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Dr. Vitz talks about preparing for conflict with thoughtfulness and positive acknowledgement, and not playing into the conflict. (Originally aired 02-27-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about how you should approach all situations as an opportunity to give. (Originally aired 02-26-2024)
Dr. Vitz reads a passage from the preface of her new book The Composure Challenge - How to Train Your Emotional State and Lead Without Reactivity.
Dr. Vitz reads a passage from the preface of her new book The Composure Challenge - How to Train Your Emotional State and Lead Without Reactivity.
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Dr. Vitz reads a passage from the preface of her new book The Composure Challenge - How to Train Your Emotional State and Lead Without Reactivity.
Dr. Vitz reads a passage from the preface of her new book The Composure Challenge - How to Train Your Emotional State and Lead Without Reactivity.
Dr. Vitz talks about the launch of her new book The Composure Challenge - How to Train Your Emotional State and Lead Without Reactivity.
Dr. Vitz talks about how a thoughtful plan will help you avoid conflict and open a channel for success. (Originally aired 02-23-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about how to truly listen to someone, especially in the midst of a conflict. (Originally aired 02-22-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about how communicating early and frequently can help us to avoid a conflict, and how we let it get away from us in the first place. (Originally aired 02-21-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about reverting back to childhood reactions in conflict unless you train otherwise. (Originally aired 02-20-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about the most common mistake that high level leaders make in a conflict situation — failing to know themselves. (Originally aired 02-19-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about how the small everyday things, executed with intention and without fail, are what shape your legacy. (Originally aired 09-12-2025)
Dr. Vitz talks about focusing your energy and intention on what would really move the needle. (Originally aired 09-11-2025)
Dr. Vitz talks about creating an environment that empowers those around you to become leaders. (Originally aired 09-10-2025)
Dr. Vitz talks about having a vision and putting yourself and those around you in the place that fosters your success and fulfillment. (Originally aired 09-09-2025)
Dr. Vitz talks about prioritizing your execution and your composure in a position of leadership. (Originally aired 09-08-2025)
Dr. Vitz talks about demonstrating leadership. (Originally aired 09-05-2025)
Dr. Vitz talks about composure as a result of clear and direct communication.(Originally aired 09-04-2025)
Dr. Vitz talks about composure as a result of your control of your own state.(Originally aired 09-03-2025)
Dr. Vitz talks about creating a positive attitude for everyone around you. (Originally aired 09-02-2025)
Dr. Vitz talks about controlling your perception of a situation so you can assess it accurately and provide help. (Originally aired 09-01-2025)
Dr. Vitz talks about how discernment comes with experience, and how we sometimes behave before we develop it. (Originally aired 08-29-2025)
Dr. Vitz talks about what you give and what it says about how you value yourself. (Originally aired 08-28-2025)
Dr. Vitz talks about how we sometimes need a little separation from our loved ones. (Originally aired 08-27-2025)
Dr. Vitz tells us about a big mistake in a romantic relationship. (Originally aired 08-26-2025)
Dr. Vitz tells us about one of the biggest mistakes she has made and how she has addressed it since. (Originally aired 08-25-2025)
Dr. Vitz talks about the amazing power of listening. (Originally aired 01-19-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about trusting when you are most anxious so you can be most present and effective. (Originally aired 01-18-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about understanding the energy you emit so you can be a blessing to those around you. (Originally aired 01-17-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about releasing expectations to allow those around you to grow. (Originally aired 01-16-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about how you can shape outcomes with your self-determined influence on your own processes. (Originally aired 01-15-2024)
Dr. Vitz challenges us to understand the basis of emotion and to take control of the chemicals and the expectations that make them up. (Originally aired 10-18-2024)
Dr. Vitz challenges us to be more thoughtful of the needs of others and identify when we act from a place of lack. (Originally aired 10-17-2024)
Dr. Vitz challenges us to release our judgments and shame of ourselves. (Originally aired 10-16-2024)
Dr. Vitz challenges us to neutralize our judgments of others. (Originally aired 10-15-2024)
Dr. Vitz kicks off a week-long Unassailable Challenge with an assignment to identify the opportunities to train our self control. (Originally aired 10-14-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about the human tendency to fall back into our old habits. (Originally aired 10-11-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about how the novelty of a new circumstance - a new relationship or a new job or a new hobby - can momentarily soothe your suffering and derail your training. (Originally aired 10-10-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about facing and embracing the situation instead of paying attention to the temporary distractions. (Originally aired 10-09-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks why we resort to what's easy. (Originally aired 10-08-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about our bodies rejecting what we train to achieve. (Originally aired 10-07-2024)
Most couples believe that age and experience naturally lead to wisdom, but as today's guest Dr. Andrea Vitz explains, "Age does not promise maturity." If your relationship feels like a cycle of predictable problems, it's time to trade in your ineffective habits for a higher level of emotional sobriety.In this episode of the Married and Connected podcast, host Kameran Alareqi welcomes back Dr. Andrea Vitz to discuss her groundbreaking new book, The Composure Challenge. Together, they strip away the "adult" labels we hide behind and look at the raw mechanics of why we fail to connect. Andrea shares her powerful definition of maturity—the use of effective strategy—and explains why your morning coffee might be the very thing sabotaging your marriage.Key Discussion PointsMaturity as a Strategy: Learn why maturity isn't a state of being, but a practice of choosing effective strategies over ineffective ones.The Myth of "Growing Up": Why having a career and kids doesn't make you an adult, and how "unqualified" people can finally qualify themselves for a healthy relationship.Physical Command & Emotional Chaos: A deep dive into how disruptors like caffeine, sugar, and alcohol dismantle your nervous system, making it impossible to access critical thinking or kindness during a conflict.The 6-Stage Framework to Relational Mastery: Andrea outlines the journey from physical command to societal leadership, showing how emotional fluency leads to a deeper connection with your partner and a stronger spiritual life.Choosing Love Over Infatuation: Why the "honeymoon phase" is often just a lack of responsibility, and how to choose to love your partner more deeply through humility and shared purpose.The Grass is Greener Where You Water It: How to stop looking for a way out and start looking for the "suck" in yourself to empower real change.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why 69% of relationship conflicts aren't actually "unsolvable," despite what traditional research might say.The "Monster Energy" effect: How everyday addictions create agitation that we unfairly project onto our spouses.How to differentiate between being "interested" in growth and being "committed" to it.The power of Emotional Sobriety in seeing your partner as a separate individual rather than a projection of your needs.Quotes from the Show"Maturity is reached for. It is built through qualities that must be practiced until they become part of your nature.""If you aren't mature enough to remove the poison from your life that dismantles your emotional state, you are just exposing your weakness.""Relational mastery means you save time, energy, and money. It's the difference between having a relationship and having a superpower."Resources MentionedBook: The Composure Challenge by Andrea Vitz (Releasing Late May)Training: Integrated Human Mastery at Lifted AcademyConnect with Andrea: andrea@liftedacademy.comWebsite: www.liftedacademy.comConnect with Kameran If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and subscribe! Your support helps us reach more couples looking to build a life of peace, clarity, and connection.WebsiteCommunityInstagramVerafied AppSupport the show
Dr. Vitz talks about applying our filters to the words of others and assuming their worst intentions. (Originally aired 10-04-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about regaining your own trust by taking a few simple steps. (Originally aired 10-03-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about what typically happens when you seek help from others. (Originally aired 10-02-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about that things that make us feel unworthy of opportunity or recognition. (Originally aired 10-01-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about dealing with the awkward moments when you might feel a little self conscious. (Originally aired 09-30-2024)
Dr. Vitz talks about the depth you add when you express the meaning of your affections for someone. (Originally aired 09-20-2024)