Podcasts about Hypervigilance

Send us Fan MailWhat does the VVHG journey look like for a Six who has spent her career holding space for other people's fear?Wholehearted Enneagram: A Year Through the Types | Type 6 | Episode 3 of 4In this episode, Amy talks with Gwen Sledge, a Wholehearted Coach, former nurse, and Type Six who knows from the inside what it's like to be the steady, reliable, vigilant one... and what it costs. Gwen walks through the Victim, Villain, Hero, and Guide framework through a Six lens, drawing on her own story and her work coaching women who are ready to stop managing everything and start living from something deeper.This episode is especially for the nurses, caregivers, and first responders in this community; the Sixes who have given their vigilance to everyone else and are ready to find out what groundedness feels like for themselves.In this episode:The Six's loud inner committee and how it differs from the One's inner criticHow the three Six subtypes present differently: social, self-pres, and counter-phobicThe victim role: freezing, scenariating, and waiting for the second shoe to dropThe villain role: anxiety projected outward, resentment, and relinquishing responsibility, then resenting itWhat it looks like when a Six steps into the hero — trusting discernment, coming back to center"Lord, I trust you, but I don't trust me," and why that's still a trust problemThe guide role: holding space without gripping, and relinquishing an inflated sense of responsibilityThe lie most Sixes carry: "It's all up to me""Fear is not the boss of me" — the truth statement that counters itWhat those who love a Six most need to hear: don't dismiss usA special word for nurses and caregivers in the Six communityYou are braver than your fear. You don't have to scan the horizon alone.Calendar - Learn more/connect - mention podcast for a 25% discountEmail - gwen@enneagramwithgwen.com IG - @enneagramwithgwenFB - Enneagram with GwenLinkedIn - Gwen SledgeNewsletter - Stay in touch!Free Resources: 21 Verses of PeaceEnneagram at a GlanceNurses Enneagram Guide: Thriving at Work and BeyondBurnout QuizSupport the showRESOURCES FOR YOU:Join the Waitlist for 1:1 Coaching with Amy Wickshttps://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicksNot sure about your Enneagram Type? Start here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagramquizEnnea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram(free course + printables)https://bit.ly/Enneagram101GuideConnect with Amy:IGWebsite

Stop Paying the Toll for Disasters That Haven't HappenedDo you find yourself constantly scanning the horizon, waiting for the other shoe to drop? That familiar weight of hypervigilance—bracing for a medical diagnosis, a broken relationship, or sudden job loss—can completely exhaust your nervous system.In today's session, we explore why waiting for a crisis is often more draining than the crisis itself, and how you can gently step away from the "window" of fear and back into the safety of the present moment.

Text Dr. Lenz any feedback or questions When Fibromyalgia Masks Autism and ADHD: Diagnostic Overshadowing and Neuroplastic PainThe script argues that fibromyalgia's pain, fatigue, and brain fog can act as “diagnostic overshadowing,” masking underlying undiagnosed autism and/or ADHD. Referencing Dr. Megan Anna Neff's video on how autism can hide ADHD, the narrator (a physician) connects neurodivergent traits to central sensitization and nociplastic pain, suggesting a nervous system “born” with high sensory volume that overheats from lifelong adaptation to a neurotypical world. Examples include autistic rigidity and routines masking ADHD while fueling hypervigilance; combined ADHD task paralysis and autistic inertia contributing to “fibro fog”; special interests functioning as regulating deep focus but driving boom-bust cycles and stress on reentry; and layered masking that ends in collapse framed as flares. The script concludes that recognizing autism/ADHD improves self-understanding and guides lifestyle changes to reduce symptoms.00:00 Fibro as Medical Mystery00:35 Diagnostic Overshadowing01:08 Neurodivergence Behind Pain01:44 Autism Hiding ADHD02:30 Central Sensitization Link03:05 Rigidity Mask Explained04:45 Hypervigilance and Stress05:15 Task Paralysis and Inertia07:06 Special Interests Solar System08:39 Defensive Deep Focus Cycle10:08 The Grand Masking Trap11:50 Self Understanding as Treatment12:23 Closing and Next StepsClick here for the YouTube Channel  Support the showWhen I started this podcast and YouTube Channel—and the book that came before it—I had my patients in mind. Office visits are short, but understanding complex, often misunderstood conditions like fibromyalgia takes time. That's why I created this space: to offer education, validation, and hope.  If you've been told fibromyalgia “isn't real” or that it's “all in your head,” know this—I see you. I believe you. This podcast aims to affirm your experience and explain the science behind it. Whether you live with fibromyalgia, care for someone who does, or are a healthcare professional looking to better support patients, you'll find trusted, evidence-based insights here, drawn from my 29+ years as an MD.Please remember to talk with your doctor about your symptoms and care. This content doesn't replace per...

​Topics covered include:​ Alcoholism​, domestic violence​, hypervigilance​, compassion​, motherhood​, self-abandonment​, being a carer​, death and loss​, grief​, faith​, spirituality​, forgiveness​, love​, safety​, self-worth​, self-sabotage​, overwhelm​, healing​.This week I'm joined by Master Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner, Executive Coach and founder of The Navigation Coach, Tara Rafter.Tara lives in Mayo with her husband Kevin and their son Kai.In this deeply honest conversation, Tara shares the story of her childhood growing up in a home impacted by alcoholism and domestic violence. She speaks candidly about the hypervigilance she developed from a young age, the lasting impact those experiences had on her life, and the remarkable compassion she holds for her father despite the challenges her family faced.Tara's story is one of resilience, but also of love, forgiveness and understanding. She reflects on her relationship with both of her parents, who died far too young. Her father passed away at the age of 58, while her beloved mother​, who was her anchor throughout life​, lived with COPD for several years before she died.We also explore motherhood, self-abandonment, self-worth, self-sabotage, overwhelm​ and what it means to truly feel safe in yourself.Alongside the more difficult chapters, this conversation is full of warmth and humour. Tara talks about her love of music​ and heading off to gigs on her own, her deep faith and the practices that have helped her navigate life's challenges.You can connect with Tara here:Website: thenavigationcoach.comEmail: tara@thenavigationcoach.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Overthinking is not a cognitive habit, it is hypervigilance, the adult continuation of the childhood emotional forecasting system used to predict and prevent caregiver harm. You are not thinking, you are scanning.This video walks through what overthinking actually is, why meditation, journaling, and mindfulness have never reached it, and how the loop in your head is the adult expression of a job your nervous system was given at age four. If your brain will not shut up, this names why.Kenny Weiss is the creator of the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™. This teaching maps overthinking to hypervigilance, the survival persona, the emotional forecasting system installed in childhood, and the body-state re-training that finally quiets the loop.Overthinking is not a cognitive habit and not a personality trait. It is hypervigilance, the adult continuation of the childhood emotional forecasting system the child used to predict and prevent caregiver harm. The brain is not stuck on the topic, it is scanning for danger.Children raised by unpredictable, volatile, depressed, addicted, withdrawn, or critical caregivers were given a second job, predict the adult so you can adjust yourself in time to stay safe. That forecasting system did not turn off in adulthood, it just changed targets to the partner, the boss, and the inbox.Generic interventions cannot reach hypervigilance at the source. Meditation watches the thoughts, but the thoughts are not the problem, the perceived threat is. Journaling helps the loop be understood, but the loop is not asking to be understood, it is asking to be safe. The limbic system does not respond to language, it responds to safety.The Emotional Authenticity Method™ addresses overthinking at the body-state level. Its six steps trace the loop from somatic down-regulation through earliest memory to Feelization, where the nervous system builds a new emotional addiction to safety instead of to scanning.Kenny Weiss is a relationship, communication, and childhood trauma recovery specialist and the creator of the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™. He is the author of Your Journey To Success and Your Journey To Being Yourself.TOPICS COVERED: how to stop overthinking, overthinking, why my brain will not shut up, hypervigilance, emotional forecasting, scanning instead of thinking, racing thoughts, childhood survival strategy, Worst Day Cycle, Authentic Self Cycle, Emotional Authenticity Method, Kenny Weiss, survival persona, anxiety, nervous system regulation0:00 — The 3 a.m. Loop and Why It Will Not Stop1:30 — The Client Still Standing at the Top of the Stairs3:30 — Hypervigilance and the Childhood Forecasting System6:00 — You Are Not Thinking, You Are Scanning8:00 — The Worst Day Cycle Underneath the Loop10:30 — Why Meditation, Journaling, and Mindfulness Cannot Reach It12:30 — The Authentic Self Cycle Around the Loop15:00 — The Emotional Authenticity Method as Safety Re-Training18:00 — Identity Close

390: This special Mental Health Compilation brings together highlights from conversations with Joe Hudson, Maggie Nick, Gabby Reece, and Dr. Nicole LePera. Through these powerful discussions, we explore emotional regulation, resilience, nervous system health, reparenting the inner child, and the patterns that shape our relationships, behaviors, and sense of self. We discuss practical tools for managing stress and overwhelm, breaking generational cycles, building emotional awareness, and creating healthier habits that support long-term mental well-being. Whether you're looking to better understand yourself or navigate life's challenges with more confidence and clarity, this episode offers some of the most impactful mental health insights we've shared on the podcast. → Leave Us A Voice Message!  Topics Discussed: → Emotional regulation and nervous system health → Why we suppress emotions and how it impacts our well-being → Breaking generational patterns and cycles → The "good kid" mindset, perfectionism, and people-pleasing → Parenting, shame, and emotional resilience → Reparenting your inner child → How childhood experiences shape adult relationships → Building self-awareness and emotional intelligence → Vulnerability, resilience, and personal growth → Managing stress, overwhelm, and emotional triggers → Identity, achievement, and self-worth → Healing old wounds and creating lasting change Sponsored By:  → OGEE | Thanks to today's sponsor, Ogee: A higher standard for beauty. Go to https://ogee.com/BEWELL and use code BEWELL to get 20% off certified organic makeup that performs like luxury. → Be Well By Kelly Protein Powder & Essentials | Get $10 off your order with PODCAST10 at https://bewellbykelly.com. → Branch Basics | First-time customers can save 15% on a Starter Kit with code BEWELLPODCAST at branchbasics.com/BEWELLPODCAST.  → Kosterina | You can shop all my favorites at https://www.kosterina.com/bewell and use code KELLY for 15% off your first order. → Shop minnow's new apré-ski capsule collection at https://shopminnow.com and enter code MEETMINNOW15 at checkout to receive 15% off your first order. Timestamps:  → 00:00:00 - Introduction → 00:01:38 - Joe Hudson: Why We Suppress Emotions → 00:06:12 - Anger, Stress & Emotional Expression → 00:12:08 - Emotional Health, Relationships + Connection → 00:18:45 - Parenting, Vulnerability & Nervous System Regulation → 00:20:23 - Maggie Nick: The "Good Kid" Identity → 00:30:48 - Perfectionism, People-Pleasing + Shame → 00:35:02 - Breaking Generational Patterns → 00:39:14 - Why Children Internalize Criticism → 00:42:24 - Gabrielle Reece: Resilience, Adversity + Growth → 00:47:18 - Identity Beyond Achievement → 00:52:04 - Hypervigilance, Childhood Experiences + Relationships → 00:56:42 - Success, Balance + Life Priorities → 01:00:26 - Dr. Nicole LePera: Reparenting The Inner Child → 01:04:18 - Childhood Conditioning & Survival Patterns → 01:08:12 - People-Pleasing, Attachment + Emotional Triggers → 01:12:35 - Healing Old Wounds & Creating Lasting Change → 01:16:28 - Final ThoughtsFurther Listening:  → Repressed Emotions, Anxiety + Why Self-Improvement Doesn't Exist | Joe Hudson → Stop Hustling for Worth, Heal People-Pleasing, + Feel Enough | Maggie Nick → Gabby Reece on Wellness, Marriage, Motherhood & Mental Strength → Reparenting Your Inner Child, Self-Abandonment + Nervous System Healing | Dr. Nicole LePera Check Out: Joe Hudson:  → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joehudson_aoa?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== → http://artofaccomplishment.com Maggie Nick:  → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maggiewithperspectacles/reels/ → TikTok:  → New Book:  Gabby Rece:  → https://gabriellereece.com/ → Instagram Dr. Nicole LePera → Website: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/ → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist → New Book: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/books/reparenting-the-inner-child/ Dr. Nicole LePera → Website: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/ → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist → New Book: Reparenting The Inner Child Check Out Kelly: → Instagram → Youtube → Facebook

You check their phone. Their location. Their social media. Their messages. Their tone of voice. The time they arrived home. The way they answered a question. The hesitation before they replied. And even when you find nothing, the urge eventually comes back. So why do you keep checking? In this episode of After the Affair, Luke explores one of the most common but misunderstood behaviours following betrayal: the compulsion to monitor, investigate, and search for reassurance. At first glance, checking appears logical. After all, you were lied to. You were blindsided. The person you trusted broke that trust. Of course your brain wants to make sure it never happens again. But what if checking isn't actually creating safety? What if it's doing something else entirely? Luke explores the hidden relationship between checking and uncertainty, why the nervous system becomes trapped in threat detection mode after betrayal, and why the relief checking provides is often temporary rather than transformative. Most importantly, this episode explores the deeper question beneath the behaviour itself: What are you hoping checking will eventually give you? Because understanding the answer to that question may reveal far more about your healing than any phone, message, location history, or social media account ever could. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why checking becomes such a powerful habit after betrayal The difference between safety and uncertainty reduction What your nervous system is trying to achieve when it urges you to check Why finding "nothing" often doesn't make you feel better The hidden emotional cost of constant monitoring How checking can unintentionally reinforce anxiety Why trust and certainty are not the same thing The difference between investigation and anxiety management What checking may be preventing you from focusing on How self-trust becomes an essential part of recovery A Powerful Question From This Episode "What are you hoping checking will eventually give you?" Not what you're looking for. Not what you might find. Not who you're checking. What are you hoping it will give you? Safety? Certainty? Control? Relief? Reassurance? Because once you understand the need beneath the behaviour, you can begin addressing the real problem rather than managing the symptom. Key Takeaways ✅ Checking is a normal response to betrayal. ✅ Your nervous system is trying to prevent you from being blindsided again. ✅ Checking provides temporary relief, not lasting safety. ✅ The brain often mistakes uncertainty reduction for security. ✅ Finding nothing rarely resolves the deeper fear. ✅ Hypervigilance can become exhausting emotionally and physically. ✅ Trust cannot be rebuilt through monitoring alone. ✅ The urge to check does not automatically mean something is wrong. ✅ Recovery involves learning to tolerate uncertainty without immediately acting on it. ✅ The ultimate goal is not trusting them blindly, it is rebuilding trust in yourself. Why This Episode Matters Many betrayed partners spend months, or even years, trapped in a cycle of checking. Checking feels responsible. Checking feels protective. Checking feels like you're doing something. But over time, it can become a prison. Not because you're weak. Not because you're obsessive. But because your nervous system learned a painful lesson and is desperately trying to keep you safe. This episode explores why checking is often an attempt to manage anxiety rather than gather information, and why genuine recovery requires something deeper than monitoring another person's behaviour. Because eventually the question stops being: "Can I trust them?" And becomes: "Can I trust myself?" Resources & Support If you're navigating the aftermath of infidelity and looking for support, guidance, and practical tools to help you move forward, Luke offers both private coaching and community support.

So many people deeply crave connection… while simultaneously being terrified of being fully seen. Not the polished version. Not the “I'm fine” version. Not the carefully curated version we show the world. But the real version. The vulnerable version. The imperfect version. The human version. In this deeply honest and emotionally powerful episode of Getting Through the Week, Dr. KellyRae explores emotional masking, vulnerability, survival identities, relationship wounds, and the fear many people carry around truly being seen and loved for who they are beneath the armor. This conversation dives into:

Send us Fan MailDid you know that up to 80% of physical health complaints are linked to stress and anxiety? What if being stuck in fight-or-flight mode is the very thing preventing the changes you're trying to make?In this episode of the Autonomic Homeostasis Activation (AHA) Podcast, Tom Pals and Ruth Lorensson explore the sympathetic nervous system, the neuroscience of stress, and why chronic nervous system activation can keep us trapped in patterns of anxiety, hypervigilance, exhaustion, and reactivity.Far from being the enemy, the sympathetic nervous system is a brilliantly designed protective mechanism. The challenge is that modern life—24-hour news cycles, social media, political uncertainty, work pressures, and constant stimulation—can keep this system activated long after a genuine threat has passed.Tom and Ruth unpack the difference between reacting and responding, why real transformation requires access to the parasympathetic nervous system, and what it actually means to be stuck in survival mode. Ruth also shares her personal experience of hypervigilance following a serious injury and the intentional practices she has used to help her nervous system rediscover safety.In this episode:• What the sympathetic nervous system actually does• The real meaning of "sympathetic" — and why it has nothing to do with sympathy• Why fight or flight is protective, not the problem• How hypervigilance keeps us stuck in survival mode• Why chronic stress impacts both physical and emotional health• Managing versus adapting — and why only one creates lasting change• Practical tools for nervous system regulation, including breathwork, grounding, and intentional recovery• Why intentionality matters in today's stress-saturated worldIf you're interested in neuroscience, nervous system regulation, emotional resilience, trauma recovery, stress healing, anxiety, or the mind-body connection, this episode offers a practical and compassionate framework for understanding how the body responds to stress—and how lasting change becomes possible.About the AHA PodcastThe Autonomic Homeostasis Activation Podcast explores neuroscience, emotional resilience, trauma recovery, nervous system regulation, stress healing, and whole-person wellbeing. Through conversations with researchers, practitioners, and thought leaders, we examine how the brain and body work together to support health, healing, and human flourishing.New to AHA? Start with:• Autonomic Nervous System Explained• Interoception Explained• Why You Don't Feel SafeSupport the showThanks for listening!You can follow us onFacebook Instagram Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts Check out the Autonomic Healing Website & InnerWorkings WebsiteEmail Tom thomasjpals@innerworkings.orgEmail Ruth ruth@bridgeandrhino.comSupport usWe appreciate you!

In this episode of Talk Dizzy To Me, vestibular physical therapists Dr. Abbie Ross, PT, NCS and Dr. Danielle Tolman, PT sit down with neurologist Dr. Kristin Steenerson to unpack Persistent Postural Perceptual Dizziness, also known as 3PD or PPPD.If you feel dizzy, floaty, rocking, disoriented, or visually overwhelmed most days — especially in places like grocery stores, airports, busy restaurants, or while scrolling screens — this episode explains what may be happening in the brain and nervous system.Dr. Steenerson breaks down the diagnostic criteria for 3PD, why symptoms can continue even after the original vestibular problem improves, how 3PD overlaps with vestibular migraine, and why treatment often requires a combination of education, vestibular therapy, medication, cognitive strategies, lifestyle support, and gradual exposure.This conversation also addresses why 3PD is sometimes misunderstood, how hypervigilance plays a role, and why there is real hope for recovery and improved quality of life. Hosted by:

This week, we meet a daughter who grew up in a home marked by fear, hypervigilance, emotional instability, and domestic violence. Although her childhood looked “good” from the outside, her nervous system carried a very different reality underneath it.We're talking about:Hypervigilance and nervous system survival responsesWhy safe situations can still feel unsafeAnxiety, scanning, and emotional monitoringThis episode is for daughters who learned to stay alert in order to survive and are now trying to understand why their bodies still feel unsafe long after childhood ended.

#215 - You're “Better”… So Why Do You Still Feel Like This? With Amy Kurtz   At some point, you get past the diagnosis. You finally start to feel physically better or the flare passes. And everyone—including you—thinks: okay, this is where life goes back to normal. Except… it doesn't. In this episode, I'm joined again by Amy Kurtz—patient advocate, bestselling author of Kicking Sick, and her new book But You Look Fine—and we're talking about the healing phase no one prepares you for: What happens after the illness because for a lot of people, that's where a different kind of struggle begins. Amy shares her experience of finally getting answers after years of chronic illness (we're talking 30+ doctors), beginning to heal physically, and then being hit with something she didn't expect: Debilitating anxiety. Hypervigilance. A nervous system that refused to stand down. Even though she moved beyond the illness, her body had been in survival mode for so long, it didn't know how to be anything else. What we unpack in this episode: The “in-between” phase of healing—when you're not sick, but you're not okay either Why your nervous system doesn't automatically catch up just because your labs look better The concept of Medical Trauma Brain (MTB)—Amy's term for the imprint chronic illness leaves behind How years of survival mode can turn into anxiety, fear, or obsessive control even after you improve The grief that comes with lost time, missed seasons, and a life that didn't go the way you thought Why healing isn't just physical—and what happens when we ignore the emotional and neurological layers The connection between chronic illness and trauma (including how this differs from traditional PTSD) What it actually looks like to start regulating your nervous system in a practical, doable way We also go here: The subtle ways people self-abandon in medical settings—and how to stop doing that Why “doctor knows best” can keep you stuck (and what to do instead) The fawn response in healthcare—and why it feels so hard to advocate for yourself How to choose the right practitioner for you (not just the most recommended one) The reality that 80% of your healing happens outside the doctor's office   A few moments to listen for: 08:30 – Her husband's provocative question that made Amy realize she wasn't actually “better” 14:00 – What Medical Trauma Brain really is—and why you've never heard of it 19:00 – Living in constant fear even after your body improves 27:00 – The fawn response and why patients stay in bad medical relationships 36:30 – “It all starts with peeing” (stay with us—it's actually profound) 44:00 – Why meditation can feel impossible—and what that tells you 52:00 – What Amy would do differently if she could go back   The part that stays with you: This idea that you can spend years fighting to get better… finally get there… and still feel trapped. If this sounds familiar, you're not failing. It's just that no one told you there's an aftermath to surviving something so hard. Amy calls it the “shadowlands”—that space where you look fine on the outside, but internally, your system is still bracing for impact. If you've ever thought: Why can't I just relax? Why am I still on edge? Why do I feel like something's about to go wrong—even when it's not? This episode will put language to that. If this is you right now, there's a way to actually teach your body that it's safe again. And the steps are easier than you think. This conversation isn't just about chronic illness. It's about what happens when you've been in survival mode for so long that you don't know how to turn it off. And how to start finding your way back.

What does it take to stop living the life you were handed and start building the one you actually want? In this episode of Sense of Self, Dr. Gowri Aragam sits down with Erin Gums, certified coach, breath work guide, and founder of Tap Into Your Wellspring, for one of the most honest, courageous conversations this show has ever hosted. Erin grew up in Oakland, California, the child of a Black father with deep Bay Area roots and a Chamorro mother from the Northern Mariana Islands. She was sensitive, perceptive, and wired for connection in a world that didn't always know what to do with that. What followed was a years-long journey through family fracture, identity searching, compulsive achievement, and the slow, hard work of learning to trust herself. This episode explores what it means to carry silence, to perform comfort around people who hurt you, and to finally choose your own safety, even when it costs you everything familiar. Erin's story is not easy, but it is deeply human. And for anyone who has ever felt caught between the family they came from and the person they're becoming, it will feel like being seen. Content Warning: This episode contains discussion of childhood sexual abuse and family trauma. If you or someone you love is struggling, please call or text 988. About Erin: Erin Gums is a certified coach and breath work guide and the founder of Tap Into Your Wellspring. Her work supports people in moving through trauma, reclaiming their sense of self, and building lives rooted in safety and authenticity. https://www.tapintoyourwellspring.com/https://www.instagram.com/tapintoyourwellspring 00:00: Welcome and Guest Intro 02:37: Erin's Name and Family Roots 04:14: Oakland Upbringing and Big Family 05:11: Mixed Heritage and Identity Questions 11:06: Sensitivity, Trauma, and Finding Safety 27:50: Outsider in Privilege 28:52: Hypervigilance and Hope 31:05: Achieving to Belong 33:35: Career Collapse as Wake-Up Call 36:20: Leaving Family and Starting to Heal 38:06: Breaking Silence and Going No Contact 43:35: Grandmother, Closure, and Moving On 47:40: LA Rebirth and Inner Work 53:35: Community, Purpose, and Love 59:25: Who Erin Is Today A note on ethics, process, and safety: The individuals in this podcast have graciously shared their stories and it's important to note that while these discussions are enriching and enlightening, they are not a substitute for therapy or mental healthcare.Please note that each guest has given their consent to participate, had full control over what aspects of their journey were shared, and either currently engages in therapy or coaching, or has done so in the past.Thanks from all of us at Sense of Self

Being "First, Only, Different" in academic medicine and public health forces us to stay incredibly sharp. We have to remain alert just to ensure we aren't shortchanged on resources, pay, or structural support. But over time, this defensive mindset creeps into areas where it doesn't belong. When you are constantly on guard at your institution, you naturally start fixating on what everyone else is doing with their research, funding, and careers. It is an exhausting trap. In this encore episode, Kemi breaks down why this happens and how staying in survival mode is quietly derailing your peace of mind and your progress toward a sustainable career. Applications are now open for the July 2026 cohort of Get That Grant®. The wait is over! If you've been thinking about joining us and are ready to get clear on what matters most for your career and build a strategy that reflects that clarity, now is the time. This is our final cohort before 2027. Apply here. If you'd like to learn more foundational career navigation concepts for women of color in academic medicine and public health, sign up for our KD Coaching Foundations Series: www.kemidoll.com/foundations. Mentioned: New England Journal of Medicine Article: Structural Solutions for the Rarest of the Rare — Underrepresented-Minority Faculty in Medical SubspecialtiesText Dr. Kemi directly.

Trauma is much more than a distressing event from the past. It can leave lasting imprints on the nervous system, shape our relationships, influence our sense of safety, and affect our body, emotions, and behavior.In this episode, I speak with Norwegian trauma therapist Kolbjørn Vardal about modern trauma therapy, the neurobiology of trauma, and the principles of Relational Trauma Therapy.We discuss how trauma develops, why it is not the event itself but the individual's experience and processing of it that matters, and how relationships play a central role in healing and recovery.In this episode, we discuss:

On this episode of Ask Kati Anything, licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton is joined by globally recognized keynote speaker and wellness expert Alison Canavan. Alison is the creator of the Energy Bank Method, a framework built on the foundational belief that human energy—not time—is our absolute most valuable currency. In this raw and insightful conversation, Alison shares her transformative journey through the high-pressure international modeling industry as a teenager, navigating addiction, recovering from severe burnout, and addressing systemic mental health challenges. Together, Kati and Alison pull back the curtain on generational family gaslighting and look closely at why so many of us grow up treating constant anxiety and hypervigilance as a badge of love. They unpack the toxic trap of learned compliance, look at the overlapping clinical symptoms of anxiety, ADHD, and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), and explain why passive family systems leave adults entirely blind to the process of proper conflict repair. Tune in to discover how to stop playing an active role in your own ongoing suffering, how to shift from default nervous system reactivity into a state of presence, and how to rewrite your emotional blueprint using non-judgmental awareness. Shopping with our sponsors helps support Ask Kati Anything • Rebound - virtual treatment for PTSD. Please visit https://hellorebound.com/askkatianything • Reddit - Download the Reddit app today! More Alison Caravan! https://alisoncanavan.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Send us Fan MailThis episode is about something I believe quietly destroys more lives than most people realize.It is not always trauma.It is not always failure.It is not always lack of opportunity.Sometimes, it is our unconscious reaction to everything.In this solo episode of Alison Answers, I'm talking about the difference between reacting to life and intentionally creating it.Because so many of us think we are thinking things through, but what we are really doing is reacting.I share insights from my book The Wake Up Call and walk through how we move from reaction mode into creation.In this episode, I talk about:- Why most people are reacting more than they realize- Why worry is a form of visualization- How your brain prepares your body for what you repeatedly focus on- Why fear can start to feel like wisdom- How hypervigilance trains the brain to search for danger- Why calm can feel unsafe when your nervous system is used to chaos- How language shapes identity- Why mediocrity is so expensive- How repeated thoughts become practiced identity- Why creation requires action, not just wishful thinking- How to stop rehearsing fear and start creating the life you actually wantIf you have been feeling anxious, tired, stuck, uninspired, or like you are constantly reacting to life instead of leading it, I want this episode to be a wake-up call.Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:58 Stop reacting and start creating02:41 The thing quietly destroying people's lives03:28 Thinking vs reacting04:18 Old programming, fear, and childhood conditioning05:21 Rehearsing disaster and worst-case scenarios06:40 A tool to calm the body and interrupt reaction08:26 Reacting to life vs creating it intentionally09:03 Rehearsed fear vs rehearsed future10:03 Worry is visualization11:18 What world is your brain preparing you for?12:33 How focus strengthens neural pathways12:57 Hypervigilance and searching for danger15:08 When rehearsed fear starts to feel like wisdom17:06 Why people become addicted to reaction18:53 Why calm can feel unsafe20:09 Creation requires presence21:55 Letting go of struggle and seeking wisdom22:21 Why society rewards mediocrity23:49 Wanting more does not make you shallow26:14 How people slowly settle for less27:47 The real cost of mediocrity30:01 Identity is built through repetition30:51 Why language matters31:55 How to interrupt painful identity patterns33:30 Creation requires action35:08 Life is built one thought, one feeling, one breath at a time37:08 The inherited story vs the consciously created story38:11 Are you reacting or creating?39:24 Take charge of your life39:51 Closing message and how to support the podcastConnect with Alison:Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison's book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources:Lager Counseling ServicesCall: 516-221-2123Text: (914) 363-0381Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential)Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org

Explore Your Attachment Style With Thais Gibson. Access All Courses, Live Webinars & Q&As Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Access: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-06-01-26&el=podcast Have you ever felt like love feels… intense, confusing, and even a little unsafe? For a Fearful Avoidant, love isn't always calm or secure. It can feel overwhelming, exposing, and even threatening, especially when things start to get real. You might crave deep connection, but at the same time feel pressure, fear, or the urge to pull away — leaving you stuck in a cycle of emotional highs and lows. Episode Summary In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down what love actually feels like for a Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style and why it can be so confusing and emotionally intense. You'll learn how early childhood experiences shape Fearful Avoidant patterns, why hypervigilance becomes a survival strategy, and how this creates pressure, perfectionism, and emotional overwhelm in relationships. Thais also explains how these patterns can lead to frustration, resentment, and misinterpreting normal relationship dynamics along with practical steps to start creating more safety, clarity, and balance in your relationships. Key Takeaways ✔️ Love can feel both deeply desired… and deeply unsafe at the same time. ✔️ Hypervigilance makes you constantly scan for problems — even when things are okay. ✔️ You may confuse calm, stable love with something being “wrong.” ✔️ The pressure to keep love perfect can lead to burnout and resentment. ✔️ Many of these patterns come from fear, not reality. ✔️ You can start healing by questioning your stories and communicating your needs. Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Monica Yearwood is a relationship trauma recovery expert and holistic practitioner who serves high-achieving women. She holds advanced certifications in trauma recovery and holistic healing, with specializations in somatic parts work, Ayurvedic medicine, and detoxification therapies. Monica is also the architect of the Resilient for Life methodology — a system designed to help women who are winning everywhere else finally heal from the trauma of toxic and narcissistic relationships, regulate their nervous system, stop the rumination loops, and rebuild the self-trust that betrayal tries to steal.In this episode, we cover:- Why high-achieving women have higher exposure to narcissistic dynamics — and why the trauma so often gets met with self-blame instead of validation- The difference between resistance to the word "trauma" vs. the word "abuse," and why naming abuse is often what slows women down from leaving- Why self-blame after betrayal isn't just a thinking problem — it's a nervous system shame reflex- The "I Know" exercise — building a fact-based inventory so your mind stops re-interpreting what happened- The "I Want" exercise — a 15-minute practice that pulls your attention back from what you don't want to what actually brings you joy- Hypervigilance, walking on eggshells, and how a long-term partnership can blow up in one moment of discovery- Emotions as neurological processes with a beginning, a middle, and an end — and why we get stuck when that cycle never completes- How suppressed emotional charge shows up physically — headaches, backaches, digestive issues, autoimmune conditions- The identity crisis that hits after divorce — especially for women who never thought divorce was on the table- Lymphatic health for women 35–55 navigating toxic relationships — rhodiola, skeletal movement, breath workConnect with Monica:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicayearwoodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@monicayearwoodPlease remember to rate, review, and follow the show – and share with a friend!Subscribe to the newsletter:https://mailchi.mp/amyedwards/sign-up-to-amys-newsletterCheck out our new Comedy Wellness Podcast: Anything But Mid, cohosted with Whitney Stropp:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/anything-but-mid/id1849386215https://www.youtube.com/@AnythingButMidFind Amy's affiliates and discount codes: https://amyedwards.info/affiliatepageAll links: ⁠⁠⁠amyedwards.info⁠⁠⁠ - https://amyedwards.info/Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@realamyedward - ⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/realamyedwards/Fight For Her: https://www.fightfortheforgotten.org/fight-for-herTikTok:⁠⁠⁠ @themagicbabe⁠⁠⁠ -  https://www.tiktok.com/@themagicbabe?lang=enYouTube:@TheAmyEdwardsShow -  https://www.youtube.com/c/theamyedwardsshowPodcast: ⁠⁠⁠The Amy Edwards Show Podcast⁠⁠⁠ - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-amy-edwards-show/id1543432633Free Course:⁠⁠⁠ The Ageless Mindset⁠⁠⁠ - https://best-you-life.teachable.com/p/the-ageless-mindset-the-ultimate-guide-to-look-younger-feel-happierFull Course: ⁠⁠⁠The Youthfulness Hack⁠⁠⁠ - https://best-you-life.teachable.com/p/the-youthfulness-hack Amy's hair by ⁠https://www.thecollectiveatx.com⁠Podcast editing by https://podcastmagician.com/Get my FREE course "The Ageless Mindset: The Ultimate Guide to Look Younger and Feel Happier!" HERE: ⁠https://best-you-life.teachable.com/p/the-ageless-mindset-the-ultimate-guide-to-look-younger-feel-happier⁠Get the full course “The Youthfulness Hack: The Secret System to Reverse Aging Fast and Create a New, Radiant You!” Out now! ⁠https://best-you-life.teachable.com/p/the-youthfulness-hack⁠

What if your dating anxiety isn't actually about the person you're dating? In this deeply validating and eye-opening coaching session, Christine works with Rebecca, who experiences intense anxiety, panic attacks, hypervigilance, and worst-case-scenario thinking whenever dating begins to feel emotionally significant. As relationships move beyond the casual stage, Rebecca finds herself constantly scanning for danger—analyzing every response, questioning whether she can trust the person, and struggling to feel safe enough to relax into connection. But as Christine gently uncovers the deeper root, it becomes clear: this isn't really about dating. It's about a nervous system that was wired for survival in childhood. Growing up with an alcoholic mother and a bipolar father, Rebecca learned early that safety depended on staying hyper-aware, emotionally prepared, and constantly scanning for potential threats. Now, even healthy intimacy activates the same survival patterns her nervous system once needed to survive. Together, they explore the difference between fear and true desire, how childhood programming impacts adult relationships, and why compassion—not self-criticism—is the key to nervous system healing. If you've ever questioned your reactions in dating, wondered why intimacy feels so activating, or tried to "logic" your way out of anxiety, this episode will help you understand yourself on a much deeper level. Press play to learn why your nervous system may be protecting you from a past that's already over—and how compassion can begin to change everything. Consider / Ask Yourself Do you become hypervigilant or anxious once dating starts feeling emotionally significant? Are you constantly scanning for red flags or worst-case scenarios in relationships? Do you struggle to tell the difference between fear and intuition? Are you trying to "think" your way out of nervous system activation instead of compassionately supporting yourself through it? Key Insights and A-Ha's Hypervigilance is often a survival response learned in childhood—not proof something is wrong now. A nervous system wired for instability can interpret intimacy as danger. Logic and reassurance rarely regulate fear-based nervous system patterns. Compassion and validation create more healing than self-criticism or over-analysis. Healing begins when we stop fighting our reactions and start understanding them. How to Deepen the Work Notice when your nervous system shifts into scanning, bracing, or worst-case-scenario thinking. Practice validating your feelings instead of immediately trying to fix or explain them. Ask yourself: "Is this decision coming from fear or from truth?" Spend intentional time reconnecting with your inner child and nervous system safety. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Emerge Membership + Nervous System Support Tools Christine references tapping, inner child work, emotional regulation practices, and compassionate nervous system healing throughout the episode. Learn more at: christinehassler.com Apply to Be Coached on the Show Interested in being coached live on the podcast? Apply here: christinehassler.com/waitlist Social Media + Resources:  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

CONNECT WITH CHARLENE On Instagram @mscharlenebyars ([https://www.instagram.com/mscharlenebyars] On YouTube @chosentraining ([https://www.youtube.com/@lovestorieswithcharlenebyars](https://www.youtube.com/@lovestorieswithcharlenebyars)) Work with me HERE ([https://charlenebyars.com/](https://charlenebyars.com/)) CONNECT WITH DR. RACHEL GREENBERG On Instagram @heydrrachel ([https://www.instagram.com/heydrrachel] Website ([https://theworkwithdrrachel.com](https://theworkwithdrrachel.com)) In this deeply healing episode, licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Rachel Greenberg joins Charlene Byars to unpack why so many women keep repeating painful relationship patterns — even when they know better. From anxious attachment and hyper-independence to nervous system conditioning and childhood trauma, Dr. Rachel explains how our early experiences shape the love we accept, the partners we choose, and why healthy relationships can sometimes feel “boring” after chaos. Together, Charlene and Dr. Rachel dive into the psychology behind toxic attraction, emotional healing, feminine energy, self-abandonment, and how women can finally feel safe, secure, and deeply loved in relationships. If you've ever wondered why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, struggle to soften in relationships, or feel stuck in unhealthy dating cycles… this episode is for you. We cover in this episode: 0:00 — Intro & teaser clips 1:18 — Charlene introduces Dr. Rachel Greenberg 3:10 — How Dr. Rachel got into relationship psychology 5:12 — Losing her father & childhood trauma 8:04 — How family dysfunction shapes adult relationships 11:20 — Why most people never learn healthy relationship skills 15:10 — Grace for our parents & inherited trauma 18:42 — Why healing relationships isn't “easy” work 22:08 — Charlene's transformation journey after divorce 25:14 — How relationship patterns actually form 28:33 — Overgiving, people-pleasing & self-abandonment 31:07 — Why women repeat unhealthy relationship cycles 34:12 — Familiar chaos vs. healthy love 37:20 — Why healthy relationships can feel “boring” 40:55 — Hypervigilance, anxiety & nervous system addiction 44:18 — Learning how to feel safe in love 47:10 — How women can start healing relationship trauma 50:22 — “Get your team together” healing advice 53:40 — Meditation, nervous system work & emotional regulation 57:12 — Why women focus on fixing men instead of themselves 1:00:18 — Caregiver patterns & savior complex explained 1:03:10 — Why women stay in unhealthy relationships 1:06:05 — Radical honesty, boundaries & self-worth 1:09:00 — Final thoughts on love, healing & feminine energy If this episode resonated with you, don't forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE it with someone who needs this conversation. Cheers to great love. ❤️

What if the exhaustion, tension, overthinking, digestive symptoms, inflammation, sleep disruption, and constant feeling of being "on" are not personality flaws… …but nervous system adaptations?   In this episode of the EASE OS™ Podcast, Dr. Connie Cheung explores the physiology of chronic sympathetic dominance — the state many people unknowingly live in when the body remains organized around protection long after stress has become normalized.   This episode unpacks how chronic stress physiology affects: ➣ nervous system regulation ➣ gut health and digestion ➣ sleep quality ➣ inflammation ➣ hormonal balance ➣ muscle tension and postural patterns ➣ emotional resilience ➣ breathing mechanics ➣ behavior and identity patterns   Through real clinical stories, Dr. Connie explains why many people are "doing everything right" — yoga, healthy eating, supplements, hormone therapy, exercise — yet still feel exhausted, inflamed, disconnected from their body, or unable to fully recover.   You'll hear: ➣ Why the nervous system adapts to repeated stress conditions ➣ How chronic sympathetic activation becomes normalized ➣ Why hypervigilance and overthinking can feel like personality ➣ The connection between stress physiology and digestive dysfunction ➣ Why many symptoms make more sense when viewed through an integrated systems lens ➣ How chronic bracing patterns affect posture, movement, breathing, and pain ➣ Why healing often feels fragmented in modern healthcare ➣ The relationship between the autonomic nervous system regulation and long-term healing ➣ How yoga can become either regulation… or another expression of sympathetic dominance ➣ Why awareness changes the relationship we have with symptoms   Dr. Connie also shares: ➣ a clinical case involving chronic low back pain during yoga and hidden nervous system overload ➣ a patient with plantar fasciitis whose symptoms reflected broader stress physiology and chronic tension patterns ➣ How the body organizes around protection when stress becomes a baseline state   This episode is part of the EASE OS™ framework: Enteric · Autonomic · Somatic · Empowered Psychology   The Autonomic pillar focuses on nervous system regulation, sympathetic dominance, stress adaptation, and restoring physiological safety so the body can begin moving from survival physiology into recovery physiology.   In This Episode: ➣ Chronic stress and nervous system dysregulation ➣ Sympathetic vs parasympathetic nervous system ➣ Fight-or-flight physiology ➣ Stress hormones and cortisol ➣ Functional medicine perspective on chronic stress ➣ Somatic holding patterns and muscle guarding ➣ Mind-body connection and chronic tension ➣ Gut-brain axis and autonomic regulation ➣ Breathwork for nervous system regulation ➣ Yoga and nervous system awareness ➣ Hypervigilance and chronic anticipation ➣ Fatigue, inflammation, digestion, and stress physiology ➣ Integrated systems interpretation in healing   Practical Exercise From This Episode 5-5-5-5 Box Breathing Use before meals, stressful conversations, or sleep. ➣ Inhale through the nose for 5 counts ➣ Hold for 5 counts ➣ Exhale slowly for 5 counts ➣ Hold empty for 5 counts ➣ Repeat 3 rounds   This breathing practice helps stimulate the parasympathetic nervous system and supports vagal regulation.   Key Takeaways ➣ The body adapts to repeated conditions ➣ Chronic stress physiology often becomes normalized ➣ Repeated states can eventually become traits ➣ Symptoms are often adaptive information, not personal failure ➣ The nervous system influences digestion, hormones, inflammation, sleep, movement, and emotional regulation ➣ Healing requires more than isolated protocols — the organism must be understood as an integrated system   Resources & Links

Il y a quelques semaines, Camille a envoyé un email à sa communauté avec une invitation simple : "Qu'est-ce que tu me raconterais si on allait prendre un café ensemble ?"Elle a reçu des dizaines de réponses. Des histoires d'une profondeur et d'un courage qu'elle n'attendait pas. Des mots posés sur des choses que certaines personnes ne s'étaient jamais dites à voix haute — même pas à elles-mêmes.Aujourd'hui, elle honore ces histoires.LA QUESTION AU CŒUR DE CET ÉPISODE :Comment revenir dans son corps quand on s'en est coupée depuis très longtemps ?Pas comment le comprendre. Comment y revenir. Et mieux encore — comment s'y sentir à nouveau à la maison.C'est la question que vous avez été nombreuses et nombreux à poser, chacun avec ses mots, chacun avec son histoire.DANS CET ÉPISODE, CAMILLE LIT ET RÉPOND AUX HISTOIRES DE TROIS AUDITEURS :Lily, 50 ans — abus dans l'enfance, deuils multiples, diagnostic de TSPT posé il y a deux ans. Elle comprend beaucoup de choses mentalement, mais son corps est encore en alerte permanente. Elle demande : par où commencer ?Céline — enfance marquée par la peur, la colère maternelle, la comparaison douloureuse avec sa sœur. Hypervigilance, dissociation, phobies. Elle demande : peut-on vraiment corriger un système nerveux qui a manqué de corégulation dès le départ ?Salomé — une première grossesse vécue comme un enchaînement de traumas : symptômes physiques intenses, accouchement hypermédicalisé de 33h, séparation avec son bébé. Le désir d'un deuxième enfant est là, mais la peur aussi. Elle demande : comment transformer cette expérience pour vivre quelque chose de plus serein et proche de son corps ?CE QUE TU VAS DÉCOUVRIR :● Pourquoi la honte — plus que la culpabilité — est au cœur de l'expérience des victimes d'abus, et comment elle s'installe dans le corps● Pourquoi l'anxiété, l'angoisse et les phobies sont toutes des formes de peur — et ce que ça change dans l'approche de la guérison● Comment donner à son corps les conditions pour recevoir le soutien — même quand on en a à l'extérieur● La pratique de la pendulation : comment travailler sur des souvenirs difficiles par micro-bouts sans se laisser submerger● Deux pratiques concrètes pour commencer à reconnecter au corps : la douche en conscience (Peter Levine) et l'orientation● Pourquoi on guérit plus vite en groupe — et ce que l'universalité de l'expérience humaine a de profondément réparateurRESSOURCES MENTIONNÉES :

What if the anxiety, overthinking, people pleasing, emotional shutdown, hypervigilance, burnout, and relationship struggles you experience today… were never actually "you" to begin with? In this deeply personal and profoundly eye-opening solo episode, Darin Olien dives into the hidden nervous system programming formed between the ages of 0 and 8 that silently shapes our adult lives. Drawing from neuroscience, trauma research, attachment theory, epigenetics, somatic healing, and his own emotional breakthroughs, Darin explores how childhood experiences become subconscious operating systems that influence everything from relationships and stress responses to chronic disease and self-worth. This episode is a powerful roadmap toward healing. Darin breaks down the science behind trauma, the ACE study, nervous system dysregulation, emotional patterning, and neuroplasticity, while also sharing practical tools like somatic experiencing, expressive writing, EMDR, and Internal Family Systems to help listeners begin rewiring their emotional lives from the inside out. What You'll Learn How childhood experiences program the nervous system Why most adult emotional reactions are subconscious survival patterns The connection between trauma, stress hormones, and chronic disease How the nervous system stores emotional experiences in the body Why people pleasing, hypervigilance, burnout, and emotional shutdown develop The science behind neuroplasticity and rewiring the brain What the ACE Study revealed about childhood trauma and adult health How trauma impacts the amygdala, hippocampus, and stress-response systems Why emotional patterns are adaptations, not character flaws How epigenetics can pass trauma responses across generations The role of somatic experiencing in trauma healing Practical tools for emotional regulation and nervous system repair Chapters 00:00:03 – Welcome to SuperLife 00:00:32 – Sponsor: Bite Toothpaste and eliminating toxic plastic exposure 00:02:47 – Darin introduces emotional reactions and nervous system triggers 00:03:15 – A personal story about reacting vs responding in conflict 00:03:50 – Emotional shutdowns, rage, withdrawal, people pleasing, and overcorrection 00:04:19 – Darin's physical pain journey and emotional discoveries in 2025 00:04:42 – Birth trauma, childhood conditioning, and nervous system programming 00:05:04 – Why the ages of 0–8 are the most neurologically influential years 00:05:18 – Theta and delta brainwave states during childhood 00:05:55 – How children absorb emotional patterns without filters 00:06:22 – Childhood experiences becoming subconscious operating systems 00:06:44 – Adults unknowingly living through a 5-year-old nervous system 00:07:12 – Why this episode became deeply personal for Darin 00:07:35 – The neuroscience behind stress responses and emotional conditioning 00:08:17 – Brain development, neuroplasticity, and subconscious programming 00:09:13 – How the HPA axis, amygdala, and prefrontal cortex are shaped early in life 00:09:45 – Core childhood questions that program the nervous system 00:10:29 – Why adult stress responses originate in childhood environments 00:11:05 – Research showing childhood adversity alters brain structure and chemistry 00:11:18 – The ACE Study explained 00:11:49 – Why patients losing weight became emotionally overwhelmed 00:12:18 – The ten categories of adverse childhood experiences 00:13:02 – "The health crisis of America begins in childhood" 00:13:36 – How adverse childhood experiences increase disease risk 00:14:03 – Suicide, alcoholism, autoimmune disease, depression, and trauma correlations 00:14:37 – Chronic disease as a nervous system issue 00:15:04 – Survival mode, inflammation, hormonal dysregulation, and emotional scarcity 00:15:42 – Self-sabotage and emotional coping patterns explained 00:16:02 – Why your emotional patterns are not character flaws 00:16:22 – Childhood survival adaptations and nervous system intelligence 00:16:52 – Hypervigilance, people pleasing, rage, emotional shutdown, and fear 00:17:05 – Sponsor: Manna Vitality and frequency-based wellness 00:18:59 – Epigenetics and inherited trauma responses 00:19:22 – Cortisol regulation genes and hyperactive stress responses 00:19:51 – Holocaust survivors, inherited trauma, and generational nervous systems 00:20:19 – Why healing requires nervous system awareness—not just intellectual understanding 00:20:45 – "You were never supposed to get over it—you were supposed to heal from it" 00:21:01 – Real-life examples of subconscious nervous system programming 00:21:16 – Why receiving compliments can feel unsafe 00:21:30 – Darin's personal struggle with overachievement and scarcity programming 00:22:03 – Emotional neglect, chronic striving, and feeling "not enough" 00:22:16 – The nervous system roots of burnout and exhaustion 00:22:23 – Hair-trigger emotional reactions and hyperactive amygdala responses 00:22:38 – Chronic self-abandonment and losing personal boundaries 00:22:52 – Fear of intimacy, trust issues, and emotional safety 00:23:02 – "The body keeps the score" explained 00:23:22 – Trauma stored in posture, breath, digestion, immunity, and emotional regulation 00:23:43 – Harvard research on trauma-related brain changes 00:24:19 – The radical power of neuroplasticity and nervous system rewiring 00:24:48 – Why healing requires conscious participation 00:25:01 – Darin shares how healing changed decades of emotional pain 00:25:33 – Somatic Experiencing and Peter Levine's trauma work 00:25:57 – How animals discharge stress naturally 00:26:23 – Trauma as incomplete physiological responses frozen in the body 00:26:42 – Why humans suppress emotional discharge 00:27:16 – PTSD research and the effectiveness of somatic experiencing 00:27:41 – A step-by-step somatic grounding practice 00:28:14 – Why healing is more powerful with a regulated person beside you 00:28:38 – EMDR and reprocessing traumatic experiences 00:28:55 – Internal Family Systems and the "parts" inside the psyche 00:29:13 – Inner critics, overachievers, and nervous system adaptations 00:29:39 – Compassionately listening to emotional parts instead of suppressing them 00:29:51 – Expressive writing as a trauma healing practice 00:30:22 – The neuroscience behind emotional journaling 00:30:48 – A four-day expressive writing protocol for healing 00:31:05 – "You are not broken" 00:31:16 – Reprogramming the nervous system through love and safety 00:31:37 – Why deep healing happens in the presence of another regulated person 00:31:52 – Darin considers creating a future healing workshop 00:32:04 – Final reflections: "You are not what happened to you" 00:32:12 – Peace. Love. SuperLife. Thank You to Our Sponsors Bite Toothpaste: Go to trybite.com/DARIN20 or use code DARIN20 for 20% off your first order Manna Vitality: Go to mannavitality.com/ and use code DARIN12 for 12% off your order. Join the SuperLife Patreon: This is where Darin now shares the deeper work: - weekly voice notes - ingredient trackers - wellness challenges - extended conversations - community accountability - sovereignty practices Join now for only $7.49/month at https://patreon.com/darinolien     Connect with Darin Olien: Website: darinolien.com Instagram: @darinolien Book: Fatal Conveniences Platform & Products: superlife.com New Show: Roadmap to Happiness Key Takeaway "The emotional patterns, fears, reactions, and coping mechanisms that run your adult life are often survival adaptations created by your nervous system during childhood. They are not your identity. They are not permanent. 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Most men are not actually confused about what matters to them. They are afraid.In this episode of The Men's Collective Podcast, Travis Goodman, LMFT explores how fear quietly shapes men's lives, relationships, nervous systems, identity, and decisions. Using themes from The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho, this episode breaks down why so many men stay emotionally guarded, disconnected, overworked, numb, and stuck in survival mode.This is not a book review. It's a conversation about fear, purpose, masculinity, emotional health, nervous system regulation, and the internal battle many men face between comfort and growth.Topics covered:• Why men confuse safety with peace• Fear and the male nervous system• Why fear gets louder before growth• Hypervigilance, performance, and emotional avoidance• The connection between fear and masculine identity• Why unfamiliarity feels dangerous• Faith, uncertainty, and personal growth• Men's mental health and emotional resilience• Polyvagal Theory and fear responses• How men can become more grounded under pressureIf you've been feeling stuck, disconnected, emotionally exhausted, or afraid to take the next step in life, relationships, or purpose, this episode is for you.

Welcome back to the Homeward Podcast. In today's episode I'm sharing a real-time reflection on nervous system patterns, creativity, and the stories we carry around our businesses and safety.  I talk about what it looks like to interrupt those inherited survival patterns, soften our grip on constant striving, and reconnect to expression, presence, and the real reason we share our work in the first place. I can't wait for you to listen.  Links Mentioned:  Book a Breakthrough Call: amberlilyestrom.com/breakthrough Take The Personal Money Codes Quiz: amberlilyestrom.com/moneyquiz Subscribe over on Substack Join my signature biz building program Homeward   Tag me in your big shifts + takeaways: @amberlilyestrom Did you hear something you loved here today?! Leave a Review + Subscribe via iTunes 

In tonight's sleep hypnosis with Jessica, we're revisiting the protective mind - the part of us that stays alert in an effort to keep us safe, even when it's time to rest. Through deep relaxation and gentle visualization, this session helps you soften old patterns of vigilance, reconnect with a sense of safety, and invite deeper, more restorative sleep. As always, tonight's episode will start with a relaxing introduction from Jessica, before we sink into tonight's Sleep Hypnosis. If you'd like an extra immersive experience, you can also watch this episode on Spotify, complete with soothing visuals

Everyone has a critical inner voice. But if you grew up in an environment shaped by chronic relational stress, that voice does not just comment. It runs. It loops. It drives your body into a stress state before you have even finished the thought. In this episode, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof explore the inner critic as the next distinguishing characteristic of complex trauma in their ongoing CPT series. This is not a conversation about toxic positivity or affirmations. It is a precise, neuroscience-grounded look at why the inner critic develops, what it is actually doing in the brain and nervous system, and what it genuinely takes to loosen its grip over time. The inner critic is a predictive safety mechanism. It developed to preempt rejection, suppress behaviors that previously led to punishment, and maintain attachment in environments where connection felt conditional. It is not your core self. It is a learned neural pattern rooted in threat detection and self-referential processing that, once formed, keeps running because it worked. Or at least, it worked enough. Jennifer and Elisabeth trace how chronic relational stress reorganizes the default mode network around threat rather than flexible identity development, what the medial prefrontal cortex and posterior cingulate cortex have to do with rumination and shame-based identity loops, and why children with developmental trauma learn to blame themselves for relational failures that were never their fault in the first place. They also go deep on the outward expression of the same pattern: the external critic, the person who micromanages, projects, and stays braced and guarded because the nervous system is still predicting the letdown. Both hosts bring this into their own lived experience with real honesty. Elisabeth talks about the constant body-focused narrator that used to run during recording sessions. Jennifer shares what the inner critic sounds like when she is launching something new and putting her voice out into the world. Neither of them is pretending it is gone. They are showing what it looks like when it no longer runs the show. The episode closes with practical, nervous system-grounded pathways for working with the inner critic, including why celebration and reward matter more than positive thinking, how oxytocin-mediated safety gradually quiets social threat monitoring, and why the most important move is not arguing with the voice but interrupting the loop at the body level first. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Why the inner critic is a predictive nervous system adaptation, not a reflection of truth or identity How chronic relational stress reorganizes the default mode network around threat and self-monitoring What the medial prefrontal cortex and posterior cingulate cortex have to do with rumination and the inner critic Why children with developmental trauma internalize relational failures as personal flaws How perfectionism, body criticism, and post-performance crashes are all outputs of the same underlying pattern What the external critic is, why it always coexists with a loud inner critic, and how to recognize it in yourself Why you cannot think your way out of the inner critic loop and what actually interrupts it How the ventral striatum and reward signaling can be used to reinforce new behaviors and self-expression Why oxytocin-mediated safety, through connection, touch, nature, and sensory pleasure, reduces the social threat driving the critic What post-traumatic growth actually looks like in relation to the inner critic: not eliminating it, but expanding capacity beyond it Chapter Markers 0:00 - The Inner Critic as a Distinguishing Characteristic of Complex Trauma 0:58 - Welcome: What the Inner Critic Actually Is 1:49 - Jennifer and Elisabeth Share Their Own Inner Critic Experiences 4:36 - Why This Matters: Recognizing Complex Trauma in the Patterns 5:33 - The Difference Between a Normal Inner Critic and a Trauma-Amplified One 7:11 - The Neuro Biology: How the Inner Critic Develops as a Protective Pattern 8:28 - How Authenticity Becomes a Threat Signal 10:38 - The Default Mode Network and Self-Referential Rumination 13:52 - What the Growth Edge Actually Feels Like in Practice 17:05 - The Brain Science: The Default Mode Network, Medial PFC, and Posterior Cingulate 19:22 - Why Developmental Trauma Teaches Children to Blame Themselves 21:10 - How to Interrupt the Loop: Sensory Anchoring, Movement, and Tools 23:18 - Working With State to Shift the Story 24:51 - Perfectionism as an Output of the Inner Critic 28:11 - Why We Stay Stuck in the Loop Even When We Know Better 29:12 - The Ventral Striatum, Reward Signaling, and Why Celebrating Small Wins Matters 35:57 - Oxytocin, Social Safety, and Softening the Hypervigilance 39:49 - The External Critic: When the Inner Voice Gets Projected Outward 43:03 - Post-Traumatic Growth and the Inner Critic: What Actually Changes Ways to Engage with Neurosomatics    Join us inside Rewire: This is where you actually experience the practices Jennifer and Elisabeth talk about on the podcast that brought us freedom, self-attunement, a new relationship with food and our body.  rewiretrial.com   Explore the neurosomatics of boundaries: boundaryrewire.com   Introduction to neurosomatics for practitioners, coaches and therapists - The NSI foundations Bundle: https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/workshops/   Wayfinder Journal: Track nervous system patterns and support preparation and integration through Neurosomatic Intelligence: https://stan.store/illuminated   Join Jennifer on Sacred Synapse to explore the intersection of neurosomatics and Psychedelic neuroscience: https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse-23   Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors:  FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired Trauma Rewired podcast  is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear.  We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being.  If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.  If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911.  We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available.  We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast. We  invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization. We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs.  We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. 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In this conversation, Lawrence Joss and psychologist Faust Ruggiero explore the trauma responses many alienated parents experience while navigating parental alienation, estrangement, and high-conflict family systems. Together, they unpack how chronic stress, fear, hypervigilance, and unresolved grief affect the nervous system—and why many parents begin living in a constant state of emotional and physical survival.Blending clinical insight with lived experience, the discussion examines PTSD, nervous system dysregulation, emotional overwhelm, and the physical symptoms that often go unnoticed during alienation. Lawrence reflects on his own reconnection journey and the challenge of teaching the body to recognize safety again, even during positive moments. Grounded in recovery, self-awareness, and emotional regulation, this conversation reminds us that healing is not about becoming emotionless—it's about slowly coming home to yourself. Living fully is not giving up, but an act of love and integrity.Key Takeaways• PTSD changes how the body responds • Family dysfunction shapes trauma responses • Hypervigilance becomes a survival pattern • Emotional stress creates physical symptoms • Internal self-talk affects nervous system healing • Trauma distorts safety and emotional trust • Chronic alienation impacts mind and body • Healing requires emotional and physical awareness • Grounding practices support nervous system recovery • Self-regulation helps restore inner stabilityChapters00:00 - Understanding PTSD Beyond the Mind 04:53 - How Family Systems Shape Trauma 10:06 - Why the Body Holds Trauma 14:55 - Self-Talk and Nervous System Healing 20:07 - Balancing Emotional Reactions with Reality 24:53 - The Long-Term Impact of VictimizationSupport & Community:Parental Alienation Anonymous (PAA): Join our free 12-step support group with 16 online meetings weekly for parents, grandparents, family members, and previously alienated individuals seeking healing and recovery.PA-A.org: Parental Alienation Advocates is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit dedicated to fostering education, advocacy, and support for individuals grappling with the distressing impact of parental alienation, estrangement, erasure, and family disconnection.All our services are free and sustained by grants and community donations. Your support helps us continue offering these vital resources.Donate here: https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/donations-for-the-12-step-programConnect with Us:Email your questions or insights: familydisappeared@gmail.comLike, share, and comment to help us reach more families in need.If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:  Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)Please donate to support PAA programs:https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSThis podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-hostGlaze Gonzales- Podcast ManagerConnect with Lawrence Joss:Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/Email-         familydisappeared@gmail.com

Manuela rappelle l'émission deux ans après un premier échange, pour raconter qu'elle sort d'une longue période marquée par un divorce, la maladie grave de son enfant, du harcèlement au travail et un burn-out. Aujourd'hui, alors que la situation s'est apaisée et que son fils va bien, elle dit vivre dans une forme d'hypervigilance permanente, avec la peur qu'un nouveau drame survienne. Chaque soir, en direct, Caroline Dublanche accueille les auditeurs pour 2h30 d'échanges et de confidences. Pour participer, contactez l'émission au 09 69 39 10 11 (prix d'un appel local) ou sur parlonsnous@rtl.frHébergé par Audiomeans. Visitez audiomeans.fr/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

 ➡️ Get the full show notes and episode breakdown at Biology of Trauma® Podcast - The 3 Hidden Costs of Being the Strong One - Burnout's Real Biology You've been the strong one. The one who keeps everything running. The one others lean on when things fall apart. Your body has been keeping score. And the bill has three items. There is a specific biology behind the pattern of holding everything together. It is not a personality trait. It is a nervous system response — and it carries three hidden costs most people never connect to the same source. In this episode of The Biology of Trauma® Podcast, Dr. Aimie Apigian — double board-certified physician and author of The Biology of Trauma — takes you inside the biology of what actually happens when a nervous system crosses from stress into overwhelm, and names the three hidden costs of a body that never resets back to safety. One is the reason you cannot rest, even when you are exhausted. One is the reason you no longer recognize yourself. And one is the reason your body has stopped repairing the way it is built to repair. The episode ends with a map. Three phases. A sequence. And the reason the sequence matters more than any single tool. In This Episode You'll Learn: [01:00] What happens inside the body when a lifetime of holding everything together becomes the default setting? [02:22] What is the body's full response to danger — from startle to stress to the critical line of overwhelm? [04:31] What is the specific threshold where the body shifts from stress into shutdown — and why is that line so important? [06:56] Why does the body lock into a survival loop when no full reset to safety occurs? [08:49] How does the body signal that it is stuck in the Body-Trauma Loop — and what does that feel like from the inside? [13:00] What is the first hidden cost — and why can't the body access real rest in survival mode? [23:20] What is the second hidden cost — the survival strategies that quietly replace who you really are? [29:23] What is the third hidden cost — and why do survival mode and repair mode block each other at the biological level? [37:57] What would actually happen if you stopped holding everything together — and what is the body protecting against? [42:12] How does the Recognize → Reasons → Repair framework apply to the pattern of over-functioning? [46:00] What are the three phases of the healing journey — Safety → Support → Expansion — and why does the sequence matter? Resources/Guides: Free Guide: Steps to Identify and Heal Trauma by Dr. Aimie Apigian — This 23-page guide includes the quiz Dr. Aimie references in the closing of this episode. A starting place for recognizing stored trauma in the body. Book: The Biology of Trauma by Dr. Aimie Apigian — Chapter 9 covers neuroception. Chapter 11 covers how attachment and early life shape neuroception. Chapter 12 lays out the Safety → Support → Expansion sequence referenced in this episode. Program: Foundational Journey — A six-week online process working directly with the nervous system. Where course members practice the exact exercises and sequence that establish a biology of safety that has to come first before anything else can hold. Related Podcast Episodes: Episode 48 — How to Heal Bracing and Hypervigilance with Cat Dillon Episode 68 — Struggling with Sleep? How to Regain Restful Nights with Suzie Sink Episode  79 — How Chronic Health Challenges and Your Work Impact Each Other with Sally Riggs Episode 126 — Neuroception Explained: How Your Nervous System Decides What's Safe and Why It Matters for Healing Episode 127: Why Your Body Is Wired for Danger: Understanding Trauma's Impact on Your Nervous System Episode 129 — Why You're Still in Survival Mode (Even After Years of Therapy and Healing Work) Episode 134 — The Biology of Overwhelm: Why Small Demands Feel Impossible Episode 135 — The Hidden Difference Between Stress and Trauma in How the Body Keeps Score Episode 138 — Why Your Body Holds On When Your Mind Has Healed with Dr. Aimie Apigian

FREE RESOURCE:  Try our Burnout Archetype Quiz: https://twc-jqgxs.involve.me/archetype-quiz In this episode of Wild Medicine, Dr. Michelle Peris explores the themes of self-trust, the Wild Woman archetype, and the impact of good girl conditioning on women's emotional awareness and relationships.  She discusses the importance of understanding sensory data, setting boundaries, and recognizing incongruence in relationships.  The conversation emphasizes the need for effective communication skills and the cost of overanalyzing interactions.  Dr. Peris also introduces the concept of the fawn response, highlighting how hypervigilance can lead to disconnection from one's own needs and desires.  In this conversation, Dr. Michelle Peris delves into the complexities of overthinking, the impact of good girl conditioning, and the importance of setting boundaries. She emphasizes how the nervous system plays a crucial role in our responses to perceived threats and how societal conditioning can lead to self-doubt and compliance.  Through personal anecdotes and insights, she encourages women to trust their instincts and recognize the data their bodies provide, ultimately advocating for a more empowered and authentic way of living.   Takeaways The Wild Woman archetype encourages women to embrace their true selves. Good girl conditioning can lead to a lack of self-trust. Understanding sensory data is crucial for setting boundaries. Congruence in relationships is essential for emotional health. Overanalyzing others' behaviour can lead to confusion and resentment. Effective communication skills are vital for expressing needs. The fawn response can cause disconnection from one's own emotions. Rewilding involves reclaiming one's emotional awareness. Self-trust is foundational for healthy relationships. The cost of not addressing incongruence in relationships is high. Your nervous system is trained to protect you from perceived danger. Good girl conditioning leads to a deep association between compliance and self-worth. Setting boundaries can feel threatening due to past conditioning. Overanalyzing relationships often stems from a desire for safety. The discomfort you feel is a signal of an imbalance, not a betrayal. Honesty in relationships fosters intimacy and connection. Women often struggle to set boundaries due to fear of conflict. Recognizing the mismatch between words and actions is crucial for self-trust. Small adjustments in behaviour can lead to healthier boundaries. Trusting your own data is essential for personal empowerment.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections 04:10 Exploring the Wild Woman Archetype 06:41 The Good Girl Tax and Self-Trust 09:10 Understanding Sensory Data and Boundaries 11:34 The Importance of Congruence in Relationships 13:57 Navigating Incongruence and Self-Trust 16:54 The Role of Hypervigilance in Good Girl Conditioning 19:25 Rewilding and Emotional Awareness 21:57 The Cost of Overanalyzing Relationships 24:49 Communication Skills and Emotional Processing 26:48 The Fawn Response and Emotional Regulation 36:45 Understanding the Nervous System's Role in Overthinking 38:05 The Impact of Good Girl Conditioning 40:04 Recognizing the Mismatch Between Words and Action 43:01 The Exhaustion of Overanalyzing Relationships 45:57 The Cost of Inaction and Overanalysis 50:23 The Importance of Setting Boundaries 55:20 Navigating the Fear of Being Seen as Difficult 59:07 Practical Steps to Adjust Boundaries 01:03:14 Understanding the Nervous System's Response to Boundaries 01:06:38 Building Trust in Oneself Through Data Awareness   Stay Wild. Connect with Dr. Tara on INSTAGRAM Connect with Dr. Michelle on INSTAGRAM This episode is brought to you by: www.MichellePeris.com Ready to reclaim your Wild? JOIN THE WAITLIST Learn more about The Poppy Clinic: www.poppyclinic.com Is Naturopathic Medicine for you: LEARN MORE HERE Take our HORMONE QUIZ Are you a clinician looking for more impact? START HERE

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and build a plan to overcome your pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode show notes: Most men think if they just do everything right, their wife will start to feel safe again. More honesty. More consistency. More effort. But then something confusing happens… He changes — and she's still anxious. Still triggered. Still on edge. In this episode, we break down why that happens — and what's actually going on underneath it. Because this isn't a motivation problem. And it's not a forgiveness problem. It's a nervous system problem. You'll learn: • Why your wife can still feel unsafe even after months of real progress • How betrayal reshapes her nervous system — not just her thoughts • Why time and willpower don't rebuild safety in porn addiction recovery • What actually helps her nervous system start to calm down • Why consistency alone isn't enough if the change isn't clear and visible • How to respond to triggers in a way that builds safety instead of distance • What wives actually need in order to begin trusting again • How to rebuild safety in a marriage impacted by porn If you're working hard in porn addiction recovery but your wife still feels on edge… this will help you understand why. And more importantly — what actually moves things forward. Because safety isn't rebuilt through words. It's rebuilt through repeated experiences that her body can finally trust.

Sometimes the worst part of betrayal is not what happened. It's what keeps happening inside you afterward. Betrayal trauma recovery is about understanding why betrayal trauma can leave you anxious, hypervigilant, angry, shut down, or unsure of yourself long after the original event is over. In this episode, we're revisiting a conversation about what happens when someone you love, trust, or depend on hurts you in a way that changes how safe the world feels. Whether the rupture came through infidelity, dishonesty, emotional abandonment, or another kind of relational betrayal, the aftermath can be disorienting in ways people do not always talk about clearly enough. We'll look at why betrayal can create trauma responses that feel a lot like PTSD, and why healing after betrayal often takes more than insight alone. We'll also explore what betrayal trauma recovery can look like in real life: naming the wound honestly, recognizing your trauma responses, understanding the difference between a real threat and an old trigger, and creating the kind of emotional safety that makes healing possible. If you've been trying to rebuild trust after betrayal, make sense of healing after infidelity, or learn how to trust yourself again, this episode offers a compassionate and grounded place to begin. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Betrayal Trauma Recovery 04:09 Why Betrayal Can Feel Like Trauma 08:38 What Counts as Betrayal? 15:43 Self-Blame and Losing Trust in Yourself 23:14 Betrayal Trauma Symptoms: Fear, Hypervigilance, and Avoidance 35:02 How Betrayal Trauma Recovery Begins 46:53 Why Safety Has to Come Before Healing 52:08 Healing, Boundaries, and Learning to Trust Yourself Again If this episode gave language to something you've been carrying alone, I'd like to offer you a gentle next step. You can schedule a free consultation with me or someone on my team, and we'll help you find the right support for you. It's private, secure, and only takes a couple of minutes to answer three quick questions so we can match you with the right counselor or coach. Think of it as a thoughtful first step toward feeling more clear, more supported, and more like yourself again. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Upwork — and it's a sponsorship I said yes to because I actually use it. When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA - Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order

Why does joy feel dangerous after betrayal?If you find yourself bracing for something bad—even in your happiest moments—this episode will help you understand why.We're diving into:Hypervigilance and trauma survival patternsThe fear of being blindsided againWhy your brain clings to predictabilityThe hidden cost of “waiting for the shoe to drop”How to slowly rebuild safety and emotional freedomChapters00:37 Hypervigilance After Betrayal03:20 Survival Mode Explained06:41 Choosing Joy Again11:45 Wiggle Out Slowly17:07 Brain Versus Soul18:52 The Cost of VigilanceRegister Now!***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***

What happens when you've spent your entire life in survival mode—and don't even realize it? In this episode of the Starter Girlz Podcast, Jennifer Loehding sits down with Shannon Grace, founder of The Graceful Healer, for a deeply honest conversation about emotional suppression, nervous system patterns, and what it really looks like to reconnect with yourself. Shannon shares her journey from corporate success and entrepreneurship to repeated layoffs that forced her to question everything she thought she was supposed to be doing. What followed wasn't a quick pivot—but a gradual unraveling. Through her own experience with anxiety, disconnection, and living in a constant fight-or-flight state, Shannon began exploring different healing modalities—eventually discovering the power of somatic work and emotional release. But this conversation goes beyond one experience. It explores what it means to move through life in a constant state of survival, and how that impacts the way we think, feel, and show up. Shannon shares her perspective on emotional suppression, reconnecting with the body, and the deeper awareness required to shift long-standing patterns. From navigating hypervigilance and people-pleasing to learning how to set boundaries and trust your internal signals, this episode offers a thoughtful look at what it means to move from survival into self-connection. Chapters00:00 Somatic Healing Hook00:35 Podcast Welcome01:26 Sponsor Spotlight02:11 Starter Girls Updates02:55 Meet Shannon Grace04:13 Corporate to Entrepreneur05:52 Layoffs and Searching07:01 Finding Energy Modalities08:45 Somatic Energy Breakthrough10:49 How Trauma Lives in Body13:09 Tools to Release Emotions17:23 Host Health Journey22:21 Breaking Panic Loops25:59 Letting Feelings Be30:03 Nervous System Mastery33:12 Hypervigilance and Boundaries35:02 Boundaries Build Confidence36:42 Hypervigilance As A Gift38:36 You Cant Heal Everyone39:55 People Pleasing To Self Respect42:18 How To Say No Cleanly45:05 Leaving Corporate For Healing Work49:49 Everyone Is A Healer52:50 Pets As Emotional Mirrors58:38 Daily Rituals Qigong And Tea01:01:49 Where To Find Shannon01:02:48 Podcast Mission And Farewell About Shannon GraceShannon Grace is the founder of The Graceful Healer, where she works with individuals on emotional healing, somatic energy work, and nervous system regulation. After years in the corporate world and entrepreneurship, Shannon's personal journey through anxiety, trauma, and emotional suppression led her into the healing space. Today, her work focuses on helping others reconnect with their bodies, process stored emotions, and create a deeper sense of internal safety. Her approach blends multiple modalities—including somatic energy healing, reiki, sound healing, and breathwork—guided by her own lived experience and ongoing study. Connect with Shannon Gracehttps://thegracefulhealer.comhttps://www.instagram.com/thegraceful_healer Connect with Starter Girlzhttps://startergirlz.comTake the 2-Minute Success Block Quiz to discover what may be holding you back. Want to Be a Guest on Starter Girlz Podcasthttps://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17044863446695017c1879d7b

Today's Scripture: Psalm 127:1–2If you feel constantly exhausted, it may not be about doing too much—but about carrying what was never yours to carry. In this episode, Dr. Alison explores Psalm 127 and the concept of “anxious toil,” integrating attachment theory and nervous system insight to help you release over-responsibility and rediscover rest. We explore:*Overfunctioning and burnout*Hypervigilance and the nervous system*How we start to build the wrong thingGo Deeper:Episode 138: Breaking Free from Overfunctioning—Discover the Hidden Costs of Always Being 'The Responsible One'Check out our new webpage here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Postpartum care wasn't always rushed, clinical, or isolating. In many African-American communities, the weeks after birth were treated as sacred time where families and communities gathered to care for the mother so she could focus on caring for her baby.   In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Dekker talks with renowned midwife, cultural historian, and author Shafia Monroe about the traditions documented in her new book Mothering the Mother: African-American Postpartum Traditions, Recipes, and Healing. Mama Shafia shares how historically rooted postpartum practices—from the 42-day "lying-in" period to nourishing soups, herbal teas, and hands-on community support—helped mothers rest, recover, and bond with their babies.   They explore what's missing from the modern Western postpartum model, how traditional wisdom from Black midwives supported physical and emotional recovery, and why caring for mothers is essential for healthy families and communities.   (02:43) Why Shafia wrote Mothering the Mother and the lack of resources on African-American postpartum traditions (07:47) The love letter to Black mothers and words of affirmation for postpartum parents (11:56) What's missing in modern postpartum care and how Western systems differ from traditional community care (19:06) Hypervigilance, stress, and supporting postpartum healing (21:26) The 42-day "lying-in" period and traditional postpartum rituals (25:45) Postpartum food traditions, soups, and healing foods from African and African-American culture (33:50) Why these traditions matter for all families, not just one culture (37:45) "Mother wit": trusting intuition about your body and your baby (41:25) Advocating for yourself in healthcare and trusting your body during pregnancy and birth   Resources Get Mama Shafia's book, Mothering the Mother: African-American Postpartum Traditions, Recipes, and Healing: shafiamonroe.com/mothering-the-mother/ Learn about the International Center for Traditional Childbearing (ICTC): thenaabb.org/ Read about SMC Full Circle Doula Birth Companion Training: smcdoulas.com/ EBB 152 – Shafia Monroe on Traditional Black Midwifery, Spirituality, and Community Advocacy   For more information about Evidence Based Birth® and a crash course on evidence based care, visit www.ebbirth.com. Follow us on Instagram and YouTube! Ready to learn more? Grab an EBB Podcast Listening Guide or read Dr. Dekker's book, "Babies Are Not Pizzas: They're Born, Not Delivered!" If you want to get involved at EBB, join our Professional membership (scholarship options available) and get on the wait list for our EBB Instructor program. Find an EBB Instructor here, and click here to learn more about the EBB Childbirth Class.

Today, I'm joined by the remarkable Dr. Nasha Winters, whose personal journey of facing stage four cancer at just 19 years old turned into a decades-long mission to rethink the narrative around cancer, healing, and human potential. In our conversation, Dr. Winters opens up about those early days—what it felt like to receive a grim prognosis, the mindset shift that changed her path, and how questioning medical certainties led her to new paradigms in both conventional and integrative oncology. Episode Timestamps: Welcome & Host Introduction ... 00:00:00 Dr. Nasha Winters' Cancer Diagnosis ... 00:00:54 Accidental Therapeutic Fasting and Healing ... 00:13:00 Questioning Medical Certainty & Turning to Alternatives ... 00:11:26 Journey Underground: Medical Rejection & Self-Discovery ... 00:14:02 Personalized Medicine, Mindset, and Radical Remission ... 00:19:22 Integrating Conventional and Alternative Approaches ... 00:22:04 The Science and Controversies of Fasting for Cancer ... 00:24:51 Cancer as Information Rather Than an Enemy ... 00:25:46 The Shift to Terrain Theory ... 00:34:22 Impact of Trauma, Mindset, and Nervous System on Healing ... 00:37:14 Lessons from Failed Treatments & Importance of Context ... 00:43:12 From Dietary Dogma to Metabolic Flexibility ... 01:00:54 Prevention, Hypervigilance, and the Power of Audit ... 01:10:02 Annual Longevity Testing and Sneaky Early Signs ... 01:23:16 Innovating Cancer & Longevity Research ... 01:33:37 Our Amazing Sponsors: STEMREGEN - A daily formula designed to support your body's natural repair systems by helping release your own stem cells into circulation, supporting recovery, resilience, and whole-body renewal at the source. Visit stemregen.co/NAT15 and use code NAT15. Manukora Honey - A simple upgrade to your daily routine, this Manuka honey delivers antioxidants, prebiotics, and naturally occurring MGO that you won't get from regular sweeteners; head to manukora.com/NAT to save up to 31% plus $25 in free gifts with the Starter Kit. Bioregulators by Nature's Marvels - targeted peptides designed to support cellular signaling and renewal across key systems like circadian rhythm, immune function, and vascular health as part of a foundational longevity stack; head to profound-health.com and use code NAT15 for 15% off your first order. Nat's Links: YouTube Channel Join My Membership Community Sign up for My Newsletter Instagram Dr. Bill Lawrence Episode

Send us Fan MailIf you think police wellness is mostly about eating better and “handling stress,” this conversation will challenge you fast. Kevin Gilmartin returns and gets blunt about what the job does to the body and brain over years of hypervigilance, and why the usual scapegoat (donuts) misses the real drivers: cortisol, adrenaline, sleep debt, and a culture that treats prevention like an optional perk.We talk through the metabolic health side of first responder mental health, including type 2 diabetes risk, abdominal weight gain, and the two simplest red flags that signal trouble: shrinking sleep and expanding waist size. We also dig into a tough truth from decades of fitness-for-duty work, where “anger issues” are often undiagnosed sleep disorders and exhaustion. If we want safer decisions, better policing, and fewer careers ending early, sleep hygiene and daily physical training have to be treated like officer safety, not a personal preference.From there we zoom out to leadership, overtime culture, and the retirement transition. When the job becomes identity, relationships, and social life, retirement can feel like a cliff. We discuss practical time management, building civilian friendships, and keeping hobbies alive now rather than postponing life until “after I retire.” We also touch on financial wellness, smarter wellness programs, sabbaticals like other countries use, and why clinicians need real cultural competency through ride-alongs and time in the environment.You'll also hear a powerful example of peer support done right: community, hobbies, and living in the moment, plus a strong recommendation for Kevin Gilmartin's book Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement. If this helped, subscribe, share it with a coworker, and leave a review so more first responders can find it.Support the showYouTube Channel For The Podcast

What if the hardest relationship of your life was the one that raised you? Recorded LIVE at the Innovations in Psychotherapy Conference in Anaheim, CA (October 2025) — in front of an incredible audience of therapists and mental health professionals — this powerful conversation with renowned psychologist and bestselling author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, Lindsay C. Gibson, brings depth, clarity, and practical healing to one of the most talked-about topics in mental health today. Dr. Gibson reveals the hidden patterns of emotionally immature parents, and how growing up with one may still be shaping your adult life in ways you don't even realize. She breaks down: - Subtle (and not-so-subtle) characteristics of an emotionally immature parent - 4 distinct types of emotionally immature parents, and how each one impacts a child differently - What children of emotionally immature parents look like in adulthood - How they function in romantic relationships (people-pleasing, over-caretaking, fear of conflict, emotional shutdown, & more) - Powerful connection between emotional immaturity, codependency, alcoholism, & even chronic illness - Why being forced into emotional caretaking as a child can damage your intuition & sense of self - How emotional immaturity differs from diagnoses like narcissistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder - How to become an emotionally mature parent (even if you didn't have one) - Cultural shift in parenting expectations, and why so many adults are just now recognizing their childhood wounds - Double-edged sword of social media: self-diagnosis vs. finally realizing you're not alone - How to know when to set boundaries: When to limit contact & when healing the relationship is actually possible - Practical, actionable steps to rebuild your confidence, strengthen your sense of self, & learn how to truly connect Most importantly, we explore why recognizing you were raised by an emotionally immature parent is not about blame — it's about healing. As Dr. Gibson explains, many parents were doing the best they could with the emotional tools they had. Understanding that truth can be the first step toward freedom, forgiveness, and breaking generational cycles. If you've ever felt: - “Why do I feel responsible for everyone else's emotions?” - “Why is it so hard for me to trust myself?” - “Why do my relationships feel one-sided or exhausting?” - “Was my childhood actually normal, or was something missing?” This conversation might change how you see your past — and your future. Watch until the end for Dr. Gibson's most powerful advice on reclaiming your intuition, strengthening your identity, and becoming the emotionally mature adult (and parent) you needed. You are not broken. You are not alone. And healing is possible. Discover how care in every detail transforms simple routines into moments of true comfort and ease. Head to cozyearth.com and use our code BREAK for up to 20% off. And if you get a Post-Purchase Survey, be sure to mention you heard about Cozy Earth right here!  Dr. Lindsay Gibson's latest book, How to Raise an Emotionally Mature Child, will be available May 2026: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/750876/how-to-raise-an-emotionally-mature-child-by-lindsay-c-gibson-psyd/ 2026 Innovations in Psychotherapy Conference: https://innovationsinpsychotherapy.com/ Follow us on Substack for Exclusive Bonus Content: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bialikbreakdown.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BialikBreakdown.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube.com/mayimbialik⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if the hardest relationship of your life was the one that raised you? Recorded LIVE at the Innovations in Psychotherapy Conference in Anaheim, CA (October 2025) — in front of an incredible audience of therapists and mental health professionals — this powerful conversation with renowned psychologist and bestselling author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, Lindsay C. Gibson, brings depth, clarity, and practical healing to one of the most talked-about topics in mental health today. Dr. Gibson reveals the hidden patterns of emotionally immature parents, and how growing up with one may still be shaping your adult life in ways you don't even realize. She breaks down: - Subtle (and not-so-subtle) characteristics of an emotionally immature parent - 4 distinct types of emotionally immature parents, and how each one impacts a child differently - What children of emotionally immature parents look like in adulthood - How they function in romantic relationships (people-pleasing, over-caretaking, fear of conflict, emotional shutdown, & more) - Powerful connection between emotional immaturity, codependency, alcoholism, & even chronic illness - Why being forced into emotional caretaking as a child can damage your intuition & sense of self - How emotional immaturity differs from diagnoses like narcissistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder - How to become an emotionally mature parent (even if you didn't have one) - Cultural shift in parenting expectations, and why so many adults are just now recognizing their childhood wounds - Double-edged sword of social media: self-diagnosis vs. finally realizing you're not alone - How to know when to set boundaries: When to limit contact & when healing the relationship is actually possible - Practical, actionable steps to rebuild your confidence, strengthen your sense of self, & learn how to truly connect Most importantly, we explore why recognizing you were raised by an emotionally immature parent is not about blame — it's about healing. As Dr. Gibson explains, many parents were doing the best they could with the emotional tools they had. Understanding that truth can be the first step toward freedom, forgiveness, and breaking generational cycles. If you've ever felt: - “Why do I feel responsible for everyone else's emotions?” - “Why is it so hard for me to trust myself?” - “Why do my relationships feel one-sided or exhausting?” - “Was my childhood actually normal, or was something missing?” This conversation might change how you see your past — and your future. Watch until the end for Dr. Gibson's most powerful advice on reclaiming your intuition, strengthening your identity, and becoming the emotionally mature adult (and parent) you needed. You are not broken. You are not alone. And healing is possible. Discover how care in every detail transforms simple routines into moments of true comfort and ease. Head to cozyearth.com and use our code BREAK for up to 20% off. And if you get a Post-Purchase Survey, be sure to mention you heard about Cozy Earth right here!  Dr. Lindsay Gibson's latest book, How to Raise an Emotionally Mature Child, will be available May 2026: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/750876/how-to-raise-an-emotionally-mature-child-by-lindsay-c-gibson-psyd/ 2026 Innovations in Psychotherapy Conference: https://innovationsinpsychotherapy.com/ Follow us on Substack for Exclusive Bonus Content: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bialikbreakdown.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BialikBreakdown.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube.com/mayimbialik⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices