Sex, Lies & Parenthood

Please consider watching this episode on YouTube as it is a very visual interview and we even added elements to go along with some of the items we discussed in the episode. YouTube Part 2  This is Part 2 of the "Sex, Lies & Parenthood" special Pride Month edition of the podcast with entertainer and Drag Queen Ginger Ladd. Part 1 began with Ginger Ladd simultaneously going live on his social media, as he often does, to get ready in drag while recording the podcast with us. Part 2 was recorded exclusively for our podcast because Ginger was able to get a little more spicy with us than on social. If you missed part 1 please go check it out - it is such an intimate interview where he shared so many emotional moments of his life and even talked about the threats he gets even now because of his job as an entertainer. We recorded both parts before Texas State Rep. Bryan Slaton decided to attack family-friendly drag shows for allowing children to watch the performances. As a fellow Texan and Drag Queen performer, Ginger was nice enough to record a statement regarding the issue and we put it here in Part 2. We want to thank Ginger Ladd for allowing us a sneak peak into his world as an entertainer, and Drag Queen but also as a son, a husband, a father, and, most of all, a HUMAN who has gone through it all and still continues to embrace his audiences whether over social media or in person at live shows.    FOR MORE INFO OR TO BOOK GINGER LADD GO TO:  GingerLadd.com  PART 2 WITH DRAG QUEEN ENTERTAINER GINGER LADD  00:00 Intro Episode 00:25 Welcome Ginger 01:30 Who Gets The Most Inappropriate At A Show? 03:00 “I'm treated like a thing and not a real person” 04:08 Why do people think it's okay to grope her? 06:00 Ginger Ladd PSA: Performance Etiquette 07:21 When do you realize this is a good show? 10:35 Do you still get nervous before a show? 12:04 What to expect after a show 13:30 Seeing Ginger Ladd's name on the marquee in Times Square 13:50 “The star of my shows are the venues." 14:06 Gratitude to the venues who say yes to having Ginger Ladd perform 15:20 Hiring a Drag Queen like Ginger Ladd can be political “some people think I am immoral, corrupt and do a disservice to the world for existing.” 16:04 Response to Texas State Representative Bryan Slaton who attacked family-friendly drag queen shows that allow children to attend 17:55 Being inundated with death threats every day because 18:36 “Before my dad died…he finally got it and thought it was magical too” 19:31 “My kids love it!” 20:05 Ginger Ladd but also Dad 20:25 “Sometimes you need to face head on the demons you have from your past…” 21:31 Has fatherhood changed you? 21:53 Attending a conservative college 22:46 “We're all human…this is just an expression of who I am inside…” 23:44 “Have you ever really thought about what it is like for me” entering an event as the only drag queen? 25:06 Meet and greets at a Ginger Ladd show 25:51 “Watching you transform is art…but you are also human…” 26:28 There is a physical transformation but they are the same person 27:30 Connecting with people on social media saved him 30:49 Ginger Ladd tries ASMR 31:12 How performing on social media during Covid changed the live performances Ginger Ladd does now 34:27 How was Ginger Ladd introduced to make-up? 35:14 Growing up in the South surrounded by beautiful women 37:27 He trained himself to do make-up, style wigs, create outfits 38:24 He has always gone above an beyond 39:09 “Knowing what you know now, would you go back and do it all again.” 42:34 Trigger warning: He hints about trauma from his childhood 43:25 Getting distracted by the phallic microphone 44:05 Showing love to each other 44:31 What's in the future for Ginger Ladd? 47:32 Wrapping it up 48:01 It's always a good time to tip a drag queen 49:39 Trying to make Capricorn blush (it doesn't work) 50:22 Wigs are like a winter hat 51:27 Our statement on drag shows 52:20 Getting out of drag - live social video after our interview was recorded - please consider watching/listening because he has a few messages in there that everyone should hear. FOR MORE INFO GO TO: https://www.gingerladd.com/ UPCOMING EVENTS: Ginger Ladd's Third Annual Rockaway Pride, June 26th. https://rockawaypride.eventbrite.com/ SOCIAL LINKS: https://tiktok.com/@gingerladd https://instagram.com/thegingerladd https://YouTube.com/GingerLadd https://facebook.com/GingerLaddOfficial https://linkedin.com/in/gingerladd https://twitter.com/realgingerladd DEAR GINGER LADD PODCAST: http://DearGingerLadd.com  DRAG QUEENS AND KINGS ENTERTAINMENT: https://linkedin.com/company/dqak https://dragqueensandkings.com/ https://facebook.com/DragQueensAndKings https://instagram.com/dragqueensandkings

Please consider watching the video version of Part 1 and 2 as the episode is very visual and we added items to the interview that support elements of his story: YouTube Part 1  Welcome to “Sex, Lies & Parenthood!” This is a special Pride Month edition of the podcast featuring a 2-part interview with Drag Queen Entertainer Ginger Ladd! In Part 1 we watch Ginger Ladd begin the transformation into drag while getting very intimate with the details of his life. We talk about the trauma, the love, the pain, the loss, the backstabbing, ALL OF IT! We are so grateful that Ginger Ladd trusted us enough to tell stories he has never told publicly before.   FOR MORE INFO OR TO BOOK GINGER LADD GO TO:  Ginger Ladd Website  **TRIGGER WARNING** Part 1 deals with extremely traumatic events that may trigger some people. Below is an outline with time codes if you need to flip through the episode because you may be upset by some of the content.  PART 1 WITH DRAG QUEEN ENTERTAINER GINGER LADD 00:00 Intro with trigger warning for the episode FYI: Ginger Ladd made a statement regarding Texas State Representative Bryan Slaton's attack on drag shows and it has been added to part 2 of our interview. 01:11 Going live on Ginger Ladd's social media while recording 01:48 Official intro 02:30 Ginger Ladd begins to get into drag make-up 03:00 Ginger Ladd's lives and their impact “It's like watching a friend get ready” 03:46 Drag Queens get a lot of hate and threats online 04:33 Ginger Ladd's personalized videos on Cameo 05:30 Why Rachel ordered a video from Ginger Ladd 05:56 Ginger Ladd's video to Rachel & Capricorn 08:14 What are Ginger Ladd's Pronouns? 09:16 Reviewing the lesson in the video 12:24 “You can't have a bad day” as a performer 16:06 How did Covid change Ginger Ladd's life? 16:54 Closing the Tattoo Shop during Covid “Something that has hurt me so badly” 20:10 “My Dad had just died from Covid” 21:25 Adopting son Wesley during Covid 25:26 Message to the former staff of the tattoo shop who ransacked it 28:50 First live video “The Day My Dad Died" 30:44 Saying goodbye to Dad over the phone 32:22 Having to tell mom who has Alzheimer's over and over again that Dad had died 35:20 How his parents found out he was gay 35:59 “Without warning they told me to leave” 38:00 Going to a conservative school “I'm not allowed to be my natural self” 38:48 Graphic photo of Ginger Ladd's attack at school 40:28 Message to Christians (Stop kicking your kids out) 41:27 “One of my biggest failings” (pretending that everybody loves me) 42:17 “By the way straight guys…” 43:00 How did his dad get Covid? 00:47:13 Any fatherly advice from dad? 00:48:13 “My parents went a little crazy” (discusses childhood trauma of being isolated and rejected) 00:50:43 “This has been a hard life” 00:52:53 Taking a moment to mention show dates and websites 00:54:00 “Did Ginger save your life in a way?” 00:54:44 What saved me was social media 00:56:13 Trigger warning: Doing live performances on social media…”took me out of the head space of not wanting to do this anymore” 00:57:27 “The 2 people in your life that you thought would never disappoint you…they tell you they don't want you anymore” 00:58:49 “The reason why this career suits me so much is because…” 01:00:30 Making all of his own wigs and clothing 01:01:23 “Maybe they will see all of the hard work and maybe then they will love me” 01:01:45 Doing live shows on social media during Covid 01:02:40 *Trigger Warning* Having issues with affection “your parents are hiding your bruises” 01:04:37 How he and his husband are raising their boys 01:05:55 “I think it burned a hole so deep into who I am…” 01:07:04 “Expressing myself the way I was wasn't allowed…” 01:07:49 “This is who I am…” 01:08:53 “We're bent, we're not broken” 01:10:39 “Not only am I gay but my job…” 01:11:40 Connecting with other abused people 01:13:38 Forgiveness and moving his parents in with his family 01:17:15 Rescuing Luci the dog 01:19:15 Social post introducing Luci 01:20:09 Trying to get the love and acceptance from your parents 01:22:01 This interview is therapeutic for him 01:23:10 We sent him a new microphone which is large and phallic 01:23:47 Rachel appreciates Ginger Ladd 01:24:30 He chooses not to live in an exclusively gay neighborhood 01:26:31 “I love everybody…I'm just an entertainer, I'm here to make you feel good about yourself.” 01:27:50 “I'm not here to be your teacher.” 01:29:30 Where did the name Ginger Ladd come from? 01:34:12 He had never named her before - he was too ashamed of her 01:34:20 Time for a break 01:35:43 Signing off of Instagram and TikTok lives UPCOMING EVENTS: Ginger Ladd's Third Annual Rockaway Pride, June 26th. https://rockawaypride.eventbrite.com/ SOCIAL LINKS: https://tiktok.com/@gingerladd https://instagram.com/thegingerladd https://YouTube.com/GingerLadd https://facebook.com/GingerLaddOfficial https://linkedin.com/in/gingerladd https://twitter.com/realgingerladd DEAR GINGER LADD PODCAST: http://DearGingerLadd.com  DRAG QUEENS AND KINGS ENTERTAINMENT: https://linkedin.com/company/dqak https://dragqueensandkings.com/ https://facebook.com/DragQueensAndKings https://instagram.com/dragqueensandkings

In this episode we interview Dr. Sandra Zichermann, creator of The Mom Rant and Rave, a safe space on Facebook and Instagram for parents to support each other during the hard times and the good. Sandra has been a social media influencer for years and is adamant about teaching others how to get paid for their hard work instead of doing it on trade. SAY NO TO TRADE, INSTEAD GET PAID! She has a loyal following on social media and on Clubhouse. We also discuss the fact there is no perfect parent and no one way to parent as well as self care and taking time out for yourself. To contact Sandra, go to her Instagram and DM her @TheMomRant or you can send her an e-mail Sandra@TheMomRant.com. To find her Facebook group, search The MOM Rant and Rave.

In this episode we had so much fun talking to Intimacy Coach Kristie Lynn. From the Yes, No, Maybe list of what we would and would not do in the bedroom (wait until you see Capricorn's list OMG) to fun toys, some with remote controls. I learned A LOT about my husband, things I feel … Continue reading EPISODE 33: SHE WON'T DO THAT?! →

We are working on Season 2 but in the mean time, we have a couple of interviews we are posting that are PHENOMENAL. We had the pleasure to speak to Mal Harrison, a clinical sexologist with the Center for Erotic Intelligence, all about the clitoris and pleasure. So many people don't know much about what … Continue reading EPISODE 32: IT RHYMES WITH DELORIS →

I was late to the school pick-up line aka on time. I had a panic attack, but how did my kids react? Not like I was expecting at all. My husband was doing the dishes this morning despite his PTSD from when he was punished as a child (check out previous episode) and I am … Continue reading EPISODE 31: WHAT IS THE BIGGEST LIE YOU HAVE TOLD YOUR SPOUSE? →

We begin this episode with the age-old problem, my husband won't turn on the air conditioning and I am sweating. Why is there always one spouse that holds on to the last second in the summer?! The good news is we both hate cuddling when we are hot and sweaty so there's that to look … Continue reading EPISODE 30: I LOVE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE →

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode mentions unwanted advances and sexual harassment. We get a little deep in this episode but, as always, there is still laughter. Oh and if you want to hear my husband's excuses as to why my Mother's Day was bleh, that's in here too! We talk about when we each lost our … Continue reading EPISODE 29: “YOU BEGGED ME TO BE A MOTHER” →

I asked our 10-year-old son Nico about his secret girlfriend that everyone knew about except me. I bribed him with Nutella and did it before I had to drop him off at school, I figured some sugar and limited time would get him to tell me quickly. His response was priceless and I hope I … Continue reading EPISODE 28: LOVE AT FIRST SITE…WHAT?! →

I recently noticed a change in our 10 year old son's behavior, showering without us making him, cleaning his room without us nagging, doing chores without us asking. I was scared he was either body snatched or I woke up in a different dimension. Did he want money? Yes. Did he eat all of the … Continue reading EPISODE 27: OUR SON'S SECRET GIRLFRIEND →

In this episode we let you know what happened AFTER we taped episode 25, the roadie episode…what a cliffhanger…and then we recap what we've been doing since the road trip and why we haven't posted content for a bit. Spoiler alert, the hospital was involved but wait until you hear WHY; I am so screwed. … Continue reading EPISODE 26: WHERE HAVE WE BEEN? →

I know it sounds dramatic but we legit got into a heated discussion and I seriously wasn't sure what was going to happen after…My husband was salty with me the night before and I finally figured out why, because I hadn't given him a roadie yet. OMG he was really in his feelings and really … Continue reading EPISODE 25: ROAD TRIP 3 WILL THIS END OUR MARRIAGE? →

We've been driving for 3 days already and finally decided to record a couple of episodes because why haven't we been this whole time? I'm a procrastinator and figured we had days to go but that time went quicker than anticipated so this is the best we could do. It has also taken me a … Continue reading EPISODE 24: ROAD TRIP 2 HEADING BACK TO MI →

In this episode we are leaving LA with our car (finally) on our way to Arizona for a few days. I asked questions we probably should have asked BEFORE we got married. You've seen those lists right? I thought it would be fun for us to answer some thought-provoking questions. The lesson? Don't ask anything … Continue reading EPISODE 23: ROAD TRIP 1 LA TO AZ →

In this episode we discuss how I am NOT the sleepover mom. Our home is always under construction and I don't like other people's kids, no, that's actually not true, sometimes I like them more than my own, but I still don't want them sleeping over. Does that make me the meanest mom ever? Yes, … Continue reading EPISODE 22: MY SASSY-PANTS KID →

Warning: we are drinking alcohol and get a little tipsy plus it's unedited so you're welcome…In this episode I confront my husband about something that has been bothering me, the poop stains in the toilet. Why do I feel like I am constantly cleaning poop and pee still? Our kids are years out of diapers, … Continue reading EPISODE 21: WHY AM I ALWAYS CLEANING THIS? →

Warning: this episode is unedited and raw which just means you'll hear us say “like” and “you know what I mean” – I usually cut those out. In this episode we talk about getting spammed on our texts and e-mails, it's draining and I swear if someone signed us up for this crap karma is … Continue reading EPISODE 20: JUST LET THEM FIGHT IT OUT? →

Warning: this episode is unedited and raw… My husband Capricorn heard that JLo and ARod have called off their engagement so he decided to shoot his shot, I just about peed myself! She is on his list, you know the list of celebrities people have that they get a pass from their significant other to … Continue reading EPISODE 19: CAN YOU TURN A HO INTO A HUSBAND? →

Warning – these are unedited and raw so forgive us! My computer was left in California with the car so these are getting published as is… Sophia and I are back and home, she is so happy to be back to normal and I am trying to figure out what my new normal is. I … Continue reading EPISODE 18: HAVE YOU LIED TO AVOID SEX? →

Will Sophia stay in LA or are we packing up to go back home?  Will she continue to pursue acting or give up? We gave ourselves 3 months to get settled, learn as much as we can about the business and try to land an agent; listen to hear what happened. PLUS…My mother-in-law is leaving … Continue reading EPISODE 17: WILL WE BE STAYING IN L.A. OR COMING HOME? →

In this episode we read a listener's e-mail I have been holding onto because I wanted to be sure how I felt before we answered it. She is married and loves her husband BUT there is something he doesn't do enough of for her, so she has someone on the side who does, now she … Continue reading EPISODE 16: SHE WANTS TO HAVE HER CAKE AND EAT IT TOO →

The dancer from my husband's past that FB messaged me whom we discussed in Episode 9 e-mailed us! She had a few things to say after that episode which we address in this episode, episode 15. #1 You will hear me in FULL petty mode. #2 It brought up so many questions…if you relate to … Continue reading EPISODE 15: THE STRIPPER RESPONDS →

Our road trip out of the mountains is almost over, we stayed in a magical fairy cottage with no doors which made getting intimate impossible. It's the question we just couldn't find the answer to – getting intimate during vacation with kids, is it possible? Send me an e-mail with suggestions for next time producerrachel@gmail.com

Capricorn came to visit for a weekend and the visit turned into 11 days! We shot a testimonial commercial together with Sophia, our daughter, and I had already booked an AirBnB in a fairy cottage near Sequoia and King's Canyon National Parks so he was able to experience that with us. These 2 Road Trip … Continue reading EPISODE 13: ROAD TRIP PT. 1 →

Capricorn is in LA visiting his girls, me and our daughter. An opportunity has allowed him to extend his stay! Listen to find out for how long and what we've been up to. We will share what the opportunity is soon…for now know you are loved and than you for listening!

We answer a listener's question about what toys we suggest and make her feel better about the quickies she is having because she has a new puppy that demands her attention. We also discuss what else has interrupted sex plus I get to the bottom of a question I did not expect Capricorn to answer … Continue reading EPISODE 11: PUPPIES = QUICKIES →

We answer a listener's question “Are women superior?” which leads to the conversation about the mental load that one spouse tends to bear more of daily. This subject is the one we don't often agree on and continue to have which is why it generally threatens our happiness as a married couple.

In this episode we discuss the Facebook message Rachel got from someone in Capricorn's past who happened to be a stripper he cheated with and then was eventually his booty call (pre-Rachel). Listen to the message and let us know what you think her real intentions were by sending it. Also the Question of the … Continue reading EPISODE 9: THE STRIPPER MESSAGED RACHEL! →

In this episode we discuss the time in our marriage where it got so bad we discussed separating. We also have another listener question! Tonya asked where Rachel gets her confidence from and her answer will shock you.

In this episode we discuss the time I tried to sell my husband's sperm to a couple we THOUGHT was in need of a donor but it turns out they wanted something else AND the question of the day is the one big thing we have a tendency to disagree on every time it comes … Continue reading EPISODE 7: THE BAIT AND SWITCH →

In this episode we answer a listener's question about the baby blues slump AND there is a “woman” in my husband's life that he relies on way too much and I can't stand her!

In this episode we recap our daughter Sophia's 9th birthday feeding the homeless and our question of the day is bound to offend our kids, sometimes the truth hurts.

This episode was recorded via Zoom as I am back in LA and my husband is in MI.  In this episode find which one of us thinks “once a cheater always a cheater” AND Capricorn has a suggestion for people that carry the mental load which causes them to want less sex.

In this episode Capricorn reveals if he has cheated since we have been living apart and today's random Sex, Lies and Parenthood question leaves us needing YOUR advice!

In this episode we talk about how hard it was to say goodbye when Capricorn and our son Nico went back to MI leaving me and our daughter Sophia in LA to pursue her dreams. Plus today's random Sex, Lies and Parenthood question revealed something that my husband didn't do early on in our relationship … Continue reading EPISODE 2: IT'S SO HARD TO SAY GOODBYE →

What happens when a recovering sex addict marries a know-it-all bitch with 24 years of entertainment experience? They start a podcast of course! In this episode you find out a little bit about us and why we finally created a podcast. Also why did Rachel have to bring out her secret book with all of … Continue reading EPISODE 1: CAPRICORN AND PRODUCER RACHEL HAVE A PODCAST? →