Nightowl Podcast

Mar 20 - Is it fake to hold space for people or is it more important to be real with people who are not in the best mental space Intro by @thejameskumar

Mar 19 - Vacations and spa days are great! Meditation and fitness are wonderful. But if you don't improve your environment, no break will be effective as curing burnout. Intro by @thejameskumar

Mar 18 - Words in a moment of initial discomfort could be useful but often the choice could come at the cost of momentary peace Intro by @thejameskumar

Mar 17 - Why is it so difficult to point out what isnt working without it looking like you are assigning blame or questioning someones worth Intro by @thejameskumar

Mar 16 - When you finally present the list of things wrong as the reason for walking away... or do you? Intro by @thejameskumar

May 15 - Every decision you make throughout the course of the day can either build up to a big YES or a huge NO Intro by @thejameskumar

Mar 14 - I was asked how I always manage to find something positive even in dire circumstances and it is because I taught myself to notice both the bad AND the good.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Mar 13 - Johnny Depps NFT project Never Fear Truth had me thinking about the concept of fearing truth.  Here's what I realized Intro by @thejameskumar

Mar 12 - Following a quote from James Clear, I thought I'd check myself and see what my actions said about my priorities even though I spoke differently  Intro by @thejameskumar

Feb 9 - I chose to focus on all the spaces where I could be myself and enjoy a measure of luxury.  Its in the little details that I fell back in love with life. Intro by @thejameskumar

Feb 8 - Sadhguru said that when a child comes into your life, it's time to relearn life, not teach them your ways.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Feb 7 - Whatever I fear most... thats where I'm going to have the most growth.  So I learned to go there first.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Feb 6 - A conversation about how you feel isn't supposed to end us in an arguement.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Feb 6 - My friend Vozhi said that fear of self promotin is what'stopping me from getting paid and it hurt... but it's also true.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Feb 5 - Bad things are going to happen. That's not negotiable. What is, is how you deal with it.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Feb 3 - I'm not a fan of the unknown but I'm learning to embrace not knowing and enjoying learning how to manage.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Feb 2 - Friedrick Nietzsche said it best when he said, "You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist." Intro by @thejameskumar

Feb 1 - Whether its smooth sailing or you find yourself in chaos, that next step... belongs to you! Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 31 - Context is so important especially today! Where news is often reported biased.  Ask more questions. Get a second opinion.  Go straight to the source.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 30 - As great as it is to be able to post how you feel and get feedback and validation, social media isnt the same as therapy.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Jna 29 - We need to normalize allowing red flags to reduce our interest in a person rather than taking the flag as a challenge to overcome. Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 28 - Most of us react to each other and a level of petty ensues.  What if you could maintain your good mood even in the presence of a bad mood? Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 27 - Ever been told off by someone and the next time you encounter them you, think twice about approaching them? Here are my thoughts Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 26 - How do we manage conflict within a house when communications styles differ? Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 25 - We sometimes forget that the labels we use to call or describe others tends to shame people for coping mechanisms theyve learned to adopt in order to survive.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 24 - Carl Jung once said that to know your own darkness was the best method for dealing with the darkness of others. As I dig into shadow work, I believe this to help me feel more compassion and patience for others in my life and practice.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 23 - I read a quote that said that storytelling is a lightning rod for connection. In each others stories we glimpse a bit of our own and in our shared fears of the uncertain and in our common joys, loves and worries, we are a little bit less alone.  And I couldnt agree more! Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 22 - I hear a lot of people saying "You MAKE me feel" but in all honesty, no one can force you to feel anything.  You can definitely own your feelings which will help you better articulate your needs Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 21 - A friend of mine, Kinja Dixon once posted a quote that said "Actions prove who someone is, words just prove who they wanna be." And I thought it was something I definitely wanted to discuss Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 20 - It's a shame I know, but I haven't always loved my name.  So I did what I could to feel better about myself.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 19 - The cycle of breaking up and making up is another way we avoid healing. The fear of losing someone, the idea of all or nothing, coming back because its familiar are places you need to address in your own self esteem.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 18 - Being a side piece is fun until someone catches feelings and then you have to deal with why it isnt enough and how to solve that.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Dec 18 - The best teachers are role models because they are not afraid to show students that they are still learning.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 17 - Sometimes we find ourselves wondering why we attract unavailable people and forget that there is a comfort in not being fully committed that we need to heal ourselves.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 16 - There are situations when we are convinced that if the other person in the relationship would just change, that you would be happier.  But there is a part of this that concerns us too and not looking at where could prevent or stop behaviour that hurts us is another way we avoid healing.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 15 - Another way we avoid healing our own traumas is when we focus on someone's potential and ignore the red flags along the way.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 14 - Ever read all you can about a subject, just never get around to implementing those ideas? What is the worth of all that knowledge then? Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 13 - Sometimes we focus on how others hurt us and forget to see how we could have stopped it, warned them, set a boundary, or communicate differently. Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 12 - Sometimes we stall our healing by taking responsibility for someone else's feelings.  This doesn't give us a chance to acknowledge or heal our own.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 11 - Decided to take one post and break it down in sections.  In this episode I'm talking about how dating someone as a project is a way that we avoid our own healing.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 9 - There is a well known prayer that asks for strength to accept the things you cannot change. But I'd like to suggest you find the strength to change the things you cannot accept.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 8 - I read somewhere that "finding yourself" adulthood is simply getting back to who you were and what you loved as a child.  To be honest, its EXACTLY why when I left my husband I came back home to Singapore Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 7 - Came across a post that really stopped me in my tracks and naturally I had to discuss it. The post said that "Keeping the peace is a trauma response" and here's my 2 cents on the subject. Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 6 - What does it mean to be disrespected? How do you managed the disrespect? To name or describe the offense can help you to discover where you might not have drawn a boundary.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 5 - What I know is based on what I'm taught until I choose to question for myself or am presented with a different perspective.  Either way, I have an opportunity to evolve and improve.  Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 4 - There is a LOT of information that can be gained when you look at your pain and listen to what hurts.  The why can give you clues as to how to heal these parts of you Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 3 - As much as I love supporting other people, it's time to begin showing up for myself.  So my goal is to show up, hang my shingle and let people know that I'm here to serve Intro by @thejameskumar

Jan 2 - What does it mean to be the best? Couldn't help using #cobrakai again since it provoked such thought about it truly means to be the best. Intro by @thejameskumar  

Jan 1 - A line from #cobrakai caught my attention and I really felt it.  "He will be a better man than you will ever be" suddenly took on a new layer of meaning! Intro by @thejameskumar

Dec 31 - I made it to 1000 but I'm not here to celebrate. Instead, I wanna remember where I came from and keep in mind that no matter how hard I had it, success is not owed to me.  I still gotta grind.  Intro by @thejameskumar