Podcasts about Hypervigilance

Follicles not responding? Cycle cancelled? Told it is your low AMH? Book a free Functional Fertility Second Opinion before your next IVF decision → fabfertile.com You have done the injections. You have gone in for monitoring. They may have increased the medication already. And then you hear it again. The follicles are not responding. There are one or two growing. Maybe the cycle gets cancelled. Maybe you make it all the way to retrieval and get one egg. When you ask why, the answer comes back the same way every time. It is your low AMH. It is your age. You are a poor responder. Those are real factors, and I am not going to tell you the AMH does not matter. But if you are about to put your body, your finances, and yourself through another cycle, there is a bigger question worth asking. Is low AMH the whole explanation? Because these are two separate statements: I have diminished ovarian reserve, and low AMH explains everything that happened during that cycle. They are not the same statement. In this episode I walk through what AMH does and does not tell you, what I would want to understand about the 90 days before stimulation started, and what to ask your clinic before you go again. The full thyroid panel, including antibodies rather than TSH alone. Blood sugar and how it moves across a day. hs-CRP and unnecessary inflammation. Vitamin D you may be taking and may not be absorbing. Gut health, food sensitivity, the vaginal microbiome, nutrient status, and an autoimmune issue that gets mentioned as an afterthought when it belongs at the front of the file. CHAPTERS 00:00 The follicles are not responding 01:00 About Sarah and the team 01:20 What AMH does and does not tell you 02:00 Two statements that are not the same 02:20 The 90 days before stimulation started 02:40 hs-CRP and unnecessary inflammation 03:00 Optimal, not normal 03:20 Blood sugar regulation across the day 03:30 The full thyroid panel including antibodies 03:50 Nutrient depletion and secondary infertility 04:10 The vitamin D you may not be absorbing 04:30 An autoimmune issue is not a by the way 05:00 A clean diet that may not be the right diet for you 05:30 Hypervigilance and nervous system load 06:20 One client who did not have enough follicles to qualify 06:40 What I am not claiming 08:00 Annie and Miles. AMH 0.15, FSH 33 08:40 What Your Clinic Missed 09:00 What to ask before another IVF 09:40 Thirty days without medication, and doing this in parallel 11:00 Book a Second Opinion with your partner WHAT YOUR CLINIC MISSED If you have no idea which of these markers to run, we have a checklist called What Your Clinic Missed. It is a list of markers worth reviewing before a donor egg decision or before another IVF, so you can look at your own results and go from there. Email hello@fabfertile.ca with MISSED in the subject line and we will send it to you. FUNCTIONAL FERTILITY SECOND OPINION Book with your partner and load your labs into the secure portal. Before the call I review your fertility history and bloodwork from both partners, looking for patterns, unanswered questions and gaps. We are not diagnosing. Sometimes the review confirms that moving forward with the next IVF makes sense. Sometimes there are questions worth addressing first. Book your call with your partner at fabfertile.com If you want to know whether the call is right for you first, email hello@fabfertile.ca with FERTILE in the subject line and tell me a little about your situation. ABOUT THE HOST I'm Sarah Clark, founder of Fab Fertile and host of Get Pregnant Naturally, a podcast with over one million downloads. My functional fertility team works with couples navigating low AMH and failed IVF, reviewing functional lab results, gut microbiome, food sensitivity, vaginal microbiome, nutrigenomics, HTMA, DUTCH, toxin testing, and bloodwork alongside nervous system work, to help identify patterns that may not have been considered. We work alongside your medical team, not instead of them. Sarah Clark, founder of Fab Fertile, host of Get Pregnant Naturally (1M+ downloads), and author of Fabulously Fertile. If this episode helped, leave a review. It is how other women find this work.

Have you done all the therapy, read the personal development books and practiced mindfulness, yet still find yourself stuck in old patterns like people-pleasing, overworking or hyper-independence? What if you aren't broken, but simply living from an adapted personality?In this episode of Mind Body Medicine for Self-Healers, host Sarah Dawkins introduces the missing framework in personal growth: Readaptation.Instead of trying to "fix" yourself, learn how to honour the survival strategies your nervous system built in childhood and how to safely release them today.In this episode, you'll discover:Healing vs. Readaptation: Why insight isn't enough and how to build new lived experiences of safety.Signs of an Adapted Identity: 6 reflection questions to uncover your hidden survival mechanisms.3 Real-Life Transformations: How to shift hyper-independence, people-pleasing and hypervigilance into healthy boundaries and connection.A Guided Journaling Exercise: A simple 3-step prompt to help you reframe self-judgment into self-understanding.Timestamps of Key Information01:23 – The Missing Concept: What is Readaptation?01:51 – Why We Adapt: How perfectionism, overachieving, and busyness once kept you safe02:33 – Healing vs. Readaptation: Understanding pain vs. building a new lived experience of safety03:35 – Signs of an Adapted Identity: 6 self-reflection questions (Do you feel responsible for others' emotions, struggle to rest or avoid conflict?)05:07 – Example 1: Hyper-Independence06:33 – How to readapt: Learning to safely ask for and receive support07:44 – Example 2: People-Pleasing & Boundary Avoidance09:09 – How to readapt: Setting boundaries without fear of rejection10:11 – Example 3: Hypervigilance & Overthinking11:35 – How to readapt: Bringing your nervous system back to present safety12:28 – Core Mindset Shift: Honoring your survival strategies instead of shaming them13:18 – Guided Journaling Exercise: 3 steps to turn self-judgment into self-understanding15:35 – Closing Thoughts & Free ResourceGrab Sarah's free guide The 5-Step Re-Adapting Framework will support you to audit, honour and consciously re-shape your patterns of your past, for the life of freedom you want, today.   Here -  ⁠https://sarahdawkinshealth.eo.page/the-art-of-re-adapting⁠  

In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe gets real about one of the most uncomfortable and misunderstood parts of postpartum life: intrusive thoughts. If you've ever had a scary, unwanted thought pop into your head after having a baby and immediately wondered, “What is wrong with me?!”, you are absolutely not alone. HeHe sits down with Špela Grašič, a registered clinical counselor and new mom who has lived with OCD herself, to unpack the difference between common postpartum intrusive thoughts and postpartum OCD. They talk about why so many new parents experience unwanted thoughts about something happening to their baby, and why having an intrusive thought does not mean you want it to happen or make you more likely to act on it. Špela shares her own experience with vivid postpartum intrusive thoughts and explains how OCD can be sneaky, showing up not just through obvious behaviors, but through mental compulsions, reassurance-seeking, checking, avoidance, and constantly trying to make sure you're a “good enough” or safe parent. Together, HeHe and Špela explore how hormones, sleep deprivation, hypervigilance, stress, and the enormous responsibility of caring for a tiny human can all contribute to postpartum intrusive thoughts. They also share practical ways to respond when those thoughts show up, including naming and externalizing them, grounding, breathing, values-based strategies, and finding a therapist who actually understands OCD and perinatal mental health. Most importantly, this episode is about taking the shame out of thoughts you never asked for. Postpartum OCD can be misunderstood or mistaken for anxiety or depression, so knowing what to look for and getting the right support matters. If you've ever been afraid to tell someone what your brain is doing because you're scared they'll judge you, this conversation is for you. You deserve support, you deserve answers, and you do not have to navigate the weird, scary, overwhelming parts of postpartum alone. Chapters: 00:00 You Are Not Broken 01:24 Why Mental Health Feels Taboo 03:12 Meet Špela and Today's Goals 05:55 Taboo Intrusive Thoughts Explained 07:04 Real Postpartum OCD Stories 10:45 Reassurance and The Data 12:03 Host's Bank Trigger Moment 16:01 Why Intrusive Thoughts Happen 19:19 Hypervigilance and Bias Battles 30:12 Birth Lounge App Break 34:29 Back to OCD Postpartum Changes 34:43 Postpartum OCD Flareups 35:19 Miscarriage Intrusions Explained 37:47 Compulsions and Leniency 42:09 Reassurance Versus Exposure 48:26 Support and Resources Wrap   Guest Bio: Spela Grasic is a new mom and a Registered Clinical Counsellor from Kelowna, BC (Canada). Her journey into mental health started over a decade ago when a friend said, “maybe you should talk to someone.” (Yes, like the book.) She did and, over time, transformed her relationship with herself and her thoughts. She now sits with others as they learn to hold, untangle, and tend to all the messy, painful stuff. Spela holds a Master of Arts in Counselling Psychology from Yorkville University and a Master of Arts in English from the University of British Columbia (Okanagan). Her S.S.H.R.C funded MA (English) research explored the novel as a space where communities can explore intergenerational trauma encapsulated in everyday interactions, institutions, and languages. Professional qualifications aside, Spela is a quirky, sometimes awkward, new mom, partner, sister, daughter, and friend navigating the messiness of a rich and fulfilling life. Connect with Spela: https://www.instagram.com/spelagrasiccounselling/ https://bcacc.ca/counsellors/spela-grasic/ https://alivecounselling.com/team/spela-grasic/ SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/  Connect with Spela on IG: https://www.instagram.com/spelagrasiccounselling/    BIRTH EDUCATION: Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection LINKS MENTIONED: Listen to our episode on intrusive thoughts w/ Dr. Kat:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ivM-Iqv1qK0  international iCBT foundation: https://icbt.online/  International OCD Foundation:  https://iocdf.org/ The Happiness Trap: https://thehappinesstrap.com/ https://www.instagram.com/anxietyocdtreatment/ Postpartum Support International: https://postpartum.net/

Why do so many veterans wait years before seeking treatment?In this episode, we discuss the culture of “pushing through” in the military and the long-term physical and mental health consequences that can follow years after service. Many veterans normalize chronic pain, sleep problems, anxiety, respiratory symptoms, and emotional stress long before they ever seek medical care.We break down: Why veterans commonly delay treatment  The military mindset of “just deal with it”  How chronic conditions evolve over time  Why delayed treatment does not automatically mean a condition is unrelated to service  The long-term impact of untreated orthopedic injuries  Chronic pain and secondary mental health conditions  Toxic exposure symptoms that may appear years later  Hypervigilance, insomnia, and emotional burnout  The importance of medical chronology and evidence in VA disability claims  How untreated conditions can contribute to secondary complications over time We also discuss how military culture, operational demands, stigma, and fear of career consequences often influence treatment behavior in veteran populations.Topics Covered Veterans delaying treatment  Ignoring symptoms after service  VA disability claims  Chronic pain in veterans  Mental health after military service  PTSD symptoms  Hypervigilance and insomnia  Toxic exposure symptoms  Burn pit exposure  Secondary VA claims  Delayed diagnosis VA claims  Medical evidence for VA claims  Veteran disability appeals  Chronic orthopedic injuries  Independent medical opinions About the PodcastThe Veterans Disability Nexus Podcast discusses VA disability medical evidence, nexus letters, DBQs, and the intersection of medicine and veterans disability claims. Hosted by medical professionals experienced in reviewing complex VA disability cases and independent medical opinions.DisclaimerThis podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal or medical advice. Listening to this episode does not create a provider-patient relationship. Veterans should consult accredited representatives or qualified professionals regarding their individual claims or appeals.

Send us Fan MailPeaches and Trent sit down with returning guest Marc Esposito and Henry Penix from Soaak for a deep dive into sound frequency compositions, sleep, nervous system regulation, and the future of human performance.Marc explains how retirement led him into the human performance space, working with universities, the military, academia, and industry to help optimize the human weapon system. He also explains why he was initially skeptical of Soaak, why the science started making sense, and why he was willing to put his reputation behind it.Henry breaks down how Soaak uses clinically tested sound frequency compositions instead of generic YouTube frequency tracks. The goal is not magic, not crystals, not woo-woo nonsense — it is using targeted frequencies to help with sleep, anxiety, depression, nervous system reset, low energy, recovery, and performance.The team gets into why sleep is the foundation of human performance, how wearable data from devices like Whoop, Garmin, Oura, Fitbit, Apple Watch, and Samsung Watch can help guide frequency recommendations, and how Soaak is building AI-driven personalized frequency compositions based on what your body is showing in the moment.Marc also talks through his own testing, including using Soaak after brutal threshold work in Texas heat and dropping his heart rate from nearly 190 beats per minute to 80 in about 15 minutes. The conversation also covers stress load, allostatic load, sympathetic and parasympathetic states, PTSD-like symptoms, recovery, family life, and why operators have to learn how to come down after living in fight-or-flight mode for years.This episode is not saying sound frequencies replace hard work. They do not. But if something can help you sleep better, reset faster, recover harder, and show up more functional for your team and your family, that is worth paying attention to.Use code ONESREADY at Soaak.com.Links:- Soaak.com / Promo code: ONESREADY- OnesReady.com- OperatorTrainingSummit.com- ATACLETE / Promo code: ONESREADY- Modern Athlete Strength Systems / Promo code: ONESREADYChapters:00:00 - Intro and Ones Ready01:05 - Soaak Episode Preview02:45 - Marc Esposito and Henry Penix Join03:07 - Marc's Retirement and Human Performance Work05:13 - Why Marc Took Soaak Seriously06:34 - Sound Frequencies Are Not New07:36 - Operators, Sleep, and Coming Down From Fight-or-Flight08:05 - Why White Noise and Apps Matter09:15 - Wearables, Data, and What to Do With It10:17 - Henry's Background and Why Soaak Exists12:46 - From Clinic Modality to Sound Frequency Compositions13:33 - Sympathetic Resonance Explained15:03 - Sleep as Soaak's Most Used Frequency16:02 - Targeting Sleep, Anxiety, Depression, and Reset16:50 - How Frequencies Are Built and Tested20:35 - Why Frequency Effects Make Sense22:06 - Marc's Central Nervous System Reset Testing23:18 - Heart Rate Recovery After Brutal Work24:26 - Performance, Recovery, and Free Chicken25:26 - Hypervigilance, Family Life, and Coming Home Normal27:07 - From 188 Beats Per Minute to 8029:21 - General Minihan and Sleep Efficiency32:33 - Sleep as the Foundation of Performance33:23 - Dual Audio and Listening in the Background35:27 - Getting Frequency Effects Without Extra Equipment37:43 - Military Compliance and Group Use38:23 - Sleep Without More Pills39:43 - Wearable Integration and AI Personalization43:05 - Brain Maps, PTSD, and Long-Term Support43:58 - Neurofeedback-Type Effects46:06 - One Percent Better Adds Up46:49 - Studies, Sleep Records, and Frequency Library49:12 - Stress-Related Doctor Visits49:49 - Epic Fury, Stress, and Mental Health Evacuations51:41 - Readiness, Lethality, and Allostatic Load54:07 - Teaching Young Warfighters to Regulate55:11 - The Rubber Band Stress Analogy57:25 - Frequencies Underwater59:45 - Tinnitus, Earbuds, and Meeting People Where They Are01:01:11 - Soaak Code for Ones Ready Listeners01:02:04 - Use Code ONESREADY01:02:54 - Tinnitus and Frequency Use01:03:38 - Final Links and Wrap-UpSupport the showJoin this channel to get access to perks: HEREBuzzsprout Subscription page:  HERERegister for our Operator Training Summit:  OperatorTrainingSummit.comFind an Air Force Recruiter: AirForce.comCollabs:Ones Ready - OnesReady.com 18A Fitness - Promo Code:  ONESREADY ATACLete - Follow the URL (no promo code):  ATACLeteDanger Close Apparel - Promo Code:  ONESREADYDFND Apparel...

After betrayal, every decision can feel catastrophic. Stay or leave? Give more grace or set a harder boundary? Invest in support or save the money in case you need it later? When your brain is hyperalert, every possibility can begin to look like proof that one wrong choice will ruin your future. In this episode, Lora Cheadle explores why hypervigilance can disguise itself as careful decision-making—and why self-trust does not mean making perfect choices. Through the story of rebuilding her home after a devastating sewer explosion, along with her own experiences of choosing beauty, pleasure, and higher standards, Lora shows how recovery shifts when you stop trying to recreate the old or justify every choice and begin creating a life that genuinely reflects who you are now. Top 3 Takeaways 1. Hypervigilance can make every possibility look like catastrophe. After betrayal, your brain is trying to protect you from ever being blindsided again. That can turn thoughtful decision-making into endless analysis, freezing, catastrophizing, and searching for guarantees that do not exist. 2. Self-trust is not making the perfect decision. Self-trust means knowing that you can choose, experience what happens, gather more information, ask for help, reassess, change direction, and choose again. A decision that does not turn out perfectly is not proof that there is something wrong with you. 3. Recovery is not about rebuilding the old life. Whether you stay, leave, remodel your marriage, or create something entirely new, the deeper question is what you want your life to feel like now. Higher standards are not perfectionism. They are a willingness to value truth, emotional safety, beauty, pleasure, self-respect, and a life that feels fully yours. Favorite Quotes “Familiar does not mean it's automatically right. Cheap does not mean it's automatically the wisest decision. Practical does not automatically mean it's aligned with who you are and where you're going.” “Beauty and loving yourself and loving your surroundings…is evidence that you've come back to life.” “Your decisions do not have to be perfect. You just need to trust yourself enough to manage your life.” About Lora Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign. Resources & Links  Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com  Book your $97 Introductory Session: https://introductorysession.com  Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Healing after betrayal often requires more than insight alone. Therapy can provide additional support, stabilization, and guidance as you navigate the emotional impact of infidelity and betrayal trauma. BetterHelp listeners receive 10% off their first month: www.betterhelp.com/FLAUNT LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future Download Now ➜ www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com (MAKE THIS A BUTTON) You deserve more than survival. You deserve sovereignty, peace, and joy.   Books By Lora • International Book Award, Finalist Motivational Self-Help 2021 • Tattered Cover Bestseller 2019 Are you tired of living a life dictated by others? If you've felt trapped by expectations and long o be free, FLAUNT! is the key to unlocking who you are, expressing yourself authentically, and choreographing your life your way.   Reclaim yourself with this transformative guide that empowers you to strip away societal expectations and reveal your smart, sexy, and spiritual self. Through a unique blend of humor, wisdom, and actionable steps, you can uncover your deepest desires and build the confidence to live a life full of passion and purpose. Buy Now on Amazon, or wherever books are sold. It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive, is the essential guide for burnout and betrayal relief. Packed with insight and practical tools, this book is a must-have for individuals, teams, and leaders alike. Available on Amazon. Learn more at www.itsnotburnoutitsbetrayal.com Hashtags: #BetrayalRecovery #InfidelityRecovery #BetrayalTrauma #HealingAfterInfidelity #NervousSystemHealing #SomaticHealing #EmotionalHealing #LoraCheadle #TraumaRecovery

Send us Fan MailA Gluten Free PodcastEpisode 248My guest on today's episode is substance abuse, eating disorder and trauma specialist psychotherapist, Alexis Fosler. We'll explore the link between trauma, eating disorders, addiction and the gut/brain axis. We'll also share how individuals living with coeliac disease can incorporate various tools to deal with these issues to manage the stresses in their lives.What we'll cover:* How Alexis and I connected through a mutual friend* The stresses of living with coeliac disease and being strictly gluten free* Alexis' personal background and role as a former corporate executive and what led Alexis into working in addiction, trauma and eating disorders* Finding a mentor* Insights Alexis gained from retraining as a psychotherapist being exposed to a broad spectrum of people living with addictions and mental health issues* Currently studying obesity and  ultraprocessed foods and its impact on* Acute versus chronic stress* Complex trauma and modern stressors in our lives* Homeostasis and allostasis* How our nervous system adapts to stress over time* Allostatic load and the cumulative load of stress and challenges over time on our mental and physical health* How stress impacts our endocrine system* Is there a healthy level of stress?* Sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system* Effects of stress on our appetite and food habits* Cortisol, dopamine and other chemicals being activated during stress* The complexities of our stressors and how we deal with stress in our brains and bodies* Hypervigilance and avoidance when living with coeliac disease and adhering to a strict gluten free diet* Eating disorders in people with coeliac disease* The fear of food, restrictive eating and coeliac disease* Link between eating disorders and disordered eating* When to seek help when the stresses of living strictly gluten free* The relationship between addiction, eating disorders and disordered eating* Maladaptive behaviours in addiction* Emotional regulation's role in addiction, eating disorders and disordered eating* Dopamine's role in our habits and compulsions* Chronic deficits in our dopamine system and alterations in our dopamine systems* Complexities of dealing with recovery in addictions* Approaching various addictions, eating disorders and disordered eating with various approaches* Various approaches to recovery: pharmacological, talk therapy, cognitive flexibility, somatic interventions and changes of environment* Importance of breath work* How to create new neural pathways to retrain brain * Alexis' PHD and thesisLinksFollow Living Free on InstagramLiving Free TodayPromises HealthcareTrauma, Eating Disorders and Addiction Youtube videoARFID and coeliac disease researchConnect with Alexis' mentor, Reshie - https://www.linkedin.com/in/reshie-joseph-a770a358/ Join A Gluten Free Podcast Facebook Group 

#200 // You're the strong one. The high-capacity one who holds it all together when everything's falling apart. But the very strength you've been relying on might be the thing most likely to break you.There's a better way to get through the storm you're in — and it's not gritting your teeth and holding on tighter.The night Hurricane Helene flooded our island, I lost my home and 80% of everything I owned. And in the middle of that storm, God showed me something about resilience I'd been getting wrong for 30 years of walking with Him. This message is what I learned.In this week's episode -- it's the message I shared this past week on Get Ready with God -- I'm walking you through the difference between being rigid and being grounded, and why one breaks in the storm while the other bends and springs right back up.Here's what we get into:→ THE NIGHT I LOST EVERYTHING. The hurricane that flooded an island that had never flooded, and the moment God told me to ground myself before the water ever came in→ THE OAK VS. THE PALM. Why the strongest tree on the island is the one that snaps in the storm, and what that has to do with the way you've been white-knuckling your way through hard seasons→ THE SECRET IN THE ROOTS. How a palm tree with shallow roots outlasts a deep-rooted oak in a hurricane, and the community secret underground that keeps it standing→ WHY RIGID ISN'T SAFE. What a car accident reveals about bracing for impact, and why the hypervigilance you've mistaken for strength is actually putting you at risk→ ROOTED AND GROUNDED IN LOVE. How to become the palm tree — grounded, resilient, bending without breaking — not in your own strength, but by the power of the Spirit

A calm, healthy relationship can feel more dangerous to you than the chaos you grew up in. That's hypervigilance. It hates the absence of a threat, so it manufactures one, even when you're finally safe. Patrick Teahan, a clinical social worker and childhood trauma educator, breaks down why your body still reacts like it's protecting a nine year old. You're not overreacting. You're replaying. Teahan explains how most people experience the present entirely through the lens of childhood, filtering every text and every silence through wounds that happened decades ago. This episode gets into inner child work, re-parenting, and the murky question of when going no contact with a parent is healing versus when it's avoidance. You'll hear what real boundaries look like when love and abuse get tangled together. By the end, you'll understand why healing isn't about proving your parents wrong. It's about finally believing you were a good kid the whole time. Patrick's Website Patrick's Instagram Patrick's YouTube Patrick's TikTok In this episode you will: Discover why your nervous system treats calm, safe relationships as a threat Learn Patrick's three-part healing framework of finishing business with your family of origin, re-parenting your inner child, and doing the deeper work of intimacy Understand the ACE study and why quiet, everyday trauma often does more damage than one big event Explore when going no contact with a parent is genuine healing and when it becomes avoidance Uncover the link between childhood trauma, imposter syndrome, and your ability to manifest the life you want For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1962 More SOG episodes we think you'll love! Get More From Lewis! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Join me to paint the MUSEDear One, If you happen to have a chronic stress or chronic health condition, please listen because this matters. The hours of your day are not neutral. They're counting on your body's clock. Hypervigilance over time wears the body down. You know this, but what you might not know is how much pleasure builds the body back. Pleasure is not a treat. Pleasure is a counterweight to pain. And here's why I believe it. Chronos. Chronic. It means with time. So if you have chronic health and chronic stress, it means you're living with it, inside of it. These words come from the Latin and the Greek. When it first began to enter the human language, it was not about a severity, it was about duration, the time it takes. Chronic, on its own, isn't something bad. It's what travels with you. But it's not a singular event. It's time itself. And if the condition that you are navigating is having an impact on your life. It's impacting your time. Not just the quantity of your time, but the quality of your time. So what if the remedy to Chronos and Chronic is connected with time itself? Think about this for a moment with me. Chronos connects with the brainwave of Beta, what I call busybody beta, and hypervigilance, and also the critic. The critic lives in Chronos. Chronos is sequential, the clock, the calendar, the appointment, the countdown, the quantity. Beta is the brainwave that runs it. Hypervigilance is what beta feels like from the inside when you live in a body that communicates to you about what it is experiencing in languages that are hard to understand and so unpredictable. When you're always scanning for what's next, what's going to bring on the inflammation or the flare, whether or not you feel like showing up for something that you've already said yes to. Small example, yesterday I spent quite a few hours feeling creative and lit up and informed. And then suddenly my computer was out of battery and I was in a public place. And I didn't feel like expending the energy to get up and plug it in. So I just closed it and just sat there instead. I was weighing whether or not it felt worthwhile to find the socket. Because when you're navigating chronic conditions, sometimes the simple act like plugging in a cord can feel like you don't want to do it. Are you, like I am sometimes, weighing every move? The weighing itself, the evaluation is not free. Researchers have measured what it does to a body over the years. And this buildup is called allostatic load. The wear accumulates. And so when we stay hypervigilant and stressed and in the stressful parts of the beta brainwaves over and over and over, it accumulates. It's a toxic load. Accumulation: Is a word that's been changing everything for me. Hypervigilance is not waiting for a flare. It's showing up in the good times too. When I'm doing things that I love, it's just there in the background. And it fills up peaceful times with stress if I don't pay attention. But there's something else. This one has to be chosen. Chronos is Predictable. What is not predictable is Kairos. Kairos is a choice. Kairos is divine time, God timing, supreme timing, synchronicity, everything in right time. Kairos, theta brainwaves, flow state, and the Muse. Kairos is about quality, not quantity. It's about opportunity, never too early, never too late. It's the opening. The space to breathe in between, or what I would call Tea with Muse. Chronos is spent. It's finite. Kairos, you enter and it's infinite, or at least the experience of it can be when you enter a flow state. Theta is the brainwave that's operating in Kairos. You don't just arrive there all at once. You have to pass through other brainwaves. You begin to leave the beta and you pass through the imagination of alpha and into the spacious mystical theta. And as you go. Hypervigilance and stress dissolves along the way. This also counts, especially if you declare that it does. Flow is what it feels like from the inside. Flow is the felt sense of the Kairos state. And this is where science is on my side and the side of Intentional Creativity. The researchers have a name for what happens to time in that state. They actually call it time distortion. It's one of the defining markers where hours go by and you can't account for them. You're so in the flow. You're in your jam. There's a theory called transient hypofrontality that says that the self-monitoring part of the brain quiets down during times of deep absorption. The part of you that is over hypervigilant, that guards, that worries, goes quiet, measurably quiet during Kairos. So when you're in self-expression, particularly things like drawing or painting or singing or weaving or digging in the dirt or cooking food, things that require intention you go into Kairos. When you're sitting with the Muse and letting her have her way with you. Two hours go by and you don't even know where they went. That happened just this morning. Coffee with two people I adore. We read poetry from my book, Tea with the Midnight Muse. We did the Mother Mary Oracle Deck and applied it to our health. We talked to the kitties. We talked about the roses and the tomatoes. I made a soup of everything from the garden. And the hours were gone and they couldn't even believe it. And I said, that? That's Tea with the Muse. That's what I want to talk about today. We traveled out of beta and we stopped guarding the parameter of our consciousness. We stopped listening to the Chronos critic who told us we must be productive. We entered the place where there is no clock. Instead, there's a cuppa.Here's the interesting thing, is that this time wasn't about healing something completely, not about overcoming something. When we come back out of it, the same conditions are waiting for us, but our perspective is shifted and we can bring magic out of Kairos into the Chronos. Let me tell you this, the pleasure time, the Muse time, that also is accumulative, just like the stress. The body, the heart, the mind, and the identity, they begin to fill up with a different kind of energy. This is why my entire day is filled with little bursts of chosen micro-pleasure. Chronos, Beta, Hypervigilance, Critic, Finite. That one writes by itself all day long, whether we consent or not, where Kairos, Theta, Flow, and the Muse, and the Infinite, that one only writes in us when we choose it, and also choose to be conscious of it. Kairos offsets days of bracing and worry for the worst. What if Tea with the Muse Is this life-saving as I've been saying it is all these years? You might ask yourself, why does Shiloh spend so much time on pleasure when the world is on fire? Because I know what's possible, because I've seen it for myself. I've seen people move out of chronic pain and into practices of pleasure that change our world. You know what? Chronos gets the clock. It's operating all day long. Kairos only gets what we choose and appoint. While you might think that 15 minutes of Tea with the Muse against the rest of the hours spent just fighting the onslaught of overwhelm and chaos: I challenge you to consider this is not just a lovely invitation. For many of us, it's life-saving. Pleasure is our activism. Kairos, like the Muse, must be courted. Kairos doesn't just arrive on its own, usually. The only times I've seen it come are through falling in love or worshipping at the altar of the Divine. Every other time, I need to choose it. Pain is inevitable, but pleasure is chosen. Kronos never has to be chosen. Kronos is chronic, just like the critic is chronic, keeping you scrolling and reminding you that time is running out. Kairos is a ritual. And while many of us in our community do prefer a giant canvas, in addition, take a walk and let the flowers speak poetry to you. Look out the window at the farthest point you can find and ask what color that is, if you were to paint it. Talk to the part of your body that hurts and ask what it wants. One of the people I was sitting with this morning is navigating a health condition and I asked her to ask that part of her body what the message was. Only one small thing came. But for me, as I sat with her and listened to the space in between the spaces, I heard a very clear instruction about a particular form of rest and I invited her to take that rest today - and she did and she's doing it right now while I do this. Information comes when you're having Tea with the Muse. So open the page and give the Muse of Kairos the pen. Ask What wants to reveal itself to you today? Do you believe me that a practice of pleasure could be the counterpoint of a lifetime of pain and could actually be, not just a coping mechanism but a practice to deal with states of chronic health and stress? I know it works. The only question is how much? Will you try? I will. I'll see you with the Muse. This is Curate Shiloh Sophia for Tea with the Muse podcast and I'm grateful to be in your life. Let's choose the Muse.Amber and Shiloh Sophia Get full access to Tea with the Muse at teawiththemuse.substack.com/subscribe

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At Amy Kurtz's But You Look Fine book launch and signing event in New York City, Tick Boot Camp co-founder Matt Sabatello caught up with former guest Ben Ahrens, founder of Re-Origin, for an insightful conversation about neuroplasticity, hypervigilance, chronic Lyme disease recovery, and the emerging science connecting the brain, nervous system, and chronic illness. Since his first appearance on the Tick Boot Camp Podcast, Ben has continued expanding Re-Origin's reach around the world while deepening his research into how chronic stress, trauma, and nervous system dysregulation can perpetuate illness long after the initial trigger has passed. This conversation explores why some patients remain trapped in cycles of symptoms, why many become increasingly sensitive to treatments, and how retraining the brain may help create conditions that support healing and recovery. Meet Ben Ahrens Ben Ahrens is the founder of Re-Origin, a neuroplasticity-based brain retraining program designed to help individuals struggling with chronic conditions including: Lyme disease Chronic fatigue syndrome (ME/CFS) Chronic pain Central sensitization Nervous system dysregulation Complex chronic inflammatory illnesses What began as Ben's personal journey out of severe neurological Lyme disease has evolved into a global movement. Today, Re-Origin serves members in more than 50 countries and has helped over 12,000 participants navigate recovery through nervous system regulation and neuroplasticity-based approaches. Why the Brain Matters in Chronic Lyme Disease Ben explains that chronic illness is not "all in your head." Instead, he argues that the brain serves as the body's master regulator, coordinating immune, hormonal, emotional, and physiological responses. When the nervous system becomes chronically overwhelmed, it can become trapped in a state of persistent threat detection. According to Ben, even when infections are being addressed and the body begins healing, the brain may continue operating as if danger is still present. This ongoing state of alarm can: Increase inflammation Suppress immune function Heighten symptom perception Amplify treatment reactions Prolong illness cycles Make recovery more difficult The result is a nervous system that remains stuck in survival mode long after the original threat has diminished. Understanding Hypervigilance One of the central themes of this interview is hypervigilance. Ben describes hypervigilance as a state in which the brain becomes excessively focused on detecting potential threats. Over time, the nervous system can become conditioned to interpret everyday sensations, stressors, and even beneficial treatments as danger signals. He explains that hypervigilance often develops gradually through a cumulative process rather than a single traumatic event. Potential contributors include: Chronic infections Medical uncertainty Financial stress Relationship challenges Physical injuries Repeated setbacks Long-term caregiving demands Ongoing emotional strain Eventually, the nervous system may reach a tipping point where seemingly minor stressors trigger major physiological responses. Why Some Lyme Patients Become Extremely Treatment Sensitive Many Lyme patients report becoming increasingly reactive to medications, supplements, detoxification protocols, and other therapies. Ben believes hypervigilance may help explain why. When the brain is operating from a persistent fight-or-flight state, it often interprets change itself as a threat. Even interventions intended to help may trigger exaggerated physiological responses because the nervous system is already overloaded. This can contribute to: Heightened treatment reactions Increased symptom flares Difficulty tolerating protocols Fear surrounding new therapies Reduced resilience to stress Understanding the role of the nervous system may provide an additional layer of insight for patients who feel stuck despite pursuing multiple treatment strategies. The Connection Between Medical Trauma and Chronic Illness Inspired by Amy Kurtz's new book, Matt and Rich ask Ben about the concept of Medical Trauma Brain. Ben sees significant overlap between medical trauma and hypervigilance. He explains that one of the most difficult aspects of chronic illness is uncertainty: Not knowing what is wrong Not receiving answers Feeling dismissed by providers Navigating conflicting medical opinions Watching symptoms worsen without explanation When patients spend months or years searching for answers, the brain can become increasingly conditioned to expect danger, uncertainty, and disappointment. This experience can create a powerful neurological imprint that persists long after diagnosis and treatment begin. How to Recognize Hypervigilance Many people living with chronic illness don't realize they are operating from a hypervigilant state because it has become their normal. Ben shares several common signs: Constant worry or rumination Feeling unable to relax Persistent fight-or-flight sensations Always waiting for "the other shoe to drop" Difficulty feeling safe Trouble being present Physical tension throughout the body Racing thoughts when trying to rest He notes that some individuals can temporarily calm their nervous system through activities such as walking, nature exposure, breathwork, or meditation, but quickly return to anxiety and activation once the activity ends. This pattern may indicate that deeper nervous system retraining work could be beneficial. The Importance of Nervous System Regulation One of the key lessons from Ben's own recovery journey is that healing often requires more than simply addressing infection. He emphasizes practices that help regulate the nervous system, including: Breathwork Gentle movement Mindfulness Awareness training Neuroplasticity exercises Stress reduction strategies Consistent nervous system regulation practices The goal is not to ignore physical illness but to create an internal environment that supports healing. From Hypervigilance to Relaxed Readiness Ben offers a compelling alternative to living in chronic fight-or-flight mode: Relaxed Readiness. Borrowed from martial arts philosophy, relaxed readiness describes a state of: Alertness without anxiety Presence without tension Awareness without fear Capacity without overwhelm Rather than remaining trapped in survival mode, individuals can train their nervous systems to become more resilient, adaptable, and balanced. According to Ben, the same neuroplastic mechanisms that teach the brain to overprotect can also teach it to relax, recover, and function more effectively. Ben's Upcoming Book Ben also shares a preview of an upcoming book currently in development. The book will explore: The science of hypervigilance Nervous system dysregulation Trauma and chronic illness Neuroplasticity research Practical recovery strategies The journey toward relaxed readiness His goal is to help readers better understand why chronic stress and nervous system overload have become so widespread—and what can be done to reverse the process. Key Takeaways Chronic Lyme disease recovery may involve both biological treatment and nervous system regulation. Hypervigilance can develop gradually through chronic stress, illness, and uncertainty. An overactive threat response may increase symptom intensity and treatment sensitivity. Medical trauma can leave lasting neurological effects that impact recovery. Neuroplasticity offers hope that the brain can learn new, healthier patterns. Nervous system retraining aims to move individuals from chronic fight-or-flight into a state of relaxed readiness. Recovery is not simply about eliminating symptoms—it's about restoring resilience, capacity, and quality of life.

If you've ever sat across from someone you care about and felt your body go on high alert, unsure whether you're in danger or just remembering what danger used to feel like, this conversation is for you. I sat down with Amy Fiedler, Certified Trauma Support Specialist and relationship educator who has helped more than 2,000 clients worldwide understand how past trauma continues to shape their relationships, to talk about hypervigilance: how to recognize it, how to work with it, and how to finally tell the difference between an old wound and a present-day reality.Amy and I get into how relational trauma quietly pulls us toward what's familiar instead of what's good for us, how to identify the values that can actually guide our choices, and what it really takes, beyond a quick "I'm sorry," to repair trust after rupture. This one is honest, practical, and full of permission for anyone who's ever been told they're too much.Connect with Amy:https://amyfiedler.com/https://www.instagram.com/amythelifecoach/https://www.tiktok.com/@amythelifecoachhttps://www.threads.com/@amythelifecoachWORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinatriner.com/resources CONNECT WITH  ME:Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"What's familiar seems safe in our heads, but familiar and safe are not the same thing." - Amy Fiedler"You are never asking for too much. Unless you're asking for something like a hundred thousand dollars a day, in terms of our emotional needs, that's very different." - Amy Fiedler"The minute you catch yourself eliminating the ands, I want more communication, and I'm okay if I don't always get it right, that shows you growth." - Amy Fiedler"We don't fully heal and move on to the next thing. It's a part of you. It's created what you want now. So lean into that." - Amy Fiedler"If they don't know why they did it or said it, there's no chance at them changing it. There's none." - Amy Fiedlerhypervigilance, relational trauma, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, attachment healing, self trust, boundaries, codependency, relationship values, survival mode, somatic healing, inner child healing, self worth, apology and accountability, trust rebuilding, emotional regulation, trauma informed relationships, deep within podcast, Amy Fiedler 

Curious about your own biological age? You can take the same GlycanAge test I did in this episode and save with our exclusive 10% discount using the link below. https://glycanage.com/shop?discount=TADBIn this episode, I sit down with Nicolina Lauc, co-founder of GlycanAge, to explore what your biological age can reveal about your health, stress levels and future longevity.We discuss why some people age faster than others, how chronic stress changes the body, my own GlycanAge results, and the simple habits that may help you live a longer, healthier life.If you're interested in longevity, stress, breathwork or optimising your health, you'll enjoy this conversation.00:00 Why Your Real Age Isn't Your Birthday00:55 Meet GlycanAge & Biological Age Testing05:17 What Is Inflammation, Really?07:00 Are Telomeres Actually the Best Age Test?11:12 What Speeds Up Biological Age?13:19 ADHD, Stress & Living Longer18:19 Mike's GlycanAge Test Results23:48 What Your Glycan Results Really Mean28:37 Sleep, Stress & VO₂ Max32:28 The Biggest Things That Slow Ageing36:54 Health Anxiety & Biohacking40:39 Childhood Trauma & Biological Age44:33 Breathwork, PTSD & Healing47:42 Can Breathing Slow Ageing?52:41 Nature, EMFs & Modern Living54:48 Blue Zones & Why Some People Live Longer1:01:40 Is Lung Capacity the Best Predictor of Longevity?1:02:42 The Best Anti-Inflammatory Diet1:07:36 PTSD, Hypervigilance & Sleep1:11:44 How to Get Your Biological Age Tested1:13:39 Final Thoughts

A Different D Word apply here ✨You keep telling yourself that everything is going to be okay...So why doesn't your body believe you?If you've read the books, listened to the podcasts, repeated the affirmations, and you're still waiting to feel calm, you're not failing. Your nervous system simply doesn't heal through information alone.In this episode, we're unpacking why uncertainty feels so terrifying after divorce, how hypervigilance disguises itself as responsibility, and why trying to control your ex, your children, or your future is often a nervous system strategy—not a character flaw.We also explore the difference between anxiety and intuition, why positive thinking can't create genuine self-trust, and what it actually takes to build a deep, embodied belief that you'll be okay no matter what life throws at you.In this episode, we discuss: Why "everything will be okay someday" keeps you stuck  The nervous system's relationship with uncertainty and fear  Hypervigilance, codependency, and the illusion of control  How to tell the difference between anxiety and intuition  Why healing requires more than therapy, books, and podcasts  What real emotional safety feels like in your body  The missing ingredient that helps self-trust finally stick If you've been quietly thinking, "I know all of this... so why can't I actually live it?"—this episode is for you.

Learn why your nervous system keeps mistaking uncertainty for danger—and how shifting from hypervigilance to trust can transform your leadership, fundraising, and everyday decisions. This episode shows you how regulated leaders create calm, confidence, and influence, even in the middle of crisis.   Key Takeaways: The nervous system's primary job is safety, not truth, so it often creates stories that feel real but aren't actually based in facts. When uncertainty arises, the brain rushes to “fill in the blanks,” which can trigger anxiety, catastrophizing, and unnecessary conflict in leadership and fundraising. Hypervigilance can look like being extra prepared, caring, or productive, but if it is driven by fear and the need for control, it never truly calms the nervous system. Trust doesn't eliminate uncertainty; it increases your capacity to tolerate it and move forward, believing you will handle whatever happens. The most influential leaders are the most regulated ones—they set the emotional temperature, create psychological safety, and stop making decisions from a dysregulated state.   “People think trust removes uncertainty. It doesn't. It increases our ability to tolerate uncertainty.”   “As leaders, we communicate more than information. We communicate emotional safety, and your nervous system becomes a part of your leadership.”   “You don't need more confidence. You need a nervous system that no longer mistakes uncertainty for danger.”  - Maryanne Dersch       Let's Work Together to Amplify Your Leadership + Influence1. Group Coaching for Nonprofit LeadersWant to lead with more clarity, confidence, and influence? My group coaching program is designed for nonprofit leaders who are ready to communicate more powerfully, navigate challenges with ease, and move their organizations forward. 2. Team Coaching + TrainingI work hands-on with nonprofit teams to strengthen leadership, improve communication, and align around a shared vision. Whether you're growing fast or feeling stuck, we'll create more clarity, collaboration, and momentum—together. 3. Board Retreats + TrainingsYour board has big potential. I'll help you unlock it. My engaging, no-fluff retreats and trainings are built to energize your board, refocus on what matters, and generate real results.Get your free starter kit today at www.theinfluentialnonprofit.comConnect with Maryanne about her coaching programs:https://www.courageouscommunication.com/connect Book Maryanne to speak at your conference:https://www.courageouscommunication.com/nonprofit-keynote-speaker

Short Bio: Thais Gibson is a counselor, speaker, and leader in the personal development field. She has a Ph.D. and is certified in 13 modalities, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, NLP, Somatic Processing, and Trauma Work. Her scientific research, personal experience, and compassionate approach led to her founding the Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory™. Through her academic training and client-based research, Thais has created renowned and inspiring courses for personal development, growth, and relationships. These teachings have been distilled into the in-depth programs, courses, and modules inside of The Personal Development School. Links: Instagram, YouTube, Personal Development School, and The Thais Gibson Podcast

How do you protect your child without living in constant fear? In this deeply compassionate coaching session, Christine works with Shelley, whose journey through chronic illness, mold toxicity, Lyme disease, fertility challenges, and becoming a new mother has left her feeling trapped in a cycle of hypervigilance around environmental toxins. What began as a genuine desire to keep her daughter safe has slowly become an exhausting mental prison. Every trip to the grocery store feels overwhelming. Every product label raises questions. Every social media post from health experts seems to introduce a new threat. Instead of enjoying motherhood, Shelley finds herself consumed by worry and worst-case scenarios. As Christine gently unpacks the deeper layers beneath the anxiety, a powerful truth emerges: Shelley's hypervigilance isn't the problem—it's a protective part of her that developed after years of trauma, illness, and uncertainty. Together they explore Parts Work (Internal Family Systems), nervous system regulation, motherhood, chronic illness recovery, intuition, and the difference between living from awareness versus living from fear. If you've ever found yourself obsessing over health, constantly researching the next thing to worry about, or feeling like your mind has become consumed by trying to control the uncontrollable, this episode offers a compassionate path back to peace. Press play to discover how trusting yourself—and allowing love to become louder than fear—can help you step out of survival mode and back into your life. Consider / Ask Yourself Do you spend so much time trying to protect yourself or your loved ones that it's difficult to enjoy the present moment? Has your search for health information become a source of anxiety instead of empowerment? Are you constantly scanning for what could go wrong instead of appreciating what is going well? What would change if you trusted your intuition more than your fear? Key Insights and A-Ha's Hypervigilance is often a protective response born from trauma—not a character flaw. Information becomes overwhelming when fear is driving the search for certainty. You don't need to eliminate your protective parts—you can simply give them a new role. Awareness is empowering; obsession is exhausting. Raising your inner sense of safety can be just as important as reducing external risks. How to Deepen the Work Notice when your protective part is taking over and gently thank it for trying to keep you safe. Limit exposure to fear-based content that keeps your nervous system activated. Spend intentional time strengthening the parts of yourself that feel creative, joyful, intuitive, and present. Practice speaking words of trust, health, and resilience over yourself and your loved ones. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes Christine shares why she loves Peluva, a minimalist five-toe shoe designed to strengthen the feet, encourage natural movement, and support overall foot health. Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair. Visit: peluva.com Social Media + Resources:  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!  

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GLP-1s can be a powerful tool to reduce cravings, improve insulin sensitivity, decrease inflammation, and heal internal pathways...  But they can't heal the patterns that were created long before the weight gain ever happened. In this episode, I'm sharing why lasting transformation requires more than changing what you eat or what medication you take.  We also have to look at the nervous system, the beliefs we've carried for years, and the survival patterns that continue to shape our behaviors, relationships, and health. I share a simple story about straightening my naturally curly hair and how it became the perfect analogy for the way our brains tend to pull us back toward what's familiar—even when we're trying to create something new. We'll talk about:• Why weight loss is often more emotional than physical• How hypervigilance and chronic stress can impact healing• Why "self-sabotage" is often a misunderstood survival response• The hidden work that begins when food noise starts to quiet down• Why GLP-1s can support change, but can't do the mental or emotional healing for you If you've ever found yourself slipping back into old habits, old relationships, or old ways of thinking despite your best intentions, this episode is for you. Because the goal isn't just to lose weight. It's to create a life that feels safe enough to stay healthy in. I'll show you how.   When you're ready to do this for yourself, the next best step is to schedule a free consultation at www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule. Chapters (00:00:02) - Eat Hungry for Love(00:00:24) - What GLP1s Can't Heal ((00:02:08) - Why We Keep Going Back To Our Old Patterns(00:08:32) - The Hypervigilant Part of Narcissists(00:16:24) - What if I Regain the Weight?(00:24:02) - How to Lose Weight and Get Attracted to Your Partner(00:29:52) - How to Lose the Next 20 Weight in a Lifetime(00:35:07) - Binge Eating and Relationship Cycle Break the Cycle

In this episode of Women Making Moves, host Amy Pons sits down with Trishia Domingo — confidence coach, award-winning model, and multidisciplinary leader — for a deeply personal conversation about identity, healing, and what it really means to feel at peace. Trishia shares how her work as a confidence coach centers on helping people, especially women, reconnect with the "magic" and brilliance that often gets conditioned out of them from childhood onward. The two explore how societal expectations shape girls from infancy, how generational patterns get passed down and challenged, and why the new generations are unlearning inherited beliefs about who they're allowed to be.The conversation turns to Trishia's work with the Eldest Daughters Collective, a racial healing justice organization supporting eldest and only daughters — many of them children of immigrants — who carry disproportionate emotional and logistical responsibility within their families. Trishia and Amy dig into the invisible weight of emotional labor, the exhaustion of hyperindependence, and why learning to receive support is just as important as giving it.0:00 — Intro: Welcome to Women Making Moves, meet Tricia Domingo (confidence coach, model, Face of CBMA winner)0:34 — Tricia's background in healthcare tech, Eldest Daughters Collective, Dream Photo House, Filipina on the Rise0:53 — What is a confidence coach? Unlocking the "magic" in people2:12 — How conditioning chips away at confidence starting in childhood3:48 — Energetic conditioning from birth, generational shifts (Boomers, Gen X, Millennials, Gen Z)6:57 — Growing up in a "be seen, not heard" household; intergenerational healing7:46 — Rethinking divine feminine/masculine — "the new human energy"9:36 — What is the Eldest Daughters Collective? Origins and mission11:52 — Hypervigilance, hyperindependence, and emotional labor of eldest daughters15:34 — Women bearing the emotional load of the household ("expense report" thought experiment)16:58 — Layoffs as a hidden gift; finding your own truth center17:28 — Defining racial healing within the Eldest Daughters Collective18:47 — What's next: new membership model, Shutterfest modeling, future YouTube channel20:00 — "Find calm in 5 minutes a day" — breathwork, tactical pauses, and ADHD22:30 — Finding "okayness" from within instead of external validation25:15 — Why people avoid revisiting painful memories, and how coaching holds space27:42 — Bridging ego and soul; releasing suppressed emotional energy30:27 — Do you really want peace? Uncovering the deeper desire behind stated goals33:50 — Grown adults still living by their parents' rules — "is that still true for you?"36:11 — Where to find Tricia: Instagram @atasteoftrishia, thrivewithtrisha.com36:33 — Closing thoughts and gratitude

Self-care podcast exploring Why Chronic Stress + Cortisol Don't Just Affect Your Hormones, Why Your Ego Mind Gets Louder During Heightened Stress & Steps to take From Hypervigilance to Healing. TOPICS:: ** Why Chronic Stress + Cortisol Don't Just Affect Your Hormones (05:49). ** Why Your Ego Mind Gets Louder During Heightened Stress (11:41). ** Steps to take From Hypervigilance to Healing (23:39).   NOTES:: Show notes: amberapproved.ca/podcast/677 Leave me a review at amberapproved.ca/review Email me at info@amberapproved.ca   Save 50% off everything in the online store: Workshops, Masterclasses and Self-Study Programs to help you address emotional eating, hormone imbalances, weight-loss blocks and more from July 5th-12th: https://amber-romaniuk.mykajabi.com/store    Take the NEW Free Hormone Imbalance Quiz here: https://amberapproved.ca/hormone-imbalance-quiz    Subscribe to newsletter: https://amber-romaniuk.mykajabi.com/newsletter-sign-up    SHOW LINKS: Click below to schedule a 30 minute Complimentary Body Freedom Consultation https://amberapproved.ca/body-freedom-consultation/  Take my free Emotional Eating Quiz here: http://amberapproved.ca/emotional-eating-quiz Listen to Episode 668 about what it's like to work with me here: https://amberapproved.ca/podcast/668  Follow me on Instagram www.instagram.com/amberromaniuk Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@amberromaniuk/    MY PARTNERS: Designs For Health Blood Sugar Bundle! One of the hardest parts of overcoming my emotional eating was the INSANE SUGAR and carb cravings. It was the intense sugar and carb cravings. That's why I created my Blood Sugar Bundle with Designs for Health to support your body while you work on emotional eating and breaking binge patterns. It includes chromium for blood sugar balance, L-glutamine to help curb cravings fast, a high-quality probiotic for gut health, and a clean Pure Paleo protein powder to keep you full and stable. I only recommend Designs for Health to my clients because they are third-party tested, family-owned, and use the highest quality ingredients. Quality matters when it comes to truly supporting your body and getting results. Get 30% off The Blood Sugar Bundle in USA and Canada automatically applied at checkout below! Canada Blood Sugar Bundle here for 30% off!  USA Blood Sugar Bundle here for 30% off! You can also get 30% off any Designs for Health supplements anytime, it's my gift to you. Canada: www.designsforhealth.ca  (code AMBER30) USA: www.designsforhealth.com (code AMBER88)

217  Ever feel like you can never quite relax in your marriage—even when nothing is really wrong?Maybe a part of you feels like you have to manage the relationship all the time… or you're constantly noticing your partner's mood, his tone, how quickly he texts back, whether he seems distant, or whether the two of you still feel "okay." You aren't trying to overthink your relationship...but somehow, part of your mind is always checking and tracking if things are going a little south.In this episode, I unpack what I call this often hidden job so many highly sensitive women unknowingly take on: monitoring the relationship.We'll explore:How to recognize when paying attention has unconsciously become monitoring.Why this pattern is so common for highly sensitive women.How your nervous system turns sensitivity into vigilance.The surprising cost of constantly tracking your relationship.And what becomes possible when you no longer feel responsible for monitoring love in order to feel safe.If you've ever found yourself wondering "Are we okay?" more often than you'd like, this conversation will help you understand why—and, more importantly, show you a different path.If you're longing for a relationship that feels lighter, safer, more connected, and more like coming home to your best friend, this is an important episode.SHOW NOTES: Learn more about the full Safe Heart Pathway through Sanctuary 1:1 (where Foundations of Emotional Well-Being is included as the first layer)Or begin with Foundations of Emotional Well-Being for HSPs (FEW) on its own first.FREE QUIZ: How Much is High Sensitivity Impacting Your Relationship (and are you even highly sensitive)? You want to know. Because, high sensitivity has a major impact on intimate relationships – for better or worse. Take this 3 minute quiz to discover if you're highly sensitive and how deeply it's affecting you, and your happiness in your relationship. You will also get your next steps to making sure sensitivity works for your relationship, instead of against it.ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Check out the Start Here Podcast Pathway for a suggested route through the most important episodes to start with or review — the ones that will help you feel calmer, more secure, and more hopeful in your relationship.

Send us Fan MailThe job trains you to scan for danger, move fast, and stay ready, but nobody hands you a clean off-switch when you walk back through your front door. We sit down with Dr Stephanie Conn, a former dispatcher and police officer turned first responder psychologist, to get real about what actually helps police, fire, EMS, dispatch, and corrections stay steady over the long haul.We talk about resilience as a practice, not a personality trait. That means sleep discipline, boundaries, and recovery routines that fit real schedules, plus “performance” framing that makes wellness feel credible to skeptical crews. We also get into the so-called woo-woo tools like yoga, mindfulness, breathing, and how biofeedback can prove what your nervous system is doing even when you swear nothing is changing. If you want first responder mental health strategies you can apply tomorrow, this conversation stays grounded in the day-to-day reality of the work.Family comes up in a big way. Hypervigilance can be an occupational adaptation on scene, but it can strain relationships when it follows you home. We break down how to “dial the hyper down” without losing your edge, why informed family support can be the strongest protective factor against secondary trauma, and how the slow grind of “death by a thousand cuts” can lead to compassion fatigue if you never pause to process.We also dig into peer support: what it looks like when it is only reactive, what changes when it becomes responsive and progressive, and why training, boundaries, and clinical guidance matter so a peer team builds trust instead of breaking it. Subscribe, share this with someone on shift, and leave a review so more first responders can find practical resilience training that works.Stephanie can be reached via her website https://firstresponderpsychology.comHer LinkedIn account is https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-stephanie-conn/Support the showYouTube Channel For The Podcast

Send us Fan MailWhat load actually reaches your pelvis when you run? For years we couldn't really answer that — we just said "wait twelve weeks, then go." Babe, we've come a long way.Dr. Megan James is back — and this time it's Dr. James. She finished her PhD and brought two new papers that quietly shift how we think about returning to running postpartum.First: a graded pelvic loading pathway, built by measuring how much load actually reaches the pelvis across walking, hopping, jumping and running. The surprise star? Grounded running — a gliding, no-flight-phase style that showed consistently lower load at the pelvis than slow running at the same pace.Second: a return-to-run guide co-designed with postpartum runners. Their ask — treat us like mums who run, not athletes who happen to be mums. It's a guide, not a deadline. And if you're not running yet, you are not behind.We talk about:-Returning to running after injury versus after pregnancy-Why the research began with a nulliparous population-Hypervigilance and fear of movement-What impact forces actually reach the pelvis during running-Slow running, grounded running, and perceived impact-Creating a postpartum return-to-run guide-Looking at the whole person, not just the pelvic floorNote: This is education, not a prescription. For a plan built for your body, your birth and your symptoms, see your maternity care team and a pelvic floor PT.Time Stamps1:00 introduction6:23 setting up the research12:28 what they measured through the research16:45 surprises in the study21:20 slow running and grounded running26:42 rate of the perceived impact32:29 explaining the guide paper40:23 changing perception with feedback from moms45:32 the one-size-fits-all trap52:05 looking at the mom as a whole54:46 advice to former self58:12 potential future researchCONNECT WITH CARRIEIG: https://www.instagram.com/carriepagliano/Website: https://carriepagliano.comCourse waitlist: https://course.carriepagliano.com/RSAWLCONNECT WITH MEGAN:LinkedIn: @meganljames16The Active Mom Podcast is A Real Moms' Guide to pregnancy, postpartum, perimenopause & beyond for active moms & the professionals who help them in their journey.  This show has been a long time in the making!   You can expect conversation with moms and professionals from all aspects of the industry.   If you're like me, you don't have a lot of free time (heck, you're probably listening at 1.5x speed), so theses interviews will be quick hits to get your the pertinent information FAST!  If you love what you hear, share the podcast with a friend and leave us a 5 ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and review. It helps us become more visible in the search algorithm! (Helps us get seen by more moms that need to hear these stories!!!!)

How Do You Let Them Go? When Love and Fear Are Entangled Letting go isn't just emotional — it can feel physical. Your chest tightens. You panic when you see overdose news. You feel responsible for keeping them safe. In this episode, Andrea explains attachment activation, hypervigilance, and the fear-responsibility loop that makes stepping back feel impossible. When love and fear become intertwined, your nervous system can interpret separation as danger. This conversation helps you separate love from obligation and clarity from panic. In This Episode: Why your nervous system reacts so intensely • Attachment trauma and separation anxiety in adults • The fear-responsibility loop • Hypervigilance and scanning for danger • How to make decisions from steadiness instead of fear

Send us Fan MailWhat does the VVHG journey look like for a Six who has spent her career holding space for other people's fear?Wholehearted Enneagram: A Year Through the Types | Type 6 | Episode 3 of 4In this episode, Amy talks with Gwen Sledge, a Wholehearted Coach, former nurse, and Type Six who knows from the inside what it's like to be the steady, reliable, vigilant one... and what it costs. Gwen walks through the Victim, Villain, Hero, and Guide framework through a Six lens, drawing on her own story and her work coaching women who are ready to stop managing everything and start living from something deeper.This episode is especially for the nurses, caregivers, and first responders in this community; the Sixes who have given their vigilance to everyone else and are ready to find out what groundedness feels like for themselves.In this episode:The Six's loud inner committee and how it differs from the One's inner criticHow the three Six subtypes present differently: social, self-pres, and counter-phobicThe victim role: freezing, scenariating, and waiting for the second shoe to dropThe villain role: anxiety projected outward, resentment, and relinquishing responsibility, then resenting itWhat it looks like when a Six steps into the hero — trusting discernment, coming back to center"Lord, I trust you, but I don't trust me," and why that's still a trust problemThe guide role: holding space without gripping, and relinquishing an inflated sense of responsibilityThe lie most Sixes carry: "It's all up to me""Fear is not the boss of me" — the truth statement that counters itWhat those who love a Six most need to hear: don't dismiss usA special word for nurses and caregivers in the Six communityYou are braver than your fear. You don't have to scan the horizon alone.Calendar - Learn more/connect - mention podcast for a 25% discountEmail - gwen@enneagramwithgwen.com IG - @enneagramwithgwenFB - Enneagram with GwenLinkedIn - Gwen SledgeNewsletter - Stay in touch!Free Resources: 21 Verses of PeaceEnneagram at a GlanceNurses Enneagram Guide: Thriving at Work and BeyondBurnout QuizSupport the showRESOURCES FOR YOU:Join the Waitlist for 1:1 Coaching with Amy Wickshttps://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicksNot sure about your Enneagram Type? Start here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagramquizEnnea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram(free course + printables)https://bit.ly/Enneagram101GuideConnect with Amy:IGWebsite

Stop Paying the Toll for Disasters That Haven't HappenedDo you find yourself constantly scanning the horizon, waiting for the other shoe to drop? That familiar weight of hypervigilance—bracing for a medical diagnosis, a broken relationship, or sudden job loss—can completely exhaust your nervous system.In today's session, we explore why waiting for a crisis is often more draining than the crisis itself, and how you can gently step away from the "window" of fear and back into the safety of the present moment.

Text Dr. Lenz any feedback or questions When Fibromyalgia Masks Autism and ADHD: Diagnostic Overshadowing and Neuroplastic PainThe script argues that fibromyalgia's pain, fatigue, and brain fog can act as “diagnostic overshadowing,” masking underlying undiagnosed autism and/or ADHD. Referencing Dr. Megan Anna Neff's video on how autism can hide ADHD, the narrator (a physician) connects neurodivergent traits to central sensitization and nociplastic pain, suggesting a nervous system “born” with high sensory volume that overheats from lifelong adaptation to a neurotypical world. Examples include autistic rigidity and routines masking ADHD while fueling hypervigilance; combined ADHD task paralysis and autistic inertia contributing to “fibro fog”; special interests functioning as regulating deep focus but driving boom-bust cycles and stress on reentry; and layered masking that ends in collapse framed as flares. The script concludes that recognizing autism/ADHD improves self-understanding and guides lifestyle changes to reduce symptoms.00:00 Fibro as Medical Mystery00:35 Diagnostic Overshadowing01:08 Neurodivergence Behind Pain01:44 Autism Hiding ADHD02:30 Central Sensitization Link03:05 Rigidity Mask Explained04:45 Hypervigilance and Stress05:15 Task Paralysis and Inertia07:06 Special Interests Solar System08:39 Defensive Deep Focus Cycle10:08 The Grand Masking Trap11:50 Self Understanding as Treatment12:23 Closing and Next StepsClick here for the YouTube Channel  Support the showWhen I started this podcast and YouTube Channel—and the book that came before it—I had my patients in mind. Office visits are short, but understanding complex, often misunderstood conditions like fibromyalgia takes time. That's why I created this space: to offer education, validation, and hope.  If you've been told fibromyalgia “isn't real” or that it's “all in your head,” know this—I see you. I believe you. This podcast aims to affirm your experience and explain the science behind it. Whether you live with fibromyalgia, care for someone who does, or are a healthcare professional looking to better support patients, you'll find trusted, evidence-based insights here, drawn from my 29+ years as an MD.Please remember to talk with your doctor about your symptoms and care. This content doesn't replace per...

​Topics covered include:​ Alcoholism​, domestic violence​, hypervigilance​, compassion​, motherhood​, self-abandonment​, being a carer​, death and loss​, grief​, faith​, spirituality​, forgiveness​, love​, safety​, self-worth​, self-sabotage​, overwhelm​, healing​.This week I'm joined by Master Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner, Executive Coach and founder of The Navigation Coach, Tara Rafter.Tara lives in Mayo with her husband Kevin and their son Kai.In this deeply honest conversation, Tara shares the story of her childhood growing up in a home impacted by alcoholism and domestic violence. She speaks candidly about the hypervigilance she developed from a young age, the lasting impact those experiences had on her life, and the remarkable compassion she holds for her father despite the challenges her family faced.Tara's story is one of resilience, but also of love, forgiveness and understanding. She reflects on her relationship with both of her parents, who died far too young. Her father passed away at the age of 58, while her beloved mother​, who was her anchor throughout life​, lived with COPD for several years before she died.We also explore motherhood, self-abandonment, self-worth, self-sabotage, overwhelm​ and what it means to truly feel safe in yourself.Alongside the more difficult chapters, this conversation is full of warmth and humour. Tara talks about her love of music​ and heading off to gigs on her own, her deep faith and the practices that have helped her navigate life's challenges.You can connect with Tara here:Website: thenavigationcoach.comEmail: tara@thenavigationcoach.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Overthinking is not a cognitive habit, it is hypervigilance, the adult continuation of the childhood emotional forecasting system used to predict and prevent caregiver harm. You are not thinking, you are scanning.This video walks through what overthinking actually is, why meditation, journaling, and mindfulness have never reached it, and how the loop in your head is the adult expression of a job your nervous system was given at age four. If your brain will not shut up, this names why.Kenny Weiss is the creator of the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™. This teaching maps overthinking to hypervigilance, the survival persona, the emotional forecasting system installed in childhood, and the body-state re-training that finally quiets the loop.Overthinking is not a cognitive habit and not a personality trait. It is hypervigilance, the adult continuation of the childhood emotional forecasting system the child used to predict and prevent caregiver harm. The brain is not stuck on the topic, it is scanning for danger.Children raised by unpredictable, volatile, depressed, addicted, withdrawn, or critical caregivers were given a second job, predict the adult so you can adjust yourself in time to stay safe. That forecasting system did not turn off in adulthood, it just changed targets to the partner, the boss, and the inbox.Generic interventions cannot reach hypervigilance at the source. Meditation watches the thoughts, but the thoughts are not the problem, the perceived threat is. Journaling helps the loop be understood, but the loop is not asking to be understood, it is asking to be safe. The limbic system does not respond to language, it responds to safety.The Emotional Authenticity Method™ addresses overthinking at the body-state level. Its six steps trace the loop from somatic down-regulation through earliest memory to Feelization, where the nervous system builds a new emotional addiction to safety instead of to scanning.Kenny Weiss is a relationship, communication, and childhood trauma recovery specialist and the creator of the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™. He is the author of Your Journey To Success and Your Journey To Being Yourself.TOPICS COVERED: how to stop overthinking, overthinking, why my brain will not shut up, hypervigilance, emotional forecasting, scanning instead of thinking, racing thoughts, childhood survival strategy, Worst Day Cycle, Authentic Self Cycle, Emotional Authenticity Method, Kenny Weiss, survival persona, anxiety, nervous system regulation0:00 — The 3 a.m. Loop and Why It Will Not Stop1:30 — The Client Still Standing at the Top of the Stairs3:30 — Hypervigilance and the Childhood Forecasting System6:00 — You Are Not Thinking, You Are Scanning8:00 — The Worst Day Cycle Underneath the Loop10:30 — Why Meditation, Journaling, and Mindfulness Cannot Reach It12:30 — The Authentic Self Cycle Around the Loop15:00 — The Emotional Authenticity Method as Safety Re-Training18:00 — Identity Close

390: This special Mental Health Compilation brings together highlights from conversations with Joe Hudson, Maggie Nick, Gabby Reece, and Dr. Nicole LePera. Through these powerful discussions, we explore emotional regulation, resilience, nervous system health, reparenting the inner child, and the patterns that shape our relationships, behaviors, and sense of self. We discuss practical tools for managing stress and overwhelm, breaking generational cycles, building emotional awareness, and creating healthier habits that support long-term mental well-being. Whether you're looking to better understand yourself or navigate life's challenges with more confidence and clarity, this episode offers some of the most impactful mental health insights we've shared on the podcast. → Leave Us A Voice Message!  Topics Discussed: → Emotional regulation and nervous system health → Why we suppress emotions and how it impacts our well-being → Breaking generational patterns and cycles → The "good kid" mindset, perfectionism, and people-pleasing → Parenting, shame, and emotional resilience → Reparenting your inner child → How childhood experiences shape adult relationships → Building self-awareness and emotional intelligence → Vulnerability, resilience, and personal growth → Managing stress, overwhelm, and emotional triggers → Identity, achievement, and self-worth → Healing old wounds and creating lasting change Sponsored By:  → OGEE | Thanks to today's sponsor, Ogee: A higher standard for beauty. Go to https://ogee.com/BEWELL and use code BEWELL to get 20% off certified organic makeup that performs like luxury. → Be Well By Kelly Protein Powder & Essentials | Get $10 off your order with PODCAST10 at https://bewellbykelly.com. → Branch Basics | First-time customers can save 15% on a Starter Kit with code BEWELLPODCAST at branchbasics.com/BEWELLPODCAST.  → Kosterina | You can shop all my favorites at https://www.kosterina.com/bewell and use code KELLY for 15% off your first order. → Shop minnow's new apré-ski capsule collection at https://shopminnow.com and enter code MEETMINNOW15 at checkout to receive 15% off your first order. Timestamps:  → 00:00:00 - Introduction → 00:01:38 - Joe Hudson: Why We Suppress Emotions → 00:06:12 - Anger, Stress & Emotional Expression → 00:12:08 - Emotional Health, Relationships + Connection → 00:18:45 - Parenting, Vulnerability & Nervous System Regulation → 00:20:23 - Maggie Nick: The "Good Kid" Identity → 00:30:48 - Perfectionism, People-Pleasing + Shame → 00:35:02 - Breaking Generational Patterns → 00:39:14 - Why Children Internalize Criticism → 00:42:24 - Gabrielle Reece: Resilience, Adversity + Growth → 00:47:18 - Identity Beyond Achievement → 00:52:04 - Hypervigilance, Childhood Experiences + Relationships → 00:56:42 - Success, Balance + Life Priorities → 01:00:26 - Dr. Nicole LePera: Reparenting The Inner Child → 01:04:18 - Childhood Conditioning & Survival Patterns → 01:08:12 - People-Pleasing, Attachment + Emotional Triggers → 01:12:35 - Healing Old Wounds & Creating Lasting Change → 01:16:28 - Final ThoughtsFurther Listening:  → Repressed Emotions, Anxiety + Why Self-Improvement Doesn't Exist | Joe Hudson → Stop Hustling for Worth, Heal People-Pleasing, + Feel Enough | Maggie Nick → Gabby Reece on Wellness, Marriage, Motherhood & Mental Strength → Reparenting Your Inner Child, Self-Abandonment + Nervous System Healing | Dr. Nicole LePera Check Out: Joe Hudson:  → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joehudson_aoa?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== → http://artofaccomplishment.com Maggie Nick:  → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maggiewithperspectacles/reels/ → TikTok:  → New Book:  Gabby Rece:  → https://gabriellereece.com/ → Instagram Dr. Nicole LePera → Website: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/ → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist → New Book: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/books/reparenting-the-inner-child/ Dr. Nicole LePera → Website: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/ → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist → New Book: Reparenting The Inner Child Check Out Kelly: → Instagram → Youtube → Facebook

You check their phone. Their location. Their social media. Their messages. Their tone of voice. The time they arrived home. The way they answered a question. The hesitation before they replied. And even when you find nothing, the urge eventually comes back. So why do you keep checking? In this episode of After the Affair, Luke explores one of the most common but misunderstood behaviours following betrayal: the compulsion to monitor, investigate, and search for reassurance. At first glance, checking appears logical. After all, you were lied to. You were blindsided. The person you trusted broke that trust. Of course your brain wants to make sure it never happens again. But what if checking isn't actually creating safety? What if it's doing something else entirely? Luke explores the hidden relationship between checking and uncertainty, why the nervous system becomes trapped in threat detection mode after betrayal, and why the relief checking provides is often temporary rather than transformative. Most importantly, this episode explores the deeper question beneath the behaviour itself: What are you hoping checking will eventually give you? Because understanding the answer to that question may reveal far more about your healing than any phone, message, location history, or social media account ever could. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why checking becomes such a powerful habit after betrayal The difference between safety and uncertainty reduction What your nervous system is trying to achieve when it urges you to check Why finding "nothing" often doesn't make you feel better The hidden emotional cost of constant monitoring How checking can unintentionally reinforce anxiety Why trust and certainty are not the same thing The difference between investigation and anxiety management What checking may be preventing you from focusing on How self-trust becomes an essential part of recovery A Powerful Question From This Episode "What are you hoping checking will eventually give you?" Not what you're looking for. Not what you might find. Not who you're checking. What are you hoping it will give you? Safety? Certainty? Control? Relief? Reassurance? Because once you understand the need beneath the behaviour, you can begin addressing the real problem rather than managing the symptom. Key Takeaways ✅ Checking is a normal response to betrayal. ✅ Your nervous system is trying to prevent you from being blindsided again. ✅ Checking provides temporary relief, not lasting safety. ✅ The brain often mistakes uncertainty reduction for security. ✅ Finding nothing rarely resolves the deeper fear. ✅ Hypervigilance can become exhausting emotionally and physically. ✅ Trust cannot be rebuilt through monitoring alone. ✅ The urge to check does not automatically mean something is wrong. ✅ Recovery involves learning to tolerate uncertainty without immediately acting on it. ✅ The ultimate goal is not trusting them blindly, it is rebuilding trust in yourself. Why This Episode Matters Many betrayed partners spend months, or even years, trapped in a cycle of checking. Checking feels responsible. Checking feels protective. Checking feels like you're doing something. But over time, it can become a prison. Not because you're weak. Not because you're obsessive. But because your nervous system learned a painful lesson and is desperately trying to keep you safe. This episode explores why checking is often an attempt to manage anxiety rather than gather information, and why genuine recovery requires something deeper than monitoring another person's behaviour. Because eventually the question stops being: "Can I trust them?" And becomes: "Can I trust myself?" Resources & Support If you're navigating the aftermath of infidelity and looking for support, guidance, and practical tools to help you move forward, Luke offers both private coaching and community support.

So many people deeply crave connection… while simultaneously being terrified of being fully seen. Not the polished version. Not the “I'm fine” version. Not the carefully curated version we show the world. But the real version. The vulnerable version. The imperfect version. The human version. In this deeply honest and emotionally powerful episode of Getting Through the Week, Dr. KellyRae explores emotional masking, vulnerability, survival identities, relationship wounds, and the fear many people carry around truly being seen and loved for who they are beneath the armor. This conversation dives into:

Send us Fan MailDid you know that up to 80% of physical health complaints are linked to stress and anxiety? What if being stuck in fight-or-flight mode is the very thing preventing the changes you're trying to make?In this episode of the Autonomic Homeostasis Activation (AHA) Podcast, Tom Pals and Ruth Lorensson explore the sympathetic nervous system, the neuroscience of stress, and why chronic nervous system activation can keep us trapped in patterns of anxiety, hypervigilance, exhaustion, and reactivity.Far from being the enemy, the sympathetic nervous system is a brilliantly designed protective mechanism. The challenge is that modern life—24-hour news cycles, social media, political uncertainty, work pressures, and constant stimulation—can keep this system activated long after a genuine threat has passed.Tom and Ruth unpack the difference between reacting and responding, why real transformation requires access to the parasympathetic nervous system, and what it actually means to be stuck in survival mode. Ruth also shares her personal experience of hypervigilance following a serious injury and the intentional practices she has used to help her nervous system rediscover safety.In this episode:• What the sympathetic nervous system actually does• The real meaning of "sympathetic" — and why it has nothing to do with sympathy• Why fight or flight is protective, not the problem• How hypervigilance keeps us stuck in survival mode• Why chronic stress impacts both physical and emotional health• Managing versus adapting — and why only one creates lasting change• Practical tools for nervous system regulation, including breathwork, grounding, and intentional recovery• Why intentionality matters in today's stress-saturated worldIf you're interested in neuroscience, nervous system regulation, emotional resilience, trauma recovery, stress healing, anxiety, or the mind-body connection, this episode offers a practical and compassionate framework for understanding how the body responds to stress—and how lasting change becomes possible.About the AHA PodcastThe Autonomic Homeostasis Activation Podcast explores neuroscience, emotional resilience, trauma recovery, nervous system regulation, stress healing, and whole-person wellbeing. Through conversations with researchers, practitioners, and thought leaders, we examine how the brain and body work together to support health, healing, and human flourishing.New to AHA? Start with:• Autonomic Nervous System Explained• Interoception Explained• Why You Don't Feel SafeSupport the showThanks for listening!You can follow us onFacebook Instagram Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts Check out the Autonomic Healing Website & InnerWorkings WebsiteEmail Tom thomasjpals@innerworkings.orgEmail Ruth ruth@bridgeandrhino.comSupport usWe appreciate you!

In this episode of Talk Dizzy To Me, vestibular physical therapists Dr. Abbie Ross, PT, NCS and Dr. Danielle Tolman, PT sit down with neurologist Dr. Kristin Steenerson to unpack Persistent Postural Perceptual Dizziness, also known as 3PD or PPPD.If you feel dizzy, floaty, rocking, disoriented, or visually overwhelmed most days — especially in places like grocery stores, airports, busy restaurants, or while scrolling screens — this episode explains what may be happening in the brain and nervous system.Dr. Steenerson breaks down the diagnostic criteria for 3PD, why symptoms can continue even after the original vestibular problem improves, how 3PD overlaps with vestibular migraine, and why treatment often requires a combination of education, vestibular therapy, medication, cognitive strategies, lifestyle support, and gradual exposure.This conversation also addresses why 3PD is sometimes misunderstood, how hypervigilance plays a role, and why there is real hope for recovery and improved quality of life. Hosted by:

This week, we meet a daughter who grew up in a home marked by fear, hypervigilance, emotional instability, and domestic violence. Although her childhood looked “good” from the outside, her nervous system carried a very different reality underneath it.We're talking about:Hypervigilance and nervous system survival responsesWhy safe situations can still feel unsafeAnxiety, scanning, and emotional monitoringThis episode is for daughters who learned to stay alert in order to survive and are now trying to understand why their bodies still feel unsafe long after childhood ended.

#215 - You're “Better”… So Why Do You Still Feel Like This? With Amy Kurtz   At some point, you get past the diagnosis. You finally start to feel physically better or the flare passes. And everyone—including you—thinks: okay, this is where life goes back to normal. Except… it doesn't. In this episode, I'm joined again by Amy Kurtz—patient advocate, bestselling author of Kicking Sick, and her new book But You Look Fine—and we're talking about the healing phase no one prepares you for: What happens after the illness because for a lot of people, that's where a different kind of struggle begins. Amy shares her experience of finally getting answers after years of chronic illness (we're talking 30+ doctors), beginning to heal physically, and then being hit with something she didn't expect: Debilitating anxiety. Hypervigilance. A nervous system that refused to stand down. Even though she moved beyond the illness, her body had been in survival mode for so long, it didn't know how to be anything else. What we unpack in this episode: The “in-between” phase of healing—when you're not sick, but you're not okay either Why your nervous system doesn't automatically catch up just because your labs look better The concept of Medical Trauma Brain (MTB)—Amy's term for the imprint chronic illness leaves behind How years of survival mode can turn into anxiety, fear, or obsessive control even after you improve The grief that comes with lost time, missed seasons, and a life that didn't go the way you thought Why healing isn't just physical—and what happens when we ignore the emotional and neurological layers The connection between chronic illness and trauma (including how this differs from traditional PTSD) What it actually looks like to start regulating your nervous system in a practical, doable way We also go here: The subtle ways people self-abandon in medical settings—and how to stop doing that Why “doctor knows best” can keep you stuck (and what to do instead) The fawn response in healthcare—and why it feels so hard to advocate for yourself How to choose the right practitioner for you (not just the most recommended one) The reality that 80% of your healing happens outside the doctor's office   A few moments to listen for: 08:30 – Her husband's provocative question that made Amy realize she wasn't actually “better” 14:00 – What Medical Trauma Brain really is—and why you've never heard of it 19:00 – Living in constant fear even after your body improves 27:00 – The fawn response and why patients stay in bad medical relationships 36:30 – “It all starts with peeing” (stay with us—it's actually profound) 44:00 – Why meditation can feel impossible—and what that tells you 52:00 – What Amy would do differently if she could go back   The part that stays with you: This idea that you can spend years fighting to get better… finally get there… and still feel trapped. If this sounds familiar, you're not failing. It's just that no one told you there's an aftermath to surviving something so hard. Amy calls it the “shadowlands”—that space where you look fine on the outside, but internally, your system is still bracing for impact. If you've ever thought: Why can't I just relax? Why am I still on edge? Why do I feel like something's about to go wrong—even when it's not? This episode will put language to that. If this is you right now, there's a way to actually teach your body that it's safe again. And the steps are easier than you think. This conversation isn't just about chronic illness. It's about what happens when you've been in survival mode for so long that you don't know how to turn it off. And how to start finding your way back.

What does it take to stop living the life you were handed and start building the one you actually want? In this episode of Sense of Self, Dr. Gowri Aragam sits down with Erin Gums, certified coach, breath work guide, and founder of Tap Into Your Wellspring, for one of the most honest, courageous conversations this show has ever hosted. Erin grew up in Oakland, California, the child of a Black father with deep Bay Area roots and a Chamorro mother from the Northern Mariana Islands. She was sensitive, perceptive, and wired for connection in a world that didn't always know what to do with that. What followed was a years-long journey through family fracture, identity searching, compulsive achievement, and the slow, hard work of learning to trust herself. This episode explores what it means to carry silence, to perform comfort around people who hurt you, and to finally choose your own safety, even when it costs you everything familiar. Erin's story is not easy, but it is deeply human. And for anyone who has ever felt caught between the family they came from and the person they're becoming, it will feel like being seen. Content Warning: This episode contains discussion of childhood sexual abuse and family trauma. If you or someone you love is struggling, please call or text 988. About Erin: Erin Gums is a certified coach and breath work guide and the founder of Tap Into Your Wellspring. Her work supports people in moving through trauma, reclaiming their sense of self, and building lives rooted in safety and authenticity. https://www.tapintoyourwellspring.com/https://www.instagram.com/tapintoyourwellspring 00:00: Welcome and Guest Intro 02:37: Erin's Name and Family Roots 04:14: Oakland Upbringing and Big Family 05:11: Mixed Heritage and Identity Questions 11:06: Sensitivity, Trauma, and Finding Safety 27:50: Outsider in Privilege 28:52: Hypervigilance and Hope 31:05: Achieving to Belong 33:35: Career Collapse as Wake-Up Call 36:20: Leaving Family and Starting to Heal 38:06: Breaking Silence and Going No Contact 43:35: Grandmother, Closure, and Moving On 47:40: LA Rebirth and Inner Work 53:35: Community, Purpose, and Love 59:25: Who Erin Is Today A note on ethics, process, and safety: The individuals in this podcast have graciously shared their stories and it's important to note that while these discussions are enriching and enlightening, they are not a substitute for therapy or mental healthcare.Please note that each guest has given their consent to participate, had full control over what aspects of their journey were shared, and either currently engages in therapy or coaching, or has done so in the past.Thanks from all of us at Sense of Self

Being "First, Only, Different" in academic medicine and public health forces us to stay incredibly sharp. We have to remain alert just to ensure we aren't shortchanged on resources, pay, or structural support. But over time, this defensive mindset creeps into areas where it doesn't belong. When you are constantly on guard at your institution, you naturally start fixating on what everyone else is doing with their research, funding, and careers. It is an exhausting trap. In this encore episode, Kemi breaks down why this happens and how staying in survival mode is quietly derailing your peace of mind and your progress toward a sustainable career. Applications are now open for the July 2026 cohort of Get That Grant®. The wait is over! If you've been thinking about joining us and are ready to get clear on what matters most for your career and build a strategy that reflects that clarity, now is the time. This is our final cohort before 2027. Apply here. If you'd like to learn more foundational career navigation concepts for women of color in academic medicine and public health, sign up for our KD Coaching Foundations Series: www.kemidoll.com/foundations. Mentioned: New England Journal of Medicine Article: Structural Solutions for the Rarest of the Rare — Underrepresented-Minority Faculty in Medical SubspecialtiesText Dr. Kemi directly.

On this episode of Ask Kati Anything, licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton is joined by globally recognized keynote speaker and wellness expert Alison Canavan. Alison is the creator of the Energy Bank Method, a framework built on the foundational belief that human energy—not time—is our absolute most valuable currency. In this raw and insightful conversation, Alison shares her transformative journey through the high-pressure international modeling industry as a teenager, navigating addiction, recovering from severe burnout, and addressing systemic mental health challenges. Together, Kati and Alison pull back the curtain on generational family gaslighting and look closely at why so many of us grow up treating constant anxiety and hypervigilance as a badge of love. They unpack the toxic trap of learned compliance, look at the overlapping clinical symptoms of anxiety, ADHD, and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), and explain why passive family systems leave adults entirely blind to the process of proper conflict repair. Tune in to discover how to stop playing an active role in your own ongoing suffering, how to shift from default nervous system reactivity into a state of presence, and how to rewrite your emotional blueprint using non-judgmental awareness. Shopping with our sponsors helps support Ask Kati Anything • Rebound - virtual treatment for PTSD. Please visit https://hellorebound.com/askkatianything • Reddit - Download the Reddit app today! More Alison Caravan! https://alisoncanavan.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us Fan MailThis episode is about something I believe quietly destroys more lives than most people realize.It is not always trauma.It is not always failure.It is not always lack of opportunity.Sometimes, it is our unconscious reaction to everything.In this solo episode of Alison Answers, I'm talking about the difference between reacting to life and intentionally creating it.Because so many of us think we are thinking things through, but what we are really doing is reacting.I share insights from my book The Wake Up Call and walk through how we move from reaction mode into creation.In this episode, I talk about:- Why most people are reacting more than they realize- Why worry is a form of visualization- How your brain prepares your body for what you repeatedly focus on- Why fear can start to feel like wisdom- How hypervigilance trains the brain to search for danger- Why calm can feel unsafe when your nervous system is used to chaos- How language shapes identity- Why mediocrity is so expensive- How repeated thoughts become practiced identity- Why creation requires action, not just wishful thinking- How to stop rehearsing fear and start creating the life you actually wantIf you have been feeling anxious, tired, stuck, uninspired, or like you are constantly reacting to life instead of leading it, I want this episode to be a wake-up call.Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:58 Stop reacting and start creating02:41 The thing quietly destroying people's lives03:28 Thinking vs reacting04:18 Old programming, fear, and childhood conditioning05:21 Rehearsing disaster and worst-case scenarios06:40 A tool to calm the body and interrupt reaction08:26 Reacting to life vs creating it intentionally09:03 Rehearsed fear vs rehearsed future10:03 Worry is visualization11:18 What world is your brain preparing you for?12:33 How focus strengthens neural pathways12:57 Hypervigilance and searching for danger15:08 When rehearsed fear starts to feel like wisdom17:06 Why people become addicted to reaction18:53 Why calm can feel unsafe20:09 Creation requires presence21:55 Letting go of struggle and seeking wisdom22:21 Why society rewards mediocrity23:49 Wanting more does not make you shallow26:14 How people slowly settle for less27:47 The real cost of mediocrity30:01 Identity is built through repetition30:51 Why language matters31:55 How to interrupt painful identity patterns33:30 Creation requires action35:08 Life is built one thought, one feeling, one breath at a time37:08 The inherited story vs the consciously created story38:11 Are you reacting or creating?39:24 Take charge of your life39:51 Closing message and how to support the podcastConnect with Alison:Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison's book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources:Lager Counseling ServicesCall: 516-221-2123Text: (914) 363-0381Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential)Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org

Explore Your Attachment Style With Thais Gibson. Access All Courses, Live Webinars & Q&As Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Access: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-06-01-26&el=podcast Have you ever felt like love feels… intense, confusing, and even a little unsafe? For a Fearful Avoidant, love isn't always calm or secure. It can feel overwhelming, exposing, and even threatening, especially when things start to get real. You might crave deep connection, but at the same time feel pressure, fear, or the urge to pull away — leaving you stuck in a cycle of emotional highs and lows. Episode Summary In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down what love actually feels like for a Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style and why it can be so confusing and emotionally intense. You'll learn how early childhood experiences shape Fearful Avoidant patterns, why hypervigilance becomes a survival strategy, and how this creates pressure, perfectionism, and emotional overwhelm in relationships. Thais also explains how these patterns can lead to frustration, resentment, and misinterpreting normal relationship dynamics along with practical steps to start creating more safety, clarity, and balance in your relationships. Key Takeaways ✔️ Love can feel both deeply desired… and deeply unsafe at the same time. ✔️ Hypervigilance makes you constantly scan for problems — even when things are okay. ✔️ You may confuse calm, stable love with something being “wrong.” ✔️ The pressure to keep love perfect can lead to burnout and resentment. ✔️ Many of these patterns come from fear, not reality. ✔️ You can start healing by questioning your stories and communicating your needs. Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Monica Yearwood is a relationship trauma recovery expert and holistic practitioner who serves high-achieving women. She holds advanced certifications in trauma recovery and holistic healing, with specializations in somatic parts work, Ayurvedic medicine, and detoxification therapies. Monica is also the architect of the Resilient for Life methodology — a system designed to help women who are winning everywhere else finally heal from the trauma of toxic and narcissistic relationships, regulate their nervous system, stop the rumination loops, and rebuild the self-trust that betrayal tries to steal.In this episode, we cover:- Why high-achieving women have higher exposure to narcissistic dynamics — and why the trauma so often gets met with self-blame instead of validation- The difference between resistance to the word "trauma" vs. the word "abuse," and why naming abuse is often what slows women down from leaving- Why self-blame after betrayal isn't just a thinking problem — it's a nervous system shame reflex- The "I Know" exercise — building a fact-based inventory so your mind stops re-interpreting what happened- The "I Want" exercise — a 15-minute practice that pulls your attention back from what you don't want to what actually brings you joy- Hypervigilance, walking on eggshells, and how a long-term partnership can blow up in one moment of discovery- Emotions as neurological processes with a beginning, a middle, and an end — and why we get stuck when that cycle never completes- How suppressed emotional charge shows up physically — headaches, backaches, digestive issues, autoimmune conditions- The identity crisis that hits after divorce — especially for women who never thought divorce was on the table- Lymphatic health for women 35–55 navigating toxic relationships — rhodiola, skeletal movement, breath workConnect with Monica:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicayearwoodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@monicayearwoodPlease remember to rate, review, and follow the show – and share with a friend!Subscribe to the newsletter:https://mailchi.mp/amyedwards/sign-up-to-amys-newsletterCheck out our new Comedy Wellness Podcast: Anything But Mid, cohosted with Whitney Stropp:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/anything-but-mid/id1849386215https://www.youtube.com/@AnythingButMidFind Amy's affiliates and discount codes: https://amyedwards.info/affiliatepageAll links: ⁠⁠⁠amyedwards.info⁠⁠⁠ - https://amyedwards.info/Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@realamyedward - ⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/realamyedwards/Fight For Her: https://www.fightfortheforgotten.org/fight-for-herTikTok:⁠⁠⁠ @themagicbabe⁠⁠⁠ -  https://www.tiktok.com/@themagicbabe?lang=enYouTube:@TheAmyEdwardsShow -  https://www.youtube.com/c/theamyedwardsshowPodcast: ⁠⁠⁠The Amy Edwards Show Podcast⁠⁠⁠ - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-amy-edwards-show/id1543432633Free Course:⁠⁠⁠ The Ageless Mindset⁠⁠⁠ - https://best-you-life.teachable.com/p/the-ageless-mindset-the-ultimate-guide-to-look-younger-feel-happierFull Course: ⁠⁠⁠The Youthfulness Hack⁠⁠⁠ - https://best-you-life.teachable.com/p/the-youthfulness-hack Amy's hair by ⁠https://www.thecollectiveatx.com⁠Podcast editing by https://podcastmagician.com/Get my FREE course "The Ageless Mindset: The Ultimate Guide to Look Younger and Feel Happier!" HERE: ⁠https://best-you-life.teachable.com/p/the-ageless-mindset-the-ultimate-guide-to-look-younger-feel-happier⁠Get the full course “The Youthfulness Hack: The Secret System to Reverse Aging Fast and Create a New, Radiant You!” Out now! ⁠https://best-you-life.teachable.com/p/the-youthfulness-hack⁠

What if your dating anxiety isn't actually about the person you're dating? In this deeply validating and eye-opening coaching session, Christine works with Rebecca, who experiences intense anxiety, panic attacks, hypervigilance, and worst-case-scenario thinking whenever dating begins to feel emotionally significant. As relationships move beyond the casual stage, Rebecca finds herself constantly scanning for danger—analyzing every response, questioning whether she can trust the person, and struggling to feel safe enough to relax into connection. But as Christine gently uncovers the deeper root, it becomes clear: this isn't really about dating. It's about a nervous system that was wired for survival in childhood. Growing up with an alcoholic mother and a bipolar father, Rebecca learned early that safety depended on staying hyper-aware, emotionally prepared, and constantly scanning for potential threats. Now, even healthy intimacy activates the same survival patterns her nervous system once needed to survive. Together, they explore the difference between fear and true desire, how childhood programming impacts adult relationships, and why compassion—not self-criticism—is the key to nervous system healing. If you've ever questioned your reactions in dating, wondered why intimacy feels so activating, or tried to "logic" your way out of anxiety, this episode will help you understand yourself on a much deeper level. Press play to learn why your nervous system may be protecting you from a past that's already over—and how compassion can begin to change everything. Consider / Ask Yourself Do you become hypervigilant or anxious once dating starts feeling emotionally significant? Are you constantly scanning for red flags or worst-case scenarios in relationships? Do you struggle to tell the difference between fear and intuition? Are you trying to "think" your way out of nervous system activation instead of compassionately supporting yourself through it? Key Insights and A-Ha's Hypervigilance is often a survival response learned in childhood—not proof something is wrong now. A nervous system wired for instability can interpret intimacy as danger. Logic and reassurance rarely regulate fear-based nervous system patterns. Compassion and validation create more healing than self-criticism or over-analysis. Healing begins when we stop fighting our reactions and start understanding them. How to Deepen the Work Notice when your nervous system shifts into scanning, bracing, or worst-case-scenario thinking. Practice validating your feelings instead of immediately trying to fix or explain them. Ask yourself: "Is this decision coming from fear or from truth?" Spend intentional time reconnecting with your inner child and nervous system safety. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Emerge Membership + Nervous System Support Tools Christine references tapping, inner child work, emotional regulation practices, and compassionate nervous system healing throughout the episode. Learn more at: christinehassler.com Apply to Be Coached on the Show Interested in being coached live on the podcast? Apply here: christinehassler.com/waitlist Social Media + Resources:  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

What if the anxiety, overthinking, people pleasing, emotional shutdown, hypervigilance, burnout, and relationship struggles you experience today… were never actually "you" to begin with? In this deeply personal and profoundly eye-opening solo episode, Darin Olien dives into the hidden nervous system programming formed between the ages of 0 and 8 that silently shapes our adult lives. Drawing from neuroscience, trauma research, attachment theory, epigenetics, somatic healing, and his own emotional breakthroughs, Darin explores how childhood experiences become subconscious operating systems that influence everything from relationships and stress responses to chronic disease and self-worth. This episode is a powerful roadmap toward healing. Darin breaks down the science behind trauma, the ACE study, nervous system dysregulation, emotional patterning, and neuroplasticity, while also sharing practical tools like somatic experiencing, expressive writing, EMDR, and Internal Family Systems to help listeners begin rewiring their emotional lives from the inside out. What You'll Learn How childhood experiences program the nervous system Why most adult emotional reactions are subconscious survival patterns The connection between trauma, stress hormones, and chronic disease How the nervous system stores emotional experiences in the body Why people pleasing, hypervigilance, burnout, and emotional shutdown develop The science behind neuroplasticity and rewiring the brain What the ACE Study revealed about childhood trauma and adult health How trauma impacts the amygdala, hippocampus, and stress-response systems Why emotional patterns are adaptations, not character flaws How epigenetics can pass trauma responses across generations The role of somatic experiencing in trauma healing Practical tools for emotional regulation and nervous system repair Chapters 00:00:03 – Welcome to SuperLife 00:00:32 – Sponsor: Bite Toothpaste and eliminating toxic plastic exposure 00:02:47 – Darin introduces emotional reactions and nervous system triggers 00:03:15 – A personal story about reacting vs responding in conflict 00:03:50 – Emotional shutdowns, rage, withdrawal, people pleasing, and overcorrection 00:04:19 – Darin's physical pain journey and emotional discoveries in 2025 00:04:42 – Birth trauma, childhood conditioning, and nervous system programming 00:05:04 – Why the ages of 0–8 are the most neurologically influential years 00:05:18 – Theta and delta brainwave states during childhood 00:05:55 – How children absorb emotional patterns without filters 00:06:22 – Childhood experiences becoming subconscious operating systems 00:06:44 – Adults unknowingly living through a 5-year-old nervous system 00:07:12 – Why this episode became deeply personal for Darin 00:07:35 – The neuroscience behind stress responses and emotional conditioning 00:08:17 – Brain development, neuroplasticity, and subconscious programming 00:09:13 – How the HPA axis, amygdala, and prefrontal cortex are shaped early in life 00:09:45 – Core childhood questions that program the nervous system 00:10:29 – Why adult stress responses originate in childhood environments 00:11:05 – Research showing childhood adversity alters brain structure and chemistry 00:11:18 – The ACE Study explained 00:11:49 – Why patients losing weight became emotionally overwhelmed 00:12:18 – The ten categories of adverse childhood experiences 00:13:02 – "The health crisis of America begins in childhood" 00:13:36 – How adverse childhood experiences increase disease risk 00:14:03 – Suicide, alcoholism, autoimmune disease, depression, and trauma correlations 00:14:37 – Chronic disease as a nervous system issue 00:15:04 – Survival mode, inflammation, hormonal dysregulation, and emotional scarcity 00:15:42 – Self-sabotage and emotional coping patterns explained 00:16:02 – Why your emotional patterns are not character flaws 00:16:22 – Childhood survival adaptations and nervous system intelligence 00:16:52 – Hypervigilance, people pleasing, rage, emotional shutdown, and fear 00:17:05 – Sponsor: Manna Vitality and frequency-based wellness 00:18:59 – Epigenetics and inherited trauma responses 00:19:22 – Cortisol regulation genes and hyperactive stress responses 00:19:51 – Holocaust survivors, inherited trauma, and generational nervous systems 00:20:19 – Why healing requires nervous system awareness—not just intellectual understanding 00:20:45 – "You were never supposed to get over it—you were supposed to heal from it" 00:21:01 – Real-life examples of subconscious nervous system programming 00:21:16 – Why receiving compliments can feel unsafe 00:21:30 – Darin's personal struggle with overachievement and scarcity programming 00:22:03 – Emotional neglect, chronic striving, and feeling "not enough" 00:22:16 – The nervous system roots of burnout and exhaustion 00:22:23 – Hair-trigger emotional reactions and hyperactive amygdala responses 00:22:38 – Chronic self-abandonment and losing personal boundaries 00:22:52 – Fear of intimacy, trust issues, and emotional safety 00:23:02 – "The body keeps the score" explained 00:23:22 – Trauma stored in posture, breath, digestion, immunity, and emotional regulation 00:23:43 – Harvard research on trauma-related brain changes 00:24:19 – The radical power of neuroplasticity and nervous system rewiring 00:24:48 – Why healing requires conscious participation 00:25:01 – Darin shares how healing changed decades of emotional pain 00:25:33 – Somatic Experiencing and Peter Levine's trauma work 00:25:57 – How animals discharge stress naturally 00:26:23 – Trauma as incomplete physiological responses frozen in the body 00:26:42 – Why humans suppress emotional discharge 00:27:16 – PTSD research and the effectiveness of somatic experiencing 00:27:41 – A step-by-step somatic grounding practice 00:28:14 – Why healing is more powerful with a regulated person beside you 00:28:38 – EMDR and reprocessing traumatic experiences 00:28:55 – Internal Family Systems and the "parts" inside the psyche 00:29:13 – Inner critics, overachievers, and nervous system adaptations 00:29:39 – Compassionately listening to emotional parts instead of suppressing them 00:29:51 – Expressive writing as a trauma healing practice 00:30:22 – The neuroscience behind emotional journaling 00:30:48 – A four-day expressive writing protocol for healing 00:31:05 – "You are not broken" 00:31:16 – Reprogramming the nervous system through love and safety 00:31:37 – Why deep healing happens in the presence of another regulated person 00:31:52 – Darin considers creating a future healing workshop 00:32:04 – Final reflections: "You are not what happened to you" 00:32:12 – Peace. Love. SuperLife. Thank You to Our Sponsors Bite Toothpaste: Go to trybite.com/DARIN20 or use code DARIN20 for 20% off your first order Manna Vitality: Go to mannavitality.com/ and use code DARIN12 for 12% off your order. Join the SuperLife Patreon: This is where Darin now shares the deeper work: - weekly voice notes - ingredient trackers - wellness challenges - extended conversations - community accountability - sovereignty practices Join now for only $7.49/month at https://patreon.com/darinolien     Connect with Darin Olien: Website: darinolien.com Instagram: @darinolien Book: Fatal Conveniences Platform & Products: superlife.com New Show: Roadmap to Happiness Key Takeaway "The emotional patterns, fears, reactions, and coping mechanisms that run your adult life are often survival adaptations created by your nervous system during childhood. They are not your identity. They are not permanent. 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In tonight's sleep hypnosis with Jessica, we're revisiting the protective mind - the part of us that stays alert in an effort to keep us safe, even when it's time to rest. Through deep relaxation and gentle visualization, this session helps you soften old patterns of vigilance, reconnect with a sense of safety, and invite deeper, more restorative sleep. As always, tonight's episode will start with a relaxing introduction from Jessica, before we sink into tonight's Sleep Hypnosis. If you'd like an extra immersive experience, you can also watch this episode on Spotify, complete with soothing visuals

Sometimes the worst part of betrayal is not what happened. It's what keeps happening inside you afterward. Betrayal trauma recovery is about understanding why betrayal trauma can leave you anxious, hypervigilant, angry, shut down, or unsure of yourself long after the original event is over. In this episode, we're revisiting a conversation about what happens when someone you love, trust, or depend on hurts you in a way that changes how safe the world feels. Whether the rupture came through infidelity, dishonesty, emotional abandonment, or another kind of relational betrayal, the aftermath can be disorienting in ways people do not always talk about clearly enough. We'll look at why betrayal can create trauma responses that feel a lot like PTSD, and why healing after betrayal often takes more than insight alone. We'll also explore what betrayal trauma recovery can look like in real life: naming the wound honestly, recognizing your trauma responses, understanding the difference between a real threat and an old trigger, and creating the kind of emotional safety that makes healing possible. If you've been trying to rebuild trust after betrayal, make sense of healing after infidelity, or learn how to trust yourself again, this episode offers a compassionate and grounded place to begin. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Betrayal Trauma Recovery 04:09 Why Betrayal Can Feel Like Trauma 08:38 What Counts as Betrayal? 15:43 Self-Blame and Losing Trust in Yourself 23:14 Betrayal Trauma Symptoms: Fear, Hypervigilance, and Avoidance 35:02 How Betrayal Trauma Recovery Begins 46:53 Why Safety Has to Come Before Healing 52:08 Healing, Boundaries, and Learning to Trust Yourself Again If this episode gave language to something you've been carrying alone, I'd like to offer you a gentle next step. You can schedule a free consultation with me or someone on my team, and we'll help you find the right support for you. It's private, secure, and only takes a couple of minutes to answer three quick questions so we can match you with the right counselor or coach. Think of it as a thoughtful first step toward feeling more clear, more supported, and more like yourself again. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Upwork — and it's a sponsorship I said yes to because I actually use it. When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA - Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order