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"I don't matter!" Did you ever feel like you aren’t important? Did you ever feel like you don’t matter? These thoughts are extremely common and can be extremely painful. I know from my clinical experience over the years, with more than 40,000 hours of therapy with people struggling with mild to extreme depression and anxiety. I know from personal experience as well, because I’ve been there personally at times! And one of the reasons I love doing therapy is because of the joy of helping someone transform these feelings of inadequacy and tears into feelings of joy and exuberance, and even laughter. Today, my highly esteemed colleague, Matthew May MD, and I, work with our highly esteemed and beloved colleague and podcast host, Rhonda Barovsky, on concerns that emerged when a scheduling difficulty made it difficult for Rhonda to join a podcast recording on “The Phobia Cure” which was going to feature Matt May MD doing live exposure with a colleague named Danielle who has an intense fear of leeches. I suggested that Matt, Danielle and I could do the podcast without Rhonda, to save her from having to commute from her office in Walnut Creek, California to the “Murietta studios” twice in one week. (It’s a 90-minute commute in both directions, and sometimes traffic makes it even worse.) When Rhonda read this email, she was flooded with negative emotions, which you can see on pages 1 and 2 of her Daily Mood Log at the start of her session. As you can see she felt down, anxious, ashamed, inadequate, rejected, self-conscious, angry, jealous, and more, and these feeling were intense. Have you ever been suddenly and unexpectedly triggered like that? What triggered Rhonda’s feelings? According to the TEAM-CBT treatment model, our negative feelings are not the result of what happens, but how we think about it. So, what were the thoughts that triggered Rhonda’s angst? Take a look at the negative thoughts on her Daily Mood Log. As you can see, she was telling herself that She didn’t matter and wasn’t important. David didn’t value her. She shouldn’t have such strong negative feelings, like jealousy. The people listening to the podcast (like you, for example) will think she looks like an idiot and will judge her. She shouldn’t be taking up time and space on the podcast in the “patient” role again. One of the things I like about the TEAM model is that it gives us a clear blueprint about how to proceed. One of the things I love about Rhonda is her openness, vulnerability, courage, and intense desire to teach and reach out to others, like yourself. And one of the things I admire so intensely about Matt is his tremendous kindness and compassion which are coupled with extraordinary technical skills. I feel very blessed to have Matt and Rhonda as colleagues and friends! In the podcast, we go through the TEAM model, step by step, starting with T = Testing, E = Empathy, A = Assessment of Resistance, and M = Methods. We encountered some tears, some memories of childhood and tons of laughter as well. During the Assessment of Resistance, we used the Straightforward Invitation, Miracle Cure Question, Positive Reframing, and Magic Dial. To me it is always surprising to see how many positives are embedded in our so-called “negative” feelings and “negative thoughts.” Positive Reframing nearly always eliminates resistance and opens the door to rapid change. You can look at Rhonda's Positive Reframing list on page 5 of the attachment. You can also take a look at her Emotion's table when she filled in the Goal column on page 3 of the attachment. The first thought Rhonda wanted to challenge was “I don’t matter,” and we started with the Downward Arrow Technique to identify the Self-Defeating Beliefs that gave rise to this thought, as you can see on page 4 of the attachment. Rhonda also told a moving story about her father, and how her belief that she was not important may have gotten started. She also told a beautiful story about reconciling with her father eight years before he died. We used several methods to challenge and crush the thought, "I don't matter," including Identify the Distortions, the Double Standard Technique, the Externalization of Voices, the Feared Fantasy, the Acceptance Paradox, and Examine the Evidence to crush this thought. Several role reversals were necessary before Rhonda knocked the ball out of the park. The first negative thought is generally the most difficult to crush. Once Rhonda no longer believed this thought, she could easily challenge and defeat the rest of her negative thoughts as well, resulting in a dramatic transformation in how she was feeling, as you can see on page 3 of the attachment. It seems like when you crush one negative thought, there is a sudden change in the brain, as if the negative circuits get turned off and the positive circuits get turned on. You will have the chance to hear this first hand when you listen to the live session. If you'd like to take a peak at Rhonda's final Daily Mood Log, you'll see how she challenged all the rest of her Negative Thoughts. (David, link to final DML when you get the final version from Rhonda.) To review Rhonda's Evaluation of Therapy Session, click here.  Although this podcast was long (roughly two hours), it seemed like very little time had passed because the experience was incredibly engaging and rewarding. Rhonda, Matt and I hope you enjoyed it as well, and hope it gave you some help as well, if you—like the rest of us—have ever struggled with the fear that maybe you don’t matter, or aren’t important, either. Let us know what you think, and thanks for listening today! Rhonda, Matt, and David PS Following the podcast, Matt and I received this beautiful email from Rhonda: Dear David and Matt: My thanks to you both for an incredibly powerful experience.  I am not enough of a poet to describe my experience and gratitude to you both.  But you helped me tackle something that has been painful for me for such a long time! I am grateful and humbled by your brilliance and your commitment to me Rhonda  

On July 28, 2018, Rhonda Day left her home in Lebanon Junction, Kentucky, she was planning to spend the evening at friend’s house. Her friend said that she arrived and stayed there until the following morning. When Rhonda failed to return home when she said she would, her grandmother immediately became concerned. This was not like Rhonda. They contacted her friend and he said that he had seen Rhonda in his driveway on the morning of July 29th. With no sign of Rhonda or her car, her family went to the police. On August 3, 2018, Rhonda’s blue Chevy Aveo was found a little over a mile from her friend’s home. Despite extensive searches of the area, no trace of Rhonda has been found. If you have any information about Rhonda Day’s disappearance, you are urged to call the Louisville Metro Police Department at 502-574-7111 or their anonymous tip line at 502-574-LMPD.You can follow Rhonda's story on Facebook at: Rhonda Day Missing.This episode was sponsored by:The RealReal- Shop in-store, online or download the app, and get 20% off select items with the promo code REAL.Betabrand- Get 20% off your first order when you go to Betabrand.com/Vanished.DoorDash- Download the DoorDash App and enter promo code VANISHED to get $5 off your purchase of $15 or more.You can find new episodes of The Vanished, completely ad-free, only on Stitcher Premium. For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com/wondery and use promo code WONDERY.

Do you follow your "Yes?"Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week. On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week. Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.  Enjoy! Rhonda BrittenNot Following - Rhonda feels like she’s had plenty of those in the past. The one that comes top of mind for her is her first partnership with the Fearless Living partner. They were professional trainers. They trainer companies in corporate settings, and designed and developed them. At the time Rhonda was doing workshops from her home, churches, and other areas. In order to scale up, she needed the help and expertise. Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast. Following - When Rhonda launched her book she was sent on a tour around America, Europe, and Australia. While in the UK she was told that they were looking for people to audition for a reality show. They were looking for a Life Coach so she was asked if she would like to audition. She was very clear from the start that she was a “yes”. She didn’t know what it would entail, but she was a for sure “yes”. Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast. Listen to Rhonda’s interview here Connect with Rhonda - FREE GIFT from Rhonda Britten Her Website Facebook Twitter Instagram Youtube Kristine Carlson Not Following - Recently, Kristine started working on a project with a partner. It was a partner she was dating at the time. She had the feeling that it was a bad idea to have a business relationship as well and felt the timing was off. It was the right time for him but not for her. She went ahead and did it anyway, but it really hasn’t worked out too well. Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast. Following - Recently, Kristine launched a program. It was a program she really wanted to do but not solely on her own. She then started working on the program with someone else and it was so enjoyable. Her partner also had the feeling that she wanted to do it with someone and not on her own. Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast. Listen to Kristine's interview here Connect with Kristine - Ted Talk From Heartbreak to Wholeness Website Don’t Sweat Facebook

Rhonda Britten is an Emmy Award winner, repeat Oprah guest, Huffington Post contributor, and master coach. After witnessing the horrific murder-suicide of her parents at the tender age of 14, Rhonda went into a twenty-year spiral of self-doubt, blame, and addiction. After she woke up very much alive after her third suicide attempt, she knew she had to find another way. What she discovered is a pathway to freedom that cuts through false beliefs, negative thoughts and the silent, secret fears every human being carries. Her simple yet life-altering method is called Fearless Living. What she teaches is what she’s lived. During this episode, you will first learn to define and recognize fear at its absolute core. Find out how to manage, deal with, and understand fear. The story that Rhonda’s will share will give you chills and you’ll be inspired after hearing about success stories and testimonials. Understand some common fears and participate in exercises that will help you overcome them. Finally, break down all the ways you feel and respond to fear to ultimately master fear once and for all. If you find yourself skipping over items on your to-do list or ‘forgetting’ to do the things that matter or not feeling motivated to get the things you want to be done grab Rhonda’s FREE gift: Stretch, Risk and Die Video Course! Thanks for listening! Be sure to rate this podcast and leave a review!   Links: Fearlessliving.org/risk LinkedIn Twitter   Quotes: “Fearless living is the key to unlock potential” @RhondaBritten “He points the gun to me, cocks it, and I absolutely think I’m next” @RhondaBritten “Fear wants you to trust it rather than trust yourself” @RhondaBritten “The slower you go, the faster your results will come” @RhondaBritten   Time Stamps: 02:30 - When Rhonda found her calling and purpose 08:24 - How to define fear at its absolute core 12:55 - Addressing suicide, alcoholism, and DUI 15:16 - “He points the gun to me, cocks it, and I absolutely think I’m next” - Rhonda Britten 20:19 - Hearing about inspiring success stories and testimonials 24:01 - Common fears and exercises to overcome them 30:28 - Learning all the ways you feel and respond to fear 38:41 - “The slower you go, the faster your results will come” - Rhonda Britten 40:14 - Access your FREE course: Stretch, risk or die 43:53 - Rhonda Britten’s final and powerful thoughts to live by!   Define success for yourself and get the guts to go after it: Doreenrainey.com

This week we catch up with Dave and Rhonda Waters. A great conversation with two great people who have been supporting flat track for decades. We talked about how they met, why they became team owners, and the challenges that come with balancing a full-time business along with two race programs. 00:24 - Scottie Update 00:42 - Dave & Rhonda Water intro 02:21 - Dave’s flat motorcycle racing background 03:21 - When Rhonda met Dave 03:40 - “I was too good, so they made me race with the guys…” 05:03 - What drew Rhonda into motorcycle racing 06:04 - Dave talks of current state of the sport 07:06 - What made you want to start a race team? 09:19 - Talks of being the only team running a KTM program 10:25 - Is Wyatt going to be riding the Yamaha more than the KTM (in 2018)? 11:25 - Was the 2017 with Wyatt a successful one in your mind? 12:14 - “…I didn’t know what Wyatt really looked like until I met him in Daytona…” 14:38 - Talks of what led to Wyatt jumping to a the AFT Twins class 15:41 - Story behind Sandriana Shipman joining the Waters Auto Body team 18:32 - Talks about the teammates meeting each other in Salem, OR at the One Moto Show 19:19 - Scottie lists the past riders who have rode for Dave and Rhonda 20:06 - Talks about 2018 plans for the team 21:10 - Talks about goals/expectations for the first two races 22:17 - What is your favorite race track? 24:15 - Funny Ryan Wells story 25:45 - Chad Cose jumping like a spider monkey 26:35 - Thoughts on the podcast 28:27 - If you were put in charge of AFT, what would be the first thing you would change?

Rhonda Sciortino was abandoned at the age of six months, and became a ward of the court until she emancipated at 16. Except for a brief time with a wonderful foster family, those first 16 years were spent in the custody of a mentally ill man and alcoholic woman–her grandparents. When Rhonda was eight years old, the little shack where she lived was destroyed by fire. They had no insurance, and for months they were homeless. Rhonda vividly recalls wearing the same filthy sundress and flimsy dimestore flipflops to school day after day for months after that fire. At age 15 Rhonda decided to seek emancipation.  One of the prerequisites was that Rhonda have a job, so she went to work for the first person who would hire her–an insurance agent.  When her employer explained the concept of insurance, Rhonda was flabbergasted. “You mean someone would have paid for our house to be rebuilt AND given us money for clothes and a place to sleep?” Rhonda learned everything she could about insurance. Despite being denied again and again, Rhonda repeatedly petitioned the Insurance Commissioner to allow her to sit for the insurance agent exam even though she wasn’t yet 18. An exception was finally granted, and Rhonda became California’s youngest licensed insurance agent at 17. At the age of 27, Rhonda’s passion for good child welfare providers and appropriate insurance intersected.  She committed herself to protecting people and organizations that protect children. She had personally experienced excellent foster care during her short time with a foster family, and she knew the shame of homelessness as a result of inadequate insurance.  Rhonda quit her job and started her own retail insurance organization.  A few years later, she opened a national brokerage which helped insurance brokers all over the US protect the child welfare organizations in their areas.  In 2008, Rhonda sold Child Welfare Insurance Services to Markel Insurance Company.  She now serves as their National Child Welfare Specialist, helping child welfare organizations all over the US to manage the risks and realities of caring for kids. Rhonda is happily married to Nick Sciortino.  They live in Newport Beach, CA near their daughter, son-in-law, and two grandsons who are the joys of their lives.

I’m going to talk today about faith and faithfulness, and how God can take small amounts of each and grow something beautiful. About 6 years ago, I was going through a period of great doubt, great enough that I was wondering if I could remain a priest or not. Nothing particular had triggered this, I was just questioning and wondering, and I really didn’t know if I was going to find faith again. I felt like a had to know for sure, with certainty, and I could never find certainty. Fortunately, I did remain faithful during this time, kinda had to, and so even amidst personal doubts, I was faithful in my role as a priest, faithful in prayer, preaching, teaching, worshipping, celebrating Eucharist. Faithfulness to our life and the ways of Jesus sustained me when my faith seemed gone. Then, about 5 years ago, my faith returned, or rather, I chose to have faith again. I loved the story of Jesus, and even though I couldn’t have certainty, I didn’t want to give that story up. I didn’t want to give up God becoming one of us. I didn’t want to give up Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection. I didn’t want to give up the Kingdom of God and all of our lives joined together, with God in Christ. So, I chose to believe even with all of my doubts and uncertainties. That small amount of faith and that faithfulness was enough for God to grow even greater faith and within me. After that period of doubt and believing again, I found a faith greater and deeper than ever I had before. As most of y’all know, about three weeks ago, my dad died, and in the last three weeks, that faith has not only sustained me, but also given me joy. When Dad died, I’d been preparing for it for a while, emotionally, so when the time finally came, I was largely joyful for him…no more pneumonia, no more struggling with diabetes, no more strife. Also, in my view of life with Jesus, he’s not looking down on us. We’re there with him, already together. So, for Dad’s sake, I was truly joyful. Then, not long after that, I started alternating between sadness, shock, joy for Dad, and everywhere in between. Sometimes I’m joyful for him and talk to him, sometimes, I cry because I want my dad back. The sadness and grief is to be expected for anyone who loves and loses their dad. The joy part? Not everyone has that. I didn’t used to have that. I believed in life with God after death. Actually, I had been taught it, I was supposed to believe it, but it didn’t hold the meaning and the joy years ago that it does for me now, but years ago, I had a seed of faith, and it has grown such that I truly can be joyful for Dad’s life with God continuing on in Jesus. Such is life in God’s Kingdom, where God takes our faith and our faithfulness, even if we have just a little, and God grows something great out of them. Jesus said the Kingdom of God is like a tiny mustard seed which grows into a large plant. God can take small amounts of faithfulness and grow something wonderful out of them. Kristin was away over the end of last week with Brenda Harris to the Kids Hope USA director training in Dallas. The boys were with my mom, and I had Ellie, who had not been away from Kristin overnight until Wednesday and Thursday night last week. For those who had been following the Ellie with Daddy, no Mommy saga on Facebook, the final score was Ellie 84, Daddy79. It was a great couple of days to spend with our baby girl. But I digress. Kristin and Brenda were at the Kids Hope USA training to direct our program with Kids Hope USA which partners with churches and schools to facilitate mentoring in elementary schools. Through Kristin and Brenda, Kids Hope is providing training for members of St. Mark’s so that we can be mentors for kids at Linnie Roberts Elementary School. We’ve got 8 mentors so far who will be trained and supported by Brenda and Kristin, and then spend an hour a week with one child at Linnie Roberts over the next school year. That shouldn’t really make much of a difference, should it? One hour a week. Then again, the Kingdom of God is like a tiny seek which grows into a huge plant; it sprouts and grows, we don’t know how. The following is a story from Kids Hope about a child for whom this one hour with a mentor who believed in him grew into something great. SOMEONE WHO BELIEVES IN ME... Only a few weeks into his first year of school, and already Tommy had a reputation. His unruly behavior had cleared the classroom, more than once. His teacher was at a loss. His mom was worried. School leaders had already given up on the Kindergartener. But then hope... a gift named Rhonda. When Rhonda, Tommy's KIDS HOPE mentor, went to meet him for the first time, school staff hesitated: "Are you sure you're ready for this?" Rhonda was. She met Tommy's wide eyes with a smile, and began pouring herself into the little boy's life. Together they played, learned and listened. They created an incentive chart, helping Tommy and his teacher begin to recognize the good in the five year old. Soon, the angry outbursts stopped. Tommy's behavior changed so drastically, it changed the minds of those around him. Where they once saw only a disciplinary problem, they now saw a delightful boy with a brilliant mind, a soft heart and a bright future. Tommy, once on a fast track to an alternative school is now thriving in his traditional classroom. Once labeled as "trouble" is now valued as a child... all because he found hope in someone who believed in him. (http://www.kidshopeusa.org/Why/Stories/) Again, an hour a week, doesn’t seem like it would work, but Kingdom of God is like a tiny seek which grows into a huge plant; it sprouts and grows, we don’t know how. God can take what faithfulness we have, and grow it into something wonderful. God can take what faith we have and grow it into something wonderful. If you’re struggling with doubt, then remain faithful, and let your faith be enough for now, and ask God to make it to grow. God can take the seed of faith and grow it into something great, more joyful, and more life-giving than we may imagine. Look at what work you can do for the Kingdom of God, and let what work you can do for God’s Kingdom be enough for now, and expect it to bear fruit. If all you can give for the growth of God’s Kingdom is an hour / week, that’s enough for God. God can use that seed to grow a lot more in your life and in the lives of those for whom you give that hour. Kingdom of God does not happen all at once. It grows from a tiny seed into a great plant. Whatever faith and faithfulness we have is enough for now. Ask for God to make it grow. Amen.

I’m going to talk today about faith and faithfulness, and how God can take small amounts of each and grow something beautiful. About 6 years ago, I was going through a period of great doubt, great enough that I was wondering if I could remain a priest or not. Nothing particular had triggered this, I was just questioning and wondering, and I really didn’t know if I was going to find faith again. I felt like a had to know for sure, with certainty, and I could never find certainty. Fortunately, I did remain faithful during this time, kinda had to, and so even amidst personal doubts, I was faithful in my role as a priest, faithful in prayer, preaching, teaching, worshipping, celebrating Eucharist. Faithfulness to our life and the ways of Jesus sustained me when my faith seemed gone. Then, about 5 years ago, my faith returned, or rather, I chose to have faith again. I loved the story of Jesus, and even though I couldn’t have certainty, I didn’t want to give that story up. I didn’t want to give up God becoming one of us. I didn’t want to give up Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection. I didn’t want to give up the Kingdom of God and all of our lives joined together, with God in Christ. So, I chose to believe even with all of my doubts and uncertainties. That small amount of faith and that faithfulness was enough for God to grow even greater faith and within me. After that period of doubt and believing again, I found a faith greater and deeper than ever I had before. As most of y’all know, about three weeks ago, my dad died, and in the last three weeks, that faith has not only sustained me, but also given me joy. When Dad died, I’d been preparing for it for a while, emotionally, so when the time finally came, I was largely joyful for him…no more pneumonia, no more struggling with diabetes, no more strife. Also, in my view of life with Jesus, he’s not looking down on us. We’re there with him, already together. So, for Dad’s sake, I was truly joyful. Then, not long after that, I started alternating between sadness, shock, joy for Dad, and everywhere in between. Sometimes I’m joyful for him and talk to him, sometimes, I cry because I want my dad back. The sadness and grief is to be expected for anyone who loves and loses their dad. The joy part? Not everyone has that. I didn’t used to have that. I believed in life with God after death. Actually, I had been taught it, I was supposed to believe it, but it didn’t hold the meaning and the joy years ago that it does for me now, but years ago, I had a seed of faith, and it has grown such that I truly can be joyful for Dad’s life with God continuing on in Jesus. Such is life in God’s Kingdom, where God takes our faith and our faithfulness, even if we have just a little, and God grows something great out of them. Jesus said the Kingdom of God is like a tiny mustard seed which grows into a large plant. God can take small amounts of faithfulness and grow something wonderful out of them. Kristin was away over the end of last week with Brenda Harris to the Kids Hope USA director training in Dallas. The boys were with my mom, and I had Ellie, who had not been away from Kristin overnight until Wednesday and Thursday night last week. For those who had been following the Ellie with Daddy, no Mommy saga on Facebook, the final score was Ellie 84, Daddy79. It was a great couple of days to spend with our baby girl. But I digress. Kristin and Brenda were at the Kids Hope USA training to direct our program with Kids Hope USA which partners with churches and schools to facilitate mentoring in elementary schools. Through Kristin and Brenda, Kids Hope is providing training for members of St. Mark’s so that we can be mentors for kids at Linnie Roberts Elementary School. We’ve got 8 mentors so far who will be trained and supported by Brenda and Kristin, and then spend an hour a week with one child at Linnie Roberts over the next school year. That shouldn’t really make much of a difference, should it? One hour a week. Then again, the Kingdom of God is like a tiny seek which grows into a huge plant; it sprouts and grows, we don’t know how. The following is a story from Kids Hope about a child for whom this one hour with a mentor who believed in him grew into something great. SOMEONE WHO BELIEVES IN ME... Only a few weeks into his first year of school, and already Tommy had a reputation. His unruly behavior had cleared the classroom, more than once. His teacher was at a loss. His mom was worried. School leaders had already given up on the Kindergartener. But then hope... a gift named Rhonda. When Rhonda, Tommy's KIDS HOPE mentor, went to meet him for the first time, school staff hesitated: "Are you sure you're ready for this?" Rhonda was. She met Tommy's wide eyes with a smile, and began pouring herself into the little boy's life. Together they played, learned and listened. They created an incentive chart, helping Tommy and his teacher begin to recognize the good in the five year old. Soon, the angry outbursts stopped. Tommy's behavior changed so drastically, it changed the minds of those around him. Where they once saw only a disciplinary problem, they now saw a delightful boy with a brilliant mind, a soft heart and a bright future. Tommy, once on a fast track to an alternative school is now thriving in his traditional classroom. Once labeled as "trouble" is now valued as a child... all because he found hope in someone who believed in him. (http://www.kidshopeusa.org/Why/Stories/) Again, an hour a week, doesn’t seem like it would work, but Kingdom of God is like a tiny seek which grows into a huge plant; it sprouts and grows, we don’t know how. God can take what faithfulness we have, and grow it into something wonderful. God can take what faith we have and grow it into something wonderful. If you’re struggling with doubt, then remain faithful, and let your faith be enough for now, and ask God to make it to grow. God can take the seed of faith and grow it into something great, more joyful, and more life-giving than we may imagine. Look at what work you can do for the Kingdom of God, and let what work you can do for God’s Kingdom be enough for now, and expect it to bear fruit. If all you can give for the growth of God’s Kingdom is an hour / week, that’s enough for God. God can use that seed to grow a lot more in your life and in the lives of those for whom you give that hour. Kingdom of God does not happen all at once. It grows from a tiny seed into a great plant. Whatever faith and faithfulness we have is enough for now. Ask for God to make it grow. Amen.