Mad.In.Love

Welcome back to Season 2 of Mad.In.Love. I'm thrilled to be joined today by Ernest Hart, our Intervention Specialist at The Marriage Recovery Center.  We are talking today about one of my favorite topics - interventions!  Find out what an intervention is in the context of relationships, and why it is one of the most powerful tools we use to bring about transformative change in the most difficult and challenging relationships, especially in cases involving narcissism and emotional abuse. If you would like to learn more about interventions and how it can help your relationship, visit our website www.marriagerecoverycenter.com or give us a call at 206-219-0145.Founded by Dr. Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on the treatment of narcissistic and emotional abuse. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145 or email info@marriagerecoverycenter.com RESOURCES: Dr. David Hawkins at MRC Marriage Recovery Center YouTubeMarriage Recovery Center on Instagram

Dr. David Hawkins, Jonathan Glover, and their producer, Katie Buckley are back to discuss various stories shared on the internet from a therapist's point of view. Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145. RESOURCES: Dr. David Hawkins at MRC Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram Marriage Recovery Center YouTube You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...

Dr. John Hudson joins Dr. David Hawkins to discuss the NEAI, an assessment they created together to be used as a tool in evualating behavorial patterns within relationships. If you would like to try the NEAI, you can click here. Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145. RESOURCES: Dr. David Hawkins at MRC Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram Marriage Recovery Center YouTube You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...

Dr. David Hawkins, Jonathan Glover, and their producer, Katie Buckley are back to discuss various stories shared on the internet from a therapist's point of view. Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145. RESOURCES: Dr. David Hawkins at MRC Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram Marriage Recovery Center YouTube You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...

Welcome to Mad.In.Love! If you are new here, I'm Dr. David Hawkins from the Marriage Recovery Center! Today we are talking about Narcissism and Child Development. I'm excited to introduce Leigh Ann Fernandez, one of our newer clinicians at the Marriage Recovery Center who specializes in trauma therapy and EMDR.Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145. RESOURCES: Dr. David Hawkins at MRC Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram Marriage Recovery Center YouTube You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...

Welcome to Mad.In.Love! We have a very special episode this week where we'll be talking about the effects of emotional abuse and trauma on our physical body. To help facilitate this conversation today, Dr. David Hawkins is joined by his esteemed colleagues, whom you've seen before on Mad.In.Love, Sharmen Kimbrough and Dr. Lenne' Hunt. To add to this topic, we also have a VERY special guest, Dr. Hawkins' son, Dr. Tyson Hawkins! Tyson and Dr. Hawkins co-wrote their book, In Sickness and In Health, about this very topic. Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145. RESOURCES: Dr. David Hawkins at MRC Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram Marriage Recovery Center YouTube You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...

Join Dr. David Hawkins and Jonathan Glover of the Marriage Recovery Center as they react to stories on the internet regarding relationships presented by their producer, Katie Buckley. You'll hear them share their reactions and insight from a therapeutic perspective as they break down different scenerios presented to them. This week they'll be focusing on the topic of creating healthy boundaries. Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145. RESOURCES: Dr. David Hawkins at MRC Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram Marriage Recovery Center YouTube You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...

Welcome to Mad.In.Love! Today we have a very special panel including some special guest speakers to help us talk about the topic of narcissism within relationships. Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145. RESOURCES: Dr. David Hawkins at MRC Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram Marriage Recovery Center YouTube You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...

Welcome to Mad.In.Love! If you are new here, I'm Dr. David Hawkins from the Marriage Recovery Center! I am back in the hot seat for our fun little series, Dr. Hawkins' Reacts! with my colleague, Jonathan Glover.  To learn more about Jonathan Glover, please visit his page on our website.Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145. RESOURCES: Dr. David Hawkins at MRC Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram Marriage Recovery Center YouTube You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...

Welcome to Mad.In.Love! If you are new here, I'm Dr. David Hawkins from the Marriage Recovery Center! Today we have a special guest speaker on our podcast, Dr. David Clarke! If you haven't already heard of him, he is a Christian psychologist of over 35 years and I've recently read his book, Enough is Enough! I am excited to discuss this book and your work! Welcome, Dr. Clarke!  If you would like to learn more about Dr. Clarke's book or information, here is information: Dr. Clarke's book, Enough is Enough, which you can find on Amazon.com or you can also visit his website, www.davideclarkephd.com to learn more about his work! Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145. RESOURCES: Dr. David Hawkins at MRC Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram Marriage Recovery Center YouTube You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...

Welcome to Mad.In.Love! If you are new here, I'm Dr. David Hawkins from the Marriage Recovery Center! I am back in the hot seat for our fun little series, Dr. Hawkins' Reacts! with my colleague, Jonathan Glover.  Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in person and online. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145. RESOURCES: Dr. David Hawkins at MRC Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram Marriage Recovery Center YouTube You can also email our office at frontdesk@marriagerecoverycente...

Welcome to Mad.In.Love! Today we will be discussing what narcissists misunderstand about love and joining me for this conversation is Dr. Les Carter, a therapist who specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder, and host of the Surviving Narcissism podcast.Join us as we dive into the topic of narcissists and love – is it even possible for these two things to coincide? If you were to ask a narcissist if they love their spouse, partner, child, parent, etc. they would answer “yes, of course!” but is their idea of love really love, or is it their own twisted idea of love? A narcissist's idea of love revolves around being thought of highly, anything that makes them feel good, and having agreement and conformity.  None of these things have anything to do with real love.  We'll talk about the 5 levels of relationship and what healthy love looks like.The Mad.In.Love Podcast is hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, founder and director of the Emotional Abuse Institute and the Marriage Recovery Center, best-selling author, speaker and clinical psychologist for over 40 years.  Dr. Hawkins is recognized as an authority on the treatment of narcissism and emotional abuse within the context of relationships and has written over 30 books on recognizing and navigating toxic relationships, including “Dealing with the CrazyMakers in Your Life” and “When Loving Him is Hurting You.”  He is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors, writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com and has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio.  He and his team of trained experts offer online and in-person treatment programs for narcissistic and emotional abuse recovery. To learn more, contact our office at (206) 219-0145 or info@marriagerecoverycenter.com. Resources:Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter Dr. David Hawkins

I'm joined today by Sharmen Kimbrough, MA who specializes in Christ-centered counseling. Sharmen has been a counselor since 1995 and works primarily with women and couples who are struggling with emotional and spiritual abuse and helps them find a way to heal and build healthier relationships. Her work is built on her personal experience with trauma including emotional abuse, divorce, and single parenting, and she now uses her experiences to bring hope and wisdom to others struggling to make sense of their life and relationships.The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connection and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.Resources:Sharmen Kimbrough at MRCDr. David Hawkins at MRC

Are you living in a relationship where rage or silence cause you to return that behavior toward the person treating you that way? Have you been pushed so far, so many times, that you explode with anger toward the person pushing you? This is what we call reactive abuse. And its effects can transform you into someone you don't recognize-someone you don't want to be. In this episode, I'm speaking about reactive abuse with Dr. Lenne' Hunt, my colleague at the MRC. Dr. Hunt has spent most of her adult life helping others navigate life's challenges. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and an M.S. in counseling. Lenne' practiced as a licensed therapist for many years while also raising a generation of therapists through her role as an Associate Professor of Psychology. More recently, Lenne' decided to take another “helping” path, laying down her therapeutic license in favor of life coaching and pastoral counseling. Dr. Hunt coaches from a perspective of an intimate relationship with the Holy Trinity and so believes that no person and no relationship is ever too far gone to be beyond hope. Dr. Hunt is the author of three books: The Fatherhood of God and the Sonship of Man, Prisoners of Hope, and One True Thing and has a teaching/discipleship ministry called Deep Unto Deep Ministries.The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connection and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.Resources:Dr. Lenne' Hunt at MRCDr. David Hawkins at MRC

Is a chauvinist a narcissist and vice versa? Is a narcissist a chauvinist and a misogynist? There are blurred lines between all these personality disorders and character issues. Join me as I talk with Dr. John Hudson, head of the core men's program at the Marriage Recovery Center, about these and other characterological traits that all have emotional abuse at their core. Dr. Hudson brings a wealth of experience and knowledge to the Marriage Recovery Center, having been involved in counseling professions, teaching, and ministries for over 35 years. Dr. Hudson enjoys working with individuals and couples who recognize the value of counseling and how it can facilitate better living, relationships, and personal spiritual growth. His approach to therapy is brief and solution-focused and emphasizes the strengths, needs, abilities, and preferences of the client through a collaborative model.The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connection and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145. Resources:Dr. John Hudson at MRCDr. David Hawkins at MRC

Do you recognize these personality traits in your spouse: being controlling, defensive, thin-skinned, entitled, superior, emotionally immature, and easily offended or affronted? You may not realize that this is in fact emotional abuse and is a form of trauma to your spirit and extremely damaging to your sense of self. Welcome to another episode of Mad.in.Love. I'm your host Dr. David Hawkins, a Licensed Clinical Psychologist specializing in couple's crisis counseling and narcissistic and emotional abuse at the Marriage Resource Center (MRC). I'm joined today by Sharmen Kimbrough, MA who specializes in Christ-centered counseling. Sharmen has been a counselor since 1995 and works primarily with women and couples who are struggling with emotional and spiritual abuse and helps them find a way to heal and build healthier relationships. Her work is built on her personal experience with trauma including emotional abuse, divorce, and single parenting, and she now uses her experiences to bring hope and wisdom toothers struggling to make sense of their life and relationships.The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connection and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.Resources:Sharmen Kimbrough at MRCDr. David Hawkins at MRC

Has your spouse ever cut off your access to a bank account or credit card? Have you felt nervous, trapped, or truly frightened because of your spouse or significant other's actions surrounding your finances? There is help available. I'm Dr. David Hawkins, a Licensed Clinical Psychologist specializing in couple's crisis counseling and narcissistic and emotional abuse at the Marriage Resource Center (MRC). I'm hosting this episode of the Mad.In.Love podcast to help shed light on a form of abuse that is not as commonly talked about as physical or emotional abuse. Financial abuse can often be triggered by fear - fear brought on by early childhood trauma, for instance, if the abuser grew up in a financially unstable situation, experiencing homelessness or other life stressors stemming from money or lack thereof.I'm joined today by Lee Kaufman, a skilled life and relationship coach who has been helping people help themselves for 20 years, including over 4,000 hours with the Marriage Recovery Center. Early in his career, he spent over a decade in the financial and legal industries. This has given him unique insight on how business, finances, and family are inextricably connected. If one of these systems break down, the others will shortly follow. Lee's work is based on three main principles: Connection, Intellectual Understanding, and Emotional Understanding.In this episode we will talk about several examples of financial abuse (most often, but not always) perpetrated by men against their wives. You may not even realize that you are in a financially abusive relationship, until you hear about some of the specific scenarios we discuss. Lee tells us about identifying what level of abuse is happening, how to address it therapeutically, and the paths available to de-escalating the abuse, or even extricating yourself from the abusive situation.The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connection and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145.Resources:Lee Kaufman at MRCDr. David Hawkins at MRC

Welcome to the inaugural episode of Mad.in.Love!I'm your host Dr. David Hawkins, a LicensedClinical Psychologist specializing in couples crisis counseling and narcissistic and emotionalabuse at the Marriage Recovery Center (MRC). Has your spouse beengiven every opportunity to heal and change, perhaps even in counseling,and still refusing to acknowledge any wrong doing or personal responsibility? It may be time for you to withdraw from that relationship that is only offering your heart and spirit chaos anddestruction. In this episode, we will discuss the many ways that you can work toward healing yourrelationship, but we'll also discuss what to do when you've tried a thousand ways to reach your partner to connect and heal and there is “nothing more to be done.” I'm joined today by Sharmen Kimbrough, MA who specializes in Christ-centered counseling. Sharmen has been a counselor since 1995 and works primarily with women and couples whoare struggling with emotional and spiritual abuse and helps them find a way to heal and buildhealthier relationships. Her work is built on her personal experience with trauma includingemotional abuse, divorce, and single parenting, and she now uses her experiences to bringhope and wisdom to others struggling to make sense of their life and relationships. The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing andrestoration to thousands of marriages and individualssince he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage woundsand rediscover deeper connections and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of relationship experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our trained client care team at (206) 219-0145.Resources:Sharmen Kimbrough at MRCDr. David Hawkins at MRC

Today I'm joined by my colleagues Sharmen Kimbrough and Dr. Lenne' Hunt as we discuss what it means to be invisible in a relationship.  It means you are not heard, you are not given room to think and speak for yourself, and if you try, you are immediately shut down with criticism and made to question you own true thoughts and feelings. It's a case of "go along to get along."  Especially for those in a narcissistic and emotionally abusive relationship, being invisible becomes a form of self-protection. The Mad.In.Love podcast is brought to you by The Marriage Recovery Center and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, Ph.D, MBA, MSW, MA.  Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist and author of over 40 relationship books. He is a speaker and trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors, has been featured on Moody Radio, Faith Radio, CBN and Crosswalk.com.  Dr. Hawkins and his team at the Marriage Recovery Center offer hope and healing for those affected by narcissistic and emotional abuse.  They can be reached at info@marriagerecoverycenter.com  or (206) 219-0145.  Visit www.marriagerecoverycenter.com for more info.Follow the Marriage Recovery Center on social media for more helpful tips: https://www.youtube.com/c/drdavidbhawkins/videoshttps://www.instagram.com/marriagerecoverycenter https://www.facebook.com/marriagerecoverycenter 

In this episode, Dr. Hawkins is joined by fellow MRC therapist Jonathan Glover, in the first of a new series where we will read posts about emotional abuse found on platforms like Reddit or Quora, and see what Dr. Hawkins has to say about it. Today’s post is from a man whose ex (a woman) was constantly provoking, taunting, threatening, belittling, and laughing at his insecurities and pain points, along with switching her affection from hot to cold without warning. Jonathan and Dr. Hawkins go through this very long post step by step and point out the things that are good, bad, and questionable about the situation. Jonathan Glover, LICSW, SUDPT at the Marriage Recovery Center, specializes in the treatment of trauma, particularly in the context of relationships. He has 15 years of counseling experience in community behavioral health and private practice. His professional experience includes working with families and victims of abuse, as well as treatment of other complex issues such as personality disorders, emotional abuse, domestic violence, addictions, PTSD, and depression. The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, Ph.D. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connections and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of relationship experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle, and virtually, nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our trained client care team at (206) 219-0145. Discussion Points: A new idea for podcast episodes– reacting to posts online about emotional abuse Reddit and a post from “Throwaway_28900” (screen name) Dr. Hawkins's initial reactions: Good for this man who seems relatively self-aware “I know why they did it/do it” is not helpful An example of extreme trauma bonding – good and bad admixture Provocation on both sides Thought traps and thinking errors BOW (Breathe, Observe, Wait) before reacting As MRC therapist Sharmen Kimbraugh often says to couples, “What are you fighting for?” Playing the victim vs. being a victim Reactive a

Has someone reached out to you about being the victim of an emotionally abusive relationship? Did you believe them? Do you know how to recognize the signs of covert emotional abuse? Welcome to another episode of Mad.in.Love. I’m your host Dr. David Hawkins, and my co-host again today is Sharmen Kimbrough. Today we’re speaking with Annette Oltmans, Founder and CEO of The Mend Project. Annette’s personal experiences of long-term emotional abuse in marriage and her extensive journey of recovery ignited her passion to found The M3ND Project in 2016. While seeking the help of professionals and responders, Annette experienced Double Abuse® in the form of spiritual and institutional abuse when her cries for help were ignored or brushed away, or, she herself was blamed for the situation. In working to prevent and remediate such harm, Annette developed protocol models that are now being taught and implemented by therapists, churches, and professional organizations across the United States. Join us for an eye-opening discussion around the responsibility of first responders, the damage that is done with “double abuse” or secondary abuse – when victims are not believed, and how The M3ND Project is training professionals how to recognize the red flags of covert emotional abuse. The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, Ph.D. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connections and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of relationship experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle, and virtually, nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our trained client care team at (206) 219-0145. Discussion Points: Annette Oltmans – intro and background Background and resources – The Mend Project The devastating physical and emotional effects of prolonged stress The maze analogy – interaction with an emotional abuser Covert emotional abuse and PTSD Humans seek attachment, children are taught to comply The importance of clarifying how a ‘normal’ conversation should look/sound First responders are the person an abused person first reaches out to If first responders don’t have training in how to recognize emotional abuse, they can end up heaping on more abu

I’m joined today by Sharmen Kimbrough, MA who specializes in Christ-centered Christ-centered coaching. Sharmen has been coaching with the Marriage Recovery Center since 2015 and works with individuals and couples who are struggling with emotional and spiritual abuse and helps them find a way to heal and build healthier relationships. Her work is built on her personal experience with trauma including emotional abuse, divorce, and single parenting, and she now uses her experiences to bring hope and wisdom to others struggling to make sense of their life and relationships. The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, Ph.D. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connections and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of relationship experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our trained client care team at (206) 219-0145. Discussion Points: What do you see as the problem with the apologies of emotionally immature men/narcissists How men turn comments from their spouse into feeling offended/all about him She seeks a connection, and he just wants her to shut up and leave him alone We’ve all been taught from childhood, “You apologize right now, and say it like you mean it!” How “bad apologies’ only serve to make the woman feel small, and as if she is the one who needs fixing Asking “When will you forgive me?” - Is it ever appropriate? When a woman displays loyalty, “I’m still here, I still love you,” etc.. the man has a window of opportunity How should a “healthy apology” sound? How the MRC can help Resources: Sharmen Kimbrough at MRC Psychology Today Article: “13 Fake Apologies Used by Narcissists” Dr. David Hawkins at MRC Marriage Recovery Center on Facebook Marriage Recovery Center on Instagram Marriage Recovery Center YouTube Email the Marriage Recovery Center

Are you living in a relationship where rage or silence causes you to return that behavior toward the person treating you that way? Have you been pushed so far, so many times, that you explode with anger toward the person pushing you? This is what we call reactive abuse. And its effects can transform you into someone you don’t recognize - someone you don’t want to be. In this episode, I’m speaking about reactive abuse with Dr. Lenne’ Hunt, my colleague at the MRC. Dr. Hunt has spent most of her adult life helping others navigate life’s challenges. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and an M.S. in counseling. Lenne’ practiced as a licensed therapist for many years while also raising a generation of therapists through her role as an Associate Professor of Psychology. More recently, Lenne’ decided to take another “helping” path, laying down her therapeutic license in favor of life coaching and pastoral counseling. Dr. Hunt coaches from a perspective of an intimate relationship with the Holy Trinity and so believes that no person and no relationship is ever too far gone to be beyond hope. Dr. Hunt is the author of three books: The Fatherhood of God and the Sonship of Man, Prisoners of Hope, and One True Thing and has a teaching/discipleship ministry called Deep Unto Deep Ministries. The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, Ph.D. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connections and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of relationship experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our trained client care team at (206) 219-0145. Discussion Points: Dr. Lenne’ Hunt’s background Reactive abuse can manifest like a shaken can of soda that is then opened What’s your definition of emotional abuse? Many women/clients “plead” for us to believe them, what does that stem from? The public vs. private persona of abusers How women question their abuse, “it is enough?” [to complain about?] Sulking or silent treatment– emotional neglect is also abuse Part of a therapist's role is to validate a woman’s claims Men who point to reactive behavior as “giving as good as she gets” The “emotional quicksand” that can crush the life out of you if you don’t extricate yourself [from abuse] Many so-called “helpers”- pastors, friends, colleagues - don’t recognize the context, or believe the public persona of the abuser Always assume you’re missing something– ask for more information or ‘data’ Some abuse is so subtle, even therapists must dig for more information

Is a chauvinist a narcissist and vice versa? Is a narcissist a chauvinist and a misogynist? There are definitely blurred lines between all of these personality disorders and character issues. Join me as I talk with Dr. John Hudson, head of the core men’s program at the Marriage Recovery Center, about these and other characterological traits that all have emotional abuse at their core. Dr. Hudson brings a wealth of experience and knowledge to the Marriage Recovery Center, having been involved in counseling professions, teaching, and ministries for over 35 years. Dr. Hudson enjoys working with individuals and couples who recognize the value of counseling and how it can facilitate better living, relationships, and personal spiritual growth. His approach to therapy is brief and solution-focused and emphasizes the strengths, needs, abilities, and preferences of the client through a collaborative model. The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, Ph.D. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connections and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of relationship experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our trained client care team at (206) 219-0145. Discussion Points: Welcome Dr. John Hudson Can you explain if there is a difference between ‘chauvinist’ and ‘narcissist’? The concept of male breadwinners, “man of the house” etc. is embedded in our culture for those of a certain age Every man we see at the MRC has issues with “superiority” Are chauvinists actually emotional abusers? Overt vs. Covert emotional abuse How can we recognize chauvinism in clients? How can we tell it apart from NPD? Should we be using the term misogyny? What the ‘family of origin’ dynamic has to do with NPD and chauvinism Men claim ‘everything was fine’ until my wife saw one of your videos- but the pain and suffering have been there all along “Characterological” traits can be embedded and difficult to change

Do you recognize these personality traits in your spouse: being controlling, defensive, thin-skinned, entitled, superior, emotionally immature, and easily offended or affronted? You may not realize that this is in fact emotional abuse and is a form of trauma to your spirit and extremely damaging to your sense of self. Welcome to another episode of Mad.in.Love. I’m your host Dr. David Hawkins, a Licensed Clinical Psychologist specializing in couples crisis counseling and narcissistic and emotional abuse at the Marriage Resource Center (MRC). I’m joined today by Sharmen Kimbrough, MA who specializes in Christ-centered Christ-centered coaching. Sharmen has been coaching with the Marriage Recovery Center since 2015 and works with individuals and couples who are struggling with emotional and spiritual abuse and helps them find a way to heal and build healthier relationships. Her work is built on her personal experience with trauma including emotional abuse, divorce, and single parenting, and she now uses her experiences to bring hope and wisdom to others struggling to make sense of their life and relationships. The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, Ph.D. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connections and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of relationship experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our trained client care team at (206) 219-0145. Discussion Points: Sharmen’s journey through trauma that led to her training to be a therapist We are coming up with new definitions of emotional abuse all the time Labeling the behavior instead of the person We have ‘learned responses’ to bad behavior, and sometimes that means ‘hiding’ which feels like being abused What about women who are hypervigilant, ‘over functioning’ or monitoring everything – cell phones, mileage, calories, whatever? Many men, when asked why they love their wives, can only comment on her cooking or care for their children, they don’t “see” her personality Being loved means ‘being known’ If your husband cares more about befriending and winning over your therapist, than working on your relationship, it might be time to step away A woman can deci

Has your spouse ever cut off your access to a bank account or credit card? Have you felt nervous, trapped, or truly frightened because of your spouse or significant other’s actions surrounding your finances? There is help available. I’m Dr. David Hawkins, a Licensed Clinical Psychologist specializing in couples crisis counseling and narcissistic and emotional abuse at the Marriage Resource Center (MRC). I’m hosting this episode of the Mad.In.Love podcast to help shed light on a form of abuse that is not as commonly talked about as physical or emotional abuse. Financial abuse can often be triggered by fear - fear brought on by early childhood trauma, for instance, if the abuser grew up in a financially unstable situation, experiencing homelessness or other life stressors stemming from money or lack thereof. I’m joined today by Lee Kaufman, a skilled life and relationship coach who has been helping people help themselves for 20 years, including over 4,000 hours with the Marriage Recovery Center. Early in his career, he spent over a decade in the financial and legal industries. ​This has given him unique insight on how business, finances, and family are inextricably connected. If one of these systems breaks down, the others will shortly follow. Lee’s work is based on three main principles: Connection, Intellectual Understanding, and Emotional Understanding. In this episode we will talk about several examples of financial abuse (most often, but not always) perpetrated by men against their wives. You may not even realize that you are in a financially abusive relationship until you hear about some of the specific scenarios we discuss. Lee tells us about identifying what level of abuse is happening, how to address it therapeutically, and the paths available to de-escalating the abuse or even extricating yourself from the abusive situation. The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, Ph.D. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connection and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of trained experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our team at (206) 219-0145. Discussion Points: Lee Kaufman’s background How to recognize financial abuse What are some examples of financial abuse? What should a healthy relationship around money look like? Using business or work scenarios to analyze your financial relationships Yo

Welcome to the inaugural episode of Mad.in.Love. I’m your host Dr. David Hawkins, a Licensed Clinical Psychologist specializing in couples crisis counseling and narcissistic and emotional abuse at the Marriage Recovery Center (MRC). Has your spouse been given every opportunity to heal and change, perhaps even in counseling, and still refusing to acknowledge any wrongdoing or personal responsibility? It may be time for you to withdraw from that relationship that is only offering your heart and spirit chaos and destruction. In this episode, we will discuss the many ways that you can work toward healing your relationship, but we’ll also discuss what to do when you’ve tried a thousand ways to reach your partner to connect and heal and there is “nothing more to be done.” I’m joined today by Sharmen Kimbrough, MA who specializes in Christ-centered Christ-centered coaching. Sharmen has been coaching with the Marriage Recovery Center since 2015 and works with individuals and couples who are struggling with emotional and spiritual abuse and helps them find a way to heal and build healthier relationships. Her work is built on her personal experience with trauma including emotional abuse, divorce, and single parenting, and she now uses her experiences to bring hope and wisdom to others struggling to make sense of their life and relationships. The Mad.In.Love Podcast is brought to you by the Marriage Recovery Center in Seattle, and hosted by Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD. Dr. Hawkins is a renowned clinical psychologist who has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about helping couples heal marriage wounds and rediscover deeper connections and intimacy. Dr. Hawkins is a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and writes for Crosswalk.com, CBN.org, and Believe.com. He has made regular appearances on Moody Radio and Faith Radio and is a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins and his team of relationship experts offer narcissistic and emotional abuse counseling in Seattle and virtually nationwide. To schedule your in-person or video session, call our trained client care team at (206) 219-0145. Discussion Points: Emotional abuse is more often felt, than seen. Can you give us your definition? Speak about the ‘power differential’ that we witness when a couple is struggling with emotional abuse Most often suffered by women, emotional abuse makes one party feel small, and that person can become an empty shell How self-protection remains a barrier to connecting and healing Sharmen’s dialogue tool: “What are you fighting for?” How can a discerning counselor find out the answer to “What are you fighting for?” How does failure to take responsibility for wrongdoing play out in relationships?