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We all know that men and women see sex in relationships differently. However, what about sex within the context of Dominance & submission, or sex within the context of a Female-Led Relationship? What nuances should we be mindful of in kink-friendly spaces? Today, I want to look at sex in an FLR – what it is, why it is, and why we should be paying more attention to it. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Today, we are going to take a look at the world of online dating for kinksters. We will review dating ads posted by Dominant Women who are search of submissive men, as well as those of submissive men who are in search of Dominant Women. Let's see if we can't figure out what people are doing right, as well as what they are doing wrong in this space. Are you curious about the world of kink-friendly online dating? Well, let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

When men have come to me over the years with their lives in tatters because they have been out of control, sexually, I ask a simple question: What do you want your legacy to be? Most of the time, those men will have been so consumed with chasing immediate gratification that they will not have even considered the long-term ramifications of their actions. Today, I want to look at the male legacy, within the context of a Female-Led Relationship (FLR). So, let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

In Episode 56 of Season 4, I spent some time talking about a post that I stumbled across on Reddit during the live show. In today's episode I'm coming back with a follow-up episode. The behavior of the individual in question was a bit suspect. So, I looked into him a bit more, and the bottom line is that he is not submissive, in the slightest. He is just horny and messy! Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Are you a woman who is new to the Dominant/submissive or Female-Led Relationship space, and you are trying to figure out how to get started in the lifestyle? If yes, then today's episode is for you. Even if you are a more experienced woman in the lifestyle, but you are still not seeing the results that you want with your male partner – today's show will be helpful for you, as well. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Do you want to win the girl's heart? You want to gain or re-gain her trust? Do you want to compel her to love you for who you really are, and to not use you in the relationship? If you answered “yes” to these questions, then you need to put your wallet away. If you want her to love you and not use you, then I want to help you to lead with your heart. --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

I invite you to take a stroll with me through some social media posts, where I will analyze whether the men posting messages are more invested in building up their relationships with their partners or in achieving their next orgasm. Many times, men will be busy doing the absolute most to convince themselves, and their partners, that they are working hard to please her and to build up their relationship with her. However, what they are really doing is trying to get their dicks off. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

I asked AI what makes a good male submissive. Now, even before I asked AI that question, I already knew what my answer to the question was, and I already knew the angle that I was going to focus on for today's show. However, just to be fair, let's compare both answers and see how it goes. In other words, let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

S04E54: What To Expect When Your Guy Is “Backed Up” Once a woman sees her submissive guy being kind, sweet, sensitive, and attentive she thinks that her work is done. He behaves for a few days, and she starts to take him for granted, and she forgets all about his dick. Reminder – your guy is driven by sexual desire. So, when his plumbing gets backed up, there are certain things that you can expect to see in your relationship. --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Men, stop lying. She is not “just a friend.” Do you know how I know? Men don't have ugly friends. They have ugly acquaintances. Men will call women that they are attracted to who work with them, are in their communities, at church, and in extended social spaces “friends.” Why? Because they are secretly fantasizing about that woman and looking for an opportunity to f*ck her. Let's be real, and let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

This is a message for my male listeners. Some of you are struggling as you wait for your female significant other to re-engage with you. Maybe it's been weeks, months, or even years since you experienced the beauty of open expressions of love from the woman in your life. I want to help you guys to have clearer insight into what may be happening and how you can navigate these challenging waters. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

I recently posted a question to the members in my small Subreddit group: Why do you like it so much when she is in control in the bedroom? One of my members responded with an answer that really stood out to me. His response was so profound that I knew that it needed its own show. Ladies, the man in your life needs to feel loved and wanted. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Today's episode is inspired by more goodboy content coming in from the AlisaCoaches' SubReddit group. In this episode of Kink Friendly, we follow the thought process of a man who submits to his wife, but who finds himself mentally, physically, and emotionally drained after a work trip. How does his state of mind during such a time impact his submission? Let's take a look at the situation, and let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Submissive men are often times referred to as “goodboys.” In today's episode of Kink Friendly, I want to walk you through the submissive journey of one of my followers. It is good for other men on their journeys to check in with one another and to get a feel for how the submissive transformation can occur for others. If you are a man who wonders "How do other men go from being selfish horn dogs to being loving, kind, respectable, and loved in their own homes?" then this is the show for you! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Too many men are using the act of getting on their knees as a way to “submissive signal.” It could be getting on their knees, it could be acts of services, or it could be gift-giving. Men have convinced themselves that they are serving their female significant others by carrying out superficial acts. However, these are not the types of actions that touch a woman's heart and soul. Some men are working hard, but not smart. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Navigating the pleasure space with one's romantic partner is tricky. Men are driven by the desire to experience physical pleasure. Women are driven by a desire to feel good emotionally. Each sex wants their feel-good fix, but men tend to withdraw after they get their fix. Women want to stay connected and keep the good feeling going. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Women are drawn to Female-Led Relationships for a number of reasons. Those reasons will determine the manner in which a woman leads, and will directly impact the overall quality of her relationship. In today's episode, we will take a close look at women who embrace abusive behavior as a part of their so-called “dominance.” Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

One of my followers submitted a post to our Subreddit on the topic of inconsistent submission, in response to a show that I had done on the subject. In today's show, I will walk through his post and offer my thoughts on it. Be prepared to take notes, guys. There will be lots of helpful information on true submission for you in this episode. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

In our Reddit group, a male member made some interesting remarks about how he had come to realize that his wife struggled with leadership. As a man who had been raised to take charge and to lead, he found that he was challenged with understanding her insecurities. In today's episode, we will take a look at this man's journey to understanding the art of Female Dominance, and his role in supporting his wife as she takes the lead. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Today, more than ever before, men are expecting, feeling entitled to, and demanding sexual intimacy from woman. No one seems to be teaching men that intimacy with a woman is something that must be earned, and  that, even when earned, it is not necessarily guaranteed. Men have a transactional mindset that comes from indulging in sexual fantasies and engaging with professional sex workers. This must be addressed. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Men frequently tell me how they “mostly” follow my advice or how they were “already doing” what I give them for assignments. What they do not consider, however, is how the moments in between the mostlies and the already doings are opportunities for problems to take root and to work against them. Today, I want to talk to submissive men about what happens when they are inconsistent in their relationships. --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Man in a Female-Led Relationship (FLR) says that he wants submission. He says that he wants to serve her and make her happy. He says that she is at the center of his universe. Everything revolves around her. And yet, at the end of the day, he struggles with embracing his submission. Let's take a closer look at this situation and help him to understand what is really going on. --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Ladies, let's have a little bit of fun today. Let's talk about how women can get control of their guy's dick. This segment is for advanced users only. We go beyond dressing the part and learning the best Kama Sutra positions. Getting control of your guy's dong is more mental and emotional than anything else. I'm going to give you some starter exercises that you can make your own. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

In a recent conversation with a couple of ladies who have been following the show, the topic came up of how men court women and then switch up their behavior once the lady has become their property. I frequently explain to women that if we allow men to use us for sex, they will do just that. However, we shouldn't blame the men. We really need to be looking at our own behavior. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

I recently ran across a post on Reddit where Dominant women were discussing their frustrations with failed Dominant/submissive and Female-Led Relationships. Basically, men were approaching Dominant Women to get their rocks off, then they ghosted them. The women are hurt, baffled, and confused over the behavior. I decided to do a show on the subject matter. Perhaps this will help, ladies. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

In relationships, sometimes the man is the one who is wrong. Sometimes, it's the woman. However, at the end of the day, the man is the one who has likely been in control in the relationship. He calls the shots, he makes the majority of the money, is mostly responsible for the upkeep of the household, and he rations intimacy. So, when it comes to getting the woman on board with his attempts to improve the relationship – men, need to be prepared to fall on their swords. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Women who lead in their relationships must learn to differentiate between when the male submissive is rebelling and the one who is struggling with not being able to get his bearings. We all know that men struggle with submission because of pride and ego. However, nothing is being said about men struggling with submission because they lost, confused, and vulnerable. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

It is very common for couples to try Kink Therapy without giving any serious consideration to traditional Relationship Therapy/Counseling. They will commit themselves to the mastery of all kinds of BDSM activities, in the pursuit of improving their relationship, but they will not put nearly as much energy into learning how to relate to one another as human beings. Let's take a deep dive into the truth of why people think that relationship counseling doesn't work. --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Let's go through one of the many messages that are sent to me as I am being labeled as a hater and a transphobe. For each person that sends me a message like this, I apologize for any pain or offense that I have caused the listener, and I invite them to an open discussion. To date, not a single one of them has taken me up on that offer. They don't want to discuss issues. Instead, they want to agenda dump. There is a difference between hating and speaking truth. Let's talk about this shit. --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

I recently tasked a male submissive-in-training with writing out his thoughts on "submission after orgasm." Actually, it might have actually been his idea to do this assignment. At any rate, I knew that I could trust him, and I knew that his response would be enlightening and helpful for other men. Just as with all of his other written assignments, he did not disappoint. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Men and women are conditioned to believe that, for a man, once orgasm has been achieved that the act of love-making is over. Many times, women will want to cuddle and remain close to their partner, maybe even make attempts to keep him inside of her for as long as possible, post-orgasm. However, as far as things go for the guy, women are conditioned to believe that there is nothing else to be done. I beg to differ. Aftercare is an artform that is usually overlooked by both sexes. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Men who are coming from BDSM (aka kink-friendly spaces) who claim that they know how a woman should lead because they, themselves, used to be dominant are problematic. Men who lead in relationships lean more toward personal sexual gratification than anything else. Their idea of being dominant in a relationship is to be domineering and to get their sexual demands met. Let's talk about it. --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

What is true submission? How do you as a man know, from moment to moment, whether or not you are walking in true submission? Because, you see, submission is not something that you haphazardly apply to whatever random acts you want. Submission is a state of being that you can only access when you are aching. True goodboys know this, and true goodboys long to be in that submissive space, especially once they have been granted release and they inadvertently snap out of that space. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Women have been discerning between “good touch” and “bad touch” since we were children. This skill is a part of what helps us to survive. However, a woman will find herself in a relationship with a man that she believes really loves her, only to feel like she is nothing more than a sexual object that is being used to get her guy off. Men, do you want to know why your female significant other might be shut down and why she does not engage with you, sexually, for lengthy periods of time? Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Sometimes men in the Dominant/submissive and Female-Led Relationship lifestyles are doing the most, and yet nothing at all. Their speech is very flowery and they make things look good from the outside in, but when you start to peel back the layers, you can see that something is not quite right. The title of this Reddit post caught my attention. My instincts say that there is something fishy going on here. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Men who communicate that they want to submit in their relationships, but who ultimately only want to follow through with their submission in the bedroom are playing with fire. As you will have already seen, your actions will only create an angrier, more bitter, and more unpredictable woman. However, we can go into the reasons for that in another episode. Today, I want to motivate you by helping you to understand the power of true submission – the power of “Yes, Mistress.” Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

There are several moving parts to Female Dominance that a woman needs to be aware of before she can effectively train a submissive man to her liking. Female Dominance is about much more than just looking pretty and embracing your inner confident, sassy bitch. My inspiration for this episode comes from Kenny Rogers' song “The Gambler.” Today's show is mostly for women, but guys can listen in, too. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

I recently saw a street poll where men were asked how generous they perceived themselves to be as lovers. Overwhelmingly, the men being asked thought that they were rocking it in the bedroom. Their girlfriends, on the other hand, did not agree, to the men's dismay. Most women know that most men are lacking in this aspect of their relationships. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Today's episode of Kink Friendly will serve two purposes. On one hand, I want to help men to understand what goes on in the hearts and minds of women when we throw tantrums. On the other hand, I want to help women to make better choices, especially those of us who want to lead in our relationships. Remember, ladies, we can't lead and play the victim card at the same time. Learn the art of healthy communication so that you and your partner can talk things through. --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Of course, there are going to be the horndogs who are drawn to Female-Led Relationships for selfish reasons only. However, truly submissive men will be drawn to FLRs for a combination of factors, including fulfillment of heart, mind, soul, and dick (of course). In today's show, we will explore one man's answer to the question presented. Ladies, this is going to be good! Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Women, if you are the Dominant in your Female-Led Relationship, you know that there are times when your guy will act out. There are times when he will say and do things that make it seem like you have not been shaping and molding him, at all. Before getting upset, though, I ask you to consider this question: Is your submissive acting out, or is he asking for help? Let's talk about it, ladies. --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Today, we are talking about women who want to lead in Female-Led Relationships (FLRs). Ladies, think about all the times that men drop the ball in traditional male-led relationships. Now, realize that it's your turn to take the lead. Realize that you can't tap out and start to rely on weaponized tears when things fall apart. When issues arise, it's your job to address them. Let's talk about it, ladies! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Who amongst you identifies as a switch? Well, my name is Mistress Alisa, and I am here today to share an unpopular opinion. I don't believe in switching or in switches. Right…Slowly unclench your fake pearls and hear me out. And if you don't know what a switch is, just push play. I've got you covered, as well. The act of switching causes unnecessary noise and confusion in Female-Led Relationships, and therefore, should not be embraced. Let's talk about it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

People rely much too heavily on sex to fix things that are broken in their relationships. However, truth be told, fucking has never fixed a thing. The best that can be said about people having sex when they are not getting along is that sex can be an entertaining distraction from relationship or life problems. However, having sex, in and of itself, has never fixed anything. People need to stop reaching for kink to fix their relationships. --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

When men think about submitting to a Dominant woman they instinctively feel like they are giving up power and control. That actually feels negative to me. As a woman, even I am uncomfortable with such a scenario. I teach men that submission is about learning how to trust their female significant other to love them to the point that their needs will be met - happily, enthusiastically, sincerely, and even abundantly. But first, men - you've got to learn how to take your sticky little fingers off of it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

When men think about submitting to a Dominant woman they instinctively feel like they are giving up power and control. That actually feels negative to me. As a woman, even I am uncomfortable with such a scenario. I teach men that submission is about learning how to trust their female significant other to love them to the point that their needs will be met - happily, enthusiastically, sincerely, and even abundantly. But first, men - you've got to learn how to take your sticky little fingers off of it! --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

One of my listeners was brave enough to answer one of my tougher questions: How does it feel when your female significant other rejects you sexually. His vulnerable and heartfelt response touched me. I'm going to talk through his response in today's show, and I know that his words will help other men and women in the Female-Led Relationship lifestyle, as well. Let's talk about it. ❤️ --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Men need to learn how to actively love their woman as she learns to find her truth and stand in it. For, she cannot learn to stand in her kinky truth until she gains confidence and learns a couple of things about herself as a person. This is where you, as the guy, come in. Actively engage with her with love, sincerity, and genuine interest. Do these things outside of the bedroom. She will gain confidence in herself, in you, and in the relationship. Then she will have emotional space to explore kink. --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Ladies, when you are in charge, the success of your relationship rests on your shoulders. We talk about being a Boss Bitch and about how the future is female, but we don't talk about responsibility. Today, I'm going to talk to you ladies about ensuring that you have a successful relationship by discussing some of the things that women often do wrong, or poorly, in FLRs. --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

I recently had an interaction with a man in a community that promotes Female-Led Relationships. I was looking for women to interact with, but I ended up finding yet another community where horny men thrive and are pushing the dick agenda. I want to share this experience with my audience because I feel that it will be helpful for you all to walk through this with me. Nothing crazy or dramatic, but an incident that is indicative of the underlying issues that exist between the sexes. --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches

Lots of men present themselves to Dommes as ‘slaves' and they have no idea what they are really saying. If you (Dominant Female or submissive male) are interested in a Female-Led Relationship, you really should understand some basic terminology before you get started. ‘Submissive' and ‘slave' do not mean the same thing in a BDSM context. Let's talk about it. --- Official Website https://www.AlisaCoaches.com Like the show and want to support my work? Consider buying me a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alisacoaches