylaşımı:https://www.meteyurtsever.com/2023/03/30/dyf-kitap-kulubu-mart23-bulusmasi/

#57 with Iris: 我正在創造一份很棒的新工作 ! ｜ I'm in the process of building something great! 這集是用國語聊。This episode is in Chinese. Iris said hi after a talk I gave (in Chinese!) back in October about my journey with podcasting. We finally met up earlier this month. After a two-hour long lunch, Iris and I recorded this conversation about her personal growth journey over the past few years, and the remarkable changes she's seen in herself before and after arriving to Boston (pre-pandemic). We had so much fun, as you'll be able to tell with all the laughs.Her mantra of telling herself: "我正在創造一份很棒的新工作 !" (I'm in the process of building something great!). I'm adopting it for my morning routine. Enjoy! Topics: 從認識自己 ｜ getting to know oneself again 從新建裡自我價值觀 ｜ re-establishing personal values 從建立自己跟自己的信念 ｜rebuilding oneself and one's belief system 我想要當什麼樣的人？我的動機是什麼？我為什麼要對這件事情抓的真麼緊？｜ Who do I want to be? What is my motivation? What's behind the motivation that's causing me to hang on so tightly? 當平靜喜悅的人 ｜to become a calm and joyful person 對待自己的方式讓自己進步｜ how you treat yourself to improve and grow (shame / self-criticism vs encouragement / self-confidence / self-compassion) 用好的精神做每天要做的五件事情｜know when you have your best energy so you can apply it to the five things you set out to do each day 用冥想來消化情緒｜ daily meditation practice to process emotions 用於加來認識身體 ｜ daily yoga to connect with one's body, to see how its feeling and what it's telling you 從讀書裡面找到答案 ｜ read daily -- can learn so much from what other people have gone through 寫感恩日記 ｜ write daily gratitude journal 付出分享 ｜ output Follow Iris on FB at 日常。瑜珈 Recommended Books: 1) 原子習慣 ｜ Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear 2) 子彈思考整理術 ｜ The Bullet Journal Method by Ryder Carroll 3) 創造生命的奇蹟 ｜ You Can Heal Your Life by Louise L. Hay 4) ｜ Trust Life: Love Yourself Every Day with Wisdom by Louise Hay 5) 自我疼惜的五十一個練習 ｜ The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive Letting Go by Christopher Germer and Kristin Neff 6) 一個人的獲利模式：用這張圖，探索你未來要走的路 ｜ Business Model You: The One-Page Way to Reinvent Your Work at Any Life Stage by Bruce Hazen, Timothy Clark, Alexander Osterwalder, Yves Pigneur, Alan Smith The book links above contain affiliate links to bookshop.org, an online bookshop that supports neighborhood and indie booksellers (support local businesses!). If you choose to make a purchase after clicking a link, I may receive a commission at no additional cost to you. Thank you for your support! Recommended Meditation App: Insight Timer - featuring Kristen Neff | Kristen's Self-Compassion Meditation *** Say hi! 來打招呼！ Newsletter (new!): ⁠twdiaspora.substack.com⁠ Social media 社群: @twdiaspora on ⁠Twitter⁠, ⁠Instagram⁠, ⁠Facebook⁠. Show notes 主網頁: ⁠www.taiwanesediaspora.com⁠. Email 電子信箱: ⁠hello@taiwanesediaspora.com⁠. Support 贊助: ⁠https://ko-fi.com/twdiaspora⁠ and ⁠https://bookshop.org/shop/twdiaspora --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/twdiaspora/support

We're continuing our conversation on self-compassion and ADHD with a walk through the garden of shame. You know that garden, the one with the plants we nourish and carry with us, the blooms we sniff regularly, all laced with the poison of regret and self-doubt. This week, we're tearing up that soil.The conversation starts with a recap of concepts from The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer, as well as Neff's TEDxTalk, "The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self Compassion.". Quick reminder of the three core elements presented by Neff and Germer: Self-Kindness Common Humanity Mindfulness The biggest challenge to overcome, which we seem to struggle with universally, is the idea that just letting go of negative feelings is hard. You can't just read that in a book or hear it in a podcast and suddenly do it. But more important than that: it's ok for it to be hard to find yourself underneath all the shame. You're in there. And as long as you keep talking about it, one day you'll get there. (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (02:33) - Shame ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Surely you've heard someone say—or maybe even said yourself—”I don't know how she does it all.” Well, it's time to stop aspiring for that kind of praise. It's also time to silence that inner critic that's making you feel guilty for not being able to do it all. In today's episode, mindfulness expert Julie Potiker tells us why.   References and links:   Julie's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mindfulmethodsforlife Julie's Website: https://mindfulmethodsforlife.com   Julie's Books: SNAP! From Chaos to Calm   Life Falls Apart But You Don't Have To: Mindful Methods for Staying Calm in the Midst of Chaos   Julie Potiker is a mindfulness expert who helps others bring more peace and wellness into their lives through her Mindful Methods for Life program offerings. Her new book is “SNAP! From Chaos to Calm.”   A former attorney, Julie is a Certified Mindful Self-Compassion teacher and founder of the Balanced Mind Meditation Center in La Jolla, California. She began her in-depth study of mindfulness after graduating from the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction program at the University of California, San Diego. She was trained by Kristin Neff, Christopher Germer, and UCSD as a Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher. She went on to study with Rick Hanson, becoming a graduate of his Positive Neuroplasticity Training Professional Course. Julie also completed Brené Brown's Living Brave Semester.   During COVID-19 shelter-in-place, Julie graduated from David Treleaven's Advanced Trauma Sensitive Mindfulness Course. Additionally, she completed teacher training for the Mindful Self-Compassion Adaptation for Healthcare Communities and the Mindful Self-Compassion short course for teaching online during the pandemic. Since then she has added David Kessler's Grief Educator Training to her extensive certifications. She holds a B.G.S. from the University of Michigan and a J.D. from George Washington University.   Julie's first book, “Life Falls Apart, but You Don't Have To: Mindful Methods for Staying Calm in the Midst of Chaos," is now available on audiobook. Her work has been featured by The Oprah Magazine, Costco Connection, AARP, AP News, NBC, CBS, Fox, The CW, and many more. For more information, visit MindfulMethodsForLife.com.  

Why do you treat yourself worse than you would treat a dear friend?That's the central question of today's conversation and it centers on our ability to muster self-compassion, a practice of treating ourselves well when we need it, rather than thinking of ourselves only in terms of our struggles.The conversation starts with a walkthrough of concepts from The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer, as well as Neff's TEDxTalk, "The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self Compassion.". Central to the conversation are the three core elements presented by Neff and Germer: Self-Kindness Common Humanity Mindfulness We walk through each with examples today, and take a tour of the interconnected elements of anxiety and depression that sidle up next to ADHD on this journey toward self-compassion, and review how that impacts the ADHD brain. From there: Tools to build the muscle of self-compassion before you hit an ADHD storm! (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:08) - Support the show! Become A Patron (03:30) - Self-Compassion and ADHD ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Let's be real. Being a veterinarian is hard sometimes. Tune in today to hear why I think that Mindful Self-Compassion work could be key to sustaining yourself in veterinary medicine. I have found such huge benefits from my self-compassion practice that I am excited to share the research and ideas with you.Much gratitude for the research and work of Drs. Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer in the field of mindful self-compassion and for the co-creation of the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion. Much of my discussion today is based on their work. Check out their websites and click here to find out more about the courses that they offer!Here is a link to some of my favorite resources for learning even more about self-compassion.If you find this episode interesting, please share it with a friend :)Connect with Stacey or find more from The Whole Veterinarian!www.thewholeveterinarian.comIG @thewholeveterinarianListen on your favorite podcast player hereThank you for your time and support!

In this episode, Judith Hill-Weld talks about how trying to control our emotions can interfere with being present in our lives. She discusses the importance of not postponing joy, and describes her passion for working with individuals who have developmental and intellectual disabilities. Judith Hill-Weld, M.S., is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, a Self Compassion Informed Therapist, and a Mindful Self Compassion teacher in training.  She has studied with MSC originators Christopher Germer and Kristin Neff.  In addition to her private practice, Judith's writing on psychotherapy and developmental and intellectual disability has been published by NADD, and she has provided consultation and education to clinicians and nonprofits on a variety of topics.  Her approach to therapy is rooted in psychodynamic concepts, as well as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. In addition to being a psychotherapist and MSC teacher, Judith is a lover of dogs and poems, and aspires to be a self compassionate mess. If you are a fan of Noble Mind, you can follow us on Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram, or Twitter, and join our free Facebook group at facebook.com/groups/noblemind. You can learn about upcoming events, get our show notes, and join our email list at noblemindpodcast.com. 

We often know what we “should” do, but that doesn't mean it's easy to do it. Today Dr. Rick and Forrest are joined by Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman and Dr. Jordyn Feingold to explore how we can learn to consistently choose our best selves, overcome barriers to growth, and fully actualize ourselves.About our Guests: Scott is a cognitive scientist, humanistic psychologist, professor at Columbia University, host of the popular Psychology Podcast, and the author of 10 books, including Transcend: The New Science of Self-Actualization. Jordyn is a resident physician in psychiatry, a well-being researcher, and a positive psychology practitioner. Together, they're the authors of the recently released Choose Growth: A Workbook for Transcending Trauma, Fear, and Self-Doubt.Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.Key Topics:0:00: Introduction1:40: Why the title Choose Growth?3:50: Balancing growth and discomfort7:20: The value of social support12:00: Growth from positive experiences14:15: Mindset15:40: 8 ways to choose growth16:35: Building self-esteem and distinguishing it from narcissism24:55: Becoming a transcender29:25: Transcending dichotomies34:15: Practicing self-compassion 36:50: The underlying ground41:30: Creativity and healing46:00: Daily positive medicine for collective growth50:15: Recap Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Sponsors:Being Well is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.

Have you ever been so humiliated and embarrassed that you berated yourself so much that you just wanted to crawl under a rock and hide? I share a personal story of how being invited to a beautiful music and meditation evening, as a pink fuzzy bunny, turned into a practice self-compassion created by Kristen Neff and Christopher Germer.In this episode, you will learn the 3 core elements of self-compassion:Mindfulness - how to be present to your thoughts and feelingsSelf-kindness - how to allow yourself to be comforted and soothed when you are in painCommon Humanity - to recognize that everyone makes mistakes and even if your situation and the degree of your suffering is different, it's all a part of living this human experienceAbout Linda:Have you ever battled overwhelming anxiety, fear, self-limiting beliefs, soul fatigue or stress? It can leave you feeling so lonely and helpless. We've all been taught how to be courageous when we face physical threats but when it comes to matters of the heart and soul we are often left to learn, "the hard way."As a school teacher for over 30+ years, struggling with these very issues, my doctor suggested anti-anxiety medication but that didn't resonate with me so I sought the healing arts. I expanding my teaching skills and became a yoga, meditation, mindfulness, reiki and sound healer to step into my power and own my impact. A Call for Love will teach you how to find the courage to hold space for your fears and tears. To learn how to love and respect yourself and others more deeply. My mission is to guide you on your journey. I believe we can help transform the world around us by choosing love. If you don't love yourself, how can you love anyone else. Join a call for love. https://www.globalwellnesseducation.com/Thanks for listening!Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below! Subscribe to the podcastIf you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device. Leave us an iTunes reviewRatings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on iTunes, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review on iTunes.

We speak this week with clinical social worker Carla Naumburg about her latest book, "You Are Not a Shitty Parent, How to Practice Self-Compassion and Give Yourself a Break,” a self-compassion primer and guide that came out this fall. Naumburg, based in Boston, talks about her own kids and family, using a welcome dose of humor and practical advice, hammering home the need to accept oneself and not feel guilty, because most parents are generally doing their best. She wants people to acknowledge how tough parenting can be, and to treat themselves with kindness, following through on various strategies in order to care for themselves. Naumburg offers some personal examples of how she practices self-compassion in her own life. She also talks about modern parenting as opposed to how our parents and grandparents parented, and how that's changed over the decades. "Just because things are really hard, doesn't mean I'm doing it wrong," said Naumburg. "It's just how life goes." The following transcript has been very lightly edited. The Times Will Tell: I'm here today with Carla Naumburg, a clinical social worker, writer and mother. She is the author of four books, and her writing has appeared all over the place, including The New York Times, The Washington Post, the Huffington Post, CNN, and she lives outside of Boston with her husband and two daughters. Hi, Carla. Carla Naumburg: Hi, Jessica. Carla's latest book is, "You are not a Shitty Parent." She writes with great clarity about the conundrum of parents who often feel that they are shitty parents, parents who aren't succeeding at caring for their kids in the way that they should. And I guess the first thing I wanted to talk about is we don't usually curse on The Times Will Tell. And I wanted to ask if you thought twice, three times, at all, about using the s-word, because, of course, it's something that you use throughout the book.  This is a great question. And for this book, there was really no question about using the word, because this book follows on the heels of my previous book, "How to Stop Losing Your Shit with Your Kids." So the decision was really about whether or not to use the s-word in that title. And I decided that for a few reasons. One, from a very pragmatic perspective, if you look at the New York Times bestseller list, there's a ton of books with profanity in the titles. It just seemed to be a moment in time when readers are really resonating with this kind of casual, everyday language, which is what I think a lot of us are craving right now. But also, when I wrote "How to Stop Losing Your Shit with Your Kids," I wanted to convey through the title that I'm not here to judge parents. I'm not some expert saying, I never do this and you should never do this, and I'm going to talk down to you and give you all this judgmental advice. I was trying to convey the sense of, like, you know, what if we were like two parents sitting down for a cup of coffee, just talking about how hard parenting is? So I wanted to use the language and the voice that I use all the time in my life, right? And I swear. And I'm funny. And so that's what I hope comes through in the book. Absolutely. It definitely does. And I think it's a funny kind of thing. I always think about my mother when I use profanity, which I do a lot, and I try not to use it with my kids, and then I say, really, what is stopping me? Now let's go back into other the main subject of the book, really, which is about self compassion for parents. Carla, it would be extremely helpful for you to define self compassion as you do in the book.  Yes. So the way I think about self compassion and I'm following on the work of giants in the field, like Kristen Neff and Christopher Germer and others who I just want to acknowledge have done amazing work in this area. It's really about noticing when you're suffering and instead of beating yourself up or feeling guilty, you're going down a shame spiral. It's about treating yourself with kindness and understanding. And so the three specific practices I look at in the book are once you've sort of noticed that you're suffering, which is a thing that many of us don't do right. We're so busy in our daily lives, we've got kids to pick up from school. And as you and I are talking right now, Jessica, there's like Thanksgiving to prepare for and we've got all the moving pieces and then doctors appointments and do we pay the bills and what's going on with the mother-in-law, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. We don't even notice when we're suffering, when we're in pain, either emotionally, physically, psychologically. So the first step is to just take a moment and kind of notice that. And then we can look at these three specific strategies I outlined in the book, which is connecting to the people we love, to the people who will be compassionate with us. So that moment of connection. Also curiosity, kind of getting interested in what's going on for us and what do we need and how can we take care of ourselves. And then also just kindness, really choosing not to beat ourselves up when we're struggling or suffering, and instead treating ourselves with the kindness that we would offer to a good friend or a loved one. So that's how I think about self compassion in the book. OK, let's talk about real life for a second. You are the mother of a 12-year-old and a 13-year-old. I am the mother of two 14-year-old boys. And I was thinking a lot about this from my own life, but I wanted to ask you, how does self compassion as a parent enter into your own life really of late? Like the last couple of weeks, the last day, the last month. Over the long term, self compassion changed everything about parenting for me. But let's so the last week is a great example. I live on the East Coast of the United States, and I had a very close family member in a medical emergency on the West Coast just last week. I flew home on a red eye two days ago. So at the very last minute, I had to rush to get a plane ticket, hop on a plane, kind of dump everything on my husband. But he's a fully involved parent, and he stepped up, and it was seamless. He's the primary caretaker of our children at this point, which is amazing. But I missed some things that my kids were doing that I wanted to be there for. I wasn't able to be there for my husband during a time when he needed some additional support, and I felt like I wasn't. My gut initial thought was, I am not enough. I am failing everyone. I'm failing my family on the West Coast because I wasn't there for them all along. Like, I chose to go away. I'm failing my family on the East Coast because I'm bailing on all these plans. And what I had to repeatedly say to myself and what I was able to say to myself because I've been practicing self compassion for so many years is life is really hard. I'm talking to a bunch of Jews. Why do I need to explain to them that life is hard? We all know life is hard, right? Life is so stinking hard, even on the good days, and then these things happen that just kind of blow everything up and make it almost intolerable. And I have to keep reminding myself that just because things are really hard doesn't mean I'm doing it wrong. And just because I'm missing these moments with my kids or I'm not being as present wherever as I would like to be, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with me. It's just how life goes. And it's okay if this feels hard. It doesn't mean I'm a problem or what I'm doing is a problem. But I will tell you, just because a few years ago I didn't have that language at all, I didn't have that perspective, I would have thought, I screwed this up. This is all falling apart because I'm doing it wrong. If I planned better, if I thought I had better, if I had blah blah blah, whatever better, this wouldn't be this way, which is, by the way, total BS. That's not true. Like, crazy, awful things happen that are completely beyond our control. So self compassion really made the last week, which was a very hard week on many levels. It just made it a little bit easier and less stressful, and in this day and age, easier and less stressful in many cases. Is amazing, right? That's like the best we can hope for. So this past week my self compassion was on high practice recently. We think about our parents and how they dealt with these situations. We all know that life was different then. No seatbelts, there was no Netflix, there was no cable, there were no cell phones. Do you look at that generational difference for yourself and in terms of your writing when you think about all of this, do you think about us now compared to your parents, your grandparents, in terms of parenting, in terms of self compassion? Absolutely. And I think that keeping that bigger perspective in mind is so important because we humans, this is a very human dynamic, tend to think of our imperfections or our problems or our struggles as very personal. Like I am the cause of this when in fact sometimes it is, right? Sometimes it's a personal problem that really has to do with our very unique situation. But more often than not it's a societal dynamic, a societal cultural context that we are taking personal responsibility for. And so, you know, I was talking to my husband's grandmother, so my daughter's great grandmother who is going to be, God-willing, 100 in a couple of months and she's amazing. And I was trying to explain this book to her and she's very with it, right? I was trying to explain my book to her and she was like what are you talking about? The idea that parents would think of themselves as shitty parents and have this total shame cloud that we're walking around in was very foreign to her. And I think that's also true for to some degree to our parents generation. And it's not that they didn't care about parenting, of course they cared about parenting but they were getting a very different message. First of all, I think so much of our shame and blame of parents today comes from comparison, right? And people, humans have been comparing themselves to other people since time and memorial. But back when we were growing up, the parenting comparison happened primarily in our neighborhood. It was the person next door. And so yes, there were always the people who were richer and better resourced than us and there was always that mom who life looked so perfect and whatever. There was always somebody to compare yourself to but at least it was generally happening in the same context. Like you have the same options for school and you have the same snow days to figure out and you had all the same stuff whereas now we are comparing ourselves, thanks to social media and reality TV, we are comparing ourselves to literally every other person on the planet, and we're comparing ourselves to lies about their lives. So I got hooked on a reality show about some family with like 13 kids. It's like mom and dad and 13 or 14 kids. They have no help in the house. They have no help. They're homeschooling these children. And not once in like two seasons do you see the mom lose her shit, right? And at first I was like, oh my God, I can barely get my kids off to school, at the school I send them away to for like six or seven hours a day. And I only have two kids and I'm losing it. And then I had to step back and be like, oh, wait, this is not a reality show. It is labeled as reality, but it's, you know, it's actually TV, just TV. It's entertainment. And then we also see Gwen Paltrow. All of a sudden, we know how Gwen Paltrow parents. We know that. So this is a person with unlimited resources. Right. And I am comparing myself to what I think is her reality, but clearly not because I have no business knowing what Gwen Paltrow's reality is. But like, I am comparing myself to what I think is going on with her. And of course, I'm going to come up short. She has all this staff, right? I have two cats. They're not helpful. My husband is very helpful. That's true. I do have an extremely helpful husband. But I think that's part of just one example of the generational differences and why there are many more, but that's one example of why I think it's actually in some ways harder to be a parent now than perhaps it was when you and I were growing up. You write about the different inspirations that you have yourself. Meditation. I don't know if Buddhism is a personal one. Brene Brown, therapy. You wrote in Kveller about how the book is an exploration of Hillel's teachings. If you sort of break that all down, what really comes to the fore for you? What are some of these teachings that have really helped you personally and professionally in coming up with these concepts and moving yourself forward and writing this book?  So if we need the tagline about, like, my inspirations, I'm just a Jewish mother who overthinks everything, right? That's really what it boils down to. Overthinking is like, my favorite hobby. What I tend to think about when I'm looking for inspiration and I'm not a practicing Buddhist, but I think Buddhist psychology is some of the wisest stuff out there. It's really brilliant. But when I'm looking for inspiration. Here's what I'm looking for. I'm looking for ideas and practices that align with my values, some of which, many of which are drawn from Judaism. And I'm also looking for something that's practical, pragmatic, doable. Right? So I remember reading a parenting book years ago that was like, you should spend ten minutes a day alone with each of your kids. And at that point, I only have two daughters. It's not that many in the grand scheme of things, but they're only 20 months apart. And I think when I read that book, they were like, that's hard, right? And you have twins, what am I telling you for? But I think at that time, the girls were like, in preschool, and I'm thinking, what am I supposed to do? Like, lock one kid in her room and tell her I'm playing with the other kids? Like that advice. And I was like, I don't understand, because the girls are so close. And even now, if I said to my daughters, who are twelve and 14, I'm going to take one of you out for ten minutes and we're going to do something fun together, and the other one has to stay here and what, stare at your phone? I don't know. Like, it's bonkers, right? So I'm always looking for advice. Look, I love evidence-based advice. I love when there's research. And I also realize that the most important research we can do is in our own home, on our own family, trying to see if things actually work for us, because research is one important step. Evidence from the outside world is really important, but also, like, being real about what works for us. But I need advice that is pragmatic, that is doable, that is workable. I can handle it. It doesn't make my life harder. And also that aligns with my values. So that's really where I come from. But yes, Brene Brown is my favorite pop culture social worker. She's extremely wise and she writes a lot about sort of shame and vulnerability, and I think her stuff is really brilliant. Okay, take a step back for me into what made you decide to take your professional advice and knowledge and to write books. Self-help books and parenting books are great, and people sometimes need them. They need to sit down and be able to say, okay, who is going to be able to help me to see myself through this situation? And on the other hand, of course, sometimes you look at the pile of the shelf or the pile of self-help books, of parenting books, and you say, how am I going to take this advice and apply it into my life?  That is a brilliant question. And I share the same ambivalence about parenting books and parenting advice and self-help books and self-help advice as you do. On the one hand, I've read some parenting books that have been incredibly useful and helpful, and on the other hand, I've had more than my share of parenting advice that left me feeling overwhelmed and confused. And I probably would have been better served by going and sitting on my porch and reading a juicy romance novel and calming myself down so I could go back and be present with my kids. So I think it's a great question. Look, I have always wanted to write. I remember being like six years old and being in a diner with my grandfather and being like, Poppa, I'm definitely going to write a book because, you know, you're smart if you write a book. And he's probably thinking, yeah, there's a lot of morons who wrote books, but he said to me, you should definitely write books. So even before I understood why, it's always been a thing I've wanted to do, I picked college majors and I picked a master's program and I picked my doctor program because they all required a significant amount of writing because I love it. The writing has always been my way of exploring my own experience, and trying to get a handle on what the hell I'm doing. And so I started writing books when I became a parent. Not necessarily because I felt like I had the answers to give other people, but because this was my journey to finding the answers for myself and it was a journey of doing this work for myself. So in both "How to Stop Losing Your Shit with Your Kids" and "You Are Not a Shitty Parent" it really draws from a lot of work I did personally around mindfulness work and self compassion because after a lot of searching and experimenting that was what I found actually helped me be a calmer, more present, more focused parent. Because I struggle hugely with anxiety. This is a big part of my life and the anxiety impacts a lot of different parts of my parenting. And so I've developed these practices over the years that I kind of have to stay on top of so that I'm not an anxious, irritable mess with my kids. So that's just one example. But these really came from my own love of writing and my desire to share what I've learned with other people, but also in the writing process, I learned a lot about myself. And you've got the humor, of course, which does not hurt in a parenting self-help book. It's a very, very helpful part of it when you literally laugh out loud in this passage or another because you're saying, that's funny, and that is something that you, the reader, have experienced. If I couldn't laugh about parenting, I don't have anything left. Like, humor is in life and everything. My number one coping mechanism. And I will say that you might experience as Jessica, but my 14-year-old occasionally has no sense of humor whatsoever. She'll get it back. But for me, humor is, if we can't laugh at this, what are we going to do? It's so absurd. Does everyone stop you in the neighborhood, at the supermarket, at the pharmacy, and say, Carla, this is the situation I'm dealing with right now. What should I do? Do you get these questions all the time? I don't, actually. Thankfully, I do every once in a while. My family and I, before COVID we used to do this thing, you might remember, it was called going out to restaurants where you actually go into a building and someone else cooks for you and does all the dishes, and you just pay the money. Oh, my God. It's amazing. And every once in my family and I would be out, and somebody would, like, hear my name and be like, oh, you're that person. But no, people don't generally ask me for parenting advice, which is good, because my books aren't really about how to parent, right. They're about how to take care of yourself as a parent. So when people ask me something like, how do I get my kids to put their shoes on? I often say, like, Good luck, godspeed, and let me know when you figure it out, because that's not the kind of parenting advice I have. But I will say you know what? If you want to talk about parenting, let's grab a cup of coffee and sit down and laugh, cry into our mochas, because that's what I can do with you. Something that I really liked were your maps of compassion. Yeah, it's something that made me think a lot about how I take care of myself as a parent, how I take care of my partner, my husband as a fellow parent, friends as parents. I was curious if that was something that came later on in the process of researching and writing this, or if that was out there for you early on. You mean the crap maps? Yes, crap maps and compassion. I think that's something that came up for me in a conversation with someone once. What I was trying to explain was it was actually before I wrote this book, and I was thinking a lot about the ways in which we really treat ourselves so poorly when things go wrong, when we're feeling lost and confused in parenting and we don't know how to solve a problem or how to support our children. And we end up saying things like, god, I'm a shitty parent, I'm really screwing this up. And we sort of think everybody else knows how to handle this problem and I don't. And in that moment, I was seeing, what is the metaphor for this? I love thinking in metaphors. I think they're very useful, especially when you're talking about hard stuff. And I was imagining somebody who's out for a hike and they get lost and they're really confused. I have a whole little funny vignette about this in the book, and a park ranger comes up and hands them a map, and the map just says, you're lost and you suck. Right? Like, that's essentially what we're doing to ourselves and self compassion is when that whole script kind of gets flipped and we're having a hard moment. We're lost, we're confused. And the park ranger shows up at the map, and the map says, you're lost. It's okay that you're lost. This is a hard trail. Lots of people get lost. You'll figure this out and P. S you're a great parent, right? And so that's sort of the thing about self compassion, is it doesn't really give us the answers. It doesn't say to us, this is how to deal with your child's struggles in math class. This is, you know, the right choice to make when they've been diagnosed with ADHD or whatever it is. Self compassion doesn't do that. But self compassion calms us down, helps us kind of clear out all this really judgmental crappy thinking that we have so that we can focus, we can get a little clarity on the situation. We can think creatively about what to do. Right. If you're out for a hike and you're so stressed out about how did you get lost in what a terrible person and parent and partner you are, you can't think clearly about what to do next. You're not going to come up with any creative solutions. But when you're calmer, when you're not beating yourself up, there's a lot more sort of head space and heart space to get a handle on what to do next. IMAGE: Clinical social worker and writer Carla Naumburg (Courtesy)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lovies.In this episode of Compassion Confetti for Autism Moms, I introduce you to the 3 main components ofself-compassion. The basics, if you will. Self-compassion, when meeting challenging situations with kindness and presence, can help dysregulatethe “threat” response and help move us into a place of nurturing comfort. And this practice in the longrun, will soften intense feelings like anxiety and fear and encourage and foster feelings of goodwill andcontentment. Drawing a lot of content from the book The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook by Kristen Neff, PhDand Christopher Germer, Ph.D., we break down what loving-kindness, mindfulness, and commonhumanity are. Finally, I share 2 easy-shmeasy practical techniques that take no time at all and are a fantastic way tooffer yourself loving support while you are smack dab in the middle of a HARD. [01:31] About Kristin Neff & her husband, Christopher Germer[03:15] Introducing today's topic[04:38] What self-compassion brings to us[07:15] Kristin's experience with her son Rowan[09:15] Three main components of self-compassion[15:46] Two techniques to activate your care response systems[19:59] Simple exercise to breathe out your anxiety, fear, or sorrows Love the show? Subscribe, Rate, Review, Like, and Share! Let's Connect!To connect with Kristin Neff ● LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristinneff/● Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neffselfcompassion/ Follow us on;● Website: https://www.compassionconfetti.com/● Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/compassionconfetti/● Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086080147270 Mentioned BookThe Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build InnerStrength, and Thrive by Kristin Neff & Christopher Germer

Have you been thinking about adding meditation to your mindset journey? Or maybe the exact opposite – that meditation isn't for you? Either way, you're sure to be intrigued by the conversation in today's Fitness Matters podcast! This replay of the Pahla B Wellness Over 50 Book Club event includes a fun chat about the book, “The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion,” by Christopher Germer, PhD. Have you read the book? What did you think? Be sure to grab our next pick – “The Wisdom of Your Body,” by Hillary McBride, PhD – and join the conversation in December! http://chirpbooks.com/pahla RESOURCES MENTIONED: Go to chirpbooks.com/pahla to follow my Wellness Over 50 Book Club and get the latest pick at a steep discount. By following my club, you'll get exclusive access to join my LIVE book club discussions, you'll see what other members think about the book and you can share your thoughts, too! Thanks for listening!

I didn't know just how much perimenopause was a mind, body, emotion shift for women until speaking with Clarissa. In fact, I didn't know much about the menopause at all. I'm so glad that I had this conversation with Clarissa as I feel much more ready for this next phase in life – and believe that it will help you too. Clarissa Kristjansson is a holistic health consultant, mindfulness practitioner, best-selling author and podcaster. She works with women going through perimenopause to help them find ways to better manage this transition. She's the author of the best seller, The Mindful Menopause, and host of Thriving Through Menopause, the podcast. Listen in as we discuss: The mystery around the MenopauseHow everyone experiences the change differentlyThat it's passage into a new phase in life – and one to be celebratedHow to understand when you are in perimenopauseWhat the symptoms are and what you might experienceHow to be with the change so that you have a smoother transition from perimenopause to postmenopauseHow your sex life may be affected and what you can do about itThe opportunities for greater fulfillment and satisfaction that the transition offersPractical tips and actionable practices to help you along the wayThe best way to get supported through the change and how to be there for yourself Mentioned in the conversation: Tim Goddard https://www.openground.com.au/Kristin Neff https://self-compassion.org/Christopher Germer https://chrisgermer.com/Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thrivingthrumenopause/Linkedinhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/clarissa-kristjansson/Twitterhttps://twitter.com/thrivethrumenoClarissa's Gift: a PDF copy of my new book which going to be released in March to the first 20 people who message her and request one –Email : clarissa@clarissakristjansson.comor DM Clarissa for more detailsBuy her book: The Potent Power of Menopause: A Culturally Diverse Perspective of Feminine TransformationOn sale here in ebook or paperback: https://geni.us/menopauseAudiobook will be available from July 2022To continue the conversation on social media, join us on Instagram at @andreabalboni_lush For more wisdom, insight, tools and practices on pleasure and sexual satisfaction come visit us at lushcoaching.comAnd if you love the show, please leave us a rating and review on iTunes/Apple Podcasts. Thank you!

Dr. Josh King welcomes you to another episode of The Beyond Addiction Show  Today, Dr. King is accompanied by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer, the authors of The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive. They share in this episode on self-compassion: how to incorporate it into our daily lives and what fierce self-compassion is.   Key Takeaways: [1:47] Kristin and Chris talk about how their lives are now. [3:58] Does self-compassion really help? [5:07] Self-compassion is about opening up to whatever it is that you are feeling. [6:38] Kindness is one important component of compassion and Chris explains why. [8:14] There are both cultural and psychological barriers to self-compassion. [10:14] Dr. King asks about the dangers of being kind to ourselves, giving ourselves permission to indulge in order to practice kindness with ourselves. [12:25] Chris explains the concept of behavioral self-compassion. [16:43] Kristin shares practical ways to exercise self-compassion for those who struggle the most. [17:30] How can you pause when you are being too hard on yourself? [22:25] Kristin shares the power of a soothing touch as a way of practicing compassion. [25:34] Kristin talks about fierce self-compassion. [31:33] Chris models how to be self-compassionate even when you are not ready to practice it. [33:45] Everything starts with giving ourselves permission. [35:00] Chris explains why sometimes practicing self-compassion can make us feel worse. [37:48] Practicing self-compassion over time heals wounds. [39:20] Kristin talks about how as humans we tend to avoid pain, how most of the time, we fail, and why. [41:34] Chris presents the two paradoxes of self-compassion. [44:55] The golden practice is simply to be a compassionate mess. [46:53] Kristin talks about her book Fierce Self Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive.   Mentioned in this Episode: The Beyond Addiction Show Center for Motivation and Change Center for Motivation and Change on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn   Email Dr. Josh King at beyondaddiction@motivationandchange.com or tweet him at @DocJoshKing   Learn more about the Center for Mindful Self Compassion   Tweetables and Quotes: “Self-compassion doesn't judge whether you should or shouldn't be feeling how you do.” — Kristin Neff @_TheCMC (4:09)   “Self-compassion can be trained.” — Kristin Neff @_TheCMC (9:17)   “Ask yourself: Is this behavior really helping me? If it is not, then is not self-compassion.” — Kristin Neff @_TheCMC (14:56)   “You can unconditionally accept yourself without unconditionally accepting human behaviors.” — Kristin Neff @_TheCMC (27:00)   “If it is a struggle, it is not self-compassion.” — Christopher Germer @_TheCMC (30:41)   “When you start being compassionate with yourself, old wounds come up.” — Christopher Germer @_TheCMC (35:04)  

In today’s episode, I speak with both Dr. Christopher Germer and Dr. Kristin Neff. Christopher Germer, PhD is a clinical psychologist and lecturer on psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. He co-developed the Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) program with Kristin Neff in 2010 and they wrote two books, The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook and Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program. MSC has been taught to over 200,000 people worldwide. Kristin Neff is currently an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. She is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, conducting the first empirical studies on self-compassion nearly twenty years ago. She is author of the bestselling book Self-Compassion, and her newest book is Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive. We dive into the following and so much more: ✅ What self-compassion is in their words ✅ How self-compassion is different from self-esteem ✅ The steps to connect with yourself through the lens of self-compassion ✅ Why the idea of a “shared or common humanity” is so important in the work of self-compassion ✅ How they teach people this process Please tag us and tell us what you loved! You can follow @Gateways_To_Awakening on Instagram or Facebook if you’d like to stay connected.

Esse episódio apresenta a prática de Dar e Receber Compaixão conforme descrita no Manual de Mindfulness de Autocompaixão, dos Drs. Kristin Neff e Christopher Germer, publicado no Brasil pela editora Artmed. Esperamos que seja útil para todos. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dbtevoce/message

We're continuing our conversations on ADHD and family relationships on The ADHD Podcast with a discussion on teens. "But wait," you might be thinking, "I'm no teen... what do I need with this episode?" Just hang with us a bit.We're talking to the authors of Mindfulness and Self-Compassion for Teen ADHD, Drs. Karen Bluth and Mark Bertin, a book not written about teens and ADHD, but too them. It's one of the rare experiences that asks teens directly and personally to think about their ADHD, their relationship with others and their experience at school and work.A Teen ADHD Book for AllWe've read the book and agree: it's an approachable read, not lingering in the complexities of neuro-diversity, but not shying away from the way the brain works. The main focus, however, is around building a healthy social life, independence, good grades, all in a voice that lets the reader know they're not alone when they get frustrated or feel isolated along the way.The authors join us on the show to talk about the tools that help on the way, mindfulness and self-compassion. And this is where we come back around to you all, likely adults, likely not expecting to be introduced so favorably to a book on ADHD and teens. Well, as we hope you'll hear today, our guests are presenting a mindfulness and self-compassion practice as a tool for all of us, as "the engine for change" in our lives. We live with ADHD, we're parents of ADHD kids, our ADHD lives contain multitudes. Giving ourselves a compassionate pat on the back can go far in helping us approach the world with confidence and kindness to others.About Karen Bluth, Ph.D.Karen Bluth is on faculty in the department of psychiatry and a research fellow at Frank Porter Graham Child Development Institute at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, where she is founder of the Frank Porter Graham Program on Mindfulness and Self-Compassion for Families (https://selfcompassion.web.unc.edu). She is a certified instructor of Mindful Self-Compassion, an internationally acclaimed eight-week course created by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer; and is a codeveloper of Self-Compassion for Educators, a self-compassion program offered through Mindful Schools.Bluth is also cocreator of the curriculum Making Friends with Yourself: A Mindful Self-Compassion Program for Teens, the teen adaptation of Mindful Self-Compassion; and Embracing Your Life, the young adult adaptation. She is also author of The Self-Compassion Workbook for Teens and The Self-Compassionate Teen. As a mindfulness practitioner for more than forty years, a mindfulness teacher, and an educator with eighteen years of classroom teaching experience, Bluth frequently gives talks, conducts workshops, and teaches classes in self-compassion and mindfulness in educational and community settings. In addition, she trains teachers in Making Friends with Yourself internationally.About Mark Bertin, MDMark Bertin is a developmental pediatrician in private practice in Pleasantville, NY. He is author of How Children Thriveand Mindful Parenting for ADHD, which integrate mindfulness into the rest of evidence-based pediatric care; and a contributing author for Teaching Mindfulness Skills to Kids and Teens. He is on faculty at New York Medical College and The Windward Institute, on advisory boards for Common Sense Media and Reach Out and Read, and on the board of directors for APSARD (the American Professional Society of ADHD and Related Disorders). His blog covering topics in child development, mindfulness, and family is available through PsychologyToday.com, Mindful.org, and elsewhere. For information about his online mindfulness classes and other resources, visit https://developmentaldoctor.com.

Do you tend to be really hard on yourself? Do you feel overwhelmed when you fail? Are you confused about the difference between self-compassion and self-esteem? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, listen to this episode of Skilling It! I'll discuss what self-compassion is and isn't. Where it fits in Christianity and look at a biblical perspective. We'll dispel some myths about it and take a survey to assess our self-compassion level. Join me for a splash of self-care. Links: Mindful Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer, PhD Jesus Calling by Sarah Young Self-Compassion from a Christian Perspective by Maryann Stigen, MA, LMHC, CPTT-C https://everettchristiancounseling.com/self-compassion-from-a-christian-perspective/

Pausa autocompassiva é uma prática que pode ser usada a qualquer momento que alguém perceber que está num momento de sofrimento. É importante lembrar que práticas de Autocompaixão não tem como objetivo acabar com o sofrimento, mas é justamente porque sofremos que precisamos de autocompaixao. A prática contida nesse episódio pode ser encontrada no livro Manual de Mindulness e Autocompaixao, de Kristin Neff e Christopher Germer, que foi publicado no Brasil pela editora Artmed em 2019. Music by Jesse Gallagher: “Spirit of Fire” --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dbtevoce/message

Forgiving and nurturing yourself can set the stage for better health, relationships, and general well-being. Self-compassion yields a number of benefits, including lower levels of anxiety and depression. Self-compassionate people recognize when they are suffering and are kind to themselves at these times, which reduces their anxiety and related depression.While some people come by self-compassion naturally, others have to learn it. Luckily, it is a learnable skill.Harvard psychologist Christopher Germer, in his book The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion, suggests that there are five ways to bring self-compassion into your life: via physical, mental, emotional, relational, and spiritual methods. He and other experts have proposed a variety of ways to foster self-compassion.

Here are the resource materials for today's episode. Articles Self-affirmation activates brain systems associated with self-related processing and reward and is reinforced by future orientation The Impact of Self-Affirmation on Health-Behavior Change: A Meta-Analysis Positive thinking: Stop negative self-talk to reduce stress Books What Happy People Know by Dan Baker, PhD., and Cameron Stauth Unselfie Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World by Michelle Borba, Ed.D. Becoming Supernatural by Dr. Joe Dispenza The Mindful Self Compassion Workbook, by Kristen Neff, Ph.D., and Christopher Germer, Ph.D. ******* Thanks for tuning in, and if you find it valuable, interesting, or useful, please feel free to share it with your friends.

La invitada de hoy es Maria Paula Jimenez experta en compasión y nuestra conversación de hoy es una introducción a esta práctica tan importante para el crecimiento personal. Quise traer a Maria Paula para que aclararemos principalmente que significa realmente la compasión, por qué a veces la confundimos con otras palabras, cómo podemos adoptarla en nuestra vida y por qué es una herramienta clave en nuestro bienestar. Maria Paula es Instructora Senior del programa del Compassion Cultivation Training (CCT) desarrollado en la facultad de Medicina de la Universidad de Stanford en el Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education es conferencista, consultora organizacional y asesora de grupos e individuos en temas relacionados a Bienestar, Gestión del Cambio, Prácticas Contemplativas, Mindfulness y Compasión. Graduada en Psicología en la Universidad de Los Andes Experta en Responsabilidad Social Corporativa y en Terapias Alternativas. Adicionalmente es instructora certificada del programa Mindful Self-Compassion (UCSD) con Christopher Germer y Kristin Neff, y Experta en Felicidad en el programa del Happiness Studies Academy con Tal Ben Shahar de la universidad de Harvard . Simultáneamente es aspirante al Order of Interbeing de la tradición Plum Village de Tich Nhat Hahn en Estados Unidos. Espero que la historia de Maria Paula los inspire a ustedes así como a mi y que sigamos la conversación de la atención plena y lo importante que es especialmente en este momento de la humanidad. Para conocer más de los programas de Compasión y Mindfulness puedes visitar www.mariapaulajimenez.com Sigamos nuestra conversación en instagram en @adrianaamador_bienestar conoce más de mis programas de Health Coaching en www.adrianaamador.com

Dr. Josh King welcomes you to another episode and a new season of The Beyond Addiction Show which comes with a new format to deliver the best interviews with leaders in the field of mental health and substance use disorders. Today, Dr. King is accompanied by Dr. Christopher Germer, the co-author of The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive, and a leader in the field of self-compassion therapy. Dr. King and Dr. Germer dive deeply into the subject of self-compassion in the midst of a global pandemic and how it is now more important than ever to be compassionate to ourselves.   Key Takeaways: [2:50] Why is the pandemic the right moment for more self-compassion? [5:01] We haven't been taught to love ourselves. [6:11] We are not instinctively kind to ourselves; we need to learn. [6:53] Dr. Germer talks about the evolutionary aspect of our lack of self-compassion. [9:03] How is COVID-19 triggering our threat and nervous systems? [11:28] Living with uncertainty. [12:20] Dr. Germer talks about Zoom fatigue. [15:01] What is self-compassion? How can you be more compassionate to yourself? [19:20] How can self-compassion help to choose better daily habits? [23:45] How to begin paying more attention to what you need to feel and choose better? [28:20] Shame is not a motivator! [29:40] Start self-compassion by first connecting and then motivating through encouragement. [32:31] How can you use self-compassion against the tendency to look for the instant gratification drugs and alcohol offer? [36:35] How can you get out of the cycle of using substances to avoid feeling terrible and then feeling shame for doing it? Begin to BE KIND to YOURSELF! [41:10] Dr. Germer talks about being in the process of writing a book about shame.   Mentioned in this Episode: The Beyond Addiction Show  Center for Motivation and Change Center for Motivation and Change on Facebook Center for Motivation and Change on Twitter Center for Motivation and Change on Linkedin Email Dr. Josh King at beyondaddiction@motivationandchange.com  or tweet him at @DocJoshKing The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive, Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer Center for Mindful and Self Compassion

How do you make peace with a relationship that's not turning out the way you wanted? On this episode of Invisible Lions, follow a young woman, Lily, as she processes and answers this question about her quirky, aging father. You'll learn about the stories we create so we can love others better, and the bravery it takes to examine deep, painful truths about our beginnings and our most precious relationships.A Note on Self-Compassion & Crafting Your Story:What stories are you crafting about your relationships or your past? Like I mentioned in the episode, we all craft stories to make sense out of our lives. It's the way our brains are wired. Most of us do it unconsciously — we line up our clues and pick a narrative that feels right at the time.Sometimes, you may want to relook at those old narratives and ask yourself, “Is that the story I want to believe? This kind of processing takes a lot of bravery, and it's why I'm so grateful that Lily modeled this for us on Invisible Lions.Please note that it can be very painful to examine your old stories, and I highly recommend doing this work with the help of a trusted therapist. But another resource is self-compassion. (Lily and I talked about the power of self-compassion a lot, but that part of our conversation didn't make it into the final episode).If you're processing something difficult, self-compassion will help you comfort and care for yourself through those challenging emotions and memories. SELF-COMPASSION RESOURCES:Dr. Kristen Neff is one of the leading researchers on self-compassion, and here are a variety of resources you can use to learn more:Listen to this episode of The Happiness Lab — As a guest on one of my favorite podcasts, Dr. Kristen Neff explains how trading your inner drill sergeant for a kinder, more compassionate coach will help you in the long run.Read Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself — This is Dr. Neff's book on self-compassion that's based on her research. If you're a fan of Brené Brown's work, then you'll be happy to know that Kristen Neff's research builds off of Dr. Brown's research on shame and courage. To be totally transparent, I haven't read Neff's book yet myself, but Lily highly recommends it.DO self-compassion with The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive — In this workbook, Kristen Neff teamed up with Christopher Germer to give you over twenty-four chapters of exercises to help you practice self-compassion. I've been working through it since June 2020 with my therapist and I can honestly say that it's changed my life.I hope these resources help you put together the pieces of your stories. Remember — doing so requires a lot of bravery. I'm cheering you on.Thanks so much for listening :).— Laura

Dr. Kristin Neff is the recognized pioneer in the field of Self Compassion research and the author of the important book, Self-Compassion-The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. As individuals, families and communities we need to find a way to cope with the stress, fear and uncertainty we face. As you listen to Kristen Neff, you will hear something unexpected and important – the reasons and the research that reveal Self-Compassion as a powerful personal resource for coping and maintaining sustainability in difficult times. Kristin Neff will draw upon examples to share why self-compassion is different than self-pity or self-esteem. She will answer the paradox of why embracing our negative feelings with kindness actually empowers us, why self-compassion expands our comfort with mistakes, and fosters self-esteem as a by-product of functioning despite roadblocks. She will exemplify the use of self-compassion and Mindful Self-Compassion. We need Self-Compassion.

Dr. Kristin Neff is the recognized pioneer in the field of Self Compassion research and the author of the important book, Self-Compassion-The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. As individuals, families and communities we need to find a way to cope with the stress, fear and uncertainty we face. As you listen to Kristen Neff, you will hear something unexpected and important – the reasons and the research that reveal Self-Compassion as a powerful personal resource for coping and maintaining sustainability in difficult times. Kristin Neff will draw upon examples to share why self-compassion is different than self-pity or self-esteem. She will answer the paradox of why embracing our negative feelings with kindness actually empowers us, why self-compassion expands our comfort with mistakes, and fosters self-esteem as a by-product of functioning despite roadblocks. She will exemplify the use of self-compassion and Mindful Self-Compassion. We need Self-Compassion.

♡ SUPPORT THIS PODCAST ♡ In toady's episode, Gina offers listeners a number of tips for dealing with the stress of the holidays. Generally revolving around the tendency for increased social and family contact during this season, the holidays can be highly stressful and present anxiety sufferers with additional challenges. Listen in for help during the stressful holiday season! To learn more go to: http://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com Join our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership Program Learn more about our One-on-One Coaching What is anxiety? Quote: Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others. -Christopher Germer

This pen and paper practice guides you into finding your loving-kindness phrases which you can use in meditations. After writing, reflecting and writing some more, Chris guides us in using our phrases. Show notes: This practice originally appeared on ChrisGermer.com. Christopher Germer, PhD, has a private practice in mindfulness and compassion-based psychotherapy and is a psychiatry lecturer at the Harvard Medical School/Cambridge Health Alliance.