Podcasts about sociopaths

Machiavelli guides your relationships, sex work funds your freedom, but loneliness looms. Can calculating hearts learn to love? Welcome to Feedback Friday!And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!Jordan's must reads (including books from this episode): AcceleratEdFull show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1162On This Week's Feedback Friday:Shiatsu on my shoulder makes me happy.What makes the difference between a storyteller and a snoreyteller?You're a trans woman with Machiavellian traits who craves intimacy but views relationships as cost-benefit transactions. After escaping an unhappy marriage, you're working at a brothel while running a business in rural Asia. Can someone who treats people like "toys" ever find genuine connection?Remember that emotional affair with your coworker Bob while you had a boyfriend in episode 1037? Well, life just served up a delicious plot twist: you landed your dream job only to discover you're now working directly with Bob's girlfriend. She wants to be best friends. What could possibly go wrong?You're a federal power plant operator facing potential job cuts under the new administration. They're offering a resignation package with continued pay through September, but there's a job opportunity in NYC. Do you hedge your bets or roll the dice on government stability? [Thanks to federal employment lawyer Justin Schnitzer for helping us with this one!]Recommendation of the Week: WayfindersGabe attended a two-day dance workshop involving forced vulnerability exercises, portal-walking declarations, and receiving roses for sharing your "truth." He proclaimed "I am available" and felt like he failed at emotional openness. Did the workshop miss the mark, or was he too defended to benefit?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi.And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors:DeleteMe: 20% off: joindeleteme.com/jordan, code JORDANOura Ring: 10% off: ouraring.com/jordanShopify: 3 months @ $1/month (select plans): shopify.com/jordanNordVPN: Exclusive deal: nordvpn.com/jordanharbingerLand Rover Defender: landroverusa.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, The Little Shaman discusses empathy in relationships with pathologically narcissistic personalities.   Appointments, Workshops & Free Tools: https://www.littleshaman.org Books by The Little Shaman: https://www.littleshaman.org/products Support the show: https://www.paypal.me/littleshaman Articles by The Little Shaman: https://hubpages.com/sindelle Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Clinic: https://www.littleshaman.org/clinic 

In this episode, The Little Shaman discusses dynamics in relationships with pathologically narcissistic personalities.   Appointments, Workshops & Free Tools: https://www.littleshaman.org Books by The Little Shaman: https://www.littleshaman.org/products Support the show: https://www.paypal.me/littleshaman Articles by The Little Shaman: https://hubpages.com/sindelle Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Clinic: https://www.littleshaman.org/clinic 

Subscribe in a reader The emotional impact of divorce can be overwhelming, affecting every aspect of your life—from finances to friendships to your own sense of self. In this episode, I sit down with Melissa Schwartzman, a professional divorce mediator and licensed clinical social worker, to discuss the deep emotional struggles people face during divorce […] The post The Emotional Impact of Divorce | Coping Strategies & Healing with Melissa Schwartzman appeared first on Narcissist Abuse Support.

In this week's episode, Tony follows up on last week's conversation with Sara Hammel by delving deeper into one of the topics they touched on: the dangerous rogue operators. The clinical term for this type of person is maladaptive sociopath, and Tony's research into one example—the pilot Bud Holland, who crashed a B-52 during a Fairchild Air Force Base airshow in 1994—uncovered some common characteristics of these rogues that he described in the book, Darker Shades of Blue. While these traits often become obvious after an accident investigation, they are also tendencies all of us can struggle with from time to time. Join us for this examination of the 12 things we must look out for to recognize and avoid trouble with those who believe themselves to be “minor gods.”

Subscribe in a reader Are you struggling to co-parent with a narcissist? If so, you’re not alone. In this episode, I’m joined by co-parenting coach Tamar Burris, who shares how she helps parents navigate high-conflict co-parenting situations. We’ll discuss: ✅ What a co-parenting coach does ✅ How to set boundaries and communicate effectively ✅ The […] The post Co-Parenting with a Narcissist? How a Co-Parenting Coach Can Help! | Tamar Burris appeared first on Narcissist Abuse Support.

I've never highlighted a book as much as They're Not Gaslighting You: Ditch the Therapy Speak and Stop Hunting for Red Flags in Every Relationship.  It's my favorite book in 2025! Watch the Video Interview Author Dr. Isabelle Morley gives us a timely book that rejects the reckless proliferation of the following terms:  Sociopath Psychopath Love bomb Narcissist Boundaries Borderline Toxic Gaslighting Who is Dr. Isabelle Morley? Dr. Morley is not a chronic gaslighter trying to convince the world that she doesn't gaslight by writing a book about it. Here's her resume: Author of Navigating Intimacy and They're Not Gaslighting You Co-host of the podcast Romcom Rescue Contributor to Psychology Today Advisory Board Member of the Keepler app Founding Board Member of UCAN Member of the American Psychological Association Certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) The Gottman Method – Completed Levels 1 and 2 Relational Life Therapy – Completed Level 1 PsyD in Clinical Psychology from William James College, 2015 Doctoral project researching hookup culture's impact on relationship formation, 2015 Master's in Professional Psychology from William James College, 2013 Bachelor of Arts from Tufts University, 2011 My Fatima Story I dated a woman for two years. Let's call her Fatima. In the second half of our relationship, Fatima bombarded me with many of the highly charged and often misused words listed above. After she dumped me the fifth and final time, I finally pushed back on her barrage of accusations. I said to her, “So, you truly believe I'm a narcissist? Let's look up the clinical definition of a narcissist and see how I stack up.” She agreed. Perplexity wrote: To be clinically considered as having Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) according to the DSM-5, an individual must exhibit at least five out of nine specific characteristics. These characteristics, as summarized by the acronym “SPECIAL ME,” include: Sense of self-importance Exaggerating achievements and expecting to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements. Preoccupation Being preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love Entitled Having unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with their expectations. Can only be around people who are important or special Believing that they are “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions). Interpersonally exploitative Taking advantage of others to achieve their own ends. Arrogant Showing arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes. Lack empathy Being unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others. Must be admired Requiring excessive admiration. Envious Often being envious of others or believing that others are envious of them. These symptoms must be pervasive, apparent in various social situations, and consistently rigid over time. A qualified healthcare professional typically diagnoses NPD through a clinical interview. The traits should also substantially differ from social norms. I asked her how many of these nine characteristics I exhibited consistently, pervasively, and in many social situations. She agreed that I was nowhere near five of the nine. Admittedly, I sometimes exhibited some of these nine characteristics in my intimate relationship with Fatima. I'm certainly guilty of that. However, to qualify as a true narcissist, you must display at least five of these nine characteristics often and with most people, not just your partner. To her credit, my ex-girlfriend sheepishly backed down from that accusation, saying, “You're right, Francis, you're not a narcissist.” Later, I would educate her (or, as she would say, “mansplain”) about another of her favorite words: gaslighting. I mansplained by sending her a video clip of renowned couples therapist Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, who explained why standard disagreements and having different perspectives aren't gaslighting. Soon after explaining that, Mrs. Gottman explains why, in some ways, “everybody is narcissistic.” Watch 6 minutes from 1:35:30 to 1:41:30: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9kPmiV0B34&t=5730s After listening to an expert define gaslighting, Fatima apologized for incorrectly using the term. This is what I loved about Fatima: she wouldn't stubbornly cling to her position when presented with compelling evidence to the contrary. This is a rare trait I cherish. Narcissists and sociopaths are about 1% of the population, so it's highly unlikely that all your exes are narcissists and sociopaths. Still, Fatima flung other popular, misused terms at me. She loved talking about “boundaries” and “red flags.” According to Dr. Morley, my ex “weaponized therapy speak.”   Dr. Morley writes, “It's not a new phenomenon for people to use therapy terms casually, even flippantly, to describe themselves or other people. How long have we referred to someone as a ‘psycho' when they're acting irrationally or being mean?” Although weaponized therapy speak isn't new, it's ubiquitous nowadays. Dr. Morley's book sounds the alarm that it's out of control and dangerous. Three types of people would benefit from Dr. Morley's book: People like Fatima: Does someone you know tend to denigrate people using therapy speak? Are they intelligent, rational, and open-minded like Fatima? If so, they must read this book to recalibrate how they use these powerful words. People like me: Are you (or someone you know) accused of being a psychopath, a gaslighter, or a person with OCD? Actual victims: The explosion of use of these powerful words has diluted their meaning. As a result, the real victims of narcissists and sociopaths are now belittled. Their true suffering is minimized when every other person has a sociopath in their life. Their grievances are severe. Let's not equate our relationship problems with their terror. I'll list some of my favorite chapter titles, which will give you a flavor of the book's message: Chapter 4: Are They Gaslighting You, or Do They Just Disagree? Chapter 5: Do They Have OCD, or Are They Just Particular? Chapter 6: Is It a Red Flag, or Are They Just Imperfect? Chapter 7: Are They a Narcissist, or Did They Just Hurt Your Feelings? Chapter 9: Are They a Sociopath, or Do They Just Like You Less Than you Like Them? Chapter 11: Did They Violate Your Boundaries, or Did They Just Not Know How You Felt? I will quote extensively to encourage everyone to buy Dr. Mosley's book. Most quotations are self-explanatory, but sometimes I will offer personal commentary. Excerpts The trend of weaponized therapy speak marks something very different. These days, clinical words are wielded, sincerely and self-righteously, to lay unilateral blame on one person in a relationship while excusing the other from any wrongdoing. ========== Many times, we use these words as protective measures to help us avoid abusive partners and reduce our risk of “wasting” time or emotional energy on family or friends who don't deserve it. But using these terms can also absolve people from taking responsibility for their actions in their relationships. They can say, “I had to do that because of my obsessive-compulsive disorder” or “We didn't work out because she's a narcissist,” instead of doing the hard work of seeing their part in the problem and addressing the issues behind it. As a couples therapist, I'm particularly concerned with how the enthusiastic but inaccurate embrace of clinical terminology has made it harder to sustain healthy romantic attachments. With Fatima, our relationship woes were always my fault because I crossed her “boundaries” and I was a “narcissist.” If I disagreed, I was “gaslighting” her. Or I was being “defensive” instead of apologizing. And when I apologized, I did so incorrectly because I offered excuses after saying I'm sorry (she was right about that). The point is that she used weaponized therapy speak to demonize me, alleviating herself from the burden of considering that perhaps she shared some of the responsibility for our woes. ========== Their friend doesn't agree with their warped view of an event or their disproportionate reaction? The friend is an empathy-lacking narcissist who is actively gaslighting them. ========== In one memorable session of mine, a client managed to accuse their partner of narcissism, gaslighting, love bombing, blaming the victim, lacking accountability, having no empathy, and being generally abusive, manipulative, and toxic . . . all within twenty minutes. Although Fatima and I went to couples therapy, I don't remember Dr. Mosley being our facilitator, but that sure sounds like Fatima! LOL! ========== I'm certified in emotionally focused couples therapy (EFCT), which is a type of couples therapy based on attachment theory. ========== For example, if you feel like a failure for letting your partner down, you might immediately minimize your partner's feelings and tell them they shouldn't react so strongly to such a small issue. (For anyone wondering, this isn't gaslighting.) That makes them feel unheard and unimportant, so they get even more upset, which makes you dismiss their reaction as dramatic, and round and round it goes. Welcome to my world with Fatima! ========== You could claim your partner is toxic and borderline because they're emotionally volatile and unforgiving. You could say their feelings are disproportionate to the problem, and their verbal assault is bordering on abusive. But your partner could say that you are a narcissist who is gaslighting them by refusing to acknowledge their feelings, showing no empathy for the distress your tardiness caused, and shifting the blame to them (just like a narcissist would!). You'd both be wrong, of course, but you can see how these conclusions could happen. ========== Weaponized therapy speak is our attempt to understand people and situations in our lives, yes, but it is also a strategy to avoid responsibility. It puts the blame solely on the other person and allows us to ignore our part. ========== However, the vast majority of partners and friends are not sociopaths, narcissists, or abusers. They're just flawed. They're insecure, demanding, controlling, emotional, or any number of adjectives, but these traits alone aren't pathological. ========== But doing such things now and then in our relational histories, or doing them often in just one relationship, doesn't mean we have a personality disorder. These diagnoses are reserved for people who exhibit a persistent pattern of maladaptive behaviors in most or all of their close relationships. ========== I wasn't an abusive partner. I was a messy newcomer to relationships, as we usually are in our teens and twenties, trying my best to navigate my feelings while following bad examples from television and making plenty of other blunders along the way. Stonewalling was immature and an unhelpful way of coping, but it wasn't abuse. ========== If we're looking for a partner who will always do the right thing, even in the hardest moments, we're only setting ourselves up for disappointment. As I mentioned before, really good people can behave really badly. ========== If we don't know the difference between abusive behavior and normal problematic behavior, we're at risk for either accepting abuse (thinking that it's just a hard time) or, alternatively, throwing away a perfectly good relationship because we can't accept any flaws or mistakes. Alas, Fatima threw away a perfectly good relationship. I was her second boyfriend. Her lack of experience made her underappreciate what we had. She'll figure it out with the next guy. ========== Disagreeing with someone, thinking your loved one is objectively wrong, arguing about what really happened and what was actually said, trying to find your way to the one and only “truth”—these are things that most people do. They are not helpful or effective, but they also are not gaslighting. ========== “What? I didn't say yes to seeing it, Cece. I said yes to finding houses we both liked and visiting them. Sometimes you just hear what you want to and then get mad at me when you realize it's not what I actually said,” Meg answers. “Stop gaslighting me! Don't tell me what happened. I remember exactly what you said! You told me yes to this open house and then changed your mind, and I'm upset about it. I'm allowed to be upset about it; don't invalidate my feelings!” Cece says, her frustration growing. Meg feels surprised and nervous. She didn't think she was gaslighting Cece, which is exactly what she says. “I didn't mean to gaslight you. I just remember this differently. I don't remember saying I would go to this open house, so that's why I don't understand why you're this upset.” “Yes, you are gaslighting me because you're trying to convince me that what I clearly remember happening didn't happen. But you can't gaslight me because I'm positive I'm right.” ========== Cece's accusation of gaslighting quickly shut down the conversation, labeling Meg as a terrible partner and allowing Cece to exit the conversation as the victor. ========== I find gaslighting to be one of the harder labels to deal with in my clinical work for three reasons: 1. Accusations of gaslighting are incredibly common. I hear accusations of gaslighting at least once a week, and yet it's only been accurate about five times in my entire clinical career. Boyfriend didn't agree with what time you were meeting for dinner? Gaslighting. Spouse said you didn't tell them to pick up milk on the way home, but you swear you did? Gaslighting. ========== You could say, “I want you to know that I really understand your perspective on this. I see things differently, but your experience is valid, and it makes sense. I'm not trying to convince you that you're wrong and I'm right, and I'm sorry if I came across that way.” WHAT IS VALIDATION? Validation is another word that suffers from frequent misuse. People demand validation, but what they're really asking for is agreement. And if someone doesn't agree, they call it toxic. Here's the thing, though: Validation is not the same as agreement. ========== You can disagree in your head but still validate how they feel: “Hey, you're not crazy. I see why you'd feel that way. It makes sense to me. I'd probably feel that way too if I were in your shoes, experiencing our interaction the way you did. I care about your feelings.” ========== “I bet it felt really awful to have me challenge your experience and make you feel like it wasn't right or valid.” I regret I learned this lesson too late with Fatima. I was too slow to validate her feelings. We learn something in every relationship. Ideally, our partner is patient with us as we stumble through the learning process, often repeating the same error until we form a new habit. However, Fatima ran out of patience with me. I couldn't change fast enough for her, even though I was eager to learn and dying to please her. By the time I began to learn about proper validation and apologies, she had given up on me. ========== My husband, Lucas, hates it when lids aren't properly put on jars. You know, when a lid is half on and still loose or haphazardly tightened and askew? I, on the other hand, could not care less. I am the only perpetrator of putting lids on wrong in our house. I barely screw on the top to the pickles, peanut butter, medications, water bottles, or food storage containers. I don't even realize that I do it because I care so little about it. This drives Lucas absolutely crazy. I love this example because it's what I would repeatedly tell Fatima: some habits are hard to break. Dr. Mosley knows her husband hates half-closed jars, but she struggles to comply with his wishes. We're imperfect creatures. ========== Is your partner always leaving a wet towel on the floor after showering? Red flag—they're irresponsible and will expect you to clean up after them. Is your friend bad at texting to let you know when they're behind schedule? Red flag—they're selfish, inconsiderate, and don't value your time. It's all too easy to weaponize this term in a relationship, in hopes that it will shame the other person into changing. ========== People aren't perfect. Individually, we're messy, and in relationships, we're much messier. We all make mistakes, sometimes repeatedly for our entire lives. Instead of labeling all unwanted behaviors as red flags and expecting change or running away altogether, try a new approach: Identify why those behaviors hurt you and share that with your loved one instead. ========== When confronted with the knowledge that we've hurt someone, many of us become defensive. We hate the idea of hurting the person we love and since we usually didn't intend to hurt them, we start explaining why our actions weren't that bad and why they shouldn't feel upset. It comes from a place of inadequacy, self-criticism, and remorse. If the other person responds like this but you can tell they care about your pain, this may be a good time to give them some grace in the form of empathy and time. Wait a few hours or even a few days, then try the conversation again. For every criticism I had about Fatima's behavior, she had 20 criticisms about my behavior. As a result, I had many more opportunities to fall into the trap of becoming defensive. It's so hard to resist. I'm still working on that front. ========== We all have a touch of narcissism, which can get bigger at certain points in life, ========== Conflicts are upsetting, and we've all developed ways of protecting ourselves, whether it's getting loud to be heard or emotionally withdrawing to prevent a panic attack. Underneath these less-than-ideal responses, though, we feel awful. We feel scared, insecure, inadequate, unimportant, and alone. We hate fighting with our loved ones, and we really hate that we've hurt them, especially unknowingly. We're not being defensive because we have a narcissistic belief in our own superiority; we're doing it because we're terrified that the person won't understand us and will see us negatively, so we need to show them our side and explain to them why we aren't to blame. ========== But whether it's an inflated ego, vanity, self-absorption, or just unusually healthy confidence, these traits do not make a narcissist. To have NPD, the person must also require external validation and admiration, and to be seen as superior to others. This is the difference between a big ego and grandiosity. Grandiosity goes several steps beyond confidence—it's a near-delusional sense of importance, where someone exaggerates their achievements and expects others to see them as superior. ========== Some people suck. They're immature, mean, selfish, and unremorseful. Some people don't respect other people in their lives. They lie and they cheat, and they don't care that it hurts others. But they can be all these things and still not be a narcissist. There's a lot of room for people to be awful without meeting the criteria for a personality disorder, and that's because (you guessed it!) people are flawed. Some people feel justified in behaving badly, while others just don't know any better yet. Our growth is messy and not linear. ========== The reality is that anyone who genuinely worries that they are a narcissist, probably isn't. That level of openness and willingness to self-reflect is not typical of a narcissist. Plus, narcissists don't tend to believe or care that they've hurt others, whereas my clients are deeply distressed by the possibility that they've unknowingly caused others pain. ========== As with gaslighting, I have rarely seen people accurately diagnose narcissism. To put it bluntly, I have never seen a client in a couples therapy session call their partner a narcissist and be right. In fact, the person misusing the label usually tends to be more narcissistic and have more therapy work to do than their partner. ========== person involved with a narcissist to accurately identify the disorder because people with NPD are great at making other people think they are the problem. It's an insidious process, and rarely do people realize what's happening until others point it out to them or the narcissist harshly devalues or leaves them. Now, you might be in a relationship with someone who has NPD, but instead of jumping to “narcissist!” it's helpful to use other adjectives and be more specific about your concerns. Saying that a certain behavior was selfish or that a person seems unremorseful is more exact than calling them a narcissist. ========== Love bombing can happen at any point in a relationship, but it's most often seen at the start. ========== Love bombing is also a typical follow-up to fights. ========== Humans are a complicated species. Despite our amazing cognitive capacities and our innate desire to be good (well, most of us anyway), we often cause harm. People act in ways that can damage their relationships, both intentionally and unknowingly, but that doesn't make them sociopaths. In fact, anyone in a close and meaningful relationship will end up hurting the other person and will also end up getting hurt at some point because close relationships inevitably involve a degree of pain, be it disappointment, sadness, anger, or frustration. Even when we're doing our best, we hurt each other. We can't equate normal missteps and hurt with sociopathy. ========== People love to call their exes sociopaths, just like they love calling them narcissists. Dr. Mosley focuses on the term sociopath because it's more popular nowadays than the term psychopath, but they both suffer from misuse and overuse, she says. If your partner (or you) use the term psychopath often, then in the following excerpts, replace the word “sociopath” with “psychopath.” ========== calling someone a sociopath is extreme. You're calling them out as a human who has an underdeveloped (or nonexistent) capacity to be a law-abiding, respectful, moral member of society. And in doing so, you're saying they were the entire problem in your relationship. Unless you were with a person who displayed a variety of extreme behaviors that qualify as ASPD, that conclusion isn't fair, accurate, or serving you. Again, you're missing out on the opportunity to reflect on your part in the problem, examine how you could have been more effective in the relationship, and identify how you can change for the better in your next relationship. If you label your ex a sociopath and call it a day, you're cutting yourself short. ========== Let the record show that I have never seen someone use the term sociopath correctly in their relationship. ========== some boundaries are universal and uncrossable, but the majority are personal preferences that need to be expressed and, at times, negotiated. Claiming a boundary violation is a quick and easy way to control someone's behavior, and that's why it's important to clarify what this phrase means and how to healthily navigate boundaries in a relationship. Fatima loved to remind me of and enforce her “boundaries.” It was a long list, so I inevitably crossed them, which led to drama. ========== There are some boundaries we all agree are important and should be uncrossable—I call these universal boundaries. Violating universal boundaries, especially when done repeatedly without remorse or regard for the impact it has on the other person, amounts to abuse. ========== The main [universal boundaries] are emotional, physical, sexual, and financial boundaries ========== Outside of these universal, uncrossable boundaries, there are also individual boundaries. Rather than applying to all people, these boundaries are specific to the person and defined by their own preferences and needs. As such, they are flexible, fluid over time, and full of nuance. If they are crossed, it can be uncomfortable, but it isn't necessarily abuse. ========== boundary is a line drawn to ensure safety and autonomy, whereas a preference is something that would make you feel happy but is not integral to your sense of relational security or independence. ========== While a well-adjusted person might start a dialogue about how to negotiate an individual boundary in a way that honors both partners' needs, an abusive person will never consider if their boundary can be shifted or why it might be damaging or significantly limiting to the other person. Instead, they will accuse, blame, and manipulate their partner as their way of keeping that person within their controlling limits. ========== The point is that as we go through life, our boundaries shift. As you can see, this is part of what makes it difficult for people to anticipate or assess boundary violations. If you expect and demand that the people close to you honor your specific boundaries on certain topics, but you're not telling them what the boundaries are or when and how they've changed, you're setting your loved ones up for failure. ========== And again, people unknowingly cross each other's individual boundaries all the time. It's simply inevitable. ========== It will create an unnecessary and unproductive rift. 3. We Mistake Preferences for Boundaries Boundaries protect our needs for safety and security. Preferences promote feelings of happiness, pleasure, or calm. When someone crosses a boundary, it compromises our physical or mental health. When someone disregards a preference, we may feel annoyed, but it doesn't pose a risk to our well-being. ========== You've Been Accused of Violating a Boundary If you're in a close relationship, chances are you're going to violate the other person's boundaries at some point. This is especially likely if the person has not told you what boundaries are important to them. However, you might also be unjustly accused of violating a boundary, perhaps a boundary you didn't know about or a preference masquerading as a boundary, and you'll need to know what to do. ========== I never thought of telling Fatima that she was “borderline.” It helps that I didn't know what the term meant. Dr. Mosley says that a person must have several of the “borderline” characteristics to have borderline personality disorder (BPD). Fatima only had one of them, so she did not have BPD. Here's the only BPD trait she exhibited: Stormy, intense, and chaotic relationships: Have relationships that tend to be characterized by extremes of idealization and devaluation in which the person with BPD idolizes someone one moment and then vilifies them the next. Because they struggle to see others in a consistent and nuanced way, their relationships go through tumultuous ups and downs, where they desire intense closeness one minute and then reject the person the next. Fatima promised me, “I will love you forever,” “I want to marry you,” “I will be with you until death,” “I'll never leave you,” and other similar extreme promises. Three days later, she would dump me and tell me she never wanted to get back together. Two days later, she apologized and wanted to reunite. Soon, she would be making her over-the-top romantic declarations again. She'd write them and say them repeatedly, not just while making love. Eventually, I'd fuck up again. Instead of collaborating to prevent further fuck ups, Fatima would simply break up with me with little to no discussion. This would naturally make me question her sincerity when she repeatedly made her I-will-be-with-you-forever promises. You might wonder why I was so fucking stupid to reunite with her after she did that a couple of times. Why did I always beg her to reconsider and reunite with me even after we repeated the pattern four times? (The fifth time she dumped me was the last time.) Humans are messy. I expect imperfection. I know my loved one will repeatedly do stupid shit because I sure will. So, I forgave her knee-jerk breakup reaction because I knew she didn't do it out of malice. She did it to protect herself. She was in pain. She thought that pulling the plug would halt the pain. That's reasonable but wrong. That doesn't matter. She's learning, I figured. I need to be patient. I was hopeful we'd break the pattern and learn how to deal with conflict maturely. We didn't. I'm confident she'll figure it out soon, just like I learned from my mistakes with her. ========== If I had to pick one word to describe people with BPD, it would be unstable. Fatima was unstable in a narrow situation: only with one person (me) and only when the shit hit the fan with me. Aside from that, she was highly stable. Hence, it would have been ludicrous if I accused her of having Borderline Personality Disorder. Luckily, I never knew the overused borderline term; even if I did, I wouldn't be tempted to use it on her. ========== Just as with red flags, we all exhibit some toxic behaviors at times. I don't know anyone who has lived a toxic-free existence. Sometimes we go through tough phases where our communication and coping skills are down, and we'll act more toxically than we might normally; this doesn't make us a toxic person. Indeed, many romantic relationships go through toxic episodes, if you will (should we make “toxic episode” a thing?), where people aren't communicating well, are escalating conflicts, and are generally behaving badly. We need to normalize a certain level of temporary or situational toxicity while also specifying what we mean by saying “toxic.” This is the only way we can determine whether the relationship needs help or needs ending. ========== trauma is itself a heavy, often misunderstood word. Its original meaning referenced what we now call “big T” trauma: life-threatening events such as going to war or surviving a car crash. Nowadays, we also talk about “little t” trauma: events that cause significant distress but aren't truly life-threatening, like being bullied in school or having an emotionally inconsistent parent. ========== Avoiding relationships with anyone who triggers hard feelings will mean a very lonely existence. ========== a trauma bond is the connection that survivors feel with their abuser. ========== A captured soldier who defends his captors? That person is, in fact, trauma bonded. ========== soldiers aren't trauma bonded after going to war together; they're socially bonded, albeit in an unusually deep way. A captured soldier who defends his captors? That person is, in fact, trauma bonded. ========== None of us get to have a happy relationship without hard times and hard work. It's normal and okay to sometimes struggle with the person you're close to or love. When the struggle happens, don't despair. Within the struggle are opportunities to invest in the relationship and grow, individually and together. ========== If you determine your relationship is in a tough spot but not abusive, now's the time for some hard relational work. A good cocktail for working on your relationship is specificity, vulnerability, and commitment. ========== Making a relationship work requires you and your loved ones to self-reflect, take responsibility, and change. This process won't just happen once; it's a constant cycle you'll go through repeatedly over the course of the relationship. You'll both need to look at yourselves, own what you've done wrong or could do better, and work to improve. Nobody is ever finished learning and growing, not individually and certainly not in a relationship. But that's what can be so great about being in a relationship: It's a never-ending opportunity to become a better person. And when you mess up (because trust me, you will), be kind to yourself. As I keep saying, humans are wonderfully imperfect. Even when we know what to do, sometimes we just don't or can't do it. ========== In this world of messy humans, how do you know who will be a good person for you to be with? My answer: Choose someone who wants to keep doing the work with you. There is no perfect person or partner for you, no magical human that won't ever hurt, irritate, enrage, or overwhelm you. Being in close relationships inevitably leads to big, scary feelings at times, so pick someone who wants to get through the dark times with you. Remember that when people are behaving badly in a desperate attempt to connect—not control—they'll be able to look at themselves, recognize the bad behavior, and change. Pick someone who has the willingness to self-reflect and grow, even if it's hard. Someone who will hang in there, even during your worst fights, and ultimately say, “Listen, this is awful, and I don't want to keep arguing like this, but I love you and I want to figure this out with you.” Wow. So well said. And this, in a paragraph, explains where Fatima and I failed. I dislike pointing fingers at my ex when explaining why we broke up. I made 90% of the mistakes in my relationship with Fatima, so I bear most of the responsibility. However, Fatima was the weaker one on one metric: having someone who wants to collaborate to make a beautiful relationship despite the hardships. The evident proof is that she dumped me five times, whereas I never dumped her or even threatened to dump her. I always wanted to use our problems as a chance to learn and improve. Fatima used them as an excuse to quit. She tried. She really did. However, she lacked the commitment Dr. Mosley discussed in that paragraph. Perhaps another man will inspire Fatima to find the strength and courage to bounce back and not throw in the towel. Or maybe she will mature and evolve to a point where she can be with someone less compatible than I was for her. She would often declare, “Francis, we're incompatible.” I'd say, “No, we are compatible; we have incompatibilities. Everyone has incompatibilities. We just need to work through them. If there is a willingness to collaborate, we can solve any incompatibility. The only couples who are truly incompatible are the ones where one or both individuals refuse to budge or learn. We can overcome countless incompatibilities as long as we both want to be together.” ========== We have wounds and scars and bad habits. We rely on ineffective but protective coping mechanisms. We push others away when we're hurt or scared. ========== Everyone behaves badly sometimes. But even then, odds are they're not gaslighting you. Conclusion I'll repeat: They're Not Gaslighting You: Ditch the Therapy Speak and Stop Hunting for Red Flags in Every Relationship is my favorite book in 2025! Buy it! Feedback Leave anonymous audio feedback at SpeakPipe More info You can post comments, ask questions, and sign up for my newsletter at http://wanderlearn.com. If you like this podcast, subscribe and share!  On social media, my username is always FTapon. Connect with me on: Facebook Twitter YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn Pinterest Tumblr My Patrons sponsored this show! Claim your monthly reward by becoming a patron at http://Patreon.com/FTapon Rewards start at just $2/month! Affiliate links Get 25% off when you sign up to Trusted Housesitters, a site that helps you find sitters or homes to sit in. Start your podcast with my company, Podbean, and get one month free! In the USA, I recommend trading crypto with Kraken.  Outside the USA, trade crypto with Binance and get 5% off your trading fees! For backpacking gear, buy from Gossamer Gear.

Jacqueline Helfgott is the Director of the Crime and Justice Research Center at Seattle University and the author of “Copycat Crime: How Media, Technology, and Digital Culture Inspire Criminal Behavior and Violence.” In this episode, Dr. Helfgott speaks with John Collins about the subject of psychopathy and how prevalent it is across the human population. They also discuss how psychopaths come into being, and whether or not the disorder can be treated. Season:  5 Episode:  91 Duration:  56:00 YOUTUBE CHANNELS Main Podcast Channel Highlights Channel FROM OUR SPONSOR Learn About the Innovators at Promega International Symposium on Human Identification REFERENCED RESOURCES Jacqueline Helfgott at University of Seattle Jackqueline Helfgott Author's Page ABOUT YOUR HOSTJohn Morrey Collins is a leadership and expertise coach specializing in working with clients in authoritative, high-stakes occupations, but with a primary emphasis on serving leaders, professionals, and organizations that support our complicated systems of criminal and civil justice. John started his private practice, Critical Victories, in 2013 after retiring his award-winning, 20-year career as a forensic laboratory scientist and executive administrator, having served as the Director of Forensic Science for the State of Michigan. His forensic technical expertise was in the examination and testing of firearms and firearm-related evidence, having provided expert courtroom testimony in approximately 130 criminal trials, including death penalty cases and Daubert hearings. John is also the author of three books on forensic science and criminal justice reform. In 2022, he released his fourth book, “The New Superior – A Better Way to Be the One in Charge,” which is available in print and audio. John's many career highlights include his part in the forensic investigation of the Atlanta serial bombings, which included the bombing of the 1996 Olympics in Atlanta, as well as his 2013 participation in a historic meeting with the US Attorney General and other firearm experts to discuss the Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting. John has a master's degree in organizational management and is formally certified as a Senior HR Professional by the Society for Human Resource Management (SHRM). In 2012, John was trained as a professional coach by the College of Executive Coaching, and he became certified as a Gallup Strengths Coach in 2022. He lives and works near Detroit, Michigan. For more books and other information, please visit www.criticalvictories.com.

Join Chris Thrall as he sits down with trauma expert Evette Rose to explore powerful strategies for trauma recovery and emotional healing. In this insightful conversation, Evette shares proven trauma healing techniques to help you overcome trauma fast and reclaim your mental health. Discover how to break free from the weight of past trauma, build emotional resilience, and unlock personal growth through expert insights and practical self-help advice. Whether you're seeking psychological healing or looking to understand trauma therapy, this video offers life-changing trauma insights to guide you toward a brighter future. Don't miss this transformative discussion! Subscribe for more content on healing trauma and emotional resilience. Socials: instagram.com/chris.thrall youtube.com/christhrall facebook.com/christhrall christhrall.com Support the podcast at: patreon.com/christhrall (£2 per month plus perks) gofundme.com/christhrall paypal.me/teamthrall Our uncensored content: christhrall.locals.com Mailing list: christhrall.com/mailing-list/ Life Coaching: christhrall.com/coach/

When Tiffany first moved to Rome, she made a grave mistake. She paid several months' rent in advance to a seemingly kind man who rented out rooms in his Trastevere apartment to brand new expats. He was not who he claimed to be. This is an excerpt of a bonus episode that aired this month exclusively to our generous supporters. Want to hear more? Become part of the Bittersweet Life community by supporting just on Patreon! For as little as $5 per month—less than the price of a coffee in some places—you will have access to multiple bonus episodes every single month.  You'll hear conversations that would never take place on the main show, you'll be part of our new chat community, you'll have access to Patreon-only content in addition to bonus episodes, and you'll be invited to join us for regular live meet-ups.  But most importantly, you'll be doing your part to help keep this show alive—an independent podcast with no corporate support. (You'll also help keep it virtually ad-free!) Check our our Patreon page for all the details, and consider joining us at the $5 level or above. We are eternally grateful!  Listen to the full story from Tiffany on the What Was That Like podcast. ***Katy's sister Dana has recently been diagnosed with stage 4 agressive brain cancer. To help with the staggering medical costs—her specialist is outside her insurance network—as well of the costs of temporarily relocating to San Francsico for her treatments, please consider donating to her GoFundMe. Anything you can contribute will be extremely helpful. Thank you.*** ------------------------------------- COME TO ROME WITH US: For the third year in a row, we are hosting an intimate group of listeners for a magical and unforgettable week in Rome, this October 2025! Discover the city with us as your guides, seeing a side to Rome tourists almost never see. Find out more here. ADVERTISE WITH US: Reach expats, future expats, and travelers all over the world. Send us an email to get the conversation started. BECOME A PATRON: Pledge your monthly support of The Bittersweet Life and receive awesome prizes in return for your generosity! Visit our Patreon site to find out more. TIP YOUR PODCASTER: Say thanks with a one-time donation to the podcast hosts you know and love. Click here to send financial support via PayPal. (You can also find a Donate button on the desktop version of our website.) The show needs your support to continue. START PODCASTING: If you are planning to start your own podcast, consider Libsyn for your hosting service! Use this affliliate link to get two months free, or use our promo code SWEET when you sign up. SUBSCRIBE: Subscribe to the podcast to make sure you never miss an episode. Click here to find us on a variety of podcast apps. WRITE A REVIEW: Leave us a rating and a written review on iTunes so more listeners can find us. JOIN THE CONVERSATION: If you have a question or a topic you want us to address, send us an email here. You can also connect to us through Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. Tag #thebittersweetlife with your expat story for a chance to be featured! NEW TO THE SHOW? Don't be afraid to start with Episode 1: OUTSET BOOK: Want to read Tiffany's book, Midnight in the Piazza? Learn more here or order on Amazon. TOUR ROME: If you're traveling to Rome, don't miss the chance to tour the city with Tiffany as your guide!

We just invested in a company run by a sociopath—a trait we've noticed several successful leaders have in common. Today on Dumb Money, we discuss this investment and how to leverage this trend.

I explore one of the most disorienting realities of surviving an emotionally abusive relationship: the way each incident is treated like it exists in isolation—when in reality, it all added up.I share my personal experience of slowly realizing that what felt like “stress” was actually a sustained pattern of emotional harm. I walk through the subtle signs—like anxiety, insomnia, self-doubt, and emotional shutdown—that build up over time and keep survivors stuck in cycles of self-blame and confusion.This episode offers validation for the exhaustion you feel, clarity on how abusers avoid accountability by isolating incidents, and a powerful reminder: if you're starting to see the pattern, you already have everything you need to begin walking away from it.Support the showWebsite: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Boyd Rice was a pioneer, not only of industrial music, but also of artsy Nazi douchebaggery. He was also the genius who first had the bright idea that Siege should be a book.

Send us a textWell, what can we say the Werecat is going to war with Foxglove, our slightly crazy... No, really crazy... No, completely crazy, psychopathic Fairy. The Professor, Wil and co have been played by the Fairy. She has distracted them so that they don't realise what it is that she really wants. She wants the Holy Grail, and as our 12th Century Knight, now Professor, has already drunk from the Grail, then she has guessed that it is at the Professor's home. She searches while the Werecat tries to stop them.  If Foxglove drinks from the Grail, she will become a God. A real God. Can the team stop her from becoming such a powerful creature? We will see.The Devil will lend a hand. She usually has to sort this sh*t out for everyone.https://grendelpress.com/sinister-soup. Grendel's very own cool Podcast.Buy us a coffee at this link right here:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/WerewolfwilBuy a book about werewolves. Here it is, straight from a fang-filled mouth.Il LupoGreg's first Werewolf book. Brilliantly written characters in an incredible story. https://books2read.com/ILLUPOA Werewolf's Storyhttps://amzn.to/3BjXoZuWerewolf the Colouring Book.What should I do this evening? Why not sit and do some Wonderful Werewolf colouring?  Red may be a theme.https://amzn.to/40k93l6Facebook Grouphttps://www.facebook.com/groups/werewolfthepodcast/Greg's X profile:@SempaiGregWerewolf the Podcast:@AWerewolfsStoryWilIntro partnership with Grendel Press.https://grendelpress.com/ Outro partnership with Grendel Press.https://grendelpress.com/Support the show

“If people were paid according to how hard they work, the richest people on earth would be the ones digging ditches with a shovel in the hot summertime.”That's what my mother told me when I was a boy. When she saw the puzzled look on my face, she continued.“People who make a lot of money are paid according to the weight of the responsibility they carry and the quality of the decisions they make.”Second only to grief, the weight of responsibility is the heaviest burden that a person can carry. Compared to those, a shovel full of dirt feels as light as feathers on a windy day.When forced to choose between two evils, it brings a good person no joy to choose the lesser evil. Fewer people will be hurt, but the pain those people feel will be real.A person who is not wounded by the pain they cause others is a sociopath.Authority is power, and power is attractive. Tear away the tinsel. Scrape away the glitter and you will see that authority is just a fancy costume. You wear it when you are about to cause someone pain.Every good person in authority has scars on their heart, memories of the pain they know they have caused others.Sociopaths don't care about the pain of others. They crave authority because they are weak, and the fancy costume lets them pretend they are strong.Things get ugly when a sociopath has power.“In the alchemy of man's soul almost all noble attributes – courage, honor, love, hope, faith, duty, loyalty, etc. – can be transmuted into ruthlessness. Compassion alone stands apart from the continuous traffic between good and evil proceeding within us. Compassion is the antitoxin of the soul: where there is compassion even the most poisonous impulses remain relatively harmless.”– Eric Hoffer, “Reflections on the Human Condition” (1973)A person in authority who lacks compassion is a very small person wearing a badge.As a young man, I admired cleverness. But I have lived enough years and cried enough tears that now I see the world differently. Today, I admire goodness. This shift in perspective helped me understand what Viktor Frankl wrote in his book, “Man's Search for Meaning.”“Freedom is only part of the story and half of the truth… In fact, freedom is in danger of degenerating into mere arbitrariness unless it is lived in terms of responsibleness. That is why I recommend that the Statue of Liberty on the East Coast be supplemented by a Statue of Responsibility on the West Coast.”Viktor Frankl was a medical doctor, a psychologist, and a survivor of the holocaust. He was imprisoned in four different concentration camps: Theresienstadt, Auschwitz where his mother was murdered, Dachau,and then Türkheim.Viktor Frankl believed in freedom, but he refused to see it as a license to do whatever you want. To him, freedom without responsibility was an idiotic idea.Isabella Bird was a well-educated woman who left Victorian England to explore the world in 1854.When she arrived in the United States in 1873, she bought a horse and rode alone more than 800 miles to Colorado. In her book, “A Lady's Life in the Rocky Mountains,” (1879), Isabella wrote,“In America the almighty dollar is the true divinity, and its worship is universal. ‘Smartness' is the quality thought most of. The boy who ‘gets on' by cheating at his lessons is praised for being a ‘smart boy,' and his satisfied parents foretell that he will make a ‘great man.'”“A man who overreaches his neighbor, but who does it so cleverly that the law cannot take hold of him, wins an envied reputation as a ‘smart man,' and stories of this species of ‘smartness' are told admiringly...

Helping people admit what they feel in order to heal from the effects of narcissism from a Biblical and Psychological perspective. Website: www.NarcAbuseNoMore.org Email: NarcAbuseNoMore@mail.com Donate via PayPal: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=F37STVQCNJ9D8 CASH APP - $evangelistklrch1975 IT Iz FINISHED End Times' Ministries Website: www.ITIzFINISHED.com IT Iz FINISHED Email: ITIzFINISHED@mail.com Watch on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@NarcAbuseNoMore Watch on Rumble… https://rumble.com/c/c-1334751 Watch on Brighteon…  www.brighteon.com/channels/narcissisticabusenomore Telegram: https://t.me/itizfinishedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-no-more--2855898/support.

Send us a textWhat makes a psychological thriller truly captivating? In this episode, we crack open the vault to examine "The In Crowd," a largely forgotten gem from 2000 that perfectly captures the post-Cruel Intentions era of teen psychological thrillers.From the moment Adrian steps out of a psychiatric institution and into the pristine world of an exclusive country club, we're drawn into a world of wealth, privilege, and deeply disturbing secrets. The film's queen bee, Brittany, takes a suspicious interest in Adrian that goes far beyond simple friendship. As we discover, Adrian bears an uncanny resemblance to Brittany's mysteriously absent sister – a coincidence that proves increasingly sinister as the story unfolds.We unpack the film's most memorable moments – from Adrian casually handling a venomous snake to the hilariously over-dramatic scooter accident that sends Kelly flying. While "The In Crowd" never reaches the erotic thriller heights of its contemporaries, it delivers surprising moments of genuine entertainment amid its predictable plot. The golf club murder scene, Simple Wayne's disturbingly decorated mannequin, and Brittany's masterful manipulation tactics provide fascinating glimpses into a thriller that could have been truly great with a few different creative choices.What fascinated us most was the film's missed opportunity to create genuine suspense by never making the audience question which character is truly unstable. Despite presenting Adrian as potentially unreliable due to her psychiatric history, the film immediately establishes Brittany as the true villain, removing any possible ambiguity that might have elevated the story.Whether you're revisiting this forgotten thriller or discovering it for the first time, join us for a deep dive into a movie that, despite its flaws, stands as a perfect time capsule of early 2000s psychological thrillers – complete with all the questionable fashion choices, flat lighting, and country club melodrama you could possibly want.Written lovingly by AIBe our friend!Dan: @shakybaconTony: @tonydczechAnd follow the podcast on IG: @hatewatchingDAT

Helping people admit what they feel in order to heal from the effects of narcissism from a Biblical and Psychological perspective. Website: www.NarcAbuseNoMore.org Email: NarcAbuseNoMore@mail.com Donate via PayPal: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=F37STVQCNJ9D8 CASH APP - $evangelistklrch1975 IT Iz FINISHED End Times' Ministries Website: www.ITIzFINISHED.com IT Iz FINISHED Email: ITIzFINISHED@mail.com Watch on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@NarcAbuseNoMore Watch on Rumble… https://rumble.com/c/c-1334751 Watch on Brighteon…  www.brighteon.com/channels/narcissisticabusenomore Telegram: https://t.me/itizfinishedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-no-more--2855898/support.

I share the story of a client—“Amanda”—who experienced a devastating betrayal that shattered not only her relationship but her trust in herself. What began as a hopeful, grounded connection turned into a traumatic discovery of infidelity and deception. Jessica walks through the emotional aftermath: the gaslighting, the physical symptoms of grief, the shame survivors often carry, and the slow, painful realization that you're not just grieving a person—you're grieving the version of yourself who believed you were safe.This episode is for anyone who has asked: How did I not see it? Why do I still miss them? What happened to the future I thought I was building?Topics covered:How betrayal impacts your nervous systemThe grief of losing not just a partner, but your realityWhat trauma bonding really feels likeThe shame cycle survivors fall intoHow to begin rebuilding your trust in yourselfSupport the showWebsite: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Send us a textThe fairy Foxglove is desperate to find something at the Professor's Manor. We already know that the Professor is drunk from the holy grail, so it makes sense that it is at his home. Does'nt it? She is a little angry at... well, everything, to be honest. The Professor releases Vaughnt to do 'The Business,' as he says. She is super fast and is super gone, and she is probably super killing not-so-super fairies. He is not quite fast, so he tells us the Werecat's story as he trundles up his gravel drive to his home. I know. Character exploration. How dare we. https://grendelpress.com/sinister-soupAt Grendel Press, we believe that great stories should never be forgotten. Sinister Soup celebrates dark fiction, offering a second life to reprints and oft-rejected yet polished tales that deserve to be heard.Every month, we feature a chilling, thought-provoking, or spine-tingling story, presented in both written and audio format, followed by an in-depth interview with the author. Our unique structure ensures each tale gets the spotlight it deserves—first as a gripping read, then as a hauntingly immersive podcast experience.Please give us some support.Buy us a coffee at this link right here:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/WerewolfwilBuy a book about werewolves. Here it is, straight from a fang-filled mouth.Il LupoGreg's first Werewolf book. Brilliantly written characters in an incredible story. https://amzn.to/4090lpyA Werewolf's Storyhttps://amzn.to/3BjXoZuWerewolf the Colouring Book.What should I do this evening? Why not sit and do some Wonderful Werewolf colouring?  Red may be a theme.https://amzn.to/40k93l6Facebook Grouphttps://www.facebook.com/groups/werewolfthepodcast/Greg's X profile:@SempaiGregWerewolf the Podcast:@AWerewolfsStoryWilIntro partnership with Grendel Press.https://grendelpress.com/ Outro partnership with Grendel Press.https://grendelpress.com/Support the show

Helping people admit what they feel in order to heal from the effects of narcissism from a Biblical and Psychological perspective. Website: www.NarcAbuseNoMore.org Email: NarcAbuseNoMore@mail.com Donate via PayPal: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=F37STVQCNJ9D8 CASH APP - $evangelistklrch1975 IT Iz FINISHED End Times' Ministries Website: www.ITIzFINISHED.com IT Iz FINISHED Email: ITIzFINISHED@mail.com Watch on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@NarcAbuseNoMore Watch on Rumble… https://rumble.com/c/c-1334751 Watch on Brighteon…  www.brighteon.com/channels/narcissisticabusenomore Telegram: https://t.me/itizfinishedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-no-more--2855898/support.

In this episode, The Little Shaman discusses moving forward in relationships with pathologically narcissistic personalities.   Appointments, Workshops & Free Tools: https://www.littleshaman.org Books by The Little Shaman: https://www.littleshaman.org/products Support the show: https://www.paypal.me/littleshaman Articles by The Little Shaman: https://hubpages.com/sindelle Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Clinic: https://www.littleshaman.org/clinic 

Inside the Lori Vallow Daybell Case: A Deep Dive into Criminal PsychologyBill Eddy and Megan Hunter, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, dive deep into one of the most disturbing true crime cases in recent history—the Lori Vallow Daybell murders. The hosts explore the psychological aspects behind what led to multiple murders, including those of Vallow's own children, and examine potential personality patterns that may help explain such extreme behavior.The Complex Web of Personality and CrimeBill and Megan discuss how individuals who commit horrific acts often display patterns of behavior long before their crimes. They explore how Vallow's case may demonstrate characteristics associated with antisocial personality traits—combined with possible narcissistic tendencies. The hosts emphasize that these patterns often have genetic components rather than being solely the result of upbringing or environment.Understanding Family ImpactThe episode provides valuable insights into how family members process and heal from such traumatic events. Through examining Vallow's surviving son Colby's experience, Bill and Megan highlight the importance of understanding that what seems typical in childhood may later be recognized as problematic—leading to crucial healing opportunities.Questions we answer in this episode:What personality patterns might explain seemingly inexplicable criminal behavior?How do genetic factors influence personality development?Can early intervention help prevent antisocial behavior patterns?What role does narcissism play in high conflict cases?How do family members begin healing after discovering disturbing truths?Key Takeaways:Antisocial personality traits often emerge before age 12Early intervention is crucial for addressing concerning behaviorsGenetic factors play a significant role in personality developmentComplex cases often involve multiple personality patternsHealing requires understanding it wasn't family members' faultThis episode offers valuable insights for mental health professionals, law enforcement, and anyone seeking to understand complex criminal behavior. Through careful analysis of the Vallow case, listeners gain practical knowledge about personality patterns, family dynamics, and the importance of early intervention in preventing tragic outcomes.Links & Other NotesARTICLELori Vallow Daybell / Chad Daybell articleBOOKS5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict PersonalitiesSplitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (Second Edition)ARTICLESViolence and Mental HealthSociopaths and their DeceptionsOUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior. Nor are we providing legal or therapeutic advice. Please seek the assistance of your local professionals to seek help. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:34) - Lori Vallow/Chad Daybell Murder (02:51) - Setting the Stage (06:36) - Thoughts on First Case (11:58) - Colby (13:50) - Anti-Social Personality Behavior (21:06) - Treating Younger Children (23:18) - Warning Signs (24:27) - Chad's Story (31:47) - Making Up ‘Truths' (34:16) - Narcissism (37:10) - Wrapping Up (38:48) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Shehrina Rooney and BPD Learn more about our New Ways for Mediation Coaching Sessions. Get started today!

Helping you admit what you feel in order to heal from the effects of Narcissistic Abuse. Website: www.NarcAbuseNoMore.org Email: NarcAbuseNoMore@mail.com Donate via PayPal: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=F37STVQCNJ9D8 CASH APP - $evangelistklrch1975 IT Iz FINISHED End Times' Ministries Website: www.ITIzFINISHED.com IT Iz FINISHED Email: ITIzFINISHED@mail.com Watch on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@NarcAbuseNoMore Watch on Rumble… https://rumble.com/c/c-1334751 Watch on Brighteon…  www.brighteon.com/channels/narcissisticabusenomore Telegram: https://t.me/itizfinishedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-no-more--2855898/support.

I'm doing something a little different — I'm walking you through my Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Course: what it is, why it matters, and how it can help if you're stuck questioning your reality.I share the story of how I realized I was in an emotionally abusive relationship, how confusing and stuck I felt inside the trauma bond, and the turning points that helped me start to break free. I also talk about why simply recognizing abuse isn't enough — and how you need validation, boundaries, and clarity to start reclaiming your life.If you're Googling things like "Is this abuse?" or "Why does nothing I do seem to work?" — this episode is for you.I'll also talk about some of the tools that helped me, like Paul Colaianni's M.E.A.N. Workbook, and how my course is designed to give you something I wish I had: a clear foundation, validation, and steps you can actually take — even if you're still stuck inside the relationship.In this episode, you'll learn:How emotional abuse rewires your realityWhy trauma bonds keep you stuck (even when you can see the harm)How to set boundaries for yourself — even when they won't respect themHow to start validating your own experience (and stop feeling crazy)Resources Mentioned:Emotional Abuse Breakthrough CoursePaul Colaianni's M.E.A.N. Workbook (link to workbook if available)Support the showWebsite: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

In this episode, The Little Shaman discusses denial in relationships with pathologically narcissistic personalities.   Appointments, Workshops & Free Tools: https://www.littleshaman.org Books by The Little Shaman: https://www.littleshaman.org/products Support the show: https://www.paypal.me/littleshaman Articles by The Little Shaman: https://hubpages.com/sindelle Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Clinic: https://www.littleshaman.org/clinic 

Closing Doors for a Purpose by Ieisha Gilliam available on Amazon.  https://www.amazon.com/Closing-Doors-Purpose-Ieisha-Gilliam/dp/1304989836/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221P182067RIT&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.kHvtCKL-YeaGEpKcdSa5Ow.Tp6-LUpTZrQTJIMyxffPAZTtvElfoeQQXdDZ542zAy8&dib_tag=se&keywords=closing+doors+for+a+purpose+Ieisha+Gilliam&qid=1745837251&sprefix=closing+doors+for+a+purpose+ieisha+gilliam%2Caps%2C198&sr=8-1Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-no-more--2855898/support.

It's easy to show WHAT horrendous acts a horror movie 'psycho' commits. It's harder to explain WHY.Follow us on Insta: @_spooko_Join the Feel Bad Club on our discord: https://discord.gg/K8wwaXDpAnd check out our OTHER pod (about Gordon Ramsay): @peachandshagsnightmaremethodSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Helping people admit what they feel in order to heal from the effects of narcissism from a Biblical and Psychological perspective. Website: www.NarcAbuseNoMore.org Email: NarcAbuseNoMore@mail.com Donate via PayPal: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=F37STVQCNJ9D8 CASH APP - $evangelistklrch1975 IT Iz FINISHED End Times' Ministries Website: www.ITIzFINISHED.com IT Iz FINISHED Email: ITIzFINISHED@mail.com Watch on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@NarcAbuseNoMore Watch on Rumble… https://rumble.com/c/c-1334751 Watch on Brighteon…  www.brighteon.com/channels/narcissisticabusenomore Telegram: https://t.me/itizfinishedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-no-more--2855898/support.

04:40 – Setting the Intentions09:45 – Trigger Warning: Sensitive Content Ahead13:00 – (Part 1) My Story Begins17:05 – Coachella Tickets Promise19:49 – Oscars Offer20:30 – Dubai Invitation22:39 – Brunch & a Weekend in Canada24:35 – Suspicious Airport Switch26:40 – The Last Time I Saw Him27:40 – The Emotional Pull-Away28:46 – The Selfie Incident31:14 – "She's in the Hospital"32:10 – The Story of the "Dead Sister-in-Law"33:35 – Twisted Explanations Unravel35:45 – The Nephew: Another Layer to the Lies37:45 – "Funeral Week"38:30 – The Beginning of the End40:50 – Ghosted the Day of Coachella45:25 – Being Blocked48:30 – (Part 2) More Victims Emerge51:15 – Girlfriend #2, Lies Begin to Crumble53:20 – What Really Happened in Canada56:50 – "Funeral Week": San Diego and Las Vegas Exposed58:10 – The Secret Child Revealed59:00 – "Funeral Week" at Disneyland59:31 – Girlfriend #2 Gets Blocked59:59 – The Selfie Lie1:00:18 – Fearing for the Safety of the Child1:02:02 – (Part 3) It Gets Worse: 13+ Victims 1:04:00 – What Really Happened That Weekend: Ghosting 10+ In Person1:05:00 – More Victims Come Forward1:07:00 – Locked Out of Coachella1:08:00 – The Apology Attempt1:09:00 – Addressing the Empty Apology1:16:00 – Lies About Accomplishments1:20:00 – Addressing the Bigger Themes1:36:00 – "Dear Cody"1:37:00 – The Signs I Ignored1:39:40 – The Choice Is His1:43:00 – I'm Done1:45:00 – Thank You: A Message to the ListenersThis isn't just a story about lies.It's about predators in plain sight hiding behind charm and status.And it's about what happens when a woman stops second-guessing her intuition and starts telling the truth.In this raw and revelatory episode, I pull back the curtain on a dangerous man I met through Hinge—someone who told me he worked in special effects for Hollywood films, only to unravel into a web of coercion, deception, and deeply dangerous sociopathic behavior.What started as a whirlwind romance turned into a dark descent into gaslighting, love bombing, and psychological manipulation. I was lied to about everything—from age, to faking a tragic passing of a family member, Coachella tickets, a Dubai trip, from gym sessions that were actually sex parties, to carefully crafted alibis he used to juggle 10+ women in a single week.Sometimes, 10+ women in a single day.What I uncovered in the days that followed would expose even more disturbing truths: 

A sociopath is a person with a mental health condition. The term refers to a pattern of antisocial behaviors and attitudes. A sociopath might consistently show no regard for right and wrong and ignore the rights and feelings of others. It's estimated sociopaths make up 5 percent of the population. Patric Gagne writes about her life as a sociopath and her struggle to understand her disorder.

Helping people admit what they feel in order to heal from the effects of narcissism from a Biblical and Psychological perspective. Website: www.NarcAbuseNoMore.org Email: NarcAbuseNoMore@mail.com Donate via PayPal: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=F37STVQCNJ9D8 CASH APP - $evangelistklrch1975 IT Iz FINISHED End Times' Ministries Website: www.ITIzFINISHED.com IT Iz FINISHED Email: ITIzFINISHED@mail.com Watch on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@NarcAbuseNoMore Watch on Rumble… https://rumble.com/c/c-1334751 Watch on Brighteon…  www.brighteon.com/channels/narcissisticabusenomore Telegram: https://t.me/itizfinishedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-no-more--2855898/support.

Helping people admit what they feel in order to heal from the effects of narcissism from a Biblical and Psychological perspective. Website: www.NarcAbuseNoMore.org Email: NarcAbuseNoMore@mail.com Donate via PayPal: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=F37STVQCNJ9D8 CASH APP - $evangelistklrch1975 IT Iz FINISHED End Times' Ministries Website: www.ITIzFINISHED.com IT Iz FINISHED Email: ITIzFINISHED@mail.com Watch on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@NarcAbuseNoMore Watch on Rumble… https://rumble.com/c/c-1334751 Watch on Brighteon…  www.brighteon.com/channels/narcissisticabusenomore Telegram: https://t.me/itizfinishedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-no-more--2855898/support.

Helping people admit what they feel in order to heal from the effects of narcissism from a Biblical and Psychological perspective. Website: www.NarcAbuseNoMore.org Email: NarcAbuseNoMore@mail.com Donate via PayPal: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=F37STVQCNJ9D8 CASH APP - $evangelistklrch1975 IT Iz FINISHED End Times' Ministries Website: www.ITIzFINISHED.com IT Iz FINISHED Email: ITIzFINISHED@mail.com Watch on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@NarcAbuseNoMore Watch on Rumble… https://rumble.com/c/c-1334751 Watch on Brighteon…  www.brighteon.com/channels/narcissisticabusenomore Telegram: https://t.me/itizfinishedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-no-more--2855898/support.

HIGH CONCEPT ALERT. With Peach on holiday at a surprisingly spooky location, Shag takes an opportunity to bring some context to this episode's film with the help of psycholigist Tessa Prior. Turns out most horror sociopaths just needed someone to find the positive in them. PART TWO (including the recap) when Peach returns next week!Follow us on Insta: @_spooko_Join the Feel Bad Club on our discord: https://discord.gg/K8wwaXDpAnd check out our OTHER pod (about Gordon Ramsay): @peachandshagsnightmaremethod See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Helping people admit what they feel in order to heal from the effects of narcissism from a Biblical and Psychological perspective. Website: www.NarcAbuseNoMore.org Email: NarcAbuseNoMore@mail.com Donate via PayPal: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=F37STVQCNJ9D8 CASH APP - $evangelistklrch1975 IT Iz FINISHED End Times' Ministries Website: www.ITIzFINISHED.com IT Iz FINISHED Email: ITIzFINISHED@mail.com Watch on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@NarcAbuseNoMore Watch on Rumble… https://rumble.com/c/c-1334751 Watch on Brighteon…  www.brighteon.com/channels/narcissisticabusenomore Telegram: https://t.me/itizfinishedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-no-more--2855898/support.

Helping people admit what they feel in order to heal from the effects of narcissism from a Biblical and Psychological perspective. Website: www.NarcAbuseNoMore.org Email: NarcAbuseNoMore@mail.com Donate via PayPal: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=F37STVQCNJ9D8 CASH APP - $evangelistklrch1975 IT Iz FINISHED End Times' Ministries Website: www.ITIzFINISHED.com IT Iz FINISHED Email: ITIzFINISHED@mail.com Watch on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@NarcAbuseNoMore Watch on Rumble… https://rumble.com/c/c-1334751 Watch on Brighteon…  www.brighteon.com/channels/narcissisticabusenomore Telegram: https://t.me/itizfinishedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-no-more--2855898/support.

Helping people admit what they feel in order to heal from the effects of narcissism from a Biblical and Psychological perspective. Website: www.NarcAbuseNoMore.org Email: NarcAbuseNoMore@mail.com Donate via PayPal: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=F37STVQCNJ9D8 CASH APP - $evangelistklrch1975 IT Iz FINISHED End Times' Ministries Website: www.ITIzFINISHED.com IT Iz FINISHED Email: ITIzFINISHED@mail.com Watch on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@NarcAbuseNoMore Watch on Rumble… https://rumble.com/c/c-1334751 Watch on Brighteon…  www.brighteon.com/channels/narcissisticabusenomore Telegram: https://t.me/itizfinishedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-no-more--2855898/support.

Helping people admit what they feel in order to heal from the effects of narcissism from a Biblical and Psychological perspective. Website: www.NarcAbuseNoMore.org Email: NarcAbuseNoMore@mail.com Donate via PayPal: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=F37STVQCNJ9D8 CASH APP - $evangelistklrch1975 IT Iz FINISHED End Times' Ministries Website: www.ITIzFINISHED.com IT Iz FINISHED Email: ITIzFINISHED@mail.com Watch on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@NarcAbuseNoMore Watch on Rumble… https://rumble.com/c/c-1334751 Watch on Brighteon…  www.brighteon.com/channels/narcissisticabusenomore Telegram: https://t.me/itizfinishedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-no-more--2855898/support.

Subscribe in a reader Toxic narratives hurt good parents and keep them stuck in unhealthy relationships. Are you unknowingly repeating toxic patterns and attracting the wrong partners? In this episode, I sit down with Stephanie McPhail to uncover the #1 mistake that keeps people trapped in dysfunctional relationships. We'll discuss how these harmful narratives impact […] The post Toxic Narratives Hurt Good Parents: Is Estrangement the New Narcissistic Trend? | Stephanie McPhail appeared first on Narcissist Abuse Support.

Helping people admit what they feel in order to heal from the effects of narcissism from a Biblical and Psychological perspective. Website: www.NarcAbuseNoMore.org Email: NarcAbuseNoMore@mail.com Donate via PayPal: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=F37STVQCNJ9D8 CASH APP - $evangelistklrch1975 IT Iz FINISHED End Times' Ministries Website: www.ITIzFINISHED.com IT Iz FINISHED Email: ITIzFINISHED@mail.com Watch on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@NarcAbuseNoMore Watch on Rumble… https://rumble.com/c/c-1334751 Watch on Brighteon…  www.brighteon.com/channels/narcissisticabusenomore Telegram: https://t.me/itizfinishedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-no-more--2855898/support.

In this episode, The Little Shaman discusses crazy-making behavior in relationships with pathologically narcissistic personalities.   Appointments, Workshops & Free Tools: https://www.littleshaman.org Books by The Little Shaman: https://www.littleshaman.org/products Support the show: https://www.paypal.me/littleshaman Articles by The Little Shaman: https://hubpages.com/sindelle Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Clinic: https://www.littleshaman.org/clinic 

Jason continues some talk from the first hour, gets funny, then gets deep, and gets funny again. A rollercoaster good time. 

Helping people admit what they feel in order to heal from the effects of narcissism from a Biblical and Psychological perspective. Website: www.NarcAbuseNoMore.org Email: NarcAbuseNoMore@mail.com Donate via PayPal: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=F37STVQCNJ9D8 CASH APP - $evangelistklrch1975 IT Iz FINISHED End Times' Ministries Website: www.ITIzFINISHED.com IT Iz FINISHED Email: ITIzFINISHED@mail.com Watch on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@NarcAbuseNoMore Watch on Rumble… https://rumble.com/c/c-1334751 Watch on Brighteon…  www.brighteon.com/channels/narcissisticabusenomore Telegram: https://t.me/itizfinishedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-no-more--2855898/support.

Subscribe in a reader Join me as Christine Cocchiola unpacks the Role of Narcissistic Partners in coercive control, estrangement, and emotional abuse. Learn how manipulation tactics impact victims and their families. Many people believe abuse begins with physical violence, but the reality is far more subtle. It starts with gaslighting, manipulation, financial abuse, and isolation—tactics […] The post The Role of Coercive Control in Estrangement | Christine Cocchiola appeared first on Narcissist Abuse Support.

Helping people admit what they feel in order to heal from the effects of narcissism from a Biblical and Psychological perspective. Website: www.NarcAbuseNoMore.org Email: NarcAbuseNoMore@mail.com Donate via PayPal: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=F37STVQCNJ9D8 CASH APP - $evangelistklrch1975 IT Iz FINISHED End Times' Ministries Website: www.ITIzFINISHED.com IT Iz FINISHED Email: ITIzFINISHED@mail.com Watch on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@NarcAbuseNoMore Watch on Rumble… https://rumble.com/c/c-1334751 Watch on Brighteon…  www.brighteon.com/channels/narcissisticabusenomore Telegram: https://t.me/itizfinishedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-no-more--2855898/support.

In this episode, The Little Shaman discusses triangulation and black & white thinking in relationships with pathologically narcissistic personalities.   Appointments, Workshops & Free Tools: https://www.littleshaman.org Books by The Little Shaman: https://www.littleshaman.org/products Support the show: https://www.paypal.me/littleshaman Articles by The Little Shaman: https://hubpages.com/sindelle Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Clinic: https://www.littleshaman.org/clinic 

In this episode, The Little Shaman discusses perception in relationships with pathologically narcissistic personalities.   Appointments, Workshops & Free Tools: https://www.littleshaman.org Books by The Little Shaman: https://www.littleshaman.org/products Support the show: https://www.paypal.me/littleshaman Articles by The Little Shaman: https://hubpages.com/sindelle Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Clinic: https://www.littleshaman.org/clinic 

Adam Kotsko is a writer and cultural critic whose work focuses on American pop culture, from “cringe” comedies to our national obsession with sociopathic protagonists. His latest book, Late Star Trek: The Final Frontier in the Franchise Era considers how the Star Trek series has evolved (or devolved) in the political economy of streaming TV and the Marvel-ization of feature filmmaking. In this conversation we talk about how his work on TV sociopaths holds up during the new Trump administration, and the challenges of participating in fan culture within a fracturing and cynical landscape of cultural production. Check out our previous episode with Adam, “Cringe Nation” Subscribe to Nostalgia Trap to access our News Trap episodes and giant library of bonus goodness