Podcasts about Gratification

At this point, you should understand that chasing a woman and acting desperate for sex only makes you look unattractive. But the inverse of this concept is also true: by holding off, delaying sex, and not acting desperate, you'll have her acting desperate to sleep with you. In this episode, you'll learn how to leverage the concept of delayed gratification to intentionally elicit massive attraction in women and skyrocket your lay rates. Check Out The Perks Program: https://coachmarksing.com/perks/ Apply for Mark's 3-Month Coaching Program Here: https://coachmarksing.com/coaching/ Follow Mark on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachmarksing/ Watch UMP Episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCybix9PZoDgcyyt5hNxPLuw Grab Mark's Free Program: "The Approach Formula": https://www.CoachMarkSing.com/The-Approach-Formula Contact Mark Directly: CoachMarkSing@Gmail.com

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What if waiting longer could lead to something way better—would you do it? In this honest and encouraging episode, Kevin and Alan break down why it's so tempting to chase quick wins and how that mindset might be holding you back. They share personal stories, real coaching examples, and helpful strategies to build patience, purpose, and belief in your future. You'll learn how offering value first, setting meaningful goals, and understanding long-term growth can lead to bigger payoffs in life and business.Learn more about:Free 30-minute Coaching Call with Alan - https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-business-breakthrough-session?month=2025-04_____________________NLU is not just a podcast; it's a gateway to a wealth of resources designed to help you achieve your goals and dreams. From our Next Level Dreamliner to our Group Coaching, we offer a variety of tools and communities to support your personal development journey.For more information, please check out our website at the link below.

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We speak with Jamil Frazier, a best selling author, entrepreneur, keynote speaker, business coach and investor. Is it challenging to establish generational wealth with inflation and the expenses in life? We speak about how to setup scholarships, angel investors, lending deals, the 10-10-10 strategy, and the No Ask Questions account. This conversation runs deep and is filled with tips to help aid in the process of creating and establishing generational wealth. Black Men Sundays is ranked #15 of the top 80 Black Wealth Podcasts on https://podcasts.feedspot.com/black_wealth_and_investing_podcasts/

Discipline is the backbone of success in every aspect of life—whether it's fitness, career growth, or personal development. In this episode, we dive deep into what it truly means to reclaim discipline and how you can build the habits necessary to stay consistent, even when motivation fades. From keeping small promises to yourself to shifting your mindset from “I'll try” to “I will,” we'll explore the key principles that separate those who achieve long-term success from those who struggle with inconsistency.We'll also break down the power of reframing pain and discomfort as opportunities for growth, teaching you how to embrace challenges instead of avoiding them. You'll learn how to show up as the person you want to become, create identity-based habits, and develop the mental toughness needed to push through obstacles. Plus, we'll discuss how modern distractions—like social media and constant dopamine hits—are sabotaging your ability to focus, and what you can do to heal your attention span for greater productivity and fulfillment.If you've ever struggled with staying committed to your goals, this episode is for you. Tune in to discover actionable strategies to build discipline, delay gratification, and create lasting change in your life.NASH BARS:⁠https://nashnutrition.co⁠EVERYDAY ATHLETE COACHING:⁠https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeQvqk2RRjWuM7z59WZFI7KR7UkJSW7THEizsvZBWclkZQKcA/viewform⁠EVERYDAY ATHLETE NEWSLETTER: ⁠https://everyday-athlete.ck.page/55f3c4e52f⁠BUILT AND BALANCED COACHING:⁠Https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScV_IGO2VhRV415iIsiHz6TGr76wuH-loG2eGt068pZG474qw/viewformBUILT & BALANCED NEWSLETTER:⁠https://builtandbalanced.kit.com/dd0f3197cc⁠LIFE REWIRED IG:⁠https://www.instagram.com/LIFEREWIREDPODCAST/?utm_medium=copy_link⁠ZACH IG:⁠https://instagram.com/zachturnure/?hl=en⁠KRIS IG:⁠https://www.instagram.com/kristinaturnure/?hl=en⁠

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3044: Amberly Grant explores the balance between smart financial choices and living a fulfilling life, emphasizing that financial independence should enable joy, not postpone it indefinitely. She shares her own journey, illustrating how embracing adventure and relationships can coexist with responsible planning for the future. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.fiology.com/delay-of-gratification/ Quotes to ponder: "Delayed gratification does not mean delayed joy." "The financial independence journey is about learning how to live the life you want, not about racing to a magic bank account balance." "If I say no to opportunities as rewarding as this, I wouldn't be supporting my true self." Episode references: I Will Teach You to Be Rich by Ramit Sethi: https://www.amazon.com/I-Will-Teach-You-Rich/dp/1523505745 EconoMe Conference: https://economeconference.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3044: Amberly Grant explores the balance between smart financial choices and living a fulfilling life, emphasizing that financial independence should enable joy, not postpone it indefinitely. She shares her own journey, illustrating how embracing adventure and relationships can coexist with responsible planning for the future. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.fiology.com/delay-of-gratification/ Quotes to ponder: "Delayed gratification does not mean delayed joy." "The financial independence journey is about learning how to live the life you want, not about racing to a magic bank account balance." "If I say no to opportunities as rewarding as this, I wouldn't be supporting my true self." Episode references: I Will Teach You to Be Rich by Ramit Sethi: https://www.amazon.com/I-Will-Teach-You-Rich/dp/1523505745 EconoMe Conference: https://economeconference.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3044: Amberly Grant explores the balance between smart financial choices and living a fulfilling life, emphasizing that financial independence should enable joy, not postpone it indefinitely. She shares her own journey, illustrating how embracing adventure and relationships can coexist with responsible planning for the future. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.fiology.com/delay-of-gratification/ Quotes to ponder: "Delayed gratification does not mean delayed joy." "The financial independence journey is about learning how to live the life you want, not about racing to a magic bank account balance." "If I say no to opportunities as rewarding as this, I wouldn't be supporting my true self." Episode references: I Will Teach You to Be Rich by Ramit Sethi: https://www.amazon.com/I-Will-Teach-You-Rich/dp/1523505745 EconoMe Conference: https://economeconference.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are Bears fans willing to wait or does gratification need to be instant? full 842 Wed, 29 Jan 2025 21:28:10 +0000 uvb9k9tqx0RXQQwI84FYTNRsO3phDex9 nfl,chicago bears,sports Spiegel & Holmes Show nfl,chicago bears,sports Are Bears fans willing to wait or does gratification need to be instant? Matt Spiegel and Laurence Holmes bring you Chicago sports talk with great opinions, guests and fun. Join Spiegel and Holmes as they discuss the Bears, Blackhawks, Bulls, Cubs and White Sox and delve into the biggest sports storylines of the day. Recurring guests include Bears cornerback Jaylon Johnson, former Bears coach Dave Wannstedt, former Bears center Olin Kreutz, Cubs manager Craig Counsell, Cubs second baseman Nico Hoerner and MLB Network personality Jon Morosi. Catch the show live Monday through Friday (2 p.m. - 6 p.m. CT) on 670 The Score, the exclusive audio home of the Cubs and the Bulls, or on the Audacy app. 2024 © 2021 Audacy, Inc. Sports False https://player.amper

In a world that often glorifies speed and instant gratification, the true power of pause is often overlooked. Yet, it can be the key to transforming not just how we negotiate but how we navigate life's challenges.   In this episode, join your host, Cindy Watson as she sits down with Dr. Emilio Justo, a remarkable figure whose journey from escaping Fidel Castro's oppressive Cuba to becoming a doctor at just 23 and founding the Arizona Eye Institute & Cosmetic Laser Center by 27, is nothing short of inspirational. He is a two-time international TEDx speaker, but also the author of the #1 Amazon Bestseller, "THE POWER OF PAUSE: Mastering Delayed Gratification for Success." His TEDx talk on "Delayed Gratification" became the third most-watched global TEDx video in 2023 with over 6 million views, and his latest talk on "The Obsession Advantage to Unprecedented Success" has already captured over 800,000 views in its first month. Today, Dr. Justo shares his insights on "The Power of Pause as the Key to Enhanced Negotiation," revealing how mastering the art of waiting can transform your approach to negotiation and life.   In this episode, you will discover:   What are some of the benefits of adopting Delayed gratification is the new norm? How delayed gratification helps us get better negotiated outcomes in our life. The 5 categories of delayed gratification. Stanford marshmallow experiment How delayed gratification can help us negotiate beyond political turmoil. Embracing and learning from your failure. And many more!   Learn more about Dr. Emilio Justo:   Website: www.DrEmilioJusto.com   Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrEmilioJusto/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/emiliojustomd/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/emiliojustomd/ X: https://x.com/emiliojustomd   Checkout his book:  Amazon Link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D4JH7VPL If you're looking to up-level your negotiation skills, I have everything from online to group to my signature one-on-one mastermind & VIP experiences available to help you better leverage your innate power to get more of what you want and deserve in life.   Check out our website at www.artoffemininenegotiation.com if that sounds interesting to you. Get Cindy's book here:   Amazon   https://www.amazon.com/Art-Feminine-Negotiation-Boardroom-Bedroom-ebook/dp/B0B8KPCYZP?inf_contact_key=94d07c699eea186d2adfbddfef6fb9e2&inf_contact_key=013613337189d4d12be8d2bca3c26821680f8914173f9191b1c0223e68310bb1 EBook   https://www.amazon.com/Art-Feminine-Negotiation-Boardroom-Bedroom-ebook/dp/B0B8KPCYZP?inf_contact_key=94d07c699eea186d2adfbddfef6fb9e2&inf_contact_key=013613337189d4d12be8d2bca3c26821680f8914173f9191b1c0223e68310bb1 Barnes and Noble   https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-art-of-feminine-negotiation-cindy-watson/1141499614?ean=9781631959776 CONNECT WITH CINDY:   Website: www.womenonpurpose.ca Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/womenonpurposecommunity/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/womenonpurposecoaching/ LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/thecindywatson Show: https://www.womenonpurpose.ca/media/podcast-2/ Twitter:  https://twitter.com/womenonpurpose1 YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@hersuasion Email:  cindy@womenonpurpose.ca

This episode is a replay from The Existential Stoic library. Enjoy! Waiting is hard. Most of us have become accustomed to instant gratification, same-day delivery, and immediacy in our lives. Most good things in life, however, take time. In this episode, Danny and Randy discuss how to wait. Subscribe to ESP's YouTube Channel! Thanks for listening!  Do you have a question you want answered in a future episode? If so, send your question to: existentialstoic@protonmail.comDanny, Randy, and their good friend, Russell, created a new podcast, CodeNoobs, for anyone interested in tech and learning how to code. Listen to CodeNoobs now online, CodeNoobs-podcast, or wherever you get your podcasts.

In this episode, we dive deep into the common mindset sabotages that can hold you back in 2025, such as unrealistic expectations, limiting beliefs, negative self-talk, outdated goals, unhealthy coping mechanisms, a craving for immediate gratification, fear of change, and comparison. These patterns of thinking can subtly derail your progress, drain your motivation, and keep you stuck in a cycle of frustration. But there's good news: you don't have to let these sabotages control your life. Instead, we discuss how to invite God into your thoughts, actions, and decisions, transforming your mindset by grounding yourself in scripture and affirming truth based on God's Word. By renewing your mind with God's wisdom, you can break free from these mental barriers and embrace a mindset that empowers you to live with purpose and peace. In this episode, you'll learn:     •    The eight mindset traps to watch out for in 2025 that could be holding you back.     •    Why unrealistic expectations and limiting beliefs can sabotage your goals.     •    How to stop the cycle of negative self-talk and replace it with God's affirming truth.     •    Why unhealthy coping mechanisms fail and how to find true healing in Christ.     •    The power of inviting God into your thoughts and actions to shift your mindset.     •    Practical tips for renewing your mind with scripture and daily affirming truths. Scripture References:     •    Romans 12:2 – “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”     •    Philippians 4:8 – “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”     Takeaway: This episode will help you recognize and overcome destructive mindsets by centering your thoughts on God's truth and His plans for your life. If you're ready to stop sabotaging your growth and step into a more fulfilling, God-centered mindset in 2025, this is the episode for you. Support the Show: If this episode resonated with you, please leave a review and share it with someone who could benefit from a mindset shift today. Welcome to The Well Community! Join our FACEBOOK COMMUNITY for more support and encouragement to refill daily with faith, self care, health, wellness and essential oil education! Schedule a free 30 minute consult for potential coaching with Kari here  https://www.thewellteam.com/karidaviscoaching Follow Kari on Insta Better (for you) Than Botox masterclass: www.thewellteam.com/betterthanbotox JOIN ME IN THE FASTER WAY TO FAT LOSS PROGRAM with my coach Lynzi! Join our email list and get a FREE morning routine guide thewellteam.com/morningroutine Essential oils- thewellteam.com/essentialoils Get my favorite top 10 doTERRA products here: https://doterra.me/n2pgTr Email hello@thewellteam.com VISIT THEWELLTEAM.COM for all coaching programs, blog and essential oil education!

Today, we sit down with Dr. Emilio Justo, a renowned surgeon, international speaker, and two-time TEDx presenter, to uncover his extraordinary journey from Cuban refugee to a leading medical professional and global thought leader. Dr. Justo shares how resilience, delayed gratification, and a relentless drive helped him overcome immense challenges, offering insights into how anyone can cultivate these traits to navigate life's ups and downs. Together, we discuss the power of goal setting, the importance of celebrating small wins, and the necessity of enjoying the journey while pursuing ambitious dreams. This thought-provoking conversation also explores the hidden costs of instant gratification, the transformative potential of a healthy obsession, and why failures should be embraced as critical steps toward growth. Dr. Justo's wisdom will inspire you to find balance between ambition and gratitude while building a life of purpose and fulfillment. Takeaways Resilience is developed through observation and experience. Anyone can learn resilience, regardless of their upbringing. Delayed gratification is crucial for long-term success. Celebrate small wins to maintain motivation. Failures are learning experiences that should be embraced. Chapters 00:00 Emilio Justo's Inspiring Journey 06:49 The Nature of Resilience and Grit 12:53 Mastering Delayed Gratification 20:05 The Importance of Planning for Success 27:13 The Journey Over the Destination 30:00 The Importance of Planning and Celebrating Small Wins 37:05 The Power of Reflection and Gratitude 39:14 Dopamine and Instant Gratification 47:19 Harnessing Obsession for Success

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Go to www.LearningLeader.com for full show notes The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk Notes: Mo Bunnell is the author of Give to Grow, The Snowball System, and the founder of Bunnell Idea Group (BIG), who has trained tens of thousands of seller experts at over 400 clients all over the world. I wake up every morning looking to help my friends succeed, and some just happen to be clients.  — Proactively thinking of ways to add value to others is a great way to build a meaningful life. Our brains think literally. Relationships grow exponentially. Give consistently to grow relationships. Celebrate incremental progress. Mo writes in a journal the growth of himself, his business, and his customers. We all should be better at celebrating incremental progress. Teresa Amabile's research shows that this leads to a more enjoyable life. August 4, 1984, was a meaningful day for his family. (Dad's alcoholism. That was the day of his last drink) The difference between doing the work versus winning the work Example: You win the work by asking lots of questions. You do the work giving answers. Every successful career hinges on two things: Doing The Work and Winning The Work. Both delivering value on the current work and developing the relationships that create future opportunities are vital for long-term success. Whether you're in a new role or want new outcomes, the most powerful results come from prioritizing both Doing The Work and Winning The Work. Ask questions – Mo shares 50+ questions to ask. Ask self-disclosure questions. Those are questions that only that person can answer. Fall in love with the problem. Pronoia – The world is out to help you succeed. People can live in 1 of 3 ways. Drift - Stay busy. Answer emails.  Driven - Hyper emphasis on one thing at the detriment of others (triathlon guy) By Design - Write down where you want to be and make a plan to do it. On purpose. Delayed gratification: Weekly planning process Offer 3 proactive change agent ideas Mo is in 5 masterminds Shawn Blanc in Breckenridge. Net givers. MASHUP - His house. Help others. Ask for help. Elite Adventure athletes GivetoGrow.Info MASHUP! Mastermind of Awesome Super Human Unreal People

Join us today as Gloria Lybecker and Gail Donohue discuss how to deal with uncomfortable feelings that arise when we want something but think we can't have it. Learn techniques for observing your thoughts and patterns without judgment to build awareness. Tune in for practical tips on cultivating patience and appreciating tension. ***** *Are you ready to transform your shadow beliefs into empowered actions? Take your first step now: Gloria Lybecker: www.glorialybecker.com  Gail Donohue: www.gaildonohuecoaching.com …  [Healing You with Gloria - Episode 255]  #healingyouwithgloria&gail #selfawareness #mindfulness #emotionalintelligence #thehealingyoumethod

Bill Horan talks with Dr. Emilio Justo, author of THE POWER OF PAUSE: MASTERING DELAYED GRATIFICATION FOR SUCCESS.  Dr. Justo will discuss what is delayed gratification, why it is more difficult now because we want things instantly, how instant gratification increases negative traits and why long term goals are important.

Sadism and masochism (abbreviated as S&M) are generally frowned on in polite society as perverse acts of sexual gratification.

The triad of gratification, danger, and escape is one of the Buddha's most concise and simple teachings for investigating everyday lived experience. This formula can be applied to every single aspect of our experience. Many Buddhist scholars point out that this teaching contains the earliest roots of what we have come to know as the four noble truths, the basic framework for all Buddhist traditions.What is interesting about this simple teaching is that the Buddha came to this realization before his awakening. He discusses this triad on four separate occasions, relating them to the aggregates, feelings (vedana), the four elements and the six sense doors. The sheer simplicity of this teaching provides a framework for understanding human experience, particularly for those of us living in the digital complexity of the modern world. This is not a realization given from high diction, or a pedestal of great wisdom and knowledge. Nor does it seek to bewilder us with metaphysics such as teachings on non-self, emptiness, rebirth and karma. Instead, it is easily understood and readily available to any of us, at any point in our process. 

Hey listeners! No new episode this week, but we wanted to revisit this 2022 classic with Jane Bozarth because we thought it paired nicely with the latest edition of our L&D Dispatch newsletter. Do check out the newsletter Ross G discussed on our L&D Dispatch page, 'Four papers that will make you laugh (then make you think)'. Regular show notes below. --- In learning science, there are certain ideas that have leapt the fences of academia and seeped into the public consciousness. Often, these ideas gain traction because they feel intuitively true. But what does the data say? And how should we apply these ideas as learning professionals?  This week on The Mind Tools L&D Podcast, Ross Garner and Ross Dickie are joined by Jane Bozarth, Director of Research for the Learning Guild, to discuss three research papers that challenge the received wisdom. We cover:  Generational difference Learning styles  The “Marshmallow Test”.  The three papers we discussed were: 'Generational Differences in Work-Related Attitudes: A Meta-analysis', published in 2012 in the Journal of Business and Psychology.  'Another Nail in the Coffin for Learning Styles? Disparities among Undergraduate Anatomy Students' Study Strategies, Class Performance, and Reported VARK Learning Styles', published in 2018 in Anatomical Sciences Education.  'Revisiting the Marshmallow Test: A Conceptual Replication Investigating Links Between Early Delay of Gratification and Later Outcomes', published in Psychological Science in 2018.  The Atlantic did a good write-up of the controversy surrounding the 'Marshmallow Experiment'. See here: https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/06/marshmallow-test/561779/  In ‘What I Learned This Week', Ross Garner mentioned a Twitter thread from Aaron Berman, in which he shares writing tips from his time as editor of the US President's daily brief: https://twitter.com/aarondberman/status/1541576231891525633?s=21&t=1_oHB0tqjbt4VXZXmTMnXQ  Jane spoke about Kate the Chemist's recent session at DevLearn. To find out more about Kate, visit her website: https://www.katethechemist.com/  Ross Dickie recommended the technology podcast ‘Hard Fork' from the New York Times. You can find it wherever you get your podcasts, or through the NYT website: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/10/04/podcasts/hard-fork-technology.html  To find out more about Jane's work at the Learning Guild, see: https://www.learningguild.com/  For more from us, including access to our back catalogue of podcasts, visit mindtoolsbusiness.com. There, you'll also find details of our award-winning performance support toolkit, our off-the-shelf e-learning, and our custom work.     Connect with our speakers     If you'd like to share your thoughts on this episode, connect with our speakers on Twitter:      Ross Garner - @RossGarnerMT  Ross Dickie - @RossDickieMT  Dr Jane Bozarth - @JaneBozarth 

Access the FREE training - www.rebuiltrecovery.com/vision   In episode 122 of The Rebuilt Man, Coach Frank Rich discusses how the ability to delay gratification is the number one indicator of success in any area of life. This applies to health, fitness, income, savings, relationships, and overcoming addiction. The Marshmallow Test conducted in 1970 showed that children who were able to delay gratification performed better in school, had higher test scores, and went on to earn more money. To develop delayed gratification, it is important to have a clear plan for the future, practice fasting from food, and learn to say no in daily life.   Takeaways The ability to delay gratification is crucial for success in all areas of life.   Having a clear plan for the future helps in making choices that align with long-term goals.   Practicing fasting from food and saying no in daily life can help develop delayed gratification.   The Marshmallow Test showed that children who could delay gratification performed better in school and had higher incomes later in life. Access the FREE training - www.rebuiltrecovery.com/vision   – Follow Coach Frank: IG - https://www.instagram.com/coachfrankrich   YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@CoachFrankRich   Website - https://www.rebuiltrecovery.com/homepage

Justin Brock is a Husband, Father, Marine Corps Veteran, Company Founder with 70,000,000 dollars Exit Value, and a firm believer in the power of a team with positive momentum! Top 3 Value Bombs 1. Get to run through walls, get some revenue flowing and begin to build around on that. 2. Getting the right person where you can build a culture around and finding somebody who is smart, hungry to learn and humble is very important. 3. Gratification is finding success and sharing it with other people. Connect with Justin on Instagram - Justin's Instagram Sponsors HubSpot Grow better, faster with HubSpot's all-in-one intuitive customer platform. Visit HubSpot.com to learn more ThriveTime Show Attend the world's highest rated and most reviewed business growth workshop taught personally by Clay Clark and football great Tim Tebow at ThriveTimeShow.com/eofire

Justin Brock is a Husband, Father, Marine Corps Veteran, Company Founder with 70,000,000 dollars Exit Value, and a firm believer in the power of a team with positive momentum! Top 3 Value Bombs 1. Get to run through walls, get some revenue flowing and begin to build around on that. 2. Getting the right person where you can build a culture around and finding somebody who is smart, hungry to learn and humble is very important. 3. Gratification is finding success and sharing it with other people. Connect with Justin on Instagram - Justin's Instagram Sponsors HubSpot Grow better, faster with HubSpot's all-in-one intuitive customer platform. Visit HubSpot.com to learn more ThriveTime Show Attend the world's highest rated and most reviewed business growth workshop taught personally by Clay Clark and football great Tim Tebow at ThriveTimeShow.com/eofire

In this episode of the Business by Referral Podcast, the host dives deep into the powerful blend of relationships and technology in fueling business growth, featuring the dynamic entrepreneur, Shafqat Huq. Together, they explore how building genuine, organic relationships through networking can be a game-changer for any business. Shafqat opens up about his own journey—starting as a high school entrepreneur and evolving into a serial entrepreneur running multiple successful ventures, including a standout marketing agency and a thriving consulting firm. The conversation touches on the role of technology in streamlining business processes and shares actionable strategies for acquiring and nurturing clients. Shafqat offers a wealth of knowledge on setting meaningful goals, overcoming networking challenges, and leveraging tools like GoHighLevel to supercharge business operations. Whether you're just starting out or looking to refine your approach, this episode is packed with insights that will help you grow your business authentically and effectively.   00:00 Introduction and Catching Up 00:22 Discussing LinkedIn Photo and Form 02:25 Podcast Experience and Title Discussion 03:29 Technical Issues and Internet Challenges 06:12 Starting the Podcast: Guest Introduction 09:55 Entrepreneurial Journey: High School to Wealth Management 11:20 Fest Friends: The Music Festival Marketplace 13:11 Transition to Tech and Consulting 14:04 Marketing Strategy and GoHighLevel Platform 21:34 Challenges of Technology Adoption for Midlife Entrepreneurs 24:54 Applying New Skills After Training 25:18 The Gratification of Self-Sufficiency 26:58 Networking and Relationship Building 28:34 Challenges in Networking 29:50 The Five P Process 36:51 Leveraging Technology for Business Growth 39:44 The Power of Referrals and Networking 45:33 Advice for Building Relationships 49:34 The Long-Term Benefits of Networking 51:24 Conclusion and Final Thoughts   Connect with Shafqat Huq ⬇️⬇️⬇️ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shafhuq07/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shafqathuq/?hl=en  Twitter: https://x.com/shafqathuq  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shafqathuq  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sshuq/  Website: https://www.shafqathuq.com/    Connect with Virginia: https://www.bbrpodcast.com/

A limited reading selection often leads to delightful serendipity, and today Anne's chatting with a guest who has had just that experience. Rachel Elaine Martens and her family recently lived in Budapest for a year. During this time, Rachel Elaine had access to her U.S. library's virtual collection, but she also made use of a small shelf of left-behind books in the house she was staying in. Now that she's back home in Missouri with a broader selection of choices, she'd like to keep that serendipitous flair while also inviting more of an intentional flow into her book selections. Rachel Elaine enjoys picking up her latest library discovery, but she'd love to discern a clearer arc to her reading selections and feel less whiplash from constantly jumping between genres that feel like they have nothing in common other than coming up on her library holds list. Rachel Elaine has a definite preference for backlist books, too, and today Anne suggests titles to create the intentional reading experience Rachel Elaine's seeking. Find the full list of titles mentioned in today's episode at our show notes page, whatshouldireadnextpodcast.com/443. Ready for even more great reading? Join us on Wednesday, September 18th at 8:30 p.m. Eastern time for our sixth annual Fall Book Preview. During this live event, we will walk through some of the most anticipated titles of the fall season, including the books Anne has read and loved, and the titles she can't wait to read. Members of our Patreon community and our Modern Mrs. Darcy Book Club are invited to join us: this event is a perk of membership in those communities. Our Fall Book Preview is also available a la carte for those that just want to join us for this one event. Find out more and sign up at modernmrsdarcy.com/fbp. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Instant gratification is fleeting...the only way to get that fulfillment you're looking for is DELAYED gratification. Putting in the effort and reaping the rewards. This is why patience is so important. It's required for fulfillment and true success. So stop giving up what you want most for what you want today.Join the Real Men, Real Conversations broadcast group on InstagramGet my FREE guide with 45 Days of Simple Tips to Become a Better ManCheck out my men's coaching group We Are The TheyPick up my USA Today bestselling book Be One: How to Be a Healthy Man in Toxic Times

In our frantic, fast-paced world, where instant access to everything is just a click away, the idea of delaying gratification might seem outdated and even, counterintuitive. You and I live in a culture that celebrates the now; quick wins, fast food, magic pills, quick fixes, two-minute abs and instant results. The case for instant gratification is indeed a compelling one, if you pay attention to those care only about your money, and not about your well-being (brands and business trying to sell you shit). But the truth is, when it comes to building a better life and a better version of you in the middle of that life, the practice of exercising restraint, living consciously and delaying gratification is possibly the most important  you can do.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

[PART 1] Ever found yourself putting off important tasks because you believe "future you" will handle it better? We discuss how our brains prioritize immediate gratification over long-term goals, and share practical tips to overcome this tendency.

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As an eco-conscious global citizen, Caroline Morrison's ultra environmentally-forward Californian upbringing informed her foray into entrepreneurship in the French capital by way of Landline, a general supplies store. Determined to leverage her own long-held beliefs about sustainability and positive change, she created a space that allows people to enjoy a bit of retail therapy through an experience focused on conscious consumption. A place where people can invest in well-made household products, toys, clothing, and many other objects, she built a community where the concept is about buying better and less. Caroline explains the importance in creating a shop that is accessible and relatable, while also presenting utilitarian, well-crafted products all made in Europe, to inspire better consumption habits for her customers. She believes that everyone can make positive change on their own micro level by making an effort in how they consume everyday goods. Mentioned in this episode: Landline Landline on IG Have thoughts or comments to share? Feel free to reach out to MAREDI Design at hello@maredi-design.com

“Instant gratification takes too long.” – Carrie Fisher This quote reminds us that we must work for what we want, it doesn't just come or is given to us. MeredithSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Melissa Hiemann had her ‘awakening' back in 2014 when she realized after years of avoiding her traumas through addictions and instant gratification, she was repeating bad behaviors and avoiding the root cause of her pain.  ⁣ Nearly failing out of school and focusing on limited beliefs, she realized something had to give. ⁣ ⁣ That wake-up call lead her on a new path of discovery and inner healing. Now, through her Centre for Healing, she's helping others find their future peace today, by raising consciousness through manifesting and being trauma-informed.⁣ ⁣ On this episode of HIListically Speaking, we get to the root of what's holding you back and weighing you down, discover different energetic hygiene approaches and pave the way for abundant living.  ⁣ ⁣DOWNLOAD AND TUNE IN TO THIS CONVERSATION ON ANY PODCAST PLATFORM OR YOUTUBE! ⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/podcast ⁣ https://www.youtube.com/hilaryrusso⁣ ⁣ CHAPTERS/KEY MOMENTS⁣ 00:00 Intro and Your Future Peace⁣ 01:47  Root Cause of Addictions  and instant gratification⁣ 09:15 Unexpected Journey and Finding Purpose ⁣ 11:38  Maintaining Energetic Hygiene for Practitioners⁣ 14:10 Importance of Professionalism and Self-Care⁣ 19:13  Setting Boundaries and Self-Care in Work⁣ 22:35 Importance of Trauma-Informed Certification ⁣ 30:00 Rapid Fire Game⁣ 32:58 Healing Generational Trauma and Self-Regulation⁣ 36:24 Trauma-Informed Healing Resources ⁣ ⁣CONNECT WITH MELISSA⁣ https://www.facebook.com/groups/thecentreforhealing ⁣ https://www.instagram.com/thecentreforhealing/⁣ https://www.youtube.com/@thecentreforhealing⁣ https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissahiemann/⁣ GRAB HER BOOK ON AMAZON!⁣Natural High: Secrets to Overcoming Instant Gratification and Finding Inner Peace  https://amzn.to/3yPTwxR⁣⁣ CENTER FOR HEALING COURSES⁣ (Use code HILARY for a 10% discount on any course)  https://www.thecentreforhealing.com/a/43957/58GLXrgy ⁣ PUT THE HEALING IN YOUR HANDS WITH HAVENING ⁣https://www.hilaryrusso.com/havening⁣⁣ CONNECT WITH HILARY⁣ https://www.instagram.com/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.youtube.com/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.facebook.com/hilisticallyspeaking⁣ https://www.tiktok.com/@hilisticallyspeaking⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/podcast⁣ Music by Lipbone Redding https://lipbone.com/⁣ TRANSCRIPT⁣ 00:07 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ A lot of people. They reach out for things outside of themselves to try and feel okay, to try and feel safe in their body, and so those can be instant things like addictions, like I had shopping addictions. I had heroin, marijuana, alcohol, cigarettes, anything I could do in the moment to not feel how I was feeling. I was just jumping to it because I didn't know how to escape how I was feeling in the moment and so when I had those things I felt good for a little bit. But what happens is you ruin your future peace. ⁣ ⁣ 00:40 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ Let's get to the root cause Now. I know that that term is thrown around a lot right, root cause? And in the world of functional medicine and holistic medicine, it's about going beyond the diagnosis or the surface, or really getting to the heart of things, the soul of what is holding you back and weighing you down. One of the things I love about HIListically Speaking is having guests come on the show who are experts in their field, but they share their own journeys, right. They're getting to their own root cause, their soul, and turning their own traumas into triumphs. ⁣ ⁣ 01:17⁣ Melissa Hiemann she has been on her own awakening journey and she started that back in 2014. And, melissa, you nearly failed out of school. You struggled with addictions addictions and I use that with an S on the end and from those traumas you learned how to heal your limiting beliefs and now, as a therapist, you help others do that every day. It is such a pleasure to have you here and being really open to talk about the root cause and how we can change those traumas into triumphs. Thanks for being here. ⁣ ⁣ 01:48⁣ Thank you so much for having me on. It's a pleasure. I want to really talk about the root cause of things, because we haven't covered that topic, but also the fact that you have dealt with numerous addictions, not just one. I've had people come on the show talking about one thing, but it goes back to this book that you wrote called Natural High Secrets to Overcoming Instant Gratification and then Finding the Inner Peace. So can we go there? First, because I think in this world of instant gratification, which we get that from the internet, we get that from different addictions and the internet can be one of them. Now we get that from different addictions and the internet can be one of them. Now, how are you working with people in this area from your own experiences? ⁣ ⁣ 02:30 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ Yeah, sure. So yeah, from my own experience of overcoming my addictions and going on my own healing journey, as you mentioned, I came to realize I wasn't willing to sit in my body with how I was feeling. And so an outcome of that and a symptom of that, is that either we jump up into our head, we try and intellectualize everything and also we try to numb out how we're feeling, because essentially we're all trying to feel good, right, we're all trying to feel peaceful and happy and like, obviously. And so when we don't feel like that and if we don't have the tools for several root cause reasons, if we don't have the tools to soothe ourselves, if we don't have the tools to feel our emotions, we don't feel safe to feel our emotions, then a lot of people they reach out for things outside of themselves to try and feel okay, to try and feel safe in their body, and so those can be instant things like addictions. ⁣ ⁣ 03:28⁣ Like I had shopping addictions. I had heroin, marijuana, alcohol, cigarettes, anything I could do in the moment to not feel how I was feeling. I was just jumping to it because I didn't know how to escape how I was feeling in the moment. And so when I had those things. I felt good for a little bit, you know, but what happens is you ruin your future peace because I've just spent all my money, I've just I've got to hang over the next day, I've taken away from my future self feeling okay, because I wanted that instant gratification, I wanted to feel better now, and I didn't know, I didn't have the tools to know how to do that, and so that took me on a huge journey of then discovering how to heal, to feel my emotions, to be able to process them, to be able to not project it onto everyone else. And then, yeah, this whole journey took me through a lot of modalities and it took me to wanting to help others and give this really valuable information to others that are struggling or they have family members that are struggling. ⁣ ⁣ 04:36 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ Yeah, you mentioned. You didn't want it to ruin your future peace. That hit me. You didn't want it to ruin your future peace. That hit me. You didn't want it to ruin your future peace. So there was a wake up call, apparently. What was that about? ⁣ ⁣ 04:51 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ Oh my gosh. So the wake up call I was sitting in my little apartment on the beach and I had my sports car and I had my corporate job and you know, externally my life looked amazing. But in, in reality, I was in that little apartment because I had left my abusive relationship. I had been with someone else to help myself leave that relationship because I was so insecure. And I remember the day that I moved, the other guy was like I can't do this. ⁣ ⁣ 05:19⁣ And I remember sitting there like so depressed and so sad, looking out at the water, thinking maybe I'm the lowest common denominator here, like why does this keep happening? You know, and I had no awareness I had, I was just, you know, blaming everyone else. I was like the whim of everyone else and I was like I think I need to get help, like and at that point maybe I had seen a counselor once. I was all about just like being positive, making sure I look good on the outside and kind of just pushing, sucking it up and pushing it through and and, and you know, part of that was I was probably looking at the water, drinking or whatever I was doing, and I that's the first time I reached out for for help, because I was like again I, that I probably have a part in this more than I realize and, and maybe you know, and I well, that's the wake up call, right? ⁣ ⁣ 06:12 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ I mean part of that is the awareness. The first step to any change is awareness and to be able to sit back and be like perhaps this is something that I need to take responsibility for and stop blaming everything outside of self. ⁣ ⁣ 06:26 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ Exactly that. Yeah, that was huge yeah. ⁣ ⁣ 06:30 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ Yeah, and maybe, maybe blame isn't the right word because then we're just shaming ourselves, but just taking accountability and responsibility that you want to have a better future right as you. Better future peace. Yeah that what's not working. Maybe I'm part of not seeing what could be working, so how did that lead you to the work that you're doing now, and especially the root cause therapy method? ⁣ ⁣ 06:54 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ Yeah, so yeah, this would be like 2013,. 2014 I'm talking about. So it was quite a while ago, but I did. I, I, a friend, had um come over and he was like you should contact this other guy. He's like into this life coaching or something. Now I'm like sure I'll message him and have a chat, you know. ⁣ ⁣ 07:12⁣ Anyway, I organized a session and it wasn't just a chat, it was a deeply transformational regression, inner child healing experience, and I walked out just never the same person again, just becoming conscious of my subconscious, of my unconscious, of these patterns that were playing out in the background. Because, honestly, I thought yesterday and the past was just in the past I didn't realize it was still playing out in the now. I had no awareness of that. And so when I walked out of that session, I was like wow. And I remember two weeks later he's like I'm running a course, I'm training people in it, and at the time I was in a sales job because I knew I wanted a business. I just didn't know what kind. I'm like I need to learn sales. So I remember doing that course and halfway through it hit me like a lightning bolt. I don't know for those of you that you just found your purpose in the middle of something. It literally felt like a lightning bolt went through my body, yes, and I was like this is what I'm meant to be doing. I'm meant to be helping people get out of their own way. ⁣ ⁣ 08:17⁣ And I remember just healing like kind of one limiting belief, this fear of failure and I had been working on a business in the background like a jewelry business for a year and in healing that one belief, within two weeks I had finished designing the product, got it in production, started like selling it like so quickly and I'm like, oh my gosh, people just get in their own way. I was just getting in my own way, like I need to help people get out of their own way as well, like I, honestly, I grew up thinking that I was dumb and I grew up thinking that I couldn't learn like other people and there was something wrong with me. But actually I was just disassociated because I didn't feel safe growing up. There was quite a bit of trauma and I took on the beliefs that people told me. ⁣ ⁣ 08:56⁣ So starting to shift them, starting to feel my emotions, starting to become aware of my behaviors, that I was doing to try and escape how I was feeling Like it just opened up a whole new world for me. So I became certified as soon as I could and I just did not stop studying. All of a sudden I was a bookworm. All of a sudden I cut out half the people in my life and I'm just like surrounded by books and videos and like I'm like, give me more, you know. And that's kind of where it started, yeah. ⁣ ⁣ 09:27 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ Yeah, it's amazing how we can look back on where we were five years ago, 10 years ago, and think I never thought in a million years I would be doing this. You know, I think about that myself because my background being a journalist. But the traumas of being in journalism especially when you're dealing with stories from 9-11 or just traumatic conversations that moved me into this work or just stuff that we've dealt with in life, and it's kind of like a pop, right. You're like what am I doing? How can I leave this world better? Right. And then you're like I never thought I'd be doing this. But if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans. ⁣ ⁣ 10:04 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ I'd be doing this, but if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans. Yes, yeah, totally, and I think that when you start to do any kind of therapy or like healing well, you do tend to expand outside of you just being in the survival, like looking after yourself, and as you expand, you're like I want to serve people. Now, like I'm, I have this huge yearning to like heal people and help as many people as I can, and I think it's beautiful and I think it's amazing. ⁣ ⁣ 10:29⁣ whatever industry that we're in, you can just tell when people are really passionate and they're lit up and they're like on this, on this path, you know and so, yeah, I just, I just love, but I particularly love our space as well, because I'm, I know, like until I'm 100 I'll probably still find things to heal, but I'm forever expanding to be of service, you know, and then in turn, then we can pass that wisdom on to the people around us and onto our clients and the people that we're mentoring, and it's just a beautiful ripple effect. ⁣ ⁣ 11:03 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ And we don't own it. That's the thing Like everything that we effect and we don't own it. That's the thing Like everything that we're learning we don't own. So even if you're developing a course or a certification, or you're sharing a modality or an approach, or you're helping somebody else heal their traumas or upsets, we're not healing them, we're just guiding them, we're supporting them, but we don't own the process. You know, and we see a lot of people out there coaching and doing their thing, and there are many that are doing for the right reasons, and then there are some that are doing it for reasons that are not so beneficial of the person they are serving. So how do you differentiate yourself? To make sure people know I'm coming from an authentic space yourself, to make sure? ⁣ ⁣ 11:44 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ people know I'm coming from an authentic space. Yeah, definitely. So that's something that I found out of my training. I kind of went into a session going OK, obviously I want to make money and things like that. But I was like I've been given a bunch of tools what is the protocol here to actually run a really effective session? So my clients are getting so much out of it. ⁣ ⁣ 12:04⁣ Because my first few sessions I was like I look back and I think that could have gone so much better, like obviously we're always learning and things like that. But I had to put it, structure it together myself, and so one of like a part of my mission is to help as many people that are healers and therapists to do what they love full time, and a part of that was to go what did I actually need when I got training to run the best sessions that I can? So my clients are walking away. They know they got something out of it, because this work can be really intangible, like I think I feel better, you know, and that can be like talk therapy, like oh, I think I feel better, I think I feel worse, I don't know. I'm kind of walking around on the surface, and so what I did was I created this structure for not only for clients but for the practitioners to feel really confident, to be able to run a really holistic session looking at the whole person and then to be able to find the root cause through this structure and then. ⁣ ⁣ 13:00⁣ So my path is like international business freight, like it was completely different, but what I got out of that was that I was really good at in terms of collecting data and looking at data changes. So what I did was I was like, as a practitioner and as a client, for you to see the exact changes that have happened over each session. So we call it the testing sheet and we can actually see, with the client's feedback, including muscle testing, including just how they're feeling and and, somatically, what's coming up for them. We can see and manage the priorities of what we can work on in each session and what has actually been shifted, like we actually have data from each session and so we can actually show the client or tell the client and actually prioritize what's best to work on. What have we already worked through? Um, and so that's kind of like the, the heart of root cause therapy. ⁣ ⁣ 13:51⁣ It's like making it a much more tangible process and looking at someone on all levels of consciousness, their conscious mind their subconscious, their physical body, their mental body, um, and so yeah, it's a, it's that, and that's not including the actual healing part of it, the actual going to the root cause. But that's such an important piece because I really want more professionalism in the space. I wanted people to know that they were safe with their practitioner. So, like in my training there's a lot of training around like that, how to manage your clients properly like I've had coaching sessions where they're just like here's a calendar link, like there's no intake form, there's no like proper structure, like oh yeah, like they might email you after, like no, I want this to be a really safe container where we know I'm with someone that knows what they're doing. We teach the method, but we also teach the business side of that to be really ethical and really give that credibility. ⁣ ⁣ 14:50 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ I love that we're touching on this area of how to serve the practitioner and the coach. I mean, I was just telling you when we were before we pressed record that I just finished doing a two-day conference where I was emcee and also presenting to healers, to healers, coaches, practitioners, because we're really the first ones to not think about taking care of ourselves. And one of the areas that I focus on a lot is secondary traumatic stress, because we think it's burnout, we think we're just overwhelmed and rarely, when you're doing trauma work especially, you don't realize that you might be just like a sponge. You're taking in some of what you're hearing, some of what another person's trauma is that primary duress right. So we need more conversations like this, especially for practitioners, caregivers, coaches, therapists, doctors that yes, you are in service to others, but how beautiful is it that you are taking care of yourself so that you can show up 100% for someone else and stop putting yourself on the back burner, you know. ⁣ ⁣ 15:52 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ Absolutely, I mean so. ⁣ ⁣ 15:54⁣ My partner and I in 2016 opened an outpatient mental health and addiction center, so we were not only dealing and helping people with their addictions, but also we would include their their main family members or their partner, whoever was mainly their person and so there was a lot of that and we were working 12 hour days and I remember this older lady that, um, we had like infranutrition things and she was like you guys need to get massages, you guys need to slow down, like you can't, like people need you, and at the time I was like, whatever, I was like I'm fine, and we were just pushing through and working crazy hours and managing all the staff and like, obviously like dealing with inquiries and hearing all the stories and doing the healing. So we're like, yeah, like you said, like secondary trauma, witnessing with the client the traumas that they went through, like in some of them, you know, obviously horrific, and like kind of processing that and doing our own work at the same time. And yeah, and we did, we got to the point after like four and a half years where, like after I had a child as well, after I had a baby, that changed my priority of like looking after myself and having time. And that's why we kind of shifted over to teaching online courses, not only being able to help more people around the world, but to actually look after ourselves a little bit. Because it was, it was, yeah, I was getting to the point of burnout and I was getting sick a lot and I was dysregulated, like sometimes I was getting really angry and really frustrated and and that's like not the approach that I want to have. ⁣ ⁣ 17:30⁣ I'm the center for healing, like we're meant to be baseball and I'm like we need to practice what we preach here. So I so resonate with that and, yeah, part of like the training for our students is that energetic hygiene, you know, energetically, like before a session, grounding yourself, being able to hold space for them, an empathetic space, but not trying to take on what's coming up and letting the client process it and, like you said, being a guide. And then, after a session, like little things, like just getting doing your notes, just like getting it out, so you're not thinking about it for days after, having your own little ritual to help clear the space. And it might be also little things like increasing your prices a little bit so you have less clients. So there's so many little elements that you can do to find that that work-life balance because the work is is so important like the world needs us. So, yeah, like you said, we do need to make sure that our cup is full so then we don't have empathy, burnout and things like that so important. ⁣ ⁣ 18:31 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ Energetic hygiene. Energetic hygiene, that is a great way of putting it. So let's talk about some of those energetic hygiene approaches that we can do for those who are in the caregiving practitioner doctors, therapists, you know what, anyone because it doesn't matter what your, what field you're in, you're always going to be hearing other people's stuff right, whether you do it for a living or not. So let's go through maybe like five things people can do. You just mentioned a couple. You mentioned saying yes to that massage, doing your notes right away, doing a little self care right, doing the notes right away rather than waiting. Name a couple others. I'm curious. ⁣ ⁣ 19:13 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ Yeah, so other things would be well, like I said, just increasing your prices a little bit, just so that, and not feeling bad about that. I mean some people like to do a sliding scale, which means sometimes you charge certain demographics one price, but I found that I just I had to do that to honor my time and that allowed me to have like a couple of hours in the day to chill and watch Netflix or just that's self-care, to chill and watch Netflix or just that's self-care. ⁣ ⁣ 19:40⁣ That is self-care especially for those of us that, like we're always like I need you to be doing something with work, like no, you can be a normal person as well and just like binge a little bit, and that's fine. You know, on your favorite show and the other things I would say is that and this is a word that gets thrown around so much with boundaries but just getting really clear on what works for you in terms of maybe there's only certain times of the day where you have the most energy, like the best energy. So for some people it might be 4pm onwards, so that's fine. Make your availability 4pm onwards, and why I say boundaries? Because some of us go. Your availability 4p onwards. And why I say boundaries? Because some of us go. ⁣ ⁣ 20:23⁣ Well, I just need to be available when clients need me, so I'm going to jump on it anytime, even if it doesn't suit my I know, like when I have good energy and not good energy, and so honoring that and holding to that and not being scared that they're not going to book with you or not being scared that you're not going to make enough money because of that. If you really like, own that and go. No, these are. I only work Thursday, friday and Saturday um for consultations. Whatever industry that you're in, try your best to make it suit how you work, because otherwise you will get burnt out and you will get resentful and I think that does come through um with whatever you're doing to the clients as well. So that's super important. And I did touch on ritual a little bit and it depends how woo-woo you are, how spiritual you are. But you know I've got stuff like this space clearing spray. You know that I just spray around me. I like to smell some essential oil to kind of ground me. ⁣ ⁣ 21:21⁣ Sometimes I'm like I just need to go outside and just be near a tree or something like I just and just grounding grounding and I would say the number one thing and we do offer supervision in our courses is that have someone that you can talk to about your sessions, to decompress and just to debrief. We were really lucky at the Healing Center because all our officers were near each other like, oh my God, I want to tell you about the session, blah, blah, blah. We were able to debrief, but it's not so easy, especially with client confidentiality. You don't want to just like tell your partner about your whole client's session. So having someone that, whether they're a co-worker, like someone that is doing the same method as you. ⁣ ⁣ 22:04⁣ It could be someone that is your trainer or someone that you've hired as a mentor, someone that you can just go blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, like this or I got triggered, or you know cause. We're going to get triggered as well, you know, in sessions, and I think if you've got someone to bounce that off, that's so important for your own mental health and to get it out. ⁣ ⁣ 22:26 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ Everything you said is like, so on point, because you know we want to serve, we want to help, we want to help people heal, and rarely are we thinking about what we can do. ⁣ ⁣ 22:35⁣ But also having that one person who's in a similar field, that understands, rather than unloading it on your partner or unloading it on you know a friend who's kind of like I don't know what you're talking about, and not breaking confidentiality, but doing it within the walls of your, your therapeutic center, or if you work at a place or you just know, like I have a mentor that I go to, I have my other practitioners, and having that just to be like, how do you feel about this? You need that, we all need that, you know. So that's really important. I think those are really good tips, especially when we're doing trauma work, and I want to talk to you briefly about that, because you do offer a trauma informed certification and there are a lot of certifications out there. So what makes your trauma-informed certification different from the copious other ones that are out there, the myriad of courses that call you trauma-informed? ⁣ ⁣ 23:34 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ Yeah, sure. So originally, as I was watching the industry change and a lot of coaches coming into the industry and myself just having the awareness of blending therapy and coaching, I'm like I have the sense that a lot of people are being held space for, but I feel like with coaching, there's not much awareness of trauma or reactions of trauma that people are having or when a client is having a trauma response, and, as a coach, often people are trying to push them through that, which can cause them to shut down or get depressed or become burnt out. And so, as I watch the industry rapidly grow, I said to my partner and another trainer that we have on, like you guys need to make a trauma-informed certificate, like for these coaches, like it's super important. So they, they did it, they create, they recorded it and everything and we started selling it and I just I just had this feeling I'm like it's not. It was a very affordable price and everything. I'm like it's not, it's not reaching enough people, it's not, and it's not reaching enough people, it's not. ⁣ ⁣ 24:45⁣ And and we're doing quite well with our other courses. I know you guys put a lot of effort into this and it's an incredible course, but do you mind making it free. And they were like what? And I'm like, trust me, trust me, trust me. They're like, okay, I'm like we need to make a positive ripple effect in the industry. And so they were like, okay, like they're just trusting me again, and it absolutely blew up. So to date, I think about 70,000 people have enrolled in this course and literally because I see the comments every day, so in our courses you can do comments under each lesson and we're there and we're answering questions and things like that, and the testimonial is like this is the best course on being trauma-informed in the world. I've done a psychology degree. This is the best education that I've ever had. ⁣ ⁣ 25:31⁣ This is, and so people taking it that are either managers, parents, teachers, so it's not just for coaches, it's for anyone that is holding space to other people in any capacity, and so many people go through it for themselves as well, and so the main kind of points that are in there that people get out of it is understanding the nervous system, understanding the reactions of the nervous system, understanding how to hold space for someone by regulating yourself, to be able to hold a safe space for whoever you're holding the space for, and to recognize when someone is having a trauma response and how to navigate that and how to help them around that. ⁣ ⁣ 26:13⁣ And I think you know one of my old friends she was and I'm talking 15 years ago became a school teacher and she would like complain about some kid that had ADHD and she would be quite negative about it and be like, oh, I kind of would have a go at them, see if they do this course they would have a huge understanding of oh, this is actually the reaction that they're having because of what they've been through. And these are the things that I can do to help this student to feel safer, to learn and to hold and to be able to understand. Okay, what can we adjust to make it a safer experience for them? ⁣ ⁣ 26:48⁣ So they're not having these behavioral reactions. But it comes to anyone really like why do we have these behavioral reactions? What do they actually mean? You know, and yeah, so. ⁣ ⁣ 27:00 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ Well, I think it's amazing that you're offering it for free and I just want to let folks know that I'm going to have that link in the notes of this podcast for Melissa's certification. This is a trauma informed certification or even the other short, free educational courses that you do offer. We'll have that all in the podcast notes for the Center for Healing. That's so generous and honestly to be able to give that gift to people even if they don't need the certification. ⁣ ⁣ 27:29⁣ The knowledge is really helpful, whether you are in the field of therapy or coaching, like you said, teachers I know plenty of lawyers and people that are in the legal that are hearing the stories from the narcissist, and I mean the battle back and forth is traumatic in a lot of ways and there are a lot of lawyers that are getting sort of certifications in narcissism, trauma, informed approaches, just so they know how to NLP, you know learning the language of what's coming at you. So all of this is so helpful. I mean more education is great as long as it's authentic and comes with some kind of a backing. ⁣ ⁣ 28:10 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ So absolutely and the the way that the that Matt and Ryan teacher is. It's so digestible, like you don't have to have the technical knowledge of, like the coaching industry or NLP or as a therapist, like it's so or science exactly. It's like, oh my gosh, like everything that I've learned has clicked in. ⁣ ⁣ 28:31⁣ You know, and um, and, and people enjoy watching it and I'm just so I'm so grateful for Matt and Ryan that they were like yes, make this a free, because I truly believe if everyone becomes trauma informed, we are going to have a better world, because we're going to realize I'm raging and I'm angry, because actually I'm feeling scared and dysregulated about this because potentially I'm getting triggered because of this. ⁣ ⁣ 28:56⁣ So, rather than attacking someone all of a sudden, we've had this huge awareness about ourselves and we're able to calm down and then have a conversation with someone that we need to have a conversation with, rather than attacking each other, abusing each other, cutting each other off, like just basic human behavior, like having that understanding that all of us I don't want to say all of us have experienced extreme trauma, but all of us have. I don't want to say all of us have experienced extreme trauma, but all of us have probably had painful experiences of probably getting triggered now by each other and by circumstances. That, yeah, if we're to have that awareness, understanding ourselves and others, it's going to be a much more peaceful, communicative society. I really believe that. Yes absolutely. ⁣ ⁣ 29:41 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ I couldn't agree more. And it's a question of learning how to respond instead of react. You know, because that that scared, that scared creature that we have in the little amygdala up there, little Amy, that gets scared and doesn't feel safe if she's gonna, if she's backed against a corner, it's all hell breaks loose. You know, yeah, so it's definitely understanding that that's great, it's such a beautiful offering and just everything that you're doing. So, before we actually wrap things up because I know you've got things that you need to do, you got a full day ahead of you in Australia I would love to play a little game with you, real quick, sure, and what I'm going to do is I'm going to throw out a word and you just come back with the first word that comes to mind. Let's get things going with the get you get you moving on your day ahead. You'll thank thank me for it later. All right, one word, here we go. Transformational Recalcerapy Okay, okay. Healing. ⁣ ⁣ 30:44⁣ In a child Peace neutrality practitioner space holder boundaries self-care addiction self-soothing energetic hygiene. ⁣ ⁣ 31:11 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ I know it's two words, but I just really love that I'm going to say the word you already said, but boundaries Okay. ⁣ ⁣ 31:20 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ And self-care, and that's one word, because it's hyphenated. ⁣ ⁣ 31:25 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ Yes, self-love Beliefs. ⁣ ⁣ 31:33 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ Generalizations Good. ⁣ ⁣ 31:34 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ Gratification, I want to say painful emotions, which is the opposite of gratification. But I feel like it's okay. We're trying to gratify ourselves so we don't feel the painful emotions. ⁣ ⁣ 31:47 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ Now I'm going to give you one more word. I got to keep going. One more Root cause one more root cause. ⁣ ⁣ 31:56 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ The word that comes to mind is dna, just because I've had a lot of clients with generational trauma at the moment. ⁣ ⁣ 32:03 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ Yeah, that's a. That's a big topic yeah we didn't even really get into that. I know you mentioned it a little bit going back to the inner child, but that generational trauma and holding space for ourselves with the ancestral trauma, what would you say to those tuning in about being able to process that and be open to the idea of generational trauma? ⁣ ⁣ 32:29 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ so you can look at the cherry blossom study. There's a study that's been done on how generational trauma can get passed down, not only by us hearing stories that have happened to our ancestors, but actually we live out the symptoms in our dna. So some people will have symptoms and behaviors that they don't understand why they're having them and it doesn't make sense their reactions that they're having to the life that they've had, and sometimes the trauma has been passed down generationally. And so I have taken people into regression and I myself have gone into regression where I was in my grandmother, where she couldn't feed her kids and my mom was only little and I felt how she felt and I saw the rice on the table and that's all she had for them. This is in Sri Lanka, in a village rice on the table and that's all she had for them. This is in Sri Lanka, in a village, and I and and the behaviors that I had previous to understanding that was like I would hate to go to a restaurant. ⁣ ⁣ 33:22⁣ I always looked at the food and I always used to think there's not enough food. I can't eat this restaurant food. They're wasting so much food. There's not enough food. I couldn't go to a supermarket. I had all these weird behaviors that were unexplainable, but once I went to that and healed that, that shifted all of that. Now I'm happy to go to a restaurant and I believe there's an abundance of food and so, yes, it's very those of us that are willing to do the work. ⁣ ⁣ 33:49 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ We're often healing generations of trauma from both sides our mother and father's ancestry you know, so it's yeah I remember when I first went through trauma informed, my trauma, informed certification I really opened up and I was like and I don't know where it came from it, just like it was, like I just vomited all of this generational trauma and the feeling that I had in my body that I had not felt before. ⁣ ⁣ 34:14⁣ And I remember calling my mom after saying it ends now, like it ends today. And I had already been doing this work for a while, but something about something hit me hard with that program where I went really deep into the generational trauma and I was like, oh no, like it ends, it ends today, it ends here, with this lineage, right here. And that's really an awareness, it's stepping into the tension of the unknown and realizing you have a couple of choices. You can go forward, right, you can retreat and nothing changes. If nothing changes, you can try to go around it without dealing with it or try to go over it, but you'll get kicked back. So it's really just like diving through it, you know. ⁣ ⁣ 34:56 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ A hundred percent yeah. ⁣ ⁣ 34:59 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ Wow, Good stuff. Melissa, thank you so much for being here and I want to give you a moment because we got off track after the. Well, we got on a good track, but we changed gears after the rapid fire game. ⁣ ⁣ 35:23 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ I'm curious do you have any final words that you'd like to share with those tuning in? Yeah, I'd just like to say that, if anything, start to feel into your body, more into your feelings, and stop intellectualizing them so much. And it's safe to feel your negative emotions and they do go if you fully feel them and breathe into them. They do go after 60 to 90 seconds and I think that would save so many people's lives just by doing that. Just by doing that, your relationships, your health, the way you look after yourself. That's a really great first step to take. ⁣ ⁣ 35:50 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ Yeah, like, is it a bad day or is it just a bad five minutes? Right, we tend to just like catastrophize everything to make it like life is horrible, and it's like is life horrible or is it really just like in this moment, right now, you're really ticked off, right yeah, but that's great. Just give yourself a chance to self-regulate. You know we have that power and it's beautiful when we know we have it, because then we're just more empowered. ⁣ ⁣ 36:15 - Melissa Hiemann (Guest)⁣ Definitely. Thanks so much. Thank you, it's been my honor to be on. Thank you so much. ⁣ ⁣ 36:23 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ Might as well. All right, I want you to take advantage of Melissa's trauma-informed certification and courses. She's offering a lot of free resources that you can put in your toolbox that brain candy jar that you got a lot of free resources that you can put in your toolbox that brain candy jar that you got. I'll add that in the podcast notes of this episode, along with her book Natural High Secrets to Overcoming Instant Gratification and Finding Inner Peace, plus more on her root cause therapy and the Center for Healing, and we talked a lot about ways that you can be kind to your mind during this conversation, finding ways to heal the healer in you. One way that you can do that is with Havening techniques. If you want to learn more about Havening and how it can change your brain, I dropped a link in the podcast notes as well on ways to connect with me. Remember to give this podcast and this episode a little love. Just by leaving a rating or review. You are making a difference. ⁣ ⁣ 37:14⁣ Wherever you are tuning in, we are on all podcast platforms, including Apple, Spotify, and even YouTube. I love hearing from you week after week and I appreciate all your shares HIListically Speaking is edited  2Market Media with music by Lipbone Redding and supported by you. So thank you. I appreciate you every day. I know there is a lot of podcasts that are out there. You're choosing to join me every week. It is a gift to have you here and I am truly grateful. I love you, I believe in you and I will see you next week.

Everything you ever wanted to know about ADHD...continues! WOOHOO! Go back and check out Part I, or start here to learn more about what's happening in the brain, how to use environments to cue ourselves, how debate and manufactured fights can be ways to help you focus, and more! The things that are easy, hard, and all the myths and misperceptions that exist about what is really not a deficit, but rather an abundance and variety of, attention. The second part in a series from David, who has lectured as an expert and advocate on this subject nationally, and assisted by Isabelle, who is eagerly sponging up the information. A neurodivergent and neurotypical blend of friends Christina, AJ, Gabe, and Isabelle's husband, Bobby, sit in to ask questions. (Part II of David's Lecture Series)---(Part II of David's Lecture Series) Isabelle & David welcome Isabelle's husband, Bobby, and their friends, Christina, AJ, and Gabe, to continue to listen and learn from David's tried and tested presentation on ADHD, which he normally gives to fellow clinicians (for the first part of this talk, please see episode 4, David's Lecture: All About ADHD!).  We talk about Auditory Processing Disorder (APD) which often also exists alongside ADHD; however, they are two different things. ADHD can make you more prone to distraction when you hear sounds, no APD (see definition below).  ADHD can also coexist with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). David gets nerdy about how blood flow to certain parts of our brain connects to distraction, and how our environment can also cue us to shift blood flow to the forebrain (prefrontal cortex). Gabe notes that sports served as an important accommodation. David makes the comparison that it's like having an energy bar in a video game, and if you don't use it during your day, it will become anxious rumination at night. David and Bobby get distracted by Bobby's audio equipment (or Bobby tweaking his audio settings) and David points out that being oppositional rewards us with dopamine. Debate as a dopamine booster. As a parent, how do you get out of power struggles. Talking about ADHD as too much gas (hyperactive) and too much brakes (inattentive); combined type is both, and environmentally cued (the more comfortable you are, the more gas; the less comfortable you are, the more brakes).  What about ADHD on vacation? We can get more irritable or more chill, and it can be because we have uprooted our accommodations: the structure we have in place at home that helps us get along. So we can start to manufacture structure (including undertaking vacation-only projects, getting into a predictable arguments, reading a book in a day, etc.). When we understand how ADHD impacts us (for example, starting to write a book on vacation to cleverly avoid interactions we don't want to have, plus building in structure…but not finishing because we didn't factor in the response cost of it) we can work with it.Click here for slides from David's lecture.How genetically loaded is ADHD?Pretty loaded. For more on this, check out this article in Nature (prepare for science!)On a related note, this article also points to ADHD being more of a spectrum than previously thought; as the article mentions:"Accumulating evidence from family, twin, and molecular genetic studies suggests that the disorder we know as ADHD is the extreme of a dimensional trait in the population. The dimensional nature of ADHD has wide-ranging implications. If we view ADHD as analogous to cholesterol levels, then diagnostic approaches should focus on defining the full continuum of “ADHD-traits” along with clinically meaningful thresholds for defining who does and does not need treatment and who has clinically subthreshold traits that call for careful monitoring. The dimensional nature of ADHD should also shift the debate about the increases in ADHD's prevalence in recent years. Instead of assuming that misdiagnoses are the main explanation for the increased prevalence, perhaps researchers should explore to what extent the threshold for diagnosis has decreased over time and whether changes in the threshold are clinically sensible or not.”In other words, ADHD is part of a set of traits that live along a spectrum, and since we tend to diagnose ADHD when those traits/behaviors/experiences are read as a problem, we lump it into it's own bag, when really it might turn out to be a neurodivergent branch of the same tree. And so those with ADHD can exist all along a spectrum, too! Hence: calling it attentional variability rather than a deficit.DAVID'S DEFINITIONS:Auditory Processing Disorder (APD): a hearing disorder and has to do with how the brain processes auditory information. APD can impact attention as well, but it's not ADHD. Note: ADHD can make it harder to hear certain sounds, for example a person's voice in a noisy setting, but the mechanism behind why it's hard is different than APD. Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASDs): a group of developmental differences (AKA neurodiversity or differences in the brain) that can cause increased sensitivity to stimulation, social, communication and behavioral challenges.  Prefrontal Cortex (PFC): also known as the forebrain, is a part of the brain that, through dopamine, is linked to executive functioning, or the skills (check out the list below) that help you pay attention, curb your impulses, take in memories (working memory), and play with different scenarios and outcomes (cognitive flexibility), for starters. For further reading, check out this super science-y article. Forebrain skills that are harder for folks with ADHD (no matter the type): Response Cost - neurological skill that helps you know the consequences of your actions later on down the road Delay of Gratification - receiving the reward or win, well after the behavior occurs.Black and White Thinking - believing or acting as if there are only two ways of thinking right or wrong. Black and white thinking makes it harder to see middle paths during an argumentTime and Organization Skills - knowing how long tasks will take, planning transition times into tasks, appropriately guessing how long something will take, or all parts of time and organizational skills.-------cover art by: Sol Vázqueztechnical support by: Bobby Richards

Everything you ever wanted to know about ADHD. Seriously. From what's happening in the brain, to how it's experienced day to day--the things that are easy, hard, and all the myths and misperceptions that exist about what is really not a deficit, but rather an abundance and variety of, attention. The first part in a series from David, who has lectured as an expert and advocate on this subject nationally, and assisted by Isabelle, who is eagerly sponging up the information. A neurodivergent and neurotypical blend of friends Christina, AJ, Gabe, and Isabelle's husband, Bobby, sit in to ask questions.(Part I of David's All About ADHD Lecture Series)-----Isabelle & David welcome Isabelle's husband, Bobby, and their friends, Christina, AJ, and Gabe, to listen and learn from David's tried and tested presentation on ADHD, which he normally gives to fellow clinicians. ADD and ADHD are the same thing. ADHD is not a learning disability, it's a brain difference. People with ADHD don't automatically qualify for accommodations in schools, need to prove they are struggling hard enough. ADHD is all about the forebrain—the roses of our brain—everything that makes you, you, and makes you unique. Blood tends to flow into the forebrain when you are making decisions. For people with ADHD (see below!), being directed to do something is not doing it. You can look at a red dot, for example, just under different environmental contexts. It's not a deficit of attention, it's variability of attention. As you're demanding more focus, you lose the ability to focus, unless there's a crisis. The root word for patience is suffering. But someone with ADHD experiences much more distress (physiologically) when they are understimulated. Boredom/waiting without structure is the worst. Response cost (see definition below) makes it hard for us to know when we're doing something that has a consequence further on down the road. The act of debating gives you dopamine. Dopamine deficiency? See more about dopamine deficiency below. Do you ever hear someone get angry when they look away from the screen (WHAT?!) It's because they're being starved from dopamine when you're already starving. What elicits hyperfocus instead of distraction? The environment: safety, comfort, consistency, the person's experience/mastery. With ADHD, they need greater levels of stimulation (hyperactive type) or structure (inattentive type) to attend? Again, ADHD is best not thought about as a deficit of attention: attention variability. We have an overabundance of attention. A neurotypical person can attend to whatever in whatever environment, and if they can't, much easier for them to identify and advocate for what's interfering with that (for example, “I can't hear you, the fridge is making a weird noise!”) Whereas for someone with ADHD, it connects to self-esteem, much more difficult to ask for what you need because it makes you think you're different or deficient or you missed the thing that's interfering to begin with. It's the ability to have self-esteem to advocate for the learning environment. We start to touch on ADHD and its link to Auditory Processing Disorder.To see some of David's slides from this presentation, click here (or visit somethingshinypodcast.com)ADHD types explained through how we buy a printer we need:inattentive type: struggles to buy the printer, doesn't take into account the cost of a lack of a printer, buys one six months laterimpulsive type: buys two printers, means to put the other one up for sale, forgets to, sits in a corner for six monthscombination type: see above and experience BOTH, often depending on your level of mastery/comfort (more impulsive). Oh, it's fun.Forebrain skills that are harder for folks with ADHD (no matter the type): Response Cost: neurological skill that helps you know the consequences of your actions later on down the road Delay of Gratification - receiving the reward or win, well after the behavior occurs.Black and White Thinking - believing or acting as if there are only two ways of thinking right or wrong. Black and white thinking makes it harder to see middle paths during an argumentTime and Organization Skills - knowing how long tasks will take, planning transition times into tasks, appropriately guessing how long something will take, or all parts of time and organizational skills.Dopamine deficiency? ADHD is often understood as neurobiological (brain) difference, that includes lower levels of dopamine, the neurotransmitter (messenger chemical) in our brain that gives us feelings of satisfaction and reward—the feeling of YOU DID IT…ahhhhhhh.  Keep in mind that dopamine is just one of the neurotransmitters doing some fun other stuff where ADHD is concerned.The Red Dot Study… came from a book David was reading off his colleague's bookshelf, pre-pandemic. Pandemic happened. Office closed (permanently). No memory of the author. We will keep looking for it, but in the meantime, our apologies and here is a study with similar findings: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3763932/-------Cover art by: Sol VázquezTechnical support by: Bobby RichardsThank you to Christina, Gabe, and AJ for being our audience

In today's world instant gratification is everywhere.  Point and click to buy stuff and the next day it shows up, unfortunately your financial freedom and accomplishments require delayed gratification mindsets.  You will fail at the biggest game of life if you don't become diligent and focused regardless of the social noise around you.

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This week's theme on the Retirement Quick Tips Podcast is: 7 Habits to a 7-Figure Nest Egg Today, I'm talking about 2 important millionaire habits that go together so I'm combining them in todays episode: Desires smaller than their bank account & delaying gratification.

Ever wondered why some folks seem to hit their goals while others get stuck in a loop of quick fixes? That's the heart of our latest chat, where we get up close and personal with the concept of gratification and its impact on our lives. Whether you're struggling to stick to a fitness routine or trying to scale a business, you'll discover the transformative power of delayed gratification. We're not just talking theory here; our buddy Devan drops by to share his raw experience of juggling entrepreneurship with health, providing a real-world look at the discipline needed to thrive.The journey to success is a marathon, not a sprint, and sometimes, it's the smallest shifts in our habits that lead to the most significant breakthroughs. Join us as we lay out actionable strategies to help you navigate the buffet of life's temptations, arming you with practical tools like environment manipulation and preparation hacks. Get ready to learn how to stay true to your goals, even when the world's buffet seems too good to pass up, and how to turn criticism into a powerful ally on your path to success.And just when you think you've got it all figured out, we turn the conversation to our own story with Strive, reflecting on the early days and the grit that saw us through. The lessons we learned are now the roadmap we're sharing with you. Plus, we're gearing up for our Friday night lives, your weekly dose of inspiration and community where we tackle the tough topics together. So join the conversation, and let's push each other towards that gold mine of personal and collective achievement.Thanks for listening & being part of the Mindset Cafe Community.Message me on Instagram @devan.gonzalez and let me know what topics or questions you want covered so we can help you achieve your goals faster.https://www.devangonzalez.com/connect----For more information about Franchising Opportunities with Strive 11 Fitness click the link below! Instagram @str11vefitnessstr11veportal.com/franchiseinquiry

Author and content creator Drew Afualo (The Comment Section Podcast) joins Whtiney Cummings for a brand new episode of the Good For You Podcast to discuss proper text grammar, FaceTiming with famous friends, the worst male celebrity and more. Big Baby 2024 Tour Tickets Now On Sale: https://bit.ly/3PaFegF Thank you to our sponsors! SHOPIFY: https://www.shopify.com/whitney SHHTAPE: https://www.shh_tape.com code:WHITNEY50 FACTOR: https://www.factormeals.com/whitney50 code WHITNEY50 RITUAL: https://www.ritual.com/whitney 00:00 Welcome To The Show 10:04 That Is A Virgo 19:57 Come See Me Live! 24:00 Texting With Brittany Broski 33:43 You're On My Level 42:41 Fired From The NFL 56:42 Worst Male Celebrity 1:05:09 Do You Lotion? Drew Afualo is a content creator, women's rights advocate, podcast host and author, best known as TikTok's “Crusader for Women”. From her hilariously witty content to her no-BS approach to shoveling misogyny out of the TikTok app via viral takedowns, Drew takes female empowerment to new levels and has established herself as a preeminent feminist leader of her generation with an audience of over nine million of social media. She was named Adweek's 2022 Digital & Tech Creator of the Year, Meta's Creator of Tomorrow, one of Time magazine's Next Generation Leaders, and one of Forbes' Top Creators of 2023. Drew also served as the official red-carpet correspondent at the 2023 Academy Awards and hosts the Spotify-exclusive podcast The Comment Section. Her first book, LOUD: Accept Nothing Less Than the Life You Deserve, will publish July 30th, 2024 via AUWA Books and is available for pre-order now at drew-afualo.com. URL: https://www.drew-afualo.com Socials: TikTok: @drewafualo // IG: @drewafualo // Twitter:  @drewafualo1247 

Today's guest began his bjj career training with some of the biggest names the sport has ever produced and unexpectedly found himself fighting all over the world.Andy Wang joins us to discuss the evolution of jiu-jitsu over the decades, what he misses most about the old days, the incredible relationships he built through martial arts, and how he found himself fighting all over the world when he never had that intention.Here is The RŌL Radio with bjj instructor, educator, The Ultimate Fighter participant, and former MMA fighter for Superbrawl, Pancrase, One FC, and Rebel FC, Andy Wang.www.rolacademy.tv 30% discount with ROLRADIO code at checkout. Over 1000 videos for your Jiu-Jitsu journey.http://www.therolradio.comhttps://www.instagram.com/therolradiohttps://www.facebook.com/therolradio/Episode Highlights:3:33 Jiu-Jitsu Brought Me to China5:21 The Gratification of Teaching9:09 Jiu-Jitsu Explosion19:05 Training with Legends 27:34 Is Jiu-Jitsu for Everyone34:51 Andy's Early Days in MMA53:52 Setting Goals and Following Through1:07:31 Waldomiro Perez Jr. QuestionSupport the show

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Jon Cardwell is back for a Follow-Up! We talked about his new route ‘Wind Up Bird' 5.15b at The Fortress of Solitude in CO, how moving away helped him send, what he learned from failing on ‘Super Crackinette' in France, how he applied Uphill Athlete principles to his training for sport climbing, plans to go back for the extension, bolting 5.15 projects in New Mexico, and much more!*Follow-Ups are now available for everyone! These are laid-back episodes with past guests from the show. We catch up and chat about their latest sends and what they've been up to. Enjoy!Jon's Original Episode:EP 50: Jon CardwellReferences:Adam Ondra flashing ‘Super Crackinette' 9a+EP 169: Scott JohnstonTraining for the Uphill Athlete (book)Nuggets:(00:00:00) – Sending ‘Wind Up Bird' 5.15b (9b)(00:17:40) – How moving away helped him find success(00:22:21) – Failing to climb ‘Super Crackinette' 5.15a (9a+), and what he learned from it(00:27:29) – Adam Ondra's flash of ‘Super Crackinette'(00:30:00) – Drawing inspiration from Scott Johnston,  and training for ‘Wind Up Bird'(00:35:53) – Constantly learning(00:40:42) – More about his training(00:45:45) – Falling 50+ times on the same move, and building momentum(00:47:35) – Taking your foot off the gas, maintaining strength, and training plans for the extension(00:54:20) – Exhaustion and motivation(00:56:51) – The complexity of sport climbing(00:58:42) – Is V16 a goal for Jon?(01:01:23) – New 5.15 projects at The Tunnel in NM(01:03:00) – Is anyone trying ‘Wind Up Bird'?(01:05:21) – Will the extension be 5.15c (9b+)?(01:07:12) – Wrap up