Podcast appearances and mentions of Michael G Thompson

Long before he became one of the nation's leading voices on the emotional lives of adolescent boys, psychologist and New York Times bestselling author Dr. Michael G. Thompson actually focused his studies on the psychological issues of young women. “I got into schools as a consultant,” Thompson says, “and all of a sudden, all of my work was little boys.” Thompson and co-author Dan Kindlon released their acclaimed book Raising Cain in April 1999, six days after the shooting at Columbine High School in Littleton, Colo. The book - which examines the emotional complexities of young boys and teenagers - suddenly thrust Thompson into the spotlight while the country tried to asses what was wrong with its boys. On this 2018 episode of Paternal, Thompson discusses the impact of Raising Cain and his thoughts on the continued proliferation of high school shootings, how to protect the emotional complexities of young boys, and why fathers struggle to connect with their sons. Learn more about Paternal and sign up for our newsletter at www.paternalpodcast.com. You can also email host Nick Firchau at nick@paternalpodcast.com with any comments or suggestions for men he should profile on the show. Make sure you subscribe to the show on Apple Podcasts or wherever you're listening, then keep an eye on your feed for new episodes.

Ideas from the book Understand Independent School Parents by Michael G. Thompson and Allison Fox Mazzola. email me at thedailyreadpodcast@gmail.com

Ideas from the book Understand Independent School Parents by Michael G. Thompson and Allison Fox Mazzola. email me at thedailyreadpodcast@gmail.com

Ideas from the book Understand Independent School Parents by Michael G. Thompson and Allison Fox Mazzola. email me at thedailyreadpodcast@gmail.com

Ideas from the book Understand Independent School Parents by Michael G. Thompson and Allison Fox Mazzola. email me at thedailyreadpodcast@gmail.com

Ideas from the book Understand Independent School Parents by Michael G. Thompson and Allison Fox Mazzola.  email me at thedailyreadpodcast@gmail.com

No matter what ages our kids are, when they need rescuing, they look to Mom. And whether we rescue them or not, we’re left second-guessing whatever it is we just did.  Did you bring that forgotten lunch to school? Nice helicoptering, loser!  Did you leave your kid to figure out his own way home from baseball when it was getting dark? Really, how can you live with yourself?  In this episode, we talk about all the situations our kids have (and will) want rescuing from, and whether or not each requires our stepping in-- and how to know.  We discuss: why “natural consequences” for your forgetful kid doesn’t mean she’ll remember her cleats next time; the structures and scaffolding you can put in place so kids can start rescuing themselves; and why “muscle confusion” isn’t just for the gym. Basically, we think that if your kids blow it once in a while, you should go ahead and bring them the right shoes. But don’t forget to give your kids the gifts of solving their own problems once in a while.  As parenting expert Dr. Robin Berman explains: "If you want to have happy kids, you have to teach them to tolerate being unhappy." Here are links to research and other writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode: Dr. Robin Berman for Goop: The Misguided Desire of Wanting Our Kids to be Happy Carolyn Dalgiesh: The Sensory Child Gets Organized: Proven Systems for Rigid, Anxious, or Distracted Kids Dr. Sarah Sarkis for Hey Sigmund: ‘I Just Want Them to Be Okay’ – Why Rescuing Our Kids Can Get in Their Way Dr. Michael G. Thompson: When Should A Forgetful Nine-Year-Old Suffer Consequences? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Description Do you remember what it was like to be a student in grade school?  Are you getting flashbacks of Field days, recess, team sports and Mrs. Scranton’s music recorder class or...are you among the many that are breaking out in cold sweat thinking about tests, group projects, bullying and peer pressure!  Well today we revisit our childhood and put ourselves in the shoes of our students with our special guest Dr. Michael Thompson as we get his input on how technology has impacted this relationship. Lessons Learned Chris - Some lessons from teaching Morality & Ethics. Nothing gets an argument started more than perceptions of unfairness or intentional harm and that is because, of the five channels of moral decision making, fairness/reciprocity and harm/care are the two channels that nearly everyone agrees are extremely important. Add to that the reality that how we perceive issues of justice varies between individuals. Some of us see justice as equality of opportunity (freedom). Others see it as equality of result (welfare). One person’s justice is another person’s injustice. On the personal level a whole bunch of negativity and friction can be avoided if we recognize that we hold differing understandings of what is fair and just. Instead of escalating tensions we can overcome the “us versus them” mentality by recognizing the basic good intentions in each other. We can do this by looking beneath the surface issues to the fairness/reciprocity and harm/care principles that underlie most conflicts, and separate the sacred from the pseudo-sacred. A great place to start learning the ins and out of conflict resolution and negotiation can be found in Robert Mnookin’s book Bargaining with the Devil: When to Negotiate, When to Fight. Robert Mnookin is the Samuel Williston Professor of Law at Harvard Law School, the Chair of the Program on Negotiation at Harvard Law School. http://www.bargainingwiththedevil.com/   Daniel - Tableau Public is awesome.  You can take your LinkedIn data and you can play around with various viz charts. Dennis - Student’s use iMovie to find main idea.  Grade 4 students had to take 1-2 minute interviews and edit them down to a 20 second sound bite.  Listening to teams discuss what is important and what is not, was education gold! Fun Fact Top 5 causes of stress Jobs and The Workplace Financial Problems Personal Relationships Children Daily Hassles / Being Too Busy So, which one is involved as families wrestle with the hopes and dreams of getting children into college? Answer: All of them! https://www.verywellmind.com/what-are-the-main-causes-of-stress-3145063   Notes & Links Michael G. Thompson, Ph.D. is a consultant, NY Times best-selling author and psychologist specializing in children and families.  He has worked in more than seven hundred schools across the United States, as well as in international schools in Central America, Europe, Africa and Asia.  Dr. Thompson is the author of several books dealing with today’s pressures of school and how to help students navigate this period of time with poise and confidence.   Resources: http://michaelthompson-phd.com/ Twitter: @MGThompsonPHD

Paternal celebrates Father’s Day by looking back at some of the show’s best interviews while focusing about one thing in particular: What we think of when we think about our dads. Although that’s a topic that has come up quite a bit on the show over the first 31 episodes, certain guests over the years have offered candid insight into their relationships with their own dads, the good stuff and the bad. Paternal host Nick Firchau offers up conversations with six previous guests and each man reflects on the role his father played in his life. Guests include radio deejay John Richards, author Neal Thompson, youth advocate Ashanti Branch, polar explorer Eric Larsen, entrepreneur and hunter Jason Hairston, and psychologist Michael G. Thompson. Have thoughts or feedback on Season 3 of Paternal? Email Paternal host Nick Firchau with any comments or questions at nick@paternalpodcast.com, and stay tuned for Season 4 of the show later this year.

Is our culture's narrow definition of masculinity harming our boys and men? What does it mean to “man up” or “be a man?” The Mask You Live In documents the pressures boys face: to disconnect from emotions, to devalue friendships, to degrade women and to resolve conflicts with violence. Michael G. Thompson, psychologist and author of the New York Times best-selling book Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys, contributed to the documentary. He tells uh-PARENT-ly cohosts Tracy Weiner and Anne Johnsos boys need to learn and practice social literacy.

Description Do you remember what it was like to be a student in grade school?  Are you getting flashbacks of Field days, recess, team sports and Mrs. Scranton’s music recorder class or…are you among the many that are breaking out in cold sweat thinking about tests, group projects, bullying and peer pressure!  Well today we […]

Enjoy your child. All of your worry does not help that much.  – Michael Thompson On this episode of the Plan Simple Meals Podcast, I’m really excited to talk with Michael Thompson, a psychologist specializing in children and families. He’s the author of Best Friends/Worst Enemies: Understanding the Social Lives of Children, Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys, and Speaking of Boys: Answers to the Most-Asked Questions about Raising Sons among others. We start out talking about the importance of family dinner and about how we talk at dinner matters. Family dinner is a safe space for kids to talk about what is happening during their day. As parents we hear about things and want to fix them, but that’s not necessarily what our kids want or need. One point that Michael made that struck me was, “The parental point of view is not the kid point of view.” Our conversation moved into the differences between boys and girls. Michael started by saying, “We’re all human beings and we all have feelings and our feelings can get hurt and we have yearnings and longings to be cared for and respected.” The difference is often how boys and girls play and display their feelings. We talk about: The need for friends, but not needing a BFF at all times An important question to ask when you intervene in a child’s friendship: “Would I have wanted my father or mother to do this to me?” When parents become bully groups isolating a particular kid The school environment not working for boys and the importance of schools and parents holding boys accountable Raising feminist sons vs. raising boys who aren’t jerks Why not to go to all your kid’s games or events Michael G. Thompson, Ph.D. is a consultant, author and psychologist specializing in children and families. He is the supervising psychologist for the Belmont Hill School and has worked in more than seven hundred schools across the United States, as well as in international schools in Central America, Europe, Africa and Asia. LINKS Best Friends/Worst Enemies: Understanding the Social Lives of Children Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys Speaking of Boys: Answers to the Most-Asked Questions about Raising Sons It’s a Boy: Your Son’s Development from Birth to Age 18 The Curse of the Good Girl by Rachel Simmons Doable Changes from this episode: JUST LISTEN. Try just listening to your kids at family dinner or in the car or wherever you tend to talk. Notice your own desire to “fix” things, but don’t. Instead of asking what went wrong or focusing in on a situation you find troubling, ask What went well today? Or a more open question. LET KIDS BE KIDS. When behavior is bothering you, stop and ask if the behavior is appropriate for your child’s age. This can be especially important for boys. Remember that your perception of a situation may not be your child’s perception. Before you intervene, ask yourself, “Would I have wanted my parent to do this?” SKIP A GAME. You don’t have to go to every game your child plays in or event your child is participating in. Pick a game to skip and schedule something you’ll enjoy for that time. Let your child know you won’t be there, but be neutral about it. Listen later when they tell you about the game.  

More than 14 million Americans attend camp each year. That's a lot of canoeing, archery and “bug juice.” It's also a major hurdle for moms and dads who tend to “helicopter.” Michael G. Thompson, Ph.D., is a consultant, author, and psychologist specializing in children and families. His book, "Homesick and Happy: How Time Away From Parents Can Help a Child Grow", focuses on the benefits of sleep-away camp. He joins uh-PARENT-ly hosts Tracy Heuvelman Weiner and Anne Johnsos with tips for letting go.

Long before he became one of the nation’s leading voices on the emotional lives of adolescent boys, psychologist and New York Times bestselling author Dr. Michael G. Thompson actually focused his studies on the psychological issues of young women. “I got into schools as a consultant,” Thompson says, “and all of a sudden, all of my work was little boys.” On this episode of Paternal, Thompson discusses his acclaimed book Raising Cain, how we should protect the emotional complexities of young boys, and why some fathers struggle to connect with their sons.