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Saying Yes…even when I don't like what I see.

Words. They flow through me onto the page and that is not just a cliché. It is the best way to describe how I stream poetry. I used to labor over it for hours, days, perhaps years and now I open up and flow like yes...Another one of my acronyms for FLY. So listen to this episode and hear this FLYgirl spout her latest poem.

Some use this slogan as a joke and many still use ‘because i said so' as the answer to all questions that challenge the status quo or authority. I was told that I couldn't have a dirtbike when I was a kid and that's the only thing I wanted. I wished for it on every birthday cake candle i blew out...Still no dirt bike. And you're not gonna believe the reason i was given...or maybe you will believe it, depending on your conditioning. Let's talk about it for five minutes and 25 seconds.

Ever compare yourself to others? Of course you do because you're human. My biggest trap is comparing myself to prior versions of me. you?

when we progress what do we ignore, include and create?

Turns out I do have some thing I would change...

Tonight I realized how much the show Friends influenced my life. From bad haircuts to hilarious inappropriate conversations on vintage couches with (now life long) weird friends in a coffee shop... I've lived a good life And it was totally not what I expected.

Often times our ego tells us or our friends tell us, or our family tells us that our vision has to be smaller in order for us to fit in. Sometimes others control us or vice versa and use intrusive & devisive ways...then some interpret it as you doing something wrong to trigger the negative attention. One time I was telling my boyfriend about me not jumping to solve a problem for my ex husband when he alluded to an issue that he wanted me to solve for him without him actually asking me for what he wanted. After hearing the story my boyfriend asked why I antagonized my ex. This blew my mind and woke me up to the fact that he too was inept at asking for what he wanted and therefore was not a great match for me. And simply the act of me writing this down is helping me realize how I can better ask for what I want and also accept and move on when someone says no to what I want. This comes back to soft talk, manipulation, guilt and shame and how they are used to keep things the way they are. People often blame and shame others when they don't give them what they want when in reality they have never asked for what they wanted. This method of blame shame & keep it the same are simply control mechanisms that by the nature of life, will always be resisted and challenged.I realized my vision is beyond just me and that this quest to be heard is not about me either. Sometimes that's the only thing that can keep you going in the face of critics and crucifixion.

As you may have guessed by the introduction to the daily yes I am all about numbers: lucky numbers, significant numbers, repeating numbers, angel numbers, numerology... whatever you wanna call it I'm into it. I've always been in love with numbers and I can't remember a day when my favorite number wasn't a part of my daily considerations. Today I did some woo woo randomness and it turned into a woo woo well of alignment. listen and flow like YESSSS.

Rituals, Restart, Reuse ♻️ No not the traditional three Rs but still in the same ballpark. Our days can and often do start like a tornado and a chaotic shit storm ...so how do I ground myself? how do I make it through every day ? well if you listen to this five minutes and 25 seconds or less you may have some ideas. And we can usually have fun regardless of how the world is spinning around us. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Long time ago I established a thing called Friday dance day and since it's Friday in my world I thought I would share with you a little bit about music dancing, choreography and how music has affected me and how it's parallel to some life avenues. I hope you'll join me for this five minutes and 25 seconds or less

No I'm not talking about the devil but I am talking about some serious negotiations that start within. When someone makes you a deal do you go with whatever they offer? Negotiations vary every day, so do relationships. The role you play as well as your disclosure based on that role are key. How do you say yes to yourself when it comes to how others treat you? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

We have all avoided subjects, been avoided because of subjects and subjected ourselves to excessive explainations. I created a term called 'Poppinsology' which sums up my perspective on communication. Once you hear about it you may adapt it forever...

Sometimes acceptance looks different than you thought it would.

And if winning is the name of the game, what is the game? How can we all WIN Because that's really what motivates people to want to play...Right?

Busy much ? Do you always feel slammed for time? Do you rush ?are you always late ?do you have road rage when people go too slow ? Do you always find yourself saying how busy you are and telling your friends you don't have time for anything fun ? If you answered yes to any of these questions...then you'll be tracking today's topic. So jump on the Yes train and let's 'chew !chew !'on some new ideas.

What do you do to keep your vibe high? I was recently asked that...So here's my answer up to now: First of all my vibe isn't always high and second of all being kind to myself. Listening today for some more tools and just hang out with me it's only five minutes and 25 seconds Today is the 25th episode so it's very lucky because 25 is my favorite number ...see you in the podcast❤️ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

There may need to be some serious production on today's episode because yes I shared a rap that I made up. It's probably one of my best but I haven't made very many so there's that. What the hell this is the daily Y E S so I said yes to what I wanted to do and what I want to talk about. I hope you love it --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Many people put themselves through suffering and disciplines like marathons or fasting or other extreme endeavors just to understand the discipline it takes to be present for pain. Mothers are masters of this discipline. If only we knew our own power to heal the world from within.

Dr. Tererai Trent, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., Dr. Maya Angelo and burying your dreams. My dad was in love with a woman in a movie and when he was on his way out of this world I watched it with him every day. He told me I reminded him of the star - what an honor. Sometimes we get derailed from life and what it throws at us but our dreams never die. what's your dream?

There are so many beautiful traditions and rituals that surround holidays and at the same time Mother's Day just like every other holiday brings out some sadness as well as extreme appreciation for this life and those who raised us and those who chose us to raise them. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Here's the twist: I get asked how my kids feel A LOT and so I thought I would give my daughter a chance to speak for herself.  Listen in as her insights are tender and tenacious. this was from an FAQ Friday in 2020 and the focus we gained since. new episodes daily so follow and don't miss a thing.

Every artist dreams of doing their art or their form of passion for a living and then something happens between their dream and other peoples' reality. To all the artists and dreamers out there - I want you to get paid!

We've all done it thought that we could convince someone of something. In fact many positive mindset motivational people like myself think we can wrestle our own minds or our clients' to the ground until they submit to the flow... but that's not how it works is it?

No matter what a bad ass you are no matter how focused and how much you have Slayed this life, some days take you down. Even Princess Leia had feelings and had moments she lost hope. So then what do you do?

Ever been to an event where there's a big table of chips and you can't focus on anything else? Ever been to a family event where there's a food that's going to trigger your kid? If not, then you haven't fully lived. I am in the know on NOs and kinda stoked about it. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Intellectual property - spiritual property - the idea that we own or control anything as well as ideas, emotions & inspirations. connected or isolated, vibrational systems cannot be ignored when contemplating ideas worth sharing.

How do you use your mind ? And how do you show up every day for yourself? Is there a perfect formula for happiness? I think so...And it's definitely not perfect, but it is predictable. It is the saying yes to it all, even when things hurt, even when they feel ridiculously out of alignment, and even when they bring you to your knees as you watch a person you love suffer.

The deep dive into the art of thriving can someone thrive and still be unsatisfied? Or is the art of being unsatisfied the key to thriving? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Where does the circle of trust start and how does it spiral up from the root chakra? Have you ever asked yourself this question have you ever wondered where your beliefs come from and why you keep coming back to the same limiting circumstances over and over again have you ever felt super frustrated with yourself or your situation and then it keeps you from feeling like you have any freedom to express yourself or be yourself or do what you wanna do?...well, You are not alone. And today on the 11th day falling on a Friday which is in my book Friday dance day we're gonna do a little dancing with the shadow side and develop ways to have fun even when it's not very fun. It is the art of zen jen and the beauty of what I have learned from my children a.k.a. my gurus.

222, 333, 11:11 - numbers keep me connected

The Dressmaker was a complete game changer - And reinforced the entire purpose of my life which is to balance masculine and the feminine in an institutional imbalance and release the models that are built in cycles of cruelty in order to allow renewal...but first...we must soften, heal, and allow the revolution of our pain-centered thinking and allow our whole selves to be fully loved and expressed. watch the movie, read my book, and listen to this five minute and 24 second page turner.

How careful are you with your words? better yet how deliberate are you? I was so careful when my kids were little that I taught them some things that I share in this episode plus I talk about when my first book will be released yes I announced it right here On the unfit mom podcast. You heard it first but you haven't heard it yet so hurry up and listen.

Every big vision starts with its opposite & ours is no exception. Benjoy and I discussed a few details of DragonFLY landing's inspiration and how my unreasonable expectations helped my kids & I FLY home. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Industrial society has replaced the tribe with social services and many an unfit mom have been made by this perfection model and I wanna talk about it in five minutes and 25 seconds or less. join me.

The F word can mean a lot of things let's explore them from fight to flight (DragonFLY landing) to fun...They are all a part of the journey with a capital FLY Freedom Lifts You - flowing like yes...F bombz of FUN are the best kind!

We all want to please everyone and please ourselves... be the best we can be and keep the peace... make the goals and do it all. Where does that formula begin and end? Let's talk about it...In less than five minutes and 25 seconds. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

On Earth Day and every day most of our experiences come full circle and provide the most astounding synchronicities. Today's heart hug brought to you by a musk ox, ubuntu & my gurus.

Wednesday is a super fun day in my experience because I created a bunch of fun memories that I associate with the peak of the week! Today I took the pretty way from fun to unfun and back again. this short ride is full of great scenery...join me. always 5:25 or less.

Everyone has experienced the sting of their limitations and that's the point of life to experience them and get to the other side and do it all over and over and over again...So why not say yes. today i compare my mom guilt to surfing, playing soccer and the battle within to try and control the outcome...i want to WIN...always. come hang ten with me...and experience more of my uncany capacity to throw clichés around like it ain't no thang...in five minutes and 25 seconds...or less...e'ry day. peace & love peeps. ~zj

The path to my voice. How I perceive trauma, how I've suffered from trauma and how I am healing so I can return to my voice and share my vision with the world. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Teri & I go way back! She has always been the coach, choreographer and dancer to watch. Her attention to detail is unmatched in the sport of dance and her innovation and inability to accept the status quo has paved the way for dancers, coaches, teams and officials in Washington State and all over the world. Teri Rowe's relentless focus has not only earned her teams numerous championships all over the world but has also blazed a trail for dance to be considered athletically relevant in competitive sports arenas. She is tough AF, a creative choreography genius and has a wit as sharp as her vision. As friends and colleagues in dance for over 25 years, this podcast could be 12 hours but we managed to keep it short: 60-minutes. This convo is classic jen & teri: full of energy, innuendoes and inspiration with maybe a touch of trouble too just to keep it interesting. We discuss tragedy, trends and visions we share both within and outside of the dance realm! I'm really excited to share my friend and inspiration Teri Rowe with all of you. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

mountain climbing with teri

No ads, no intro, no music. Just five minutes and five seconds of my drive home and the epiphany that came from my own FAQ: why does compassion feel overwhelming?

This is definitely my most frequently asked question beginning ever ever ever asked of me. So much so that it became a joke with my friends and I when my children were small. Autism moms can likely relate perhaps all moms. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

It's winter solstice and I interviewed a person who is totally representative of light she recently published her labor of love about her experience with love, culture, kismet, heartbreak and seeing the silver lining. Join us in this lovely conversation that, like Winter Solstice, reminds us that there is always light beyond the darkest days.

So i recently realized that my 2018 solstice intention was to stop momming but what does that really mean? In the midst of momming where do you end and your children begin? A question every mom grapples with and this Wildcard Wednesday's Mom Awakening. But it's not only for moms because ultimately it's about the realization of what it means to truly be you~ to truly show your light and to move beyond all the shit your mom passed on to you and her mom before her etc. etc. etc. and learning to let go...of it all and shine. A perfect Solstice segue. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

On the road at 5 AM we make several stops...Confirming life is good and we all want community...and a select few of us want hoses. Why the hell not?

There's a bridge that has not yet been built, so some people live under the ones that already exist. Yes I'm talking about homelessness but from the perspective of someone who has been on the brink of being so too many times.