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From rattlesnakes to the "plan of salvation", chapter 5 of Jack Schaap's "Dating With A Purpose" had it all!In this chapter, Mr. Schaap takes a closer look at what he feels teenagers and young adults should be looking for in a partner as well as what NOT to look for. This chapter really cracked us up so if you're looking for some laughs, we recommend it!

Yes! It's been months and we're sorry for that but we could not be more excited to bring you an episode that has been months in the making and carries with it a message of healing and help.Stuart was inspired by a few of his friends to compile conversations that his peers would like to have with their parents but are held back by the legalism of the Independent Fundamental Baptist Movement.These conversations ranged from catching parents up on what's going on in their adult (and in many cases estranged) children's lives to expressing frustration for their parent's refusal to accept them for who they are and simply love them as their children.Stuart brought on his parents for this episode in order for them to help us all process the angst that we've encountered when trying to deal with our IFB parents. Max & Katy Hardy were steeped in the IFB and are fully aware (as parents) just how difficult it can be for the children of IFB parents when those children attempt to speak with their parents on any and all matters.Whether you're simply curious about the IFB or possibly looking for catharsis in the midst of a struggle with family for religious reasons, we hope that you enjoy and are helped by this episode. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Yes! It's been months and we're sorry for that but we could not be more excited to bring you an episode that has been months in the making and carries with it a message of healing and help.Stuart was inspired by a few of his friends to compile conversations that his peers would like to have with their parents but are held back by the legalism of the Independent Fundamental Baptist Movement.These conversations ranged from catching parents up on what's going on in their adult (and in many cases estranged) children's lives to expressing frustration for their parent's refusal to accept them for who they are and simply love them as their children.Stuart brought on his parents for this episode in order for them to help us all process the angst that we've encountered when trying to deal with our IFB parents. Max & Katy Hardy were steeped in the IFB and are fully aware (as parents) just how difficult it can be for the children of IFB parents when those children attempt to speak with their parents on any and all matters.Whether you're simply curious about the IFB or possibly looking for catharsis in the midst of a struggle with family for religious reasons, we hope that you enjoy and are helped by this episode. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Chapter 4 of Jack Schaap's "Dating With A Purpose" is entitled "Principles Of Dress" and it comes as no surprise to Stuart that the chapter is devoted almost *entirely* to calling out women for what they're wearing & how they are presenting themselves.As we covered this chapter in a very brief version of StoryTime With Stu, we re-discovered that Schapp had put forth impossible "standards" (they were his own, legalistic preferences really) for women.At one point he stated that dresses which are too lengthy are immodest as well as skirts that were too short.He also said that both "too much" (by his standards, which he could create "on the fly" for any given situation) makeup and not enough makeup would not be "up to par" for his standards. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The title of Chapter 3 in Jack Schaap's "Dating With A Purpose" is "Defraud Not One Another" and it really peels back the curtain on the legalism that prohibits adolescents & young adults from properly maturing in both a sexual and a romantic manner in their relationships (within the Independent Fundamental Baptist Movement).As Stuart reads along he is struck by quite a few thoughts that lead young people to develop "hangups" that can manifest themselves later in life as they seek to deconstruct their faith and date in the "real world". See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In our third installment of reading through the combined works of Bob & JoBeth Hooker, Stuart was surprised by how many times he found himself agreeing with the sentiment that the authors *seemed* to be displaying. However, he did not fail to stay the course in regard to the main theme of this book: Sexism.Time & time again as we read these passages, we find that many of the "ideas" presented seem a bit benign and almost cute but when put in the proper IFB perspective they are damn condescending at best. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We're now getting into chapter two of this unreal book and we dive deeper into some of the (seemingly concocted out of thin air) narratives that Jack Schaap has to share. We guarantee you'll get a kick out of them!Please, bear with Stuart as he becomes quite flustered with the ridiculousness of it all and does in fact not hold back.If you have an aversion to talk of sex and / or naughty words this episode may not be for you and we totally get that.

We had a ton of fun reading through the second chapters in each section (all three) of this book by Bob & JoBeth Hooker.We took a closer look at the condescension as well as the sexually frustrating problems that the IFB system creates and subsequently gives poor (at best) advice for solving.You're sure to get a laugh or two from this (shorter than usual) episode as we explore the pitfalls of IFB ideology in marriage. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Wow! We had an incredibly cathartic, entirely eye-opening and thoroughly enjoyable conversation with Shellie in this episode.This yet another episode that we're certain any attendee or alum of Hyles-Anderson college will enjoy. We talked about everything from summer tour to the weirdest chapel speakers & messages we've ever been subjected to.We also discussed what it looks like to be on the other side of the Independent Fundamental Baptist Movement once you've exited and the fact that much of our fears about leaving the faith are unwarranted (also, there is so much help and love to assist in overcoming the warranted fears). See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Wow! We had an incredibly cathartic, entirely eye-opening and thoroughly enjoyable conversation with Shellie in this episode.This yet another episode that we're certain any attendee or alum of Hyles-Anderson college will enjoy. We talked about everything from summer tour to the weirdest chapel speakers & messages we've ever been subjected to.We also discussed what it looks like to be on the other side of the Independent Fundamental Baptist Movement once you've exited and the fact that much of our fears about leaving the faith are unwarranted (also, there is so much help and love to assist in overcoming the warranted fears). See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Wow! We had an incredibly cathartic, entirely eye-opening and thoroughly enjoyable conversation with Shellie in this episode.This yet another episode that we're certain any attendee or alum of Hyles-Anderson college will enjoy. We talked about everything from summer tour to the weirdest chapel speakers & messages we've ever been subjected to.We also discussed what it looks like to be on the other side of the Independent Fundamental Baptist Movement once you've exited and the fact that much of our fears about leaving the faith are unwarranted (also, there is so much help and love to assist in overcoming the warranted fears). See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Unrest and hatred have been filling our newsfeeds as of late. We do not feel that it is the time to look past all of the wrong that's going on.Circumventing the problem has never solved it. "Doing The Right Thing" should be on the rise. Now is not the time to deny others what they are feeling. Now is the time to deploy empathy, walk a mile in someone else's shoes and take part in changing the narrative that has shaped much of our culture as a nation.We believe that showing love to our fellow man is one of the most successful methods in undermining the hate that has permeated our society for far too long. Yes, black lives do matter. We see you. We hear you. We love you. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We are so thrilled to drop this episode with Stuart's friend Devon. Known to many as @IAmSymphony, Devon has a background in the fitness industry and has a wealth of knowledge that he freely shares with us in this week's episode.As food delivery services take over and gyms remain closed during this pandemic, we were fortunate enough to have a personal trainer walk us through everything we need in order to educate ourselves on (from diet to exercise) not falling behind during these trying times. Also, his stance on pizza may surprise you!

We are so thrilled to drop this episode with Stuart's friend Devon. Known to many as @IAmSymphony, Devon has a background in the fitness industry and has a wealth of knowledge that he freely shares with us in this week's episode.As food delivery services take over and gyms remain closed during this pandemic, we were fortunate enough to have a personal trainer walk us through everything we need in order to educate ourselves on (from diet to exercise) not falling behind during these trying times. Also, his stance on pizza may surprise you!

In our second "StoryTime With Stu", we covered famed cult leader Jack Schaap's book entitled "Dating With A Purpose". Stuart is familiar with this book as he purchased a copy as a teenager and this book was required reading for all Hyles-Anderson College Freshmen.Even though we only read through chapter one in this episode, a lot goes on. If you've read this book before or are simply interested in taking an inside look at how someone who is now "doing time" in a federal penitentiary thought the teenagers in their cult should behave when dating one another then you'll enjoy this! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We are so excited to kick off a new series of episodes entitled "StoryTime With Stu".In this series Stuart will be reading through various IFB books that have influenced the movement over the years. We're leading with Robert Hooker's work. Better known to many as "Dr. Bob Hooker", this man and his wife, JoBeth, penned a book entitled "Romance in Marriage: Keeping The Flame Alive".This book was off limits to all unengaged / non-married couples as it was "too hot to handle" for those who had yet to experience marital sex.We think you'll be delighted by episode one in which Stuart reads through the first three chapters in each section (one for men, one for women and one for couples).Enjoy!

Some time ago, we asked you to share your stories from your time at Hyles-Anderson College, First Baptist Church of Hammond, or just your involvement in the Independent Fundamental Baptist movement.Wow! Did you deliver! From hilarious anecdotes to heartfelt tales we were thoroughly moved by what you all shared.Today, we are finally premiering the first edition of "Your Stories". Listen in to see if you recognize your story (or someone else's) and feel free to shoot us a message with your own story if you'd like to share.**All stories (unless otherwise indicated) are shared in anonymity.** See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We'd be lying if we said that we weren't incredibly excited to bring this episode your way! Stuart finally got the chance to sit down with Andrew, his roommate from his very first year at Hyles-Anderson College. The two of them have kept in touch since 2004 and (in this episode) spoke on everything from dating in an independent fundamental baptist bible college to their exit from fundamentalism and what faith looks like to them nearly a decade-and-a-half later. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Dreading the holidays because of your religious relatives?We might just have the solution for you!Stuart breaks down a couple of concepts that he's sure can help you through the holiday season as you navigate your relationships with those family members that tend to "push" their religious views harder this time of year! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Okay...you guys asked for it (well, maybe *you* didn't

Recently a disturbing video at a Southern California Independent Fundamental Baptist Church surfaced and we wanted to know more about the situation that occurred prior to and during what took place on said video.Luckily, one of the people in the video was kind enough to grace us with his presence and give us greater context on the situation.If you've been keeping an eye on the way that the IFB has been unraveling in recent months (years, even) then you don't want to skip this tell-all episode of Not Your Mother's Podcast with Christian Delafield! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

While the lovely Mrs. Sarah Jackson has not been silent on the things that have occurred over the past year, there has been a bit of a lull in the information that is out there in her defense.Luckily, she was kind enough to grant us a moment (several hours, actually) of her time to tell us her story in her own words as well as answer many, many questions from our viewers/listeners.In this LIVE episode that we recorded on our Facebook page, we interviewed Sarah and asked her about her experience in the IFB.We also got her take on the fact that Cameron Giovanelli has once again posted a video online and it's weird AF at best.Lastly, Sarah took well over an hour to answer a multitude of questions that our community had for her - Everything from how to deal with abuse (be it sexual or otherwise) in our own lives to her thoughts on culottes.If you're a Sarah Jackson fan then her first appearance on Not Your Mother's Podcast is not one you'll want to miss! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

While the lovely Mrs. Sarah Jackson has not been silent on the things that have occurred over the past year, there has been a bit of a lull in the information that is out there in her defense.Luckily, she was kind enough to grant us a moment (several hours, actually) of her time to tell us her story in her own words as well as answer many, many questions from our viewers/listeners.In this LIVE episode that we recorded on our Facebook page, we interviewed Sarah and asked her about her experience in the IFB.We also got her take on the fact that Cameron Giovanelli has once again posted a video online and it's weird AF at best.Lastly, Sarah took well over an hour to answer a multitude of questions that our community had for her - Everything from how to deal with abuse (be it sexual or otherwise) in our own lives to her thoughts on culottes.If you're a Sarah Jackson fan then her first appearance on Not Your Mother's Podcast is not one you'll want to miss! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

While the lovely Mrs. Sarah Jackson has not been silent on the things that have occurred over the past year, there has been a bit of a lull in the information that is out there in her defense.Luckily, she was kind enough to grant us a moment (several hours, actually) of her time to tell us her story in her own words as well as answer many, many questions from our viewers/listeners.In this LIVE episode that we recorded on our Facebook page, we interviewed Sarah and asked her about her experience in the IFB.We also got her take on the fact that Cameron Giovanelli has once again posted a video online and it's weird AF at best.Lastly, Sarah took well over an hour to answer a multitude of questions that our community had for her - Everything from how to deal with abuse (be it sexual or otherwise) in our own lives to her thoughts on culottes.If you're a Sarah Jackson fan then her first appearance on Not Your Mother's Podcast is not one you'll want to miss! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

If you grew up in the Independent Fundamental Baptist Movement then chances are you've encountered church leadership (or, as many call them, a "Man of God") who treated you less-than-kindly.Today's guest, Aaron Lanning is no stranger to this type of treatment. Not only was he engaged to be married to a PK (pastor's kid - yes, Stuart was one too & he'll attest that they're the worst

Ooooh boooy this is gonna' be a good one! We are thrilled to have finally gotten the one and only Joshua Owens (of Good Humans fame) over here to the NYM studio as a guest host.Josh has been gracious enough to allow our very own Stuart Hardy to be a guest on his podcast several times and if ever two minds were fully tethered, it would have to be the minds of these fellas.Enough of the mush!

We're thrilled to have the one and only John Keister back with us for today's episode, and we cover SO much ground!!Stuart and John left no stone unturned as John dropped some hot knowledge on house flipping and Stuart read aloud some intensive hate speech & John broke down for him how it made him feel and what was at the heart of it all.If you want to feel loved but also want to hear how hateful IFB peeps can be towards our gay friends (I.E. you want to hear their comments that Stuart took screenshots of here on Facebook before they were deleted) then you've gotta check out this episode. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Soooo... we did go to a Hyles-Anderson College alumni meeting and we want to share with you just what happened.Also, super stoked to have Stuart Hardy's brother, Andy Hardy (of The Andy Hardy Show) on once more.H.A.C. grads and former attendees this episode is not to be missed! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

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We are just as dumbfounded as you are that Cameron Giovanelli is still at large! In fact, as of late we've heard quite a few folks asking how and why people like this guy are allowed to continue to roam free. We've seen quite a lot of indignation in many a comments section as some have indicated that there must *clearly* be something wrong with those of us who have allowed those who have hurt us and those we love to continue in a position of leadership. In this episode, Stuart breaks down just how this continues to happen, why it does and updates us all on what's going on with the case against Cameron Giovanelli. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

If you've ever experienced the "Fear Of God" or taken issue with finding "God's Will" for your life then you've simply got to check out this episode! Stuart and his friend John Banister cover everything from pre-marital intercourse to intensive legalism that is rife within the IFB and so many cults like it. You're sure to get a whole lot of laughs and quite a few "Woah" moments out of this episode! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Stuart and Mike cover a plethora of topics, from run-ins with Jack Schaap to all the demerits and offenses that they acquired. We here at Not Your Mother's Podcast are incredibly grateful for Mike taking time out of his schedule to stop in for a most amazing chat, and once you get a few minutes into this episode we know you'll feel the same "Gratitude Attitude". See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Stuart and Mike cover a plethora of topics, from run-ins with Jack Schaap to all the demerits and offenses that they acquired. We here at Not Your Mother's Podcast are incredibly grateful for Mike taking time out of his schedule to stop in for a most amazing chat, and once you get a few minutes into this episode we know you'll feel the same "Gratitude Attitude". See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

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We are back in action! We were thrilled to have the indomitable John Keister stop in once more for an incredible episode that you're sure to enjoy! He and Stuart talked Hyles-Anderson, Jack Schaap, Tour Groups (of course) and tons of other fun stuff!If you went to HAC or any college similar to it then you're sure to get quite a few laughs and "aha moments" out of this episode!Oh, and we left a few outtakes at the end for ya', so enjoy!

This week the lovely, indomitable and wildly successful Becka Stone stops by and she & Stuart have a delightful conversation. These two cover everything from true entrepreneurship to making it as a single parent (which they both just so happen to be

The story that Stuart shares with us today has only been breaking for the past month, but has been ongoing for nearly twenty years. Victor Monteiro was "Southern California's Youth Pastor" for many years, and suddenly shrank to obscurity (a few years back) until he was picked up for his crimes against humanity on July 27th, 2018.Today we're going over the some of his victim's stories as well as instructions on how to protect your children from predators.Also, if you're a youth pastor like Stuart was, he's got some helps for you on remaining "above reproach". Happy Sunday! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Just seems to us like as soon as we get done exposing one perverted church leader, another one rears it's ugly head. What's strange to us is that these guys who are so emboldened tend to quite checkered pasts (to put it lightly) of their own.Today Stuart is going to dive deep into the past and present of a couple of fellas who feel they should start their own #MeToo movement. You'll find their reasoning for this beyond laughable and their idea of background checks ludicrous. Oh, also if you want to hear some good ol' fashioned IFB preaching and enjoy the IFB's version of a press conference you won't want to miss this episode. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Wow! So much has transpired since the last time we posted an episode.Videos have been deleted, more victims of IFB abuse have come forward and the bad guys are getting busted left and right.This week's episode is another SoloCast with Stuart and he'll be covering many of the recent developments as well as analyzing a certain chaotic video that was uploaded to Youtube in the past few days (you know the one

There have been some unbelievable advancements in the case against the IFB in recent months, and the case for the victims is gaining momentum and becoming more widespread by the hour.We are taking back all that we were entitled to at birth. This movement is not without opposition though. The victims and their many supporters have been met with fierce, repugnant and ignorant oppression. In this video, Stuart references this opposition, gives it a voice, and explains the thought process from both sides.In addition, he covers the issue of cognitive dissonance and how / why men are put in positions that allow them the power to act out their most devious and often criminal thoughts. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Okay, we're gonna' walk this one back from end to beginning. If you're in the process of or contemplating exiting a cult then we beg that you watch the last 20 minutes - It will be incredibly helpful to your healing and future success.Other than that, this video is just three dudes that went to "Fake Jesus College", swapping stories for a couple hours. If you went to HAC, or any other "Bible College" you will find yourself watching this more than once - We guarantee it!Feel free to leave a comment, burst a blood vessel, or just have a good laugh with us as we laugh at ourselves! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The great and powerful Tiffany Duncan was gracious enough to grace us with her presence this week on Not Your Mother's Podcast. She and Stuart busted out their yearbook (circa 2000), and had a good laugh at everything from hairstyles to signatures left by old friends.The two of them got into some heavy, but helpful subject matter in the arenas of sex, guilt and how to move past all of the unrealistic labels and premonitions that society and religion tend to place upon women. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Oh, boy! Stuart & John covered A LOT of ground in this episode. Of course, they talked about growing up in the IFB, but they covered something in great detail that Stuart has never really dug deep on before. They explored what it was liked to be "disciplined" via spanking as a child, doing the same as adults once they had children of their own and the reasoning that caused them to no longer use this method of punishment. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Becka stopped by this week and flipped the script! She actually interviewed Stuart, which was a great change of pace, and you're sure to enjoy this. She was looking for advice on getting started with her own podcast, and the two of them ended up talking about everything from the anatomy of a cult to how getting out of a cult works. If you've enjoyed the content around cults from Not Your Mother's Podcast then this is an episode that you simply mustn't miss! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

John​ & Stuart​ went deep on this week's episode! Empathy is such an essential human trait that so many of us neglect and these two hit the proverbial nail on the head. Topics ranged from The Chainsmokers​ lyrics to support groups for gay Christians.You're sure to enjoy this episode (unless you're terrifically close-minded) See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We thought we'd take a quick break from our IFB - bashing ways and get back to marketing with the powerful Trenton Wiges. Stuart and Trenton's conversation ranged from Arby's venison to being "catfished", and everything in between.So pull up a chair, grab your favorite bottle of Whiskey (milk will do just fine too

We had an ah-mazing time with the incredible Mary Shloss on this week's episode of Not Your Mother's Podcast!We talked about everything from the problems that preachers have with pornography to the Marine Corps and quite literally everything in between.Both Stuart and Mary are HAC grads and were a part of a singing tour group. If these are things you have familiarity with then there's a great chance you'll either thoroughly love or vehemently loathe this episode. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Custody. Divorce. Court. These are not words that generally conjure up feelings of happiness and memories of good times. Our founder Stuart and his good friend Chris cover everything from dating as a single parent to "Disneyland Dads".If you're a single parent (or a parent at all) we're real sure you'll enjoy, and in many cases be helped by this podcast. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We're back for yet another interview, and we feel like you're really going to enjoy this one! So sit back, crack open a cold one with the boys, and enjoy these fifteen minutes of fun! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We are back with the one and only Jon Warden​ and we had a blast (as always)! If you ever attended Hyles-Anderson College then you'll want to tune in to this episode! Our founder Stuart​ & our special guest Jon discuss everything from "H Day" to "Dorm Life". You're sure to enjoy it if you've ever attended an IFB College of any sort! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.