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This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 206. Welcome back, everybody. How are we doing? We are on week 3 of the Self-Compassion Challenge. So welcome if you are new and you haven't caught up with our Self-Compassion Challenge. We are doing a 30-day Self-Compassion Challenge for everybody, so everyone can dabble in their self-compassion practice, maybe strengthen their self-compassion practice, and hopefully thrive with their self-compassion practice. Today, we're going to talk about the roadblocks to self-compassion. Now, this is coming directly from my new book called The Self-Compassion Workbook For OCD. However, even if you don't have OCD, this will apply to you. I did a poll on Instagram with almost a thousand people who wrote in and polled on the biggest roadblocks that they're having, and I've compiled it. Thankfully, I used it in the book. The cool news is there were so many people who agreed on those top eight roadblocks. So I wanted to share them with you today. We're going to go through each and every single one. But before we do that, I would like to first do the “I did a hard thing” segment. Now, for those of you who are new, welcome. The “I did a hard thing” segment is where you write in and you tell me the hard thing that you have done. Today's is from anonymous, and they have said: “I just got on a ship for a daily trip and I forgot to take with me my medication. I don't use the medication that much, but I do feel safe when I have them with me. This makes me anxious, but I am choosing to manage my anxiety.” How cool is that? Sometimes things don't go as we plan, and we have to rely on all of our tools and it sounds like Anonymous is doing that in an amazing way. All right. I have been doing a review of the week for people who submit a review for the podcast. However, as I'm recording this, the reviews have started to come in for the book and I couldn't help myself but share the very first review for the book. It made my heart explode. I was taking a walk. My friend called me to tell me there was a review, and I basically burst into tears. So here we go: “I've read a number of books on OCD in the past, but Kimberley's emphasis on self-compassion and its place in the ERP process is so, so refreshing and so very important. This is a must-read for anyone with OCD or anyone helping a loved one through OCD. It is a beautiful day to do hard things.” Thank you so much for that amazing review. The reviews literally are changing my life. Oh my goodness, I can't tell you, when you write a book, there is so much anxiety involved, at least there was for me. And so to have people enjoy the book is just literally the most amazing thing. The most amazing thing. I had no idea. Number one, total massive respect to any author of any kind. Writing a book is very, very hard. And so, I'm just honored to be able to help people in that format as well as this format, and in addition to CBT School and in my practice. What a joy. All right. Let's get to the show. Let's talk about the Common Roadblocks to Self-Compassion. Now, the first one is related to OCD. Like I said, if you don't have OCD, stay with me because the rest are really going to maybe resonate with you, but this one is very much hands down, was the number one roadblock people reported who have OCD to have a roadblock with self-compassion. 1. “I do not deserve self-compassion because of the content of my obsessions.” In the book, we go through each and every one of these in detail, but today I'm just gonna quickly knock each one of them out. So here we go. Your obsessions do not determine whether you are worthy or deserving of self-compassion. The minute you say that, you're giving too much importance to your thoughts, feelings, sensations, and urges. So the big thing to remember here is, your job is to have these obsessions and not respond to them as if they're important, and to practice taking care of yourself, whether you have them or not, that this idea that you're not deserving of them is completely false. In fact, we talk a lot about calculations in the workbook. Some people like we have these weird algebraic calculations where we go, me + obsessions = undeserving, or me + intrusive thoughts = I'm a bad person. I want you to keep an eye out for these little nuanced calculations that you have in your mind because they are dead wrong. Your thoughts are thoughts. Your feelings are feelings. Your sensations are sensations. You are not disqualified from being treated with respect and kindness because of them. 2. “I am not worthy of self-compassion because I have a mental illness.” Now in the book, we use a case study where we talk about this idea of stigma around mental illness. I really want to urge you, as I do in the book, to start to break this belief that there is anything wrong with you for struggling with a mental illness. We have to be the change here. We have to lead by example. If you have a mental illness and someone has shamed you, or you've experienced the stigma of that, your job is to be the change by treating yourself how you would treat anybody else who was struggling with a mental illness. And that would be with kindness and respect and care and nurturing. You're not disqualified, again, because you have a mental illness. There is nothing wrong with having a mental us. That doesn't mean you're less worthy, less valuable, less successful, less lovable. We have to break through all of those faulty beliefs we have around mental illness because it's no different to a medical illness. In my belief, the more you suffer, the more you tend to that suffering with kindness. It's not like, oh, well, some suffering is okay. We'll give some of my suffering kindness, but not the ones with mental illness because society has told me that there's something wrong with that, which is absolutely incorrect. 3. “I am too preoccupied with anxiety, panic, and uncertainty to practice self-compassion.” This is a common one, and I fall into this category as well. Sometimes when we're anxious, we rush too much, we speed along, we try to push it away, and we don't stop to go, “Wait, maybe I could be just kind. Maybe I could just be really gentle with myself while I feel anxious. Maybe I could slow down and tend to my anxiety.” Maybe that's the answer instead of trying to push it away or have it be gone, because that is the answer. 4. “It feels wrong to practice self-compassion.” Now, this is a really good definition of what we would call “emotional reasoning.” It goes under the cognitive distortion that, just because I feel it, it must be true. Now, just because things feel wrong doesn't actually mean they're wrong. It's often because you've been taught for many years based on society or your family about what's right and wrong, and we've never stopped to question, is that even true? Because it's not wrong to practice self-compassion. In fact, it's effective to practice self-compassion. It's helpful to practice self-compassion. We've already sort of declared you're worthy and deserving of practicing self-compassion. So your job is, even though it feels wrong, do it anyway. Do it anyway. It might feel awkward and weird to start with, do it anyway. It might feel bizarre and self-centered, do it anyway. That's what we want to do. 5. “Self-criticism and self-punishment are how I motivate myself.” Whoa, this one is so strong for some people. So many of my patients and clients have told me in the past, “If I don't beat myself up, I'm going to turn, you know, it's the only way I get myself to do things.” And I often say, “Okay, maybe that's true. It might work. You might find that self-punishment and self-criticism does motivate you. But is there possibly a more effective way? Is there possibly another way that you can motivate yourself? And yes, self-compassion can be used as a motivational force. Is there another way you could do it that actually doesn't create more problems?” In the book, one of the main concepts I talk about is compassionate responsibility, which is where you honor what your needs are, and sometimes that you do need to get things done. So you practice motivating yourself using what we call a kind coach voice instead of a critical voice. Both have the same outcome. Both are motivational. One tends to bring you down and the other one tends to cheer you on and make you feel empowered. Let's choose the latter. Let's choose the voice that says “You can do it. Keep going. You've got this. Keep trying. It's okay that you fell down. Just one minute at a time, get up and keep trying,” instead of the critical voice and the punishing behaviors and voices. 6. “What if self-compassion makes me lazy?” This goes together with the last one. A lot of people are afraid that if they're self-compassionate that they'll just become some sloth that doesn't do things and lets themselves go. I'm here to say, no. If that's what happens, that's not self-compassion anyway. Self-compassion is doing what you need to live a good life. It's not letting yourself off the hook all the time. Sometimes it can be to say, “You've had a rough day, it's time to rest.” But a lot of the time it's saying, “Yeah, you've got some hard things to do.” Let's be so gentle and so encouraging of you as you do those hard things. The whole phrase “It's a beautiful day to do hard things” is a self-compassionate statement. You just didn't know it yet. We didn't call it that, but that's what it is. The thing to remember here is, maybe you want to check your definition of lazy and weak. For me, this has been a huge part of my recovery, especially having a chronic illness and mental struggles. Is taking time off to rest really the definition of weak and lazy? No, it's just what human beings do. Humans need to rest so that they can restore themselves to go and do amazing hard things. Sometimes we're taught to believe that you should never rest, and you should never be lazy. And so you don't give yourself that basic need of restorative rest. So, so important. 7. “What if practicing self-compassion makes me snap or lose control?” Now, this is a big one, particularly for people with anxiety. This comes under the misconception that we must constantly brace ourselves for the worst. We must constantly be hypervigilant and hyper-aware of all the possible dangers. And so we have to constantly be scanning for danger, looking for danger, what's going on, what could go wrong. We know, number one, that that's compulsive in nature. It keeps you stuck in anxiety. But it also is a block, a roadblock to your ability to tend to your suffering, tend to the sensations that are uncomfortable, the feelings that bring pain to you. So an exposure, we want to actually practice not engaging in those hypervigilant behaviors and practice being uncertain on whether you will snap or not, or lose control or not, and just tolerate the uncertainty of that. Sometimes self-compassion is an exposure in and of itself because when you're practicing self-compassion, you're not engaging in those compulsive rituals that keep you stuck in that cycle. It's really, really cool that it can be both an emotionally intelligent behavior, but also be an exposure. It's like to bang for your buck, I guess. 8. “Practicing self-compassion makes me self-centered.” Now, we've had amazing guests on the podcast who have addressed this, but I will address it again. Being self-centered is not the definition of self-compassion. Self-centeredness is this idea that we're egotistical and everything has to be about me and so forth. What I have found in my own practice is, the more self-compassionate I am, the more I'm able to tend to other people's needs and be aware of other people's struggles and difficulties because I'm connected to my suffering. The more I am aware and meet my suffering, the more I can acknowledge and be in relation with other people when they're suffering. I can sit with them and go, “Yes, me too.” I can tend to their pain without having to make it about me because I'm there for myself. I don't need other people to make it about me anymore because I have already tended to my needs. I have unconditionally been there for myself, so I can be there for other people. It's so, so important. So that is the top 8. In the workbook, I have room for others. There's lines where you could add your own and you might find you have your own roadblocks. They are valid too. Identify them and keep an eye on them. The main work here is once you catch them, and you know they're happening, you can then move on to dismiss them and correct them and move towards tending to your discomfort, being kind while you ride the waves of uncertainty and anxiety and discomfort. It's so, so important. It's so, so important. Let me go right to the top. You deserve this. YOU. Yes, you. I'm talking directly to you. I'm looking you right in the eye. I'm going to conclude this episode by saying YOU DESERVE SELF-COMPASSION. You are valuable. Your pain matters. You deserve kindness and respect and tenderness in your suffering. Your suffering is important. It's not irrelevant. It's not silly. It's not childish. It's important. You deserve to tend to that kindly. I'm talking to you right now. I hope you're listening. All right, folks sending you so much love. I hope that you're finding this Self-Compassion Challenge helpful. Continue to follow on the lives on Instagram. That's where we're doing tons of live work. Continue to look at the emails. If you're not signed up for the newsletter, please do. You can go to cbtschool.com and click on Resources and we can sign you up there. Or you can click on the show notes, we have links there where you can sign up and you will get all the challenges that you need for each day and each week. They're Monday through Friday, we take the weekends off because that's the self-compassionate thing to do. All my love to you. Really go and be gentle. Go and be kind. Go and honor and respect your own experience. It's so important. I'll talk to you soon.
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The social component can be absolute hell for a child with an invisible condition or disability. People can be so cruel and unkind when they don't see another person's challenges. The key to helping your child find a space in society is to find an accepting social circle. Be with people who will be tolerant and accepting of their challenges and will appreciate their great qualities!
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Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is very common amongst youth and it's important to understand all of the elements so we can be helpful. Listen as Tessa speaks to you as if you're sitting with her in her office all about her thoughts and therapeutic advice on handling OCD with your child.
I'm back again with an episode that is full of diverse topics and a host of information. First, I answer a question about Symmetry OCD (8:25) and discuss what it is, what it isn't, and what can be done about it. Next, I talk about an article I wrote about… Continue reading The post #77- Symmetry OCD, the “feeling problem”, trauma, and compulsive flooding appeared first on FearCast Podcast.
On today's episode, Jack opens up about his experience with anxiety and OCD. He dives into some of the things he does day to day due to his OCD and his positive outlook on dealing with it. He also discusses the many great tools his therapist has given him to help him with his OCD and anxiety. Enjoy! Daily Dose CBD promo code: "monkeymind15" for 15% off at https://www.dailydosecbdinc.com/ Monkey Mind's website: https://monkeymindathletes.com/ Monkey Mind's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monkeymindathletes/ Monkey Mind merch: https://monkeymindathletes.com/merchandise Jack's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jstrauss18/?utm_medium=copy_link Watch this episode on our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJLKZQb6vBgxlWvCLj_5jhQ
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Series overviewThere is a mystical power to self optimization, to becoming better. With all the Behavioral Science, behavioral economics, psychology, neurological studies, and FMRI tech we have figured out how to make you “better.” Yet, according to movies and myth, attempts at control or better living through science cascade into tragedy.From the 80's man now considered toxic, to the perfect housewife now considered repressive, the timing of the societal idea of “better” shifts. And let's not even get into the tragedy of eugenics and that deadly trap of “progress.”Optimization (for this series of podcasts) is along the lines of “better habits to make a better man or woman.” Woven into our bootstrapping cultural ethos and perpetuated in early sci-fi and dangerous stereotypes, the notion has a desperate appeal, especially in a society that creates insecurity. There is a dream of morphing into the Übermensch, of overcoming and maximizing potential.Optimization offers a formula of productive competence, and along with that comes achievement and self-confidence. For some this turns to the cockiness of being a bro, or bro-ette, yet equally that is something else cultural as well. But with this quasi-scientific-self-help-behavior-hack culture on the rise, we should look at not only why it is rising, but also look at the hidden downside: As Zander Nethercutt saysWe are optimizing ourselves to death… In a hyper-productive, work-obsessed world, we've become acutely aware of any opportunity for optimization.”Yes, we are obsessed due to our cultural precarity, due to the systemic fear-inducing threat of being left behind.Yet, there actually are some real benefits to having knowledge of how knowledge gets formed. Being able to retain information just a little bit better, or being able to sleep just a little bit better, or (most beneficial for me) working on a regular basis to prevent depression, rumination, and ennui are all goals worth pursuing… in moderation.The Lure of Self OptimizationWe all dream of the magic elixir of being “awesome-sauce amazing.” It is a mythological archetype to imbibe and thrive. It is a hope preyed on by snake-oil salesmen and sold to Kings as the Fountain of Youth. With modern science we have reduced the myth to pill form and invented conspiracy theories.However, there really is a modern science of chemicals that increase brain function: neurotropic drugs. The most popular example is Bradley Cooper in the movie Limitless, where are a neurotropic drug allows for increased focus, cognition, and neuroplasticity, which is of course like a superpower in a society the champions intelligence over anything else. Well, maybe we champion money more… or no, maybe it is beauty, or maybe power… anyway… I digress.One popular drug for focus and attention is Ritalin. or speed. Amphetamines are heavily abused today by students freaking out about taking exams. But most neurotropics are not speed or a silver-bullet: they offer you marginal gains at best, and often involve taking several pills several times a day to keep a lot of chemical levels at optimal Peaks.But, for such marginal gains, perhaps you could just as easily set up something more tangible and more measurable: adjust your workflow for Peak Performance to hit Flow State.JUST THE TIPSTIP 1: KanBanOne tip to help you achieve flow state is to set yourself up for success. By using multiple interlocking strategies that reduce stress and increase focus, it is easier to slip into flow state. One of the setups recommended is Kanban. The Kanban technique is really a productivity system: a list making technique that is the inspiration for the software Trello.One problem we suffer from is our brain is constantly remembering small nagging things we have to do, which keeps distracting us from complete focus.First, you write down everything you need to get done, all the goals, all the steps onto “cards”. Second, you organize them into #todo #active #paused and #compelte categories. Finally, with everything in easy to see visual system, you keep pull up one “card” from the active category and focus on that.This reduces the cognitive drag of your brain trying to multitask and worry, increasing productivity.Tip 2: FLOW STATENow that your workflow is more efficient through Kanban, you need the right frame of mind to hit flow state. This is different for everyone, but the right music helps and you can look up a list of “flow triggers” here to see what else might help youNote: the task must be sufficiently difficult but not too hard, hitting your ‘zone of competence'. Easy enough for you to see results and feel in control, but difficult enough to keep you fully absorbed and engaged.At this point, you lose identification with “self” or the ability to “self-monitor.” That's right: you are your most productive self when you stop thinking about yourself.moths to the flameWhy would you want to be 5x more productive?I would hazard to say the lure of efficiency, habits, and productivity feed into a notion that you can take control of your life, find more agency and autonomy, and feel more secure in a precarious world.However, Schopenhauer may be right:A man can do as he wills, but not will as he wills.This begets the paradox of rational instrumentality, where we can rationally make a plan and we can follow that plan, but without asking if the our underlying desire (the thing we will) is in itself rational. Have we been considering greater productivity beneficial without considering why?Productivity is a tool. A very seductive tool, just like rationality, but productivity at its worst cases can lead to OCD and can become a supplemental crutch to actual living. You can be so busy being productive you forget to live. You are, at that point, an automaton protecting yourself from the ambiguity of living. Jurgen Habermas (whom we discussed previously on episode 12) says our rationality should be “communicative rationality” which would come out of successful communication… not our own demented echo chambers.In a healthy society you could choose to be hyper-productive just because, to test yourself, but it would not necessarily make you more secure or more valuable: your validation of yourself would be internal and through your connection to others, not as part of a competitive survival strategy.However, we live in a capitalist world leaning into oligopoly while consumerist extremism shapes our psychology into pathology. Due to the system we are in, and maybe our evolutionary nature, we desire external validation and wish to climb the social ladder. The lure of optimization is to provide rungs for our climb. The science of optimization allows self-bootstrapping through measurable efficiencies, thus offering a semblance of control and forward momentum or positive, constructive change.This is not bad, in fact, it is great. Perhaps it is even a vital survival strategy today. Given that our society preys on precarity, turning those that fall behind into serfs and wage slaves, maybe reshaping ourselves is the only option until our society ascends into a healthy utopia.My cautioning consideration is in terms of moderation: We must keep our priorities in sight, and hopefully they are beyond materialist consumerism. If we become hyper-productive what if we spent our remaining hours resting, relaxing, and bonding with friends and family?
In today's episode, Alex rants about the people who are protesting the vaccine mandates, causing there to be holdups in American society such as the 1000 cancelled Southwest flights because pilots are refusing to get vaxxed. It's a messy situation. The rant about anti-vaxxers turns into a rant about Mark Zuckerberg, as things tend to do. Alex then spends a lot of time talking about his experiences living with OCD and how he's dealt with it throughout his life, as well as poked fun at it. Tucker Carlson had a lot to say the other day about the current state of the country, so Alex is going to see what he's complaining about in this week's roast of Fox News pundits. After that there's plenty of Karens that have been caught on tape to make fun of, and then after that relationship advice and the Herman Cain Freedom Awards. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
An interview with Michael Poyurovsky, MD, on the paradoxical effects of antipsychotics in OCD and the many ways that OCD symptoms show up in schizophrenia.Published On: 10/11/2021Duration: 18 minutes, 3 secondsRelated Article: "Can Antipsychotics Worsen OCD?", The Carlat Psychiatry Report, October 2021Got feedback? Take the podcast survey.
Photo features Taylor and her husband, Gregg, who is an ER / ICU physician in NYC. 263: OCD in Kids, Featuring Dr. Taylor Chesney Rhonda starts this podcast by reading two incredible endorsements from fans like you. Thanks so much for the many kind and thoughtful emails we receive daily! Today's podcast features Dr. Taylor Chesney, the founder and director of the Feeling Good Institute of New York City. Taylor was a member of my Tuesday training group at Stanford for several years during her doctoral training in psychology. Then she and her husband, Gregg, who is an ICU / intensive care unit doctor, returned home to NYC where she opened her clinical practice. We have featured Taylor on a number of two previous podcasts: Corona Cast 4 (published 4-09-202) and Corona Cast 6 (published 4-30-2020). We always benefit greatly from Taylor's wisdom, warmth, and superb teaching. Taylor specializes in TEAM-CBT for children and teens, and tells us today about the upsurge in OCD (Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder) in young people, and how she approaches this problem using TEAM-CBT along with some family therapy. Taylor describes OCD as a pattern of intrusive thoughts, fears, and images that trigger feelings of anxiety. In addition, the patient engages in a series of repetitious, supposititious behaviors in an effort to avoid the fear. Sometimes the parents may get caught up in the child's fears as well and engage in the compulsive rituals as well. The fears Taylor sees in children are similar to the fears reported by adults with OCD, such as the fear of contamination, and the compulsive habit of repeated handwashing, and more. But especially common in kids are fears that loved ones, like parents, won't come home or will be hurt. Common OCD rituals in children include wanting things to be a certain way; for example, organizing your desk meticulously, arranging your pencils, and so forth. The patient often feels that he or she can't stop or something terrible will happen. Another common fear is getting sick, and needing repeated reassurance that the food the child is eating is safe. David asked about the Hidden Emotion Model that is common and often helpful in adults with OCD, or any anxiety disorder. For example, if a child fears that a parent will be hurt, might this suggest that the child has repressed angry feelings toward the parent? Taylor confirmed that this dynamic was, in fact, common in children as well as adults with OCD. She emphasized the need for an alliance with the parents as a part of the treatment team. This might include urging the child to express his or her anger, wants, and so forth. Taylor speculated that the increase she's seen in OCD may be the result of the COVID pandemic, and the uncertainty we all feel. Children have a great need for love, empathy, structure, and certainty, and OCD is just one pattern that the increase in anxiety can take. At the start of treatment, Taylor does an initial intake session with the parents, followed by two sessions with the child, and in both cases attempts to empathize and form an alliance via the Five Secrets of Effective Communication. She also wants to find out who the “patient” really is. Who is asking for help? Is it the child? Or the parents? She also wants to know who will do the work of the therapy. If the child doesn't see the OCD symptoms as a problem, she will work with the parents. Sometimes there's a mismatch as to what the problem is. The parents might want the child to get help with procrastination on schoolwork or household chores, but the child might want help with shyness and relationships with other kids. She describes how she uses TEAM to show the child that his or her symptoms reflect his or her core values, but that they can turn down the intensity of the fears using the Magic Dial. She emphasized a role for psychoeducation in the treatment as well, explaining the evolutionary and protective role of anxiety. It's just that sometimes the volume gets turned up to unnecessary levels. She said that the parents are a huge part of the treatment, since the problem “lives in the house,” and the parents may fear what might happen if the child does not engage in the rituals. And, of course, Exposure and Response Prevention are important keys to successful treatment, just as they are in adults. Taylor described a compelling example of a teenager with an intense fear of vomiting in the middle of the night, who had resorted to a variety of rituals including avoiding dinner, secretly sleeping in his bathroom just in case. and more. Together, she guided him in the creation of a hierarchy of exposures as well as Positive Reframing of his symptoms. He successfully completed his treated in just six sessions. Taylor offers a 12-week introductory course on TEAM-CBT with children and adolescents, and is a superb and highly esteemed teacher. For more information, you can contact Taylor@FeelingGoodInstitute.com or look for her on the website of the www,FeelingGoodInstitute.com Rhonda and David
This week, Rev. Ken begins by talking about the concept of "yucking someone else's yum." He also reflects on the meaning of nervous laughter and sarcasm, and shares a story about a time when he laughed nervously while making a 911 call. A concept called "The four horsemen of relationship apocalypse" is shown, as is a story about a man who suffered from OCD as a child.
This week, Rev. Ken begins by talking about the concept of "yucking someone else's yum." He also reflects on the meaning of nervous laughter and sarcasm, and shares a story about a time when he laughed nervously while making a 911 call. A concept called "The four horsemen of relationship apocalypse" is shown, as is a story about a man who suffered from OCD as a child.
Note: This is part 2 of a 2 part episode. If you haven't already, go back and listen to part 1 - episode #78. In this episode, I talk about the differences and similarities between Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). I also review... - why I think these disorders are, ultimately, the same - how treatment may differ slightly for one vs the other - how parsing these disorders out can become an exercise in trivial distinctions - the most important thing to do with these disorders at the end of the day - regardless of which one you have For OCD treatment, check out NOCD - head to www.treatmyocd.com and schedule your free 15 minute phone call to get connected with a licensed therapist who specializes in Exposure and Response Prevention. NOCD is a mobile therapy platform and includes video sessions with a therapist, in addition to peer support, ERP tools, and more. It is available in and out of the United States. NOCD accepts insurances and payment plans for self-payers. This podcast should not be substituted, nor is meant to act as a substitute, for legitimate mental health treatment/a legitimate mental health treatment provider. This podcast and any information in it is solely the reflection of general knowledge and cannot be taken as a personal therapeutic recommendation. To find a therapist near you to work more directly with these issues, head over to IOCDF.org, psychologytoday.com, or nami.org. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jennaoverbaugh/support
I am delighted to have Dr. Uma Naidoo joining me on the podcast today! Dr. Naidoo is an awarded board-certified psychiatrist at Harvard Medical School, professional chef, nutrition specialist, and author of the recently released This is Your Brain on Food: An Indispensable Guide to the Surprising Foods that Fight Depression, Anxiety, PTSD, OCD, ADHD, and More. She was featured in the Wall Street Journal, ABC News, Harvard Health Press, Goop, and many others. Dr. Naidoo has a special interest in the impact of food on mood and other mental health conditions. There were several strong influences in Dr. Naidoo's early life. She grew up in a loving, nurturing home with a large extended South Asian family. Rather than going to pre-school, she decided to stay at home with her maternal grandmother, who was a wonderful cook. Dr. Naidoo used to help her grandmother pick fresh vegetables from the garden and prepare meals, and her grandparents taught her meditation and yoga. Her mother was a medical student, and she had many aunts and uncles who were physicians, so there was a lot of talk about science and nutrition in their home. In this episode, Dr. Naidoo talks about food and lifestyle choices that can boost your mood and improve mental and emotional health. Tune in today to hear our fascinating conversation! IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN: Dr. Naidoo's background and her journey from medical school to becoming a chef and a nutrition-focused psychiatrist. What caused Dr. Naidoo to have an “aha” moment. The connection between gut health and mental health. Foods that tend to create the most problems with mental health. Why do you need to read food labels and pay close attention to your food choices? The clinical differences between men and women as our brains and bodies get older. Trauma can happen in many different ways. Foods that can impact libido. Foods that can positively impact brain health. What fiber does in the gut? Some lifestyle changes could positively impact your mental and emotional health. Connect with Cynthia Thurlow Follow on Twitter, Instagram & LinkedIn Check out Cynthia's website Connect with Dr. Uma Naidoo Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and Twitter Check out Dr. Naidoo's website Books mentioned: Brain Wash by David Perlmutter
Drew Loryn sits down with Chicago Comedian and Writer, Bridget McGuire. Bridget talks about her lifelong journey with OCD and how it has impacted her relationships as well as herself. She discusses how her OCD has evolved throughout her life and when she finally got help after her breaking point. They also discuss how alcohol affects OCD and the impact of OCD on relationships. Trigger Warning: The follow content may contain references to self harm, drugs, violence, mental health disorders, and more. Follow Drew on Instagram: @drew.loryn Follow Bridget on Instagram: @bmcguire82 Follow Doing Time on Instagram: @doingtimepodcast
This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 205. Welcome back, everybody. We are on week 2 of this Self-Compassion Challenge. For those of you who are new to the podcast, or didn't hear last week's episode, go back and listen to that. We are on week 2 of a 30-days Self-Compassion Challenge. My whole goal is that you learn how to treat yourself kindly and compassionately as you move through difficult times. We are doing this to celebrate the launch of my very first book (The Self-Compassion Workbook for OCD), which I am so proud of and so excited about. Thank you to everybody who has purchased the book, supported me on social media, shouted me out to their friends and fellow followers. I cannot tell you how grateful I am. If you have got the book and you're enjoying the book, please do go and leave a review over on Amazon, share your honest opinion or share your thoughts on social media or with anybody you can, because the more people I can help, the happier. I am. We are moving on today in this episode onto the second most important part of self-compassion in my mind. Now, this is taken directly from the book, even though the workbook is called The Self-Compassion Workbook For OCD. This is a concept I talk to all my clients about. It's something I constantly check in with myself about, and it has been probably one of the most important parts of my recovery in mental health in many, many ways. So I am so excited to share this with you. Before we do that, I do want to go over and share the review of the week. For those of you who are new to the podcast or are old to the podcast, I love your reviews on iTunes. It helps me reach more people. So this week is from Looney Lovey. It says: “A gift of a podcast. I am so incredibly thankful I found this podcast. I have experienced OCD since I was 10, and this has been one of the most amazing tools. I seriously thank God for leading me to this podcast every day. It is like having a therapist in your pocket. Kimberley is so sweet, and her openness and kindness make the listener feel so welcome.” Thank you, Loony Lovey. The next thing I wanted to share is the “I did a hard thing.” Now, let's take a step back here and really look at self-compassion as really being a hard thing. And so, a lot of you have actually written in and said, self-compassion was one of the hard things that they've been practicing. However, this week we have a hard thing from anonymous and they've said: “I have a fear of disease. I recently had two close friends get a diagnosis where this would make me feel fear for myself and my family. I chose to show up for my friends and continue on a daily basis, working on my mental boundaries, not making their illness about me, and my fear is about that stopping me from supporting them. I struggle with feeling everyday body sensations in myself and wonder if I am next. But this is so amazing, this whole ‘I did a hard thing.'” Anonymous, amazing work. It sounds like you're really showing up and letting your values make your decisions, not your fear. This is so cool. This is just so cool that you've done that. Look at you go. Doesn't that just show that fear doesn't win, right? That love and connection and values win every single time. I just love this one so much. Thank you so much for sharing. I have a ton of submissions, but I will share again very soon where you could put those submissions in if you're wanting to put your name in. Okay? All right. Let's get over to the meat and cheese of the whole episode today. So we're talking about a concept. Now, this is not scientifically proven, I have to disclose. This is my conceptualization of one of the main things that get in the way of self-compassion. I'm going to tell you a quick story. When my son was in kindergarten, the teacher had this system called the clip chart. I want you to imagine the clip chart is just a piece of cardboard, and in the middle of the piece of cardboard, it's like a long narrow rectangle. In the middle is a peg. And the peg is put right in the middle and there is just a normal neutral face. Above the peg are these different ladder rungs. There's a smiley face, there's “You did well,” then there's a bigger smiley face. And then at the very top, there's this huge smiley face saying, “You get a treat.” Now under the peg is a sad face. And then under the peg is an even sadder face. And then under that sadder face is a really, really sad, but almost mad face. And next to it, it says, “Call your parents.” This is a ladder system that if a kid isn't listening, they get clipped down. If a kid is doing really well, they get clipped up. At the top, if they get clipped up enough times, they get a special treat, some toy from the toy box. If they get clipped down enough times, the teacher calls the parents. This is what we would call a behavioral modification tool to help encourage kids and motivate children, usually five-year-olds, on how to act and how to behave. It's incredibly efficient. As long as it's not done in a shaming way, it can be a really motivating way of keeping kids feeling like they're being motivated in courage. They've got something to look forward to. They're working towards something. The problem with this is, even if you haven't got a clip chart and you weren't given one in kindergarten, our society runs by a metaphorical clip chart. If you act well and you put a smile on your face and you get good grades, you get clipped up. If your body looks a certain way, you get clipped up. If you make a certain amount of money, metaphorically, our society will clip you up as if you're doing well. Now, likewise, if you're struggling, often we clipped down. We do this to ourselves. Not only society, but we also clip ourselves down. “Oh, I didn't do well in that test. I'm going to clip myself down.” Sad face. “Oh, I'm struggling with my panic today, or my anxiety today. I'm going to clip myself down. I did compulsions today. I'm going to clip myself down.” We use this metaphorical motivation system all the time. Now within society, we also have this inbuilt view on mental illness. This is also about racism, and there's so many different levels of the way your body looks, social media followers. Again, like I said, how much money you make. There's socially so many expectations put on us, that we also buy into that. Sometimes, because we rely on this metaphorical clip up and clip down system, we use only this system to motivate ourselves, which ultimately means we're constantly on this checklist of how much we can get done so that we can feel good about ourselves. We're constantly clipping ourselves up and down as if worth depends on it. And that's the piece I want you to remember. We do this, and we make this calculation, that if I'm clipping up, I'm worth more. If I'm doing my homework well, I'm worth more. If I don't have a mental illness anymore, I'm worth more. This is not true. This is all lies. This is one of the main points I make in the book, which is, when we're stuck in a clip chart way of seeing ourselves, our identity, our worth, our value, we're constantly anxious. We're constantly afraid of dropping the ball. One of the most compassionate things we can do is to drop the clip chart system completely, to recognize. This is what I say to my patients all the time. You're always at the top of the clip chart. Nothing you can do is going to drop your worth down – no mental illness, no body shape, size, color, hair color, short height, tall. None of that changes your worth. None of it. I'm specifically here talking about your mental struggles. You do not get clipped down worth-wise because of all of the struggles you have mentally. I have had so many patients and clients tell me they don't deserve self-compassion because they're struggling so much with this mental illness, because it's putting their family out. It's impacting their loved one's lives because it causes them to do compulsions all night long. And therefore, they deserve to be clipped down. I don't agree with that respectfully. Everybody is at the top. You're having a bad day? You're still at the top of the clip chart. You're having a good day? You're still at the top of the clip chart. Every single day, you deserve a treat, a fun, joyful experience. A pleasure, a reward. You got through the day. Celebrate. You don't get clipped down. We have to throw out the clip chart system. Now, does this mean you have to give up trying? Absolutely not. Does that mean that you don't study for your test and you don't show up to work and you don't try to make life better for you? Absolutely not. You do the things that you value. You do the things that fill up your heart. If you value getting a good grade in school, put in as much effort as you can because you value it, not because you're on this conditional worth system where you're just trying to prove that you're worthy and good. Don't do treatment. I talk with my patients, why are you doing ERP? Are you doing it because you want your life back from OCD? Or are you doing it because you feel embarrassed or ashamed for having to do compulsions? Neither is wrong, but the compassionate thing to do here is to move from a place of values, what matters to you, what makes you feel like it gives you purpose in this life, what keeps you connected to your loved ones – instead of clipping yourself up and down on this worth ladder, because that's temporary and it's conditional. We want our self-compassion practice to be unconditional. That's why we throw out the clip chart. It's unconditional. You're having a hard day? You get self-compassion. You're having a good day? You get self-compassion. You're having a day where everything went wrong? You get to have self-compassion. We don't clip you down because of that. And that is the real important piece I want you to take away. I want you to think about, if you had a clip chart, what are some of the things you've been telling yourself? I want you to write this in your journal, really reflect on this. What are some of the things that you clip yourself down for? What are some of the things you clip yourself up for? Do you get engaged in this sort of mental worth calculation? “Oh, I'm worthy today because I A, B, and C?” Because that's not true. You're worthy whether you did that or not. Do you beat yourself up because of things you've done? That's you clipping yourself down. You've said, “I've done something wrong. Therefore, I need to be punished.” The whole work we're doing this month is to move towards like we talked about last week, asking yourself, what do I need in this moment of suffering? The clip chart is usually one of the main reasons people don't give themselves what they need, because they say, “Oh, I did A, B, and C today. Therefore, I don't deserve it. I clipped myself down.” I have to keep saying to my patients and clients, “No, no, no. You're at the top. You're at the top every single day. You deserve kindness and care and compassion and treats and pleasure and joy. But most of all, compassion.” So that's the concept of the clip chart. I want you to draw it out. Put the system. What do you have to do in order to be at the top in this metaphorical clip chart? What do you have to do when at the bottom? What bad things do you consider yourself clipped down to the bottom? And really reflect on, is this really kind? Is this a compassionate way for me to treat myself? If it were up to me, my advice is, put yourself at the top. You get compassion every single day unconditionally. Throw out the clip chart. It works for five-year-olds in a classroom, but it doesn't work for you in a lifetime. It doesn't work for you in your life. You deserve more than that. You deserve kindness every day. So let's take a minute. Let's slow it down and just check in, and just sit with this idea that no matter what, no matter what happens today, no matter how you acted or behaved or performed, no matter what grade you got on the test, no matter how you showed up, let's just reflect and honor that unconditionally, you deserve self-compassion. If you hear a voice saying, “Yeah, but blah-blah-blah,” whatever the blah-blah-blah is, is where your work is. If it says, “Yeah, but my thoughts are horrendous, therefore I'm disqualified from this,” there is your work. You're doing too much judgment around your thoughts. If you go, “Yeah, but I did this one bad thing, it's unforgivable,” I go, “Okay, send your compassion around that. Go hard on that. Because that's the thing that's getting in the way of you really tending to your pain and suffering the way that you deserve.” You might say, “Yeah, but I've got too much anxiety. I'm too sick. I'm just too unwell. I'm too messed up. I'm too hopeless. I'm a failure.” We'll do some work around that. Reflect on that, because that's the roadblock, which we will be talking about in other episodes to come. Alright. I love you guys so much. Really take a minute and receive the love I'm sending you right now, the compassion I'm sending you. I hope you're taking care of yourself. I hope you're facing your fears. I hope you're tending to your suffering as best as you can. It is a beautiful day to do hard things. You knew I was going to say it. So I want you to lean in here. Double down on this practice. You deserve this. Have a wonderful week, everybody. I love you. Talk to you next week.
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Mari Fong interviews Michael Murphy, lead singer of Written By Wolves, and musician health expert Kat Jensen. Michael Murphy shares his story and solutions for anxiety and depression, where his goal to always be “the best” started to have a negative affect on him and his family. Michael explains why songwriting is easier than traditional therapy, and how making lists has worked wonders for him. We play a clip of “Help Me Through the Night” inspired by Michael's anxiety. Written By Wolves dropped the “The Collab Project” EP made as a mental health initiative featuring collaborations with Kellin Quinn of Sleeping with Sirens, Sonny Sandoval of P.O.D. and more. Next, Mari Fong, Life Coach for Musicians, and Kat Jensen, singer-songwriter formerly of Love Toyz, talk about the dangers of perfectionism and how it can be tamed to work for you, not against you. How perfectionism can creep into a musician's life and wreak havoc on their mind, body, spirit and relationships. How mistakes show you the way to achieving your goals. “Be brave, ask for help, and be persistent in finding the mental help that you need.” For free and affordable solutions for mental health and addiction recovery, visit: http://checkyourheadpodcast.com/* Donate to our mission at checkyourheadpodcast.com or on our patreon.com page. Every dollar is appreciated, every listener is appreciated.THANK YOU for following us on social media @checkyourheadpodcastWatch and subscribe to our YouTube Channel: checkyourheadpodcast.youtubeSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/checkyourheadpodcast)
In the aftermath of the pandemic, even those who have never struggled with mental health have found themselves reeling, looking for answers they don't know how to find. For Christians, especially those who've despaired of help from a church that has too often stigmatized poor mental health as a lack of faith, the way forward can be particularly difficult to see. Jonathon Seidl aims to fix that. Having fought his own way through crippling anxiety, life-altering OCD, and suicidal thoughts, he knows the value of concrete advice grounded in strong biblical truth. Instead of the trite or unsympathetic counsel that's too often given, his new book Finding Rest is practical, personal, and productive. Find out more at: JonSeidl.com FindRestNow.com Resources mentioned in this episode: Finding Rest: A Survivor's Guide to Navigating the Valleys of Anxiety, Faith, and Life A First-Rate Madness: Uncovering the Links Between Leadership and Mental Illness The Shaun Tabatt Show is part of the Destiny Image Podcast Network.
In this special edition of The OCD Stories former guest and OCD advocate Catherine Benfield interviews Steve Brumwell. Steve is a writer and director, he is currently working on his short film about OCD called ‘Waving'. In this episode they discuss Steve's story, hiding the disorder, how a documentary helped him understand what was going on, they discuss harm intrusive thoughts, becoming a parent, self-harm, how his OCD interfered with some of his therapy, men's mental health, they talk about his short film ‘Waving', and much more. Hope it helps. Show notes: https://theocdstories.com/episode/catherine-benfield-steve-brumwell The podcast is made possible by NOCD. To find out more about NOCD, their therapy plans and if they currently take your insurance head over to https://go.treatmyocd.com/theocdstories
Enjoy another awesome episode from the Traffic Secrets book launch podcast. Want to exponentially increase how much money you make on every new lead? Well... for every $1 Russell makes on the front-end funnel, he makes $16 with his follow-up funnel over the next 30 days. On this episode, you're going to learn... Why you should be willing to spend up to $3 to acquire a new lead (IF you have a follow-up funnel). The 3 closes that every sales page MUST have. Listen in to learn more! Also, go get your FREE copy of Traffic Secrets here! Hit me up on IG! @russellbrunson Text Me! 208-231-3797 Join my newsletter at marketingsecrets.com ClubHouseWithRussell.com ---Transcript--- Hey everybody, what's going on? This is Russell. Welcome back to our time. We get to hang out every single day and talk about traffic and funnels and all the good things. Grateful to be here with you all today. While people are getting on, just want to check-in and see how everyone's doing during this time of quarantine. Are you sharpening your saw? Are you perfecting your business, yourself, your skillset? Or you've been Netflixing and binging? Or are you doing both? We got Netflix and binge, or funnel flicks and builds, you can do either one of the two. Now it's been fun. We've been doing a lot of publishing, a lot of writing, a lot of working, getting stuff done, prepared, driving a lot of traffic. It's been a fun two weeks while we're sitting here in our houses, and hopefully you guys are all taking advantage of it. But at the same time, I'm not going to lie, my wife and my kids and I have been doing some Netflix and chill as well. We've been watching The Avengers or the Marvel entire series from the very beginning in chronological order. So we started with Captain America, which took place in the '40s, then Captain Marvel, which was the '90s. And then from there, it was Iron Man and then the Incredible Hulk, which by the way was the worst of all superhero movies ever. So we had to watch it, because it's in order. Then we watched Iron Man part two last night and then today we're going to go and watch the first Thor, so that's what we've been doing. But it's all preparing for something very important, which is Avengers Infinity War and Endgame, where those of you who might be superhero nerds, this is where Thanos comes with the glove and he snaps his fingers and half the world disappears, which has to do a lot with this book right here that we've been reading, Traffic Secrets. So that's why I'm sure you guys have as well. The good news though, is that just like the way that in Endgame, they beat Thanos, Iron Man gets his own glove and that's how he ends up winning. So, this glove right here is the equivalent of the Traffic Secrets book, this is Zuckerberg and the coronavirus. So anyway, I kind of geeked out and embarrassed myself in front of everybody. You guys are here, you guys ready to have some fun? All right. All right. Well, I'm excited. So, we've been talking about Traffic Secrets book. If you don't have your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Do you hate money? Do you hate traffic? Do you hate changing the lives of your future dream customers? If so, then don't get the book. But if you like money and you want to grow your company and you want to change lives of your dream customers, you should go to trafficsecrets.com. And there's the page back here, where you can go and you can get a copy of the book. So the headline says, the new free books shows 20 plus virtually unknown secrets to get tons of traffic to any website or funnel. And for those of you guys who are like “I don't have a website or funnel, but I'm a YouTuber”, it'll help you grow your YouTube channel. If you're like, I don't have a website or funnel but I want to be an Instagram influencer, it'll help you grow Instagram following, your Facebook following, your TikTok. It can build your following. Any reason why you need traffic, that's what this book is for. If you want to, again, grow your following, get more fans, more subscribers, more customers, more buyers, build an email, all those things, this book, it does that. That's what it teaches. That's what it shows you. So anyway, I hope you guys love it. So someone said their OCD... All right. Someone said OCD is killing them because my cupboards open. All right, there you go. Now you can pay attention without stressing out because my cupboards open. It's amazing. All right. Okay. So we're going to drop into the book game today. Hopefully you guys have had a chance to be reading it or listening along. Obviously we're in pre-launch right now, so the book doesn't ship until May 5th. We're about a month away from the book shipping. But for those of you guys who are my super nerds, you could actually listen to this right now. The audio book is in the funnel. So you get the book for free, plus shipping. There's an order form bump, where you can upsell and get the audio book. And I spent three days in a studio for you guys reading this book. I actually spent seven days, because I spent three days reading this, two days, two days. Yeah, seven days. Seven days in the studio, reading all the audio books, which they're all available inside the funnel. You can get them. You can start listening to this stuff right away while you're waiting for these to be shipped out to you, if you don't have them yet. And I told you guys yesterday, I said, if you buy this book right now, go download the audio and go listen to it, you could get the entire thing read before we show up today. So now we're here today, how many guys did that? How many guys listened to the entire seven hour book, and got all this information out, inside of your brain? Okay. Some of you guys have already done that. So if you have, congratulations, you took advantage. If not, that's what today is for. Today is to go get your copy of the book at trafficsecrets.com. Sorry, my gloves are making noise over there. Trafficsecrets.com. And then you can start listening to audio books, one of the order form bumps. There's also a bunch of crazy bonuses and stuff. Alas, I'm coming back to today. We want to start reading. Someone said they need it in French. We are going to get these all in a whole bunch of languages very, very soon. So it's happening, do not worry. Okay. So Traffic Secrets is book three in the trilogy. I wanted it to be like Harry Potter, so we got a trilogy, made a box set. It's really exciting. For those who've been wondering, how do you get a box set? It may or may not also be one of the upsells inside the funnel. So regardless, you should go hang out in the funnel and check it out. Also, we launched this funnel on day one of a nationwide quarantine, which in theory, is the worst possible time to launch a funnel or a book. But a couple things. Number one, this book is very, very timely. In fact, it's crazy. If you look at the introduction, the introduction says that... Introduction, there's a storm coming. I literally wrote that 18 months ago, not in knowing that when this book came out, we'd be in the middle of this storm. So it's kind of cool. I lost my train of thought. I was going to give you two things. I can't remember what the second thing was. That's number one. Number two. Yeah, I can't remember. So there you go. Oh yeah. We launched in the middle of the thing. So number one is, it's very timely. It's like the book that all of us needed now, right? Traffic, customers, this is the life preserver for all of our companies. So now is the time to be sharpening skills. You can have a life preserver. And then number two, it's the highest converting funnel I've ever done. And I've been doing this game for a long time. And so if you want to see a really good funnel, you should go through and buy slowly and watch the process. So, all right. That's it, you guys. Are you ready for this? So yesterday we talked about this third type of traffic. Okay. Who here's been paying attention over the last couple days? I said there's three types of traffic. First type of traffic, is traffic that you... Okay, fill in the blank. Who's paying attention? This is all in secret number... When you get your book, secret number four, we talked about two types of traffic. Number one is traffic that you... Who's paying attention? Write in the comments down below. It's traffic that you earn, right? So, whether you earn the traffic. Traffic number two is traffic that you control, so you're buying traffic. And the third type of traffic was traffic that you own. That's what we talked about yesterday, your own email list. How do you build your list and how important and vitally... Why that's such a big part of it. So today, we're going to be moving into secret number, drum roll please, secret number five. Oh, I just skipped past it. Secret number five, which is follow-up funnels. Follow-up funnels are fun because... There it is, secret five, follow-up funnels. So follow-up funnel is interesting because most people see my funnels online, right? You see the stuff that's out there and you're like, "Oh, that's how Russell's making his money. I figured it out." But what you typically see is just the tip of the iceberg. You see the front end funnels. But the follow-up funnels is where the money's actually made, which is kind of interesting. So if you look at this on page 89 inside the book, I break down 1, 2, 3, 4, different... Four different frontend funnels that we have. You guys have probably seen, and you've seen them out there. And I took a 30 day window just to show you. I wanted to show people, in 30 days, this is how much each of these different funnels make, right? So the first one is the dot com secret spree book funnel, when I took the snapshots in the 30 day window. That funnel generated 5,410 leads. We sold 2,395 books. The average cart value is $30 and 81 cents. So our gross sales, we made $73,000, 789... $73,789 and 95 cents. Our ad spend, we spent $69,026 and 31 cents. So our profit from that one funnel, was $4,763 and 64 cents, okay? So I kind of walk through that one. I show that funnel, I show funnel two was 108 split test book. Number three was the perfect webinar, free play shipping funnel. And number four was the old mark in your car, MP3 player. So I broke down those four funnels, show the stats numbers. And when you add them all up, those four funnels made, in that 30 day, they made $142,000. But our ad cost was 128,000, so when you take it all away, our total profit was $14,417 and 69 cents. So if you look at that, those are the funnels people see outside. You'd be like, "Russell, how in the world do you have 400 employees?" And you only made 14 grand. You're in big trouble, right? You're going to lose your entire company. But the problem is, that's the funnel lots of people see, but then there's the second funnel. It's an invisible funnel that no one really talks about and no one sees it. It's not visible. It's like the rest of the iceberg, right? All the stuff that's below the surface that people don't see, is the follow-up funnel. And so I took that same... The customers that came in during that 30 day window from these four funnels, I then extended that over... Or I wanted to see it over the next 30 days, how much money came from those customers inside of the follow-up funnels. So the follow-up funnels are, how do I follow-up? What are the emails I send? The text messages, the Facebook messengers, all the things that are happening off the funnel, right? The follow-up funnels. And what's crazy is, is we did that. And for every $1 we made inside of the actual front end funnel, we made $16 and 49 cents in the follow-up funnels over the next 30 days. Are you guys getting that? That's the secret. That's the big thing. That's why yesterday, I talked about why it's so important and why's so vital to have your own list, because that's where the money's made. I don't make money in my... My book funnel here, I don't make very much money. My goal is to make this funnel breakeven. Someone comes through, they buy the book, they go through the upsells, the down sells, all sorts of stuff like that. And so they go through that and after they have it, again, my goal is to breakeven and then get you as a customer and then I start serving you. Okay? And if I serve you well, then maybe you buy another book. You'll buy an upsell, you'll buy click funnels, you'll buy coaching, you'll go to an event. All the other things happen, if I serve you well in the front end. Okay. And if you've gone through the dotcom seekers book, you know my strategy on value ladders and things like that. These things all tie into it. But I want you to understand, that for every dollar we made on a front end funnel, we made $16 and 49 cents in the follow-up funnel over the next 30 days. That doesn't count the next 60 days, 90 days, lifetime. But that's where the money's actually made. In fact, if you look at... I don't know if you can see this image here. If you're listening to the podcast version, you won't be able to. But on page 91 in the book, you've got this image here where it shows... Here's traffic I earn and traffic that I control, right? I'm driving all of it into front end funnels. The goal of the front end funnels then, is to get people to join a list. Now they're on my list, now I send them emails to ascend them up my value ladder. Okay. And that's where the majority of the profit and the money comes from. So, all right. So follow-up funnels. Now there's so many things, so many cool things in this chapter. I could spend two or three hours just going through this. I'm trying to think of the best thing to share with you guys, that'll get you the most excited to go buy the book. Okay. I'll share one kind of concept. So if you're buying your way in, right? And let's say you're paying for ads, you got to pay... You're paying ads and you're paying for every lead, right? And that's sometimes just scary. And so a good lead cost, honestly is three bucks per lead. That's a good thing. So if it's higher, if it's less, but three bucks is a good cost for a lead off Facebook ads or something, right? So let's say I go and I spend three bucks. I get someone to opt into my list, I pay $3, I got a lead. Now that may freak some of you guys out. Well, so if I want 100 people on my list, it's going to cost me 300 bucks. I want 1000, it's 3000. I want 10,000, that's 30,000 bucks. And you freak out. And the answer is yes, that can be kind of scary. But a couple things. Number one, if you listened to yesterday's, I talked about the value of a list. I said on average, you should make, on the low end, $1 per month per name on your email list. Okay, so that's on the low end. So that means if you spend $3 to get a name on your email list, within three months you'll breakeven, right? So I think about that with real estate. People I see all the time, who will go and they'll buy a house and they'll spend a quarter of million dollars to buy a house, put a renter in, and then hopefully it'll cash flow, 500 or 1000 bucks a month. And that's the business model, right? Here, I can go spend... I can spend, let's say... I don't know. Let's say 3000. $3,000 on a list, that gets me 1000 people to join my list. Now I average $1000 per month on that list, means in three months, I breakeven. After that, it's all pure profit, right? So, that's the thing to start understanding in the math of this whole game. The other thing is, you spend $3 for lead, but if you put them through a funnel, like a book funnel or a breakeven funnel, you can breakeven. So you spend $3, you make $3, you get a lead. And now that person's going to average you $1 per month on your list, as long as they stay with you. And that's really the big secret, okay? And so, anyway. So for example, what might happen... Again, this is if you are looking at the book on page 96. If you're listening to audio, just have to trust me. But you spend, let's say $3 in ads. I drive them to a landing page, they opt in and I get an email. I get a human, right? A customer. Now this person, I lost three bucks. I haven't made any money yet, right? Then on the thank you page, I send them a couple emails to build value and build a relationship. I'm still negative $3, right? So the first three emails in the follow-up funnel, for example, maybe I don't make any money. So I'm still negative $3 in the hole. I'm like, "Ah, $3 in the hole." But I'm building a relationship with this person. They get to know me, we become friends, they trust me, they keep opening my emails. Then from there, the next thing, I shift over and I start putting them into my first funnel, right? Which let's say, in this example, the dude will have a book funnel. So I send out some emails, I say, "Hey, you should buy my book." And then email two, "Buy my book, buy my book." And they go through this book funnel and I make some money from them, right? And say on average, I make a dollar 50 for every single person in my email list that goes through here. They drop out. So I spent three or dollars on a lead initially, I've made back a dollar 50. Now we're halfway there, right? Then after this funnel's done, then the next funnel, my follow-up funnel, I push here. I start promoting my webinar funnel. I send email one, two, and three. And boom, after the webinar funnel, then they breakeven and we start making money. Okay. And so somewhere in this line is your breakeven point, somewhere in the follow-up funnel. And so what's nice about this is, you can say, I'm going to spend $3 now and I'm going to have 10 email to go out. And I know that on average, by email number three, I breakeven, right? I spend $3 and then every email, I make a little bit more, a little bit more. And by email three or email six, whatever it is, that's my breakeven point. And then everything after that is pure profit. Okay. I don't have to go pay Facebook or Google again to get that traffic. It's there. I'm getting paid for that forever. And that's the big thing to understand. That's the big secret, okay? That's how follow-up funnels work. And I talk about multi-dimensional follow-up funnels, how to weave in other things like retargeting and messengers and text message and a whole bunch of other cool things. All right. I got one more thing I want to share as it relates to follow-up funnel, because I think this is kind of cool. So in every type of selling, there's always three closes. Who here knows what three closes are? By the way. I'm curious. There's three closes. Okay. And there's one that's good. There's one that's also good. There's the best one, the next best one, the next best one. Okay, so if you go to page... When you're there, you got page 98. These are the three closes. So the first one is the emotional close. Second one is the logical, and the third is fear. Okay. So we got emotion, logic, fear. And so you'll see this everywhere. Again, an example here. This is a landing page, and the landing page... The top third of my landing page is typically an emotional argument. The video is emotionally speaking to him. As you scroll down, there's the logical arguments. And the bottom are the urgency and scarcity. So I go emotion, logic, fear. In fact, if you go to trafficsecrets.com and you click here, watch the video, it's a very emotional video. You scroll down. In the middle of the page you'll see all the logic. And the bottom, you've got the fear, urgency, scarcity. So emotion, logic, fear. That's all happening on the pages as you go here and you scroll down. Okay. And so, that's the process. If you look at how I do my webinars, I lead with emotion, then I follow up with logic and end with fear. My follow-up funnels, it's always emotion, logic, fear as well. And so when I'm building in my follow-up funnels, there's a sequence I take someone through. They come and they join my lists, right? And then whatever product or service I'm selling, I start with my emotional emails. Trying to sell them emotionally. That's me telling stories. All the stuff you learn on Expert Secrets, right? Telling them stories, things like that. From there, we transition to the logical, because again... I think I have the numbers here. It's 50% of your people will buy emotionally, right? Yeah. 50% of people will buy emotionally, on average. So we lead with emotion. Then from there, people that are emotionally touched but they're logically trying to convince themselves, that's the next 30% you got to convince are through logic. Okay. And then there's 20% people who won't buy no matter what, unless you're going to take it away from them. And so then urgency and scarcity, you need to pull it away from them. That's when the last 20% buy. So if you just do emotion, you just do logic, just do fear, you miss the whole... You miss huge segments of the market. But if you go from emotion, to logic, to fear, then you're hitting all the different pieces. Okay? So in my follow-up funnels, that's what I'm doing. My first set of emails are all emotionally speaking. Then move to logical arguments, and then we end with fear, which is urgency and scarcity. So emotion, logic, and fear. And when you start understanding this process of emotion, logic, fear, you start seeing this pattern everywhere. Again, you'll see it on landing page layouts. You see it in sales video. You see it in webinars. You see it in follow-up sequences, follow-up funnels. You can see it in launch sequences. The entire launch sequence is going to be emotion, logic, fear, right? If you watch this... This launch so far, right? I led with the emotion of, the big buzz and the excitement and the video and everyone got crazy. And all the emotional buyers bought, day one, right? Day one, we sold 50%. 50% of our books so far, got sold on day number one, right? And then all the people are like, "Oh, well I don't know if this book's really for me. I don't know if..." Whatever. And all now the logical buyers are coming in. "Well, I'm not sure. I'm not sure." So now I'm doing what? Every single day, I'm going live. I'm logically speaking. I'm reading parts of the book. I'm logically explaining why this would actually work for you and for your business. And every single day, another percentage of you guys are like, "Oh, I get it now. Okay. Russell's logically convinced me, now I'm going to go to trafficsecrets.com and buy." Right? And then eventually, we're getting towards the end of this promotion and I'm having some fear. We're going to pull this away. This offer will disappear. And you're like, "I didn't get the book." And you'll freak out. "Russell, why did you?" And I'm like, "Dude, I told you. I went live every single day for three or four weeks. I did everything. I sent out a million emails. My affiliate sent out emails. We've buying ads. I spent millions of bucks trying to get you to buy this book, and now I'm pulling it away." And for 20% of you guys, that's when you all buy, is when I pull it away. For some reason, you're sitting here listening to me, you're waiting. Some day I'll get the book, but not today, until I decide to pull it away. And when this book funnel's about to disappear and your option to get the book's gone, that's when the final whatever percent will finally go and do it. So you have to understand, it's going emotion, logic and fear. And so that's the sequence of every single follow-up funnel. But that pattern, you're going to see over and over and over and over again in all marketing, in all sales. And so it's important to understand it, because when you understand it, then you can use it in everything that you're doing. There's so many cool things in here. Wish I could show you everything. I'd have to geek out for two hours to get this. But page 102, for those of you guys who are like, "How do follow-up funnels work with daily Seinfeld emails versus soap opera sequences and things like that?" And the value ladders. Here, I sketched out for the more advanced readers. This is the value ladder, how it works, where you weave in your soap opera sequences, where the daily Seinfeld emails fit and how you move able from emotion, logic, fear, in each step of the value ladder. So this is for the more advanced users, when you get to the book and you read page 102. The light bulb will go off and you'll finally be like, "Oh, that's how it works for people like me." So anyway, I hope you guys are enjoying this. It's been fun going live every day with you guys. Yeah. If you guys like this, I'll keep doing it for a while. But what I would do if I was you guys right out, is I would go and get your copy of Traffic Secrets, okay? All my emotional buyers already bought it, so thank you very much. The logical ones now are stewing on it. You're like, ah, is it really... And this is my answer for you. It's 10 bucks. Literally took away all the fear for you. You just cover the shipping handling. I pay for the book. These things are huge. It's like 350 pages, so if we do the math, you're paying $10 shipping handling. You're paying, is it three pennies, three cents per page? Three cents per page. You know how much effort... It took two days to write every single page of this thing. So you're getting my time at three cents, half a penny an hour. No, it's like a 10th of a penny an hour, where you're paying me to give you all this stuff that I killed myself on. I literally bled out of my finger. I didn't literally bleed out of my fingers, but it felt like it because I was typing so much and editing so much, and early nights and late mornings. No, late nights and early mornings writing this thing for you guys and it's here. And so anyway, I'm teasing you. But you should just go get a copy of it. It's in pre-order right now, so the books don't ship for another month or so, but you can go get the book. The audio book is available as an upsell, so you can get the audio book so you can start listening today. I spent seven days actually in a studio, but three days just reading Traffic Secrets book. You can start listening to this. It's seven hours of audio. You can download... You can go buy it, download the audio book right now, listen to it. So by this time tomorrow, the entire book could already be in your brain. There's also a PDF that comes with the book, that has all the images and the doodles. You can go and geek out and be like, "Oh cool. I can see what Russell's talking about here." And so the doodles are in there as well. And then for those of you guys who are looking for this entire box, "I want the entire trilogy." Because you heard that I rewrote dot com secrets, rewrote Expert Secrets and the new Traffic Secrets. Plus this magic unlocked secrets book. This box set, you can actually get as one of the upsells. So if you buy the book... Not if. When you buy the book, the episode will be like, "Hey, do you want the entire box set?" So you can get that as well. This also ships in about a month from now, but it's worth it. This thing is so fun. Anyway, I'm excited for guys to get this. You're going to love it. Anyway, there you go. All you got to do is go to trafficsecrets.com. Thanks you guys. I appreciate hanging out. It's been so fun. If you have any questions, comments, concerns, let me know in the comments down below, and we'll try to answer them every single day as I'm going through this. Yeah. Anyway, you guys. Be safe. I know it's crazy times. I know there's a lot of fear. There's a lot of scary stuff happening. Uncertainty. The biggest thing you can do in times of uncertainty like this, is to sharpen your saw. You look at the biggest companies right now in the world, all were built during the depression. All the biggest Inc 500 companies, during the last recession, 2008 is when all of the companies that you know of now, started. And so if you're in this fear emotion, it's okay. It's okay to be scared. Understand that. In fact, I'm doing a Facebook live on Saturday to kind of address some of the stuff with the entire ClickFunnels community. But it's okay to be scared. We're all nervous. My wife's nervous, my kids are nervous, I'm nervous. It's okay, but it's not okay to be so nervous that you just paralyze. Be nervous, but then keep moving forward. Because now is the time to create and to serve and to make stuff that's amazing. When you do that, it can literally change lives of people you've been called to serve. And when you do that, the weirdest thing is, it changes your life as well. So get into an active service. Go live, you guys. Your people need you. They need to hear you publishing. When you get the Traffic Secrets book, I'm going to talk about how... One of the challenges in here is, you got to start publishing every day for a year. You should start that now. I've been publishing every day for, I don't know, eight years now and I'm going to even double down right now. I'm going live every single day with you guys, okay? Trying to give you guys some faith and some hope of the future. Because if we all are just in fear and stuck, it's not going to be good. So now is the time, you guys. When we get done with this, open up your Instagram, open your Facebook, go live to your people. And maybe you only got two people following you, that's okay. They may need to hear your voice right now. This is your chance to start finding your voice and start becoming a leader and a servant. And so step up and be willing to do that. So there's my challenge to you guys. We'll get deeper into that as well, because that's part of the challenge, you guys, is time for you all to step up and start sharing and speaking and give people hope in a better world, because this world's amazing. And it's amazing, this blessing to be able to stay home right now with our families. And if we get sick, that'll suck. But you know what? I have a strong belief that we will... That none of us on this planet will stay on the earth one second longer, or one second shorter than the Lord wants us to. So we shouldn't fear too much, because it's all part of the plan. All right. Appreciate you guys. Thanks so much for everything. Get the book, trafficsecrets.com. And I will see you guys all mañana Bye, everybody.
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In episode 297 I interviewed Kimberley Quinlan. Kim is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who treats people with OCD and related disorders, Eating Disorders and Body Focused Repetitive Disorders. She runs her own podcast called Your Anxiety Toolkit. She also runs CBTschool.com. In this episode we talk about her new book ‘The Self-Compassion Workbook for OCD', the roadblocks to self-compassion, applying self-compassion to Exposure and Response Prevention therapy (ERP), some of the exercises and practices in the book, why Jon Hershfield wrote the foreword to the book, Kim guides us through a self-compassion practice, how self-compassion can help you lean into fear, setting boundaries as an act of self-compassion, feeling like you don't deserve compassion, we discuss self-criticism, when Kim has had to practice self-compassion for herself recently, and much more. Hope it helps. Show notes: https://theocdstories.com/episode/kim-quinlan-compassion-297 The podcast is made possible by NOCD. To find out more about NOCD, their therapy plans and if they currently take your insurance head over to https://go.treatmyocd.com/theocdstories
In this episode of Pure Curiosity I speak with speaker, writer and therapist-in-training Mimi Cole about her experience with Orthorexia, a less commonly known eating disorder, as well as Obsessive Compulsive Disorder or OCD. Orthorexia is an obsession with healthy eating, which ironically gets to a point of being unhealthy and disruptive for people's lives. Unfortunately it is becoming more widespread with the popularity of the "clean eating" movement. Mimi shares her story of recovery from both of these disorders as well discussing the overlap between the two. I know you will find Mimi as likable and delightful as I do!About Our Guest:Mimi Cole is a second year graduate student in the Clinical Rehabilitation and Mental Health Counseling program at The University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill. She has worked in the outpatient and residential levels of care as a Resident Patient Associate for individuals with eating disorders. Mimi is the host of The Lovely Becoming podcast and you can find her on Instagram: @the.lovelybecoming. Outside of therapy, Mimi loves to explore new coffee shops, read, and write.Check out Mimi's PodcastFollow Mimi on Instagram
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Tune in now and don't forget to sign up for www.solciety.co!Speaker 1 (00:03):Welcome to the Solarpreneur podcast, where we teach you to take your solar business to the next level. My name is Taylor Armstrong and I went from $50 in my bank account and struggling for groceries to closing 150 deals in a year and cracking the code on why sales reps fail. I teach you to avoid the mistakes I made and bringing the top solar dogs, the industry to let you in on the secrets of generating more leads, falling up like a pro and closing more deals. What is a Solarpreneur you might ask a Solarpreneur is a new breed of solar pro that is willing to do whatever it takes to achieve mastery and you are about to become one.Speaker 2 (00:42):What's going on. Solarpreneurs Taylor Armstrong, your host here, and we have the first female guest ever on the Solarpreneur podcast. I'm super excited. So we got a Suli Zinck. Can I say your last name? Right. Zinc. Okay, so, so will you, thanks for coming on the show, I'm so excited to finally have a girl knocker on, so appreciate it. Appreciate you coming on,Speaker 3 (01:07):But I'll be honest. Taylor, yours was one. When I was looking into the solar industry, yours is one of the first ones that I like found. And I was like, oh, he there, there's not like a ton of like episodes, not a ton of people. This is definitely where I'm going to start because it's going to be like, he's going to be methodical and he's going to give you tips. And it's exactly been that since like what, when I started listening to you back in November. SoSpeaker 2 (01:32):Yeah, no, I appreciate that. And I've been following your podcast too, and your story and, um, pretty amazing stuff. So yeah, I will say we've been, yeah, I've, I think I've scheduled a one or two other girls to come on and both of them like fell through, um, um, one of them, one of them like just no showing me and then like one responds. I'm like, all right, maybe I'm not going to chain get girls on if they do this. So maybe I left kind of bad days, my mother, but yeah. But God, we made it work and no, um, you guys are crushing it with your team and I know there's some powerhouse ladies in the industry, so I think it's important. And actually, I remember now that I think back, I remember one of my like lower reviews on the PA I think it was like three stars or something, but, um, one of the reviews was like, Taylor focuses so much on like guys, Neil, he just says, here's the thing guys. And like, he never brings on me in girl.Speaker 3 (02:27):They was like, that is going to be my one full year. And then we like failure by two of us. Go see.Speaker 2 (02:35):So yeah, that's when I realized, like, I, I gotta be, uh, you know, conscious that the ladies listen to the show and not, you know, just suggest everyone by guys and stuff like that. So glad we're making it happen though. Um, but yeah, so slowly, do you want to maybe get into your story a little bit? I know you just did an awesome interview on the, uh, the door knocker podcasts. So we probably won't go quite as in depth as you went on that podcast. So people go listen to that to you, if you want to hear kind of her full in-depth story, which was awesome. But I, yeah. Do you want to give us just a little bit of the background for people who don't know you on the podcast or?Speaker 3 (03:12):Yeah, so I'm Sui, Juliana, Zuli all the weird games. People call me on the doors, whatever floats your boat. But, um, I started in the door to door industry 13 summers ago. This is my 13th summer. Um, I just came in with like the mindset. If I was going to give up, you know, a good job, I was going to make it count. And I ended up my first summer, I just asked the team, they're like, Hey, what is the number one girl did, uh, how many accounts pest control accounts that she serviced the summer. And, and when he told me it was like three 11, I was like, all right. And, uh, but originally the person who recruited me, it was like, look, if everything fails and sucks, like I'll at least pay for your plane ticket, everything. So at least you had like fun while you're out here.Speaker 3 (03:58):And so those three weeks ended up turning into 13 years. Like later I ended up, uh, that girl had did three, uh, 3 0 9 and I finished with three 16 that summer. And then there was just no turning back for me in the door to door to industry. When I saw that there was just no cap on, on basically, uh, my pay, there's just a cap with companies. And so, um, once I realized that I was like, there's no way that I was going to go to a nine to five. And, um, two summers in, I get married to my husband of 10 years now. And then I recruited him to be my service pro and then I got in trouble for having to be a service pro because I would have him work through his lunch breaks. I would be calling him on Sundays. Like, Hey, we're going to go to these homes. And we're not even supposed to like, is a W2 employee.Speaker 2 (04:55):Like I'm a church, let me go to church.Speaker 3 (04:59):And so my branch manager was like, sweet. You can be doing this. Like, there's, this is, he works for us, not for you. And, and then the following summer, um, I, we had our first kid AMA I knocked until I gave birth to her on the doors, like eight months pregnant and still did more than like my team leader on the team. And it was just no turning back. Like I just, I just have one of those like mindsets. I just feel like I'm a little bit different in the sense, like, I, I I've seen the money. I've seen the success. I've seen what this industry can do. And I just now want to have a lot more women be in the same space.Speaker 2 (05:40):That's incredible. And no, I got mad respect because my wife she's actually, I think, seven months pregnant right now. So, um, yeah, but she's not, she's not moving much. Like I can't even imagine trying to get her out on a door. Yeah. Just imagining that, just blow my mind that you would even, you know, attempt to knock eight months pregnant. Um, so pretty incredible. Yeah. Um, have you, but yeah, I was wondering, have you always been like that competitive because I see, I don't think there's a lot of girls. They're like, oh, what's the, what did the top girl female rap do? And then want to beat it? Is it always just been like super competitive your whole life? Or where did that come from?Speaker 3 (06:22):Yeah. And so that's like one of the tips that I give to like men or people in general and the door to door to industry when they are looking at female reps in the sense of like who they're wanting to recruit, like any woman who's like been in like sports for more than one year, or I've done piano lessons for more than a year have been in karate for more than a year, or have done anything consistent that, that had a little bit of competition for more than a year. Those are definitely the people that definitely the girls that you do want to want to start with. And yeah, I was super competitive period, but, um, it's, it's weird because in the industry, like, I, my husband says it all the time. He's like, you're humble in public, but in private, you're not. And I was like, well, not like, you know, I'm just like, oh, good job. And like, whatever. And I'm like, how did they get right. That's how I have to do that tomorrow or whatever. But yeah. So those are definitely a quality that you want to look in, look for when you're looking for girls to recruit.Speaker 2 (07:24):Yeah. And I bet I can only imagine like Sunday game night at your house, you're gonna have to invite me over to one of those things. That's just likeSpeaker 3 (07:31):Been, and I are not allowed to play games together. We just don't do games because like he doesn't care enough and it bugs me. Like he won't even like compete in like UNO or anything like that. So we just don't do card games.Speaker 2 (07:49):Yeah. I won a competition. That's funny. Yeah. Well you can come next time. You're in San Diego, let us know because me and my wife, we get, we get into it quite a bit. So we'll play monopoly or something.Speaker 3 (08:02):I known to just pop up when people tell me like, Hey, just come over here at any time. I typically just go up.Speaker 2 (08:09):Okay. Well, let's do it. We'd love to have you, but no, that's awesome. So w what was your background? Were you like a sports background then? Or music or?Speaker 3 (08:20):Yeah, so I did soccer for a few years, actually got like a full ride scholarship to go and play soccer. I was just, uh, I played goalie, but I play like Ford. I also did basketball too, but I was like more of like the sucky offense player, but I was going to be like the best defense player. Like typically they were just always calling me just play events, but I wasn't that great of a shooter. I wasn't that great of an athlete. I was just competitive plus all.Speaker 2 (08:47):Yeah. That's awesome. Well, no, that's good. And yeah. I mean any, um, yeah, I think that applies to, you know, girls and anyone with a sports background. Um, yeah, you've probably seen it too, but guys that have like wrestled and done just those like kind of endurance sports too, I think are great at this because especially out on the doors, it's a mental grain, you know, andSpeaker 3 (09:11):Tracking McNeil piano, like anything consistently. Yeah.Speaker 2 (09:15):Yeah. So yeah, definitely a nugget right there as you're recruiting. Um, but no, that's cool. And so PEs, um, yeah, again, you can go listen to the other interview. I think you went pretty in depth in that soil, but, um, just the short version. Why did you decide to switch from a pest to solar then? And what was because I came from a pest background too. I don't know if you knew that, but I did it too, as summer's a pest control. And, um, you were much better than me. I would've, you would have destroyed me and pest. I think my best summer is like 120 accounts or something. SoSpeaker 3 (09:53):Yeah.Speaker 3 (09:54):They're low maintenance. Um, no, that's it, it was funny. That's actually how female knockers started. And so I did my first summer three 16, and then my very last summer, before I transitioned into solar, I was the number one rep in the company. I had serviced 1,012, uh, past accounts in like 156, uh, knocking days. But before that summer, before that summer, um, had started, I, you know, basically went to like the leadership about how we needed to have a program for women, uh, in the company. And it wasn't even like, you know, I'm not even trying to say like, Hey, girls are better than guys. Guys are better than girls. It's more of just like a space. And, um, just a little bit of awareness that I just saw. A lot of regionals and team leaders were flying to Vegas and Arizona and all these other states to basically recruit more men.Speaker 3 (10:53):And I'm like, why don't you just make this space a little bit more inviting for the 40% of people we're not even tapping into who are returning from their missions, who are doing all these things. And they're literally in our back yards. And, um, but basically I was just kind of dismissed a little bit. And so I was like, and this was before I did the thousand accounts. And so when I came home in September, just throughout the summer, I just seen how many women were rooting me on that didn't even know me. And they were just like texting me. And they were just like keeping track of like what I was doing during the summer, because I would just post weekly updates. And the amount of like women would just like reach out to me. I was just like, so like, it kept me going and I'm on a team where there's not even like women period.Speaker 3 (11:38):And so that was like the biggest thing for me. So I swore once the summer ended that I was going to do something to give back. And so I'm not a social media guru. I am not the, I don't even dress fancy. I don't even feel like I fit in with like the cool, proud, but I'm like, I'm going to start something. Even if it means that I just pay like out of my own pocket. And so I started, I finished knocking for pest control in September, and then I was like, I'm going to create a coaching program or a coaching platform for women in the industry. And it doesn't matter what the shirt that they're wearing, but I want to teach concepts that could be used in alarms that can be used in Bish that could be used in solar and whatever industry, basically for women.Speaker 3 (12:19):Because when we're going into a lot of these teams, a lot of the men are focusing their training. And it's just kind of like we forget about the emotional side. And I used to actually not want women on my team. And I thought, this is a way of me giving back and making up for that mindset that I bought into, of not wanting women on my team. And so in October, when I basically started this platform, I started recruiting, um, women just from different, I don't know, I wasn't recruiting. I basically created this coaching program and I put it out there and I was surprised at how many people I signed up and I wasn't doing it to be rich or anything like that. I think I had like 15 people and, um, I had some from vivid or alarms at some from past and, uh, some from dish and then from solar.Speaker 3 (13:07):And I'm coming from the highest summer that I've ever had in pest control, like off of this high, doing financially great. Like everything's great. And I felt like a hypocrite. I'm like, I'm over here, coaching women in the industry. And I only know pest control. So I was like, screw it. I'm going to go and do blitzes, like with everyone, just for it as a learning tool to be a better coach and to be a better mentor. And so I fell flat on my face when it came to alarms and bless the hearts of the people who do alarms. I'm never going to do that again. And then I wanted to dish and I was like, okay, you guys do not get paid enough. This is way too easy. And then I had this one girl who was on this team doing solar and crap. That's probably going to sound crappy on your and try to be on your, on your team.Speaker 3 (14:02):Yeah. And so I was like, you know what? Um, this girl had told me that, uh, she was the only girl and, um, no one on her team had made a cell for solar like that month. I, and I literally overheard teaching her concepts about like mental toughness. And the only reason that you're not going to get a deal is because you're not going out there, you know, on the doors. So I was like, all right, well, I've got to go do a blitz, um, with them. And so I ended up going and doing a blitz, um, with their team. And I basically fell flat on my face on, uh, the first three days. And I was like, what am I doing? And, uh, it was basically the competitiveness in me that I was like, there's no way that I can't like make this happen.Speaker 3 (14:48):Like I am telling this girl that I am like mentally tough and I can do all these things. Like I'm going to have to figure it out. There was no pitch for solar. There's no manual, there's no nothing. I basically wrote up a pitch. I basically just put everything together and I was all right. Um, and then finally, day three, I set a bunch of appointments before lunch and I ended up closing one and I closed one every day for the next three days. And I left with like 30 grand and was like, Chad, that was a fluke I have to do again. And so I invited a couple of my pest control buddies. We didn't tell anyone, it was just about five of us. And we would meet up every morning, just like we did in pest control. And like, again, there's no training, no nothing.Speaker 3 (15:30):We just do like, our role plays with each other. We shared our pitch and then we'd go set appointments before lunch. We were on the doors by like 11:00 AM, like every single or 10 30. And then every day each one of us comes on with a deal and we're going home with like 50 plus K a week, all of us. And I'm like, what? The crap. Yeah. Yeah. And then, um, it was from there that basically my solar journey started, but basically my, uh, female knockers page just kind of like evolved from that mindset. And from that little accident, like I always tell people that I got into solar by accident and hearing themSpeaker 2 (16:06):Wow, crazy. That's a cool story. And yeah, I mean, it's awesome. You're able to connect and cause I think that's a big issue with like, I don't know, maybe guy manager, stuff like that is maybe the girls feel like they can't understand their perspectives. Point of view. I know that's how it was for me. I brought out my sister-in-law actually, um, she really struggled. I wish this was like three years ago. So I wish, um, you would have been training in the solar space at that time because I was just like, I was like, all right, just get out there, knock harder. Just do it. She was, yeah. I mean, she was pretty emotional girl and I just, I didn't really know what to do. I'm just like, I dunno, just get out there and just go knock doors. So it was rough and um, you know, it didn't have a very good summer and everything, but yeah. What do you think like for you, what you've seen solely as your coach, all these female reps and, um, leading knockers and all that, have you seen that there's like, I don't know, maybe a way that they like to be coached or treated that's different than like the guy reps or what have you seen that? Uh, well I guess from a female perspective,Speaker 3 (17:18):Yeah. Well, one we're not teaching the concept of just, uh, how to compartmentalize our emotions because a lot of times we're talking about like women and how emotional we are, but men are just as emotional. But what you guys are really good at is compartmentalizing. Like you guys can put things aside and emotions and just go do what you gotta do. Whereas us as women, that's one thing is just, we're just not being taught how to put our emotions aside for how to put them in a box just for a short time, while we focus on what we need to do in front of us. And so I spent a lot of time just working on the mindset aspect in the sense of like how we compartmentalize, like how we can overcome anxiety, how is it that we can overcome like the negative things that are happening?Speaker 3 (18:03):Because once women can figure that out on your teams who like the, the success is going to be endless. And so like my whole goal in female knockers is not to have all of us women knocking on freaking ones on one team. But my whole goal is all of us, no matter what shirt that we're wearing, because we're all gonna ha we're going to be in different phases of our lives. But to be able to have that unity and know like, Hey, I'm going to have someone who's going to understand and have my back and root me on where I'm at exactly where I literally want to be a big sister in the industry for women in every aspect of like, you're there in pest control. Like let's figure out how you can level up in pest control, but you're going to have to start with your emotions.Speaker 2 (18:46):Yeah, no, I think that's huge because for me, I don't know if this is wrong, but what I've seen is pretty much any girl that can figure out the emotional part of it. I see them have success like that. The teams I've been on. Cause it's like, I don't know for me, it's like, it seems like people are nicer to girls. It seems like bill here at Mount Moore. Um, I was always jealous of that. I remember doing pest control. I'm like, man, you can get through like way more easier pitch than I can see.Speaker 3 (19:15):And it's true. And I focus on the reasons I, I focus on the things that we have a leg up on w w as women in the industry and that we can look at them as like strengths rather than, you know, rather than weaknesses. And I feel like in solar, especially for me, my emotional side and how emotion and like how much emotion I put into, like my deals. Like people feel it, like, it's, it's just a different dynamic than a guy who's just, you know, just going through it.Speaker 2 (19:42):Yeah. A hundred percent. But yeah. Um, for you to slowly, do you have any, I dunno, like stories or examples of times where you coach like some girl reps that maybe were struggling or super emotional and I don't know, I wanted to go home, things like that and like specific things you did to turn it around. I don't know if you have any examples of people you've coached or anything like that.Speaker 3 (20:03):So I'll be honest. Um, so I've actually had like a, a couple of girls actually just on my team. Um, and, uh, they have been in another industry and they'd been with another company and, um, they basically always do use their emotions and the negativity to get in their cars and to go home and to let it bleed over to the next to the next day. And then we worked together again and I actually had her come out and we started just focusing on all the positive things. We actually took away, all the things that, that was negative for her in her life. And the biggest thing was having a car. The biggest thing was being a driver. It was being the driver and how easy it was for her to be able to get back in the car, get over here, taking that one thing away because we recognize that that was like one of her weaknesses and where, what she would use to be able to, um, let it bleed over to the next day.Speaker 3 (20:59):She ended up being one of the top producers this year, just by focusing on that one little thing. Is she still emotional? Yes. Do we still have rough days? Yes. But we were able to see a lot, a lot more success just by taking away a couple of the little things that were triggers for her. And so I, and so a lot of the girls who reach out to me who are having emotional days and things that, that stink, we, we basically just work on, find out like what some of their triggers are. We remove some of those triggers and it just makes it a little bit better to focus on the things that they can control.Speaker 2 (21:31):Um, yeah. That I love that I reminds me of that you grid the power of habit, that book they talked about. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Super important principle. And it's so true. Um, I think a lot of people struggle with that being the driver and whatnot, but it's like, if you're on a diet, you need to get the Oreos out of the kitchen. Right. Get the stuff that's tempting out of the way. It's not tempting, tempting anymore. This is the same thing. If you're struggling to knock the door or whatever, it might be that trigger, like you're saying, see if you can figure out a way to eliminate it because a lot of people just solves a problem instantly. Yeah. So, yeah. That's powerful. Um, and what about like for guys, let's say you're, um, uh, you know, a guy who's managing a team with girls, um, maybe you seen guys be super successful with it. And what would you say to like, like me, for example, if I manage a team I'm trying to help the ladies out. Um, would you have any tips for like a guy trained to manage the ladies on his team and help them coaching?Speaker 3 (22:32):Yeah. It's just going to be like focusing on the little things like, whoa, what a lot of people don't understand. It's like, women are not, we're not like, yes, we're, we're wanting equal pay and all these things, but the little things like really like, matter to us, like a shirt that actually fits a girl, like actually having incentives that doesn't include a freaking wallet. That's just a one or a pocket knife or like the little things just really go a long ways in the sense of like texting and actually calling like what I do and why I don't have a car partners as a leader and in my car, because I also use that time to be able to follow up on reps. Like I'm always like driving in from like an appointment or to a house or whatever. So I'm thinking about that rep who may have had like a bad day.Speaker 3 (23:22):And I'm thinking about that girl who talked to me about this and I'll shoot her a text or a call, or like, Hey, how are you feeling today? Like using that time in, that's a focus on the business in front of me, but take care of that. People around me as well. So every night, like when I'm coming home, I'm reaching out to someone on my team to just ask them how their day was to just to ask them like what it is that I can train on that would help them personally. And it's every day it's gonna be like a new rep. And so every one knows that I'm going to reach out and at some point or time and another, and it's just something so small as like calling them regularly and like, Hey, how was your day?Speaker 2 (23:59):Hmm. That's awesome. Yeah. How do you like, remember, do you have a system set up to like, I dunno, remember, oh, this is having a hard time or keep track of all their, I dunno how big your team is, but you have, I dunno, a system in place to remember, oh, I need to call this your app. Or they were struggling with this or their numbers are down or you just going to come to you while you're driving.Speaker 3 (24:20):So one it's my, I have a good relationship with all the girls that they're just like coming to me, but two, we have a group chat. So like on our group, me, if I see that someone doesn't have a set or if like someone's numbers, like is enough or, um, or it's, I just don't see like any doors knock or anything, like I'll reach out to that person and be like, Hey, what time today? Can I come and knock with you? Or like, Hey, and so I, I, based the day, like when it's, if I have like a no show or an appointment, that's not there, I'll go and look at group me and see who's produced and who isn't. And I'll just start from there. And then at the end of the night, when I am going home, I'm just starting with someone who actually texted me and reached out to me about like an issue or problem or something.Speaker 2 (25:02):Okay. I love that. And I like this. I like your point about the little things, the shirts and the incentives and stuff like that. Um, yeah. I didn't even think about that, but I can see why that'd be a big thing. It's like a shirt that fits.Speaker 3 (25:19):Yeah. Even just that, like I had some girls come over here from another company and they're like, what? The, like, they're different from them. Like these are actually like women's shirt. And I didn't realize like how big of a deal, like it was to them. And it was literally an $11 shirt.Speaker 2 (25:36):Yeah. No, that's true. Yeah. I'm just thinking of, I don't know if you watch the office, do you watch the office? I'm just, I'm just thinking of the one where Michael takes model to them, all the girls, like, like to the mall and take small than Victoria's secret. I remember that upset. So maybe not to that level, but I think that is really important. Just being, um, you know, aware that girls probably, maybe they don't want to go, uh, dirt biking for the day or whatever. Maybe they want to get.Speaker 3 (26:12):Maybe they don't want to go on a golfing trip for like a lot of little things.Speaker 2 (26:18):Yeah. Yeah, no, that's important. Um, so cool. No, that helps a lot. Um, and yeah, I guess I wanted to ask you too. How many people are you managing right now?Speaker 3 (26:31):So at the beginning of this summer, so like our whole team, there was probably for the whole summer, about 35 of us. And, um, so I had another co-manager and then there was like another guy on the team. We're just kind of like, I had recruited him, but he had like a bunch of guys. So we were just because we all came from pests, we just kind of wanted to stick together. And so, yeah, I think he had about a 15 and then I had about 25 of like my own. So we can kind of just like combine and ran the summer together.Speaker 2 (27:05):Yeah. Big team. And, and, sorry, I guess I, I know before we started the call here, um, yeah. We're just talking about how you don't like to call yourself the boss and stuff, but you're just almost like,Speaker 3 (27:17):Yeah. I like, yeah. I just want to be the sister. Like, even when I have the, the girls like introducing me and we're like, yeah, like this boss you see now my, no, I'm just like a team member. I was like, I never want to look at myself as above them. I truly look at them as like, especially on solar. Like my, my mindset is just a lot different. Like I truly feel that I'm an employee of them, but like, I need to continually like take care of them obviously to take care of myself first. But like they come first.Speaker 2 (27:49):Yeah. I'm sure that's a huge key to your success and they can feel, um, you know, that you really care about them. Appreciate them. Um, I'm sure you learned this on your mission and everything, but speaking of missions, I think that was one of the keys to success we saw in like our missions is the more you care about people, the more they're going to respond because it's like, oh, they actually want me to get baptized or whatever. Cause they love me. And they like for like, believe in this.Speaker 3 (28:18):Exactly. I probably kept people longer, you know, just because they're not a number then who I should have. And I have like some reps who are super protective of me or just like, why don't you let them leave? Like, you're just too nice. Like you're just like, and this and that. I'm like, Hey guys, it's a GSpeaker 2 (28:34):Yeah. I know. It's super important though. Like Zig Ziglar says the more people, um, you know, the more people know you care, I forget the quote, but when people see you care, that's how they're gonna, you know, respond to you and, and wanting to do business with you, tune on a team. Yeah. Um, but the point I was, I think what I was going to ask you before I got distracted by that is also like the family aspects of the way. So I know you're a mom. How many kids do you have now?Speaker 3 (29:04):So I have three. I have a nine-year-old I haven't about to be an eight year old and then a two year old. Mr.Speaker 2 (29:11):Okay. Nice, cute, cute. So that's impressive to me. I'm um, you know, I have one kid right now, one on the way here in a couple of months. And, um, so something that I really respect about you is just being able to do all this and have the level of success that you've been all that cheap. Um, while being a mom for three kids, I don't even know cause I'm with the one kid, I feel like I'm, uh, you know, already not there as much as I need to be and not the best dad at times, things that, so, um, maybe this doesn't apply to everyone who isn't a parent, but how do you manage your time being like a mom and being there for your kids and all that, how do you manage like the family aspect of everything?Speaker 3 (29:53):So I'll be honest. And I, one person that I love in this industry is Michael Donal. And, um, one thing that he talks about is seasons. And so I just, I, I no longer, um, you know, have this like guilt of what I used to when I was in pest control and I wouldn't see my kids. So till the, till the evening, but we have the mindset, like my kids understand it. And so to my husband, that there's a season that there's going to be a season for everything. And right now my season is going to be solar. My season is in this industry is basically just like building and being able to set up our family into a position to where that season is going to be just us and still because my, my, my husband is like bought in to like the fact of like seasons. We, we just have like that mindset, like right now, like, like this very second, it's just going to be a season and it's going to end. And I know that there's gonna be a season and a time and a place for me to be with my family and with my kids. And because we both just bought into it, it just, there's no more guilt. Like he's just a thousand percent in. And, uh, it just worked out.Speaker 2 (31:02):Yeah, no, that's true. Yeah. I do remember Michael Donald talking about that too. And anyone that has a family, um, that's a topic I love is like the whole work-life balance, but any successful person I hear, they always, they say pretty much the same thing. There's no like balance. There's just gonna be ups and downs, different seasons times when you're focused on different things. Right.Speaker 3 (31:23):But when we are with our family, it's like, we are with our family. Like my husband has to intentionally like turn off my phones and put things down and, and things like that. So he's like, okay, this second, the season, this time, this moment is for us. And I'm like, you're right. So it's just about communication and working it together.Speaker 2 (31:44):Uh, your husband's name is Walter right of that. What does Walter think of all this is he, uh, I know he's probably used to the old kind of sells life by now, but does he, uh, is he kind of the stay at home dad then while you're off slinging deals? Or how does that,Speaker 3 (32:00):Uh, so it's just kinda like funny, cause people are like, well, you know, they'll try to like, get me to talk to like these women who have kids and like try to recruit them and try to do that on my guys. There's, you know, there's hot buttons and not every woman is as mobile as me, or has like a companion who, who is willing to sacrifice. Like my husband was, he had a great job. Like he loved it. He was going to school. He's making like six figures. He was doing all those things. Um, but he saw that my season was going to get us to our end goal a lot sooner. And so when COVID hit and, uh, he just saw how anxious it was going to be for me to worry about a babysitter for our kids, not being at work, the different things like that.Speaker 3 (32:41):He decided that his season was to be the best day at home dad. Like he legitimately is a lot more patient of a father. He's a great cook. And he freaking takes care of the house a lot better than me. So, you know, roles are, are, are, are different for everyone. And so he enjoys our kids. He enjoys the season, he enjoys cooking. He enjoys, like, he knows my stats better than me. Like he's always kept spreadsheets. He, he knows what I did from like my first year in pest control. Like it's a sport to him. Like he can tell you which rep that I competed with, which month can tell you, he can tell you which company, which rep has the best rep. And like, he it's like the NBA for him, like thrives off of my life. And so he is just so bought into it that he just saw how much less anxiety that I would have by him doing a great job at home with the kids. So we never questioned me being gone and one parent being home with the kids and he's just an all star stay at home dad. So,Speaker 2 (33:44):Wow. He's like the analytic he's he has all this stats and analytics down and it's almost like the side by side announcer for,Speaker 3 (33:52):Yeah. He texted me, Rick texted me the other day and was like, Hey, I'm knocking in Nashville. And I know you, I know you slayed it over here. Like, what cities did you do? Well, and I'm like, I have no clue. Give me a sec. I'm going to text the hubby literally in 30 seconds, that hubby texts me a list of places that I did well. And I sent it through and he's like, oh, whoa.Speaker 2 (34:13):Oh my gosh. That's incredible.Speaker 3 (34:16):So he thrives off of like the door to door industry and he's just the cheerleaders.Speaker 2 (34:22):So do you ever come back to him and like, I don't know, a slower day or anything and he'll like, be slinging off the stats, say, you know, how many doors did you talk to? How many homeowners starts going through stats like that to make sure you,Speaker 3 (34:35):We would get in arguments. Like it had to get to the point where like, he, because I would be in like competitions for the past and whatnot. And like, I do not pay attention to numbers. That's like one thing about me. Like, I will not look at stats. I will not check them throughout the day. And when I come home, just like, you know, if you would've only did one more account, I'm like, he's secretly like it because he knows that I don't check it. It like stresses him out because he's like wanting you to win. And he knows that I just care less than he knows.Speaker 2 (35:11):That's awesome. Here. We might have to have him on the show and go through like the stats to hit, to be successful on the doors or whatever.Speaker 2 (35:23):That's awesome. Well, no, that's, that's good. And always helps a ton to have a supportive spouse and, um, you know, be, make sure you're on the same level one to explain to them that their seasons and make the time. Um, yeah, one of our interviews, Ashton, I don't know if you know Ashton Boswell, but, um, he's over like VP of sales at legacy, but that's one of his big secrets. Is he coaches all his reps just on, um, I think he says having him set aside just like one day a week or one evening, a week, go on your date night or whatever. And that's like his big thing. He's like, yeah, he's like set aside one night. Do your date night, take a break from appointments.Speaker 2 (36:04):So I thought that was cool. And that's like something, he coaches all of his reps. Like I'm sure whether they're married or not. He's like go on a date or whatever I needed to do that I'm here. So, so, so that's cool. And I love to about hearing about people, is that just the way that their seasons and the ways they make at work? Um, so yeah, speaking of seasons Suli I know before the recording, we were just talking about how you sort of brought the whole pest control idea of the summer sprint over to solar and you guys are obviously crushing it. Um, how, how many deals is your team doing on these like blitzes and stuff? What's like an average blitz. How many deals would you say you guys do?Speaker 3 (36:42):So basically my team and a, it was like 136 days. We sold a 4.7 megawatts. Uh, we had 3.9, uh, still in the pipeline to have been installed in. Uh, we've still got 1.9 and that's in a hundred and, uh, 37 knocking days that we have in the summer. So,Speaker 2 (37:07):Oh, again, you guys are just in Texas, right? Or any otherSpeaker 3 (37:11):Just in Texas. Yeah, we just, uh, we just traveled different cities here in Texas. We just call ourself the pure blood squad. And, uh, we do, uh, 18 days on and we'd do a full week off and I make people go home. I'm like, I wasn't supposed to run a team. I was literally going to do one week a month for a whole year and call it good. But the whole team thing came by accident and just organically. And I was like, I'm supposed to be traveling. So if I'm going to do this, we're taking a week off and I'm going to go live my life. And so it's why people see a lot of like traveling stuff like throughout the summer. Cause I'm like, because I'm making the schedule I'm choosing even and make people go home. So it's been kind of night.Speaker 2 (37:52):Yeah. That's cool. And so you have a house out there in Texas or what's like,Speaker 3 (37:57):So we don't, so all of my we've been doing like Airbnbs and so I'm actually closing on a, on a property here, like right now in Texas, because the housing that I've spent on rabbis have just been like crazy. And so I'm basically just setting stuff up to where I'm not having to, to, to worry about housing, but, um, we've been in Airbnbs all summer.Speaker 2 (38:20):Okay. And so when you, when you get your house closed on, is that, are you just going to still be traveling around and then go back to your house for that week still?Speaker 3 (38:29):Yeah, like literally the like, I'm, I'm kind of like in no man's land, I like our, this property that we're going to get, it's literally going to be a rental. It's literally going to be on Airbnb, like the rest of the year. But during the summer it's going to be used to house reps because I'm cheap and don't want to keep spending 20 grand a month on housing. And so I'm like finding a way to like how's reps. And then like my place in Utah is like rented out and I have tenants on the top and bottom and like, our properties are like rented out and I live nowhere. Like I am like thisSpeaker 2 (39:03):[inaudible]. Yeah.Speaker 3 (39:05):And so until I settled down on solar and I kind of want to ride this tax credit, I'm just, I'm just not choosing a place to be, but I'm going to everywhere.Speaker 2 (39:15):Yeah. Might as well that's you guys are crushing it. And so like, is this, you're doing it all year round, just this blitz model though, or you just,Speaker 3 (39:25):So we weren't supposed to do oppose these. And that was another thing. Like, all this stuff just happens. It's like my team grows and people wants different things. And so we were, I was supposed to be done in August and then I had girls on the team. It was like local. I want to transition into closing or I want to like, get a head start for like next summer. And then it's like, Hey, I want to recruit this person. So basically what my post season is, it's just like, it's, they're just low key vivant schedule where I'm just allowing people to come and test it out. And I'm actually like looking and, and sharpening the sob, like people that I want to be leaders to take over next summer, but I only want to be a summer program. The reason people just still see me working right now is because I'm prepping training and recruiting to set up a good next summer model. Oh,Speaker 2 (40:09):Okay. Interesting. That's cool. And I don't, to my knowledge, I don't know if there's anyone else doing just like a pure summer model in solar, is there?Speaker 3 (40:19):No, no, no. It's it's, it's why I refuse to let it fail.Speaker 2 (40:25):Yeah. Pulling up by the teeth. Um,Speaker 3 (40:30):Yeah. So this is my, uh, I'm definitely sharpening things up and putting a lot of things together and place to basically set up for April 1st when we started again. So,Speaker 2 (40:40):Yeah. Wow. And yeah, what's incredible is you guys are in this summer, I'm sure you've done more than most like year round solar gummies. Like there's probably not too many year round solar companies that do that for the entire year, let alone a summer. That's incredible. So what's your arguments, I guess. Would that just come from pest control or what's your argument? Why did you even try to just do that when everyone else in the solar industry's doing all year round, what's your argument for this?Speaker 3 (41:10):So, because I, I actually dabbled in a couple of solar companies before I came here. And again, like, I, I I'm new to this. It's like, I don't even know what I'm doing. It's why I reached out to so many people in solar before I even started. Because like, I know if I'm coaching people who don't know what they're doing, that I need to be taught and be coached, what I don't know. And from the solar places that I've been and the, and the different companies, what I saw is just, it's just a lot easier to be relaxed when you live in the location that you're knocking. It's why I would never knock in Utah when I was doing pest control. The summer that I did, I spent more time at my auntie's house. I spent more time with my grandparents. I spent more times at barbecue than I did like actually knocking doors.Speaker 3 (41:55):And so I just had that same mindset. I was like, look, if I can convince people to leave their homes and come to a place where they have no friends, or they don't have no family members, like, aren't they going to work just a little bit quick? Aren't they just going to work a little bit longer? But the reason I wanted to change it from the way that pest control dynamic was where it was literally just going stay for the full summer is because I felt like there wasn't enough of a break, like mental space, like physical breaks. It was just go, go, go. And I wanted to find like a happy medium. And so I saw when people can see the light sooner, or they can see the end a lot sooner, they're gonna work a little bit harder. So I want it to have end dates every single month that people could be like, look, it's 18 knocking days. Anyone can do anything for 18 knocking days, as opposed to saying, Hey, for 365 days out of the year, and let's just go knock three or four hours every day. Yeah, no, that was what it was for me. I just knew that people were just going to be a lot less laxed when they saw that there was going to be an end date each month. Yeah.Speaker 2 (43:02):No, that makes sense. And yeah, I was telling you before we started the recording, that a lot of this stuff is you're describing like what I do, and I can see that my numbers are just cause in my head, it's like, I'm doing this all year round. I don't need it more than three or four hours a day.Speaker 3 (43:19):So we lived there.Speaker 2 (43:22):Yeah. And I've seen that. I think that's the curse of the solar industry. Is everyone coming like so many lazy reps, that's the big thing. And then solar understanding, because you won't see this level of laziness in it, like any other door knocking companies, but it's,Speaker 3 (43:37):We also like miss out on a lot of things too. Right. There's some people who just need like an extra week to think about it or like, so I feel like we have lost some deals because it's like we are coming in and going from like different cities that we basically set up appointments for like other solar companies to come in and take a bath, you know? So the it's pros and cons, I feel like.Speaker 2 (44:01):Yeah. Yeah, no, that's true. But yeah. I mean, it's just like, if you can get in there close the deals, um, you guys do a lot of like same day appointments. Do things like that as your,Speaker 3 (44:12):Especially. Yes. Like it's like same day or die. It's like same day next day. And like, period. And I just, I just incentivize like so much on same day as the next days that it just like, we, we push it like so hard.Speaker 2 (44:25):Yeah. No, I think it's no secret. I think that's how people do high numbers. Um, in solar that's all Mo fall. I don't know if, you know, morphology keep bringing up these successful people in the industry, but that's basically, I think what he did do, he just brought over what was working in alarms and other industries and apply it at a solar. And now they're doing a similar thing to you blitz and all over the place. And I'm just working hours,Speaker 3 (44:49):Same day tips. I, I remember listening to, I was like, this is money if people aren't doing this and solar they're.Speaker 2 (44:56):Yeah. It helps that done. So, yeah. Um, how would you, like, I dunno, maybe someone that's used to working just a year round model, um, like myself I'm use, I'll be honest. I haven't knocked more than probably four or five hours in a day for, I don't know, probably like six months at least just because that's what I get, you know, book my same day or whatever. And I'm like, sweet. I'm off the doors. Just hit up that appointment, go close it. And so how do you turn around? I don't know if you've brought in recruited people that are used to that model and maybe have some, uh, laziness in them of not knocking as much and coming out and doing a blitz. Do you have any tips for like how to break that or how to, um, shift that mindset to going to like a blitz model versus just doing like three, four hours a day? Maybe like you're used to as a year-round rep.Speaker 3 (45:46):Yeah. So it's hard. I'm actually dealing with that. Like right now it was like people who've been doing like your and, and stuff like that. And so I basically managed the expectation and it's why I like the Airbnb model because I let my reps know at the very beginning, like, Hey, these 18 days are for you to judge me. And for me to judge you at the end of the 18 days, you know, if you feel like this is the team for you, if you feel like, great, Hey, like we're going to move on to the next blitz. But it's also for me to be like, Hey, if I feel like your negativity or your mindset, or you're just not adding value to this team being, it allows me to be able to be like, Hey, the Airbnb ends at this date. Like, that's it.Speaker 3 (46:25):And it's one of the biggest reasons why I want it to have Airbnbs because I just didn't know how well these people were coming and going and what the dynamics would look like. So for one, letting them know that at the very beginning that, Hey, every single blitz is a trial and at the end of the 18 days, if we're going to work together and it's going to be great, Hey, I'll book you another Airbnb. But if it's not, we're going to have to part ways and be friends. And so when people have that expectation that every blitz was going to be a trial and that there was a certain amount of kilowatts. So I actually, every single month in order to not be charged their rent back, they had to hit certain milestones. And so people were always doing at least the minimum and that's all I required minimum as well as a positive attitude.Speaker 3 (47:08):And if they have those two things they could keep coming on. And so when I have like some of the, the year round reps are coming in and they're like, holy cow, I've never knocked six hours in a day. And like, not like, I'm not sure if this is for me. And so it makes it to where the expectations are already there and they can approach me. And I don't have to be the bad guy about like, this is what our team is prepping for next summer. If it works great. If not the solar industry is endless and plenty of people will take.Speaker 2 (47:37):Sure, sure. No, I think that's so important though. In so many solar companies, aren't doing that setting expectations with their reps, especially your own well, yeah, as most companies are a year round, I think that's super important for our listeners. Even if, um, you know, maybe you are doing three, four hours, but set the expectations, the milestones that people need to hit, because it's like, you can go get mad at them for not producing, but if they didn't know they needed to close two deals that week or whatever it was then, I mean, how can you get mad at them? You know, they didn't know what the expectation was. Yes.Speaker 3 (48:10):Yeah. People milestones and give them a, give them something to work towards or else there's going to be like, you know, there has to be like consequences or there has to be something in order to hurt a little bit.Speaker 2 (48:19):Yeah, definitely. And um, yeah, no, we'll, we'll, uh, we're running a little bit short on time. Don't want to keep you super late. I know we're going on like 10 o'clock there your time, which you said you're a night out, so that's cool. Um, but yeah, last couple of things. So we what's your guys' schedule for a blitz. What is your, I know you're saying 18 days on then a week off. What's like your schedule during that Boyd, do you have meetings every day? Or what does that look like?Speaker 3 (48:45):Oh yeah. Like that's like a big thing. Like when I brought other people, they're like you guys meet every day and I'm like, you don't, you guys even learn. So we, uh, we basically meet at 10:00 AM. Every single morning. We train from 10 to 10 45, our reps around the doors between 11 and 1130. We knocked from 1130, till three o'clock. Then we have lunch from three o'clock to four o'clock and then they're knocking from four o'clock to dark Monday through Friday. And then on Saturdays, we only not sell four o'clock now. And then Sundays, no one works unless they want to.Speaker 2 (49:20):Okay. Awesome. Now, are you, uh, for meetings, you guys swap and trainings or, uh, do you kind of run it?Speaker 3 (49:28):No, it's never a guessing game. Like there's some I'm OCD and, uh, that's one thing with women, women, uh, of reps. They, they want to know that there's a little bit of a structure and I feel like I kind of overly structured. So to go into those meetings where like, Hey guys, what do you guys want to learn about today? What do you guys want to look like one it's showing your team that you don't really care. You didn't really put a lot of effort and thought into what it was that they were struggling in the day before. So me and my other co managers, yes. Each single day, we would have like, one of our lead, our lead setters would take one day. We would take a day, uh, and, uh, we would rotate. And so every single day there was going to be a planned lesson, a planned discussion.Speaker 3 (50:10):We going to make sure every single day that everyone had time to be able to role play, but we would have a concept every single day. And then we would incentivize on the doors based on those concepts. Hey, if you go and do like this concept that we taught today or whatnot, you're going to be able to receive XYZ. So every single day we are training, we are role playing. Um, I just don't believe in this once a week, zoom meeting that a lot of solar companies do and just kind of like let their reps come and go like, yeah,Speaker 2 (50:39):Yeah, no, that's, I think that's super important. I noticed that too, actually, I'm with, uh, um, Jason newbie in his squad if you know him, but that's one of the things that he brought over the, I saw like an instant boost in people's numbers. It's just like meeting, because number, I think in my opinion, the main purposes, if you meet people are gonna actually gonna go out and work, right. Like if you're not going to meet the likelihood that people drag themselves out and actually go out like way lower. Yeah.Speaker 3 (51:10):Girls it's like, how do you get out of your car? Like, how do you get to area? Like, how do you do all these things? And like, the biggest thing is they're meeting once a week, so It's not their fault, butSpeaker 2 (51:23):Yeah, no, it's because yeah, I brought other people on that are seen way more success do meaning every day. And it's like, you show up, you got your game clothes on, you got your, a game base, you just get in the right mindset versus you trying to drag yourself out and, and, uh, do it all yourself. So I think that's a big secret for people that are managing teams are trained to boost their numbers, maybe consider meeting everyday, or just doing mini blitzes. Because I think that might be the future. I'm seeing almost more and more people I bring on, even if they are year round, they're doing mini blitzes like that throughout the year and going to different areas and mixing it up because yeah, it is, it is tough.Speaker 3 (52:02):So makes it more fun. Yeah.Speaker 2 (52:05):Well, Zoe, um, we appreciate you coming on the show and, um, don't want to take up your entire evening. Hopefully you got some dinner. Um, but if people want to find out more about, I know you got your own podcast and everything, so do you want to tell people where they can find out more about you and possibly, I dunno, I dunno if you're still running coaching or whatever you're doing. So let's hear about that.Speaker 3 (52:28):So you can find me on female knockers, uh, unite. Uh, I do do coaching, but since solar was just so new and I feel like I'm just trying to put like so many things together for me. I want to be intentional. Um, and so right now I'm just doing a lot more educating just on my female page, my female knockers, you can I'm uh, also my podcast is sales with Suli twice a month, every single month I'll drop some nuggets. Uh, basically the same thing that I teach in some of my coaching calls, um, and things like that. And so, um, you can find me on Spotify and all the same spots. So you can find Taylor for pretty much.Speaker 2 (53:06):No. Yeah. Awesome podcasts. I've been listening to them. They are. So, um, yeah, they play it at home. Guys can listen to them too. Right. It's not just girls.Speaker 3 (53:16):I have them episodes in there just for the guys. So check out the title.Speaker 2 (53:20):Yeah. And I fall a female knockers United page. So I think guys got me if I'm wrong, I guys are allowed to fall that through. Right.Speaker 3 (53:28):It's an open publicSpeaker 2 (53:33):Gopal that is dropping in great content in there. And yeah, I learned a ton from her podcasts and stuff. She shares, so go shoot or a follow. So I slowly thanks for coming on today. And before we let you go, do you have any, like, I dunno, final tips or things you wish you knew first getting in solar industry that you want to share with our solar printers before we say goodbye here.Speaker 3 (53:52):Yes. Definitely find people who have content. I remember the first solar company that I started with one, they basically gave everyone two shirts because they basically planned on you or one shirt because they planned on you never coming back. So that's already like a red flag for me. Um, but two, if you're going to find someone who is going to train you, who is going to basically teach you from a to Z exactly what to do, you're definitely going to find success, just control the controllables and just focus on the little things. It doesn't matter which industry you're in. You're going to find success. If you just focus on the things you can control. So no,Speaker 2 (54:28):I appreciate that. So guys, go give Sulia follow control. The things you can control, like she just mentioned and make sure you find a good mentor. Cause I think those are the keys to having success in the industry for sure. And have meetings every day.Speaker 3 (54:42):Yeah. Thanks so much Taylor for having me like literally, I, I I've found rolled your, your podcast for like a while. It's literally one of the reasons that I have the success that I do and I, I share your podcasts with everyone.Speaker 2 (54:55):Uh, thank you so much. That means a ton then that's like why I've kept it going. So I love hearing comments like that. Appreciate you Suli. So go give Suli follow and Suli we'll be in touch. Thanks again for coming on the show. HaveSpeaker 3 (55:07):A good one. Yeah.Speaker 2 (55:10):Hey, Solarpreneurs quick question. What if you could surround yourself with the industry's top performing sales pros, marketers, and CEOs, and learn from their experience and wisdom in less than 20 minutes a day. For the last three years, I've been placed in the fortunate position to interview dozens of elite level solar professionals and learn exactly what they do behind closed doors to build their solar careers to an all-star level. 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Hello everyone! Today is the day that my very first book is out in the world for you to get. I could just die of excitement. So, for those of you who don't know, I spent a large part of 2020 writing my first book. It is called the Self-Compassion Workbook For OCD: Lean into Your Fear, Manage Difficult Emotions and Focus on Recovery. I could cry. I am so excited that it is finally here. It was such a huge project in my life. Now I'm just thrilled to share it with you guys. Now, what does that mean for you? You can go and purchase the book wherever you buy books. You may order it on Amazon if you don't have a bookstore near you. But in addition to getting the book, which is literally like, ah, I put my whole soul into this project – what you can do in addition to that is this month, for the month of October, we are going to do a self-compassion challenge. Now, before you turn the stereo or your iPhone or your iPod off, stay with me because I really strongly believe that this challenge could change your life, whether you have OCD or not. I really want to focus this month on improving your relationship with yourself, improving your relationship with self-compassion, working through the roadblocks that you have. I'm going to be doing a lot of live instruction on Instagram and hopefully on Facebook as well, depending on technology. But if you don't follow me on Instagram, head over there, if you're not signed up for the newsletter, head over there, because my goal is to really nurture you through this process and get you having a self-compassion practice that is rich and fulfilling and healing. So, so, so important. Today, we're going to kick it off right away. We're going to talk about the first main point I want you to do. Before we do that, let's do a couple of important pieces. So first thing, we're going to do the “I did a hard thing” segment. This one is from Elle and she has said: “I sat outside in 92-degree weather to eat my croissant. Even though being in overly hot places makes me anxious, I just wanted to be outside.” Thank you so much, Elle, for that submission. Really what I hear you saying is you were willing to tolerate heat, which is often a really big trigger for people with anxiety, but you did it because it's what your soul was asking for, which is a huge piece of what today's podcast is all about. Now we'll move on to the review of the week. This is from Cynthia. She said: “I'm so excited to share these podcasts with my clients. I was first introduced to Kimberley's clear and compassionate teaching style when I took ERP School for therapists, which is the CEU course. In the past three weeks since taking the course, I recommended both the course and podcast to my clients. So helpful. Thank you, Kimberley.” Yay, I'm so happy to hear that, Cynthia. All I have to say, it's all coming together. I feel like years of hard work of the podcast and courses and the book, and I feel like so many people are getting on board and they're starting to face their fears and they're learning these skills and it makes me so overjoyed. So, thank you so much, Cynthia. Thank you, Elle. I'm just feeling such gratitude right now. Okay. Here we go. We are on Day 1 of the 30-day challenge to self-compassion. Now, I know I've done a lot of work on self-compassion before in the podcast. You can go back and listen. I've interviewed the most impressive people on self-compassion. You can go back and listen to those episodes. But for today, I want to go straight to the most important piece. We'll work through some other things later through the month and some roadblocks, but here is the main tool for this week. Are you ready? I want you to take a couple of breaths. I want you to check in with yourself. You can do this in the form of meditation. If you're driving, please keep your eyes open on the road. But if not, you may close your eyes and check in with yourself. Where is the discomfort and the pain in your body? Where is the suffering in your body? Is it in your chest? Is it in your shoulders? Is it in your head? Is it in your heart? Is it in your stomach? Is it in your fingertips? Is it in your legs? Where is the suffering? It could be all over your body, and that's okay. But just check in on where it's at. And then I want you to ask yourself this one question: What do I need right now? I don't want you to argue with yourself. I just want you to honor what first comes up. What do I need right now? Sometimes our instincts are to say, “I want this pain to go away.” But a huge part of self-compassion is honoring what's really happening. It's really this truth-telling practice where you have to accept, okay, that's not an option right now. Otherwise, you would've done it, right? You would've done the thing to remove the discomfort. If there's an itch, you probably would've scratched it by now. Often the pains that we feel, the ones that cause us the most suffering are the ones that we can't simply get rid of the anxiety. We feel the depression, we feel the headaches we have, the stomach aches we experience, the grief, the loss, the anger. All the things, right? So instead of bargaining with whether it should be there or not, I just want you to radically accept that it's there and ask yourself: What do I need right now? And often what you need is kindness. Some tenderness around the suffering. And that might be the thing that you come up with. Before I segue to the next step, it might be to take a deep breath. It might be to slow down. It might be to rest. We're going to be talking about that throughout the month. It might be to actually give yourself some time to fill up your cup. It might be to set a boundary with somebody. It might be to say NO to something, as long as it's not something that you've previously been doing as a compulsion. We don't want to use self-compassion as permission just to do more compulsions, but really check in on what do you need right now. And then, this is the next main piece of the homework for today, what do I need to hear right now? What do I need to hear? What would I love to be told? What would nourish me? If a warm kind loving friend came in the door right now, what would they say to me? What do I need to hear? Your homework for this week is to say the thing you need to hear, all the time. It might be, “I'm here for you.” It might be, “It makes complete sense that you're feeling this way.” It might be, “I have your back.” It might be, “I see your pain.” It might be, “Your pain is important.” It might be, “You are enough.” For me, I will tell you the thing I have really had to listen to. I actually just had a conversation with a dear friend who's a therapist. I put my hand on my chest and I say, “Dear sweet one, just be with your body and trust that it will hold you and carry you through this moment.” You'll hear that some of the statements I'm using, they're not saying, “We're going to make everything okay.” They're saying, “I've got you. I'm going to be there for you. Your pain matters. It's important. It's valid. There's nothing wrong with you.” That's the message I want you to encompass and embrace. But it's going to be different depending on the moment. So what I'm going to say here is the advice that I need right now in this moment of suffering is going to be different in an hour. The advice I give myself in an hour, that compassionate check in is going to be different to what I need tomorrow. And so your homework is ideally, get yourself a journal or a notepad or a Google doc form or notes in your phone, and I want you to do a check in every day, at least once, and write down: What do I need to hear right now? And put in what you need to hear right now. Because what you'll do is you'll gather a list of things that you can rely on, sayings and statements you can rely on, at times where you're so anxious and you can't even access your compassion itself, or you're just needing some guidance. These small statements can be a monumental part of your recovery, particularly when you're totally frazzled and panicked, and you've lost all ability to see the rationale. So that's what I want you to practice. Your compassion practice, again, isn't an attempt to remove your discomfort, but to tend to it, to lean into it, to practice being your strongest supporter through your discomfort. I want you to strengthen that voice. It might be very, very, very, very, very shy. It might be very, very timid. It might be very insecure at this time. But with practice, this is a skill that you can learn so that voice in you sounds more like a mama bear, a strong mama bear than it does a timid, uncertain person. That's your homework. I want you to check in, I want you to get yourself a journal and I want you to start to document this stuff. Dabble with it. See what works, what doesn't. Some of the things that I've shared today might help, and some of it might not feel right to you, and that's totally okay. It's different for every person. That's why we ask the question: What do “I” need? Not “What does Kimberly need? What does the neighbor need?” but “What do I need?” Because I matter, and you matter. So, so important. So, that's it. That's your homework. I want you to practice it. Come on back as much as you can to the newsletter, Instagram, social media. I'm going to be doing as much as I can, really trying to double down on people's self-compassion practice. You don't have to have OCD to be a part of this. I'm doing it in celebration of the book. Now that I have it in my hands, you could see me right now, imagine me holding it, like gripping it, like so excited. Now that I have it in my hands, I feel like a light shone on these important practices and I just want you to take them on and have them in your life. So, there you have it. I'll meet you back here next week and we will double down on the next piece. And the next piece is my absolute favorite topic, the favorite part of the chapter in the entire book. So I can't wait to share that with you. Okay? All right, team. Go and be kind. Check in, strengthen that voice inside you. And I will see you next week for another episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit. All my love. Don't forget. You know what I'm going to say? It's a beautiful day to do hard things. I don't ever want you to forget that. Have a wonderful day, everybody.
Make your health an act of rebellion. Join The Healthy Rebellion Please Subscribe and Review: Apple Podcasts | RSS Submit your questions for the podcast here News topic du jour: https://grabbyaliens.com/ 1. Non-marine Omega 3 Sources [14:25] Robert says: Hi Rob and Nicki. I am unable to supplement with fish oil because it severely increases my anxiety and will eventually lead to terrible episodes of panic and OCD. It took me a while to figure out it was the fish oil because you typically only hear about how beneficial it is and all of the positives from supplementation. Because of this I'm worried about getting enough DHA and EPA. I do eat fish about once a week/week and a half. I don't seem to have the same problem when eating fish but I'm sure I'm not eating it enough to replicate the same problem from supplementing fish oil and I also worry about eating high amounts of fish due to contaminants. I've also heard that getting omega 3 from plant sources like flaxseed is insufficient. How can I make sure I'm getting enough DHA and EPA? I'm 33 years old, have been eating low carb for 5 years, lift 4 days a week, I'm very active and fit and a healthy weight. Also any idea why fish oil does this to me? Acetylcholine? 2. How Much (or little) Protein? [18:29] Hilary says: I'm so confused about protein. Many very smart scientist wellness leaders say use it as a condiment and low protein intake = longevity. Others believe in leading with abundant animal protein to create strength and muscle which will = longevity. I'm a fit 63 yr old woman and confused about what science to follow. Thank you! 3. SARMs, peptides, & testosterone boosting herbs [25:52] Jamie says: Ay up Robb and Nicki, Ages ago, I sent you a question about ketogenic diets and TBI which you were gracious enough to answer on THR038. I have upped my salt intake as per your answer to that question and it has helped. In the proceeding time I have been doing more research on TBI and I came across the world leader in its treatment, Dr. Mark Gordon. His protocol centres around dampening down the neuroinflammation in the brain and restoring any hormonal imbalances that occur after a TBI. Although I am not 100%, I am definitely better and I just feel that it's just one or two adjustments that I need to make with the biggest thing, perhaps the only thing holding me back, sleep, or lack of it I should say. I follow Dr. Mark Gordon's recommendation of 100mg of pregnenolone before bed and whilst he reports in his clinical practice that for most people this tidies up their sleep, it hasn't done that for me. Dr Gordon says when this happens he usually prescribes a small dose of progesterone, 5mg, and this usually does the trick. Instead of doing that I wish to try something else as I have come across the world of peptides, some of which I have experimented with. I've tried CJC 1290 with DAC and ipamorelin for growth hormone release as well as BPC-157 for tissue and bone repair for some long-term issues I have had with my joints which has actually helped me a little bit. The CJC1290 and ipamorelin didn't really do much for my sleep but I have found deep sleep-inducing peptide (DSIP) which I have bought but not yet tried. I have also come across SARM's, (selective androgen reuptake modulators) which I haven't tried. They come with some pretty stunning claims to be made on both their benefits and lack of side effects. What is your take on peptides and SARM's? Would their long-term use turn off someone's own endogenous production in the same way that exogenous testosterone does? Instead of SARM's, which I am sceptical of being able to do the job of replenishing the role of testosterone in my brain, I am instead doing clomid, 50mg every third day, and also Dan Huberman's recommendation of using the herbs Fadogia Agrestis and Tongkat Ali to help boost testosterone. Would it be worth cycling these herbs, especially Fadogia, as from my understanding it mimics luteinising hormone? Could this then shut off my own endogenous production of luteinising hormone? Just one final note to make, it's amazing what you can find and then buy on the Internet, especially when using Bitcoin!? Thank you Jamie 4. Muscle Cramping and Salt [35:55] Ben says: Hey Robb and Nicki, Great podcast, I really enjoy and appreciate all you do. I have a question regarding muscle cramping. It is something I have dealt with for essentially my whole life. My father has had problems with hamstring, calf and hand cramping through his life as well. Personally, after harder workouts I notice my hamstrings have a very low threshold to cramp, as well as hands and abs. At night, my gastrocs and peroneals cramp as well. Since starting LMNT and supplementing my own salt to it (~ 6-8g total salt/day) my hamstring, ab, and hand cramps have greatly been improved though my calf cramps still seem to be present. The night time calf cramps fluctuate from 1-2 to 9-10 times/ night requiring I jump out of bed to dorsiflex my foot against the ground to get it to stop. I have tried some "leg cramp" pills from Sprouts which seem to help some but not completely. Sorry for rambling but lastly I have had my DNA run and it states I "wasted salt" and should add more salt to my diet. I am wondering if you think I just need to supplement more salt? (Though at times I feel I put too much in and disaster pants is a real thing) or if there may be something bigger that I should see a functional practitioner for? Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Thank you (For reference, Im a 31 year old male, crossfit 5-6 times/ week and am standing in the OR 3-5 times/ week. 6'4"; 225 lbs. Eat paleo) 5. Importance of Grass fed meat [40:02] Paul says: Hi guys I have a question about grass fed meat and the evidence for its importance for it to be grass fed. Eating meat from healthy well fed, free animals intuitively sounds like a good idea for your health. It also fits with the overall philosophy of paleo eating which I use as my guide through these things. However Living in Norway sometimes means that is not possible and I have to get my meat from the supermarket. It got me wondering about what scientific evidence there is to support the hypothesis that grass fed /organic meat etc is actually better for your health. So my question is what evidence , if any , have found of this in the literature. If there is evidence are there some animals that are better than others to get from supermarket.I notice myself if eat half a rotisserie chicken from the supermarket i can feel pretty rough after that but half a kilo mince I'm just fine- same with any fish. Regards Paul Share the episode! If something in this show helped you please share the episode with your friends! Sponsor: The Healthy Rebellion Radio is sponsored by our electrolyte company, LMNT. Proper hydration is more than just drinking water. You need electrolytes too! Check out The Healthy Rebellion Radio sponsor LMNT for grab-and-go electrolyte packets to keep you at your peak! They give you all the electrolytes want, none of the stuff you don't. Click here to get your LMNT electrolytes Transcript: Download transcript here (PDF)
Self-compassion. We hear about it all the time. It's quite a popular buzzword in mental health social media circles. But what really is self-compassion? What does it look like? What role does it play in the recovery process? How important it is? This week we are fortunate to Kimberley Quinlan, LMFT on the podcast to teach us about this oh-so-important concept. Kimberley is the author of The Self-Compassion Workbook for OCD, an amazing resource that hit the shelves earlier this week. For full show notes on this episode: https://theanxioustruth.com/175 -------- My books, website, and social media links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Music credit: Afterglow by Ben Drake (with permission) https://bendrakemusic.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theanxioustruth/support
This is an "in the trenches" episode which is where people share their journey with mental illness. Jill Freestone shares her journey with a recent diagnosis of obsessive compulsive disorder and specifically with religious scrupulosity. This is more common than we think within devout religious communities with rules/commandments etc. Jill shares that OCD can look very different than what we think it does and actually very high functioning successful people of which she is one, deal with it daily. Jill's attention to details, research and rule following are part of the reason she is successful, but also are part of her OCD. Jill's story and her discovery of her scrupulosity will fascinate and inspire you as she has become more empowered on how to understand her brain and how to help alleviate her anxiety and difficulties within a strict religious community. https://jillfreestone.com
In the aftermath of the pandemic, even those who have never struggled with mental health have found themselves reeling, looking for answers they don't know how to find. For Christians, especially those who've despaired of help from a church that has too often stigmatized mental health challenges as a lack of faith, the way forward can be particularly difficult to see. Our guest aims to fix that. Having fought his own way through crippling anxiety, life-altering OCD, and suicidal thoughts, he knows the value of concrete advice grounded in strong biblical truth. Join us to hear thoughtful, needed counsel for the body of Christ to become a refuge of hope for the anxious.
Alex starts your week off with some TikToks about rappers before they add autotune, then discusses the medical professionals who are being fired for refusing to get vaccinated, while also ranting about anti-vax creators who are still spreading lies. Then he gives updates on the Gabby Petito case and the search for Brian Laundrie, providing peanut gallery commentary to the case. Dog the Bounty Hunter has joined the case and is now hunting Laundrie, and Alex thinks that's a huge joke. YikYak has been ruined by angry conservatives with nowhere to go, and that's been a pretty upsetting thing to experience so there's a rant about that. Alex also has a lot to say about the new Facebook glasses which record video. And there's the return of roasting Ted Cruz and his TV appearances, and checking in with the Karens of the week, which includes two white dudes wearing "Police Lives Matter" gear who refuse to leave the ASU multicultural center. Then it's time to help someone with relationship issues involving OCD, and then finally, paying respects to the newest winner of the Herman Cain Freedom Award. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Treating OCD From A Functional Medicine Perspective | This episode is brought to you by Rupa Health and Athletic GreensObsessive Compulsive Disorder, or OCD, affects approximately 2.2 million adults and 500,000 children in the US. Individuals with OCD often experience impulsive and intrusive thoughts that replay in the mind, in addition to behaviors such as excessive cleaning and repetitive counting. While conventional medicine approaches OCD as a chemical issue, Functional Medicine looks at genetic components, inflammation, gut health, and other lifestyle influences in its treatment of OCD. In this episode, Dr. Hyman discusses OCD with Dr. George Papanicolaou. They discuss just how debilitating this condition can be and share case studies of how they have treated patients with this condition.George Papanicolaou is a graduate of the Philadelphia College of Osteopathic Medicine and is Board Certified in Family Medicine from Abington Memorial Hospital. He is also an Institute for Functional Medicine Practitioner. Upon graduation from his residency he joined the Indian Health Service. He worked on the Navajo reservation for 4 years at the Chinle Comprehensive Medical Facility where he served as the Outpatient Department Coordinator. In 2000, he founded Cornerstone Family Practice in Rowley, MA. He practiced with a philosophy centered on personal relationships and treating the whole person, not just not the disease. He called that philosophy “Whole Life Wellness”. Over time as the healthcare system made it harder for patients to receive this kind of personal care Dr. Papanicolaou decided a change was needed. He began training in Functional Medicine through the Institute of Functional Medicine. In 2015, he established Cornerstone Personal Health—a practice dedicated entirely to Functional Medicine. Dr. Papanicolaou joined The UltraWellness Center in 2017.This episode is brought to you by Rupa Health and Athletic Greens.Rupa Health is a place for Functional Medicine practitioners to access more than 2,000 specialty lab tests from over 20 labs like DUTCH, Vibrant America, Genova, Great Plains, and more. You can check out a free live demo with a Q&A or create an account at RupaHealth.com. Athletic Greens is offering Doctor's Farmacy listeners a full year supply of their Vitamin D3/K2 Liquid Formula free with your first purchase, plus 5 free travel packs. Just go to athleticgreens.com/hyman to take advantage of this great offer.In this conversation, Dr. Hyman and Dr. Papanicolaou discuss:What is OCD and who does it affect?Common behaviors of someone with OCDConventional diagnosis and treatment of OCDThe genetic component to OCDHow the gut microbiome and lack of diversity may contribute to OCDIdentifying inflammation as a root cause A case study of someone who has OCDFunctional Medicine approach to treatment of OCDAdditional Resources:How Eliminating Gluten May Improve Anxiety and DepressionUnderstanding How the Microbiome Affects Every Aspect of Your HealthThe Science of Mood and Your MicrobiomeHow Leaky Gut is Making Us Sick and Driving Chronic Inflammation with Dr. Emeran Mayer See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
In episode 296 I interviewed Dr Nicola Petrocchi. Nicola is a licensed CBT psychotherapist based in Rome, Adjunct Professor of Psychology at John Cabot University (Rome) and student counsellor. We discuss his therapy story, what is compassion-focused therapy (CFT), the evolutionary view of the mind, how CFT fits in with other therapies, his study: what it is, what it found. We talk about viewing OCD from a compassionate lens, the science behind compassion, we discuss different types of guilt, different exercises in CFT, working with the inner critical voice, we discuss some of the resistances to doing CFT, and much more. Hope it helps. Show notes: https://theocdstories.com/episode/nicola-petrocchi-cft-296 The podcast is made possible by NOCD. To find out more about NOCD, their therapy plans and if they currently take your insurance head over to https://go.treatmyocd.com/theocdstories Next monthly zoom hangout with Stuart is on 2nd October. Come chat about the show. Pay what you can/want: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/169814805655 See you then.
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