Allo and Ace

TW - Sex TalkToday we discuss a few things that have happened over the last month and people we have talked to. We talk about roomates again, platonic relationships, feeling not good enough and where validity resides for each partner etc.

TW- Sex Talk A Lot In this episode we discuss sexual attraction from the Allosexual to the Asexual as well as addressing how Allosexual partners can better address their partner coming out Asexual and wanting their Allosexul partner to understand them better. We also address the roomate comments that often happen.

TW - Sex mentioned In this episode we discuss how the holidays have been, the new year and what we plan on doing this year. Jessi also discusses going to a level 1 winter solstice party.

TW- Sex talk and a small discussion that mentions Self Harm Today we talk about 10 things that an Asexual person may have wished they knew before coming out as Asexual. As well as other ramblings

TW: Sex Talk For Sure This episode we wrap up our 3 part discussion on Ethical Non-Monogamy. We particularly discuss pro's and con's of ENM and what that means and looks like to not only the Allosexual but the Asexual in a relationship.

TW: Sex Talk In this episode, we discuss a couple emails we got, Jessi's new discovery with her self time and then we get into part 2 of Ethical Non-Monogamy and the different flavors that exist in ENM including open relationship, swinging and polyamory.

TW: Sex Talk In this episode, we discuss a couple things going on with our kids and then we get into part 1 of Ethical Non-Monogamy and our history with it. We wanted to share this information before going further into it so that you understand our background with it.

TW: Sex Talk In this episode we take a look at these 3 particular pillars in a relationship and discuss what happens when there is an imbalance.

-TW: This episode has a lot of sex talk. Like a lot. In this episode we discuss some revelations around sexual intimacy, self pleasure and what that means in our relationship and what we have learned in this process of getting closer together and self discovery.

TW - Some sexual discussion and a scenario where the phrase violated was used as an averse asexual. We have an etsy store https://etsy.com/shop/AlloAndAce In this episode we discuss different forms of empathy in a relationship specifically the difference between Cognitive Empathy and Emotional Empathy and how we as humans need to get away from self preservation / defense and sit for a moment and if we can't emotionally provide empathy, intellectually think about the situation and see if you can provide congitive empathy to get to a place of understanding without understanding.

TW - General Sex Talk In this Episode, we discuss clarifications from Episode 19 and on top of that, discuss what it looks like to make clear agreements in a relationship especially when it comes to understanding each other better in an asexual relationship but also how that can strengthen communication in your relationship too.

TW - SEX and Substance Use Look. We get it. Monogamies isn't a word. That's fine. This episode is about both Ethical Non-Monogamy and Ethical Monogamy. Most people don't consider the fact that their monogamous relationship may not be ethical. Who decides that? Well the answer is the both of you. Lately, Jessi has been feeling guilty because she feels like she is forcing celibacy on me and we compare the relationship to the Cost Suck Fallacy and is that the only reason why I am afraid to say I need more? Well, tune in and find out.

TW - Sex Want to send us a text or voicemail? 1-385-645-3651 Today Jessi wanted to continue her discussion about looking back to few days before realizing she was Asexual and what that looked like. Along with that, realizing the masks that we wear for good or bad and why the sexual persona is such a difficult persona to shed and what that means in a relationship. That can be hard for both the Asexual partner and Allosexual partner.

TW - Sex talk and compliance Today we talk more about Compliance and clarify some of the things we talked about in Episode 16. We talk about the boundaries needing to be clear to help prevent sexual compliance and we talk about what getting behaviors are and when they might be good but when they certainly are not good.

TW: This whole episode is about SA in the form of Sexual Compliance and Sex We discuss the various forms of asexuality including the level of Favorability or Repulsness of sex and how Sexual Compliance can sneak into the relationship. Importance of Consent and Boundaries as well as societal pressures, and miss-information when it comes to asexuality being psychological or a hormone imbalance. We discuss communication and issues around communication as well as boundaries and how difficult this episode was for Jessi.

TW - General sex talk - Not Graphic Today we discuss a few education moments that Jessi had one being a trigger and one being with her Asexual son. We then discuss Rejection going both ways for not only the Allosexual partner with sex but also the way that the Asexual partner is not only rejected by society but also by their partner.

TW - Sex experience discussed In this episode, we go back to discussing boundaries like in Episode 3 but talking about being nice to yourself as an asexual for making mistakes when trying to figure out your boundaries as well as for the Allosexual to have patience and being kind to yourself and your Asexual partner when it comes to boundaries and reactions that happen.

TW - Sex, Kissing, Touching etc. Today we discuss live some boundaries that have come up recently. We read a negative review that says they don't know a single "sexual" (they refuse to say Allosexual) person who views sex as a higher form of intimacy and that there isn't a hierarchy to intimacy. And we discuss the perceived sexual hierarchy. We also discuss more in depth where we ourselves may place our own requirements to stay in a relationship.

TW - Sex Talk In this episode of our podcast, we start off with some clarification and a story about a sexual intimate experience before we dive into the main part of the podcast which we get into the intricate interplay between ego, identity, and personal growth within the asexual community. This episode explores how a balanced and healthy ego can empower asexual individuals to navigate their unique identities and experiences with confidence and resilience. We start by defining ego and its role in shaping our sense of self, highlighting the positive aspects of a healthy ego in affirming one's asexual identity. Our discussion then moves to the challenges that asexual individuals often face, such as societal misconceptions and pressure to conform to sexual norms, and how a robust sense of self can act as a shield against these external pressures. Throughout the episode, we emphasize the importance of personal growth and how if not checked, an inflated ego can be harmful.

TW - Sex Today we talk about a couple take aways that Jessi had from her therapy session today and then we dive into imposter syndrome and how that affects Asexuals in negative ways by society, expectations and ways to over come them. We talk about Allosexual people and some of the imposter syndrome they can have in an Asexual relationship and how that it can possibly lead to negativity in the relationship.

TW: Discussion of Sex In this episode, we discuss our time at pride and how the Asexual community was represented in Salt Lake City, UT. We discuss Platonic Relationships and the differences with romantic vs non-romantic relationships and assumptions when a partner is asexual. And more!

Visit our etsy page HERE if you want -TW - Sex and Aphobia discussed This episode we change up a little bit from the last 3 and shoot the shit. We talk about coming out to your kids, Labels, TikTok, Aphobia and Pride. We discuss our asexual relationship, sexless marriage and a few other questions we have for each other. Pride is this weekend so we are going for the first time as an Asexual Couple and Jessi knowing who she is.

In this podcast episode, we delve into the intricacies of building a strong foundation for your relationship that goes beyond the popular concept of the 5 love languages. While understanding each other's love languages can enhance communication and connection, it's just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to nurturing a thriving partnership. We explore ways to deepen your relationship bond and create a more resilient foundation. From understanding your partner's core values and cultivating emotional intimacy to nurturing shared goals and dreams, each aspect plays a vital role in fostering a lasting connection. We talk about having a greater understanding, empathy, and mutual support in your relationship. Whether you're newlyweds or seasoned partners, there's always room to grow and strengthen the bonds that unite you. Listen as we discover how to build a relationship that withstands the test of time, embraces growth and change, and flourishes with love, respect, and mutual admiration that goes beyond love languages to embark on a journey towards deeper connection and fulfillment in your relationship.

In this episode, we delve deep into the realms of love, loss, and the profound questions that arise when faced with the fragility of life. Join us as we explore the essence of our connections with our partners and the profound impact of contemplating life without them. We invite you to ponder the fundamental question: Why are we with our partners and as we discuss the inevitability of mortality, we confront a haunting question: What regrets would we harbor if our partners were suddenly gone? With vulnerability and honesty, we explore grief and regret, grappling with the complexities of unspoken words and unfinished chapters. Through empathy and understanding, we offer insights and reflections to inspire you to cherish the present moment and nurture the connections that enrich your lives. In this exploration of love and loss, we discover the transformative power of introspection and the resilience of the human heart. Tune in to this thought-provoking episode as we embark on a journey of self-discovery, embracing the beauty of love and the inevitability of change.

Workbook can be found HERE In this episode, we embark on a journey of renewal and understanding in the context of allosexual and asexual relationships. Join us as we explore the challenges and opportunities faced by couples seeking to start over and rebuild their connection. First, we delve into the unique dynamics of allosexual and asexual relationships, highlighting the importance of communication, empathy, and mutual respect. We discuss the complexities of navigating differing expectations regarding intimacy and physical affection, emphasizing the need for open dialogue and understanding. Next, we explore practical strategies for fostering connection and rebuilding trust in the relationship. From setting boundaries to exploring alternative forms of intimacy, we offer actionable tips for creating a supportive and fulfilling partnership that honors both partners' needs and desires. Join us as we navigate the path to new beginnings in allosexual-asexual relationships, celebrating the resilience and strength of couples committed to building a love that transcends boundaries and embraces diversity.

TW - Sex In this episode we answer a few questions from a listener and then we discuss Unraveling Triggers - Navigating Emotional Landmines In Relationships. Triggers can happen at any time and you need to be prepared in order to recognize when it's happening, respond appropriately and know how to communicate through them effectively to come out on the other side.

TW: SA briefly discussed and Sex is discussed In this episode we discuss our fears when it comes to our asexual relationship. Is it that we will never have sex again? Dead Bedroom? Is it that our partner can't do it anymore and leave?

TW - This episode talks about Sex and involves talks of consent and trauma. We discuss the discrepancy that Asexual Couples can feel when the sexual expectations don't align and someone doesn't feel sexually desired. We offer some suggestions on how you can reset intent and set healthy boundaries. "Respect is the bridge that connects healthy boundaries with meaningful connections"

When we discovered my wife is Asexual, the person she thought she was died. Can this Asexual Relationship work? Do Asexual and Allosexual relationships survive? My partner isn't sexually attracted to me.....

This is the first episode of the Allo and Ace podcast. An Asexual Relationship podcast dedicated to the Asexual community and how we as an Allosexual and Asexual couple navigates marriage, sexuality and life. #asexual #allosexual #alloandace #asexualrelationship