Therapized Podcast

Matis Miller is founder of The Center for CBT of New Jersey and author of forthcoming, The Uncontrollable Child. Matis specializes in several emotional and personality disorders, complex childhood trauma, and anxiety in teens and adults. He is a seasoned lecturer on CBT- and DBT-related topics, addressing parents, clients, and professionals, and is presently focused primarily on supervision, education, and consultations. The Uncontrollable Child provides skills-based techniques with practical DBT strategies and examples of how to care for, fully accept, and authentically raise kids who are emotionally sensitive...it's about parenting children to be autonomous outside of ourselves, rather than treating them like property. As a father of six, Matis would love to talk about why tending to children with extra emotional needs is really important right now, what it looks like to live with "uncontrollable" children, and skills-based parenting for raising authentic children post 2020. Find Matis's book on Amazon at the link: https://www.amazon.com/Uncontrollable-Child-Understand-Disruptive-Dialectical-ebook/dp/B08GG2JDHW and most bookstores. Intro Song: Soft Fur by Charmer & Klay from the Album Quiet Night Outro Song: here we are by Brett Chance

In this short dose of Therapized, we explore the pattern of feeling "guilty" in common day-to-day situations in which we did not actually do anything wrong and may find ourselves consistently apologizing just for existing and attempting to get our needs met. Why do we even feel guilt anyway? Listen to today's dose for your own self-reflection. Enjoy! Intro Song: Soft Fur by Charmer and Klay from the Album Quiet Night Outro Song: Ice Caves by Charmer and Klay from the Album Quiet Night Please share, like, subscribe, rate, and review!!! Thanks for the support!

Nicole Arzt is a practicing psychotherapist in Southern California. She has worked with a wide variety of individuals, couples, and families. Her clinical emphasis lies in treating substance use, eating disorders, and complex trauma. An accomplished author, Nicole is a contributing writer for numerous mental health organizations. She owns Soul of Therapy LLC, a content marketing business devoted to supporting therapists. She is also the founder of Psychotherapy Memes, a global community of more than 85,000 followers. Her debut book, Sometimes Therapy Is Awkward, is available wherever books are sold. In today's episode we discuss the effects of the pandemic on mental health and the difficulties in staying connected during this time. We also explore the benefits and occasional drawbacks of finding connections through social media and online platforms. Lastly, we explore some misconceptions or misrepresentations in therapy. Enjoy! Intro Song: Soft Fur by Charmer and Klay from the album Quiet Night Outro Song: Orange Blossom by Charmer and Klay from the album Quiet Night

In today's episode we explore how our response to our big emotional experiences may not help and may only exacerbate the problem. Then we review my 3 simple tips to begin practicing increasing your emotional distress tolerance. Because ultimately we can't fully control how we feel, but with these tips hopefully we can learn to became less overwhelmed by them. Please like, subscribe, rate, and review! Follow on Instagram and on Facebook @therapized_podcast Intro Song: Soft Fur by Charmer and Klay from the album Quiet Night Find Charmer and Klay on Apple Music, Amazon Music, and Spotify Outro Song: there is no childhood as such by Brett Chance

First off, Happy New Year! Did you make any resolutions? If so, how are those going? In today's episode we talk about making behavioral change and personal growth as well as explore the difficulties in sustaining long-term growth. In this episode I review 4 concepts and tips that I use regularly in therapy with clients to support them in their own development of sustainable personal growth and development. Recommended readings on habits and behavioral change include: 1. Stephen R. Covey-7 Habits of Highly Effective People 2. Atomic Habits-James Clear Intro Song: Soft Fur by Charmer and Klay from the album Quiet Night Outro Song: Homesick by Charmer and Klay from the album Quiet Night Enjoy!

Pardon the audio on this one, but it was a great conversation with a great therapist, Dr. Yoni Sobin the Nerd Therapist! Dr. Yonatan Sobin (The Nerd Therapist) is a Clinical Psychologist trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), who practices using the Superhero Therapy model developed by Dr. Janina Scarlet. He prides himself on making therapy more accessible and engaging for patients. His practice relies heavily on the idea that life and art are more critically similar than not, and that we can learn just as much about ourselves from our fictional heroes like Batman or Superman as we can from our real-life heroes. Dr. Sobin has an office in lower Manhattan and offers therapy services via telehealth as a result of the ongoing pandemic. To put it simply, if you’re part of a fandom, he’s the therapist for you. Dr. Sobin specializes in working with OCD and other anxiety disorders, and provides exposure based therapies within an Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) framework. He also works with patients who are seeking help for depression and addiction-related issues. He treats both adolescents and adults, individually and in groups. His practice incorporates traditional CBT elements, as well as a humanistic element derived more from eastern thought. While pursuing his doctoral degree, which he received in 2016 from the Ferkauf Graduate School of Psychology, Dr. Sobin trained on inpatient and outpatient psychiatric units at Rockland Psychiatric Center and Girard Medical Center. He completed his postdoctoral training at the Center for Anxiety, prior to beginning independent private practice as The Nerd Therapist. He is an active member of the Association of Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies (ABCT), New York State Psychological Association (NYSPA), American Psychological Association (APA), and the International OCD Foundation (IOCDF). He contributed to the book “The Joker Psychology: Evil Clowns and the Women who Love Them.” He is also an occasional guest lecturer at the Ferkauf Graduate School of Psychology. Dr. Sobin provides consultation and supervision for trainees and clinicians, and leads seminars and talks on the integration of mental health and fandom/popular media. My name is Yoni Sobin, and I am a proud nerd. Check out my website www.sobinpsychology.com/nerd-therapy. Music By: Charmer and Klay Intro Song: Soft Fur from the album Quiet Night Outro Song: Ice Cave from the album Quiet Night

On today’s episode we are joined by Meghan O’Nyon, LMFT. In her private practice, Meghan specializes in working with children, teens, and adults on various issues including Autism/developmental delays, behavioral problems, anxiety, depression, grief, and existential re-evaluation. Listen as we discuss our approaches to these topics as they arise in treatment. You can find Meghan on Instagram, Facebook, and Pinterest @adaptationscounseling. Visit her website www.adaptationscounseling.com Music by: Intro Song-Someone Up There Likes You by Brett Chance Outro Song-Orange Blossom by Charmer and Klay

In today’s episode we explore 3 themes that arise in my work as a therapist that relate to impact of social media on mental health. This includes what we do with the information overload, how we assess our relationship with social media, and reflect on how social media connects us or disconnects us from one another. Now I haven’t yet watched the Netflix document The Social Dilemma, but may do after this episode. Music Credit: Intro Song: Someone Up There Likes You by Brett Chance Outro Song: Blue Dream by Charmer and Klay Hosted by Guy Hernandez, LMFT

On today's episode I am providing a "dose" of Therapized. This will become a regular shorter episode focused on current topics addressed in my work as a therapist. On today's episode I review 2 themes I have addressed in therapy during the pandemic: meeting basic needs and redefining our purpose and meaning in life. Episode will also be available on Instagram as an IGTV and will also be on YouTube. Music Credits: Someone Up There Likes You by Brett Chance Orange Blossom by Charmer and Klay

On today’s episode we are joined by Natalie Silva, LMFT. Natalie has experience working with youth and families but currently specializes in women’s mental health in her private practice. Natalie is also a trained perinatal mental health therapist and works with new and expecting mothers. Listen as we discuss issues unique to women’s health like self esteem, body image, perfectionism, and how to transform your inner critic into a voice of self compassion. You can find Natalie on Instagram and Facebook at Natalie.Silva.LMFT. Visit her website at www.nataliesilvalmft.com. A good resource would be postpartum support international and their website is www.postpartum.net Music by: Intro: Brett Chance-Someone Up There Likes You Break Music: Charmer & Klay-Campfire Outro Song: Charmer & Klay-Rowboat Find Charmer & Klay on Spotify and iTunes Please like, share, and follow Therapized Podcast on Facebook and Instagram! Find Therapized Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, and more!

In this episode I sit down with Dan Main, LMFT to discuss EMDR and Trauma. Dan Main, LMFT became licensed in 2015 and EMDR Trained in 2016. In addition to running a part time private practice in Walnut Creek (now via Telehealth in CA), he is a Program Supervisor at Community Options for Families and Youth in the Educationally Related Mental Health Services (ERMHS) department. He is currently pursuing his certification in EMDR and participates in ongoing consultation with an EMDRIA Certified Trainer. In his private practice he provides individual psychotherapy for ages 14 and up who are looking for help with symptoms of trauma, depression, and anxiety. You can find more information on Dan Main LMFT @ http://www.danmaincounseling.com/ I should clarify that the book I talked about, "High on Arrival" is not as much a book that explains EMDR, but a narrative of one individual's journey and how her childhood trauma has affected her. I think it would be helpful for those who want more understanding of that form of trauma. Here is the link to find an EMDR therapist: https://www.emdria.org/about-emdr-therapy/find-an-emdr-therapist/ Here is a video by EMDRIA that could be useful for those just learning about EMDR for the first time: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pkfln-ZtWeY&feature=youtu.be Nadine Burk Harris (First ever Surgeon General of CA) has a great Ted Talk on Childhood trauma that might be cool to in notes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=95ovIJ3dsNk&list=PLDYaByOmmF513Issx2ne3_w0iwyg-Ifor&index=939 Recommended Books; High on Arrival Awakening the Tiger-Peter Levine Mindsight: Daniel Siegel Intro Song: Someone up there likes you-Brett Chance Break Song: There is no childhood as such-Brett Chance Outro Song: Fresh Air-by Charmer and Klay

In this episode I sit down with Maria Gregory, a Licensed Educational Psychologist, to discuss a brief introduction to special education and how to recognize mental health symptoms in children and how they may manifest in the school environment. You can find more information about Maria Gregory at www.mariagregorylep.com. Also, please check out www.therapizedpodcast.com for additional resources. As always, thanks to Brett Chance for the intro song: Someone up there likes you. Lastly please check out Charmer and Klay on Spotify and other places you find your music as they provided the break and outro music.  Music Credits Intro Song; Someone Up There Likes You by Brett Chance Break Song: Rowboat by Charmer and Klay Outro Song: Fresh Air by Charmer and Klay

Welcome to 2020! Have you ever felt that things in your life would be alright once you got "there?" Whatever that "there" might be: paying off debt, graduating from school, getting another job, your children moving out, retirement, etc. Today's episode is about balancing the goals we are striving for and also recognizing and having gratitude for what is right in front of us. Goals are great, but are we stopping to smell the roses? The "there" may never exist, we may reach it and overlook it, and we may miss the joys right of us. Enjoy! Special thanks to Charmer and Klay for providing the excellent music! You can find them on Spotify, Apple Music, Google Music and more! Find their music at links provided below! Intro Song: Someone up there likes you-By Brett Chance Intermission Song: Campfire-By Charmer and Klay Outro Song: Orange Blossom-By Charmer and Klay https://soundcloud.com/charmerandklay https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKcg0Iv93YVYhl7dOt0Fl9g?reload=9

Is the idea of failure a barrier that leads to avoidance? Or do you view it as a necessity to personal growth and development? In this episode I reflect upon the idea of failure to explore how may remove our ability to grow, adapt, and succeed simply by attempting to avoid failure. We also explore reframing failure from a negative experience to a necessary experience to personal growth. Enjoy!

Ever feel badly for turning down offers, invites, requests or favors? Does saying "yes" often result in feeling resentful, overwhelmed, and overall distressed? Do you feel selfish or like a bad friend/sibling/coworker for saying "no?" Well today we explore the guilt of saying "no" and how the meaning we create around setting personal boundaries can impact our mental health and relationships. With the holidays quickly approaching and more invites and social/family expectations, take a moment to reflect upon your own needs and when saying "no" will actually help to improve your overall wellness. Enjoy! Special thanks as always to Brett Chance for providing the original music. You can also check out Brett's new music under "Charmer and Klay" no playing on Spotify.

In this episode we have two very special guests, friends, and fellow therapists, Sandy Kong and Stephanie Kaufman! Sandy has worked with clients struggling with substance abuse, addiction, and more recently provided grief work for families that have lost a family member to homicide. Stephanie has worked extensively with families by supporting them through past traumas; specifically how it has impacted their children's behaviors and mental health. More recently, Stephanie has written a children's book, "What a Feeling," that aims to help parents and children identify situations that trigger particular feelings in the mind and body. Stephanie also produces videos that provide parents with parenting tips and strategies in Spanish at www.padrespracticos.com. Thank you for listening and enjoy!

In this episode we explore a basic concept: trusting the process. Why is that important? Well, the process is the part that we control, and the outcome we may be hoping for can be elusive or even disappointing leading to further frustration, anxiety, and even helplessness. Therefore, attach to the process!

In this episode, we wrap things up for my 5 Keys to Effective Communication with "Nothings Personal, but Love." In this episode, we tie all keys to together. It's easy to take things personally and end up in conflict with our loved ones, colleagues, and sometimes even strangers. In this episode, we explore taking a step back realizing that other people's behaviors aren't necessarily about us unless its love, appreciation, adoration, etc. Please subscribe and share! Also, the 1000 listen giveaway is ending this month, so please share on Facebook and Instagram!

Being honest when communicating is more than telling the truth; it's about being honest with ourselves, recognizing our vulnerabilities, admitting our reactions to insecurities, and reflecting upon why we said what we said or did what we did. I break it down in this episode in 3 basic parts. Also, this episode will get us to 1,000 listens! Which means its giveaway time! Listen to details of the giveaway at the end of the episode.

In this episode, we look at "assuming ignorance over intent" in our relationships with others. Why is this important? So that we don't react to situations that trigger us, but explore conflicts and tension with curiosity to find more effective ways of interacting with others. Listen to this brief episode for 3 easy steps to practicing my 3rd key to effective communication. www.therapizedpodcast.com

In this episode, we explore the idea of "Owning It." Essentially taking responsibility for your own thoughts, opinions, feelings, experiences, values, actions, and expectations. Why is this important? So we can adapt and grow in our relationships when other people's experiences and actions differ from our own.

Today we sit down with William Dansby, an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, in order to discuss the foundations of Attachment Theory. Attachment refers to a strong emotional bond (or attachment) to a primary caregiver, often our mother at child birth, and how effectively the primary caregiver met their child's needs. The theory also explores how that initial attachment can influence how we approach future relationships where an emotional bond is formed such as raising our own children or how we approach romantic relationships. Stay tuned for future episodes with William Dansby as we dive deeper into the theory, but for now enjoy the foundations of Attachment Theory! For further readings on Attachment Theory, you can explore the initial researchers, John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, and how they developed this theory decades ago and how it as evolved over time since.

In part 1 of my 5 Keys to Effective Communication series, we focus on assertiveness. We briefly explore passive, passive-aggressive, and aggressive forms of communication and aim to develop assertive statements by communicating in a calm, clear, and confident manner in hopes of developing and strengthening our relationships by creating the space to feel heard, understood, and connected.

Sometimes our natural response to anxiety is to avoid it by engaging in various forms of the "flight response." This can come in many ways as we as humans can provide ourselves with distractions to ease the discomfort from experiencing anxiety. In this episode we explore the common avoidance patterns from the "escapers" to the "doers" and how both patterns can relate to our avoidance to our internal discomfort and external stressors. Enjoy!

Are you getting into consistent conflicts or power struggles with friends, coworkers, or family? You may be falling into "The Anxiety Trap." In this episode we explore how our un-managed feelings of anxiety can impact our ability to be effective problem-solvers in our relationships with others; ultimately leading to increased and sustained conflict. Stay tuned for our next episode when we will have our first guest! Thank you! All music provided Brett Chance https://soundcloud.com/brettchance Intro: Someone Up There Likes You Song 2: Here You Are Song 3: Holy Ghost Song 4: Being There Outro: Best Day Aura

Misunderstandings are easy and effective communication can be incredibly difficult! In this episode we preview some basic and common barriers to relational conflicts and my 5 keys to effective communication to overcome those barriers. This is episode is an appetizer of what is to come as we will take each key and create it's own episode with specific examples and techniques to increase effective communication in our lives. All music provided by Brett Chance (Thank you!!!) https://soundcloud.com/brettchance Intro Song: Someone Up There Likes You Outro Song: Peace and Plenty

Humans experience thousands and thousands of automatic thoughts per day. Some of those thoughts become unhelpful to our life. In this episode we explore some of the common unhelpful thinking patterns that may increase our feelings of anxiety and depression and ultimately influence the way we live our life. Check out my website for links to resources! www.therapizedpodcast.com

In this episode we explore some basic information regarding the brain's stress response and how it impacts our approach to conflict and new situations.