Talk To Yourself Show

Hard Decisions, Easy Decisions: A podcast about making hard decisions based on logic and rationality.This is not the end, but a new beginning Thank you to all who have taken the time to listen and support me. 

Have you ever had a hard time dealing with someone’s expectations? Dealing with expectations isn't easy, especially if the other person is setting them for you. When it comes to expectations and how we deal with them this can be challenging because oftentimes what we expect will never happen.Sometimes we have expectations about something happening, something we don’t want to go right. It takes a while then it just happens! Something we’d rather not then it happens or it backfires on us. How do you deal with these situations?

Intelligence and boldness are two different traits often misunderstood.  Sometimes people confuse the two, displaying a lack of intelligent understanding because of their lack of boldness.  Perhaps, you may have even noticed, or experienced this in your life. It is a very interesting question to ask; what is the difference between boldness vs intelligence?   As we progress through this podcast, I will share my insights with you as to what it means to be bold and intelligent.

What is the dash of life? Through various sources and self-experience, I’ve found that it's what you want your life to be. That sounds vague, but it’s not. It’s actually quite clear—you get to decide what the dash should look like through making choices each day.Contact: media@desherbert.com

The Stigma of LabelsThere was a recent article written by Carole Cadwalladr about the mis-labelling of people/communities. Is it acceptable to call someone who has cancer a 'cancer survivor'? What about someone who has advanced dementia? We continue to hear about words being banned taken out of dictionaries. Or do we just need a new language for a new idea about how we want to describe people, situations and groups of people.People are often labelled by the events that shaped them. But what about labels on teachers and mentors? People who have been awarded life-saving medals? Because Cancer, widow and disability are not who you are anymore. They are just labels, experiences that shape your character and identity but do not define you.The labelling of people seems to be in the news a lot at the moment with an article about breast cancer survivors being referred to as "survivors" and another about people with learning difficulties (or who are perceived to have learning difficulties) being referred to as having a ‘disability’. Labels can be used in many different ways – you could refer to them positively such as describing someone as an ‘expert’ or you could use them negatively.

Do you think it's true like to be Megan Markle? In this weeks episode we look at what is must be like to be Megan Markle. I look at some similarities in my life, talk about Pierce Morgan and about the media, and much more..

Every decade or so, there's a scandal about how music has been 'dumbed down' and is 'not what it used to be'. The best way to find out if that's really true is to look at the charts. So let's take a look at the best selling songs of each decade, and see how it measures up.First off, let's just state the obvious. Music has changed a lot over the years. The record industry has changed in terms of how songs are discovered, and the way they are marketed. It's also a lot easier to record a song, so you're going to get more people trying their luck.My question is, What Happened to the Music?Contact: media@desherbert.com

This week I asked Pete to come on my podcast, “The Struggle with Weight Loss”. This is part 2, and so far the episode has been great for those who want to lose weight and those interested in learning more about what it is like being over weight and miserable. This has been a great experience so far. Pete seems to really have a passion for helping people lose weight because it's no longer just easy for him; it's become life-threatening. You can listen to the podcast here…Connect with meEmail: media@desherbert.comConnect with Pete:Instagram: @petefitness_Facebook: PeteFitness Email: Pete@petefitess.com

There's a whole industry around weight loss, and yet the struggle to lose weight remains the same. Over 95% of people who lose weight regain it within a few years. Despite spending $60 billion in just weight related costs last year alone, we are no healthier than we were 30 years ago. And so, there HAS to be a better way. You CAN'T be one of these simple minded folks that blames their genetics for all their problems. Your genes are NOT your destiny! Never hasEveryone wants to be skinny- thinner than their friends, and more attractive. The end goal of weight loss is often a smaller size. But what if the end goal isn't about losing weight at all. What if the end goal of weight loss is to live a life that you are happy with?Contact: Media@desherbert.com

You’ve probably heard the phrase “put your oxygen mask on first before helping others”. You might even know that it’s a metaphor for personal self-care. But what you may not know is how that phrase has helped me clarify my own values and achieve my goals. And I’m sharing it with you today because I believe it can help you too.

This is part 2 of Why the voice inside your head is like BuzzFeed. In this weeks episode we look at how you can deal with the voice inside your head that has a constantly talking to you. Contact: media@desherbert.com

Why is the voice inside your head like BuzzFeed? The constant stream of self talk arguing for and against any situation. You are reading this right now and there is self-taught going on. Some of you are saying, 'no I'm not' but where did that 'no' come from? It was inside of your head right? Episode is split into parts. This week we will look at the basis of the voice inside your head. Why the constant chatter? Who is listening? Also, who are you? Subscribe so you don't miss the part 2.

How important is your memory of past events? Are all of your past memories accurate?You may recall an events from the past and then someone shows you a picture or talks about it or play a video of the event and it's different to what you actually remember? Why is that?Well in this episode we take a deeper look into our memories. Contact: media@desherbert.com

Imposter syndrome is like kryptonite to Superman. Can be disabling and stop you from moving forward. It can stop you from making choices that can potentially change your life for the positive.In this weeks episode we look at ways for you to avoid procrastination move forward and overcome imposter syndrome.Contact: media@desherbert.com

In this episode I look at how habits can help you live a better life. Habits run from the subconscious mind, but how do we change from where we are to where we want to be? All will be answered in this weeks episode. I have tried to simplify the process to help you, to help myself, and if it works for you you pass it on to someone else. Hope you enjoy the episode.Contact: media@desherbert.com

Just Do It. Easy to say, however it is that simple. sometimes we over complicate things. We procrastinate and overthink. Just getting started is the key to growth. Whatever it is that you have been putting off, don't! In the podcast, I share some examples of times when direct action paid off as opposed to no action at all. Contact:Media@desherbert.comMusic by"Savfk - The Travelling Symphony" is under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 International License (CC BY 4.0)Music promoted by BreakingCopyright: https://bit.ly/b-travelling-symphony

I cannot believe that I have been lied to all these years. I mean growing up I was under a different impression than that of the past 7 years. If you're reading this before listen, then I urge you to take some time so that this doesn't happen to you. Generation cycles can be broken with thought, understanding, and action.Contact: media@desherbert.com

No, and just saying no may be the most important words and words you ever say because saying no set boundaries and gives you your time. You can never get your time back. Once your time is gone it has gone. So saying the word no and knowing that it will be okay can be the most important thing that you ever say.So in this week's episode of the talk to yourself show we take an in-depth look at just saying NO!Contact: Media@desherbert.com

44 years ago a song was written for a movie soundtrack. This song would go on to be covered by one of the greatest female artists that have ever lived. "Teach them well and let them lead the way". That line was written so we can do the right thing. Teach them well.This has been one of the most testing years in modern global history. Not so must hard. More testing and uncertainty. I think of the children growing up in this uncertain world. It is up to us to show them the way. The podcast goes into more detail. I don't want to spoil it here :) Contact: media@desherbert.com

Have you reached your upper limit? Most people that's a good percentage of the population have an upper limit. This upper limit can stop you from progressing. In this week's podcast, I ask a question about the upper limit. Reaching the upper limit can show up in our lives, in our day today and we don't recognise it. In this week's podcast will discuss some of the signs of the upper limit and help you to go past it.

Why should you be realistic when you can be great! Is it ok to be realistic? Is this all there is? have you reached your upper limit or is there more? All these questions discussed in this weeks podcast.

Victim mentality can keep you trapped in a negative loop. How do you break the Victim Mentality trap? If you have thought or said any of the following, then you may have been caught in the loop.“Everyone is against youNothing ever goes rightFeel as if nothing going to get betterDo you see problems as catastrophesMore examples in the podcast. Victim mentality seems to be common place in today's society. I discuss this and more during the episode. I also talk about ways in which you can overcome victim mentality.Contact: media@desherbert.com

Insane (But True) Things About Language we use. The show is called the talk to yourself show and in this weeks episode, we delve deeper into self-talk and the way you talk to yourself, the language you use when you’re having a conversations with yourself. This episode is unedited, raw and unfiltered. As you listen you will hear mistakes and knocks. The reason for this will be shared in a future podcast. Coming soon Contact: media@desherbert.com

Is meditation the key to access the next level of human consciousness? We run most of our days using our subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is a set of program, beliefs, ideas we have picked up from birth and continue to be fed by the information we take in. The only ways to break access the subconscious mind and give it a new set of instructions is when the mind is in a relaxed state. In this weeks podcast I look at how we can make the change as well as share my week of meditation.media@desherbert.com

A Software Update Is Available. Do you want to stay IN your current version of yourself or do you want to update? Old programming (thought and beliefs) have taken us all so far. What if there was more! Well, good news there is. In this weeks episode, we talk about updating your software. We all run daily programs in the background which help us with our day to day task. These are learned behaviours called routines. Current routines are good, however, sometimes it's these very routines which keep us in the past and keep us stuck. To upgrade our lives we need to change routines, habits and behaviours. The previous statement is sometimes met with resistance. Change can be scary because it is the unknown. The unknown is outside of the comfort zone. All growth and change happen outside of the comfort zone. Like anything new, you have done in the past. It can be nerve-wracking at first. We are in the most advanced technological age ever. Knowledge is on tap, however, we are also in an age where we don't have to think anymore. The brain is a muscle and like any muscle needs exercise. As the saying goes "use it or lose it". If you do not continually work your (brain) mind, the thoughts that you are thinking will inevitably go to work on you.

Time is limited. Time is rolling away. Time is a human construct that helps us navigate the world. Time can either fly by or go extremely slowly. In this episode of the Talk to yourself show I look and the importance of a - dash. The dash that appears between 2 numbers. Probably the most import dash, hyphen, line. Listen to find out more.

Do you judge too much? Have you ever looked at someone and cast judgement? Have you ever been in a car and another car pulled out on you? Have you watched the news and passed judgement on an individual or group of people based on what you watched and listened to?If you have, then this podcast is for you. I look at some other examples that may help you to understand from a different perspective.

I pose the question, is your diet making you sick? With everything that is going on in the world, I am constantly asking questions. This weeks question was born from thinking outside of the normal or what we have been conditioned. When I say conditioned, I mean the language and phrases we have been accustom.Diet for me is more than food. I explain during the podcast. I hope it provokes some thought. For questions and show suggestions email media@desherbert.com

In this game of life that has no rule book, I have tried multitasking and in the past I have tried to accommodate businesses and individuals by saying Yes! However what I was actually doing is saying NO to my future and to any success. It was when I decided to ‘Focus on one thing’ that I started to see some success. Focusing on just one thing was life changing. I started to witness small things changing in my personal and professional life. In this podcast I share my story and some examples of how you can learn to keep focused and become unstoppable. Contact: media@desherbert.com

To listen to this episode, its going to take courage. I discuss being colour blind. I discuss being colour blind to help make you aware of what it is like living dealing the ability not to see in colour. I share some examples of mine and my families. Have a question? Email it to media@desherbert.com

The question this week is, have you stopped thinking for yourself? Well have you?. We have outsoursed a lot of thinking to third parties, apps and experts. In this episode we look at the effects of not thinking for yourself and how you can make changes. Contact:media@desherbert.com

Do you want to be able to feel the way you want, rather than let circumstances control your feelings? Well in this episode we look at how you can control your mind to feel the way you want. If you are looking for a sort out a relationship, look for a new relationship or new job or follow your dreams. This episode will help. Become a magnet to attach into your life exactly what you want rather than attract what you don't.media@desherbert.com

Story is everything. We are a collection of stories that we tell ourselves. These stories can be inherited from our parents, our past, friends and what we see around us. We all see the world slightly differently due to what we make meaning of and the stories we attach to the meaning.If you are a person that wants more out of life and you understand that, we as human beings are limitless then keep listen as in this episode and future episodes we dive deeper into self talk, visualisation, heart and mind.

Fear of other peoples options is something that literally disables people from fulfilling their full potential. In this episode I take a deep dive into the fear of other people opinions (Foopo).