FreeGameWithValerieIta

As a full time creative, I know how misleading things can get, most especially in New York. I want those who first move to the city; to find a place to lay their head. It's important to know your rights, so you can't be taken advantage of. NYC is certainly not for the weak, and keeping a home, can be just as hard as finding one depending on your circumstances. I want you to thrive, so here are some keys to unlock new heights in your journey! Even if you don't live or plan on moving to New York, this is a great guide for you to find similar resources in your area. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

They say you become what you feed your mind, body, and soul! The people and things you keep closest to you, are all a reflection of who you truly are. Your body is a temple of how you treat it. Everything in this universe is about energy. You are a conscious spirit, and you deserve to live a joyous and healthy life! Many diseases stem from souls that need to be cleansed of negativity and pain. Acts like sex, are an exchange of spirits. Be careful who you lay with! Should I say more? Tap to listen! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Many underestimate the long term effects of being bullied. There are adults who still feel like, that kid who never spoke their mind, or got to stand up for themselves to their bullies. This can affect what that person chooses to do as a career. Many times the people who were bullied, harbor these emotions, and it effects their levels of self esteem til this day. Everyone heals differently… I hope you do so in a healthy manner

Many of our families have passed down toxic behavioral patterns. Division between generations, usually stems from pride, being unforgiving, lies, and lack of accountability. People would rather live in denial, than to face the truth. Many are forced into careers, marriages, and having children. Is that truly what you desire? Everyday that you wake up, are you living life on your terms? Or to win your parents approval? Those are questions only YOU can answer. There is so much to factor in before making these big life decisions. When you don't heal and continue the same broken family patterns, you suffer everyday internally. You wear a mask to yourself, and the world around you to feel seen, while not feeling heard. Which black sheep are you? The cycle breaker or the rebellious one? Many of our parents are in marriages, where they don't even like each other, they simply tolerate one another's existence. Then they bring children into the mix, as if they don't see, hear, or feel things. Many of our family member's especially the women, have been raped/molested or sexually abused, yet many make excuses for whoever did it! If many were more forth coming about this, many, would be broken free from shackles of shame, that NEVER belonged to them. I want the younger generation to feel comfortable speaking the truth! Being seen and heard by whomever they confide in. Our lives; what shape us, and what we go through, usually stem from our bloodlines. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Traveling can be a source of therapy and adventure. It makes you appreciate what you have, while remaining optimistic for what's to come. Traveling breaks stereotypes and ignorance. I implore everyone to live and travel all over the world. Traveling opens you to parts of yourself, you never knew existed. It shows that you are a risk taker, and in life- no risk,no reward! Tap to listen for more :) --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

To all mothers out here, I want to say THANK YOU! I wanted to give you all your flowers because the world doesn't honor you enough. On this episode, I shared what it's like being a young mother, a mother dealing with an impaired child, a mother who is frustrated...in pain. A mother who has every right to question if having or becoming a mother was worth it. What it's like to sacrifice your body, life and time to a full time commitment for a lifetime. I covered what it takes on your mental and why postpartum depression is real! I expressed the importance of the financial aspect of things. I hear your cry! I see when people are inconsiderate to you in public places! I see when you're exhausted from birth and breastfeeding, yet you still give so much of yourself to your child and family, talk less of having to give up your own independence. I cover how you have to embrace the changes your body goes through, and how tiring it can be when you just want to sleep, yet you have to sacrifice more of yourself, when you can barely find or remember who YOU are at times. You are super heroes! I love you and I pray this episode opens the eyes of the world to be kinder to you. I pray your children bring you glory and never disgrace for your pain and suffering...I pray they honor you each and every day. I love you Queen. Let's win! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

It's so vital to travel and experience different places, cultures, and things. It truly opens your eyes to embrace new ways of being! You can miss out on the love of your life because you expect them to look a certain way. *NEWS FLASH* Life is full of surprises, and you may be blocking your own blessings because of preconditioned ways of thinking or where you come from. The most important thing in the person we connect with is character. Make a list of all the characteristics you want in a partner! Things that hold substance, and let the universe do the rest. Tap to listen…Let's win! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Whew! Being a woman in power is NOT for the weak! Talk less of being a black woman! The power and strength we hold as black women can bring us blessings, just as much as hate. This can affect us in the work place whether you work in corporate, day to day job or run your own empire. It comes with challenges! We battle those who try to tell us who we are, we battle egotistical and misogynistic men, we battle women who see your strength as intimidation. You are asked to play small so others can feel big! *NEWS FLASH* NONE of this is YOUR problem! I want you to know that anyone or place that makes you feel too much or too little should be NOT be in your life. Your presence should only be graced in rooms where you are respected, honored, and empowered! I see the battles you face everyday. I see when others were given a promotion that was yours. The universe has a greater calling with your name on it. Stay the course! Anyone who is trying to bring you down, is already beneath you. Stand Tall! Tap to listen. Let's win! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

I remember having a conversation with someone, and they stated someone else wasn't “normal.” I proceeded to ask them what “normal” meant or what it looked like, because there is no such thing. Everyday we all fight battles that many will never know or see. Some have to deal with skin diseases, health conditions, mental disorders or disabilities, and eating disorders to name a few. Just because someone is dressed nicely, has a fancy car, is at the top of their class- doesn't make them perfect! It doesn't mean their life is perfect either! People fight demons every day, whether to overcome trauma or addiction. We don't all wear our problems, fears or insecurities, but it doesn't mean we don't have them. Some just continue to use the pressures of life to create diamonds. I've seen people dying of cancer who are happier than those who are fully healthy. Don't take life for granted. Don't take people for granted. Don't take being kind and receiving kindness for granted. We are all fighting. I just hope you know how strong and beautiful you are. I love you and all yours flaws. They make you — YOU! There's nothing normal about that— THOSE ARE YOUR SUPERPOWERS! Tap to listen….. let's win❤️ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Welcome to Season 3, Episode 1 of FreeGameWithValerieIta! I wanted to open this season with love and admiration to all my First Generation Immigrants! No matter what country, nation, or tribe this episode is for you! Do you remember what it was like being bullied for being different? It's funny how life turns around, NOW everyone wants to claim their roots to feel more “ethnic.” We didn't have a choice of choosing when being from our lands was once deemed as “not cool.” Our parents making us feel like, if we didn't reach a level of perfectionism or excellence to society— we are essentially wasting our lives. Hence, not following the norms of becoming a doctor because you're forced to, or getting married to someone you barely know to appease family! The constant battle of living true to yourself or for your family's sake, is one that truly tears us apart on the inside. Are you happy? The things you've accomplished, who were they for? In this moment, do you harbor any regrets? Shall I continue? This episode will be a great sit down for you, and your parents. The views I share will open your eyes to seeing all perspectives, while finding the courage to live true to yourself. Need I say more? Tap to listen ❤️ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

We live in a world where most men were raised to not express their emotions; as if expressing yourself made your more “feminine.” I am here to break that taboo! We are ALL human and have feelings, it is unethical to teach someone to suppress those emotions. It isn't healthy mentally, emotionally, physically or spiritually. Whatever you hold in will later come out in rage or anger. Showing your vulnerability to a woman you love isn't a sign of weakness. Communicating your needs or feedback should be encouraged in a respectable manner. Life happens…You're loved and appreciated. Tap to listen! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Boundaries! Boundaries! Boundaries! It can feel uncomfortable. It can feel courageous. It can feel empowering. You can feel scared. Boundaries aren't meant to disrespect the next person; it's simply respecting yourself enough to let people know how far their actions keep you in a comfortable space. All relationships need boundaries to coexist in peace. Anyone who doesn't respect you, shouldn't be in your life. It isn't anyone's place to question your boundaries. Those who truly care about you will show it in their words and actions. Your boundaries may come off as rude to others, but that isn't your problem. Now, tap to listen! Let's win :) --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

There is a difference between building generational wealth and debt! There are many platforms which can influence you into thinking that if you don't make certain life choices or live a particular lifestyle; that your life is either boring, aren't driven enough or broke ! Some of us want to follow the same American dream of buying a home, car, graduating college, working in corporate, and raising our kids in the same town we grew up in. While others choose to rent our homes and cars because it gives us a more flexible lifestyle. Not all of us want kids, or marriage or a house, and not having any of these things doesn't make you any more or less of a human being than the next. Yes, we live in a society that thrives off looks, secret competition, and empty validation. This episode is to remind you that your journey is catered to you, and what works for one doesn't necessarily work for the other. What matters is the QUALITY of life you have. Tap to listen :) --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Healing is an endless journey. You just get better at handling your emotions and mindset over time. You unlearn to learn new ways. Taking time out to reflect is an essential part of your healing. Be proud of yourself on how far you've come. It's a day at a time. Tap to listen… --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In life it's best to move with good intentions than to have expectations. It breeds disappointment. Many of us expect ourselves from other people, and get the reality check that no one owes us anything. Everyone is entitled to their choices, and we have to live with that. When you let life surprise you, you'll experience the best times and people. In your lowest moments, some of the people you least expect will be there for you. Tap to listen… --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

I think the name speaks for itself! This episode is for all my ladies who have seen, attended or been invited to these “events.” I want everyone to win, and it blows my mind how the ones who toot this saying the loudest are the fakest ones. Hating another woman for her looks, poise, education, or how she's loved and respected by others, sounds like a personal problem. Imagine a world where you didn't let your inner projections make you feel like someone didn't like you? Where women actually complimented each other genuinely? A world where women actually supported each other! A world where you knew your calling was simply yours, and no one else's! A world where we have a conscience to not sabotage someone else's success because of our unhappiness and insecurities. The more you hate, the more your blessings run from you. Cleanse your soul… we need each other. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

We are human. Therapists aren't perfect, but at the same time it's important to understand that finding the right one takes time. Therapy isn't cheap, even for discounted rates at times. Free hotlines are usually available to those only about to commit suicide. Therapy is amazing and certainly efficient when applied to be effective. Tap to listen... Let's win! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

This episode is your “SnapBack” guru. I know how relationships can be at times. We all need “that talk” to be real with us, yet being more than lovingly understanding! Being selective of future partners based on our past experiences is a great sign of growth. Tap to listen… Let's win! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Have you found yourself dating a narcissist who calls you one? Let me tell you- you're NOT alone! Have you tried walking away, but find yourself getting sucked back in because of their abusive or manipulative tactics? Many men who are on the “DL” aka in the closet tend to have high narcissistic traits/personalities. You're not crazy! Trust your intuition. Tap to listen... --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

We started part 1 of this discussion in Season 1. Today, we elaborate on how the book “Will I Ever Be Good Enough” is the perfect guide for your journey. It breaks down every emotion, event, and outcome like no other. I truly believe it will continue to change many lives. Tap to listen :) --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Many of us were raised by parent(s) who either had narcissistic traits or showed all signs of the disorder. Either way, I see you. I understand you, and I feel for you. It isn't easy to comprehend at times, or handle. I pray for your healing, and that you begin to forgive- not for them, but for YOU! To those of you, who have judged others stories without knowing what's like to walk in their shoes. This episode is for you too. Tap to listen as we round up season one of #FreeGameWithValerieIta. Let's win! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

I think the title of today's segment speaks for itself. Some of us exude these traits, some have it engraved in them, and others are victim's of it. Either way, this episode is for you. Let's win! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

“Your life purpose consists of the central motivating aims of your life—the reasons you get up in the morning. Purpose can guide life decisions, influence behavior, shape goals, offer a sense of direction, and create meaning. For some people, purpose is connected to vocation—meaningful, satisfying work.” - (University of Minnesota's Earl E. Bakken Center for Spirituality & Healing) How do you find your purpose? I believe your purpose finds you. Tap to listen. Let's Win! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Many of our traumas and inner child work delve from family. Now, yes, other things can factor into that as well, but many of the cycles we realize needs to change come from our childhood. Many choose to shove it under a rug like past generations have, but who ended up carrying that baggage later? If we don't face the karma of past generations, and ours, it will be carried on to the next, until one begins to break those cycles. Will it be you? I hope so. If you're here, you have chosen to be a part of this movement which is to break generational curses! Let me tell YOU! It is a JOURNEY. Life is a marathon, not a race. Healing has many layers to it that are heavy, unpleasant, lonely, dark, and straight up draining. There are days when you'll feel better, and others when you just want to cry. Let it out! Let it all out! It is a part of the journey, and I am SO PROUD OF YOU! I love you, and I welcome you with open arms to let you know, it is okay, to feel your emotions. Face them, and never look back! It is time to tend to your garden within…. I got you! You got this. Let's win! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

“For many, success means reaching a goal, accomplishing a task, or otherwise accomplishing what they set out to do. ... Essentially, something is a success when the outcome turns out well, is desirable, or is favorable. Beyond that, the definition of success is personal.” - Mike Simpson (The Interview Guys). With that being said, tap to listen on what I feel defines “being successful!” - Let's win! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

I know how sensitive this topic can be, but I want us all to step into another's shoes to see their perspective as well. Being racially profiled is such a hurtful, and traumatic experience for anyone, but unfortunately, it's something we all have to constantly deal with when we are placed in different surroundings. Ignorance is truly bliss, and it takes being uncomfortable to grow! Just do me a favor, and take a listen. Let's Win! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

My ladies in here with style and grace! How are you queens? I see you! I'm proud of you, and I'm rooting for you! I just wanted to drop some gems on how to love yourself and attract what is meant for you. Do you know the power you hold as a woman? Do you know your purpose on this earth and how to find it? Do you still feel the need to be validated by society, friends, or family? This episode is for you! You're the ground breaker of this earth, and I need you to understand the crown you hold comes with a price, that only YOU can pay forward. Need I say more? Tap to listen sis. I got you! Let's win :) --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Like many of us, we don't look like what we've been through. I can wholeheartedly admit that I became addicted to smoking weed. Now, I'm not saying I'm against it, but I just hope in you hearing my truth. You'll take the time out to reflect on your life, and to also support those who battle with addiction. I can say from my personal experience, it's easy to get lost in the sauce if you know what I mean. If you're battling an addiction whether you admit it to yourself or not. You know when you no longer have control. If you have family or friends battling addiction, I ask that you continue to love them unconditionally, and show compassion even if you don't know what's like. It's not always easy taking back control of your life. My heart goes out to the families that have to do more in order to counteract the decisions that does who've fallen short have made. I'm here with you. I love you. I pray for your families strength, and healing because the effects lingers down to all. It's easy to say it can't be you, but I never thought it could be me too. Please tap to listen! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

I know we've all heard this term “Birds of the same feather flock together,” too often than none, but the weight of it is so true. The people you choose to associate with are not only a reflection of who you are, but also who you are becoming. Your company can derail you from your destiny. Need I say more? Tap to listen. Let's win! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Welcome to the first official episode of FreeGameWithValerieIta! Today, we discuss what this movement is about, and how it came to be born. The full video is also available on YouTube under our channel. Remember, “We all do better when we work together. Our differences do matter, but our common humanity matters more.” - Bill Clinton. Let's Win! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app