Podcasts about Hypervigilance

How does trauma shape identity, trust, and connection in relationships? In this episode, we spoke with Thema Bryant, PhD, author of Matters of the Heart: Healing Your Relationship with Yourself and Those You Love, to unpack how PTSD can show up in intimacy and everyday life through hypervigilance, shame, emotional overwhelm, and disconnection, and the pathways to healing. From safe relationships and self-compassion to community and spirituality, we look at how recovery happens over time. This is a conversation about naming harm, rejecting shame, and making space for growth, hope, and wholeness on the other side of trauma. This episode includes discussion of sexual assault, trauma, and PTSD. Some listeners may find this content difficult or triggering. Please take care while listening, and consider reaching out for support if needed. Credits Host: Neha Pathak, MD, FACP, DipABLM Guest: Thema Bryant, PhD Producer/Editor: Lauren Summers Show Notes: Lauren Summers See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you do when you feel stuck?You've awakened to union. You've deconstructed beliefs that used to shape your life. You have clarity of thought… but not clarity of direction. And the weird part is: you don't want to go back — you just don't know how to move forward.In this episode, we unpack 5 common reasons people get stuck after deconstruction (and why it's not failure), plus real-life examples of what “stuckness” can look like when your beliefs have changed faster than your life knows how to hold it.We also talk about:Why being stuck isn't laziness — it might be wisdomThe difference between deconstruction and formationHow losing a framework can feel like losing belongingWhy Sundays can feel “empty” (and how to reframe what Sundays are for)Hypervigilance, certainty addiction, and scanning for what's wrongHow stuckness often ends… when striving endsAnd we close with a reframe that might change everything:Maybe the question isn't “How do I get unstuck?”Maybe it's “What is this season teaching me to release?”00:00 - Welcome + Like/Subscribe00:38 - IU Football Wins the National Championship01:31 - Leadership Lessons From IU's Turnaround02:22 - 2026 Life + Union After Deconstruction02:57 - Today's Topic: What to Do When You Feel Stuck03:45 - Stuckness Isn't More Learning—It's Living Differently05:12 - Common “Stuck” Thoughts People Carry06:15 - Reason #1: Awareness Grew Faster Than Wisdom10:26 - Reason #2: Lost the Old Framework Before Building a New One13:56 - Reason #3: Deconstruction Isn't the Same as Formation15:41 - Reason #4: Lost External Permission Before Internal Trust17:14 - Reason #5: Afraid to Rebuild Anything That Resembles the Old Life20:46 - Reassurance: Feeling Stuck Isn't Failure21:51 - “The Meantime Is a Time” + Unlearning the Rush22:34 - Example #1: Not Arguing Anymore—Just Quieter23:50 - Example #2: Less Reactive… But Feeling Less Passionate24:46 - Example #3: Stopped Fixing People—Now What's My Role?25:47 - Example #4: Want Community Without the Old Rules27:16 - Example #5: Waiting Isn't Laziness—It's Wisdom28:48 - Better Question: What Is This Season Teaching Me?30:16 - When Striving Ends, Stuckness Often Ends30:43 - Map vs. Compass: Learning to Walk Without Certainty31:12 - Grace, Patience, and Staying Open to the Spirit32:02 - Next Episode: Staying Tender Without Becoming Cynical32:50 - Closing: You're Loved (Nothing You Can Do About It)

In this episode, I share a pattern I have lived inside for years without fully seeing it. Not because I was unaware but because it was woven into my identity. That pattern? Hypervigilance. Always scanning, bracing, managing. Always "on". I didn't associate what I was experiencing with that word until I heard it named. And when I did, something unlocked. It reframed years of trying to fix myself through more training, more information, and more effort. In this conversation, I explore how hypervigilance shapes the way we lead, the way we build, and the way we create. How it keeps us in reactivity. How it severs our connection to intuition, creativity, vitality, and spiritual guidance. And how it becomes normalized as "just the way things are" when in reality, it is a survival pattern asking to be healed. If your life or business feels driven by constant doing, constant checking, and constant control, this episode is an invitation to pause and look more honestly at what is underneath that pace. Because the future you are trying to build cannot be created from the same state that once kept you safe. I also share an opening for a private partnership beginning late winter into spring for the woman who knows she is here to make an imprint and is ready to lead and build in a new way. Links and resources mentioned in this episode: Private Partnership https://www.kerikugler.com/privatepartnership Conscious Business Edge Podcast Series https://www.kerikugler.com/consciousbusinessedge The Aligned Leadership Edit https://www.kerikugler.com/alignedleadershipedit My Substack Follow me on Substack

This episode is brought to you by LMNT, Audible and Strong Coffee Company. You've probably heard of the trauma responses fight, flight, and freeze — but there's a fourth response that may be shaping your life without you even realizing it: fawning. In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Ingrid Clayton, PhD a clinical psychologist, trauma therapist, and author of Fawning, to understand why people-pleasing, over-accommodating, and self-abandonment are not personality flaws — they're intelligent survival responses your nervous system learned to keep you safe. You'll learn how fawning develops when fight, flight, or freeze aren't available — especially in childhood, unequal power dynamics, toxic relationships, and work environments where your safety or stability feels at risk. You'll also discover how living in a chronic fawn response can quietly disconnect you from your needs, your voice, your body, and your sense of self. This conversation helps you recognize why "just setting boundaries" often feels impossible, why you may disappear in relationships, and why choosing yourself can feel terrifying even when you know something needs to change. Most importantly, you'll hear why none of this means something is wrong with you — you make sense. If you've been stuck in survival mode, waiting for permission, approval, or safety outside yourself, this episode will help you understand what's been happening beneath the surface — and how you can begin moving forward by reconnecting with who you truly are. Follow Ingrid @ingridclaytonphd Follow Chase @chase_chewning ----- 00:00 – Introducing the "Fourth F": What Is Fawning? 02:16 – Why Fawning Is Not a Conscious Choice 03:40 – Power, Safety, and Why Fight or Flight Aren't Always Options 07:43 – Living in Chronic Survival Mode 09:27 – When Fawning Becomes Your "Personality" 12:09 – Empaths, Hypervigilance, and Nervous System Trauma 13:40 – Apologizing to People Who Hurt You 16:22 – Befriending Bullies as De-Escalation 20:29 – Gender, Power, and Why Context Matters 24:03 – Ignoring a Partner's Bad Behavior 26:43 – Toxic Hope vs Reality 28:27 – Presence as a Path Out of Fawning 31:24 – Reality as a Regulating Force 35:02 – Fawning in the Workplace & Overgiving 37:26 – Choosing Yourself for the First Time 40:29 – Becoming Who You Already Are 43:56 – Why "Just Set Boundaries" Fails Trauma Survivors 48:02 – Listening to Yourself as the Path Forward 51:12 – Writing Fawning & Seeing the Bigger System 55:06 – Somatic Tools to Regulate the Nervous System 01:02:27 – Health Costs of Chronic Fawning 01:04:03 – Self-Abandonment Explained 01:06:19 – What "Ever Forward" Means Through Trauma Healing ----- Episode resources: FREE electrolyte sample pack with any purchase at https://www.DrinkLMNT.com/everforward FREE 30-day trial of my favorite audiobook app at https://www.AudibleTrial.com/everforward 15% off organic lattes and coffee with code CHASE at https://www.StrongCoffeeCompany.com Watch and subscribe on YouTube Get Dr. Clayton's book "Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves and How to Find Our Way Back"

Let us know what you think! Text us!In this episode of The Security Halt! Podcast, Deny Caballero speaks with Ben Kramer, a Marine Corps veteran, firefighter, and licensed psilocybin facilitator, about the transformative role of psychedelic medicine in veteran mental health.They discuss:Trauma, worthiness, and identity after servicePsilocybin as a tool for healing—not a shortcutThe importance of preparation and integrationNeuroplasticity, awe, and mindfulnessCommunity, gratitude, and post-military purposeBreaking stigma around psychedelicsAddressing the veteran suicide crisisThis is a grounded, honest conversation about healing beyond the battlefield.Chapters:00:00 – Psilocybin and Veteran Healing Explained 02:58 – Ben Kramer's Military to Healing Journey 06:05 – Why Peer Support Matters for Veterans 08:59 – Preparation and Integration in Psilocybin Therapy 11:56 – Trauma, Worthiness, and Identity 14:55 – Awe, Neuroplasticity, and Mental Health 17:59 – Mindfulness and Breathwork for Healing 20:46 – Compassion in Veteran Mental Health Care 24:03 – Exploring Alternative Healing Modalities 26:50 – Creating Safe Spaces for Psychedelic Healing 29:18 – Hypervigilance and the Cost of Constant Readiness 30:49 – Addressing Veteran Suicide 32:53 – Breaking the Psychedelic Stigma 34:29 – Psychedelics as a Catalyst for Change 37:21 – Ego, Insight, and Integration 40:04 – Why Chasing Treatments Doesn't Work 42:52 – Doing the Work After the Experience 46:10 – Community as the Foundation of Healing 50:39 – Transitioning from Military to Civilian LifeSponsored by: Dr. Mark Gordon & Millennium Health Centers  Get the book Peptides for Health Vol.1 Medical Edition today.  Use code PTH25 for 25% off through March 15  Use code Phase2P for 10% off Millennium products  Available only at MillenniumHealthStore.comPRECISION WELLNESS GROUP  Use code: Security Halt Podcast 25Website: https://www.precisionwellnessgroup.com/ Security Halt Mediahttps://www.securityhaltmedia.com/Connect with Ben Today!LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-kramer-16846127a/Website: www.fungimentalpdx.com  Instagram: @securityhaltX: @SecurityHaltTik Tok: @security.halt.podLinkedIn: Deny CaballeroSupport the showProduced by Security Halt Media

Comedian, presenter and creator Holly Morris joins Ben for a candid conversation about living with AuDHD, the hidden cost of masking, and why being “funny” is often a survival strategy rather than a personality trait.Holly shares how her comedy career grew out of lifelong hyper-vigilance - constantly scanning rooms, people and conversations and how that same awareness fuels both her humour and her exhaustion. She opens up about navigating networking, friendships and online spaces as a neurodivergent adult, and why masking can feel automatic, ingrained, and hard to switch off.They explore Holly's later diagnoses of ADHD and autism, imposter syndrome, her experience of Emetophobia, and how her Autism and ADHD overlap and show up in daily life. If you've ever felt socially switched on but internally depleted, this episode will feel quietly familiar.AD Head to https://bit.ly/hidden20_getdopa and use code Hidden20 for 10% off.Join us at hidden20.org/donate.________Host: Ben BransonProduction Manager: Phoebe De LeiburnéVideo Editor: James ScrivenSocial Media Manager: Charlie YoungMusic: Jackson GreenbergHead of Marketing: Kristen Fuller00:00 Introduction & AD1:48 Holly Morris' AuDHD Comedy Journey5:04 Masking as an AuDHD Comedian & Networking Pressure8:36 How Masking Shapes Holly's Online Content13:14 Discovering AuDHD & Living With Emetophobia17:25 Hypervigilance, Anxiety & the AuDHD Nervous System21:50 ADHD vs Autism: How AuDHD Shows Up Day to Day27:30 Being Open About Neurodivergence: Online vs In-Person30:39 Adult Friendships, Social Energy & Neurodivergence44:40 Masking vs Unmasking: What Actually Helps46:48 The Hidden Cost of Being a Neurodivergent Creator50:09 AuDHD, Imposter Syndrome & Self-Doubt51:30 Thinking Differently: Strengths, Creativity & Hope1:02:00 What's Next for Holly Morris1:10:30 Holly's Green Dot BadgeThe Hidden 20% is a charity founded by AuDHD entrepreneur, Ben Branson.Our mission is simple: To change how the world sees neurodivergence.No more stigma. No more shame. No more silence.1 in 5 people are neurodivergent. That's 1.6 billion of us - yet too many are still excluded, misunderstood, or left without support.To break the cycle, we amplify voices, challenge myths, and keep showing up. Spotlighting stories, stats and hard truths. Smashing stereotypes through honest voices, creative campaigns and research that can't be ignored.Every month, over 50,000 people turn to The Hidden 20% to feel safe, seen and to learn about brilliant brains.With your support, we can reach further, grow louder, and keep fighting for the 1 in 5 who deserve more.Join us at hidden20.org/donate.Become a monthly donor.Be part of our community where great minds think differently.Brought to you by charity The Hidden 20% #1203348______________Follow & subscribe…Website: www.hidden20.orgInstagram / TikTok / Youtube / X: @Hidden20charityBen Branson @seedlip_benHolly Morris @hollymorrisssIf you'd like to support The Hidden 20%, you can buy a "green dot" badge at https://www.hidden20.org/thegreendot/p/badge. All proceeds go to the charity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

✨ Special Re-Release ✨ Parenting After Birth TraumaAs our children grow, many of us begin to notice something unexpected: the ways our birth trauma continues to show up, not just in our bodies and minds, but in our parenting.In this special re-release episode of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast, we revisit a conversation that feels just as relevant, if not more so, today. Kayleigh offers a brief but meaningful overview of what it means to parent after birth trauma, and why this topic comes up again and again in our community.Parenting after birth trauma is layered and complex. It may include unresolved trauma from pregnancy, birth, postpartum, or earlier life experiences, all of which can shape how we bond with, protect, and respond to our children. This episode doesn't cover everything, but it opens the door to awareness, reflection, and compassion.Whether you're parenting a newborn, a toddler, or an older child, this re-release offers perspective for navigating the emotional ripple effects of trauma while raising humans you love deeply.In this episode, we discuss:

Hypervigilance doesn't come from wanting control.It comes from realizing—often too early—that no one else was going to handle it.After divorce, many women find themselves overanalyzing everything: conversations, tone shifts, finances, social dynamics, parenting decisions, other people's moods. Not because they're anxious by nature—but because their bodies learned that vigilance was the price of stability.In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, we name the real cost of being the only adult in the room.You'll hear why:Hypervigilance is a role your body took on when things became unstableOveranalyzing doesn't calm anxiety—it quietly feeds it until it erupts laterControl is often a substitute for safety, not a sign of strengthLetting go isn't about trust-falling into uncertainty—it requires somewhere safe to landExhaustion, resentment, and panic are downstream effects of never being able to stand downWe also talk honestly about why healing can't happen in isolation—and why many women have to outgrow environments, relationships, and identities that once felt necessary but now feel depleting.To close the episode, we share Small Wins, Big Shifts—real listener moments where control loosened just enough for relief, clarity, and trust to return. Not because everything worked out—but because they stopped carrying it alone.If you've been living in constant readiness…and rest feels unavailable…if your mind never fully turns off…This episode will help you understand why—and what it actually takes to change it.If you're craving a room where you don't have to explain yourself, you're invited to join Cocoon, our free community on the Heartbeat app. The link is in the show notes.You don't need more control.You need support.Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyCoachDawnInstagram: (@dawnwiggins)Instagram: (@coachtiffini)On the Web: https://www.mycoachdawn.comA podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.Support the show✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ Stress-Less Flower Essence

Feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or stuck in survival mode? This episode is a nervous system regulation reset for women who need a soft place to land.You don't need to fix your life. You just need somewhere soft to land.

If You Feel Everyone Else's Emotions, Listen to This If you constantly absorb other people's emotions, moods, or stress, this episode will challenge everything you've been told about empathy. Feeling everyone else's emotions isn't a gift — it's often a trauma response rooted in hypervigilance, emotional conditioning, and nervous-system dysregulation. In this episode, we break down the psychology behind emotional absorption, why so many people confuse it with empathy, and how early environments teach us to monitor others to feel safe. We explore emotional contagion, identity diffusion, people-pleasing, and why letting go of emotional responsibility can feel terrifying — even when it's necessary. This is a direct, fact-based conversation about boundaries, emotional ownership, and reclaiming your internal authority. If you feel drained after interactions, responsible for others' feelings, or disconnected from your own emotional needs, this episode is for you.

Send us a textIn part 2 with Alexa Silva, we discuss how love doesn't clock out when the tones drop. We sat down to unpack what really happens when a first responder's world of shift work, hypervigilance, and on-call stress collides with the everyday demands of family life—and why even strong couples can drift into silence, scorekeeping, and resentment without clear structure and care.Across a candid, fast-moving conversation, we dig into how intimacy has to evolve over time, especially when schedules are brutal and sleep is scarce. We talk about the danger of tallying sex and affection, the quiet slide into emotional affairs powered by loneliness and praise, and the small, steady actions that rebuild safety: consistent compliments, micro-moments of touch, and explicit “ask for what you need” scripts. You'll hear practical frameworks for decompression after shifts, deciding whether you want listening or solutions, and using shared calendars to lower friction when overtime or call-outs derail plans.We also get honest about money, overtime, and the resentment loop that forms when one partner feels like both parents while the other chases a bigger paycheck. There's a path out: monthly “state of us” check-ins, clear rules for spending, and tradeoffs made in daylight instead of assumptions made in anger. We cover role clarity—your spouse can be your partner, not your therapist—plus the kind of self-care that actually restores a nervous system hammered by trauma exposure. Whether you're a cop, firefighter, medic, dispatcher, or the person holding down the fort at home, these tools meet the reality of your life.If you're ready to replace mind reading with honest asks and turn resentment into repair, hit play. Then tell us what changed after you tried one tool. Subscribe, share with your crew, and leave a review to help more first responder families find the support they deserve.To reach Alexa, here is the link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/alexa-silva-chelmsford-ma/1140390Freed.ai: We'll Do Your SOAP Notes!Freed AI converts conversations into SOAP note.Use code Steve50 for $50 off the 1st month!Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showYouTube Channel For The Podcast

If you're constantly scanning, checking, replaying conversations, or feeling like your brain won't shut off after infidelity — this isn't because you're broken or “can't let go.” It's a trauma response, and it doesn't resolve by thinking harder. If you want help actually calming your nervous system and breaking this loop (not just managing it), you can book a free strategy call with me. We'll figure out what's keeping your body stuck and whether working together makes sense. Book your call: https://jordanapodaca.com/#free-call 00:00 — Hypervigilance After Infidelity (Why You Feel on Edge All the Time) 01:05 — How Infidelity Puts Your Nervous System in Survival Mode 02:10 — Why You Can't Stop Checking, Scanning, and Analyzing Everything 03:30 — Why Thinking More Makes Betrayal Trauma Worse (Not Better) 04:45 — Facts vs Interpretations: When Anxiety Feels Like Intuition 06:15 — How to Calm Hypervigilance and Break the Trauma Loop --------------------------------------------------------------------- JJA Consulting LLC • Fully insured through Alternative Balance LLC • Based in Michigan • Sessions via Zoom • Confidential and results-based. Disclaimer Jordan is not a licensed therapist, counselor, or medical professional. His services are for educational and coaching purposes only and are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any mental or medical condition. Individual results vary. If you are in crisis or need clinical support, please reach out to a licensed mental-health provider or emergency services. Summary of Terms and Conditions Educational Purpose Only: Coaching and hypnosis sessions are for personal development and educational purposes only. Not Therapy or Medical Treatment: These services are not a substitute for counseling, psychotherapy, psychiatric, or medical care. Results Vary: Individual results vary depending on many factors. No specific outcome is guaranteed. Your Responsibility: You are responsible for your participation, decisions, and well-being before, during, and after sessions. You agree to remain coachable and follow the Practitioner's lead regarding session spacing. No Refunds: All sales are final except as required by law. We commit to working with you until the specific result is achieved, provided you remain committed to the process. Confidentiality: All private sessions are confidential except where disclosure is required by law. Intellectual Property: All session materials and methods are owned by JJA Consulting LLC and may not be shared or reproduced. Code of Conduct: We reserve the right to refuse or end services for disruptive, abusive, or unsafe behavior. Results-Based Model: You are purchasing a result, not a time-based subscription. We do not offer weekly check-in calls or "venting" sessions. We meet only when necessary to achieve the specific result. By scheduling or purchasing services, you agree to the full Terms and Conditions. You further agree that reasonable updates to these Terms to clarify the spirit of the agreement may apply to our engagement. FULL TERMS: https://jordanapodaca.com/#terms Subscribe to The Infidelity Recovery Podcast on Soundwise

In this episode, Molly and I talk about how easy it is to forget how well things are actually going, even with irrefutable evidence of it, and how grounding into that can completely change your experience of business. We also dig into the realities of hypervigilance, decision fatigue, and momentum. Plus why great coaching isn't about new insights every time, but about revisiting the right ones until they stick. This conversation is a reminder that success doesn't require perfection, that growth often comes from noticing patterns before they take over, and that staying anchored in what's working is one of the hardest (and most important) parts of scaling.  In this episode, you'll hear: • The lie that organization is a requirement for success (and other BS we need to bust) • Why we can have clear evidence of success and still struggle to process it • The trap of comparing our own offers too much (and how we can easily fall into de-valuing them) • The coaching call out I gave Molly on what she was using our session for (and why I thought maybe it wasn't the best choice) • What great coaching actually looks like in the tough moments • How to identify momentum anchors and reduce decision fatigue Episode Links Join my Facebook group Connect with Molly on Instagram Learn more about Molly on her website If you're enjoying the coaching you're hearing, check out my Ultimate Mini Course to Maximizing Results in 1:1 Coaching to learn the proven strategies & foundational tools for creating an in-demand container that gets your clients real results

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2855: Shana Olmstead offers empowering guidance for sensitive and empathic individuals struggling with hypervigilance, especially in emotionally charged relationships. Through intentional practices like energetic visualization, grounding techniques, and heart-centered affirmations, she teaches how to reclaim presence, soothe the nervous system, and interact from a place of love rather than fear. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://shanaolmstead.com/2021/11/08/how-to-heal-hypervigilance/ Quotes to ponder: "You can't control him, but you are in charge of your own energy!" "With awareness comes choice and freedom." "He is so compassionate and empathic, always trying to make everyone around him happy, especially his dad. This resulted in anxiety, resentment, and exhaustion!"

Unlock Clarity, Healing, and Emotional Freedom This Boxing Week With Thais Gibson. Start your FREE 7-day trial to the Personal Development School and get the Healing Family Dynamics Course ($250 Value) FREE for Life. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/healing-family-dynamics-flashsale?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=healing-family-dynamics-flashsale&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-12-27-25&el=podcast If you've ever felt torn between craving closeness and pulling away, this episode will help you finally understand why. Fearful Avoidant attachment can feel like living in constant emotional contradiction, longing for intimacy while fearing it at the same time. In this episode, Thais Gibson dives deep into the inner world of the Fearful Avoidant, unpacking the subconscious patterns, core wounds, and survival strategies that quietly shape relationships from the inside out. You'll gain compassionate insight into what's really happening beneath the surface and, more importantly, how healing and secure connection are absolutely possible. In this conversation, Thais explores three core patterns that define the Fearful Avoidant inner world: • The push–pull dynamic of yearning for closeness while fearing emotional safety • Hypervigilance, resentment buildup, and difficulty communicating needs • Deep-seated unworthiness wounds that drive overgiving and self-sacrifice Through real-life examples, personal reflection, and practical guidance, you'll learn how Fearful Avoidant behaviors develop and how awareness, communication, and subconscious rewiring can transform relationships from the inside out. Whether you identify as Fearful Avoidant or love someone who does, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and real tools for healing. ✨ Key Takeaways • Why Fearful Avoidants experience intense emotional push–pull • How hypervigilance leads to resentment and emotional shutdown • The danger of expecting partners to “mind-read” needs • How unworthiness wounds fuel overgiving and burnout • How to question internal stories instead of reacting from fear • Practical ways to communicate needs with clarity and safety • Why subconscious healing is essential for lasting change ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 – Attachment Style Quiz 00:42 – Intro 03:50 – 1 — They Yearn for and Fear Closeness 09:46 – Hypervigilance and Resentment Buildup 16:46 – Gaining Awareness and Ways to Communicate 22:16 – Healing Family Dynamics Course Promo 23:04 – 2 — They Expect You to Mind-Read 28:23 – Question Your Story and Meet the Need 31:46 – Transparency in Relationships 40:08 – 3 — They Have an "Unworthiness" Core Wound 48:31 – Final Thoughts 51:27 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Are you loving it? Send Ash a text! Today, I'm pulling back the curtain on what happens after a retreat, when life gets lifey and the work has to live in your body, your kitchen, your calendar, and your conversations. I'm joined by my dear friend and longtime client, Em, a single mom to twin girls, homeschooler, full-time student, and retired Marine officer, who shares how somatic work, breathwork, and real integration reshaped her capacity, boundaries, and motherhood.TOPICS & TANGENTS• From intellectualizing to embodiment: why “thinking about healing” kept Em stuck• Hypervigilance, military conditioning, and the nervous system after a high-tempo life• Somatic tools that moved the needle: breathwork, pacing, and structured downtime• Motherhood in real life: anger as a wise signal, mess-friendly kitchens, laughing more• “All-access pass” no more: boundaries that protect energy, home, and kids• Capacity vs. control: living by rhythms instead of wrangling every minute• Integration that actually sticks: what to do before and after a retreat• Generational impact: modeling regulation so kids don't carry adult emotionsPOINT OF THE STORYLife won't stop life-ing. Capacity isn't about doing more—it's about holding more with less tension. When you center yourself (not everyone else), the whole house gets healthier.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE• Surrender Retreat (Tulum) — an immersive recalibration of success, safety, and self through somatic practices, ceremony, and integration (details in show notes) • The Regulated Woman — private podcast & library for ongoing, nervous-system-first supportMORE ABOUT ASHI am the definition of duality — I swear like a sailor and break rules like it's my job, but I also hold incredible space for my clients and work my ass off to help them achieve the success they're after. But I'm also here for the non-preneur woman, too. My background in counseling gives me a unique perspective on what it means to show up, serve, & create connection for those who feel like they've never belonged before. LINKS: Become the Regulated Woman Get emails that feel like your best friend (if your best friend was a therapist and actually told you the truth). Use code BB20 to get The Burnout Breakthrough for only $7 Follow me on IG (dropping in once a quarter for updates & gossip) Website: ashmcdonaldmentoring.com Work with me 1:1 Therapeutic Mentorship Business Therapy (therapy + strategic mentorship) ...

Tu donnes l'impression de tout gérer… mais à l'intérieur, tu doutes ?Si tu te reconnais, cet épisode est fait pour toi.On y explore le piège de la fausse confiance en soi : ce masque qui te fait paraître forte et organisée alors qu'intérieurement tu te sens en décalage, en hypervigilance, parfois épuisée. Je te partage les signes d'une confiance de façade, ce que cela te coûte, et les premiers pas pour construire une vraie sécurité intérieure, plus douce et durable.On parle aussi des limites de l'auto-coaching et de la manière dont un accompagnement comme CréActrice peut t'aider à déposer le masque et à reconstruire une confiance alignée à tes besoins et à ta sensibilité.

PTSD is said to be a pandemic all over the world. Although a lot of what doctors diagnose as PTSD is for profit, as in to sell medication, a great deal of it is also real.If past trauma keeps looping and affecting you in your life, this might be the most important thing you read today.Your soul has its reasons — and they're not what you are usually told or in any way a positive reason. For example, I have heard many people say that their trauma happened to make them a better person and to learn positive lessons in their life. These are untruths taught to them to accept negativity. The soul's reason is much more basic than that.This does not mean you have PTSD. The symptoms of PTSD are severe and very intrusive affecting your life over everything else. The majority of the population is experiencing stress and anxiety, not PTSD. However, this article will help you either way and will give you tools to deal with what needs to be resolved at this time, no matter the intensity of the issue.Here is my attention, though: many lightworkers experienced heavy trauma in this lifetime. This happened because they stepped into a warzone. Now, it is time to release all those traumas. There are a couple of ways a person might drop their traumas. One pretty dramatic way some will try is to drop the life they are in — meaning, die — and start again, but that comes with the very high possibility that they will bring all their traumas back with them in their next life. There are, thankfully, other ways. One way is to work through the hurt and get to the other side of the trauma or PTSD.Here is the thing: even though there should be no difference between healing a small hurt and healing a trauma that causes PTSD using the fear processing exercise, there is a big anchor created through those traumatic experiences that the body and soul hold on to and resist dissolving. This body and soul resistance is what makes a trauma take so much time and effort to dissolve. Small hurts are not held on to by the soul.I was very surprised that this dynamic exists when it comes to big trauma. Why would a soul hold on to it? What is the reason behind it? I can understand, to a certain degree, why a body might hold on to a trauma — but a soul? Why would a soul resist dissolving or removing a big trauma?I ask these questions not to psychoanalyze or create theories or explanations. I ask them because I want to shed light on this dynamic. As we let the light within rise and become form, we cannot hold onto trauma — we must release it. If we hold on to it, it will hurt physically and energetically, as it causes a point of resistance in the flow of light energy.My life has been overly traumatic. The experiences I had from before I was born all the way to adulthood were, by all accounts, extreme in the negative sense. Although they disabled me to a large degree in my capacity to function in this life, I managed to get through life anyway.The fear-processing exercise was a tremendous help in 2006. It helped me go from waking up every day in a state of absolute terror and petrified with fear (a normal PTSD symptom), which would take hours to overcome before I was able to move my body out of bed, to waking up with just some harsh memories and thoughts. It helped me go from extreme vigilance and scanning for attacks and dangers every moment of every day to a background stress and tension of dread. The processing exercise also helped me see the lighter side of life and recognize darkworkers better so I could stop interacting with them.Overall, this exercise made a massive difference in my life. I can say that I am now more functional than the great majority of the human race who have gone through trauma. For example, other people who have gone through harsh circumstances are riddled with addictions and incapacity to function on a daily basis. Many are dead, having committed suicide.But that's not enough.During our workshop at the Shamanshack this year, we explored a cleansing method to deal with deep, dark programs and bundles of energy — some that we may have carried from lifetime to lifetime. This sets us up for many physical, energetic, and soul-level benefits.Then I finished and released the class The Source Code of Manifestation: Unlocking the Quantum Core of Creation. This class brings us to a place where we cannot hold onto any type of hurt or trauma if we choose to achieve the goal we came here with: to embody the light paradigm on Earth. This class requires a large level of commitment.Unfortunately for me, this meant that all the trauma I had put aside for “later” — because “it wasn't affecting me that badly” — now has to be addressed. As the light started rising through me and taking form, I felt a great deal of pain in my physical body. Knowing that pain during light flow means resistance, it became clear that this was not something I could ignore. It is like ignoring chronic physical pain. You can do it and you can function normally — I know, because I lived that way for many years — but it's not truly dealt with . And you are definitely not functioning from your highest potential, but only a faint image of your true self.So how come there is such a resistance by the soul and body to remove the big pain?Spiritual traditions and modern psychology show us several aspects that contribute to this. The core of the issue is fear. The body and soul lock into survival and protection mode on a permanent basis, bundling that damaging experience and making sure it doesn't happen again. The situations that created the trauma can be so complex and varied that a person becomes a walking danger detector. Hypervigilance, stress, fear, and negativity then abound.In the light/dark paradigm, the type of situations that caused deep trauma are considered normal even though there is nothing normal or common about them. However, as we start to let the light within rise and take form those layers of fear and protection bundles become highly incompatible. They hurt physically and often mentally, energetically, and emotionally. On the one hand, the body and soul are in protection mode; on the other, the energy cannot easily pass through those low-frequency modes, so it causes pain. The body and soul then increase the resistance because “obviously” the layer of protection is not strong enough — and so the spiral continues. Generally this will end the light from rising, lead to dropping your purpose for incarnating and firewalling or avoiding healing. Massive resistance comes up to stop the pain by stopping the apparent cause. But we can't stop, as light working light beings stop allowing the light to rise and take form. We just can't.One of the interesting aspects is that usually at this level of engagement — where fear and stress are involved — only the body is engaged. However, with trauma, the soul is also engaged. When we see this, we must remember that the awareness level of our soul is at the viewpoint of the singular self. The oversoul (higher self) is not involved. And a singular-level soul can and does carry a subtle body of experiences, desires, and programs from moment to moment and life to life. It desires survival, and combined with the body's survival imperative, these form a compounded lump of energy stuck in our field and bodies. This affects every single one of our bodies (emotional, ego, physical, energy, and mental).I separate the bodies to make working with them easier. When we work on strengthening each body, it so happens that we also affect all the others. Because in truth, none of them are separate from each other. Not even the soul is separate from our physical body in all its expressions, but tethered to it — affecting it and being affected by it.My article would not be complete without me providing a path to solving the issue. So how do we convince the body and soul that all is well? That the danger is over and we can now chill and relax? That we can stop being hypervigilant and stressed?Continue using my fear and stress processing exercises. These will help no matter what level of hurt you are experiencing. Also use the exercises and the music in The Source Code of Manifestation: Unlocking the Quantum Core of Creation class. In fact, stop listening to any music with degraded lyrics and replace it with high frequency light filled music like what I have created at ineliarecords.com.And if you are carrying PTSD-level hurt, be gentle, get help in a form that truly heals your soul/body relationship and doesn't just hide the symptoms — and if you feel any burning or pain in your bodies, slow down as you allow the light within to rise and take form. Be kind to yourself. Know and understand that you are healing and need more TLC (tender loving care) than you normally would. Stay on track and know that this too will pass.The discussion doesn't stop here - listen to the full podcast episode for unfiltered insights from Inelia and our panelists. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.drivingtotherez.com/subscribe

In this episode of the How to Find Joy podcast, host June Suepunpuck discusses the concept of hypervigilance and its impact on joy. She shares personal experiences and insights on how hypervigilance can drain joy and lead to feelings of anxiety and disconnection. June offers practical strategies for recognizing and combating hypervigilance, emphasizing the importance of returning to oneself to reclaim joy. The episode concludes with resources for further support and connection.Takeaways:Hypervigilance can drain joy and create anxiety.It's important to recognize patterns of hypervigilance.Creating space can help interrupt hypervigilance.Returning to oneself is key to reclaiming joy.Hypervigilance often stems from a desire to feel safe.You are not alone in experiencing hypervigilance.Mindfulness and grounding techniques can be beneficial.Self-awareness is crucial in managing hypervigilance.Joy is possible even in social situations.Resources are available for those seeking support.--------------------------------CONNECT WITH JOY GUIDE JUNE! Website: Here you'll always find the latest news, events, and offerings Substack: For more podcast bonus materials and behind-the-scenes, as well as, a Joy Community where you don't have to go through the mess alone! Instagram: The only social media June is really on right now Joy Guidance: For those who want private, 1:1 support in finding joy

0:00 - 2:00 Introduction to meditation and exploration fo overthinking and rumination 2:00- 3:45 Tonight we will explore rumination and overthinking 3:45 - 19:00 The Nature of Rumination: Beyond Simple Overthinking 19:00 - 28:00 The Complexity of Our Inner Agreements 28:00 - 37:00 Distinguishing Different Forms of Rumination 37:00 - 41:35 Trauma, Hypervigilance, and the Protective Mind 41:35 - 46:00 Grief and the Necessary Journey Through Loss 46:00 - 51:00 The Wisdom of Discernment: Assessing Each Instance of Rumination 51:00 - 57:00 Practical Approaches: Working With Rather Than Against Rumination 57:00 - 01:07.40 A Story to Carry With You Every tapestry contains the story of its making 01:07.40 - Bodyscan for relaxation Let me help you reduce anxiety, fall asleep, cope with grief, and navigate through life through guided sleep meditations designed for restful sleep. It will be ok. Each session combines relaxation techniques with my calming voice to create a peaceful environment, allowing you to fall asleep fast and wake up rejuvenated. I integrate Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) principles into my content, offering practical insights to help you overcome sleep disorders and anxiety. Here, you will find a wealth of resources to support your journey toward better sleep and overall well-being. For additional support, I offer online counseling sessions as a certified counselor with a Master's in Counselling. Book a session through my SimplyBook.me page: BOOK A COUNSELLING or PERSONAL TRAINING SESSION. https://laurenostrowskifenton.simplybook.me/v2/ Connect with me on Patreon for exclusive content: Join me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/laurenostrowskifenton Make a difference by contributing via PayPal: Donate Here http://paypal.me/Laurenostrowski Follow my journey on Instagram for daily inspiration and updates: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/laurenostrowskifenton/ Explore my stories on Medium, where I share insights intertwined with life experiences: Medium https://medium.com/@laurenostrowskifenton Check out my book, "Daily Rituals For Happiness," an instructional workbook designed to help you cultivate happiness every day. Please remember, while my content is meant to provide support, it is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health guidance. Always consult with a healthcare provider for personalized advice Original vocals and video by Lauren Ostrowski Fenton copyright © 2025 # sleepmeditation # guidedmeditation # fallasleepfast #personaldevelopment #deepsleep #mindfulness

Send us a text"What if the smartest part of your brain is the one that learned to hide?"We start with a grounding practice to meet the body where it is, then sit with therapist and podcast host Malisa Hepner to unpack how the "golden child" mask, complex trauma, and perfectionism can quietly fracture a life—and how she pieced it back together.In this conversation:Trauma as separation from self, not just "bad events"Why high achievers often carry hidden hypervigilanceThe spiritual awakening that felt like rewiring in real timePlanning a suicide date—and the unexpected relief that created space to rebuildLaunching Emotionally Unavailable podcast imperfectly on purposeHospice lessons on presence when words failThe difference between being "healed" and living in ongoing healingMalisa reframes tears as movement, not weakness. She offers hard-won language for the "fine while drowning" experience. And she proves that emotional availability isn't a badge—it's messy, daily practice.Connect with Malisa Hepner here: empoweredwithmalisahepner.orgIf you've ever felt like you had it together on paper but were quietly unraveling, this conversation offers tools, language, and a kinder map home.

Do you actually want to help, or do you just feel like you have to?Explore the difference between true empathy and a dysregulated urge to fix everyone's problemsUncover the roots of “savior mode,” including codependence, trauma, and poor emotional regulationLearn how constantly prioritizing others can be a subconscious strategy to avoid your own discomfortDiscover why jumping in to fix things can sabotage both your relationships and your own growthGet 5 powerful steps to build healthier boundaries without losing your compassionLinks: Before you rage quit your job, try this! (free webinar) — https://outsmartadhd.co/ragequit Book a free ADHD coaching consult — https://calendly.com/outsmartadhd/adhd-coaching-consult

Send us a textLet's be real: telling a terrified mom that her horrific intrusive thoughts are "normal" is only half the story, and it's not good enough.This episode is your new essential guide. We're cutting past the surface talk about "scary thoughts" and diving deep into the neuroscience of what's actually going on. Your client's brain is doing a brilliant, protective job being hypervigilant, but then sleep deprivation, nutritional depletion, and chronic stress turn that protection into a panic spiral. We explain exactly how to spot the difference between a normal thought and pathological Postpartum OCD and, most importantly, how to offer root-cause solutions that stop the nervous system from fueling those terrifying images. If you want to move beyond just screening and genuinely help your clients heal, you need to hear this.Check out the episode on the blog HEREKey time stamps: 1:03  Naming the Unspeakable: What Do Postpartum Intrusive Thoughts Really Look Like?2:34  Why Telling a Mom "It's Normal" Simply Isn't Enough (and Why It's Harmful).5:57 Maternal Brain Plasticity 101: How Evolution Made the Postpartum Brain Brilliant.8:18  Hypervigilance, Sympathetic Dominance, and The Postpartum Energy Debt.10:58  The Spiral: When a Protective Thought Leads to Pathological Anxiety.14:25 Root Causes Driving Postpartum Nervous System Dysregulation.17:54 Case Study: Resolving Severe Nighttime Intrusive Thoughts with Nutrition (Ferritin & Labs).20:22 Case Study: Feeding Anxiety, Blood Sugar Crashes, and Adrenal Support.22:09 The Critical Distinction: Intrusive Thoughts vs. Postpartum OCD (P-OCD).25:12 The Whole-Person Assessment Framework for Intrusive Thoughts.27:08  Layered Interventions That Work: Regulation, Foundations, Trauma, and Support.29:27 Common Provider Mistakes: Minimizing, Catastrophizing, and Isolating Symptoms.32:17  Intrusive (Ego-Dystonic) Vs. Psychotic (Ego-Syntonic) Thoughts: Why This Distinction is Life-Saving.35:17  Partner Education: Helping Support People Provide Help, Not Judgment.37:47  Building Resilience, Not Symptom Suppression: Long-Term Nervous System Health. NEXT STEPS:

If you've ever wrestled with the long, uneven work of healing, we hope today's conversation offers courage for the journey.  Dan shares his recent reflections on the lament of waiting found in Psalm 13 and the persistent pursuit of justice embodied by Erin Brockovich as he rewatched the 2000 film. He and Rachael explore the tension between justice today and the full restoration that is "not yet," bringing these insights into the lingering impact of past sexual abuse. Healing after sexual abuse shapes not just your body but your whole affective and relational world. When harm happens in relationships, it distorts your sense of safety, trust, and even goodness. You may notice contempt toward your own body, frustration at emotional reactions, or fear around your own desires. Hypervigilance, self-protection, or numbing can become familiar companions, and trusting others—or even yourself—can feel risky. The work of healing in adult life is laborious, requiring vulnerability, patience, and courage to reclaim desire, goodness, and the capacity to be seen. They consider Psalm 13 as both a cry of lament and a thread of hope. It doesn't promise immediate relief. It simply says, "I trust in your unfailing love," leaving open the possibility that this is not the end of the story. Healing is not a linear path or a once-and-done process. It's a lifelong journey of tending to what remains—the physiological, emotional, relational, and spiritual aftermath of trauma. And yet, even in the hard work, there is invitation: keep choosing life, goodness, and the beauty of your own desire. Every small act of caring for your body, each moment of speaking truth, each return to beauty becomes a protest against despair—a glimpse of the wholeness that is coming. Healing itself is a form of justice.   * This episode engages the topic of abuse, particularly sexual abuse and child abuse. Listener discretion is advised.  

If you're over-analysing texts, constantly questioning if your partner loves you, dwelling on their past relationships while also worrying if they're ‘the one' for your future - then this episode is for you. We get some expert advice from sex and relationship therapist Lauren Bradley on how to deal with overthinking in dating and relationships, how to know if you're doing it a healthy or harmful amount and how to break the anxiety pattern if it's ruining your love life.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

This is an episode that is equal parts validating and practical. We go deep into the patterns that so many high-achieving women carry like hypervigilance, over-responsibility, and the constant sense that we should be able to “just handle it all”. Sound familiar? Plus, we talk about what happens when we stop making ourselves the problem and actually diagnose what's really going on in our businesses. This session is ultimately about reclaiming your capacity and sanity by building systems that neutralize emotional triggers, leaning on your team more, and designing a business that works with your brain instead of against it. You'll hear the shifts Molly makes as we name what's been draining her and start creating the structures that will free her up to focus on what she does best.  In this episode, you'll hear: • Molly's “oh I'm normal” moment (and why naming it matters) • Hypervigilance and its impact on high achievers • Seeing the upside of challenges like ADHD (and the insane results Molly had last year) • What it looks like to diagnose the real problem in business  • How systems can and should create emotional neutrality • The hill I'll die on around team support & to do's  • The first step to creating systems that actually work for your brain Episode Links Join my Facebook group Connect with Molly on Instagram Learn more about Molly on her website  If you're enjoying the coaching you're hearing, check out my Ultimate Mini Course to Maximizing Results in 1:1 Coaching to learn the proven strategies & foundational tools for creating an in-demand container that get your clients real results

The Hidden Impact of PTSD on Law Enforcement and Community SafetyI'm prone to conspiracy theories in my own mind, though in many cases they reveal a hint of prescience. My background in mental health, and addiction has made me wonder for quite some time if the uptick in violence at the hands of law enforcement is directly related possibly to untreated PTSD, especially combat related in the cops themselves. So I did a little research. Here is a condensed sampling of what I learned.I love when I'm kind of right with no expertise!!! (disclaimer)PTSD, Law Enforcement, and the Use of ForceCombat-related PTSD is not just a military issue—it has lasting consequences within policing. For many officers, whether their trauma stems from combat service or years of exposure to violence on the job, PTSD symptoms have a profound impact on both their mental health and their interactions with the public. Symptoms like hypervigilance, irritability, impaired decision-making, and emotional numbing can make officers far more likely to perceive danger where there is none, and to react with excessive or inappropriate use of force in high-pressure situations.PTSD and Policing Research shows a strong association between PTSD symptoms and abusive policing practices—even when other trauma exposures are accounted for. Hypervigilance, for example, magnifies threat detection, causing officers to misjudge harmless behavior as threatening. And when combat veterans carry PTSD into their law enforcement careers, the risks rise even further. Cumulative trauma only makes miscalculation and escalation more likely. The Mental Health and Stigma Barrier Despite the risks, many officers avoid seeking help. Stigma, fears over job security, or concerns about being sidelined prevent them from ever accessing treatment. Left untreated, PTSD leads to burnout, substance misuse, impaired judgment, and aggression—conditions that not only harm officers themselves, but put communities at greater risk. Breaking this cycle requires trauma-informed policies, accessible mental health services, and a cultural shift in policing—one that values wellness checks, peer support, and early treatment just as much as tactical readiness. Practical Consequences When PTSD goes unaddressed, the stakes are high: more violent encounters, more community mistrust, and more shattered lives—on both sides of the badge. But with comprehensive mental health support, evidence-based therapies, and stress management training, officers can regain balance in their decision-making, reduce aggressive responses, and protect both themselves and the public. Border Patrol and ICE Context Border Patrol and ICE officers face the same PTSD-related risks, but in uniquely challenging environments. Remote patrols, exposure to humanitarian crises, and the moral stress of immigration enforcement all add layers of trauma. These stressors heighten hypervigilance and emotional dysregulation, increasing the risk of deadly force in contested situations. Yet, mental health support and transparent accountability within these agencies remain limited. Without reform, PTSD not only undermines officer well-being—it fuels the cycle of violence at the border. Combat-related PTSD is more than a personal struggle—it's a public safety i...If you find yourself having issues navigating today's world, look for help. It's there. https://bit.ly/SyDCafeCommunityhttps://bit.ly/SocialYetDistancedPodcast https://bit.ly/SociaYetDistancedlVidsYouTube

Book a free call with me: https://cal.com/jordan-apodaca/infidelity-recovery-free-strategy-call Healing After Infidelity: Understanding Hypervigilance and Rebuilding Trust This episode explores the psychological and physiological impact of infidelity on an individual. Navigating the aftermath, it delves into the continuous state of hypervigilance, the struggle for reassurance, and the challenge of restoring trust in both the partner and oneself. The video emphasizes the importance of learning new safety mechanisms and offers practical steps to begin the healing process, such as connecting to the present moment and reintroducing rest into one's life. 00:00 The Aftermath of Infidelity 00:42 Living in Constant Vigilance 03:18 The Reassurance Trap 04:09 Path to Healing and Relearning Safety Free course, The Infidelity Recovery First Aid Kit: https://jordanapodaca.gumroad.com/l/infidelity-recovery-first-aid-kit Success Stories and More Resources: https://jordanapodaca.com/ If you're struggling with the pain of infidelity, you don't have to go through this alone. I help people heal from betrayal and open their hearts to love again in as little as one session—even if you think you'll never trust again. Book your call today and discover how you can: Break free from intrusive thoughts Stop feeling worthless Learn to trust again Build stronger relationships than ever before Don't waste months or years trying to heal on your own. Take the first step toward transformation now: https://cal.com/jordan-apodaca/infidelity-recovery-free-strategy-call --------------------------------------------------------------------- • Educational Purpose Only: Our courses and services are for educational purposes only and are not certification programs or recognized by any professional boards. • Not Medical/Therapeutic: Hypnosis and coaching services are not substitutes for professional therapy or medical treatment. If under care of a mental health professional, inform them before participating. • No Guarantees: We make no guarantees regarding results, outcomes, or income potential from our programs. • Your Responsibility: You are solely responsible for your implementation of techniques learned, compliance with applicable laws, and any results with clients. • No Refunds: We do not offer refunds except as required by law. • Lifetime Access: Includes all future updates to the program for as long as it exists. • Intellectual Property: All materials are property of JJA Consulting LLC and may not be shared or distributed. • Code of Conduct: We reserve the right to remove disruptive participants without refund. By purchasing our products or services, you agree to these full terms: https://jjaconsultingllcterms.carrd.co/ JJA Consulting LLC | info@jordanapodaca.com Subscribe to The Infidelity Recovery Podcast on Soundwise

If you've ever been in a narcissistic relationship (with a partner, parent, boss, or friend), you know the effects don't magically disappear when you leave. In fact, sometimes that's when the real work begins. In this episode of The Love Your Life Show, I share three common behaviors many of us carry after narcissistic abuse: Hypervigilance and people-pleasing Difficulty trusting your own perceptions Emotional dysregulation or numbness These aren't signs you're broken. Rather, they're survival patterns your brain and body learned in unsafe environments. Coping techniques you learned to protect yourself in complex PTSD.  Today is part one of a two-part series, and we're starting with awareness: how these behaviors show up, what they look like in everyday life, and why you might still be doing them even years later. Whether you're early in recovery or decades out, this episode will help you see your patterns with compassion — and prepare you for next week's conversation about how to heal and move forward. If you liked this show, you'll like this one:  Narcissistic Abuse Recovery on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-recovery/id1434429161?i=1000679967740 Narcissistic Abuse Recovery on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/4LZOMV5GGxgk21Tt2oMtYu?si=fe90af4f7cb24793 This is an extra special important one to share with someone you care about in your life. Please click the link and share away. Also, it's my birthday next week! And I'd love to share a cup of coffee with you! For the price of a coffee, please head to  https://patreon.com/susiepettit to support my mission and me, while I sit here week after week, year after year, bringing you tips and support to live a life you love. You  matter to me, warrior!

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In this week's episode of The Gentle Rebel Podcast, we look at the relationship between sensory processing sensitivity and hypervigilance. As we finish our journey through the first HSP Owner's Guide, we turn our attention to hypervigilance. that feeling of being permanently “switched on,” unable to stop scanning for danger, even when we're safe. For highly sensitive people, vigilance is a natural part of sensory processing sensitivity. It helps us read the room, pick up subtle cues, and stay attuned to what is happening beneath the surface. But when vigilance tips into hypervigilance, it can leave us in a state of chronic over-arousal, disconnection, and exhaustion. In the episode, we explore why hypervigilance is such a common experience for HSPs, how it shows up in everyday life, and ways we might support our nervous systems in returning to a sense of safety and connection. I examine hypervigilance within a social and cultural context for HSPs, rather than from a clinical or individual psychological perspective. https://youtu.be/RCvrgSJH73I Vigilance vs. Hypervigilance Vigilance is an intrinsic feature of sensory intelligence. It anchors us in the awareness to notice and predict useful information to help us survive and thrive together. Hypervigilance is what happens when vigilance overspills, and we get stuck in a state of alertness with limited capability to move our nervous system into a state of connection. This can have roots in early life (especially for HSPs who are more impacted by their formative environments). But it can also develop over time because of the pressures and rhythms of the modern world, with constant notifications, cultural glorification of busyness, and a never-ending expectation to perform and prove our worth. Possible Signs of Hypervigilance Hypervigilance is not always dramatic. Often it shows up quietly and gradually, for example you might notice: Feeling flat or detached, as if life is happening behind glass Difficulty taking action, even on small plans Unusual tearfulness Brain fog and trouble focusing Ruminating thoughts on repeat Disrupted sleep cycles Anxiety or panic attacks seemingly “out of nowhere” Harsh self-criticism or low self-esteem If these feel familiar, they may be signs that your nervous system has been in “stay safe” mode for a long time. Why Hypervigilance Happens Hypervigilance is the nervous system's over-lean into the message, “stay safe by staying alert.” This is obviously appropriate in certain contexts, but when we carry this story everywhere, it takes its toll and can be a difficult pattern to get out of. Some common contributing factors include: Early Environments: Growing up in conflict or unpredictability can train the nervous system to always be on guard, especially in volatile environments where safety could be torn away at a moment's notice. Past Experiences: The nervous system may overlearn from painful experiences, remaining alert to avoid “ever letting that happen again.” Cultural Pressures: Hustle culture, social media outrage cycles, and global crises all create a background hum of threat. Worldview and Meaning-Making: Certain belief systems (political, religious, ideological) can divide the world into “us vs. them,” keeping us in a state of perpetual alertness to nefarious outside actors. Physiological Factors: Poor sleep, hormone shifts, or nutritional deficiencies can lower our threshold for perceiving danger. These are rarely isolated and often overlap in ways that reinforce one another. Meeting Hypervigilance with Creative Gentleness A helpful (though, not easy) way to meet everyday hypervigilance is to slow things down. Not necessarily by stopping altogether, but by letting engagement become gentler and more deliberate. Rather than rushing to solve, fix, or control, we can allow space to notice small sensory glimmers,

Most of us never think about how we breathe but science shows it may be one of the most overlooked drivers of health and disease.Dr. Roger McFillin talks with Dr. Amy Lichon, a double-board-certified physician who left a successful hospital career to teach people how to heal through their breath. They explore why mouth breathing fuels anxiety, insomnia, and fatigue, how carbon dioxide and nasal breathing affect the nervous system, and why a century-old method called Buteyko could transform sleep, focus, and even athletic performance.You'll learn practical tools from a simple “control pause” test to techniques for decongesting the nose and calming the nervous system that anyone can start today. If you've tried everything for stress, sleep, or focus and nothing sticks, this conversation may reveal the missing piece.Learn more about Dr. Amy Lichon here: https://www.courami.com/ Dr. Roger McFillin / Radically Genuine WebsiteYouTube @RadicallyGenuineDr. Roger McFillin (@DrMcFillin) / XSubstack | Radically Genuine | Dr. Roger McFillinInstagram @radicallygenuineContact Radically GenuineConscious Clinician CollectivePLEASE SUPPORT OUR PARTNERS15% Off Pure Spectrum CBD (Code: RadicallyGenuine)10% off Lovetuner click here

#narcissisticparent #narcissisticmanipulation #maternalnarcissism Have you gone no contact and now you are living in constant fear of meeting your mother?  Do you feel anxious before going out in case you'll bump into her?  Or maybe you are worried she will do it on purpose and even come to your house unexpected?  I get it. I've personally been through that experience in different ways. And this fear can lead to crippling anxiety and hypervigilance. In this episode you will gain a deeper understanding of where the fear of meeting your mother after going no contact comes from, helping you feel less crazy and alone in all this. And by listening till the end you will get the 2 fundamental steps to help you navigate this anxiety free. 

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In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Biesecker delves into the concept of avoidance as an emotional coping strategy. He discusses how unresolved psychological issues can inhibit emotional regulation and self-awareness, leading to unprocessed trauma that affects our relationships with ourselves and others. The episode explores the subtle ways avoidance influences our reactions and highlights the challenges and transformative potential of facing what we have long avoided. Listeners will gain insights into strategies for gently confronting avoidance patterns without feeling overwhelmed, paving the way for deeper connections and personal growth. Tune in to discover how confronting avoidance can illuminate your path to healing.Timestamps[00:02:54] Avoidant coping and emotional attunement.[00:06:01] Avoidance as a survival strategy.[00:08:07] Hypervigilance as a baseline.[00:12:20] Evolution of avoidance strategies.[00:16:47] Emotional capacity and discomfort.[00:20:49] Co-regulation and emotional connection.[00:26:00] Vagal breaking and safety.[00:28:48] Over-intellectualizing vs. under-feeling.[00:32:36] Somatic responses to anxiety.[00:39:15] Guilt, shame, blame cycle.[00:40:42] The nature of change.[00:45:45] Exploring unconscious beliefs and triggers.[00:49:23] Positive vs Negative Beliefs.[00:54:01] Somatic signals and identity.[00:57:21] Bridging somatics and cognition.[01:00:56] Finding the grounding point.[01:05:20] Avoidant behaviors and their roots.CreditsHost: Jeffrey BeseckerGuest: Brianna SanbornExecutive Program Director: Anna GetzProduction Team: Aloft Media GroupMusic: Courtesy of Aloft Media GroupConnect with host Jeffrey Besecker on LinkedIn.Building Emotional and Somatic Language: Learning to Understand Your Body and FeelingsIn this course, Brianna guides you in identifying the emotional and somatic language that bridges your inner experience with clearer self-understanding. You'll discover how emotions first surface in the body, why they can feel confusing without words to name them, and how to communicate your feelings more effectively with yourself and others. With practical tools for recognition, regulation, and safe exploration, this course helps transform overwhelming sensations into empowering clarity. Note: Some exercises may stir strong emotions—practice at your own pace and lean on support if needed.

In this powerful episode, Jerry, an African American Air Force veteran, opens up about his transformative experience at Eleusinia alongside his daughter—also an Air Force veteran—and his wife. Together, they confronted the weight of PTSD and embarked on a family journey of healing.Jerry shares how he moved from a lifetime of hypervigilance to a place of peace, acceptance, and spiritual reconnection. Through the retreat experience, he not only deepened his relationship with his wife and daughter but also embraced a new sense of wholeness and purpose.This story is more than one man's healing—it's a family affair that highlights the strength of love, vulnerability, and shared transformation.Tune in to hear Jerry's courageous path toward inner peace, family connection, and a renewed sense of life after service.

Evelyn and Steven have been through the ringer after two of their siblings died as a product of addiction. They still contemplate how things could have been different and if they would have followed the same path Leslie was on. But through their grief, they tell a raw story riddled with dark humor    Key Takeaways:   [2:37] Getting close to Leslie after I got pregnant at 16 [6:18] My relationship with Leslie was weird, especially with the huge age gap  [7:16] The funeral and thinking maybe we could've prevented her death [10:44] Leslie was a good student and then it all suddenly took a turn her senior year [15:47] Screaming after finding out Leslie was dead  [18:32] Having to tell people she was dead and they wouldn't leave us alone [21:13] Finding out Sam was dead impacted us so much more [22:45] How Sam died from alcohol and mom having a seizure  [25:32] Being sexually abused by Leslie's friends and not being believed  [29:50] Hypervigilance is safety and the moment we found out Sam died  [38:14] Having familial support and checking in truly made a difference [40:19] Finding laughter in dark moments  [44:02] The difference between Leslie and Sam's personalities  [45:38] Seeing signs of Leslie and Sam throughout the universe  [48:53] The angst over their burial plots   [51:32] I'm never going to get closure, but I have to keep pushing through life  [54:28] Tomorrow is not promised so live your life authentically  [56:54] The things our siblings will never get to do Connect with Barb:   Website   Facebook    Instagram   Be a guest on the podcast    YouTube   The Molly B Foundation  

Forrest and therapist Meg Josephson explore the fawn response, a survival strategy where safety is sought by pleasing other people. They discuss how fawning can start as self-protection in childhood, but later morph into overthinking, hypervigilance, and self-abandonment. Meg shares her own experience, including how fawning creates resentment and makes it difficult to find a healthy relationship or figure out your authentic needs. Topics include becoming aware of unconscious habits, building distress tolerance, grief, self-compassion, healthy boundaries, and speaking up for ourselves. About our Guest: Meg Josephson is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and author of the new book Are You Mad at Me? Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:18: Self-sabotage as self-protection 4:01: Bringing the unconscious fawn response into awareness 9:51: Silencing wants and needs, conflict avoidance, and resentment 14:33: Rediscovering wants and needs after people pleasing 18:05: The healing arc: grief, anger, and relationship 25:30: Viewing people pleasing as a “part” rather than an identity 30:11: Nice vs. compassionate 51:36: Hypervigilance and the NICER practice 57:22: Authenticity as “uncovering” rather than “fixing” 1:03:02: Recap Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors If you have ADHD, or you love someone who does, I'd recommend checking out the podcast ADHD aha! Level up your bedding with Quince. Go to Quince.com/BEINGWELL for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns. Join hundreds of thousands of people who are taking charge of their health. Learn more and join Function at functionhealth.com/BEINGWELL. Listen now to the Life Kit podcast from NPR. Go to Zocdoc.com/BEING to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when you've gone no contact with your narcissistic mother… but your body still doesn't feel safe?This week, we hear from a daughter who has done all the right things. She's named the abuse, set boundaries, gone to therapy, built a support network… and yet she still lives in fear of accidentally running into her mother.Together, we explore what it means to feel stuck in trauma responses even after estrangement, and how daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers can begin to trust their bodies, honor their fear, and create protection without self-abandonment.Why going no contact doesn't always mean your nervous system feels safeThe difference between trauma brain and trauma wisdomWhat to do if you run into your narcissistic parent in publicHow to make a realistic safety plan without shameThe cost of avoidance—and how to choose it consciouslyWhy messy, imperfect reactions are actually protectionYou've gone low or no contact and still feel like your mother has a hold on youYou're a high-functioning daughter who feels like you “should be over it”You're tired of being hypervigilant, but scared to let your guard downYou've ever walked through a store scanning the aisles—just in caseYou want support that honors your head work and your heart work

Many adults struggle with patterns they can't explain: feeling responsible for everything, working harder than everyone else without realizing it, or getting triggered by chaos even when their current life is stable. They might find intimacy difficult, feel disconnected from their emotions, or notice their nervous system going into overdrive in situations that don't seem threatening. What they don't realize is that these patterns often trace back to growing up in chaotic environments where they had to become the adult in the room as a child. The truth is, when children are forced to take on adult responsibilities - managing emotions, solving problems, or keeping the family together - it rewires their nervous system in ways that show up decades later as chronic overwhelm, relationship difficulties, and an inability to recognize their own limits. In this episode, Dr. Tian Dayton joins Dr. Aimie to explore how early relational trauma and chaotic family dynamics create lasting patterns in our nervous system. You'll discover why traditional talk therapy often isn't enough for trauma resolution, how movement and body-based approaches can complete what words cannot, and why environments like 12-step programs can create the perfect container for nervous system healing. You'll hear about: [2:00] The hidden signs of early relational trauma and why chaos is so hard to identify [5:30] How children adapt to become "project managers" in dysfunctional families [8:00] Why some people feel like the "crazy one" while others become the "uptight one" [9:00] Understanding "thwarted intention" and how it creates emotional blocks in adulthood [12:00] How sense memory gets triggered in relationships and intimacy [14:00] The critical importance of early touch and bonding for nervous system development [18:00] When nervous systems "freeze" and brace for danger with intimate partners [21:00] Why 12-step programs create ideal conditions for trauma healing [27:30] The power of "limbic baths" and co-regulated nervous system states [32:00] How "act hunger" and movement help complete unresolved trauma responses [35:00] Why the body needs catharsis and energy release for true healing Whether you're recognizing your own patterns from a chaotic childhood, supporting someone who grew up in dysfunction, or you're a practitioner working with clients who have early relational trauma, this episode provides both the understanding and practical approaches needed to break generational cycles and create lasting healing. Dr. Tian Dayton is a leading expert in psychodrama therapy have developed her approach of Relational Trauma Repair and is the author of numerous books on trauma, addiction, and family dynamics.  Helpful Links Related To This Episode Resources/Guides: Biology of Trauma book - how the body experiences and holds fear, pain and overwhelm, and how to heal. Pre-order now and, at the time of this recording, you'll get over $350 in bonuses included! Those bonuses are only for the pre-order window (before Sept 23).  Foundational Journey - If you want to be guided through The Essential Sequence laid out in my book, join me and my team for this 6 week journey into your inner world to create calm aliveness with somatic and parts healing practices. This lays the foundation to do the deeper work safely. These are a specific sequence of 42 different daily practices I have found that change one's biology and health symptoms the fastest. Related Podcast Episodes: Episode 45: Can Adoption or Childhood Trauma Cause Bipolar Disorder? with Dr. Christina Bjorndal Episode 48: How to Heal Bracing and Hypervigilance with Cat Dillon Episode 58: Parenting in a Traumatizing World: The answer Our Children Need with Dr. Gordon Neufeld Episode 73: Early Attachment Shocks: How Unexpected Stressors Can Cause Developmental Trauma & What To Do Related Youtube Videos:  What You Need First Before Processing Your Childhood Trauma | Dr. Aimie Apigian Early Relationships Shape Biology: Attachment Insights | Dr. Aimie Apigian   Disclaimer: By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical, psychological, or mental health advice to treat any medical or psychological condition in yourself or others. This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always consult your own physician, therapist, psychiatrist, or other qualified health provider regarding any physical or mental health issues you may be experiencing. This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Trauma Healing Accelerated, any guests or contributors to The Biology of Trauma® podcast, or any employees, associates, or affiliates of Trauma Healing Accelerated be responsible for damages arising from the use or misuse of the content provided in this podcast.   Comment Etiquette:  I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode! Please share your constructive feedback by using personal name or initials so that we can keep this space spam-free, and let's keep the discussion positive!  

It's no surprise to the Almost 30 community that your childhood trauma and wounds can shape your adult life. Vienna Pharaon knows this all too well. A licensed marriage and family therapist, and one of New York City's most sought-after relationship therapists, she has practiced therapy for more than fifteen years and is the founder and owner of the group practice Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy.Morning Microdose is a podcast curated by Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik, the hosts and founders of Almost 30, a global community, brand, and top rated podcast.With curated clips from the Almost 30 podcast, Morning Mircodose will set the tone for your day, so you can feel inspired through thought provoking conversations…all in digestible episodes that are less than 10 minutes.Wake up with Krista and Lindsey, both literally and spiritually, Monday-Friday.If you enjoyed this conversation, listen to the full episode on Spotify here and on Apple here.

Does your life look “good” on paper, but internally, you're still anxious, still restless, and still trying to prove something to yourself or to someone else? Do you feel like no matter what you accomplish, you can never arrive at that deep sense of peace? Then listen and share this episode with someone you know feels the same. In this important episode, Kayla explores the psychological underpinnings of why many women equate achievement with self-worth and how this can lead to anxiety and burnout. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns and shifting the focus from external validation to internal safety and self-acceptance. Through practical insights and reflective practices, she encourages listeners to redefine success and embrace stillness as a path to healing. Takeaways Moms often feel a push and pull between their roles and personal ambitions. The pressure to achieve can stem from childhood experiences and societal expectations. Success is often equated with love and validation, leading to a cycle of anxiety. Hypervigilance in childhood can lead to adult behaviors of overachievement and anxiety. Recognizing the need for safety over success is crucial for mental well-being. It's important to separate self-worth from achievements and external validation. Practicing stillness and self-acceptance can help rewire the nervous system. Redefining success as alignment with one's true self can lead to fulfillment. Acknowledging the discomfort of rest is a step towards healing. Building a sense of internal safety is essential for personal growth. Keywords motherhood, identity, success, safety, mental health, personal growth, achievement, self-worth, nervous system, self-care References: Episode 167 with Becky Aste: When Talk Therapy Isn't Enough Apply now for Kayla's High Level Coaching Program "From Patterns to Power" ⁠(Limited spots open) --- This episode is sponsored by AirDoctorPro! Go to ⁠www.airdoctorpro.com⁠ and use code HABITS to get up to $300 OFF + a FREE three year warranty! --- If you're loving these episodes, please subscribe and leave a review! Let's Connect: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@kaylafite⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@habitsyoulove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.kaylafite.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ *Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research. This podcast is brought to you by Cloud10 and iHeart Radio. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hypervigilance in the body, whether from chronic pain or previous injury or our beliefs about our health can break our faith in our body and its capabilities. Mobility is the pathway back to body faith and freedom of movement. Basically it's reconnecting with all of the things we took for granted when we were younger. Strength, stamina, balance and coordination. That's our work IN today we're looking at using mobility to stage our own personal body faith revival.It's time to stop working out and start working IN. You found the Work IN podcast for fit-preneurs and their health conscious clients. This podcast is for resilient wellness professionals who want to expand their professional credibility, shake off stress and thrive in a burnout-proof career with conversations on the fitness industry, movement, nutrition, sleep, mindset, nervous system health, yoga, business and so much more. I'm your host Ericka Thomas. I'm a resilience coach and fit-preneur offering an authentic, actionable realistic approach to personal and professional balance for coaches in any format. The Work IN is brought to you by savage grace coaching, bringing resilience through movement, action and accountability. Private sessions, small groups and corporate presentations are open now. Visit savagegracecoaching.com to schedule a call and get all the details. Website & free guideFollow me on Instagram Follow me on FacebookFollow me on Linked IN

How does growing up in foster care shape you as a leader? Chéla Gage is the former Vice President Global Chief Inclusion & Diversity Officer, workforce mental health advocate, inclusion expert, and host of the 1 Million Fosters podcast. Gage joins Morra to share how her childhood in foster care shaped her strengths as a leader, her reflections on anxiety and hypervigilance as an asset, and how she's transforming trauma into purpose. Chéla's journey from foster homes and group homes to senior leadership roles at Nissan, Raytheon, and Starbucks is a testament to the power of claiming your story. She shares how her upbringing honed her ability to read a room, anticipate challenges, and build belonging, skills that have made her invaluable in corporate spaces. Learn more about Chéla Gage: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chelagage/ Key Themes: ✅ Hypervigilance as Leadership Strength: Growing up navigating new homes and caregivers taught Chéla to read the room quickly, identify influencers, and trust her intuition—skills she now uses to drive business impact. ✅ Reframing Trauma into Purpose: Chéla discusses how she once felt shame about her foster care past but now sees it as her superpower, providing her with empathy and perspective leaders need. ✅ Parenting as Reparenting: Motherhood allowed Chéla to give the love she didn't receive as a child back to herself. ✅ The Role of Anxiety: Anxiety kept Chéla alert and prepared, but she learned to manage in therapy, to reduce constant threat scanning and burnout while embracing her “hypervigilance” as a leadership tool. ✅ Creating Belonging in Corporate Spaces: Through her career in recruiting and DEIB leadership, Chéla discovered the importance of recognizing and honoring people's whole stories, not just their resumes, to create true inclusion. Timestamps: 07:09 Hypervigilance as a Superpower 12:59 Transforming Pain into Purpose 18:40 The Role of Anxiety: A Double-Edged Sword 24:14 Inclusion and Belonging 29:51 The Impact of Personal Stories 34:50 Empowering the Foster Community

You're functioning. Performing. Keeping it together.But deep down, your mind is racing. Your shoulders are tense. And you're one more Slack notification away from snapping.If you're looking calm on the outside—but buzzing underneath, it might be high-functioning anxiety—and most women don't even realize they're living in it.Today, we're pulling back the curtain on high-functioning anxiety from a nervous system perspective. I'll walk you through what it really is, how it forms, and the hidden habits that keep you stuck in the loop—plus simple body-based ways to start shifting out.You'll learn: 

Have you created an emotional shield to protect yourself from pain and disappointment? Learn to understand and manage your emotional hypervigilance so you can open yourself up to life.Many people are governed by their emotions, reacting to worst-case scenarios and future-proofing against upset, which can lead to overthinking, hypervigilance, and a striving for perfection and control. We end up creating a prison of protection which impacts our life and relationships. In this episode, we explore why we do this and share steps to dismantle these emotional barriers for more meaningful connections.With your hosts, David James Lees (ordained Taoist monk, emotional and spiritual health teacher) and Alexandra Lees (mindset and business coach).Discover our online consultations, events and shop: https://www.wuweiwisdom.comSubscribe to David's FREE Journal: https://davidjameslees.substack.com/Other related teachings on our YouTube channel that will help you:How to Understand Your Emotions https://youtu.be/9XuoL9pQSR8?si=d81djIwV-uKkpS7MYou Can Cope – Guided Meditation https://youtu.be/TlT6941aztA?si=xeZWXvZ8BxW2y4qTOur INNER CHILD PLAYLIST  https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qqOur GOLDEN THREAD PROCESS PLAYLIST https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9NQ_PWX4zIAsS_wgdRN7QGBKIk54sbyDIs there a question you'd like answered on the show? Submit it at: https://bit.ly/askusyourquestion Join our free Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity  If you love our work, you can now make a small donation to help fund the continued production of our weekly teachings by buying us a 'virtual coffee'! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/wuweiwisdom Book an online Golden Thread Process & Inner Child Consultation with David: https://www.wuweiwisdom.com/therapies-for-body-mind/ Follow us on Instagram: @wuweiwisdomSign up to receive a relaxing guided meditation gift, plus our weekly newsletter + offers via email:  https://www.wuweiwisdom.com/signup Music by Earth Tree HealingDisclaimer: This podcast and any associated teaching and comments shared are not a substitute for professional therapy, mental health care, crisis support, medical advice, doctor diagnosis, or professional healthcare treatment. Our show episodes provide general information for educational purposes only and are offered as suggestions for you and your professional therapist or healthcare advisor to consider and research.

Think time heals all wounds? When it comes to betrayal, that simply isn't true. In this deeply personal and powerful episode, Dr. Debi Silber explores why betrayals from years—or even decades—ago may still be affecting your health, relationships, performance, and self-worth today. Drawing on research from her PhD study and her own healing journey, Dr. Debi reveals the three major discoveries about betrayal trauma, including the proven 5 Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough and the overlooked symptoms of Post Betrayal Syndrome® . If you've ever wondered why you can't seem to “just get over it,” this episode will show you why—and how to finally heal for good. 

EPISODE DESCRIPTION:Sometimes, the hardest parts of our journey are the feelings we can't quite put our finger on, when you can tell something feels off but can't really articulate exactly what's wrong. In this two-part episode, Cathy and I dive deep into four of those sneaky, often invisible struggles that so many of us experience when parenting through substance use and mental health challenges.PART ONE:In part one, we cover the kind of grief that doesn't get a funeral, the common response of hypervigilance and the exhaustion it creates, we share personal stories about the physical toll this emotional marathon has taken on us, and the importance of giving yourself permission to feel it all.Key Takeaways:You're not crazy, wrong, or alone in experiencing these hidden strugglesGrief for dreams and expectations is real grief, even when your child is aliveThe difference between helpful vigilance and exhausting hypervigilancePractical strategies for managing overwhelming emotions without numbing themWhy your nervous system needs intentional care and how to provide itThis podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream CommunityLearn about The Stream, our private online community for momsFind us on Instagram hereFind us on YouTube hereDownload a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and AlcoholHopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.

What if the very strategies that saved you as a child are now sabotaging your adult relationships? In Part 2 of Tony's series on emotional immaturity, discover why your most persistent relationship struggles aren't character flaws—they're outdated survival software still running in the background of your life. Through the powerful ACT metaphor of "The Man in the Hole," you'll understand why working harder with familiar emotional tools only digs you deeper into relationship problems. When someone offers you a ladder out of your patterns, why do you keep trying to dig with it instead? This episode reveals how to recognize when it's time to put down the shovel of old coping strategies and climb toward something completely different. Meet the clients who've made this transformation: the chronic fixer who learned to ask "what do you need from me?" instead of immediately solving, the humor-deflector who shocked a room into silence by sharing something real, and the lifelong people-pleaser whose hands shook as she said "no" for the first time—and discovered her marriage actually got stronger. You'll explore Terry Real's revolutionary insight that childhood adaptations become adult roadblocks, learn the art of re-parenting yourself with compassion instead of criticism, and discover why emotional maturity isn't about never falling into old patterns—it's about recognizing when you're there and having new tools to respond. Whether you struggle with hypervigilance, perfectionism, control issues, or people-pleasing tendencies, this episode offers a shame-free framework for honoring your inner child's brilliant survival strategies while empowering your adult self to take the lead. Because growth isn't about eliminating your protective parts—it's about expanding your repertoire of responses and choosing consciously instead of reacting automatically. Ready to stop digging and start climbing? Your ladder awaits. 00:00 Introduction and Recap 01:23 The Story of Tyler 03:53 Tyler's Realization and Therapy 09:39 Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Metaphor 15:46 Revisiting Emotional Immaturity 19:30 Reparenting Yourself 25:05 Examples of Reparenting in Action 29:00 Exploring Emotional Immaturity Traits 40:54 Recognizing and Validating Emotions 42:47 Dependence on External Validation 48:54 Taking Ownership and Accountability 51:49 Mind Reading and Communication 01:03:55 Hypervigilance and Emotional Containment 01:07:12 Perfectionism and Control 01:11:49 Integration and Emotional Maturity 01:15:57 Real-Life Examples of Emotional Growth 01:22:05 The Journey of Emotional Maturity

What if the very strategies that saved you as a child are now sabotaging your adult relationships? In Part 2 of Tony's series on emotional immaturity, discover why your most persistent relationship struggles aren't character flaws—they're outdated survival software still running in the background of your life. Through the powerful ACT metaphor of "The Man in the Hole," you'll understand why working harder with familiar emotional tools only digs you deeper into relationship problems. When someone offers you a ladder out of your patterns, why do you keep trying to dig with it instead? This episode reveals how to recognize when it's time to put down the shovel of old coping strategies and climb toward something completely different. Meet the clients who've made this transformation: the chronic fixer who learned to ask "what do you need from me?" instead of immediately solving, the humor-deflector who shocked a room into silence by sharing something real, and the lifelong people-pleaser whose hands shook as she said "no" for the first time—and discovered her marriage actually got stronger. You'll explore Terry Real's revolutionary insight that childhood adaptations become adult roadblocks, learn the art of re-parenting yourself with compassion instead of criticism, and discover why emotional maturity isn't about never falling into old patterns—it's about recognizing when you're there and having new tools to respond. Whether you struggle with hypervigilance, perfectionism, control issues, or people-pleasing tendencies, this episode offers a shame-free framework for honoring your inner child's brilliant survival strategies while empowering your adult self to take the lead. Because growth isn't about eliminating your protective parts—it's about expanding your repertoire of responses and choosing consciously instead of reacting automatically. Ready to stop digging and start climbing? Your ladder awaits. 00:00 Introduction and Recap 01:23 The Story of Tyler 03:53 Tyler's Realization and Therapy 09:39 Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Metaphor 15:46 Revisiting Emotional Immaturity 19:30 Reparenting Yourself 25:05 Examples of Reparenting in Action 29:00 Exploring Emotional Immaturity Traits 40:54 Recognizing and Validating Emotions 42:47 Dependence on External Validation 48:54 Taking Ownership and Accountability 51:49 Mind Reading and Communication 01:03:55 Hypervigilance and Emotional Containment 01:07:12 Perfectionism and Control 01:11:49 Integration and Emotional Maturity 01:15:57 Real-Life Examples of Emotional Growth 01:22:05 The Journey of Emotional Maturity